@Tim Hanselbach I know that's playfulness, but an independent woman has to be playful in order to keep the man? An independent woman is likely to be very busy to be bothered with this kind of shit. What have independent men ever done to please the female sex? Are they "playful" as well? I'd rather be single than struggle to find a balance between all these "attributes" men want in an "ideal" woman.
@@lepetitchat123 It’s about not taking life so seriously all the time. No one wants to be stressed 24/7 by life―that’s how playfulness comes in. It makes life a little more fun and enjoyable. You seem like an awfully serious person. Just take it easy sometimes.
@Jason Contrary to your assumption, I am not serious at all. I am an existential nihilist. I can be serious about things that matter though. I was trying to put myself in the shoes of an independent woman. It's really crazy no independent men have ever been asked to be "playful" in order to attract women. But women have to make an insane amount of effort to please men.
@@lepetitchat123 also men make an insane amount of effort to please women it's both way street, we have some standards for the men we like too, we don't go out with all men that make an effort
Haaah! This men is full of shit... Ok this is truth, but every person is different.. you need to feel the person, not all people want have same dream, not all people want same things...
I am confidently saying having those 4 aspects, but my crush is an introvert alien who doesnt know how rare and such a treasure I am. So yea, here i am chewing my popcorn, alone.
Congrats. A good advice for you: Run for the hills, do not get into that crush. You will get his confused and introverted energy with time, if you get envolved with him, it will not be good for you. Wait for someone really special. Cheers.
@mr. Wldasoldmysoul4pussyasateen I have no cats. I have a better mind about cats, they are heavens creatures and can communicate with vibes. Introverts can speak, but they do not. Beware, I had two introverts and they carried a lot of emotional baggage that can harm you. Be careful. Bless you.
1. Being Playful and not always serious (dancing randomly, say kiss me right now I will die,etc) 2. Sexiness (showing someone you desire them, throw cheeky looks) 3. Nurturing (make him feel loved and looked after) 4. Independence-of him (own strength of mind,probably not being clingy)
I'm sure it's true for you no doubt whatsoever. It's everything that YOU want a woman to do.it makes you sound like you're not interested in getting to know a woman as a person you're only interested if she asks the way you want her to act. I would have you wondering why on Earth does she not want me LOL
@@daveshore8671 lol they weren't wimps. But no I didn't seem to date guys with much money. So it's really strange the egos that some of the guys I've dated have had. It's unfortunate for me that I didn't have much confidence and didn't think I could do better. The way my son-in-law treats my daughter renewed my faith in men when I lost it LOL
One time i had a date with a guy and we had eye contacts throughout the conversation, i looked at him in his eyes and tried to be seductive with my eyes without touching him. I guess he really thought id go home with him then when we called it a night i called uber and he insisted me to go somewhere with me for drinks but i refused politely and said i need to go back early i have work tomorrow. He messaged me non stop asked for another dates. And the second date happened without me going back to his apartment. Now i think its easy to get a guy if you know the rule; be confident, have self love, be sexy, dont play with your phone when you are on date, show that you are a happy person and call it a night when you really need to go back home. Dont be afraid to say NO. Many women go home and have sex with men eventho they are not interested for having sex in first date because they are scared to reject men. Ladies, if you want something say yes but if you dont it is okay to say no.
for the first date if girl dont wanna have sex thats okay , but for second day i i like her she has to have sex with me other wise , i see her as a waste of time . there is a lot options , and i also think she dont enjoy my company and not respect .
DIVYA KUKREJA for sure . Dont you see this sick society? . why we have to take girl to a dinner and buy them food and wine to get a one kiss only . why do we have to fake it and put girls this ridicolslys valuable place. ? which put a lot of pressure to woman as well . and why do you you think there is so much divorce rate ? what im saying is lets keep it real . im just being myself . whats wrong with that ? i thought everyone can think and live whatever they believe and think . To be honest i tried to please girls .and trust me it doesnt work that way . now i have my purpose and meaning . if she follows me thats fine if she dont thats fine as well . İ have a lot of opportunities . But so many times because of this frame girls just feel attraction for me and respect me .
Wan Xinru yes and no kind of its hard to explain but i kind of sense if she is attracted me , and wants validation from me . thats when i know the things is right and usually girls who attracted have sex in second date . i dont care what you say and all this society feminist and others say i experienced it . by the way what im saying is still supporting girl and take care and protect her . but not in a way this system told us . in our uniqe way 🤙 when this happens divorce rates will decrease . im not blaming woman im blaming man . These days most of mans not man enough thats the problem .Hope you understand me
I am proud to say that I am not and will never be intimidated by an independent women. I was raised by an independent woman, many of my close friends are independent women, and I want to date an independent woman. So I've never seen independent women as a threat. Thank you so much Matthew for sharing your thoughts on this matter! I really appreciate your empathy and willingness to be real.
A lot of people think that they're all of this even though they aren't. Additionally, some people don't have soulmates and would be better off single, which isn't bad. Single life is freedom.
Whenever I look at the couples who have spent years together, they are absolutely not independent. They are together spending time and planning together!
Me and my boyfriend have an amazing relationship and it's been a year and 7 months, Every day feels like a first date and every kiss feels like the first time!!! I just realized that i was doing all of these things without even paying attention after watching this video so I guess it actually works because this is the best relationship I've ever been in 😍😍😍😍
There are plenty of guys like him. They just have a lower incentive to date/commit to romantic relationships because such relationships often fail to meet a cost-benefit analysis. By remaining single, they keep their money and avoid potential drama. Additionally, people are more interested in what they want as opposed to what they need in many situations and dating is no exception. Many guys (and girls) like Matt are often ignored because they do not have certain physical/financial characteristics that others merely want, even though they could provide what others actually need. (security, love, etc.)
I call bs on that. there are very very few men with this level of emotional intelligence because it's simply not taught or valued by our society and men in general.
@@nottheone582 no such thing as emotional intelligence only emotional maturity. Nothing intelligent about emotions they're more often than not just illogical thoughts.
@@eliskazabadalova1365 true also, and if you truly unconditionally love someone you will love them yet let them go somehow, its hard to learn but not impossible ❤️
@Thinblue Line Rude. He needs to help her out! She can't take all the burden! And women DO, bud. Who said she isn't working? It isn't the 50's, both are working nowadays to make ends meet.
This is very simplistic view of everything. The reallity is you are who you are. There is plenty of men in the world that will naturally fit with you. If you find yourself directly changing your habits to fit this model, it is going to feel empty for you. The womans happiness also matters in a relationship. Independent does not mean doing what ever you feel like when you feel like it. It means If you want to hang out with your friends , please go do that. If you have an idea of something you want us to do together, take the initiative and set it up. Men get really tired of having to come up with every date idea, and making all the arrangements to make that happen.
im a dude, and i hope my future partner watches Matts videos! that "long day, give me a cuddle, come nestle on my arm" bit is perfect. i would want to do that to her as much as i want her to do that to me.
100% agree with this "list" (in a different order though). The key of this video is 4:08 where he says it's about choosing the moment. Also, i think it's important to be comfortable in yourself, and with him - you cant "force" yourself to be sexy/playful etc if you dont feel comfortable.
Adela Setara You do realize that almost all channels are centered around a genre or topic, right? To accuse this man of enforcing the belief that all women need a man would be the same thing as boycotting a gamer channel for enforcing the belief that life is all about videogames. I've seen quite a bit of his videos and I've seen him specify that it takes two to maintain a relationship. The reason why he focuses on women is because that's what this channel is for: giving advice to women who are willing to hear it. Are you okay with being single for the rest of your life? So be it. He's making videos for women who want potential answers. And of course people are all different. These techniques will not work on everyone. But humans are creatures that are fundamentally based on patterns. Individuals of the same sex are likely to share some tendencies or characteristics chemically, psychologically, and biologically. Nothing is one hundred percent, but with an understanding of these patterns your chances of making a correct prediction are higher than not. You may not watch a video for the same purpose as others do, but dont sue a bleach company because you decided to drink it instead of using it for its intended purpose.
I'm addicted to watching his videos!!! His voice is so beautiful. Does "how to get the guy" come in audio read by Matthew; because I need that in my life.
I have struggled with dating for years, but I've started a new relationship that seems to be going well. I watched this video and was immediately able to recognize examples of each of these 4 things from my last date with him! I got all 4! No wonder he wants to keep seeing me 🥳
I don’t understand why connecting with someone is so complicated, if is difficult and needs work , then move on? Seriously it should feel safe and comfortable
As a man watching these videos out of curiosity, I can say that I have not experienced very much NURTURING from any of the women I've been with. They're usually too wrapped up in themselves. That's the big one on this list to me! That's why we stick close to our Mom's cause they're usually the only ones that give us that!
2:37 - 2:40 "everyone wants to be looked after, a little bit" ~ he sort of like went somewhere else for a few seconds, like a memory or a longing passed by his mind. or he could be just a really great actor and he wants us to feel that vibe. 👍
Think should be more on this one. If marriage is on the horizon, looking after each other-thru pregnancy, unending challenges, aging, health issues- we women need to know whether or not he’s the real deal!!!??!
Matt, you can't be making videos like this. That's bad. Don't do that. Not in public. It was almost too much and nearly had me close out of the video mid way through... 😛
I randomly saw this video and I agree with him in what men want from women. It’s not all about sex it’s about truly loving your significant other and everything about them. Yes all men are different there some that just go for looks and sex which sadly is a lot of them out there, and others like myself and what this man in the video said that we go after these traits in women. Also I wanted to point out something because I read some of the comments on here. Just because some men look for real intimacy in women like what is spoken in this video does not make us bisexual or gay. You have to remember that some women are different as well and look for different traits in a man, some like rough tuff guys and some like down to earth type of men. It always come down to each individual’s preferences.
I can't tell you how often I did the whole "I'm dying" thing, usually when curling up to go to sleep, and usually without telling him how to "save me", lol. I thought I was just weird for doing that though.
I really needed to hear this, especially number 4. I have relied on my bf so much that when he was having a bad day it was hard for me to be supportive. I have started to become more independent and I am able to be there for him more.
Isn't this lovely? It's true, and I think women actually appreciate the same things! Thank you for the energy and inspiration you bring to this conversation, Matthew!
very agreed! Many people think they can be attractive just being NICE. In my opinion being NICE is a must for everyone and thus wouldn't make someone stand out.
I hope I'll be able to find a guy like him, the only type of guy I would really have a serious relationship with: confident, empathetic, funny, handsome, cute, intuitive, intelligent...he has everything I admire in a person
Hahaha some of these advices doesn’t work for everybody but they are 100% accurate in most cases if done right! Watch my video I talk about some feminine natural ways to attract men ruclips.net/video/i-sptMd3SiY/видео.html
Nurturing and independence are really important... two things I really look in a woman. I really believe in equality and kind of harmonious cooperation or so. I don’t wanna be the one who’s always doing-planning everything all the time. Being equally responsible partners requires both parities being independent. Nurturing in a way is showing appreciation for the efforts. It has also a connection to understanding and positivity in a sense that life simply consists of ups and downs, so let’s accept it, focus on the goal and be grateful for the moment. Non nurturing women tend to be rather strict and kind of negative or so... Who wouldn’t want a hug and kiss on a forehead after long long day work both in a workplace and home... These few thoughts are just a tip of an iceberg, better not to make strong judgment based on one sentence. Don’t have time to write an whole essay, but hopefully it gives something to think or discuss about...
Thank you so much for creating such valuable content. Even though I have been with my man for about 7 years, I love watching your videos to keep that spark alive in our marriage. Any chance of creating a video about maintaining desire and attraction in long term relationships?
Yes! I second this request. I have been in a committed live-in relationship for 3 years. I would love long term relationship content as well, if you are into it Matt. Thanks for all you do!
Sometimes I think that I'd be a perfect girlfriend because I'm all of this but guys aren't interested in me because I don't have a slim body. And the most guys around my age are going for the looks.
Katie B. Do you have self discipline? Guys are very conscious of a girls health. If you cannot discipline yourself to eat healthy and you end up not liking how you look we can pick up on that from a mile away. Hope this helps
Katie , I'm 5'6 and 185 pounds ... give or take... most men are idiots. I have found the men that have loved me correct and were committed to long term , were men interested in me regardless of this. I am quite pretty and confident as well regardless. When I was slimmer and sexually appealing I got " fuck boys" so being fluffy has its advtanges . I would suggest healthy nutrition and do it for yourself , dont give loosers the chance that wouldnt still adore you while you are fluffy. Men are quite selfish and superficial so make sure to work on confidence and dressing well... discern the right men from the boys. Xxx
Jeez, everyone is being so harsh in your comments! So, let me say my two cents without being so rude. Of course I don't know you, or what you look like, or what you do, but, I am not skinny. That is a simple fact, I have my chubby areas of course, but I am generally a "athletic" body type... If that means anything, you could also say I am a "full hourglass" body type. And I have struggled with the fact that my sister's are both pretty skinny, small frames, lanky, relatively thin. So comparatively I look kinda "large", which sounds like you struggle with that too. There is a fine line between curvy and healthy, and curvy and unhealthy. Can you run around and play? Can you walk up some stairs without being totally dead? I used to not be able to, I slimmed up a little just to ease my own load. But the simple fact is, that I will NEVER be "thin" or "skinny" that is simply not the way I am built. I am healthy enough, and can do as I please as far as; if I want to run around and play, I can. If I want to go on a brisk hike, I can. That is what is important, do what is best for you. Don't take it to an extreme, of trying to get that "perfect" body, because for most of us...it is unachievable. I have hips, and large bust, I am strong, I don't have a completely flat stomach, I have thick thighs. But I can sure pull my weight, and that is what makes me proud. Don't let these other rude, self important, plain yogurt people tell you what you have to look like in order to be attractive, don't listen to them telling you, without even knowing you, what you are. Be healthy for YOURSELF, feel good about YOURSELF, dress for YOU, do what YOU want, be what YOU want to be. Be confident, happy, healthy, and don't care about these toad stools for people. Care for yourself, you deserve it ❤️❤️❤️
I totally forgot about this comment and it’s weird to read it now because so much has changed 🙈 at this time around I met a guy, he told me that he likes my curves and my personality. I gained self confidence. We were in a relationship but it didn’t work out. I had lost weight and even more after the break up and I didn’t really like it even though I wasn’t that slim. I was around 5‘6 and 149 lbs. But now I’m very happy about myself. And guys are interested but it’s mostly based on the looks. When I ask them why they like me so much, their respond would be:,,You‘re cute and pretty“ well thanks.. but I’m very happy about my single life. I’m enjoying and taking care of myself. ☺️ and thanks for those nice and positive comments!
Ladies and gentlemen- just be YOURSELF. Don't try to be these things if it's not naturally already part of who you are. If someone doesn't like you when you're completely your true self, screw 'em. I'd rather be hated for what I am than to be loved for something I'm not.
pamela kalimukwa - Maybe YOU want a "daddy" figure, but that's definitely not what I want. I had to deal with my own father for 17 years, I don't want to have to deal with another "daddy" as an adult, (i.e. helicopter boyfriend).
Matthew, I wish more people are willing to learn about the human behaviour like us so we all can appreciate more meanings of life & happiness! I am enjoying all your RUclips videos. Please keep them coming. Thank you!
Why would i care abt what they want! I’ll accept you the way you are; accept me the way i am and we will help each other grow together of we are meant to be
Nurturing is so important. It is just useful literally everywhere. If you nurture your friends, they’ll never doubt they have someone to talk to that loves them. If you appropriately nurture your peers (nothing too personal or intimate, just looking out for them. If they’re upset, say something. If you see some evidence of severe mental health issues, gently talk to them about your concerns, that kind of thing) they’ll have more of a respect for you. If you nurture literally anything it just makes the world give back to you. It’s great.
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I've been single for 5 years, and I do all these things to my crush, who flirts back a little, but ultimately turned me down when I straight told him I have a crush on him.
I think the core of the independence is that it should not be confused with not being needed. Men are rarely afraid if their woman is independent. They are afraid if they aren't needed.
when you're all of these but they're too busy so you get bored and stop being playful. look I'm sick of being the perfect girl when they are full of imperfections
virgismar, I believe that you might not want to put forth such immense effort if you didn't recognize a gem in the man, right? plus, there is no perfect guy, just one (or two or twenty) that is perfect for you! :)
Thank you Matthew your advice is always very helpful because it's coming from a man rather than a woman. You have male friends you can talk to, groups of men to really truly find out what the majority of men are looking for. Thank you!❤
I love that you are direct and to the point. No drawn out BS that doesn’t give solutions. You’re by far my favorite! Keep up the excellent work! Thank you :)
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I notice the “details” I’m so simple; like him getting up before me, to start my car… Or making me a cup of coffee. Or realizing that I need windshield washer fluid, checking the air in my tires (man stuff)
Well the thing with no 3 in my guy's case is that everytime I tried to console him, he would've thought that it was a moment of weakness and therefore denied it and acted tough. And said that "If anything, *I* should be the one who checks up on you in case you need a shoulder to cry on. *I*'m a man. I'm all good." Hmm.
My main problem is I don't really show my sexual/seductive side on the first few dates! That's when you need to build sexual tension and grab his attention. Maybe if I lived in the 70s when men didn't have easy access to so many sexually unrestricted women, I would get a 5th date. My sex drive is decreasing too as I get older, which is not helping me.
-"If you don't kiss me right now I'm gonna die".
I died.
Regina B. And then he said a woman needs to be independent, wtf
@Tim Hanselbach I know that's playfulness, but an independent woman has to be playful in order to keep the man? An independent woman is likely to be very busy to be bothered with this kind of shit. What have independent men ever done to please the female sex? Are they "playful" as well? I'd rather be single than struggle to find a balance between all these "attributes" men want in an "ideal" woman.
@@lepetitchat123 It’s about not taking life so seriously all the time. No one wants to be stressed 24/7 by life―that’s how playfulness comes in. It makes life a little more fun and enjoyable. You seem like an awfully serious person. Just take it easy sometimes.
@Jason Contrary to your assumption, I am not serious at all. I am an existential nihilist. I can be serious about things that matter though. I was trying to put myself in the shoes of an independent woman. It's really crazy no independent men have ever been asked to be "playful" in order to attract women. But women have to make an insane amount of effort to please men.
@@lepetitchat123 also men make an insane amount of effort to please women it's both way street, we have some standards for the men we like too, we don't go out with all men that make an effort
1. Playfulness
2. Sexiness
3. Nurturing
4. Independence
👌
Haaah! This men is full of shit... Ok this is truth, but every person is different.. you need to feel the person, not all people want have same dream, not all people want same things...
Men do NOT want independent women....they want women to pretend to be independent....
@@katiehunt3083 Weak men do not want independent women
@@czJanKrejci riiiiiiiight.
I am confidently saying having those 4 aspects, but my crush is an introvert alien who doesnt know how rare and such a treasure I am. So yea, here i am chewing my popcorn, alone.
I hear you
Same girl!
Dealing with the same shizzle - I feel your pain!
Congrats. A good advice for you: Run for the hills, do not get into that crush. You will get his confused and introverted energy with time, if you get envolved with him, it will not be good for you. Wait for someone really special. Cheers.
@mr. Wldasoldmysoul4pussyasateen I have no cats. I have a better mind about cats, they are heavens creatures and can communicate with vibes. Introverts can speak, but they do not. Beware, I had two introverts and they carried a lot of emotional baggage that can harm you. Be careful. Bless you.
Now I understand why I have been happily married for 24 years, we have those 4 qualities in our marriage in large amounts.
He's lying. Young, chaste, submissive, creates peace, follows his lead
Aww the dream!! 🥰
1. Being Playful and not always serious (dancing randomly, say kiss me right now I will die,etc)
2. Sexiness (showing someone you desire them, throw cheeky looks)
3. Nurturing (make him feel loved and looked after)
4. Independence-of him (own strength of mind,probably not being clingy)
chaste, fit , feminine, friendly, not half naked online, agreeable
*What women want... A MAN THAT APPRECIATES A WOMEN WHO HAS THESE QUALITIES!!!*
Sooooo true!!
Women want a man they can brag to there friends about really
Andrew Eadie I want a man that is my best friend.
@@rubywarda6871 wow rigjt on the button .
I found him! And I'm keeping him.
Gah... please tell me I'm not the only one who blushed while watching this video
LoveAnimexoxo
Haha! I was grinning the whole time
LoveAnimexoxo No you're not the only one believe me! All this great advice coming from a real hottie can be distracting!
Riiiight!
I did blush😊
I'm a dude this is true AF
I'm sure it's true for you no doubt whatsoever. It's everything that YOU want a woman to do.it makes you sound like you're not interested in getting to know a woman as a person you're only interested if she asks the way you want her to act. I would have you wondering why on Earth does she not want me LOL
Pamela Meadows do you date broke guys who are wimps ???
@@daveshore8671 LMAO unfortunately I have!!!
@@daveshore8671 lol they weren't wimps. But no I didn't seem to date guys with much money. So it's really strange the egos that some of the guys I've dated have had. It's unfortunate for me that I didn't have much confidence and didn't think I could do better. The way my son-in-law treats my daughter renewed my faith in men when I lost it LOL
A programmed sex doll is your best best for a companion
One time i had a date with a guy and we had eye contacts throughout the conversation, i looked at him in his eyes and tried to be seductive with my eyes without touching him. I guess he really thought id go home with him then when we called it a night i called uber and he insisted me to go somewhere with me for drinks but i refused politely and said i need to go back early i have work tomorrow. He messaged me non stop asked for another dates. And the second date happened without me going back to his apartment. Now i think its easy to get a guy if you know the rule; be confident, have self love, be sexy, dont play with your phone when you are on date, show that you are a happy person and call it a night when you really need to go back home. Dont be afraid to say NO. Many women go home and have sex with men eventho they are not interested for having sex in first date because they are scared to reject men. Ladies, if you want something say yes but if you dont it is okay to say no.
for the first date if girl dont wanna have sex thats okay , but for second day i i like her she has to have sex with me other wise , i see her as a waste of time . there is a lot options , and i also think she dont enjoy my company and not respect .
@@cyprus1233 "you've a lot of options" , "she has to have sex"
Are you reading what you're writing?
DIVYA KUKREJA for sure . Dont you see this sick society? . why we have to take girl to a dinner and buy them food and wine to get a one kiss only . why do we have to fake it and put girls this ridicolslys valuable place. ? which put a lot of pressure to woman as well . and why do you you think there is so much divorce rate ? what im saying is lets keep it real . im just being myself . whats wrong with that ? i thought everyone can think and live whatever they believe and think . To be honest i tried to please girls .and trust me it doesnt work that way . now i have my purpose and meaning . if she follows me thats fine if she dont thats fine as well . İ have a lot of opportunities . But so many times because of this frame girls just feel attraction for me and respect me .
@@cyprus1233 so if someone doesnt wanna have sex with you in 2nd date it means that person doesnt respect you ? dude are you for real ?
Wan Xinru yes and no kind of its hard to explain but i kind of sense if she is attracted me , and wants validation from me . thats when i know the things is right and usually girls who attracted have sex in second date . i dont care what you say and all this society feminist and others say i experienced it . by the way what im saying is still supporting girl and take care and protect her . but not in a way this system told us . in our uniqe way 🤙 when this happens divorce rates will decrease . im not blaming woman im blaming man . These days most of mans not man enough thats the problem .Hope you understand me
I am proud to say that I am not and will never be intimidated by an independent women. I was raised by an independent woman, many of my close friends are independent women, and I want to date an independent woman. So I've never seen independent women as a threat. Thank you so much Matthew for sharing your thoughts on this matter! I really appreciate your empathy and willingness to be real.
You are a very sweet guy
I would love to date a man like you.
Hahaha what a fucking simp. Don't worry bro. You'll get a girlfriend off RUclips in no time
Late reply but, still very true/valued/valid. There are many men who are afraid of a strong independent woman.
Hi, mangina.
im all of this! wheres my soulmate
A lot of people think that they're all of this even though they aren't.
Additionally, some people don't have soulmates and would be better off single, which isn't bad.
Single life is freedom.
i was kidding... i just havent found the perso. for me yet to be all of these things. single life is nice
I see
being single is a privilege
That's what single people say!!!!! to justify why they are single!
hahahahahahaha "if you dont Kiss me right now im gonna die"
AnndyFrag 😂😂😂😍
AnndyFrag cool
That was so cute 😂😂
AnndyFrag 😂
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I think a woman would expect the same things back from the relationship.
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Yesss, of course. The man can’t be deadbeat. He should strive to be a high standard man for his women.
i would guess so ?
Whenever I look at the couples who have spent years together, they are absolutely not independent. They are together spending time and planning together!
When he says "WHAT I'M JUST LOOKING AT YOU" and see in a flirty way OOOMMMGGG my heart melts away
Matthew! you can't talk to me like this... Not here, not on RUclips. It's bad. 😉
not that he's talking to you...
Spicy Space lmao! Burnt🔥
rt
Jennifer Prevost this man is waaaay too much....I'm falling for this dude...
Jennifer Prevost i think he is gay .bad luck for you girls
*gets quiet* "like the world is just one big hug" AHHHH Matt I love u
Ur sweater has all four traits and im loving it
Husna Hameeda hahaha!!
loved your sweater😂
lmao
Husna Hameeda 😂
1. Physically attracted to you
2. Physically attracted to me
3. We get along well
4. Doesn't think their politics are their personality
vHe's lying. Young, chaste, submissive, creates peace, follows his lead
Me and my boyfriend have an amazing relationship and it's been a year and 7 months, Every day feels like a first date and every kiss feels like the first time!!! I just realized that i was doing all of these things without even paying attention after watching this video so I guess it actually works because this is the best relationship I've ever been in 😍😍😍😍
Are you still together?
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How did it went after these past years?
We need more guys like Matt in this world! What a babe!
There are plenty of guys like him. They just have a lower incentive to date/commit to romantic relationships because such relationships often fail to meet a cost-benefit analysis. By remaining single, they keep their money and avoid potential drama. Additionally, people are more interested in what they want as opposed to what they need in many situations and dating is no exception. Many guys (and girls) like Matt are often ignored because they do not have certain physical/financial characteristics that others merely want, even though they could provide what others actually need. (security, love, etc.)
Cortney O
I call bs on that. there are very very few men with this level of emotional intelligence because it's simply not taught or valued by our society and men in general.
Stop friend zoning them for Chad and Tyrone.
@@nottheone582 no such thing as emotional intelligence only emotional maturity. Nothing intelligent about emotions they're more often than not just illogical thoughts.
all this will come naturally when you love that person...
Not the independence part tho
True af
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very true 💕
@@eliskazabadalova1365 true also, and if you truly unconditionally love someone you will love them yet let them go somehow, its hard to learn but not impossible ❤️
Guys are a lot of work...
Humans are. :)
😂 😂
Cats are best. Furry too.
@bubblez PREACH!!
@Thinblue Line Rude. He needs to help her out! She can't take all the burden! And women DO, bud. Who said she isn't working? It isn't the 50's, both are working nowadays to make ends meet.
I am all of that and I was rejected so often, even after flirting and binding up for a while. I think men are just way more picky than they admit.
@Lindy T thank you for this
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This is very simplistic view of everything. The reallity is you are who you are. There is plenty of men in the world that will naturally fit with you. If you find yourself directly changing your habits to fit this model, it is going to feel empty for you. The womans happiness also matters in a relationship. Independent does not mean doing what ever you feel like when you feel like it. It means If you want to hang out with your friends , please go do that. If you have an idea of something you want us to do together, take the initiative and set it up. Men get really tired of having to come up with every date idea, and making all the arrangements to make that happen.
im a dude, and i hope my future partner watches Matts videos!
that "long day, give me a cuddle, come nestle on my arm" bit is perfect. i would want to do that to her as much as i want her to do that to me.
Yes
Same
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Is he trapped in a couch? Is that couch holding him hostage?
T Stanton ur ferr now
T Stanton he’s hostage is clearly the “fancy sweater monster !
I laughed so hard hahahah! I hadn’t even noticed it untill I saw this comment!
Sooooo funny
speaking for most men, all of the traits mentioned here are just bonuses but what we really want is a woman who will always be there for us
I like a woman who is comfortable with indulging in the joys of her own femininity.
100% agree with this "list" (in a different order though). The key of this video is 4:08 where he says it's about choosing the moment. Also, i think it's important to be comfortable in yourself, and with him - you cant "force" yourself to be sexy/playful etc if you dont feel comfortable.
Adela Setara You do realize that almost all channels are centered around a genre or topic, right? To accuse this man of enforcing the belief that all women need a man would be the same thing as boycotting a gamer channel for enforcing the belief that life is all about videogames. I've seen quite a bit of his videos and I've seen him specify that it takes two to maintain a relationship. The reason why he focuses on women is because that's what this channel is for: giving advice to women who are willing to hear it. Are you okay with being single for the rest of your life? So be it. He's making videos for women who want potential answers.
And of course people are all different. These techniques will not work on everyone. But humans are creatures that are fundamentally based on patterns. Individuals of the same sex are likely to share some tendencies or characteristics chemically, psychologically, and biologically. Nothing is one hundred percent, but with an understanding of these patterns your chances of making a correct prediction are higher than not.
You may not watch a video for the same purpose as others do, but dont sue a bleach company because you decided to drink it instead of using it for its intended purpose.
I've attempted this as we all probably have, but it does show eventually.
i love how he says they're things that men want, but are actually things that anybody would want in a relationship XD
I'm addicted to watching his videos!!! His voice is so beautiful. Does "how to get the guy" come in audio read by Matthew; because I need that in my life.
Elisa Khan damn, Elisa. Keep your right hand where we can see it. lol
raleighman3000 OMG lol 😂
raleighman3000
Nnnice!....😆... lmao
Elisa Khan it is the accent jajajaja
omg goals
I think Dr Laura said it best. She said the three things that men want to be happy is food sex and respect. The one thing that women want is MORE.
I have struggled with dating for years, but I've started a new relationship that seems to be going well. I watched this video and was immediately able to recognize examples of each of these 4 things from my last date with him! I got all 4! No wonder he wants to keep seeing me 🥳
You Can't talk to Me like this😭😂😭😂😘
Nia Londen, didn't you luv his mischievous, sparkling eyes when he said that? Luv'd it!
Absolutely😍😍
Disa Jardine , I'll have to practice it for years in front of a mirror and still won't get it right 😂
Isabella Marie 😂😂
Did you mean the part where he says you can't look at me like that?
I don’t understand why connecting with someone is so complicated, if is difficult and needs work , then move on? Seriously it should feel safe and comfortable
I feel like this doesn't only go for guys.. I'm looking for those things too..
As a man watching these videos out of curiosity, I can say that I have not experienced very much NURTURING from any of the women I've been with. They're usually too wrapped up in themselves. That's the big one on this list to me! That's why we stick close to our Mom's cause they're usually the only ones that give us that!
When he says " what? I was just not looking at you"
I smiled shyly 😂 he's adorable
What do I look for in a guy? ...Matthew Hussey 😍
MelieSue me to 😍
Not when his bisexual
Amanda04 He is?
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Why not??? That's great! :D
2:37 - 2:40 "everyone wants to be looked after, a little bit" ~ he sort of like went somewhere else for a few seconds, like a memory or a longing passed by his mind.
or he could be just a really great actor and he wants us to feel that vibe. 👍
same opinion
Think should be more on this one. If marriage is on the horizon, looking after each other-thru pregnancy, unending challenges, aging, health issues- we women need to know whether or not he’s the real deal!!!??!
Matt, you can't be making videos like this. That's bad. Don't do that. Not in public. It was almost too much and nearly had me close out of the video mid way through... 😛
With that aside, Was another great video with easy practical tips for us women!
pahaha!! nice one Nora! couldn't have said that better myself! ha
Nora Sal Best comment ever!! Nailed what every woman was thinking.
Nora Sal Best comment ever!! Nailed what every woman was thinking.
I randomly saw this video and I agree with him in what men want from women. It’s not all about sex it’s about truly loving your significant other and everything about them. Yes all men are different there some that just go for looks and sex which sadly is a lot of them out there, and others like myself and what this man in the video said that we go after these traits in women. Also I wanted to point out something because I read some of the comments on here. Just because some men look for real intimacy in women like what is spoken in this video does not make us bisexual or gay. You have to remember that some women are different as well and look for different traits in a man, some like rough tuff guys and some like down to earth type of men. It always come down to each individual’s preferences.
Giant hug of 20 seconds minimum to you Matthew and all the ones who are reading this
Oxytocin release
Keep loving
I’m going to use the “if you don’t kiss me right now, I’m going to die” SO cute
Can confirm - it works. He laughed and then emphatically complied.
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I can't tell you how often I did the whole "I'm dying" thing, usually when curling up to go to sleep, and usually without telling him how to "save me", lol. I thought I was just weird for doing that though.
I'm distracted. I just want to take his jumper off. Haha
Jajajajajaja
haha
Ann R hahahaha
Ann R lol
Angharad R
You people are killing me 😂
40 yr old man married over 10 years - all this is very true.
Yes that's nice to have that person in your life
your girl is very lucky to have you
Salma Yakout U mean Camila Cabello?😂😂
Ruby Ranjan After googling about it, I think I don't trust this guy anymore. Thanks for letting me know and saving my time.
what is it with you haters?
what did you google roflmao, they are VERY happy together as far as I know.
What!? Ok I dont care about his personal life, I'll take his advice and move on.
I really needed to hear this, especially number 4. I have relied on my bf so much that when he was having a bad day it was hard for me to be supportive. I have started to become more independent and I am able to be there for him more.
He's lying. Young, chaste, submissive, creates peace, follows his lead
Isn't this lovely? It's true, and I think women actually appreciate the same things! Thank you for the energy and inspiration you bring to this conversation, Matthew!
He's lying. Young, chaste, submissive, creates peace, follows his lead
So true!!! These are also the things I look for in guys!
very agreed! Many people think they can be attractive just being NICE. In my opinion being NICE is a must for everyone and thus wouldn't make someone stand out.
I hope I'll be able to find a guy like him, the only type of guy I would really have a serious relationship with: confident, empathetic, funny, handsome, cute, intuitive, intelligent...he has everything I admire in a person
"A person that makes the world feel like a giant hug" ^.^
I'm going to pull a Mulan and write these on my arm xp
Gabby s ❤
Gabby s underated f'ing comment 😂🤣💕
don't buy this shit or you'll end up mentally ill. all these qualities contradict each other.
Gabby s, you look so beautiful ❤️❤️❤️and I will be glad to know you
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#1 cooperative. Being uncooperative is worse than not playful in terms of making life harder
I feel like these are exactly the s same things we want in our men!
i think most women will take advice from anyone they deem attractive. but he does have good points
Confidence and aggression! If you like a guy he will love it if you start the conversation! It builds our confidence and makes us feel desired!
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me: *Turns to crush* I'm undressing you with my eyes and you don't even know it
Crush: please stop
Hahaha some of these advices doesn’t work for everybody but they are 100% accurate in most cases if done right! Watch my video I talk about some feminine natural ways to attract men ruclips.net/video/i-sptMd3SiY/видео.html
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I've always been quite mature for my age but when it comes to romance, honestly, the smallest comments make me giggle, blush and smile strongly😂
Nurturing and independence are really important... two things I really look in a woman. I really believe in equality and kind of harmonious cooperation or so. I don’t wanna be the one who’s always doing-planning everything all the time. Being equally responsible partners requires both parities being independent. Nurturing in a way is showing appreciation for the efforts. It has also a connection to understanding and positivity in a sense that life simply consists of ups and downs, so let’s accept it, focus on the goal and be grateful for the moment. Non nurturing women tend to be rather strict and kind of negative or so... Who wouldn’t want a hug and kiss on a forehead after long long day work both in a workplace and home...
These few thoughts are just a tip of an iceberg, better not to make strong judgment based on one sentence. Don’t have time to write an whole essay, but hopefully it gives something to think or discuss about...
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Thank you so much for creating such valuable content. Even though I have been with my man for about 7 years, I love watching your videos to keep that spark alive in our marriage. Any chance of creating a video about maintaining desire and attraction in long term relationships?
Yes! I second this request. I have been in a committed live-in relationship for 3 years. I would love long term relationship content as well, if you are into it Matt. Thanks for all you do!
I've been married for 13 years and I would love to get some advice on long term relationships
Esther Perel
Sometimes I think that I'd be a perfect girlfriend because I'm all of this but guys aren't interested in me because I don't have a slim body. And the most guys around my age are going for the looks.
Katie B.
Do you have self discipline? Guys are very conscious of a girls health. If you cannot discipline yourself to eat healthy and you end up not liking how you look we can pick up on that from a mile away. Hope this helps
Katie , I'm 5'6 and 185 pounds ... give or take... most men are idiots. I have found the men that have loved me correct and were committed to long term , were men interested in me regardless of this. I am quite pretty and confident as well regardless. When I was slimmer and sexually appealing I got " fuck boys" so being fluffy has its advtanges .
I would suggest healthy nutrition and do it for yourself , dont give loosers the chance that wouldnt still adore you while you are fluffy. Men are quite selfish and superficial so make sure to work on confidence and dressing well... discern the right men from the boys. Xxx
Jeez, everyone is being so harsh in your comments!
So, let me say my two cents without being so rude.
Of course I don't know you, or what you look like, or what you do, but, I am not skinny.
That is a simple fact, I have my chubby areas of course, but I am generally a "athletic" body type... If that means anything, you could also say I am a "full hourglass" body type.
And I have struggled with the fact that my sister's are both pretty skinny, small frames, lanky, relatively thin.
So comparatively I look kinda "large", which sounds like you struggle with that too.
There is a fine line between curvy and healthy, and curvy and unhealthy.
Can you run around and play? Can you walk up some stairs without being totally dead?
I used to not be able to, I slimmed up a little just to ease my own load.
But the simple fact is, that I will NEVER be "thin" or "skinny" that is simply not the way I am built.
I am healthy enough, and can do as I please as far as; if I want to run around and play, I can. If I want to go on a brisk hike, I can.
That is what is important, do what is best for you.
Don't take it to an extreme, of trying to get that "perfect" body, because for most of us...it is unachievable.
I have hips, and large bust, I am strong, I don't have a completely flat stomach, I have thick thighs. But I can sure pull my weight, and that is what makes me proud.
Don't let these other rude, self important, plain yogurt people tell you what you have to look like in order to be attractive, don't listen to them telling you, without even knowing you, what you are.
Be healthy for YOURSELF, feel good about YOURSELF, dress for YOU, do what YOU want, be what YOU want to be.
Be confident, happy, healthy, and don't care about these toad stools for people.
Care for yourself, you deserve it ❤️❤️❤️
I totally forgot about this comment and it’s weird to read it now because so much has changed 🙈 at this time around I met a guy, he told me that he likes my curves and my personality. I gained self confidence. We were in a relationship but it didn’t work out. I had lost weight and even more after the break up and I didn’t really like it even though I wasn’t that slim. I was around 5‘6 and 149 lbs. But now I’m very happy about myself. And guys are interested but it’s mostly based on the looks. When I ask them why they like me so much, their respond would be:,,You‘re cute and pretty“ well thanks.. but I’m very happy about my single life. I’m enjoying and taking care of myself. ☺️ and thanks for those nice and positive comments!
You Brits are so attractive.. the right mix of polite and mean
Ladies and gentlemen- just be YOURSELF. Don't try to be these things if it's not naturally already part of who you are. If someone doesn't like you when you're completely your true self, screw 'em. I'd rather be hated for what I am than to be loved for something I'm not.
The nurturing part is very true
This was a good and honest video. I agree 100% I may make a positive response or add on to it! Great job!
Hey Elliot! good to see you here!:)
OMG Is anyone in love w/him already?! I thought a man like him didn't exist....
too cute
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oh god all men just want a mother figure this just confirmed it
avalon kenton what is man without the woman? um.... no comment ;)
avalon kenton 😂 so unfortunately truuuuue
avalon kenton I am a freud so..
Well we want men who are a father figure, it goes both ways.
pamela kalimukwa - Maybe YOU want a "daddy" figure, but that's definitely not what I want. I had to deal with my own father for 17 years, I don't want to have to deal with another "daddy" as an adult, (i.e. helicopter boyfriend).
I feel like these traits apply to anyone, not just men
“..you’re too good to be true.” - That’s what I got.
Matthew, I wish more people are willing to learn about the human behaviour like us so we all can appreciate more meanings of life & happiness! I am enjoying all your RUclips videos. Please keep them coming. Thank you!
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😢 I'm a cuddler for 10 years no cuddling 😭 I thrive on cuddles
Love this.....But why does it look like you're inside a sofa ? :-P
Ella Poyner never question your king.
@@GUITARTIME2024 😂
hahahahah🤣🤣🤣🤣
I just looked...*snort
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Why would i care abt what they want!
I’ll accept you the way you are; accept me the way i am and we will help each other grow together of we are meant to be
Nurturing is so important. It is just useful literally everywhere. If you nurture your friends, they’ll never doubt they have someone to talk to that loves them. If you appropriately nurture your peers (nothing too personal or intimate, just looking out for them. If they’re upset, say something. If you see some evidence of severe mental health issues, gently talk to them about your concerns, that kind of thing) they’ll have more of a respect for you. If you nurture literally anything it just makes the world give back to you. It’s great.
PINS: Playfulness, Independence, Nurturing, Sexiness
Or SPIN
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Oscar Williamson Awe, thank you sm!😊
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me : staring at my crush with sexy look
my crush : "do i know you?"
me : what? im just looking at you ..................
my crush : *runs*
Maybe it wasn’t really sexy
😂
This is probably why I'm not a desirable woman. I am independent and focused. Too bad the other three qualities are lacking.
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I've been single for 5 years, and I do all these things to my crush, who flirts back a little, but ultimately turned me down when I straight told him I have a crush on him.
I think the core of the independence is that it should not be confused with not being needed.
Men are rarely afraid if their woman is independent. They are afraid if they aren't needed.
when you're all of these but they're too busy so you get bored and stop being playful. look I'm sick of being the perfect girl when they are full of imperfections
virgismar, I believe that you might not want to put forth such immense effort if you didn't recognize a gem in the man, right? plus, there is no perfect guy, just one (or two or twenty) that is perfect for you! :)
Thank you Matthew your advice is always very helpful because it's coming from a man rather than a woman. You have male friends you can talk to, groups of men to really truly find out what the majority of men are looking for. Thank you!❤
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I love that you are direct and to the point. No drawn out BS that doesn’t give solutions. You’re by far my favorite! Keep up the excellent work! Thank you :)
I swear i got tears when the way you said about nurturing😢
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I hope you can make a video on the "milestones" every relationship should have. I love your videos!! Thank you for this!
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Check, check, check and check. Ummm we should definitely meet 😉
My ex hated my goofiness. I realized it’s my favorite thing about myself. NEXT.
my top 4
1. funny or playfulness
2. respect
3.submission
4.self worth
Interesting that submission and self.worth are on the same list. In my experience those usually don't go hand in hand
@@jamlaw He's lying. Young, chaste, submissive, creates peace, follows his lead
Omg when he was like come here in my arm I wish I could actually get next to him In his arm 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
Honestly if it’s a good guy even if he denies you a relationship he will just take it as a compliment and still be friends
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Why am i watching this. Be you ladies.
I notice the “details” I’m so simple; like him getting up before me, to start my car…
Or making me a cup of coffee.
Or realizing that I need windshield washer fluid, checking the air in my tires (man stuff)
Well the thing with no 3 in my guy's case is that everytime I tried to console him, he would've thought that it was a moment of weakness and therefore denied it and acted tough. And said that "If anything, *I* should be the one who checks up on you in case you need a shoulder to cry on. *I*'m a man. I'm all good."
Hmm.
My main problem is I don't really show my sexual/seductive side on the first few dates! That's when you need to build sexual tension and grab his attention. Maybe if I lived in the 70s when men didn't have easy access to so many sexually unrestricted women, I would get a 5th date. My sex drive is decreasing too as I get older, which is not helping me.
especially diet and relaxation, it works wonders*
He's lying. Young, chaste, submissive, creates peace, follows his lead
You falling on the couch made me laugh out loud
Why cant YOU just be my boyfriend? Yay good plan!
Why am I squealing with how nice and sweet these traits and affectionate vibes are when I'm sitting on my own watching this hahahaha