When people go through immeasurable emotional, physical and emotional pain and struggles, physical attractiveness becomes secondary. You learn to access an inner strength you never know is hiding there. That’s where the true beauty is and it radiates outwardly.
I stopped caring about what people think years ago when I realised that EVERYONE is flawed and insecure. Worrying about what they think only elevates others above me. I am unique and valuable in God's eyes. No one else's opinion matters. Compliments are just a bonus, nothing more.
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Not dating now(haven't for 3 years) and it is so nice. No pressure, no stress. I might date in a few more months, but it will have to be just easy or stress free or I think I will just pass! It has just been so peaceful to not worry about being attractive to others or trying to attract. It is a good feeling.
Fascinating. How did you bring yourself to this “go easy on yourself” state? Was it a feeling that came over you randomly one day? Was it slow day to day struggle to rationalize your feelings? Was it an experience that helped push your mind over a certain threshold? Or is it something that you find difficult to describe even today especially with all that time that had passed? (Which is fine of course….who really has all the answers anyway).
@@sunshinedayz7032 Because there's growth and learning that happens in navigating relationships/dating. And when you find yourself in a successful relationship it's VERY rewarding! Nothing worth doing is ever easy, and you've gotta weed through the BS to find someone worthwhile But also keep staying single for as long as you feel called to, I'm in the same boat ❤️
My mom divorced long ago and never remarried. Dated a fee losers but then decided she was done. She’s much happier not having to answer to anyone, stress free, independent, etc…
Wow someone cant be single. Lol its peaceful being single and you can put energy into amazing things instead of fights and still get dick or a guy to take out trash if needed once you get your confidence back.😎💖
Some of the most attractive people in my eyes haven't been the most conventionally attractive people. I don't need a man who is "perfect", I prefer a man who makes me feel perfectly loved in spite of my flaws. How can't I not love him back and be loyal to him? Btw, Matthew Hussey is extremely attractive and his openness just makes him seem stronger.
I think “the secret” is found in being vulnerable with one another. I have made a goal to be vulnerable and honest and authentic with everyone I meet until they give me reason to be otherwise. It’s been a steep learning curve but I feel so much more present than I used to with this practice. Thanks for your vulnerability, Matthew.
I agree! Although being vulnerable opens us up to being hurt by those who cannot appreciate us or are not right for us, it also opens us up to receiving the love that we are giving out. Being vulnerable shows that we are confident enough to take a chance and to survive rejection. The saying that 'it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all' is indeed true. It hurts like hell to make ourselves vulnerable, only to end up alone yet again. But, unless we take a chance on getting hurt, we are also blocking all chances of being happy. The other option to opening up and being vulnerable is to live like robots, never allowing ourselves to feel anything, but that's pretty much akin to being dead. I'm saying this in the midst of healing a broken heart from having recently ended a relationship with someone who was simply not as in love with me as I was with him. Yet, I have absolutely no regrets about the time that we spent together and I would do it all over again. So I'm not giving up on myself or on love! Because I'm not content with just having a pulse. I want to feel and be alive!
To add, I'm almost 43 and I have been single for such a long time. It makes me feel bad about myself and I go back and forth with the fear that it won't happen for me. Friends and family around me are in relationships and getting engaged and it makes me feel that there is something wrong with me otherwise wouldn't a wonderful guy want to be with me? I do believe I have a lot t to offer but I feel I never get noticed, picked and to top it I don't meet people. My social life is embarrassing and I feel a part of me is becoming someone I don't like because my true self is fading. I want to keep my chin up that 2022 is my year!
I'm 47 and in a similar situation. I only in recent years realized how I was looping negative self self talk and believing all the unkind lies aimed at me by outside influences and then myself since day dot. I saw how I'd attach a story to that pain rising to my heart, then I'd bottle it back up with the new story and label attached and store it back on that inner shelf . The pain and stories I attached to it basically amounted to "I'm not good enough". I see from your comment that you'll understand what I'm saying. Now to the crux of the biscuit, which is my new way: if I feel that sharp vintage pain begin to rise in my gut coming to cripple my self worth.... instead of attaching a fresh story and label to it ie, "why bother, I should just forget it now and save myself the pain,give up, she'd never be interested with me I'm not good enough" etc and storing it back on the inner shelf to fester for next time ,I now let it come up and I FEEL it. I feel it and fully experience it for as long as It comes. Sometimes it gets intense and I'll bawl my eyes out like a young child. I allow it all. As long as I don't attach a story/unkind lie/poor me label to it and just allow myself to feel it rise and pass, that's what it does. The pain has nothing to attach to so it leaves making my heart feel lighter and my mind clear and at ease. After all these years I've finally comprehended all this, how to feel my emotions and simply observe them at the same time knowing they aren't me and "this too will pass". I experience the emotion for what it is, allow it to run it's course and let it leave making my next step on the path available. I'm still single and learning to love myself, I don't know exactly how much more I have yet to release nor when or how it will come up again, I expect I have a lifetime's worth but it's ok because now I know how to let it go and not go into limiting fear again. Excuse the novel, this is the first time I've written this out or tried to explain it to anyone but i felt prompted. Maybe you're way past this stage or maybe there's something helpful. Anyway I hope you're happy and content and you finally win your life's lotteries like you deserve. Ciao.
Being accepting of yourself and loving yourself in a way you did when you were a small child and before the world took that away from you is the only worthy goal in life.
Love yourself unconditionally and laugh and enjoy the moments. We come to love not by finding a perfect person but buy learning to see an imperfect person perfectly . 😃❤️
For me I've been divorced for a year now and I'm 40 and no children, but want children. Since I'm back in the dating pool a lot of guys that i encounter don't want children or already has them and are good with the ones that they have, so for me it's making the decision to have them on my own and being ok with that. Maybe later down the line I'll meet someone, but if I continue to hold off until I do then I could choose the wrong person and then be stuck with that person for life. Also be content where you are at this moment in your life. It's ok if you aren't killing it right now. Take a breath regroup and start again.
Oh gosh, having children shouldn't be about YOU. How tragic to intentionally deprive children of a father. You will realize this at some point in the future.
You made me cry over exactly that: being insecure, feeling inferior even that my „outside paktier“ looks good for other People, what compliment me about what I achieved, how I look for my Age. And I find heavy mistakes in my Behavior, which I never realised in the Past. Especially in Relationships. Thank you for your Eyeopener
Nobodys perfect! Ure unbelievable matt, because of the trait u teach us and the passion u have for teaching us women about men. If ure happy about ureself and happy about life then it shines towards people, animals and everything then it shines in ure eyes and ure being and then u feel great to make ureself the best u can be. 😊❤️💪💪
i absolutely understand what you are saying and agree completely and I can confirm that I live much better since I've accepted my imperfections while I learned to love myself and be more of a ''deep'' person rather than letting myself influenced by the superficiality of the society in which I live!! xx
100%!! I think it also comes with the level of maturity, which very often comes with more life experience. Also, it only takes a few decent people we can get along with around us to make all the difference in feeling more accepted. We're social beings after all, so that sense of belonging matters a lot. I've noticed I can attract much better people when I'm being more truthful about who I am instead of going out of my way to fit certain expectations.
Matt, you are so right. True attraction does involve being relaxed with all our imperfections. We are all imperfect. Ironically when someone is relaxed with your imperfections it creates the most fertile ground for your own desire to change something if you want to, if the time is right to do that. You become a more attractive man to me if you own and relax with your imperfections. A deeper and more powerful man. And yes, your standards and preferences do come through even so.
I follow you because : 1) You watch anime and actually amazed by it- I believe you never belittled any form of messages that touches the heart..the wonder of human imagination.. 2) You read - you give your all by studying and analyze based on other people experience and crossed check with your own 3) You are persuasive - the charisma in you is fascinating..I love all the examples you gave so far..It makes me wonder what else will you bring out on the table..a thinker don't always know how to share their idea..a skeptical person (like me) prefers to listen and see on her own eyes then we will believe about it..but you change that idea in me..Thank you for all your effort Matthew..I appreciate it sincerely..✨"being effortless will make life easier on everything"
This message is super important! Building our emotional, physical and mental resilience is so important, now more than ever...young girls are self harming and killing themselves at rates never seen before and research shows it's due to social media increasing their insecurities. Thank you so much Mathew for putting this content out...it needs to be shared widely!!
I think this has become my favorite channel. Because it's made me think in ways I hadn't before and I can feel the change in myself just from this one video. Thank you for the work!
I gained a LOT during Covid and I’m one of those people who’s weight normally never fluctuates. I wouldn’t leave the house when things opened up. I FINALLY just accepted that this is the body I’m currently living in, and started buying new clothes, since my old ones were 2 sizes too small. Once I accepted it, the weight started FALLING off as if it knew I had stopped hating my body. I now have an entire wardrobe of stuff to rePosh.
I used to be so confident. I was secure in my ugliness so to speak. But then I wanted to start taking care of myself and dressing better and feeling good. I was walking past this group of guys and heard one of them say you could wake up next to her and all of them started laughing. I new I was attractive because I had so many people attracted to me. But that has always stuck with me and shortly after I good in a shituation with a narcissist and then someone who made me always feel like I was worthless because that is how he felt and made me doubt myself constantly. I didn’t connect to his essence. Now I am trying to get over this past and worry about myself. There’s this guy at work I am into and I see all the ‘signs’ he likes me but he has yet to make a move. Maybe because we work together and he seems insecure himself. Now I am like wtf is wrong with me lol so now I am watching your videos to find the confident girl I know I am. We shouldn’t care what people feel but.. fuck it right! Wish me luck. Thank you for what you do!
Im from philippines and ur talks are my guide to a better version of me. I am Currently heart broken and ur speech about self love, self worth, helped me become a strong person emotionally and mentally. Listening to your speeches drove me more to be moooore kinder to my self and to others. UR VIDEOS SPEECHES TAUGHT ME TO HOW TO BE EMOTIONALLY STRONG AND SEE THINGS IN A BETTER WAY NOT IN A NEGATIVE WAY.. THANK YOU MATHEW.. I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOUR TEACHINGS TO EXPAND MY KNOWLEDGE ABOUT SELF LOVE AND BE POSITIVE IN LIFE EVEN IF HARD TIMES HIT ME. I SUBSCRIBED ALREADY.. UR SPEECHES AWAKEN THE DEEPEST PART OF ME AND I OWE YOU THAT A LOT. LOVE FROM ME ,from PHILIPPINES CURRENTLY NOW IN INDIA ❤️
I'm just binging your videos lately. I even helped some guy to get the girl he wants using your advices LOL. I have never had problems with love life, but lately my great love left and I felt down and like noone will ever love me again. Your vlogs helped me to get better and get some self consciousness and self esteem back. Thank you for the work you are doing and I wish more people would be so emotional grown up as you are. I love your sense of humor as well. Take care Matt, and keep on doing the great work!
I love this video. Resilience and acceptance are essential for survival. Of course life loves to throw us curve balls and monkey wrenches at our heads when we least expect it, but I truly think videos like these are so important. I cannot put into words how much I appreciate your content. You are seriously amazing. I didn't realize how much of a self confidence issue I really had, until you told me my future without me asking. Lolol. Thank you for this insight, because I will be working on this ASAP!!! 💪❤
This never gets old. 🙏What an internal struggle. Some days, weeks and even months I am completely confident regardless of difficulties, so called flaws 💪😤but sometimes I feel so stuck and I watch myself beat myself up while I fumble around behaving insecure. 😔😭desparately sabotaging what I really want 😆 two different aspects weak or strong these are lessons💘 next heartbeat thats strong is that much more stable & more stronger than before. You cannot fake confidence. Genuine confidence feels sooo good.
I think we as humans are like "onions"... Will layers of self discovery and things one can explore our own mind & what one is capable of & discovering our fears & to address it where it came from & how it can be fixed as one peels the layers to oneself, as well helping others in the process.✌🏻
Being sure of yourself is key for confidence and attractiveness, I think. Someone who's really sure about his/her history, which means being aware of the bad and the good. I'm learning more about it each day. It's quite a tough mental exercise. The funny thing is that in a day that I've done basically nothing, just wore a giant shirt and shorts, my confidence (for some reason) skyrocketed. I felt really proud. We have to feel good in our skin by knowing ourselves, I guess.
A person’s vulnerability makes them beautiful .. confidence is key .. not to be mistaken with arrogance-- I LOVE YOUR ADVICE THANK YOU …”ESSENCE” .. “ what works about you ? “ YOUR ESSENCE IS MAGICAL BE BLESSED
wow. i stop seeing u like 3 years ago cuz i thought it was too superficial what u use to said. now i’m listing to u and i love ur vulnerability ❤ i connect more with ur message
I started following ppl in Instagram to increase my visibility for my youtube channel. One of the guy pointed out why I chose to do that and I immediately had the urge to justify my action. I did justify but than I had the realisation which led to a mindset of who cares. I'm answerable to myself first. Mathew, since you're so rooted to who you are, your videos portray that each and everytime....
...I am not disregarding any of this advice Matthew. This is top notch advice Though girls hear me out.. If you're with a guy and Matthew Husseys tips come to mind..or you have to go and scroll through your side notes that Matthew has taught you through his programme... The guy you're with...isn't the one. ...trust me. Matthew definatley plays a part in the process. I highly respect your work Matthew but girls and guys, you shouldn't need Matthew on call, to get you through a date.. When you are with the one...you'll not need to think or feel anything else but calm.. 🌿✨💋
You’re right, Matt, that self-worth and confidence should not come from things that are changeable- looks, relationships, finances, health status, etc. There’s a quote, “Know who you are and whose you are.” Our identity should be found in Jesus Christ. That’s who we are- children of God and he loves each of us very much and always will. There is nothing we can do that is too bad to keep him from loving us. “For you created my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” He knows everything about us, even the number of hairs on our head! “Indeed, the very hairs on your head are all numbered.” We do not need to worry. We can have confidence in Gods promise “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Do Not Worry 25“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life e ? 28“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you-you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
I never realized how lucky I am to have lived a hard life. I get knocked down. I get up again because I have too. Others depend on me. My daughter once asked if I worried about how others view me. And the truth is ...I don't. I know I'd like to have a friend with my qualities. I looked her in the eye and said" Honey, I am wh look I am. I like me. I don't live with their benefits. If they don't like me.. What have I lost? Nothing, I'm the awesome human in the equation. If they don't want to get to know me, it's their loss. Apparently they don't know who I think I am" I told her to look in the mirror and make that person the person you want to be. You will be spending the rest of your life with her.
I relate to this video so much. I've always been confident for the most part internally and have been good about not relying on external factors for my confidence and happiness. But at 32, I have noticed that the older I get, the more I think things like "I'm doing well in my career, but if only I made more or had a bigger title" or "I work out a lot and I look good, but if only my tummy was as flat as it used to be." And I certainly thought I'd own a home by now. But all I can do is be the best Lauren I can be in that moment and keep setting goals, but not get frustrated by timelines.
I really appreciate your understanding of psychology. I think a lot of us do. It’s one thing to talk, it’s another thing to understand what you are actually talking about.
I have a sty now! Been hurting and Looking horrible still, even though I went to church and sang with all those cámaras on us, and done personal videos- gone to the movies with a friend and gone to work! 😅😊😅🤭
I think you look great! I'm in a position right now where I am not where I want my body to me but I am focused on obtaining my goal by committing to my workouts and eating healthier but at the same time I am trying not to obsess because I have a tendency of being very harsh towards myself. It's not easy but watching inspirational videos such as yours is so helpful! Thank you!
Your work, your advice.. is SO helpful. It’s like deep down I KNOW a lot of these things yet my ego chooses to ignore them sometimes. I’m fortunate to be self aware though and these are great reminders !
When it hit 17 mins, that hit me hard. I've never been able to get out of this mindset at all. Always feeling as though I'm not pretty enough and I'm lacking in some way or another since i'm not curvy or conventionally attractive. I'm very thin and petite, and most guys have told me that I'm too small for them.
I've been told that I'm not small enough, petite enough, young enough, too smart, too choosy, too self-assured.... and so the list goes on .... eff them!! The problem is all about them!!! They are so intimidated by us that they simply can't cope!!! So, they have to TRY TO KNOCK US DOWN! .. well, it hasn't worked so far, I just move on, their loss, I'm sooo glad that I'm not with them!! I love myself exactly the way that I am, I am strong, powerful, sexy, desirable, capable, loving, compassionate.... and au are you!!! Remember, you are enough, you are gorgeous, you are worthy, you deserve better than all those deadbeats!!
We can pray that people be tired of insecurities, especially physical insecurities. Even for people who work on camera, there is team that will take care of the appearance so the audience gets a lot more to enjoy. See, our body feature is meant to be embraced, because it is the bonus to our confidence.
thank you, Matthew. This conversation was so much required. You create content without an idea of how much of a difference it can bring to listeners. thank you, thank you, thank you.
I am in my late 60's, I have never been confident due to the fact that I couldn't have children and that caused 2 divorces, now into my 3rd marriage of only 12 years I have become carer to my husband who had a stroke in 2019 with side affect of epileptic seizures (14 so far), watching my husband have seizures did not help my confidence at all especially with lockdown and covid 19 happening.
You are actually better than Tony Robbins! I love watching your videos but I never comment so I wanted to make a point to let you know that. Keep it up!
Job, career, weight, skin, hair & health all changes with time I never compare myself to anyone we are all individuals, I can only try to be a better version of myself 😊
Your essence is GLOWING in this video!! I have learned so much from your dating advice, and never commented. But this one made me want to give a compliment. Your advice helped me understand men better, and also inspired me to put myself out there on dates. You are blessed with the gift of gab (Presentation skills, creativity, relatable and enviable energy, wisdom), and I'm grateful for your advice. Thank you Matthew Hussey!!
Tell Miss 30 that is young not old at all. Matthew's summary were all things I thought. All of it made me feel insecure but no more. Guess we just have to be ourselves n learn how to communicate. Now Im good in my skin n life, thank God. Esp after going through so much. Everyone going through insecuruties not just me n be kind because we are all in this together. Thkyou Matthew.
love it 💯 Everyone has a slight insecurity about something however I have learned the older I get… the more I go through… the more I learn… the less shit I give about peoples opinion. Love yourself regardless of anyones opinion is key! when you love yourself you own your power and you have all the confidence in the world and no ones opinion matters Distance from gossip judgmental critical people Once you are able to be alone and be happy being alone - like you say mental and emotional toughness ♥️
I think when we really learn to be honest with ourselves & be vulnerable with the "right" people in our lives & with the Almighty too...of course, at least for me...then our flaws and weaknesses become part of our strengths when one learns to transmute those areas of our character or "flaws" and also making peace with our dark side as well as with our physical aspects if any thar one has to come to make peace with. Being authenticly us has a price to pay & Confidence is born our of us as one learns step by step with dedication to overcome our own fears & Insecurities & what others have to say too. Nowadays other people are too focused on other's people's lives instead of focusing on themselves and how to improve themselves & their mental & emotional state after all. A healthy spirit leads to a healthy mind and a healthy mind & spirit also leads to a healthy body & habits in life. Ps: and then one will attract the right types of people according to our own authenticity as well as our levels of health or personal/internal healing. Humility is also a game changer to achieve that paired with consistency & much more. 😋😜
People always say how resilient and strong I am -how funny that’s how I do it. I stand up to lies from others or in my head and say “fuck that” replace it with the truth of what I want to be true then set out to make it true! Blessings! Great message. Love your work, your style.
Dont be so hard on yourself, youre adorable. You get to be my age and you just appreciate everyday that you ARE healthy. Ive always been comfortable in my own skin. I think my heart is my best quality. Looks fade...
I've honestly never cared about my appearance or had any issues with it until I lost a lot of weight and started to get female attention. I went from nobody paying attention to me to women fighting for my attention. It killed my self-esteem because it was at that point that I realized the only thing that matters is my appearance. When I gained weight back the attention stopped altogether and that just solidified the idea that the only thing that matters is looks.
Looking good shows that you have self-discipline in regards to maintaining your health, and thus self-respect, which ultimately stems from self-love. Your looks are a good marker of showing how healthy you are: a depressed person has to climb an uphill battle to maintain a gym routine, eat healthy, and maintain good hygiene all-around, let alone having the self-esteem to care about their style and appearance. Someone who puts in the work wants to hang out with other people with the same vibe of putting in the work. I hope this opinion helps shift your perspective from thinking basing someone on their looks is entirely shallow. Best wishes to your future hard work and success. 💪
Mathew, you’re so handsome that even with no hair you’d still look great. Your kindness, manners, politeness are your greatest assets! Being neat and assured of yourself is all that matters. So what if u get a zit or an extra kilo while on camera, real people don’t care for that but for the content of your message. Unhappy people criticize, happy people praise….
I'm an empath and I attract narcissists and other nuts like moths to a flame. Do you have any videos for us, Matthew? It's a crazy freaking world. You're so right, we live in a world where everyone values shallow things like money and their outside appearance, not the SOUL. Not what truly matters.
Being an empath too, I try to think that people deserve the same energy they give me. I put myself as a priority and realize that a narcisst DOES NOT care about me or would ever give me respect. And I don't deserve to mistreated. Follow your intuition on people , and learn from them . Sometimes they just show what we really need to work in ourselves.
the funny thing is that confidence, once you beging to develop it, becomes stronger because for ex on the Next date you miht feel jitters which is normal you want to make a good impression but once you do have confidence, your jitters will still be there but you will know w certainty that you are in control over yourself which is confidence, so it makes you more confident little by little but its definitely a journey we all go through thank you for being you ! god bless!
This is everything I needed to hear, and I believe you care about people's growth and happiness, Matthew. Thank you for sharing a bit of your essence with us :)
No need to justify yourself. Why can’t we just be who we are and try things that we want? Whether its a spray tan, makeup, hairstyles, wigs, hats, fashion...etc? Self expression and has to do with you...not other people and how/what they expect you to be. But, true...confidence is key in our self-expression.
You look very handsome and even if you're not exercising you look very much in shape. I take care of myself but it is for health reasons but I reap the benefits of also presenting myself physically more attractive, but looking good is not the reason why I do exercise. I'm proud to say that I'm a very young looking 61 year old, yes that's me in the profile picture that I took this past April on my 61st birthday. I have exercised since I was a preteen, I am a vegetarian and no substance of any kind taken. Many men would like to look like you right now. Love your videos. 😊
I like about you that you grow. Internally dynamic is how I'd describe you. I'm this way too. This quality is definitely part of my essence. Warmth is another. Thanks, young man, you're very sweet and bright.
I guess I needed this before, when some people said I was skinny including my ex. I tried eating more to gain weight 😓. Until I realised therewas a better way, accepting what I was and loving myself first.
It's the same thing when you're on the other side of the spectrum. I am on the larger side and my ex was saying (in front of his friends) how O let myself go. They feed on our insecurities to keep us down. They try to signal that how we are we're not good enough, so that ultimately, they take over power over us. Fuck that!
@@otiliahugelschaffer1028 they make it feel like they are doing you a favour by being with you. I'm so over that. I've never felt so better when I learnt that I was so beautiful they couldn't just see it
Being your natural self makes you attractive :) . The most natural you can be and it also makes you feel free ! And by the way, in my perspective I don't think you look TOO Skinny! 😁
I love this Matt, I’m fairly shameless and it brings me so much happiness. When people questions something about me, I just smile and raise a brow and often than not we laugh and an apology is offered to me (which of course I happily accept) 😃
The points were great and so well put, but the things that put this over the top were the examples did you used to illustrate and the data. This was soooo well done! Thank you.
You look gorgeous Matt despite your busy schedule.. your objective and the message you are sending is intellectual and makes you extremely attractive 💕
My insecurities are in fact the least of my concern. for now I learn to love my self 1st the I can love anyone else that is worthy of my time and energy
I totally love this video. recently I attended some outsource courses that teaches resilience when working in healthcare setting and discovered that I have high EIQ. Although I'm in my mid 20s, I do agree with what you've mentioned in this video. Glad that I chance upon this video in my subscription. If there's one thing that I totally live by the most is acceptance, totally life-changing. Such a great content!
I’ve been depressed for almost 2 years now, how do I flirt? I talk about my interests and goals only in past tense. I can’t be genuine, because it makes people uncomfortable. My depression isn’t leaving any time soon, but I’m human, I want to love and be loved too
Don't worry. I know how you feel. You will find someone you can be totally genuine with and they won't judge you or feel uncomfortable. Sometimes you have to decide when to open up to certain people. Not all people are those you can fully open up to and that's okay. Different people will serve different roles in your life. Keep being yourself. If people aren't listening stop talking to them. Look elsewhere for people who will listen. You've got this.
Aleksandra. ..Is it due to the pandemic? Or some other reasons?. You are allowed to be depressed. No shame in that. But try to be happy for yourself. try to figure out if there are any things that will make you go and get up. You do not have to smile and fake it. Maybe its stupid for me to say this. But try to balance out things in life. Not everything will destroy your life. None of us are always happy or happy now. We all suffer for something, but most will not tell you. They pretend. It helps to talk to someone about it.
@@АлександраШий Pandemic is hard to be honest and it makes it all worse. I hope you can come to some solutions to the issues you have. And wish you all the best. 🤗 My friend fell into a big depression too and searched for professional help and she received it, now she opened up to me about it and we talk. I am just glad she told me.
Speaking from experience, and based on what you said, you should focus on healing yourself. If you're making other people uncomfortable, you're venting / unloading. That is not the same as being genuine. Do that in therapy, not on a date. Even if you were to find a companion when you're depressed, the relationship will likely not work out. You're not going to attract the same kind of person when you're depressed as when you're healthy. Depression is serious -- but it's not a life sentence. Get help. If you don't have health insurance, look into co-counseling and read some books.
Mathew, I just wanted to thank you for your valuable, insightful videos. You speak in the way I live my life and that is loving every piece of my identity. I appreciate you! 🙏🙏🙏
When people go through immeasurable emotional, physical and emotional pain and struggles, physical attractiveness becomes secondary. You learn to access an inner strength you never know is hiding there. That’s where the true beauty is and it radiates outwardly.
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Well said!! ❤️
INSIDE OUT 💝
Not all people however
'Radiate' - That's what beauty is ❤️
I stopped caring about what people think years ago when I realised that EVERYONE is flawed and insecure. Worrying about what they think only elevates others above me. I am unique and valuable in God's eyes. No one else's opinion matters. Compliments are just a bonus, nothing more.
*19 ways to raise your vibration:*
1. Smile and laugh
2. Do what makes you happy
3. Eat a healthy alkaline diet
4. Working out5. Meditation
6. Let go of a grudge
7. Let go of something not serving you
8. Give to others
9. Retain your s3xual energy
10. Watch encouraging videos
11. Play an instrument
12. Start a garden
13. Spend time around uplifting people
14. Sun gaze
15. Barefoot grounding
16. Speaking positive affirmations
17. Learning to say “no”
18. Gratitude for what’s here and what’s coming
19. Learn to control nail-biting/nail-picking urges
For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)
But he said it was only three things 🤣
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@@KatErina-ii6ru I gave you some bonuses :D
Amazing thank you
Except #6, #11 and 12, I can't honestly belive I could check the rest. :D
Not dating now(haven't for 3 years) and it is so nice. No pressure, no stress. I might date in a few more months, but it will have to be just easy or stress free or I think I will just pass! It has just been so peaceful to not worry about being attractive to others or trying to attract. It is a good feeling.
@Christie Jensen how so?
Fascinating.
How did you bring yourself to this “go easy on yourself” state?
Was it a feeling that came over you randomly one day?
Was it slow day to day struggle to rationalize your feelings?
Was it an experience that helped push your mind over a certain threshold?
Or is it something that you find difficult to describe even today especially with all that time that had passed? (Which is fine of course….who really has all the answers anyway).
@@sunshinedayz7032 Because there's growth and learning that happens in navigating relationships/dating. And when you find yourself in a successful relationship it's VERY rewarding! Nothing worth doing is ever easy, and you've gotta weed through the BS to find someone worthwhile
But also keep staying single for as long as you feel called to, I'm in the same boat ❤️
My mom divorced long ago and never remarried. Dated a fee losers but then decided she was done. She’s much happier not having to answer to anyone, stress free, independent, etc…
Wow someone cant be single. Lol its peaceful being single and you can put energy into amazing things instead of fights and still get dick or a guy to take out trash if needed once you get your confidence back.😎💖
Some of the most attractive people in my eyes haven't been the most conventionally attractive people. I don't need a man who is "perfect", I prefer a man who makes me feel perfectly loved in spite of my flaws. How can't I not love him back and be loyal to him? Btw, Matthew Hussey is extremely attractive and his openness just makes him seem stronger.
I think “the secret” is found in being vulnerable with one another. I have made a goal to be vulnerable and honest and authentic with everyone I meet until they give me reason to be otherwise. It’s been a steep learning curve but I feel so much more present than I used to with this practice. Thanks for your vulnerability, Matthew.
I agree! Although being vulnerable opens us up to being hurt by those who cannot appreciate us or are not right for us, it also opens us up to receiving the love that we are giving out. Being vulnerable shows that we are confident enough to take a chance and to survive rejection. The saying that 'it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all' is indeed true. It hurts like hell to make ourselves vulnerable, only to end up alone yet again. But, unless we take a chance on getting hurt, we are also blocking all chances of being happy. The other option to opening up and being vulnerable is to live like robots, never allowing ourselves to feel anything, but that's pretty much akin to being dead. I'm saying this in the midst of healing a broken heart from having recently ended a relationship with someone who was simply not as in love with me as I was with him. Yet, I have absolutely no regrets about the time that we spent together and I would do it all over again. So I'm not giving up on myself or on love! Because I'm not content with just having a pulse. I want to feel and be alive!
Love hearing this 😍 ❤️
yes! i totally agree
Awesome!!
You have explained the entire thing so beautifully ❤️
Yeah vulnerability gets you randomly attacked by the most toxic in society though. Still it's the best way to be.
Sometimes the more we shine the more intimidating we become to those who are insecure
Keep shining Matt!!!
To add, I'm almost 43 and I have been single for such a long time. It makes me feel bad about myself and I go back and forth with the fear that it won't happen for me. Friends and family around me are in relationships and getting engaged and it makes me feel that there is something wrong with me otherwise wouldn't a wonderful guy want to be with me? I do believe I have a lot t to offer but I feel I never get noticed, picked and to top it I don't meet people. My social life is embarrassing and I feel a part of me is becoming someone I don't like because my true self is fading. I want to keep my chin up that 2022 is my year!
You sound like an amazing person, I hope 2022 was kind to you and I wish you the best in 2023 :)
There is nothing wrong with you. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be successful in life.
I'm 47 and in a similar situation. I only in recent years realized how I was looping negative self self talk and believing all the unkind lies aimed at me by outside influences and then myself since day dot. I saw how I'd attach a story to that pain rising to my heart, then I'd bottle it back up with the new story and label attached and store it back on that inner shelf . The pain and stories I attached to it basically amounted to "I'm not good enough". I see from your comment that you'll understand what I'm saying.
Now to the crux of the biscuit, which is my new way: if I feel that sharp vintage pain begin to rise in my gut coming to cripple my self worth.... instead of attaching a fresh story and label to it ie, "why bother, I should just forget it now and save myself the pain,give up, she'd never be interested with me I'm not good enough" etc and storing it back on the inner shelf to fester for next time ,I now let it come up and I FEEL it. I feel it and fully experience it for as long as It comes. Sometimes it gets intense and I'll bawl my eyes out like a young child. I allow it all. As long as I don't attach a story/unkind lie/poor me label to it and just allow myself to feel it rise and pass, that's what it does. The pain has nothing to attach to so it leaves making my heart feel lighter and my mind clear and at ease. After all these years I've finally comprehended all this, how to feel my emotions and simply observe them at the same time knowing they aren't me and "this too will pass". I experience the emotion for what it is, allow it to run it's course and let it leave making my next step on the path available. I'm still single and learning to love myself, I don't know exactly how much more I have yet to release nor when or how it will come up again, I expect I have a lifetime's worth but it's ok because now I know how to let it go and not go into limiting fear again.
Excuse the novel, this is the first time I've written this out or tried to explain it to anyone but i felt prompted. Maybe you're way past this stage or maybe there's something helpful. Anyway I hope you're happy and content and you finally win your life's lotteries like you deserve. Ciao.
The only issue you have is not just getting out there and meeting women, you can't get in a relationship if they don't even know you exist!
Being accepting of yourself and loving yourself in a way you did when you were a small child and before the world took that away from you is the only worthy goal in life.
Love yourself unconditionally and laugh and enjoy the moments. We come to love not by finding a perfect person but buy learning to see an imperfect person perfectly . 😃❤️
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For me I've been divorced for a year now and I'm 40 and no children, but want children. Since I'm back in the dating pool a lot of guys that i encounter don't want children or already has them and are good with the ones that they have, so for me it's making the decision to have them on my own and being ok with that. Maybe later down the line I'll meet someone, but if I continue to hold off until I do then I could choose the wrong person and then be stuck with that person for life. Also be content where you are at this moment in your life. It's ok if you aren't killing it right now. Take a breath regroup and start again.
Oh gosh, having children shouldn't be about YOU. How tragic to intentionally deprive children of a father. You will realize this at some point in the future.
You made me cry over exactly that: being insecure, feeling inferior even that my „outside paktier“ looks good for other People, what compliment me about what I achieved, how I look for my Age. And I find heavy mistakes in my Behavior, which I never realised in the Past. Especially in Relationships. Thank you for your Eyeopener
Nobodys perfect! Ure unbelievable matt, because of the trait u teach us and the passion u have for teaching us women about men. If ure happy about ureself and happy about life then it shines towards people, animals and everything then it shines in ure eyes and ure being and then u feel great to make ureself the best u can be. 😊❤️💪💪
i absolutely understand what you are saying and agree completely and I can confirm that I live much better since I've accepted my imperfections while I learned to love myself and be more of a ''deep'' person rather than letting myself influenced by the superficiality of the society in which I live!! xx
100%!! I think it also comes with the level of maturity, which very often comes with more life experience. Also, it only takes a few decent people we can get along with around us to make all the difference in feeling more accepted. We're social beings after all, so that sense of belonging matters a lot.
I've noticed I can attract much better people when I'm being more truthful about who I am instead of going out of my way to fit certain expectations.
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Matt, you are so right. True attraction does involve being relaxed with all our imperfections. We are all imperfect. Ironically when someone is relaxed with your imperfections it creates the most fertile ground for your own desire to change something if you want to, if the time is right to do that. You become a more attractive man to me if you own and relax with your imperfections. A deeper and more powerful man. And yes, your standards and preferences do come through even so.
That first part on owning your insecurity and not justify yourself was incredible !
I follow you because : 1) You watch anime and actually amazed by it- I believe you never belittled any form of messages that touches the heart..the wonder of human imagination.. 2) You read - you give your all by studying and analyze based on other people experience and crossed check with your own 3) You are persuasive - the charisma in you is fascinating..I love all the examples you gave so far..It makes me wonder what else will you bring out on the table..a thinker don't always know how to share their idea..a skeptical person (like me) prefers to listen and see on her own eyes then we will believe about it..but you change that idea in me..Thank you for all your effort Matthew..I appreciate it sincerely..✨"being effortless will make life easier on everything"
This message is super important! Building our emotional, physical and mental resilience is so important, now more than ever...young girls are self harming and killing themselves at rates never seen before and research shows it's due to social media increasing their insecurities. Thank you so much Mathew for putting this content out...it needs to be shared widely!!
2 years of draconian rules have caused a spike in depression...
I think this has become my favorite channel. Because it's made me think in ways I hadn't before and I can feel the change in myself just from this one video. Thank you for the work!
I gained a LOT during Covid and I’m one of those people who’s weight normally never fluctuates. I wouldn’t leave the house when things opened up.
I FINALLY just accepted that this is the body I’m currently living in, and started buying new clothes, since my old ones were 2 sizes too small.
Once I accepted it, the weight started FALLING off as if it knew I had stopped hating my body.
I now have an entire wardrobe of stuff to rePosh.
I used to be so confident. I was secure in my ugliness so to speak. But then I wanted to start taking care of myself and dressing better and feeling good. I was walking past this group of guys and heard one of them say you could wake up next to her and all of them started laughing. I new I was attractive because I had so many people attracted to me. But that has always stuck with me and shortly after I good in a shituation with a narcissist and then someone who made me always feel like I was worthless because that is how he felt and made me doubt myself constantly. I didn’t connect to his essence. Now I am trying to get over this past and worry about myself. There’s this guy at work I am into and I see all the ‘signs’ he likes me but he has yet to make a move. Maybe because we work together and he seems insecure himself. Now I am like wtf is wrong with me lol so now I am watching your videos to find the confident girl I know I am. We shouldn’t care what people feel but.. fuck it right! Wish me luck. Thank you for what you do!
Im from philippines and ur talks are my guide to a better version of me. I am Currently heart broken and ur speech about self love, self worth, helped me become a strong person emotionally and mentally. Listening to your speeches drove me more to be moooore kinder to my self and to others. UR VIDEOS SPEECHES TAUGHT ME TO HOW TO BE EMOTIONALLY STRONG AND SEE THINGS IN A BETTER WAY NOT IN A NEGATIVE WAY.. THANK YOU MATHEW.. I WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOUR TEACHINGS TO EXPAND MY KNOWLEDGE ABOUT SELF LOVE AND BE POSITIVE IN LIFE EVEN IF HARD TIMES HIT ME. I SUBSCRIBED ALREADY.. UR SPEECHES AWAKEN THE DEEPEST PART OF ME AND I OWE YOU THAT A LOT. LOVE FROM ME ,from PHILIPPINES CURRENTLY NOW IN INDIA ❤️
I'm just binging your videos lately. I even helped some guy to get the girl he wants using your advices LOL. I have never had problems with love life, but lately my great love left and I felt down and like noone will ever love me again. Your vlogs helped me to get better and get some self consciousness and self esteem back. Thank you for the work you are doing and I wish more people would be so emotional grown up as you are. I love your sense of humor as well.
Take care Matt, and keep on doing the great work!
I love this video. Resilience and acceptance are essential for survival. Of course life loves to throw us curve balls and monkey wrenches at our heads when we least expect it, but I truly think videos like these are so important. I cannot put into words how much I appreciate your content. You are seriously amazing. I didn't realize how much of a self confidence issue I really had, until you told me my future without me asking. Lolol. Thank you for this insight, because I will be working on this ASAP!!! 💪❤
This never gets old. 🙏What an internal struggle. Some days, weeks and even months I am completely confident regardless of difficulties, so called flaws 💪😤but sometimes I feel so stuck and I watch myself beat myself up while I fumble around behaving insecure. 😔😭desparately sabotaging what I really want 😆 two different aspects weak or strong these are lessons💘 next heartbeat thats strong is that much more stable & more stronger than before. You cannot fake confidence. Genuine confidence feels sooo good.
I think we as humans are like "onions"...
Will layers of self discovery and things one can explore our own mind & what one is capable of & discovering our fears & to address it where it came from & how it can be fixed as one peels the layers to oneself, as well helping others in the process.✌🏻
Being sure of yourself is key for confidence and attractiveness, I think. Someone who's really sure about his/her history, which means being aware of the bad and the good. I'm learning more about it each day. It's quite a tough mental exercise. The funny thing is that in a day that I've done basically nothing, just wore a giant shirt and shorts, my confidence (for some reason) skyrocketed. I felt really proud. We have to feel good in our skin by knowing ourselves, I guess.
A person’s vulnerability makes them beautiful .. confidence is key .. not to be mistaken with arrogance-- I LOVE YOUR ADVICE THANK YOU …”ESSENCE” .. “ what works about you ? “ YOUR ESSENCE IS MAGICAL BE BLESSED
wow. i stop seeing u like 3 years ago cuz i thought it was too superficial what u use to said. now i’m listing to u and i love ur vulnerability ❤ i connect more with ur message
I started following ppl in Instagram to increase my visibility for my youtube channel. One of the guy pointed out why I chose to do that and I immediately had the urge to justify my action. I did justify but than I had the realisation which led to a mindset of who cares. I'm answerable to myself first. Mathew, since you're so rooted to who you are, your videos portray that each and everytime....
I think you look good exactly the way you are.
never liked the word perfect. Sometimes a persons imperfections can make them interesting.
...I am not disregarding any of this advice Matthew.
This is top notch advice
Though girls hear me out..
If you're with a guy and Matthew Husseys tips come to mind..or you have to go and scroll through your side notes that Matthew has taught you through his programme...
The guy you're with...isn't the one.
...trust me.
Matthew definatley plays a part in the process. I highly respect your work Matthew but girls and guys, you shouldn't need Matthew on call, to get you through a date..
When you are with the one...you'll not need to think or feel anything else but calm..
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This feels like how church should be: life changing.
"We are the greatest asset we'll ever own and the only asset that we will always own." ❤
Yes!! Insecurities hide our essence. Everyone struggles but remember who you are and get up.
You’re right, Matt, that self-worth and confidence should not come from things that are changeable- looks, relationships, finances, health status, etc. There’s a quote, “Know who you are and whose you are.” Our identity should be found in Jesus Christ. That’s who we are- children of God and he loves each of us very much and always will. There is nothing we can do that is too bad to keep him from loving us. “For you created my inmost being. You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” He knows everything about us, even the number of hairs on our head! “Indeed, the very hairs on your head are all numbered.” We do not need to worry. We can have confidence in Gods promise “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”
Do Not Worry
25“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life e ?
28“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you-you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
I never realized how lucky I am to have lived a hard life. I get knocked down. I get up again because I have too. Others depend on me. My daughter once asked if I worried about how others view me. And the truth is ...I don't. I know I'd like to have a friend with my qualities. I looked her in the eye and said" Honey, I am wh look I am. I like me. I don't live with their benefits. If they don't like me.. What have I lost? Nothing, I'm the awesome human in the equation. If they don't want to get to know me, it's their loss. Apparently they don't know who I think I am" I told her to look in the mirror and make that person the person you want to be. You will be spending the rest of your life with her.
When some as why you look or dressed a certain way just answer back “ because it’s Tuesday..”. obviously change the day to today’s day.
I relate to this video so much. I've always been confident for the most part internally and have been good about not relying on external factors for my confidence and happiness. But at 32, I have noticed that the older I get, the more I think things like "I'm doing well in my career, but if only I made more or had a bigger title" or "I work out a lot and I look good, but if only my tummy was as flat as it used to be." And I certainly thought I'd own a home by now. But all I can do is be the best Lauren I can be in that moment and keep setting goals, but not get frustrated by timelines.
I really appreciate your understanding of psychology. I think a lot of us do. It’s one thing to talk, it’s another thing to understand what you are actually talking about.
I have a sty now! Been hurting and Looking horrible still, even though I went to church and sang with all those cámaras on us, and done personal videos- gone to the movies with a friend and gone to work! 😅😊😅🤭
I think you look great! I'm in a position right now where I am not where I want my body to me but I am focused on obtaining my goal by committing to my workouts and eating healthier but at the same time I am trying not to obsess because I have a tendency of being very harsh towards myself. It's not easy but watching inspirational videos such as yours is so helpful! Thank you!
Your work, your advice.. is SO helpful. It’s like deep down I KNOW a lot of these things yet my ego chooses to ignore them sometimes. I’m fortunate to be self aware though and these are great reminders !
Matthew your great essence is that i think you are A very true person, and would never share anything wrong.:)
Ways to be attractive.. just be yourself. It's really that simple.
So glad you didn't become like Tony Robbins but stayed true to you! Thanks for all the gems in this video!
When it hit 17 mins, that hit me hard. I've never been able to get out of this mindset at all. Always feeling as though I'm not pretty enough and I'm lacking in some way or another since i'm not curvy or conventionally attractive. I'm very thin and petite, and most guys have told me that I'm too small for them.
I feel the same. I have those insecurities like yours. Btw what is your height ?
I've been told that I'm not small enough, petite enough, young enough, too smart, too choosy, too self-assured.... and so the list goes on .... eff them!! The problem is all about them!!! They are so intimidated by us that they simply can't cope!!! So, they have to TRY TO KNOCK US DOWN! .. well, it hasn't worked so far, I just move on, their loss, I'm sooo glad that I'm not with them!! I love myself exactly the way that I am, I am strong, powerful, sexy, desirable, capable, loving, compassionate.... and au are you!!! Remember, you are enough, you are gorgeous, you are worthy, you deserve better than all those deadbeats!!
Thank you for sharing your personal experiences in an unfiltered way.
We can pray that people be tired of insecurities, especially physical insecurities. Even for people who work on camera, there is team that will take care of the appearance so the audience gets a lot more to enjoy. See, our body feature is meant to be embraced, because it is the bonus to our confidence.
thank you, Matthew. This conversation was so much required. You create content without an idea of how much of a difference it can bring to listeners. thank you, thank you, thank you.
I am in my late 60's, I have never been confident due to the fact that I couldn't have children and that caused 2 divorces, now into my 3rd marriage of only 12 years I have become carer to my husband who had a stroke in 2019 with side affect of epileptic seizures (14 so far), watching my husband have seizures did not help my confidence at all especially with lockdown and covid 19 happening.
You are actually better than Tony Robbins! I love watching your videos but I never comment so I wanted to make a point to let you know that. Keep it up!
Job, career, weight, skin, hair & health all changes with time I never compare myself to anyone we are all individuals, I can only try to be a better version of myself 😊
Your essence is GLOWING in this video!! I have learned so much from your dating advice, and never commented. But this one made me want to give a compliment. Your advice helped me understand men better, and also inspired me to put myself out there on dates. You are blessed with the gift of gab (Presentation skills, creativity, relatable and enviable energy, wisdom), and I'm grateful for your advice.
Thank you Matthew Hussey!!
Tell Miss 30 that is young not old at all. Matthew's summary were all things I thought. All of it made me feel insecure but no more. Guess we just have to be ourselves n learn how to communicate. Now Im good in my skin n life, thank God. Esp after going through so much. Everyone going through insecuruties not just me n be kind because we are all in this together. Thkyou Matthew.
love it 💯
Everyone has a slight insecurity about something however
I have learned the older I get… the more I go through… the more I learn… the less shit I give about peoples opinion.
Love yourself regardless of anyones opinion
is key!
when you love yourself you own your power and you have all the confidence in the world and no ones opinion matters
Distance from gossip judgmental critical people
Once you are able to be alone and be happy being alone - like you say mental and emotional toughness ♥️
I think when we really learn to be honest with ourselves & be vulnerable with the "right" people in our lives & with the Almighty too...of course, at least for me...then our flaws and weaknesses become part of our strengths when one learns to transmute those areas of our character or "flaws" and also making peace with our dark side as well as with our physical aspects if any thar one has to come to make peace with.
Being authenticly us has a price to pay & Confidence is born our of us as one learns step by step with dedication to overcome our own fears & Insecurities & what others have to say too. Nowadays other people are too focused on other's people's lives instead of focusing on themselves and how to improve themselves & their mental & emotional state after all.
A healthy spirit leads to a healthy mind and a healthy mind & spirit also leads to a healthy body & habits in life.
Ps: and then one will attract the right types of people according to our own authenticity as well as our levels of health or personal/internal healing. Humility is also a game changer to achieve that paired with consistency & much more. 😋😜
You are beautiful inside and out Matthew, thank you for this lovely word. 😊
People always say how resilient and strong I am -how funny that’s how I do it. I stand up to lies from others or in my head and say “fuck that” replace it with the truth of what I want to be true then set out to make it true!
Blessings! Great message. Love your work, your style.
I really appreciate your vulnerability and honesty Matthew
I love your honesty; that's a really attractive quality. Quote" fuck that I'm not justifieing it" I love that. Own it.
The best combination of videos from the best coach Matthew Hussey!
Dont be so hard on yourself, youre adorable. You get to be my age and you just appreciate everyday that you ARE healthy. Ive always been comfortable in my own skin. I think my heart is my best quality. Looks fade...
Love you Matthew!!!... you are such an amazing person!... you help more people than you can possibly imagine!
Your kind and patient eyes make it so much easier for woman to trust your advice.
I've honestly never cared about my appearance or had any issues with it until I lost a lot of weight and started to get female attention. I went from nobody paying attention to me to women fighting for my attention. It killed my self-esteem because it was at that point that I realized the only thing that matters is my appearance. When I gained weight back the attention stopped altogether and that just solidified the idea that the only thing that matters is looks.
Looking good shows that you have self-discipline in regards to maintaining your health, and thus self-respect, which ultimately stems from self-love. Your looks are a good marker of showing how healthy you are: a depressed person has to climb an uphill battle to maintain a gym routine, eat healthy, and maintain good hygiene all-around, let alone having the self-esteem to care about their style and appearance. Someone who puts in the work wants to hang out with other people with the same vibe of putting in the work. I hope this opinion helps shift your perspective from thinking basing someone on their looks is entirely shallow. Best wishes to your future hard work and success. 💪
Mathew, you’re so handsome that even with no hair you’d still look great. Your kindness, manners, politeness are your greatest assets! Being neat and assured of yourself is all that matters. So what if u get a zit or an extra kilo while on camera, real people don’t care for that but for the content of your message. Unhappy people criticize, happy people praise….
This is so important if you like something and someone else doesn’t and they say something, there’s no need to justify it. You like it. X
I loooove this Guy!!!!! I know him for a long time on the internet....and he's always tuff and right!
Thank you!!!❤️❤️❤️
I'm an empath and I attract narcissists and other nuts like moths to a flame. Do you have any videos for us, Matthew? It's a crazy freaking world. You're so right, we live in a world where everyone values shallow things like money and their outside appearance, not the SOUL. Not what truly matters.
Lisa, I also listen to Stephanspeaks you youtube. I think you'll like the content.
Hi I'm dave,do you mind me sending you a message I do love to talk to you
Being an empath too, I try to think that people deserve the same energy they give me. I put myself as a priority and realize that a narcisst DOES NOT care about me or would ever give me respect. And I don't deserve to mistreated. Follow your intuition on people , and learn from them . Sometimes they just show what we really need to work in ourselves.
Omggg me too! My ex roommate and fiance were both narcissists. I hope I don't get one again.
@@audraelynnegrimmelhaussen8808 there’s a book on being a EMPATH &. Dealing with negativity people,Places, situations I will find it later
the funny thing is that confidence, once you beging to develop it, becomes stronger because for ex on the Next date you miht feel jitters which is normal you want to make a good impression but once you do have confidence, your jitters will still be there but you will know w certainty that you are in control over yourself which is confidence, so it makes you more confident little by little but its definitely a journey we all go through thank you for being you ! god bless!
This is everything I needed to hear, and I believe you care about people's growth and happiness, Matthew. Thank you for sharing a bit of your essence with us :)
No need to justify yourself. Why can’t we just be who we are and try things that we want? Whether its a spray tan, makeup, hairstyles, wigs, hats, fashion...etc? Self expression and has to do with you...not other people and how/what they expect you to be. But, true...confidence is key in our self-expression.
Superb! Finally a video with true Substance, depth n right direction. Thank you pal
Merry Christmas everyone! I hope you all have a safe and wonderful time 🎄 🎁🎄
You look very handsome and even if you're not exercising you look very much in shape. I take care of myself but it is for health reasons but I reap the benefits of also presenting myself physically more attractive, but looking good is not the reason why I do exercise. I'm proud to say that I'm a very young looking 61 year old, yes that's me in the profile picture that I took this past April on my 61st birthday. I have exercised since I was a preteen, I am a vegetarian and no substance of any kind taken. Many men would like to look like you right now. Love your videos. 😊
I've never struggled with being attractive
Because I say I am!
& know I am
Affirmations people♡♡♡
I like about you that you grow. Internally dynamic is how I'd describe you. I'm this way too. This quality is definitely part of my essence. Warmth is another. Thanks, young man, you're very sweet and bright.
I guess I needed this before, when some people said I was skinny including my ex. I tried eating more to gain weight 😓. Until I realised therewas a better way, accepting what I was and loving myself first.
It's the same thing when you're on the other side of the spectrum. I am on the larger side and my ex was saying (in front of his friends) how O let myself go. They feed on our insecurities to keep us down. They try to signal that how we are we're not good enough, so that ultimately, they take over power over us. Fuck that!
@@otiliahugelschaffer1028 they make it feel like they are doing you a favour by being with you. I'm so over that. I've never felt so better when I learnt that I was so beautiful they couldn't just see it
Being your natural self makes you attractive :) . The most natural you can be and it also makes you feel free !
And by the way, in my perspective I don't think you look TOO Skinny! 😁
I love this Matt, I’m fairly shameless and it brings me so much happiness. When people questions something about me, I just smile and raise a brow and often than not we laugh and an apology is offered to me (which of course I happily accept) 😃
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Love your self and be happy and work out to stay healthy because you are a nice looking man!
The points were great and so well put, but the things that put this over the top were the examples did you used to illustrate and the data. This was soooo well done! Thank you.
Wowsers! So many incredible gold nuggets of wisdom! I need to watch this again & take notes. Thanks :)
@Tammy. Dean Lol
You look gorgeous Matt despite your busy schedule.. your objective and the message you are sending is intellectual and makes you extremely attractive 💕
My favourite video so far ❤
The slicked back hair at school story.. I've never felt more understood.
So much this. Thank you for spreading this message. True confidence is so crucial, and that doesn't mean we are perfect at all! 🙌🙌🙌
Hi I'm dave,do you mind me sending you a message I do love to talk to you
My insecurities are in fact the least of my concern. for now I learn to love my self 1st the I can love anyone else that is worthy of my time and energy
It also goes to show the most attractive people can be insecure 🙂
I saved this video. It's so inspring, it's a lesson for life!
As always, great information and appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. 💕
Thank you for being so brave and vulnerable in your video!! I just subscribed and I am excited for more content like this. I so appreciate you!
I totally love this video. recently I attended some outsource courses that teaches resilience when working in healthcare setting and discovered that I have high EIQ. Although I'm in my mid 20s, I do agree with what you've mentioned in this video. Glad that I chance upon this video in my subscription. If there's one thing that I totally live by the most is acceptance, totally life-changing. Such a great content!
Favorite part-“fuck that” love it
Good for you! My favorite way ( phrase) to get empowered
Authenticity, and the power of not giving a fuck. It's a daily practice. And I'm actually having fun honing it.
😍🥰Thank You for putting this out here! Yes to this! Your lessons and videos have brought me so far in this season of my life.
Yes, yes, yes. Immersive, unconditional living, embodying radical acceptance, and being witnessed doing that :)
I’ve been depressed for almost 2 years now, how do I flirt? I talk about my interests and goals only in past tense. I can’t be genuine, because it makes people uncomfortable. My depression isn’t leaving any time soon, but I’m human, I want to love and be loved too
Don't worry. I know how you feel. You will find someone you can be totally genuine with and they won't judge you or feel uncomfortable. Sometimes you have to decide when to open up to certain people. Not all people are those you can fully open up to and that's okay. Different people will serve different roles in your life. Keep being yourself. If people aren't listening stop talking to them. Look elsewhere for people who will listen. You've got this.
Aleksandra. ..Is it due to the pandemic? Or some other reasons?. You are allowed to be depressed. No shame in that. But try to be happy for yourself. try to figure out if there are any things that will make you go and get up. You do not have to smile and fake it. Maybe its stupid for me to say this. But try to balance out things in life. Not everything will destroy your life. None of us are always happy or happy now. We all suffer for something, but most will not tell you. They pretend. It helps to talk to someone about it.
@@ANDJELINA there are several causes, the pandemic played a part too.
@@АлександраШий Pandemic is hard to be honest and it makes it all worse. I hope you can come to some solutions to the issues you have. And wish you all the best. 🤗 My friend fell into a big depression too and searched for professional help and she received it, now she opened up to me about it and we talk. I am just glad she told me.
Speaking from experience, and based on what you said, you should focus on healing yourself. If you're making other people uncomfortable, you're venting / unloading. That is not the same as being genuine. Do that in therapy, not on a date. Even if you were to find a companion when you're depressed, the relationship will likely not work out. You're not going to attract the same kind of person when you're depressed as when you're healthy. Depression is serious -- but it's not a life sentence. Get help. If you don't have health insurance, look into co-counseling and read some books.
Mathew, I just wanted to thank you for your valuable, insightful videos. You speak in the way I live my life and that is loving every piece of my identity. I appreciate you! 🙏🙏🙏
Always on point mathew,thanks for impacting and uplifting the people from their dark tunnel