Biggest FLIRTING MISTAKES That Keep You SINGLE... | Matthew Hussey

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  • Опубликовано: 20 ноя 2024

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  • @satinsolstice
    @satinsolstice 3 года назад +893

    Matt looks like he's trying to flirt with me while explaining how to flirt... The man knows how to do it

    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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    • @ebaylowlaw
      @ebaylowlaw 3 года назад +2

      😂😂😂

    • @eigbiremolenstanley6331
      @eigbiremolenstanley6331 3 года назад

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    • @eigbiremolenstanley6331
      @eigbiremolenstanley6331 3 года назад

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  • @workoutwithgato
    @workoutwithgato 3 года назад +82

    I don't even want a boyfriend and I enjoy listening to Matthew - He's so charismatic, confident, intelligent, articulate, handsome (and that accent is just adorable). Awesome job Mr. Hussey. Keep up the excellent work. You are respected and appreciated.

    • @victoria856
      @victoria856 3 года назад

      Me too!

    • @kaiyodei
      @kaiyodei 2 года назад

      you could date a fictional character insted. there is bound to be one you deeply enjoy and have the hots for. After all, it is so normal that there is no need to make an orientation around it, unless a person is not exclusively attracted to them

    • @michaelthomas1614
      @michaelthomas1614 Месяц назад

      copium

  • @theprousteffect9717
    @theprousteffect9717 2 года назад +200

    I'm so glad he mentioned pacing. That's where I've gone wrong many times. I thought I was being bold, fearless, and confident in being very flirtatious and sexual early on, when that was actually indicative of fear and insecurity. Take your time, build the sexual tension slowly, let it simmer, give it room to breathe as you gradually escalate. This isn't about game playing because you're not sending mixed signals and are still conveying interest in the person. It's a strategic, intentional choice to create a highly erotic experience - in the same way that gradual foreplay and slight teasing make sex feel so much better.

    • @irenegronegger8972
      @irenegronegger8972 2 года назад +1

      A movie that shows the effects of pacing very well: The Bridges of Madison County (and Meryl Streep speaking Italian English also slows down a bit).

    • @Paula-fd6lj
      @Paula-fd6lj Год назад

      The way you describe it, tells me you understand how to flirt very well, now that u will pace yourself, ull prolly become an irresistible temptress 😅

  • @miriamrobarts
    @miriamrobarts Год назад +11

    6:59 "Lack of connection: you'll suffer later on. Lack of chemistry: you'll suffer early on."

  • @joncokejones9318
    @joncokejones9318 10 месяцев назад +14

    I can’t even get date 1 😂

  • @titusyang777
    @titusyang777 3 года назад +44

    I agree, complimenting a man (or women) does create the chemistry. Like if a girl complimented me it will spark something in me to question if I should talk to her or not. Either way flirting is like a game of ping pong and the compliment is the first serve.

  • @markol5983
    @markol5983 2 года назад +36

    I've been a stutterer for my whole life, so when Matt talked about pacing it was a bigger revelation than I initially thought. I realized that my biggest problem not just with women but in every aspect of my life, is fear.
    I am afraid, very afraid of:
    1. Getting perceived as weak and getting punished because of this by the people around me.
    2. Never being listened by others, leading me to sound very anxious when speaking.
    3. (Related to point #1) Being betrayed by women when opening up, which led me to adopt a cold and distant behavior when speaking to women I was interested in.
    A million thanks for this revelation, Matt!

    • @cass8319
      @cass8319 2 года назад +5

      at your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person.
      at your worst , you will still be worth it to the right person.
      one of my best friends have Tourettes, they know they can be themselves around me.
      don't be afraid for you will pass the person that might be the right one. she's out their and she will fine your stuttering cute.
      breath and remember those meant to be in your life will love you for exactly who you are.

    • @luna84_
      @luna84_ 2 года назад

      😕 im sorry you've gone through this dude...but not every woman is bad or not so understanding. Can't give up being the good catch you are bc of the experience youve been through.

    • @potatoshit_
      @potatoshit_ 2 года назад

      Very this

    • @gentlemanminded
      @gentlemanminded Год назад

      Me too

    • @gentlemanminded
      @gentlemanminded Год назад

      ​@@cass8319thanks

  • @danielleemch8991
    @danielleemch8991 2 года назад +18

    You have to be ok in the uncomfortable silence and just be yourself let things happen organically I always meditate before I go on a date and that allows me to be in my body and show up my most authentic self and that create space for them to be who they are 🥰💖

  • @This_RuthIsOnFire
    @This_RuthIsOnFire 2 года назад +50

    It’s absolutely in the eyes for me. The way they look at me when I’m explaining something… they’re looking at my emphasis, to the way they look at me after they’ve kissed me for the first time, they’re looking at what they want. The eyes are the window to the soul. I flirt with my eyes, I expect my date to as well.

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 Год назад

      Exactly! I love to look at Man in his eyes and connect, and I look at his lips, too!

    • @MrZenGuitarist
      @MrZenGuitarist 3 месяца назад

      @@SagittariusBabe87 Nice to know, as a man that is. 'Cause initially (early on in seeing each-other that is) that's what I feel/felt has been 'the appropiate approach' as well.
      And follow up with a compliment, while looking her deep in the eyes - at least if and when the 'chemistry' is there.....How does that sound?

    • @michaelthomas1614
      @michaelthomas1614 Месяц назад

      Indeed, eyes do most of the talking during flirts

  • @randigerber1926
    @randigerber1926 2 года назад +13

    Brilliant!
    Matthew has made a successful career out of being an observer.
    What he says is smart because it’s based on his paying attention and noticing patterns. Thanks for sharing this.
    I think humans are always fascinated and perplexed by the female-male relationship dance.
    And I think Matthew has watched a lot of us dancing, and wants to tell us how we can dance better, and more successfully.

  • @clairepadron
    @clairepadron 3 года назад +142

    This is creepily on point to my exact situation, wow. This is brilliant thank you! Would love more on this.

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    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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    • @nyashamilanzi3140
      @nyashamilanzi3140 3 года назад

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  • @melissahoots5179
    @melissahoots5179 3 года назад +49

    I'm in my 50s and have not heard anyone speak about pacing before! This information is so valuable!! Thank you guys so much for taking us deeper into the subtle but vital things of relationship.

    • @ChristopherRenato-wy6xl
      @ChristopherRenato-wy6xl 3 года назад

      This Guy is so Good at Advice...
      Yes bravo to him 💪💪

    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

      Hello friend, I have been on RUclips for many years now telling people how Dr Ediale get my ex back after many years of breakup 💔 and I strongly believe that he can also helped you it's really work I can believe am with my lover again
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  • @raffibarrows3584
    @raffibarrows3584 3 года назад +18

    I watched this video and I actually tried out the methods and it genuinely went brilliantly. I ended up kissing hun at the end of the night and I have another date with him tomorrow. Came back to watch this and help me prepare again haha

  • @marrietvisser6195
    @marrietvisser6195 3 года назад +5

    This is one of your most powerful posts. Heaven knows; it is that simple. If you want a second date you need to create chemistry with flirting. Pace it well...

  • @radicalhonesty3628
    @radicalhonesty3628 2 года назад +3

    I'm in a weird situation with a man.
    I think I love him,
    but...
    I don't know
    if this thing we have is actually healthy,
    or really just another trauma bond...
    I need prayers. Him and I both do,
    that whatever this is between us,
    will ultimately be for our own healing.
    And that we will co-create something
    that is loving and magical and beautiful
    and happy and wonderful and miraculous
    and healthy, together.
    Love and/or friendship
    to last lifetimes...

  • @sarahichi3998
    @sarahichi3998 2 года назад +11

    Found this guy when I was going through a rough end to a 14 year relationship to now needing all of the flirting advice 5 months later 🥰🥰

    • @kaiyodei
      @kaiyodei 2 года назад

      how did you even get one in the first place?

  • @jameslewison1815
    @jameslewison1815 2 года назад +1

    Wow Matthew, that burnt red color on you looks sooooo nice. (saying that in a non-rushed, confident voice)

  • @happymood2278
    @happymood2278 2 года назад +12

    It's about time someone said chemistry with no connection brings two people together that shouldn't be. Ty for that

    • @Joy-mm3cz
      @Joy-mm3cz 2 года назад

      I wish I had this advice 30 yrs ago. That was my toxic marriage of 25 years. All chemistry but NO depth or true connection.

  • @donnab8345
    @donnab8345 3 года назад +7

    Appearance is very important. Superficial? Yes. But that's where it starts. Self confidence. Good conversation, laughing appropriately. Look at him straight in his eyes, but don't stare creepy-like. An authentic compliment, either appearance or his accomplishments or something showing your admiration. But sometimes there's just a connection...or not. It happens, or doesn't happen, naturally. And if the two of you aren't suited for each other, there's nothing that can be done. It's a mismatch. But often that shows up in the conversation. A bit of flirting is good, if you can do it naturally. Don't drink too much.

    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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  • @charliewebster7726
    @charliewebster7726 3 года назад +35

    There's a lot of wisdom in this video. I've gone on dating rampages...date after date...dates that didn't result in 2nd dates, even though I felt that were pleasant & would've been open to that. Saying this from a place of confidence, not pretentiousness: I value myself highly, feel that I am witty, attractive, can have deep & interesting conversations...but I realize that I didn't take the risk on the dates. There was little to no flirting, cheeky complimenting. When the time comes for me to go out & date again, I'll definitely keep this video in mind.

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      @osenijames5735 3 года назад

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    • @yanis80
      @yanis80 3 года назад +1

      Next time you go on a date Charlie Webster, if you like the person and you want another date...just score it. Most people will be taken aback by your boldness and either say yes or no thank you. If they give you a no thank you, at least you don't waste time, money and energy on someone who didn't even consider you.

  • @kirsteneobrien
    @kirsteneobrien 3 года назад +477

    I love how they’ve turned dating into an extreme sport. It’s no longer about getting to know someone to discover if you’re compatible, etc., but about creating a bespoke experience that will score a callback-like an audition or a fantasy football league or those people who spend all day cosplaying. Your mission, if you choose to except it, is to be hot without being vapid, well groomed without being superficial, successful without being materialistic, well rounded with being pretentious, affectionate without being clingy, interested without being desperate, etc., etc., etc. And all it really boils down to, as the title “Get the Guy” suggests, is being whatever the guy wants you to be at any given moment of the date and to hell with your God-given personality and character.
    All the women I know who are “successfully” dating or married take a second seat to their man without (a) realizing that this is the case or (b) resenting him for it. And frankly, I don’t think that “B’s” actually exist. I think that men just evoke these fantasy women when they’re trying to bring “A’s” to heel. To put this another way, if it were so easy to find the kind of women that men are looking for (i.e., the proverbial fish that the sea is allegedly full of), they wouldn’t waste time trying to shame you into being their perfect Stepford wife (I hear the latest model talks and fucks and even bends her arms!). They could afford to be big. They’d just thank you for your time, like a gentleman, and try the girl next door.
    I think that women need to reclaim the narrative for themselves instead of listening to so-called “dating gurus.” The goal should be to discover your best, most authentic self and to be so confident in that that men have no choice but to (a) be all they can be or (b) have sex with each other. And frankly, “A” isn’t going to happen until men are humble enough to do the work that the women on these channels are evidently willing to do to find “true love” (albeit one based on performance rather than personhood). Heck, for the kind of a performance these guys want you to give, you deserve a whole lot more than a man. You deserve a freaking Oscar.

    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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    • @maibaptiste6793
      @maibaptiste6793 3 года назад +42

      You’d be a great author

    • @Playboyy1985
      @Playboyy1985 3 года назад +35

      That was a great comment. There’s just so much mistrust between both sides. You got men who want the submissive wifey but don’t know the work and effort it takes to lead the way and make decisions at all times. Then there’s women who want to sit back do nothing but give absolutely nothing in return. Neither side wants to take that plunge and take the risk of playing their role but not getting what they want in return

    • @katherinek2709
      @katherinek2709 3 года назад +23

      Sounds like you've heard WAY too many one-sided conversations.

  • @xxPorcupine
    @xxPorcupine 3 года назад +53

    I love this idea of pacing. It's so hard not to rush your speech when you're excited!
    What about in the context of texting? With modern dating a lot of people prefer to text rather than call so the pause between replies are much longer and then the flirting tension is gone...

    • @aminalawal4098
      @aminalawal4098 3 года назад

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      @aminalawal4098 3 года назад

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    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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    • @marko514
      @marko514 Год назад +2

      Use your phone to set up dates, not to chat or talk. Message here and then is okay, but anything more than that is useless.

  • @kathryn9718
    @kathryn9718 3 года назад +14

    Ask people about themselves. Then tell them about yourself
    Can't go wrong!

    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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  • @maddyG7414
    @maddyG7414 3 года назад +83

    Oof yes, the chemistry without connection just recently happened to me. I’ll toot my own horn and say I’m good at flirting and creating chemistry but sometimes it puts me in a place where I don’t recognize that the person I’m going on dates with isn’t compatible with me.

  • @LoneWolf-bd5sn
    @LoneWolf-bd5sn 3 года назад +7

    Similarities and common ground create chemistry. If you are two different people, chemistry will be very difficult.

  • @elizabethnepia8878
    @elizabethnepia8878 3 года назад +11

    It's all about the mind chemistry. Some minds just cannot be joined and others are almost like one mind.

    • @koachoa2159
      @koachoa2159 3 года назад

      Hello

    • @707tich
      @707tich 3 года назад

      Beautifully said 👌🏾✨

    • @eigbiremolenstanley6331
      @eigbiremolenstanley6331 3 года назад

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    • @eigbiremolenstanley6331
      @eigbiremolenstanley6331 3 года назад

      I'm so excited my broken relationship has been restored my ex lover is back after he left me for another woman. I was helped by Dr favour he can also help you out too

    • @eigbiremolenstanley6331
      @eigbiremolenstanley6331 3 года назад

      *whatspp him now...*.....

  • @LDBCFC
    @LDBCFC 2 года назад +3

    I'm 27 and its my first time really getting stuck in to the dating scene for the first time ever.. I'd be lost without Matt and his brother! The dating dance is a bit fun though isn't it..

  • @suzettelisuk8850
    @suzettelisuk8850 3 года назад +13

    It seems like every date that has mutual attraction, mutual enjoyment of each other's company and behavior isn't complete without firm, detailed plans for date two. None of this 'Ya, let's get together again for sure. Keep in touch.' I'm guilty of saying that to be nice too! I need a day, event, time, and enthusiasm before I even think about taking him seriously. Guys, you should consider this as well.

    • @suzettelisuk8850
      @suzettelisuk8850 3 года назад

      @maryam ahmad zango No thank you. I have recently begun dating again and am finding it awkward to date more than one man at a time. I don't want to settle for the first nice guy that I meet, juggling respectfully is what I need advice on. Preferably from Mathew. Most men want a relationship, or say they do, just to take a woman off of the market while THEY decide.

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      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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  • @godsplan7726
    @godsplan7726 3 года назад +31

    Matthew Hussey..you are God's most beautiful creation in the world..

  • @BullyMaguire4ever
    @BullyMaguire4ever 7 месяцев назад +1

    This tip about speed is actually Gold.

  • @dorouusak
    @dorouusak 3 года назад +50

    The best way to flirt is to be subtle at any cost. Once that settles in, flirtation would seem natural rather than a hyperbole. Guys need to take notes, they don’t need to bring flowers and a box of chocolate to woo the person they want to flirt with. Just be there on time and be available.

    • @zero1188
      @zero1188 3 года назад +2

      men still bring flowers on first dates?? lmao

    • @kimberlyleahs
      @kimberlyleahs 3 года назад

      @@zero1188 YES!

    • @hayleyb467
      @hayleyb467 3 года назад +4

      so if a guy is 'there on time & available' *that's* flirting?!

    • @deejames1st
      @deejames1st 3 года назад +9

      Hmmm. I think flowers and chocolates help. I actually love receiving them. It shows thoughtfulness, chivalry, and that he’s romantic too. It also makes him very memorable. The thought and action of a romantic gesture like flowers and chocolate means more than just spoken words. Lots of guys have pretty words to say. But most don’t deliver actual thoughtful actions. But I suppose since we are all individuals, each person would react to this differently. Different people have different love languages.

    • @deejames1st
      @deejames1st 3 года назад +2

      @@hayleyb467 it’s the bare minimum IMO. Although others may think differently based on what makes them happy.

  • @theodorasfetsos
    @theodorasfetsos 3 года назад +10

    I agree so much with pace- not only in flirtying but also in friendship or even official conversation…… when someone starts speaking so quickly oder interrupting with quickly spoken words I immediately don‘t feel well with this person nor seen as a person!
    Thank you for your inputs and greetings from Austria🌻

    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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      Contact him

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      @monicahared2735 3 года назад +1

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  • @lochtessmonsterxoxo
    @lochtessmonsterxoxo 3 года назад +11

    The connection & chemistry distinction is spot on!

  • @mariaexnox8393
    @mariaexnox8393 Год назад +2

    The value that this guy gives is unbelievable. Thank you so much Matt ❤

  • @vuyisekaluphuzi8249
    @vuyisekaluphuzi8249 3 года назад +7

    Lol this is just a natural skill of mine. I don't even have to try very hard most of the the time. Problem is, I fail with people I actually really like. I just freeze and shut down!

    • @susmitabarua1321
      @susmitabarua1321 3 года назад

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    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

      Hi, get anyone to love or (SP) attracted to you. And Alo get your Ex back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Wilson, he helped me restore my 5 years relationship. Also Dr Wilson Always keep with his words from him, I will advise you to seek his help from him thanks..

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  • @biankasauve3776
    @biankasauve3776 3 года назад +31

    I find this speed of answering thing interesting especially because I’ve been rewatching Gilmore Girls and notice the speed Lorelai answers. Since it’s a show, you can make men react anyway you want to her in the script. I’d be curious for Matthew Hussey to analyze and say how he thinks men would react to her speed of flirting/answering in real life.

    • @osenijames5735
      @osenijames5735 3 года назад

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    • @twostrudelsplease2511
      @twostrudelsplease2511 2 года назад +6

      Lorelai is speedy but i guess there’s a reward for any guy that can get her to slow down. Its her slow moments that were particularly romantic and rare and special, like if you remember her chemistry with Jason was paced that way

  • @khoahthong4434
    @khoahthong4434 3 года назад +10

    oh, i love this advice! wanted to give someone a compliment yesterday but totally flaunted it because my pace was too quick. due to my lack of confidence! exactly what was said in the video! creating sexual tension was not really my aim, but all the same. thanks for the advice.

  • @marketajanikova8034
    @marketajanikova8034 Год назад

    Thank you for mentioning the speed. I am often too quick, talking, moving and all. This is so helpful!

  • @gems8582
    @gems8582 3 года назад +16

    Very right on point here gents! Haha laughed at the moment of "flirting" between you two at the broad shoulder shirt comment. 😂 Also another thing to mention with fast-paced flirting is the opposite is also true. Either extreme of the spectrum is bad - To rush the pace or to move so slow with flirting because you are shy or scared to seem vulnerable that you come across as showing no interest at all and create zero chemistry.

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      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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  • @DeAnaira
    @DeAnaira 2 года назад +1

    PACE! That’s my biggest problem! Thanks for talking about that area!

  • @lavaniya85
    @lavaniya85 3 года назад +26

    This is brilliant. Forget all your other videos this is sooo what i needed right now. Biggest takeaway...RISK!!! Am too cautious...love this boys thank you. 'You have a nice shirt'...*pause* notes that down hehe.💕 xx

  • @findelka1810
    @findelka1810 Год назад

    well, this is all great, but works best when happens with zero effort and no premeditation. That’s real chemistry! Prob you can fake it a bit to help it along or build it up, too (if you have SOMETHING to start with), but nothing trumps it when it’s just THERE. Great reminder to slow down though. And ofc very important point, chemistry without connection will only destroy you. Take heed!

  • @yanis80
    @yanis80 3 года назад +5

    I don't want a boyfriend but I like listening to these two talking about dating, love, and more importantly guiding you into a more authentic self. I don't really see the point in performing because that usually backfires, 2 months or 2 years down the road (or 20 years), but I acknowledge that dating is a game (otherwise c'mon people why are we even doing this?). Dating shouldn't feel like a chore, it's supposed to be fun to meet new people! I think that's were most people go wrong, they put all the eggs in one basket the first time they go picking eggs....if you want a second date, you go ahead and let the guy or gal know...."that was fun, I hope to see you again" or "that was fun, I'm going to a concert next week, would you like to join?"....boom, 2nd date secured

    • @kaiyodei
      @kaiyodei 2 года назад

      I do. I'm tired of only falling for fictional characters. but I don't hang out with many men enough to fall for one. or like to do the things "where the men are". or will give one whos face I don't like a chance. I hardly ever cross paths with them

  • @alittlesincerity_111
    @alittlesincerity_111 2 года назад +2

    Well shoot, it’s that simple!? I always felt like flirting would come off as desperate or too forward. I’ll try this next time. 😊

  • @commanderkitten9954
    @commanderkitten9954 3 года назад +10

    At least I know I'm doing something right lol when I give compliments they r always genuine and I never rush it. even if it's something as simple as "I like ur shirt" they'd say "thank u" and I'd counter with "the color really suits u or/brings out ur eyes" and tilt my head down and look up at them through my lashes and smile and then ask what there favorite color is and probably laugh lol

  • @cindy_nicole
    @cindy_nicole 3 года назад +18

    Slow pacing can create anticipation which can create chemistry! 💕

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  • @TheodoraKimmelHello
    @TheodoraKimmelHello 3 года назад +1

    I love the moon picture in the background.

  • @lindazavala5894
    @lindazavala5894 3 года назад +3

    Looking at and into their eyes and their smile and their lips and listen intently but don't you think chemistry happens or it doesn't? compliments are really good too.

    • @aminalawal4098
      @aminalawal4098 3 года назад

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  • @veronicaphiri7432
    @veronicaphiri7432 3 года назад +2

    These boys' chemistry as brothers is fantastic. XXOX

  • @saranyanambiar4512
    @saranyanambiar4512 2 года назад

    I saw him and couldn't take my eyes off him !

  • @amandap66
    @amandap66 2 года назад +1

    So what happens if you have done all the wrong things, how do you fix it?? Can you bring it back? How do you stop being awkward?

  • @Limitless1717
    @Limitless1717 2 года назад +1

    Hussey, you are such a talent. I learn so much each time I hear you talk - regardless of the content.

  • @1979snicks
    @1979snicks Год назад

    I really hope Sir M knows how his sessions and videos also really help gay and bi guys a tonne and a half! Thank you Mr Hussey for all the knowledge, wisdom and tools... and you’re damn handsome to boot! ✊🏽

  • @MafiaMTGA
    @MafiaMTGA 2 года назад +3

    I can not get to the first date, still working on that LOL

  • @womenwhodate7643
    @womenwhodate7643 3 года назад +9

    This is my favourite channel. I especially like it when you explain everything so nicely. I wish you a lot of success with the channel and happy life ❤️🙌

  • @LW-wg4ny
    @LW-wg4ny Год назад +3

    I don’t think you can create chemistry, I think it’s there or it’s not. I think you flirt when you feel chemistry and it just ramps up the excitement. I personally can’t flirt with I guy I don’t feel chemistry with.

  • @r.s.963
    @r.s.963 3 года назад

    Matt isn’t even my date but Im over here feeling giddy listening to him 😂

  • @Minilover-ec7ci
    @Minilover-ec7ci 2 года назад +2

    For me personally first dates are horrible if I get to a 2nd I come out of my shell more and they get to experience more of me, first dates always horrible the difference from the first to the second is massive

  • @Christina-yu3gu
    @Christina-yu3gu 3 года назад

    Nowadays it’s all online I have tried IRL for 8 yrs in La, the earphones buds etc nobody nobody listens or pays attention ever! Not in a bar restaurant gym coffee place. I have Matt’s advice book etc, nobody is in the Moment! 25 yrs in LA a joke no I’m from Boston we talk we care 🙏🏻

  • @patric5076
    @patric5076 2 года назад +2

    I disagree with the premise of this video. I could be wrong but I believe that we either have chemistry with someone or not. If I'm out on a first date and the guy is not interested enough to want to get to know me better then our values don't align and we don't need to go on a 2nd date. The kind of guy that I'm looking for is a self aware man that is looking for a deep connection.

  • @gigibtsurvivor3348
    @gigibtsurvivor3348 2 года назад +2

    I think the “spark” is a fallacy as to romantic compatibility. That “spark” or chemistry is typically physical and/or sexual attraction - that’s it. To me, the “spark” without a slow immersion of getting to know someone is your intuition via your body of alerting you to danger.

    • @kaiyodei
      @kaiyodei 2 года назад

      you need sexual attraction though. lots of asexuals get told that they should never get a significant other because it is wrong to be with someone romanticly when you never get the hubbahubbas or will have sex with them.

  • @leahvarmas4186
    @leahvarmas4186 2 года назад +3

    I watch these videos , yes I do. I don't think they actually help. If a man wants a woman he will call her again for a 2nd, 3rd etc date no matter what.. chemistry and dating tips naah I don't think they help that much . They can give you some tips but it doesn't mean they can give you the 100% success you want, they will not give you the guy because if the guy is not simply into you then it's done. He doesn't want you and that's it . That's fine. Maybe he just doesn't like you. Happens. We can't get everybody to like us.

  • @Alan.Kheath
    @Alan.Kheath 4 месяца назад

    Good looking people seem to always say that it's not about looks. Unfortunately no, it is.

  • @khoahthong4434
    @khoahthong4434 3 года назад +8

    matt, please ask youtube to do something about the spam bots...

    • @ssmith5127
      @ssmith5127 3 года назад +1

      So I'm not the only person who likes reading comments but finds the bots very annoying.

  • @dreamchaser7603
    @dreamchaser7603 2 года назад +1

    I honestly think it’s impossible to create chemistry.. what you talk about can creat connection, and for some people there’s no difference, but for me there is.. I think it depends on personality types.. Some people have broader spectrum, for others it’s more specific and narrower, they have a certain type which goes beyond looks: Mannerism, voice, gestures, smell and the manner in which a person holds himself, for sure..

  • @showspotter
    @showspotter 3 года назад +8

    tbh i used to talk really fast but approx 2 months ago, i just stopped caring, about almost everything. now no matter what comes at me, no matter who says what, they always get a pause, i remind myself i give no shits, and i talk as slowly as i want and at my own pace. i have to do that to break out of the old habit. its working wonders.

  • @jade4897
    @jade4897 2 года назад +1

    When matt said "they are half listening" ...I was convinced he was doing that very thing intentionally to the camera. Did it give all you ladies goose pimples too? Well done matt!

  • @eshare3336
    @eshare3336 3 года назад +4

    I think the person, who invented the words 'spark' and 'chemistry' made us all a great discourtesy.

    • @kirsteneobrien
      @kirsteneobrien 3 года назад

      I’m beginning to agree with you. True love can’t thrive on chemistry alone.

    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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  • @LauDor08
    @LauDor08 2 года назад +6

    I think I have flirting down. Some of my friends have said I'm naturally a flirt lol. But, Matt, can you break down the difference between chemistry and connection? Also, I like how you talked about telling stories and not rushing through them, so every nuance comes across. But I'm very talkative on dates. I'm also a good listener and good at remembering things people tell me, so I can follow up with them later. But my mom thinks I might talk too much on dates? Is this possible?

    • @jazmingomez2011
      @jazmingomez2011 Год назад +1

      I do the same...speaking too much maybe too fast. However, to be taken serious, we have to slow down our speech and also listen more than we speak. Especially to verbalize to the other person what they said right back to them. They will be more attracted to is that way.

  • @jennir7873
    @jennir7873 3 года назад +6

    There is a lot of value in good story telling. Is definitely a quality I look for. Guy Garvey summed this up beautifully for me:
    #Slide down beside and wrap you in stories,
    Tailored entirely for you#.
    If you can hold someone's attention (and not waffle on!), that's a very powerful thing.

    • @fredrickwilliam3853
      @fredrickwilliam3853 3 года назад

      He helped me get back my ex after separation

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    • @monicahared2735
      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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  • @sarahirwin6631
    @sarahirwin6631 Год назад

    I frankly think it’s less about pace and more about the underlying emotion, if someone is slow and quiet because they are uncomfortable it’s also not sexy, but someone being bubbly and a bit manic to make you laugh can be hilarious and thus still sexy

  • @Anayr19
    @Anayr19 3 года назад +3

    In New Zealand we do that a lot :) when we are talking we give many compliments during the conversation but I actually like it :). However if I like someone not sure if that works, you are right 😊

  • @lavernedevos3244
    @lavernedevos3244 3 года назад +3

    Thank you. You and your brother are crazy... But really really good.
    🐘💕💕💕

  • @jazzyg530
    @jazzyg530 2 года назад +11

    Personally, I don't need help with creating chemistry. I'm just not romantically interested in 99% of the men I meet because we aren't compatible in a serious or long term relationship. Flirting can draw people in but if they aren't what we're looking for they end up being a time and energy waster.

  • @SomParRaaz
    @SomParRaaz 2 года назад +2

    Sloth might have so much chemistry🙈🤣

  • @tigress866
    @tigress866 3 года назад +7

    Matthew! You’re giving away my secrets again!! 😂💯🔥😘

  • @mandavb0763
    @mandavb0763 3 года назад +2

    I think chemistry of energy, and energy cannot be created or destroyed

    • @glorianwokoro1810
      @glorianwokoro1810 3 года назад

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  • @yourlovestorytarot2864
    @yourlovestorytarot2864 3 года назад +2

    There needs to be magic, of, I'm feeling into you... and a true connection.....I love flirting!!

  • @danielleemch8991
    @danielleemch8991 2 года назад +1

    Be yourself 💖

  • @Bulbulsvegkitchen
    @Bulbulsvegkitchen 3 года назад +5

    Your pace here was awesome Matthew !

  • @Joshualibbyy
    @Joshualibbyy 3 года назад +6

    I appreciate your content brother. U are definitely a guy I need to have as a mentor absolutely inspiring and motivational

  • @clarissaanzioso3316
    @clarissaanzioso3316 3 года назад +4

    Hey, I am very thankful for your videos and they helped me to go through a lot of emotional things.
    I managed to get over someone with your help but I am asking myself how do I get over someone that I have to see everyday?
    Getting over someone that you can just block and throw out of your life is „easy“, but how do I get over someone that I simply can’t block out of my life because I have to see him everyday in school or at work. It seems unbearable

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      @monicahared2735 3 года назад

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  • @rartinderkaur3499
    @rartinderkaur3499 3 года назад

    Hi Sir ... This is such a big one and it's tooo awesome leading to conclusions about 2main elements :to be his soft ,safe place for him to rest his head where all his pressure ends up , focus on Connection in a way when he is not with the person there is a sense of longing to be naturally there as what he gets to experience with the person is something where he gets to feel at ease ,relaxed and allow his vulnerable parts out . Thanks so much for everything with many more big ones to come . Regards and Much Care 🤗💝

  • @enloveyduvey001
    @enloveyduvey001 2 года назад +1

    needed this video about two weeks ago... oh well..

  • @missdaisy8123
    @missdaisy8123 2 года назад

    This guy knows everything about men

  • @gigibtsurvivor3348
    @gigibtsurvivor3348 2 года назад +1

    Let’s not confuse sexual attraction with genuine interest. For me, they just can’t repulse me. It takes me at least three dates to figure out if we are compatible beyond that.

  • @aanchalchadha1712
    @aanchalchadha1712 2 года назад

    Matthew do you teach men howto respond to women?..a lot of them need that

  • @Traumatised311
    @Traumatised311 3 года назад +2

    Is it just me or Matthews looking handsome in this video

  • @KadeSyx
    @KadeSyx 3 года назад +12

    Hell I'm just trying to get the date to begin with. I am still hoping you do videos for guys who need help dating

    • @barbarawilson3153
      @barbarawilson3153 3 года назад

      Sweetie the way you are looking I can't imagine you having a problem dating🌞

    • @Christina-yu3gu
      @Christina-yu3gu 3 года назад +1

      Take a risk dude & ask a girl u like “hey wud you like to go out sometime if ur single?” I wud be flattered if I was asked anywhere, store, gym, gas station lol 👌

    • @Christina-yu3gu
      @Christina-yu3gu 3 года назад

      @Pînned by Matthew Hussey hookup ? Nooooo

  • @marochatzistogianni2841
    @marochatzistogianni2841 2 года назад +1

    Wow ... Such a nice video ... The distinction between connection and chemistry, so accurate 👌

  • @WeaponryFitness22
    @WeaponryFitness22 3 года назад +7

    I noticed that the only women who flirt with me are already in relationships. I've never had a single woman generally flirt or show interest in me.

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  • @CrystleSky
    @CrystleSky 3 года назад

    Trust 8n yourself and know your worth,and then just have fun with it if it's ment to be it shall be. Love from a free flowing youtuber

  • @chelseaw9355
    @chelseaw9355 Год назад

    This is great stuff boys

  • @alfreire72
    @alfreire72 3 года назад +4

    If I don't feel connection or attraction I don't flirt

  • @Jin-Ro
    @Jin-Ro 2 года назад +1

    Can you even create chemistry though. I've been on a lot of dates and I know within 10 seconds if I'm interested with most people. Maybe 2 minutes with more complex people. If you need to *create* chemistry then there's no real chemistry. What do you do, fake it for the next 20 yrs of marriage?

  • @gitanjalinandan
    @gitanjalinandan 2 года назад

    You said that you dont read these comments - but I wanted to say anyway - very much enjoyed this. I also think your bro Steve could try to pace himself a bit more...I know he can do it.

  • @lillymarkova
    @lillymarkova 2 года назад +2

    Thank you so much Matt for sharing all this valuable information! You are literally chancing my life with your videos

  • @clo_clo617
    @clo_clo617 5 дней назад

    What if you're a lil too good at building chemistry but not connection?

  • @oceansoflorewi
    @oceansoflorewi 3 года назад +2

    Oh gosh! The outgoing talker but feeling no inner electric energy is so my life. I can talk and create a good non awkward time but rarely do i feel anything deep :/. I'm an awful flirt- especially if i have to do it first. I feel defeated if i have to open up deeper first.

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  • @RealEstateHQ
    @RealEstateHQ 3 года назад

    The nuances are so critical!! Slowing down exudes confidence and control. Which is soooo sexy. Great vid guys.

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