I’m in your age and it’s a shame for me to watch it. There is someone out there that truly treats me as best friend and everything else too. My heart isn’t ready still because of the relationship or whatever it’s called. Sigh 😔
Get a dog or better, get two dogs. You’ll walk a lot, watch them run and play. They’ll cuddle up to you like no one else AND they’ll be loyal. Works for me!
Don't ever feel bad when an ex quickly gets engaged to another woman after you break up. That woman did not win a prize and she'll see the real him eventually.
Unless it’s not either ones decision to marry any time spent "dating" over a year or two is wasteful! Making children within that timeline is plain ignorant also. Especially when they show no sign of true commitment. One is just on layaway till their true love comes along!! No individual rather female or male can blame either but themselves, once a certain age this is just common sense stuff! I do believe in him "finding" his true love within a month he was probably cheating already. 🤷🏻♀️ Kinda fast… but I wasn’t there.
This guy should listen to himself--so much for freedom--giving your body to another without the commitment of marriage is NOT SELF RESPECT; It is NOT FREEDOM! Those are lies from the women's movement and sleazy men. We are not pieces of meat--learn to have respect and commit--that demonstrates your love and that you are an adult and not a dog in heat.
@@makellbird2634 my first husband made my next door neighbor pregnant. My second husband was a raging alcoholic who refused treatment. I was affianced after that ....he started contacting his former girlfriend when I told him that I expected him to get a job.
@@alexsandrarokas7117 I do as well I have had guys most guys say those three words to quickly and never been on one date with them . This guy in toledo ohio was violent man he threatened me if i did not say those three words he will dumped me and make sure no guy ever dated me again. Then he was displaying weapons I run so quick from that relationship I ran as quick as I could
It's the same with fortune tellers- they tell u what you want to hear- take your photo n date of birth info then use that to cast a love spell on you so u are addicted n keep visiting them- they convince people that their house is haunted and manipulate you against your spouse/ friebds. they can also hypnotize you then abuse you and you won't remember. Even do not light insense sticks or candles given by them. Cover all mirrors in bedroom at night time. Avoid lending your clothes n hair brush items. BEWARE PEOPLE. don't give any palmist your number/ name.avoid having photos taken. People doing all sorts of things. Similar thing happened to somebody I know. The basta** blocked her positive energy. She did black magic through the mirrors. so she feels tired all the time for many years. And she could not find a soulmate for over 15 years. Glad he has gone.
OH how correct you are. I've been on dating sites for 1.5 years or so and there are many on there who will claim their love for you over the internet. OH my they met me 2 weeks ago and all the sudden they "love me". In my humble opinion LOVE (real love that is) does NOT happen over the internet. It's like a fire that starts and daily the wood is added to that fire so it gets more vibrant and stronger daily or a relationship is like a house that will fall apart in a bad storm without being built on a solid foundation as friends first, lovers later...Men wanna skip all of what is necessary and jump to the "sex" of it b/c that is what they really desire the most. BUT yes one they get what they want, things can change (unless of course they are really IN LOVE with you) and I have a sneaky feeling that's gonna take the average man more than a few weeks, am I right here or what. And they also expect TRUST to be automatic. Well I met you here 2 weeks ago so you need to TRUST me when I tell you this BS and that BS and I know it's all a LIE straight from the pits of hell...I will NEVER love you or TRUST you if I have NEVER met you and that is a fact. LOVE and TRUST need to be tried. Actions are louder than words 7 days a week...IF you don't have time to text me or email me or chat with me on hangouts or call me then you DO NOT LOVE ME. A man that loves a woman will make her his PRIORITY period!!! IF you do not feel that you are his number one priority in his life then let it go b/c he is NOT totally serious with you and those are the facts...I am older I should know by now and I do know!!!
Totally agree with this. After a while you start to realise that his behaviour was bad and manipulative. Sometimes you start to realise that after you broke up.
Wants they keep cheating & filling YOU up ☝ with more B.S. Dump them, but there us no reason to harass the woman that he is Haveing a 7 year relationship stealing her clothes. Bringing in mice from your job. Shmearing them on his girlfriend's drawers. Bringing in maggots. Poisoning her with dead nice in her drink. Stealing all her doctor reports & poems. Breaking in the house. How dirty & sick in the head you are.. Calling their medication. Stuffing live mice in the sink knowing they have no bones & can't swim. How sickening. If anyone wants to talk about what was all done to me Can call me at: 414-892-3626 thanks
If a man says he loves you and then verbally or physically abuses you, I can pretty much bet that you are dealing with narcissist!!! Also tell a narcissist "no" and you'll see how quickly they rage on you.
I believe that if you want a high quality man, you should be a high quality woman yourself. A high quality woman will never want to be romantically involved with a married man. She will not want to destroy a marriage, a family, or another woman just for her own happiness. A high quality woman is not selfish but has a good heart. She does not only respect herself, but others as well.
U r totally right. But he is talking about when the MAN himself lures a women by saying he loves her... and is not getting along well with his wife. That amounts to fooling her just to use her.
@@SuvaMukherjee No no. You don't get to only be the victim of this. The only time you are not at fault is if he lies and says he is not married and because of that you don't know he is married. But if you know he's married, the fact that the man lures you in and fools you to use you does not get you off the hook for doing your part. You are still wrong for being with a married man. I made that mistake myself. I thought they were separated, but they were still married. He was also very sneaky in how he lured me in. But I still was involved with a married man and that was wrong for me to do.
A man that's into you absolutely 100% always finds time for you and can't stay away from you and is never too busy . They will climb mountains to be with you . When a man serious he's very serious . You just know it. Great advice !!!
@@Andrewbait sorry just now saw this ...a woman does the same. If she wants to be with you she will find time and will want to be around you all of the time .so pretty much the same thing
@@coredadventure1 If a man loves that much to any woman, she will run away and if any woman loves that much to any man, he will run away either. 😂 Fact is true love doesn't exist.
@@RR-bz3jm that's not true lol ... My brother and his wife have been together 25 years and it's the best marriage I've ever seen they're quite in love and get along perfectly never even had one fight nobody's ran from each other. That's not a good way to think LOL
Absolutely. Men are attracted to women that they can manipulate. If you are a strong enough women that you can decipher and see into all the little games they play, they really don’t want to be put in that situation. Because they know that they cannot scam you. And because they can’t they don’t want to play.
Corrie women should help other women no matter what..last time a married men approached me...I told his wife, it doesn’t matter whether she believes you or not, you plant the seed to open her eyes
That's right! My husband of 25 years left me for another woman. And I'm finding that the best relationship that I have is the one that I found being alone. The hell with men they're all the same narcissistic, gaslighting assholes.
@Deanna Swanson I'm very sorry you had this experience, but in reality, you've created an entire theory based on n=1. You might want to take the time to heal your wounds and then open your mind to other truths. Otherwise you might slip into rage and bitterness, and that would be sad for you and for the others in your life.
Most women are amazing, period. It's your problem if you don't treat her right. Being treated right doesn't make someone amazing. It's not like domestication a feral street cat with love and food.
@@nm6818 totally missed the point. You just want to hear yourself . Men can be amazing as well. I've been with the same woman for 30 years but what do I know. Lol
Is she going to treat me like a priority? Or, like normal, men come after the kids, career, and anything else she feels is more important at the time. Except his paycheck......I have to correct that, its definitely a first priority always.😁
When a man wants to spend time with you ... he will make you his priority and find the time, no matter how demanding his career is ... don’t listen to excuses and don’t be one of his booty calls!
Exactly! A man will never be too busy to see a woman he wants to see. I know of three men who dated their now wives long distance. Not only do they work but they had to travel to see her / and they did! Let this be a lesson ladies. If he’s giving you excuses then pull back and stop seeing him. I learned the hard way
wrong ,a sensible man will always prioritize his career because he knows that if he loses his career , he will lose his woman and all other amenities , but if career is great and loses his woman, he will get another one very easily.
The best advice that I received decades ago, came from a pastor. He said "take notice of how he treats his mother. This is how he'll treat you." That was my wakeup call! Thanks Pastor Jim
Yes I heard this one before . I agree. Apparently a mother or big sister whom had a positive influence , can help boy later in life with his interactions with the opposite gender .
Don't count on this. My son treats his wife like a queen, which is amazing. When it comes to me, his mom, he treats me very poorly. We had an amazing relationship when he was growing up. .I know he's married. I'm so glad he is happy I would just like to have a cup of coffee with my son once in a while
Be careful with that... Lots of boy-men are at their Moms house often.... Then still there after marriage. Jezebels create Narcissistic boys, test the spirits.
Not always true my Ex husband loved and treated his mother good and even cried when recalling how mad he was at his dad for making his mother cry when betraying her with another women. Guess wat he turned around did same thing his dad did to his mother.
Hi jason I have a question about this named roger I met on line I haven't met him yet I am still talking to him on line it been a long time since I met him sometimes he pulls and then he will contact like a month later I text him but he doesn't respond oh he said that he lost his phone he ha a really demanding job but no one is that busy, so should I break it off I also have been praying about it thank you
@@ttzitz4977 Did you see him in a video call? Also many scammers : catfish out there online. Many men often say they were very busy. For some it may be true, for others a game. Hard to tell. Never to busy to send a text if you miss someone but that's my personal thinking. Hope it turns out well for you and...speaking for myself I prayed about one special love which was a complete illusion. I freed myself from believing in predestination. It brought me nothing but hurt and trouble. All I have is the key to direct my own destiny in life and select what is respect or reject disrespect. Patience and understanding is a beautiful feature but may be extorted by people who enjoy playing games with our heart ♥ Stay safe and wishing you much genuine love a sweet man who won't have you guessing regularly where you stand. Many heartless people on this planet taking advantage, emotionally, physically or financially.
He knew me all of 5 minutes and asked me over to his house to watch “Snuggle Movies ‘. He didn’t think I knew that was code for let’s have sex , when I said no , he never talked to me again lol
I am a mental health therapist and this video is truth. If I could teach women anything it would be to love and respect themselves first! If you love and respect yourself, you won’t fall for these lines/strategies.
It's not always about that. You can respect yourself and still get caught in the snare of master manipulator/ narcissist. They know exactly what they're doing. I had a married man after me and obviously I turned him down repeatedly. But he kept trying. He was a coworker so it was hard to avoid him. He even texted me sporadically over the years since he was fired, still trying to get in with me. I blocked his number. He's still married and has kids. And I guarantee he's been trying to get with other women or already has. He spins his sob story to women trying to sound like the victim, making his wife sound like the villain. He's evil.
@@cozy46 you should be proud of yourself..for not falling for this NARC..they are EVIL DEMONIC people..that only GOD can deliver them...& save them...& the rest of the people should run away as far as they can from them..like you did..i advice you to also change your phone.number..so that this narc can't reach you anymore.. THEY ARE SOOOOO DANGEROUS...
It's interesting how all of these "coaches" are teaching women what/how men are. Why don't all coaches start coaching men on being a good personality with morals and good behavior. Start teaching men not only just women 😑
You really think men are interested in learning better behaviour?? 😂😂 That's why... All we can do is protect ourselves. Let's be realistic, not idealistic.
Hahaha... Well.. It's not like liars don't know themselves when they lie. They don't care as long as it works for them. They could have changed a long time ago. Trust me, the best punishment for them is the loneliness that videos like these will make them fall into because the women bossed up.
@@marrietvisser6195 Yes, but most of the coaches for men do not teach men how to be better people. They teach them what to do to get a woman, how to get more sex, how to seduce effectively, etc. I think what Azra is saying is that instead of teaching women how to detect asshole behaviour (lies, etc.) it would be nice to also teach men NOT to be assholes (NOT to lie, etc.)!
I agree with you 100%. Some of them don't know until they're already in luv. Some need the ego boost of them being better than someone else. Some of those girls have been cheaters themselves, so this is just another game to them. I mean-- when you think about it....IF you don't walk away from a person when you know they have somebody else THAN you are a cheater too. That's two cowardly people who should be guilty for the same person's pain.
What do you mean by taken?A big part of the problem is society's definition of single; which once meant unmarried.Being single was a time dating(not sleeping around) before finding someone to commit to. A person don't cheat where there's no commitment.Women tend to think sex = love and the sooner they realize that sex without commitment is just sex.There are men just as naive that think the act signifies more than it does.
@@hazelsunderstood6784 What is this patriarcal thinking ??? nobody belongs to anyone. If someone makes you feel good why don't you just live the present moment and enjoy the moment with that person. Why is it absolutely necessary that he belongs to you exclusively for the rest of your life for you to enjoy a moment with him (and vice versa)
Someone Out there I feel you girl, like I saw small signs but I didn’t think nun of it until shit became worse and he showed me that he gives 0 fucks about my feelings. I’m over him now lol 😂
I am 59. I did not meet my Mr. Right until I was 54...after I’d mistakenly married Mr. “I’ll do” the year before b/c I didn’t want to die alone. I gave up after a lifetime of being told I was sexually free to make choices (the 80s were my 20s...) and I ate it all up. With low self-esteem issues, I have a lot to ask forgiveness for, it took me a long time to VALUE myself enough to put myself first. My husband today is everything and beyond what he speaks of - b/c I VALUED myself first.
Tamela Candler I’m 43 yrs old and I haven’t given up yet it does get very frustrating thinkin Ok, this is it only to realize it’s another dud🤨😒. But I have faith that I’ll eventually have that Mr. Right as well💯😁
@@julianwelsh3600 only men who are players like the chase real men Ethier think you're not interested in them or you're too high maintenance so we dont bother because some of you women think leading us on for months to years with nothing to show for it. So we think that you dont want us so we look else where.
That is why in our Indian Culture, I fell blessed that they teach us the Principle - NEVER sleep with a man unless he is married to you & fully committed to you. .... marriage is a BIG safety fence for women. Women should treat themselves as a precious Gem that cannot be so easily got.
@@SanaPrincesswarrior true, the phrase "old is gold" does apply to many things....... in fact many Indians in the towns are now imitating "modern" life, it has led to women being used, rampant abortions and suicides .
I love the old Indian culture. Unfortunately, many of the younger people are only interested in losing their virginity and are not looking for a partner.
Haha, they all say that, until they have a bad day and hurt you anyway yeah. Every single guy I ever dated has hurt me and cussed me out. They can't help it, low emotional mastery and low emotional intellect. I date Introverted guys with poor socialization skills. I love intelligent and highly independent/self-sufficient guys, but that means high Ti and low Fe, guys that don't understand how emotions work, or how girls work.
Exactly!! The last one was like "I don't wanna hurt you" Guess what....he did!! It should be on that list! It means 100% he will hurt you and the worst thing, he knows he will, it's a done deal!! Saying it.... somehow, makes him feel better, in a sense, you have been warned!!
Wish someone told me all these things when I was young. Listen up Ladies. You're getting the best advice possible. We grow too soon old and too late smart.
The best man in the house will be the dog. LoL. He is always, honest, reliable, and always in mood to cuddle, and will always be happy to see you when you come home.
Congrats for having the courage to do so! now, how are you doing now? Are you healing? Take some time away to let yourself grieve and heal( if you are not doing this already).
Had to have a covert narcissist evicted from my home and he "it" still wouldn't go for 5 more months at which point I called the police on his drunk, squatting worthless, pathologically lying, manipulatory, abusive ass. It was like living in hell in my own home, so yes I can relate! !
Doris from New Zealand here. It has been my experience that many men are as truthful and monogamous as their options. At 62, I am incredibly happy to be single (divorced now for 12 years). Was on the dating scene soon after my marriage break-up and was disappointed at the lack of transparency and lies told/misrepresentations (especially after conducting background checks). Also, there's a lot of guys with personality disorders, major issues, excess alcohol and other compulsions, complaints about their ex. etc. [including one notable "Cluster B" man that I was involved with for a year, who had strategized the entire "relationship" - he had really fooled me]. No regrets about my experiences …. made me realise exactly what I DON'T want. My life is now full and happy - spending time with my adult children, grandchildren, great friends and operating a business that I love.
Doris from New Zealand is exactly right a lot of personality disorders out there....ever heard of NPD disorder? At first everything is perfect then not so perfect and you cannot fix a personality disorder....get out ASAP! They should be teaching about personality disorders in school.
Love your comments.....I would be totally happy if my grandsons hadn't grown up lol. They gave me so much love and affection I didn't not need to be in a relationship. I believe quality men are mostly taken...I also believe most women do not leave good men. I am on dating sites for entertainment lol. do not leave
"Also, there's a lot of guys with personality disorders, major issues, excess alcohol and other compulsions, complaints about their ex. etc. " And then after they pass all of that scrutiny, they are still required to like YOU. Good luck ...
So true. I know the "I'm busy" excuse is false bc my brother was extremely busy one week, moving, working ot, and spending time with his kid. Even after all that, he still made time to see the girl he liked. Even when you're busy, you want to be around the person you like.
I can't stand people who use "I'm busy" as an excuse for everything. I mean come on, unless your job is to be a president of a country or you are a Hollywood star, you can't be that busy to make a phone call to your niece on her birthday, to send an email or meet up for a coffee. People should say: "it wasn't my priority that's why I didn't [insert action].
A house deep in the woods with a beautiful dog and my 15 yr old daughter sounds Phenomenal when I listen to these videos. When you are high quality , it’s understandable why you’re single this day and age. A man Saying “I love you.” Should never be the reason to sleep with him!
Is the impression to weaking you so they can get into your panties easily. I never felt this way before. Is the fake impression for them to get into your panties and you are not the first person that heard this word and definitely you wouldn't be the last to hear that. This is his charm word that makes him wins to get into you. Open your eyes 👀 to see and start smelling things when they are miles away. Good bye.
I must say I had a good laugh reading the comments.Mostly because as a woman I can relate to them. It's almost silly how stupid and gullible we women can be when desperately seeking to be loved.I mean some of these lies are so obvious but as women we tend to hold on believing for miracles that never happen. Ladies,let's not live for men but live for ourselves first.Sometimes it's better to be alone than be a miserable,unfulfilling relationship.
I am with the man I prayed for. He is wonderful, thoughtful, caring, understands we don't have to be glued at the hip. We respect each other's space. We don't night club, or have a group of people who are friends and hang out. We're happy with that. We have so much in common, and we don't have loud fights. We've argued, but nothing serious. It always gets worked out. We don't blame, or accuse one another. I feel very fortunate to have him in my life. I do know he loves me. It shows.
.. LIFE reserves US so many UGLY suprises..like It has for me..loving & marring someone. that revealed later on to be a Narc..keep your guard ALWAYS up...I Wish you the best...
In my case a man tried to get me to his house after 1, 2 date, I rejected that, then he offered a relationship title. I said we need to know each other better, he turned it against me that I have too many choices if I reject the offer and he doesn't want to waste time. He only wanted sex obviously.
Wow. I am so glad you made a wise choice. Because multiple of these men will look at your body and use it (because that’s what he wants obviously 🙄) So to all the women DONT LET THAT MAN USE you
The last relationship I was in the guy didn't even try to kiss me until we were on our third date and it was a mild kiss and I think we were together six to eight weeks before anything ever happened physically. He tried somewhere around 5 weeks but I stopped in and I think we dated for two more weeks. He was a total gentleman and my dad used to always say he was loyal and I told my dad "dogs are loyal"😂😂 he broke up with me because I was 10 days late even though I wasn't pregnant and he tried to come back three and a half months later and I'd simply told him I had nothing to say. I know people aren't perfect but goodness gracious that tore me up and it took a long time to get over that break up and I certainly wasn't going back. Once people bust my trust like that I don't ever trust them again and I don't care if their family or who they are. What I saw in him after four years was a man that was either selfish or he just wanted to date forever and never get married or he just didn't want kids in the first place.. I already had two kids by my first marriage of 10 years. Honestly it's something about that ever did bother him he should have said something about that long before but he never seemed to care and we would take the kids swimming and everything.
I believe men can say "I Love You" and mean it and still cheat. Love doesn't mean the same thing to a man that it does to a woman. To women, love is equated with loyalty and commitment. To many men, it's just a feeling. You need to ask for clarification when they say "I Love You". And then watch them...
A terrible guy I dated for a short time put it this way: "Love's nice, but it comes with a lot of obligation." RUN from these dudes! The prettier the exterior package, the more wary one should be of what's on the inside. A lot of guys left on the market have gotten away with a ton of bad behavior and are broken in ways that can't be 'fixed' with love or anything else.
@@evyjayI’m sorry but I can’t agree. I though as you, good looking men are players. I decided to to get the man that girls would never find attractive, a chance. He could make me laugh and seemed so kind. Well, that man nearly destroyed me. He insult me and demean me until I believed every word he said. He would message girls being sweet to them and showing me. I didn’t understand why he was doing this to me until I finally got out. He had no self worth so he did all this to me, to make himself feel better about himself. He was a terrible person and I have seen it with many not attractive men. These men will cheat if a girl finally shows them interest bc they have never been tested before or been given attention… they just can’t say no. An attractive person who has had very few partners is the keeper. Why? Bc this person has had many offers but didn’t sleep with everyone. It shows integrity. A man who isn’t attractive and hasn’t had any previous partners doesn’t mean he is a good person or faithful. Just means, he hasn’t had the option to sleep with many or had the option to cheat. Better to be with the person who had/has options and offers but showed restraint.
If a man loves you he is with you, protects you, and adores you. What men have to understand is we are not always adorable , he has to be willing to stay until you become adorable again.
@Lisa McCray - Hi Lisa🌸 I’m happy that you are enjoying your life with or without a man. In the future, please know you have “peace” of mind ... the other one is ... “I’d like to give that guy a “piece” of my mind! Most of us would, but if we did it often, we wouldn’t have a mind left. Think back to your math classes and remember a pie only has so many pieces ... but peace of mind is worth more than gold. Take care and know I wasn’t trying to offend you. The English language is the most complex because we have the largest vocabulary in the world and it’s easy to confuse. TPWK ... that’s Treat People With Kindness . . . I’m a massive Harry Styles fan and I’m 61. Just an FYI from one Lisa to another😉 Smile 🦋 Lisa
Now that I'm a bit older, and hopefully a little wiser, I'd say that all 5 of these are lies I've heard at one time or another. Some men are better at telling them than others. The biggest thing I've found to be helpful in determining this is: Do his actions match his words? If not, "thank you, next".
exactly, words need to match with actions, after a week of interaction, not physically, I can tell where is his mind and the game he want to play with me. I let go very easy😊 . its about time to learn from our mistakes.
Depends on the person heads space. My friend married a guy and slept with him on first night?. What's meant to be will be you attract what you think and feel. !
@@maxmm-bn8qm B/c that two are shallow, low-quality people to have sex on the first day and end up getting married right away! LOL. I pretty much bet that they're losers and good luck to their future!! :))
@@미미월드-q5b I don't see what's wrong with 2 people having sex on the first night if they feel like doing it. Sex isn't a wrong thing, whether you meet the person for the first time or the 100th time. That doesn't make them low quality people
1. “It’s not about sex. I really want to get to know you.” This is one of the most common lies men tell women. Perhaps you’ve heard it yourself over and over. It can come disguised in many different forms, such as “Let’s go back to my place for a drink. We don’t have to do anything you don’t want to.” Or “Of course, I don’t mind taking things slow. I want us to have a connection before things get heated.” No matter how nice of a guy he is - if he is dating you, he wants to sleep with you.“ Not always in Christian culture
It's all about the chase. Most guys want what they cant have. I've had to learn to stop making myself so readily available to guys. I've experienced it so many times-they want you so badly, then when they have you they dont want you anymore. Then when you are gone and over it, they want you back 🙄
I know what its like to be played. You must love yourself enough to take care of your own connection of who you really are and never settle for what you don't want in a man for that matter. You have to love yourself in order to be loved the way you want. Never settle for less of what you need from a man.
My best relationship advice is make them prove almost everything they say they won't do. As the saying goes " Actions speak louder than words ". If they truly luvvv you tell them too truly literally show it.
I just read this...Ladies next time you meet a player say this - “Hello, I heard you’re a player, nice to meet you I’m the coach!” That should give him pause.
My advice, if the man loves you, you’ll know when he respects you, if he lust or you lust it’ll all be boring. The greatest relationships is in love and respect for each other. 🐝🍂🌈🌹⭐️🍂🇳🇿
I have to say your video is very accurate! I am now a strong woman and healed myself. It took awhile but "let go of all toxic people, places and things that no longer serve me! Love yourself first! ❤
@@kornaxon3522 Please elaborate. If all women communicates like you, how do you expect man to please you or meet your expectation. Stupid generalisation without substance like your comments are the root of hate speech
i'm busy is ok when ur married to a man, he bought you a nice car and nicer home and puts money in your bank account because he works hard all day to provide for you and your household. my hubs never ignores me, even if he only texts me back during his workday. he always tells me he loves me and I do the same. meet a quality guy by not being desperate and not lowering your standards, and most definitely BE FEMININE! women have been brainwashed to be confused, chase after men, pay on a date with a man, all types of ridiculous unfeminine things. if you want a good man you must allow him to chase you, earn show and prove himself, be receptive to all good things but cut him off if he wants you to be "independent" and still be able to access the most intimate parts and excluscivity of yourself. HE MUST SHOW, PROVE, PROVIDE, PROTECT, AND EARN HIS WAY INTO YOUR LIFE. unless you just want to be used, abused, pimpt out, played, left with a dusty baby daddy who don't pay the bills, and probably some kinda veneral disease--------------- don't do it. Never ever. He must add n contribute to your life, or he shall have no place in it. ACCEPT NO DUSTY MEN!
That's fine if you want that but I think I'm just as feminine by being independent, having my own things, career, and life. He should add to my life, not be my life, if he doesnt BECAUSE I am independent I can throw him out like trash and be perfectly fine. I take mine out on dates, buy him gifts, spoil him, but only because he puts in the same effort for me. To each thier own~
so true.... though I'm one who's not so in favor of long so long time of getting to know each other thing.. if you're responsible enough a yr. is more than enough of getting to know eats 😛 other. you. never ever know each other not until you live in Tha same roof. adjustment period never ends.. that's up to you both to keep your love. growing... glowing. burning... charooot. norture it with love and respect. everything that will keep it alive and life so beautiful.!!! you can only serve one master at a time ... or you only please one and displease the other.... 😜😍🙄!!! tiktok!!! JapKor.. it's so hard to find a man the way you would have wanted.. 😢🤔🤔true and sincere...!!! just love me simply love me whoever you are... 😜cause if you love truly you wl never do anything that will make her him unhappy.!!! whaaaat are you saying😜😜😜😅
I've been in a 7 going on 8 year relationship long distance. We stopped phone calls just text. Eventhough I told him about the issue and he said he would improve. But it fell back to the same pattern twice. It took me leaving him to actually notice that I was worthet. Now he is trying to fight for me.
DollFace : walk on and never go back to him. Never go on a Long distance relationship for that Long. He was busy stringing you along. You are worth it & may God bless you with the right guy soon.
Coming from a man. A great guy is someone who, first and foremost, is not primarily interested in sex and material things, but a woman and companion to spend his whole life with. I should think that if your heart is in the right place you will automatically find him. He does not hang out in clubs. He is not just looking for fun. All these games that the sexes play are bullshit because they don't have at their heart true commitment and companionship. Find someone from church. Go to the places where you know the person is committed to more than just self-gratification.
@Carly Fournier I didn't say anything was always true. From my experience though, women can't trust men in the church any better than the average guy on the street.
My past relationships were toxic. I realized that I was listening to their words not to their actions. I was one sided. But this is a big help. Thanks^^ My Dad is a good and loving Dad. I'm still looking for someone who's like my Dad or even better.
My daughter stayed with a man with BPD since high school and into 15 years of marriage...she kept thinking he could change lol. I knew shortly after I met him he was an narcissist. My daughter eventually gave up.
But men will say they love you even if you’re fully already sleeping with them and totally ok with it being casual. They’ll even make you break up with other people you’re seeing. It’s NEVER about sex with people like this. It’s about control and power. It’s about sexual abuse.
@Amazing World I don’t understand how what you’re saying relates to what I’m saying. Humans are a monogamous creature, though not exclusively or permanently monogamous. And that’s fine. Im saying that abusers will demand monogamy while having no intention of being monogamous. Because they hate anyone being okay with being polyamorous. They don’t get off on either having one partner or having multiple; they need to be tricking partners and “winning” over someone.
@Amazing World what are you saying is not entirely true? Every word I wrote is true. It happens so much 150 people on a random post relate to it. SO FAR. Men will demand monogamy, say they love you, all AFTER already having been having sex with Yu, make you break up with anyone else you’re seeing with the promise of wanting to build a relationship, and then disappear. You’ve never heard of people…… LYING before? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Amazing World that was my point. Men will already have you, already be having the sex, you can not be demanding exclusivity, but THEY demand the exclusivity, ask to build relationship, and then once you break up with all your other prospects and agree to be their only partner, thats when they’ll cheat or lie or disappear. Anxious and avoidant insecure attachment styles are very common.
I was seeing someone like this, I told him I don’t want to see him anymore due to his flakyness. He protested and I explained to him that he was one of 5 guys I was seeing and the guy who sees me the most wins. He was dumbstruck to know he was one of MY retainer guys. Never focus on just one person, then you’ll always have backups, you May even care less when one doesn’t meet up with you, but you’ll also really enjoy it when you let someone go and say “I have 5 other guys on the rotation and you’re kind of messing up the schedule by canceling and being lame” The guy often insisted I was the only one (i on the other hand didn’t insist such a thing) He did make future plans too (sometimes) but his communication style was too slow and random. I think if even one of these red flags comes up you need to run. Don’t get swayed by the a few good points, when it comes to interest it needs to be 10/10 If not a hell yeah then it’s a hell no.
HEY there, I really loved what you said here about having backups...THE ONE WHO PAYS THE MOST ATTENTION TO ME WINS... NEVER focus on just one person (man) in my case so you'll always have a backup...YOU GO GIRL!!! I meet men on the internet that are here today and gone tomorrow. They sometimes just have to read one thing wrong that I wrote them on an email or on a google hangouts or on a text message and all they sudden they flip and I never hear anymore from them. Good thing he wasn't my only interest or I would be OUT and lonely again. SO I communicate with probably 3-4 at once that way when one or two back down for whatever reasons, the others are still there while I add another one or two to replace what I lost...Some day it's cheating but you and I call it SMART!! I am happy I met read from you as we do certainly see face to face, eye to eye dear, we are definitely on the same page with this issue...MORE than one is always best for me...I have had many tell me OH YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE I AM COMMUNICATING WITH...HONEY YOU ARE THE ONLY REASON I COME ON THIS DATING SITE...OH, PLEASEEEEEE DON'T bs ME. I GET SO SICK OF IT ALL...I do wonder often if there is a man alive that can tell the TRUTH!!!
wandakate robinson - true It’s not cheating until it’s commitment though. I’ve played the game of focusing on one guy I saw twice a week I was sure the frequency meant we were an item then one day 9 months in I asked He said “no” This is why it’s important to have clarity and labels honestly. And if you have no label then see as many people as you like Especially if the dates are sparse.
i sent this to my close friend who has been confusing and sad about her relationship. i think low self esteem makes her nervous and blind her eyes and mind. thank you for sharing this wisdom!!
How do you tell your heart to stop loving a man that you have been with for15 years and gave him your whole heart ..you know he is lieing to you every day over where he goes and who he is with ..he gets mad when you say anything about him lieing to you and will look you in the eye and tell you he loves only you and he isn't cheating on you but you you he cheated once befor what do you do?
This guy's message is solid!! The foundation is to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you. Respect for yourself will not come until you love yourself. We need more positivity in our lives to remind ourselves how truly special we all are.
Dr David can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr David always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him
Basically all you need to do is be impossible to HIM. Impossible is the key word and easy to remember. Also treat him the way he treats you and if he attempts to get a hair bit out of line ALWAYS be a step ahead of him. If he is not for you or has a woman in his life just walk away and DO NOT waste your time. Trust me it's not worth it to waste your time. Good luck and God bless.
Hi. Thank you for this video. I been dating this older divorced guy with kids for 3 months. He's been inconsistent and flaky with plans. I been feeling like a non-priority to him. I finally had it when he could not commit to a sleep over 3 months ago and been keeping my dating options open since. I also see struggles with power at home where walks on egg shells around his adult children and can't stay firm in his decisions. He has strings to his past as well. While the chemistry is good and I miss him, I refuse to waste my time nurturing a damaged man.
I’m 54 and this is some of the best advice I’ve ever been given, I am embarrassed to admit that this vlog was a huge lightbulb moment for me ,Thank you !
This is the clearest explanation and most perfect and logical explanation, I have ever heard of, for knowing when a man is definitely not commiting to the woman whom he "occasionally" spends "some time"with. Yes, I totally agree:- wish him well and tell him you are looking for a sincere love not what he is offering. Cut off that relationship and God will send the real macoy love who respects you the way you really mean about the sincere love you want in your life..... 'May God's Blessings Remain WithbYou Always."
Yeah!! Don't do anything selfless.. Never change your plans or compromise anything important for them until you know that he deserves it.. It's something I learned from my experience
I wish I knew this after divorce! Dating is hard it’s not like back in my early 20s. There are men damn near 50 yrs old who still playing with women tf!
I've always felt that being alone is far better than being with someone who makes you feel more alone than you were when you were single. I've been in this situation countless of times.
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"When it comes to men and dating it's quite simple, just IGNORE EVERYTHING that they say, and ONLY pay attention to what they do." - Randy Pausch
WELL SAID
Real fact
Some even pretend so well to do shit😩but i pay attention alot😩
Exactly
True
6. I'm a really nice guy.
People who are truly kind don't broadcast it.
Hear, hear!
I'm really a nice guy=I'M A TOTAL DICK RUN
A lion will never have to tell you it's a lion.
That's one of my automatic red flags haha
true
I'm 60 years old and I can say this is completely true.unfortunately I had to live it to learn this! I hope young women listen to this!
@Grace Bressi good advice!
I’m in your age and it’s a shame for me to watch it. There is someone out there that truly treats me as best friend and everything else too. My heart isn’t ready still because of the relationship or whatever it’s called. Sigh 😔
The good news is that I still have high standards and not easy to give in.
@@jackieflynn7731 awe.. i hope you choose wisely using your head and heart. God bless you!
Thank you.🍀☺
Get a dog or better, get two dogs. You’ll walk a lot, watch them run and play. They’ll cuddle up to you like no one else AND they’ll be loyal. Works for me!
Great advice!
What else do your dogs do? You haven't been putting peanut butter in places you shouldn't for your dogs to lap up, have you?
I wouldn't trade my dog for any man!
Perfectly right
I have two snuggle dogs but I love my human man, too.
Don't ever feel bad when an ex quickly gets engaged to another woman after you break up. That woman did not win a prize and she'll see the real him eventually.
Unless it’s not either ones decision to marry any time spent "dating" over a year or two is wasteful! Making children within that timeline is plain ignorant also. Especially when they show no sign of true commitment. One is just on layaway till their true love comes along!! No individual rather female or male can blame either but themselves, once a certain age this is just common sense stuff! I do believe in him "finding" his true love within a month he was probably cheating already. 🤷🏻♀️ Kinda fast… but I wasn’t there.
@Sasi Helen lllllo
@Sasi Helen at my age I'd never let my engagement last that long. As soon as he gets on 1 knee we are booking the venue, the clergy, etc.
@Sasi Helen and we ain't having kids until we get hitched
@Sasi Helen I wanna be married and settled in a house before popping out kids.
Agree with EVERYTHING you mention. Being alone is FAR MUCH BETTER than living with the wrong person.
You got that right
AGREE
Yes yes yes.
This guy should listen to himself--so much for freedom--giving your body to another without the commitment of marriage is NOT SELF RESPECT; It is NOT FREEDOM! Those are lies from the women's movement and sleazy men. We are not pieces of meat--learn to have respect and commit--that demonstrates your love and that you are an adult and not a dog in heat.
As a 73 year old woman who has had A LOT of relationships I can affirm that this information is TOTALLY TRUE. Spot on!
Yes, I know exactly what you are saying.
The fact that she has been in a LOT of relationships means she doesn't know how to keep a man.
@@makellbird2634 my first husband made my next door neighbor pregnant. My second husband was a raging alcoholic who refused treatment. I was affianced after that ....he started contacting his former girlfriend when I told him that I expected him to get a job.
@@kindcounselor damn, that's a bum right there!
@@makellbird2634 It's always the women's fault, isn't it?
Be wary of the man who says "I love you" but mostly wants to control your every physical move. That's not being a girlfriend. That's being a hostage.
Very true
I dumped guys who tried that.
@@alexsandrarokas7117 I do as well I have had guys most guys say those three words to quickly and never been on one date with them . This guy in toledo ohio was violent man he threatened me if i did not say those three words he will dumped me and make sure no guy ever dated me again. Then he was displaying weapons I run so quick from that relationship I ran as quick as I could
Been there, I was the hostage AND the person expected to pay the ransom, financially and emotionally. Never again
It's the same with fortune tellers- they tell u what you want to hear- take your photo n date of birth info then use that to cast a love spell on you so u are addicted n keep visiting them- they convince people that their house is haunted and manipulate you against your spouse/ friebds. they can also hypnotize you then abuse you and you won't remember. Even do not light insense sticks or candles given by them. Cover all mirrors in bedroom at night time. Avoid lending your clothes n hair brush items. BEWARE PEOPLE. don't give any palmist your number/ name.avoid having photos taken. People doing all sorts of things. Similar thing happened to somebody I know. The basta** blocked her positive energy. She did black magic through the mirrors. so she feels tired all the time for many years. And she could not find a soulmate for over 15 years. Glad he has gone.
"I'm drama free." Men who make this claim (often in his online dating profile) almost always have life full of drama!!! Beware!
OH how correct you are. I've been on dating sites for 1.5 years or so and there are many on there who will claim their love for you over the internet. OH my they met me 2 weeks ago and all the sudden they "love me". In my humble opinion LOVE (real love that is) does NOT happen over the internet. It's like a fire that starts and daily the wood is added to that fire so it gets more vibrant and stronger daily or a relationship is like a house that will fall apart in a bad storm without being built on a solid foundation as friends first, lovers later...Men wanna skip all of what is necessary and jump to the "sex" of it b/c that is what they really desire the most. BUT yes one they get what they want, things can change (unless of course they are really IN LOVE with you) and I have a sneaky feeling that's gonna take the average man more than a few weeks, am I right here or what. And they also expect TRUST to be automatic. Well I met you here 2 weeks ago so you need to TRUST me when I tell you this BS and that BS and I know it's all a LIE straight from the pits of hell...I will NEVER love you or TRUST you if I have NEVER met you and that is a fact. LOVE and TRUST need to be tried. Actions are louder than words 7 days a week...IF you don't have time to text me or email me or chat with me on hangouts or call me then you DO NOT LOVE ME. A man that loves a woman will make her his PRIORITY period!!! IF you do not feel that you are his number one priority in his life then let it go b/c he is NOT totally serious with you and those are the facts...I am older I should know by now and I do know!!!
“Drama free” is man code for don’t complain, don’t confront me, don’t ask me for anything. Just be glad I’m here.
It is super odd when they post that
"no drama" means "don't hold me accountable when I behave like an asshole". It also means they probably cause 88% of the drama.
Kim H. I could scream at how correct you are. SPOT ON
Some women know this stuff, but when they're with a guy their minds go blank!
Totally agree with this. After a while you start to realise that his behaviour was bad and manipulative. Sometimes you start to realise that after you broke up.
Me....
Wants they keep cheating & filling YOU up ☝ with more B.S. Dump them, but there us no reason to harass the woman that he is Haveing a 7 year relationship stealing her clothes. Bringing in mice from your job. Shmearing them on his girlfriend's drawers. Bringing in maggots. Poisoning her with dead nice in her drink. Stealing all her doctor reports & poems. Breaking in the house. How dirty & sick in the head you are.. Calling their medication. Stuffing live mice in the sink knowing they have no bones & can't swim. How sickening. If anyone wants to talk about what was all done to me Can call me at: 414-892-3626 thanks
@@PoisonedChocoCake timgrrh
That's the devil 👄
1. Not abt sex
2. I don’t believe in labels
3. I’m going to leave her for you
4. I love you
5. Sorry I’ve been busy
Let's hookup.
Charlotte Hanna lol
I don't give out my number i take theirs.... "MTV" MY TIME IS VALUABLE.... AMEN?!
Hes just not that interested in you 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 even tho u know u rocked their world. Coward
If your in a long distance relationship and the time difference is 8 hours then they could be busy working
Bottom line: Ignore most of what he says and watch what he DOES! ACTIONS reveal what's really in their heart !
So true
Truth!
All said n done TRUTH about men from a man Women,girls be aware, wise, n happy
I agree!
Well said. Action speaks louder than mere words
If a man says he loves you and then verbally or physically abuses you, I can pretty much bet that you are dealing with narcissist!!! Also tell a narcissist "no" and you'll see how quickly they rage on you.
1991windsor I had 7 years of this. Truly a monster to me. To this day, the only thing I can come up with is that he is a narcissist.
Like sookie babies
Tel them no they narcist talking com out fake people gone expost them self lie people to.
1,0000000% TRUE ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
@@neuroticgypsy
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If he was, this will erase all doubt!
I believe that if you want a high quality man, you should be a high quality woman yourself. A high quality woman will never want to be romantically involved with a married man. She will not want to destroy a marriage, a family, or another woman just for her own happiness. A high quality woman is not selfish but has a good heart. She does not only respect herself, but others as well.
U r totally right. But he is talking about when the MAN himself lures a women by saying he loves her... and is not getting along well with his wife. That amounts to fooling her just to use her.
Amen
How,..sensible,...but there are few good men,..for women to chose,...so they have to have put up with the insecure ones.
Spot on!
@@SuvaMukherjee No no. You don't get to only be the victim of this. The only time you are not at fault is if he lies and says he is not married and because of that you don't know he is married. But if you know he's married, the fact that the man lures you in and fools you to use you does not get you off the hook for doing your part. You are still wrong for being with a married man. I made that mistake myself. I thought they were separated, but they were still married. He was also very sneaky in how he lured me in. But I still was involved with a married man and that was wrong for me to do.
A man that's into you absolutely 100% always finds time for you and can't stay away from you and is never too busy . They will climb mountains to be with you . When a man serious he's very serious . You just know it. Great advice !!!
What does a woman do?
What!!!Am going through all this
@@Andrewbait sorry just now saw this ...a woman does the same. If she wants to be with you she will find time and will want to be around you all of the time .so pretty much the same thing
@@coredadventure1 If a man loves that much to any woman, she will run away and if any woman loves that much to any man, he will run away either. 😂 Fact is true love doesn't exist.
@@RR-bz3jm that's not true lol ... My brother and his wife have been together 25 years and it's the best marriage I've ever seen they're quite in love and get along perfectly never even had one fight nobody's ran from each other. That's not a good way to think LOL
Mama used to say actions speak louder than words.
Your mama knows best!👍
Dad said believe nothing they say, a small bit of what they show you, but do believe what your gut makes you feel, it won't lie to you!!!
Mama would be right.
I’m sick of these dumb rules and games. Why can’t people just do what they want and say how they really feel? Is it really that hard to be honest?
100% agreed
@Corrie yea I'm lost to as what you meant in the last sentence. Can you elaborate some more??
@Corrie yes it does
Thnx for that. 🙏🙏🙏
Absolutely. Men are attracted to women that they can manipulate. If you are a strong enough women that you can decipher and see into all the little games they play, they really don’t want to be put in that situation. Because they know that they cannot scam you. And because they can’t they don’t want to play.
Corrie women should help other women no matter what..last time a married men approached me...I told his wife, it doesn’t matter whether she believes you or not, you plant the seed to open her eyes
Another thing men lie about
"I'll never leave you"
That's right! My husband of 25 years left me for another woman. And I'm finding that the best relationship that I have is the one that I found being alone. The hell with men they're all the same narcissistic, gaslighting assholes.
@Deanna Swanson I'm very sorry you had this experience, but in reality, you've created an entire theory based on n=1. You might want to take the time to heal your wounds and then open your mind to other truths. Otherwise you might slip into rage and bitterness, and that would be sad for you and for the others in your life.
@@LoralLee Very wise words of advice, thank you!👍
Damn right
Yeah ur right
My bf always said that to me But his action is very different
Treat her like a priority, watch the magic happen! Women can be amazing if you treat her right!
Most women are amazing, period. It's your problem if you don't treat her right. Being treated right doesn't make someone amazing. It's not like domestication a feral street cat with love and food.
@@nm6818 totally missed the point. You just want to hear yourself . Men can be amazing as well. I've been with the same woman for 30 years but what do I know. Lol
True
Is she going to treat me like a priority?
Or, like normal, men come after the kids, career, and anything else she feels is more important at the time.
Except his paycheck......I have to correct that, its definitely a first priority always.😁
@@ericgoingoverseas5064 lol well to my wife I come before everyone,including our daughter. This is how it should be. kids aren,t with us forever.
When a man wants to spend time with you ... he will make you his priority and find the time, no matter how demanding his career is ... don’t listen to excuses and don’t be one of his booty calls!
Exactly! A man will never be too busy to see a woman he wants to see. I know of three men who dated their now wives long distance. Not only do they work but they had to travel to see her / and they did! Let this be a lesson ladies. If he’s giving you excuses then pull back and stop seeing him. I learned the hard way
wrong ,a sensible man will always prioritize his career because he knows that if he loses his career , he will lose his woman and all other amenities , but if career is great and loses his woman, he will get another one very easily.
The best advice that I received decades ago, came from a pastor. He said "take notice of how he treats his mother. This is how he'll treat you." That was my wakeup call! Thanks Pastor Jim
Yes I heard this one before . I agree. Apparently a mother or big sister whom had a positive influence , can help boy later in life with his interactions with the opposite gender .
Don't count on this. My son treats his wife like a queen, which is amazing. When it comes to me, his mom, he treats me very poorly. We had an amazing relationship when he was growing up. .I know he's married. I'm so glad he is happy
I would just like to have a cup of coffee with my son once in a while
Be careful with that... Lots of boy-men are at their Moms house often.... Then still there after marriage. Jezebels create Narcissistic boys, test the spirits.
Not always true my Ex husband loved and treated his mother good and even cried when recalling how mad he was at his dad for making his mother cry when betraying her with another women. Guess wat he turned around did same thing his dad did to his mother.
Wonderful video thanks 🙏
The first important step in here is
"love _YOURSELF_ first"
Then you will find the righ
and a perfect one to
complete your life.
Define self respect. Does that mean don’t have sex before marriage?
Not necessarily ......u never know who is entering ur life with what intentions.
Are you joking????? I m 60 all I meet is gigolos and losers!!!!!!!
Hi jason I have a question about this named roger I met on line I haven't met him yet I am still talking to him on line it been a long time since I met him sometimes he pulls and then he will contact like a month later I text him but he doesn't respond oh he said that he lost his phone he ha a really demanding job but no one is that busy, so should I break it off I also have been praying about it thank you
@@ttzitz4977 Did you see him in a video call?
Also many scammers : catfish out there online.
Many men often say they were very busy.
For some it may be true, for others a game.
Hard to tell.
Never to busy to send a text if you miss someone but that's my personal thinking.
Hope it turns out well for you and...speaking for myself I prayed about one special love which was a complete illusion.
I freed myself from believing in predestination.
It brought me nothing but hurt and trouble.
All I have is the key to direct my own destiny in life and select what is respect or reject disrespect.
Patience and understanding is a beautiful feature but may be extorted by people who enjoy playing games with our heart ♥
Stay safe and wishing you much genuine love a sweet man who won't have you guessing regularly where you stand.
Many heartless people on this planet taking advantage, emotionally, physically or financially.
He knew me all of 5 minutes and asked me over to his house to watch “Snuggle Movies ‘. He didn’t think I knew that was code for let’s have sex , when I said no , he never talked to me again lol
Hello I know of someone who can help you just as he did mine he helped me fix my broke. Relationship
Contact him for help via WhatsApp
You were up on game. That's good.
Tats smart of u..well done...it saves u fr being heart broken after the loving is over...
@@snowgoddessmissy7781 text him on whtzapp
I am a mental health therapist and this video is truth. If I could teach women anything it would be to love and respect themselves first! If you love and respect yourself, you won’t fall for these lines/strategies.
It's not always about that. You can respect yourself and still get caught in the snare of master manipulator/ narcissist. They know exactly what they're doing.
I had a married man after me and obviously I turned him down repeatedly. But he kept trying. He was a coworker so it was hard to avoid him.
He even texted me sporadically over the years since he was fired, still trying to get in with me. I blocked his number. He's still married and has kids. And I guarantee he's been trying to get with other women or already has. He spins his sob story to women trying to sound like the victim, making his wife sound like the villain. He's evil.
@@cozy46 you should be proud of yourself..for not falling for this NARC..they are EVIL DEMONIC people..that only GOD can deliver them...& save them...& the rest of the people should run away as far as they can from them..like you did..i advice you to also change your phone.number..so that this narc can't reach you anymore.. THEY ARE SOOOOO DANGEROUS...
Keep safe!!
It's interesting how all of these "coaches" are teaching women what/how men are. Why don't all coaches start coaching men on being a good personality with morals and good behavior. Start teaching men not only just women 😑
You really think men are interested in learning better behaviour?? 😂😂 That's why... All we can do is protect ourselves. Let's be realistic, not idealistic.
Right! Where's the coach to teach men on how to be REAL GOOD MEN, that's what is really needed today in the world
Hahaha... Well.. It's not like liars don't know themselves when they lie. They don't care as long as it works for them. They could have changed a long time ago.
Trust me, the best punishment for them is the loneliness that videos like these will make them fall into because the women bossed up.
@Azra there are male couches who only focus on men only. I follow their work to learn more about men. There ate coaches who focus on both genders.
@@marrietvisser6195 Yes, but most of the coaches for men do not teach men how to be better people. They teach them what to do to get a woman, how to get more sex, how to seduce effectively, etc. I think what Azra is saying is that instead of teaching women how to detect asshole behaviour (lies, etc.) it would be nice to also teach men NOT to be assholes (NOT to lie, etc.)!
Don't rush into any relationship, take your time...enjoy!!
I never understood why some women want to be with a guy that is already taken. He obviously is a cheater, so why would he not cheat on u as well.
I agree with you 100%. Some of them don't know until they're already in luv. Some need the ego boost of them being better than someone else. Some of those girls have been cheaters themselves, so this is just another game to them. I mean-- when you think about it....IF you don't walk away from a person when you know they have somebody else THAN you are a cheater too. That's two cowardly people who should be guilty for the same person's pain.
Exactly 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
What do you mean by taken?A big part of the problem is society's definition of single; which once meant unmarried.Being single was a time dating(not sleeping around) before finding someone to commit to. A person don't cheat where there's no commitment.Women tend to think sex = love and the sooner they realize that sex without commitment is just sex.There are men just as naive that think the act signifies more than it does.
@@hazelsunderstood6784 What is this patriarcal thinking ??? nobody belongs to anyone. If someone makes you feel good why don't you just live the present moment and enjoy the moment with that person. Why is it absolutely necessary that he belongs to you exclusively for the rest of your life for you to enjoy a moment with him (and vice versa)
@@barbararichardson2747 100% nobody should belong to anyone.
When a man starts talking about his exes on your first date, run! If he's interested in you, his focus will be on you.
Wow....I wish I knew this 8 months ago🤦🏿♀️💔
•Queen• •Sheila• girl same 😳 i’m such a fool 🤦♀️
True
Someone Out there I feel you girl, like I saw small signs but I didn’t think nun of it until shit became worse and he showed me that he gives 0 fucks about my feelings. I’m over him now lol 😂
Mine was talking about his assistant
YES living alone is very peaceful and truly relaxing!
Yes!
Oh wow yes!
I’d rather be single. These men will damage you!
@@korger1481 -but i believe in true love.... i'm so lonely
Yup!
I found one🙏🏻 1993 still strong today🥰28 yrs going
Lücken you. .I 🙏 I Will find a reliable honest man
Congratulations ❤
"My phone broke and I lost all contacts" 😂
classic!
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I am 59. I did not meet my Mr. Right until I was 54...after I’d mistakenly married Mr. “I’ll do” the year before b/c I didn’t want to die alone. I gave up after a lifetime of being told I was sexually free to make choices (the 80s were my 20s...) and I ate it all up. With low self-esteem issues, I have a lot to ask forgiveness for, it took me a long time to VALUE myself enough to put myself first. My husband today is everything and beyond what he speaks of - b/c I VALUED myself first.
Tamela Candler Sweet🥰🥰🥰
Tamela Candler I’m 43 yrs old and I haven’t given up yet it does get very frustrating thinkin Ok, this is it only to realize it’s another dud🤨😒. But I have faith that I’ll eventually have that Mr. Right as well💯😁
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Tamela Candler thanks for the honesty it helps us ladies out.
You give me hope. Thank you
I’m sick of all these games....
Why can’t we just be ourselves?
Political correctness
Exactly
Folks don't know how, so you have to protect yourself.....and take your time...
@@bettyhenderson1621 very wise advise mam 🙏
True
This is true. I've been there. I'm sick of these lies and trying to figure men out. I won't put up with crap anymore.
Some men love the chase and will wait for months to do it's fifty chance he stay
@@julianwelsh3600 only men who are players like the chase real men Ethier think you're not interested in them or you're too high maintenance so we dont bother because some of you women think leading us on for months to years with nothing to show for it. So we think that you dont want us so we look else where.
@Carly Fournier alpha men only chase because they always have back ups. Average men like us dont have a chance so damn if we do damn if we dont
First. They say they want you they doesn't. Really.need you suddenly they find you out there just walking in a storm. Neal Diamond
If you married and your husband treated like you never existed what you should do about it
That is why in our Indian Culture, I fell blessed that they teach us the Principle - NEVER sleep with a man unless he is married to you & fully committed to you. .... marriage is a BIG safety fence for women. Women should treat themselves as a precious Gem that cannot be so easily got.
I really see how Indian culture is so honorable . I feel that is how Americans were in the 50’s now life is not
@@SanaPrincesswarrior true, the phrase "old is gold" does apply to many things....... in fact many Indians in the towns are now imitating "modern" life, it has led to women being used, rampant abortions and suicides .
I love the old Indian culture. Unfortunately, many of the younger people are only interested in losing their virginity and are not looking for a partner.
Soo true...
Agreed!
Men be like “the last thing i will do is hurting you.. It’s still on my list though...”
Haha, they all say that, until they have a bad day and hurt you anyway yeah. Every single guy I ever dated has hurt me and cussed me out.
They can't help it, low emotional mastery and low emotional intellect. I date Introverted guys with poor socialization skills.
I love intelligent and highly independent/self-sufficient guys, but that means high Ti and low Fe, guys that don't understand how emotions work, or how girls work.
Exactly!! The last one was like "I don't wanna hurt you" Guess what....he did!! It should be on that list! It means 100% he will hurt you and the worst thing, he knows he will, it's a done deal!! Saying it.... somehow, makes him feel better, in a sense, you have been warned!!
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Hahahaha facts
Wish someone told me all these things when I was young. Listen up Ladies. You're getting the best advice possible. We grow too soon old and too late smart.
Great pearls!!! @Helen Morton
Truee
A good man who
never lie
Never cheat
Never bother
Never flirt
And never exist.
The best man in the house will be the dog. LoL. He is always, honest, reliable, and always in mood to cuddle, and will always be happy to see you when you come home.
😀 the last part...
YES, YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!
True true😢😢💔💔💔
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Loving the peace and solitude after walking away from my toxic husband 🙏🌈
👏 congratulations
Congrats for having the courage to do so! now, how are you doing now? Are you healing? Take some time away to let yourself grieve and heal( if you are not doing this already).
Or he died. Had Refused 2 listen ‘How 2 b healthy’.Bit him 2 his end.
i bet he was happy to leave you also
Had to have a covert narcissist evicted from my home and he "it" still wouldn't go for 5 more months at which point I called the police on his drunk, squatting worthless, pathologically lying, manipulatory, abusive ass.
It was like living in hell in my own home, so yes I can relate! !
This is the most accurate video I’ve seen in a long time, this will save a lot of women time and help them protect their hearts.
Doris from New Zealand here. It has been my experience that many men are as truthful and monogamous as their options. At 62, I am incredibly happy to be single (divorced now for 12 years). Was on the dating scene soon after my marriage break-up and was disappointed at the lack of transparency and lies told/misrepresentations (especially after conducting background checks). Also, there's a lot of guys with personality disorders, major issues, excess alcohol and other compulsions, complaints about their ex. etc. [including one notable "Cluster B" man that I was involved with for a year, who had strategized the entire "relationship" - he had really fooled me]. No regrets about my experiences …. made me realise exactly what I DON'T want. My life is now full and happy - spending time with my adult children, grandchildren, great friends and operating a business that I love.
Doris from New Zealand is exactly right a lot of personality disorders out there....ever heard of NPD disorder? At first everything is perfect then not so perfect and you cannot fix a personality disorder....get out ASAP! They should be teaching about personality disorders in school.
Conducting background checks.... wow
Love your comments.....I would be totally happy if my grandsons hadn't grown up lol. They gave me so much love and affection I didn't not need to be in a relationship. I believe quality men are mostly taken...I also believe most women do not leave good men. I am on dating sites for entertainment lol.
do not leave
Same here
"Also, there's a lot of guys with personality disorders, major issues, excess alcohol and other compulsions, complaints about their ex. etc. "
And then after they pass all of that scrutiny, they are still required to like YOU.
Good luck ...
So true. I know the "I'm busy" excuse is false bc my brother was extremely busy one week, moving, working ot, and spending time with his kid. Even after all that, he still made time to see the girl he liked. Even when you're busy, you want to be around the person you like.
I can't stand people who use "I'm busy" as an excuse for everything. I mean come on, unless your job is to be a president of a country or you are a Hollywood star, you can't be that busy to make a phone call to your niece on her birthday, to send an email or meet up for a coffee. People should say: "it wasn't my priority that's why I didn't [insert action].
Exactly, if he wants to see you, he'll move mountains to do it. Your brother sounds like a good sort. 💪
@@Mariana-ud7dw Yes. Now a stalker situation is quite different, is what I'm going through. But yeah, he's pretty okay most times.
EXACTLY
No one needs to be anyone's number 2!!! I know also women like this. This behavior of shitty person.
A house deep in the woods with a beautiful dog and my 15 yr old daughter sounds Phenomenal when I listen to these videos. When you are high quality , it’s understandable why you’re single this day and age.
A man Saying “I love you.” Should never be the reason to sleep with him!
Many feel like that 😂
Whether he's young or not, a real man is not scared of u being vulnerable, affectionate or communicative.
6. I have never felt this way before.
Jacqueline Green 😂😂😂
Aahahaha... yup yup. Good one.
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Is the impression to weaking you so they can get into your panties easily. I never felt this way before. Is the fake impression for them to get into your panties and you are not the first person that heard this word and definitely you wouldn't be the last to hear that. This is his charm word that makes him wins to get into you. Open your eyes 👀 to see and start smelling things when they are miles away. Good bye.
I must say I had a good laugh reading the comments.Mostly because as a woman I can relate to them. It's almost silly how stupid and gullible we women can be when desperately seeking to be loved.I mean some of these lies are so obvious but as women we tend to hold on believing for miracles that never happen. Ladies,let's not live for men but live for ourselves first.Sometimes it's better to be alone than be a miserable,unfulfilling relationship.
Amen. Ive been divorced and single, not wanting to mingle forgoing on 21 years now and I am so happy and peace filled.
Your first love should be yourself.
I Agree,but you don't have to choose between loneliness or toxic relationships, I believe there is someone out there for everyone
If he's going to leave his wife for you then he is also going to leave you for his new mistress once you have the wife label.
Those words should be in the Bible. 👍
Absolutely
What if you decide you will never marry him?
@@stacym5943 Then you have escaped a painful emotional trap. You should celebrate your freedom.
@@gwillis01 I'm divorced I don't know if I could remarry and I wouldn't trust him obviously.
I am with the man I prayed for. He is wonderful, thoughtful, caring, understands we don't have to be glued at the hip. We respect each other's space. We don't night club, or have a group of people who are friends and hang out. We're happy with that. We have so much in common, and we don't have loud fights. We've argued, but nothing serious. It always gets worked out. We don't blame, or accuse one another. I feel very fortunate to have him in my life. I do know he loves me. It shows.
Woow happy for you.I hope to find a the best man for me too😊🙏
.. LIFE reserves US so many UGLY suprises..like It has for me..loving & marring someone. that revealed later on to be a Narc..keep your guard ALWAYS up...I Wish you the best...
I am Happy for you!
I have and still Pray and Hope for the same.
You are the only girl I talk to, “ I think we should be together” such an lie
Yes, VERY TYPICAL!!
Not really lmao
It can be true...if his actions are following his words.
@h w and you don't stereotype women?? We are here to share our thoughts. Not to be judged.
It’s almost impossible to find a man now ..,all these dating apps are the same recycled men
In my case a man tried to get me to his house after 1, 2 date, I rejected that, then he offered a relationship title. I said we need to know each other better, he turned it against me that I have too many choices if I reject the offer and he doesn't want to waste time. He only wanted sex obviously.
Omg what an idiot he was
Wow. I am so glad you made a wise choice. Because multiple of these men will look at your body and use it (because that’s what he wants obviously 🙄) So to all the women DONT LET THAT MAN USE you
Wise decision
The last relationship I was in the guy didn't even try to kiss me until we were on our third date and it was a mild kiss and I think we were together six to eight weeks before anything ever happened physically. He tried somewhere around 5 weeks but I stopped in and I think we dated for two more weeks.
He was a total gentleman and my dad used to always say he was loyal and I told my dad "dogs are loyal"😂😂 he broke up with me because I was 10 days late even though I wasn't pregnant and he tried to come back three and a half months later and I'd simply told him I had nothing to say.
I know people aren't perfect but goodness gracious that tore me up and it took a long time to get over that break up and I certainly wasn't going back. Once people bust my trust like that I don't ever trust them again and I don't care if their family or who they are.
What I saw in him after four years was a man that was either selfish or he just wanted to date forever and never get married or he just didn't want kids in the first place.. I already had two kids by my first marriage of 10 years. Honestly it's something about that ever did bother him he should have said something about that long before but he never seemed to care and we would take the kids swimming and everything.
I believe men can say "I Love You" and mean it and still cheat. Love doesn't mean the same thing to a man that it does to a woman. To women, love is equated with loyalty and commitment. To many men, it's just a feeling. You need to ask for clarification when they say "I Love You". And then watch them...
A terrible guy I dated for a short time put it this way: "Love's nice, but it comes with a lot of obligation." RUN from these dudes! The prettier the exterior package, the more wary one should be of what's on the inside. A lot of guys left on the market have gotten away with a ton of bad behavior and are broken in ways that can't be 'fixed' with love or anything else.
@@evyjayI’m sorry but I can’t agree. I though as you, good looking men are players. I decided to to get the man that girls would never find attractive, a chance. He could make me laugh and seemed so kind. Well, that man nearly destroyed me. He insult me and demean me until I believed every word he said. He would message girls being sweet to them and showing me. I didn’t understand why he was doing this to me until I finally got out. He had no self worth so he did all this to me, to make himself feel better about himself. He was a terrible person and I have seen it with many not attractive men. These men will cheat if a girl finally shows them interest bc they have never been tested before or been given attention… they just can’t say no. An attractive person who has had very few partners is the keeper. Why? Bc this person has had many offers but didn’t sleep with everyone. It shows integrity. A man who isn’t attractive and hasn’t had any previous partners doesn’t mean he is a good person or faithful. Just means, he hasn’t had the option to sleep with many or had the option to cheat. Better to be with the person who had/has options and offers but showed restraint.
If a man loves you he is with you, protects you, and adores you. What men have to understand is we are not always adorable , he has to be willing to stay until you become adorable again.
On
Take take but never give
You can't believe everything a man tells you that is why i am single and loving it have a piece of mind
@Lisa McCray - Hi Lisa🌸 I’m happy that you are enjoying your life with or without a man. In the future, please know you have “peace” of mind ... the other one is ... “I’d like to give that guy a “piece” of my mind! Most of us would, but if we did it often, we wouldn’t have a mind left. Think back to your math classes and remember a pie only has so many pieces ... but peace of mind is worth more than gold. Take care and know I wasn’t trying to offend you. The English language is the most complex because we have the largest vocabulary in the world and it’s easy to confuse. TPWK ... that’s Treat People With Kindness . . . I’m a massive Harry Styles fan and I’m 61. Just an FYI from one Lisa to another😉 Smile 🦋 Lisa
@@justwhatilike...234 Sometimes things are misspelled because people use the microphone icon and it spells it out for you.
@@SuperOceanfront1 or autocorrect, if you hit return without re reading who you wrote, the blasted thing changes it on you.
@@elvirafeher4254 what you doing
Only 5 lies....really....more like 50
Peggy Joseph right
True 50 or more.
50?more like 1,000
This is like the prelude to his lies... the first 5...
That's true 😂😂
A good man is kind, generous and loves and treats his mother well. Only these things will be okay for me.
Hello Anandasea... How are you doing today.... 💕💕💕💕💕
And I hope you do stay safe due to the pandemic over there.?
Very safe. Thank you.
@@AnandaSea Okay that's nice...
But if I may ask well exactly are you from please.?
@@AnandaSea And I hope family and friends are all safe like you do.?
@@maxwellmark986 you can ask but I won't answer.
I love how you remind us that we deserve better.. over and over... because we DO! Thank you.
Now that I'm a bit older, and hopefully a little wiser, I'd say that all 5 of these are lies I've heard at one time or another. Some men are better at telling them than others. The biggest thing I've found to be helpful in determining this is: Do his actions match his words? If not, "thank you, next".
exactly, words need to match with actions, after a week of interaction, not physically, I can tell where is his mind and the game he want to play with me. I let go very easy😊 . its about time to learn from our mistakes.
I love u u
I like u u
Merry me 😍😍💑💑
@@MuhammadImran-ln4fz 😒😒😒 Dude...Seriously?
The 5 lias :
1-It's not about sex
2-I don't believe in labels
3-I'm going to leave her for you
4-I love you
5-I have been busy
Lol👍 there's your sign!
Oopssss the 4th and the 5th
Depends on the person heads space. My friend married a guy and slept with him on first night?. What's meant to be will be you attract what you think and feel. !
@@maxmm-bn8qm B/c that two are shallow, low-quality people to have sex on the first day and end up getting married right away! LOL. I pretty much bet that they're losers and good luck to their future!! :))
@@미미월드-q5b I don't see what's wrong with 2 people having sex on the first night if they feel like doing it. Sex isn't a wrong thing, whether you meet the person for the first time or the 100th time. That doesn't make them low quality people
1. “It’s not about sex. I really want to get to know you.”
This is one of the most common lies men tell women.
Perhaps you’ve heard it yourself over and over.
It can come disguised in many different forms, such as “Let’s go back to my place for a drink. We don’t have to do anything you don’t want to.” Or “Of course, I don’t mind taking things slow. I want us to have a connection before things get heated.”
No matter how nice of a guy he is - if he is dating you, he wants to sleep with you.“
Not always in Christian culture
A man fades out and I forget all about them real fast. Never sleeping with them makes life easy.
For a lot of men is visual and sex. We must respect ourselves as women.
You're words are gospel! Thank you!
Yes
And for a lot of women its visual and financial.
It's all about the chase. Most guys want what they cant have. I've had to learn to stop making myself so readily available to guys. I've experienced it so many times-they want you so badly, then when they have you they dont want you anymore. Then when you are gone and over it, they want you back 🙄
@Precious Moment Yes, it's true.
sometimes they try to come back too but you can give them the door slam.
I know what its like to be played. You must love yourself enough to take care of your own connection of who you really are and never settle for what you don't want in a man for that matter. You have to love yourself in order to be loved the way you want. Never settle for less of what you need from a man.
Most Common lie : I am not married...
Conny S.A. 😂🤣💀🤦🏾♀️
Poor unsuspecting wives sat at home thinking their husbands are the best thing since sliced bread.Ladies , my heart bleeds for you
Most common lies by men are : I am not lying , you can trust me, you're paranoid
Or I'll call you.
or: I am married but my wife doesn't understand me. A classic !!!
This needs to be taught to all young teenage girls... and the others could use reminders!
Yep! Im watching. The comment above is something I heard from my boyfriend. "I love how you think". Let me find out....
Zulu unfortunately they won’t listen, remember teenagers are smarter than their parents or most others adults. lol
Teenagers are too young to be told this - wait until their in their early 20’s. Teenagers should be out having fun not dating seriously
and men too, because women do that same thing lol. It goes both ways
@@nageewhitehead5299 Hmm how did that turn out??
My best relationship advice is make them prove almost everything they say they won't do. As the saying goes " Actions speak louder than words ". If they truly luvvv you tell them too truly literally show it.
I wished I had known these things all my adult life ...he is spot on ! The trouble is it’s difficult to see them when you love someone
Agreed
I just read this...Ladies next time you meet a player say this - “Hello, I heard you’re a player, nice to meet you I’m the coach!” That should give him pause.
I luvvvv that so much...!!
When I saw that saying, I was like this is such a true saying.
Damn... What do I need to do to become a starter?
ooh that was good! 👍🤣
That's friggin great ,thanks for that
My advice, if the man loves you, you’ll know when he respects you, if he lust or you lust it’ll all be boring. The greatest relationships is in love and respect for each other.
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Very true I've been saying that for a long time if a man loves a woman he will show great respect for that woman otherwise you got nothing
if a men loves you without lust, he will cheat. I must love you and lust you. Love + Lust that makes the best sex of your life
A divorced man told me that marriage vows usually are broken by alcohol, drugs, coworkers or Plain boredom.
Then why did he had a failed relationship himself..he should b questioning his own life.
I have to say your video is very accurate! I am now a strong woman and healed myself. It took awhile but "let go of all toxic people, places and things that no longer serve me! Love yourself first! ❤
Too much hard work trying to figure them out. No thanks. I'm so happy to be single!!
And if you figure them out, you want to stay single even more! 😂
@@kornaxon3522 Please elaborate. If all women communicates like you, how do you expect man to please you or meet your expectation. Stupid generalisation without substance like your comments are the root of hate speech
Basically, 1% of men are high quality.
Totally agree
A Biblically-Defined Born-Again Christian man SHOULD be a man of integrity, and there are LOTS of them!
@@thankyoudearjesus1 Where
1%????
That sounds too much
They might not always be your type but they won't let you down lol
Ladies just stay single. Problem solved
Really..why do u think so. I'm contemplating on this..
here here 👍👍
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Agreee
Amen
You are a strong woman, you deserve better. Who wouldn't feel great hearing that kind of affirmation? Love it
i'm busy is ok when ur married to a man, he bought you a nice car and nicer home and puts money in your bank account because he works hard all day to provide for you and your household. my hubs never ignores me, even if he only texts me back during his workday. he always tells me he loves me and I do the same. meet a quality guy by not being desperate and not lowering your standards, and most definitely BE FEMININE! women have been brainwashed to be confused, chase after men, pay on a date with a man, all types of ridiculous unfeminine things. if you want a good man you must allow him to chase you, earn show and prove himself, be receptive to all good things but cut him off if he wants you to be "independent" and still be able to access the most intimate parts and excluscivity of yourself. HE MUST SHOW, PROVE, PROVIDE, PROTECT, AND EARN HIS WAY INTO YOUR LIFE. unless you just want to be used, abused, pimpt out, played, left with a dusty baby daddy who don't pay the bills, and probably some kinda veneral disease--------------- don't do it. Never ever. He must add n contribute to your life, or he shall have no place in it. ACCEPT NO DUSTY MEN!
That's fine if you want that but I think I'm just as feminine by being independent, having my own things, career, and life. He should add to my life, not be my life, if he doesnt BECAUSE I am independent I can throw him out like trash and be perfectly fine.
I take mine out on dates, buy him gifts, spoil him, but only because he puts in the same effort for me. To each thier own~
so true.... though I'm one who's not so in favor of long so long time of getting to know each other thing.. if you're responsible enough a yr. is more than enough of getting to know eats 😛 other. you. never ever know each other not until you live in Tha same roof. adjustment period never ends.. that's up to you both to keep your love. growing... glowing. burning... charooot. norture it with love and respect. everything that will keep it alive and life so beautiful.!!! you can only serve one master at a time ... or you only please one and displease the other.... 😜😍🙄!!! tiktok!!! JapKor.. it's so hard to find a man the way you would have wanted.. 😢🤔🤔true and sincere...!!! just love me simply love me whoever you are... 😜cause if you love truly you wl never do anything that will make her him unhappy.!!! whaaaat are you saying😜😜😜😅
Wow so true
Word!
Honestly nice advice, if your relationship is so great why are you watching this video?
I'm 31 and I was with a guy for 8 years... and it just broke me.. but it must have been for the better, a blessing in disguise
What happened that you two broke up? Im sorry btw 😟
I've been in a 7 going on 8 year relationship long distance. We stopped phone calls just text. Eventhough I told him about the issue and he said he would improve. But it fell back to the same pattern twice. It took me leaving him to actually notice that I was worthet. Now he is trying to fight for me.
I had a similar experience.. sending you hugs now.
DollFace : walk on and never go back to him. Never go on a Long distance relationship for that Long. He was busy stringing you along. You are worth it & may God bless you with the right guy soon.
A man who loves you ( Long distance relationship ) would want to close that GAP & be with you ASAP. It won’t have to take “Years”.
Coming from a man. A great guy is someone who, first and foremost, is not primarily interested in sex and material things, but a woman and companion to spend his whole life with. I should think that if your heart is in the right place you will automatically find him. He does not hang out in clubs. He is not just looking for fun. All these games that the sexes play are bullshit because they don't have at their heart true commitment and companionship. Find someone from church. Go to the places where you know the person is committed to more than just self-gratification.
Point well taken.
Nah dude. Too many players in church pews. Very bad advice there.
@Carly Fournier I didn't say anything was always true. From my experience though, women can't trust men in the church any better than the average guy on the street.
thankyou
Keep God in the middle.
My past relationships were toxic. I realized that I was listening to their words not to their actions. I was one sided. But this is a big help. Thanks^^ My Dad is a good and loving Dad. I'm still looking for someone who's like my Dad or even better.
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My daughter stayed with a man with BPD since high school and into 15 years of marriage...she kept thinking he could change lol.
I knew shortly after I met him he was
an narcissist. My daughter eventually gave up.
I put your videos and my husband overheard me listening. Ladies, another man confirms the message of this channel.
But men will say they love you even if you’re fully already sleeping with them and totally ok with it being casual.
They’ll even make you break up with other people you’re seeing.
It’s NEVER about sex with people like this. It’s about control and power.
It’s about sexual abuse.
"Men are like hunters" ah yes. So we admit that were talking about predatory behavior??
@Amazing World I don’t understand how what you’re saying relates to what I’m saying. Humans are a monogamous creature, though not exclusively or permanently monogamous. And that’s fine.
Im saying that abusers will demand monogamy while having no intention of being monogamous. Because they hate anyone being okay with being polyamorous. They don’t get off on either having one partner or having multiple; they need to be tricking partners and “winning” over someone.
@Amazing World what? What type of abuser shows that they are abusive BEFORE they abuse? That would be a very ineffective abuser.
@Amazing World what are you saying is not entirely true? Every word I wrote is true. It happens so much 150 people on a random post relate to it. SO FAR. Men will demand monogamy, say they love you, all AFTER already having been having sex with Yu, make you break up with anyone else you’re seeing with the promise of wanting to build a relationship, and then disappear. You’ve never heard of people…… LYING before? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@Amazing World that was my point. Men will already have you, already be having the sex, you can not be demanding exclusivity, but THEY demand the exclusivity, ask to build relationship, and then once you break up with all your other prospects and agree to be their only partner, thats when they’ll cheat or lie or disappear. Anxious and avoidant insecure attachment styles are very common.
The only thing I hate about this video is I didn't hear this before I got married!!!
Marriage is for losers.
@@machida58 Are you a man? Watch the RUclips channel KnowingBetter video taking the red pill.
@rocky mountain lass No. It's a trap.
@leila lalala Women can't be trapped in marriage.
I wish I knew this before I got married too
Im 62 and tired of constant lies and tricks and mistreatment. I knew i should of been a Nun! Lol!
I feel you sister!
Never that sis
I was seeing someone like this, I told him I don’t want to see him anymore due to his flakyness. He protested and I explained to him that he was one of 5 guys I was seeing and the guy who sees me the most wins. He was dumbstruck to know he was one of MY retainer guys.
Never focus on just one person, then you’ll always have backups, you May even care less when one doesn’t meet up with you, but you’ll also really enjoy it when you let someone go and say “I have 5 other guys on the rotation and you’re kind of messing up the schedule by canceling and being lame”
The guy often insisted I was the only one (i on the other hand didn’t insist such a thing)
He did make future plans too (sometimes) but his communication style was too slow and random.
I think if even one of these red flags comes up you need to run. Don’t get swayed by the a few good points, when it comes to interest it needs to be 10/10
If not a hell yeah then it’s a hell no.
HEY there, I really loved what you said here about having backups...THE ONE WHO PAYS THE MOST ATTENTION TO ME WINS... NEVER focus on just one person (man) in my case so you'll always have a backup...YOU GO GIRL!!!
I meet men on the internet that are here today and gone tomorrow. They sometimes just have to read one thing wrong that I wrote them on an email or on a google hangouts or on a text message and all they sudden they flip and I never hear anymore from them. Good thing he wasn't my only interest or I would be OUT and lonely again. SO I communicate with probably 3-4 at once that way when one or two back down for whatever reasons, the others are still there while I add another one or two to replace what I lost...Some day it's cheating but you and I call it SMART!! I am happy I met read from you as we do certainly see face to face, eye to eye dear, we are definitely on the same page with this issue...MORE than one is always best for me...I have had many tell me OH YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE I AM COMMUNICATING WITH...HONEY YOU ARE THE ONLY REASON I COME ON THIS DATING SITE...OH, PLEASEEEEEE DON'T bs ME. I GET SO SICK OF IT ALL...I do wonder often if there is a man alive that can tell the TRUTH!!!
wandakate robinson - true
It’s not cheating until it’s commitment though.
I’ve played the game of focusing on one guy I saw twice a week
I was sure the frequency meant we were an item then one day 9 months in I asked
He said “no”
This is why it’s important to have clarity and labels honestly. And if you have no label then see as many people as you like
Especially if the dates are sparse.
I love what you said to this guy. Good for you! You know how to play the game. You don't get so hung up on one guy if you are dating several.
just like my sister says "don't have one of anything" 😉
@@wandakate2041 I'm the same, got to keep the rotation going especially if one date goes sour....
i sent this to my close friend who has been confusing and sad about her relationship. i think low self esteem makes her nervous and blind her eyes and mind. thank you for sharing this wisdom!!
Sometimes you just love them way too deeply, and it’s hard to let go of them, even though you know that should be the right thing to do.
Exactly and you blame them instead of accepting that their contribution in your life is over
My friend you are true100%
How do you tell your heart to stop loving a man that you have been with for15 years and gave him your whole heart ..you know he is lieing to you every day over where he goes and who he is with ..he gets mad when you say anything about him lieing to you and will look you in the eye and tell you he loves only you and he isn't cheating on you but you you he cheated once befor what do you do?
That’s need, codependency, not love
I feel ya!😔
This guy's message is solid!! The foundation is to love yourself. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you. Respect for yourself will not come until you love yourself. We need more positivity in our lives to remind ourselves how truly special we all are.
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6 no i don' t have a relationship
7 i am not like the others
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How about,we’re just friends.🙄”There’s nothing going on,she’s like my sister “.Bull Sh*+
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I am not like the others should've been #1
So true
MS T yep heard that too!
What happened to honesty , integrity. Does it even exist anymore?
Barely
@@cecesmith6229 👍
💕good luck!!!
that's what i keep wondering... :(
Now this here is a life changer for me. It screams love yourself more.
Basically all you need to do is be impossible to HIM. Impossible is the key word and easy to remember. Also treat him the way he treats you and if he attempts to get a hair bit out of line ALWAYS be a step ahead of him. If he is not for you or has a woman in his life just walk away and DO NOT waste your time. Trust me it's not worth it to waste your time. Good luck and God bless.
Hi. Thank you for this video. I been dating this older divorced guy with kids for 3 months. He's been inconsistent and flaky with plans. I been feeling like a non-priority to him. I finally had it when he could not commit to a sleep over 3 months ago and been keeping my dating options open since. I also see struggles with power at home where walks on egg shells around his adult children and can't stay firm in his decisions. He has strings to his past as well. While the chemistry is good and I miss him, I refuse to waste my time nurturing a damaged man.
Another one: " You are not like the others . You are so interesting,"! Ha ha ha! That's it, i am gonna live single!
No wonder Meghan Trainor wrote the song 'NO'.
My soon to be ex husband said that crap now we heading for divorce cheated every chance he got I'm done
I’m 54 and this is some of the best advice I’ve ever been given, I am embarrassed to admit that this vlog was a huge lightbulb moment for me ,Thank you !
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How are you sweet beauti friend ??
This is the clearest explanation and most perfect and logical explanation, I have ever heard of, for knowing when a man is definitely not commiting to the woman whom he "occasionally" spends "some time"with.
Yes, I totally agree:- wish him well and tell him you are looking for a sincere love not what he is offering.
Cut off that relationship and God will send the real macoy love who respects you the way you really mean about the sincere love you want in your life..... 'May God's Blessings Remain WithbYou Always."
Ooohhh thank you I'm relieved I've been in a toxic relationship I'm leaving him for good thank you so much
Women just need to be selfish when it comes to dealing with men
Period!!! @ the Empress
Yeah!! Don't do anything selfless.. Never change your plans or compromise anything important for them until you know that he deserves it.. It's something I learned from my experience
Periodd
the Empress You’re right bcuz it comes natural for them to do it to us🤦🏽♀️😳😩😒
Yeah...just like how men are selfish when it comes to dealing with women 😆
This is the most honest straight forward articulate truth of men. Wish I knew in my 20s. 👍🏻
Im 22 now 💖 and knowing the the game
Same here I'm 38 been through bad relationship after bad relationship I'm exhausted 🤯
I wish I knew this after divorce! Dating is hard it’s not like back in my early 20s. There are men damn near 50 yrs old who still playing with women tf!
No S me too.x
I've always felt that being alone is far better than being with someone who makes you feel more alone than you were when you were single. I've been in this situation countless of times.
Thank you for saving us women.
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Save yourself lady!