When my grandfather married my grandmother she already had 5 kids. They never had kids of their own, he considered her kids all he needed. They were married for 40+ years. She ended up with dementia and even though she didn't know who he was anymore he would slip candy bars under her door because he said she was still his sweetie. That's a real man 💯!
What wonderful Grandparents you had! My dad met my mom at work, in the 1950s. She was a widow with two little girls, her husband managed to survive fighting the Nazis, but died soon after coming home of a brain disease that was no doubt related to the war. My dad joined the Army in WWII also, but because of his radio engineering skills, he was put to work installing communication equipment in planes and submarines from a base in Hawaii, long after Pearl Harbor and far from the battlefields. He considered my mother's first husband to be a true hero, and he was proud to step in and be a father to his girls. When I was a preteen, some jerk told me, "Your sisters are only HALF sisters!" I indignantly told them that, no, my sisters are whole, complete people and they are wonderful! My parents were married 40+ years, until death parted them. He died first, but Momma's health went first. He planted the most beautiful roses outside the window where she loved to sit and read, and he planted even more varieties in the backyard that she didn't see. Those were the perfect blooms he would cut and bring to her as a surprise.
Glad that worked out for them but there are all kinds of “real men” including ones who don’t want any kids, much less 5 by someone else. Let’s dispense with this “real man” and “real woman” BS
My husband met me when I already had two kids and was getting divorced. We now have 4 children and he considers all 4 equally his. These guys act like single mums are pathetic and undesirable but frankly the feeling is very much mutual
I can say the same thing about all the leftover women with unrealistic standards complaining on tic tok with about not getting the guy they want while they have lots of suitable people in their dms that are more appropriate.
I still remember this story to this day:My husband's best friend always lamented that he is single.My husband proposed that he should add some girls on FB to talk.He send him some profiles of his female classmates he still had on FB.His response was:"Nah, this one is too ugly, this one looks stupid, this one's nose is crooked" and other disgusting insults.My husband got mad and said:"Dude, you're obese, you play videogames all day and you have the social skills of a potted plant!" and his best friend nonchalantly said:"So?I still want a rich, model looking woman as my GF" So in case there are people that believe that the men/women in this video are joking/trolling:no, I assure you, people like this actually do exist
Yup, one blind date arrived and told me when his friend said single mom he was thinking of the normal pretty ones who are put together, another blind date who didn't show up because I am not white, one at least showed up and stuck around even though I was not his type(blond) we had polite conversation through dinner then left. After that I stopped the blind dates
I had to start asking if the guys my friends wanted to set me up with were okay dating a larger girl. Usually they responded with, "but he's overweight, too!" I then had to explain that larger men don't necessarily want to date larger women.....
This is where one of you should have given best friend my grandpas favorite line. You can wish in one hand and shit in the other and see which gets filled first.
The "you must not be a catch if he threw you back" line made me go "Excuuuuse me?" And I'm married, so not even the demographic to be offended 🤣 But dude, what if SHE threw HIM back?
Exactly and people who have nothing to do with their children are also trash but when it's a guy there's always one guy defending it, like no a deadbeat is a deadbeat, my cousins mom is a deadbeat and I call it how it is, gender doesn't matter
I'd say either way it doesn't look good, either she's not a catch or she chose an ahole to have a child with 🤔 call me what you want but I'd rule her out as dating material, if I'm dating it's not to hook up or get stuck in coparenting drama, it's to find somebody to grow old with happily
@@satansbarman Well don't you sound like a catch. Judgy much? You don't know if there's a co-parenting situation. Maybe she has full custody. Maybe she's a widow. Or yes, maybe the father has them sometimes and the kids will be at someone else's house part-time. Isn't that third option the best one for you? Time alone with your partner?
So I was a single mom at 18. Got together with my hubby just before my 21st birthday. We have now been together 36 years. He and my son are best friends and he is really the kindest and best person I know. And he was TERRIFIED of kids when we first started dating. Then we went on a trip up the coast together and next thing I knew, he was carrying my then 3 year old on his shoulders and totally doing the dad thing. Take that, misogynistic asshats! LOL
That's honestly so sweet and wholesome! Honestly, from what I've seen, the men that are nervous about being dads end up being the best dads! Probably because they know they have a lot to learn!
I know it's been a while since you posted this but you got me all teared up with that! ❤❤ I met my fiance at 37, I had 4 kids ranging from 7 to 16 and I'd had my tubes tied since my youngest was born so he went into dating me knowing I had kids and he probably wouldn't. My kids absolutely adore him and he is incredible with them. Working out visits and what we'll do for Christmas are always US. I slip and call them 'my' kids and he always corrects me, they're 'ours' and we both get to handle the parenting maze. (He's actually better at it than me!) You got a great one, I wish there were more like him. ❤
@@michellesass5070I forgot to mention..hubby is 11 years older than me. LOL ..everyone I knew thought I was crazy and thought he was some sort of weirdo that was going to destroy my life. Everyone loves him now. :) Nobody believes me when i remind them of how much they tried to "talk some sense into me" about him. LOL Sounds like you got a great one too!
@@aubreycarter7624met my partner in middle school, though didn’t get together until two years after my second(and last). Day 3 after meeting her and she got sick all over him and the floor, letting loose every bodily function possible, he rushed her to the bathroom where I was getting a bath ready for her after she puked the first time, plopped her with me, and without any instructions just cleaned up the whole room she had messed in, sprayed anything he could find to get rid of the smell and then asked where spare clothes and towel were for her to put in the dryer so she would be warm after the bath, as well as putting everything in the wash that needed to be 🥹 He was terrified of stepping into the “step”parent role and now she literally gets him to watch princess movies with her(Brave is a big hit with our little curly haired redhead) 🤣💕
The last one 😰 "does she give you romantic relations regardless of how she feels." Let's be blatantly blunt about this: that is called rape. Marital rape is a real thing and it's just as bad as rape because it's still rape.
@@Nobby76who doesn't understand? Because to me the comment by @cbg4ev was perfectly clear and totaly on point. And I too think this person who posted this add should be reported.
My mother in law decided not long ago after 4 years of widowhood to join Tinder for giggles, she just joined to see crazy profiles and be glad she's single... not a week went by that she ended with a boyfriend and we make fun of her because he's incredibly caring and she tries to act as if she's not extremely in love with the dude, like, lady, we get it, you're trying to keep your dead husband's memory alive (not my father in law, her second husband) but this guy has you in love!
That's adorable! Im happy for her for finding someone new that treats her well and makes her happy. I know sometimes admitting that we have feelings for someone new, after losing someone we love, can be a really hard step for us. It can make us feel like we're "moving on" without them. Which could possibly be the reason she won't admit it yet.
Joined Tinder one night back in ‘17 when I couldn’t sleep and was bored and now I’m engaged. He messaged me on Facebook though because he said he didn’t want us to have to tell our kids we met on Tinder 😂 I love that man!
There was this average dude on tinder that looked really sad on one of his pictures, so I liked him bc I wanted to know why he was sad. I regret deeply calling him average at the time bc we've been together for 6 years now and he is the most amazing man I have ever met
I have a theory that people act like this on dating app bios because they KNOW they're shit and this way when they get rejected, they can blame it on the other person being "sensitive" and not taking responsibility for the fact that they suck.
Gotta laugh when people say things like "I won't settle for less," but their standards are things like "no knee socks." Also funny how things like "don't be an asshole," "be nice to wait staff," and "respect boundaries" never make the cut.
Random person, after spouting off horrible, negative things: "I'm really a nice person!" Maury appears with an envelope and opens it: "The lie detector test determined that was a lie."
I’ve been saying this for years usually I’ve found guys that are constantly talking about how much of a great person they our and are obviously compensating for the fact that they’re terrible , and I’ve called it every single time. Some of them list things off like they’re giving me a CV and I’m a job application. I’ve never once listed off my personal traits or what kind of a person I am unless somebody asks me & not just out of the blue saying I’m a great person and I’m not a murderer even though that’s literally what a murderer would say.😂 and yes I’ve had people say that before, nothing surprises me.
I feel like people who feel the need to say that they're the nice ones are people who do something for others sooo unwillingly, rarely and only if people call them out, but they remember every time as a proof that they're great, since they didn't want to do it? My dudes, nice people do nice things without thinking twice about it and half of the time don't remember it as anything special after.
Full admission... I'm 38, a male, and have been single for 6 years. I really don't care about dating anymore. It's not women, it's people in general. I am just sick of the dating crap. I don't want to even try impressing anyone anymore
Ugh I totally feel this. Same here and I'm a girl. I'm just so done with people. The last guy I was with slipped something in my drink when I left the table. I think he did it bc I didn't want to sleep with him. We weren't even dating just friends. After that I was so done with it all
@@Mellz77 I’m sorry that had happened. I hope u were able to report him for this. If he’s done it to u as just being friends, I would not put it pass him that he’s done this on multiple occasions.
@@Mellz77 I'm so sincerely sorry.... I don't even know where to begin to describe how much I hate that. I have been taken advantage of so much, and I'm just done with it. Why can't we just all be kind to one another? Sincerely, what is it that makes humans take advantage?
Why do people say men don’t want single moms? My ex husband replaced me for a single mom. 😂 I’m so glad she took him away. My life got so much better when he left.
I like that these people 've put up their flaws right out of the gate. Most people let you fall for them and THEN show you this crap. Thanks for the heads up people.
I like to think I'm not as bad as any of these people but I'm very open with my flaws too. Not as if I shove them in people's faces, I just don't bother to hide them. If me and that person are going to be serious they're going to see them anyway. You should know exactly what you're getting into with me before you even ask me out. And my boyfriend did and here we are 2 years later. Flaws and all he loves every part of me for who I am.
@@truthseeker9249 I agree with you there, it just depends on what, and how, you broadcast. My husband and I laugh that our first date almost became a competition of "oh yeah? Let's see if THIS makes you run!" We've been married almost fifteen years and are still completely in love. ❤️
The best piece of dating advice I ever got was: It is better to be happily single than to be miserably married. It gave me permission to care for myself, to make plans for my own happiness, and avoid seeing myself as worthless if I wasn’t attached to someone else. It took time to find someone who would honor and respect me, who was trustworthy, and who I could also love, but it was worth the wait. ❤ 10+ years happily married, and looking forward to forever.
I think you missed the advice but stumbled into the solution. If you can't be happy by yourself trying to fix your unhappiness by dating just makes someone else miserable. same for getting married to save a relationship or having kids to save a marriage.
Good for you! My friends were always telling me to lower my standards(not crazy standards just nice,kind to people,employed in any job, not racist or misogynistic.) Why would I want guys like these that are total losers just to say I had a boyfriend?
Wow. As a single mom, this video was a great reminder of (one of the many reasons) why I am focusing solely on my children and not interested in dating right now or any time in the near future (probably at least a decade or so.)
I'm an older lady and was getting guys on IG trying to chat me up. I normally ignore them, but this one guy, who was in his 20s, obviously didn't get the point I was old enough to be his granny 🤣 I told him he should go on Tinder instead. 10 minutes later I get another message from him saying "thank you". Made me laugh! Hope he found someone.
I have noticed the most important part of finding a partner, is to not let your past experiences Jade you. don’t be shallow and always listen to your partner and talk things through. Life is hard enough without finding people to share your joy with.
Totally agree - when I met my husband I found it hard to trust him due to my ex husband being an abusive nasty piece of crap, it took me a while to get my head around the fact it was my past experiences that made me feel that way and absolutely nothing he had done to deserve it but we managed to talk about it all and that’s what got us through it all, being able to communicate about it all. I still get nerves when I tell him I’m going out or have to tell him bad news but I know there’s no reason to be, it just takes time to unlearn survival instincts from the abusive ex.
@@sleeplessinscotland9394 I ask the same way with my future husband. And he was the same way with me when we first got together. I had to keep reminding him I want his ex. But talked everything out and manage very well together. We never argue, just communicate and compromise. I love this for you!! Good job at overcoming what most do not. Keep up the good work and stay strong
@@erikarussell1142 I rarely argue with my husband either, we don’t always agree but we can talk without it being a drama. The stress in my previous marriage was so overwhelming, I was scarily thin as a result of constantly being on edge waiting for the next bad thing to happen, it was exhausting. I could never go back to that kind of relationship, I much prefer being with someone I know I’m safe with, can laugh with even when we’re debating opposing views no matter if it’s a big issue or some random nonsense. I think so many people need to find better ways to communicate, and to understand that the way some people act in a relationship isn’t actually anything you’ve done but a learned response from past experiences and that if you can be honest you can grow together which just makes you a stronger couple. I’m really glad everything is going well for you too! It always seems so daunting but actually it’s so very simple and easy when you open up to each other. Must be why I detest tv shows and films where big dramas would be easily solved with a quick conversation
@@sleeplessinscotland9394 I fully agree!!! Him and I both have past traumas, and I think that it’s best that we are both broken and found each other, because we both know how the other feels and how anxious we get with drama. There’s No need to be mean or rude when we can both use our words properly. I’m so happy you too found someone just as amazing as my punky (his name) and I pray you have many long years of happiness, love and laughter.
I've been chatting with this guy on Reddit. He's like 40 and has never been with a woman. He asked me for advice about dating, but he won't even try unless the girl is Instagram worthy. I wish I could help him understand that attraction is more than just about looks
@@me2ontube I guess "it is for Instagram worthy chick's" too then. Because he's literally a 40 year old virgin, so clearly the women he finds "attractive" aren't even attracted to him.
This video has made me so happy. Had such a terrible valentine's day. My fiancé and I both have a stomach bug, I just got my period early and I'm uncontrollably crying about having to use sick days at work. Needed this, love ya ❤️
5:00 The funnier thing is that I consider myself a decent guy, and I was on a dating app for a little while. I got rejected repeatedly on the dating app, which did a small number on my ego. However, I never blamed the WHOLE other gender for that; if anything, the experience made me second-guess myself. After I decided that I was done with everything dating app related, I decided to focus on myself and growing. Surprisingly enough, once I made myself emotionally available, I met someone through work, which today is my Fiancee.
The last guy that was looking for something "genuine and real" screams domestic violence. He pretty much wanted to isolate her from all forms of communication with her friends/family so that he could have complete control and ensure that she wouldn't be able to tell anyone what was going on. Scary.
honestly social media isn't good for a lot. there really is a lot of drama on there. if you have a different opinion or don't fit whatever the current thing is lol.
I was a divorced, single, mom for 8 years before I found my the love of my life. Hang in there bestie. It’s rough AF! But all of us who have been/currently are single moms, got your back!
I was a divorced mum of two when I met my now husband, there are decent guys out there that don’t see kids as a negative. We now have four kids that he considers all equally his children. Anyone who sees your circumstances as a negative just isn’t the person for you and that’s ok and you’re not missing out on a thing. If meeting someone is what you want long term it will happen, have faith. In fairness I was much happier a single mum than I was in my previous marriage so even if I hadn’t met anyone I was still better off, and so were my kids who will never come second to anyone
Whoa that last one. Wants a woman to manipulate, isolate and do with as he pleases against her will, wowow. I'm GLAD dating apps is such a big thing these days, you can really get rid of some of the worst ones without even letting them know you exist.
AGREED! At least this way they are advertising "DON'T DATE ME! I'M A TOOL! I'M A MASOGONISTIC ASSHOLE WHO THINK THAT WOMEN ARE LESS THAN ME!" Just complete pieces of GARBAGE. They don't F-ing deserve partners
I actually met my husband through a dating app. Granted, I joined knowing full well what they were really about and only had plans to use it for hook-ups (going through a divorce & was very clear I didn't want a relationship beyond FWB). The number of people I got trying to lock me into a relationship was insane. I remember one that I hadn't even met in person yet flipped the fuck out when he found out a male friend from childhood was going to be staying in my parents basement (where I was currently living since I moved states with the divorce). He legit thought he had a say in it. Even if I was looking to settle down with someone, attempting to control me before even meeting is an immediate red flag. He generally thought he should be able to demand that of me without even meeting in person a single time!
Has a 21-year-old single mum hearing these things is really really hurtful. I was engaged when I got pregnant. I found out something terrible about my partner and broke it off before my daughter was even born doesn't make me any less of a person.
‘If you want a relationship, get off the dating apps’ as someone who met her now boyfriend after she thought she got stood up by someone on a dating app in the restaurant he works in, I can confirm this can be true. You have to be extremely lucky off and on dating apps!
Am so glad they weren't around when I was young & single. Now that I'm older and single, the whole dating thing frankly scares me. Can't see myself changing my happily independent life for a guy anyway.
No one ever approached me when I was young before getting married and now it’s even worse after being divorced. How does one even date in the wild?? The apps are awful, but otherwise I wouldn’t have any dates, lol
@@heatherduke7703 the apps are horrendous. I am the same, no one approached me when I was younger, and I didn’t have the confidence either. Regardless of if you are using the apps or not, you have to get really lucky.
Well I think they can work. I myself met my husband on one, and. I know atleast 5 other people in my extended family who met people off dating apps. 3 plenty of fish. 2 tinder. (I to was surprised by tinder)
You and Mike are the cutest couple. I immediately stop what I'm doing as soon as I see your notification. Wish you guys had a channel together. But please don't ever stop this channel. I would go thru a deep withdrawal.
I married a man I met online. We both have kids (6 total). It took 5 years and meeting over 40 people but it was worth it all! :) I did have a share of screenshots of guys similar to these in your video. Luckily I only met a few in person because they mostly did a great job of eliminating themselves with their awful profiles. I'm thankful everyday for online dating and meeting my husband!
I have a dream that one day, someone who wrote a toxic dating app bio will see it on a video like this, realise that they have issues, go to therapy and only resume dating when they are in a healthy emotional place....and stay the hell away from me until then! 😭
There is an organization for single parents called Parents Without Partners, I believe it's all over the US. They have all kinds of activities for single parents at low cost, to help make friends or even maybe a relationship. I remember swimming/cookout events, fun fairs around holidays, float trips. They have adult events as well, parties, dancing etc. and I attended a couple of them as an adult. My single father said it was very helpful to him. There were all ranges of age and # of kids, but everyone worked together and I remember lots of fun times.
PwP is a good choice! Ages ago I did a 2 visit counseling intake for a single dad with three kids. His wife had left him for a wealthy guy.. no kids in the way! This was an ordinary man, devoted to his kids, steady job, owned his house, nice looking but not "hot" ... and depressed. And very very sad. Not just lonely - he believed that women wouldn't be interested in him because he HAD kids, all under 10. I told him about the counseling available at the clinic AND about Parents without Partners. And that a good dad could be rather appealing to women, especially women with kids of their own. And that I couldn't imagine him NOT being able to 'meet' women. I'm a woman, so that comment probably carried more weight than if I'd been a man. He perked up a bit. He said he needed to think about getting into counseling ( would have been group therapy). We called him when a counseling appt was available, and he dropped in ... to say thanks for telling him about Parents without Partners. I told him it sounded like he was doing better with just the "support" from PwP. He never felt the need for counseling again.
Thank you for making me feel better about being single on Valentine’s Day. 😂 Although there’s good ppl out there, I’m going to pretend like those are my only options & I feel great!
I was a single Mom when I met my husband. I never had any issues with dating after my divorce and before meeting my husband. My husband has always treated my son as his bonus son. This year we will be celebrating 28 years together, with 27 of them being married. My husband says that guys who refuse to date single Moms could be missing out on the love of their life because they're being idiots. Lol
I am so sick of these disgusting men who automatically blame the woman for being a single mom. I'm a single mom because my sociopath ex cheated on me 4 times that I know of, and also assaulted me. So gross to just automatically blame the woman when you have NO idea what she might have gone through. Edited to add: They also need to stop assuming that a single mom wants to date because she's looking for some sort of meal ticket. As if a woman can't just crave companionship in a healthy relationship just because she has kids. Some single moms do receive child support from their ex and also work and support themselves, and some of us are very independent and don't expect any type of monetary help from a new man.
I know-siding with the bro they don’t even know is a red flag. They hate women. Women will always please me more than any temptation or fault I don’t even try to fight or they just fail and didn’t deserve me 🙄
Usually losers that no one will date anyways lmao FCK em and what they think, they are no one 🤷🏻♀️ lmao it's funny that they act as if a Mom can't be the one who kicked her loser significant other out... Omg that can happen, lmao thats USUALLY what happens 😂😂😂 I agree with the competition aspect as well, some dudes gonna take it as the kid(s) taking their time away lmao like wtf ...
I am sorry mam what happened to you and I feel for you. I dated a single mom and I left traumatised after that experience but I dont hate single moms even after that it is not people it is situations that make us good or bad that we are in. Here is my story- I ( M 30)loved her(F30) unconditionally but she left me in pieces. I am a average looking guy. This was my first dating experience and prior to that I had no experience at all.She has a lot of Childhood trauma as her father sexually abused her and then her mother basically gave up on her as she couldn`t protect her daughter she had a really bad sexually and emotionally abused relationship through she got her first baby. we met through bumble as she was not sexually and romantically interested in me, and we became good friends. She told me that she was financially struggling so I helped her to celebrate her son`s first birthday with a blast as well I gifted her a beautiful expensive dress. Basically, I was fallen her. She started playing games with me, and she was always demanding. I want this I want that and to fulfill her demands I started burning a lot of my savings but I never asked to pay her back or anything in return. I started to help her in buying groceries, medicines, and whatnot, and in just 2 months I spent almost $4000. She would always call herself I can`t see animals treated badly, especially dogs and pigs, and she will post about them on her Instagram, yet she has no empathy for humans. No matter how much I help her she would call me I am retarded and call blind in public and in front of her friends. Basically, I had sacrificed my own life, needs, and enjoyment for her. She would ask me for money for lunch if I don`t have any then she would play the manipulation tactic like a guilt trip- "Do you want me to call my ex to ask to beg money from him". I would borrow money from my friends and give it to her so that she and her son can feed their stomachs. This whole thing started to take a big toll on my mental and physical health and professional life. She would call me during my work hours, even if I tell her I was busy at work or in a meeting, and always loved bombing and manipulation. one day I had the worst performance review of my life, and that week I didn`t have in anything in my stomach for over a week. I have Thyroid and pre-existing Depression and Anxiety which led me to a really bad depressive episode when I needed her, she told me that she is busy with household chores, I am lying, and then she blocked and disconnected all our chats. After this betrayal, I was in an extremely fragile mental state and couldn`t work in my office. My office manager started helping me I told her about everything that happened to me as I had no experience before with relationships I never viewed anyone with a critical or skewed view. After 1 and a half months when I healed from all this and as I moved on, she again reconnected with me, with all the love I have for her I decided to meet her. But just after her demands started again. I didn`t want to meet her, but then I miss her and then I go with her and she made me miserable again but this time more like she don`t like my voice, she don`t like my accent, she don`t like how I talk and I smelled like really spicy Indian curry. I don`t know what was going on with my life and I became miserable again to protect my peace I started lying to her. This time I basically gave up and whether she is a genuine person or faking herself I decided to ask for my money back from her and she did the exact response that my brain and my friends were expecting and I burned all the bridges so that there is room for her to come back again. I hope she doesn`t come back. Now I am suffering from CPTSD, chronic depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and stress and I am losing weight because of this whole abuse. Basically, I am still trying to figure out what actually happened to me was that genuine person or someone else? Still discovering a lot more details but what happened to me I never even wished for my enemies. I wanted to help her in her healing journey and now I need healing. Hope to hear some advice from you lovely ladies.
My dad died when I was four, so technically my mom was a widow but it still pisses me off when single or widowed parents get looked down at. I hope you are in a better place now, and there’s nothing wrong with companionship. I loved my step dad quite a bit.
As a man in my 50’s , I ask the women in this reply this, what do you consider to be chivalrous? Because what I was brought up and told was chivalrous, like opening a door, pulling out a chair, give her your coat, if she is cold etc is just as likely to get you a slap round the face and labelled as a sexist!
My mom literally remarried at 40 with a 15 year old, 13 year old and a 3 year old. She got remarried with three kids, I think the people who say single parents will never get remarried are actually bitter that they can't get anyone even though they are young and single and a person with kids can
"Looking for something genuine and real" should have read " looking for someone submissive to dominate and turn into my sex slave/mother" . Freud would've had a field day with that one.
That last one is scary. Coercive control much? Cutting her off from friends, controlling what she says, making her a slave with no independence... not an okay thing to ask for
@dakotakulha8376 Absolutely! No one should do it to their partner - whatever gender. They are a partner, aka another grown adult with rights, friends, family, interests. If you (them not you specifically) can't handle your partner to do that, then that is a you problem, and you maybe need to deal with it before you get into a relationship. And if the person has cheated and now you want to control and have knowledge of everything they do... then break up. Cheaters don't deserve chances anyway
The actual definition of chivalry is a code of conduct for medieval warriors and soldiers to follow. It doesn’t have anything to do with being a real gentleman. Instead it’s a code of religious, moral and social code; promoting courage, and honor and defending the weak. That being said, my husband to be is such a respectful gentleman, I just know he can’t be the only one.
Actual definition is spot on, however, chivalry has been modernized to also mean gallant and distinguished gentlemen (per Merriam-Webster), so it fits your husband. You are both lucky to have one another. Happy Valentine's Day!
remember words can have various definitions. the code of conduct from the medieval times was taken to be used by a gentleman. now i do say now that is harder to find because either it's seen as weakness, or people have been burned by women, or feminists hate them. there are still some who still follow it yes but as years go by less and less do.
Unfortunately, some men have a strange definition for what "chivalry" means. Many years ago, long before my hair turned grey, I went on a date to a nice restaurant. First red flag was when we arrived and my date became annoyed when I opened my car door, he insisted I sit there until he could walk around the car and "let me out". I was fine with him opening the door for me at the restaurant, as that's polite. I also appreciated that he helped me get my coat off and pulled out my chair. Again, that's polite. I was not okay with what he said when the waiter came to take our order. "The little lady will have..." I stopped him, and in a low but firm voice said, "I'm not little, and I'm not feeling very 'ladylike' right now, I can order for myself and I can pay for myself too." Reminds me of something I saw recently while watching the original "Star Trek" with my 30 year old son. It was my favorite show when I was a kid, and it's been decades since I've seen it. My favorite characters were Mr. Spock, and Uhura. I especially love Uhura, as she was the first female character I saw on TV who was beautiful, smart, and held her own among a mostly male cast. It's fun watching these again through older, more experienced eyes. I definitely missed some adult humor as a child! In an episode where a creepy, sexist alien kisses her hand and calls Uhura a "fair maiden", she pulls back her hand and retorts, "NEITHER!" That clever one word response went right over my head when I was a kid. RIP, Nichelle Nichols, and thank you for inspiring millions of girls (of all colors) to "boldly go where" women deserve to be.
@Lazy I Ranch yeah I can say that some of it is dumb for sure. When getting to know someone I would never order for them. Even if you knew them it's something they could change. As for the fair maiden while it was TV yes some don't think of that. She was a strong lead but there were others as well. Mary Tyler Moore was one of my favorite and I'm only 44. Lucille ball was another but there were many even before them as well.
Back in the stone age when I was single my trigger was when a first date would say the following: "Buy me something." This happened three times, each time they won a $2 city bus ride back home. EDIT: "PC master race" is not a reference to a game (or white supremacy LOL), it's another way to say he is a PC gamer only....he probably has a gaming PC rig ($3 to $4K), a $300 keyboard, and a $200 mouse
@@lotstodo Oh the best one was the first young lady to do it. I was taking her to an extremely nice restaurant that I had to wait 9 months for my reservation. On the way to dinner - barely 10 minutes after I picked her up - "Let's go to the mall. You can buy me something!" A meal for two at that place was $800 in 1998.....not including drinks, tips, etc ..... she's the one who created my $2 city bus ticket bargain. So I went to dinner with a lesbian friend of mine....best platonic meal I ever had.
@@ericlondon2663 Are You serious? There really are women like this? Um, on my sex behalf, I'd like to apologize for those... 800$ MEAL?? WAS IT COVERED IN GOLD?
@@margodphd Fine dining, you know truffles, etc...I'm a foodie and a amateur chef so...I like experiences. And I like the nicer things so I splurge on my wife, myself, my cats, and those I care the most about.
hello Charlotte! i’ve been binge watching your channel for like a week and im not complaining…. thanx for the amusing pettiness you brought to my life! happy valentines day!
I've always loved it when guys say all this stuff in their profiles. You can immediately dismiss them as a possibility. Thanks for waving those red flags!
Wow, this kind of stuff makes me so happy I'm married! Oh, and I was a single mom of three in my late twenties when I met my husband. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to date a single mom, but this doesn't mean no other men will!
I tried Facebook dating for the first time a couple years ago. Ended up having like 2 dates and met a really good friend from it. This past summer, while single again, I decided to try my luck again. Holy shit. Rarely did I find anyone who didn't want just a hookup. I did gain a few friends but ended up deleting my profile after 2 months. It was too much to handle and keep up with. I then met my current boyfriend without any dating app. And I'm very happy that I did 💜
Jesus I want to meet someone in person I go out and try to be social. Hardly anyone asks people out anymore I've never been asked out my entire life not even to prom I even tried asking guys out it's not fun.
@@empath9814 unfortunately that's what me too and public shaming of men has done, as a guy we have to be extra careful about any interaction with women lest it be creepy or harassment, like the current gym girl trend of calling men pervs for glancing at them, and I'm not saying there aren't pervy creeps in gyms but if you can't even look around the gym without getting put on blast on socials, it makes approaching women daunting at best. All I can say is shoot your shot and hope for the best, I'm sure you'll find someone sson
Charlotte's face of confusion not knowing what "PC Master Race" Means and ending out thinking it is a game and worrying it's something sinister is the funnies thing ever! XD
My sister’s HUSBAND came into her life when my niece was 4 months old. They have been together for 7 years. Single moms, please do not worry you are not worth any less because you have a lovely child, if anything I would say you’re even more of a catch, you are doing single parenthood, that is HARD but shows how much love and commitment you have in your heart. Don’t give up my single moms and dad’s we ❤ you!
Gentlemen do not call any woman a tramp, let alone an anonymous group of women you haven’t even met. When I met my husband he was divorced with 2 children, I was divorced with two children. Neither of us were looking for marriage, just looking for someone nice, funny, with some of the same likes in common to go out to a movie, or dinner, or a football game. He says he fell hard really fast but held back because I wasn’t there yet. It didn’t take me long because he’s an amazing man. We got married with our children there. We combined our families and had one child together. All our children are super adults with their own children. He still makes me laugh everyday, and comes into a room I’m in, singing while pulling me to dance with him. It’s been the best 41 years of my life. If your really interested in a relationship quit putting up barriers. Dating should be fun. You know fun, laughing and all that. Even if she/he isn’t ‘the one’, what’s wrong with making a new friend?
😂 I went on a tinder date with this one guy…after some miscommunication and some spur of the moment plans, we are still together 2 years later. It’s a needle in a hay stack, but it’s possible to find someone that truly makes you happy. Stay positive and watch out for the trash, it will usually take itself out
Some just have that personality that they think they deserve supermodel pretty with money without seeing their own fault lines in their personality and lifestyle
The way she is STRUGGLING with this "ex's mom" point 🤣🤣 he's saying "your ex was such trash, his mother warned that you would find someone better. I'm that person she warned him about" 😅😅
Yet, why should men only take responsibility for their actions, why not women who constantly degrade and mentally, physically, verbally, and sexually abuse men
I used to live next door to a really crotchety old man. I used to talk with him from time to time and once I told him that saying "you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar" and that old man didn't miss a beat when he shot back "if I wanted to catch flies I'd used shit". 🤣🤣 I started talking with him as often as I could after that. He was a cool old dude with a lot of cool stories.
OMG, I'm so glad that I immediately dropped trying to use dating apps after I tried one after I ended my 25-year relationship in 2015. I'll never fit into this so-called new dating world because I actually still prefer meeting people face to face so I can immediately tell if there's any chemistry at all & not waste my time on people that act like relationships are deposable & easy to come by when real ones are not & take work.. 💯
@@heatherduke7703 like Charlotte said 80% of women go for 20% of the men (latest swiping data shows that men swipe right about 46% compared to women swiping right like 2% 🤯), those men do consider you disposable because they have all the options they could want, whereas the average joe gets nothing, for example last time I tried a dating app (7years ago) I was on there for 3 months (I'm possibly a tad over average looks, got my own place and work), wasn't getting any matches so decided to swipe right on everyone for a while, so considering my bio was VERY clear about me not wanting hookups, I got ONE match (I don't know a single woman, even less pretty ones, that dont get tons of matches within the first day) with a whale whose first message was "You shirt would look great on my bedroom floor". From then on I won't use dating apps
Love how fellas think a single mum is a loser. Cos maybe she ditched him and she can keep house and family together all by herself. If anything she’s gonna be pickier and you’re not gonna stand a chance hahaha 😂
@@j.h.3777 If the "older women" were the problem for them, they could have ajusted the age range targeted. Instead they decided to be douchebags. It certainly sorts for most women, if not all :)
My husband and I met through a dating site (before apps became a thing). We were both single parents, me with a 16 year old son, and he had an 8 year old daughter. My husband was also living back with his parents after his divorce and had noted that this in particular seemed to be an issue with women he had previously chatted to on the site, so much so that he was considering coming off, until we started to talk. We've been together 14 years now, coming up for 10 years married. I'd been married twice before (and met both in nightclubs) and was at the stage where I couldn't be bothered with that anymore. I decided to try a dating site, and got lucky. It's not for everyone, but then not everyone is in a position to choose the alternative of a chance meeting on a night out, for one reason or another. Do what suits you and you're comfortable with.
It's grown ass women treating men like shit even when they offer the best for them. So why should men take responsibility for their actions and not women
Have you ever heard the saying, "Only a hick thinks about the best ways to catch flies." There's a lot of confidence coming from a group of people who seem to not have a firm grasp on proper spelling, grammar and punctuation.
I had two guys have the AUDACITY to ask me if I would cut off contact with my daughter to focus on a relationship before I left dating apps for good, gotta love that lovely BLOCK button. Now I have a fabulous fiance and we see her every year and talk all the time. There are people out there who are more than happy to date single parents or people with children, don't settle.
When my grandpa met my grandma, she was already pregnant with another dude whom she had the intention to marry, but he disappeared after going to war (dead maybe or he moved on). Love at first sight for him, married her so she wouldn't have to be shamed for having a child outside marriage and they pretended that the kid was their own. I don't think she was in love at the time, but my grandpa's chilvalry won her over (found cute letters he sent her to win her affections). I only discovered the truth recently after my grandma's funeral, they kept the secret for so long. My aunt, their first child, is actually not my grandfather's, and my already huge respect for my grandpa went through the roof. Times are different now, I wish people didn't view single parents as "leftovers" when they have so much left to offer.
Another title to this video could have been "how to stay single for the rest of your life..." 😂 Also to the people saying Men/women are awful, they don't like "good guys/girls anymore" like the guy in 4:03. Maybe look at yourself and how you approach people first, then maybe you'll see why they are treating you that way. I love your videos! Keep up the good work. :)
I met my husband on a dating app. The dating horrors I could tell... but I took a chance on a single dad with two kids and we're a happy family now for 6.5 years.
My daughters husband is 21 and literally makes an effort on every holiday and just random days. When they did long distance for a year they would send each other holiday boxes I at the time was like I’m why but now I see how much they love and do for each other. I’m 40 and yes I’m happy and jealous at the same time
If I were single and on dating apps I can honestly say I am fine with those bios. That way I wouldn’t have to waste time on those pieces of trash. You know who they are without having to ever meet them
It's true! At least with these bios, you can see they are garbage without having to be involved. Which is NICE, however no matter what, you will still come across garbage. It's hard to find a solution. Especially with that last post.. In an idealistic world all of the garbage out there will show themselves in their bio lol
Happy Valentine’s Day my babies!!!
Happy Valentine's day ❤️🥰❤️
Happy Valentine’s Day gorgeousssss! I hope you and your man have a blessed one full of love! 🖤🫶🏾
HAPPY V-DAY!!
Happy Valentine’s Day!!! You should check your box today and see what everyone got their favorite star for Valentine’s Day!!!
Happy Valentine's Day to you, Charlotte, and to all who are part of, or are new members of your lil Potato Army! Have a beautiful day, everyone! 🥰💖❤️🤍
When my grandfather married my grandmother she already had 5 kids. They never had kids of their own, he considered her kids all he needed. They were married for 40+ years. She ended up with dementia and even though she didn't know who he was anymore he would slip candy bars under her door because he said she was still his sweetie. That's a real man 💯!
💗🥹💗😭❤
well sadly both real men and women are of a past thought. when i say it like that it becomes more about me me me or money, or various other things.
What wonderful Grandparents you had!
My dad met my mom at work, in the 1950s. She was a widow with two little girls, her husband managed to survive fighting the Nazis, but died soon after coming home of a brain disease that was no doubt related to the war.
My dad joined the Army in WWII also, but because of his radio engineering skills, he was put to work installing communication equipment in planes and submarines from a base in Hawaii, long after Pearl Harbor and far from the battlefields. He considered my mother's first husband to be a true hero, and he was proud to step in and be a father to his girls.
When I was a preteen, some jerk told me, "Your sisters are only HALF sisters!" I indignantly told them that, no, my sisters are whole, complete people and they are wonderful!
My parents were married 40+ years, until death parted them. He died first, but Momma's health went first. He planted the most beautiful roses outside the window where she loved to sit and read, and he planted even more varieties in the backyard that she didn't see. Those were the perfect blooms he would cut and bring to her as a surprise.
Glad that worked out for them but there are all kinds of “real men” including ones who don’t want any kids, much less 5 by someone else. Let’s dispense with this “real man” and “real woman” BS
My husband met me when I already had two kids and was getting divorced. We now have 4 children and he considers all 4 equally his. These guys act like single mums are pathetic and undesirable but frankly the feeling is very much mutual
People like this are why we have the phrase “some people should stay single“.
But they're the ones who scream "why am I single?? 😭😭😭"
People like this are why I'm single. Why take chances?
I can say the same thing about all the leftover women with unrealistic standards complaining on tic tok with about not getting the guy they want while they have lots of suitable people in their dms that are more appropriate.
@@edgeinscarride They would be single people.
yeah I don't get why there are people on dating app that sound like they hate the gender they trying to date.
I still remember this story to this day:My husband's best friend always lamented that he is single.My husband proposed that he should add some girls on FB to talk.He send him some profiles of his female classmates he still had on FB.His response was:"Nah, this one is too ugly, this one looks stupid, this one's nose is crooked" and other disgusting insults.My husband got mad and said:"Dude, you're obese, you play videogames all day and you have the social skills of a potted plant!" and his best friend nonchalantly said:"So?I still want a rich, model looking woman as my GF"
So in case there are people that believe that the men/women in this video are joking/trolling:no, I assure you, people like this actually do exist
Yup, one blind date arrived and told me when his friend said single mom he was thinking of the normal pretty ones who are put together, another blind date who didn't show up because I am not white, one at least showed up and stuck around even though I was not his type(blond) we had polite conversation through dinner then left.
After that I stopped the blind dates
Glad your husband called his bullshit out. Too bad, it didn’t take
I had to start asking if the guys my friends wanted to set me up with were okay dating a larger girl. Usually they responded with, "but he's overweight, too!" I then had to explain that larger men don't necessarily want to date larger women.....
This is where one of you should have given best friend my grandpas favorite line. You can wish in one hand and shit in the other and see which gets filled first.
@@caljones maybe it didn't take bc the husband failed to tell him he's such a moron no one wants him
The "you must not be a catch if he threw you back" line made me go "Excuuuuse me?" And I'm married, so not even the demographic to be offended 🤣 But dude, what if SHE threw HIM back?
Far more likely scenario.
That would never occur to an incel
Exactly and people who have nothing to do with their children are also trash but when it's a guy there's always one guy defending it, like no a deadbeat is a deadbeat, my cousins mom is a deadbeat and I call it how it is, gender doesn't matter
I'd say either way it doesn't look good, either she's not a catch or she chose an ahole to have a child with 🤔 call me what you want but I'd rule her out as dating material, if I'm dating it's not to hook up or get stuck in coparenting drama, it's to find somebody to grow old with happily
@@satansbarman Well don't you sound like a catch. Judgy much? You don't know if there's a co-parenting situation. Maybe she has full custody. Maybe she's a widow. Or yes, maybe the father has them sometimes and the kids will be at someone else's house part-time. Isn't that third option the best one for you? Time alone with your partner?
So I was a single mom at 18. Got together with my hubby just before my 21st birthday. We have now been together 36 years. He and my son are best friends and he is really the kindest and best person I know. And he was TERRIFIED of kids when we first started dating. Then we went on a trip up the coast together and next thing I knew, he was carrying my then 3 year old on his shoulders and totally doing the dad thing. Take that, misogynistic asshats! LOL
That's honestly so sweet and wholesome! Honestly, from what I've seen, the men that are nervous about being dads end up being the best dads!
Probably because they know they have a lot to learn!
I know it's been a while since you posted this but you got me all teared up with that! ❤❤ I met my fiance at 37, I had 4 kids ranging from 7 to 16 and I'd had my tubes tied since my youngest was born so he went into dating me knowing I had kids and he probably wouldn't. My kids absolutely adore him and he is incredible with them. Working out visits and what we'll do for Christmas are always US. I slip and call them 'my' kids and he always corrects me, they're 'ours' and we both get to handle the parenting maze. (He's actually better at it than me!) You got a great one, I wish there were more like him. ❤
@@michellesass5070I forgot to mention..hubby is 11 years older than me. LOL ..everyone I knew thought I was crazy and thought he was some sort of weirdo that was going to destroy my life. Everyone loves him now. :) Nobody believes me when i remind them of how much they tried to "talk some sense into me" about him. LOL Sounds like you got a great one too!
It's so true for humans, you really don't know until you've tried a new experience. Maybe you like more things than you thought =)
@@aubreycarter7624met my partner in middle school, though didn’t get together until two years after my second(and last). Day 3 after meeting her and she got sick all over him and the floor, letting loose every bodily function possible, he rushed her to the bathroom where I was getting a bath ready for her after she puked the first time, plopped her with me, and without any instructions just cleaned up the whole room she had messed in, sprayed anything he could find to get rid of the smell and then asked where spare clothes and towel were for her to put in the dryer so she would be warm after the bath, as well as putting everything in the wash that needed to be 🥹 He was terrified of stepping into the “step”parent role and now she literally gets him to watch princess movies with her(Brave is a big hit with our little curly haired redhead) 🤣💕
The last one 😰 "does she give you romantic relations regardless of how she feels." Let's be blatantly blunt about this: that is called rape. Marital rape is a real thing and it's just as bad as rape because it's still rape.
That one needs to be reported 😂.
Im not sure you fully understand the concept of what "Rape" means
@@Nobby76who doesn't understand? Because to me the comment by @cbg4ev was perfectly clear and totaly on point. And I too think this person who posted this add should be reported.
@@Nobby76 That IS the definition of rape. You might benefit from some research, you nob.
@@Nobby76 no, you don't understand. You've made that blatantly clear.
That last one was terrifying. Let's just let everyone know we'll be an abusive partner up front 😬😬😬😬
I'd say that's a good thing. Told on himself.
He sounds like a rapist- at least this gives women a clear warning
He doesn't want a girlfriend. He wants a hostage.
Oh yea, every single item on his checklist was a huge red flag.
These are my fav ppl tbh! Lmk your 🚩🚩🚩 early so I can runnn 🏃♀️
My mother in law decided not long ago after 4 years of widowhood to join Tinder for giggles, she just joined to see crazy profiles and be glad she's single... not a week went by that she ended with a boyfriend and we make fun of her because he's incredibly caring and she tries to act as if she's not extremely in love with the dude, like, lady, we get it, you're trying to keep your dead husband's memory alive (not my father in law, her second husband) but this guy has you in love!
Awww!
That's adorable! Im happy for her for finding someone new that treats her well and makes her happy. I know sometimes admitting that we have feelings for someone new, after losing someone we love, can be a really hard step for us. It can make us feel like we're "moving on" without them. Which could possibly be the reason she won't admit it yet.
A family member found their spouse on Tinder. I know, because the bride’s father told everyone during his speech. 😂
Joined Tinder one night back in ‘17 when I couldn’t sleep and was bored and now I’m engaged. He messaged me on Facebook though because he said he didn’t want us to have to tell our kids we met on Tinder 😂 I love that man!
@@sunniegb
Happy Saturday!
Such a sweet story and it put hope back in my heart! Thank you!
There was this average dude on tinder that looked really sad on one of his pictures, so I liked him bc I wanted to know why he was sad. I regret deeply calling him average at the time bc we've been together for 6 years now and he is the most amazing man I have ever met
I have a theory that people act like this on dating app bios because they KNOW they're shit and this way when they get rejected, they can blame it on the other person being "sensitive" and not taking responsibility for the fact that they suck.
accurate
Gotta laugh when people say things like "I won't settle for less," but their standards are things like "no knee socks." Also funny how things like "don't be an asshole," "be nice to wait staff," and "respect boundaries" never make the cut.
Random person, after spouting off horrible, negative things: "I'm really a nice person!"
Maury appears with an envelope and opens it: "The lie detector test determined that was a lie."
Lololol, true.those are typically the nearly 80% of dating app profiles that are also married perverted men.
Lmao fr
I’ve been saying this for years usually I’ve found guys that are constantly talking about how much of a great person they our and are obviously compensating for the fact that they’re terrible , and I’ve called it every single time. Some of them list things off like they’re giving me a CV and I’m a job application. I’ve never once listed off my personal traits or what kind of a person I am unless somebody asks me & not just out of the blue saying I’m a great person and I’m not a murderer even though that’s literally what a murderer would say.😂 and yes I’ve had people say that before, nothing surprises me.
I feel like people who feel the need to say that they're the nice ones are people who do something for others sooo unwillingly, rarely and only if people call them out, but they remember every time as a proof that they're great, since they didn't want to do it? My dudes, nice people do nice things without thinking twice about it and half of the time don't remember it as anything special after.
Off the subject, I feel like Maury, once he passes, is gonna appear at random and say exactly this when someone lies 😅
I love the audacity of the girl who had the long list with no ankle socks..she said "good vibes only" 🤣 honey YOU aren't even good vibes 🤣
I was gonna contact her but I got ankle socks 😪
Exactly what I thought!
That's why she wrote good vibes only. To make up for all the good vibes she'll never have.
No ankle socks wtf who tf cares people really gotta find shit to pick at lol
Full admission... I'm 38, a male, and have been single for 6 years. I really don't care about dating anymore. It's not women, it's people in general. I am just sick of the dating crap. I don't want to even try impressing anyone anymore
Ugh I totally feel this. Same here and I'm a girl. I'm just so done with people. The last guy I was with slipped something in my drink when I left the table. I think he did it bc I didn't want to sleep with him. We weren't even dating just friends. After that I was so done with it all
@@Mellz77 I’m sorry that had happened. I hope u were able to report him for this. If he’s done it to u as just being friends, I would not put it pass him that he’s done this on multiple occasions.
Same
@@Mellz77 I'm so sincerely sorry.... I don't even know where to begin to describe how much I hate that. I have been taken advantage of so much, and I'm just done with it. Why can't we just all be kind to one another? Sincerely, what is it that makes humans take advantage?
@@Mellz77 Speaking of, I'm so so sorry. You don't deserve that
Why do people say men don’t want single moms? My ex husband replaced me for a single mom. 😂 I’m so glad she took him away. My life got so much better when he left.
I like that these people 've put up their flaws right out of the gate. Most people let you fall for them and THEN show you this crap. Thanks for the heads up people.
Right? We should really be thanking them for saving all the girls' time!
@@smalltowngirl78 Seriously. :)
Agreed!
I like to think I'm not as bad as any of these people but I'm very open with my flaws too. Not as if I shove them in people's faces, I just don't bother to hide them. If me and that person are going to be serious they're going to see them anyway. You should know exactly what you're getting into with me before you even ask me out. And my boyfriend did and here we are 2 years later. Flaws and all he loves every part of me for who I am.
@@truthseeker9249 I agree with you there, it just depends on what, and how, you broadcast. My husband and I laugh that our first date almost became a competition of "oh yeah? Let's see if THIS makes you run!" We've been married almost fifteen years and are still completely in love. ❤️
The best piece of dating advice I ever got was: It is better to be happily single than to be miserably married. It gave me permission to care for myself, to make plans for my own happiness, and avoid seeing myself as worthless if I wasn’t attached to someone else.
It took time to find someone who would honor and respect me, who was trustworthy, and who I could also love, but it was worth the wait. ❤ 10+ years happily married, and looking forward to forever.
awww good for you 💓
The other version of the advice is, "It is better to be single than to wish you were"...
College footnote to that, about mindless sexual attraction: "It's better to sleep with no-body than with the wrong body."
I think you missed the advice but stumbled into the solution. If you can't be happy by yourself trying to fix your unhappiness by dating just makes someone else miserable. same for getting married to save a relationship or having kids to save a marriage.
Good for you! My friends were always telling me to lower my standards(not crazy standards just nice,kind to people,employed in any job, not racist or misogynistic.) Why would I want guys like these that are total losers just to say I had a boyfriend?
Wow.
As a single mom, this video was a great reminder of (one of the many reasons) why I am focusing solely on my children and not interested in dating right now or any time in the near future (probably at least a decade or so.)
I'm an older lady and was getting guys on IG trying to chat me up. I normally ignore them, but this one guy, who was in his 20s, obviously didn't get the point I was old enough to be his granny 🤣 I told him he should go on Tinder instead. 10 minutes later I get another message from him saying "thank you". Made me laugh! Hope he found someone.
I have noticed the most important part of finding a partner, is to not let your past experiences Jade you. don’t be shallow and always listen to your partner and talk things through. Life is hard enough without finding people to share your joy with.
Totally agree - when I met my husband I found it hard to trust him due to my ex husband being an abusive nasty piece of crap, it took me a while to get my head around the fact it was my past experiences that made me feel that way and absolutely nothing he had done to deserve it but we managed to talk about it all and that’s what got us through it all, being able to communicate about it all. I still get nerves when I tell him I’m going out or have to tell him bad news but I know there’s no reason to be, it just takes time to unlearn survival instincts from the abusive ex.
@@sleeplessinscotland9394 I ask the same way with my future husband. And he was the same way with me when we first got together. I had to keep reminding him I want his ex. But talked everything out and manage very well together. We never argue, just communicate and compromise. I love this for you!! Good job at overcoming what most do not. Keep up the good work and stay strong
@@erikarussell1142 I rarely argue with my husband either, we don’t always agree but we can talk without it being a drama. The stress in my previous marriage was so overwhelming, I was scarily thin as a result of constantly being on edge waiting for the next bad thing to happen, it was exhausting. I could never go back to that kind of relationship, I much prefer being with someone I know I’m safe with, can laugh with even when we’re debating opposing views no matter if it’s a big issue or some random nonsense. I think so many people need to find better ways to communicate, and to understand that the way some people act in a relationship isn’t actually anything you’ve done but a learned response from past experiences and that if you can be honest you can grow together which just makes you a stronger couple.
I’m really glad everything is going well for you too! It always seems so daunting but actually it’s so very simple and easy when you open up to each other. Must be why I detest tv shows and films where big dramas would be easily solved with a quick conversation
@@sleeplessinscotland9394 I fully agree!!! Him and I both have past traumas, and I think that it’s best that we are both broken and found each other, because we both know how the other feels and how anxious we get with drama. There’s No need to be mean or rude when we can both use our words properly. I’m so happy you too found someone just as amazing as my punky (his name) and I pray you have many long years of happiness, love and laughter.
I've been chatting with this guy on Reddit. He's like 40 and has never been with a woman. He asked me for advice about dating, but he won't even try unless the girl is Instagram worthy.
I wish I could help him understand that attraction is more than just about looks
He's probably gay and scared to admit it to himself.
not for men 😆
That kind of guy just isn’t meant to breed anyway
@@me2ontube Yes, it is.
@@me2ontube I guess "it is for Instagram worthy chick's" too then.
Because he's literally a 40 year old virgin, so clearly the women he finds "attractive" aren't even attracted to him.
This video has made me so happy. Had such a terrible valentine's day. My fiancé and I both have a stomach bug, I just got my period early and I'm uncontrollably crying about having to use sick days at work. Needed this, love ya ❤️
You got this!
😢💔
Feel better soon ❤
Hope you feel better soon ❤️❤️❤️
Hope you both feel better soon!
5:00 The funnier thing is that I consider myself a decent guy, and I was on a dating app for a little while. I got rejected repeatedly on the dating app, which did a small number on my ego. However, I never blamed the WHOLE other gender for that; if anything, the experience made me second-guess myself.
After I decided that I was done with everything dating app related, I decided to focus on myself and growing. Surprisingly enough, once I made myself emotionally available, I met someone through work, which today is my Fiancee.
The last guy that was looking for something "genuine and real" screams domestic violence. He pretty much wanted to isolate her from all forms of communication with her friends/family so that he could have complete control and ensure that she wouldn't be able to tell anyone what was going on. Scary.
So women can do that very thing to men (even stalk his page and get mad over liking a picture) but a man can't. See the hypocrisy there
As a guy in my mid forties, I've learned that there is a lot of unprocessed pain out there. A lot of angry people.
Not teaching children emotional processing skills is really biting everyone in the ass after they are all grown up
@@LynetteTheRogue Not really. It's men getting fed up with women treating them like shit, even when they offer the best
As a single mom...yes, it is that hard on these dating streets 🤦🏽♀️ And I don't even have social media
It really is. And same here. I have Twitter, but that's it 🤷🏼♀️😭
@@weatheredinsomniac the struggle is real!!
honestly social media isn't good for a lot. there really is a lot of drama on there. if you have a different opinion or don't fit whatever the current thing is lol.
I was a divorced, single, mom for 8 years before I found my the love of my life. Hang in there bestie. It’s rough AF! But all of us who have been/currently are single moms, got your back!
I was a divorced mum of two when I met my now husband, there are decent guys out there that don’t see kids as a negative. We now have four kids that he considers all equally his children. Anyone who sees your circumstances as a negative just isn’t the person for you and that’s ok and you’re not missing out on a thing. If meeting someone is what you want long term it will happen, have faith. In fairness I was much happier a single mum than I was in my previous marriage so even if I hadn’t met anyone I was still better off, and so were my kids who will never come second to anyone
Whoa that last one. Wants a woman to manipulate, isolate and do with as he pleases against her will, wowow. I'm GLAD dating apps is such a big thing these days, you can really get rid of some of the worst ones without even letting them know you exist.
AGREED! At least this way they are advertising "DON'T DATE ME! I'M A TOOL! I'M A MASOGONISTIC ASSHOLE WHO THINK THAT WOMEN ARE LESS THAN ME!" Just complete pieces of GARBAGE. They don't F-ing deserve partners
I actually met my husband through a dating app. Granted, I joined knowing full well what they were really about and only had plans to use it for hook-ups (going through a divorce & was very clear I didn't want a relationship beyond FWB).
The number of people I got trying to lock me into a relationship was insane. I remember one that I hadn't even met in person yet flipped the fuck out when he found out a male friend from childhood was going to be staying in my parents basement (where I was currently living since I moved states with the divorce). He legit thought he had a say in it. Even if I was looking to settle down with someone, attempting to control me before even meeting is an immediate red flag. He generally thought he should be able to demand that of me without even meeting in person a single time!
Hun, you dodged a bullet.
Has a 21-year-old single mum hearing these things is really really hurtful. I was engaged when I got pregnant. I found out something terrible about my partner and broke it off before my daughter was even born doesn't make me any less of a person.
‘If you want a relationship, get off the dating apps’ as someone who met her now boyfriend after she thought she got stood up by someone on a dating app in the restaurant he works in, I can confirm this can be true. You have to be extremely lucky off and on dating apps!
Am so glad they weren't around when I was young & single. Now that I'm older and single, the whole dating thing frankly scares me. Can't see myself changing my happily independent life for a guy anyway.
@@kathydurow6814 I’m glad you are happy!
No one ever approached me when I was young before getting married and now it’s even worse after being divorced. How does one even date in the wild??
The apps are awful, but otherwise I wouldn’t have any dates, lol
@@heatherduke7703 the apps are horrendous. I am the same, no one approached me when I was younger, and I didn’t have the confidence either. Regardless of if you are using the apps or not, you have to get really lucky.
Well I think they can work. I myself met my husband on one, and. I know atleast 5 other people in my extended family who met people off dating apps. 3 plenty of fish. 2 tinder. (I to was surprised by tinder)
You and Mike are the cutest couple. I immediately stop what I'm doing as soon as I see your notification. Wish you guys had a channel together. But please don't ever stop this channel. I would go thru a deep withdrawal.
I married a man I met online. We both have kids (6 total). It took 5 years and meeting over 40 people but it was worth it all! :) I did have a share of screenshots of guys similar to these in your video. Luckily I only met a few in person because they mostly did a great job of eliminating themselves with their awful profiles. I'm thankful everyday for online dating and meeting my husband!
here's the story of a lovely lady 🎶 😄
I have a dream that one day, someone who wrote a toxic dating app bio will see it on a video like this, realise that they have issues, go to therapy and only resume dating when they are in a healthy emotional place....and stay the hell away from me until then! 😭
There is an organization for single parents called Parents Without Partners, I believe it's all over the US. They have all kinds of activities for single parents at low cost, to help make friends or even maybe a relationship. I remember swimming/cookout events, fun fairs around holidays, float trips. They have adult events as well, parties, dancing etc. and I attended a couple of them as an adult. My single father said it was very helpful to him. There were all ranges of age and # of kids, but everyone worked together and I remember lots of fun times.
PwP is a good choice! Ages ago I did a 2 visit counseling intake for a single dad with three kids. His wife had left him for a wealthy guy.. no kids in the way! This was an ordinary man, devoted to his kids, steady job, owned his house, nice looking but not "hot" ... and depressed. And very very sad. Not just lonely - he believed that women wouldn't be interested in him because he HAD kids, all under 10. I told him about the counseling available at the clinic AND about Parents without Partners. And that a good dad could be rather appealing to women, especially women with kids of their own. And that I couldn't imagine him NOT being able to 'meet' women. I'm a woman, so that comment probably carried more weight than if I'd been a man. He perked up a bit. He said he needed to think about getting into counseling ( would have been group therapy). We called him when a counseling appt was available, and he dropped in ... to say thanks for telling him about Parents without Partners. I told him it sounded like he was doing better with just the "support" from PwP. He never felt the need for counseling again.
Laughing so hard at "I can make two types of spaghetti" like that's some kind of flex. It's one of the easiest dishes to cook 😂
I should introduce you to my cousin who burns water, thankfully she married a man who can cook
Spoiler alert: they’re exactly the same, just different types of pasta.😂
@@meganroberts8721 this is sooooo cute 🤣
First I was like "Okay, that's actually a funny joke and a kind of charming way to roast yourself 😅" ...but then I read the rest of the text. 🤦♀️
Thank you for making me feel better about being single on Valentine’s Day. 😂 Although there’s good ppl out there, I’m going to pretend like those are my only options & I feel great!
Always nice when they so succinctly display why they would not make a good date.
I was a single Mom when I met my husband. I never had any issues with dating after my divorce and before meeting my husband. My husband has always treated my son as his bonus son. This year we will be celebrating 28 years together, with 27 of them being married. My husband says that guys who refuse to date single Moms could be missing out on the love of their life because they're being idiots. Lol
Smart man!
This was so funny! "It's giving✨criminal✨" and that 6-part checklist is absolutely wild. 😂
"looking for something genuine and real", yeah, he was looking for a genuine and real PRISONER.
Yet, it's ok for women to stalk men's pages and get mad over him liking a picture that isn't them. See the hypocrisy
I am so sick of these disgusting men who automatically blame the woman for being a single mom.
I'm a single mom because my sociopath ex cheated on me 4 times that I know of, and also assaulted me.
So gross to just automatically blame the woman when you have NO idea what she might have gone through.
Edited to add: They also need to stop assuming that a single mom wants to date because she's looking for some sort of meal ticket. As if a woman can't just crave companionship in a healthy relationship just because she has kids.
Some single moms do receive child support from their ex and also work and support themselves, and some of us are very independent and don't expect any type of monetary help from a new man.
I know-siding with the bro they don’t even know is a red flag. They hate women. Women will always please me more than any temptation or fault I don’t even try to fight or they just fail and didn’t deserve me 🙄
I always assume that they see the single mom's children as competition for attention, also they probably want to be the only child in her life.
Usually losers that no one will date anyways lmao FCK em and what they think, they are no one 🤷🏻♀️ lmao it's funny that they act as if a Mom can't be the one who kicked her loser significant other out... Omg that can happen, lmao thats USUALLY what happens 😂😂😂 I agree with the competition aspect as well, some dudes gonna take it as the kid(s) taking their time away lmao like wtf ...
I am sorry mam what happened to you and I feel for you. I dated a single mom and I left traumatised after that experience but I dont hate single moms even after that it is not people it is situations that make us good or bad that we are in. Here is my story-
I ( M 30)loved her(F30) unconditionally but she left me in pieces. I am a average looking guy. This was my first dating experience and prior to that I had no experience at all.She has a lot of Childhood trauma as her father sexually abused her and then her mother basically gave up on her as she couldn`t protect her daughter she had a really bad sexually and emotionally abused
relationship through she got her first baby. we met through bumble as she was not sexually and romantically interested in me, and we became good friends. She told me that she was financially struggling so I
helped her to celebrate her son`s first birthday with a blast as well I gifted her a beautiful expensive dress. Basically, I was fallen her. She started playing games with me, and she was always demanding. I
want this I want that and to fulfill her demands I started burning a lot of my savings but I never asked to pay her back or anything in return. I started to help her in buying groceries, medicines, and
whatnot, and in just 2 months I spent almost $4000. She would always call herself I can`t see animals treated badly, especially dogs and pigs, and she will post about them on her Instagram, yet she has no empathy for humans. No matter how much I help her she would call me I
am retarded and call blind in public and in front of her friends. Basically, I had sacrificed my own life, needs, and enjoyment for her. She would ask me for money for lunch if I don`t have any then she would play the manipulation tactic like a guilt trip- "Do you want me to call my ex to ask to beg money from him". I would borrow money from my friends and give it to her so that she and her son can feed their stomachs. This whole thing started to take a big toll on my mental and
physical health and professional life. She would call me during my work hours, even if I tell her I was busy at work or in a meeting, and always loved bombing and manipulation. one day I had the worst
performance review of my life, and that week I didn`t have in anything in my stomach for over a week. I have Thyroid and pre-existing Depression and Anxiety which led me to a really bad depressive episode when I needed her, she told me that she is busy with household chores,
I am lying, and then she blocked and disconnected all our chats. After
this betrayal, I was in an extremely fragile mental state and couldn`t work in my office. My office manager started helping me I told her about everything that happened to me as I had no experience before with relationships I never viewed anyone with a critical or skewed
view. After 1 and a half months when I healed from all this and as I moved on, she again reconnected with me, with all the love I have for her I decided to meet her. But just after her demands started again. I
didn`t want to meet her, but then I miss her and then I go with her and she made me miserable again but this time more like she don`t like my voice, she don`t like my accent, she don`t like how I talk and I
smelled like really spicy Indian curry. I don`t know what was going on with my life and I became miserable again to protect my peace I started lying to her. This time I basically gave up and whether she is
a genuine person or faking herself I decided to ask for my money back
from her and she did the exact response that my brain and my friends
were expecting and I burned all the bridges so that there is room for her to come back again. I hope she doesn`t come back. Now I am suffering from CPTSD, chronic depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and
stress and I am losing weight because of this whole abuse. Basically, I am still trying to figure out what actually happened to me was that genuine person or someone else? Still discovering a lot more details
but what happened to me I never even wished for my enemies. I wanted to help her in her healing journey and now I need healing.
Hope to hear some advice from you lovely ladies.
My dad died when I was four, so technically my mom was a widow but it still pisses me off when single or widowed parents get looked down at. I hope you are in a better place now, and there’s nothing wrong with companionship. I loved my step dad quite a bit.
Charlotte, as a woman in her mid-fifties, chivalry has been dead for decades. I'm so sorry for your generation. I hope Mike is chivalrous!
Amen
No it's not.
Chivalry is not dead thanks to mike!
Women aren't women anymore that's why
As a man in my 50’s , I ask the women in this reply this, what do you consider to be chivalrous? Because what I was brought up and told was chivalrous, like opening a door, pulling out a chair, give her your coat, if she is cold etc is just as likely to get you a slap round the face and labelled as a sexist!
Funny this came out today, I had my first date where he opened every door for me. He also insisted he bring me a gift. His momma did good work.
My mom literally remarried at 40 with a 15 year old, 13 year old and a 3 year old. She got remarried with three kids, I think the people who say single parents will never get remarried are actually bitter that they can't get anyone even though they are young and single and a person with kids can
"Looking for something genuine and real" should have read " looking for someone submissive to dominate and turn into my sex slave/mother" . Freud would've had a field day with that one.
That last one is scary. Coercive control much? Cutting her off from friends, controlling what she says, making her a slave with no independence... not an okay thing to ask for
Then women shouldn't do it to men especially when they have female friends
@dakotakulha8376 Absolutely! No one should do it to their partner - whatever gender.
They are a partner, aka another grown adult with rights, friends, family, interests. If you (them not you specifically) can't handle your partner to do that, then that is a you problem, and you maybe need to deal with it before you get into a relationship.
And if the person has cheated and now you want to control and have knowledge of everything they do... then break up. Cheaters don't deserve chances anyway
The actual definition of chivalry is a code of conduct for medieval warriors and soldiers to follow. It doesn’t have anything to do with being a real gentleman. Instead it’s a code of religious, moral and social code; promoting courage, and honor and defending the weak. That being said, my husband to be is such a respectful gentleman, I just know he can’t be the only one.
Actual definition is spot on, however, chivalry has been modernized to also mean gallant and distinguished gentlemen (per Merriam-Webster), so it fits your husband. You are both lucky to have one another. Happy Valentine's Day!
remember words can have various definitions. the code of conduct from the medieval times was taken to be used by a gentleman. now i do say now that is harder to find because either it's seen as weakness, or people have been burned by women, or feminists hate them. there are still some who still follow it yes but as years go by less and less do.
Unfortunately, some men have a strange definition for what "chivalry" means. Many years ago, long before my hair turned grey, I went on a date to a nice restaurant. First red flag was when we arrived and my date became annoyed when I opened my car door, he insisted I sit there until he could walk around the car and "let me out". I was fine with him opening the door for me at the restaurant, as that's polite. I also appreciated that he helped me get my coat off and pulled out my chair. Again, that's polite. I was not okay with what he said when the waiter came to take our order. "The little lady will have..."
I stopped him, and in a low but firm voice said, "I'm not little, and I'm not feeling very 'ladylike' right now, I can order for myself and I can pay for myself too."
Reminds me of something I saw recently while watching the original "Star Trek" with my 30 year old son. It was my favorite show when I was a kid, and it's been decades since I've seen it. My favorite characters were Mr. Spock, and Uhura. I especially love Uhura, as she was the first female character I saw on TV who was beautiful, smart, and held her own among a mostly male cast.
It's fun watching these again through older, more experienced eyes. I definitely missed some adult humor as a child!
In an episode where a creepy, sexist alien kisses her hand and calls Uhura a "fair maiden", she pulls back her hand and retorts, "NEITHER!" That clever one word response went right over my head when I was a kid.
RIP, Nichelle Nichols, and thank you for inspiring millions of girls (of all colors) to "boldly go where" women deserve to be.
@Lazy I Ranch yeah I can say that some of it is dumb for sure. When getting to know someone I would never order for them. Even if you knew them it's something they could change. As for the fair maiden while it was TV yes some don't think of that. She was a strong lead but there were others as well. Mary Tyler Moore was one of my favorite and I'm only 44. Lucille ball was another but there were many even before them as well.
Probably not,but he's very rare
The beatnik finger snaps were the best!
These people are living proof that being alone on Valentines isn't the worst thing in the world
Back in the stone age when I was single my trigger was when a first date would say the following:
"Buy me something."
This happened three times, each time they won a $2 city bus ride back home.
EDIT: "PC master race" is not a reference to a game (or white supremacy LOL), it's another way to say he is a PC gamer only....he probably has a gaming PC rig ($3 to $4K), a $300 keyboard, and a $200 mouse
The audacity!
@@lotstodo Oh the best one was the first young lady to do it. I was taking her to an extremely nice restaurant that I had to wait 9 months for my reservation.
On the way to dinner - barely 10 minutes after I picked her up - "Let's go to the mall. You can buy me something!"
A meal for two at that place was $800 in 1998.....not including drinks, tips, etc ..... she's the one who created my $2 city bus ticket bargain.
So I went to dinner with a lesbian friend of mine....best platonic meal I ever had.
@@ericlondon2663 we love to see it 👏
@@ericlondon2663 Are You serious? There really are women like this? Um, on my sex behalf, I'd like to apologize for those... 800$ MEAL?? WAS IT COVERED IN GOLD?
@@margodphd Fine dining, you know truffles, etc...I'm a foodie and a amateur chef so...I like experiences.
And I like the nicer things so I splurge on my wife, myself, my cats, and those I care the most about.
Ah, the highlight of my day. New Charlotte video!! 🥰
hello Charlotte! i’ve been binge watching your channel for like a week and im not complaining…. thanx for the amusing pettiness you brought to my life! happy valentines day!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
These people are doing everyone a HUGE favor. They might as well write "I'M A MASSIVE TOOL. DON'T EVER DATE ME."
The snapping beatnik fingers though! My side hurts from laughing!
I love when people write posts like this. Saves others the time.
Happy Valentines Day! And these people on dating apps is why I'm a crazy cat lady.
I like that they put all that craziness in their bio because it shows their red flags right away and you don’t have to waste your time lol
I've always loved it when guys say all this stuff in their profiles. You can immediately dismiss them as a possibility. Thanks for waving those red flags!
Wow, this kind of stuff makes me so happy I'm married! Oh, and I was a single mom of three in my late twenties when I met my husband. There's nothing wrong with not wanting to date a single mom, but this doesn't mean no other men will!
I tried Facebook dating for the first time a couple years ago.
Ended up having like 2 dates and met a really good friend from it.
This past summer, while single again, I decided to try my luck again.
Holy shit. Rarely did I find anyone who didn't want just a hookup. I did gain a few friends but ended up deleting my profile after 2 months. It was too much to handle and keep up with.
I then met my current boyfriend without any dating app. And I'm very happy that I did 💜
Jesus I want to meet someone in person I go out and try to be social. Hardly anyone asks people out anymore I've never been asked out my entire life not even to prom I even tried asking guys out it's not fun.
@@empath9814 unfortunately that's what me too and public shaming of men has done, as a guy we have to be extra careful about any interaction with women lest it be creepy or harassment, like the current gym girl trend of calling men pervs for glancing at them, and I'm not saying there aren't pervy creeps in gyms but if you can't even look around the gym without getting put on blast on socials, it makes approaching women daunting at best. All I can say is shoot your shot and hope for the best, I'm sure you'll find someone sson
Charlotte's video is the only valentines date I need 🥰🥰💖🌸
Charlotte, YOU make this old lady laugh. I sure admire your humor and WOW love your singing voice too❤❤❤cat xxx
Charlotte's face of confusion not knowing what "PC Master Race" Means and ending out thinking it is a game and worrying it's something sinister is the funnies thing ever! XD
These days we don't really know. Look around.
The no ankle socks and good vibes only is weird and funny. I think it’s funny because I have ankle socks that say “good vibes“ 😂.
My sister’s HUSBAND came into her life when my niece was 4 months old. They have been together for 7 years. Single moms, please do not worry you are not worth any less because you have a lovely child, if anything I would say you’re even more of a catch, you are doing single parenthood, that is HARD but shows how much love and commitment you have in your heart. Don’t give up my single moms and dad’s we ❤ you!
I've never been more happy that I got married before the flood of dating apps 🤣
Charlotte, thank you for reminding me I’m perfectly happy being single on Valentine’s Day!
Gentlemen do not call any woman a tramp, let alone an anonymous group of women you haven’t even met.
When I met my husband he was divorced with 2 children, I was divorced with two children. Neither of us were looking for marriage, just looking for someone nice, funny, with some of the same likes in common to go out to a movie, or dinner, or a football game. He says he fell hard really fast but held back because I wasn’t there yet. It didn’t take me long because he’s an amazing man. We got married with our children there. We combined our families and had one child together. All our children are super adults with their own children. He still makes me laugh everyday, and comes into a room I’m in, singing while pulling me to dance with him. It’s been the best 41 years of my life.
If your really interested in a relationship quit putting up barriers. Dating should be fun. You know fun, laughing and all that. Even if she/he isn’t ‘the one’, what’s wrong with making a new friend?
😂 I went on a tinder date with this one guy…after some miscommunication and some spur of the moment plans, we are still together 2 years later. It’s a needle in a hay stack, but it’s possible to find someone that truly makes you happy. Stay positive and watch out for the trash, it will usually take itself out
This video just made me SO HAPPY that I am a married woman. Dang!!!! These guys really wonder why they still single??? YIKES!!!!
Some just have that personality that they think they deserve supermodel pretty with money without seeing their own fault lines in their personality and lifestyle
"You catch more flys with honey than vinegar." Yeah, but you attract more flys with manure than with anything else. Just sayin'
That's why the aholes are so popular!
Ah yes, but remember there is a difference between being the shit and being just shit.
The way she is STRUGGLING with this "ex's mom" point 🤣🤣 he's saying "your ex was such trash, his mother warned that you would find someone better. I'm that person she warned him about" 😅😅
Hero. Thank you for this!
I'm so happily single. Spent my Valentine's Day helping at my grandson's 1st grade class party. It was the best Valentine's Day ever
The best day of my life was when my tinder expired after inactivity.
Although, sometimes I low key wish I had kept it around, just for the content 😂
Charlotte - as a fellow redhead your hair is goals. It's so long and luxurious. How dare you be so gorgeous. Save some for the rest of us pls and thx.
Hi Charlotte, love your videos. Helps me get through the day
Wow. Some people think anger, bitterness and entitled are the gateway to love.
Yet, why should men only take responsibility for their actions, why not women who constantly degrade and mentally, physically, verbally, and sexually abuse men
I used to live next door to a really crotchety old man. I used to talk with him from time to time and once I told him that saying "you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar" and that old man didn't miss a beat when he shot back "if I wanted to catch flies I'd used shit". 🤣🤣 I started talking with him as often as I could after that. He was a cool old dude with a lot of cool stories.
The snaps after the poetry made me die laughing your videos are the best part of my day.
I feel like these are the people who complain that they can’t find anyone, all the good ones are taken, etc etc. when they’re the problem.
OMG, I'm so glad that I immediately dropped trying to use dating apps after I tried one after I ended my 25-year relationship in 2015. I'll never fit into this so-called new dating world because I actually still prefer meeting people face to face so I can immediately tell if there's any chemistry at all & not waste my time on people that act like relationships are deposable & easy to come by when real ones are not & take work.. 💯
This is the weird thing… Supposedly guys don’t get many matches, but everyone I meet on dating apps treats me as if I were disposable
@@heatherduke7703 like Charlotte said 80% of women go for 20% of the men (latest swiping data shows that men swipe right about 46% compared to women swiping right like 2% 🤯), those men do consider you disposable because they have all the options they could want, whereas the average joe gets nothing, for example last time I tried a dating app (7years ago) I was on there for 3 months (I'm possibly a tad over average looks, got my own place and work), wasn't getting any matches so decided to swipe right on everyone for a while, so considering my bio was VERY clear about me not wanting hookups, I got ONE match (I don't know a single woman, even less pretty ones, that dont get tons of matches within the first day) with a whale whose first message was "You shirt would look great on my bedroom floor". From then on I won't use dating apps
Love how fellas think a single mum is a loser. Cos maybe she ditched him and she can keep house and family together all by herself. If anything she’s gonna be pickier and you’re not gonna stand a chance hahaha 😂
These comments were made by 20-year-old guys. I can understand them not wanting to go out with older women but they should just shut up.
@@j.h.3777 If the "older women" were the problem for them, they could have ajusted the age range targeted. Instead they decided to be douchebags. It certainly sorts for most women, if not all :)
CHARLOTTE. NOT THE POETRY SNAPPING 💀💀💀 I do that ironically all the time 😭
Hey at least they're honest right from the jump so an informed decision can be made 🤣 😆
NEVER CLICKED SO FAST
My husband and I met through a dating site (before apps became a thing). We were both single parents, me with a 16 year old son, and he had an 8 year old daughter. My husband was also living back with his parents after his divorce and had noted that this in particular seemed to be an issue with women he had previously chatted to on the site, so much so that he was considering coming off, until we started to talk. We've been together 14 years now, coming up for 10 years married. I'd been married twice before (and met both in nightclubs) and was at the stage where I couldn't be bothered with that anymore. I decided to try a dating site, and got lucky. It's not for everyone, but then not everyone is in a position to choose the alternative of a chance meeting on a night out, for one reason or another. Do what suits you and you're comfortable with.
Me… who wanted a real relationship and tried tinder… ended up marrying my tinder date four years ago. 🙃😂
Dating apps aren't causing them to act this way. The way they act is why they are on a dating app.
It's grown ass women treating men like shit even when they offer the best for them. So why should men take responsibility for their actions and not women
Chivalry isn't just about how you treat women. It's having/showing respect for others in general. So yea chivalry has been dead lol
Also, there tend to be more men on dating apps than women so that also adds to this problem.
Have you ever heard the saying, "Only a hick thinks about the best ways to catch flies."
There's a lot of confidence coming from a group of people who seem to not have a firm grasp on proper spelling, grammar and punctuation.
Izzy grapefruit bottle soda two-thirds full left open on the counter will catch loads of fruit flies
I had two guys have the AUDACITY to ask me if I would cut off contact with my daughter to focus on a relationship before I left dating apps for good, gotta love that lovely BLOCK button. Now I have a fabulous fiance and we see her every year and talk all the time. There are people out there who are more than happy to date single parents or people with children, don't settle.
When my grandpa met my grandma, she was already pregnant with another dude whom she had the intention to marry, but he disappeared after going to war (dead maybe or he moved on). Love at first sight for him, married her so she wouldn't have to be shamed for having a child outside marriage and they pretended that the kid was their own. I don't think she was in love at the time, but my grandpa's chilvalry won her over (found cute letters he sent her to win her affections). I only discovered the truth recently after my grandma's funeral, they kept the secret for so long. My aunt, their first child, is actually not my grandfather's, and my already huge respect for my grandpa went through the roof. Times are different now, I wish people didn't view single parents as "leftovers" when they have so much left to offer.
Another title to this video could have been "how to stay single for the rest of your life..." 😂 Also to the people saying Men/women are awful, they don't like "good guys/girls anymore" like the guy in 4:03. Maybe look at yourself and how you approach people first, then maybe you'll see why they are treating you that way. I love your videos! Keep up the good work. :)
Love you Charlotte! Keep up the awesome work girl! You crushing it!!
I met my husband on a dating app. The dating horrors I could tell... but I took a chance on a single dad with two kids and we're a happy family now for 6.5 years.
My daughters husband is 21 and literally makes an effort on every holiday and just random days. When they did long distance for a year they would send each other holiday boxes I at the time was like I’m why but now I see how much they love and do for each other. I’m 40 and yes I’m happy and jealous at the same time
Occasionally, I ask myself if im missing out by staying off dating apps. Then i see a video like this and praise my great life decisions
If I were single and on dating apps I can honestly say I am fine with those bios. That way I wouldn’t have to waste time on those pieces of trash. You know who they are without having to ever meet them
It's true! At least with these bios, you can see they are garbage without having to be involved. Which is NICE, however no matter what, you will still come across garbage. It's hard to find a solution. Especially with that last post.. In an idealistic world all of the garbage out there will show themselves in their bio lol