toxic men have dream girls but they do not have the character to keep their dream girl. dont take it personal. you could be his dream girl but he is not worthy of you.
Once I felt in love with a man, but when I discovered that he met with another girl, I blocked him. The whole situation hurt me really long time, but Alessia made me realize it was correct behavior. After that he wanted to get me back, but there is no more possibility for this man. Ladies, know your worth
Same thing happened, I was starting to get deeper feelings for a guy, then I found out he had emotionally abused some girls in the past for YEARS, he resulted to be a covert narcissist. As soon as I found out I dumped him and ofc it hurt me but I will always put myself first
Same happened to me, he told me in the beginning he has dated girls who were crazy, one wanted to study medicine just because of him, he had women standing in front of his house, he talked to his ex on the phone while I was in the same room claiming it was work related. I should have walked out right there but I gave him a chance. I regret it so much. NEVER AGAIN. @@user-th3ez5sj9y
Important Notes: +Neediness is unattractive and pushes people away from you. +When someone doesn't want you, it makes you want them more. +A man will do anything for his dream girl. +Masculine energy: wanting to provide with what he has, willing to care for you and do everything to make you happy.
#2 is a very stupid and very easy way to get blown off and ignored by a guy who has a crush on you. This is literally one of the biggest, easiest fuckups a woman can do with us. This is 10x more true in the post metoo bullshit. Any woman acts like she doesn't want a man in this day and age, she WILL lose him. This is the same kind of stupid game playing shit that, like making a guy chase you, playing hot and cold, trying to flirt with all the guys but him, is going to be taken for being a dishonest and manipulative woman that is a complete turn off and he's going to blow you off and ignore you. I bet you guys tried this already, didn't you? And he stopped chasing you and started ignoring you too, didn't he? When you pretend to not want someone you better be ready for them ignoring you, because men don't work like women. We don't do this stupid shit with reverse psychology. We want women that want us. "I would never want a man this easy to get" you, yeah that's YOU. Don't be hard to get. Not putting out isn't the same as being hard to get. All of these stupid games are the kind of shit you can probably pull with some inexperienced fuckboys but you just try and watch what happens when you pull this on any kind of a man who's older, who's more experienced, or has any kind of integrity or standards just watch how fast he blows you off entirely. 3:57 this is stupid and terrible advice. Watch however many women here tried this. And watch how he pulls back. Watch how he ignores you. And if you try and act like you don't like him, and do this being hard to get shit, he's eventually going to pull back so far now YOU are stuck chasing HIM. I've seen women do this shit so many times, and each time some dumb young woman does this she looks like a total ass in front of all the other women, because maybe a lot of the men don't, but the women definitely know what just happened and why. He won't pull back because you gave too much, he's going to pull back when you pull back. My God this is stupid.
As a man I want to advise women - never get intimate with a man until your wedding night. This may not be the "traditional" thing to do nowadays, however it is one of the reasons why there are so many people getting used abd discarded. If they try it with you then tell them that if they are actually serious then they will wait until the wedding night. That way you will get rid of those with the wrong intentions. Many men will tell you anything just for you to fall for them so that thry can get intimate with you. Once you give them what they want then they will very quickly lose interest and respect for you. If he really wants you then he will marry you. Even if your engaged then do not do it under the assumption that your going to get married anyway, as I've seen many engagements crumble for various reasons. Also when you get intimate with a relationship partner then when things go wrong then you wont be as hurt as you would be if you gave yourself fully to them. So wait until your wedding night. That way you will filter out the wrong types of men. Intimacy is sacred and not to be dished out to a person that you may or may not end up with in the long run. In constantly doing so, then you'll end up having a body count of double figures by the time you actually end up with the right person for the long term. You owe yourself much more respect and self love than that. Only one person should ever be entitled to intimacy with you and that is your marriage partner.
@falakchanga8435 my bf and I are still young. We didn't have s£x but...we did get intimate....we saw each others' bodies, despite I told him that I wanna wait till marriage....but I ended up giving in...he doesn't love me just for physical relationship..I hope ...but does it mean that he disrespected me? But the fact that I was not okay with being intimate at such an early stage before even dating, I ended up being OK with going to his house to have "fun"
finally someone stated that feminine energy doesn’t work for everyone , especially for those who went through much and who are willing to take responsibility and challenges.
i started my healing journey 9 months ago and ive noticed ive been more comfortable recieving and being in my feminine energy. even if you have had to be in your masculine energy because of trauma, with time, you can heal yourself. remember to be patient loves, i can assure you it gets better
Alessia, I adore listening to your 'No!' right after you described a bad behaviour. It's iconic at this point and so spot on! I learn a lot from you, greetings from The Netherlands, neighbour 😊
thank u sm for all u do for us, u heal part of us u didn’t break and u taught me to see things for what they really are and not what I created in my head, thank u sm Ilysm 💜
this was so inspirational I usually don't watch videos like these all the way through, but I respect you so much for giving us confidence and reminding females that we are powerful as we are.
I'm literally watching videos like these so I can redflag women more easily. I want to be able to disqualify gold diggers and entitled, narcissistic, shallow, high maintenance women without needing to waste more than one dinner on any of them.
I clicked eventhough I am not interested "to make" anyone chase me. I am here , trusting someday when it's the right person , he will do that without me having to do anything for me. If I really liked someone the biggest thing I can do is smile ❤ wishing you fulfilling love people
Definitely great advice. I just dealt with a situation like this and I handled it just how you described it in this video. Thanks for the confirmation.
Persephone thank you for your words,they are very comforting and you are such a Nice lady you deserve Love as you share yours with us and thats your greatest gift x
Oh my god thank you so much for the video. It’s been quite a while since we talked and i was really thinking about throwing a little hint to him but since the ball in his court he needs to apologize and approach to me. NEVER REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
You’re so right! I think this video was really helpful, we should have standards and respect them. It would be awesome if you could expand more into how to enter our feminine energy and also some good traits every nice woman should have. For example men are expected to be gentlemen and provide, but what about women? I would like to be my best version to attract a partner who is his best version too :) thanks!
thank you❤ this made me realize i can do so much better, my ex best friend set my standards because he used to take me orchestras and Musicals and id get all fancy and dressed up, but all my new bfs aren't even doing the bare minimum
My goodness, this has helped me a lot. And i confess i was guilty of falling for my own illusions. I wanted him to do this and that, always asking for attention and always explaining. But thank God i woke up from that, i am building myself up now. And i will never settle for less than i want. Love you ❤
I got so excited to see the title of the video. But when i saw i felt so ashamed and i cried whole heartedly because it triggered the part where she told us not to do certain things to man and i did that exactly and for the good four years , i have tried to mold him, i have waited for him but he never did anything for me. Though its been two days and i have left him. I hope i will heal myself soon. And I truly love your videos. Thank you so much.
Your Majesty, Alessia, thank you for this adorable video 💕 the phrase "don't fall in love with your own illusion of someone" opened my eyes on my life...
You just saved me love like I did all the things and after listening to you my mind goes like crazy 😭 now i will make my self better I let him chase I want that men but this time I am not going to beg I will attract and this is what I learn from you you are too adorable ily💗✨
Thank you. I needed to remind myself of this. I like him, but he's getting more energy than deserved from me right now vs his amount of effort. He has done nice things so far don't get me wrong. He brought me books as a gift. And I love books so I do appreciate it and let him know. But it's still not enough effort to see me around his schedule. I feel I should pull away but he constantly keeps contacting me. Any adadvice is appreciated so that he steps his dating game up. I feel intuitively it's a good connection.
Important life lesson, just be nice, kind and understanding these alone shall get you far in life, never expect things from people in return always just do good and good comes back in some way shape or form. I also think that good personality is the most atractive thing on this planet looks are just a bonus and everyone needs someone who cares and looks after them wether you are male or female at the end of the day we are all human beings and we have feelings/emotions.
I really needed this video 3 years ago hahaha I was "in love" so badly with a guy that didn't want me, and I knew he was bad for me, so I had to fight my own feelings, it was awful omg😮💨 😂
I don’t understand because a lot of people say that to attract men you have to be independent, You have to be the woman who don’t need anyone you have to be the woman with personality who don’t need a man and peoples said that it’s what men like ,but after your video, I think that you’re right and that’s better for me because i prefer that someone take care of me, and I love to be feminine, so thank you so much
First of all you are beautiful❤️ and thank you for making this video, i want to tell my story, i knew a guy this last 2 years, last year EXACTLY we met again and after that day we talked a bit and then NEVER again, he was always quiet sometimes but not like this. I always could check his whatsapp and he was always last seen just 1x a day. Im a curvy women in real with a big bum, he also liked my personality but i think he used me or something for my looks. Idk what to think about this i think too much about him cause i am used to him help 😭❤️
You are my lights after my bf haven't texted me back for 32 hours and i might break up with him after watching this. I love your video. Thank you so much. I'm so grateful that i found your channel🥺 I will take my energy and power back to me.
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"If a man wants an angel, he will create heaven for her. Because angels don't live in hell." This hit hard
oh gohhhd
ouch and whoa
i love it, in the end it's his choice 😍
'A man will do everything for his dream girl. He would never do anything that will make him lose her'
toxic men have dream girls but they do not have the character to keep their dream girl. dont take it personal. you could be his dream girl but he is not worthy of you.
yess, a lot of them actually chase toxicity and a lot of times when they find the perfect girl they self sabotage their relationships@@basicinfo2022
cap of a lifetime
@@basicinfo2022agreed
Ew. Sounds like a perverted man to me
"It hurts our ego to be rejected "
"Match his energy"
Fax
Once I felt in love with a man, but when I discovered that he met with another girl, I blocked him. The whole situation hurt me really long time, but Alessia made me realize it was correct behavior. After that he wanted to get me back, but there is no more possibility for this man. Ladies, know your worth
Same thing happened, I was starting to get deeper feelings for a guy, then I found out he had emotionally abused some girls in the past for YEARS, he resulted to be a covert narcissist.
As soon as I found out I dumped him and ofc it hurt me but I will always put myself first
@@user-th3ez5sj9ythat's good. I'm glad you had the courage to leave him.
queen
Same happened to me, he told me in the beginning he has dated girls who were crazy, one wanted to study medicine just because of him, he had women standing in front of his house, he talked to his ex on the phone while I was in the same room claiming it was work related. I should have walked out right there but I gave him a chance. I regret it so much. NEVER AGAIN. @@user-th3ez5sj9y
the best revenge is a self glow up
Important Notes:
+Neediness is unattractive and pushes people away from you.
+When someone doesn't want you, it makes you want them more.
+A man will do anything for his dream girl.
+Masculine energy: wanting to provide with what he has, willing to care for you and do everything to make you happy.
#2 is a very stupid and very easy way to get blown off and ignored by a guy who has a crush on you. This is literally one of the biggest, easiest fuckups a woman can do with us. This is 10x more true in the post metoo bullshit. Any woman acts like she doesn't want a man in this day and age, she WILL lose him. This is the same kind of stupid game playing shit that, like making a guy chase you, playing hot and cold, trying to flirt with all the guys but him, is going to be taken for being a dishonest and manipulative woman that is a complete turn off and he's going to blow you off and ignore you. I bet you guys tried this already, didn't you? And he stopped chasing you and started ignoring you too, didn't he?
When you pretend to not want someone you better be ready for them ignoring you, because men don't work like women. We don't do this stupid shit with reverse psychology. We want women that want us. "I would never want a man this easy to get" you, yeah that's YOU. Don't be hard to get. Not putting out isn't the same as being hard to get. All of these stupid games are the kind of shit you can probably pull with some inexperienced fuckboys but you just try and watch what happens when you pull this on any kind of a man who's older, who's more experienced, or has any kind of integrity or standards just watch how fast he blows you off entirely.
3:57 this is stupid and terrible advice. Watch however many women here tried this. And watch how he pulls back. Watch how he ignores you. And if you try and act like you don't like him, and do this being hard to get shit, he's eventually going to pull back so far now YOU are stuck chasing HIM.
I've seen women do this shit so many times, and each time some dumb young woman does this she looks like a total ass in front of all the other women, because maybe a lot of the men don't, but the women definitely know what just happened and why. He won't pull back because you gave too much, he's going to pull back when you pull back. My God this is stupid.
OML Thank you for the likes
Your channel is singlehandedly helping me get over my ex. Thank you.
NO ITS LITERALLY THE POINT DONT
whattt!@@ablahere2090
@@ablahere2090…huh? read their comment again lmfao
As a man I want to advise women - never get intimate with a man until your wedding night. This may not be the "traditional" thing to do nowadays, however it is one of the reasons why there are so many people getting used abd discarded. If they try it with you then tell them that if they are actually serious then they will wait until the wedding night. That way you will get rid of those with the wrong intentions. Many men will tell you anything just for you to fall for them so that thry can get intimate with you. Once you give them what they want then they will very quickly lose interest and respect for you. If he really wants you then he will marry you. Even if your engaged then do not do it under the assumption that your going to get married anyway, as I've seen many engagements crumble for various reasons. Also when you get intimate with a relationship partner then when things go wrong then you wont be as hurt as you would be if you gave yourself fully to them. So wait until your wedding night. That way you will filter out the wrong types of men. Intimacy is sacred and not to be dished out to a person that you may or may not end up with in the long run. In constantly doing so, then you'll end up having a body count of double figures by the time you actually end up with the right person for the long term. You owe yourself much more respect and self love than that. Only one person should ever be entitled to intimacy with you and that is your marriage partner.
love your comment❤❤
Yess!!!!
What if I find out he's impotent 😂😂😂
@falakchanga8435 my bf and I are still young. We didn't have s£x but...we did get intimate....we saw each others' bodies, despite I told him that I wanna wait till marriage....but I ended up giving in...he doesn't love me just for physical relationship..I hope ...but does it mean that he disrespected me? But the fact that I was not okay with being intimate at such an early stage before even dating, I ended up being OK with going to his house to have "fun"
Kudos for such a true and valid view! I wish more men thought like you!
THE TIMING IS SO ACCURATE, MOTHER U HEAR MY INNER VOICE 😭💕
SAME 😭😭😭
GIRL SAMEEEEEEEEEZZZZZZZZZ
finally someone stated that feminine energy doesn’t work for everyone , especially for those who went through much and who are willing to take responsibility and challenges.
Exactly. Some people thrive being in their masculine energy and that’s totally okay.
We just need to be aware of what works best for us 🤍
@@Persephonesmind u replied ?? i feel honored
HOW DOES SHE KNOW WHAT I NEED WHEN I NEED IT ILY 💗
Idk me neither 😭
Mother is mothering 🎉😭
ikr 😭😭
@@cutiepatootiekatie_it!
@@DNfordeadlynightshadegive him a sign show him that u want this thing indirectly if he still can’t get it for u move on to the next
A man who is not satisfied with his only one will never be satisfied with other hundreds
i started my healing journey 9 months ago and ive noticed ive been more comfortable recieving and being in my feminine energy. even if you have had to be in your masculine energy because of trauma, with time, you can heal yourself. remember to be patient loves, i can assure you it gets better
Alessia, I adore listening to your 'No!' right after you described a bad behaviour. It's iconic at this point and so spot on! I learn a lot from you, greetings from The Netherlands, neighbour 😊
thank u sm for all u do for us, u heal part of us u didn’t break and u taught me to see things for what they really are and not what I created in my head, thank u sm Ilysm 💜
“Are you in love with him or with what you made him to be in your head “ …… wow !
Thank you Alessia for this lesson , I felt like I was devaluing myself for so long and now I can feel my worth
I'm so thankful for this channel. I recently found it, and I'm learning so much. I'm on my journey to healing.
this was so inspirational I usually don't watch videos like these all the way through, but I respect you so much for giving us confidence and reminding females that we are powerful as we are.
same!!!
I'm literally watching videos like these so I can redflag women more easily. I want to be able to disqualify gold diggers and entitled, narcissistic, shallow, high maintenance women without needing to waste more than one dinner on any of them.
God bless you, Alessia. This video has found me in divine timing. I needed to hear this. Thank you🌼🫶🏻
This actually helps a lot, my crush seems to be testing me and I was almost caught up trying to chase him. Thank you so much for the advice!
GOD this is so good ! I’m going to watch your channel more often. My self worth just insanely increased. Thank you ❤
Thankyou for making time for people who are beginning their self development journey, you will always be a part of their success!
I clicked eventhough I am not interested "to make" anyone chase me. I am here , trusting someday when it's the right person , he will do that without me having to do anything for me. If I really liked someone the biggest thing I can do is smile ❤ wishing you fulfilling love people
Definitely great advice. I just dealt with a situation like this and I handled it just how you described it in this video. Thanks for the confirmation.
Thank you very much for subtitles and for your clear understandable pronunciation and speech!
Persephone thank you for your words,they are very comforting and you are such a Nice lady you deserve Love as you share yours with us and thats your greatest gift x
Having people like you on RUclips is a blessing
When I’m light and feminine men take advantage of me. When I’m masculine I can just be left alone.
Same.
Fr like men are gonna take advantage of being "submissive"
Become the dark feminine and watch them chase you!
This is one of the best videos I have seen on this subject; You are easy to understand and very clear, unlike other videos. Thank you so much! ❤
I really needed the reminder, thank you
Such a wise & high value queen you're.🥰 every woman needs to hear this❤
I needed it. Thank you
Oh my god thank you so much for the video. It’s been quite a while since we talked and i was really thinking about throwing a little hint to him but since the ball in his court he needs to apologize and approach to me. NEVER REWARD BAD BEHAVIOR 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
You’re so right! I think this video was really helpful, we should have standards and respect them. It would be awesome if you could expand more into how to enter our feminine energy and also some good traits every nice woman should have. For example men are expected to be gentlemen and provide, but what about women? I would like to be my best version to attract a partner who is his best version too :) thanks!
thank you❤ this made me realize i can do so much better, my ex best friend set my standards because he used to take me orchestras and Musicals and id get all fancy and dressed up, but all my new bfs aren't even doing the bare minimum
Very well said and beautifully put
I love you so much. That’s what i needed❤
He's not an IKEA furniture sent me😭 ily this video is truly incredible just like all of your videos, they're a true blessing just like you are🩷
Your words are so powerful thank you soo much for this ❤
My goodness, this has helped me a lot.
And i confess i was guilty of falling for my own illusions.
I wanted him to do this and that, always asking for attention and always explaining.
But thank God i woke up from that, i am building myself up now.
And i will never settle for less than i want.
Love you ❤
Your an angel thank you so much for this video the world is great duo to have you ❤
I got so excited to see the title of the video. But when i saw i felt so ashamed and i cried whole heartedly because it triggered the part where she told us not to do certain things to man and i did that exactly and for the good four years , i have tried to mold him, i have waited for him but he never did anything for me. Though its been two days and i have left him. I hope i will heal myself soon. And I truly love your videos. Thank you so much.
this is what in needed rn, thank u 🖤
I love you so much Alessia. thank you for sharing your wisdom with us ❤
Your Majesty, Alessia, thank you for this adorable video 💕 the phrase "don't fall in love with your own illusion of someone" opened my eyes on my life...
you are literally so adorable I love your soul, mind and advices
You just saved me love like I did all the things and after listening to you my mind goes like crazy 😭 now i will make my self better I let him chase I want that men but this time I am not going to beg I will attract and this is what I learn from you you are too adorable ily💗✨
Like really good advice. Very well explained. I've seen other videos that sought it but never made it as clear as you did.
Thank you.
I literally gasp every time i see u uploaded a new video!!!🤍 thankssss queen💓
I LOVE YOUU, literally this is so real, never ever reward bad behaviour, i learned the lesson
she really know what we really need she did something really helpful!! thank you!! ❤
I wish I had heard this advice years ago. Thank you
This video is very helpful, thank you. I am sending you positive energy.
Thank you. I needed to remind myself of this. I like him, but he's getting more energy than deserved from me right now vs his amount of effort. He has done nice things so far don't get me wrong. He brought me books as a gift. And I love books so I do appreciate it and let him know. But it's still not enough effort to see me around his schedule. I feel I should pull away but he constantly keeps contacting me. Any adadvice is appreciated so that he steps his dating game up. I feel intuitively it's a good connection.
This is your first video I have watched..and just fall in love with your channel 🌸💗💘love you girllll!!! For raising my standards
Important life lesson, just be nice, kind and understanding these alone shall get you far in life, never expect things from people in return always just do good and good comes back in some way shape or form. I also think that good personality is the most atractive thing on this planet looks are just a bonus and everyone needs someone who cares and looks after them wether you are male or female at the end of the day we are all human beings and we have feelings/emotions.
Thank you so much , I'm really grateful for this video ❤️
We need a part two pleaseee ❤❤❤
needed this reminder today, thanks queen
Ur like Liz’s little sister! Ur so pretty and so wise. Thank u for ur wonderful video. God bless ❤
Absolutely amazing ❤
I just love herrrrrrrr
In this video she discussed all my insecurity
Thank you girl for making me feel like i am not useless
Thank you for this video, it is so inspirational!
you are literally saving my life rn ilysm ❤️
AAAAA I love you! Thank you for all your videos!❤
BRUH BEST MOMENT EVER. I WAS KIND OF SAD AND JUST SAW YOU UPLOADED. THANK YOU MOTHER YOU'RE THE BEST 💗🥺
i needed this video , subscribed, going to check this channel
everyday for a daily wake up call
This is extremely good advice. Subscribed.
Alessia honestly you're such an angel in my life
I really needed this video 3 years ago hahaha I was "in love" so badly with a guy that didn't want me, and I knew he was bad for me, so I had to fight my own feelings, it was awful omg😮💨 😂
That kiss at the end....I wait for it❤
Truly, thank you so much!!! 💕
Amen, Sister! Preach.
I love this video so so much ❤️ thank you. This is what I currently need
Wud luv a vid on ur make up,u r literally the definition of beauty
My goodness , you spoke so many facts in min words
Feminine is powerful and am glad I've gown into who I really am.
We want more topics on relationship issue 💯 you litreally explain soo good ❤️
istg i needed this rn!! THANKS !!
whenever i see you post a new video my heart sings with joy. i love you, i love you, i love you, i love you. 🤍
„he‘s not an ikea furniture to build“ 😂 i can‘t hahaha
OMG
I love it when my queen posts!💟😭
Girl your makeup/skin is on point
U make me confident in my widows peak fr you’re gorgeous
I don’t understand because a lot of people say that to attract men you have to be independent, You have to be the woman who don’t need anyone you have to be the woman with personality who don’t need a man and peoples said that it’s what men like ,but after your video, I think that you’re right and that’s better for me because i prefer that someone take care of me, and I love to be feminine, so thank you so much
Watched your vid. first time n really loved it.
First of all you are beautiful❤️ and thank you for making this video, i want to tell my story, i knew a guy this last 2 years, last year EXACTLY we met again and after that day we talked a bit and then NEVER again, he was always quiet sometimes but not like this. I always could check his whatsapp and he was always last seen just 1x a day. Im a curvy women in real with a big bum, he also liked my personality but i think he used me or something for my looks. Idk what to think about this i think too much about him cause i am used to him help 😭❤️
Thank you ❤ this is so helpful
girlie ur so gorgeous i genuinely need a makeup tutorial i beg uuuuu
Thank you for this video ! Where did you get your shirt ? It’s so classy especially on you !
I needed it, thank you ❤
Can you please go over a full day in the life beauty routine that you do please? Hair, skin, nails, cosmetics etc?💜💜💜
I saw your video randomly. I got mesmerized by your beauty. And then I opened the video just to watch you.
I need your makeup Tutorial girl 😩
"im better off alone then to be with someone who does not give me exactly what i want."
This video was exactly I needed at the moment:))
OK⁉️i just cried about this situation and i think i just manifested this
Thank u sm I really preciate it🤍😭😭
Every word is on point🔥
You are my lights after my bf haven't texted me back for 32 hours and i might break up with him after watching this. I love your video. Thank you so much. I'm so grateful that i found your channel🥺
I will take my energy and power back to me.
Damn💀 can you ask him why first
@@comfortopia1609 working, sleeping and playing games. I broke up with him after he answered me back like that tho.
I’m so greatful for you and really thankful for your videos. Your timing is so divine girl🫶🏻