I'm claiming the mindset of " if you're not making my life any easier or if there's no positive uplifting from you being in it, then i see no reason for you to be around."
As a guy... if the guy likes you he'll do the work to chase. Mostly its personality, looks and if he enjoys your conversations. If you date the guys you friendzoned... trust me they'll do their best to make you happy even if you're not attracted to them they'll put in the effort and sometimes guys in your friendzone make the best partners. :)
One more very important thing, any guy will chase u to impress u initially bt once u r impressed nd get into the relationship, the initial things start fading away and the guy might change his decision also...so beware of that too
Sorry , but this isn't always true . I'm a guy who loved a girl so deeply I was afraid to blow up the opportunity & didn't feel I was enough for her yet , that although I knew we are for each other my mind was too nervous in trying to make it perfect and that I needed to work on myself first .The pain of this love stayed with me for years , so please don't always assume that if the guy doesn't approach then he doesn't care , he may care too much to approach .
@@R999soup this is actually a double edged sword. I dont know either to show him Im also interested or just act normal and let him do the chasing until we feel its enough. I once dated a guy, he put lots of efforts in the beginning but when i gave in he lost interest.
i feel so warm after watching this. you’re like the older sister at a sleepover that always gives the best advice. i came from the break up documented video and subscribed and seeing you blossom into this confident woman who knows what she wants. i wanna grow up to be like you😭 thank you for inspiring me
I love how this isn't focusing on manipulating the man into a relationship or like tricking them into thinking your something your not. It's just healthy behaviour
I think the main message of this video is that, KEEP YOUR GODDAMN SELF-RESPECT TOGETHER GIRLIES! Do NOT give your all to a man who is not ready to make you his gf.
please do not use God name in vain , He will not hold those guiltless who do so . Jesus Christ says i am the way the truth and the life no one comes to the father except through Me 🙏💗 John 14:6
you have absolutely no idea how much I needed to hear this. I am so so into this guy its embarrassing and was freaking out about what to do because he keeps letting me down emotionally and I know now that I need to just live my damn life and if he wants to be apart of that...boy better work but I'm not slowing down for him.
*Be confident and independent. Show him that you have a fulfilling life of your own and don't need him to complete you. This will make him see you as a challenge and want to chase you.*
You’re such a comforting soul. I feel like I genuinely get to know you through your videos and they’ve definitely helped me through my breakup process, just want to say thank you for your vulnerability and honesty! Please don’t stop making videos like these 🤍
You are so relatable I remember when I was dating my ex , we were texting and I suddenly disappeared for hours due to some work. When I finally texted him back , I said I'm sorry for disappearing while you were waiting the whole time, something urgent came up and from next time on I'll let you know how long will it take if I'm busy and he said no no that's not a problem you don't how much I love waiting for you especially when I don't even know when I'll hear from you again. And there has been many such instances with me, so I definitely believe men find it exciting to chase and that's their core nature. When we are too available we are actually trying to change his core nature and that's when things get messed up.
I love her this video helped me so much already. I already feel better. im getting over a toxic relationship that lasted 2 years. we broke up two months ago. and I'm feeling a little better now. I dont want to put myself out there for awhile cause I wan to focus on sucess and myself but if someone comes around I know this advice will help. Especially since this helped me to understand that there will be someone who treats me right and I must wait and not put up with their crap because my worth. Thank you for this video I love you.
Omg yes girl lol put the advice out there. Sometimes we girls do the dumbest unnecessary things for a guy's attention lol. Your tips advice and support is very kind and very helpful.... thank you God bless u 🙏 ❤️
You have become my best friend in my healing era. I just watched your 3 months breakup documented video and got so much motivation to feel I will be okay too.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
Yes! And I think key is never get too comfortable on both sides. Embarrassing moments are what keeps a little spark. When everything always feels new, you'll always work hard to keep them! Never share too many thoughts together, obviously keep some to yourself. And learn to live without them. So in the end everything is gravy.
coming back here bcs 5 months after the breakup and 2 months after watching your break up videos, I'm healed and need knowledge to get back into dating
I like what you say about value yourself and not giving time unless they deserve it but i disagree about talking to multiple men. I believe it's amazing to focus on just 1 person and if it doesn't work then it doesn't if it works then that's a blessing
I find until there is a commitment it's good to keep dating because you show up differently with everyone, less anxious for example. They sense it whether they know you're seeing a few people or not
I enjoy talking to just one guy as well. It feels so draining talking to multiple, it ends up feeling like a chore to me. For me personally it feels wrong if I start talking to other guys 😭
@GadgetsGearCoffee people aren't dumb, they know when you are dating multiple people and you will get dropped. Any guy that's okay with me dating multiple people I would question their intention with me, I wouldn't do it because I wouldn't want my partner to and it's worked amazing for me
Your channel saves me , not only in terms of life talks also seeing your vlogs makes me feel alive , I love you my saviour angel 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💞💞💞💞💞💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
I used to be anxiously attached to boys only from being in the talking stage. Then this boy, SUPER handsome, smart and kind, with so much in common, came chasing me and made me his girlfriend AND he put a little weight on my finger. I was in the talking stage with a boy already who I was commited to. there was something missing there but I accepted it. luckily my now boyfriend put himself in my basket.
Omg gurl I love this so much, I’m so glad I watched this!! You’re energy is everything and keep being u girl! Thank you for this vid it’s so helpful & I like ur take on this topic ☺️💗✨
I am one of the Asian girls. I really like watching your videos. Watching you, I increase self confident and self care. I am healing myself day by day. ❤ 🌎🌎🌎
Too late I cleaned his studio apartment 😅😂 i know he’s not ready for relationship and I’m realizing that it’s him not me. This really help me want to move on more ❤thank you love 💕
So needed to hear this ..awesome dates ..live apart....he even puts me on the train!! Not just dropped outside the station...but when part ..keeps in touch ..but giving crumbs. All energy to get together...is from me. Yep .having that chat soon...
Ive never really understood the concept of never settling for less than what you deserve, I was like yeah obvi, but didn't fully understand till now. thank you:))
Thanks girl like you have helped me make a boy chase and in my school there is like alot of like people liking each other and its hard to find someone to trust and to love when you know that a bunch of people like to play you ❤
First Off, Luma U are like a big sister from amotha motha to me!! Second off, THIS was the video that I needed to watch, and Third, I just recently started watching your videos some weeks ago 🤍🤍 def loved your channel!
Omg I’m a little late but I love your videos and especially this one🥹😩 I can totally see you pov🤭 thank you for blessing me wit your videos!!! Sending you kisses and wishes😌
Tell it gurl! Preach! Its so true! I read this book, Why Men love bitches. Dont be a nice a girl. Realize and take ownership of your womanly worth. But DO NOT ALLOW THESE FOOLS to take advantage of your worth which is DIAMONDS! Girl NO stop! Lumma is sharing wisdom. NEVER SETTLE. You are not room service. Dont become Mommie which is servant. I will say it is really sexy when a male is a gentleman, a males maturity is sexy as world.
We don’t need men to be obsessed with us. We need to be obsessed with ourselves first and stop thinking about how to people please and guy please just so he can get and notice you. Be selfish it’s good for you. Stop trying to make him obsessed because at the end of the day, you’ll be drained cause your strategy to make him obsessed won’t work at all.
im pretty young, and i just got out of my first love. I was used for my body and discarded like a toothbrush. Used to make yourself feel better, a burden at times, and discarded after a few months. We dated for 7 months, but i truely lost him after 4. he moved on after 1 week. Something you said made me really open my eyes and i cried a lil bit but I am so grateful that there are people who can help girls like me learn that I am an actual person with actual feelings. I subscribed :)
I wish I knew this stuff beforehand as someone who isn’t really experienced. I did treat a guy like a boyfriend once, and when I found out I was only an option I stopped talking to him. He came back and said he wanted me and not options… eh.
Lumma honestly you are a queen. I'm in a long distance relationship for the upcoming 8 months, do you have any advice or could you please do a video about it. I would appreciate your advice sooo much.
I'm claiming the mindset of " if you're not making my life any easier or if there's no positive uplifting from you being in it, then i see no reason for you to be around."
Completely agree !! That’s why I don’t want to have contact with him anymore. He makes my life not easier, just more stressed bc of him
Cloak
@@Lori.jane08 whats that supposed to mean?
@@acryptotrader5926 what
I like your way of thinking
As a guy... if the guy likes you he'll do the work to chase. Mostly its personality, looks and if he enjoys your conversations. If you date the guys you friendzoned... trust me they'll do their best to make you happy even if you're not attracted to them they'll put in the effort and sometimes guys in your friendzone make the best partners. :)
I agree!
One more very important thing, any guy will chase u to impress u initially bt once u r impressed nd get into the relationship, the initial things start fading away and the guy might change his decision also...so beware of that too
Sorry , but this isn't always true . I'm a guy who loved a girl so deeply I was afraid to blow up the opportunity & didn't feel I was enough for her yet , that although I knew we are for each other my mind was too nervous in trying to make it perfect and that I needed to work on myself first .The pain of this love stayed with me for years , so please don't always assume that if the guy doesn't approach then he doesn't care , he may care too much to approach .
@@R999soup this is actually a double edged sword. I dont know either to show him Im also interested or just act normal and let him do the chasing until we feel its enough. I once dated a guy, he put lots of efforts in the beginning but when i gave in he lost interest.
@vits meliatz yeah this happend wid me too nd this has become very common these days...i find
i feel so warm after watching this. you’re like the older sister at a sleepover that always gives the best advice. i came from the break up documented video and subscribed and seeing you blossom into this confident woman who knows what she wants. i wanna grow up to be like you😭 thank you for inspiring me
I love this, and you so much!
I love how this isn't focusing on manipulating the man into a relationship or like tricking them into thinking your something your not. It's just healthy behaviour
I think the main message of this video is that, KEEP YOUR GODDAMN SELF-RESPECT TOGETHER GIRLIES! Do NOT give your all to a man who is not ready to make you his gf.
please do not use God name in vain , He will not hold those guiltless who do so .
Jesus Christ says i am the way the truth and the life no one comes to the father except through Me 🙏💗 John 14:6
you have absolutely no idea how much I needed to hear this. I am so so into this guy its embarrassing and was freaking out about what to do because he keeps letting me down emotionally and I know now that I need to just live my damn life and if he wants to be apart of that...boy better work but I'm not slowing down for him.
Period
Same exact thing for me
I was hurting myself and now I am so ashamed of it that I gave too much effort to the guy who didn't even cared about my emotions and feelings
@wasapp9463 What message?
She genuinely sounds like such a sweet and polite person. I'd love her as a friend or my elder sister❤️
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*Be confident and independent. Show him that you have a fulfilling life of your own and don't need him to complete you. This will make him see you as a challenge and want to chase you.*
she is perfect ! she is beautiful both inside and out and is polite and relatable !!
Love this!
You’re such a comforting soul. I feel like I genuinely get to know you through your videos and they’ve definitely helped me through my breakup process, just want to say thank you for your vulnerability and honesty! Please don’t stop making videos like these 🤍
You are so relatable I remember when I was dating my ex , we were texting and I suddenly disappeared for hours due to some work. When I finally texted him back , I said I'm sorry for disappearing while you were waiting the whole time, something urgent came up and from next time on I'll let you know how long will it take if I'm busy and he said no no that's not a problem you don't how much I love waiting for you especially when I don't even know when I'll hear from you again. And there has been many such instances with me, so I definitely believe men find it exciting to chase and that's their core nature. When we are too available we are actually trying to change his core nature and that's when things get messed up.
You’re dating advice is on point and I’m in my 40s. you’re wise beyond your years. Smart lady!!!! You’ve got it!!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌
she starts at 4:45 with advice :)
Not all heroes wear capes!
Hehe😂
How much time it takes girls to get to the point 😂
i love u
her energy and mindset >>> 💗
I love her this video helped me so much already. I already feel better. im getting over a toxic relationship that lasted 2 years. we broke up two months ago. and I'm feeling a little better now. I dont want to put myself out there for awhile cause I wan to focus on sucess and myself but if someone comes around I know this advice will help. Especially since this helped me to understand that there will be someone who treats me right and I must wait and not put up with their crap because my worth. Thank you for this video I love you.
yeah yeah well someone who "treats you right" is a turn off its damn amazing how oblivious females are to their own feelings and nature
ahhh I love her she explains this in such a simple but feminine wayyy 🙂🤍
This is so much more wholesome than I expected, I actually feel beautiful hearing you say this stuff 🤧✨
Omg yes girl lol put the advice out there. Sometimes we girls do the dumbest unnecessary things for a guy's attention lol. Your tips advice and support is very kind and very helpful.... thank you God bless u 🙏 ❤️
I swear when I am watching your videos it's like a listening my best friend.... girl thank you for being real and keeping up real!!!!!!!!
Yes I learned about dating multiple men. You are more at peace. I have two guys right now, currently looking for number 3
How do you do it?
Tips please.
honestly, do what you love to do but you are GOR-GEOUS without the makeup too!! wow!
You have become my best friend in my healing era. I just watched your 3 months breakup documented video and got so much motivation to feel I will be okay too.
I have to agree with everything you said here. We must not be afraid of starting all over and we must never settle 💯 😉
Too late honey
Wtf your name's actually honey hahahaha
you are just right
❤
10:34 "You are not ROOM SERVICE...baby girl" 😂😂
very true tho.
The key here is to be happy, have your life, enjoy… and then a man will come into your life and say: she looks so happy, let me go ruin her life
So right tho
True
😂
😂😂😂😂
Exactly 😂
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
He is Fatherabulu has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked he up now online. impressive
It’s kinda crazy how nobody’s talking about the book womens magic truths on borlest
I already have a man, but I’m here for the sister vibes and girl time! I love your energyyyy!
nah don't ever tell a guy what you want. It's giving them the blueprint to manipulate you!!
Yes! And I think key is never get too comfortable on both sides. Embarrassing moments are what keeps a little spark. When everything always feels new, you'll always work hard to keep them! Never share too many thoughts together, obviously keep some to yourself. And learn to live without them. So in the end everything is gravy.
The right guy will manipulate you the right guy won’t
right like especially if u are asking for the bare minimum like attention cmon girl wtf u doing!!
@@isabelaglo exactly!
if he tries then he stupid asf, i aint dumb to get manipulated tf
coming back here bcs 5 months after the breakup and 2 months after watching your break up videos, I'm healed and need knowledge to get back into dating
“This is not Build -A-Bear” 🤣 love it!
i literally love your vibe girl, no matter what others say . your truly a gem out here💖. ILY❤
i love her voice... its just so calming... it made have a nice mood
Thank you for slapping reality into me ❤😂
a right five across the eyes
I like what you say about value yourself and not giving time unless they deserve it but i disagree about talking to multiple men. I believe it's amazing to focus on just 1 person and if it doesn't work then it doesn't if it works then that's a blessing
I find until there is a commitment it's good to keep dating because you show up differently with everyone, less anxious for example. They sense it whether they know you're seeing a few people or not
I enjoy talking to just one guy as well. It feels so draining talking to multiple, it ends up feeling like a chore to me. For me personally it feels wrong if I start talking to other guys 😭
@GadgetsGearCoffee people aren't dumb, they know when you are dating multiple people and you will get dropped. Any guy that's okay with me dating multiple people I would question their intention with me, I wouldn't do it because I wouldn't want my partner to and it's worked amazing for me
@@tacobellemployee7819 lol same, I have terrible focusing on someone other than myself
I loved it..... Every time she says " babygirl" like aaaaahhhhhhhh!!!! Yes.
Babygirl ahhhhhh sexy queen luv long hair babe ❤❤❤❤
Happy to see you back queen. You are so cute ❤
Yay! Love you!
omg i loooove your energy. thank you for this queen🙏🏼🦋
Oh, am glad you are back
I feel like I'm getting ready to go out to a party with my best friend watching this video. ❤️
Thank you for the reminders! I swear the ‘don’t treat him like your bf’ hit me so hard lol, much required!
That’s such good advice. I like how you said a girls gotta have standards and value herself. Thankx ❤~Subscribed
Just found this channel and i love it omg!!! it’s the only channel out of many that i actually fully understand ❤
Wish I knew all of these gems before I got into a relationship 3+ years ago
Idk what’s better, the makeup or the advice 😍💜
NOT MISS CLOWNY FROM THE CHANCE OF MEATBALLS IM CRYINGGGG😭 but Fr girl you right. I needa make the guy work for it lol!!!
gosh you’re soooo stunning and glowy!!!! your makeup looks so pretty as well 💗💗
This video is a game-changer! So much helpful information packed into one clip. I personally don't like promoting anything in comments,
Girl you know what you are talking about. This is my new podcast right now ahaha. You have a beautiful voice and it’s nice to listen to your video’s❤❤
You will be in vogue I promise queen 💗💗💗💗
I need to start watching this video everyday until I internalize it. I make myself way too available to guys I like.
I didn’t know how much I needed this before I clicked.
Your channel saves me , not only in terms of life talks also seeing your vlogs makes me feel alive , I love you my saviour angel 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💞💞💞💞💞💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Thank you! I needed this video and I will rewatch over and over again so that I do NOT forget!
nothing but GOOSEBUMPS. thank you this really helped me see what i was doing wrong in most relationships
Swty luv your long hair beautiful queen ❤❤❤❤
I used to be anxiously attached to boys only from being in the talking stage. Then this boy, SUPER handsome, smart and kind, with so much in common, came chasing me and made me his girlfriend AND he put a little weight on my finger.
I was in the talking stage with a boy already who I was commited to. there was something missing there but I accepted it. luckily my now boyfriend put himself in my basket.
sounds awesome and I am happy for you! Just make sure it's not what they call love bombing by narcissists!
@@MissModernprincess haha yes!
Omg gurl I love this so much, I’m so glad I watched this!! You’re energy is everything and keep being u girl! Thank you for this vid it’s so helpful & I like ur take on this topic ☺️💗✨
How to make a guy chase you:
You chase you.
"this is not build a bear" AHHAHAHA
Thank you for this. I have been single 7 years & 50 next year. Hope one day the right man will come along. your stunning
I think "Why Men Love Bitches" is a good read related to this topic
Lumma is my lil therapist! Love you girl! 😍😍❤❤
Love it be more brutal honest for girls we need this instead of sugar coating lies
I am one of the Asian girls. I really like watching your videos. Watching you, I increase self confident and self care. I am healing myself day by day. ❤ 🌎🌎🌎
From „3 months of heartbreak“ to „how to make a guy chase you“🔥🔥🔥
Too late I cleaned his studio apartment 😅😂 i know he’s not ready for relationship and I’m realizing that it’s him not me. This really help me want to move on more ❤thank you love 💕
BROO I LOVE HER VOICEEE
Never let him chase you too much cause then it can get boring or annoying and he will think you aren’t serious abt him
The best way to make a guy chase you is to tell them how handsome they are, pay the bill , and present them your underwear etc ❤😂🎉
when i say this was the PERFECT timing
So needed to hear this ..awesome dates ..live apart....he even puts me on the train!! Not just dropped outside the station...but when part ..keeps in touch ..but giving crumbs. All energy to get together...is from me. Yep .having that chat soon...
4:40 is when she starts to give advice!
Ive never really understood the concept of never settling for less than what you deserve, I was like yeah obvi, but didn't fully understand till now. thank you:))
Great advice and well taken! Love your energy and videos! 👍🏻💕💕💕💕
Right. A partner is suppose to enhance your life and make it easier. Not stress you out!
she starts at 4:45 with advice :). Thank you for slapping reality into me .
You’re literally so funny and have the best advice
Her voice when she sing
Thanks girl like you have helped me make a boy chase and in my school there is like alot of like people liking each other and its hard to find someone to trust and to love when you know that a bunch of people like to play you ❤
Is it just this vid u watched that helped you?
Some big sister advice Right there❤❤❤love it .
First Off, Luma U are like a big sister from amotha motha to me!! Second off, THIS was the video that I needed to watch, and Third, I just recently started watching your videos some weeks ago 🤍🤍 def loved your channel!
thank u for this video! youre so beautiful and everything u said was on spot! sending love xx🤍🥰
you literally look like a Disney Pixar animation, so pretty!
an u by any chance do a hair tutorial, like how u wash it and style it and the products you use to style or maintain it on the regular
Yep! For sure
Oh I was waiting for the final outfit look...you are gorgeous, thanks for the words❤
Omg I’m a little late but I love your videos and especially this one🥹😩 I can totally see you pov🤭 thank you for blessing me wit your videos!!! Sending you kisses and wishes😌
Tell it gurl! Preach! Its so true! I read this book, Why Men love bitches. Dont be a nice a girl. Realize and take ownership of your womanly worth. But DO NOT ALLOW THESE FOOLS to take advantage of your worth which is DIAMONDS! Girl NO stop! Lumma is sharing wisdom. NEVER SETTLE. You are not room service. Dont become Mommie which is servant. I will say it is really sexy when a male is a gentleman, a males maturity is sexy as world.
We don’t need men to be obsessed with us. We need to be obsessed with ourselves first and stop thinking about how to people please and guy please just so he can get and notice you. Be selfish it’s good for you. Stop trying to make him obsessed because at the end of the day, you’ll be drained cause your strategy to make him obsessed won’t work at all.
yes thank you
im pretty young, and i just got out of my first love. I was used for my body and discarded like a toothbrush. Used to make yourself feel better, a burden at times, and discarded after a few months. We dated for 7 months, but i truely lost him after 4. he moved on after 1 week. Something you said made me really open my eyes and i cried a lil bit but I am so grateful that there are people who can help girls like me learn that I am an actual person with actual feelings. I subscribed :)
allll facts and it works if use it in a healthy way
I wish I knew this stuff beforehand as someone who isn’t really experienced. I did treat a guy like a boyfriend once, and when I found out I was only an option I stopped talking to him. He came back and said he wanted me and not options… eh.
Great advice sis!! This will really help me in my future 💖
I'm still single right now and I hope ome day I meet a good guy who will fit my standards!
Two words.Big sisterrrrrr❤❤❤ u go girl
Now hear this gentlemen! The expert with all the experience speaks💥🤨
Humble yourself and go for the best you can be. Never be mad at second place. Logic is best and get pass yourself to be at your goals!
5:40 omg I needed to hear this, thank you
Lummaa please ur my fav! , cuz ur energy is amazinng
Lumma honestly you are a queen. I'm in a long distance relationship for the upcoming 8 months, do you have any advice or could you please do a video about it. I would appreciate your advice sooo much.
Omg crazy you ask this, because i'm actually planning this! So yes I definitely will x
Thank you so much! I can't wait to watch it.
@@lummaaziz yay, waiting for it too!
Just wanted to say, you were very helpful when my boyfriend and I split back in May