The Biggest Husband and Wife Money Fights! | Ep. 3 | The Best of The Ramsey Show
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I Don't Want My Husband To Hear This Call! 0:24
My Wife Went Behind My Back! (You'll Want To Watch Until The End) 15:59
Your Husband Has Been Reading CRAP On The Internet! - Dave Ramsey Rant 23:45
Wife Has Been Lying To Me For 30 Years About THIS! 33:04
My Husband is 100% Sure That the World Will End Soon! 41:55
My Husband Wants To Put Us Back Into Debt For A Tesla! 48:52
Time stamps are wrong at the end!
@@michelleh4717 sure are!!!
48:52 husband thinks the world will end soon
56:59 My husband wants to put us back in debt
Please update time stamps.
These calls just make me appreciate my spouse 10x more.
These calls make me appreciate my single status…
@@Project-Masculinity Nothing wrong with that either.
Same, it always makes me so grateful for a happy relationship with great communication.
Agreed. Although about 6x more in my case.
Then Miss FinFree Fin, you are a very lucky lady that has become a life long comment of a good decision on this very risky business called, "Marriage." I, too, has led a married life with a disconnected mate. Let, me see, how many ways that I can let you know, I'mmmmmmmm not connecting, and that I will put you thru this Sh......t that I will dish out! You, the caller, trying to whisper from up stairs?? Is this not your house too? I finally got rid of that bum, and he did die, facing four years imprisonment with his prost. girlfriend. I do think that this show is going to say, either combine or leave. But, I'll see what they both say. Heidi, don't worry, everything will turn out, you've got the best team on your side. 😎😎
Who you marry will be the biggest financial decision of your life.
Facts!
💯
Too true
I married Fannie Mae and we had a daughter named Zelle.
@@GMDOCNICE lol
💯 my ex husband lost all our money on the sharemarkets put our house up behind my back.
He hit me. He left for another woman - when our baby was 6 weeks old
Got boarders and my sister to move in to help with the mortgage, he never paid child support etc
Went back to university
Worked 2 jobs
32yrs on
Freehold $2million home
Helped my capable saving adult daughter into her own home in her 20s, she’s now looking to buy another rental home
Still work full time and love it , have a lot in savings
Women you can do it and man is it satisfying!!!
Love from New Zealand 🇳🇿
I love this so much ❤
Hell yeah women can do it!! My grandma was a BEAST with her investments. That’s why I’ve always taken it so seriously, was because of my granny.
Good job!!❤❤
I'm proud of your achievments. Well done you.
Wow . Amazing come back story. Glad to hear you ended up on top !
Dave's line: "So how long has he been having an affair." ICE COLDDDDD! what a line!
During the coof pretty much impossible. Like they discussed later it was more likely seeing too much and him getting wound up by the media constantly. Being trapped inside that long can make most people go crazy and a lot of people couldn't turn it off.
Dave is the real deal no joke and hides from nothing LOVE THAT ABOUT HIM.❤😊
But probably true
Right from the start, that first call broke my heart "my husband is downstairs and I don't want him to interrupt the call"... 🥺 sweetheart this is your home too 💔
She knew that, it was why she went upstairs to talk on the phone. I would have done that too.
I don't know why everyone is so against her needing to whisper in her home. She had a conversation with her husband about some "money experts" she was listening to. He disagreed with them. She's now on the phone with them asking for advice. So you whisper. Makes sense to me. She'll talk to him later about it if they gave her good talking points.
@@Fitmomlyfe exactly.
My husbands not an abuser but it would be so awkward for me to call a show for advice about our relationship in front of him. It makes total sense to me that she’s whispering to avoid the awkwardness.
@Fitmomlyfe nah.. you should be able to talk out loud in your own home. Your wife or husband shouldn't dictact what you do. That's where you leave.
If Dave calls you "baby doll"
You done messed up!!!
😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣 yep
😂🤣😂🤣😂
oh, daddy got mad🎉
😂😂
“I don’t want my husband to hear” really hit me hard. I’m coming out of a divorce where honestly this woman’s comment are exactly what I went through. The difference is I am male and I was in a marriage being manipulated and lied to longer. I hope this helps many people see the signs before it’s too late. If you find yourself saying “I’m not the person I used to be” get help. If you can’t combine and discuss finances get help. If your spouse does not want you in their finances they are likely cheating or are going to. Get help. Life is so much better on the other side and you can be that person you were once proud to be.
It happened to me as well. When you marry a narcissist it means big trouble!
My husband and I married late in life, so each of us already has our own accounts. Never merged our money, just made sure we have beneficiaries set up for each account.
He’s a rage-a-holic 😢
“Narcissistic” and “manipulated” are buzzwords for women who didn’t do there part in their marriage and are now divorcee’s
@@startingtech3900The OP is male.
I’m a truck driver. There is zero need to be an over the road trucker. You can find a job running locally, where you’re home every night and make plenty of money. It’s not fair to expect her to work a full time job and take care of small children fully on her own 95% of the time.
She's working 2 regular jobs!
@@curiousone6129 except one of them not being regular, but involving sleepless nights, emotional exhaust etc etc
He might have little experience and took a job where ever he could.
My Dad did that for us. He was an Engineer and his position was to travel and negotiate purchases of equipment for machines at his company. It felt like he travel 85% of the year. He filled it with family trips merged with business trips and most weekends. We knew he loved us (it showed in how hard he was going for us) but emotionally he just wasn’t present to fill us girls as much as we need to navigate life healthily and it took a mental and emotional toll on my mom.
He took a position that allowed him to work close to home when we were preteens/teen time. It was a pay cut initially but eventually he changed ranks and rose in income. I appreciate him for all of the sacrifices he made for us. He made not have gotten it all right and we’re not rich but we never wanted for anything (seemingly) and he financed retirement for him and my mom and still have enough to pass a substantial amount of money to his kids and grandkids as a gift after he’s no longer here. He’s been and always will be out rock.
Thats a single mans job.
I got involved with a gal who had $150,000 debt. I have zero debt. Her denial, not her debt, and refusal to change her habits ended the relationship. Being in debt is always salvageable as long as you are willing to face it as a team
The best thing my counselor ever said was "look at his actions" not what he says. His actions tell everything.
Great advice wish I did that years ago then I would have had a different outcome
Same here. My therapist helped me understand and face the truth I already knew but I was so confused and terrified I couldn't make sense of it.
"Crazy-making" is real and Dave obviously understands this. He knows how important it is to tell someone they're not crazy off the bat, bc we're told by our abusive spouse constantly that we're crazy and stupid, and then they make sure we look absolutely nuts when friends and family are around- so we get to hear it from them too, especially when we try to get help from them and tell them what's really going on.
I happen to be female, but I know for sure thiis is happens to men just as often as to women in today's world. ❤
It is horrible to live with a spouse that shuts you out.
I hope the first caller Heidi was able to stand up for herself and get into a better situation
Two sides to a story
@@k9GOLDEN why do you listen to the show if you don’t trust Ramsay’s intuition about her situation
@@melliebe6029 you can't tell them to listen if you didn't stick around for literally the NEXT caller. She was the crazy one who went behind his back to get a minivan, but then they discover he packed up his bags and took half the emergency fund? Ramsey's intuition didn't pick that one up did it?
@@k9GOLDEN you wouldn’t have said that if it was a man calling in. Why does this show attract so many men who hate women?
@@jrey1 irrelevant to the first call
Dave: *PUT THE PHONE DOWN!!*
Me (on my phone): 👁👄👁
I’m watching this on my phone 😂
"and PUT THE PHONE DOWN" but Dave I'm watching YOU on my phone 😂
14:15 John said put the phone down and go call a friend. Huh?😂
The trucker husband is a real piece of work. If a woman was carrying my baby and raising my child by herself I would figure out a way to pay that 5000. What a jerk.
They’re both a hot mess
They're both a mess.
No, the truck was an awful idea. They're already drowning and she dumps more responsibility on them? Too many kids, too much work, too much debt, pregnant again and she makes MORE debt?! In what world is that a good idea? My goodness. It was an emotional decision, not a rational one.
They both need serious counselling for the kids' sake.
@@Juhani139he is worse though. What kind of asshole leaves his wife and small child alone 9 DAYS BEFORE SHE GIVE BIRTH!
5000 is a half month's income.
I agree.
"I was thinking a van. She was thinking an SUV."
She deals with the kids alone, practically 24/7, and he wanted to tell her what kind of vehicle she needed. That's why she went behind his back. It was not the right thing to do, but it was probably a passive aggressive way to get control over being told what she gets to need. My two cents.
She had THREE full time jobs, with taking care of the kids.
And he emptied half** their savings account and moved out!!
@@theMahtahild took half. Not emptied. There’s enough reason to hate. No need to misrepresent the facts.
@@MrJessenava oh my bad I was not paying 100% lol I fixed my comment. Damn now that I know it was only half I'm not as mad 😅😅 I thought it was a lot worse than that
@@MrJessenava she was working three jobs so I'd be interested to know if half was "his" or not, truck drivers to do make pretty good money 🤷🏻♀️
Very sad when a spouse disconnects from you. It takes time to stop trying to fix it. Dave and John are spot on. Always listen to yourself. Good luck sister.
The wife of David from Louisville's wife was facing delivery of her baby alone if he were on the road, thousands of miles away. Was there another relative ready to help in the delivery room? All 3 men missed this completely. She was definitely making a plea for help.
And the price wasn’t crazy like $50k or anything.
What got to me was the whole idea that they could cut down and pay it off, from her own mouth. He's not at home more often than not. His side of the financials can't really be cut. He's got meals on the road, stops along the way, fuel, maybe the truck payment depending on the set up. There's very few ways for him to cheap out. She's the one at home. She can cut down on the electric bill, the grocery bill, the water bill, fuel for her car. She can shuffle the childcare around to cut expenses. She can pick up side gigs and overtime much easier than he can. She has all the power to make the real day to day financial changes for the family. In that same vein, she's the one who will bear the actual brunt of cutting down expenses. He won't, not in the same way. So yeah I can totally see her looking at an upgrade of a few thousand and saying, why not? It'll be my problem so it should be my decision. Not a very marriage mindset but I don't blame her with a baby about to pop and my partner in the wind, even if for all the right reasons.
I was given $2 a day to pay for gas to drive my kids to school and had no job, no money. I got out and got a life.
Good for you!! ❤
Great work
I'll give you $2.50 baby 😘
Yep, been there done that. My first husband doled money out at his whim. I stayed home with baby, he went out drinking every night. Took two years for the first hit. Begged for forgiveness. I had no where to go and no money. Got me a job, moved up in company. Became youngest general manager in the company. I will never be in that situation again! Now I have my own business and married 24 years to the most wonderful man. My first hubby was murdered by 2 fellow employees for his income tax. Our children were 5 & 3. Life is hard. Its your choice to change. Pull up your bootstraps and LIVE!
Girl, me too, me too.
You are amazing.
Congrats on choosing peace and walking out!
I can’t “PUT THE PHONE DOWN,” this is how I’m watching YOU.
When a man holds his money separately and guards/hides the details, he's working on his exit plan.
Right.. Red flag. Don't ignore or dismiss these type of behaviors.
Or he is in full defense mode so the bills get paid because she has a history of spending every dime that she can get her hands on while she is telling her "friends" that he is an evil abuser who wont let her have any money...
Or he's a control freak and feels threatened by the amount of money she's able to make.
@grega2362 That depends on when this behaviour started. If he was like that from the get go then he has controlling tendencies and needs to address this. If he had to step in afterwards out of necessity due to mismanagement by the wife then that's different.
When a spouse* holds their* money separately & guards/hides the details, they're* working on their* exit plan. Either way, no matter the spouse, separate money = exit plan.
Ramsey said the smartest thing I’ve heard him say ever.
ONCE a woman is done, she is done and there’s no looking back! When a wife stops complaining or fighting back. The end is just around the corner from there!
Below is my thought before I heard the woman's side
The woman is a married single mom, and has a child she takes care of while the absent husband is always away. She is Pregnant and on top of that working two jobs! He has been absent why should she listen to him, she is struggling mentally, physically and emotionally to survive.
This woman is due to have baby number 2 in 9 days time. She wanted it done.
She also is home alone whilst husband is off trucking. She is used to making day to day decisions alone. Husband sounds appallingly self righteous.
He needs to be there with his wife instead of trying to control her.
Yes , I agree . The car is for her use and she knows what suits her.
@@BlackStump172that husband should be taking unpaid leave to be there for his baby and wife. As for the car drama- 2 baby seats fit in any small car with no issues. When you need to fit 3 baby car seats- then, yes, some cars are too tight.They just need a drama.
He sounds like an insecure loser
@@loft27ssthat husband should be taking a local job, there's an extremely limited number of situations where a parent is justified in being away from home that much with kids in diapers, and plain Jane PTR trucking ain't one of them.
Baby can come tonight! For God's sake!!!!
sometimes everyone just needs someone to ask the hard questions and say the truth out loud to help them mentally.
The way Dave Ramsey be shading and insulting people so dryly is freaking hilarious man 😂😂😂😂
Dude for real thank god for this man he really makes you want to get your shit together
Lack of testosterone makes old men cranky
Why is the husband on the second call telling his wife what kind of make & model SHE is going to drive? I understand coming to an agreement on the finances. But why do they have to agree on make / model if she's going primary driver with the children? He controlling.
She needs to leave that person! No need to live your life in constant fear and deprivation….Life is too short not to be happy!
There are two sides to a story.
@@k9GOLDEN it is probably worse as she is continually downplaying it. Sounds like you are the husband.
@@dudeorduuude5211 Amen, this guy is going around to various comments saying stuff about her. 😂 He's the husband one way or another.
The Wife that bought the van behind their back just did their Debt Free Scream. It was an awesome testimony!!
Was it both of them or just her?
Do you know the name of that episode? I would like to see it!
SOMEONE LINK THIS IMMEDIATELY
WHY HASN'T THIS BEEN LINKED!
Someone link it I want to see the scumbag husband
"You two are a hot mess!" Love the Dave counseling style. 🙂
Hahahaha 😂I mean they seriously are
I got together with my partner when she made considerably less than me, but she always lived with more abundance than me became she was better at saving and I was a spender... We have both progressed in our income over the years and now she is making even more than me. Between this show and learning from her. We are dept free and have a house we both love. I could not have ever imagined being where I am in life right now if I had stayed single.
Love this, so great to hear a story that honours your partner
That’s nice happy for you guys x
Bro the stats don't support your lifestyle. 7 out of ten Americans will never get married. I'm going to be honest and tell the truth. Men are to blame because we have learned the truth. Marriage in America under current laws aren't worth it.
new to this show.
i like that he asked for the man to get off road to see and sympathize with an overwhelmed new mom of two. thank you for asking questions. and supporting this woman/ new mom. i didnt know id like these uncles and how supportive they are of women.
I love Dave’s honesty about marriage counseling helping his marriage. That will absolutely help his listeners.
I am impressed with Dave and John, how do they "get it" from these callers so quickly? Wow! You two are the best! The whole team is great!
How? I’d have to say discernment honed by years of experience and loving the Lord (wisdom)
My husband and I discuss everything and decide on everything together.
Same here.
Well arnt you lucky
Same
I never realized how lucky I have been. Listening to the stories here, I'm going to pray for these people.
It's important to remember on these calls, regardless if it's the husband or wife calling in, that we're only hearing one side of the story.
People are so quick to pick a side without hearing both sides.
She’s leaving something out hugely 😂 either she’s been taking money out of the account behind his back or she’s trying to defend herself.
That is always true, but frequently irrelevant. We get the story we get and we have to make up our minds based on that. It is like if your therapist asked to check with your relatives if your story "checks out". This view might be influenced by Dr. Phil, who is fixated on "the truth" and on the very unreliable "science" of lie detection. A story has to be enough for us, only the judicial system gets to demand the other side.
@@aaronnilestoussaint5672👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 right! I was starting to thin’ I was crazy for being curious about the other persons side! There are 3 sides to every story: his, hers, and the truth.
@@antiantipodano it doesn’t, that’s bs. Therapists are not the same as audience members, they are there to provide viable coping mechanisms for the client and utilize the clients perspective as a lens to visualize how best to do that. For therapists, the client’s perception is their reality. Dr. Phil is not a therapist, he went to school for forensic psychology. His show isn’t him acting as a therapist which is why he is mutually communicative with guests whereas a therapist would let the client primarily speak. Dr Phil’s whole show is about problem solving. A huge part of problem solving contentious relationships , which most of his guests have, is to get down to the nitty gritty, bring both perspectives to the table, and sort between truth and lie. Therapists aren’t typically bridge building, they are solving an individualized mental health problem. How does that correlate to Dr.Phil who typically tries to keep families together &/or repair the broken relationship🤔🤷🏽♀️ we as audience members of Dave’s show aren’t doing any of that🙄 we are here as bystanders to be entertained or apply these lessons to our own life.
These are real ppl and many of us can relate or know someone who can. May of us have had ppl mischaracterize a situation to ruin our relationship and evade accountability which is why we are open to hearing the other side. There are also cultural issues such as society coddling women while shaming men, society believing all women are innocent and do nothing wrong, and society telling men they are GUILTY until proven innocent when a woman accuses them of something that he truly didn’t do. Situations like Amber Herd & Johnny Deep, Chris Brown & Rihanna, & Jonah Hill & his ex have caused skepticism among us. Women tried to ruin all those men while lying, being evasive, &/or failing to take ownership of their own abuse.🤷🏽♀️ I am over being told we can never question anything a woman says bc she is infallible. You are free to believe only one side if you want, this rhetoric is what bit Lizzo in the butt and now she wants ppl to believe her even though she had your same mindset where ppl should only believe the side of the story they’ve been given and never dare to inquire for more information or free-think. You can’t have your cake & eat it too so think about how you would feel in that situation.
I hope the first caller gets the strength and courage to want better ❤
“You become an activist because you have nothing else to do”, banger of a quote
I got into trucking almost two years ago. Did a year otr and realized if I ever wanted a family I'd need to get something local or build up enough so I can stay home for the first few months when kids are born. Got a few endorsements now I run crude oil, make more money, and am home every day. That driver has issues if he doesn't realize the flaws in his lifestyle!
Facts
I agree. A man away from his family 5 days of the week can’t focus on his family. I say that having a dad who would do clean up disaster jobs and would be gone for months
Dave is so sassy omg “you are a freakin’ TRAGEDY” lmao
“Turn off the Fox News or CNN.” YES. Both keep the amygdala firing; the sky will ALWAYS be falling. The psychology of fear makes millions for these “news” sources. Keep it up, Mr. Ramsey & company, both your message and method! 👍🏻
I remember the beginning of my relationship with my girlfriend. I didn't know couples had separate finances. It just didn't make sense. We were very young when we met, so we had hypothetical marriage conversations early. She said she'd never tie finances because that's what her parents did, and it always worked for them. I disagreed harshly. Shortly after her parents divorced (for a great many reasons other than finances), she changed her tune and now she's even talking about being a SAHM. I wouldn't have it any other way. After love, money is the most important thing in a marriage, and how can you have a marriage when you didn't even share part 2 of the recipe.
...and they wonder why I want to remain living on my own....
I realise now the truth to the warning of "becareful who you make kids with" and "your partner can make or break you financially"
Why do you?
Take your own advice .
I did... but kids already there....rebuilding my finances though....
Divorced twice:1st came out of the closet after 4 years, 2nd wanted to swing on everyone's porch. Lived with a BF until he drew a gun on me and I left that day. I like living alone. My home is mine, my money is mine, my sanity is mine, and my self-respect is mine. I'm not allowing anyone else to mistreat me again.
Some of these people are in very scary situations. I pray they find peace.
I'm so glad that they did a follow up with the over the road truck driver with the pregnant wife.
When I was 24 I had an older divorced girlfriend tell me, "You're at the age where you're going to start meeting and dating divorced men. Don't ever forget that there are always at least two sides to every story."
That advice served me well sometimes. I was thinking of that as I listened to the first part of that phone call.
Now to the part where he says when the woman has held her breath for however long...when she's done, she's done.
I held my breath for 6 years and didn't know I was holding my breath.
But when I woke up and realized all I'd been doing is holding my breath and trying to survive without having any tools or knowing what it took to change the circumstances, I just had to get out. I couldn't take the lying and the cheating, the stalking.
I was drowning and the only way I knew how to fix it was to get as far away from it as possible.
At that point he decided we needed marriage counseling but the only marriage counseling he would go to are the ones that agreed with him anybody who disagreed with him or came close to recognizing what the problems were, were deemed nuts.
I wish I would have had a Dave Ramsey back then. 😢
She only has 9 days to buy a car . So they didn't make a decision. She made a decision
Yea, this was a major overreaction by all of them to me.
Loving this 'Best of the Ramsey Show' episodes!! I learn a lot from these.
Dave not only is finacial wizard, he can do marriage counselling and great at calling peoole out in their nonsense...You all do such a great job at giving advice and guidance
Financial . Counseling. People.
I was in a similar marriage as the first lady. It was a nightmare.
So glad you’re out of it! Much love to you ❤❤
I was too. But I stupidly waited 19 years to get out of it. Better late than never I suppose.
I really like Dave urging people to put the phone down and stop soaking up all the news. All it does is promote anxiety, as shown by some of the calls on this episode. Absolutely correct in the flight or fight response and the dumb decisions that get made because of it.
I have observed you are all so compassionate and gentle with people going through such hardships. And overall you are so savvy about financial planning and decisions. Thank you.
She is 9 months pregnant, raising a child alone, and working two full time jobs whilst husband is never around, GIRL LEAVE!!
@@2and1CreativeHomeSolutions I love to be 😊
PRAY! God hears all prayers.
I have a funny feeling Sharon Ramsey is a sweetheart and people asked how did u end up with Dave?? (At least in the begining 🤣🤣) (I'm glad Dave can take a joke ) I love the show and all the honesty mixed with serious compassion for people and their problems 🤣🤣🤣 I have never seen such a show!!
Be careful who you marry folks
More like be careful who you have kids with
Plenty of childless marriages and divorces have no lasting effects
Be VERY careful.
On the 2nd clip, as a father myself ive always had a standing rule of my essential bills will be paid and my family will have a reliable vehicle. I can tolerate some debt as long as i know my family is safe and provided for because that is my job as a father and a husband. So i dont much care for Dave's dislike of auto loans. The junk cars are reserved for me and my wife and kids will have a newer vehicle with a warranty and is reliable. Ive went years with no ac or heat in my pick up before. It doesnt bother me
" When she won, I won !" Preach 🤣
Man what I would do for a wife that could be so caring and bare 2 children to me and could make 90k with her career like insane how scared she sounds in fear of this monster she lives with. She sounds amazing and you need a new life sweetheart 😊❤
Most of these couples should never have married.
What a blessing that this channel exists
I feel for this lady and I know how she feels as I've been in this situation. I hope she was ok after this call and got herself counselling or out of this marriage and house. He seems very controlling and she is obviously very scared of him.
Spending $5k over budget on a minivan thats gonna serve its purpose.. really guys? 🙄🙄
Every single person who is thinking about getting married in this day and age should be mandated to watch this show for at least 10 episodes.
I don't like mandates...
I bet there’d be less divorce rates!
Wow great advice!
I have to laugh when Americans tell me they NEED a bigger SUV/Van because they have another kid coming along. Do you see what they drive in Europe or Asia?.. Heck in poor parts of Asia the whole family rides a scooter.. All of them on one scooter! Very few people in the UK drive an SUV.. They drive a Ford Escort or similar, with three car seats in the back.
That's what makes you laugh about Americans?
That's way down that list
I loved his balanced response about the new mom married to the guy who was gone 85% of the year.
Individual counseling for both BEFORE martial counseling when abuse is present in the relationship!
Marital counseling, martial arts
@@kathleenarapoglou7724Thank you! I see this everywhere. Including ‘marshall’ law. Blood pressure!!
Dave makes the most logical argument against buying gold I’ve ever heard.
The guy who was experiencing the financial issue with his wife - this conversation has given me a new perspective to consider in regards to my current relationship issue. Crazy that it's come from a finance topic. Thanks for adding so much value to people's lives!
This is what I went through in my marriage but it turned physical and it isn't worth it. I have a teenage daughter and I want better for her. Thank you for all your help with Domestic Violence individuals.
It is heartbreaking to be lonely when your not alone....
I am so glad to listen when you co-host this program, John. 🌟💖
I’ve always thought that the other spouse’s perspective was a big missing on many of these calls. Loved the email follow up and the coaching not to weaponize the good natured advice. Thanks guys you should probably have a marriage counseling branch and show. (Might already do)
My dad controlled the household money tightly. Mom had to finally request a $5 monthly allowance for personal spending! She divorced him and never commingled funds with a spouse again.
Five dollars monthly oh my god yeah she should’ve left him along time ago
There is an ancient Arab story about an old man and a young handsome guy that proposed to the same woman.
the old man asked: how do you handle money?
The young: I think about every cent I spend.
The older: I have a bag of money and don't think about it until it end.
The woman: I prefer a generous old to a stingy young.
@@Wa7edmenalnass of course.... the old is generous and will die earlier, the younger one is stingy and healthy, easy choice 😀
@Lynne Bucher: thats what i was wondering too about the husbands willingness to allow the wifes input into the financial situations and budget? Just didnt seem to get that info out of this. But she should not have done this behind her husbands back, if thats what truly happened? Just seems like theres more to the story, maybe he could of had his wife on the call too? Also theres nothing wrong with putting your money together, IF its someone who is the same mindset as you and you work together for what you want. After your moms experience i can understand why that would be hard.
That's abuse.
She likely thinks she might be living in the van with those kids.
George agreeing at 26:07 “I’m too nice”
Haha love it.
I listened to this clip the other day. Very powerful and heart breaking.
My friends are Mormons and have led me to believe that that's how the Mormon religion dictates the financial life is in a marriage
Sounds like she's hiding in a closet. What a messed up way to live. Get out of there and take the girls with you.
That woman is a hot mess. Poor person.
But you don't know if she would be safe if she leaves and you don't know if her kids will be safe if she leaves there are so many variables she might be safer to stay and find a plan with the advice of a women's shelter on how to try to have the best life as possible
Yes. In addition, get a good lawyer.
I have an addiction: Dave Ramsey show calls as to why I’m not married. 😄
Pretty sad when money is more important than a good relationship.
@@karlabritfeld7104 finance is the second cause of divorce. Money and a good relationship are linked. You have to be a child to think a good relationship is disconnected from money issues.
Married people end up far wealthier than singles. Marry the right person.
My granddaddy controlled all of the money. My grandma couldn’t write a check without permission. Meanwhile he bought vehicles without consulting her. Yeah he had affairs and spent money on gfs.
It sad u can’t be comfortable in ur own home.
Great Job Dave and John. Real wisdom. You are 100% correct re the plans. We're on the A plan that worked for 50 years...... and has always strengthened our relationship. Of course it does. Working together always works...... This guy probably has had one or more extra marital affairs going on. She is divorced just doesn't want to face it. Do it for the children's sake.
The justification of a bigger vehicle gets me. We had two kids 17 months apart and drive a civic, in Northern Canadian winters.
It was HIS idea to begin with. Maybe trade up when you’re looking at baby #3.
You must live in a city in northern Canada? We wouldn’t get out of our driveway a lot of days if we didn’t have a decent truck. I wish I could drive a little car! 🚙
You cared little about your kids.
I love Rachel's expressions when she's intently listening to a caller explain their (stupid) idea 😂
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 May God protect y’all and give you the peace and comfort you deserve! ❤
Dave, you're on point!
As an adult who grew up in a situation where we were managing my father's emotions, it does not end well folks. It is a mess and the aftermath is people who are more likely to find others that will abuse them all over again. My father gave my mother $200 a month to pay all the bills and food in the 80s, when my father started his business. She did what she could with it.
Is that a petting tiger? Greatest question I have heard all morning.
I don’t understand why people especially couples with mid income and cold relationship make babies!!!! Children need a lot financial & mental support and stability. Please, stop after 1 or 2 ….. third child is truly belong to people have true love & great marriages
Me and my wife have separate checking but share a savings. Never had a single issue thankfully
The first caller could triple the household income if permitted to return to work...that in itself has more red flags than China. I hope they resolve their differences soon. One way or the other.
so real about the gold. no it from cold war era behind the iron curtain. neighbours always traded daily goods or homegrown veggies.
I really appreciate making my way back to your channel. The world is still going through some scary things, but I really need to focus on what I can do to make myself mentally/physically/financially better.
You and me both.
me too
Yea, she maybe didn’t go about it right but she is feeling overwhelmed seriously! It’s only $5,000 more and I think she keep it, she it. She needs help. Talk about what happened, sure, but give her a break and let her have the van. Ok, now we know he left the family, so we don’t care about him at all. He is a fail. He is a dud. I hope she gets a tough attorney and takes him to the cleaners, AND keeps the van.
“She’s a cornered animal, and she bit you”… a lot of relationships could be saved if we understood this about each other 🤗
Single life!
Yes don't get married!!
Marriage counselor? That’s a very bad idea to send an abuser with their spouse to a marriage counselor. It just teaches them to finesse on how to abuse. She needs a divorce lawyer. She needs to File a restraining order, get him out of the house legally and change the locks. Get a divorce.
Or they get called out... save their marriage
Yep. Or they only go once….
@@sobeliever1638 no they just learn how to manipulate better and then try to be your therapist
She can go by herself to strengthen herself and se how she can fix herself 🙏
“You don’t wanna do this with some guys over a radio show or with a friend over a glass a wine” very good advice
“John you are a freakin tragedy” that got me😂😂😂