I’m so glad I only wasted a year on my ex borderline. I definitely parented my parents and I’m so done with everyone . I’ve been dealing with narcs and borderlines for nearly 40 years and I’m freeing myself now from any responsibility to “help” anyone anymore . Super excited for 2020 which I plan on being single for at least a year to unpack said 40 years of codependent bull shit .
You too? It was not the women I dated (and I dated some eventual trainwrecks), but like in your case, parents scapegoating me and a flying monkey, former BFF who slipped and admitted he was paid to spy on me. I tried distancing myself from friend. One I was confiding my feelings about my parents emotional abuse and sex life all. Eventually I saw I was being played. Like you, the emotional and financial damage I am suffering from my NPD parents. (Don't know if there are financial damage on your end, but I bet they might've stuck you when it hurt. But with the knowledge we are attaining from the NPD videos we are watching give you a brighter future indeed. First sign of crazy making I see, I am out. Too old for THAT anymore. Thanks to Tara and a few others on this topic via RUclips. It is giving me not only my dignity back, but showing ways not to take the bait and overreact, thus giving them some so-called DARVO (Defend And Reverse Victim and Offender) victory. To quote Dr Tara "These are not into equitible solutions. They're into WINNING!" (Sick minds, aren't they?)
Same. Also realized I picked up alot of bad habits from my disordered family. Been spending the last year in therapy to unpack and work on everything. It's really freeing to know its not your responsibility to "fix" others. I am so damn tired of being a free therapist for unstable people.
You shouldn't have to pack an "emotional diaper bag" is possibly one of the most brilliant taglines for why being with a narcissist is the wrong thing to do that I have ever heard, thank you for that and your other very insightful analysis!!
It's interesting when they have a complete meltdown, then a day or 2 later behave as if that everything is great in the world, and you're behaving strangely. Inside your own mind you feel as though you just came back from a warzone *SMDH
That is some maximum trufus rufus. It resembles PTSD and then you are reeling after an episode they enter into and then someone drops by for a visit and you are still dysregulated and they all the sudden are happy go lucky and that just seems so wrong you can't pretend like that and then you end up looking like the psycho. That happened to me multiple times when my ex was trying to push me away. So happy to be out of that. The last two years was borderline torture.
Unfortunately we make the mistake of thinking we are dealing with a regular human when we are dealing with a not fully developed human being. Which accounts for their behavior and actions that have been so excellently described. It isn't even anything personal. It's basically like expecting or assuming a child to behave like an adult.
"Narcissists/borderlines attack their victims for making them feel bad about how badly they behaved." After discovering my then wife had been spent thousands of dollars behind my back I confronted her with the evidence. I was told "I didn't tell you the truth because I had lost respect for you." So she lied and spent thousands of dollars out of our shared account but it was now my fault for not being respectable in her eyes. Apparently in her world its completely acceptable to lie and steal from someone as long as they aren't respectable. I have long since stopped trying discuss these things with her or to use logic, rational thought or reason. But I thought to myself ..... "No...when you began lying to me and stealing money from me behind my back you have lost respect for yourself, you no longer have a moral compass or any personal integrity.
I went thru the same dam thing lol she had “lost respect for me” yet she was stealing cuz she needed money and told me to stop comparing like a little bitch when I confronted her lol and then once I took her off our joint account I got attacked verbally cuz I was wrong lol man me and you relate homie
I'd find this video hilarious if it wasn't so tragic. I was married to a woman with bi polar & bpd. She also had strong narcissistic traits. I remember many arguments (that she started) where I said to her, "why can't to try and put yourself in someone else's shoes for once". She never did. I was baffled as to why everything was always from her point of view, 100% of the time. It was bizarre, and I never could bring myself to apologise to her for the awful arguments she instigated. And of course she held that against me by saying, it's always her that has to fix things between us. It never occurred to her that she was "fixing" what she had broken. I began to hate being in her company and hated hearing her key in the door when she came home from work. Yet I made my mind up to stay with her and make the best of it. How bizarre is that! She bullied, manipulated and harassed me for 10 years but I didn't know I was being victimised until long after the relationship was over. That's when I realised I had to work on myself. That's when it dawned on me that all the women from my past, that I fell for, were manipulative personalities. And I chose them. That was my wow moment, that made me face up to my codependent enabling nature. Thank goodness for videos like this, that have helped me to see the light.
Trauma bonding is a real thing mate. The sooner you can recognise the signs , the less it gets a grip into your mind. But they all start off full of sweetness and the feeling they are the best you’ve ever met! Did you see any warning signs early on in dating ? They are usually there .
Dam bro that’s crazy asf but it feels good to finally have those AHA moments and piece it all together unfortunately we are sometimes the only ones to wake up and the surest of our family/exes stay stuck in that cycle and it makes us feel alone and unrelateable
My ex therapist was a narcissist. She excused the behavior of domestic abusers, rapists, killers, etc. and insisted that the victims normalized this behavior and took responsibility for the abusers actions. She wanted to train me to become the perfect scapegoat, enabler and supporter of her abuse and other abusers. After the first time she abused me and I confronted her, she blamed shifted and respondibilized me for her own behavior by saying that I needed to tell her when she crossed the line. My boundaries were clear and I repeated them often, she just pretended not to hear them. When confronted the second time I presented her with a long list of all her covert manipulation and abuse tactics and how they affected me, at the end of the session she blameshifted again. Instead of self reflecting and acknowledging her toxic behavior, she just said "oh, I'm just sharing my knowledge", and "oh, I thought you said you were healthy, hahaha". As if a relatively healthy person would not get sick after drinking a glass of poison. Also, she was a female therapist that seemed to hate other women. When the mask slipped, she was constantly comparing herself to others and devaluing them.
Both my parents were emotionally immature I.e. narc mother and bpd father. And an additional physically abusive brother. That was fun to be born in to... not! Basically, developed severe conduct disorder as a teen leading to expulsion from school, court at aged 14, failing high school exams, and getting kicked out of the British army. I learnt my lesson in my late teens went back to school, started reading philosophy, religion and psychology, took up martial arts, and started working in leisure and fitness. It's only now in my early 30s that I realise how neglectful, abusive, and trauma inducing my early years really were. My take aways are give your abusers as much space as possible (no contact if you can) and continually develop yourself physically, mentally, and ethically.
Dear Dr. Tara, You alone, AND your approach is outstanding... thank you, from me, and so many other men who suffer, were suffering, and/or are still suffering... Dr Tara, you have helped this man is his mid 30s for almost four years... Thank you for being our, men who are abused, crusader... Thanks to YOU (not shouting, it's just for emphasis), I am just almost an entire year away from my ex-female spouse... I am Divorced as of today, finally.. I have had to sleep in my car or walk far and in cold and heat for wifi because I needed to hear your new videos or rewatch them for self help and comfort. I'm certain, our good Doctor, that I am not the only one one wishes you well, prays for you by name, and thanks you so very, very much. Btw I stayed almost a decade and a half, because I loved my stepchildren and my own. The abuse I experienced was almost precisely as your videos and articles reveal. Lastly, thank you for the videos...seriously...Divorce, loss of job, fighting to just even visit with just one of my kids, death of close loved ones and so much more, makes it hard to read, and many more things, these days. All my very best to you, B.A.
I am not a male but a female and let me tell you ....I’m going through the almost identical experience as you. This disordered realm is not gender bias period. It’s truthfully a pandemic ! Doesn’t surprise me due to the world we live in and among. These type of people are truly a weed that suffocates, destroys and 90% seek to kill whatever they touch or have in proximity. It truly is a spiritual warfare . It’s almost like it’s insane and too much to even voice and when you do to tell a safe person, they are not even remotely equipped or even capable to understand such reprobate / heathen / predator antics.
@@wishfulbeauty It so sad that She strongly advises You can't change their stunted petulant mentality. It even affects how they function in their own responsibility of their own lives such as the way they use words to personal belongings. My Friend who loses phones annually and has to buy a new one. There are probably many other articles He loses but not as expensive.
These videos are uhhh... these are great. They're disorientingly accurate reflections of my experiences with a borderline quasi-partner. "Adult toddler" is a fantastically useful concept for understanding what I was subjected to.
Hey Doc I've been watching a lot of your videos I'm 59 male Two lines in this video really hit home YOU DID"T BREAK IT YOU CANT FIX IT and HEALTHY PEOPLE DONT STAY IN BAD RELATIONSHIPS . It's funny you talked about how the Narcissist person changes there tactics with age. I believe that goes both ways I can see as I've aged I've lost my energy to try and make thing right and make everybody happy,Ive been focusing on my own happiness and well-being as of late
You just described my former therapist. I wasted 2 years educating her on narcissism and narc abuse. This toxic therapist recommended another toxic therapist colleague of hers to me for COUPLES THERAPY!!!!! SHM..... I left all of them 2 years ago... Thank you for all your terrific information and education!
I remember the advise my divorce lawyer gave at the end of the divorce with my ex-wbpd/npd. He said the following. "Both of you need to grow up. I think you've been traumatized & hurt and in time you come back to reality. As far as you ex, she will never grow up!!! I've defended and went against people like her. I know what they're about, I've been doing this for 24 years so I have a lot of experience with people like her. She is never going to grow up!!! Take care of yourself and your children. They'll need your sanity and rational when you're better."
Ahhh yes the answers from BPD people on Quora have been some sort of mind bending anti reality "I can't help it" crap. It's sad and wrong to laugh at another's misfortune but after what I went through I think I earned a pass, so yeah a BPD answer is insane and hilarious simultaneously. Thanks Tara I like your style.
Yeah, it's either that or it's a long essay about how much they suffered physical, sexual and emotional abuse in the past, and them end with a proposition of the types of "so, who is the real victim now???" There is no way to rationalise with emotional people like that, and if you keep trying you will be seen as the one lacking empathy, the only alternative is to walk alway.
My ex-Borderline is now driving 40 miles in SoCal traffic every Sunday, to “run into” me at my gym that she never went to when we were together. These videos make it so sweet to understand what happened back then, and to understand what’s happening to her NOW, when I refuse to acknowledge her existence.
I get this gut level. Critical analysis feeling. That as soon as you start to talk. To another female at the gym. She will pounce out of the shadows. From a piece of equipment. I think she is thinking about all the possible women. Now you can talk to. Along with staying in shape for them. I think Lilly Munster mind is multi tasking.. Anyway wowie.
My narc x is a grown toddler when she doesn't get her way she uses her buddies aka flying monkeys or bullies against me . Yes wtf ? is her problem she can't never act mature about anything . Yes the more you know or learn about them the more they have to learn new tricks or tactics to further the abuse . They can't take responsibility it's always the person they're abusing faults . Narcissist are so double standard and have poor me attitude but at the same time can be ruthless with their crimes & abuse . It's like we're a experiment too them .These people have serious mental problems . It's like they think being dysfunctional is normal it's not it's childish . She & her clan think it's funny too bully people. What hurts is the fact not alot of people believe me cause she plays two roles . Empaths do hurt people at times so true but we do feel awful after we do . Narcissist on the other hand don't , I agree Shrink4men . I did also we shouldn't have to apologize for something we didn't do though . Narcissist I know never ever apologize or if they do it's not genuine . It's all about themselves they are so self centered .
hahaha so right. I hear "You left a mentally ill person? How could you do that? .... One foot in front of the other. I'm not qualified to assist with personality disorders. It's funny because I was always being accused of being a narcissists and I would then just say "Narcissists cannot help their behavior, so there is nothing I can do to assist you or make it better". Then their story would change and recant their narcissist accusation to try and get me to react again. Pretty sad.
Wish I heard you thirty years ago. My life would have been very different. Btw I am female and my Narc/borderline is my sister. She was two years old when I was born and tried to throw me off the bed. She didn’t move past this stage
This helps. I'd love to leave.THANK YOU. The adult toddler -title hits to the bull's eye. One of your many best videos . These help me take a deep breath.
I too have a very hard time with the sobriquet of "Empath" I never completely identified as a co dependent either. I ALWAYS fought back, and seemingly stuck up for myself EXTERNALLY, but internally, I was dying. I had a pedophile Narc "father" and probably a BPD "waif/rage" histrionic "mother" So I basically won the relationship lottery from HELL! LOL Yet, other than my foray into an abusive relationship or 100 growing up (Lots more abuse in the Foster care system), and my eventual recovering stage (now almost 7 years Toxic free)I am healing! I made it to almost 54 and didn't die in this cycle of physical and emotional abuse! I also have been a "good enough" single parent to a child with multiple special needs even though the ONLY template I had for parenting were old 70's TV programs i.e. Waltons, Little House on the Prairie. He is now a 23 year old man boy, and I am still doing the very best that I can. All I can say is Viva La LIBERTAD!!!!!!!!!!!!FREEEEDOM!!!!! Miracles DO happen, and YOU and people like you are a HUGE part of why these miracles happen! Muchas gracias! Muchos abrazos (Many hugs!)
You are spot on with the adult toddler stuff. The first video described my husband to a T. So thankful for you plus you make me laugh with your dry humor. Keep the videos coming. God Bless You!
Ok first of all sorry for the bad english but it's not my primary language. I gotta share this one with the community. After having a long term relationship with 2 narcs in a row then a borderline I went straight to a codependency group but unfortunately a few months ago I had a relapse and found "someone too good to be true". This time I won't even dare to guess what she got, all I know she's the definition of high conflict person. To make the story short, I scolded her for creating a nuisance with her neighbors about a leakage in her apartament while I also persuaded her to not sabotage their pipes. That was strike number one in her mind. After that I only reminded her to not give up her own hopes and dreams before supposedly giving support to her narc mother pretending to be ill. That was strike number 2 and it was enough for her to see that I was "trouble". In the end she accused me of being manipulative, and a fake nice guy and to sum it all up a major nuisance in her life. I gotta say my head is still spinning from that wild ride in crazytown, but I feel so relieved right now. I just dodged a "shotgun shot". We didn't even last 2 months. That double repellent is a savior: accountability + boundaries. Thank you Dr. Tara Palmatier for helping me to deal with such "gentle and nice people" (that is how she believes other people see her).
I know this channel is focused on personal (romantic, family, social) relationships. Listening to this specific video I am struck by how accurately this describes a co-worker of mine. It is really amazing how virtually everything Dr T describes as characteristics fit this guy so closely. If you wrote him as a character people would say he was too "on the nose". His favorite smug comment privately to me after he has lied to or manipulated anyone is "I think X is naive politically..." No, X is a decent person that wants to cooperate as a team and doesn't realize you are being dishonest for your own amusement and to ensure you get your way. I am sure he says the same about me, he may not realize I am documenting everything this person does. Every dog has his day, at least that is what I tell myself.
My partner was an enabler for his BPD ex-wife for over 30 years. Can you speak to us about the "enabler" and how you would handle getting out of an enabler situation?
Last time I saw her, I wasn't feeding my mother with enough attention, so she grabbed my face, depite my telling her not to do so, yelling how she "loves" me (i.e. demands to be the sole focus of my attention), then attacked me with the usual pronouncement - made not just in absence of evidence but overwhelming evidence of absence - that I bully my wife, used me as a toilet in which to dump her emotional shit from her and my father's relationship, and bawled me out about how I am to treat other people. This from the woman who, when I was a child, smashed me behind a door and through a wall because I wouldn't think what she wanted and then spent ten years telling everyone who'd listen that I'd punched the wall - with my shoulder and face - and who would point knives at me yelling she was going to kill me, then dictate that I know she wouldn't do it. She also loves to manufacture little dramas in which I'm supposed to keep some idiotic secret from my wife to try to draw me away and into my parents' little world conjured up from their own self-absorption. She'd spent a significant part of the previous day hounding me to tell her my wife's personal business behind my wife's back, then howling about what a victim she is when I wouldn't respond, all of which ended with my father bellowing at me, in our house, that we are not entitled to have any personal boundaries, and how my life belongs to them, not me. The following day, when my wife made a decision to pay for a meal and left to pick it up, my mother immediately turned to attack me - no surprises there - demanding I change my wife's decision behind her back, and, when I calmly refused saying I would not undermine my wife, flew into a rage stomping her feet and sticking her tongue out and spitting at me. In my wife's and my kitchen. The last time I heard from her was a couple years later, early this year, when she rang to let fly firstly at our having changed phone providers without her approval, and then to howl about her epic victimhood. How was I bullying them, you may ask? By staying away from them. It ended - yep, you guessed it - with yet another raging tantrum. People like this genuinely do not understand "fuck off", so you just have to implement it on their behalf.
Thanks Dr T. I was looking forward to part 2 in this series. Some really interesting points, which always point inwards, it hurts a bit as I realise every time that there are no victims of borderline abuse. Only enablers and more or less willing participants. I think I learn something about myself and my origins every time I read the articles or listen to these videos.
So spot on Dr - and so delightfully humorous ... now that I can see the ridiculousness as a recovered codependent. Thank you so much for all you contribute.
Hello everyone, I am very happy to have found Dr. Palmatier. I am from Germany and this kind of education about mental illnesses is still in its infancy. As well as the point and spiced with irony, it really helps to understand these extreme situations better.
Dr. Palmatier Thank you for your wisdom and knowledgeable service When I found myself apologizing/accepting/justifying certain events and circumstances, it was another step in what I refer to as a Psychological Awakening. I became more aware of my role as an enabler in the dynamic. Programs like yours, Dr.Ross Rosenberg’s, Lisa Blancs, Sam Vaknins, Les Carters, allows us to understand and see our wrongdoings ,where we made mistakes,how to correct them, and how to heal on forward.
Help Me i believe my wife has BPD & she believes i have it. 😥 I have severe social anxiety disorder & have no friends. I don't seek out drama(well it seems like she does) or get in negative moods on a daily basis. I just want to be loved, peace(please i beg of you), quiet laughters & enjoy days without negative behaviors wiggling & tickling their evil little ways in. I stopped drinking & stopped cigarettes. She blamed everything on me cause of drinking. So i stopped drinking for over 2 years now & so far i learned i can change & she still has a 0 to 100 temper that still can break me down to tears. Trying not giving someone power over your emotions & stepping back from the situation with Alienlike skills unheard of😥 is impossible for me to do all of the time as of right now. I am improving though😏👽
Is the endless repeat of the same stories a general thing with them? Every week I'd hear the same victimhood stories over and over and over. I hadnt got to the end, Tara answered my question. I always jus though she was just boring that way
You are literally saving minds, and lives. I pray you remain blessed. Sending you a lot of love. This is literally the first time I've been compelled to comment on a RUclips video. Thank you.!!!
I've just rescued myself from a relationship like this and it's hard coming to terms with it. I was with my partner for 8 years I "grew" up with him and I kept growing up and then he didn't... Then he got covid got very poorly mentally and ended up having psychosis. He's now stuck his parents don't get him medication or Dr help as they believe they know what they are doing and medicine is wrong. I get emotionally guilt tripped and harrassed by the crying tantruming toddler. But to his family I'm the toxic one ??? Thank you so much for your videos they have really opened my eyes to my reality I'm still trying to palm off as something it's not
I've been confrontational with My A T Friend. I've also found My self getting suckered into the snare like the one night I cooked dinner because He said He was going to get Chinese but He got sucked into a movie and seemed to not following through with His plan for dinner. Once again I was the one screwing up by catering to providing dinner but it was spaghetti, meatballs and garlic toast. It's also My reason for not hosting thanksgiving dinner. I know others who are even closer must be sicker than I know especially the Older Man who He perches on. He's even denied He was an ensnared enabler.
Eeesh. I’m dx’d with crippling anxiety, and PTSD, and my shrink thinks I’m a bit bi-polar. Been in an abusive relationship with a narcissist years ago, ...I’m don’t think I’m a narcissist, (unless there’s such a thing as an egoless narcissist) and single, but I def am and feel like .... an incompetent adult.
Thank you Dr. Tara. I have been seeing a person for quite some time now and she has the characteristics you described in your two-part discussion videos. I realized that I have the tendency to be parent-like in my interactions, so maybe that is why I got attracted to her child like personality. I kind of suffered from a sort of emotional roller coaster due to unpredictable behaviors of hers. Much like akin to what you said of about the “WTF moments.” I had a lot of those. It was such a regretful phase of my life since we are both in medical school and that I thought my academic performance has taken a hit secondary to my troubled emotions. We never got into a relationship because something in my gut tells me something is wrong. And so I kept and reading and watching these informative discussions ( yours and Dr. Ramani’s) to really understand my situation. You really helped me. And I thank you on behalf of everyone. God bless.
Thanks Dr. T. Both educational & insightful. Explains why my Histrionic Borderline Narcissistic, Cluster B ex would say " you act more like a father or parent rather than my husband or spouse ". Your book & videos ought to be mandatory for all Family Court judges....eye - opening stuff. Now...Where in the World is Dr. T ? Hope your having fun & enjoying yourself...you deserve it... 👍.
Narcissism doesn't justify or heal things like human trafficking, rape,or anything that is related to/ with trauma; the trauma of illegal, coerced mutilating of the flesh n the self. The reversal would. TY
Character illogically disturbed Practice radical REALITY (NOT radical acceptance) Therapists who 1. Your crazy ex 2. Anyone unwilling 3. You can’t do the work for them 4. You don’t protect your c 5. Your children are going to have some issues 6. You have issues of your own HEALTHY PEOPLE DO NOT STAY IN TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS Natural born con artists: 1. Limited empathy & integrity - almost impossible to learn as an adult 2. 3. Their self absorbed 4. Poorly developed object constancy 5. Flexible morality ‘it’s different when I do it’ (hypocritical)
Nobody enjoys being around nasty folk - but what we have to be aware of is categorizing people. It’s always easy to see the”faults” in others. And should we all act the same way ? Ever meet wealthy “successful ” people who haven’t smiled or laughed in 20 yrs.
OMG I could talk to you for hours. Your terminology on the surface sounds colloquial, but in a manner not unlike Maslow's pyramid in a sense, it sits above a learned foundation, and is a synthesis of your own thoughts plus the books, and is therefore on top of and above so many others in understanding and explanation. The term empath is crazy-making in itself, you are correct, there is no such banana in the bunch. I suggest there are the non-disordered naive (NDN) and the non-disordered enlightened (NDE). Enlightenment is a matter of degree. Most of us do not have your PhD., but by now we have our BA. lol The greatest problem I face is how to thank so many of you people enough, who have provided such good compassionate wisdom on here, and genuinely increased the quality of my and other's lives. TY!! 💖💖💖
Amazing content, Doctor. If anyone feels guilty about letting go of their narcissist, they should listen to your sensible advice. I love your humor as well. Thank you for this eye-opening series.
Another great video telling it like it is being in a relationship with an abusive borderline. Mine was comorbid with Bipolar 1 also. And, anyone who would cheat on you is a complete dingbat because you are super gorgeous and very intelligent as well.
100% truth! Your explanations and terminology is the best Iv seen on you tube! We need more content 😁 Could you do some videos on anti social personality? Thank you 🙂
I feel powerless to completely Let Her Go mentally I'm aware she has BPD I'm codependent dated off and on for a long time I know she lying about stuff but I don't want to believe it I feel so stuck
Thank you. Separate topic: I loved "ROME." Especially the friendship between Titus Pullo and Lucius Vorenus. I always thought if there was a way to combine the two into one man, it'd be perfection.
@@shrink4men I loved it too. You are right about Lucius and Titus. What a good mix this would be! I think that Mark Antony is a charismatic guy too, but too crazy. Have a nice day, Dr T. Pascal, from France.
I’m so glad I only wasted a year on my ex borderline. I definitely parented my parents and I’m so done with everyone . I’ve been dealing with narcs and borderlines for nearly 40 years and I’m freeing myself now from any responsibility to “help” anyone anymore . Super excited for 2020 which I plan on being single for at least a year to unpack said 40 years of codependent bull shit .
You too? It was not the women I dated (and I dated some eventual trainwrecks), but like in your case, parents scapegoating me and a flying monkey, former BFF who slipped and admitted he was paid to spy on me.
I tried distancing myself from friend. One I was confiding my feelings about my parents emotional abuse and sex life all. Eventually I saw I was being played.
Like you, the emotional and financial damage I am suffering from my NPD parents. (Don't know if there are financial damage on your end, but I bet they might've stuck you when it hurt.
But with the knowledge we are attaining from the NPD videos we are watching give you a brighter future indeed.
First sign of crazy making I see, I am out. Too old for THAT anymore. Thanks to Tara and a few others on this topic via RUclips. It is giving me not only my dignity back, but showing ways not to take the bait and overreact, thus giving them some so-called DARVO (Defend And Reverse Victim and Offender) victory.
To quote Dr Tara "These are not into equitible solutions. They're into WINNING!" (Sick minds, aren't they?)
I’m happy to hear that Caroline. Take from life what you want and kick toxic people out.
Same. Also realized I picked up alot of bad habits from my disordered family. Been spending the last year in therapy to unpack and work on everything. It's really freeing to know its not your responsibility to "fix" others. I am so damn tired of being a free therapist for unstable people.
You shouldn't have to pack an "emotional diaper bag" is possibly one of the most brilliant taglines for why being with a narcissist is the wrong thing to do that I have ever heard, thank you for that and your other very insightful analysis!!
It's interesting when they have a complete meltdown, then a day or 2 later behave as if that everything is great in the world, and you're behaving strangely. Inside your own mind you feel as though you just came back from a warzone *SMDH
That is some maximum trufus rufus. It resembles PTSD and then you are reeling after an episode they enter into and then someone drops by for a visit and you are still dysregulated and they all the sudden are happy go lucky and that just seems so wrong you can't pretend like that and then you end up looking like the psycho. That happened to me multiple times when my ex was trying to push me away. So happy to be out of that. The last two years was borderline torture.
Yes this is a big one
You don't protect your children by staying in an abusive relationship . If only mum had got this message from someone with influence, other than me.
I think you could be the first stand-up psychologist. Blending comedy and healing.
Empaths Aren't real it's like a coping construct for highly sensitive people who refuse to Strengthen their sensitivities.
Unfortunately we make the mistake of thinking we are dealing with a regular human when we are dealing with a not fully developed human being. Which accounts for their behavior and actions that have been so excellently described. It isn't even anything personal.
It's basically like expecting or assuming a child to behave like an adult.
"Narcissists/borderlines attack their victims for making them feel bad about how badly they behaved."
After discovering my then wife had been spent thousands of dollars behind my back I confronted her with the evidence. I was told "I didn't tell you the truth because I had lost respect for you." So she lied and spent thousands of dollars out of our shared account but it was now my fault for not being respectable in her eyes. Apparently in her world its completely acceptable to lie and steal from someone as long as they aren't respectable.
I have long since stopped trying discuss these things with her or to use logic, rational thought or reason.
But I thought to myself ..... "No...when you began lying to me and stealing money from me behind my back you have lost respect for yourself, you no longer have a moral compass or any personal integrity.
My wife did the same .....forged my signature on the bank slip
I went thru the same dam thing lol she had “lost respect for me” yet she was stealing cuz she needed money and told me to stop comparing like a little bitch when I confronted her lol and then once I took her off our joint account I got attacked verbally cuz I was wrong lol man me and you relate homie
I hear "I'm not mean you are" the most, or variations of this.
I'd find this video hilarious if it wasn't so tragic.
I was married to a woman with bi polar & bpd. She also had strong narcissistic traits.
I remember many arguments (that she started) where I said to her, "why can't to try and put yourself in someone else's shoes for once". She never did.
I was baffled as to why everything was always from her point of view, 100% of the time.
It was bizarre, and I never could bring myself to apologise to her for the awful arguments she instigated. And of course she held that against me by saying, it's always her that has to fix things between us. It never occurred to her that she was "fixing" what she had broken.
I began to hate being in her company and hated hearing her key in the door when she came home from work. Yet I made my mind up to stay with her and make the best of it. How bizarre is that!
She bullied, manipulated and harassed me for 10 years but I didn't know I was being victimised until long after the relationship was over.
That's when I realised I had to work on myself. That's when it dawned on me that all the women from my past, that I fell for, were manipulative personalities. And I chose them.
That was my wow moment, that made me face up to my codependent enabling nature.
Thank goodness for videos like this, that have helped me to see the light.
Trauma bonding is a real thing mate. The sooner you can recognise the signs , the less it gets a grip into your mind.
But they all start off full of sweetness and the feeling they are the best you’ve ever met!
Did you see any warning signs early on in dating ? They are usually there .
I’m so sorry you had to deal with that
Dam bro that’s crazy asf but it feels good to finally have those AHA moments and piece it all together unfortunately we are sometimes the only ones to wake up and the surest of our family/exes stay stuck in that cycle and it makes us feel alone and unrelateable
My ex therapist was a narcissist. She excused the behavior of domestic abusers, rapists, killers, etc. and insisted that the victims normalized this behavior and took responsibility for the abusers actions. She wanted to train me to become the perfect scapegoat, enabler and supporter of her abuse and other abusers.
After the first time she abused me and I confronted her, she blamed shifted and respondibilized me for her own behavior by saying that I needed to tell her when she crossed the line. My boundaries were clear and I repeated them often, she just pretended not to hear them.
When confronted the second time I presented her with a long list of all her covert manipulation and abuse tactics and how they affected me, at the end of the session she blameshifted again. Instead of self reflecting and acknowledging her toxic behavior, she just said "oh, I'm just sharing my knowledge", and "oh, I thought you said you were healthy, hahaha". As if a relatively healthy person would not get sick after drinking a glass of poison.
Also, she was a female therapist that seemed to hate other women. When the mask slipped, she was constantly comparing herself to others and devaluing them.
Both my parents were emotionally immature I.e. narc mother and bpd father. And an additional physically abusive brother. That was fun to be born in to... not! Basically, developed severe conduct disorder as a teen leading to expulsion from school, court at aged 14, failing high school exams, and getting kicked out of the British army. I learnt my lesson in my late teens went back to school, started reading philosophy, religion and psychology, took up martial arts, and started working in leisure and fitness. It's only now in my early 30s that I realise how neglectful, abusive, and trauma inducing my early years really were. My take aways are give your abusers as much space as possible (no contact if you can) and continually develop yourself physically, mentally, and ethically.
Dear Dr. Tara, You alone, AND your approach is outstanding... thank you, from me, and so many other men who suffer, were suffering, and/or are still suffering... Dr Tara, you have helped this man is his mid 30s for almost four years... Thank you for being our, men who are abused, crusader... Thanks to YOU (not shouting, it's just for emphasis), I am just almost an entire year away from my ex-female spouse... I am Divorced as of today, finally.. I have had to sleep in my car or walk far and in cold and heat for wifi because I needed to hear your new videos or rewatch them for self help and comfort. I'm certain, our good Doctor, that I am not the only one one wishes you well, prays for you by name, and thanks you so very, very much. Btw I stayed almost a decade and a half, because I loved my stepchildren and my own. The abuse I experienced was almost precisely as your videos and articles reveal. Lastly, thank you for the videos...seriously...Divorce, loss of job, fighting to just even visit with just one of my kids, death of close loved ones and so much more, makes it hard to read, and many more things, these days. All my very best to you, B.A.
I am not a male but a female and let me tell you ....I’m going through the almost identical experience as you. This disordered realm is not gender bias period. It’s truthfully a pandemic ! Doesn’t surprise me due to the world we live in and among. These type of people are truly a weed that suffocates, destroys and 90% seek to kill whatever they touch or have in proximity. It truly is a spiritual warfare . It’s almost like it’s insane and too much to even voice and when you do to tell a safe person, they are not even remotely equipped or even capable to understand such reprobate / heathen / predator antics.
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It so sad that She strongly advises You can't change their stunted petulant mentality. It even affects how they function in their own responsibility of their own lives such as the way they use words to personal belongings. My Friend who loses phones annually and has to buy a new one. There are probably many other articles He loses but not as expensive.
Wish I listened to this twenty years ago. Often very well meaning people, including clergy, are through ignorance just enablers.
These videos are uhhh... these are great. They're disorientingly accurate reflections of my experiences with a borderline quasi-partner. "Adult toddler" is a fantastically useful concept for understanding what I was subjected to.
Hey Doc I've been watching a lot of your videos I'm 59 male Two lines in this video really hit home YOU DID"T BREAK IT YOU CANT FIX IT and HEALTHY PEOPLE DONT STAY IN BAD RELATIONSHIPS . It's funny you talked about how the Narcissist person changes there tactics with age. I believe that goes both ways I can see as I've aged I've lost my energy to try and make thing right and make everybody happy,Ive been focusing on my own happiness and well-being as of late
You just described my former therapist. I wasted 2 years educating her on narcissism and narc abuse. This toxic therapist recommended another toxic therapist colleague of hers to me for COUPLES THERAPY!!!!! SHM..... I left all of them 2 years ago...
Thank you for all your terrific information and education!
Cindi Adams
I hope they paid you well for the education lol
Yeah, they don't get it
I remember the advise my divorce lawyer gave at the end of the divorce with my ex-wbpd/npd. He said the following. "Both of you need to grow up. I think you've been traumatized & hurt and in time you come back to reality. As far as you ex, she will never grow up!!! I've defended and went against people like her. I know what they're about, I've been doing this for 24 years so I have a lot of experience with people like her. She is never going to grow up!!! Take care of yourself and your children. They'll need your sanity and rational when you're better."
God dam!!!! Lol
Ahhh yes the answers from BPD people on Quora have been some sort of mind bending anti reality "I can't help it" crap. It's sad and wrong to laugh at another's misfortune but after what I went through I think I earned a pass, so yeah a BPD answer is insane and hilarious simultaneously. Thanks Tara I like your style.
Yeah, it's either that or it's a long essay about how much they suffered physical, sexual and emotional abuse in the past, and them end with a proposition of the types of "so, who is the real victim now???"
There is no way to rationalise with emotional people like that, and if you keep trying you will be seen as the one lacking empathy, the only alternative is to walk alway.
My ex-Borderline is now driving 40 miles in SoCal traffic every Sunday, to “run into” me at my gym that she never went to when we were together.
These videos make it so sweet to understand what happened back then, and to understand what’s happening to her NOW, when I refuse to acknowledge her existence.
Wowie. I thought mine were bad.. Good luck..
I get this gut level. Critical analysis feeling. That as soon as you start to talk. To another female at the gym.
She will pounce out of the shadows. From a piece of equipment. I think she is thinking about all the possible women. Now you can talk to. Along with staying in shape for them. I think Lilly Munster mind is multi tasking.. Anyway wowie.
No stalking here..
@Maaa-aaa-aaate Agreed. You never know what these people are thinking...and her seeing him every week isn't good. Ghost her
My narc x is a grown toddler when she doesn't get her way she uses her buddies aka flying monkeys or bullies against me . Yes wtf ? is her problem she can't never act mature about anything . Yes the more you know or learn about them the more they have to learn new tricks or tactics to further the abuse . They can't take responsibility it's always the person they're abusing faults . Narcissist are so double standard and have poor me attitude but at the same time can be ruthless with their crimes & abuse . It's like we're a experiment too them .These people have serious mental problems . It's like they think being dysfunctional is normal it's not it's childish . She & her clan think it's funny too bully people. What hurts is the fact not alot of people believe me cause she plays two roles . Empaths do hurt people at times so true but we do feel awful after we do . Narcissist on the other hand don't , I agree Shrink4men . I did also we shouldn't have to apologize for something we didn't do though . Narcissist I know never ever apologize or if they do it's not genuine . It's all about themselves they are so self centered .
Wow .. This sure sounds like someone I know ..
You know .l know 😛
hahaha so right. I hear "You left a mentally ill person? How could you do that? .... One foot in front of the other. I'm not qualified to assist with personality disorders. It's funny because I was always being accused of being a narcissists and I would then just say "Narcissists cannot help their behavior, so there is nothing I can do to assist you or make it better". Then their story would change and recant their narcissist accusation to try and get me to react again. Pretty sad.
BPD people seem to say "I've hurt you but we hurt worse "and "you have it bad but having BPD is so much worse "
Wish I heard you thirty years ago. My life would have been very different. Btw I am female and my Narc/borderline is my sister. She was two years old when I was born and tried to throw me off the bed. She didn’t move past this stage
looks like we had same the sister
"How many of you apologized to your narcissist for making them cheat on you?" Damn, that one hits home.
This was a tough message to hear, but I really needed to hear it. Thank you again, Dr. Palmatier.
You're welcome.
This helps. I'd love to leave.THANK YOU. The adult toddler -title hits to the bull's eye. One of your many best videos . These help me take a deep breath.
Love your Videos....you don’t miss the target...always on point! Keep it up Dr Tara...
when she told me she was an empath just before admitting she was a borderline, I knew I had a problem.
I too have a very hard time with the sobriquet of "Empath" I never completely identified as a co dependent either. I ALWAYS fought back, and seemingly stuck up for myself EXTERNALLY, but internally, I was dying. I had a pedophile Narc "father" and probably a BPD "waif/rage" histrionic "mother" So I basically won the relationship lottery from HELL! LOL Yet, other than my foray into an abusive relationship or 100 growing up (Lots more abuse in the Foster care system), and my eventual recovering stage (now almost 7 years Toxic free)I am healing! I made it to almost 54 and didn't die in this cycle of physical and emotional abuse! I also have been a "good enough" single parent to a child with multiple special needs even though the ONLY template I had for parenting were old 70's TV programs i.e. Waltons, Little House on the Prairie. He is now a 23 year old man boy, and I am still doing the very best that I can. All I can say is Viva La LIBERTAD!!!!!!!!!!!!FREEEEDOM!!!!! Miracles DO happen, and YOU and people like you are a HUGE part of why these miracles happen! Muchas gracias! Muchos abrazos (Many hugs!)
Dr T, thank you for helping me understand me.
And gift me with a deeply sincere smile that emerges from within.
Thanks
You are spot on with the adult toddler stuff. The first video described my husband to a T. So thankful for you plus you make me laugh with your dry humor. Keep the videos coming. God Bless You!
They should contact you as a profiler or expert for the FBI
Ok first of all sorry for the bad english but it's not my primary language. I gotta share this one with the community. After having a long term relationship with 2 narcs in a row then a borderline I went straight to a codependency group but unfortunately a few months ago I had a relapse and found "someone too good to be true". This time I won't even dare to guess what she got, all I know she's the definition of high conflict person. To make the story short, I scolded her for creating a nuisance with her neighbors about a leakage in her apartament while I also persuaded her to not sabotage their pipes. That was strike number one in her mind.
After that I only reminded her to not give up her own hopes and dreams before supposedly giving support to her narc mother pretending to be ill. That was strike number 2 and it was enough for her to see that I was "trouble".
In the end she accused me of being manipulative, and a fake nice guy and to sum it all up a major nuisance in her life.
I gotta say my head is still spinning from that wild ride in crazytown, but I feel so relieved right now. I just dodged a "shotgun shot". We didn't even last 2 months. That double repellent is a savior: accountability + boundaries.
Thank you Dr. Tara Palmatier for helping me to deal with such "gentle and nice people" (that is how she believes other people see her).
RR. Radical Reality.Not Acceptance. 💕💜The character logically disordered. I don't know how to apologise for the need to be loved?
I know this channel is focused on personal (romantic, family, social) relationships. Listening to this specific video I am struck by how accurately this describes a co-worker of mine. It is really amazing how virtually everything Dr T describes as characteristics fit this guy so closely. If you wrote him as a character people would say he was too "on the nose".
His favorite smug comment privately to me after he has lied to or manipulated anyone is "I think X is naive politically..." No, X is a decent person that wants to cooperate as a team and doesn't realize you are being dishonest for your own amusement and to ensure you get your way. I am sure he says the same about me, he may not realize I am documenting everything this person does. Every dog has his day, at least that is what I tell myself.
You describe my ex wife.
My partner was an enabler for his BPD ex-wife for over 30 years. Can you speak to us about the "enabler" and how you would handle getting out of an enabler situation?
Excellent. Radical Reality!
I miss your doggies they help brighten the subject. C.A.
You shouldn't have to pack an "emotional diaper bag" 😂😂
Só brilliant and fun. Thank you always Dr Palmatier🙌💕🍀😎
I think you could be the first stand-up psychologist...blending comedy and healing. And comedy.
I was just saying this today years of WTF moments 👍🏽🙌🏽
I still look back at the first of many "wtf moments" in my life...
It was so mind boggling...
Last time I saw her, I wasn't feeding my mother with enough attention, so she grabbed my face, depite my telling her not to do so, yelling how she "loves" me (i.e. demands to be the sole focus of my attention), then attacked me with the usual pronouncement - made not just in absence of evidence but overwhelming evidence of absence - that I bully my wife, used me as a toilet in which to dump her emotional shit from her and my father's relationship, and bawled me out about how I am to treat other people. This from the woman who, when I was a child, smashed me behind a door and through a wall because I wouldn't think what she wanted and then spent ten years telling everyone who'd listen that I'd punched the wall - with my shoulder and face - and who would point knives at me yelling she was going to kill me, then dictate that I know she wouldn't do it. She also loves to manufacture little dramas in which I'm supposed to keep some idiotic secret from my wife to try to draw me away and into my parents' little world conjured up from their own self-absorption. She'd spent a significant part of the previous day hounding me to tell her my wife's personal business behind my wife's back, then howling about what a victim she is when I wouldn't respond, all of which ended with my father bellowing at me, in our house, that we are not entitled to have any personal boundaries, and how my life belongs to them, not me.
The following day, when my wife made a decision to pay for a meal and left to pick it up, my mother immediately turned to attack me - no surprises there - demanding I change my wife's decision behind her back, and, when I calmly refused saying I would not undermine my wife, flew into a rage stomping her feet and sticking her tongue out and spitting at me. In my wife's and my kitchen. The last time I heard from her was a couple years later, early this year, when she rang to let fly firstly at our having changed phone providers without her approval, and then to howl about her epic victimhood. How was I bullying them, you may ask? By staying away from them. It ended - yep, you guessed it - with yet another raging tantrum.
People like this genuinely do not understand "fuck off", so you just have to implement it on their behalf.
Thanks Dr T. I was looking forward to part 2 in this series. Some really interesting points, which always point inwards, it hurts a bit as I realise every time that there are no victims of borderline abuse. Only enablers and more or less willing participants. I think I learn something about myself and my origins every time I read the articles or listen to these videos.
As a adultchild of a bpd/narc, I can say that yes, I was a victim in childhood.
So spot on Dr - and so delightfully humorous ... now that I can see the ridiculousness as a recovered codependent. Thank you so much for all you contribute.
Hello everyone, I am very happy to have found Dr. Palmatier. I am from Germany and this kind of education about mental illnesses is still in its infancy. As well as the point and spiced with irony, it really helps to understand these extreme situations better.
One of your best.
Another great video Tara. Everything you have said is the truth!
Thank you. I appreciate that.
Narcissist are emotionally immature then why do they abuse people emotionally
Dr. Palmatier
Thank you for your wisdom and knowledgeable service
When I found myself apologizing/accepting/justifying certain events and circumstances, it was another step in what I refer to as a Psychological Awakening. I became more aware of my role as an enabler in the dynamic. Programs like yours, Dr.Ross Rosenberg’s, Lisa Blancs, Sam Vaknins, Les Carters, allows us to understand and see our wrongdoings ,where we made mistakes,how to correct them, and how to heal on forward.
Help Me i believe my wife has BPD & she believes i have it. 😥 I have severe social anxiety disorder & have no friends. I don't seek out drama(well it seems like she does) or get in negative moods on a daily basis. I just want to be loved, peace(please i beg of you), quiet laughters & enjoy days without negative behaviors wiggling & tickling their evil little ways in. I stopped drinking & stopped cigarettes. She blamed everything on me cause of drinking. So i stopped drinking for over 2 years now & so far i learned i can change & she still has a 0 to 100 temper that still can break me down to tears. Trying not giving someone power over your emotions & stepping back from the situation with Alienlike skills unheard of😥 is impossible for me to do all of the time as of right now. I am improving though😏👽
Is the endless repeat of the same stories a general thing with them? Every week I'd hear the same victimhood stories over and over and over.
I hadnt got to the end, Tara answered my question. I always jus though she was just boring that way
You are literally saving minds, and lives. I pray you remain blessed. Sending you a lot of love. This is literally the first time I've been compelled to comment on a RUclips video. Thank you.!!!
I've just rescued myself from a relationship like this and it's hard coming to terms with it. I was with my partner for 8 years I "grew" up with him and I kept growing up and then he didn't... Then he got covid got very poorly mentally and ended up having psychosis. He's now stuck his parents don't get him medication or Dr help as they believe they know what they are doing and medicine is wrong. I get emotionally guilt tripped and harrassed by the crying tantruming toddler. But to his family I'm the toxic one ???
Thank you so much for your videos they have really opened my eyes to my reality I'm still trying to palm off as something it's not
I've been confrontational with My A T Friend. I've also found My self getting suckered into the snare like the one night I cooked dinner because He said He was going to get Chinese but He got sucked into a movie and seemed to not following through with His plan for dinner. Once again I was the one screwing up by catering to providing dinner but it was spaghetti, meatballs and garlic toast. It's also My reason for not hosting thanksgiving dinner. I know others who are even closer must be sicker than I know especially the Older Man who He perches on. He's even denied He was an ensnared enabler.
Eeesh. I’m dx’d with crippling anxiety, and PTSD, and my shrink thinks I’m a bit bi-polar. Been in an abusive relationship with a narcissist years ago, ...I’m don’t think I’m a narcissist, (unless there’s such a thing as an egoless narcissist) and single, but I def am and feel like .... an incompetent adult.
I will never be a cartoon in someone else’s psychosis ...!!!
RbM
Good bumper sticker! Seriously.
Thank you Dr. Tara. I have been seeing a person for quite some time now and she has the characteristics you described in your two-part discussion videos. I realized that I have the tendency to be parent-like in my interactions, so maybe that is why I got attracted to her child like personality.
I kind of suffered from a sort of emotional roller coaster due to unpredictable behaviors of hers. Much like akin to what you said of about the “WTF moments.” I had a lot of those.
It was such a regretful phase of my life since we are both in medical school and that I thought my academic performance has taken a hit secondary to my troubled emotions.
We never got into a relationship because something in my gut tells me something is wrong. And so I kept and reading and watching these informative discussions ( yours and Dr. Ramani’s) to really understand my situation.
You really helped me. And I thank you on behalf of everyone. God bless.
This video explains everything that I couldn’t express. This is great!
Thank you!
Thanks Dr. T. Both educational & insightful. Explains why my Histrionic Borderline Narcissistic, Cluster B ex would say " you act more like a father or parent rather than my husband or spouse ". Your book & videos ought to be mandatory for all Family Court judges....eye - opening stuff. Now...Where in the World is Dr. T ? Hope your having fun & enjoying yourself...you deserve it... 👍.
Narcissism doesn't justify or heal things like human trafficking, rape,or anything that is related to/ with trauma; the trauma of illegal, coerced mutilating of the flesh n the self. The reversal would. TY
😂 You are hilarious! Please do consider a sideline as a standup therapy comedian.
Liking this A LOT 👍👍👍
What about covert narcissism?
thank you Dr. Tara you are so clear recommending your videos part 1 & 2 for anyone who is suffering this abuse its concise and absolutely necessary.
Along with Jess and Cathy, I particularly liked and found the thumbs texting illustration quite amusing and, as always, completely accurate.
You are amazing at the insight of adult toddlership! @21:00 you describe them to a T -telling the same story for the billionth time.
Yes! Its over! Over over
Phrase-of-the-day: WTF ?
Thank you to the person that shared this channel with me
Thank you so much. Keep up the good work.
I like your new cathedral.
Thank you. I'm rather partial to it myself.
''Radical Reality'' means helping yourself, not them. ''Radical Acceptance'' means helping them, not yourself.
Character illogically disturbed
Practice radical REALITY (NOT radical acceptance)
Therapists who
1. Your crazy ex
2. Anyone unwilling
3. You can’t do the work for them
4. You don’t protect your c
5. Your children are going to have some issues
6. You have issues of your own HEALTHY PEOPLE DO NOT STAY IN TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS
Natural born con artists:
1. Limited empathy & integrity - almost impossible to learn as an adult
2.
3. Their self absorbed
4. Poorly developed object constancy
5. Flexible morality ‘it’s different when I do it’ (hypocritical)
Outstanding!
Nobody enjoys being around nasty folk - but what we have to be aware of is categorizing people. It’s always easy to see the”faults” in others.
And should we all act the same way ? Ever meet wealthy “successful ” people who haven’t smiled or laughed in 20 yrs.
OMG I could talk to you for hours. Your terminology on the surface sounds colloquial, but in a manner not unlike Maslow's pyramid in a sense, it sits above a learned foundation, and is a synthesis of your own thoughts plus the books, and is therefore on top of and above so many others in understanding and explanation. The term empath is crazy-making in itself, you are correct, there is no such banana in the bunch. I suggest there are the non-disordered naive (NDN) and the non-disordered enlightened (NDE). Enlightenment is a matter of degree. Most of us do not have your PhD., but by now we have our BA. lol The greatest problem I face is how to thank so many of you people enough, who have provided such good compassionate wisdom on here, and genuinely increased the quality of my and other's lives. TY!! 💖💖💖
Amazing content, Doctor. If anyone feels guilty about letting go of their narcissist, they should listen to your sensible advice. I love your humor as well. Thank you for this eye-opening series.
Another great video telling it like it is being in a relationship with an abusive borderline. Mine was comorbid with Bipolar 1 also. And, anyone who would cheat on you is a complete dingbat because you are super gorgeous and very intelligent as well.
Brilliant 😊. Thank you
Dr. Tara, Is sociopath behavior a learned behavior or a genetic trait?
100% truth! Your explanations and terminology is the best Iv seen on you tube! We need more content 😁 Could you do some videos on anti social personality? Thank you 🙂
You're brilliant, Dr. P...
Thank you--
But, but, aren't I an empath if I said "yes, I like puppies" on one of those obnoxious " are you an empath tests"?
Thank you so much for sharing your amazing knowledge helping myself and so many men.🙏
Thank you
What a homerun! Great video Tara!
I feel powerless to completely Let Her Go mentally I'm aware she has BPD I'm codependent dated off and on for a long time I know she lying about stuff but I don't want to believe it I feel so stuck
Grab your balls and get out of there man, life is too short !
How about if this is your parent?
Thank you!
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Nailed. It.
Brilliant!!!!
Another great video, Dr T !
Thank you. Separate topic: I loved "ROME." Especially the friendship between Titus Pullo and Lucius Vorenus. I always thought if there was a way to combine the two into one man, it'd be perfection.
@@shrink4men I loved it too. You are right about Lucius and Titus. What a good mix this would be! I think that Mark Antony is a charismatic guy too, but too crazy.
Have a nice day, Dr T.
Pascal, from France.
Real goods thanks.
Excellent !
Well done !!
Why not just pray for them?
You can't pray the cray cray away.
Ann Marie
You do that and let us know how that works out for you.
I think one has to pray while running fast and far away from these people.