@@Nick-kf3io Yeah they can be. I've been on this emotional immaturity kick lately. It gives something very concrete to say about a narcissist without labelling them. Hell, I love to label them but not everyone is as receptive about labels.
1. Lack empathy 2. Selfish 3. Don’t respect boundaries 4. Don’t take responsibility, blame others and struggle in diverse contexts 5. Take things personally/Very defensive 6. Difficulty controlling emotions 7. Not be honest about feelings
My ex boyfriend checked all of these boxes and then some. We broke up 6,5 years ago but I still get scared when entering a new relationship. I just started going out with a lovely man who hasn't shown any of these tendencies so far. Being with him feels so easy and peaceful. Let's hope it continues to be this way 😊
My ex-boyfriend was/is exactly the same. I understand your fear I have it too. Mainly because this person was all calm and didn't show any of this until months into the relationship. Then it was like when he felt he was secure in our relationship it all started coming out. It was so confusing and painful.
Now so much makes complete sense and even gut warnings when meeting new people make sense now. Over 40 years married I learned peace is way more desirable than company or a relationship.
I'm 62 and I am emotionally immature. I've been able to recognize it, and even at 61 years old, I'm still trying to work on this. This is has caused me depression most of my life. It has been so embarrassing to have this. I try to be prepared on how I will react to certain situations but a lot of times it catches me off guard. My wife has been a saint to deal with my emotions. Because of her, I try watch my emotions and if I do have an outburst, I will always take responsibility and I will try to learn from my experiences. This has been such a burden in my life.
I recently came out of a relationship with an avoidant middle aged man. He never had a relationship longer than 2 weeks before me. I saw over 6 months why . He had been so emotionally neglected/ abused as a child which of course materialized in his broken, short term relationships and low self esteem despite his handsome appearance . 😢😢
I had the same with my recent ex. So pitty and hard on me ad most of the time I couldn't understand whats going on as he wasn't able to communicate at all. His professional life has similar issues really.
My dad is emotionally immature. He does not talk about his feelings when it comes, takes things personally, does not regulate emotions, blames external factors for his problems, interprets things negatively and gives the silent treatment when upset. Like most, he didn't learned how to manage feelings, but it is difficult if we raised issues with him and he cannot see what our prespective is like. This often results in boundaries and requests go unmet repeatedly. However, identifying these behaviours is the first step to address issues in a relationship.
27 yrs married and the pattern never changes. Mistake(financial, car accident, schedule,etc. - they are confronted with the mistake > they throw an emotional fit> takes discussing their mistake as a personal affront>full on defensive behavior> further dishonesty.
Sounds very familiar. Weird how there’s always a pattern. Weird how everything makes sense when you think about it. People seem to develop in similar ways. It’s eerie.
Can you do a video on how emotionally immaturity can be fixed in adulthood and how long it takes so people with emotionally immature partners get an idea of how long they could be waiting even if their partner agrees to do the work?
Stupidly/comically defensive……… even a question like, “what is the weather going to be like today?” Is negative criticism…… exhausting….. “how can I be expected to know that?”
I can see this now with my adoptive mother. She was bad . 😢. Yes she was never the problem in her warp of a mind. I know because she told me what happened to her. But I've never abused my children because of her.
And I see it goes on until you do something about it. All my relationships I took care of everything. Now I'm the female I'd like to be somewhat taken care of
And now she's gone dead there's a peace I've never had it ce from both parents. He molested me. At times he was a very good person, I don't understand how that came to be only I watched he was not alone with my kids . I don't think that malady can be healed or fixed 😢😢😢😢
This is a very good subject, I can be emotionally immature in how I react sometimes. I was pretty bad as a young adult but over time I’ve learned to control my emotions having better tools to help me resolve issues that use to overwhelm me. I believe that is key. When you were not taught how to resolve an issue, it’s overwhelming depending on the severity of the problem. I’m looking forward to learning more from your suggested videos. Thank you! ❤
How does a man who is almost 50 not be emotionally available or mature??? I just left a relationship like this 3 months ago Sooooooo difficult! Also an alcoholic for last 15 years, he has been emotionally stunted and probably before that! HE COULD NEVER talk about anything!!! AVOIDED & SHUT DOWN! Our break up came when he did throw a tantrum & leave when there was no valid reason and wouldn’t talk about it! What they do is they push you away ! because they don’t know how to deal with their emotions and can’t talk about stuff
Julia, What a very interesting video today: 7 Key Signs Your Partner is Emotionally Immature First, I really like and appreciate that you added text for each sign on the video. It makes it easier to take down notes. Thank you! =) I am not in a romantic relationship with anyone, but I can see that all these things can still be applied to family members and friends. It also helps me to look within myself and see my growth in my own emotional maturity.
Here are my notes:
*Emotionally immaturity refers to someone's inability to recognize or control their emotions in an age-appropriate way. *People who show a lack of depth of their own emotions and a lack of depth for their partner's emotions. *Emotional Immaturity puts a lot of stress and strain on a relationship. *There is no judgement for those who are emotionally immature or those with someone who is emotionally immature.
7 Key Signs: 1. They Lack Empathy. 2. They Don't Respect Your Boundaries. 3. They Don't Take Responsibility. 4. They Have a Hard Time Managing Their Emotions. 5.They Take Things Really Personally. 6.They Often Get Very Defensive. 7. They Will Not Talk About Their Feelings.
I've been emotionally immature. The friendships I've attracted have been emotionally immature. I've worked on myself and have left friends who blame and couldn't take responsibility and grow. I want a partner that is emotionally mature and I want to meet him at that level : ) I love these videos!!
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you for posting this. I cannot say the issues are all on the other side, I have some of these issues as well. Really good to know and recognize these signs in myself or others.
This has been a difficult almost 2yrs. I've been dealing with almost ALL of what you shared here. The 1st thing I noticed and asked a friend-(therapist) about was Transference. I see something in her that's worth fighting for, but at what expense to my all around health? I will continue to pray for her healing process. 🙏✌❤
@12:46 I gotta say you nailed that perfectly, but I must say that when you said, "This can be incredibly frustrating" that was bit understated it's sooooo much more than incredibly frustrating not finding a 10 mm socket in my tool box is incredibly frustrating....When a spouse doesn't take responsibility for their words/actions that is emotional abuse and if it's not corrected its is the death of a marriage. It's not frustrating it's DEATH
This wonderful video really got me thinking about my recent breakup with my ex-GF of 2.5yrs. Thank you so much. It’s the clearest explanation of this issue that I’ve ever seen. I absolutely own that I engaged in ‘reactive abuse’ - and I deeply regret that and apologised for this repeatedly - but I am now beginning to understand why. Thank you 🙏🏾
I feel so emotional after watching this. I have been married for 37 years, and 90% of the marriage has been great, but one thing goes triggers him, and he is exactly as Julia describes. It all makes sense.
I wonder how can it be that your marriage for 90% has been great, if your husband is emotionally immature? I'm 62 and have lived with the same man for 42 years. We have 2 grown sons and it has been such a struggle for me, exhausting and painful... Shortly i came across this info about emotional immaturity and now it indeed all makes sense to me, so glad i found this. So now the big question is: if we are finally getting truly honest about all of this, will we stay together or not? Time will tell...
This was so affirming to hear put into words and as you described. I know I have some work to do in this area but as I’ve tried to better myself my partner seems determined to dig his heels in even further with defensive, blaming responses. What you said about trying to resolve something being interpreted as an attack is spot on. Thank for you this video Julia!
This is my ex. She also played the break up game and then blame it on me cause she can’t communicate like an adult. We broke up and then got back together and one week ago she couldn’t handle a conversation about her son. No attacks from me but genuine concern why a 26 year old never comes out to say hello to me when I am over. Instead of trying to have an adult conversation she threw a tantrum and when I called her out on acting like a child’s, she cursed me out and again said she was done. Mind you, she promised and even swore she wouldn’t ever do that again and just talk things out. I gathered my stuff and walked out. Blocked her also.
Excellent ! This really helps me understand the individual aspects that make up ... ' Emotional Immaturity ' ! Thank You ! You've confirmed the points I am familiar with / & have experienced ! 👍👍
Been struggling with the mother of my child who has all these signs its been a up hill battle and i eventually found the strength to leave her and improve my life. My advise is if u spot these sign slowly walk away. You cant intentionally change sum1 its up to them to change and u only take care of you and your mental.wellbeing based on how life challenges you as an adult. U will develop recentment , feel like u parenting an adult and yet end up not realizing u are being drained of your energy time and effort. Best decision is to leave while you still can such people arent always worth it.. 😢
I had a relationship with an emotionally immature girl, twenty-one years ago. She was seventeen and I was twenty. Only now, almost forty-two, I know that I could have helped her instead of being stubborn against her behaviour, and prevent her to make wrong decisions for her life.
I think you are being too romantic about this. Don't dwell on past stories. It has been exactly how it was and every person needs to walk his/her own individual path in life in order to learn (or not to learn). Or maybe is your ego getting something out of this story?
Why evaluating others (except, of course, to avoid self-reflection and focus on oneself)? Whether or not the other one is emotionally immature (or whatever they could/may/might be) or not is none of your business, for one. Two, if they are, and you keep being around them, chances are, you are yourself too. Or co-dependent. Or both.
My GF will be 70 this November and my children (28 & 30) are way more emotionally mature. Anything that is not praise is internalized as a condemnation of her entire being… this makes for a pretty shallow relationship.
I find that statement to be highly problematic. As pointed out in the video, a lack of empathy can occur in many emotionally immature people (most often as a result of childhood trauma/attachment injury/stunted emotional growth), not just psychopaths. Psychopathy is more than just a lack of empathy. I also think it's important to keep in mind that psychopaths are human beings. Dehumanization is rarely a good strategy. It is possible to have basic human compassion for people with psychopathy (often times a result of childhood trauma) without excusing or condoning any harmful behavior.
Both me and my spouse are so imnature its Silly. Seperation ongoing . Funny thing is now we talk to each other like other normal adults in the first time in 20 years
1: 💯 so great until I had a concern about us. Got overwhelmed and pulled back. Thought I was blaming them when I was just trying to explain how I felt.
Just the other day, my partner told me her tummy hurts. I told her "Get some rest. Hope your tummy feels better". She started a fight over the fact she doesn't like the word "hope". Saying its negative.
It depends, primarily on the why. Relationships aren’t all excitement and spontaneity and healthy ones are mundane so if you’re seeking that rush of excitement then that is worth looking inwards because fr no relationship is going to always feel exciting and be perfect. Probably worth actually talking to a professional like a therapist or counsellor rather than the internet
My husband is this he says rude things to me and if I correct him or say my point of view I can't tell him my feelings at all. He is like dealing with a child. Very frustrating
I broke up with my girlfriend last week (who has most of these traits), but I’m struggling and wonder if I ended things too quickly. Has anyone had success with their partner being open to working together and growing?
Question: where is the clip you refer to at the end of this one please? About helping the emotional immature person to recognise issues? They need help badly. They know they have problems but so scared to delve into it.
I'm not sure anymore. I question everything I do now. My first marriage was horrible and I was gas lighted to think it was my fault. I think I'm dating an emotionally immature women. I'm pretty sure her dad is autistic, and she send a little on the spectrum too. Hey son is I know. I teach teenagers and can spot autistic behavior before I see an IEP. I love her, but there's are many similarity's to my ex, just not the abject manipulator. My girlfriend is too sincere and unselfish. Anyway, her defensiveness when I talk about autism, I diagnosed my daughter before any doctor did, she gets bugged. Maybe I'm just venting. Any ideas?
8:41 If a man FaceTime you without asking permission before prying into your life… they just automatically press FaceTime call… run!!! This is penetrative and boundary breaking. Perverse to me. 😢
Depends on the situation. Is it a partner, friend or parent relationship? Regardless, learning about emotional immaturity and how to become more emotionally mature is a good start. It works if they are willing to learn about emotional maturity.
omg, i cant tell my spouse anything, if i want to better our intimacy she sighhhsss rolls eyes, feels attacked, she starts raising her voice if i say, hey we didnt talk today, lets watch a show together she goes into NO!!! I WANT TO WATCH THIS. before we became official she was fun, she doesnt want to have adult conversations. shes stormed out of rooms, we been living together 7 months, 2 years dating we were great. she is exactly everything you said
Given the violence against women by men, the assaults, murders, stalking etc, I’d say that’s the huge proof that there’s a great deal of emotional immaturity in men.
What you’re witnessing is the hormonal differences in men vs women as well as our evolutionary makeups for our roles and what our brains are wired to focus on.
My boyfriend of 8 years is so wonderful in many ways, but he can't talk about marriage, the future, o some of his feelings..... He was a product of a bad divorce. I don't think anyone helped him in this area. He felt abandoned as a small child after being taken away from his father.i try to remember this, when he shuts down on me and turned into a child, during disagreements.
If you are with an emotionally inmature person, then you are also emotionally immature person. Emotionally mature person would never be with emotionally immature person.
We don't have control over our external circumstances. We might not even recognize the signs of emotional immaturity until we get deeper into a relationship. And that is assuming we know what to look for in an emotionally immature person.
Talking about emotional immaturity is a great way to talk about narcissism, without even having to use the word narcissism.
yeah the word narcissism triggers tf out of people, especially narcissists..
Non narcissistic people can still be emotionally immature though
@@Nick-kf3io Yeah they can be. I've been on this emotional immaturity kick lately. It gives something very concrete to say about a narcissist without labelling them. Hell, I love to label them but not everyone is as receptive about labels.
it's true - but both are usually the result of some kind of trauma or attachment injury during childhood.
@@juliakristinamahyes but not all people that suffer abuse and trauma become narcissistic - but we often end up with one 🤦♀️
1. Lack empathy
2. Selfish
3. Don’t respect boundaries
4. Don’t take responsibility, blame others and struggle in diverse contexts
5. Take things personally/Very defensive
6. Difficulty controlling emotions
7. Not be honest about feelings
Thanks for that 😊
I was going to comment exactly this
He is just sooooo sensitive
And I am always walking Around in egg shells
My wife is all of these
Is this emotional immature or emotional unavailable???????
My ex boyfriend checked all of these boxes and then some. We broke up 6,5 years ago but I still get scared when entering a new relationship. I just started going out with a lovely man who hasn't shown any of these tendencies so far. Being with him feels so easy and peaceful. Let's hope it continues to be this way 😊
My ex-boyfriend was/is exactly the same. I understand your fear I have it too. Mainly because this person was all calm and didn't show any of this until months into the relationship. Then it was like when he felt he was secure in our relationship it all started coming out. It was so confusing and painful.
Now so much makes complete sense and even gut warnings when meeting new people make sense now. Over 40 years married I learned peace is way more desirable than company or a relationship.
Loneliness is an issue if we don't connect with someone we can be ourselves with.
Being in peace and is happy about doesn't mean they're lonely @@lesliengo8347
I'm 62 and I am emotionally immature. I've been able to recognize it, and even at 61 years old, I'm still trying to work on this. This is has caused me depression most of my life. It has been so embarrassing to have this. I try to be prepared on how I will react to certain situations but a lot of times it catches me off guard. My wife has been a saint to deal with my emotions. Because of her, I try watch my emotions and if I do have an outburst, I will always take responsibility and I will try to learn from my experiences. This has been such a burden in my life.
Atleast you realise this things most of the people don't in their entire life.
I recently came out of a relationship with an avoidant middle aged man. He never had a relationship longer than 2 weeks before me. I saw over 6 months why . He had been so emotionally neglected/ abused as a child which of course materialized in his broken, short term relationships and low self esteem despite his handsome appearance . 😢😢
I had the same with my recent ex. So pitty and hard on me ad most of the time I couldn't understand whats going on as he wasn't able to communicate at all. His professional life has similar issues really.
Yes ! His professional life was in shambles too. You nailed it sister
thanks for sharing that.
My dad is emotionally immature. He does not talk about his feelings when it comes, takes things personally, does not regulate emotions, blames external factors for his problems, interprets things negatively and gives the silent treatment when upset. Like most, he didn't learned how to manage feelings, but it is difficult if we raised issues with him and he cannot see what our prespective is like. This often results in boundaries and requests go unmet repeatedly. However, identifying these behaviours is the first step to address issues in a relationship.
I have been with my spouse 3.5 years. Hearing this today described us better then I have been able to put into words or even understand why. Thank you
I'm really grateful that you found this helpful. Thanks for watching.
27 yrs married and the pattern never changes. Mistake(financial, car accident, schedule,etc. - they are confronted with the mistake > they throw an emotional fit> takes discussing their mistake as a personal affront>full on defensive behavior> further dishonesty.
This hit me hard
Sounds very familiar. Weird how there’s always a pattern. Weird how everything makes sense when you think about it. People seem to develop in similar ways. It’s eerie.
Can you do a video on how emotionally immaturity can be fixed in adulthood and how long it takes so people with emotionally immature partners get an idea of how long they could be waiting even if their partner agrees to do the work?
Yes please! And what the more mature partner can do to facilitate the process?
Help us work through this.@wintrywinter
Stupidly/comically defensive……… even a question like, “what is the weather going to be like today?” Is negative criticism…… exhausting….. “how can I be expected to know that?”
This is my husband to a T
I can see this now with my adoptive mother. She was bad . 😢. Yes she was never the problem in her warp of a mind. I know because she told me what happened to her. But I've never abused my children because of her.
And I see it goes on until you do something about it. All my relationships I took care of everything. Now I'm the female I'd like to be somewhat taken care of
And now she's gone dead there's a peace I've never had it ce from both parents. He molested me. At times he was a very good person, I don't understand how that came to be only I watched he was not alone with my kids . I don't think that malady can be healed or fixed 😢😢😢😢
This is a very good subject, I can be emotionally immature in how I react sometimes. I was pretty bad as a young adult but over time I’ve learned to control my emotions having better tools to help me resolve issues that use to overwhelm me. I believe that is key. When you were not taught how to resolve an issue, it’s overwhelming depending on the severity of the problem. I’m looking forward to learning more from your suggested videos. Thank you! ❤
How does a man who is almost 50 not be emotionally available or mature???
I just left a relationship like this 3 months ago Sooooooo difficult!
Also an alcoholic for last 15 years, he has been emotionally stunted and probably before that!
HE COULD NEVER talk about anything!!! AVOIDED & SHUT DOWN!
Our break up came when he did throw a tantrum & leave when there was no valid reason and wouldn’t talk about it!
What they do is they push you away ! because they don’t know how to deal with their emotions and can’t talk about stuff
I'm dealing with this . A partner - also an adult child
Julia,
What a very interesting video today:
7 Key Signs Your Partner is Emotionally Immature
First, I really like and appreciate that you added text for each sign on the video. It makes it easier to take down notes. Thank you! =)
I am not in a romantic relationship with anyone, but I can see that all these things can still be applied to family members and friends. It also helps me to look within myself and see my growth in my own emotional maturity.
Here are my notes:
*Emotionally immaturity refers to someone's inability to recognize or control their emotions in an age-appropriate way.
*People who show a lack of depth of their own emotions and a lack of depth for their partner's emotions.
*Emotional Immaturity puts a lot of stress and strain on a relationship.
*There is no judgement for those who are emotionally immature or those with someone who is emotionally immature.
7 Key Signs:
1. They Lack Empathy.
2. They Don't Respect Your Boundaries.
3. They Don't Take Responsibility.
4. They Have a Hard Time Managing Their Emotions.
5.They Take Things Really Personally.
6.They Often Get Very Defensive.
7. They Will Not Talk About Their Feelings.
Now you know how I felt when you reacted so badly and immaturely to the fact that I was leaving twitter for 2 months!
The taste of your own medicine!
Small world! 🤣
I've been emotionally immature. The friendships I've attracted have been emotionally immature. I've worked on myself and have left friends who blame and couldn't take responsibility and grow. I want a partner that is emotionally mature and I want to meet him at that level : ) I love these videos!!
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you for posting this. I cannot say the issues are all on the other side, I have some of these issues as well. Really good to know and recognize these signs in myself or others.
No accountability, no empathy, backed up with lies……. Thankfully, a year plus of research has meant that I am now able to see what is what
This has been a difficult almost 2yrs. I've been dealing with almost ALL of what you shared here. The 1st thing I noticed and asked a friend-(therapist) about was Transference.
I see something in her that's worth fighting for, but at what expense to my all around health?
I will continue to pray for her healing process. 🙏✌❤
Run!
@12:46 I gotta say you nailed that perfectly, but I must say that when you said, "This can be incredibly frustrating" that was bit understated it's sooooo much more than incredibly frustrating not finding a 10 mm socket in my tool box is incredibly frustrating....When a spouse doesn't take responsibility for their words/actions that is emotional abuse and if it's not corrected its is the death of a marriage. It's not frustrating it's DEATH
This wonderful video really got me thinking about my recent breakup with my ex-GF of 2.5yrs. Thank you so much. It’s the clearest explanation of this issue that I’ve ever seen. I absolutely own that I engaged in ‘reactive abuse’ - and I deeply regret that and apologised for this repeatedly - but I am now beginning to understand why. Thank you 🙏🏾
I feel so emotional after watching this. I have been married for 37 years, and 90% of the marriage has been great, but one thing goes triggers him, and he is exactly as Julia describes. It all makes sense.
I wonder how can it be that your marriage for 90% has been great, if your husband is emotionally immature? I'm 62 and have lived with the same man for 42 years. We have 2 grown sons and it has been such a struggle for me, exhausting and painful... Shortly i came across this info about emotional immaturity and now it indeed all makes sense to me, so glad i found this. So now the big question is: if we are finally getting truly honest about all of this, will we stay together or not? Time will tell...
This was so affirming to hear put into words and as you described. I know I have some work to do in this area but as I’ve tried to better myself my partner seems determined to dig his heels in even further with defensive, blaming responses. What you said about trying to resolve something being interpreted as an attack is spot on. Thank for you this video Julia!
This is my ex. She also played the break up game and then blame it on me cause she can’t communicate like an adult.
We broke up and then got back together and one week ago she couldn’t handle a conversation about her son. No attacks from me but genuine concern why a 26 year old never comes out to say hello to me when I am over. Instead of trying to have an adult conversation she threw a tantrum and when I called her out on acting like a child’s, she cursed me out and again said she was done.
Mind you, she promised and even swore she wouldn’t ever do that again and just talk things out. I gathered my stuff and walked out. Blocked her also.
You can’t discuss anything with them without being called names and having false accusations hurled at you. It’s pointless
Excellent ! This really helps me understand the individual aspects that make up ... ' Emotional Immaturity ' !
Thank You ! You've confirmed the points I am familiar with / & have experienced !
👍👍
My partner is most of these things and I struggle with #4. That is not a good mix. I explode 😢
So glad i found your page. This video helped me to gain a better understanding of the why's of what im dealing with.
Hi...love your content. I love people who are mature, and so wise. Thanks for sharing
Thank you Julia, this was enlightening... Very spot on
B.S. meter - I love this term! Thanks for a great video!
Been struggling with the mother of my child who has all these signs its been a up hill battle and i eventually found the strength to leave her and improve my life. My advise is if u spot these sign slowly walk away. You cant intentionally change sum1 its up to them to change and u only take care of you and your mental.wellbeing based on how life challenges you as an adult. U will develop recentment , feel like u parenting an adult and yet end up not realizing u are being drained of your energy time and effort. Best decision is to leave while you still can such people arent always worth it.. 😢
I had a relationship with an emotionally immature girl, twenty-one years ago. She was seventeen and I was twenty. Only now, almost forty-two, I know that I could have helped her instead of being stubborn against her behaviour, and prevent her to make wrong decisions for her life.
I think you are being too romantic about this. Don't dwell on past stories. It has been exactly how it was and every person needs to walk his/her own individual path in life in order to learn (or not to learn). Or maybe is your ego getting something out of this story?
You just decribed 85% of my ex-girlfriends.....and heres me thinking it was my fault.
Awareness is 50% of the work!
@@PS-xb9hc I now abstain, my life is already way to hard & far to complicated to add more of the same ;) I have my memories and some were good ones.
Well you and I both need to work on ourselves that keep getting us in these types of relationships.
Thank you for sharing very helpful.
Why evaluating others (except, of course, to avoid self-reflection and focus on oneself)? Whether or not the other one is emotionally immature (or whatever they could/may/might be) or not is none of your business, for one. Two, if they are, and you keep being around them, chances are, you are yourself too. Or co-dependent. Or both.
Too Many Childish Adults in the USA
Thank you so much Julia...I am empowered ❤❤❤
My GF will be 70 this November and my children (28 & 30) are way more emotionally mature. Anything that is not praise is internalized as a condemnation of her entire being… this makes for a pretty shallow relationship.
Thank you so much for sharing this.. now it is all so clear.
Mature men behave like a 7 years old children.
Thank you Julia. This is helpful to understand whats going on in someone's mind. Sometimes I dont know what to think when dealing with people.
Lonely, yes, because they do not work as a partner……… they end up p155ing on you all the time instead
I carry my own load along with my adolescent jokes.
Thank you, Julia Kristina.
Is there also an AUDIO version of Simple Steps to Self Trust?
I am emotionaly immature ....how about the relationship with myself ???.....
Seek therapy. It really helps
Lack of empathy = psychopathy. Run. These people are not human.
not necessarily, they can just be sooooo insecure they don't have the mental capacity to notice anyone else's needs. lots of that these days.
@@rongike well said 😢 so much of these in today’s society 😢
I find that statement to be highly problematic. As pointed out in the video, a lack of empathy can occur in many emotionally immature people (most often as a result of childhood trauma/attachment injury/stunted emotional growth), not just psychopaths. Psychopathy is more than just a lack of empathy.
I also think it's important to keep in mind that psychopaths are human beings. Dehumanization is rarely a good strategy. It is possible to have basic human compassion for people with psychopathy (often times a result of childhood trauma) without excusing or condoning any harmful behavior.
Both me and my spouse are so imnature its Silly. Seperation ongoing . Funny thing is now we talk to each other like other normal adults in the first time in 20 years
1: 💯 so great until I had a concern about us. Got overwhelmed and pulled back. Thought I was blaming them when I was just trying to explain how I felt.
Yea. Do you want a toddler in your marriage bed? Playing House ir Mothers and fathers?
They refuse to grow up.
It is so hard. My ex husband for 30 yrs. is like this. 😢
Just the other day, my partner told me her tummy hurts. I told her "Get some rest. Hope your tummy feels better". She started a fight over the fact she doesn't like the word "hope". Saying its negative.
How do you talk about this with your partner productively when they shut down, get defensive, turn it around and generally get all upset?
Is it good to leave a good relationship?
I know it is, but without a reason except wanting to, it feels off to leave
there's always a reason, even if it's just a feeling you can't explain. that's your higher self stepping in to set you on your path.
It depends, primarily on the why. Relationships aren’t all excitement and spontaneity and healthy ones are mundane so if you’re seeking that rush of excitement then that is worth looking inwards because fr no relationship is going to always feel exciting and be perfect.
Probably worth actually talking to a professional like a therapist or counsellor rather than the internet
What is the difference between emotional immaturity and narcism?
My husband is this he says rude things to me and if I correct him or say my point of view I can't tell him my feelings at all. He is like dealing with a child. Very frustrating
The video is great, but the comment section is where the healing begins
Wow this one was my wife too to a tee.
This sounds like my hubby
Excellent information
Thanks Julia.
I broke up with my girlfriend last week (who has most of these traits), but I’m struggling and wonder if I ended things too quickly. Has anyone had success with their partner being open to working together and growing?
Some people are, some people aren't. If they won't even take a suggestion to see a therapist, there is your answer.
You just described my wife in 20 mins. How do I find someone like you in my country? Is there any hope for me me?
Question: where is the clip you refer to at the end of this one please? About helping the emotional immature person to recognise issues?
They need help badly.
They know they have problems but so scared to delve into it.
A five year-old….. yes……. There is a 20 year age difference between myself and my wife……..often it seems more like 60 years
How is it?……….. appalling……my two daughters (6 and 4) are showing more emotional maturity
Thank you a lot, JK❤.
I'm not sure anymore. I question everything I do now. My first marriage was horrible and I was gas lighted to think it was my fault. I think I'm dating an emotionally immature women. I'm pretty sure her dad is autistic, and she send a little on the spectrum too. Hey son is I know. I teach teenagers and can spot autistic behavior before I see an IEP. I love her, but there's are many similarity's to my ex, just not the abject manipulator. My girlfriend is too sincere and unselfish. Anyway, her defensiveness when I talk about autism, I diagnosed my daughter before any doctor did, she gets bugged. Maybe I'm just venting. Any ideas?
8:41 If a man FaceTime you without asking permission before prying into your life… they just automatically press FaceTime call… run!!!
This is penetrative and boundary breaking. Perverse to me. 😢
At least I know I’m not alone
Okay so what do you recommend for two people in a relationship that both are not consistently emotionally mature?
Depends on the situation. Is it a partner, friend or parent relationship? Regardless, learning about emotional immaturity and how to become more emotionally mature is a good start. It works if they are willing to learn about emotional maturity.
My husband.....😢
18:09 eagerly offended
How0 can manage them?
I'm mature I think .😂
omg, i cant tell my spouse anything, if i want to better our intimacy she sighhhsss rolls eyes, feels attacked, she starts raising her voice if i say, hey we didnt talk today, lets watch a show together she goes into NO!!! I WANT TO WATCH THIS. before we became official she was fun, she doesnt want to have adult conversations. shes stormed out of rooms, we been living together 7 months, 2 years dating we were great. she is exactly everything you said
Your intro is way too long
Please stop using your hands so much. I like your content a lot but the constant movement is super distracting.
Women seem to have the emotional issues. Men are very direct and understand things with logic.
Depends on who you ask 🤷🏽♂️. I am a male and I struggle with emotionally immaturity.
Given the violence against women by men, the assaults, murders, stalking etc, I’d say that’s the huge proof that there’s a great deal of emotional immaturity in men.
What you’re witnessing is the hormonal differences in men vs women as well as our evolutionary makeups for our roles and what our brains are wired to focus on.
My boyfriend of 8 years is so wonderful in many ways, but he can't talk about marriage, the future, o some of his feelings.....
He was a product of a bad divorce. I don't think anyone helped him in this area. He felt abandoned as a small child after being taken away from his father.i try to remember this, when he shuts down on me and turned into a child, during disagreements.
Not true. Depends on the person
If you are with an emotionally inmature person, then you are also emotionally immature person. Emotionally mature person would never be with emotionally immature person.
We don't have control over our external circumstances. We might not even recognize the signs of emotional immaturity until we get deeper into a relationship. And that is assuming we know what to look for in an emotionally immature person.