Yeah it's hellish for everybody... for example just saying I'm gaming there's 8 people.. if 1 of them are toxic we all lose out it's more stupid than annoying now
@@Vixinaful Even if that's true, it's getting attention in an honest way. I think any of us who've experienced someone with NPD/ASPD just wished they'd be aware of it and honest about it. Right? So how are you gonna fault someone who's doing just that? It's the secrecy and denial that irks people the most, I think. Also, we all do things for attention. Are you gonna fault every actor, painter, writer, comedian, singer, musician, etc. too for sharing their work with the public? Participating in society by contributing our truths, gifts, talents, efforts, etc. is how we as a society function and stay connected.
It serves both purposes. More than one thing can be true at the same time. I love Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Maybe you should look into it if you're having a lot of black and white thinking?
Good on you for putting this out into the world, that couldn’t have been easy. It’s a very rare thing for a narcissist to actually acknowledge they are one and this helps those of us with narcissists in our lives to get a glimpse of what it’s like from the other side. Keep doing the work, and don’t lose hope
I don't mean this as a jab at you. But I worked with a narc, and the thing that was most infuriating was that he would act as if he was a genius when he didn't have any idea what he was talking about. So all day long was like having to filter through his tidal wave of confusion. But at the same time he was and arrogant and would brag about all this stuff that wasn't true.
What really annoys me in narcissists is bragging. I’ve heard: I have great legs (while their legs were exceptionally big - delusion…) or I have a great personality, etc. One of my “girlfriends ” was constantly having conflicts at work with people. She was describing the situations to me and thought they were picking on her because they were jealous. In fact she was just bragging how good she was and that she topped everybody at work. Hearing that constantly I’ve finally told her that people attack her because people do not like people who brag. She had enough conscience to take was I said into consideration. She stopped bragging and in her current job she doesn’t have any conflicts with people. With a little bit of awareness narcissism can be at least controlled.
I don’t mean this as a jab at you, but.. In all likelihood, that’s probably not a Narcissist. Just saying.. 🤷♂️ NPD is relatively rare. This is just factual. So.. Let me put this into perspective for you.. Out of every.. 200 people you know.. Only 1 of them will be a pathological Narcissist. Just 1 ☝🏼 Do you know 200 people on a personal level? I would be surprised if you did. Regardless, even if it were 1 in 25, which it’s not, I can’t imagine a pathological Narcissist doing what you just described, for various reasons. I’ll list off the first thing that came to my mind. Narcissists are, believe it or not, quite intelligent. Extreme perfectionism is one of the core features of NPD. Of course.. Not all Narcissists are “know-it-alls”, but I’d be surprised to meet one who wasn’t. The point is, how can one be intellectually superior or a misunderstood genius if there’s nothing to back it up with? Look. Narcissists may be delusional and grandiose, but they’re not oblivious or completely lacking in awareness. Idk how to make you understand. 🤔 Hmm. So.. Being looked at like you’re an idiot, being corrected, criticized, laughed at, or mocked for making a mistake or saying something incorrect.. Fucks a Narcissist’s sense of self worth up. Imagine the one thing you’re most insecure about. Now imagine you told someone in confidence about that deep seated insecurity.. Now imagine how you’d feel if that same person tells a group of people about your insecurity, in front of you, then they start laughing at you and mocking you. That’s how a Narcissist feels about EVERYTHING. Who they are as a person, their looks, their style, their laugh, their voice, their personality, their intelligence, their ability to speak well, their work performance, their ability to be a good listener, a good friend and lover, their taste in music, they’re uniqueness, their wide range of abilities and being a pro at all of them, etc etc etc. That’s why Narcissists are sensitive to criticism, slights and insults. They fear failure, fear being exposed as an imperfect human being, as merely a man, a mortal, a fragile, feeble creature just like everyone else. I simply cannot imagine a Narcissist who behaves the way you described 😆 That’s just asking to be publicly humiliated! That’s one of Narcissist’s deepest fears. Humiliation in front of his peers? That’s worse than death. Lol. It’s excruciating and makes you want to run away from the situation, go home and crawl under your bed and fall to pieces in the darkness so nobody can see you. The shame would be so bad that you may isolate for days or weeks or months or years if it was bad enough. So, why in the hell would a Narcissist continually put themselves in that situation over and over by actually being dumb, but then lying and making stuff to pretend to be a genius? 🤷♂️ Make it make sense, dude. Narcissists feel they need to be perfect, so they can feel worth.. anything. They’re afraid if they reveal flaws, imperfections, make a mistake, embarrass themselves, or show any signs of humanity at all. Hell, if they even walk down an isle in the store in any way, other than with the ethereal flow and majestic grace of a cat- then they’re a failure, worthless and incompetent. I swear.. I have spent more time concerned with the way I fucking walk, talk, move around, how I stand and how I operate this body of mine to be in a way that’s like poetry in motion and flowing with exquisite beauty. 😂 It’s a nightmare feeling that visceral need to be perfect ALL THE TIME. I hate it. That’s just with how I move around, dude. Now we’re talking about being smart, knowing everything, being able to do everything and do it masterfully? Come on, man. Show me a dumb Narcissist and I’ll show you an uncoordinated professional athlete 😆
It has always amazed me how much we praise confidence over competence. Highly confident incompetent people are terrible to be around and are dangerous.
Thanks for your courage to make this video. I have CPTSD with borderline and narcissistic traits. I am in therapy to address my victim narrative. This was helpful. ☮️
Hey. I was with a (female) narcissist for three years. It was hellish and did terrible damage and I've struggled to accept and remember that on a certain level I loved this woman very deeply and just wanted her to understand that I wanted to support her to heal or learn to be less destructive. Thank you for reminding me of that and i genuinely wish you the best learning to live with and manage your condition and do less harm through that understanding. Worth noting that being with a narcissist (and through my therapy) I learned a lot about my own issues, manipulations, controlling behaviour and vulnerability. It's too easy to blame the 'evil' narcissist and evade responsibility. Good luck. We all need it :)
Narcissistic abuse is absolutely awful but what i've learned from exploring deeply my own life coming from not 1, but 2 narcissist parents is you actually have an immense amount of influence on the abuse. The main problem with having parents that are abusive/narcissistic is you can spend your whole life not knowing you even are being abused because that's just the normal way of being for you since birth. Once you actually identify it and learn more about it, your biggest goal is to get a point where you literally could give 2 sh!ts about your parents opinions of validation. You accept you will never be good enough for them, and you simply dont care. Guilt, shame and those tactics literally don't matter or work anymore, and indifference will eventually make them not want to put in the effort required with you. They will provoke you, antagonize you and do anything in their power to get on your nerves. Just calmy give as little emotional response/care to them, and they will soon just give up trying to engage you. Get to the point where you adopt your own way of living, your own standards, and you do what's best for you. It gets really difficult if you are forced into a position of dependance whether financial, or kids are involved as they will always try to belittle you, and brain wash everyone including your children that you were the crazy one/the problem while having the kids think they are the amazing one. Stay strong everyone!
As a practicing Buddhist I tell you … learn that we all suffer in our lives. Accept that nothing is perfect, including yourself. Learn to accept your shame, it’s not your fault, it should have been your parents job to show you meaningful love and affection. Find a great therapist specialized in Trauma Experience and rediscover the past and learn much better compensation strategies for your Trauma… you are still young, do it before you age… with age your NP compensation strategy will fail, and you will fall in a deep depression whole. Again, it’s not your fault, newest science shows NPD is caused by traumatic childhood experiences. Good Luck
I'm not professionally diagnosed with NPD, but injury and collapse are awful. Facing criticism after a couple of times is intolerable and can make me passively suic1d4l very quickly. The need for admiration is not as keen and noticeable, but after a short while of no pats on the back, I'm filled with extraordinary psychological agony that I've had to go to the psych ward for... felt like I was being skinned alive.
I have BPD and my emotions get so extreme and I KNOW I'm overreacting but I'm so overwhelmed by emotion I can't dial it back. It feels like I want to peel my face off and crawl out of my skin sometimes. Cluster B personality disorders are awful. Thank the gods for DBT.
People just need to be kind to everyone who struggles with a mental health diagnosis especially those who are trying to achieve wellness and self-reflection. Subbed! I wish you the very best!
be kind to the people, but hold them accountable for their actions. them not suffering the consequences of their actions is not us being kind, but enabling, and enabling is not kind, is doing a disservice to the perpetrator, case in point, narcissistic collapses determine the narcissist to seek help, and they are usually the product of the lack of enabling of the damaging behavior
@@ileanaprofeanu7626 That can be hard when they are very selfish, abusive and controlling and will start stuff up just to get attention. Any attention. Someone else can take a turn at being kind (AKA being supply). I've done my time and am out.
@@iheartspirits Am I? We ALL have our challenges, all of us. But at the end of the day, as adults, we are responsible for how we treat others, neurodivergent or not. Call me all the names you like but I'm well aware that cluster B types are exceptionally creative at finding ways to both get attention and shift the blame.
Thank you for making this content. I was diagnosed with BPD (& 4 comorbidities that aren't personality disorders). The BPD and bipolar 2 were the most recent. I'm in my mid-40's. Deep into DBT over a year later and my behavior is improving. The way I view myself is changing. The way I experience emotions is extremely intense, including emotional empathy, to a visceral level that can make me physically ill if, say, I hear about animal abuse. But my empathy gets super dull when I'm triggered and I self protect with rage. Without that self protective rage, I may not have made it out of childhood with ANY emotional empathy because rage made me a more difficult target for abuse because I would tell. Loudly and angrily. My sibling was quiet. He ended up with the brunt of it. I was neglected/ignored instead. That also contributed to the BPD, I'm sure. There are reasons we are like this. Once we are self aware, much like an addict, its very very difficult to unknow. One must be adept at clinical repression and that's a skill that most of us don't possess. So, we start looking for answers. Some of us already know our behavior is unacceptable but for the life of us the only way to keep it away from others it to self isolate. That isn't healthy either. If we get the right diagnosis and start DBT, we can not only take accountability, we can change enough to interact with people in a healthy, "effective," way. We can get our needs met without being mean or abusive. It's possible and it happens. The longer I'm in therapy, the more I become aware of. It's very painful but it's worth it. I don't want to cause suffering. Ever. I do. I am human. I won't stop trying to be better and do better. I think having this information out there will help a lot of people. Therapy is really for everyone anyway. I mean, who tf is really thriving in this world rn anyway?
Absolutely no one is thriving rn and I think it's very much a cause of so much PD and relationship agony appearing in our society since the 70s/80s. I think generational trauma is radiating down the timeline and as social pressure increases, people who never had a chance to develop as they should have, to experience real love and safety as children are hit with a barrage of things they struggle to cope with and don't even understand why they can't. We're seeing greater and greater numbers of traumatized kids becoming parents who traumatize their kids and not even really know why they're doing it...or in some people's cases, not even noticing what they're doing. 🙏 keep doing the work, and know you're one of many on the path, appreciated by others even if not directly known to them.
I've got to be honest in 20 years. I've never seen somebody with NPD have antisocial personality disorder and I've never seen somebody with both of these disorders especially if they were together present. This way. I'm not saying anything one way or the other because anything is possible but typically antisocial personality disorder which is commonly referred to as a sociopath or a psychopath would not have the emotional awareness or ability to feel injured by other people. Narcissist on the other hand, typically do feel injured by other people when they feel even slightly criticized. So this is an interesting presentation to me
A dual diagnosis of NPD and ASPD happens all the time. ASPD do have a rudimentary sense of guilt and shame. This idea that ASPDs are emotional zombies is a complete oversimplification.
I am sorry to hear how much you have suffered and I'm proud of you that you opened up about your diagnosis and showed us your vulnerability. You are on the right track. 😊👍🏼👍🏼
I experienced extremely traumatic childhood , then 2 decades with a narc. what she done to my children and myself was worse than anything before. There not victim’s the truma didn’t make them, it was a choice made because they enjoy hurting people. Evil sick and twisted individuals..
@@iheartspirits Calling out evil is not discriminatory, I stayed 2 decades supporting someone with mental illness, so I thought. They, you are not the victim’s, but you leave plenty behind.. Try the DAVO method somewhere else…
Thank you for sharing how it feels. I'm sorry you experienced things in childhood that you didn't deserve. Your self awareness is really important. I wish you health and happiness.
I've been professionally diagnosed as being a high-function psychopath without ASPD but having NPD to a degree. I've just learned to put logic before myself and most times people aren't any the wiser, but it certainly comes out sometimes. Good luck!
I love that you shared this video. To me it sounds like you have embarked on your own personal heroes journey. Respect! You show responsibility, accountability and bravery. I wish you all the best on your journey of liberation - Gods speed!
The moment you recognise such dangerous personality problems and do your best to be as good of a person anyways is what gets you in the plus column either way.
I'm praying for you! ❤ You can be healed even though they lie and claim otherwise. Coming out and sharing your experience is insightful to me on areas I can be more understanding with people I know who have this diagnosis . I am grateful for your honesty.
Delta, thank you for being so vulnerable and honest about yourself. You have helped me become more informed about NPD and the people around me who have it.
hi, you have an emotional bond with your parents, who taught you to live only in the ego and to be their "emotional slave"... that's why you see everything "wrong" because you can't trust your conscience/feelings.. .. be sure empaths also have the same wounds, they are just the other side of the coin, empaths give themselves up to heal others and narcissists only think about themselves... there is the core of unworthiness and complex not good in both Being with toxic parents you don't know what validation, happiness or love is... try to understand the toxicity of your parents/environment and then think about your self-worth and feelings - it will get better, even if it hurts at the beginning Admitting to yourself that you are an asshole and that other people also have value... try to calmly explain your feelings by talking to yourself, what you can say, you understand! Every person is unique and valuable, you are brave, but your parents were in your situation as children and switched off their feelings... it is therefore an "ancestral theme" and "inherited".
To this I would say become a little more informed before passing judgement on this young girl, who has clearly been through hell. Empaths are not the other side of the coin. They may be related to HSP, but everyone thinks they’re an empath or hsp these days. And everyone thinks all the bad people are narcissists. These are clinical terms. Borderline and NPD both are cluster b personalities, and they both result from serious trauma, so you’re basically blaming her for having a form of ptsd. The way hers developed is simply a protection/defense mechanism, that she HAD NO SAY IN as it developed probably around 7 or 8 years old, and she doesn’t perceive from her end what those on the receiving end are perceiving. I am BPD, and have out of necessity studied into this extensively, and I’m really tired of all the crap online about this stuff. I personally am very grateful to hear her perspective especially in trying to navigate a marriage to someone who is NPD.
Get away as fast and far as you can! Staying for the children only hurts them and you I. The end. My two youngest don't speak to me or their older sister (from a previous relationship)bc they believe I was the abuser. He told them she isn't their real sister! They cannot love and you can make excuses for them all day or lifelong as to why they are the way they are, it's a CHOICE! I know plenty of abused and wounded people and they are not narcs. People are using it as an excuse for their behavior. There is no excuse for causing intentional harm!!! I wish you the best of luck. I have compassion for her but cannot empathize with her, I refuse to take in that energy.@@Llorali
There is one thing that I cannot stand in narcissists is bragging and that everything is about them, little me me me thing. Narcissists are actually adult children. They have an adult body but their thinking or doing is typical of a child. Children think that the whole world revolves around them. They demand attention. When they don’t get something they throw a temper tantrum. Narcissists do that too.
Ironically, childhood is typically when NPD is developed. As a disorder that develops out of trauma, it would make sense, as trauma can trap a person mentally in the age that they developed it.
I have High Functioning ASD. AVPD and DPD and have been stuck in self isolation for over 15 years. Having a midlife crisis I am trying to push forward with my music, no professional replies yet but I was offered a voluntary teaching role for songwriting and singing classes for other adults with autism - I got as far as my front door, stared at it, spend 10-15 minutes telling myself to go to the creative classes, then turned around and went back to bed instead. The only way I could ever progress is if I actually managed to get physical conservatorship from support workers, and good luck ever being able to get or afford that :( My brother and dad both have NPD - disguised under their 'religious mask' - we do this because of our religion mode. They refuse help and refuse to accept any time they are wrong, then again they have no clue that they have it. I left my family some 5 years ago and dropped all contact with them, but now I am simply stuck in own small house with no idea how to improve myself.
@@existentialchaos8 Thanks. I say this now - I wouldn't actually mind dating or just being friends with a diagnosed and self aware person with any of NPD / SPD / PDP so long as they have not committed crimes before and are willing and working towards self improvement. They are the people who would be more than happy to offer me the level of control and support I require, I would be more than willing to help them notice any of their toxic behaviours for them to improve upon. But good luck again to ever finding anything like this.
Super interesting to see the other side. There are few narcissistic people that talk openly about their condition, so your videos are really helpful. Btw I love your shirt ❤
My mums a narcissist I have no pity for them there truly Insidious and evil non entity the eyes say it all . When a narcissist open their mouth they’re lying 🤥 I’m outta here.
You’re precious. I bow deeply to your authentic sharing. I think my husband suffers from NPD. I feel great compassion for him. It doesn’t seem to make a difference - he always sees me as his enemy except in rare moments of clarity. I wish compassion did make a difference for those who suffer from NPD. Bless you, precious Delta.
I really appreciate your sharing. You look healthier than earlier videos (chocolate eyes). I admire your fight as you constantly struggle against your inner demons. It's kind of heroic in a way. Take care.
Sociopaths experience flatter affect. Thanks for the observations, Captain Obvious. Maybe work on your own empathy before trolling someone who is trying to be and do better, hm?
My narcissist x-wife with whom I spent 25 years of my life and who tried to kill me during the discard phase had the same stare. I wish, I had never saw that stare in my life. I don’t know how long it will take me to recover, probably way too long, if ever.
I saw that intense non-blinking stare too. What I also noticed is zero empathy for others, "I'm a victim" and "this is hard" (while she creates all the drama, blames others for their reactions to it, and hurts others on endless repeat). And this video and channel too are great for being the center of attention and getting more supply. I have a clinically diagnosed BPD ex. Those of us that have had our empathy and sympathy exploited for so long are just done when we see the same RED FLAGS again.
This comment section is so incredibly ableist. Her eyes have nothing to do with her disorders. NPD is not evil or bad, it just requires healing and its not going away with a prayer or believing in a man in the sky. Narcissists arent bad people and narcissistic abuse doesnt exist. Narcissists are more likely to be abused. You're also not a narcissist unless you have the disorder, its not an adjective to describe someone. The stigma surrounding this disorder is disgusting.
Either you are a cluster B type or you have never been in a relationship with one. OMG they are abusive, self centered, manipulative and horrible to be around. Yes, many were abused as children and act like children throwing temper tantrums, etc. Yet they can be very intelligent and manipulative and extremely good at playing the victim card and controlling other and sucking the life out of anyone near them. Horrible.
@@fakiv2682 narcissists aren't bad people because it's a personality disorder and personality disorder do not inherently make anyone a bad person but the media stigmatizes those disorders to make them look bad. If a narcissist is a bad person that's on them, not the disorder. And there's no such thing as narcissistic abuse because again, it's a disorder and you can't seperate the word from the disorder. It's like saying adhd abuse or autism abuse. It makes no sense.
I appreciate that you volunteered this information about your perspective, considering you're not too comfortable laying yourself bare for the world to observe you and concoct opinions regarding your condition. Perhaps I don't know your struggle exactly, but I do recognize a certain intellectual narcissism I tend to display from time to time. More often than not, my way of thinking is something I perceive as superior to other people's thought processes. My family is convinced I'm an incredibly humble person, but I see something they probably don't notice. The most I can suggest as a solution is to maintain a healthy skepticism regarding one's own capabilities. Remember there is always someone above you, but also recognize what you can contribute to people at large. Thank you for your transparency.
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Bravo, thoughtful and well-captured and surprisingly authentic esp. if you truly have NPD. Now if only the other 99.9% of NPDs could or would develop the self-awareness to openly acknowledge and identify all of these traits & behaviors.
@@moimeme6533 no lmao it's something someone would say who doesn't demonize and stigmatize disorders 🤡 I know multiple narcissists and they're all amazing people.
Nice video. I recommend working with somatic exercises like TRE or Somatic Experience, to battle you childhood traumas. They work good for "getting around the ego", since you would be working directly on the body, instead of the mind.
Do you ever people please just to get people off your back and to make sure that they don't get upset with you so they won't retaliate in a way that you don't want to deal with, so you keep feeding into their demands requests and favors they asked, but it makes you so angry that you're trapped in their world that you lose yourself and your so-called plans for what you want your life to be? And continue to do it even though you hate it but you feel you deserve the punishment? And then go around and tell everyone how they're using you and manipulating you and you're stuck with it?
Go in depth on what you gain from manipulation in regards to supply. Explain how you even got the courage to go to a therapist to get diagnosed to begin with, the narcs I know aren’t able to see themselves as the problem to even check into therapy.
Wild to see this from the other side. I guess it confirms everything I’ve suspected about what it must feel like to BE the narcissist. Super interesting.
People try to diagnose one another these days it’s sad I’ve had one group of co workers first push the idea I don’t stand up for myself or do anything for myself Then my family and that same group call me narcissistic when I stood up to them Hope your journey continues to get better
Wait a goddamn fcking minute do I have NPD?!? ‘Cause a lot of what you said… I resonate with a lot. Especially when you said you think people are out to get you because you possess something they envy. I get those moments but I downplay it in a victim mentality.
Does the highly manipulative behaviour belong to the anti social diagnosis? I thought I'd heard it was an NPD thing. The one I ran into was mainly manipulative I'd say. The fake persona hides vulnerability but doesn't it also help pull off manipulation? If people have no idea who you truly are, they believe what you want them to.
it must be hellish but being a highly extremely sensitive person id trade😂😢 edit: guys ok so i found out theres a link between these and i wonder whether im a vulnerable narcissist or i just have been depressed for too long lol
I'm sure this is an impossible questions, but do you happen to know why your childhood trauma caused you to have NPD? I was abused by an NPD father my entire childhood and, while I have a very long list of really shitty symptoms, NPD isn't one that I developed. I can absolutely relate to the worthlessness as that is one of the most prevalent feelings I've had to deal with for decades.
U didn't ask for the condition it's to do with how U was either treated as a child by parents or as u said by another narcissists people say that Ur possessed by a demon but don't think so religion and mental health don't have nothing to do with this it's about what happened in the past your just replying the action from your past
@@iheartspirits do you have a diagnosis yourself out of interest? You claim to know about the disorder and seem to be advocating for people that have NPD.
I appreciate you telling us about it from that side of it. I believe that being completely honest with yourself is a great way to make progress toward where you desire to be. I believe the number one way to reach your goal is to pray to God to remove the false perceptions from your eyes and your heart, and pray for the wisdom and patience of the Holy Spirit. I hope that you find a way to feel loved and return it and have a blessed life.
I am an empath who was with a narcissist for 28 years. I feel sorry for you. I can’t imagine wanting to hurt other people. I refuse to be abused anymore. You should ask God to change you. I asked him to let me see how it felt to be a narcissist and He did. I wouldn’t change places with you, because it felt horrible to not care.
Empaths have symptoms of narcissism, for example they assume they know exactly what others are going trough which can be insensitive at times and they act superior ❤
Same here my mummy dearest is a narcissist a truly insidious individual. These people once diagnosed should be locked up for life . The harm they do to people is evil .
Sick video. Well explained and level-headed. I'm sorry to hear you're suffering in these ways and I hope over time, if you can get treatment, you'll be able to drop the mask. I have a question: there are times when someone else is the problem. Are there ways you've found to distinguish between a narcissistic grandiosity, and a legitimate grievance?
My brother is a narcissist and I thought it's nearly impossible to make a narcissist understand that he is one. I'm really impressed and I'm incredibly sorry for you. It must be horrible, if it's impossible for you to be selfless, humble and still happy, cuz that's what real love is. Could imagine only God would be able to do a miracle and completely heal you from that. Wish you all the best in Jesus' name
Actually, I'd say you've made significant progress. My father has NPD/ASPD. First, I agree with everything you report as the shitty parts, I've seen my father experience and react to the same exact things, but he wouldn't be able to face a camera and talk about them point blank. Not ever. The barest reference that something might be wrong with Dad or that Dad might be emotionally suffering was absolutely taboo for everyone in the house to the point of it being a safety issue. I also want to point out how you referenced the unreasonable expectations causing anger with self and others. If we responded to Dad's ( a least his super obvious) attempts at manipulation to get supply in the correct way, he was fine with it. But if we did it in a way that even slightly implied we felt bad for him that he had a problem with huge needs for attention, it caused a meltdown because he wasn't in control of the situation or the collective narrative about him, and not having that control meant he was weak. Suddenly, us acting that way became, in his mind, not our genuine concern, but mocking or criticism, and hell no, was he ever going be weak, be joked about or pitied. Just the fact that you are telling it all in a way I that so correctly describes what I have seen someone else go through suggests so much insight on your part that you couldn't have gotten without that deep reflection about motivations and patterns. It takes a lot of work to get there, and I respect that a lot. My father will never do it, not in a million years, it's too hard and too painful.
Pretty sure psychedelics could make someone’s narcissism worse. The apotheosis thing is not necessarily helpful when you already have issues with grandiosity. Some psychedelics can help with some issues but we’re mostly talking about micro-dosing and otherwise they can create all sorts of mental issues such as paranoia, schizophrenia and what not. As someone with personal experience, I’m pretty sure narcissism can only be overcome by acceptance of the issue, self-reflection, the willingness to change and through lots and lots of conscious mental effort.
So awesome that you know it's caused by trauma!!! I would be so curious what a person with your symptoms would experience using magic 🍄 trips for trauma healing.
Nami is a good representation of a narcissist. Oh, i see women accusing every single ex she ever had of being narcs, they call them all sorts of names... but hey, NPD people are just humans, men or women.
@@princessmorebucks By the passive aggressive tone, i'm sure you must be one too XD. It amazes me how people can read, not understand, and then proceed to write some completely alien answer that makes no sense whatsoever.
thank you for sharing. these all hit way too close to home, especially the narcissistic injury one lately. i’ve suspected i’ve had npd for a while, what do i do?
My Suggestion would be to go on a Carnivore diet to change your brain chemistry. It really helps dealing with mental issues. Then go into personal development.
Very transparent. I’m sure it will help so many people. But they really need to stop telling society that narcissist are narcissistic due to abuse from the early development. This is true for a few but it’s incredibly disrespectful to speak in the manner so blanketed. I know too many narcissist who have nothing to do with coming from an abused childhood… they were simply born narcissist. And it does no justice for the narcissist that their environment created their personality disorder. Narcissists are born as narcissists and you can see them as children if you have a discernment. Not everyone can see it but many of us can, which is how I know that you’re born with it. Not to mention, many come from very supportive healthy environments but worked hard to destroy those very healthy environments they come from. They are often highly talented and or gifted but can be quite nightmares as children who worked hard turning happy homes upside down. They are often the polarizing person in the family and they terrorize their family members physically and emotionally. Not the other way around, unless their family are ones as well. So we need to stop with this excuse because it makes “full accountability”that much impossible…this is just who they are as people and they were born this way.
Good on this Creator for flipping the coin. Who can say what the goal is although don’t we all want to be viewed, to share information. I don’t think someone that wasn’t would say they were and someone who was and wasn’t getting better wouldn’t either. So it’s like the door choice in Labyrinth. I still don’t know which was correct but that’s beside the point. And to this Creator, vulnerability is vulnerability and congrats - in some way you showed that. I am no clinician but maybe give yourself some grace for that at those times you feel ashamed of some of the other limitations.
NPD sounds like a very hellish condition to live with. It's good that you're opening up and constantly striving how to manage the symptoms.
It really is, narcs will never end themselves ether and so it will go on and on
She is doing it for supply. They crave attention of all kinds. They only have intentions of feeding themselves and their ego
It's hellish for both sides...
Yeah it's hellish for everybody... for example just saying I'm gaming there's 8 people.. if 1 of them are toxic we all lose out it's more stupid than annoying now
@@MrPokerblotWrong. My mother was one. She ended herself 💀🔫 You don't know what you're talking about.
You did a good job being vulnerable in this video. You didn't choose to have this condition but you're being honest and open about it. Respect 👏
Its to get attention, not to actually inform. If you believe it was to help, you are naive.
@@Vixinaful Even if that's true, it's getting attention in an honest way. I think any of us who've experienced someone with NPD/ASPD just wished they'd be aware of it and honest about it. Right? So how are you gonna fault someone who's doing just that? It's the secrecy and denial that irks people the most, I think.
Also, we all do things for attention. Are you gonna fault every actor, painter, writer, comedian, singer, musician, etc. too for sharing their work with the public? Participating in society by contributing our truths, gifts, talents, efforts, etc. is how we as a society function and stay connected.
@@Vixinafulcruel. you would rather be cruel than risk appearing naïve?
@@prolecnabasta3311 ?
It serves both purposes. More than one thing can be true at the same time. I love Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Maybe you should look into it if you're having a lot of black and white thinking?
Good on you for putting this out into the world, that couldn’t have been easy. It’s a very rare thing for a narcissist to actually acknowledge they are one and this helps those of us with narcissists in our lives to get a glimpse of what it’s like from the other side. Keep doing the work, and don’t lose hope
I feel compassion for people who suffers with this, from a distance. Only a very terrible childhood trauma could lead to this
My dad is a narcissist. He was emotionally neglected and undervalued as a child.
I think this video is great, very informative. Please continue posting authentic stuff like that.
Your brave, open and honest. I hope you find peace in your life.
I don't mean this as a jab at you. But I worked with a narc, and the thing that was most infuriating was that he would act as if he was a genius when he didn't have any idea what he was talking about. So all day long was like having to filter through his tidal wave of confusion. But at the same time he was and arrogant and would brag about all this stuff that wasn't true.
What really annoys me in narcissists is bragging. I’ve heard: I have great legs (while their legs were exceptionally big - delusion…) or I have a great personality, etc. One of my “girlfriends ” was constantly having conflicts at work with people. She was describing the situations to me and thought they were picking on her because they were jealous. In fact she was just bragging how good she was and that she topped everybody at work. Hearing that constantly I’ve finally told her that people attack her because people do not like people who brag. She had enough conscience to take was I said into consideration. She stopped bragging and in her current job she doesn’t have any conflicts with people. With a little bit of awareness narcissism can be at least controlled.
Fake it till...
Things fall apart. Stupidity on two legs.
I don’t mean this as a jab at you, but.. In all likelihood, that’s probably not a Narcissist. Just saying.. 🤷♂️ NPD is relatively rare. This is just factual. So.. Let me put this into perspective for you.. Out of every.. 200 people you know.. Only 1 of them will be a pathological Narcissist. Just 1 ☝🏼
Do you know 200 people on a personal level? I would be surprised if you did. Regardless, even if it were 1 in 25, which it’s not, I can’t imagine a pathological Narcissist doing what you just described, for various reasons. I’ll list off the first thing that came to my mind.
Narcissists are, believe it or not, quite intelligent. Extreme perfectionism is one of the core features of NPD. Of course.. Not all Narcissists are “know-it-alls”, but I’d be surprised to meet one who wasn’t. The point is, how can one be intellectually superior or a misunderstood genius if there’s nothing to back it up with?
Look. Narcissists may be delusional and grandiose, but they’re not oblivious or completely lacking in awareness. Idk how to make you understand. 🤔 Hmm. So.. Being looked at like you’re an idiot, being corrected, criticized, laughed at, or mocked for making a mistake or saying something incorrect.. Fucks a Narcissist’s sense of self worth up.
Imagine the one thing you’re most insecure about. Now imagine you told someone in confidence about that deep seated insecurity.. Now imagine how you’d feel if that same person tells a group of people about your insecurity, in front of you, then they start laughing at you and mocking you. That’s how a Narcissist feels about EVERYTHING.
Who they are as a person, their looks, their style, their laugh, their voice, their personality, their intelligence, their ability to speak well, their work performance, their ability to be a good listener, a good friend and lover, their taste in music, they’re uniqueness, their wide range of abilities and being a pro at all of them, etc etc etc.
That’s why Narcissists are sensitive to criticism, slights and insults. They fear failure, fear being exposed as an imperfect human being, as merely a man, a mortal, a fragile, feeble creature just like everyone else. I simply cannot imagine a Narcissist who behaves the way you described 😆 That’s just asking to be publicly humiliated!
That’s one of Narcissist’s deepest fears. Humiliation in front of his peers? That’s worse than death. Lol. It’s excruciating and makes you want to run away from the situation, go home and crawl under your bed and fall to pieces in the darkness so nobody can see you. The shame would be so bad that you may isolate for days or weeks or months or years if it was bad enough.
So, why in the hell would a Narcissist continually put themselves in that situation over and over by actually being dumb, but then lying and making stuff to pretend to be a genius? 🤷♂️ Make it make sense, dude. Narcissists feel they need to be perfect, so they can feel worth.. anything.
They’re afraid if they reveal flaws, imperfections, make a mistake, embarrass themselves, or show any signs of humanity at all. Hell, if they even walk down an isle in the store in any way, other than with the ethereal flow and majestic grace of a cat- then they’re a failure, worthless and incompetent.
I swear.. I have spent more time concerned with the way I fucking walk, talk, move around, how I stand and how I operate this body of mine to be in a way that’s like poetry in motion and flowing with exquisite beauty. 😂 It’s a nightmare feeling that visceral need to be perfect ALL THE TIME. I hate it.
That’s just with how I move around, dude. Now we’re talking about being smart, knowing everything, being able to do everything and do it masterfully? Come on, man. Show me a dumb Narcissist and I’ll show you an uncoordinated professional athlete 😆
It has always amazed me how much we praise confidence over competence. Highly confident incompetent people are terrible to be around and are dangerous.
@@DrJamesBWood Yes. It is infuriating and it's getting worse no matter where you work.
Thanks for your courage to make this video. I have CPTSD with borderline and narcissistic traits. I am in therapy to address my victim narrative. This was helpful. ☮️
I praise you for your willingness to open up about your struggles. It is real public service and I hope you keep healing.
lol healing, she's a demon and you can't fix her. Walk away.
Hey. I was with a (female) narcissist for three years. It was hellish and did terrible damage and I've struggled to accept and remember that on a certain level I loved this woman very deeply and just wanted her to understand that I wanted to support her to heal or learn to be less destructive. Thank you for reminding me of that and i genuinely wish you the best learning to live with and manage your condition and do less harm through that understanding.
Worth noting that being with a narcissist (and through my therapy) I learned a lot about my own issues, manipulations, controlling behaviour and vulnerability. It's too easy to blame the 'evil' narcissist and evade responsibility.
Good luck. We all need it :)
Your ex sounds like my ex. ❤
Narcissistic abuse is absolutely awful but what i've learned from exploring deeply my own life coming from not 1, but 2 narcissist parents is you actually have an immense amount of influence on the abuse. The main problem with having parents that are abusive/narcissistic is you can spend your whole life not knowing you even are being abused because that's just the normal way of being for you since birth. Once you actually identify it and learn more about it, your biggest goal is to get a point where you literally could give 2 sh!ts about your parents opinions of validation. You accept you will never be good enough for them, and you simply dont care. Guilt, shame and those tactics literally don't matter or work anymore, and indifference will eventually make them not want to put in the effort required with you. They will provoke you, antagonize you and do anything in their power to get on your nerves. Just calmy give as little emotional response/care to them, and they will soon just give up trying to engage you. Get to the point where you adopt your own way of living, your own standards, and you do what's best for you. It gets really difficult if you are forced into a position of dependance whether financial, or kids are involved as they will always try to belittle you, and brain wash everyone including your children that you were the crazy one/the problem while having the kids think they are the amazing one. Stay strong everyone!
As a practicing Buddhist I tell you … learn that we all suffer in our lives. Accept that nothing is perfect, including yourself. Learn to accept your shame, it’s not your fault, it should have been your parents job to show you meaningful love and affection. Find a great therapist specialized in Trauma Experience and rediscover the past and learn much better compensation strategies for your Trauma… you are still young, do it before you age… with age your NP compensation strategy will fail, and you will fall in a deep depression whole. Again, it’s not your fault, newest science shows NPD is caused by traumatic childhood experiences. Good Luck
Thank you for accepting your diagnosis.
I'm not professionally diagnosed with NPD, but injury and collapse are awful. Facing criticism after a couple of times is intolerable and can make me passively suic1d4l very quickly. The need for admiration is not as keen and noticeable, but after a short while of no pats on the back, I'm filled with extraordinary psychological agony that I've had to go to the psych ward for... felt like I was being skinned alive.
I have BPD and my emotions get so extreme and I KNOW I'm overreacting but I'm so overwhelmed by emotion I can't dial it back. It feels like I want to peel my face off and crawl out of my skin sometimes. Cluster B personality disorders are awful. Thank the gods for DBT.
People just need to be kind to everyone who struggles with a mental health diagnosis especially those who are trying to achieve wellness and self-reflection. Subbed! I wish you the very best!
be kind to the people, but hold them accountable for their actions. them not suffering the consequences of their actions is not us being kind, but enabling, and enabling is not kind, is doing a disservice to the perpetrator, case in point, narcissistic collapses determine the narcissist to seek help, and they are usually the product of the lack of enabling of the damaging behavior
@@ileanaprofeanu7626 That can be hard when they are very selfish, abusive and controlling and will start stuff up just to get attention. Any attention. Someone else can take a turn at being kind (AKA being supply). I've done my time and am out.
@@DrJamesBWoodyou're generalizing all narcissists based off of one experience you had. Stop being ableist.
@@iheartspirits Am I? We ALL have our challenges, all of us. But at the end of the day, as adults, we are responsible for how we treat others, neurodivergent or not. Call me all the names you like but I'm well aware that cluster B types are exceptionally creative at finding ways to both get attention and shift the blame.
@@DrJamesBWood that had absolutely nothing to do with what I said 😭 stop generalizing narcissists because you met one bad person lmao it's not hard.
Thank you for making this content. I was diagnosed with BPD (& 4 comorbidities that aren't personality disorders). The BPD and bipolar 2 were the most recent. I'm in my mid-40's. Deep into DBT over a year later and my behavior is improving. The way I view myself is changing. The way I experience emotions is extremely intense, including emotional empathy, to a visceral level that can make me physically ill if, say, I hear about animal abuse. But my empathy gets super dull when I'm triggered and I self protect with rage. Without that self protective rage, I may not have made it out of childhood with ANY emotional empathy because rage made me a more difficult target for abuse because I would tell. Loudly and angrily. My sibling was quiet. He ended up with the brunt of it. I was neglected/ignored instead. That also contributed to the BPD, I'm sure.
There are reasons we are like this. Once we are self aware, much like an addict, its very very difficult to unknow. One must be adept at clinical repression and that's a skill that most of us don't possess. So, we start looking for answers. Some of us already know our behavior is unacceptable but for the life of us the only way to keep it away from others it to self isolate. That isn't healthy either. If we get the right diagnosis and start DBT, we can not only take accountability, we can change enough to interact with people in a healthy, "effective," way. We can get our needs met without being mean or abusive. It's possible and it happens. The longer I'm in therapy, the more I become aware of. It's very painful but it's worth it. I don't want to cause suffering. Ever. I do. I am human. I won't stop trying to be better and do better.
I think having this information out there will help a lot of people. Therapy is really for everyone anyway. I mean, who tf is really thriving in this world rn anyway?
Absolutely no one is thriving rn and I think it's very much a cause of so much PD and relationship agony appearing in our society since the 70s/80s. I think generational trauma is radiating down the timeline and as social pressure increases, people who never had a chance to develop as they should have, to experience real love and safety as children are hit with a barrage of things they struggle to cope with and don't even understand why they can't. We're seeing greater and greater numbers of traumatized kids becoming parents who traumatize their kids and not even really know why they're doing it...or in some people's cases, not even noticing what they're doing. 🙏 keep doing the work, and know you're one of many on the path, appreciated by others even if not directly known to them.
i’m struggling rn. this was inspiring. thank you
I've got to be honest in 20 years. I've never seen somebody with NPD have antisocial personality disorder and I've never seen somebody with both of these disorders especially if they were together present. This way. I'm not saying anything one way or the other because anything is possible but typically antisocial personality disorder which is commonly referred to as a sociopath or a psychopath would not have the emotional awareness or ability to feel injured by other people. Narcissist on the other hand, typically do feel injured by other people when they feel even slightly criticized. So this is an interesting presentation to me
A dual diagnosis of NPD and ASPD happens all the time. ASPD do have a rudimentary sense of guilt and shame. This idea that ASPDs are emotional zombies is a complete oversimplification.
I am sorry to hear how much you have suffered and I'm proud of you that you opened up about your diagnosis and showed us your vulnerability. You are on the right track. 😊👍🏼👍🏼
Blink if you need help!
I experienced extremely traumatic childhood , then 2 decades with a narc. what she done to my children and myself was worse than anything before. There not victim’s the truma didn’t make them, it was a choice made because they enjoy hurting people. Evil sick and twisted individuals..
Nah that's just you bud
@@iheartspirits ouch..
@@bladen0869 womp womp stop being ableist
@@iheartspirits Calling out evil is not discriminatory, I stayed 2 decades supporting someone with mental illness, so I thought.
They, you are not the victim’s, but you leave plenty behind.. Try the DAVO method somewhere else…
Exactly 💯. They make the choice to be evil.
I like the way that you humanize people who have these diagnoses
Thank you for sharing how it feels. I'm sorry you experienced things in childhood that you didn't deserve. Your self awareness is really important. I wish you health and happiness.
I've been professionally diagnosed as being a high-function psychopath without ASPD but having NPD to a degree. I've just learned to put logic before myself and most times people aren't any the wiser, but it certainly comes out sometimes. Good luck!
You don’t have NPD to a degree. You either have the disorder or you don’t. Perhaps you mean you have a lot of narcissistic traits.
I love that you shared this video. To me it sounds like you have embarked on your own personal heroes journey. Respect! You show responsibility, accountability and bravery. I wish you all the best on your journey of liberation - Gods speed!
The moment you recognise such dangerous personality problems and do your best to be as good of a person anyways is what gets you in the plus column either way.
Appreciate the honesty; this is a very interesting subject and seeing someone open up about it succinctly is helpful.
I'm praying for you! ❤ You can be healed even though they lie and claim otherwise. Coming out and sharing your experience is insightful to me on areas I can be more understanding with people I know who have this diagnosis . I am grateful for your honesty.
Delta, thank you for being so vulnerable and honest about yourself. You have helped me become more informed about NPD and the people around me who have it.
Thank you for sharing this!!
Your openness and the courage embraced to share these insights is truly inspiring...thank you!!!
That stare. Jesus Christ. Thanks on informing me, about the people i want to stay far away from.
Yeah we didn't want to be near an ableist person like u anyway :3
Hey. No need to be mean.
The transparency is appreciated
Incredibly brave of you to be open about this, thanks, gave me some perspective
Being this aware of your disorder is an incredibly powerful thing! Slow and steady will win this race 💙 Jesus is always there for you too 😊
hi, you have an emotional bond with your parents, who taught you to live only in the ego and to be their "emotional slave"... that's why you see everything "wrong" because you can't trust your conscience/feelings.. .. be sure empaths also have the same wounds, they are just the other side of the coin, empaths give themselves up to heal others and narcissists only think about themselves... there is the core of unworthiness and complex not good in both Being with toxic parents you don't know what validation, happiness or love is... try to understand the toxicity of your parents/environment and then think about your self-worth and feelings - it will get better, even if it hurts at the beginning Admitting to yourself that you are an asshole and that other people also have value... try to calmly explain your feelings by talking to yourself, what you can say, you understand! Every person is unique and valuable, you are brave, but your parents were in your situation as children and switched off their feelings... it is therefore an "ancestral theme" and "inherited".
To this I would say become a little more informed before passing judgement on this young girl, who has clearly been through hell. Empaths are not the other side of the coin. They may be related to HSP, but everyone thinks they’re an empath or hsp these days. And everyone thinks all the bad people are narcissists. These are clinical terms. Borderline and NPD both are cluster b personalities, and they both result from serious trauma, so you’re basically blaming her for having a form of ptsd. The way hers developed is simply a protection/defense mechanism, that she HAD NO SAY IN as it developed probably around 7 or 8 years old, and she doesn’t perceive from her end what those on the receiving end are perceiving. I am BPD, and have out of necessity studied into this extensively, and I’m really tired of all the crap online about this stuff. I personally am very grateful to hear her perspective especially in trying to navigate a marriage to someone who is NPD.
Get away as fast and far as you can! Staying for the children only hurts them and you I. The end. My two youngest don't speak to me or their older sister (from a previous relationship)bc they believe I was the abuser. He told them she isn't their real sister! They cannot love and you can make excuses for them all day or lifelong as to why they are the way they are, it's a CHOICE! I know plenty of abused and wounded people and they are not narcs. People are using it as an excuse for their behavior. There is no excuse for causing intentional harm!!! I wish you the best of luck. I have compassion for her but cannot empathize with her, I refuse to take in that energy.@@Llorali
There is one thing that I cannot stand in narcissists is bragging and that everything is about them, little me me me thing. Narcissists are actually adult children. They have an adult body but their thinking or doing is typical of a child. Children think that the whole world revolves around them. They demand attention. When they don’t get something they throw a temper tantrum. Narcissists do that too.
This video is literally so she can conjure sympathy for narcissistic supply. Imagine narcs being victims… LOL
@@friedrichmuller2416narcissists are victims. That's the whole point. Do your research and stop being an ableist scumbag.
Ironically, childhood is typically when NPD is developed. As a disorder that develops out of trauma, it would make sense, as trauma can trap a person mentally in the age that they developed it.
@@fish_sauce agreed.
Thanks for sharing! I have a narcissist son he's a adult but his father is a narcissist and I believe in genetics 💯
Hmm, seems like you experience a fraction of the suffering that you put other people through, what a shame.
I have High Functioning ASD. AVPD and DPD and have been stuck in self isolation for over 15 years. Having a midlife crisis I am trying to push forward with my music, no professional replies yet but I was offered a voluntary teaching role for songwriting and singing classes for other adults with autism - I got as far as my front door, stared at it, spend 10-15 minutes telling myself to go to the creative classes, then turned around and went back to bed instead. The only way I could ever progress is if I actually managed to get physical conservatorship from support workers, and good luck ever being able to get or afford that :(
My brother and dad both have NPD - disguised under their 'religious mask' - we do this because of our religion mode. They refuse help and refuse to accept any time they are wrong, then again they have no clue that they have it. I left my family some 5 years ago and dropped all contact with them, but now I am simply stuck in own small house with no idea how to improve myself.
Keep going with your music career! Make it your goal to be able to go outside and teach that class. You can do it!
@@existentialchaos8 Thanks. I say this now - I wouldn't actually mind dating or just being friends with a diagnosed and self aware person with any of NPD / SPD / PDP so long as they have not committed crimes before and are willing and working towards self improvement. They are the people who would be more than happy to offer me the level of control and support I require, I would be more than willing to help them notice any of their toxic behaviours for them to improve upon. But good luck again to ever finding anything like this.
Super interesting to see the other side. There are few narcissistic people that talk openly about their condition, so your videos are really helpful.
Btw I love your shirt ❤
You are an important person. Keep educating on your illness.
My mums a narcissist I have no pity for them there truly Insidious and evil non entity the eyes say it all . When a narcissist open their mouth they’re lying 🤥 I’m outta here.
Get outta ableist trash
Very informative thank you.
You’re precious. I bow deeply to your authentic sharing. I think my husband suffers from NPD. I feel great compassion for him. It doesn’t seem to make a difference - he always sees me as his enemy except in rare moments of clarity. I wish compassion did make a difference for those who suffer from NPD. Bless you, precious Delta.
Get out. You are worth more than that life of isolation and pain.
I really appreciate your sharing. You look healthier than earlier videos (chocolate eyes). I admire your fight as you constantly struggle against your inner demons. It's kind of heroic in a way. Take care.
And there it is.. the non blinking stare thru your Soul. No words 😢
Yessss… and the way she looks, sort of empty eyes.
Sociopaths experience flatter affect. Thanks for the observations, Captain Obvious. Maybe work on your own empathy before trolling someone who is trying to be and do better, hm?
Never blinks. My thoughts exactly. I would never trust a lion, whether “self-aware” or not.
My narcissist x-wife with whom I spent 25 years of my life and who tried to kill me during the discard phase had the same stare. I wish, I had never saw that stare in my life. I don’t know how long it will take me to recover, probably way too long, if ever.
I saw that intense non-blinking stare too. What I also noticed is zero empathy for others, "I'm a victim" and "this is hard" (while she creates all the drama, blames others for their reactions to it, and hurts others on endless repeat). And this video and channel too are great for being the center of attention and getting more supply. I have a clinically diagnosed BPD ex. Those of us that have had our empathy and sympathy exploited for so long are just done when we see the same RED FLAGS again.
This comment section is so incredibly ableist. Her eyes have nothing to do with her disorders. NPD is not evil or bad, it just requires healing and its not going away with a prayer or believing in a man in the sky. Narcissists arent bad people and narcissistic abuse doesnt exist. Narcissists are more likely to be abused. You're also not a narcissist unless you have the disorder, its not an adjective to describe someone. The stigma surrounding this disorder is disgusting.
spoken like a true narc
@@MV-wb2cz spoken like someone who actually knows about the disorder!
Narcissists arent bad people and narcissistic abuse doesn't exist? Can you elaborate?
Either you are a cluster B type or you have never been in a relationship with one. OMG they are abusive, self centered, manipulative and horrible to be around. Yes, many were abused as children and act like children throwing temper tantrums, etc. Yet they can be very intelligent and manipulative and extremely good at playing the victim card and controlling other and sucking the life out of anyone near them. Horrible.
@@fakiv2682 narcissists aren't bad people because it's a personality disorder and personality disorder do not inherently make anyone a bad person but the media stigmatizes those disorders to make them look bad. If a narcissist is a bad person that's on them, not the disorder. And there's no such thing as narcissistic abuse because again, it's a disorder and you can't seperate the word from the disorder. It's like saying adhd abuse or autism abuse. It makes no sense.
I appreciate that you volunteered this information about your perspective, considering you're not too comfortable laying yourself bare for the world to observe you and concoct opinions regarding your condition. Perhaps I don't know your struggle exactly, but I do recognize a certain intellectual narcissism I tend to display from time to time. More often than not, my way of thinking is something I perceive as superior to other people's thought processes. My family is convinced I'm an incredibly humble person, but I see something they probably don't notice. The most I can suggest as a solution is to maintain a healthy skepticism regarding one's own capabilities. Remember there is always someone above you, but also recognize what you can contribute to people at large. Thank you for your transparency.
DELTA THE WARRIOR PRINCESS !!! THAT'S WHAT YOUR CHANNEL SHOULD BE CALLED......YOU HAVE BLOWN ME AWAY !..YOU KEEP GOING GIRLIE AND DON'T LOOK BACK.....YOUR A TRUE WARRIOR, IN MY EYES....GIVING ME HOPE FOR MY STRUGGLES.....KEEP THE POWER ......YOU WILL BE SO GIFTED TO HELP OTHERS.......lAST THING ........WARRIORS NEVER SURRENDER YOU KNOW!
Bravo, thoughtful and well-captured and surprisingly authentic esp. if you truly have NPD.
Now if only the other 99.9% of NPDs could or would develop the self-awareness to openly acknowledge and identify all of these traits & behaviors.
I doubt you've met every other narcissist in the world to know how they act.
@@iheartspirits ironically, that’s something a narcissist would say 😂🤣
@@moimeme6533 no lmao it's something someone would say who doesn't demonize and stigmatize disorders 🤡 I know multiple narcissists and they're all amazing people.
Nice video. I recommend working with somatic exercises like TRE or Somatic Experience, to battle you childhood traumas. They work good for "getting around the ego", since you would be working directly on the body, instead of the mind.
Do you ever people please just to get people off your back and to make sure that they don't get upset with you so they won't retaliate in a way that you don't want to deal with, so you keep feeding into their demands requests and favors they asked, but it makes you so angry that you're trapped in their world that you lose yourself and your so-called plans for what you want your life to be? And continue to do it even though you hate it but you feel you deserve the punishment? And then go around and tell everyone how they're using you and manipulating you and you're stuck with it?
Could you further explain what happens during narc collapse?
7 is exactly the same if you're not a narcissist. The situation is humiliating and causes constant self blame.
You mentioned "hate" as being one form of narcissistic supply. Do narcissist want to be hated? I am truly interested.
was with my narc gf off and on for 8yrs, and would not want to be her for a minute, let alone for a lifetime.
Thank you for sharing that!
No telling how much havoc you’ve wreaked on others that have crossed your path.
Go in depth on what you gain from manipulation in regards to supply.
Explain how you even got the courage to go to a therapist to get diagnosed to begin with, the narcs I know aren’t able to see themselves as the problem to even check into therapy.
Wild to see this from the other side. I guess it confirms everything I’ve suspected about what it must feel like to BE the narcissist. Super interesting.
Nice work explaining and elaborating on your points.
Is having ASPD the reason you don't experience anxiety?
I think so. It’s possible for someone to have ASPD and anxiety disorders, but I think for me the ASPD blocks out the emotion of anxiety
thank you for sharing.
People try to diagnose one another these days it’s sad
I’ve had one group of co workers first push the idea I don’t stand up for myself or do anything for myself
Then my family and that same group call me narcissistic when I stood up to them
Hope your journey continues to get better
Wait a goddamn fcking minute do I have NPD?!? ‘Cause a lot of what you said… I resonate with a lot. Especially when you said you think people are out to get you because you possess something they envy. I get those moments but I downplay it in a victim mentality.
Does the highly manipulative behaviour belong to the anti social diagnosis? I thought I'd heard it was an NPD thing. The one I ran into was mainly manipulative I'd say. The fake persona hides vulnerability but doesn't it also help pull off manipulation? If people have no idea who you truly are, they believe what you want them to.
NPDs and ASPDs are both highly manipulative. The difference is that NPDs do it more to self-regulate while ASPDs do it more for the thrills.
good luck, clearly you worked hard to help yourself toward a better life.
it must be hellish but being a highly extremely sensitive person id trade😂😢
edit: guys ok so i found out theres a link between these and i wonder whether im a vulnerable narcissist or i just have been depressed for too long lol
I'm sure this is an impossible questions, but do you happen to know why your childhood trauma caused you to have NPD? I was abused by an NPD father my entire childhood and, while I have a very long list of really shitty symptoms, NPD isn't one that I developed. I can absolutely relate to the worthlessness as that is one of the most prevalent feelings I've had to deal with for decades.
U didn't ask for the condition it's to do with how U was either treated as a child by parents or as u said by another narcissists people say that Ur possessed by a demon but don't think so religion and mental health don't have nothing to do with this it's about what happened in the past your just replying the action from your past
Have anyone noticed that she never blinks?😮Is this normal?
Disarm a narcissist using the blink technique
Yes it's normal, tons of people do that
@@iheartspirits do you have a diagnosis yourself out of interest? You claim to know about the disorder and seem to be advocating for people that have NPD.
I appreciate you telling us about it from that side of it. I believe that being completely honest with yourself is a great way to make progress toward where you desire to be. I believe the number one way to reach your goal is to pray to God to remove the false perceptions from your eyes and your heart, and pray for the wisdom and patience of the Holy Spirit. I hope that you find a way to feel loved and return it and have a blessed life.
Atleast the only good thing is the fakes are back on their side, thanks to someone…. :) something I couldn’t have accomplished.
I am an empath who was with a narcissist for 28 years. I feel sorry for you. I can’t imagine wanting to hurt other people. I refuse to be abused anymore. You should ask God to change you. I asked him to let me see how it felt to be a narcissist and He did. I wouldn’t change places with you, because it felt horrible to not care.
Empaths have symptoms of narcissism, for example they assume they know exactly what others are going trough which can be insensitive at times and they act superior ❤
Same here my mummy dearest is a narcissist a truly insidious individual. These people once diagnosed should be locked up for life . The harm they do to people is evil .
It's always the people calling themselves empaths who believe in narcissist abuse 😭
@@iheartspirits for real
@@Vessel_Aof course. We all have traits of it. Empathic people aren’t the exception.
Sick video. Well explained and level-headed. I'm sorry to hear you're suffering in these ways and I hope over time, if you can get treatment, you'll be able to drop the mask.
I have a question: there are times when someone else is the problem. Are there ways you've found to distinguish between a narcissistic grandiosity, and a legitimate grievance?
Kind of a unicorn being able to recognise it. Most narcissists are doomed to never realise their disorder. What's your view on Richard Grannon?
My brother is a narcissist and I thought it's nearly impossible to make a narcissist understand that he is one. I'm really impressed and I'm incredibly sorry for you. It must be horrible, if it's impossible for you to be selfless, humble and still happy, cuz that's what real love is. Could imagine only God would be able to do a miracle and completely heal you from that. Wish you all the best in Jesus' name
The self-awareness 👏🏾
Actually, I'd say you've made significant progress. My father has NPD/ASPD. First, I agree with everything you report as the shitty parts, I've seen my father experience and react to the same exact things, but he wouldn't be able to face a camera and talk about them point blank. Not ever. The barest reference that something might be wrong with Dad or that Dad might be emotionally suffering was absolutely taboo for everyone in the house to the point of it being a safety issue. I also want to point out how you referenced the unreasonable expectations causing anger with self and others. If we responded to Dad's ( a least his super obvious) attempts at manipulation to get supply in the correct way, he was fine with it. But if we did it in a way that even slightly implied we felt bad for him that he had a problem with huge needs for attention, it caused a meltdown because he wasn't in control of the situation or the collective narrative about him, and not having that control meant he was weak. Suddenly, us acting that way became, in his mind, not our genuine concern, but mocking or criticism, and hell no, was he ever going be weak, be joked about or pitied. Just the fact that you are telling it all in a way I that so correctly describes what I have seen someone else go through suggests so much insight on your part that you couldn't have gotten without that deep reflection about motivations and patterns. It takes a lot of work to get there, and I respect that a lot. My father will never do it, not in a million years, it's too hard and too painful.
I thought I was wrong once, but I was mistaken.
Its like a robot speaking, no emotion whatsoever
Invest that time into healing, like doing shadow work for escample.
Have you considered or tried psychedelic therapy? Psychics or holistic shamans?
Pretty sure psychedelics could make someone’s narcissism worse. The apotheosis thing is not necessarily helpful when you already have issues with grandiosity.
Some psychedelics can help with some issues but we’re mostly talking about micro-dosing and otherwise they can create all sorts of mental issues such as paranoia, schizophrenia and what not.
As someone with personal experience, I’m pretty sure narcissism can only be overcome by acceptance of the issue, self-reflection, the willingness to change and through lots and lots of conscious mental effort.
@@DevonRyeTheDragonfly I disagree, Ive seen psychedelics cure narcissists.
@@dust17111 Long term?
So awesome that you know it's caused by trauma!!! I would be so curious what a person with your symptoms would experience using magic 🍄 trips for trauma healing.
Dead eyes.
Yes. Zero inflection in the voice. Stone-faced delivery.
Yes. I noticed that
She is a narcissist!
No blinking !!
Means nothing schizophrenics sometimes do too the narcissist in my life has very animated eyes...
There's no flaws when you're the best in the world 😎👍🏻
Nami is a good representation of a narcissist. Oh, i see women accusing every single ex she ever had of being narcs, they call them all sorts of names... but hey, NPD people are just humans, men or women.
Youve never heard a man call a woman a narc? You must be new
@@princessmorebucks By the passive aggressive tone, i'm sure you must be one too XD. It amazes me how people can read, not understand, and then proceed to write some completely alien answer that makes no sense whatsoever.
Well. At least you're a pro at staring contests...
You're not a Narc if you're self reflecting on the issues you think you have. They are incapable of that.
False. It’s definitely possible for a narcissist to get diagnosed and think about that diagnosis.
You can see it in her eyes, there's zero emotion
thank you for sharing. these all hit way too close to home, especially the narcissistic injury one lately. i’ve suspected i’ve had npd for a while, what do i do?
it seems like having your awareness and willingness to accept the assessments would be helpful towards decreasing symptomology?
What are you doing to heal?
My Suggestion would be to go on a Carnivore diet to change your brain chemistry. It really helps dealing with mental issues. Then go into personal development.
@@sebk174 I don’t have this disorder, however, I am raw vegan.
Very transparent. I’m sure it will help so many people. But they really need to stop telling society that narcissist are narcissistic due to abuse from the early development.
This is true for a few but it’s incredibly disrespectful to speak in the manner so blanketed. I know too many narcissist who have nothing to do with coming from an abused childhood… they were simply born narcissist. And it does no justice for the narcissist that their environment created their personality disorder.
Narcissists are born as narcissists and you can see them as children if you have a discernment. Not everyone can see it but many of us can, which is how I know that you’re born with it. Not to mention, many come from very supportive healthy environments but worked hard to destroy those very healthy environments they come from.
They are often highly talented and or gifted but can be quite nightmares as children who worked hard turning happy homes upside down. They are often the polarizing person in the family and they terrorize their family members physically and emotionally. Not the other way around, unless their family are ones as well.
So we need to stop with this excuse because it makes “full accountability”that much impossible…this is just who they are as people and they were born this way.
Very interesting. Thank you for sharing
Great insights. Wish you the best.
I think I’m this you know. Thank you for your insights.
Scary people
This is a paradox.
Good on this Creator for flipping the coin. Who can say what the goal is although don’t we all want to be viewed, to share information. I don’t think someone that wasn’t would say they were and someone who was and wasn’t getting better wouldn’t either. So it’s like the door choice in Labyrinth. I still don’t know which was correct but that’s beside the point.
And to this Creator, vulnerability is vulnerability and congrats - in some way you showed that. I am no clinician but maybe give yourself some grace for that at those times you feel ashamed of some of the other limitations.
So, this video.
Is it to inform the public or is it due to your ego/npd? I find narcissists that make videos about it super interesting.
I’m a narcissist to perhaps. I don’t want to be like this but yeah trauma def causes it.
Thank you so much for this video!