I have no goals. I want nothing. I'm 61 and make $24 an hour. I pay my rent, phone, and buy food. I desire nothing. Nothing to do, no place to go, no goals, no debt. It's great
Retire from fulfilling other people's shonky and thoughtless expectations. My mother died happy at 95 and a half. She was fully aware her body had reached its used by date. Having no parents to care for now I also have no one to be accountable to. Freedom to live like there is no tomorrow. No one to impress. Never had children. Each day is an adventure.
I effectively retired at 55, still do jobs to help out life long friends, just buried my dad, dementia took him a few years ago. Im an only child and had to clear out his house myself, its just so frickin pointless and sad, everything he was is in a skip, nobody wants anything, Ive kept a box of stuff and I'll never open it. Youre gone and forgotten within months..for ever, he outlived all his friends, wives and girlfriends by five years and it was five years of confusion and decay. Ive got twenty years before it happens to me, Ive shut out all the dheads in my life, they dont care, but Ive realised I dont care about their families except for the few friends who are real, the ones who rang me when he died, helped me deal with the crap. I look at all the crp I have, just putting it in the bin every day and not shedding a tear.
Great reflection. I’m 57 years old, I’m partially retired. I have to admit, I’m feeling a bit lost. Your words make sense . I’d like to find a group of trustworthy people I can talk to about these stages of our lives.
In one year, 5 of my friends and work colleagues died. None from old age. One very happy young man died right at my feet as paramedics worked on him in our office. I made a decision then and there that I was not going to spend the life I had left in an office cubicle. I put my plan in motion and retired at 59 1/2. I also removed myself from the extremely stressful and demanding American environment. Best decisions of my life!
3 years ago I watched my 72 year old father die fairly suddenly and ever since I've thought a lot about all his plans for his retirement and how short his retirement was. Some of his investments for his retirement matured this year, quite some time after his death. I turn 47 next year and I've really changed my perspective on living life.
At age 80, I am in the epilogue of my life leaving all my life goals far behind. The only things that matter to me now are my family and my health. Thanks for your videos which I find mirror the experience of my retirement years.
Me thinketh I have heard it said it that the people that usually live well into their nineties end up that way because they., expected to live.........that long!@!?😉 P.S. Not sure if that meant., written down.........Goals!@?😁
Great video! At 65, still working because I love what I do, I just don't worry about how long I will be here or worry about missing out on something that I did or did not do. I do have a strong faith that we all go back to the spiritual world, which is much better than here, but that is just my opinion....who really knows?? I am blessed to be healthy and happy now - I live for the present and do my best to prepare for the future, but I just don't stress about it. People live and people die...there really isn't much you can do to change the flow of life! I have served in the world of healthcare (RRT) and have seen a ton of good and bad, happy and sad. It has given me a world of service of patients and working in incredible teams of other healthcare professionals, housekeepers, maintenance workers, etc., who have definitly enriched my life. I enjoy them all while I am here and wish them love and peace when I am gone!
Thanks, Nick. I needed this. After 30 years in retail, I had enough of dealing with people. Anti-goals are a great idea. Have a great break and Christmas.
I retired from the rat race at 58. Best decision i ever made. The feeling of freedom is amazing. I was a manual worker all my life, sometimes working 80/90 hrs a week when the kids were living at home.( Dont know how i did everything then) One thing we all have in common is 24 hours a day, and you cant buy any more than that. Use time wisely, do the things that make you happy. I love quality time with family and friends. I reckon i earned it.
I just had my best job ever at 56, so now my goal is to keep it until I can retire at 69 here in Denmark. Unfortunately I don´t have a large pension to fall back on, so I need this job with a good pension to make it through retirement. I've been alone all my life except from when I lived at home, so I don´t dream about companionship anymore, I love to travel and see new things as well at reliving past memories. Good channel Nick.
When I was in my teens here in Oz, people would always ram down my throat, "hard work never hurt anyone!!!" Mmmm, quite apparently they've never taken any notice of cemeteries. People bust theirs guts for 40-50 years only to die broke. IMO, work, apart from feminism, is the biggest joke ever foisted on earth's inhabitants!!! There are no answers 'without'. All of the answers are 'within'. And "ego is the enemy".
Thank you for the great analogy. I, too, am on a 7 year cycle. My problem is that I stay in a chapter a year longer than I should! Your reminder has motivated me to open up that next one! Thanks again and best of luck in your book of life!
Interesting approach. I'm 66 and retired. I can see that I am falling into the trap that many older guys do, of becoming isolated. I'm happy to be solitary most of the time, and like the peace of it, but I also like to see people too. Without work, though, and especially without family as is my situation, it can be easy to end up hardly seeing anyone, ever. I'm quite content, but one potentially unhealthy aspect of contentment is that it can result in lack of any great impetus to achieve anything in particular. What do I want? To be healthy and fit, including mentally, and part of that is to find some kind of purpose to provide meaning. I'll add the view from the perspective of what I don't want; isolation to an extreme, and potentially cognitively unhealthy, extent. Cheers.
My mother died at 52; my sister, 18 mos. younger than me, died at 57. I am 65, turning 66 in March. I was retired from a job role that dissolved May 2024. Best thing that could have happened, because I would have stayed working (I loved my career) through next year. Yes, I would have loved to have that time to sock away more savings. But I am already past the expiration date for the women in my family, so I have no illusions that I will live to a ripe age. My next chapter? What am I doing? Moving to France in May as a base to do all the European/Mediterranean travel I have said, for years, "I'll do it someday". Really appreciate your clear, blunt (in a good way) takes on things, Nick. TY! And Happy holidays!
This resonates so much, I am glad I had your channel recommended to me, and would like to thank you for taking the time to make these videos. You are probably helping people more than you may realise.
That's a traumatic wake-up experience. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. My dad died suddenly at 74 too. Mom is 90 but completely bed-ridden. I'm retiring in two weeks, and I'm looking forward to focus on my health and spending time with family and friends, and hopefully traveling some. I'm fortunate that I can afford to retire.
Very thought provoking and unfortunately it does take something tragic to make us really take action. I really like your anti goals, thank you. Happy Christmas!
I’m 66, retired 3 years ago. Best thing I ever did, love the freedom. I cycle as much as possible. I’ve bought my dream car and I’ve sacked a lifelong pal who has irritated me for the past few years. What makes me want to live life is that once you’ve gone, you’ve gone. We’re lucky if the generation below our kids will even remember us. Kudos for your tattoo though which I presume pays homage to your late dad and his number in the force. Nice one. Happy Christmas, enjoy Portugal and enjoy the serenity.
Another great video and thought provoking as it’s difficult to find something meaningful at times, so removing unwanted and meaningless things, events etc is a good start
Get right with God. Many of us spend our entire lives, seeking pleasure while never asking ourselves the three most important questions. Where did I come from? What am I doing here, and where am I going. If there is a creator, I think we at least owe him that.
So fascinating. This reminds me that several years ago I came across the ancient philosopher Solon, who also postulated that our live runs in 7-year intervals.
Hi Nick, Very good video and message here. I really like the anti goal method and Im going to try this as always find setting goals very hard. Cheers abd Happy Christmas, Stu
I live day by day with no plans. My military ways has taught me to never plan and shoot at the hip. adapt, react, overcome. When I do make plans, I make sure my six is covered in worst case scenarios. Then I just go with the flow. Life is precious and it’s best to live it one day at a time with no goals or finish line.
Nick that must have been traumatic for you. My two best friends died recently. Late 2022 and early 2024. I think about them both several times a day. I definitely don't take life for granted anymore. I try and enjoy every moment. Going back to Portugal for two weeks in May and another two weeks in September. It looks nice where you are. I haven't been more south than Lisbon. Have a nice Christmas.
Nice beach ! we have the same at the end of our road and on it most mornings,dreaming of sailing a boat round the Med just need to convince my partner that’s the main thing. Always have dreams of things you would like to do that’s the secret of keeping happy ,also I love playing the guitar and improving plus learning new things,be grateful for what you have.
I wholeheartedly agree with your perspective on life and I’d love to be able to do what you do but I’m a pensioner living week to week with no savings, constantly on the verge of going into the Red at my bank. But hey, it is what it is and I make the most of life. I’m glad to see you making the most of your life and wish you more chapters. 👍🏻
Was unceremoniously retired in May at 63 when the CEO of the company ran the company into the ground so 30% of us got laid off. I have money for retirement. Mom lived to 98, Dad to 68, my brother to 75. I am in no way as fit as they were but no medical issues. Will do some traveling. Not sure what else. Known too many guys that died before retiring.
75, I am having a go at composition 🎶 A lifetime of music need not be wasted. I love how a real piano is a totally different experience to an electronic keyboard. One can have a conversation with the real one because each one responds uniquely.
Thanks for sharing the Anti goal approach. I like that concept. Many times, we are so geared to being productive and we keep jumping from one goal to another, defeating the pleasure of retirement. My anti goal would be to stop doing that.
Four years ago I was watching television one evening and my mobile phone went. I saw on the screen it was the wife of my closest friend Pete. We'd been best friends for nearly thirty years. He'd watched my children grow up and they called him Uncle Pete. I'd been best man at his wedding (I was already married when we became mates) and I'd always played an active part in the lives of his children too. I was closer to him than to my own brothers. Her voice was shaking and she said 'I've got some bad news'. I thought 'oh, shit. Her dad has died' - as he'd been ill for a while. The she said "Pete is dead". I'll just take a break. I'm back. She'd been out with the girls and come back to find him lying dead on the kitchen floor. He was 57. I jumped in the car and went straight up. The paramedics were just leaving and the police had just arrived. He was lying on the floor with a blanket around him up to his chest looking like he was having a nap. Except his face was grey. This was at about half eight in the evening and they didn't finally take him away until half two in the morning. We sat next to him all that while. Sorry I'm going on a bit but it helps to write about it. I've been broken hearted ever since and feel the loss terribly. I could also write a lot about how grief counselling for people who've lost close friends, especially grown men, is very patchy indeed. But a huge impact on me was the suddenness. I kept looking at his feet thinking when he put those socks on he had no idea that that was last time he'd ever put on a pair of socks. He had no idea he was living his final day. So now, although I don't do stupid things to consciously put my health and safety at risk. I had a brother who died of a cancer caused by drinking too much and smoking. But I try not to deny myself any pleasure or experience just in case it's bad for me. I don't do things that are a misery or a chore just because it'll be good for me or make me live a few years longer. When my wife tells me off for having a bacon sandwich or a glass of wine I just say "I want to enjoy my life not just endure it for as long as possible." Btw the post mortem showed he'd died of a burst artery in his abdomen (Abdominal aortic aneurysm) which is unusual for someone so young.
This again reiterates the importance of ones health & looking after it but also living in the moment & realising that one's time here is finite. Witnessing a person about the same age passing away is a sobering experience without a doubt. I'm out of the workforce next April when I will be 62. Go anti-goals!
I retired at 30 leaving a lot of money and opportunity on the table. That was decades ago. I spent the first ten years becoming known as 'the guy who gets coffee'. Later, I decided to launch new businesses and hobby projects. Best decision ever ... as I still do whatever the fuck I want.
Thank you, thought provoking on this grey cold winters day in England. I am 66 in about 6 weeks and I am starting to think what my next chapter should look like.
Ha ha I have to completely agree with you- very little to disagree with. I’m 74 with a few illness but stay as fit as possible and live a life very similar apart from I still need challenging ‘work’ to test my mental abilities and to this end I have a consultancy that allows me to keep mental stimulus going without the pressures and torment of an actual business- I could not run a business the way things are. But yes have Anti-goals, take time out all the time, travel and meet people. Get rid of clutter and do things you want to do most of all get rid of stress. I used to travel a lot now I will not take a flight longer than 4 hrs and will not travel at any peak times. Cheers for the video was amazing.
very interesting video. i am glad the algorithm put me in your way. i m 50 and work when i want for 10 years (not that i dont need to work, but just as a way of life). i agree with your points. i undestood this chapters point before i left the financial industry .. i saw that if you devide your life by 10 years segments it suddenly looks crazy short .. i wish most of people would understand to live at least one single segment for themselves and not for the idea of being admired or socially approved by anyone .. my tip : no one watches us .. nobody cares.
Unfortunatly I've seen this a couple of times. Also my dad died at 49(2 pat of cigarettes.every day) I was 23 now I'm now 48 and spent my life doing ecerything that I wanted. Runing, sailing, riding motorcycle did some odd projects and most importantly raised a son 😊
Thank you, Nick. I'm soon 64 and lost my wife in very tragic circumstances in May 2023. Within 2 months I decided to retire; I had earlier been planning to retire at 64. I have moved to a smaller house 50 minutes from her elderly parents and closer to old friends; we play music together. "Anti-goals" sounds interesting, I'll think about that concept for myself.
I am 58, I am retired and my next goal is buying a house on Tenerife. I want to go there in winter, I can't stand the cold in Austria. There is always a goal, but I try to make them without stress or pressure. I think it is the way how you reach your goals, when you are older and retired, have a goal but take it easy.
I'm tracking to retire at around 40 and am running into what you described. Breaking it down in chapters is brilliant. My first chapter will be dedicated to my daughter and becoming a better musician.
Food for thought, and an interesting concept that life is made up of 7 year chapters. We must be almost exactly the same age if I calculate correctly. I'm retiring in five mont's time but have a departure lounge role which is pretty relaxed. Main goal will be to write my mémoires as well as record some family history, photos etc for the nipper. And take some better, more seriously thought out photos.
I'm 57 and already received a tap on the shoulder from the grim reaper. Turns out I am going to be ok after all. When you are staring death in the face all that matters is health, family, loved ones, being in nature and especially some kind of spiritual awakening. With the latter you can finally make peace with death.
A life goal, if chosen, should align with one’s purpose and potential, maximizing both personal growth and contributions to society. Logical pursuits are those that bring fulfillment without succumbing to fleeting emotional whims. It would be illogical to pursue goals without understanding their potential consequences or alignment with one’s core principles. Balance ambition with reason. I would emphasize the importance of self-awareness, logic, and the consideration of others in setting meaningful goals.
let's have a video on how you decluttered. After my father passed away I inhertited two generations of clutter on top of my own lifetime of junk. Trouble is, I'm so emotionally attached to it all.... like it all constitutes part of my identity. 👻
I'm the same. But the approach that works for me is: • Empty out a closet or shelf or cabinet completely. • Sort contents on the floor into 4 piles: 1. Stuff that you absolutely _must_ keep, regardless of use 2. Stuff that you need & use regularly 3. Stuff that you could have some use for, but very rarely 4. Stuff that you will not use or will not miss if it's gone Pile 4 is automatically discard/donate. If you're serious about decluttering, most or all of Pile 3 follows.
I'm a 57, semi retired American. I've yet to see Europe and Portugal is on my list. Like you, I'd prefer to go in the slow season with less people around. When is that and what specific area/s would you recommend?
I’m retiring at 58 next summer. Bought an apartment in northern Morocco 🇲🇦 close to the Mediterranean Sea . Will be enjoying life with a small private pension. Morocco 🇲🇦 is great value and at least 30% cheaper than Spain and Portugal.
My job is easier than it’s ever been and I should do another year or two to have a comfortable retirement but I think I’m going to cut the cord in May and have a more moderate retirement …. difficult decision but I’m not happy and as you said I have no idea how long I’ve got left
Apparently become manager of a large utility....... sigh. Im only 49 and this is the last move for me. The final push and pad my pension. I dont even really want to do it and will be fine staying right where I am but with all the turnovers there is nobody else who can do it. I no that sounds clique, but in this field, experience is everything and there is nobody.... Im the last man standing. I figure I will do it for 10 years and be out the door at 59. A few years later than I want but they need my help and it will make me feel good to prep the next generation to take over the wheel.
Maybe focus on training up a few younger members of the team for the next year or so and then quit? Life is too short to spend doing what we don't want to do and we are a long time dead.
great stuff i like the idea of Anti Goals ,but i never had any of note recently , i was in my younger days never very ambitious , even famous Mountain climbers have to come back down eventually , so reaching the top seemed like a waste of time and effort :} a goal if you can call it that was to be true to yourself
The end of Conan The Barbarian he sits on his throne thinking what now. That sums up the human being and the theme park mindset. The easiest way to enjoy your life is to be grateful your not dead yet and realise you could die any moment 😂 be the joker as Alan Watts might say.
Ènjoyed your video and message. Not sure about your anti-goals though. Just focus on what matters , not on what doesn't. Looks like health, family, new experiences, and simplicity for you?
That sounds like a terrible experience but something good at least has come out of it. I just went to take part in Our Future Health today and while the test results were not bad,my cholesterol and body fat is a bit high so my new year year's resolution will be to reduce these.
Just remember when you leave your workplace for the last time,nobody gives a crap what you did or who you were.Reality
I have no goals. I want nothing. I'm 61 and make $24 an hour. I pay my rent, phone, and buy food. I desire nothing. Nothing to do, no place to go, no goals, no debt. It's great
Retire from fulfilling other people's shonky and thoughtless expectations.
My mother died happy at 95 and a half. She was fully aware her body had reached its used by date. Having no parents to care for now I also have no one to be accountable to. Freedom to live like there is no tomorrow. No one to impress. Never had children. Each day is an adventure.
I effectively retired at 55, still do jobs to help out life long friends, just buried my dad, dementia took him a few years ago.
Im an only child and had to clear out his house myself, its just so frickin pointless and sad, everything he was is in a skip, nobody wants anything, Ive kept a box of stuff and I'll never open it.
Youre gone and forgotten within months..for ever, he outlived all his friends, wives and girlfriends by five years and it was five years of confusion and decay.
Ive got twenty years before it happens to me, Ive shut out all the dheads in my life, they dont care, but Ive realised I dont care about their families except for the few friends who are real, the ones who rang me when he died, helped me deal with the crap.
I look at all the crp I have, just putting it in the bin every day and not shedding a tear.
Great reflection. I’m 57 years old, I’m partially retired. I have to admit, I’m feeling a bit lost.
Your words make sense .
I’d like to find a group of trustworthy people I can talk to about these stages of our lives.
Set plans and goals for the year ahead fit in as much as you can life’s too short
Funny, I'm 57 and semi retired as well. Good luck to ya!
In one year, 5 of my friends and work colleagues died. None from old age. One very happy young man died right at my feet as paramedics worked on him in our office. I made a decision then and there that I was not going to spend the life I had left in an office cubicle. I put my plan in motion and retired at 59 1/2. I also removed myself from the extremely stressful and demanding American environment. Best decisions of my life!
3 years ago I watched my 72 year old father die fairly suddenly and ever since I've thought a lot about all his plans for his retirement and how short his retirement was. Some of his investments for his retirement matured this year, quite some time after his death. I turn 47 next year and I've really changed my perspective on living life.
Same but my dad passed at 62. Worked his whole life and never got to retire(whatever that means)
At age 80, I am in the epilogue of my life leaving all my life goals far behind. The only things that matter to me now are my family and my health. Thanks for your videos which I find mirror the experience of my retirement years.
Me thinketh I have heard it said it that the people that usually live well into their nineties end up that way because they., expected to live.........that long!@!?😉
P.S. Not sure if that meant., written down.........Goals!@?😁
At 35 y.o, the only thing that matters to is goals. Already told that won't be at the Xmas table. The contrast of our lives.
Exactly
Health is wealth.
Great video! At 65, still working because I love what I do, I just don't worry about how long I will be here or worry about missing out on something that I did or did not do. I do have a strong faith that we all go back to the spiritual world, which is much better than here, but that is just my opinion....who really knows?? I am blessed to be healthy and happy now - I live for the present and do my best to prepare for the future, but I just don't stress about it. People live and people die...there really isn't much you can do to change the flow of life! I have served in the world of healthcare (RRT) and have seen a ton of good and bad, happy and sad. It has given me a world of service of patients and working in incredible teams of other healthcare professionals, housekeepers, maintenance workers, etc., who have definitly enriched my life. I enjoy them all while I am here and wish them love and peace when I am gone!
Thanks, Nick. I needed this. After 30 years in retail, I had enough of dealing with people. Anti-goals are a great idea. Have a great break and Christmas.
Hi there mine was 25 years in retail before I'd had enough and I'm 56 today.
@lifeonthehighway6917 congratulations
@@spectrumwalkingtours Thank You, I even hold a glass plack award from the company. Merry Christmas from me Steve.
I retired from the rat race at 58. Best decision i ever made. The feeling of freedom is amazing. I was a manual worker all my life, sometimes working 80/90 hrs a week when the kids were living at home.( Dont know how i did everything then)
One thing we all have in common is 24 hours a day, and you cant buy any more than that. Use time wisely, do the things that make you happy. I love quality time with family and friends. I reckon i earned it.
So true
I just had my best job ever at 56, so now my goal is to keep it until I can retire at 69 here in Denmark. Unfortunately I don´t have a large pension to fall back on, so I need this job with a good pension to make it through retirement. I've been alone all my life except from when I lived at home, so I don´t dream about companionship anymore, I love to travel and see new things as well at reliving past memories. Good channel Nick.
I am exactly in the same situation. Difference is I don't like my job...
People are dropping like flies of these blood clots
My friend's elderly sis has arterial clots now..bizarre
Good point! Myocoinciditis is very big today, yes.
High sugar intake
@BrockBellegante Bill Gates sugar
@providahotwater7688 how do you determine that the cause is the "treatment", as opposed to the long-term effects of getting the infection?
When I was in my teens here in Oz, people would always ram down my throat, "hard work never hurt anyone!!!"
Mmmm, quite apparently they've never taken any notice of cemeteries.
People bust theirs guts for 40-50 years only to die broke.
IMO, work, apart from feminism, is the biggest joke ever foisted on earth's inhabitants!!!
There are no answers 'without'. All of the answers are 'within'. And "ego is the enemy".
Yeah, you bust your guts making someone else wealthy!
Yeah people having equal rights is a joke
Thank you for the great analogy. I, too, am on a 7 year cycle. My problem is that I stay in a chapter a year longer than I should! Your reminder has motivated me to open up that next one! Thanks again and best of luck in your book of life!
I'm 71, and all I hope and pray for is to outlive my dog. She's 4 and a half and an ex raceing greyhound.
All the best to you, Keith.
Me too! My dog is 11 and I am 75..
I've 22 rescued dogs in my house that I love dearly. I'm 65 n hope to have the same.
❤me as well…border collie mix is the sweetest and most loyal ever!!!!! Feel like she would not make it without me…and I feel the same way about her..
*racing. Basic grammar. 🤣
Interesting approach. I'm 66 and retired. I can see that I am falling into the trap that many older guys do, of becoming isolated. I'm happy to be solitary most of the time, and like the peace of it, but I also like to see people too. Without work, though, and especially without family as is my situation, it can be easy to end up hardly seeing anyone, ever. I'm quite content, but one potentially unhealthy aspect of contentment is that it can result in lack of any great impetus to achieve anything in particular. What do I want? To be healthy and fit, including mentally, and part of that is to find some kind of purpose to provide meaning. I'll add the view from the perspective of what I don't want; isolation to an extreme, and potentially cognitively unhealthy, extent. Cheers.
My mother died at 52; my sister, 18 mos. younger than me, died at 57. I am 65, turning 66 in March. I was retired from a job role that dissolved May 2024. Best thing that could have happened, because I would have stayed working (I loved my career) through next year.
Yes, I would have loved to have that time to sock away more savings.
But I am already past the expiration date for the women in my family, so I have no illusions that I will live to a ripe age.
My next chapter? What am I doing? Moving to France in May as a base to do all the European/Mediterranean travel I have said, for years, "I'll do it someday".
Really appreciate your clear, blunt (in a good way) takes on things, Nick. TY! And Happy holidays!
This resonates so much, I am glad I had your channel recommended to me, and would like to thank you for taking the time to make these videos. You are probably helping people more than you may realise.
That's a traumatic wake-up experience. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. My dad died suddenly at 74 too. Mom is 90 but completely bed-ridden. I'm retiring in two weeks, and I'm looking forward to focus on my health and spending time with family and friends, and hopefully traveling some. I'm fortunate that I can afford to retire.
I am about to retire in two years at 68... I think it's time to close this chapter, and hopefully open a new chapter. No goals except to be happy. 🙂
Very thought provoking and unfortunately it does take something tragic to make us really take action. I really like your anti goals, thank you. Happy Christmas!
I’m 66, retired 3 years ago. Best thing I ever did, love the freedom. I cycle as much as possible. I’ve bought my dream car and I’ve sacked a lifelong pal who has irritated me for the past few years. What makes me want to live life is that once you’ve gone, you’ve gone. We’re lucky if the generation below our kids will even remember us. Kudos for your tattoo though which I presume pays homage to your late dad and his number in the force. Nice one.
Happy Christmas, enjoy Portugal and enjoy the serenity.
Another great video and thought provoking as it’s difficult to find something meaningful at times, so removing unwanted and meaningless things, events etc is a good start
Get right with God. Many of us spend our entire lives, seeking pleasure while never asking ourselves the three most important questions. Where did I come from? What am I doing here, and where am I going. If there is a creator, I think we at least owe him that.
Just turned sixty in August. I'm eating healthy and working out/exercising. The rest can take care of itself. Or not. I'm not concerned about it.
So fascinating. This reminds me that several years ago I came across the ancient philosopher Solon, who also postulated that our live runs in 7-year intervals.
Thanks for the videos, your experiances are helping my decision making! Aged 54 and looking forward to 55! Start of my next chapter...maybe!😊
Nick….Let me recommend a life goal for you….Learn how to do CPR!!!!! You never know when you might need to use it…
😂👍🏻
Hi Nick, Very good video and message here. I really like the anti goal method and Im going to try this as always find setting goals very hard. Cheers abd Happy Christmas, Stu
I live day by day with no plans. My military ways has taught me to never plan and shoot at the hip. adapt, react, overcome. When I do make plans, I make sure my six is covered in worst case scenarios. Then I just go with the flow. Life is precious and it’s best to live it one day at a time with no goals or finish line.
Oooh can i borrow that please? "Adapt, react and overcome"
What do you mean your six is covered ?
Also, shoot. At the hip meaning?
He means his back
Nick that must have been traumatic for you. My two best friends died recently. Late 2022 and early 2024. I think about them both several times a day. I definitely don't take life for granted anymore. I try and enjoy every moment. Going back to Portugal for two weeks in May and another two weeks in September. It looks nice where you are. I haven't been more south than Lisbon. Have a nice Christmas.
Nice beach ! we have the same at the end of our road and on it most mornings,dreaming of sailing a boat round the Med just need to convince my partner that’s the main thing. Always have dreams of things you would like to do that’s the secret of keeping happy ,also I love playing the guitar and improving plus learning new things,be grateful for what you have.
I wholeheartedly agree with your perspective on life and I’d love to be able to do what you do but I’m a pensioner living week to week with no savings, constantly on the verge of going into the Red at my bank. But hey, it is what it is and I make the most of life. I’m glad to see you making the most of your life and wish you more chapters. 👍🏻
I retired at 65 earlier this year. Enjoying your insights into how to approach this chapter!
Was unceremoniously retired in May at 63 when the CEO of the company ran the company into the ground so 30% of us got laid off. I have money for retirement. Mom lived to 98, Dad to 68, my brother to 75. I am in no way as fit as they were but no medical issues. Will do some traveling. Not sure what else. Known too many guys that died before retiring.
Good reminder!👍
Agree with you, Nick. Its a time to clear away the inessentials and get real. Thanks for the videos.
Great video. Thank you for sharing that story and your insights.
My friend wow you are speaking to my heart ❤️
Anti-goals...very good. I'm going to run with that. Cheers, from Australia.
My life is a movie and im the Star and i die in the end of the movie .its a true story 😊😊😊
75, I am having a go at composition 🎶 A lifetime of music need not be wasted. I love how a real piano is a totally different experience to an electronic keyboard. One can have a conversation with the real one because each one responds uniquely.
Thanks for sharing the Anti goal approach. I like that concept. Many times, we are so geared to being productive and we keep jumping from one goal to another, defeating the pleasure of retirement. My anti goal would be to stop doing that.
Four years ago I was watching television one evening and my mobile phone went. I saw on the screen it was the wife of my closest friend Pete. We'd been best friends for nearly thirty years. He'd watched my children grow up and they called him Uncle Pete. I'd been best man at his wedding (I was already married when we became mates) and I'd always played an active part in the lives of his children too. I was closer to him than to my own brothers. Her voice was shaking and she said 'I've got some bad news'. I thought 'oh, shit. Her dad has died' - as he'd been ill for a while. The she said "Pete is dead". I'll just take a break.
I'm back. She'd been out with the girls and come back to find him lying dead on the kitchen floor. He was 57. I jumped in the car and went straight up. The paramedics were just leaving and the police had just arrived. He was lying on the floor with a blanket around him up to his chest looking like he was having a nap. Except his face was grey. This was at about half eight in the evening and they didn't finally take him away until half two in the morning. We sat next to him all that while. Sorry I'm going on a bit but it helps to write about it.
I've been broken hearted ever since and feel the loss terribly. I could also write a lot about how grief counselling for people who've lost close friends, especially grown men, is very patchy indeed.
But a huge impact on me was the suddenness. I kept looking at his feet thinking when he put those socks on he had no idea that that was last time he'd ever put on a pair of socks. He had no idea he was living his final day. So now, although I don't do stupid things to consciously put my health and safety at risk. I had a brother who died of a cancer caused by drinking too much and smoking. But I try not to deny myself any pleasure or experience just in case it's bad for me. I don't do things that are a misery or a chore just because it'll be good for me or make me live a few years longer.
When my wife tells me off for having a bacon sandwich or a glass of wine I just say "I want to enjoy my life not just endure it for as long as possible."
Btw the post mortem showed he'd died of a burst artery in his abdomen (Abdominal aortic aneurysm) which is unusual for someone so young.
This again reiterates the importance of ones health & looking after it but also living in the moment & realising that one's time here is finite. Witnessing a person about the same age passing away is a sobering experience without a doubt. I'm out of the workforce next April when I will be 62. Go anti-goals!
I am 54 and still 13 years ahead for my retirement. I feel gutted.
Same here at 53
I retired at 30 leaving a lot of money and opportunity on the table. That was decades ago. I spent the first ten years becoming known as 'the guy who gets coffee'. Later, I decided to launch new businesses and hobby projects. Best decision ever ... as I still do whatever the fuck I want.
Im 60 surrounded by clutter and crap but I get so tired to go through this stuff
Best of luck getting it out of you're life one drawer at a time not easy and happy music blaring
Throw it out!
Thank you, thought provoking on this grey cold winters day in England. I am 66 in about 6 weeks and I am starting to think what my next chapter should look like.
In England you work pay your taxes and die😂
Hi well said and u have certainly made me move my life forward 🙂
Ha ha I have to completely agree with you- very little to disagree with. I’m 74 with a few illness but stay as fit as possible and live a life very similar apart from I still need challenging ‘work’ to test my mental abilities and to this end I have a consultancy that allows me to keep mental stimulus going without the pressures and torment of an actual business- I could not run a business the way things are. But yes have Anti-goals, take time out all the time, travel and meet people. Get rid of clutter and do things you want to do most of all get rid of stress. I used to travel a lot now I will not take a flight longer than 4 hrs and will not travel at any peak times. Cheers for the video was amazing.
Retired at the old age of 42: after 25 years of service in the military; at the very least I will 😅enjoy, take life 1 day at a time.
very interesting video. i am glad the algorithm put me in your way. i m 50 and work when i want for 10 years (not that i dont need to work, but just as a way of life). i agree with your points. i undestood this chapters point before i left the financial industry .. i saw that if you devide your life by 10 years segments it suddenly looks crazy short .. i wish most of people would understand to live at least one single segment for themselves and not for the idea of being admired or socially approved by anyone .. my tip : no one watches us .. nobody cares.
Unfortunatly I've seen this a couple of times. Also my dad died at 49(2 pat of cigarettes.every day) I was 23 now I'm now 48 and spent my life doing ecerything that I wanted. Runing, sailing, riding motorcycle did some odd projects and most importantly raised a son 😊
Thank you, Nick. I'm soon 64 and lost my wife in very tragic circumstances in May 2023. Within 2 months I decided to retire; I had earlier been planning to retire at 64. I have moved to a smaller house 50 minutes from her elderly parents and closer to old friends; we play music together. "Anti-goals" sounds interesting, I'll think about that concept for myself.
I am 58, I am retired and my next goal is buying a house on Tenerife. I want to go there in winter, I can't stand the cold in Austria. There is always a goal, but I try to make them without stress or pressure. I think it is the way how you reach your goals, when you are older and retired, have a goal but take it easy.
I'm tracking to retire at around 40 and am running into what you described. Breaking it down in chapters is brilliant. My first chapter will be dedicated to my daughter and becoming a better musician.
Food for thought, and an interesting concept that life is made up of 7 year chapters. We must be almost exactly the same age if I calculate correctly. I'm retiring in five mont's time but have a departure lounge role which is pretty relaxed. Main goal will be to write my mémoires as well as record some family history, photos etc for the nipper. And take some better, more seriously thought out photos.
I'm 57 and already received a tap on the shoulder from the grim reaper. Turns out I am going to be ok after all. When you are staring death in the face all that matters is health, family, loved ones, being in nature and especially some kind of spiritual awakening. With the latter you can finally make peace with death.
Really good video. Thanks.
A life goal, if chosen, should align with one’s purpose and potential, maximizing both personal growth and contributions to society. Logical pursuits are those that bring fulfillment without succumbing to fleeting emotional whims.
It would be illogical to pursue goals without understanding their potential consequences or alignment with one’s core principles. Balance ambition with reason.
I would emphasize the importance of self-awareness, logic, and the consideration of others in setting meaningful goals.
Great advice - anti goals. I'm almost 68. Certainly taking that on board. Cheers 👍
Retired myself 12y ago, at 50 yo. Watching Der Untergang des Abendlandes from a safe distance.
Appreciated. I need your help.
Good one!
Right now , my goal is to create a lot of amazing art
let's have a video on how you decluttered.
After my father passed away I inhertited two generations of clutter on top of my own lifetime of junk.
Trouble is, I'm so emotionally attached to it all.... like it all constitutes part of my identity. 👻
I'm exacly the same.
I'm the same. But the approach that works for me is:
• Empty out a closet or shelf or cabinet completely.
• Sort contents on the floor into 4 piles:
1. Stuff that you absolutely _must_ keep, regardless of use
2. Stuff that you need & use regularly
3. Stuff that you could have some use for, but very rarely
4. Stuff that you will not use or will not miss if it's gone
Pile 4 is automatically discard/donate. If you're serious about decluttering, most or all of Pile 3 follows.
It's a great idea nick to get away from this uk Christmas madness I really don't like this time of year I'll be so happy when it over
I'm a 57, semi retired American. I've yet to see Europe and Portugal is on my list. Like you, I'd prefer to go in the slow season with less people around. When is that and what specific area/s would you recommend?
I’m retiring at 58 next summer. Bought an apartment in northern Morocco 🇲🇦 close to the Mediterranean Sea . Will be enjoying life with a small private pension. Morocco 🇲🇦 is great value and at least 30% cheaper than Spain and Portugal.
I have a pet theory that 'Flying', causes a lot of health problems.
Agree!
I am 65, make a life goal every year that is realistic and will increase my quality. It works well.
Great idea. Care to share a couple of your yearly goals?
If you want to get away from crowds come to Culebra island, Puerto Rico, in October or early November. Bliss
Another great video. Thanks, Nick. 👍
If we trust the Lord Jesus there is no fear of death. Death just changes our address
People live like they'are going live forever.
Save it for the Pulpit!
Thanks very much
It's all a load of bollocks, and dissappear in puff of smoke, that's life
Inspiring. I like the 7 year concept. Thank you. Merry Christmas. Enjoy time with your son, wife and Portugal.
Remember you can die everyday at any moment even when your young !!it are just the facts of live!
The age at which one could die at any time is the moment of conception: life brings with it a 100% probability of death. Act accordingly!
My job is easier than it’s ever been and I should do another year or two to have a comfortable retirement but I think I’m going to cut the cord in May and have a more moderate retirement …. difficult decision but I’m not happy and as you said I have no idea how long I’ve got left
Thank you for the reminder..."In The Game of Life, death wins every time--it's undefeated." --Author Unknown
I have found 'now' is always the perfect time not to do something.
Apparently become manager of a large utility....... sigh. Im only 49 and this is the last move for me. The final push and pad my pension. I dont even really want to do it and will be fine staying right where I am but with all the turnovers there is nobody else who can do it. I no that sounds clique, but in this field, experience is everything and there is nobody.... Im the last man standing.
I figure I will do it for 10 years and be out the door at 59. A few years later than I want but they need my help and it will make me feel good to prep the next generation to take over the wheel.
And who will remember you, or thank you, for another 10 years of your limited time doing something you have no desire to do? NOBODY.
Maybe focus on training up a few younger members of the team for the next year or so and then quit? Life is too short to spend doing what we don't want to do and we are a long time dead.
great stuff i like the idea of Anti Goals ,but i never had any of note recently , i was in my younger days never very ambitious , even famous Mountain climbers have to come back down eventually , so reaching the top seemed like a waste of time and effort :} a goal if you can call it that was to be true to yourself
Anti-goal. What a great idea! I like it. Nick, wish you and your family a merry Christmas and happy New Year!
Wow love the location..where is it in Portugal please ??
Vale do Lobo, Algarve
@nickjmaher thanks for that Nick..happy Christmas 👍
The end of Conan The Barbarian he sits on his throne thinking what now. That sums up the human being and the theme park mindset. The easiest way to enjoy your life is to be grateful your not dead yet and realise you could die any moment 😂 be the joker as Alan Watts might say.
What does it mean ve the joker? Also can u point me to that Alan Watts video abt the joker?
I like this concept, and I'm looking forward to your video(s) on this subject.
Very useful video (second half), thank you.
I bought my first bike at 63❤❤ I wish I could work a few more years
When you positive think of death that's life exactly
Ènjoyed your video and message. Not sure about your anti-goals though. Just focus on what matters , not on what doesn't. Looks like health, family, new experiences, and simplicity for you?
Great video Nick, very thought provoking. Keep up the good work.
That sounds like a terrible experience but something good at least has come out of it. I just went to take part in Our Future Health today and while the test results were not bad,my cholesterol and body fat is a bit high so my new year year's resolution will be to reduce these.
A very good video I have never heard of the concept of anti goals .I will subscribe. So I can see your future video on this.Thank you
Hello Nick.. beautiful beach .. where is it exactly may I enquire? Love your videos !
Vale do Lobo, Algarve
Marry Christmas Nick.
An "anti-goal" remains a goal, you're still on the merry-go-round.