When you're not invited
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Have you ever introduced two people to each other and then they hang out without you.....
Amelia de Groot all the time
maybe they just wanna hook up
IKR
Amelia de Groot yes, and I try not feel left out b/c there is no problem w/ them being friends
Amelia de Groot I'm like "I CREATED YOU''
My friends forgot about my birthday one year. They all went out that day and didn't invite me. I have great friends lmfao
wow thats soooo sad xD
DaBagelSquad you've found the treasure trove of friends
DaBagelSquad same 😂😔
DaBagelSquad lol I have a friend who forgets her own birthday! Let alone others' xD
Kokila Mandlam 😂😂
Anna why are you so relatable
Caleigh Hart Read my comment again.
Honesty and Openness
yeah i barely get invited to anything at all so......
I invite you to google 'ghost hug' and feel the love :-)
The Other...
I'm gonna show up uninvited to this google ghost hug. I wanna feel the love too.
Thats cos you dont have any friends bruh
Nishchal Sadaram
I agree tho.
Miki TheGiraffe
You need to go out and socialise. I had a friend who doesn't do that at all. And shes also know for throwing tantrums if she doesn't get her way. Anyway, she didnt socialise with anyone other than me and my other friends and then when I got invited somewhere she starts crying. I was new a year or two ago and when I got invited somewhere she said "Why are you invited??!! You haven't even been in the school long. I should be invited not you!".
Let's just say we aren't friends anymore.
Anyway what I'm trying to say is make more friends. And people don't actually think badly of you, how they view you is much better than what you think.
Vayona Narekuli uhh thanks guys for trying to help it is very kind but it was just a joke i do have friends thank you though for trying to help you are very kind for the advice
i know its more sensible to think "oh they just forgot me" but i still violently throw myself into a pit of self loathing. ie. "oh my god they dont love me, our friendship is a lie, they actually secretly hate me and wont tell me why. im going to die with nobody that genuinely likes and appreciates me"
Actually what your best friend did was pretty cool, instead of freaking out and feeling sad for being left out, she asked you if there was a mistake, even opening the dialogue in case you had a reason not no invite her. THAT is some good advice to follow.
Right but my ego wouldn't allow it sadly😭 I don't want them to think that I'm dying to hang out with them & give them any pleasure if they left me out on purpose.
When I'm not invited to things, part of my brain will get all upset and mad, but the rest is just happy I can stay in and not have too do anything. So is the life of an introvert.
My best friend has a new friend. They do things together, sleepover, tea party and brunches, and obviously left me out of it.
I was out of the country.
that sounds like it could be a movie
I'd want Anna Akana to play me in that movie
shesNearandFar Wow, the exactly same thing happened to me
And how is that wrong of her...? You weren't there anyway.
shesNearandFar I have the sameeeee Problem
Think of it this way. If you're not invited, then that means you didn't have to waste your time hanging out with people who don't even care about you in the first place.
I am THIS close to actually sign up to audiobooks and I dont even need it. Stop making these catchy ads at the end.
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*pleaase dont*
I signed up & only used for 1 month...just don't forget to cancel your account when you stop using it or else they're gonna keep charging you
I just use one of those prepaid visa cards with no money in the account, and use codes for free trials for a month. I got Fullscreen and RUclips Red that way, and then after the month ends, they're like... "SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH YOUR CARD."
I wonder whhhhyy... I totally didn't put a prepaid visa card with no money in the account on file or anything.
It's even worse when your friends are planning something right in front of you and you don't get invited 😞
It's happened to me before 😂
//ari// and it WaS MY CrUsH
happens to me everyday
Those aren’t your friends
Twice to me.
It happened to me and I just pretended that I am not interested but it really hurts. At least my close friend noticed me and said that I should come but she is not the "host" but I told her thanks but no thanks even though I really want to come
I was just invited to go out and have drinks. But I feel like taking a nap and never waking up. I don't know what to tell them. "Yeah I rather sleep than see you" Depression is my party tonight
*EDIT* Thanks for the support! I didn't expect a response! You motivated me to get up and get going. It was a tiny group, we had a great time and I feel so much better. I can now say that RUclips commenters once helped me out when I felt really low haha. Thanks for taking the time to reply. Have a great week!
I think I can understand what you feel. If they are close friends, just tell them, they should understand.
Hope you'll feel better soon ;)
Moon I know that feeling, but going out is actually the only way to get out of depression folks
Aww I know that feeling. It's not fun. I'm sorry you feel that way. I hope you feel better :) If you're not having fun today, there's always tomorrow ;D
I'm in the cab going to see my friends now. I'd never thought I'd get responses. Your comments and encouragement really helped. Thank you guys! I hope you have a great week!
No problem!! I'm so glad I helped! I try to help as many people as I can :) It's amazing to know I helped :)
Have fun! :D
I'm having a birthday party Anna, you're welcome to come. Do you like dinosaurs? Do you like facts? Do you like walking? I won't spoil it.
I love Anna's self-prep voice👍👍
When you have FOMO but at the same time love your bed way too much...
the worst thing is when people are talking about things theyre doing together where you can hear them bc then you know they dont want you to come but they havent forgotten about you bc youre right there
Same! That's just plain weird and peculiar to me because they are your friends. For instance, I just noticed that one of my friend's brother just got married last night because I saw his photos of the wedding and dinner. That really hurt me because everyone that I know was there, but not me. Also, sometimes I notice when I hear a few of my friends talking about a surprise party (that I always happen to know that person for the longest time), whenever I get close to them, I always sense that they immediately switch to another topic and pretend they weren't talking about anything "important". OR, when they see me walking towards them, they would all be silent and one of them would just say, "hey". But i would immediately get the picture. Why? Because this always happens to me, and its super frustrating. This is only the case of having friends though. My family, however, they love me very much, so they always invite me to many events. But still, it's not cool and it feels horrible to be "ignored".
Jose Acosta I feel you so much ughhh
it feels beautiful when you are happily swipping your finger on your instagram and BUM it magically appears a photo of all your friends at a party... when they told you that they wont get out of their houses that day... yeah my friends are the best
That's just plain cold, especially when you've known your friends for years (6 years to be exact) and you don't get invited to a wedding with all of your friends that you've also known for years...
Something slightly different but somewhat related... happens to me often. I have an issue where I know certain friends of mine make other friends of mine feel out of place or uncomfortable, so I sometimes make plans and invite specific people based on this knowledge instead of inviting them all. Every blue moon, one of them will bring it up and it becomes super awkward.
Oh man, I've done that before and it totally blew up in my face, but in my defense, one of the individuals totally overreacted. Resulted in her not talking to me for years.
That's shitty. I've never lost a friend over that before, but I lose friends all the time over my views. For example, I recently had a friend say "If you don't speak out about sexism or racist, then you're a bad person as well" o_O. I simply reply saying "I think they should be allowed to think how they want as long as they aren't going out of their way to harm others" and then I lose friends haha. Regardless, hope you and your friend make up if you haven't by now.
lol I agree with your friend
So you think sexism or racism isn't wrong? uh that's a pretty fucked up view
and saying blatantly racist or sexist things is going out of ones way to harm others.
To put it more eloquently: I can sort of understand people having that stance, though I don't agree with it. It is important to educate and inform people of problematic views that can affect the lives of people in ways they may not realize. It may not be direct, or aggressive, or violent, but there are stances that come from a purely negative and misinformed place (ie. racism).
Whenever I'm not invited, I sit back, drink a beer, pull the dog up next to me, watch a movie, and watch the hilarity unfold on social media as my mates stagger into drunken stupidity. I then turn off my phone on the off chance they think to call me for a ride home or bail money (rarely happens thankfully). Best part, get up early go for a walk with my dogs and then call my friends and invited them out for breakfast and listen to the sounds of their retching over the phone.
Umm timesinfinity LOL... that's evil... maybe I should try it one day
It helps to have a natural dislike of socializing for more than one or two hours.
Thanks for saying this. I’m reading your comment 6 years later. Friends went out last night, but I’m up today and feeling good, not hanging around with a wicked hangover all day. I needed to be reminded that is what’s more important, plus I had a peaceful chill evening at home last night.
I was once left out of something with two people I considered very close friends...I later discovered they weren't very good friends at all and so I now firmly believe every cloud has a silver lining. Even if that cloud houses two so-called friends with backstabbing tendencies.
captaincavewoman
I may have at one point been on of those kinds of friends. But me and the other person had our reasons. The person who we excluded tended to have outbursts and tantrums that ruined everything. We tried to help her as much as possible but she wouldn't let us and it got to the point where we were in danger. She would punch and kick and we told her that it had to stop but it didn't. Everytime we tried to unfriend her she would throw another tantrum and deny it completely.
I'm not saying you thriw tantrums. But they have plausible reasons. Its best to go and find yourself some new friends.
Yeah, honesty with yourself and honesty with others is best. ^_^
When I don't get invited to things I feel absolutely destroyed, when I forget to invite people to something I feel 100% the exact same as not getting invited to something + embarrassed
I love it when I offer to hangout with my friends and stuff, and they say they have homework, so I just say "That's alright!" and then I go on snapchat and see they're all hanging out and hosting a sleepover with the caption "With the squadddd" like oh, ok ;-;
i still remember not being invited to my friends birthday party in 5th grade... i went to her place with a gift just because and there i saw all the people having a party and most of them where people i did not even know where friends with her ... i still feel the sting in my heart ...and i'm almost 24...
“my friends don’t intentionally leave me out” lol mine DO
Imagine being her friend and you forget to invite her to something you go on her youtube channel and you see "When you're not invited" lmao
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I do the same thing, my anxiety is bad so I get upset when my friends hang out and don't invite me.
Me too
My friends make plans in front of me and the whole time they just pretend I'm not there.
When you don't even have friends so you cant get excluded
She ALWAYS makes an ad look so interesting! She's totally creative!
once i got invited to a party and all my friends were coming and i was really happy, because i don't get invited to parties that much, but then the girl who was holding the party made a friend of mine tell me i was not invited any more, because a guy that was coming did not like me and he was more inportant. it was really sad.
Rosario gonzález omg 😢
Last year not a single one of my "friends" invited me to their sweet sixteens. And this cycle of not being invited to hang out or be at social events continues! I'm not sure how to break this cycle, since I invite them to hang out with me all the time and I try to be considerate of everyone's feelings. However, my feelings are often ignored.
Edit: I just texted one of my friends about it and I'm so nervous but I'll see what she says.
Honestly, if you're putting in effort to invite people and try to hang out with them but they don't give even the minimum of effort in trying to hang out with you, then you should talk to them about it. If they don't listen or blow you off, they're terrible friends.
Definitely look for new friends! Join a club or a sport etc. Because really, they didn't invite you to their big party!? That's just messed up!
adoresessy101 I'll try to talk to them about it but I'm worried it will make my relationship with them more awkward and they'll feel attacked.
Get new friends!
It's better to talk to them and see if it improves because at this rate it honestly couldn't get worse. They didn't even invite you to their big parties.. and that's a big deal! Hopefully they can understand your feelings and change things. If they feel attacked and don't change, like everyone said maybe it's time for new friends. You shouldn't spend your energy on people who don't do the same.
I liked how you made yourself laugh at the end of the advice. Sometimes you entertain more than you teach. A lot of times both! Stay awesome.
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Thank you for all your videos Anna, You're so creative and talented.
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The beginning part with the lipstick is basically my entire inner monologue when I'm putting on my makeup lmaoooo
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I cry. This is relatable from beginning to end
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It's Beethoven's 9th symphony 4th movement
I get mad hot FOMO and my self-medication was to start pushing myself to plan things that I would want to be invited to. Maybe someday I'll be that Cool Friend that everybody always has fun with and wants to hang out with.
Thanks Anna, I think I can Handel it now.
Thanks, Anna. Good advice!
Most of the time I wasn't invited to parties or reunions because I didn't have money. My "friends" for uni liked to hangout in a pub but it was so expensive and far from home. I still don't have money but I found new friends that don't care at all about it :D.
Planning things like crazy is totally a solution! I've been doing that recently because I'm gonna be traveling for a month soon and it's been awesome. No fomo here (for once)!
Thank you for bringing back the stay awesome again
I took this concept even farther - I make fun backup plans even when I'm the one inviting everyone to hang out. That way I don't have to feel miserable in case if everyone cancels and I end up alone. Sad this is - I've had to use this strategy. More than once. :/
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Thank you for this
I've been on both sides, both the one to be left out, and one to be uninvited
Love the editing 😍
Anna, My Son introduced me to your website. I truly enjoy your stuff. You can really make me laugh and your pretty much correct in most everything you say, like 99.9%. Too bad I didn't have you around when I was a young girl. I think your awesome and hope you continue. You make the world a better place. May God bless you 10 Fold, from the top of your head to the bottom of your toes. I'm sure God gets a good laugh each and every time. YOU MAKE PEOPLE HAPPY! For that, you deserve your heart's desire.
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Anna your impressions are gold!
A nice example of Hanlon's Razor, usually put as, "Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity," or more politely "Don't assume bad intentions over neglect and misunderstanding."
Literally me and I'm so annoyed with how shy I am because I literally just stand there and don't have the guts to ask them why I wasn't invited.
because it just shows you mean a lot if they forget about you
i always love your sponsership messages. thanks for being awesome.
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they might intentionally exclude you you never know
Her fox dress is adorable
why are you so relatable.....
You are so cleaver!! Love your videos
Anna Akana makes me feel good :)
Her dress is so lovely! *-*
I have to say that's not great advice because well, then your friends stop inviting you to things because they assume you're busy. And then when you accidentally don't have something to do because of cancellations or whatever, you're left alone... FOMOing...
So I'm working on actually consciously keeping myself a little bit available so that I am able to accept invitations and start to change my reputation as the girl who you don't need to bother inviting, she's probably already busy. NOPE I have scheduled some unbusy time all prepped for spontaneous fun! :D
Your visual comedy is great 👏🏽
I died at the end... just died...
its like you have hidden cameras in my life. i was literally talking to my friends about this today lmao
i relate to this on a spiritual level
Not the way i thought it was going to end 😂
GIRL I NEED THAT DRESS
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Stay awesome, Anna.
Great advice Anna! I'll try it out lol
"I'm anna akana, stay awesome Gotham," my fav line idk whyyy
she is so funny and crazy at the same time, and I love it!! she puts me in a good mood! :-)
One time my friend told me he'd give me a ride home from a meeting that was 30 mins away. I went to the bathroom, told him, but then I walked out into an empty parking lot.
your fox dress is super cute!! ♡♡♡
Keeping yourself busy helps keep your mind off your problems , but eventually it reappears
That's what I do! I schedule as much friend hangout I can stand.
that friend of yours is awesome
this used to really bother me when i was younger, and it would really take it to heart. But now im older, i keep turning things down because of work making me tired and i just want to be alone. I know i shouldn't really be this way but without it, i'd have no time to just be in my own space and be calm.
Sounds like a good idea to me Anna!!!!
The mirror high five is genius ^^
Anna, i hear you.
dude, this music tho XD I'm crying
LMAO THE INTRO THO quality content
I love that you're as paranoid as I am. Cuz I thought I was a little bit crazy but you make me feel a little bit less crazy more normal or we are both crazy.
LOVE YA, ANNA!!!
I've soooo gotten into the habit of inviting myself to things because I get left out all the time.