I definitely stand by The Negativity part. It's always so exhausting having to be there for a friend who never sees the goodside of anything and just drains your Energy all the time making you as their journal and putting all their stress on you.
Also you are who you hang out with . So if you have a friend who hangs out with drunks druggies and other people who get in trouble. I realized I outgrew a friendship as we have nothing in common. She talks about the past . She married a guy who is a druggie and drinks a lot. And now most of her friends are like that. After my divorce I worked a lot I made my goal to make my money and retire. This girl never was there for me. I have my girlfriends from work we all worked hard I’m a different person and I realized I outgrew her. And it’s ok to let people go. .
I'm so tired of being the only one who listens to my friends problems. I love to listen but no one ever lets me talk. Fuck that. I'd rather be alone then drain my energy that fast.
Complaining attracts negativity so don't be too much of a listening ear if they go through a hard time it's alright like a loved one passing away a break up a sickness, but if all there is to them is constant drama it will only get bad for them
This is really helpful, I needed to hear this today! Great video! Sometimes it’s not a dramatic or toxic reason, sometimes you just change and grow apart from old friends. I don’t ghost, but some people just drift away and that’s okay. Others grow with you. No guilt for letting go!!💕💕💕💕
I agree with all the 7 signs that you gave. I always love you're prospective on subjects as well. People need to learn that a friendship is build off trust, and honesty. If you don't have trust or honesty in a friendship it can make two people grow apart, and go on their separate ways.
Was left out of a group event that hurt my feelings. I didn't say anything, but it is making me realize we have outgrown the friendship and the group has become toxic
There are a couple people that I trust looking through all my stuff. Other than that, it's no one's business. I'm over unreliable friendships. If you resent someone needing you to get them anything during a crisis, or an emergency, you aren't a real friend.
I recently had a "movie montage" moment and saw a friendship filled with moments of being used. Yeah peace out. 22 years down the drain but that's okay. Btw they still owe me $475 🤷♂
It's all so relative. I've recently lost someone to cancer and I feel like I am not even allowed to be disappointed about my friends not showing up, because suddenly I'm the "negative dragger" that no one needs in their life, I'm overwhelmed and can't give anything and my communication skills are really less than what I know them to be. I don't have the capacity to reach out to someone who doesn't show initiative. So I am to blame? Of course I can shift my attention to other people. But is it wrong to expect something of a friend of 10 or 30 years? I feel like if someone is only there for good times that's just an acquaintance and not a friend.
Yes, yes, yes!!! After graduating college, I find the theme of outgrowing friendship a reoccurring thought in my life right now. I needed to find videos like this to validate my feelings on outgrowing friends.
This was scarily accurate. I’ve had a best friend for nearly a decade, and we’ve been there for each other when nobody else was. But now, I think the friendship has run its course.
@@Jean-ni6of this is kind of funny to see when u dont at all know the person's situation. i do not talk much to my friend of ten years, simply we dont match anymore. i would also know how exhausting it is to deal with a 'old friend' who isnt at all, a friend. we outgrow just as the video suggests
I’m so glad I found this!!!! Needed to hear every single point here. Friendship grief is just rough especially as you get older :( Thanks for your honest thoughts!!
This video was honestly the best out there! Thank you x Initially I wanted to break up with my best friend of 7 years but U think your 2nd to last point of being clear about how the friendship should move on is better. She is a good person but honestly I'm tired of feeling drained. Thank you again xx
Hmm this is great advice. Thanks for posting this😊. I’ve had this experience before with a teammate of mine after leaving the sport we were both in together. It just got harder to share common interests or find things to talk about after that no longer being in the same sport together. But I guess from what you said about if you’re not losing friends, you’re not growing up is true. Losing friends I guess is just part of life.
What a nice a video!! I realate a lot w 7th one. They'll always make fun of high ambition or success, always focus on what's going wrong, a total pity party, always gossiping about celebrities, what's viral etc. I feel so drained ! Loved your video , love you ❤
Thank you 🥺 you made a big difference by making this. Thank you for helping me, sincerely. It’s such a hard time but I have to know I’m making the best and healthiest decision.
I agree with the quote. It doesn't say 'if you're not losing ALL your friends'.. You wouldn't have made this video if you would still be friends with all of your friends, right? 😃
Apparently a certain friend needed me to stay miserable at my job, continue self medicating with alcohol and not work out because as soon as I chased a professional dream got sober and became fit it messed with our friendship. Bro no one put a gun to your head and made you settle for a job spending all your free time on escapism✌
Hiii! It's actually a romper! I got it from Marshalls ❀ LOL But if you search 'white and red floral romper' on Amazon, you'll get two very close options!!!
I definitely stand by The Negativity part. It's always so exhausting having to be there for a friend who never sees the goodside of anything and just drains your Energy all the time making you as their journal and putting all their stress on you.
THIS IS ME RN. I need to leave
I left many of my relationships because I knew that I was the “complainer” and didn’t want to dump on anyone anymore till I can fix my own life.
me
Also you are who you hang out with . So if you have a friend who hangs out with drunks druggies and other people who get in trouble. I realized I outgrew a friendship as we have nothing in common. She talks about the past . She married a guy who is a druggie and drinks a lot. And now most of her friends are like that. After my divorce I worked a lot I made my goal to make my money and retire. This girl never was there for me. I have my girlfriends from work we all worked hard I’m a different person and I realized I outgrew her. And it’s ok to let people go. .
I'm so tired of being the only one who listens to my friends problems. I love to listen but no one ever lets me talk. Fuck that. I'd rather be alone then drain my energy that fast.
Complaining attracts negativity so don't be too much of a listening ear if they go through a hard time it's alright like a loved one passing away a break up a sickness, but if all there is to them is constant drama it will only get bad for them
I know we feel this way at times, but I think it would be kinda crappy to toss a friend out that was with you during tough times.
I keep them in distance.
This is really helpful, I needed to hear this today! Great video! Sometimes it’s not a dramatic or toxic reason, sometimes you just change and grow apart from old friends. I don’t ghost, but some people just drift away and that’s okay. Others grow with you. No guilt for letting go!!💕💕💕💕
I agree with all the 7 signs that you gave. I always love you're prospective on subjects as well. People need to learn that a friendship is build off trust, and honesty. If you don't have trust or honesty in a friendship it can make two people grow apart, and go on their separate ways.
Yes! Trust and honesty come from communication in my opinion. That's why I'm a firm believer that communication is key! :)
Build People UP; Not Toxic; Caring
I dropped many after having a stroke n i outgrown alot of people! I saw they was too negative and i saw me putting in too much in the friendship.
100% agree on the outlook on life point.
Was left out of a group event that hurt my feelings. I didn't say anything, but it is making me realize we have outgrown the friendship and the group has become toxic
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tried searching something on youtube and this video randomly popped in - oh my, you have no idea how much i needed it!
I hope that whatever you're going through passes quickly. :) We're all here to support you!
This popped up in my recommended, maybe This a sign
There are a couple people that I trust looking through all my stuff. Other than that, it's no one's business.
I'm over unreliable friendships.
If you resent someone needing you to get them anything during a crisis, or an emergency, you aren't a real friend.
I recently had a "movie montage" moment and saw a friendship filled with moments of being used. Yeah peace out. 22 years down the drain but that's okay. Btw they still owe me $475 🤷♂
Youre soo pretty, i love your vibe and thats good advice!😁💙
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It's all so relative. I've recently lost someone to cancer and I feel like I am not even allowed to be disappointed about my friends not showing up, because suddenly I'm the "negative dragger" that no one needs in their life, I'm overwhelmed and can't give anything and my communication skills are really less than what I know them to be.
I don't have the capacity to reach out to someone who doesn't show initiative. So I am to blame?
Of course I can shift my attention to other people. But is it wrong to expect something of a friend of 10 or 30 years? I feel like if someone is only there for good times that's just an acquaintance and not a friend.
Yes, yes, yes!!! After graduating college, I find the theme of outgrowing friendship a reoccurring thought in my life right now. I needed to find videos like this to validate my feelings on outgrowing friends.
Outgrowing friendships can be really difficult to accept! Whatever you're going through - you're not alone. ♥
It gets worse as we get older. Just enjoy people for the moments you have together and se e where it goes
This was scarily accurate. I’ve had a best friend for nearly a decade, and we’ve been there for each other when nobody else was. But now, I think the friendship has run its course.
Same here
Don't give up on old friends.
@@Jean-ni6of sorry, but I am ❤❤❤
@@Jean-ni6of this is kind of funny to see when u dont at all know the person's situation. i do not talk much to my friend of ten years, simply we dont match anymore. i would also know how exhausting it is to deal with a 'old friend' who isnt at all, a friend. we outgrow just as the video suggests
The 3rd sign is spot on. Would you be friends with them if you met them today? That's the only question we need to ask ourselves.
I’m so glad I found this!!!! Needed to hear every single point here. Friendship grief is just rough especially as you get older :( Thanks for your honest thoughts!!
This video was honestly the best out there! Thank you x Initially I wanted to break up with my best friend of 7 years but U think your 2nd to last point of being clear about how the friendship should move on is better. She is a good person but honestly I'm tired of feeling drained. Thank you again xx
Ahh! I'm so happy you found this helpful. :) I'm wishing you the best with your situation. Please take care of yourself. ♥
Are you feeling better? Have you left a friend? I want to know because I have outgrown a friend of mine that is in my class.
Hmm this is great advice. Thanks for posting this😊. I’ve had this experience before with a teammate of mine after leaving the sport we were both in together. It just got harder to share common interests or find things to talk about after that no longer being in the same sport together. But I guess from what you said about if you’re not losing friends, you’re not growing up is true. Losing friends I guess is just part of life.
What a nice a video!! I realate a lot w 7th one. They'll always make fun of high ambition or success, always focus on what's going wrong, a total pity party, always gossiping about celebrities, what's viral etc. I feel so drained ! Loved your video , love you ❤
Thank you 🥺 you made a big difference by making this. Thank you for helping me, sincerely. It’s such a hard time but I have to know I’m making the best and healthiest decision.
My friendship with larissa i got hurt i need help
I agree with the quote. It doesn't say 'if you're not losing ALL your friends'.. You wouldn't have made this video if you would still be friends with all of your friends, right? 😃
Apparently a certain friend needed me to stay miserable at my job, continue self medicating with alcohol and not work out because as soon as I chased a professional dream got sober and became fit it messed with our friendship.
Bro no one put a gun to your head and made you settle for a job spending all your free time on escapism✌
refreshing! subscribed :)
Hey girl! where did you get your top from? looks really nice! xx
Hiii! It's actually a romper! I got it from Marshalls ❀ LOL But if you search 'white and red floral romper' on Amazon, you'll get two very close options!!!
@@KaitlinDigrispino Oh nice! thanks :)
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Hope this could help you in any way. :)