How to HURT a narcissist the most

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  • Опубликовано: 25 окт 2024

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  • @TK.000
    @TK.000 10 месяцев назад +37

    Another thing they will do is want to "take care of you". Quit your job so you're completely dependent on them.

    • @robin2319
      @robin2319 2 месяца назад +4

      Or work your ass off to support them and they would careless how tired you are from it

  • @freeyourselfoftoxicity
    @freeyourselfoftoxicity Год назад +48

    No contact is the best thing period.. theirs others out there that can meet your wants and needs. Stop wasting your time in one way relationships period.

    • @juliusnielsen7122
      @juliusnielsen7122 2 месяца назад +1

      That's what it is.
      You don't want to waste your time on hating. Any form of a reaction is attention that nourishes them.

    • @liliaaaaaaaa
      @liliaaaaaaaa 4 дня назад

      You'll probably find they've got a whole harem of other creepy acolytes they've chosen to mutually creep after behind your back, I just did. They live in an alternative reality fuelled by their lizard brain, so don't expect anything from them, & disengage & don't provide anything to them either, it will only be twisted & used against you. There's literally no point having any emotional attachment to them of any description, no point investing in the limerent fantasy they create to keep you hooked, before discarding you & minimising you every time. They will literally have a whole host of other backup supplies hiding behind the scenes, ready to replace you.

  • @etaokha4164
    @etaokha4164 Год назад +47

    Walked away yesterday

    • @angelav8039
      @angelav8039 7 месяцев назад +5

      Stay strong! It’s a hard road to go down especially when u start unraveling what your mind blocked out. I cannot explain it in any other way except those memories are a mystery because you were spiritually taken out of that situation. I am by no means a religious person. I believe, I trust and most of all I can see Gods work when I look back. Just know some almighty force had your back. Please don’t go down a rabbit hole of “how could they have done this”. This is not your that. You were made strong for a reason. You are amazing, you are a beautiful soul, spirit and person. You are loved and you will always be alright and for all this you will always come out stronger than before!

    • @afol4016
      @afol4016 4 месяца назад +5

      For me it was a few weeks ago. I WILL NEVER ACCEPT NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AGAIN!. I WILL NEVER ALLOW THEM TO MAKE ME FEEL WORTHLESS EVER AGAIN. EVER.

    • @matikramer9648
      @matikramer9648 3 месяца назад +1

      🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀

  • @davidemm829
    @davidemm829 Год назад +39

    Wooden smile, wooden heart...not in competion with anyone..never used, stopped compliments and walked..interspecies predators who do not live in reality, horrid, glib, smug, just being near her is like being near a killer..I've been near killers at a job I had as a social worker, the vibe is like nothing you've ever felt..ty Danielle

  • @forrestoverin9462
    @forrestoverin9462 4 месяца назад +14

    Spot on. Disengage. Narcissists don't follow any rules of fairness in a discussion, so it's pointless to try.

    • @johnnycorn7225
      @johnnycorn7225 Месяц назад +1

      Yup they're only rule is to make their opponent suffer, no desire for anything good

  • @JUMPforyourLIFE
    @JUMPforyourLIFE 10 месяцев назад +20

    No contact absolutely makes you feel better after your trauma bond is broken. You gotta stay strong for yourself, and your family. These people will drive wedges between you and anyone you love. Be careful.

    • @afol4016
      @afol4016 4 месяца назад +3

      THEY WILL TRY EVERYTHING TO SLITHER BACK IN TO YOUR LIFE LIKE THE SNAKES THAT THEY ARE. IGNORE THEM. DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE!

    • @JUMPforyourLIFE
      @JUMPforyourLIFE 4 месяца назад

      @@afol4016 they try everything and when nothing works they try still. Truly a pathological disorder. No awareness. No empathy. No logic.

    • @matikramer9648
      @matikramer9648 3 месяца назад

      I concur

  • @callmeishmaelk767
    @callmeishmaelk767 Год назад +11

    Truth. If you were interviewing and the interviewer flew into a rage because you didn't have the qualifications, you'd be justified in thinking they were a nut. The narcissist wants you to be the whack interviewer.

  • @LSTime2heal
    @LSTime2heal Год назад +11

    Just finally walked away today. After 8 months!!! Gained 60 pounds back after losing it dealing with this person and all the feelings (and eat them there was ALOT)

  • @mhondreezziiee
    @mhondreezziiee Год назад +16

    I also roasted him about being broke 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @evebellydancerr
    @evebellydancerr Год назад +13

    I told him to stop playing mind games and looking for me as if he were innocent, also I mentioned that I knew his game and modus operandi perfectly. He got too scared 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @robin2319
      @robin2319 Год назад +3

      The discard will be his nect move

    • @evebellydancerr
      @evebellydancerr Год назад

      ​@@robin2319 I ended the Relationship 8 months ago but he keeps on trying.

  • @pixelnazgul
    @pixelnazgul 5 месяцев назад +10

    They're humanity's enemy no.1

  • @daniellee1722
    @daniellee1722 Год назад +14

    I remember going to a casino with my narc brother. I won $60 and he broke even. I was young and naive so I didn't think nothing of it but him being moody during the ride back to our hotel ... yeah he was not happy.
    Over $60 tho? Come on bro 😂

  • @robin2319
    @robin2319 2 месяца назад +3

    Its been a year no contact my God its so wonderful to be without a narcissist

  • @flyingsaucer1268
    @flyingsaucer1268 Год назад +16

    been there, done that.....

  • @mariewilliams194
    @mariewilliams194 Год назад +8

    Narcissistic people hate if you say don't be a arrogant bully. You are a nasty piece of work. In front of people. Or if someone says you are arrogant repeatedly in front of people they get very upset.

  • @robin2319
    @robin2319 Год назад +22

    When i told him to step up and do something for me ,anything? He discarded me

    • @steadypace1262
      @steadypace1262 Год назад +8

      If you ask for something specific the narcissist will make sure you don't get it.

    • @danaparfitt2491
      @danaparfitt2491 Год назад

      ​@@steadypace1262like a ❤in a text

    • @francalatona591
      @francalatona591 10 месяцев назад +3

      @steadypace1262 That is absolutely true. Narc didn't ask but expected, demanded , late at night after I had gotten my pajamas on, to go to the store and get them snacks and whatever other stuff they wanted. Even though they were home all day watching TV and playing games on their tablet. I said, "Look at me. do I look like I'm going to go anywhere? I was busy all day. No I said absolutely not! "Get up, get off your game playing and TV watching and get in your car and get your own stuff!" Boy, they didn't like that. And you can never ask them to go to the store for a few items. It's like they're totally inconvenienced. They might pick something up something if they happen to be going out for themselves. And I reminded them of that too. They heard me. But they don't give a hoot it went over them. I'm just done with all their damn crap games, PERIOD!

    • @steadypace1262
      @steadypace1262 10 месяцев назад +4

      @@francalatona591 Me too, narc's especially the covert types have shocking double standards and their mean/nice cycle is so manipulative. Take care and put yourself first in a quiet way as narc's are on to everything with their mind games.🕊

    • @racebannon96
      @racebannon96 10 месяцев назад +6

      His gift to you, he left. Now you have a more peaceful life.

  • @heaven-is-real
    @heaven-is-real 5 месяцев назад +3

    i was thinking that if I was nice to them they would stop. Instead it made the abuse WORSE. When I told them how much it hurt me they LAUGHED IN MY FACE.

  • @grzegorz9700
    @grzegorz9700 Год назад +15

    I am very grateful that you run this channel. You helped me a lot after narc ex girlfriend damped me. Thank you!

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 Год назад +11

    I totally agree. Cut off all forms of supply which you have so perfectly described Danielle❤ Thank you. God bless you❤

  • @ianstewart942
    @ianstewart942 Год назад +8

    I did this ,oh didn't I get a reaction. A vile nasty response. Including a use of a knife,slashing my tyres on my car.

    • @emmsue1053
      @emmsue1053 9 месяцев назад +3

      Never "challenge" while alone. Report your damage to police.

  • @nobnos4010
    @nobnos4010 Год назад +5

    10 months no contact living my best life, struggling but progressing in my trade, I felt my logic returning and self worth accumulating worth I know I'm doing better now than when I decided to end this nightmare. I'm still a shell of my former self, but different, rather than lesser than, I feel I have increased.. furthering my consciousness.

  • @oceanelf2512
    @oceanelf2512 5 месяцев назад +5

    Yes.
    But then they start trying to destroy you by use of their "friends".
    I didn't know what was going on with my ex-friend who screwed up my life for four years, until it was all over, and I happened on videos about narcissists, and realised their descriptions fit this chick like a glove.
    But something else about narcs is you might think it's over when you go no-contact, however, the narc will resurface in the form of people you don't even know, who will harass you for that narcissist.
    The only regret I have concerning the narc in my life, is everything positive I ever said/did to/about/for her. If I'd known she was not only hopelessly childish and selfish, and proud of it, but especially that she is a cyber-bully and a troll, I never would've given her the time of day.

    • @afol4016
      @afol4016 4 месяца назад +1

      THEY ALL DO EXACTLY THE SAME THINGS! THAT YOU SEE HERE. YOU HAVE TO ESCAPE. MOVE. DON'T LET ANYONE GIVE THEM YOUR ADDRESS!

  • @patriciavandevelde5469
    @patriciavandevelde5469 Год назад +12

    Put their names on the Internet to warn other people

    • @NikkiGRocks4Ever
      @NikkiGRocks4Ever 4 месяца назад +5

      It would be amazing to warn others about narcissists by having a world wide registry.

    • @pamelagibson470
      @pamelagibson470 3 месяца назад

      ​@@NikkiGRocks4Everthat's a fantastic idea but nobody could ever get through the whole list of all the❤😂❤😂❤😂❤😂❤ names names names names

    • @NikkiGRocks4Ever
      @NikkiGRocks4Ever 3 месяца назад

      @@pamelagibson470 Yes, I understand. They are evil. I wish all the good people could be warned somehow.

  • @andrewbeckman7687
    @andrewbeckman7687 7 месяцев назад +4

    shame and fear are often unconscious drivers of behaviors that disserve them. Bringing gentle attention to the sneaky ways that shame shows up is often the first step toward living a more authentic and satisfying life.
    Shame - that gnawing sense of being flawed, defective, and unworthy of love - drives us to construct a self that we think (or hope) will be acceptable to others. Being rejected, banished, and humiliated are among the most painful human experiences. We may perpetuate our anxiety and exhaust ourselves trying to use our intelligence to figure out who we need to be in order to win the acceptance and love that we crave. Rather than relax into our natural, authentic self, we twist ourselves into knots in order to belong and feel safe.
    When our experience has taught us that it’s not safe to be authentic, we labor long and hard to design and polish a self that we think we be acceptable. For some people, this might be trying to showcase our cleverness, beauty, or sense of humor. For others, it might be amassing wealth or power to show the world how “successful” we’ve become. We may strive to be better than others or special in order to be loved.
    Trying to be someone we’re not is exhausting. Many of us have been so driven by shame to create a false self that we’ve lost touch with the goodness and beauty of who we really are.
    Shame and Authenticity
    Shame and authenticity go hand in hand. If we hold the core belief that we’re flawed, then this mental/emotional construct colors who we are and what we present to the world. Shame conditions us to lose touch with the spontaneous, joyful child within us. Life becomes serious business. Internalizing the message that there’s no room to be our authentic self, with its strengths and limitations, we move away from ourselves. Our sense of self-worth can only grow in a climate of affirming who we are, which includes validating the full range of our feelings and honoring our needs, wants, and human foibles.
    As we come to recognize when shame is operating and how it holds us back, it begins to loosen its destructive grip over us. Gradually, we can honor and stand behind ourselves, regardless of how others might judge us. We realize more and more that we have no control over what others think about us. Holding ourselves with respect and dignity becomes increasingly ascendant - displacing our real or imagined thoughts about how we’re being perceived by others. We discover how freeing and empowering it is to be our authentic self.
    The limitations of language make it difficult to talk about authenticity. The “authentic self” is really a misnomer. It implies that there is some ideal way of being and that we need to find our authentic self, as if it existed apart from our moment to moment experiencing. If we cling to a construct in our mind about what it means to be our authentic self, we’re missing the point.
    Being authentic is a verb, not a noun. It’s a process of mindfully noticing the ever-changing flow of experiencing inside us, apart from the contaminating influences of shame and our inner critic. We give ourselves full permission to notice what we’re feeling, sensing, and thinking in this moment of time - and we’re willing to congruently show that when it feels right to do so.

  • @alishabrooks654
    @alishabrooks654 5 месяцев назад +3

    His control is winning custody of our 3 yr old. Long story, pure evil

  • @racebannon96
    @racebannon96 9 месяцев назад +4

    Excellent video. I had to watch it again. Thank You

  • @bradmcewen
    @bradmcewen Год назад +7

    Emotional intellectuality seperated by emotional wants may be some's first goal. Then the same tactics that exact a "revenge" are really the same as what gives you clarity, no contact sobriety from the traits and as stated in vlog will drive them deservedly into a decompensation depression. Its built into their cycle. They already pinned you into a corner to service their need for supply & rewarded your loyalty with pathological malevolence. This is all on them. Other than in a comment section recovered targets can only feel no F's given for them. They are the epitome of empathy exploitation.

  • @jammyjay917
    @jammyjay917 4 месяца назад +3

    Thank you for your videos ❤❤ they are so draining, and hard work... i have walked away thankfully

  • @mhondreezziiee
    @mhondreezziiee Год назад +4

    It hurt him like crazy 😂😂😂😂😂he was crying.okay I admit im evil

  • @ashnoel38
    @ashnoel38 5 месяцев назад +2

    Yes! I walked out of our marriage and haven’t spoken to him since. 8 months ago. Took myself off of social media. Blocked everywhere. It’s like I never existed. Best thing I ever did. I heard from others that he destroyed his house when he found out I was gone. Rage fit. I don’t regret leaving him at all because I know that I wouldn’t be alive if I had stayed. ❤️

  • @toporosas110
    @toporosas110 4 месяца назад +2

    thank you danielle,
    and im not sure if its a misery loves company thing but its comforting to see that other people go through this as well not only that im seeing people talk about managing to get over this type of person

  • @darly63
    @darly63 4 месяца назад +1

    100% spot on 👍

  • @Piscesmermaid
    @Piscesmermaid 4 месяца назад +1

    This is what I needed to hear. Thank you x

  • @nikalyn5398
    @nikalyn5398 5 месяцев назад +1

    I unfriended him on every platform and now I'm asking myself if that is giving him pleasure like "wow I triggered her so hard, she unfriended me" .. but I hope it was the right decision... Seeing him on social media with the new supply hurt me a lot

  • @darrelschulte6214
    @darrelschulte6214 Месяц назад

    I learned that the hard way 😢last time I blew up at the narcissist that is in my life, I caught her out of the corner of my eye, grinning like a cat licking cream. Haven't paid a bit of attention to her since, and my son says that she is so livid mad at me now that she gets just furious

  • @anthonytownsdin
    @anthonytownsdin 8 месяцев назад +1

    wow that was so spot on. thank you for all your help very greatful.

  • @philipmulvihill1455
    @philipmulvihill1455 Год назад +1

    this the best one you have ever done 👍 TREMENDOUS just TREMENDOUS 👏👌❤️

  • @randydavis7718
    @randydavis7718 Месяц назад

    Excellent Video 👍 Accurate and to the point. Been there, done that. Move On, NO Contact. 15 years ago. Great Advice 😁

  • @Starrynights0304
    @Starrynights0304 7 месяцев назад +1

    Love all her videos

  • @grantaugustyniak6667
    @grantaugustyniak6667 9 месяцев назад

    Calmly call them out - oh that works - been there & done it !

  • @aliceroberts1980
    @aliceroberts1980 Год назад +4

    Their already hurting their in misery If you just remember that it doesn’t make you feel better

  • @rlic9206
    @rlic9206 7 месяцев назад +2

    My wife is one, big time. I told her she was a narcissistic.
    Her response, that I was one, her phycaogist said I was.
    You can't take these people serious. They will self inflict injury if no witnesses are present, its just the two of you.
    Always record them. Smart phones are great.

    • @afol4016
      @afol4016 4 месяца назад

      Put one phone in your pocket to record them. Have the other on the table. They are "not smart" and they won't "know."

  • @pjdavis4420
    @pjdavis4420 10 месяцев назад +1

    Yep u took my absence away no contact now using new supply to make me upset 😂

  • @anandanabila8439
    @anandanabila8439 9 месяцев назад +3

    Yes move on

  • @youtubeguy22
    @youtubeguy22 Год назад +3

    You ain't lying! GNC! Btw..Damn you're pretty

  • @trainwithme4290
    @trainwithme4290 Год назад +2

    I think this narcissist thing is going out of hand.

    • @racebannon96
      @racebannon96 10 месяцев назад +1

      Consider yourself very fortunate that you have not had a narcissist in your life and they try destroying everything you have built or obtain.

  • @ianstewart942
    @ianstewart942 Год назад +2

    Totally agree. ❤

  • @MrsGray-jd7wc
    @MrsGray-jd7wc 3 месяца назад

    He won't leave

  • @Imnotyourdoormat
    @Imnotyourdoormat Год назад +5

    POKER play em...

  • @afol4016
    @afol4016 4 месяца назад +1

    Prepare yourself for a SHOCK. YOU WILL SEE I N S A N I T Y. YOU MAY THINK YOU HAVE SEEN IT ALL. YOU HAVEN'T. BE PREPARED. BUT DON'T LET THEM SCARE YOU. BECAUSE THAT'S THE WHOLE IDEA. TO SHOCK YOU, SO YOU WON'T CHALLENGE THEIR ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR.

  • @gabesmaniac_9991
    @gabesmaniac_9991 2 месяца назад

    Thank you for this cuz my aunty has been hitting me for not doing things right 1st and she choked me before and grabbed me agressivly and i get motion sickness

  • @silviamihailova6042
    @silviamihailova6042 Месяц назад

    I did all that but too late, lost myself in this shit😢

  • @dominicread5261
    @dominicread5261 Год назад +3

    What if you go no contact and they have other supplies that are being used anyways from the narc in question will they even be hurting if you stop talking to them ever again? Im at my point I just went no contact for myself and too seek out a healthy life and be surrounding by loving and healthy happy relationships i was just curious to know whether they even care too hurt if you are in No Contact with them if they have other supplies. My ex narc shes attractive and lovebombs and stuff early on and is good at doing that and men easily influenced by sexual intercourse on top of it so she does that often early on...but the entire shitrelationship she was god awful mentally, physically, emotionally you name it for basically the entire thing and drove me really down. I also figured out later on what Narcissist were about and i called her out on it and then i left for some time going no contact and i think she went through a narcissist collaspe. I came back and only once because me being the empath didnt see or hear anything about her positing on social media or whatnot so i thought something happened to her. She started to be nice for a bit and tell me she missed me blah blah blah and it went right bad too terrible treatment and even worst so i left for real and just going through the trauma bond still. Its annoying and she smeared my name too everyone and lied about everything. I really don't feel like victims win until they somehow become happy again inside themselves... But after everything against the Narc that happened its brutal especially knowning these
    Attractive young women narcs can easily get guy(s) wrapped around them, just like my ex narc had done with me lol ... Its all just insane to be honest gonna heal again... Gonna take a while and really all of it not fair at all. Hate life at the moment :(
    Nice video information thanks 👍

    • @NG-zx3sy
      @NG-zx3sy 5 месяцев назад

      Female narcissist are everywhere. Grown up childs, spoiled and entitled. Stay away from them and be a happy man.

    • @afol4016
      @afol4016 4 месяца назад

      Listen. They have a genetic mutation in their brain. Seriously. Never look back or change your mind. You will Regret That !

  • @matikramer9648
    @matikramer9648 3 месяца назад

    A lot of thanks

  • @incognito595
    @incognito595 3 месяца назад

    ALMOST TWO MONTHS! YEAH! I TOLD HER SHE WAS A COVERT NARC! NEVER GONNA TALK TO OR SEE HER ABUSIVE FACE AGAIN, UNLESS i HAVE TO SHOW UP PHYSICALLY IN A COURTROOM, FOR HER COERCING ME INTO SIGNING A POWER OF ATTORNEY, AND COSTING ME MOST OF MY LIFE SAVINGS AND SERIOUSLY LYING ABOUT IT!I HOPE I CAN DO IT WITHOUT SEEING HER AGAIN. LEGAL CONSEQUENCES IS SOMETHING THAT SCARES NARCS, BEING EXPOSED PUBLICLY!

  • @sharonparis8916
    @sharonparis8916 Год назад +1

    Awesome

  • @mhondreezziiee
    @mhondreezziiee Год назад +4

    I insulted my narcissist and roasted him about his father dying😂😂😂?am i a narcissist as well....but he did me dirty

  • @KM-ic3qn
    @KM-ic3qn Месяц назад

    I put his toothbrush in the toilet
    And felt good about that lol.

  • @tonestallz9338
    @tonestallz9338 7 месяцев назад

    You know what? I have a kid with a narcissist..I got sole custody last week, and I went through so much evil things made up stories people I dont know..attacking me.
    Now that I have sole custody, I'm like I'm not gonna be hard on her..
    First thing she do is make up stories. Did not fight in court did not even show! Now that I have custody..and point out reality..whole attitude changed..
    It's crazy..just had to let it out somewhere, perfect timing I seen this video📣 😊😅emotions regulated! Rant over lol narcissist 😢love me. nunt uh not no more 🤚🚫

  • @cwade1824
    @cwade1824 Месяц назад

    Whst if the Narcissist isur boss adwill mot ket u ignore them?

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 6 месяцев назад +5

    Dont waste your life

  •  9 месяцев назад +1

    Just make sure you tell their girlfriend that they are a covert. Narcissist, make them look into it.

  • @laquilanda4751
    @laquilanda4751 Месяц назад

    i didnt invite her in my graduation that made her cry

  • @heatherbowman9450
    @heatherbowman9450 5 месяцев назад +2

    824 likes!💛💖❣❤

  • @mimimimi6808
    @mimimimi6808 5 месяцев назад +1

    I don't want to hurt anyone!

  • @Krystal620
    @Krystal620 Год назад +4

    🤗❤️

  • @afol4016
    @afol4016 4 месяца назад

    EVIL. LITERAL TRUE EVIL INCARNATE. YES. THERE IS SUCH A THING. YOU ARE SEEING IT. DON'T BE FRIGHTENED. THAT'S WHAT THEY WANT, TO STOP YOU FROM CHALLENGING THEM. THIS IS TRULY A SPIRITUAL BATTLE OF GOOD VS EVIL.THE DEVIL VS. GOD.

  • @grOwHIO937
    @grOwHIO937 3 месяца назад

    Spooky