if someone is an uneducated empath, the idiot narcissist will see them as a thanksgiving dinner 365 days of the year. because they will continue to work to make the relationship work, when it was destined to fail, no matter how much effort was put forth. there is nothing romantic or innocent about narcissism. unfortunately, you have to experience it to understand it. it’s all a disaster waiting to happen. only goes from fairytale to scary tale. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Not sure if i would refer to the narcissist as an idiot, more like a clever fox, stalking its prey. You are correct unless you experience these demons nothing is more abusive than to be entangled with a narcissist.
@@writeousone8749 that's too much lol. am just trying to share lived experiences and learned lessons. really appreciate the support from yourself and other folks in the community. -cheers, steven
Spot on! Saying NO and sticking to it and being willing to walk away at any point when they break your boundaries is key. Pushing you and trying to break your boundaries is highly disrespectful and if someone doesn’t respect you they don’t love you and never will.
The narcissist also looks for responsible and principled people, knowing they will be reliable and predictable, in addition to those other things. Because they know this type of person will strive to keep their commitments, won't judge the narcissist's behaviors too quickly trying to be reasonable, making it possible to string the prey along for the longest period of time, so "discarding" can be at the narcissist's timing.
Rarely happens. They typically skate through life unscathed. In fact more blessings bestowed upon these vampires I have witnessed. Hopefully they get it but rarely at best have i seen it.
@Den-pf5wz I've heard ao many stories to the contrary. And Ive seen so many experience the consequences of their actions. But it does take time. And helping delivering consequences ensures it.
@@Den-pf5wz nah, i watched it happen their "blessings" are bestowed by satan (he wants to see them fall) and they will and do. always, every time. that much you can COUNT on
I was so naive, so people pleasing, so raised not to set boundaries, or to say no, plus my insecurities, being an empath, issues I was prime game for the predator narcissistic, 40 years later, I am on to you!
Danielle, I like how you pull no punches, you tell it like it is. When I got involved with my ex I was in a bad spot and vulnerable plus being a people pleaser. She knew the right things to say and do. That’s history and I’ve learned to make and *enforce* boundaries. It’s been a long lesson but I think I’m on the better side of it now.
I was a true GIFT to my NARCISSISTIC THERAPIST since I was seeing her for the damage and aftermath of having a malignant father and a narcissistic mother that followed him closely. I finally quit sessions with a her after NO progress when I started feeling the SAME WAY as my parents made me feel~ just one example: TOTAL INVALIDATION, but so much more! She USED me for a lot of things outside the sessions. Your therapist should NOT engage with you outside of sessions! Just one rule she broke. I will stop now, but Ms. RADIN, I can't THANK YOU enough for all of the precise information you have presented on RUclips! You are an EXPERT!
It's so sad that so many good, kind, hard-working, positive people are snapped up by destructive predators. We would make excellent partners and great parents, and build wonderful families, if it were not for the narcissistic pulling us down at every turn. I was raised that if I was good, and kind, and sweet, and loving and trusting, I would attract a nice man who appreciated my goodness, and that we would get married and live happily ever after. NOPE. I was a sitting duck for a demon whose mouth was filled with lies. And the harder I tried to be perfect and wonderful, more more emotionally abusive he was.
@@hydrostatic8048 There shouldn't be a mystery, but unfortunately people go from communicative to unessasarily shutting down, which creates a mystery?
@johnmaurer2035 I agree ,in some cases what you say may be true,but in many cases money is truly a root of much evil. It shouldn't be that way, but people don't know how to control their desires and greed? Just look at the medical/ medicine industry. One chemo visit is 78,000 dol. when the medication is 28,0000? Someone is not being fare or equal? No wonder drs in this country are giving out medication that is bad for us. The system is wacked? This is only one of many examples?
Great analogy that made me smile and laugh, I was that antelope. Still got the leg scars but healing every day. Everything you say is true. Now aware of the people pleasing trait and working on it. Thank you for posting.
They know exactly what they are doing personality disorder or not everything they do after the fake love bombing stage is premeditated calculated and intentional. They should serve jail time for the despicable way they knowingly treats people.
*During that "Vulnerable Stage" or what the world calls OTR..."On The Rebound." Careful you don't get "NAWALT"-ed like I did. A long long time ago. In a galaxy far far away* ...
And that truth ain't flattering at all. He just found another victim and moved on it... I wish somebody would tell me about narcissism 20 years ago when I went hating myself, hating my parents, hating my ex.... and needed balance with finding reasonings, excuses and justifications for all of them... Damn, how much time and effort lost.... Only thing that is good - me and my children, we survived...
You completely described what I went through with the abusive narc! I would have luved to have seen this before I met the narc! Heavy I mean heavy lesson learned! Aaarg a BIG THANK YOU!
Is it possible to meet a true soul connection & for something to go haywire and for it to not work out? Maybe sometimes we have to accept that we will never know the reason or reasons why the person felt so real & ended up going in an opposite direction?
What do u do when its ur co-worker? I work with a toxic narcissistic woman. Rude, snippy & very verbally abusive. She was calling me weird names so i went to the supervisor & HR. Here is the kicker. The narcissist has a close friendship with my supervisor outside of work & the supervisor babies her. Because i have stood my ground, put boundaries down, & refused to be bullied, now the narcissist has turned the tables to make me the aggressor! The narcisstic playing the victim!! My supervisor said to me, "You Get Things In Your Head". I said if ur little friend wouldn't bully me, there wouldn't be a problem. I said I will stand my ground & will not tolerate her abuse! I continue to stand my ground!
As the non narcissist in my relationship, I have to take ownership of the fact that I am and have been a people pleaser, who hasn’t placed strong, unwavering and healthy boundaries in my life, and especially in my relationship. Not that narcissists respect boundaries either way, but not having them makes it too easy for them to dominate the relationship. Now I’m at the point in our marriage where I’ve had enough and I’m saying no. She is so used to not respecting anyone or their boundaries, and especially not mine. She could care less what I have to say, what I want, what I need. Especially if and when it contradicts her tyrannical vision and desires. She takes no real responsibility for our marital issues, and she found the perfect ploy to put all the blame on me, for the entire failure of our marriage. I admit, I messed up and was messaging other women, and somewhat pursuing one. I own that, and lusting after other women. But she certainly is not innocent, not in the least. But everyone will support her and see me as the bad guy. I know it. She claims she wants to try to make this marriage work, but that’s easy to say, when you are a master manipulator, gas lighter, lier, mentally, emotionally and psychologically abusive person, who knows how to hide it in front of other people. She’ll look like the poor woman who was cheated on, who just wanted to make the marriage work. A dedicated wife and mother, who was willing to go through months of couples therapy. I will be seen as the adulterous pig, who no longer wished to continue in therapy, who no longer wanted to try. That he just wanted to divorce so he could pursue other women, and abandon his family. All of this is of course a manipulation of facts, with plenty of whole lies. But people can believe what they want. I believe the truth will be revealed in time.
Yes I was very vulnerable for a variety of reasons. l knew after a few months she wasn't a woman I could trust ( she actually confessed her promiscuous behavior to me ) followed up by some bogus excuses... my brain knew...but my heart could not except...so I stayed and her behavior just got even worse...her lies n secrets were so obvious... frankly I'm not even sure ,she cared I knew they were lies...I actually suspect she enjoyed me knowing,yet staying... 3 years..I started to understand ( covert Narcissist) n PREDATOR.. it started to make sense...yes Sick but I understood...I slowly started to slip away...a slow 1 year process...7 months ago I spoke up 100% now I'm 100% no contact...my 1st full month was today ( 3/28/24 ) at 6:16am CT 😊
The easiest target to get, be fooled, be manipulated, be trapped. That new supply invited that narc guy into her life by posting herself in bikinis, swimsuit, lingerie to get his attention and validation (to get his Like on IG). She wanted the narc guy so bad and he needed supplies (attention, praise, shelter, money, citizenship, etc). Then she invited him for holiday abroad, took him to move in to her house, dating & hang out together everyday. She got what she wanted. In just 3 months she looked drain already.
He stole a substantial amount of money from me right under my nose and completely denied it tried to gaslight me by saying I must have mistaken where I put it told him no I know exactly where I put it. Waited 2 weeks fir an apology nope now blocked him and deleted him went silent on him before blocked him today. They know exactly what they are doing personality disorder or not
Is it possible to meet a true soul connection & for something to go haywire and for it to not work out? Maybe sometimes we have to accept that we will never know the reason or reasons why the person felt so real & ended up going in an opposite direction?
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if someone is an uneducated empath, the idiot narcissist will see them as a thanksgiving dinner 365 days of the year. because they will continue to work to make the relationship work, when it was destined to fail, no matter how much effort was put forth.
there is nothing romantic or innocent about narcissism. unfortunately, you have to experience it to understand it. it’s all a disaster waiting to happen. only goes from fairytale to scary tale.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
I love the ‘from fairytale to scarytale’.
Wisdom at its best 👍💪
Not sure if i would refer to the narcissist as an idiot, more like a clever fox, stalking its prey. You are correct unless you experience these demons nothing is more abusive than to be entangled with a narcissist.
@@writeousone8749 that's too much lol. am just trying to share lived experiences and learned lessons.
really appreciate the support from yourself and other folks in the community.
-cheers, steven
@@Den-pf5wz i have such a disdain for narcissists lol. calling them idiots is a "clean" version about how i really feel about them.
-cheers, steven
Spot on! Saying NO and sticking to it and being willing to walk away at any point when they break your boundaries is key. Pushing you and trying to break your boundaries is highly disrespectful and if someone doesn’t respect you they don’t love you and never will.
The narcissist also looks for responsible and principled people, knowing they will be reliable and predictable, in addition to those other things. Because they know this type of person will strive to keep their commitments, won't judge the narcissist's behaviors too quickly trying to be reasonable, making it possible to string the prey along for the longest period of time, so "discarding" can be at the narcissist's timing.
Final act is - when KARMA EATS NARCS. IT is ugly. Very ugly.
Rarely happens. They typically skate through life unscathed. In fact more blessings bestowed upon these vampires I have witnessed. Hopefully they get it but rarely at best have i seen it.
@Den-pf5wz I've heard ao many stories to the contrary. And Ive seen so many experience the consequences of their actions. But it does take time. And helping delivering consequences ensures it.
@@Den-pf5wz nah, i watched it happen their "blessings" are bestowed by satan (he wants to see them fall) and they will and do. always, every time. that much you can COUNT on
I was so naive, so people pleasing, so raised not to set boundaries, or to say no, plus my insecurities, being an empath, issues I was prime game for the predator narcissistic, 40 years later, I am on to you!
Danielle, I like how you pull no punches, you tell it like it is. When I got involved with my ex I was in a bad spot and vulnerable plus being a people pleaser. She knew the right things to say and do. That’s history and I’ve learned to make and *enforce* boundaries. It’s been a long lesson but I think I’m on the better side of it now.
Same thing happened to me.
I was a true GIFT to my NARCISSISTIC THERAPIST since I was seeing her for the damage and aftermath of having a malignant father and a narcissistic mother that followed him closely. I finally quit sessions with a her after NO progress when I started feeling the SAME WAY as my parents made me feel~ just one example: TOTAL INVALIDATION, but so much more! She USED me for a lot of things outside the sessions. Your therapist should NOT engage with you outside of sessions! Just one rule she broke. I will stop now, but Ms. RADIN, I can't THANK YOU enough for all of the precise information you have presented on RUclips! You are an EXPERT!
It's so sad that so many good, kind, hard-working, positive people are snapped up by destructive predators. We would make excellent partners and great parents, and build wonderful families, if it were not for the narcissistic pulling us down at every turn. I was raised that if I was good, and kind, and sweet, and loving and trusting, I would attract a nice man who appreciated my goodness, and that we would get married and live happily ever after. NOPE. I was a sitting duck for a demon whose mouth was filled with lies. And the harder I tried to be perfect and wonderful, more more emotionally abusive he was.
Why can't I meet someone like you & enjoy minimally a friendship.
Life is a mystery?
@@hydrostatic8048 There shouldn't be a mystery, but unfortunately people go from communicative to unessasarily shutting down, which creates a mystery?
I'm not interested in anyone's money, I'm interested in true real friendship and
Money amplifiers what you already are. It's not evil, in and of itself. Do you want $5,000,000?
@johnmaurer2035 I agree ,in some cases what you say may be true,but in many cases money is truly a root of much evil.
It shouldn't be that way, but people don't know how to control their desires and greed?
Just look at the medical/ medicine industry.
One chemo visit is 78,000 dol. when the medication is 28,0000? Someone is not being fare or equal?
No wonder drs in this country are giving out medication that is bad for us.
The system is wacked? This is only one of many examples?
@JacobCarlson-uq1my The World as it is. I've been broke and then comfortable. Gonna have more problems when broke.
@@johnmaurer2035 I do agree with that.
I'm no expert on the U.S. health care system, but I feel your figures are on the high side.
@@JacobCarlson-uq1my
If you're not used to getting played then its blind siding but awakening. I was blind but now I see...I have to do whats best for me 💗🙏🏼🕊️
Great analogy that made me smile and laugh, I was that antelope. Still got the leg scars but healing every day. Everything you say is true. Now aware of the people pleasing trait and working on it. Thank you for posting.
They know exactly what they are doing personality disorder or not everything they do after the fake love bombing stage is premeditated calculated and intentional. They should serve jail time for the despicable way they knowingly treats people.
I hope God will let me see her neverending fall. Amen
The only person you can change is YourSelf
*During that "Vulnerable Stage" or what the world calls OTR..."On The Rebound." Careful you don't get "NAWALT"-ed like I did. A long long time ago. In a galaxy far far away* ...
Ok you got me Charlotte
What's nawalted?
@@Ron-is5td [N] Not [A] All [W] Women [A] Are [L] Like [T] That "Not All Women Are Like That." 1 got me bad with that 1...Before I knew.
So true Prayers Psalm 23 -73🙏🙏🙏
I love your videos. You are so on point and funny. You help me keep going 💪🙏🏻
Agreed, Thanks 😊
And that truth ain't flattering at all. He just found another victim and moved on it...
I wish somebody would tell me about narcissism 20 years ago when I went hating myself, hating my parents, hating my ex.... and needed balance with finding reasonings, excuses and justifications for all of them... Damn, how much time and effort lost.... Only thing that is good - me and my children, we survived...
Thank you Danielle!
I was an easy mark.
My heart used to function and I used to want love.
The bitch won.
My heart is dead.
It's never coming back.
You're gonna let a mentally disordered person break your spirit? Stop it. It happens to the best of us. Pick yourself up and move forward.
Lololol ‘would you like my right leg too’….sad but true when we are under their spell…😵💫😵💫😵💫
I thought I fell in love and I made a huge mistake.
You completely described what I went through with the abusive narc! I would have luved to have seen this before I met the narc! Heavy I mean heavy lesson learned! Aaarg a BIG THANK YOU!
Is it possible to meet a true soul connection & for something to go haywire and for it to not work out?
Maybe sometimes we have to accept that we will never know the reason or reasons why the person felt so real & ended up going in an opposite direction?
Magic words to Use... You want Me to LEAVE You ALONE??? Then WATCH.❤
Absolutely right!
What do u do when its ur co-worker? I work with a toxic narcissistic woman. Rude, snippy & very verbally abusive. She was calling me weird names so i went to the supervisor & HR. Here is the kicker. The narcissist has a close friendship with my supervisor outside of work & the supervisor babies her. Because i have stood my ground, put boundaries down, & refused to be bullied, now the narcissist has turned the tables to make me the aggressor! The narcisstic playing the victim!! My supervisor said to me, "You Get Things In Your Head". I said if ur little friend wouldn't bully me, there wouldn't be a problem. I said I will stand my ground & will not tolerate her abuse! I continue to stand my ground!
Ha ha that girl is brilliant and funny too!😂
As the non narcissist in my relationship, I have to take ownership of the fact that I am and have been a people pleaser, who hasn’t placed strong, unwavering and healthy boundaries in my life, and especially in my relationship. Not that narcissists respect boundaries either way, but not having them makes it too easy for them to dominate the relationship. Now I’m at the point in our marriage where I’ve had enough and I’m saying no. She is so used to not respecting anyone or their boundaries, and especially not mine. She could care less what I have to say, what I want, what I need. Especially if and when it contradicts her tyrannical vision and desires. She takes no real responsibility for our marital issues, and she found the perfect ploy to put all the blame on me, for the entire failure of our marriage. I admit, I messed up and was messaging other women, and somewhat pursuing one. I own that, and lusting after other women. But she certainly is not innocent, not in the least. But everyone will support her and see me as the bad guy. I know it. She claims she wants to try to make this marriage work, but that’s easy to say, when you are a master manipulator, gas lighter, lier, mentally, emotionally and psychologically abusive person, who knows how to hide it in front of other people. She’ll look like the poor woman who was cheated on, who just wanted to make the marriage work. A dedicated wife and mother, who was willing to go through months of couples therapy. I will be seen as the adulterous pig, who no longer wished to continue in therapy, who no longer wanted to try. That he just wanted to divorce so he could pursue other women, and abandon his family. All of this is of course a manipulation of facts, with plenty of whole lies. But people can believe what they want. I believe the truth will be revealed in time.
Vulnerable and homelessness...
Yes I was very vulnerable for a variety of reasons. l knew after a few months she wasn't a woman I could trust ( she actually confessed her promiscuous behavior to me ) followed up by some bogus excuses... my brain knew...but my heart could not except...so I stayed and her behavior just got even worse...her lies n secrets were so obvious... frankly I'm not even sure ,she cared I knew they were lies...I actually suspect she enjoyed me knowing,yet staying... 3 years..I started to understand ( covert Narcissist) n PREDATOR.. it started to make sense...yes Sick but I understood...I slowly started to slip away...a slow 1 year process...7 months ago I spoke up 100% now I'm 100% no contact...my 1st full month was today ( 3/28/24 ) at 6:16am CT 😊
Great analogy and yes to all points!
If everyone gets educated up, we can them identify narcs by the hoif-marks in their foreheads
Dinner?
First tell me how u got those hoof-marks...
👍
The easiest target to get, be fooled, be manipulated, be trapped. That new supply invited that narc guy into her life by posting herself in bikinis, swimsuit, lingerie to get his attention and validation (to get his Like on IG). She wanted the narc guy so bad and he needed supplies (attention, praise, shelter, money, citizenship, etc). Then she invited him for holiday abroad, took him to move in to her house, dating & hang out together everyday. She got what she wanted. In just 3 months she looked drain already.
100% dead on
Thanks!
He stole a substantial amount of money from me right under my nose and completely denied it tried to gaslight me by saying I must have mistaken where I put it told him no I know exactly where I put it. Waited 2 weeks fir an apology nope now blocked him and deleted him went silent on him before blocked him today. They know exactly what they are doing personality disorder or not
I never met anybody like him in life i never know about nars😢
Learn to connect and invest your time and energy with like minded ppl that SHARE your energy not Steal it
So true. Ick.
I BORUGHT TH EMARCISSIT INSID E I WAS LOOKING FOR HOME REPAIR.
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We're you in the military?
Thanks!
Is it possible to meet a true soul connection & for something to go haywire and for it to not work out?
Maybe sometimes we have to accept that we will never know the reason or reasons why the person felt so real & ended up going in an opposite direction?