Use my Gorilla Mind code “DYLAN” or you will be lonely for the rest of your miserable days. Lol for real though, thanks for all the support recently guys. I read all my comments and appreciate each and every one of you ❤️
Hey dude. I come from a similar place. After years of being bullied from elementary school to highschool, I started resenting all my social interactions, and turned to music. I would spend 8 hours a day playing drums, and was held back a year in highschool. 10 years later, doing something similar, except with music production equipment. But you know.... I look back on my most rewarding moments in life, and everything anyone liked about me, I learned alone in a room. Maybe I am pushing myself a bit hard... but then again... I get very bored. Once you find out what you can create with all this time alone, life can get pretty exciting. I love to work hard on a project and create something I can take with me day after day. Your body is an example of that. Drinking for a crazy night isn't. I frankly don't have many friends because I will constantly outpace them, confront myself, build myself in very particular directions. And thus I figured out there's two ways an introvert like me makes friends. 1. Are you kind? 2. Do you share the same ambition as I do? For the second one, if you know your goals, and why you want to do it... then it's easier to align yourself with people. In a way, having your purpose figured out, will increase your chances of compatibility, and prevent this feeling of "What am I doing here? Am I wasting my time?" Because they will want to build up along side you. That's fucking worth it. Every time I figure out something about myself, and something about my purpose for being alive, I feel a bit closer to opening up to the right people. Take care of yourself brother.
I think lonelyness is a serious problem nowadays. We appreciate you being realistic in all of ur videos (at least i do) because you make me feel less exceptional because i notice alot of the things you do too. I hope you realise that too
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
I think people are a serious problem nowadays. Everyone self destructs their own life by LIVING online. Live your real life and get back to nature and do some real human shit. Plant a garden, chop down some trees, walk in nature, etc. Get back to being human
Please upvote this so it reaches him. Thank you. Hey Dylan, where are you? You’re in Utah right? We can meet up and doing something cool with my friends. I get it. I was depressed once for a long time. It can be rough, but getting out helps. I’m also LDS like you but just a couple years older. I understand your phase having gone through it and came out better on the other side. Dont hesitate to reach out.
Try this Dylan- make your social interactions all about other people. Don’t ever bring a conversation back to yourself. Ask about people’s interests, hobbies, hopes, friends, families, etc. It makes interactions meaningful. And people tend to seriously love people who show genuine interest in them. Get out of your head man. Try shifting your attention outward. It will add an incredible amount of value to your social interactions
Awesome advice. Another one is to take some coaching about communication and relations. I discovered that I have a copying mechanism and avoided genuine relationships because I had shame (because. I think of myself that I am egoistic). I took.Landmark coaching, but you take your own choice.
Dude you have a girlfriend and can confidently articulate your thoughts and have a personality on camera. You’re way ahead of most people. Also I can be your friend bro. I enjoy the weird videos.
Most adults have 0 friends. Every other generation this was normal. It's just anytime before modern internet people called aquantinces friends. It is normal for a adult to not be hanging with the boys everyday. It is normal for a couple to settle down and not be with their friends often. People on the internet now are so whiny about not having friends. It's like stfu that's the same for millions of us. You just felt like being insecure and whining about it.
@@G3RM3X617 This is only your experience. Its stupid to say having no friends is normal or preferable. I know many adults with many friends and they are usually the happiest people.
It's impressive how open and honest you are about your feelings. Some simple advice from an extravert: when you are with other people, don't think of it as you with a bunch of other people--it's. a bunch of people, one of which is you.
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
True, I believe that is because some of us enjoy solitude so much, because allows us to do whatever we want undisturbed and uninterrupted, but sadly before we know if unchecked happy solitude turns into loneliness!
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@jordanseay216 During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@dannytong8993 During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
I love being by myself. Always have, I think you have to love yourself to be happy with your life. Listening to other people can ruin your life, making yourself strong and believing in yourself makes you awesome….and you don’t have to prove anything to anybody.
Bro you inspire us all and im really happy to see that you made it this far! We are all going through this sometimes, its only important to have the right mindset!
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
Dylan, thanks for sharing and being transparent about this. I feel the same way in my social life. My friends always seemed to have that one best friend they could run to and hang out with on a whim, and I have always been the lone wolf. From chasing real estate investments, working out, and my career, I thought I was pushing people away. Now I have come to terms with the fact that it's okay to be alone and not have a "best friend" or a group of friends to hang out with on the regular! We appreciate you sharing this, and I think a lot of us can relate to this feeling.
Bro built like an anime character with all this random assortment of skills and no friends in all seriousness tho you have really been an inspiration in my own journey in changing my self image (your lateral raise short blew up my shoulders) I hope you can find your solitude in being alone or have success in creating new personal connections in the future
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@3z3O amen 🙏🏿 loneliness is a real struggle we’ll deal with and God never lied and said we wouldn’t. But he’s always with us even if it may sound cliche he is and we’re never truly alone
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
Man Ive felt this pain and its the worst just put yourself out there and make new friends even when it's uncomfortable it's definitely a skill. Keep making this content love it!
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
I’m a natural introvert as well. Sometimes I feel the creeping of loneliness set in, I however have 3 close friends. And even though, our lives are taking us all over this globe, we still call constantly and FaceTime. They are the sisters I always wanted as the only child and never got
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
I understand exactly what you feel. I have the same issues in my life. Sometimes I think this is a destiny, others a choice. To talk about loneliness is very much courageous.
Bro you’re honestly one of the most interesting and creative people. Your mind works in magical ways man. It’s a glitch we all get it. Especially feeling not present around friends. Only up from here man! Love you bro
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
being very lonely nowadays too.. tried to make friends but I never fit in groups so gave up.. been just focusing on myself: health and study and care my precious puppy hopefully dark times will change into better for everyone. Stay strong and never change just to fit in group. Be yourself
most people pretend to be someone they are not when out in public so its hard to relate to them or even like them but you'd be surprised how many people actually relate to you, i actually feel like i relate to you in many ways however, i can easily switch to acting extroverted or social when i need to (thanks to many years of working retail) you give me a little bit of homeschool/mormon vibes so I can see how it can be harder,but this is just an observation don't take it the wrong way please
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
Do you guys hear yourself saying “most people” over and over? Is this rebellious or something to do with needing to feel different because that’s better? Or maybe that being different is necessary to be better?
Honestly, I think it's just people these days. Betrayal is popular, backstabbing - in fashion. True friendship is rare. A lot of friendship are transactional or clicky, where you need to be a yes man to be part of a large friend group. That ain't me, hence my small circle of friends is... Well, small. Completely normal dude, but I wouldn't get too complacent about it.
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
I feel bad for having misjudged you when I first saw you in one of your videos, now I see that you are a very humble person and that even a person like you can go through bad times and complicated things in life sometimes. I wish you the best, greetings from Venezuela 🤝🏻.
Honestly im always caught between this limbo of enjoying social interaction, but not willing to put the work into going out and doing it. My social battery is extremely low and I wonder if loneliness was a choice I made long ago or if it was something I just got used to. Either way I like being alone and I like being with people. I think what drains my battery the fastest is when social interaction feels superficial and no deeper connection is made besides the “how is your day?”
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
It s easier when you are young, once you grow up you get pulled into all political intrigue, hence I the rather stay lonely at home than meet with people who have completely opposite political ideologies to me because I would only come back home fuming or feeling shit for saying something I should not have and because I dared to contradict someone's opinion!
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
Man you have inspired thousands of people, just find purpose of your life and keep going, in the path you will make many many friends, your team members, co workers will be your real friends. To attain your purpose, down the road you will have to create big team and that will be will your secondary family or real friends ❤️
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
The fact that you're real in all your videos speaks volumes bro and to me, that means a lot. Used to feel the same way until I just decided to just be myself and stop chasing friendship from whom I thought were real. In being myself and doing the best I could in what I do I found that REAL attracts REAL, people that accept you for you 💯, introvert or otherwise. We don't call each other every day but when we do is like there's no distance. Wish you the best and stay strong 💪
Hey Dylan I hope you see this. But you inspire me a lot. I’m from Chicago and I’m 24 years old & am stationed in San Diego and I started lifting only last year and your videos have helped a lot. The feeling you describe about not being present and seeking validation from other kids is totally how I feel. If I knew you in real life I’d totally get a lift in & try and help you out. Just like you’re helping us all out. You’re a bad ass dude and most people suck anyway but you’re doing alright. It’s all part of the process
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
This!!! I have felt almost the same way as you for the majority of my life. Hearing all those things from another human being... you can't imagine how it can help other guys. From your personal issue with pornography to other messages you've conveyed to us, they have been such an inspirational motivation to me. Thank you, these words have been exactly what I needed.
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
During quarantine I slept through the day and was awake at night and it was the worst feeling. During those nights I felt totally fine but it got increasingly worse. Less showers, stopped cleaning my room, felt lonely, talked to no one, etc. I never really had friends but that totally separated me from those around me. I remember one night, I had just woken up to my sister saying it was time to eat dinner. My breakfast time was their dinner time. I just stared at my plate and was disgusted with myself. After that I forced myself to stay awake all night as I had been doing, but to clean my room and stay awake all day to reset my sleep schedule. That helped me and was almost like a punishment for letting myself fall so low. As for the lack of social interaction, I struggle with that a lot too, in fact I havent hung out with anyone in person in months either. I've just been going one step at a time. A big trap gym goers fall into, which I'm in right now- is to center your personality around the gym. I love going but its heard to make friends with others like that. Keep your head up knowing you have some people that support you.
I admire the realism Dylan brings into his videos. I know I can relate and I’m certain others can. Problems go round like a virus everyone has it, but it’s dealing with it that counts.
We self-improvement soldiers are tough as nails. But our main issue is we may overwork ourselves and forget what's meaningful in life. I'm facing the same thing right now, brother. I've become physically exhausted as I train 5 days a week and do other forms of exercise on the off days. I read for 1.5 hours daily on top of school and all the homework I have to do. I'm now exhausted and only find joy in sleep. Even video games or hanging out with friends don't make me happy anymore. I only sleep. I'm only 17, and this may be a "phase," but it still sucks. But as soldiers of self-improvement, we must press on and work smarter and harder to fix our mental issues. My plan is to cut out a few tasks and put in a few more rest days. Hopefully, this phase is over. Keep fighting, brothers.
I understand your mentality broski, u mustnt forget the importance of resting and the damage of overtraining though 🙌🏻 It can actually set you back not resting enough as your tendons take 1-2 weeks to fully recover compared too muscle fibres which take 2-3 days generally. Keep your regime the way it is thats amazin if your only 17, im 20 in feb bro and your doin rlly well. Try train 4 days a week the way you are but on the 5th day take it easy, maybe rest some weeks or go for a run/skip/box on others.
Friendship is built with honesty, truth, reciprocity and donation (dedication) mainly in the time we spend with people, listening and if possible trying to help. Friendship is also "" wishing the best " when we are very good at something, many move away.
Your videos are becoming refreshingly candid. This isn’t just a fitness channel anymore, you’re actually teaching people about the human condition. The FEELING of loneliness is actually a lot more complex than “being alone” and I think you conveyed that quite well. Good moves Dylan.
I feel you. I have few friends but on the other hand I have no family and recently no partner also. I think that we all need all these relationships, at least a little of them, to not feel lonely. Having only a girlfriend, or only a family, or only few friends - it is better than nothing. But there is still that constant feeling of the life being incomplete in some way.
I feel like I can relate.I haven’t hung out with friends in person for a while. Even had to give up some friends recently. I work in Canada a few months every year alone as well. However, once you accept it, you realize that it’s probably for a reason, it becomes easier to deal with. I decided to join an online Men’s community and that has been life changing so far. Finding people on the same path as you (there are people out there like you) was revolutionary and now I’m not lonely at all. Also, I’m pretty sure every one of your subscribers would love to hangout with you. I know I would!
I know exactly what you feel like, i felt like that in the middle of summer. Try to focus on yourself and reflect on life and the things that make you happy and positively thinking. Being alone and wise is more valuable than having many friends and to spend time without yourself.
Loneliness has reached a global crisis. Narcissistic behaviors and the on-going pandemic has caused serious social barriers to connecting in a meaningful way. This reality gets worse as one gets older due to disabilities, cultural rot and rampant incivility. The probability of experiencing loneliness on a significant level are evident by this video of Dylan - who seems to have it all. For what it is worth, be the best friend to yourself first and foremost. And, if you have one true friend, consider yourself blessed. These are indeed very challenging times. Best wishes to all, and realize you are not alone in your loneliness.
First video i saw of you was a yt short about a year ago or smthng about back stretching with resistance band to get a better chest, now im here identifying with your state of existance, great video keep them going
I honestly have no true friends, nobody but my family which I know i’m lucky to have but they just don’t get me. These past 7 months have been the hardest of my life and I’ve thought about pulling the plug countless times. But I know it will get better…It has to. Keep going Dylan I believe in you we will both make it through what we’re going through
You should consider this is the consequence of growth young brother! Ian currently undergoing through the exact same thing. I asked for prosperity, and I’m experiencing just that. Inner growth, different modes of motivation, inspiration from the most likely of places! Congrats to you king!❤❤❤
Have you been assessed for Autism or ADHD? I think you might have one of them looking at your behaviours, and mostly you have some of the good traits of those conditions. You're dedicated to doing things to the point of hyper-focus and you seem to have a lot of these things that you move between focusing on. Also the social struggles you mention are traits, though a lot of people with the conditions manage to hide them on the surface (masking). I was diagnosed with both conditions this year and it has opened my eyes to these sides of my personality and identity and also helps me to address issues and live with them. Getting a professional assessment will give you certainty either way and take it off your mind. Autistic people are awesome, would be glad to have you in our team.
I second this. I can relate to Dylan in how I've been lonely for the majority of my life and I now know I'm on the spectrum. Luckily I have a lot of the good traits as well and have been very successful in life. Everything is a skill that can be learned especially social skills so don't be discouraged.
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@ThePickledDyl During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@ThePickledDyl I'm glad to hear about your success! I hate people saying that Autism is a superpower but it's lowkey true. Once you have learned things you can apply them better than most who mediocrely do them naturally. A video on doing that online ASD test would be interesting. I hope Dylan sees this. It could also be clarity for a lot of his audience who may have not realised that they are on the spectrum, as well as a role model and example of someone who succeeds with Autism or Neurodivergency. Thank you for sharing your experience.
There's nothing wrong with being alone like you said it allows time for you to focus on yourself, what makes you feel good, and think about the people you want to connect with and like you said i can count those people on my hands i'd rather have a few dependable/ real friends than mostly fake ones. Desired loneliness to me feels peaceful, creative, restorative. The problem however comes when you feel lonely, isolated and perhaps forgotten whether it's by your family, friendship group or workplace this Loneliness despite being with people may feel upsetting, frustrating. The point is to avoid fooling ourselves with too high friendship expectations. Ask yourself whether your conversations ever go further than small talk topics and office affairs. If they don’t, then he or she is probably just a temporary friend in your life.
My excuse for myself for not making friends in the past was always that I lacked confidence. Now that I've been hitting the gym, look great, and have confidence, I still feel that I don't want to make friends. That's when I realized that it wasn't my lack of confidence keeping me lonely. It was me. As ironic as it sounds, you're not alone. Other people feel exactly the same as you, myself included.
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
Man, I think I kinda get some of those fellings/thoughts, for the most part I just fell I'm kinda there, kinda not. What helps me is that I have tons of social interactions by default where I live wether I want it or not and that makes me more confortable to do social stuff which so in the end I'm more present when I do them, so in the end "unwanted" natural social interactions are actually very important for my mental health in general. Idk if is the same for you, but that was what I learned in the past few years about me and I'm felling way better today because of it!
I thought you had a girlfriend, because if you do, what else can you ask for? And in regard to friends, it's not about quantity, it's about quality. Treasure your friends even if they are few. But all the same, you're not alone in feeling lonely 💪🏻
Yo man adult life can be difficult and complicated but I encourage you young man to keep moving forward and maintain positive! You’re not alone!!!!! God bless….
honestly i found the most success in literally just accepting that i like my own company more than others people that value me for me are few and far between but thats okay cause i enjoy my company more than fake peoples company anyhow and not to mention whenever youre alone you are running the show theres nobody else to consider you just do and eat what you like and over time youll start to look forward to your alone time itll strengthen your relationship with yourself and itll make you more likeable by others because they wont sense that you want something from them anymore
I have the same lifestyle as you,and I from time to time question somethings,but you aren't a loser,you see most people are the opposite of you,mean they always want more and more and there is nothing wrong with that but sometimes they chance things so much and they never feel complete,but the whole time what they wanted has been right in front of them,they just never slow down to realize their surroundings. By seeing your lifestyle,I assume you are humble,nice,and know the worth of a person but their actions and from what they say,you are a simple dude and compassionate about the things you do,even if they seem insignificant to others they are important to you,keep it up and don't let others opinions define you be you.
I see your genuineness, you are a great young man. An important aspect of ourselves is to see, honour and try to meet our inner childs needs and wants if it somehow were neglected, hurt and let down in childhood (wich many have been). Nurture it and try to make it fullfilled and loved. Integrate all the parts of yourself, it is heavy work, working through all shit the generational wounding etc. It's the innerchild-work and can help with attachment-issues. That's what I'm currently doing. It takes time but the goal is to build yourself up and strive towards a safer attachment-style. Maybe you should consider talking to some therapist, psychologist, psychotherapy that knows about innerchild-work or someone knowledgeable whom you feel suited for the task to help integrate you to become more whole. From my experience moving away from your parents is also helping in your process towards healing and geting more of your own sense, but as stated it is very individual and depends on what you want and prioritise. Do what suits you best. Just wanted to get those words out there in case you or someone could benefit from it.
Thanks for sharing ur story. Ur videos are motivating for this 40 year old and many others. I grew to love that side of myself. helped many cope thru lockdown. Now a successful Introverted Sigma Male with multiple businesses. Keep up the Amazing Genuine Content
I feel this on such a deep level, I have more than 1 mil followers on tiktok, but social media validation really doesn’t amount to ANYTHING when it comes down to it. I have NO FRIENDS lol and despite making videos and trying to entertain people and make people happy, In reality I am so self conscious and afraid of ‘failing at life’ that sometimes it feels paralysing. I finished school right when coronavirus hit, and have virtually spent 2 years at home. I don’t even know where to begin in terms of ‘living life’ lol. Mental health is such a huge thing especially amongst those of us that seek to create, but I’ve come to realise (like you) that maybe there isn’t anything ‘wrong’ with us. We all struggle, we all have so much life and joy that we haven’t even experienced yet and it is so okay to take your time with these things. Keep on keeping on my dude
With as little irony as possible. Literally me. Its very helpful watching this for me because I am a lonely guy with little to no friends and a catologue of random skills. I didn't know that there were people that I watch and admire on RUclips who were the same. Thankyou for this video
Keep strong bro. You are not alone. I feel the same lately. Remote work really isn't that good for social life. Anyway if you keep improve, you often change friends. Keep hammering bro
awe man, i feel for you. i get that feeling often myself, i moved across the country with the bf and i might be single pretty soon which leaves me entirely alone. wet wood doesn't burn though ;)
I feel you man, I've been feeling lonely now for the past month and finding your RUclips channel actually was a blessing for me today because I've started going back to the gym so I just wanted to say thank you man I love your content and keep up the good work you're an amazing person!
I never thought I would relate so much The NCS music goes hard too, reminds me of the better days. The song at the end is Flutter by Diamond Eyes if anyone wonders
I think that you’re like me in the sense of being an introvert with extrovert desires. They said the difference between isolation and solitude is the choice to be alone, and sometimes people don’t give us that choice. Yet with all that rejection, we still need to share our life with others. I’m sorry that your going through this if there is anything I can do let me know.
all you need is one friend, but having more than one is excellent. If that's what you want, Don't worry about having a bunch of friends, find one person you can be friends with, then your set.
Mate I just stumbled across your channel and saw this video. You hit the nail on the head when you said maybe you are just meant to be more on your own than others. It's OK, there are lots of us like this and it is normal. The popular image of the successful person as being one surrounded be friends is pervasive and, I'd say, inaccurate. Many of us enjoy our own company and don't find aloneness a bad thing. Living in a world that does not acknowledge this it is easy to believe that you are somehow odd if you don't have lots of friends. You are not. Ask yourself what you actually want these friends for, how they will enrich you or make you happy - you might be suprised. Like you I have always been comfortable on my own and find other people hard work. Don't fret on it or make yourself feel less because of it. Frame it as a positive and be proud of yourself - you are 'strongly independent' Doug
That’s an highly impressive step to go online with topics like this and I‘m extremely proud of you for that. I had or even sometimes still have those problem and wanna tell you that you’re definetely not alone with that one. As an introvert myself this shit can be really hard. Taking a look at the comments it seems that this problem hits multiple people and I know how fucked up this is. During Covid lockdown I sometimes cried thinking nobody wants to do stuff with me and that was a hell of a bad feeling. Don’t want to imagine how hard it will be when school is over next year and you completely have to orientate yourself in a new direction. To be honest it has bettered the recent 1-2 years, I now do more things with people at least at weekends. I’d LOVE to have friends like you man. You’re such a warm-hearted and awesome person bro. Keep your head up, better times will come!❤
Dude I know what you’re going through I’m the same way and I’ve been this way my entire life. Some people are just meant to be in relationships and need to be around others. And some people just are meant to be alone and I’m one of those people who are meant to be alone. I have just 2 people I can actually call friends. And growing up in the mormon church as a black man made things really hard bc I’m the only one of color in the whole community and I didn’t fit in. And it’s just in life as well i never cared about being around other people and I feel like other people can read that and they stay away. So don’t worry man you’re not alone
I definitely Vibe to your content and it's why I've stay subbed for so long as I have. On the topic of being alone I totally understand and respect what you're saying. And it's not unique to you to not want to do anything with a ton of people and instead vibe with 3 or 4 of the best friends ever. Keep it up King !
I understand your perspective because I also feel the same but its important that we challenge ourselves in all aspects that we feel lack of or weak in. A scary thought for introverts.
With 400k Subscribers, when you’re that “famous” it’s hard to make true friends & connect with people. On top of that, you’re so popular that you alienate yourself from the crowd, and regular people feel like they can’t talk to you. Also, you spend so much of your time working out / in the gym, that you probably missed out on so many opportunities from your friends to hangout, cause you thought working out was more important. A lot of people go thru the same thing, especially in the world we’re living in right now. When covid hit, a lot of us were alienated & were never able to recover.
Lonelyness sucks dude. Untile I started a family I really felt that way. Even hanging around my close circle of friends. But even that can be complicated when you just want to unwind from work and life responsibilities. It will all click together man, just have faith and give it time. Reach out to homies man. They probably wouldn't mind to help always remember that. Shit you can hit me up to talk if you need to, keep your head up man
Look Bro what really helped me, was to pray to God to ask him for help, for forgiveness. After doing it for a while i feel better, am more happy, i feel less stress, am not as angry and my mind is calmer.
Thanks for sharing this, my experience growing up and how I feel now are very similar. Ironically, sharing your experience about loneliness makes me feel a bit less lonely knowing guys on social media struggle with it too.
Brooooooo You are a total inspiration man. I would totally be your homie if we lived in the same hood. I would suggest therapy, or seeking outside help. You are super authentic and you deserve to he happy man. I’m rooting for you man!!!!
Dylan I feel you man I’m in the same boat here buddy I ain’t seen a friend in a month. I recently fell out with a close friend so we havnt really been connecting recently so it’s been hard Lonley times
getting depressed and anxious it's tought; you dont know why, you ask your self it is all the time going to be the same? you think your younger self was more happy, you start to have a some fears that you didn't had before, you "feel" separated from the others somehow, etc;ç To be honest i asked a lot about this subject to a lot of people and this helped me a lot because you realize you are not living this alone. There's a lot of people who feels this time to time. That helps and makes you understand you are not alone anymore. Stay strong
“i’m not a loser guys… but maybe by social definition I am” honestly felt that to the core bro. i don’t really fully understand how people enjoy the “young” way of having fun or honestly truly enjoy myself in that kind of setting. but that’s just my thoughts.
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Use my Gorilla Mind code “DYLAN” or you will be lonely for the rest of your miserable days. Lol for real though, thanks for all the support recently guys. I read all my comments and appreciate each and every one of you ❤️
Lol we're here for you bro.
Yes we are!
cool beans
Hey dude.
I come from a similar place. After years of being bullied from elementary school to highschool, I started resenting all my social interactions, and turned to music. I would spend 8 hours a day playing drums, and was held back a year in highschool. 10 years later, doing something similar, except with music production equipment.
But you know.... I look back on my most rewarding moments in life, and everything anyone liked about me, I learned alone in a room. Maybe I am pushing myself a bit hard... but then again... I get very bored. Once you find out what you can create with all this time alone, life can get pretty exciting.
I love to work hard on a project and create something I can take with me day after day. Your body is an example of that. Drinking for a crazy night isn't.
I frankly don't have many friends because I will constantly outpace them, confront myself, build myself in very particular directions.
And thus I figured out there's two ways an introvert like me makes friends.
1. Are you kind?
2. Do you share the same ambition as I do?
For the second one, if you know your goals, and why you want to do it... then it's easier to align yourself with people.
In a way, having your purpose figured out, will increase your chances of compatibility, and prevent this feeling of "What am I doing here? Am I wasting my time?"
Because they will want to build up along side you. That's fucking worth it. Every time I figure out something about myself, and something about my purpose for being alive, I feel a bit closer to opening up to the right people.
Take care of yourself brother.
Learn how to ask the question.. "What do you want?"
I think lonelyness is a serious problem nowadays. We appreciate you being realistic in all of ur videos (at least i do) because you make me feel less exceptional because i notice alot of the things you do too. I hope you realise that too
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@13EVOL31 did I?
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@13EVOL31 are you trolling
I think people are a serious problem nowadays. Everyone self destructs their own life by LIVING online. Live your real life and get back to nature and do some real human shit. Plant a garden, chop down some trees, walk in nature, etc. Get back to being human
Please upvote this so it reaches him. Thank you.
Hey Dylan, where are you? You’re in Utah right? We can meet up and doing something cool with my friends. I get it. I was depressed once for a long time. It can be rough, but getting out helps.
I’m also LDS like you but just a couple years older. I understand your phase having gone through it and came out better on the other side. Dont hesitate to reach out.
I hope he can read this. I'm glad there's good people like you willing to help
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Amazing… really.
@@legoatjagoat4691how do I dm?
Try this Dylan- make your social interactions all about other people. Don’t ever bring a conversation back to yourself. Ask about people’s interests, hobbies, hopes, friends, families, etc. It makes interactions meaningful. And people tend to seriously love people who show genuine interest in them. Get out of your head man. Try shifting your attention outward. It will add an incredible amount of value to your social interactions
Awesome advice. Another one is to take some coaching about communication and relations. I discovered that I have a copying mechanism and avoided genuine relationships because I had shame (because. I think of myself that I am egoistic).
I took.Landmark coaching, but you take your own choice.
Dude you have a girlfriend and can confidently articulate your thoughts and have a personality on camera. You’re way ahead of most people. Also I can be your friend bro. I enjoy the weird videos.
I feel like this comment is kinda minimizing the feelings he's expressing in the video. Loneliness sucks, no matter what your circumstance
Most adults have 0 friends. Every other generation this was normal. It's just anytime before modern internet people called aquantinces friends. It is normal for a adult to not be hanging with the boys everyday. It is normal for a couple to settle down and not be with their friends often. People on the internet now are so whiny about not having friends. It's like stfu that's the same for millions of us. You just felt like being insecure and whining about it.
@@G3RM3X617 This is only your experience. Its stupid to say having no friends is normal or preferable. I know many adults with many friends and they are usually the happiest people.
@@Evanthesurfer ok well too many feel bad for me victims on social media
he has a gf and still lonely? strange
It's impressive how open and honest you are about your feelings. Some simple advice from an extravert: when you are with other people, don't think of it as you with a bunch of other people--it's. a bunch of people, one of which is you.
A lot of people feel the same nowdays brother, stay strong
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@3z3O Amen to that in Jesus name
True, I believe that is because some of us enjoy solitude so much, because allows us to do whatever we want undisturbed and uninterrupted, but sadly before we know if unchecked happy solitude turns into loneliness!
@@3z3OTruth
Jesus gives Holy Spirit to us and he is more than friend to us
I will be your friend!
Same g! I could use a gym bro to train with anyway.
Same here!
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@jordanseay216 During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@dannytong8993 During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
I love being by myself. Always have, I think you have to love yourself to be happy with your life. Listening to other people can ruin your life, making yourself strong and believing in yourself makes you awesome….and you don’t have to prove anything to anybody.
Bro you inspire us all and im really happy to see that you made it this far! We are all going through this sometimes, its only important to have the right mindset!
Hey would you mind checking out my channel? And giving a sub if you like my newest video?
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
This is the best type of content, you being transparent is what attracts me as a viewer to watch your content
Dude I can't tell you how relatable this is. You are not alone in this feeling. Stay strong bro
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@3z3O I’m a……bad guy 😥
Dylan, thanks for sharing and being transparent about this. I feel the same way in my social life. My friends always seemed to have that one best friend they could run to and hang out with on a whim, and I have always been the lone wolf. From chasing real estate investments, working out, and my career, I thought I was pushing people away. Now I have come to terms with the fact that it's okay to be alone and not have a "best friend" or a group of friends to hang out with on the regular!
We appreciate you sharing this, and I think a lot of us can relate to this feeling.
Bro built like an anime character with all this random assortment of skills and no friends
in all seriousness tho you have really been an inspiration in my own journey in changing my self image (your lateral raise short blew up my shoulders)
I hope you can find your solitude in being alone or have success in creating new personal connections in the future
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@3z3O amen 🙏🏿 loneliness is a real struggle we’ll deal with and God never lied and said we wouldn’t. But he’s always with us even if it may sound cliche he is and we’re never truly alone
Yep I’m completely nocturnal too. Can be a very isolating existence at times.
Completely relate to you man, it’s hard to find people out age with similar interests and real goals
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
i’ve been watching your videos for a while man and i just subbed, I Love your honesty❤️ it’s okay to be an introvert, INTROVERT GANG
Man Ive felt this pain and its the worst just put yourself out there and make new friends even when it's uncomfortable it's definitely a skill. Keep making this content love it!
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@3z3O bro shut the hell up
@@3z3O no
You and I are legit the exact same when your talking I’m like shit this sounds like me
I’m a natural introvert as well. Sometimes I feel the creeping of loneliness set in, I however have 3 close friends. And even though, our lives are taking us all over this globe, we still call constantly and FaceTime. They are the sisters I always wanted as the only child and never got
Lost me at the "sisters I always wanted" part
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During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@marelli777 exactly what’s wrong with that?
@@marelli777 Im dead x_x
I’ve learned that being “alone” and being “lonely” are two very different things.
One can break you and one can help you grow
You can be with other people and feel lonely.
@@melissakey2483 100% I speak with experience!
I can see you're improving through these vulnerable videos
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@3z3O You too 🙏🙏
I understand exactly what you feel. I have the same issues in my life. Sometimes I think this is a destiny, others a choice. To talk about loneliness is very much courageous.
Bro you’re honestly one of the most interesting and creative people. Your mind works in magical ways man. It’s a glitch we all get it. Especially feeling not present around friends. Only up from here man! Love you bro
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
Absolutely. Happens to the best of us.
being very lonely nowadays too.. tried to make friends but I never fit in groups so gave up..
been just focusing on myself: health and study and care my precious puppy
hopefully dark times will change into better for everyone. Stay strong and never change just to fit in group. Be yourself
most people pretend to be someone they are not when out in public so its hard to relate to them or even like them but you'd be surprised how many people actually relate to you, i actually feel like i relate to you in many ways however, i can easily switch to acting extroverted or social when i need to (thanks to many years of working retail) you give me a little bit of homeschool/mormon vibes so I can see how it can be harder,but this is just an observation don't take it the wrong way please
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
Do you guys hear yourself saying “most people” over and over? Is this rebellious or something to do with needing to feel different because that’s better? Or maybe that being different is necessary to be better?
Honestly, I think it's just people these days. Betrayal is popular, backstabbing - in fashion. True friendship is rare. A lot of friendship are transactional or clicky, where you need to be a yes man to be part of a large friend group. That ain't me, hence my small circle of friends is... Well, small.
Completely normal dude, but I wouldn't get too complacent about it.
I feel like a lot of young guys are going through similar things at the moment. We all gotta stay strong and have each others back
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
I feel bad for having misjudged you when I first saw you in one of your videos, now I see that you are a very humble person and that even a person like you can go through bad times and complicated things in life sometimes. I wish you the best, greetings from Venezuela 🤝🏻.
Honestly im always caught between this limbo of enjoying social interaction, but not willing to put the work into going out and doing it. My social battery is extremely low and I wonder if loneliness was a choice I made long ago or if it was something I just got used to. Either way I like being alone and I like being with people. I think what drains my battery the fastest is when social interaction feels superficial and no deeper connection is made besides the “how is your day?”
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
It s easier when you are young, once you grow up you get pulled into all political intrigue, hence I the rather stay lonely at home than meet with people who have completely opposite political ideologies to me because I would only come back home fuming or feeling shit for saying something I should not have and because I dared to contradict someone's opinion!
I relate to you fully, i like real, outdoors, not faking my life, always feeling alone, thankyou for making this video
Dylan keep this content up cuz u inspire a lot of people. keep it up bro!
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
4:43 I very much enjoy your videos, your narration of experiences and thoughts is very relatable and likable
Man you have inspired thousands of people, just find purpose of your life and keep going, in the path you will make many many friends, your team members, co workers will be your real friends. To attain your purpose, down the road you will have to create big team and that will be will your secondary family or real friends ❤️
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
I do love you worked hard to get where you are don't give up you got this you can make it through any obstacle set in front of you.
I see myself in you in so Many ways, keep going brother🙏🏼
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
The fact that you're real in all your videos speaks volumes bro and to me, that means a lot. Used to feel the same way until I just decided to just be myself and stop chasing friendship from whom I thought were real. In being myself and doing the best I could in what I do I found that REAL attracts REAL, people that accept you for you 💯, introvert or otherwise. We don't call each other every day but when we do is like there's no distance. Wish you the best and stay strong 💪
Hey Dylan I hope you see this. But you inspire me a lot. I’m from Chicago and I’m 24 years old & am stationed in San Diego and I started lifting only last year and your videos have helped a lot.
The feeling you describe about not being present and seeking validation from other kids is totally how I feel. If I knew you in real life I’d totally get a lift in & try and help you out. Just like you’re helping us all out. You’re a bad ass dude and most people suck anyway but you’re doing alright. It’s all part of the process
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
Bro I'm sorry to hear that. I've been feeling really lonely myself lately and I know it sucks a lot. I'd definitely be your friend.
This!!! I have felt almost the same way as you for the majority of my life. Hearing all those things from another human being... you can't imagine how it can help other guys. From your personal issue with pornography to other messages you've conveyed to us, they have been such an inspirational motivation to me. Thank you, these words have been exactly what I needed.
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@3z3O I do not believe in the existence of God, but I do respect others, who do believe. I simply try to be a good person.
During quarantine I slept through the day and was awake at night and it was the worst feeling. During those nights I felt totally fine but it got increasingly worse. Less showers, stopped cleaning my room, felt lonely, talked to no one, etc. I never really had friends but that totally separated me from those around me. I remember one night, I had just woken up to my sister saying it was time to eat dinner. My breakfast time was their dinner time. I just stared at my plate and was disgusted with myself. After that I forced myself to stay awake all night as I had been doing, but to clean my room and stay awake all day to reset my sleep schedule. That helped me and was almost like a punishment for letting myself fall so low. As for the lack of social interaction, I struggle with that a lot too, in fact I havent hung out with anyone in person in months either. I've just been going one step at a time. A big trap gym goers fall into, which I'm in right now- is to center your personality around the gym. I love going but its heard to make friends with others like that. Keep your head up knowing you have some people that support you.
I admire the realism Dylan brings into his videos. I know I can relate and I’m certain others can. Problems go round like a virus everyone has it, but it’s dealing with it that counts.
We self-improvement soldiers are tough as nails. But our main issue is we may overwork ourselves and forget what's meaningful in life. I'm facing the same thing right now, brother. I've become physically exhausted as I train 5 days a week and do other forms of exercise on the off days. I read for 1.5 hours daily on top of school and all the homework I have to do. I'm now exhausted and only find joy in sleep. Even video games or hanging out with friends don't make me happy anymore. I only sleep. I'm only 17, and this may be a "phase," but it still sucks. But as soldiers of self-improvement, we must press on and work smarter and harder to fix our mental issues. My plan is to cut out a few tasks and put in a few more rest days. Hopefully, this phase is over. Keep fighting, brothers.
I understand your mentality broski, u mustnt forget the importance of resting and the damage of overtraining though 🙌🏻
It can actually set you back not resting enough as your tendons take 1-2 weeks to fully recover compared too muscle fibres which take 2-3 days generally. Keep your regime the way it is thats amazin if your only 17, im 20 in feb bro and your doin rlly well. Try train 4 days a week the way you are but on the 5th day take it easy, maybe rest some weeks or go for a run/skip/box on others.
Friendship is built with honesty, truth, reciprocity and donation (dedication) mainly in the time we spend with people, listening and if possible trying to help. Friendship is also "" wishing the best " when we are very good at something, many move away.
been smoking the pain of loneliness away for 5 years now, thank you for this video
How old are you brother M
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May I asky
how old are you,
my dear brother?
Kind regards
Loneliness can be difficult to sit with. I get it. Suffering from depression myself, loneliness comes standard. Thanks for sharing.
Your videos are becoming refreshingly candid. This isn’t just a fitness channel anymore, you’re actually teaching people about the human condition. The FEELING of loneliness is actually a lot more complex than “being alone” and I think you conveyed that quite well. Good moves Dylan.
I feel you. I have few friends but on the other hand I have no family and recently no partner also. I think that we all need all these relationships, at least a little of them, to not feel lonely. Having only a girlfriend, or only a family, or only few friends - it is better than nothing. But there is still that constant feeling of the life being incomplete in some way.
I feel like I can relate.I haven’t hung out with friends in person for a while. Even had to give up some friends recently. I work in Canada a few months every year alone as well. However, once you accept it, you realize that it’s probably for a reason, it becomes easier to deal with. I decided to join an online Men’s community and that has been life changing so far. Finding people on the same path as you (there are people out there like you) was revolutionary and now I’m not lonely at all.
Also, I’m pretty sure every one of your subscribers would love to hangout with you. I know I would!
I know exactly what you feel like, i felt like that in the middle of summer. Try to focus on yourself and reflect on life and the things that make you happy and positively thinking. Being alone and wise is more valuable than having many friends and to spend time without yourself.
Loneliness has reached a global crisis. Narcissistic behaviors and the on-going pandemic has caused serious social barriers to connecting in a meaningful way. This reality gets worse as one gets older due to disabilities, cultural rot and rampant incivility. The probability of experiencing loneliness on a significant level are evident by this video of Dylan - who seems to have it all. For what it is worth, be the best friend to yourself first and foremost. And, if you have one true friend, consider yourself blessed. These are indeed very challenging times. Best wishes to all, and realize you are not alone in your loneliness.
First video i saw of you was a yt short about a year ago or smthng about back stretching with resistance band to get a better chest, now im here identifying with your state of existance, great video keep them going
I honestly have no true friends, nobody but my family which I know i’m lucky to have but they just don’t get me. These past 7 months have been the hardest of my life and I’ve thought about pulling the plug countless times. But I know it will get better…It has to. Keep going Dylan I believe in you we will both make it through what we’re going through
This is tough man I feel the same way as you loneliness no friends no girlfriends no nothing man it sucks
“Life doesn’t get easier. You just get stronger.”
You should consider this is the consequence of growth young brother! Ian currently undergoing through the exact same thing. I asked for prosperity, and I’m experiencing just that. Inner growth, different modes of motivation, inspiration from the most likely of places! Congrats to you king!❤❤❤
Have you been assessed for Autism or ADHD? I think you might have one of them looking at your behaviours, and mostly you have some of the good traits of those conditions. You're dedicated to doing things to the point of hyper-focus and you seem to have a lot of these things that you move between focusing on. Also the social struggles you mention are traits, though a lot of people with the conditions manage to hide them on the surface (masking).
I was diagnosed with both conditions this year and it has opened my eyes to these sides of my personality and identity and also helps me to address issues and live with them. Getting a professional assessment will give you certainty either way and take it off your mind. Autistic people are awesome, would be glad to have you in our team.
I second this. I can relate to Dylan in how I've been lonely for the majority of my life and I now know I'm on the spectrum. Luckily I have a lot of the good traits as well and have been very successful in life. Everything is a skill that can be learned especially social skills so don't be discouraged.
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@ThePickledDyl During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@ThePickledDyl I'm glad to hear about your success! I hate people saying that Autism is a superpower but it's lowkey true. Once you have learned things you can apply them better than most who mediocrely do them naturally. A video on doing that online ASD test would be interesting. I hope Dylan sees this. It could also be clarity for a lot of his audience who may have not realised that they are on the spectrum, as well as a role model and example of someone who succeeds with Autism or Neurodivergency. Thank you for sharing your experience.
There's nothing wrong with being alone like you said it allows time for you to focus on yourself, what makes you feel good, and think about the people you want to connect with and like you said i can count those people on my hands i'd rather have a few dependable/ real friends than mostly fake ones. Desired loneliness to me feels peaceful, creative, restorative. The problem however comes when you feel lonely, isolated and perhaps forgotten whether it's by your family, friendship group or workplace this Loneliness despite being with people may feel upsetting, frustrating.
The point is to avoid fooling ourselves with too high friendship expectations. Ask yourself whether your conversations ever go further than small talk topics and office affairs. If they don’t, then he or she is probably just a temporary friend in your life.
Relate to this on another level. Like fr especially the being with people physically but still not present and in my thoughts
My excuse for myself for not making friends in the past was always that I lacked confidence. Now that I've been hitting the gym, look great, and have confidence, I still feel that I don't want to make friends. That's when I realized that it wasn't my lack of confidence keeping me lonely. It was me. As ironic as it sounds, you're not alone. Other people feel exactly the same as you, myself included.
During our loneliest times God is with us. Jesus Christ died for our sins and rose again three days later. He is the way, will to life. Accept him into your heart and have trust and have faith in his finished work. God bless ✝️🙏
@@3z3O Sorry. Can't. Not religious.
Man, I think I kinda get some of those fellings/thoughts, for the most part I just fell I'm kinda there, kinda not. What helps me is that I have tons of social interactions by default where I live wether I want it or not and that makes me more confortable to do social stuff which so in the end I'm more present when I do them, so in the end "unwanted" natural social interactions are actually very important for my mental health in general. Idk if is the same for you, but that was what I learned in the past few years about me and I'm felling way better today because of it!
I thought you had a girlfriend, because if you do, what else can you ask for? And in regard to friends, it's not about quantity, it's about quality. Treasure your friends even if they are few. But all the same, you're not alone in feeling lonely 💪🏻
Yo man adult life can be difficult and complicated but I encourage you young man to keep moving forward and maintain positive! You’re not alone!!!!! God bless….
honestly i found the most success in literally just accepting that i like my own company more than others people that value me for me are few and far between but thats okay cause i enjoy my company more than fake peoples company anyhow and not to mention whenever youre alone you are running the show theres nobody else to consider you just do and eat what you like and over time youll start to look forward to your alone time itll strengthen your relationship with yourself and itll make you more likeable by others because they wont sense that you want something from them anymore
I have the same lifestyle as you,and I from time to time question somethings,but you aren't a loser,you see most people are the opposite of you,mean they always want more and more and there is nothing wrong with that but sometimes they chance things so much and they never feel complete,but the whole time what they wanted has been right in front of them,they just never slow down to realize their surroundings. By seeing your lifestyle,I assume you are humble,nice,and know the worth of a person but their actions and from what they say,you are a simple dude and compassionate about the things you do,even if they seem insignificant to others they are important to you,keep it up and don't let others opinions define you be you.
I see your genuineness, you are a great young man.
An important aspect of ourselves is to see, honour and try to meet our inner childs needs and wants if it somehow were neglected, hurt and let down in childhood (wich many have been). Nurture it and try to make it fullfilled and loved. Integrate all the parts of yourself, it is heavy work, working through all shit the generational wounding etc.
It's the innerchild-work and can help with attachment-issues. That's what I'm currently doing. It takes time but the goal is to build yourself up and strive towards a safer attachment-style.
Maybe you should consider talking to some therapist, psychologist, psychotherapy that knows about innerchild-work or someone knowledgeable whom you feel suited for the task to help integrate you to become more whole.
From my experience moving away from your parents is also helping in your process towards healing and geting more of your own sense, but as stated it is very individual and depends on what you want and prioritise. Do what suits you best.
Just wanted to get those words out there in case you or someone could benefit from it.
Dylan, i think your videos are absolutely beautiful
Thanks for sharing ur story. Ur videos are motivating for this 40 year old and many others. I grew to love that side of myself. helped many cope thru lockdown. Now a successful Introverted Sigma Male with multiple businesses. Keep up the Amazing Genuine Content
A very good dose of reality. This took courage. You got this. Your smart, funny, talented, good looking and have the ability to be honest. All pluses.
I feel this on such a deep level, I have more than 1 mil followers on tiktok, but social media validation really doesn’t amount to ANYTHING when it comes down to it. I have NO FRIENDS lol and despite making videos and trying to entertain people and make people happy, In reality I am so self conscious and afraid of ‘failing at life’ that sometimes it feels paralysing. I finished school right when coronavirus hit, and have virtually spent 2 years at home. I don’t even know where to begin in terms of ‘living life’ lol. Mental health is such a huge thing especially amongst those of us that seek to create, but I’ve come to realise (like you) that maybe there isn’t anything ‘wrong’ with us. We all struggle, we all have so much life and joy that we haven’t even experienced yet and it is so okay to take your time with these things. Keep on keeping on my dude
With as little irony as possible. Literally me. Its very helpful watching this for me because I am a lonely guy with little to no friends and a catologue of random skills. I didn't know that there were people that I watch and admire on RUclips who were the same. Thankyou for this video
Keep strong bro. You are not alone. I feel the same lately. Remote work really isn't that good for social life. Anyway if you keep improve, you often change friends. Keep hammering bro
All the best wishes to you. I relate to your mesage. We are in difficult times (and I also hate most people)
awe man, i feel for you. i get that feeling often myself, i moved across the country with the bf and i might be single pretty soon which leaves me entirely alone.
wet wood doesn't burn though ;)
I feel you man, I've been feeling lonely now for the past month and finding your RUclips channel actually was a blessing for me today because I've started going back to the gym so I just wanted to say thank you man I love your content and keep up the good work you're an amazing person!
I never thought I would relate so much
The NCS music goes hard too, reminds me of the better days.
The song at the end is Flutter by Diamond Eyes if anyone wonders
I think that you’re like me in the sense of being an introvert with extrovert desires. They said the difference between isolation and solitude is the choice to be alone, and sometimes people don’t give us that choice. Yet with all that rejection, we still need to share our life with others. I’m sorry that your going through this if there is anything I can do let me know.
all you need is one friend, but having more than one is excellent. If that's what you want, Don't worry about having a bunch of friends, find one person you can be friends with, then your set.
Never stop working on your goals.
Keep pushing and everything else will come, just keep fighting the devils.
I am 50 and could give you so much advice. I've been to where you are.
Mate I just stumbled across your channel and saw this video. You hit the nail on the head when you said maybe you are just meant to be more on your own than others. It's OK, there are lots of us like this and it is normal. The popular image of the successful person as being one surrounded be friends is pervasive and, I'd say, inaccurate. Many of us enjoy our own company and don't find aloneness a bad thing. Living in a world that does not acknowledge this it is easy to believe that you are somehow odd if you don't have lots of friends. You are not. Ask yourself what you actually want these friends for, how they will enrich you or make you happy - you might be suprised. Like you I have always been comfortable on my own and find other people hard work. Don't fret on it or make yourself feel less because of it. Frame it as a positive and be proud of yourself - you are 'strongly independent' Doug
That’s an highly impressive step to go online with topics like this and I‘m extremely proud of you for that. I had or even sometimes still have those problem and wanna tell you that you’re definetely not alone with that one. As an introvert myself this shit can be really hard. Taking a look at the comments it seems that this problem hits multiple people and I know how fucked up this is. During Covid lockdown I sometimes cried thinking nobody wants to do stuff with me and that was a hell of a bad feeling. Don’t want to imagine how hard it will be when school is over next year and you completely have to orientate yourself in a new direction. To be honest it has bettered the recent 1-2 years, I now do more things with people at least at weekends. I’d LOVE to have friends like you man. You’re such a warm-hearted and awesome person bro. Keep your head up, better times will come!❤
Dude I know what you’re going through I’m the same way and I’ve been this way my entire life. Some people are just meant to be in relationships and need to be around others. And some people just are meant to be alone and I’m one of those people who are meant to be alone. I have just 2 people I can actually call friends. And growing up in the mormon church as a black man made things really hard bc I’m the only one of color in the whole community and I didn’t fit in. And it’s just in life as well i never cared about being around other people and I feel like other people can read that and they stay away. So don’t worry man you’re not alone
your a awesome person Dylan ,maybe you haven't had the feeling a friend that vibrates on you frequency i would be so happy to be a real friend for you
Your an inspiration to a lot of people. No matter what you think. Keep your head up don’t live in the what if
I definitely Vibe to your content and it's why I've stay subbed for so long as I have.
On the topic of being alone I totally understand and respect what you're saying. And it's not unique to you to not want to do anything with a ton of people and instead vibe with 3 or 4 of the best friends ever.
Keep it up King !
Broo you would be a great Superman not gunna lie!!! And don’t worry bro I’ve been feeling alone myself! Stay up bro shit will get better!! 👍🏻🤙🏼
I understand your perspective because I also feel the same but its important that we challenge ourselves in all aspects that we feel lack of or weak in. A scary thought for introverts.
With 400k Subscribers, when you’re that “famous” it’s hard to make true friends & connect with people.
On top of that, you’re so popular that you alienate yourself from the crowd, and regular people feel like they can’t talk to you.
Also, you spend so much of your time working out / in the gym, that you probably missed out on so many opportunities from your friends to hangout, cause you thought working out was more important.
A lot of people go thru the same thing, especially in the world we’re living in right now.
When covid hit, a lot of us were alienated & were never able to recover.
Lonelyness sucks dude. Untile I started a family I really felt that way. Even hanging around my close circle of friends. But even that can be complicated when you just want to unwind from work and life responsibilities. It will all click together man, just have faith and give it time. Reach out to homies man. They probably wouldn't mind to help always remember that. Shit you can hit me up to talk if you need to, keep your head up man
Look Bro what really helped me, was to pray to God to ask him for help, for forgiveness. After doing it for a while i feel better, am more happy, i feel less stress, am not as angry and my mind is calmer.
Thanks for sharing this, my experience growing up and how I feel now are very similar. Ironically, sharing your experience about loneliness makes me feel a bit less lonely knowing guys on social media struggle with it too.
stay strong brother find some new hobby sport goal in general. Respect man
Brooooooo
You are a total inspiration man.
I would totally be your homie if we lived in the same hood.
I would suggest therapy, or seeking outside help. You are super authentic and you deserve to he happy man. I’m rooting for you man!!!!
Dylan I feel you man I’m in the same boat here buddy I ain’t seen a friend in a month. I recently fell out with a close friend so we havnt really been connecting recently so it’s been hard Lonley times
Most relatable influencer in the game
Wow this is my first time watching his videos and Its honestly entertaining and intriguing, I love this dude‼️
bro im glad you are alive, you are a big inspiration
getting depressed and anxious it's tought;
you dont know why, you ask your self it is all the time going to be the same? you think your younger self was more happy, you start to have a some fears that you didn't had before, you "feel" separated from the others somehow, etc;ç
To be honest i asked a lot about this subject to a lot of people and this helped me a lot because you realize you are not living this alone. There's a lot of people who feels this time to time. That helps and makes you understand you are not alone anymore.
Stay strong
by the way, this video is art.
“i’m not a loser guys… but maybe by social definition I am”
honestly felt that to the core bro. i don’t really fully understand how people enjoy the “young” way of having fun or honestly truly enjoy myself in that kind of setting. but that’s just my thoughts.