How To Stop Worrying Over Every Little Thing

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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024
  • Which decisions actually impact our lives in a meaningful way? Yes, you make around 35,000 decisions every day, but not all of these are created equal.
    If you're a chronic over-thinker, or a decision-paralysis person, I'm going to teach you how to stop worrying over the decisions you make.
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Комментарии • 218

  • @chaii_latte
    @chaii_latte 9 месяцев назад +114

    This is the bane of my whole life. Also, every single day. And every big decision.
    What degree to get( I postponed it for 10 years now im 34 just starting. I dunno if its even worth it anymore), should i move or stay( ive wanted to move to Oregon for 15 years now, but have no place to land) do this or that, say this or that, in a social setting. I annoy people. And myself too. With indecision and perfectionism..
    Im trying not to catastrophise about my indecision problem. but life is feeling a bit too much. And honestly.. its all hell.
    And i can never decide the things i want in life. So i do nothing and decay. For years and years. Out of fear. And it's 1000x worse than it sounds living this way. I just want it all to end..

    • @PaulaW-wq1kh
      @PaulaW-wq1kh 9 месяцев назад +16

      Sending you some ❤ and it's never too late for change x

    • @Eternal_Sky_Tardis
      @Eternal_Sky_Tardis 9 месяцев назад +17

      I also relate, having a mind of a human can be a terrible fate sometimes

    • @AmyInArizona
      @AmyInArizona 9 месяцев назад +8

      Me too!!!

    • @grahamlangley4856
      @grahamlangley4856 9 месяцев назад +15

      All I can suggest is to keep getting the small decisions and actions happening, pat yourself on the back afterwards. To get your brain 🧠 working moving better and more comfortable with it and then the bigger decision answers should come to you easier on its own because your brain is doing it. Keep small decisions flowing and getting stronger 💪 hope the moving answer comes to you soon. Also remember sometimes the feeling stuck and bored feeling is better than when all hell breaks loose and you have something unpleasant and urgent to take care of.

    • @junegagnon6506
      @junegagnon6506 9 месяцев назад +21

      Hey, don't give up! I am in the same category as you. Except I am 65 and still can't and find it so hard to make decisions. I struggle to keep going and feel the same way all the time about staying alive in this world. And the depression was back again for me today. I thought well I will listen to Dr. Scott and I bet it will help. And it did. So keep going! Both our lives matter. No matter what your inner voice says. You can do it. Remember that saying practice makes perfect. I know I am not used to doing these things that Dr. Scott suggests. Simply because I didn't know how in the first place. So now we have something we can work on to make it a little less hard for us in the decision making area. Work is good. Again you can do it...🙂

  • @IgoZoom1
    @IgoZoom1 8 месяцев назад +30

    Analysis paralysis is my state of being. I’ve been thinking about a new car for about 8yrs. Everything in my life works that way. It’s beyond exhausting.

  • @jenissaaa
    @jenissaaa 9 месяцев назад +26

    I obsess over whether my actions or decisions are good or bad and something I started saying to myself is “there is no good or bad, there’s just things you do and things you don’t do.” To help take off the immense pressure I feel to exist properly and adequately ✨

  • @winter-i-i
    @winter-i-i 9 месяцев назад +25

    This is difficult to apply when you have cptsd and most of your past actions were self-destructive and you no longer trust yourself or your judgement.

    • @MrKillerHobbes
      @MrKillerHobbes 8 месяцев назад

      so true june! well said

    • @SaarLeestMee
      @SaarLeestMee 8 месяцев назад

      Jip I get this

    • @BrianHornak
      @BrianHornak 6 месяцев назад +2

      June..I can relate...one minute..one hour.one day at a time... may you have MORE good moments than bad

  • @JeffMitchell-lv4zx
    @JeffMitchell-lv4zx 6 месяцев назад +9

    Some days, I get the horrors where I start fretting on possibilities I'm woefully unprepared for- what if my cats get sick? What if I lose my job? What will I do when my car wears out? What if I die? Who'll look after my critters? Those days I lay low in my apartment. Don't spend money

  • @iannorton2253
    @iannorton2253 9 месяцев назад +16

    I think it's also healthy to recognise when it becomes apparent that a macro decision hasn't led to a positive outcome and is unlikely to, so that you can change course before the situation gets worse, rather than battling on trying to make it work. I've recently done this with a job; got to the end of the training period for a job I had high hopes for, but realised it wasn't right for me after all. I could have stayed on, continued to be stressed and miserable, but quit instead.

    • @annelbeab8124
      @annelbeab8124 8 месяцев назад +2

      So true. I'm doing labour law and just told a client the same - as telling myself that often I "overstayed" in situations including relationships after the initial decision wasn't in my favour. Society and parents teach you not to quit. That's sometimes worse than any initial decision. If you look into disasters, if human made it's often not seeing the first mistake and continuing is the real mistake.
      You made me think more about it again. Thanks

  • @marmaniac
    @marmaniac 9 месяцев назад +20

    Got a job a week ago to feel at least a bit financially stable. The money isn’t big and the job isn’t really interesting or inspiring to me, but I needed that to feel less anxious/worthless. Nevertheless all this time I couldn’t get rid of the feeling that I was doing a terrible and one of the biggest mistakes of my life by choosing to work there. And today I’m gratefully watching this video🙏

    • @truechamp3404
      @truechamp3404 9 месяцев назад

      I get you

    • @debbiedebbie9473
      @debbiedebbie9473 9 месяцев назад +1

      You can always change your mind later after you settle there and see what it's like. You can find something better whenever you want to. Just think of it as a temporary step, enjoy learning and getting a paycheck for now. There's no pressure to stay there.

    • @marmaniac
      @marmaniac 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@debbiedebbie9473 Thanks for your response! I'm trying to keep that in mind. The only thing distracting me is the past experience, when my “temporary” job lasted almost 9 years😅 But that's totally my fault, mostly because I am a terrible coward in making changes

  • @stevec404
    @stevec404 9 месяцев назад +16

    I made a macro decision under the most stressful time and circumstances of my life. Then I tanked. It flooded me with all of the self doubt I had accumulated; resulting in anhedonia and freeze mode. Months later, I am now mostly functional again; and doing my best to save what I can of my decisions consequences. This video has been helpful. Thanks.

  • @artsyladie7
    @artsyladie7 9 месяцев назад +25

    This was quite helpful, Dr. Scott! Listened 3x because at 72 I am at the place of making 2 or 3 huge decisions for my life! Now I may not be so afraid to make the big decisions knowing how the micros play a big part in this, and may help me move along. I tend to let others, or circumstances decide for me when i am unsure for too long. Thanks!

    • @etripp111
      @etripp111 9 месяцев назад +3

      I'm on my second listen and plan on a THIRD as well when my wife can listen too! This video is just plain practical, straightforward and relatable.

  • @Tygo423
    @Tygo423 8 месяцев назад +8

    Life long struggle. Can't decide on a thing. I desperately want to know what I want but i can't grasp any of it. I'm at my lowest point. So low that the climb seems so overwhelming. My mind has shut down. I question everything, i doubt everything.

    • @barbaras5874
      @barbaras5874 6 месяцев назад

      I feel the same. How are you doing?❤

    • @Tygo423
      @Tygo423 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@barbaras5874 still running on that endless wheel, thanks for asking

  • @gavgavland
    @gavgavland 9 месяцев назад +17

    Thank you for the video! In Russia we say "anything that is done is for the better". I try to remind it to myself whenever I feel anxious about some decisions I've made.

    • @annelbeab8124
      @annelbeab8124 8 месяцев назад

      That led to armies rolling across the European continent in the past. I would opt for: most decisions can be reversed and we shouldn't beat ourselves up about them.
      As long as we don't start waging war and then getting caught up in the dynamics of it. Thinking of the German army raiding Poland and invading the USSR for instance. Or the decision to occupy and incorporate other lands by Germany and the USSR. Maybe both countries believed in action being better than inaction. But I fear it's not just limited to those two. Kudos from Germany.

  • @bhornannawindeedeigh5007
    @bhornannawindeedeigh5007 9 месяцев назад +33

    🤯 35,000 decisions per day? It's no wonder why I feel frazzled over going through everything in my storage unit trying to get rid of EVERYTHING I possibly can so that I can stop bleeding out 400 bux a month for storing "treasures" and bits of papers. I've been doing this for four years, now... it feels non-stop.
    I'll think about the birds - cute little birds that help me get to my North Star. 😁

    • @VisualMind
      @VisualMind Месяц назад +2

      If you feel overwhelmed while decluttering I recommend the book "decluttering at the speed of life" by Dana K. White. It simplifies the process a lot and helps you always make progress so you don't end up in a bigger mess than you had before. It helped me downsize quite a lot 😊 (and there's an audio book on audible)

    • @bhornannawindeedeigh5007
      @bhornannawindeedeigh5007 Месяц назад

      @@VisualMind I appreciate the suggestion. Thanks so much.

  • @Nadyia307
    @Nadyia307 9 месяцев назад +18

    This gives me some hope that I don’t have to feel trapped in some of my big “macro” decisions. I can turn things around.

  • @sethgordon2003
    @sethgordon2003 9 месяцев назад +8

    Another good analogy for 35,000 micro decisions is taking a road trip across several states. The trip consists of thousands of decisions, including what roads to take, what turns to make, etc. If you make several wrong turns during the trip, it's ok. Those micro decisions will not sink your trip. They may delay you getting to your destination. But you can make other decisions to get back on track.

  • @probablypoetic8759
    @probablypoetic8759 9 месяцев назад +19

    Appreciate it, Dr. Scott. It's usually the big decisions for me, but sometimes little ones, too. I feel better knowing I can screw up 7,000 decisions in a day and still be on a good path. 😄

  • @LucasAttemptsLife
    @LucasAttemptsLife 9 месяцев назад +8

    You got me in the last part of the video. I lost my mom recently and it's making my decision making come to a halt.

  • @stevec404
    @stevec404 9 месяцев назад +7

    "Any subconscious decision can be pulled up into your consciousness at any time." I beg to differ. Early childhood trauma sealed the corridor from my subconscious to conscious mind. Only when I discovered how to open that corridor, much later in life, could I see and begin to reverse the horror of subconscious control over me.

  • @angelaharris1112
    @angelaharris1112 8 месяцев назад +5

    All I do. I overthink Everything!

  • @amalexander7711
    @amalexander7711 9 месяцев назад +12

    I needed this more than you will ever know. My life is full of anxiety and stress right now and you give me hope that every tiny decision is not life or death. Thank you!

  • @jenniferrivera5461
    @jenniferrivera5461 9 месяцев назад +6

    And I thought I was going crazy the last 40 years. Ty for this! ❤😅

  • @MapleMarmite
    @MapleMarmite 9 месяцев назад +17

    Hopefully he also covers the regret or uncertainty that follows the decision once you’ve made it. Kind of like ‘buyers remorse’ for decisions - knowing that will happen often stalls the decision making in the first place!

  • @CapeCodBelle
    @CapeCodBelle 9 месяцев назад +15

    No wonder my brain hurts and I feel tired all the time!

  • @kuramafox1290
    @kuramafox1290 5 месяцев назад +3

    Dr scott can you make a video on unemployment or career instability due to depression.

  • @lailanitukuafu
    @lailanitukuafu 9 месяцев назад +12

    Ah, the irony. I've been obsessing over what to comment for the last two hours. I hope this video was helpful for other people and I appreciate the time and effort you put into this. But I'm sorry to say, this one just doesn't work for me. ADHD takes away practically any choice I have in the matter. To some extent, I can be mindful of my thoughts and choose how to react to life. But several ADHD symptoms (difficulty regulating attention, impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, RSD) make it pretty much impossible to control.
    Fighting my anxiety is like fighting a hydra. I put in so much effort to address one worry and five more spring up in its place. It doesn't matter whether or not it makes sense to be worrying about the thing. All I know is the harder I try, the harder the battle becomes. All the while, depression steadily saps away my energy and challenging my inner demons gets exponentially more difficult.
    It feels like I'm just delaying the inevitable. I can't fend off the hydra using a frying pan indefinitely. How do you not just give up in a situation like that? It feels like my mind is not my own. I'm gonna keep trying, but dang it, this is hell. It never stops, and somehow I'm expected to function normally like everything is fine. I just want a moment's peace. I'm sick of thinking and I'm sick of trying. I can't even validate all that because I know that mood-congruent memory is making it feel like this is all there is. So I feel dumb for freaking out, which makes me freak out more. So many dang vicious cycles in my life.
    Anyway sorry for the doom and gloom, I'm just struggling a lot right now. Here, have some ice cream 🍦

    • @jamesmcgarry7310
      @jamesmcgarry7310 7 месяцев назад +2

      You're not alone !
      See a doctor.
      Have faith in Jesus & pray.
      🙏🙏🙏
      Do not beat yourself up and be kind to yourself !
      God's Blessings ALWAYS.
      🙏💚✌️

    • @petec530
      @petec530 5 месяцев назад +3

      I totally understand. I have been diagnosed with ADHD also. Have you looked into OCD at all? I always joked about having it, but I didn't realize that it was so debilitating until recently. It took me 10 to 15 years to be diagnosed, which is common for OCD. We were chasing anxiety and depression when those were mostly results of untreated OCD. I just wanted to bring it up because of your comment about obsessing over what to comment. For me, I will loop on emails or texts for hours that should take minutes. I will spend an hour or two (sometimes) researching reviews on something that may only cost $30 or $40. It can be crippling/debilitating at times. Ocd has many different forms, and I just wish somebody had told me about it a decade ago. For the 1% of us who actually have it, it truly should be described as suffering. (As is the case for anxiety and depression as well, this just piles on top of that.)
      Of course, this may not apply at all. I just wanted to throw it out there. (3 months late) Regardless, best wishes and thanks for the ice cream, my friend! 😁

    • @mkgabq7779
      @mkgabq7779 2 месяца назад

      L., Sorry for all you have been through. Just found Dr . Scott & am trying to see if his observations will resonate with my situation. Lots of content here. The very best to you, L.❗

  • @silvermine2033
    @silvermine2033 9 месяцев назад +13

    Looking forward to this video! This is something that I definitely struggle with.

  • @alexiswinter6948
    @alexiswinter6948 9 месяцев назад +7

    I micro-manage my micro-managing. After years of working on "recovery" I'm can't untrain myself from being up my own butt 24/7 365.

  • @NetflixTopVideos
    @NetflixTopVideos 9 месяцев назад +9

    This was so good, made me realise how much effort goes into our choices in life. Your content is so good, it's making a big difference to my mental health. Thank you so much for that. 😊

  • @etripp111
    @etripp111 9 месяцев назад +5

    The timing of this video is perfect. Thank you.

  • @arleneramirez4561
    @arleneramirez4561 9 месяцев назад +42

    Telling an overthinker to picture all those birds! 😂

    • @catzrule5973
      @catzrule5973 9 месяцев назад +1

      Twitter 🤣😂🤣

    • @arleneramirez4561
      @arleneramirez4561 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@catzrule5973 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @angelaharris1112
      @angelaharris1112 8 месяцев назад +1

      Right!

    • @browneyes541956
      @browneyes541956 6 месяцев назад +1

      Getting anxiety just thing about it 🤔now I’ll be up all nite analyzing it😳

  • @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ
    @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ 8 месяцев назад +2

    Wow u r so spot on. At least you are successful. I'm an RN but had what I call a nervous breakdown and now I'm living on ssdi/retirement and I'm dirt poor. I found u today and I'm sooooooo happy about it.

    • @annelbeab8124
      @annelbeab8124 8 месяцев назад

      You sacrificed a lot ? Maybe think of something you could do that is based on suiting you without expectations or great benefits to other or your purse. I think we often make unfavourable choices as focusing on those two factors. In the end, we feel left with nothing. And all we really missed out on was properly evaluating what wouldn't drain us that bad and keep us joyous. Money and benefits would follow.

  • @agentm83
    @agentm83 9 месяцев назад +1

    all those decisions each day are why I'm a fan of setting up routines for myself, so I don't have to think about stuff so much all the time.

  • @jeankipper6954
    @jeankipper6954 9 месяцев назад +3

    Excellent, excellent points. We choose and choose and choose. ALL the time. It's the DIRECTION. The Gita says, in doing everything, we are doing nothing. In doing nothing, we are doing everything. It's really not possible to do nothing. And most of those specific decisions are not important of itself. Whew. I CAN and do constantly choose goals, my course. I'm imagining noticing unsupporting choices, and turning attention back to the bigger goals or course. Intending to keep on going, not try to stop and argue with what is a detail.
    Thank You!!!

  • @sanditeale3632
    @sanditeale3632 9 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you .Its 6 am UK and the shame Im feeling for things in the past are debilitating.(thoughtds) I can use this tool for building myself up is appreciated

  • @scottlweston
    @scottlweston 4 месяца назад +1

    Thank you, Dr. Scott.

  • @alicia10387
    @alicia10387 8 месяцев назад

    I think the most helpful thing is listening to both your emotional and rational side and combine the two. The most important thing is that you validate both of your feelings as real. Also make decisions after an emotional wave not during.

  • @junegagnon6506
    @junegagnon6506 9 месяцев назад +2

    Thank-you again Dr. Scott! I woke up with the depression again today. I knew it would help to listen to your podcast about decision making today.
    And it did. I thankyou once again for timely information on this subject. ♥️

  • @SRO119
    @SRO119 9 месяцев назад +7

    And now i only can think of this one lonely little bird flying the wrong direction.
    I feel so sorry for him, because he is probably very confused and scared...

    • @susantomkins8798
      @susantomkins8798 9 месяцев назад +8

      Or...what if he's the only one going the right way?

    • @SRO119
      @SRO119 9 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@susantomkins8798 Hi Susan,..this truly ist a wonderful idea, but stil i believe he will not make it much longer. He actually is born to be with others, he belongs in a flock. Without other birds he can not survive. It is way too dangerous, lonely, scary and stressful for him out there all by himself. I realy hope he will find some other birds or someone else pretty soon. Otherweise i fear he will not make it much longer even if he is going the right way....

  • @alexprieto8277
    @alexprieto8277 3 месяца назад

    Dr.Scott, I liked this video it resonated with me a lot. I tried not to make a macro decision, probably several if im honest, in my life. it didnt work out so well. its funny that i told myself id tell my future kid "if you dont make a decision for yourself, someone will" and here you are saying something very similar!
    thank you for breaking down and explaining micro and macro decisions. I feel more ready to get back into making decisions for my life after being mentally ill for over a decade. im just now getting well enough to start over. :)

  • @Chiquepeace
    @Chiquepeace 8 месяцев назад +1

    Thank-you for another incredibly helpful video! You are so skilled at explaining things and presenting in a way that is really accessible and applicable. This presentation helps alleviate a lot of anxiety I have about both small and big decisions. I am so grateful for all the free content you share here.

  • @Amber24426
    @Amber24426 9 месяцев назад +1

    Feeling called out by the thumbnail, but in a good way…
    I was just thinking about how much I struggle to make decisions, ranging from the ones that regularly take place in my day to day all the way up to those giant, looming decisions about where to live, what to choose as a job, to date or not date, what I want for my future in general, etc.
    I feel like decision-making bogs me down every single day. Even trying to figure out how I want to arrange my day leaves me paralyzed with indecision- should I grocery shop first and then go for a walk, or vice versa? Does it make more sense to shower now, or should I shower later as I had originally planned?
    That’s not even taking into account instances where events occasionally shift within my day- then what? How do I proceed and do I subsequently shift the order of what I had planned in order to accommodate accordingly for that change? There’s just so many variables to consider that my head constantly feels like it’s swimming, drowning in the details while the big picture grows further and further distant, barely perceptible from my increasingly limited perspective.

  • @MarianneMcVeigh-xz2yv
    @MarianneMcVeigh-xz2yv 4 месяца назад

    You're so great to listen to, Dr Scott. Your broccoli/ice cream example put everything in perspective. I like your theories on micro and macro decisions. Very interesting.

  • @gazelle3635
    @gazelle3635 9 месяцев назад +7

    Micro decisions dont seem to be a problem for me. Its the Macro decisions where i freeze, do nothing due to anxiety, depression but now am faced with needing to make a big decision to move out of my expensive state to somewhere more affordable but i am petrified. But i need to take the steps to do it. But have no family or support system. Its so hard. Im so scared and just in survival mode.

    • @chaii_latte
      @chaii_latte 9 месяцев назад +2

      I agree on this too. Macro decisions are killing me right now. Everything is big right now.. and it feels hard to decide because it's more impact decisions..same on the survival mode and having no family. Please hang in there..

    • @gazelle3635
      @gazelle3635 9 месяцев назад

      @@chaii_latte Thanks so much chaii latte.

  • @philipholding
    @philipholding 8 месяцев назад +4

    I used to be indecisive, but I'm not so sure now.

    • @user-su6fy4pw2h
      @user-su6fy4pw2h 7 месяцев назад

      I'm actually going to put on a Seminar addressing Indecisiveness and Procrastination this Spring... however I can't decide on the date and I've been putting off figuring out the location right now.

  • @cynthiapetro8708
    @cynthiapetro8708 8 месяцев назад +2

    Love the comment about imagining a flock of hummingbirds (how adorable that would be).

  • @Jezz_Mcfly
    @Jezz_Mcfly 7 месяцев назад +1

    Such a great speaker Scott - I have difficulty watching very choppy edits... (other channels) Great content !
    🙏Thank you so much - Instant sub 👌

  • @tarastewart5471
    @tarastewart5471 27 дней назад

    I overthink and over worry to much about everything even if it isn't something I should worry about

  • @adisciple
    @adisciple 3 месяца назад

    Thank you, dear doctor, your information is precious to us. 🙏

  • @heenim
    @heenim 9 месяцев назад +3

    been watching your videos for like two weeks now and it's been a great help! can i request a video about how we can keep a good relationship with people while dealing with everything :((
    i feel a bit guilty 'cause im in an isolation phase right now but i genuinely cannot interact with anyone, because i feel like my mind have made them my enemies. all i remember were the times that they invalidated or offended me. and i know majority of those times were not made with ill intentions as we're all just humans anyway
    and those same people have also been incredibly supportive and nice to me. but im just really really hurt as well.
    im also well aware that this could be a factor growing up with a parent who was physically and verbally abusive to me but i really just want to forgive them as well. i feel so stuck

  • @melidacartagena8355
    @melidacartagena8355 9 месяцев назад +6

    How about if I struggle even over choices of food for example: I go for a special drink and it happens that its not available , then someone ask, what other flavor? Oh my god!!!🤦‍♀️ I don’t know what to choose. It makes me not wanting to choose anything at all😔 I hate it! Every time I have to choose, its extremely difficult and it makes me feel frustrated. What can I do to cope? Please and thank you.

    • @catzrule5973
      @catzrule5973 9 месяцев назад +2

      I'm good at thinking of all the things that could go wrong. I recently watched a YT video from Therapy in a Nutshell about stopping catastrophizing. She suggested imagining going somewhere, and for your situation above, planning in advance what you might say instead. Be ready to say "okay, I'll have the chocolate flavour instead." When you have an answer ready you feel more in control. I found this, and also this video on micro-decisions from Dr Scott really helpful. Good luck! 🐦🌷

    • @melidacartagena8355
      @melidacartagena8355 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@catzrule5973 thank you so much 🙏 God bless you 🙏

  • @Jody-vu4go
    @Jody-vu4go 9 месяцев назад +3

    Hi Dr Eilers. Would you please be able to make a follow up you tube video about after or nearing the end of a depressive episode how to get back doing the things you stopped doing & were unable to do? I made a list of nearly 30 things I stopped doing. I’m doing much better thanks to you on you tube as well as your book. However the list is still long of things I’m not back to doing or things I’m not fully doing again. I’m not sure how to help myself. Ty.

  • @sophiaisabelle027
    @sophiaisabelle027 8 месяцев назад

    We appreciate your insights. You'll always have our support.

  • @fireside68
    @fireside68 9 месяцев назад +2

    I cannot hear the words "overthinking, overanalyzing" together without hearing "separates the body from the mind"

  • @zackerybartlett8050
    @zackerybartlett8050 8 месяцев назад +1

    I stress about every little thing till I just let it all go and just let myself be homeless. I'm actually happy when I'm homeless or at least it's easier to be homeless. But I want to get help I just don't know how to ask for it.

  • @angelfernando5327
    @angelfernando5327 2 месяца назад

    I can't thank you enough for the advice 😭

  • @susanneh.2698
    @susanneh.2698 6 месяцев назад +1

    Darn I fit every single thing you bring up. Now I feel like a freak

  • @keilaholanda
    @keilaholanda 9 месяцев назад +2

    I need this today!!! 🙌🏻

  • @artsyladie7
    @artsyladie7 6 месяцев назад

    Scott, I have to say I'm guilty of the tendency to sometimes NOT make decisions because I don't have a good knowledge of what I want, and then just let circumstance take over and ake that decision for me. I guess I would call that being afraid to make a decision. But then my next tendency is to make the best out of whatever outcome arises because I know I am capable of doing that with many good microdecisions. In other words, often, I am making lemonade out of the lemons of life whether they are my own doing or not.😂

  • @isabelkassan5244
    @isabelkassan5244 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you! Just what I needed to start today!

  • @mikemillson9572
    @mikemillson9572 8 месяцев назад

    THANK YOU!

  • @Adam-xs3ng
    @Adam-xs3ng Месяц назад +2

    How many people watching this worried about the one bird of the 35000 who was flying the wrong way? 😮

  • @SrogaPoziomka
    @SrogaPoziomka 9 месяцев назад +2

    I can't force myself to start dating and I'm in my late 20's. I would want to start, but postpone it everyday to next day. Life sucks.

    • @AmyInArizona
      @AmyInArizona 9 месяцев назад +4

      I did the same thing. Don’t end up like me: you look at yourself one day only to realize you’re 51. Now it feels too late in life to start. And that causes all sorts of issues, such as adding more depression on top of existing depression, adding anxiety to your overwhelmed anxiety, etc.
      Just go out there, be social… date. It’ll be ok 😊

    • @truechamp3404
      @truechamp3404 9 месяцев назад

      ​@@AmyInArizonagosh i really need to take thus advice

    • @AmyInArizona
      @AmyInArizona 9 месяцев назад

      @@truechamp3404 well, I hope you do. Everything will be okay. 💕

  • @user-su6fy4pw2h
    @user-su6fy4pw2h 7 месяцев назад

    Dr. Scott, I'm actually going to put on a Seminar addressing Indecisiveness and Procrastination this Spring... however I can't decide on the date and been putting off figuring out the location right now. Just kidding of course 😊...I truly struggle with decision making and have greatly benefited from your vids. Thanks for all you do and share!!

  • @fai8t
    @fai8t 9 месяцев назад

    However what I have learnt from this video, the honor of trying is enough aka Better to have tried and failed than never to have tried at all.

  • @you_dont_wanna_know1969
    @you_dont_wanna_know1969 9 месяцев назад +1

    Great video!

  • @sheri6089
    @sheri6089 8 месяцев назад

    Making a choice-macro or micro-isn't the problem. My overthinking/anxiety is about what's going to happen, no matter who does something that pertains to me. By this age I don't have problems with my own choices and I no longer work, but if it will work due to something bad (not under my control) happening-all my life.

  • @_bluephoenix_
    @_bluephoenix_ 9 месяцев назад +3

    I overthink and agonise over the frames on the wall behind you not being straight 🤭😂

    • @rmh691
      @rmh691 7 месяцев назад

      Lol. Drives me crazy too!

  • @TrevorLarezma-tk2iu
    @TrevorLarezma-tk2iu 2 дня назад

    I needed this video so bad.

  • @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ
    @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ 8 месяцев назад

    Yes I would make the attempt because I'm nuts

  • @prsee5969
    @prsee5969 9 месяцев назад +4

    I’m already worried about what to eat tomorrow because I’ve been so nervous I got sick today and barely ate anything and I’m desperately hoping I can make it to the gym if I can eat. I’m saving this video.

    • @krox477
      @krox477 9 месяцев назад

      Don't be nervous

  • @presentfuture7563
    @presentfuture7563 9 месяцев назад +2

    Thanks for the Bob Marley earworm with that title, Dr. Scott. 😂🐦🐦🐦‍ ‍

  • @slimsonite2111
    @slimsonite2111 9 месяцев назад +10

    The hummingbird tangent...THATs why I like you so much! 🥰 Hahaha!

  • @suzyQue1
    @suzyQue1 9 месяцев назад

    ❤ thank you 🙏

  • @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ
    @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ 8 месяцев назад +1

    It freaks out all the other birds

  • @JamilaJibril-e8h
    @JamilaJibril-e8h 9 месяцев назад +3

    Ugh doctor things are hard 😔

  • @stellaancimer8505
    @stellaancimer8505 9 месяцев назад

    All depend how the Brain Works, and how much some part are damaged, perfrontal Cortex for example😊

  • @MiketheNerdRanger
    @MiketheNerdRanger 6 месяцев назад +1

    So does this mean the phrase "how you do anything is how you do everything" is actually nonsense?

  • @CyndieAmala
    @CyndieAmala 9 месяцев назад +4

    So I'm especially worried today and I know everyone here will understand! I do have legitimate reason to worry but I'm in full on panic mode. It got unseasonably warm here today(72°F) which is creating potential for a severe thunderstorm tonight. My biggest fear from it is a power outage. And that's not even the worst of it. All day tomorrow we have a strong wind advisory that's almost guaranteed to knock out power. I'll have no way to preserve or cook food for me or my dog (who doesn't eat dog food). To make matters worse our temps will drop down at least 10° below freezing because of it and I'd have no way to heat my home either if I lose power. AND on top of that, my mom and her boyfriend are flying out of the country tomorrow in the midst of the wind advisory so I'm also extremely worried about them! I want to beg them not to go but they are seasoned travelers who'll stop at nothing to see the world. I also have to worry about the stray cats that I feed being out in the bad weather. I'm trying to prepare for the worst as much as possible. Like having food prepared or food I don't need to cook but it's not helping my mental state. I take Ativan to help ease my symptoms but it's not much help at this level. Unless I took enough to put me to sleep. Which is all I really want to do but I need to be alert for the sake of my pets. There was once a time when I didn't worry so much. I just lived life. But those days are long gone. I'd give anything to have that back! 😢
    Edit: the worst weather missed my area! I'm no longer worried about a power outage or my mom flying today. Unfortunately a tornado did touch down and cause serious damage about an hour north of me. No fatalities thankfully 😊 now maybe I'll be able to sleep at some point today.

    • @debbiedebbie9473
      @debbiedebbie9473 9 месяцев назад +1

      You might have a vitamin deficiency that causes higher levels of anxiety.
      Maybe get a sleeping bag that's rated for cold weather. And have some extra food on hand, and water, toilet paper etc , food for you and the animals that doesn't need to be cooked.
      And a flashlight 🔦 and batteries.
      Most people's houses will not lose electricity. I pray for you to feel calm and to have everything you need.❤🙏

    • @CyndieAmala
      @CyndieAmala 9 месяцев назад

      @@debbiedebbie9473 thank you! You're very thoughtful and I appreciate the advice 💗😊

    • @BrianHornak
      @BrianHornak 6 месяцев назад +1

      How are you ?????

    • @CyndieAmala
      @CyndieAmala 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@BrianHornak I'm ok thank you 💗 my anxiety is a little better lately. How are you doing?

    • @BrianHornak
      @BrianHornak 6 месяцев назад +1

      ​@CyndieAmala ..hi..glad to hear your anxiety is better today...me..good moments..in between and bad moments...there are so MANY....STRESSFUL things happening all at once....and ..at a low point... I happened to find my way to this video..which helped a little..thank you for asking

  • @timm1139
    @timm1139 9 месяцев назад +2

    Guilty.... I was eating ice cream while watching this video....

  • @world_still_spins
    @world_still_spins 8 месяцев назад +1

    If only I got paid $1 for each decision, 35,000 per day.
    One can dream..

  • @spectatorsatori1197
    @spectatorsatori1197 9 месяцев назад +2

    Very good advice for neurotypical people, but unfortunately if you're autistic, those microdecisions can make or break entire relationships or jobs.
    Letting a single bird fly east instead of south is very much what breaks the camel's back a lot of the time. Worst of all, many times it will be microdecisions you missed because you didn't even see them. Happened to me and other autistic friends many times before and these events have all be devastating.

  • @Feuerzahn
    @Feuerzahn 9 месяцев назад

    Dr. Scott, have you tried SSRI's? What's your take on them? Thank you

  • @TGr963
    @TGr963 8 месяцев назад

    thank you sir! for making these helpful videos! you have inspired me to pursue clinical psychology even tho im a patient myself (living with bipolar disorder) Do you think its possible for someone like me with no mental health background to pursue this career path?

  • @ParticleLarry
    @ParticleLarry 9 месяцев назад

    The Lakers play in Staples Center

  • @yonettekelly2406
    @yonettekelly2406 9 месяцев назад +1

    Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
    When you have faith, you will not worry about anything because you will be able to believe that everything will be okay.
    You don't see it but your faith tells you it is there. So you hope for it.
    Worry is the opposite of Faith.
    Picturing 35,000 birds flying in the sky will only make you dizzy.
    All you have to do when you feel to worry is sing the Bob Marley song.:
    "Don't worry about a thing cause every little thing is gonna be alright." 😊❤
    Baby don't worry 🎉

  • @charvankerck9617
    @charvankerck9617 9 месяцев назад

    this plus andonia, I just stay home know .

  • @rabaromar4100
    @rabaromar4100 8 месяцев назад

    Do less is the essential thing to solute this situation

  • @THEIDLESHOW
    @THEIDLESHOW Месяц назад

    I struggle to make decisions because when I finally make them, they’re WRONG af. This leaves me with a petrified feeling and refusal to make any decisions. 😂😢😂😢

  • @Nadyia307
    @Nadyia307 9 месяцев назад

    These graphics are cool!

  • @AndrewUnruh
    @AndrewUnruh 9 месяцев назад

    LOL. Thinking to myself that a six ounce steak, a side salad, and some ice cream would probably be the least nutritious dinner I have had in ten years.

  • @TruthTeller-ez7ev
    @TruthTeller-ez7ev 9 месяцев назад

    Should I go to the gym or take the dog for a walk? That one always gets me...

    • @truechamp3404
      @truechamp3404 9 месяцев назад

      Should i eat breakfast or shower first? This one always gets me

  • @atheistbewildered2987
    @atheistbewildered2987 9 месяцев назад

    This is a reason for neuropsychological testing - to find out what’s really going on.

  • @rhianndarroch4228
    @rhianndarroch4228 8 месяцев назад

    The thought of making 35,000 decisions a day scares me even more. Sorry, this doesn't help me. It just makes everything so much bigger to deal with.

  • @johnbillings5260
    @johnbillings5260 2 месяца назад

    35k decisions a day?! That's a lot of chances for things going awry. 😕

  • @debbiedebbie9473
    @debbiedebbie9473 9 месяцев назад +1

    It's an ADHD trait

  • @lovelyrainflowerfarm
    @lovelyrainflowerfarm 9 месяцев назад

    I know this feedback is important to you: the music playing as you’re introducing yourself - really bothers me. I almost can’t concentrate on what you say. I know you might be trying to make it more interesting, but it’s way better on my ears just hearing you introduce yourself without the music.
    Just my experience.

  • @markjensen8646
    @markjensen8646 8 месяцев назад

    My gaydar is way off, I guess.

  • @michealknight19
    @michealknight19 7 месяцев назад

    Listening to you is actually making me angry. I don't blame this youtuber but it just tells me I'm just getting worse the longer I live.

  • @fai8t
    @fai8t 9 месяцев назад

    black swan have entered the chat.
    not so long ago we had an event that happened once in a century, its called pandemic.
    now with the inhumane situation in Gaza..
    en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_swan_theory