Becoming physically disabled in a vehicle accident at the beginning of this year taught me the futility of worrying. You can have done everything right and things can still go to shit.
Just hydroplaned my beloved custom 97 4runner that I said I'd never let go of.. well😞 -On the other hand that truck saved my life! Not but a inch behind my driver's seat is where the telephone poll impacted. Thank you Dune!!
@@Walamonga1313 it's not about trying to stop the negative thoughts - those too are inevitable. It's about learning to recognise and truly allow yourself to experience those little moments of joy.
"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present. " - Marcus Aurelius
I would say more than twice. I would say many ppl spend their lives worrying about death, so in a way theyre recreating this scenario over and over. Like their living their deaths rather than living their lives, if that makes any sense.
The funniest and saddest thing is when you try your hardest to avoid something horrible you thought might happen, only to basically end up being the cause of it
I’ve been telling myself today: if God wanted us to think about the future, He’d let us know what’s going to happen; if He wanted us to change the past, He’d let us change it. But instead, He wants us to live the present moment which is why we can’t change the past, and can’t depict what the future holds. And this some how calmed me. Thank you very much for the video, such a calming one, as your usual videos! Very much love for this channel, it’s really helping me to improve myself. Wish you all the best 🙏🏻
jaime parra How do you know? So many people have had NDEs - they know. And those who truly study NDEs have not satisfactorily explained away the consistent and numerous personal testimonies. I haven’t had an NDE so I cannot “know” for sure myself, but I definitely cannot rule out that there is more.
Im always worrying that im missing something obvious. Like, I got decent, yet annoyingly delayed stats. So being dumb, ugly and awkward for legit 70% of my life and than suddenly having all of those things pull a 180 right as I hit my 20’s. Like. Fuck me. Being dumb ugly and awkward was my excuse. Thats who I am. Now If I chose to rely on that crutch I just feel depressed, anxious and guilty. Those things suck way more than being dumb ugly and awkward. But, its different. It sucks more but, Its self inflicted. Ive been tryna hone in my intuition as a result because, im a sucker for just tryna figure all my problems out by using words in my head alone and, when I realized that I legit cause all my problems, I could only assume I was the cause of that problem as well. And im just assuming changing how I think is probably a good start. Because if am not the cause of my problems, than im fucked. Which would just be dope. But its not true because when I think that I have no control, anxiety, depression, guilt yada yada. Like, normally when you are fucked out of your control, it is in something that you are not aware needs changing. Some Adam and Eve type shit. So you are naked and not afraid. I guess aside from my personal bs, normally worry comes from a problem that you are aware of. And you are worried because you are aware of it and believe you can solve it. Doesn’t mean you can but, proving you are helpless also gets rid of worry all the same. Like, nobody is excited and anxious after their team loses. So like, the good news is you could probably figure out how to worry less about worrying. The bad news is, you are probably not going to worry less aside from worrying less about worrying less. Which you said was the hardest hurdle but, i feel theres some genuine pain in the irony of that. And, I mean, worry sucks but, its kinda helpful sometimes. And learning to use worry as a tool is nice. But you can always beat urself over the head with a hammer. Like, a hammer is a tool as well right? Same sorta deal. Tho, actually, doing so would probably be a dope permanent fix to the problem of worrying, which is kinda fucked up in a poetic way. I guess don’t use a tool as a weapon...on yourself...cuz bad.
You will never know how on time this video is for my life right now. And while I’m on the subject, allow me to formally thank you for all that you do with this RUclips channel. This channel has helped me get through some immensely hard times, and I want you to know how much your content is appreciated. Keep up the good work and stay blesssssed.🙏🏽
Yes yes yes. I got rid of Facebook, snapchat and instagram years ago. It feels so good to focus on self improvement and not what others are doing. I also believe that going through your contacts and deleting the ones that don't have any relevance to my present day life.
For real. When I meet people who like to engage in higher level thinking, I tell them about my favorite RUclips philosopher, tell them how he helped me turn my involuntary isolation/loneliness (mine started a year before Rona) into my conscious decision to live in relative solitude. I am ok with that mindset about 75% of the time, and that is a Christmas miracle. . The video on breakups turned my very deep and chronic depression into acceptance. I’ve been reading Fromms The Art Of Loving which is giving me crazy concepts to try out. I feel like a scientist and the lab is my brain. The only ethical brain to experiment with. Because of one of your videos on the shadow, I have decided to do shadow work to compliment my CBT. My therapist said to use mindfulness when the symptoms of my disorder flare up. All of this was inspired by your videos. I found you because of a search I did on journal writing. Your work is one of the reasons I’m still here. 🤦♀️ America’s shitty mental health care isn’t over exaggerated. I told my self at one point that I would try anything but Scientology to heal my brain. I’ve spent more time editing I’m nervous. But I feel you should know that your videos have impacted me in a positive way. And if you ever want an “educated but no degree” American to skype with I am so down 😊 hah! People look at me weird when I talk about the absurdity of unified ethics. But that is better than the protests I hear when I tel them I don’t believe in karma. I’m fun at parties. And r/unpopularopinion on Reddit is a cool place to hang out for a few minutes. But with your voice you could probably recite Beowulf and I wouldn’t fall asleep. So for real hit me up.
@@Booster85 after months of investigating on myself the nature of reality and experiencing what i was learning on a roadtrip, i came to this very conclusion, and it's honestly perfect that way
The story of the Chinese farmer is absolutely fantastic. There's a lot to learn from ancient knowledge such as these. "Confine yourself to the present." ~ Marcus Aurelius
@@mountainman6172 I agree. Those times are inevitable they will come to everyone the idea is to prepare ahead of time in order to just flow with those troubled times.
What a wonderful Taoism story! I've been practicing "not to worry" for a long time, and finally I noticed I wasn't worrying and whining when I lost my job last month, but thinking constructively. I realized there are huge difference in those two, and I'm happy that I finally recognized change in myself. I'll keep at it for life. Thank you for the video! I always learn something from you!
I've heard that Taoist proverb before, and I have found it prompts an essential mindset for liberating yourself from worry. I've found that surrendering judgement and quitting labeling thoughts and events as "good" and "bad", allows harmony to come to the manifest in the mind, and in action
How mysterious is life, about 6 out of 10 of these videos come out just when I'm struggling with a topic that is remarkably relevant to the video that has been uploaded. Thank you for these video essays, they truly are helpful.
Yeah, it may be spying on us but I think it's more of a joint effort from its algorithm and also RUclips spying on us. We should be concerned, but if it's promoting to me stuff for me to be a better and caring person in this crazy world, that's still scary, but what can we do? This technology has helped and also destroyed lives. We could disconnect, there is nothing really stopping us from doing it, true, life will be a bit more complicated but I believe we all have personal decisions to make about what do we want for our life and future. Cuz there is no incentive for these companies to let go of this technology.
@Vercingetorix i agree with you totally. It is very scary. Had a zoom talk with my school therapist about how i can't live in a moment and constantly worry 2 hours ago and now i see this video pop up "out of nowhere". These gadgets are very dangerous and there are many distopian possibilities in future associated with technology. Yes, there are reasons to worry
You watch one of these videos then comment, like, or subscribe, then RUclips recommends others related to the one you watched. Simple as that. The topic of this video is a common topic around the world and there are millions or billions of people watching RUclips. It's not a surprise some of people will be watching videos which can be related to the situation they are in now. So it's nothing special and stop worrying about it.
Worrying increase your stress-> stress increase your anxiety -> anxiety make you having panic attacks -> panic attacks make you miserable and more worrying. Keep your mind at present and break the cycle.
Wow, it was wild that I happened to see this video today because I've been having an awful mental health day. Worrying and anxiety is so difficult, and lately my head has felt so tight with the stress. This video helped me and gave me a better insight. Thank you very much for this. Great content!
Incredible video, I have been suffering from a lot of worrying and anxiety since I know myself, trying to anxiously control the future events etc.. And because of that (sometimes paralysing) worry and fear it's been hard to actually do small, positive actions in the here and now that will actually lead to a better future... But those times when for whatever reason I stopped worrying, it felt like I could breathe again without this heavy weight. Such an eye opening video, I will watch this every week now, thank you for putting this out!
Some people need to worry,planning for the future,is a future promised to anyone,if the future is uncertain,the world didn't end ,a blessing could be curse,and vice Versa,the possibilities and options could be changeable or sabotaged,so why worry,if you couldn't control it,worry about the here and now,attack a problem on a different day ,from a different angle,and events could fall into place,because instant results aren't always possible❌💲✔️
I used to overthink everything...it helped me be diligent but it also lead to what I like to call “over editing”; the point where you go through every possible outcome and then do everything in your power to have the perfect solution to handling whatever that is. Problem was, even after coming up with that solution, I’d still be tweaking little things here and there. Whether it was a sales presentation I had to give, a response to a potential client, or even in my personal life hanging out with my family & friends. It was exhausting. Physically and mentally. What helped break the cycle is just making sure things are 85% perfect. Once there, move on. No more thinking about it. That extra 15% is left to the things I cannot control and it’s not my business to know. Most of what we worry about falls into two categories: 1. What we can control 2. What we cannot Being energy efficient and always being mindful of where my time is going has helped me not revert back to old & poor bad habits. Might help you to frame it in a similar fashion as well, to any of you reading. Be better than your thoughts 💪🏼
I worry so much that it takes up all my time. I am unable to focus on my studies or stay connected with my friends because of it. I stay sane for the sake of my family, I laugh and converse with them, but they can only help me if I decide to help myself. I can’t stop. It’s horrible. I cry a lot, obsess a lot and even though I have my moments of clarity, they get severely overshadowed by my crazy thoughts over and over again. I struggle with thoughts about my future job, my future family, whether or not will my future spouse cheat on me, will I die of a horrible medical condition or not, will I have to see all my loved ones die before me, whether or not will I achieve stability in life or not, etc. There’s no stopping them. They swarm my head and latch on. I don’t know what to do. Please help, someone 🙏🏻
You're not alone. We all worry too much. I don't have an answer but you are not alone. Reach out to someone you know. You might be surprised at the compassion of just casual acquaintances.
I'm just like you. Therapy helps. Drugs too (of prescribed by a doctor) when you have crisis. In my case these episodes come and go depending on the circumstances, but they aren't as bad as they were before going to therapy, and now I know it's a disorder...I used to think that feeling this way was rational; I couldn't see how disproportional my reaction was
BROO. So basically I worry and overthink a lot. Especially this days where I think about my age and what I am going to do when I grow up and finding a job. And then today these videos shows up. One over overthinking and this video about worrying. I am so fortunate because both videos helped me realize. Maybe.
1. 1:40 - the vast majority won’t happen. 2. 4:00 - we can’t control the future. 3. 6:00 - we often don’t value certain events properly. Conclusion 8:18 - worrying and the immune system.
T. Andrew, In life there are only 2 problems-mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations when taking a walk, before sleep, in college, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media, take morning sunlight walks and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Regardless of what happens there is always a silver lining to everything, life is ever changing therefore be thankful for the present and focus on what you can control.
It's one of those videos ... which is worth seeing more than once. Most of us take worrying to be normal and even inevitable, without realising that we can actually practice getting rid of it and stay happy.
I am SO PLEASED I've found your channel and these videos! I've had a gigantic quest for finding myself in a religion, tried multiple mixed together, yet, you have managed to show me that I simply must not worry. I like to sit and meditate about what I have learned from you so far, so thank you. Thank you so much! You've been an enormous help for me!
My problem right now is I feel what may possibly is coming but I feel stuck like theres nothing I can do to stop what I've planted in my mind, when in fact those bad dreams may never happen. I just want to let that shit go. It eats at my mind a lot. There mainly fears of the worst possible outcome in life.
A lot of the wisdom in this brilliant video can be found in the book 'How to stop worrying and start living' also. It's always next to my bed for some daily reading.
I am so sorry that you feel so depressed with life I can empathise with your plight I feel like this also I have found that people will try and help you with the best intentions but they can never know your suffering the reason been is because of your present situation sometimes your situation can't be changed its out of your control decisions about your life might be governed by other people and they can't help us because we can't change the present situation no matter how hard we try if have to come to a point where you realise they don't care and we have to do the same
All my dad talks about is stoicism. All the time haha so for Father’s Day I bought him your book. He loves it and he is 72 reading it everyday. Just wanted to thank you for the amazing videos and the amazing book! 💜
This used to be my motto, hope the best but prepare for the worst. Talk about a half empty view, but that was what I knew and it helped me get to here, and that’s a beautiful thing.
Precisely by the end of the month I'm going abroad for a practical internship and I can't stop worrying about how it will affect me. I've always been an introvert and now (I'm 23) I'm starting to realize the consequences of it. I'm the typical smart kid who's always been told that he could be whoever he wanted, but never knew what he wanted. I've always taken the easy path, to the point that I have a degree in something a don't really like. Also, I've wasted countless hours playing videogames and being lazy as fuck, becoming an obese who didn't like his body. All of this has resulted in years of self-hate, which could only be coped with permanent daydreaming. I've spent more time inside my head than in the real world. But 1 year ago I started to change. I started working up and taking care of myself, gaining some confidence. I've even managed to transform the inner voice that would despise me to a voice that tries to help me. But I'm far from being fine. I've never approached a girl and, although now my chances of succeeding are much higher, I can't feel any kind of attraction. It's like my mind has not changed. I think my regular daydreaming has distorted the way I feel. I still look cold and vapid. Here is where this month's travel becomes relevant. I'm leaving with a group of people and miraculously I befriended 2 girls. This could only be possible because 1 of the girls is the total opposite of me. Totally expansive, self-centred and overwhelmingly sexual. I don't know the boundaries between us and that has given me anxiety and an urge to undestand her. I was about to tell her but something inside me wanted to keep experimenting. Her passion and freedom has made me reconsider everything. I started to learn about the psychology and philosophy of self-transformation (shout out to Academy of idea) and my creative side is starting to awaken. Somehow I feel like she is the spear that can break my shield. I know she will damage me but I'm fucking tired of taking the easy path. Yet I feel like I'm fooling myself, that this is not the right path and that I'm going to suffer for nothing. On the one hand the internship in something I don't really like that can define my future and on the other hand the girl that has awaken my spark. I feel like I'll be split in half. I don't know. I really don't know. Thanks for reading :)
I am rooting for you, may You be happy, healthy and I wish for you unbridled success in all your endeavors!!! When u do more and more positive things every day they will be sure to add up, if you don't already. Keeping a journal may help you as you track your progress. It seems to be part of the human condition that no one is 100 per cent satisfied with where they re at... Thank you...
The more challenging path (and that might be the easy one) is likely to get you striving and you write of awakening like the popping of bubbles happening in your world. There's a time for everything and they show themselves to you, while you're striving. So far, and so good. Cheers
Thanks for this wonderful video message. Been worrying for 35 years of my life as I've been lonely and single. Hereon, I'll just say to myself... *Maybe* and see if there's any final luck left in my life.
During the lockdown I'm worrying about a lot of things. Lots of negative thoughts are coming into my mind because right now my mind is empty and I'm free during lockdown doing nothing. No, I'm not worried about finding a job or anything like that. I'm worrying about totally different things now.. Like my health, my body, my height, my looks. I am thinking I'm such and imperfect human being. This is what sitting empty does. This video will give me strength to not worry anymore. Thank you 🙏
This is be far the best channel on YT. Every single video helped me alot to change my view and goals in my life. It's a blessing for me that i found your channel! Thank you so much for all your effort you put in your videos. God bless you and your loved ones.
One of the best channel in RUclips. Very helpful. I can only repay you for not skipping advertisement. Please continue doing these kind of teaching. You are helping lots of troubled mind people like me.🙏👏👍
I watched this video more than 20 times. When I realize I'm worrying & overthinking too much, I came here & watch this. This is a real cure. Thanks Einzelgänger for making these golds.
For the past year I was really trying not to worry, and I was succeeding on it, but life isn't fair and I lost an uncle last week to this crisis and today 3 of my cousins were diagnosed with the virus and all of them were in close contact with the rest of my family. I can't help but be worried... And it's hurting me. Hopefully nothing will happen and this will only be a worry... I just wanted to open up a little bit, thanks for reading.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ― Lao Tzu
this video helped me to calm myself..... but sometimes I forget everything and start to do the same mistake again and again..... whenever I feel like it I should watch this video again
Just what I needed after waking up on this Sunday morning. I'm at a major turning point in my life, about to get my first job. And I'm filled with worries. "Will I get a job that pays enough? Will I even get a job? What if I'm the only one who doesn't?" And many more. But I feel at peace now after watching this video. Things may not turn out how I want them to but that doesn't mean they're undesirable. Guess I'll have to just watch the story unfold.
Whenever you are feeling down remind yourself that it will pass, remind yourself that you are nothing less than a miracle, remind yourself that your Karmas are being cleansed. Pray to God, prayer is powerful. Have faith, have patience. Love yourself. Do good to others, it will come back to you. Good times will come. Peace and love.
There’s a quote they close every AA meeting with that goes “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” I find is also really helpful if you understand it correctly. Great video! I particularly like the part where you break down the dynamics of long term future planning, and staying focused in the moment to work towards those goals. Our caveman brains tends to disregard it as just another abstract idea if it’s not in the moment.
Thank you for making this video. I’ve only dealt with anxiety for about 3 years and it’s gotten worse in waves and short periods of time. I quit one of my jobs because of it and had some lingering regrets because I felt like I allowed some form of weakness to curse myself. This wasn’t true in the slightest, I felt relief in spades but didn’t fully accept it until I saw this video.
Gosh, this was just what I needed to hear. I'm super attached to an opportunity that is turning out not to be as cool as I thought before, and I'm worrying SO MUCH about losing it. BTW have you ever thought about taking the audio and turning your videos into a podcast? Just an idea :) Thank you for one more amazing video!
"The past makes you wanna die out of regret and [the] future makes you depressed out of anxiety. So by elimination, the present is likely the happiest time..." ~Hikigaya Hachiman
Happiness is like anything else. It's transient and ephemeral. We THINK we want it all the time, but if we really got that it would become the new baseline for our 'normal' and no longer FEEL like the happiness we expect, leading to dissatisfaction. The best way to avert this worry is to try and accept whatever circumstances you're in especially if the situation is outside of your ability to control.
Chronic worrier here and your video is very helpful. I'm going to watch regularly and hopefully I can put this unhelpful behavior to rest once and for all. Thank you for sharing this. :)
How do you know if the future is written or unwritten, and even if its written or not, we still don't know. That's what's been on my mind constantly and the fact that we don't know triggers us to predict ourselves and worry even more. However after this video, my concern have been diminished cuz I now understand that whatever on earth may happen and no matter if its good or not, what ur thinking right now does not matter, things still can go shit or turn out to be a blessing. So just let things flow and accept everything, even the worry or negativity ur having
One of my favorite quotes is, "Worry is a terrible waste of imagination." That helped me curb my worrying.
That's a great one! Thanks!
Thanks for your wonderful quote...🥰
I needed that.
Nice
Thank you for sharing.
The past is finished and the future does not yet exist. Stay in the present and focus on what you can do in the moment
Like eckhart Tolles power of now bro
true
Absoluely
@Ris3Up85
You can go to different dimensions with D4C from JoJo
Exactly, but plan for the future as it is usually coming...
Becoming physically disabled in a vehicle accident at the beginning of this year taught me the futility of worrying. You can have done everything right and things can still go to shit.
Just hydroplaned my beloved custom 97 4runner that I said I'd never let go of.. well😞
-On the other hand that truck saved my life! Not but a inch behind my driver's seat is where the telephone poll impacted. Thank you Dune!!
Good wishings to you Kevin.
That's the worst thing. It will always go to shit regardless, so why can't we just stop thinking about it?
@@Walamonga1313 it's not about trying to stop the negative thoughts - those too are inevitable. It's about learning to recognise and truly allow yourself to experience those little moments of joy.
@@surfside75 glad to hear you made it buddy
"There are more things that frighten us than injure us, and we suffer more in imagination than in reality."
-Seneca
Damn that's real
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How is such a quote helpful though? This utter shite is so outdated it's painful...
"Never let the future disturb you. You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present.
" - Marcus Aurelius
Well said.
Yes!!
:)
"Worrying makes you suffer twice"
-Newt Scamander
Why twice? It means it will for sure happens ?
@@robertlegrand4621 if it does happen then you worried twice.
And anxiety worsens the pain
I would say more than twice. I would say many ppl spend their lives worrying about death, so in a way theyre recreating this scenario over and over. Like their living their deaths rather than living their lives, if that makes any sense.
@@robertlegrand4621well, Voldemort died every time a Horcrux was destroyed on his journey to immortality.
We should always be asking ourselves: “Is this something that is, or is not, in my control?” - Epictetus
Each morning I tell to myself " I accept what I can't control" and that helped me a lot to deal with my overthinking and excessive worrying
The serenity prayer. As a daily reminder. Yes
Thanks for making the video.
Ines KaraTerki very wise!
@@luisterrust thank you!
The funniest and saddest thing is when you try your hardest to avoid something horrible you thought might happen, only to basically end up being the cause of it
Yo....I am literally a living proof of this and I’m glad I’m not the only one 😭
I agree
This could be me but i realised now that i just should let things go there way and i hope i choose the right option
@@AegeusI7 Ayo, God?
Honestly, it's the same nut-slapping truth I've been hit with recently
Worring is like sitting in a rocking chair. It doesn’t get you anywhere. But it gives you something to do
Severely underrated comment
Plagiarizer
Somebody watched van wilder
Don’t think I’ve ever fallen asleep worrying… rocking chairs are so underrated.
Sooo true....
I’ve been telling myself today: if God wanted us to think about the future, He’d let us know what’s going to happen; if He wanted us to change the past, He’d let us change it. But instead, He wants us to live the present moment which is why we can’t change the past, and can’t depict what the future holds. And this some how calmed me.
Thank you very much for the video, such a calming one, as your usual videos! Very much love for this channel, it’s really helping me to improve myself. Wish you all the best 🙏🏻
Now you gave it a religious overtone which many people won't agree with
@@Walamonga1313 they don't have to
Believing in a floating man in the sky that controls everything about as real as any character from a book like the cat in the hat
God is energy, which means his everywhere. He doesn't float in the sky.
jaime parra How do you know? So many people have had NDEs - they know. And those who truly study NDEs have not satisfactorily explained away the consistent and numerous personal testimonies. I haven’t had an NDE so I cannot “know” for sure myself, but I definitely cannot rule out that there is more.
"Nothing is so wretched or foolish as to anticipate misfortunes. What madness is it to be expecting evil before it comes." - seneca
Wow
Love it
It really depends on the specific situation. Sometimes you should expect misfortunes or evil.
@@Jimraynor45 out of pure curiosity, when would worrying be beneficial?
only a fool would go out unprepared, unless he is prepared to fail from the start
One of the worst habits we all seem to suffer as it takes the joy of today. Remember the future is unwritten! Take your next step with confidence!
need this man thank you
"I never think of the future - it comes soon enough.
"
- Albert Einstein
Bob Marley said it "In our life we have some trouble, and when you worry you make it double". Great video.
The hardest hurdle to overcome is worrying about how much I'm worrying lol.
It’s better than worrying about whether you’re worrying enough
@Ris3Up85 1) virgin
Only the ego wants to stop worrying about worrying
It's ok to worry, just know that you are worrying
Im always worrying that im missing something obvious. Like, I got decent, yet annoyingly delayed stats. So being dumb, ugly and awkward for legit 70% of my life and than suddenly having all of those things pull a 180 right as I hit my 20’s. Like. Fuck me. Being dumb ugly and awkward was my excuse. Thats who I am. Now If I chose to rely on that crutch I just feel depressed, anxious and guilty. Those things suck way more than being dumb ugly and awkward. But, its different. It sucks more but, Its self inflicted. Ive been tryna hone in my intuition as a result because, im a sucker for just tryna figure all my problems out by using words in my head alone and, when I realized that I legit cause all my problems, I could only assume I was the cause of that problem as well. And im just assuming changing how I think is probably a good start. Because if am not the cause of my problems, than im fucked. Which would just be dope. But its not true because when I think that I have no control, anxiety, depression, guilt yada yada. Like, normally when you are fucked out of your control, it is in something that you are not aware needs changing. Some Adam and Eve type shit. So you are naked and not afraid. I guess aside from my personal bs, normally worry comes from a problem that you are aware of. And you are worried because you are aware of it and believe you can solve it. Doesn’t mean you can but, proving you are helpless also gets rid of worry all the same. Like, nobody is excited and anxious after their team loses. So like, the good news is you could probably figure out how to worry less about worrying. The bad news is, you are probably not going to worry less aside from worrying less about worrying less. Which you said was the hardest hurdle but, i feel theres some genuine pain in the irony of that. And, I mean, worry sucks but, its kinda helpful sometimes. And learning to use worry as a tool is nice. But you can always beat urself over the head with a hammer. Like, a hammer is a tool as well right? Same sorta deal. Tho, actually, doing so would probably be a dope permanent fix to the problem of worrying, which is kinda fucked up in a poetic way. I guess don’t use a tool as a weapon...on yourself...cuz bad.
You will never know how on time this video is for my life right now. And while I’m on the subject, allow me to formally thank you for all that you do with this RUclips channel. This channel has helped me get through some immensely hard times, and I want you to know how much your content is appreciated. Keep up the good work and stay blesssssed.🙏🏽
Man I used to be a worrier. I tried to plan out everything. Now I let life take its course & things usually work out just fine 😊
😂
Lol
Facts
You know what had the biggest impact on lowering my worry? Deleting most social media from my life, not even kidding a little bit.
Yes yes yes. I got rid of Facebook, snapchat and instagram years ago. It feels so good to focus on self improvement and not what others are doing. I also believe that going through your contacts and deleting the ones that don't have any relevance to my present day life.
Same. I disabled Facebook (so I can keep in touch with friends and family on messenger). I haven't missed it since.
This is what I need to do
Lol this made shit worst for me it just left me in my own thoughts and worry
Me too but i have to keep my fb for work purposes..but im glad im a private person now specially on social media.
Your consistency in making topnotch content is Godlike
Thank you for the compliment Vish..!
For real. When I meet people who like to engage in higher level thinking, I tell them about my favorite RUclips philosopher, tell them how he helped me turn my involuntary isolation/loneliness (mine started a year before Rona) into my conscious decision to live in relative solitude. I am ok with that mindset about 75% of the time, and that is a Christmas miracle. . The video on breakups turned my very deep and chronic depression into acceptance. I’ve been reading Fromms The Art Of Loving which is giving me crazy concepts to try out. I feel like a scientist and the lab is my brain. The only ethical brain to experiment with. Because of one of your videos on the shadow, I have decided to do shadow work to compliment my CBT. My therapist said to use mindfulness when the symptoms of my disorder flare up.
All of this was inspired by your videos. I found you because of a search I did on journal writing.
Your work is one of the reasons I’m still here. 🤦♀️ America’s shitty mental health care isn’t over exaggerated. I told my self at one point that I would try anything but Scientology to heal my brain.
I’ve spent more time editing I’m nervous. But I feel you should know that your videos have impacted me in a positive way. And if you ever want an “educated but no degree” American to skype with I am so down 😊 hah! People look at me weird when I talk about the absurdity of unified ethics. But that is better than the protests I hear when I tel them I don’t believe in karma. I’m fun at parties. And r/unpopularopinion on Reddit is a cool place to hang out for a few minutes. But with your voice you could probably recite Beowulf and I wouldn’t fall asleep. So for real hit me up.
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Modern day philosophical great.
Maybe
I'm the worst for this including over-thinking, makes life so hard at times
We need to remember that nothing is for sure, and nothing is exact. Therefore we simply need to become very good at estimating.
@@joedavis4150 Think maybe we need to just chill and let life flow, what will be will be
@@Booster85 ... Que Sera Sera, by Patti Page, or else Doris Day... Que Sera Sera!
@@Booster85 after months of investigating on myself the nature of reality and experiencing what i was learning on a roadtrip, i came to this very conclusion, and it's honestly perfect that way
@@pianospeedrun Thanks buddy!
The story of the Chinese farmer is absolutely fantastic. There's a lot to learn from ancient knowledge such as these.
"Confine yourself to the present."
~ Marcus Aurelius
Sometime the present is so depressingly bad that worrying about the future or past becomes a sanctuary
Maybe
@@mountainman6172 I agree. Those times are inevitable they will come to everyone the idea is to prepare ahead of time in order to just flow with those troubled times.
I enjoyed Alan Watts narrating the story of the Chinese farmer.
Forgot about this, great story!
What a wonderful Taoism story! I've been practicing "not to worry" for a long time, and finally I noticed I wasn't worrying and whining when I lost my job last month, but thinking constructively. I realized there are huge difference in those two, and I'm happy that I finally recognized change in myself. I'll keep at it for life. Thank you for the video! I always learn something from you!
How did you practise not to worry?
Peace of mind is necessary to live a happy life, a healthy life, a stoic life.
I just lost my job yesterday and was very worried about what will happen next... This video completely changed my perspective on that!
“Don’t judge certain outcomes because we don’t know what will happen” that’s solid 💯👏
The story of the farmer really resonates with me. It gives me hope that even the worst possible outcomes I worry about could turn out good somehow
I've heard that Taoist proverb before, and I have found it prompts an essential mindset for liberating yourself from worry. I've found that surrendering judgement and quitting labeling thoughts and events as "good" and "bad", allows harmony to come to the manifest in the mind, and in action
How mysterious is life, about 6 out of 10 of these videos come out just when I'm struggling with a topic that is remarkably relevant to the video that has been uploaded. Thank you for these video essays, they truly are helpful.
Same here... the timing is scary
Yeah, it may be spying on us but I think it's more of a joint effort from its algorithm and also RUclips spying on us. We should be concerned, but if it's promoting to me stuff for me to be a better and caring person in this crazy world, that's still scary, but what can we do? This technology has helped and also destroyed lives. We could disconnect, there is nothing really stopping us from doing it, true, life will be a bit more complicated but I believe we all have personal decisions to make about what do we want for our life and future. Cuz there is no incentive for these companies to let go of this technology.
@Vercingetorix i agree with you totally. It is very scary. Had a zoom talk with my school therapist about how i can't live in a moment and constantly worry 2 hours ago and now i see this video pop up "out of nowhere".
These gadgets are very dangerous and there are many distopian possibilities in future associated with technology. Yes, there are reasons to worry
You watch one of these videos then comment, like, or subscribe, then RUclips recommends others related to the one you watched. Simple as that.
The topic of this video is a common topic around the world and there are millions or billions of people watching RUclips. It's not a surprise some of people will be watching videos which can be related to the situation they are in now.
So it's nothing special and stop worrying about it.
google is listening to you
Don't judge the present situation cause you don't know how things will turn out
-Einzelgänger
Mastering your mind, your emotions and your habits can change the trajectory of your life fast 🙏
Worrying increase your stress-> stress increase your anxiety -> anxiety make you having panic attacks -> panic attacks make you miserable and more worrying. Keep your mind at present and break the cycle.
That's it my friend I'm trying to control myself 👍🙏
Finished yesterday night the "power of now" of Tolle. This video here is the cherry on the cake.
Thank you.
That very book started me on the path I'm on today and it's very very good "living in the now" 😁🍻
The sacred pause.
Wow, it was wild that I happened to see this video today because I've been having an awful mental health day. Worrying and anxiety is so difficult, and lately my head has felt so tight with the stress. This video helped me and gave me a better insight. Thank you very much for this. Great content!
Incredible video, I have been suffering from a lot of worrying and anxiety since I know myself, trying to anxiously control the future events etc.. And because of that (sometimes paralysing) worry and fear it's been hard to actually do small, positive actions in the here and now that will actually lead to a better future...
But those times when for whatever reason I stopped worrying, it felt like I could breathe again without this heavy weight.
Such an eye opening video, I will watch this every week now, thank you for putting this out!
Some people need to worry,planning for the future,is a future promised to anyone,if the future is uncertain,the world didn't end ,a blessing could be curse,and vice Versa,the possibilities and options could be changeable or sabotaged,so why worry,if you couldn't control it,worry about the here and now,attack a problem on a different day ,from a different angle,and events could fall into place,because instant results aren't always possible❌💲✔️
"Worrying only keeps us from acting." So true.
I used to overthink everything...it helped me be diligent but it also lead to what I like to call “over editing”; the point where you go through every possible outcome and then do everything in your power to have the perfect solution to handling whatever that is.
Problem was, even after coming up with that solution, I’d still be tweaking little things here and there. Whether it was a sales presentation I had to give, a response to a potential client, or even in my personal life hanging out with my family & friends.
It was exhausting. Physically and mentally. What helped break the cycle is just making sure things are 85% perfect. Once there, move on. No more thinking about it.
That extra 15% is left to the things I cannot control and it’s not my business to know.
Most of what we worry about falls into two categories:
1. What we can control
2. What we cannot
Being energy efficient and always being mindful of where my time is going has helped me not revert back to old & poor bad habits.
Might help you to frame it in a similar fashion as well, to any of you reading.
Be better than your thoughts 💪🏼
If it is under control - why worry
If it is not under control - why worry 🌈
Because of x,y,z.
I worry so much that it takes up all my time. I am unable to focus on my studies or stay connected with my friends because of it. I stay sane for the sake of my family, I laugh and converse with them, but they can only help me if I decide to help myself. I can’t stop. It’s horrible. I cry a lot, obsess a lot and even though I have my moments of clarity, they get severely overshadowed by my crazy thoughts over and over again.
I struggle with thoughts about my future job, my future family, whether or not will my future spouse cheat on me, will I die of a horrible medical condition or not, will I have to see all my loved ones die before me, whether or not will I achieve stability in life or not, etc. There’s no stopping them. They swarm my head and latch on. I don’t know what to do. Please help, someone 🙏🏻
You're not alone. We all worry too much. I don't have an answer but you are not alone. Reach out to someone you know. You might be surprised at the compassion of just casual acquaintances.
There are a lot of like us. Talk with people who understand you.
I'm just like you. Therapy helps. Drugs too (of prescribed by a doctor) when you have crisis. In my case these episodes come and go depending on the circumstances, but they aren't as bad as they were before going to therapy, and now I know it's a disorder...I used to think that feeling this way was rational; I couldn't see how disproportional my reaction was
Literally just had a conversation with myself about how my overthinking is slowly killing me, then this popped up
BROO. So basically I worry and overthink a lot. Especially this days where I think about my age and what I am going to do when I grow up and finding a job. And then today these videos shows up. One over overthinking and this video about worrying. I am so fortunate because both videos helped me realize. Maybe.
Don't worry, be happy!
1. 1:40 - the vast majority won’t happen.
2. 4:00 - we can’t control the future.
3. 6:00 - we often don’t value certain events properly.
Conclusion 8:18 - worrying and the immune system.
T. Andrew, In life there are only 2 problems-mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations when taking a walk, before sleep, in college, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media, take morning sunlight walks and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
thanks!🙂
I'm here because I'm worried about my worrying.
Regardless of what happens there is always a silver lining to everything, life is ever changing therefore be thankful for the present and focus on what you can control.
Stop taking responsibility for your thoughts. Why are you worrying about something that you didn’t summon in the first place?
I had to read that a few times. Thanks for the perspective! I'm gonna use it.
thank you!
It's one of those videos ... which is worth seeing more than once. Most of us take worrying to be normal and even inevitable, without realising that we can actually practice getting rid of it and stay happy.
I swear every time I struggle with mental issue you immediately upload a vid about it !!! You’re awesome
I am SO PLEASED I've found your channel and these videos! I've had a gigantic quest for finding myself in a religion, tried multiple mixed together, yet, you have managed to show me that I simply must not worry. I like to sit and meditate about what I have learned from you so far, so thank you. Thank you so much! You've been an enormous help for me!
My problem right now is I feel what may possibly is coming but I feel stuck like theres nothing I can do to stop what I've planted in my mind, when in fact those bad dreams may never happen. I just want to let that shit go. It eats at my mind a lot.
There mainly fears of the worst possible outcome in life.
This is catastrophizing , read about it youll understand better why youre doing this and how to stop
Stay strong my brother! You can go through that!
That's what I do and it causes me anxiety and depression with suicidal thoughts. I hope you are ok friend
6 months on. Are you still?
Thank you for this video. I have been worrying so much about my future this past week and this video made me realize what a waste it is.
A lot of the wisdom in this brilliant video can be found in the book 'How to stop worrying and start living' also. It's always next to my bed for some daily reading.
Omg !! I truely love this guy...thank you so much for taking the call and challenge of helping thousands , my total thanks 😊
I’m so depressed with life. I stress at literally everything. 😞
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I am so sorry that you feel so depressed with life I can empathise with your plight I feel like this also I have found that people will try and help you with the best intentions but they can never know your suffering the reason been is because of your present situation sometimes your situation can't be changed its out of your control decisions about your life might be governed by other people and they can't help us because we can't change the present situation no matter how hard we try if have to come to a point where you realise they don't care and we have to do the same
💖💖dude dont stress
Bro... i relate, be strong dude 💪
@Tony Is that your conclusion after extensive research or did you just read a hit piece article.
You are exactly right. Stress kills.
All my dad talks about is stoicism. All the time haha so for Father’s Day I bought him your book. He loves it and he is 72 reading it everyday. Just wanted to thank you for the amazing videos and the amazing book! 💜
This video gave me such a sense of calmness. I struggle with anxiety and this helped, thank you!
I was literally super stressed ! I’m glad I came across this video ! Made me happy 😊 and gave me some hope ! Thank you 💓
I love this. I badly need this one right now. Thank you!
“No matter how much suffering you went through, you never wanted to let go of those memories.”
― Haruki Murakami
This used to be my motto, hope the best but prepare for the worst. Talk about a half empty view, but that was what I knew and it helped me get to here, and that’s a beautiful thing.
Precisely by the end of the month I'm going abroad for a practical internship and I can't stop worrying about how it will affect me. I've always been an introvert and now (I'm 23) I'm starting to realize the consequences of it. I'm the typical smart kid who's always been told that he could be whoever he wanted, but never knew what he wanted. I've always taken the easy path, to the point that I have a degree in something a don't really like. Also, I've wasted countless hours playing videogames and being lazy as fuck, becoming an obese who didn't like his body. All of this has resulted in years of self-hate, which could only be coped with permanent daydreaming. I've spent more time inside my head than in the real world. But 1 year ago I started to change. I started working up and taking care of myself, gaining some confidence. I've even managed to transform the inner voice that would despise me to a voice that tries to help me. But I'm far from being fine. I've never approached a girl and, although now my chances of succeeding are much higher, I can't feel any kind of attraction. It's like my mind has not changed. I think my regular daydreaming has distorted the way I feel. I still look cold and vapid. Here is where this month's travel becomes relevant. I'm leaving with a group of people and miraculously I befriended 2 girls. This could only be possible because 1 of the girls is the total opposite of me. Totally expansive, self-centred and overwhelmingly sexual. I don't know the boundaries between us and that has given me anxiety and an urge to undestand her. I was about to tell her but something inside me wanted to keep experimenting. Her passion and freedom has made me reconsider everything. I started to learn about the psychology and philosophy of self-transformation (shout out to Academy of idea) and my creative side is starting to awaken. Somehow I feel like she is the spear that can break my shield. I know she will damage me but I'm fucking tired of taking the easy path. Yet I feel like I'm fooling myself, that this is not the right path and that I'm going to suffer for nothing. On the one hand the internship in something I don't really like that can define my future and on the other hand the girl that has awaken my spark. I feel like I'll be split in half. I don't know. I really don't know.
Thanks for reading :)
Thanks for sharing your story. Tbh it’s fascinating how I saw myself in what you described. Good luck to you!
I am rooting for you, may You be happy, healthy and I wish for you unbridled success in all your endeavors!!! When u do more and more positive things every day they will be sure to add up, if you don't already. Keeping a journal may help you as you track your progress.
It seems to be part of the human condition that no one is 100 per cent satisfied with where they re at...
Thank you...
@@generalizedmalaise thank you! Would you mind expanding your response? I'd really want to know about people who have lived similar situations.
The more challenging path (and that might be the easy one) is likely to get you striving and you write of awakening like the popping of bubbles happening in your world. There's a time for everything and they show themselves to you, while you're striving. So far, and so good. Cheers
Any good news? 6 months on, I'm interested.
You sounded pretty hung up on this girl, hope it didnt fuck with your head too much?
Thanks for this wonderful video message. Been worrying for 35 years of my life as I've been lonely and single. Hereon, I'll just say to myself... *Maybe* and see if there's any final luck left in my life.
Was looking and expecting this. Thank you
During the lockdown I'm worrying about a lot of things. Lots of negative thoughts are coming into my mind because right now my mind is empty and I'm free during lockdown doing nothing.
No, I'm not worried about finding a job or anything like that. I'm worrying about totally different things now.. Like my health, my body, my height, my looks. I am thinking I'm such and imperfect human being. This is what sitting empty does. This video will give me strength to not worry anymore. Thank you 🙏
Don't delete this video. This video is very much needed
This is be far the best channel on YT. Every single video helped me alot to change my view and goals in my life. It's a blessing for me that i found your channel!
Thank you so much for all your effort you put in your videos. God bless you and your loved ones.
Thanks for the video bro 👍🏾 I've always had a problem with over thinking and this made me feel alot better. 💯
One of the best channel in RUclips. Very helpful. I can only repay you for not skipping advertisement. Please continue doing these kind of teaching. You are helping lots of troubled mind people like me.🙏👏👍
"We simply don't know", that sums it up in a nuttshell
Thanks buddy. Have to study the video in-depth. So much of content in 9 minutes and every statment has meaning.
Your amazing man, I randomly heard your name on a comment two months ago and I felt curious. Is it one of the best decisions I've made? *Maybe.*
Thanks for this. I was made redundant a couple of days ago and this has helped with curbing my anxiety. Trying to learn to embrace the opportunity.
Just needed that im so scared about my money situation with this pandemic your video is so helpful with the mindset thanks! :)
I watched this video more than 20 times. When I realize I'm worrying & overthinking too much, I came here & watch this. This is a real cure. Thanks Einzelgänger for making these golds.
Me: what an awesome video!!!
Einzelgänger: maybe
For the past year I was really trying not to worry, and I was succeeding on it, but life isn't fair and I lost an uncle last week to this crisis and today 3 of my cousins were diagnosed with the virus and all of them were in close contact with the rest of my family. I can't help but be worried... And it's hurting me. Hopefully nothing will happen and this will only be a worry... I just wanted to open up a little bit, thanks for reading.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
― Lao Tzu
this video helped me to calm myself..... but sometimes I forget everything and start to do the same mistake again and again..... whenever I feel like it I should watch this video again
I'm a professional athlete in worrying. I guess it's time to retire.
Great video 👍
Just what I needed after waking up on this Sunday morning. I'm at a major turning point in my life, about to get my first job. And I'm filled with worries. "Will I get a job that pays enough? Will I even get a job? What if I'm the only one who doesn't?" And many more. But I feel at peace now after watching this video. Things may not turn out how I want them to but that doesn't mean they're undesirable. Guess I'll have to just watch the story unfold.
Whenever you are feeling down remind yourself that it will pass, remind yourself that you are nothing less than a miracle, remind yourself that your Karmas are being cleansed. Pray to God, prayer is powerful. Have faith, have patience. Love yourself. Do good to others, it will come back to you. Good times will come. Peace and love.
i needed this video, from my point of view a little worrying is okay as long as you act on it and the worry in question is something you can control.
There’s a quote they close every AA meeting with that goes “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” I find is also really helpful if you understand it correctly.
Great video! I particularly like the part where you break down the dynamics of long term future planning, and staying focused in the moment to work towards those goals. Our caveman brains tends to disregard it as just another abstract idea if it’s not in the moment.
Thank you for making this video. I’ve only dealt with anxiety for about 3 years and it’s gotten worse in waves and short periods of time. I quit one of my jobs because of it and had some lingering regrets because I felt like I allowed some form of weakness to curse myself. This wasn’t true in the slightest, I felt relief in spades but didn’t fully accept it until I saw this video.
Gosh, this was just what I needed to hear. I'm super attached to an opportunity that is turning out not to be as cool as I thought before, and I'm worrying SO MUCH about losing it.
BTW have you ever thought about taking the audio and turning your videos into a podcast? Just an idea :)
Thank you for one more amazing video!
Rejection is God's protection 🙏
Danke Einzelgänger
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Hit the most depressive state you can think of or be in, and you'll never worry again, coz you just don't care.
The Joker
Wow...I didn't know how much I needed to hear this. Thank you
02:08 Madara introduces himself
Deadassss
More like the Darkness Devil
These videos always come at the right time.
"The past makes you wanna die out of regret and [the] future makes you depressed out of anxiety. So by elimination, the present is likely the happiest time..."
~Hikigaya Hachiman
i like hiki.
Yui deserved better
no regrets
I’m obsessed with this channel. Thank you for your work !
My biggest worry is not being happy. I always fear something is gonna come that is gonna take my hapiness away.
Happiness is like anything else. It's transient and ephemeral. We THINK we want it all the time, but if we really got that it would become the new baseline for our 'normal' and no longer FEEL like the happiness we expect, leading to dissatisfaction. The best way to avert this worry is to try and accept whatever circumstances you're in especially if the situation is outside of your ability to control.
I am now going to start saying "maybe" anytime I find myself worrying. Great video!
The present moment is all there is. When you get your attention form the future I to the present. Much of your Worry goes away
Chronic worrier here and your video is very helpful. I'm going to watch regularly and hopefully I can put this unhelpful behavior to rest once and for all. Thank you for sharing this. :)
I always worry.
How do you know if the future is written or unwritten, and even if its written or not, we still don't know. That's what's been on my mind constantly and the fact that we don't know triggers us to predict ourselves and worry even more. However after this video, my concern have been diminished cuz I now understand that whatever on earth may happen and no matter if its good or not, what ur thinking right now does not matter, things still can go shit or turn out to be a blessing. So just let things flow and accept everything, even the worry or negativity ur having
Plot twist: the farmer had only ever learned to pronounce one single word: "maybe".
Maybe.
I have, since I was quite young, adored the Taoist story you included in this video. Thanks!