Rectification: the story of King Canute (as told in this video) seems to be based on a common misinterpretation. My apologies for not researching and checking it properly, as I assumed this was the correct version. King Canute did not command the waves to stop out of arrogance and delusion, but to prove to people that the powers of kings are limited and trivial - pretty wise and profound. Thanks to the people who pointed out this mistake. I hope this clears up my error. E.
As a child in the UK, I was taught that Cnut (who was actually a Dane) tried to prove the divine nature of kingship by turning the tide. That was being taught nearly 50 years ago, mind you! Maybe history has moved on and reinterpreted that 'fact' but I remember it being taught that way. Thank you for all the great content you create - I'm a big fan.
Thanks for showing how to take feedback and correct it on RUclips...whereas people are messing with lives of others and not accepting and correcting it. Having said that, this video of your leave lots of questions 1. Why do people like to control others 2. Why they never Check alternative options..power, greed and fear are still big drivers ??? 3. How can communication and discussion are not options for these controlling types to proving something wrong or right... Instead they believe in fake stories, fear and greed tractics ???
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
I'd say more accurately that it's "I am not what has happened to me, nor what I do in relation to the situation, For I am truly how I feel in the moment, and my only choice is how I choose to feel always" You are not the body, nor the mind, you are the ever present witness of them. The silent seer beyond.
THANK U SOOOOOOOO MUCH !!! I was just thinking to leave my all BAD friends and i suddenly saw this comment. i love this lesson and now i'm leaving my all bad friends forever!!!
Depends on what path you want to lead in life. In the end, we all make friends in order to increase our status within the socio-economic hierarchy. The path you choose will have a heavy impact on how far you go.
OMG SO TRUE wisdom right there..... I love this parable by trying to control the less in control we are .... the paradox of control . King Kannut my friend control is an illusion we don't control people our bodies we can influence but not control we don't have ultimate control.
Absolutely brilliant. I am learning this at the moment. I have found out that I have been accepting friendship from bad people as being better than having no friends. Bad mistake. 🙏
Timely... having released or discovered truth re so-called friends recently, I was in quite a bit of self-pity as someone who used to "have so many friends" and now has very, very few... and none locally. But what you say is SO. VERY. TRUE. Because the requirement of continuing a relationship with an UNTRUE friend is being untrue WITH ONE'S SELF. A worse kind of loneliness.
... and then look at the billions of people who were manipulated to put themselves in line for a dubious mRNA experiment... Or look what happens now globally under the disguise of "climate change" ... of there's anything that can be controlled on that planet, than it's the people.
That is terrifying if you really think about it. It means we dont have free will. That no matter what we choose, a super being is guiding our every step to a fixed point in our lives. Fuck that brother.
By accepting that we cannot control everything and learning to let go, we can find greater peace, joy, and freedom in our lives. It's a call that encourages us to focus on what we can control, such as our thoughts, emotions, and reactions, and to trust that everything else will fall into place as it should.
The control paradox applies to thoughts and emotions as well. The issue isn't control itself, it's the desire for control. Desire comes from the ego, and it comes from the belief that your reality should be different than it is.
A black man in a jail cell in a movie once said “the universe tends to unfold as it should” and its stuck with me ever since and when i gave up wanting to control that what was not in my control I started to notice this unfolding happening and conquered my driver’s license with surprising ease. negative self talk was within my control apparently 🤷♂️
As a person who constantly looks back at the past and wishes I could go back and change it, I now realise after watching a couple of your videos that this is foolish and a waste of time. I know it will take work, because I have a lifetime of bad habits to break, but I think it will be worth it. Thanks for an awesome video 📹
Elon musk Could not stop his divorces. Jeff Bezos could not stop his divorce. You have health one day, next day you don’t. You have a job one day, and next day you don’t. You can not figure out everything. Like it or not, we need to have faith in a higher power for help. We don’t have a choice except to simply trust the process.
“Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”-Bruce Lee
Currently going through a rough time. Been separated from my wife 2 months now and it’s been the hardest time of my life. I realize my pain comes from my desire to control the outcome and no matter how much I worry or think of solutions it will matter very little. I have to just let go and what will be will be. Thanks for this video. It came at a perfect time.
Having been through 2 divorces, I can tell you if you want things to work out with her, your best chance is by letting go and resist the urge to negotiate/plead/control her. Its very hard to do.
Hang in there. I've been there, it can get dark, but just try to imagine that it's okay to be alone. Things happen beyond our control in life, and if that person isn't going to be next to you forever, that's okay, because at some point it's GOTTA be okay. Make it okay now. You'll get through it.
@@life_of_riley88 Exactly. We as humans often view solitude as a disease that must be eradicated at all costs, but we all need to make friends with solitude because life happens. People leave, people cheat, people die. Life needs to make sense with or without people, or else you are not free.
The part about the woman stressing over her job is very relatable. I plan to switch from a stressful software engineering job to becoming a handyman. I'll make way less money, but I enjoy meeting new people (in person) and I love seeing different places and houses. Last 3 years, I feel like I've been trapped in my house and forced myself to stare at a computer screen for too many years of my life.
Good for you following your instincts. One afternoon 14 years ago I walked through my corporate department where many people depended on me for direction and I was very well-paid, and I remember the exact suit I was wearing when the words appeared in my mind as though they were written in fire suspended in front of me: "There is nothing here for me." Within a month the company offered a corporate-wide buyout offer which I took 15 years before normal retirement. I left a high-profile cushy position with lots of pro-sports and other silly public points to it including many insufferable egos, and had just written the annual report, so everybody assumed I knew something secret and that's why I was jumping. If I hadn't made that leap from plush strangling security across the abyss of the next 15 dead corporate years, I would never have had almost a decade free to travel, spend time with aged parents, discover the life-changing practices of Buddhism, meditation, and Stoicism, and later become a ranger/wildland firefighter where I make a fraction of my former corporate financial package but have an absolute blast. We have one life: we must follow our instincts and our nature or we will feel enslaved.
@@johnhamilton9284 That's Awesome!!! It is hard to go from "Make more money" to an "Enjoy life" mentality sometimes. I had my wife quit to become a travel agent and I've never seen her so excited about her job before. For me, working with my hands to help someone get something fixed, allows me to do fun things like drilling, cutting wood, screwing stuff...it's kinda cool. Plus, unlike my Software Engineer job, I can knock out something in the same day instead of weeks or months or years and never have to be in boring meetings. Enjoy your life, thanks for your post. It's exciting hearing about others doing what they love rather than being stuck in the Rat 🐀 race!
Uncontrollable forces of human nature at that. Discovered my wife cheated twice. Acted like nothing happened. I got cancer and was kicked out of the house, it took me too long to recover from her infidelity. Hahaha. So, while homeless, tumor in my body, and jobless. I was then served with divorce papers! At 38 I’m back with my folks and licking my wounds. The key is to remember to stay calm even when you’ve only got one nostril above water.
It surprises me how few people understand why manipulation, or coercion, has the opposite effect (eventually) of the hoped-for outcome. Even the most moral, or altruistic, intentions become warped when delivered by force or deception. It never ends well.
Having an absolute control over one's actions and reactions to external circumstances is perhaps the greatest feat of courage and strength. Letting things unfold on their own accord is the true way of the universe.
Life happens .. !! Drink coffee ☕️ go fishing 🎣 have wine 🥂 ... accept u cannot control everything. Don’t control people - Do not be controlled either. Live Free !!
Controversial. Where's the fineline between no-control and not letting to be controlled? Thats also a control when you *dont* let others control you. Haha
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
Julietphillips, This is profound! We often imagine that peace of mind comes when we have full control, right? But in reality the only true peace is found when we have given up our neurotic urge for control. Peace arise when we have accepted that the next moment is a complete unknown to us no matter how clever we try to be. Then peace of mind can become a constant way of being, in any circumstances. We have no expectations about what the next moment will bring, and we are completely open to what ever comes our way.
I learned this as a young child, I called it the pool noodle problem. I wanted to use the pool noodle, but there was never that many, however when I had it I was then unhappy because I “had” to guard and keep others from it and couldn’t just swim. I learned that I was happier without the fun sounding toys for the most part, or at least the thought I should use them, because I was literally held back. This has carried over to many things in my life, having both hands full but still trying to maintain a normal pace doesn’t work, just letting go leads to a better life.
When I was about 13 my whole house flooded (water heater burst in the attic while out of town - don't ask me whose bright idea that was). The flood began from directly above my bedroom on the top floor and destroyed the whole house over the span of a week while we were on a cruise. When I went inside for the first time upon returning, I stood outside the door to my decimated room watching as water and insulation continued to pour onto my bed and belongings. Unlike my parents, I wasn't devastated or upset, even. I think that was the moment I learned nothing is permanent. I learned a lot from sleeping in a hotel for months and having to buy all new clothes and basic necessities. It could have been worse...I could have been asleep under the water heater when the ceiling collapsed, my parents could have forgotten to pay their insurance bill and we could have been homeless(well- homeless-er) Point is, you can lose EVERYTHING (or everyone - different story) in an instant, and that's that. But it doesn't have to break you. You cant undo what has been done, so you either learn to let go or you become consumed by the grief of losing something that was never meant to last forever anyways. The last lesson I learned, appreciate what you have WHILE you have it, not after its already gone. AND DON'T PUT YOUR WATER HEATER IN THE ATTIC.
There once was a factory owner who's factory burned down. Instead of breaking down by the sight of his factory burning he called all his workers and said "You'll never see a fire this majestic again". Change the things you can change and accept the things you cannot - thus you can change your reaction to negatie events. In the end, seek opportunity with risks you've a solution for as the worst case never comes to fruition.
Yeah, because he still had shit ton of money to rely on. His workers just lost their job on which they depended on. It’s easy not caring when you’re rich
@@legitplayin6977 Those evil rich people eh. Who worked hard and saved to build a business that hired lazy people like you who are jealous of the person who through his sacrifices succeeds. You are in control of your life, go and try, try again until successful
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
God bless this channel. You are always sent to us in the most difficut times of our life. Whenever I had trouble, a break up, sickness or any form of distress this channel has been an immense help and a source of strength. I am a teacher and I share this with my students. I believe this knowledge is necessary for the young generation as it will save them from unnecessary sufferings and cultivate their potential. Thank you so much. P.s: your way of tackling concepts is mindblowing. I really love how you deconstruct common sense and construct wisdom with your essay structure! *kudos for all the team*
Everyone needs to remember that only our thoughts, words and actions are in our control. External things like climate, economy or other people's behavior are beyond our control and thus one should not be bothered by them!
If we were in control of our thoughts, anxiety wouldn't be a thing, neither would depression. I also suspect we cannot control words or actions completely. What we can control is observing and learning.
@@TheMathias95 when you don’t know your will power over your thoughts you will never be able to control them till you know who you are.Anxiety depression can be controlled 💯,there’s just a formula on how to do it and you need to be taught
@@RSBloc You can learn how to handle anxiety and depression, but you very much so cannot control the thoughts provoking them. They can arrive whether one wants them to or not. Awareness of this can help you to cope. I'm assuming this is what you also meant, but when using the word "control" implies to me that you can ensure never to feel neither anxiety nor depression, which is a claim about a future you cannot predict.
@@TheMathias95 no,thoughts never arrive without being asked for,the moment you entertain a thought you don’t like you asking for it.your mind is the only thing you can really control in life lol only if you understood that
My grandfather died in a sailboat accident just one year before I was born, but left me this gem... "Always camp a few feet above the high water mark."
My husband recently learned this in a very literal way at work. He got a new job over the summer, making more money and working from home. He was very happy with this, then got caught up in the rat race idea of constant growth and just more and more and more. He became unhappy with the situation he was just happy with a few months ago because he wanted more. So he started doing more and more that was outside of his job in order to move up. This is a form of controlling other people in my mind. We were already doing well financially and didn't want for anything, plus we could spend way more time together. I told him he can't control his status at work, and his company will pay what they want to pay and will hire who they want for management positions. Well, his hard work didn't stop the company from hiring someone else at a higher rate who works far less. Now my husband is going into the office all the time, 120 mile round trip btw, while the other guy never comes in, and still makes way more in the same job title. He was hired on as a remote worker, but his need to show he's worth more, only showed he doesn't mind the drive or hours put in. Did i mention my husband is on 24 hours for 4 days straight when he's on shift, while the other guy is off nights, yet still doesn't have to come in? This is why the position was work from home to begin with. He didn't get a promotion he was going for because the company likes him doing his job since he has turned the department around. If they promoted him to another department, his current one would fall. His new company is now controlling every aspect of his life because in his attempts to move up, he really just showed them he's a doormat who will work harder for less pay. It's getting to the point now that he's thinking about quitting the job he used to love.
8:41 in Quran (But you may hate a thing although it is good for you, and may love a thing although it is evil for you. Allah knows, and you do not know) Sura 2: AL-BAQARA ❤
This whole thing was totally amazing and hopefully life-changing. I'm going to go get a notebook and a pen and watch it again and take notes this time. Thanks so much.
Whoever you are who can't sleep tonight, is tired or sad, believe that there will be tomorrow that will light up your beautiful days. You just need to endure a little more, a little more, and a little more ... Thank you for being patient, thank you for being able to survive. And as you read this, promise yourself that you will be able to get through your toughest days in the future. Promise to keep smiling, no matter how you are ... You deserve to be happy :)
If I try to control my addiction issues. My addiction controls me. If I'm mindful, and I place my addiction into a higher which can be anything. I stay sober.
One step at a time. One day at a time. Only thing different from a bad or good day is what you do about it. Stay strong minded and keep focusing on what matters most. Life is too short to worry about the things you can’t control. Enjoy the journey there’s no destination :)
I've learned the hard way that the more I try to control a situation, the less I am in control of it. It's a bitter lesson and one that I have to keep learning 😥
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
As a 31 year old man who hasn’t had a single friend in 15 years…. You will be ok. In fact learning to love yourself and be your best friend in the end is fantastic.
I think one point that I felt was not that explicit in this video, but that fits the topic well, is that whatever you choose to control, will consume your mind, and thereby also control you. It is not just about whether the thing you want to control is not behaving according to how you want it to (or maybe it does, who knows) and thereby giving you uncertainty and stress, but also that if you choose to not control the thing, your mind if freed to focus on other things, perhaps something that you can control.
I genuinely need this message today. I just had a panic attack a moment ago due to severe anxiety. Somehow the knowledge that often everything is out of our control other than our own actions or response to certain situations helps me focus on the present, and not fear the outcome of tomorrow if will be on my favour or not. Sending hugs. 💞💞
Same, I never have watched these videos but this is the first one that showed up on my feed and addressed the same problem that's effecting my anxiety.
Hi. I hope you start to feel better. For help with panic attacks, I'd like to recommend the book Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks Fast. It works well for me. There's also a phone app, apparently, but I've not used it.
@@Telltalesignalso dont fear panic attacks i know easier said than done its all just a bodily physical symptoms flight or fight your body is fooled thinking you are in actual danger but actually you are not its just a false alarm
Everyone is an empath. Non-empathetic people are called psychopaths. You are calling everyone psychopathic by classifying yourself as an "empath". Absolute clown world, you ain't special
Really thankful for this video and many others before. It's just what i needed today. I will let these words sink in now and remember again and again that this might be my lesson to learn, letting go and control what i can. I quote my friend, he said lately: this difficulty that i have with (insert topic) might come back in my life, as many times as are needed to understand the lesson. So here I am once again....but its getting better everyday. 🙏
Isn’t that similar to the Sith philosophy of the Dark Side controlling them. Or how a person tries to set his greed, but ends up becoming successful and one option being falling prey to his vices. It seems to show that the imposition of control takes away from the struggle that is reality, in which we develop as generally productive and intelligent beings; probably another reason as to why too much control or dictatorship is most definitely bad, among other ideals regarding freedom, and the way of life we live.
Amazing video! We need to focus only on the things we can control. Life is a learning process and it is easier with these beautiful reminders! Thank you!
Meine Liebe , sometimes these make me sad instead of encouraging me. The end, where you mention Seneca "The lack of confidence is not the result of difficulty, our difficulty comes from our lack of confidence". I have to disagree with the first part of that. I was once confident enough to deal with traumatic events that that were beyond my control, and there were several, thankfully there were gaps between those events. Then I was hit with an avalanche of traumatic events involving 3 family members, a suicide, medical malpractice leaving a parent unable to walk, and one of my children, in his 20s having a rare form of stroke. These things occurred within a short time of each other, in two different continents. The "fallout" from these were ongoing with no end in sight, for 10 or more years. I was the only person dealing with it all. I am broken, have not been able to regain my self confidence. I have tried and tried to no avail, and it is definitely causing difficulty.
True. I also used to be quite confident that I could navigate life. Quite strong in most ways. But then a tragic series of unfortunate occurrences including two suicides in the family, abandonment by my co parent and resulting financial and emotional distress and my 21 year old son's mental collapse broke me. I'm picking up the pieces though, and can occasionally marvel at a beautiful early morning. Cut yourself some slack, make yourself a cuppa. It is what it is. Better times will come around again.
I wouldn't read that nonsense even if they paid me for it. All religions are bullshit by extension all religious books are nonsense for the weak minded.
Fighting is enjoined upon you, while it is hard on you. It could be that you dislike something, when it is good for you; and it could be that you like something when it is bad for you. Allah knows, and you do not know. Quran 2:216
Another great vdeo, thank you. It often happens that the topic you choose is exactly the one I need to hear at that time and so it is with this video. While watching, this thought came to me - I want to be like the captain of a ship on the sea. The captain knows that neither he nor the ship can control the chaotic waves but he also knows that, with his skillful guidance, the ship can safely ride the waves until the sea calms. Seeking the skill to guide our own ship and the wisdom to accept the waves as they are is, perhaps, one of the most valuable lessons we can learn in life.
I found your channel right about the time I went into recovery and began my healing journey in my new life. These videos have been such a wonderful added support for me. The teaching of the stoics ties right in to the way of the program I'm in. I have 11 months sobriety and these videos are like a mental vitamin supplement for me as I continue to heal and transform body, mind and spirit. Thank you for the gift you bring to me, and to the world.❤❤❤
Sometimes it's just hard to find that fine line of where your control stops and the uncontrollable starts. It is not a bad idea to prepare yourself before walking into a mine field, but you can't prepare for absolutely everything.
This video helped me so much! I am pulling the weight of three coworkers currently while managing far too many projects. I tried to control the outcome to the detail and put a lot of pressure on myself for no reason - because rarely anything ever went like I wanted since I was just not in control of supply chains, coworkers, client's moods ... After watching this video it felt like this weight has been removed from me, I am able to let things happen naturally and only focus on the things I actually have control over. Thank you so much!💙
Fighting for control will put you in a hole that will be difficult or impossible to climb out of. Hold on loosely but don't let go. If you cling too tightly, you're going to lose control. Those words previously typed are lyrics from a .38 Special song called 'Hold On Loosely". They fit well with this. Thanks for the thought nutrition and reading this.
Thank you so much. I hope you never stop doing what you’re doing. You have helped me throughout difficult times from age 17 till now, 20. I appreciate you.
I am so glad that this channel exists !!! This video made me realised that what society preaches isn't always what we need for our lives to find peace. They tell us to have EVERYTHING under control, buy in most cases that is an impossible task to accomplish. Thanks a lot👏👏👏
00:05 Attempting to control the uncontrollable can leave us more vulnerable. 01:46 The paradox of control reveals the limitations of human control 03:44 We can't control certain aspects of life. 05:26 Acknowledge the limits of our control 07:11 The paradox of control highlights the futile nature of trying to control outcomes. 08:53 The paradox of control is letting go of uncontrollable things. 10:36 Desire for control stems from insecurity 12:22 Embracing life's unpredictability leads to inner peace and resilience
accept what you can’t change, have the courage to change what you can, and more importantly the wisdom to know the difference between the two! same here, no paradox of control, make a choice on what you think you can control. try and fail sometimes, succeed othertimes :)
@@remitemmos9165 i won't lol. thats my best quality. im always changing, and extremely adaptable to any situations. and failure bas never stopped me. most of my life is described by failure
Power does exist, though. The fact that we (the peons) don't have it is no reason to give up on getting it. The feeling of being in control of one's life is correlated with longevity, even... those who feel like they have control over their lives live longer than those that don't, and the higher up in their organization people are, the more control they feel they have.
Canute was making the opposite point to what you describe ie he was showing the flatterers in his court that he was not all powerful AND he was not deceived by their nonesense.
I have come to understand that life was a way to teach us more harshly what we are not willing to learn in an easier way. I guess it depends on what type of Trauma each of us have. What I can say to anyone out there who was a Perfectionist complex, due to whatever childhood pressure you must have lived through is this: Give it up, You are Perfect already even if you make lots of mistakes and have failed. If you are looking for external approval, stop and give that approval to your self. Remind yourself or Re learn to do the best you can in whatever circumstance and then let go, the outcome will be the outcome. it took me 45 years to learn that, and I am living in a more balanced way now, and learning to let go of control and just focusing on doing the best I can, and learn to trust life knows much better than I do, and that life was indeed the bigger picture. Blessings to All.
What a coincidence that this video appeared in my feed. During an intense, serious discussion, because I was so increasingly desperate to get my point of view across to a few family members, I didn't realise that I was raising my voice and trying to talk over everyone else. It caused my elder brother, who I had not quarreled with in over a dozen years, to furiously lash out at me. It shocked me so suddenly and badly that I ended up apologising to him immediately afterwards. We made up, but I still feel terrible for provoking him. I wish that this video came to me sooner, but I guess it's a lesson learned nonetheless.
I control my breath when im around with other people. Sometimes I dont breathe when im too close to them. I have sinusitis and I dont have good teeth. My life is miserable because OF that , no friends. I dont go out. I want to resign but I cant.
This reminds me of Sauron, who poured much of his spirit into crafting the One Ring to control the wills of others, and master Middle Earth itself - but ultimately he just ended up making himself critically vulnerable
I can't explain how much i needed it at this time. RUclips recommended this to me yesterday but couldn't watch it as i was busy but a feeling came to me that i must watch it so i searched for it again. I'm having a difficult time rn and this video is an eye opener for me. Thank you so much
I find it very ironic that the video starts with an example of how impossible it is to control the water/forces of nature, while Einzelganger comes from/lives in the Netherlands, a country that has achieved exactly that! 😂
Not really. We have dikes and drainage systems, but those don't guarantee that nothing could go wrong in the future. They do a great job protecting the country from the sea, but they don't *control* it. There’s a difference.
Thank you so much for this video, and all the others. I struggle with low self esteem and it has hurt so many people, mostly myself. Learning to not see myself as a victim who needs to gain power in order to survive is one of the most difficult things for me to wrap my head around. Thank you, thank you for all you do
i just want to say: einzelgänger! you ARE something else...🙌 this is the best educational video i've seen in a while. every second of this video was educational. and this is really hard to achieve. wow. you fed my soul. ❤
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Rectification: the story of King Canute (as told in this video) seems to be based on a common misinterpretation. My apologies for not researching and checking it properly, as I assumed this was the correct version. King Canute did not command the waves to stop out of arrogance and delusion, but to prove to people that the powers of kings are limited and trivial - pretty wise and profound. Thanks to the people who pointed out this mistake. I hope this clears up my error.
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Thanks for the rectification EZ. We appreciate your promptness to set things right :)
As a child in the UK, I was taught that Cnut (who was actually a Dane) tried to prove the divine nature of kingship by turning the tide. That was being taught nearly 50 years ago, mind you! Maybe history has moved on and reinterpreted that 'fact' but I remember it being taught that way. Thank you for all the great content you create - I'm a big fan.
Thanks for showing how to take feedback and correct it on RUclips...whereas people are messing with lives of others and not accepting and correcting it.
Having said that, this video of your leave lots of questions
1. Why do people like to control others
2. Why they never Check alternative options..power, greed and fear are still big drivers ???
3. How can communication and discussion are not options for these controlling types to proving something wrong or right... Instead they believe in fake stories, fear and greed tractics ???
"How do we know what's good and what's bad?" - Farmer in the video
Canute was the king of England, Denmark and Norway. He was demonstrating to his people that even he was not all powerful.
"I am not what has happened to me, I am what I choose to become". That is powerful
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
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by C.G. Jung
I'd say more accurately that it's "I am not what has happened to me, nor what I do in relation to the situation, For I am truly how I feel in the moment, and my only choice is how I choose to feel always"
You are not the body, nor the mind, you are the ever present witness of them. The silent seer beyond.
Both and? Yes and no. Unask the question, look for a larger context.
*”Do not fear having no friends. Fear having bad friends”* ~My life taught lesson
THANK U SOOOOOOOO MUCH !!! I was just thinking to leave my all BAD friends and i suddenly saw this comment. i love this lesson and now i'm leaving my all bad friends forever!!!
Depends on what path you want to lead in life. In the end, we all make friends in order to increase our status within the socio-economic hierarchy. The path you choose will have a heavy impact on how far you go.
OMG SO TRUE wisdom right there.....
I love this parable by trying to control the less in control we are .... the paradox of control . King Kannut my friend control is an illusion we don't control people our bodies we can influence but not control we don't have ultimate control.
Absolutely brilliant. I am learning this at the moment. I have found out that I have been accepting friendship from bad people as being better than having no friends. Bad mistake. 🙏
Timely... having released or discovered truth re so-called friends recently, I was in quite a bit of self-pity as someone who used to "have so many friends" and now has very, very few... and none locally.
But what you say is SO. VERY. TRUE. Because the requirement of continuing a relationship with an UNTRUE friend is being untrue WITH ONE'S SELF. A worse kind of loneliness.
You can't control others' ACTIONS, only your own REACTION.
So short and so very helpful words
Easy to remember 🙏
... and then look at the billions of people who were manipulated to put themselves in line for a dubious mRNA experiment...
Or look what happens now globally under the disguise of "climate change" ... of there's anything that can be controlled on that planet, than it's the people.
Your out of lines! **BUT YOUR RIGHT!!!**
You can say that again.
This resonates with me. Especially how it shows exactly why WORRYING NEVER HELPS ANYTHING. If anything, it makes it worse.
this.
It’s not like you can control it though
@@legitplayin6977 Always strive for control while keeping in mind and accepting you can't control everything.
@@pyroxxx Still can’t control things like anxiety attacks or depression
@@legitplayin6977 i think you can learn to control them
" My heart is calm because I know that what I miss will never be my destiny and what is destined for me will never miss me " Umar Ibn El-Khatab
Who wrote that
Imam Ashhafi,'i's quote@@shizznp7411
@@shizznp7411Umar ibn Al Khattab
الفاروق. عمر بن الخطاب
That is terrifying if you really think about it. It means we dont have free will. That no matter what we choose, a super being is guiding our every step to a fixed point in our lives. Fuck that brother.
“In life, we never lose friends, we only learn who the true ones are.”
If there is 1 real! Not my case..at least i have Allah💖🤲
Amen
That one surely is death.
Unless theyre killed in a car crasg
For sure😊😊😊
Lord
Grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference
A.A.
Just for today
I am so anxiety ridden.. I need to pray.
My favortie prayer
One day at a time
By accepting that we cannot control everything and learning to let go, we can find greater peace, joy, and freedom in our lives. It's a call that encourages us to focus on what we can control, such as our thoughts, emotions, and reactions, and to trust that everything else will fall into place as it should.
yes i absolutely agree with you
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The control paradox applies to thoughts and emotions as well. The issue isn't control itself, it's the desire for control. Desire comes from the ego, and it comes from the belief that your reality should be different than it is.
Amor Fati
A black man in a jail cell in a movie once said “the universe tends to unfold as it should” and its stuck with me ever since and when i gave up wanting to control that what was not in my control I started to notice this unfolding happening and conquered my driver’s license with surprising ease. negative self talk was within my control apparently 🤷♂️
As a person who constantly looks back at the past and wishes I could go back and change it, I now realise after watching a couple of your videos that this is foolish and a waste of time. I know it will take work, because I have a lifetime of bad habits to break, but I think it will be worth it. Thanks for an awesome video 📹
right here right now and thats all we have and thats it I dont care about the past.
All you have is the present moment. The past doesn't exist outside of thought, nor does tomorrow.
Elon musk Could not stop his divorces. Jeff Bezos could not stop his divorce. You have health one day, next day you don’t. You have a job one day, and next day you don’t. You can not figure out everything. Like it or not, we need to have faith in a higher power for help. We don’t have a choice except to simply trust the process.
When you letting go, the whole world flows in you.
Wu Wei
Beautifully true.
“Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.”-Bruce Lee
Currently going through a rough time. Been separated from my wife 2 months now and it’s been the hardest time of my life. I realize my pain comes from my desire to control the outcome and no matter how much I worry or think of solutions it will matter very little. I have to just let go and what will be will be. Thanks for this video. It came at a perfect time.
Same. Wife left last Month. So hard. So many dreams now gone
Having been through 2 divorces, I can tell you if you want things to work out with her, your best chance is by letting go and resist the urge to negotiate/plead/control her. Its very hard to do.
You've got this. You'll get through it. Goodluck king. ❤️
Hang in there. I've been there, it can get dark, but just try to imagine that it's okay to be alone. Things happen beyond our control in life, and if that person isn't going to be next to you forever, that's okay, because at some point it's GOTTA be okay. Make it okay now. You'll get through it.
@@life_of_riley88 Exactly. We as humans often view solitude as a disease that must be eradicated at all costs, but we all need to make friends with solitude because life happens. People leave, people cheat, people die. Life needs to make sense with or without people, or else you are not free.
I was about to have a nervous breakdown and then this video showed up in my feed. THANK YOU! What a huge help this channel is!
Im thinking aboot you.
I hope you are doing better now ❤
I am with you....I feel the same some days....and believe it or not sometimes a smile breaks through for me.
Imagine. Hah get better stop being so WEAK
I hope you’re ok
The part about the woman stressing over her job is very relatable. I plan to switch from a stressful software engineering job to becoming a handyman. I'll make way less money, but I enjoy meeting new people (in person) and I love seeing different places and houses. Last 3 years, I feel like I've been trapped in my house and forced myself to stare at a computer screen for too many years of my life.
Good for you following your instincts. One afternoon 14 years ago I walked through my corporate department where many people depended on me for direction and I was very well-paid, and I remember the exact suit I was wearing when the words appeared in my mind as though they were written in fire suspended in front of me: "There is nothing here for me." Within a month the company offered a corporate-wide buyout offer which I took 15 years before normal retirement. I left a high-profile cushy position with lots of pro-sports and other silly public points to it including many insufferable egos, and had just written the annual report, so everybody assumed I knew something secret and that's why I was jumping. If I hadn't made that leap from plush strangling security across the abyss of the next 15 dead corporate years, I would never have had almost a decade free to travel, spend time with aged parents, discover the life-changing practices of Buddhism, meditation, and Stoicism, and later become a ranger/wildland firefighter where I make a fraction of my former corporate financial package but have an absolute blast. We have one life: we must follow our instincts and our nature or we will feel enslaved.
@@johnhamilton9284 That's Awesome!!! It is hard to go from "Make more money" to an "Enjoy life" mentality sometimes. I had my wife quit to become a travel agent and I've never seen her so excited about her job before.
For me, working with my hands to help someone get something fixed, allows me to do fun things like drilling, cutting wood, screwing stuff...it's kinda cool. Plus, unlike my Software Engineer job, I can knock out something in the same day instead of weeks or months or years and never have to be in boring meetings.
Enjoy your life, thanks for your post. It's exciting hearing about others doing what they love rather than being stuck in the Rat 🐀 race!
Uncontrollable forces of human nature at that. Discovered my wife cheated twice. Acted like nothing happened. I got cancer and was kicked out of the house, it took me too long to recover from her infidelity. Hahaha. So, while homeless, tumor in my body, and jobless. I was then served with divorce papers! At 38 I’m back with my folks and licking my wounds. The key is to remember to stay calm even when you’ve only got one nostril above water.
Jesus... stay strong brother! ❤
Much Love and strength to you, my brother ❤
Wow what a story. Ur mind must be one strong motherfucker now. Good for you
Bro! it takes courage to share this so openly. Respect! and GodSpeed!
Keep going you’re time will come
It surprises me how few people understand why manipulation, or coercion, has the opposite effect (eventually) of the hoped-for outcome. Even the most moral, or altruistic, intentions become warped when delivered by force or deception. It never ends well.
I've been recently thinking about the exact thing you just wrote!
Having an absolute control over one's actions and reactions to external circumstances is perhaps the greatest feat of courage and strength. Letting things unfold on their own accord is the true way of the universe.
Well said!
A perfect Statement 👍 that’s what Epictetus talked about. One of my favorite quotes 😻 … and to be honest … to put that in action is a lot to do 😎
Life happens .. !! Drink coffee ☕️ go fishing 🎣 have wine 🥂 ... accept u cannot control everything. Don’t control people - Do not be controlled either. Live Free !!
Controversial. Where's the fineline between no-control and not letting to be controlled? Thats also a control when you *dont* let others control you. Haha
@@zsauffi Trust your instincts.
@@zsauffino one said you can’t control yourself, even the video said you can control your actions
Now you're technically controlling us to not control others. (also just realized this was 9 months ago.. bruh)
It is always a good thing to be reminded of our lack of control as we often struggle daily to maintain inner peace.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
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Julietphillips, This is profound! We often imagine that peace of mind comes when we have full control, right? But in reality the only true peace is found when we have given up our neurotic urge for control. Peace arise when we have accepted that the next moment is a complete unknown to us no matter how clever we try to be. Then peace of mind can become a constant way of being, in any circumstances. We have no expectations about what the next moment will bring, and we are completely open to what ever comes our way.
It is probably not the best idea to control your emotions. Rather control your actions in response to them.
If you try to control yourself you end up controlling yourself
Did i create a paradox 😂
Life is a good teacher, as long as you’re a good student
I learned this as a young child, I called it the pool noodle problem.
I wanted to use the pool noodle, but there was never that many, however when I had it I was then unhappy because I “had” to guard and keep others from it and couldn’t just swim.
I learned that I was happier without the fun sounding toys for the most part, or at least the thought I should use them, because I was literally held back.
This has carried over to many things in my life, having both hands full but still trying to maintain a normal pace doesn’t work, just letting go leads to a better life.
When I was about 13 my whole house flooded (water heater burst in the attic while out of town - don't ask me whose bright idea that was). The flood began from directly above my bedroom on the top floor and destroyed the whole house over the span of a week while we were on a cruise. When I went inside for the first time upon returning, I stood outside the door to my decimated room watching as water and insulation continued to pour onto my bed and belongings. Unlike my parents, I wasn't devastated or upset, even. I think that was the moment I learned nothing is permanent. I learned a lot from sleeping in a hotel for months and having to buy all new clothes and basic necessities. It could have been worse...I could have been asleep under the water heater when the ceiling collapsed, my parents could have forgotten to pay their insurance bill and we could have been homeless(well- homeless-er) Point is, you can lose EVERYTHING (or everyone - different story) in an instant, and that's that. But it doesn't have to break you. You cant undo what has been done, so you either learn to let go or you become consumed by the grief of losing something that was never meant to last forever anyways. The last lesson I learned, appreciate what you have WHILE you have it, not after its already gone. AND DON'T PUT YOUR WATER HEATER IN THE ATTIC.
I hope your family's claims adjuster was great!
This video is not about floods or water.
@@gasmith7486 ok, and?
@@gasmith7486 you Just remainded me that we cannot control other People stupidity either 😂
@lionheart-182 😂😂😂
"Perhaps you dislike something which is good for you and like something which is bad for you. Allah knows and you do not know." (Al Baqarah 216)
There once was a factory owner who's factory burned down. Instead of breaking down by the sight of his factory burning he called all his workers and said "You'll never see a fire this majestic again". Change the things you can change and accept the things you cannot - thus you can change your reaction to negatie events.
In the end, seek opportunity with risks you've a solution for as the worst case never comes to fruition.
That was Thomas Edison. True story.
See, when I did that my boss was furious! Some people just have no sense of gratitude.
Thomas Edison was that factory owner, powerful take on life
Yeah, because he still had shit ton of money to rely on.
His workers just lost their job on which they depended on.
It’s easy not caring when you’re rich
@@legitplayin6977 Those evil rich people eh. Who worked hard and saved to build a business that hired lazy people like you who are jealous of the person who through his sacrifices succeeds. You are in control of your life, go and try, try again until successful
"Our lack of confidence is not the result of difficulty; the difficulty comes from our lack of confidence."
I've been struggling with this recently. This is a perfectly timed video. Thank you.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
God bless this channel. You are always sent to us in the most difficut times of our life. Whenever I had trouble, a break up, sickness or any form of distress this channel has been an immense help and a source of strength. I am a teacher and I share this with my students. I believe this knowledge is necessary for the young generation as it will save them from unnecessary sufferings and cultivate their potential. Thank you so much.
P.s: your way of tackling concepts is mindblowing. I really love how you deconstruct common sense and construct wisdom with your essay structure! *kudos for all the team*
Everyone needs to remember that only our thoughts, words and actions are in our control. External things like climate, economy or other people's behavior are beyond our control and thus one should not be bothered by them!
If we were in control of our thoughts, anxiety wouldn't be a thing, neither would depression. I also suspect we cannot control words or actions completely.
What we can control is observing and learning.
@@TheMathias95 when you don’t know your will power over your thoughts you will never be able to control them till you know who you are.Anxiety depression can be controlled 💯,there’s just a formula on how to do it and you need to be taught
@@RSBloc
You can learn how to handle anxiety and depression, but you very much so cannot control the thoughts provoking them. They can arrive whether one wants them to or not.
Awareness of this can help you to cope. I'm assuming this is what you also meant, but when using the word "control" implies to me that you can ensure never to feel neither anxiety nor depression, which is a claim about a future you cannot predict.
@@TheMathias95 no,thoughts never arrive without being asked for,the moment you entertain a thought you don’t like you asking for it.your mind is the only thing you can really control in life lol only if you understood that
@@TheMathias95 anxiety doesn’t exist so I never feel it,coz I don’t feel things that don’t exist
My grandfather died in a sailboat accident just one year before I was born, but left me this gem...
"Always camp a few feet above the high water mark."
The Art of Doing Nothing is bliss
My husband recently learned this in a very literal way at work. He got a new job over the summer, making more money and working from home. He was very happy with this, then got caught up in the rat race idea of constant growth and just more and more and more. He became unhappy with the situation he was just happy with a few months ago because he wanted more. So he started doing more and more that was outside of his job in order to move up. This is a form of controlling other people in my mind. We were already doing well financially and didn't want for anything, plus we could spend way more time together. I told him he can't control his status at work, and his company will pay what they want to pay and will hire who they want for management positions. Well, his hard work didn't stop the company from hiring someone else at a higher rate who works far less. Now my husband is going into the office all the time, 120 mile round trip btw, while the other guy never comes in, and still makes way more in the same job title. He was hired on as a remote worker, but his need to show he's worth more, only showed he doesn't mind the drive or hours put in. Did i mention my husband is on 24 hours for 4 days straight when he's on shift, while the other guy is off nights, yet still doesn't have to come in? This is why the position was work from home to begin with. He didn't get a promotion he was going for because the company likes him doing his job since he has turned the department around. If they promoted him to another department, his current one would fall. His new company is now controlling every aspect of his life because in his attempts to move up, he really just showed them he's a doormat who will work harder for less pay. It's getting to the point now that he's thinking about quitting the job he used to love.
Maybe deep down he just wanted to get out of the house. Sometimes our subconscious knows what we really want.
8:41 in Quran (But you may hate a thing although it is good for you, and may love a thing although it is evil for you. Allah knows, and you do not know) Sura 2: AL-BAQARA ❤
This whole thing was totally amazing and hopefully life-changing. I'm going to go get a notebook and a pen and watch it again and take notes this time. Thanks so much.
Whoever you are who can't sleep tonight, is tired or sad, believe that there will be tomorrow that will light up your beautiful days.
You just need to endure a little more, a little more, and a little more ...
Thank you for being patient, thank you for being able to survive. And as you read this, promise yourself that you will be able to get through your toughest days in the future.
Promise to keep smiling, no matter how you are ...
You deserve to be happy :)
Thank you for this beautiful message❤
You are a beautiful soul 😍
Wow, that was so kind of you! Thank you so much!
If I try to control my addiction issues. My addiction controls me. If I'm mindful, and I place my addiction into a higher which can be anything. I stay sober.
Life is to be lived, not controlled; and humanity is won by continuing to play in face of certain defeat
Thanks god I’m muslim
The holy quran literally teaches us these things and even more things that always helps me living a happy secure lifestyle
One step at a time. One day at a time. Only thing different from a bad or good day is what you do about it. Stay strong minded and keep focusing on what matters most. Life is too short to worry about the things you can’t control. Enjoy the journey there’s no destination :)
I've learned the hard way that the more I try to control a situation, the less I am in control of it. It's a bitter lesson and one that I have to keep learning 😥
Sometimes, you let things happen
@@archravenineteenseventeen True - sometimes, you just have to accept what life throws at you and make the best of it.
Going through a really bad (and sinking) friendship right now. Thank you for the wonderful content as always!
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe’s endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
As a 31 year old man who hasn’t had a single friend in 15 years…. You will be ok. In fact learning to love yourself and be your best friend in the end is fantastic.
I think one point that I felt was not that explicit in this video, but that fits the topic well, is that whatever you choose to control, will consume your mind, and thereby also control you. It is not just about whether the thing you want to control is not behaving according to how you want it to (or maybe it does, who knows) and thereby giving you uncertainty and stress, but also that if you choose to not control the thing, your mind if freed to focus on other things, perhaps something that you can control.
the ability to view ourselves.... our actions, emotions as a third person is very powerful and life-changing
Yup. And often finding humorous our bad choices and mistaken behaviors is helpful. I see it. I laugh at it. Then I do better and move on.
@@joannaedwards6325 you are empowered in a special way. That you are able to move on shows you are detached to situations and consequences.
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I genuinely need this message today. I just had a panic attack a moment ago due to severe anxiety. Somehow the knowledge that often everything is out of our control other than our own actions or response to certain situations helps me focus on the present, and not fear the outcome of tomorrow if will be on my favour or not. Sending hugs. 💞💞
Same, I never have watched these videos but this is the first one that showed up on my feed and addressed the same problem that's effecting my anxiety.
Hi. I hope you start to feel better. For help with panic attacks, I'd like to recommend the book Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks Fast. It works well for me. There's also a phone app, apparently, but I've not used it.
@@leonfric ill check it, thanks. 🫶
@leonfric and may i suggest dr clare weekes book even modern physcology refers back to her
@@Telltalesignalso dont fear panic attacks i know easier said than done its all just a bodily physical symptoms flight or fight your body is fooled thinking you are in actual danger but actually you are not its just a false alarm
I'm an empath . I can feel your pain . You are not alone .
Everyone is an empath. Non-empathetic people are called psychopaths. You are calling everyone psychopathic by classifying yourself as an "empath". Absolute clown world, you ain't special
"When you do anything to the extreme, you end up doing the opposite of what you originally intended."
After watching this video. I remembered Grand Master Oogway said 'Until you let go of the illusion of control'.
You should do a Vweedyo about the negative influences of conspiracy theories
vweedyo is crazy😂
Conspiracy theories are a threat to those who are conspiring
🎉conspiracy theories are mostly fake news. Made up. Fear mongering, sky is falling, junk
Really thankful for this video and many others before. It's just what i needed today. I will let these words sink in now and remember again and again that this might be my lesson to learn, letting go and control what i can. I quote my friend, he said lately: this difficulty that i have with (insert topic) might come back in my life, as many times as are needed to understand the lesson.
So here I am once again....but its getting better everyday. 🙏
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.”
- Isaiah 43: 18-19
"Life can only be understood backwards."
Isn’t that similar to the Sith philosophy of the Dark Side controlling them. Or how a person tries to set his greed, but ends up becoming successful and one option being falling prey to his vices. It seems to show that the imposition of control takes away from the struggle that is reality, in which we develop as generally productive and intelligent beings; probably another reason as to why too much control or dictatorship is most definitely bad, among other ideals regarding freedom, and the way of life we live.
The desire to control everything isn't just out of insecurity but also immaturity
I agree.
Amazing video! We need to focus only on the things we can control. Life is a learning process and it is easier with these beautiful reminders! Thank you!
You just make such amazing videos. Thank you so much. So many love and acknowledge your work.
Thanks again for your generosity. Nice to hear that you (still) appreciate the videos!
Meine Liebe , sometimes these make me sad instead of encouraging me. The end, where you mention Seneca "The lack of confidence is not the result of difficulty, our difficulty comes from our lack of confidence". I have to disagree with the first part of that. I was once confident enough to deal with traumatic events that that were beyond my control, and there were several, thankfully there were gaps between those events. Then I was hit with an avalanche of traumatic events involving 3 family members, a suicide, medical malpractice leaving a parent unable to walk, and one of my children, in his 20s having a rare form of stroke. These things occurred within a short time of each other, in two different continents. The "fallout" from these were ongoing with no end in sight, for 10 or more years. I was the only person dealing with it all. I am broken, have not been able to regain my self confidence. I have tried and tried to no avail, and it is definitely causing difficulty.
True. I also used to be quite confident that I could navigate life. Quite strong in most ways. But then a tragic series of unfortunate occurrences including two suicides in the family, abandonment by my co parent and resulting financial and emotional distress and my 21 year old son's mental collapse broke me. I'm picking up the pieces though, and can occasionally marvel at a beautiful early morning. Cut yourself some slack, make yourself a cuppa. It is what it is. Better times will come around again.
“I’m not what happened to me; I’m what I choose to become” ❤
Really loved the animation in this video. Great moral from the story as well.
Whoever wants to know how destiny works should get a copy of the Qur’an and read Surat Al-Kahf, the story of Moses and Al-Khidr❤
I wouldn't read that nonsense even if they paid me for it. All religions are bullshit by extension all religious books are nonsense for the weak minded.
Fighting is enjoined upon you, while it is hard on you. It could be that you dislike something, when it is good for you; and it could be that you like something when it is bad for you. Allah knows, and you do not know.
Quran 2:216
Another great vdeo, thank you. It often happens that the topic you choose is exactly the one I need to hear at that time and so it is with this video. While watching, this thought came to me - I want to be like the captain of a ship on the sea. The captain knows that neither he nor the ship can control the chaotic waves but he also knows that, with his skillful guidance, the ship can safely ride the waves until the sea calms. Seeking the skill to guide our own ship and the wisdom to accept the waves as they are is, perhaps, one of the most valuable lessons we can learn in life.
I found your channel right about the time I went into recovery and began my healing journey in my new life. These videos have been such a wonderful added support for me. The teaching of the stoics ties right in to the way of the program I'm in. I have 11 months sobriety and these videos are like a mental vitamin supplement for me as I continue to heal and transform body, mind and spirit. Thank you for the gift you bring to me, and to the world.❤❤❤
Letting go takes more BALLS...knowing that all you truly have is YOURSELF
Amigo . The only thing in this world , that gives orders
Thats powerful
I've let go in 2019 never to look back and I've enjoyed life more now then ever. Using much less money but much more time and valuable experience.
Sometimes it's just hard to find that fine line of where your control stops and the uncontrollable starts. It is not a bad idea to prepare yourself before walking into a mine field, but you can't prepare for absolutely everything.
This video helped me so much! I am pulling the weight of three coworkers currently while managing far too many projects. I tried to control the outcome to the detail and put a lot of pressure on myself for no reason - because rarely anything ever went like I wanted since I was just not in control of supply chains, coworkers, client's moods ...
After watching this video it felt like this weight has been removed from me, I am able to let things happen naturally and only focus on the things I actually have control over.
Thank you so much!💙
Perhaps you dislike something which is good for you and like something which is bad for you. God knows and you do not know. Quran 2:216❤
Fighting for control will put you in a hole that will be difficult or impossible to climb out of. Hold on loosely but don't let go. If you cling too tightly, you're going to lose control. Those words previously typed are lyrics from a .38 Special song called 'Hold On Loosely". They fit well with this. Thanks for the thought nutrition and reading this.
Only when everything's out of control do I find myself in control.
Thank you so much. I hope you never stop doing what you’re doing. You have helped me throughout difficult times from age 17 till now, 20. I appreciate you.
❤ Hello, Whoever reads this we wish you nothing but happiness and a stress free day 🌳 Relax, breath and take 1 day at a time. ⛱️
I am so glad that this channel exists !!!
This video made me realised that what society preaches isn't always what we need for our lives to find peace. They tell us to have EVERYTHING under control, buy in most cases that is an impossible task to accomplish.
Thanks a lot👏👏👏
Brother, can you tell what headphones, mic, and other settings you use...for this clarity...
Your voice feel so blissfull and comfortable for me❤
Thank you. I needed this today.
To all of ya out there who are struggling, you will be alright. You will come out stronger, better.
00:05 Attempting to control the uncontrollable can leave us more vulnerable.
01:46 The paradox of control reveals the limitations of human control
03:44 We can't control certain aspects of life.
05:26 Acknowledge the limits of our control
07:11 The paradox of control highlights the futile nature of trying to control outcomes.
08:53 The paradox of control is letting go of uncontrollable things.
10:36 Desire for control stems from insecurity
12:22 Embracing life's unpredictability leads to inner peace and resilience
accept what you can’t change, have the courage to change what you can, and more importantly the wisdom to know the difference between the two!
same here, no paradox of control, make a choice on what you think you can control. try and fail sometimes, succeed othertimes :)
i have neither 😂
@@newt2120 acceptance it is then :D
@@remitemmos9165 i won't lol. thats my best quality. im always changing, and extremely adaptable to any situations. and failure bas never stopped me. most of my life is described by failure
We suffer more often in our imagination than in Reality .... True it happens as long as we are after attachments & Expectations in life.
Don’t forget who you where before you met them!
But you may hate a thing although it is good for you, and may love a thing although it is evil for you. Allah knows, and you do not. (216)
Power does exist, though. The fact that we (the peons) don't have it is no reason to give up on getting it. The feeling of being in control of one's life is correlated with longevity, even... those who feel like they have control over their lives live longer than those that don't, and the higher up in their organization people are, the more control they feel they have.
Canute was making the opposite point to what you describe ie he was showing the flatterers in his court that he was not all powerful AND he was not deceived by their nonesense.
I have come to understand that life was a way to teach us more harshly what we are not willing to learn in an easier way. I guess it depends on what type of Trauma each of us have. What I can say to anyone out there who was a Perfectionist complex, due to whatever childhood pressure you must have lived through is this: Give it up, You are Perfect already even if you make lots of mistakes and have failed. If you are looking for external approval, stop and give that approval to your self. Remind yourself or Re learn to do the best you can in whatever circumstance and then let go, the outcome will be the outcome. it took me 45 years to learn that, and I am living in a more balanced way now, and learning to let go of control and just focusing on doing the best I can, and learn to trust life knows much better than I do, and that life was indeed the bigger picture. Blessings to All.
"...and the dam broke, causing even more DAMage"😂😉
What a coincidence that this video appeared in my feed. During an intense, serious discussion, because I was so increasingly desperate to get my point of view across to a few family members, I didn't realise that I was raising my voice and trying to talk over everyone else. It caused my elder brother, who I had not quarreled with in over a dozen years, to furiously lash out at me. It shocked me so suddenly and badly that I ended up apologising to him immediately afterwards. We made up, but I still feel terrible for provoking him. I wish that this video came to me sooner, but I guess it's a lesson learned nonetheless.
I control my breath when im around with other people. Sometimes I dont breathe when im too close to them. I have sinusitis and I dont have good teeth. My life is miserable because OF that , no friends. I dont go out. I want to resign but I cant.
This reminds me of Sauron, who poured much of his spirit into crafting the One Ring to control the wills of others, and master Middle Earth itself - but ultimately he just ended up making himself critically vulnerable
this comes in handy because i just lost my wallet
Perfect timing thank you ❤
وَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُمْ وَعَسَى أَنْ تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَكُمْ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ ﴾
I can't explain how much i needed it at this time. RUclips recommended this to me yesterday but couldn't watch it as i was busy but a feeling came to me that i must watch it so i searched for it again. I'm having a difficult time rn and this video is an eye opener for me. Thank you so much
Serendipity is so cool. 👌
Same happened to me bro
King Cannute trying to stop the tide is a myth, he was merely showing people that there are things in life even a king cannot control.
What if you're trying to control yourself? How do you let yourself go?
I wonder what Bill Gates, Klaus Schwab and the World Economic Forum would make of these videos.
I find it very ironic that the video starts with an example of how impossible it is to control the water/forces of nature, while Einzelganger comes from/lives in the Netherlands, a country that has achieved exactly that! 😂
🎉Right? It's almost like this video is bullcrap
Nature has no age, just like in the story, in 2000 years the Netherlands will be under water.
Plenty of times it has gone horribly wrong in the Netherlands as well.
Not really. We have dikes and drainage systems, but those don't guarantee that nothing could go wrong in the future. They do a great job protecting the country from the sea, but they don't *control* it. There’s a difference.
King Canute is the same person form Vinland Saga and the same story of stopping the waves
Thank you so much for this video, and all the others. I struggle with low self esteem and it has hurt so many people, mostly myself. Learning to not see myself as a victim who needs to gain power in order to survive is one of the most difficult things for me to wrap my head around. Thank you, thank you for all you do
i just want to say: einzelgänger! you ARE something else...🙌 this is the best educational video i've seen in a while. every second of this video was educational. and this is really hard to achieve. wow. you fed my soul. ❤
Holding your breath means also losing your breath. Bro that is deep. I’ve grown tired of quotes over time but that one hit different 🙏🏻