Silence between two old close friends is never an embarrassment. Sitting outside, having a drink, or just walking together needs no forced conversion. Being in each others company is sometimes all you both need. Unspoken understanding of each others worth.
People tell me I’m antisocial all the time but I just hate wasting energy on something I feel isn’t for me. This page is allowing to find peace and have a better quality of life crazy part is I found it by complete accident
Silence is underrated in my opinion. I used it as a weapon when someone would verbally abuse me or intentionally try to hurt me. I later understood how powerful I was during those moments. Because why waste energy on something that craves for attention and acknowledgement through one's reaction towards an action
I am vice versa, cannot leave 1 thing left unspoken, and when I do, I feel bad because there was something I didn't manage to convey. That burned a lot of bridges though. seems like i was wrong
@@femboiuwu I am you. At least I WAS you. I realized it later that many ppl whether they are on internet/social media OR in real life display aggression through wordplay and that’s where guys like us fall in trap. Sometimes even if it hurts our feelings or hurt us personally. Being silent and not acknowledging their existence right there is the best we can do overtake this trap. Practice this with members at home(when they hurt you) take it to school/office and then slowely and gradually to your entire life. FAIR WARNING: if things are reaching to a point where it’s “dangerous” You must give a reaction. It should be calm collected and quick. Give your attention to those who deserve it and need it. Sorry for the long type :-)
@paulwilliamson9958 I literally said that last night. But I’m not a modern human. Ima spiritual being… how can I hear God if I have to constantly have noise to drown out frequencies and negative energy in my neighborhood… i know I’m talking WAY too much 😂but thank you for making this comment. I appreciate you and subscribe and hit like. Ima meditate today. In silence. With my feet on in the grass. Thank you sir ❤😊
One of the reasons I married my husband was that we can feel totally comfortable by being together but not talking. We can sometimes sit in a car for hours and none of us utters a word and the fact that both of us are comfortable with that is one of the cornerstones of our 15+ years relationship. I need my solitude and so does he. People who feel the need to fill out every bit of silence with their voice, make me incredibly tired and drain my energy. Silence is indeed golden.
That is beautiful and I think have learnt a new lesson I used to hang out with a friend, I tried my best to talk with her-never leaving a silent moment. I realize that maybe that wasn't the perfect approach, maybe I wasn't giving her space, maybe it's just better that I hang out with her without needing to talk all the time. After all, she has other friends, she's always active, maybe I should just give her the moment to slow down. Either way, have a beautiful day/night, I hope your relationship lasts another 15+ years. 😊
I am the same as you. I need my silence moments and my husband. We respect each other. We talk a lot! Me more them him 😅. But silence is my peace or my solutions moment. Some people drained me talking too much.
@@seeingstraightthrough tryna compare everyone as being the same would be yeah we are all people and humans but have many traits that are different. So you got ppl that talk alot and ppl that are completely quiet and isolated but alot of ppl are in-between as a factor as well.
I used to have a friend with whom I would often go hiking. We could spend hours walking in the mountains without saying a word and it was never awkward or embarrassing. It was amazing, just feeling the environment with all of your senses, observing your mind chatter...
Because your body is being physically exerted & exertion enables silence to be undeniably perfect If you were sitting on a bench , holding hands & not engaging in physical activity, then silences would be weird
I used to overthink what I've said to my friends after we hangout so I decided to be more silent and just listen while they talk. Now I have less to think about and my mind is more at peace.
To anybody who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life. I hope anything that bothers you and makes you feel depressed will go away and you will feel comfortable with this video. Don't worry, tomorrow is a new day. Start over. It's not too late yet.
In summary 1. The quietter you become, the more you hear. 2. Silence boosts creativity. 3. Silence can send a powerful message. 4. Silence improves well being.
Literally I love your comment because I hate this kind of "WISE FACT SPEAKING" because they're so ambiguously settled and It just doesn't work for everything and sounds pretentious at the very end... Or maybe from the beginning or half. @@johnappleseed9290
Bullshit. If you are being verbally abused, first keep the person away from you at least 1 meter, and set boundaries. Some abusers react to others being silent as being submissive (freeze response) or not taking them seriously and might attempt to slap or punch you.
As I read everyone praising Silence, I would just add one thing. Be careful with it. Silence is a double-edge sword. It is a weapon, but also a prison. There is a time for everything, and silence isn't always the best option. I am capable of being one of the most silent person in a group, principally listening and observing around. And afterwards, I feel a bit evasive, absent. What is the point of my presence if I am just here to listen ? And when I try to speak, it is not the same. I feel better in the silence. Which is bothering me. There is a time for everything, and parsimony is the best ally you can have. Know when to act, know when to remain silent. But do not act in only one way.
Theres a difference between silence out of discomfort and silence out of necessity. You just have to work on your self concept and confidence. Being silent out of necessity is comfort in your own silence and knowing when you add to the convo your words are important. I'm usually in my own world and people think im cool and mysterious lol. How you percieve yourself matters most, and know your presence is worthy enough despite not adding to the convo.
this. the video seems to address normal people with a measure of influence in typical social parlours. venues where people take you seriously and would respect you more if you left certain things unsaid. the advice is actually harmful if you don't heed situational context as there are times where you definitely need to speak up and make yourself (or someone you care about) heard
@@hdpebag4942 I think I used the word very poorly ahem... Thank you for pointing that. I wanted to say "as there is tile for talking and time for silence, don't always be on one side. Full silence or full talk. Just take your time, don't be reckless."
@@Vivianiubu I completely agree with you, that a lot of this comes from the confidence you have in yourself. But, and I think you know this as much as I do, a lot of people struggles in self confidence. And finding confort in the silence may not be the best solution for it, as it feels like "I stay in my confortable inner place". The fact that people may not see the difference between the 2 silences you talked about is why I wanted to point this. It may look nice and wise to stay silent. But even the wisest has to speak at one point. And I think I completely went outside of your comment ahem...
I went on a date with this girl and we were having great conversation. At one point we both just stopped talking and sat there taking everything in and it felt nice. Neither of us tried to talk or force anything, it was a moment of just flow.
I hate going to parties, and my so called friends think I'm a nerd and I'm not enjoying my life, I don't enjoy partying and stuff, all I want is a friend like me who enjoys the silence, the peaceful walk in beaches, sitting watching the sunset....
I also don't see good in parties. There seems to be a lot of hidden malice a lot of the time. Too many are inadequate at expressing themselves through words already. Why expect good to come out of a social occasion with a lot of them all together? Some would say that I'm harsh. But perhaps only those who can never successfully disprove me.
Why do you have "so called" friends?? Don't you have the capacity to CHOOSE your friends?? Why would you CHOOSE a friend, and then refer to them as a "so called" friend?? They're either your friend or they aren't!! It's YOUR CHOICE!!
I have lost count of the number of times I have been humiliated for keeping silence. I am always asked to talk more. Silence is a language whose importance not everyone can understand. Edit: Thanks to all folks who supported. But some people are blaming me in the comments for choosing silence. Let me be clear, by "silence" here, I mean not participating in small talk or gossiping or fake conversations. I speak only whenever it's necessary or when I have something useful to say (that includes taking stand for myself too).
I was silent all my life. Never really tried to talk or show to world more than needed. Then I started being vocal few months back because I felt I was missing so much. But now I realise, it's not worth it. It is exhausting to so many levels. People don't care anyways. Silence is always better. I'm on my way to return to my old self.
I can picture myself having deep lengthy conversations with the right type of people that may come along my path through life, it hasn't quite happened yet. Introspection through silence has been a great replacement thus far. Maybe i have high standards, or maybe the majority of the people simply aren't that interesting. Either way, i prefer solitude almost every time.
Also, keeping your mouth shut keeps you safe. The less your enemies know what you're thinking or doing the better, as it is the foundation of surprise. “it is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.” - Mark Twain
Just letting you know: Abraham Lincoln was actually the originator of the quote. It is wrongfully attributed to Twain often, though. Didn't want you to not know this. Have a good one!
@@Scp--uk3ld This is not always true unfortunately. Certain people will take offence to you being silent, and they will use this as an excuse to make an enemy.
This is absolutely profound. I have realized that in the last 10 years I have been trying to become more silent and I can confidently say I haven't lost anything, when I actually talk(less) I feel people listen.
That is just pure factually incorrect that the purpose of having to ears as it is due to evolution even before humans were capable of langeand can be seen as a counter-example in other forms of creatures with two instruments of hearing and one verbal generator..
silence and solitude are wonderful, for me that was one of the good things about lockdowns. Being alone, no one talking or interrupting me, I learned a lot about myself in those 2 years and I'm realizing it more now as I get back into the noisiness of life, and I'm a lot happier in the quiet.
@@Br0kenMask You missed the point, the silence of Covid wasn't chosen but it forced a great many to re-evaluate. I'm with Colo(u)ring, I'm gonna miss the Covid lockdowns and silence.
I’m learning how to be quiet . It’s exposed all the control freaks in my life. Edit :and I’ve gotten use to the warm safety of silence. I noticed that the second I stoped talking was the second I stopped having issues with people.
Suffering from anxiety my whole life, I always felt the need to keep talking to avoid gaps in conversation. I thought if I don't talk nothing will get said, this would result in me over sharing and instantly regretting what I just said. Recently though I have been learning to talk less and it is making a difference. I would love to one day practice the art of silence with confidence but it feels like an alien concept to me
wow me, i overshare cus im scared of awkward silences and usually my brain just explodes with so many words from one word of a person like im totally insufferable and indigestible at this point, but it's actually important and i do realise how healthy it feels lately ngl i kinda overshared again in this comment
I can relate to this, a hundred percent. I speak a lot, not intentionally but to avoid void. I never liked emojis i thought they weren't exactly nice until recently I started feeling them. It's like I try to blend silence inside now so that I can do it outside, and why am I saying this? Is proved to be a good question at a times along with, is this really matters? ( And deciding to not give others so much importance over myself)
Many of us have forgotten (or even feared) the power of silence. We live in a world where there is a lot of noise and conversation. A world where we are bombarded with distractions and responsibilities in our daily lives. Learn to trust yourself, to rely on your decisions, and to feel more safe in the face of chaos and uncertainty.
People are afraid of the person who takes disrespect with silence. Not justifying lies and slander with a response is chilling to people obsessed with being right. Keep em guessing! Good work as always!🙏
Silence definitely has its place in this world where all people is talk. I use it in instances where I'm not sure about someone's intent and leave them to fill the gap with what they're thinking. Keep quiet long enough at the right time and people will tell on themselves - work, relationships, you name it.
A lot people have said to me why I'm always so quiet but it's always because I don't like to be apart of mindless drama that won't mean anything after a day and rather only speak when there something meaningful in the conversation or when I'm learning with someone so most times I choose to be quiet
Being socially awkward and unable to start a conversation sometimes, I found that silence can help learn about people. When you're silent, some people become curious and ask questions, those are usually the nice and open types, some people are also awkward like you, and some start filling the void by creating crazy stories about you that are not real but tell a lot about what's really going on in their own heads
@@zanepeterson777 Everybody judges the world from their own experience, so most of the time people are highly subjective in their opinions, basically mirroring their inner worlds onto you
Silence can sometimes be inhibiting. For people who observe, they usually remove themselves from a situation to see it from many angles which leaves them not experiencing life. Lack of experience can cause a loss of personality or identity. When you stay quiet for too long you forget what to say, when to say it, or even how to say things which can also impact you communication and interpersonal relationships.
Reflection is truly key. Humanity should dare to look deep within, but it should also accept that more than mere physical Reflection is required for true, celestial enlightenment. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
"Tacet" on sheet music indicates silence. ❤ Similar to pausing for emphasis in mid-sentence or after a statement, a silent pause in music gives the mind a moment to process and reflect before continuing into the next thought. I think of the song "An Innocent Man" by Billy Joel -- there is a dramatic although brief silence in the music. It gets your attention. Other highly talented singers and songwriters effectively use a brief silence in some of their songs. I believe it adds more emotional richness than filling the whole piece with instruments and vocals.
I was actually having a conversation with my brother the other day about this. We're both pretty quiet people and have always found silence to be golden. Love your channel, top tier in my opinion. In a world of loud mouths screaming in their videos to try to keep someone's attention, thank you sir.
this page has truly been helping me reminding me of my natural quiet nature and why i'm like that. people pretend to want to get to know you but they will use any and all info they can against you! it's just sick times we're in right now. you have the right to remain silent!!!!
i had a friend who never talked when i introduced him to another friend, he just listened. Instead of appearing sage and mysterious I thought he looked like a boring, timid guy with no self confidence, opposite of what he thought.
Silence is golden . I love this Netherlands tradition. Silent walking Others should try it. Certain Buddhist traditions use silent walking. There is too much talk and many of the things said are trivial . My teacher , Mrs Turner used to say it's the empty containers that make the most noise. It's important to speak , but only when necessary.
@@ShortFuseFun Having fun, Spreading Love & Connecting- still doing it and that's what I grew up thinking but when people around you are playing games depending on what they know about you, I came to believe that silence is powerful. The less you tell people, the less they know. And, its better I think. It's not playing games, I think. I think it's more of choosing how you want to live.
this one comment I’ve been looking for! I mean, sometimes I am the most quiet person and sometimes I am the most talkative (in a way that I love learning lots of things from other ppl) so I ask and talk a lot. @frost
There's nothing that quite infuriates someone that is yelling at you like a child to just ignore and not even acknowledge their rant. Works quite like a charm , teaches you patience and always leaves them (the aggressors) as the immature one in the eyes of bystanders. Boy do they get pissed I'll tell you that, and its DELICIOUS to hear it.
Bad idea to keep silent when someone is verbally abusing you, yes you may embarass them at first but they might escalate. First you should keep at least the person two arms length away from you and second you should try to leave the place. Some people will consider your silence as a sign that they can dominate you or you being submissive or even that you are not taking them seriously and proceed to escalate and slap or punch you. These Narcissistic predators when they see you silent will equate it to a freeze response and failing to intimidate you verbally, will recourse to violence. Telling them to stay away and set boundaries as you leave the place is the best way. Look them in the eye.
@@Michel-Graillier-fanclub You bring up a good point to have discernment in knowing when to keep silent and when to say something in response to a verbal threat. This distinction is important for those of us who are just learning about being silent.
This was my wake up call to start meditating, stop talking so much, and quiet the constant noise both inside and out. Thanks for taking the time to make this video, I really enjoyed listening to what you have to say.
I love this, I've never struggled with being silent. What I've struggled with is saying and communicating my feelings and thoughts. So I can think of a couple of times where I regret not saying anything.
Thank you for your honesty. My personal opinion is that most people who are more comfortable with silence struggle with sharing their feelings and thoughts, which creates connections and understanding between people. I value connection which I equate with intimacy in my relationship with my husband.
Fantastic video! I’m a person who lives with complex post traumatic stress disorder. Silence has often be a harbinger of doom. I tend to fill my life with noise just to take the edge off of the insufferable silence. This video really helped me change my perspective on silence. It’s not something that needs to be endured like soaking in ice water but is rather a gift of the void. A moment of nothingness. It’s beautiful and powerful. I loved how you described silence at the end of the video “elusive yet accessible to all.” I’m going to try to reaclimate myself to being in silence in the future. You don’t know how helpful this was! ❤️
I have complex PTSD and found the pandemic to be a God send!!! Thankful to be away from very toxic people and even the ones I have loved the most that tried to harm me. I just slowly get more alone and I’m happy here without anyone. 🙏❤️. I was fearful of silence and couldn’t not relax in my old house but it’s because of the reminder of the abuse.
I think silence gives us the idea that in our story ( the story can be pretty bad or just anything ) but silence gives us the idea that it's ours, and so Is the choice of choosing people to get into our serenity, be a part of this or can be ignored and to be done with. So yeah powerful
7:11 “Silence allows us to express what discourse cannot. The many words uttered, ideas shared, and promises made, never fully encompass the human experience. However, the power of silence as an answer to tragedy is that we acknowledge that no amount of words do justice to what we seek to commemorate” Edit: A masterfully-written video about the power of silence ends quiet. No music, no talking, no damn advertisement sponsor at the end. Just peace… and serenity. How very fitting. You’ve earned a subscriber. Cheers.
often times I recently learned I love silence. I go to view spots, and take in the world. When I mention to other people to sit in silence for a while, they don't understand. When I go to a silent place, I tend to listen to the natural life around me. I love hearing the wind blow through the air. It makes me realize that life is more to it than just trying to better myself. The point of life is to enjoy every single moment we have, and when I'm at my silence spot, that's exactly what I love to do. I take in the moment, and enjoy it.
My girlfriend often tells me I don't "speak up" enough. But, I'm taking it all in. I like to process carefully before engaging in conflict. It helps a lot for collecting my thoughts. It's a great thing to practice.
Ive been a performing and recording musician my whole life and nothing is more powerful than a "rest" in music notation. How many times do you hear a song that goes quiet or completely silent just so the next time all the instrumentation and/or vocals come in, its a shock to the system!
YES, on David Bowie's Young American near the end there's a silence, on concert versions he sometimes made that silence longer and I was just craving for the comeback 🔥
This reminded me of a few songs which use silence in them. Ryan caraveo- bubbles (1:45) christopher blake - come closer Twenty One Pilots - Car Radio (Half Blood Remix)
When words are many, sin is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise. (Prov: 10:19). Whoever shows contempt for his neighbor lacks judgment, but a man of understanding remains silent. (prov 11:19). Even a fool is considered wise if he keeps silent, and discerning when he holds his tongue. (prov 17:28)
The quote from Mark Twain reminded me of some of these Proverbs in the Bible. It is the source of much wisdom. Some historical people we think of as "wise" have quoted scriptural wisdom. Abraham Lincoln said, "A house divided against itself cannot stand." This was not an original thought -- he was quoting something that Jesus said. 📖💌
I'd like to take a minute to thank you. The past few years have been very trying for me in many ways. Your insight and guidance, along with becoming familiar with the concepts of stoicism, have been a stabilizing force in what was becoming a dangerous mindset. I, and I'm sure many others, appreciate what you do here.
One of my fondest moments of elementary school in the early 2000’s was the daily moment of silence we all participated in after the pledge of allegiance.
Even more important then valuing being silent is to know when not to be silent and to confront injustices, correct false perceptions and publish new results. We would not life in today advanced social and technological society, if the wise and knowing would not have spoken up just to avoid the confrontations that come with speaking the truth.
Bringing perspective here. Silence is also what enables bully and bad people to get away without consequences on their actions. So silence is not always appropriate...
People often try to fill the air when there is silence. They talk out of a fear of silence. When we become comfortable with silence, we only talk when are words will be of value-in line with how the Buddha described himself: "The ascetic Gotama has given up talking nonsense. His words are timely, true, and meaningful... He says things at the right time which are valuable, reasonable, succinct, and beneficial."
I am a quiet person. I really dont talk much people say that I am introvert person but that is not the case. everywhere i go it is always the same. same mentality, same conversations, same bs. I am tired of it which is why i dont talk to anyone. very rarely will i find someone that thinks differently and there I am a talkative person.
Sometimes I feel like people just experience being afraid of death, because silence reminds them that there is no lively sound, i.e. silence is like a state of not experiencing life, hence fear arises. At the same time, there is something similar to it - being afraid of darkness. No light arises fear, no sound arises fear and uneasiness. There is something similar in all these two things. Ah, also forgot about lack of social activity. Fear of missing out. See? Three similar things have something in common. Illusion that is interpreted as lack of life flowing.
But they don't experience it because even when their external world is silent, their internal one never stops. I remember the very first time I reached the state of 'No Mind' for about 3 seconds, it was pure bliss. Before that I thought it was impossible. After practice I extended it for minutes and it changed my life.
my god you are the best youtuber i've encountered. The way you explain things it's just awesome, not too fast and stressful making it loose its message, but neither too calmed so that it feels slow (maybe you just use silent the right way :) ). Really dude keep it up! Love your content a lot! All my support from Spain
As somebody who overthinks and overanalyzes a lot, I do appreciate the silence of mind time to time, especially by going on solo walks or exercising without music or any other kind of stimulation; this especially helps the underlying solutions to problems arise by their own and cause many of those 'aha' moments.
Music, going for a walk, and/or exercise DOES NOT QUITE THE MIND! It relaxes it. If you want your mind to be quite you must rid yourself of WANTS, NEEDS and DESIRES. Wants needs and desires motivate the mind to work. Any truth one gets will be from the HEART! The mind is there to trick you into forgetting your HEART! If you want to use your mind CORRECTLY, you must synchronize it with your heart and then your motivation transforms to LOVE! Love will cause your mind to SOLVE PROBLEMS as OPPOSED to causing them! ~Apollo~
This is one of my favorite videos on something I am very passionate about. I love meditating because the silence I feel during it helps me to focus inward and more clearly. Once I begin to move my thinking outward I find that great thinking occurs. Your video really helped to explain this! Thanks very much for sharing.
You learn everything you need to know about people when you don't say much, most people can't stop themselves from filling the silence with their words, you learn so much about people by saying nothing, their insecurities and views about things that are important to them, their baseless assumptions about you...Also when you don't have the answer to something, saying and doing nothing often solves it for you, or you realise it wasn't even important at all...So easy to do with minimal practise and sometimes so powerful.
10:15 the one study you showed us is a life-changing one. Whenever I feel I'm just sitting here doing nothing, i found music to calm my mind, but i was wrong! Being in a silence worth more than listening to a music!
I can't give any advice to people on how to manage their relationships, but I can give one piece of advice on how to end them - STAY SILENT. There is no better way to get another person to think about their actions. The silence is deafening
Lol no it definitely is not. I've stayed silent my whole life when being shit on and no one has ever reflected on their behaviour. Instead they've doubled down and gotten worse over time. The only thing that runs through my mind daily now is all the moments I should've stood up for myself and didn't.
@@idontknowyetwhoiam Obviously we didn't understand each other. I said that the best way to end a relationship with someone, especially an abusive person, is to remain silent. When you remain a slient in such situations, you make that person think: "why isn't he/she upset", "does he/she care at all", "is this maybe my fault" ... While, unlike the violent reaction, we only confirm that they are right and that the break-up was the right decision and sometimes we even give them a reason to hate us. All this, of course, does not mean that one should be silent in a relationship and suffer other people's bad behavior, only that one should remain silent in case of a breakup. 🙂
I noticed that in American society, people always say I’m too quiet, but when I live in Europe it’s quite normal and no one comments on my quietness. Americans try to push people to be extroverts and have a difficult time understanding introverts. Onetime this woman told to to smile in a photo lol I thought to myself I’m not going to smile unless I feel like it! 🤦🏽♀️ I make sure that I stay true to myself and authentic as possible
My husband loves arguments. I've been using the technique of not replying to what he says that I disagree. After my moment of silent reaction, he feels uneasy and tries to come to a middle ground, as if I had said something he could agree on. If I still say nothing, he comes to the point when he himself changes sides and totally agrees with me. And I hadn't said a word lol
This video has something different in it and I don’t know what. Later, the ending with silence and just nature hit me, somehow made my eyes water a bit. Truly outstanding way to present a video and information about silence. Thank you for all of your videos!
Everything has advantages and disadvantages. I find myself improving but I started to overthink too much. It makes me question everything and predicting futures that 90% isn't true. I of course hit that and it makes me waste time, energy and suffer mentally which isn't good at all for mental health.
this reminds me of the Man from Tibetan Buddhist Temple when he protested by lighting himself on fire, the dedication and spirituality that he achieved to endure that kind of pain is undescribable
Coincidently, I watched this video without sound because I had forgotten to bring my headphones to my office. I used the subtitles. Thank you for the video. I needed this.
I have regularly done float tank/sensory deprivation tank sessions over the last year. The silence and solitude to explore any kind of thought or wandering musing without outside interruption is a highly underrated experience.
If you really want to experience a deeper connection with the self, try solo camping (Airbnb has plenty of options). I've been a city kid all my life but when I decided to venture out into the nature and spend that time by myself, with myself - it changed my life for the better. Having dealt with depression and anxiety it was beyond benefical to turn off all of the noise pollution (city noise, other people's opinions and expectations, you name it). It gives one the ability to tune back to their own radio station (their own ideals and expectations). As for nature, you'll be amazed at how everything comes together - it was truly an eye opening experience. Thank you for the video! It confirmed a lot of the things I came to understand when I went on my first adventure!
“Nothing more enhances authority than silence. It is the crowning virtue of the strong, the refuge of the weak, the pride of the humble, the humility of the proud and the sense of fools.” Charles deGualle
"Keep your mouth closed and lead a simple life" it was once said... A young man I know was 23 when he said to me "Once a week I sit in a quiet room on my own, no phone, no tv, just me on a chair with my own thoughts for a few hours"... As an artist there is beauty in sculpting or even doing doodles in a room on my own and remember as a teen realizing how much i appreciate my own company... In general out there, you here alot of people making alot of noise but little is ever said when you really pay attention...it's just people being loud
What I liked about this video is the 4 stages of silence as you described instead of explaining about the benefits of silence in general you spoke about the health and other benefits of being silent and why is it so. Eventhough certain things are known already I got to know about new things about the references you bought in this video. Thank you.
Silence between two old close friends is never an embarrassment. Sitting outside, having a drink, or just walking together needs no forced conversion. Being in each others company is sometimes all you both need. Unspoken understanding of each others worth.
now that is what I would call "friendship", no need for any superlatives
YES! Not everything people say deserves a response.
Actually did this quiet thing and understand others via observing and hearing.kinda important thx
like your truth
Where is your drop?
People tell me I’m antisocial all the time but I just hate wasting energy on something I feel isn’t for me. This page is allowing to find peace and have a better quality of life crazy part is I found it by complete accident
Antisocial people like narcissist can't stand to be alone
You're absolutely right, a lot of energy is wasted and we feel exhausted.
It's not worth it.
i know what you feel we can relate
Youre a Virgo Guranteed
Yeah I agree at times it can be better to choose silence and peace then to waist energy as we only have so much
Silence is underrated in my opinion. I used it as a weapon when someone would verbally abuse me or intentionally try to hurt me. I later understood how powerful I was during those moments. Because why waste energy on something that craves for attention and acknowledgement through one's reaction towards an action
I've done the same thing.
I am vice versa, cannot leave 1 thing left unspoken, and when I do, I feel bad because there was something I didn't manage to convey. That burned a lot of bridges though.
seems like i was wrong
I need to learn it
“Underrated” lol.
@@femboiuwu I am you. At least I WAS you. I realized it later that many ppl whether they are on internet/social media OR in real life display aggression through wordplay and that’s where guys like us fall in trap. Sometimes even if it hurts our feelings or hurt us personally. Being silent and not acknowledging their existence right there is the best we can do overtake this trap.
Practice this with members at home(when they hurt you) take it to school/office and then slowely and gradually to your entire life.
FAIR WARNING: if things are reaching to a point where it’s “dangerous” You must give a reaction. It should be calm collected and quick. Give your attention to those who deserve it and need it.
Sorry for the long type :-)
Someone once said that, 'The thing most modern humans fear most is silence and the sound of their own thoughts'.
quite true. I too have to find some noise all the time. we live in the world full of noise and distraction. silence is a rare moment and often odd.
Silence is Golden--- ol' Tremeloes song
@paulwilliamson9958 I literally said that last night. But I’m not a modern human. Ima spiritual being… how can I hear God if I have to constantly have noise to drown out frequencies and negative energy in my neighborhood… i know I’m talking WAY too much 😂but thank you for making this comment. I appreciate you and subscribe and hit like. Ima meditate today. In silence. With my feet on in the grass. Thank you sir
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One of the reasons I married my husband was that we can feel totally comfortable by being together but not talking. We can sometimes sit in a car for hours and none of us utters a word and the fact that both of us are comfortable with that is one of the cornerstones of our 15+ years relationship. I need my solitude and so does he. People who feel the need to fill out every bit of silence with their voice, make me incredibly tired and drain my energy. Silence is indeed golden.
That is beautiful and I think have learnt a new lesson
I used to hang out with a friend, I tried my best to talk with her-never leaving a silent moment. I realize that maybe that wasn't the perfect approach, maybe I wasn't giving her space, maybe it's just better that I hang out with her without needing to talk all the time. After all, she has other friends, she's always active, maybe I should just give her the moment to slow down.
Either way, have a beautiful day/night, I hope your relationship lasts another 15+ years. 😊
@@BlightCosmos Thank you
I am the same as you. I need my silence moments and my husband. We respect each other. We talk a lot! Me more them him 😅. But silence is my peace or my solutions moment. Some people drained me talking too much.
Same with me and my husband.😊
I hope to find someone of this personality as mi wife as I'm a silent person too
It's a time to be silent and it's a time to speak. We just have to learn when it's the right time for both.
Everybody different is the point ...
@@Arisingaboriginal Actually we are more alike than what we think..
@@seeingstraightthrough so you would understand that even similarities are different
@@seeingstraightthrough tryna compare everyone as being the same would be yeah we are all people and humans but have many traits that are different. So you got ppl that talk alot and ppl that are completely quiet and isolated but alot of ppl are in-between as a factor as well.
@@seeingstraightthrough we can't even agree therefore it shows our differences..
I used to have a friend with whom I would often go hiking. We could spend hours walking in the mountains without saying a word and it was never awkward or embarrassing. It was amazing, just feeling the environment with all of your senses, observing your mind chatter...
What happened to this friend?
@@nothanks7475 moved to a different country, we just sort of split as our lives went different ways...
Because your body is being physically exerted & exertion enables silence to be undeniably perfect
If you were sitting on a bench , holding hands & not engaging in physical activity, then silences would be weird
@@seymourlove4788 i think with some silence is never weird no matter what you do
why not go alone if you aren't going to communicate?
I used to overthink what I've said to my friends after we hangout so I decided to be more silent and just listen while they talk. Now I have less to think about and my mind is more at peace.
Thats odd I'm the same I always over think everything I've said that the other person could find weird and dislike. I think it's anxiety
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I needed this today. Amen
Hear hear. Thank you for your thoughtful comment.
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i really needed this today ❤
Thank you and I hope you also have all this and more ameen
In summary
1. The quietter you become, the more you hear.
2. Silence boosts creativity.
3. Silence can send a powerful message.
4. Silence improves well being.
Silence also keeps you away from any sort of trouble.
@@prappomubasshir9735 life is trouble, and trouble is necessary for growth.
That highly depends on what kind of trouble you mean. There is so many factors to this lol. Not disagreeing but not agreeing fully.
Literally I love your comment because I hate this kind of "WISE FACT SPEAKING" because they're so ambiguously settled and It just doesn't work for everything and sounds pretentious at the very end... Or maybe from the beginning or half. @@johnappleseed9290
"Silence is a friend that never betrays you". (Confucius)
Bullshit. If you are being verbally abused, first keep the person away from you at least 1 meter, and set boundaries. Some abusers react to others being silent as being submissive (freeze response) or not taking them seriously and might attempt to slap or punch you.
You got that right.
or enemy if we are remain silent in other's injustice time ...
Well, he is wrong. Silence can betray you. However, is that quote really from Confucius?
@@AppliedMathematician may be he is saying we should remain silence when others are bulllying/hurting us ........ and ignore person not silence
"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt" - Abraham Lincoln
Good 1
Or just when you speak be articulate .
"Let a fool hold his tongue and he will pass for a sage." Publilius Syrus
1 of the funniest quotes. Very true
@@inmycreativity5762 you gave the quote more gravity by completely misunderstanding it.
As I read everyone praising Silence, I would just add one thing. Be careful with it. Silence is a double-edge sword. It is a weapon, but also a prison. There is a time for everything, and silence isn't always the best option.
I am capable of being one of the most silent person in a group, principally listening and observing around. And afterwards, I feel a bit evasive, absent. What is the point of my presence if I am just here to listen ? And when I try to speak, it is not the same. I feel better in the silence. Which is bothering me.
There is a time for everything, and parsimony is the best ally you can have. Know when to act, know when to remain silent. But do not act in only one way.
May I know what does 'parsimony' mean in the context of your sentence here ?
i'm not a native speaker sorry!
Theres a difference between silence out of discomfort and silence out of necessity. You just have to work on your self concept and confidence. Being silent out of necessity is comfort in your own silence and knowing when you add to the convo your words are important. I'm usually in my own world and people think im cool and mysterious lol. How you percieve yourself matters most, and know your presence is worthy enough despite not adding to the convo.
this. the video seems to address normal people with a measure of influence in typical social parlours. venues where people take you seriously and would respect you more if you left certain things unsaid. the advice is actually harmful if you don't heed situational context as there are times where you definitely need to speak up and make yourself (or someone you care about) heard
@@hdpebag4942 I think I used the word very poorly ahem... Thank you for pointing that.
I wanted to say "as there is tile for talking and time for silence, don't always be on one side. Full silence or full talk. Just take your time, don't be reckless."
@@Vivianiubu I completely agree with you, that a lot of this comes from the confidence you have in yourself.
But, and I think you know this as much as I do, a lot of people struggles in self confidence. And finding confort in the silence may not be the best solution for it, as it feels like "I stay in my confortable inner place".
The fact that people may not see the difference between the 2 silences you talked about is why I wanted to point this.
It may look nice and wise to stay silent. But even the wisest has to speak at one point.
And I think I completely went outside of your comment ahem...
I went on a date with this girl and we were having great conversation. At one point we both just stopped talking and sat there taking everything in and it felt nice. Neither of us tried to talk or force anything, it was a moment of just flow.
That is a cool story BRO
Good for you, still seeing eachother?
I hate going to parties, and my so called friends think I'm a nerd and I'm not enjoying my life,
I don't enjoy partying and stuff, all I want is a friend like me who enjoys the silence, the peaceful walk in beaches, sitting watching the sunset....
I also don't see good in parties. There seems to be a lot of hidden malice a lot of the time.
Too many are inadequate at expressing themselves through words already. Why expect good to come out of a social occasion with a lot of them all together?
Some would say that I'm harsh. But perhaps only those who can never successfully disprove me.
This is basically me
I don't have friends, and I don't go out. just go out for groceries.
Why do you have "so called" friends?? Don't you have the capacity to CHOOSE your friends?? Why would you CHOOSE a friend, and then refer to them as a "so called" friend?? They're either your friend or they aren't!! It's YOUR CHOICE!!
You are an introvert,same to me.
I have lost count of the number of times I have been humiliated for keeping silence. I am always asked to talk more. Silence is a language whose importance not everyone can understand.
Edit: Thanks to all folks who supported. But some people are blaming me in the comments for choosing silence. Let me be clear, by "silence" here, I mean not participating in small talk or gossiping or fake conversations. I speak only whenever it's necessary or when I have something useful to say (that includes taking stand for myself too).
To be humiliated is only if you allow it, people are only projecting when they say things intended to humiliate
Could it be your voice sounds funny or irritating to others? I know people like this and I’ve been told I talk nonsense too many times.
@@mikewhocheeseharry5292 I’m not sure how what you’re saying relates to the comment at all. Darry said “I am always asked to talk more.”
@@RoyAnderson I think that was a wrong post.
That’s *their* problem, not yours. Keep your silence; that way you can hear the inner voice better.
“Things that are real are given and received in silence” - Meher Baba
I was silent all my life. Never really tried to talk or show to world more than needed. Then I started being vocal few months back because I felt I was missing so much. But now I realise, it's not worth it. It is exhausting to so many levels. People don't care anyways. Silence is always better. I'm on my way to return to my old self.
That's right. Too much noise, too many words and voices rising their tones, these things make me nervous and agitated. I feel bad.
I can picture myself having deep lengthy conversations with the right type of people that may come along my path through life, it hasn't quite happened yet. Introspection through silence has been a great replacement thus far. Maybe i have high standards, or maybe the majority of the people simply aren't that interesting. Either way, i prefer solitude almost every time.
i will try too
Moderation; balance
@@maurices5954 Same brother , I don't know it's good or bad.
Also, keeping your mouth shut keeps you safe. The less your enemies know what you're thinking or doing the better, as it is the foundation of surprise. “it is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.” - Mark Twain
Just letting you know: Abraham Lincoln was actually the originator of the quote. It is wrongfully attributed to Twain often, though. Didn't want you to not know this. Have a good one!
You have no enemies if you're always silent so your silence means nothing
@@Scp--uk3ld This is not always true unfortunately. Certain people will take offence to you being silent, and they will use this as an excuse to make an enemy.
@@Enduring_Mantle exactly!!
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This is absolutely profound. I have realized that in the last 10 years I have been trying to become more silent and I can confidently say I haven't lost anything, when I actually talk(less) I feel people listen.
Every time I am quiet, I really see the world for what it is around me and it disturbs me. That’s why distractions are so easy to indulge in.
“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” ~ Epictetus, a Greek Stoic philosopher
That is just pure factually incorrect that the purpose of having to ears as it is due to evolution even before humans were capable of langeand can be seen as a counter-example in other forms of creatures with two instruments of hearing and one verbal generator..
@@cont8155 chill bro it's just an analogy
I’m pretty sure Zeno said this, not Epictetus
Now people use social media it’s even worse than a mouth.
@@cont8155 wooooosssshh!
silence and solitude are wonderful, for me that was one of the good things about lockdowns. Being alone, no one talking or interrupting me, I learned a lot about myself in those 2 years and I'm realizing it more now as I get back into the noisiness of life, and I'm a lot happier in the quiet.
Only if it is by choice.
@@Br0kenMask You missed the point, the silence of Covid wasn't chosen but it forced a great many to re-evaluate. I'm with Colo(u)ring, I'm gonna miss the Covid lockdowns and silence.
Exactly no one thinking for you suggesting bs. Altering decision making
I, too, enjoyed the quiet of COVID lockdowns. I find that I am hating the noise, traffic etc as we return to “normal”, even more than I did before.
@@BubbaSmurft you must be rich..
“Nothing strengthens authority so much as silence.” -Leonardo da Vinci
I’m learning how to be quiet . It’s exposed all the control freaks in my life.
Edit :and I’ve gotten use to the warm safety of silence. I noticed that the second I stoped talking was the second I stopped having issues with people.
Yes ppl be saying stupid stuff. Silence is golden
Suffering from anxiety my whole life, I always felt the need to keep talking to avoid gaps in conversation. I thought if I don't talk nothing will get said, this would result in me over sharing and instantly regretting what I just said. Recently though I have been learning to talk less and it is making a difference. I would love to one day practice the art of silence with confidence but it feels like an alien concept to me
same here !
wow me, i overshare cus im scared of awkward silences and usually my brain just explodes with so many words from one word of a person like im totally insufferable and indigestible at this point, but it's actually important and i do realise how healthy it feels lately
ngl i kinda overshared again in this comment
I can relate to this, a hundred percent. I speak a lot, not intentionally but to avoid void. I never liked emojis i thought they weren't exactly nice until recently I started feeling them. It's like I try to blend silence inside now so that I can do it outside, and why am I saying this? Is proved to be a good question at a times along with, is this really matters? ( And deciding to not give others so much importance over myself)
This time a hundred percent was intentional tho 😉
Yep! Me too… this video is liberating!
Many of us have forgotten (or even feared) the power of silence. We live in a world where there is a lot of noise and conversation. A world where we are bombarded with distractions and responsibilities in our daily lives. Learn to trust yourself, to rely on your decisions, and to feel more safe in the face of chaos and uncertainty.
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Story of my life. Use to Chaos and uncertainty and walking through hell I have a PhD in it
I hate that noisy world.
People are afraid of the person who takes disrespect with silence. Not justifying lies and slander with a response is chilling to people obsessed with being right. Keep em guessing! Good work as always!🙏
What’s up bro, you my twin?
@@yogrannyloveme124 lmfao yes! Reunited at last!!
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Boom 💥 💥 Boss response to silence. I agree
Silence is more powerful than you can possibly imagine .
Silence definitely has its place in this world where all people is talk.
I use it in instances where I'm not sure about someone's intent and leave them to fill the gap with what they're thinking. Keep quiet long enough at the right time and people will tell on themselves - work, relationships, you name it.
A lot people have said to me why I'm always so quiet but it's always because I don't like to be apart of mindless drama that won't mean anything after a day and rather only speak when there something meaningful in the conversation or when I'm learning with someone so most times I choose to be quiet
Exactly
That's a power, learn to master it. 👍🏼
Silence is very powerful. Learning to be at peace with the quiet has really helped me be a better listener
Wow, I am more than thankful and happy to feed my mind with what I learned from this. Thank you
Being socially awkward and unable to start a conversation sometimes, I found that silence can help learn about people. When you're silent, some people become curious and ask questions, those are usually the nice and open types, some people are also awkward like you, and some start filling the void by creating crazy stories about you that are not real but tell a lot about what's really going on in their own heads
Exactly 💯
Damn, very true !
idk if it's all in my mind but they seem to think far different about me from what i actually am
@@zanepeterson777 Everybody judges the world from their own experience, so most of the time people are highly subjective in their opinions, basically mirroring their inner worlds onto you
Silence can sometimes be inhibiting. For people who observe, they usually remove themselves from a situation to see it from many angles which leaves them not experiencing life. Lack of experience can cause a loss of personality or identity. When you stay quiet for too long you forget what to say, when to say it, or even how to say things which can also impact you communication and interpersonal relationships.
read a book or something
@@_Seven30 ? I do. I read as a past time. But how's that relevant? Also why are you being dismissive? 🤨
@@_Seven30Ok herbert
Silence is so underrated! In music, I feel adding in silences added a lot of emotion behind it!
Reflection is truly key. Humanity should dare to look deep within, but it should also accept that more than mere physical Reflection is required for true, celestial enlightenment.
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge; hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
I prefer the sounds of silence
Yessss!!!!
"Tacet" on sheet music indicates silence. ❤ Similar to pausing for emphasis in mid-sentence or after a statement, a silent pause in music gives the mind a moment to process and reflect before continuing into the next thought. I think of the song "An Innocent Man" by Billy Joel -- there is a dramatic although brief silence in the music. It gets your attention. Other highly talented singers and songwriters effectively use a brief silence in some of their songs. I believe it adds more emotional richness than filling the whole piece with instruments and vocals.
I was actually having a conversation with my brother the other day about this. We're both pretty quiet people and have always found silence to be golden. Love your channel, top tier in my opinion. In a world of loud mouths screaming in their videos to try to keep someone's attention, thank you sir.
this page has truly been helping me reminding me of my natural quiet nature and why i'm like that. people pretend to want to get to know you but they will use any and all info they can against you! it's just sick times we're in right now. you have the right to remain silent!!!!
A Wise Man Once Said Nothing !
Lmao
Because he was silent all the time. Right?? haha
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brilliant, love your quote
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i had a friend who never talked when i introduced him to another friend, he just listened. Instead of appearing sage and mysterious I thought he looked like a boring, timid guy with no self confidence, opposite of what he thought.
Good insight, thanks. For me as introvert, hardest part is to bring silence into my thoughts. To actually allow silence to take theirs place :)
Silence is golden . I love this Netherlands tradition. Silent walking Others should try it. Certain Buddhist traditions use silent walking.
There is too much talk and many of the things said are trivial .
My teacher , Mrs Turner used to say it's the empty containers that make the most noise.
It's important to speak , but only when necessary.
Silence is powerful! The less you speak, the less they know. 🧠
but what game are you playing? in the end the point of life is having fun, spreading love, and connecting with others
@@ShortFuseFun
Sometimes the other side of life has people who are quiet enough to be respectful to others in a silent way.
@@ShortFuseFun Having fun, Spreading Love & Connecting- still doing it and that's what I grew up thinking but when people around you are playing games depending on what they know about you, I came to believe that silence is powerful. The less you tell people, the less they know. And, its better I think. It's not playing games, I think. I think it's more of choosing how you want to live.
@@ShortFuseFun There could be thousands of connections that were broken as well, just because someone couldn't keep silence in the heat of anger.
this one comment I’ve been looking for! I mean, sometimes I am the most quiet person and sometimes I am the most talkative (in a way that I love learning lots of things from other ppl) so I ask and talk a lot. @frost
There's nothing that quite infuriates someone that is yelling at you like a child to just ignore and not even acknowledge their rant. Works quite like a charm , teaches you patience and always leaves them (the aggressors) as the immature one in the eyes of bystanders.
Boy do they get pissed I'll tell you that, and its DELICIOUS to hear it.
Bad idea to keep silent when someone is verbally abusing you, yes you may embarass them at first but they might escalate. First you should keep at least the person two arms length away from you and second you should try to leave the place. Some people will consider your silence as a sign that they can dominate you or you being submissive or even that you are not taking them seriously and proceed to escalate and slap or punch you. These Narcissistic predators when they see you silent will equate it to a freeze response and failing to intimidate you verbally, will recourse to violence. Telling them to stay away and set boundaries as you leave the place is the best way. Look them in the eye.
Yeah, that’s more passive aggressive than the silence discussed here - isn’t it?
@@Michel-Graillier-fanclub You bring up a good point to have discernment in knowing when to keep silent and when to say something in response to a verbal threat. This distinction is important for those of us who are just learning about being silent.
This was my wake up call to start meditating, stop talking so much, and quiet the constant noise both inside and out. Thanks for taking the time to make this video, I really enjoyed listening to what you have to say.
Silence can be one's own greatest power. I'm not saying you shouldn't speak at all or give opinion's, but to learn to listen, can be a great skill.
I love this, I've never struggled with being silent. What I've struggled with is saying and communicating my feelings and thoughts. So I can think of a couple of times where I regret not saying anything.
Thank you for your honesty. My personal opinion is that most people who are more comfortable with silence struggle with sharing their feelings and thoughts, which creates connections and understanding between people. I value connection which I equate with intimacy in my relationship with my husband.
Fantastic video! I’m a person who lives with complex post traumatic stress disorder. Silence has often be a harbinger of doom. I tend to fill my life with noise just to take the edge off of the insufferable silence. This video really helped me change my perspective on silence. It’s not something that needs to be endured like soaking in ice water but is rather a gift of the void. A moment of nothingness. It’s beautiful and powerful. I loved how you described silence at the end of the video “elusive yet accessible to all.” I’m going to try to reaclimate myself to being in silence in the future. You don’t know how helpful this was! ❤️
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That indeed sounds traumatic .. God bless and protect you and ease your life
I have complex PTSD and found the pandemic to be a God send!!! Thankful to be away from very toxic people and even the ones I have loved the most that tried to harm me. I just slowly get more alone and I’m happy here without anyone. 🙏❤️. I was fearful of silence and couldn’t not relax in my old house but it’s because of the reminder of the abuse.
I think silence gives us the idea that in our story ( the story can be pretty bad or just anything ) but silence gives us the idea that it's ours, and so Is the choice of choosing people to get into our serenity, be a part of this or can be ignored and to be done with. So yeah powerful
And also the power to choose with whom this silence should be shared and cared.
7:11 “Silence allows us to express what discourse cannot. The many words uttered, ideas shared, and promises made, never fully encompass the human experience. However, the power of silence as an answer to tragedy is that we acknowledge that no amount of words do justice to what we seek to commemorate”
Edit: A masterfully-written video about the power of silence ends quiet. No music, no talking, no damn advertisement sponsor at the end. Just peace… and serenity. How very fitting. You’ve earned a subscriber. Cheers.
You sir or madam, have earned you a subscriber. Thanks for the quote
bro your damm true ....me tooo
I verily do concur. ❤️🔥💯 Glad you pointed that powerful truth out! 🤔
Two tho
you have a way with words as well
often times I recently learned I love silence. I go to view spots, and take in the world. When I mention to other people to sit in silence for a while, they don't understand. When I go to a silent place, I tend to listen to the natural life around me. I love hearing the wind blow through the air. It makes me realize that life is more to it than just trying to better myself. The point of life is to enjoy every single moment we have, and when I'm at my silence spot, that's exactly what I love to do. I take in the moment, and enjoy it.
My girlfriend often tells me I don't "speak up" enough. But, I'm taking it all in. I like to process carefully before engaging in conflict. It helps a lot for collecting my thoughts. It's a great thing to practice.
Ive been a performing and recording musician my whole life and nothing is more powerful than a "rest" in music notation. How many times do you hear a song that goes quiet or completely silent just so the next time all the instrumentation and/or vocals come in, its a shock to the system!
YES, on David Bowie's Young American near the end there's a silence, on concert versions he sometimes made that silence longer and I was just craving for the comeback 🔥
@@JCarrera_ll ah man yeah! Bowie was a great writer and performer! =)
This reminded me of a few songs which use silence in them.
Ryan caraveo- bubbles (1:45)
christopher blake - come closer
Twenty One Pilots - Car Radio (Half Blood Remix)
Peter Green certainly knew the power of leaving space and hitting the listener with silence in his playing and singing. Fantastic
As a fellow musician, you've described this beautifully XxX
When words are many, sin is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise. (Prov: 10:19). Whoever shows contempt for his neighbor lacks judgment, but a man of understanding remains silent. (prov 11:19). Even a fool is considered wise if he keeps silent, and discerning when he holds his tongue. (prov 17:28)
Never heard or seen this. Thanks really dope.
@@gargoyliangaming6556 book of proverbs in the Bible. Check it out. To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding.
The quote from Mark Twain reminded me of some of these Proverbs in the Bible. It is the source of much wisdom. Some historical people we think of as "wise" have quoted scriptural wisdom. Abraham Lincoln said, "A house divided against itself cannot stand." This was not an original thought -- he was quoting something that Jesus said.
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I'd like to take a minute to thank you. The past few years have been very trying for me in many ways. Your insight and guidance, along with becoming familiar with the concepts of stoicism, have been a stabilizing force in what was becoming a dangerous mindset. I, and I'm sure many others, appreciate what you do here.
I LISTENED TO THIS WITH the VOLUME DOWN. It was amazing 😊
Silence is the ability to maintain your energy, from pointless waste.
Silence is a source of great strength..💜
One of my fondest moments of elementary school in the early 2000’s was the daily moment of silence we all participated in after the pledge of allegiance.
Even more important then valuing being silent is to know when not to be silent and to confront injustices, correct false perceptions and publish new results. We would not life in today advanced social and technological society, if the wise and knowing would not have spoken up just to avoid the confrontations that come with speaking the truth.
Thank you, well said.
Bringing perspective here. Silence is also what enables bully and bad people to get away without consequences on their actions. So silence is not always appropriate...
Great point, silence can be golden and can be deadly as well. People often associate silence with being weak, or indecisive?
I was really expecting a longer (and awkward) silence before your usual "Thank you for watching" this time!
Thank you for the awesome content!
People often try to fill the air when there is silence. They talk out of a fear of silence. When we become comfortable with silence, we only talk when are words will be of value-in line with how the Buddha described himself: "The ascetic Gotama has given up talking nonsense. His words are timely, true, and meaningful... He says things at the right time which are valuable, reasonable, succinct, and beneficial."
Silence is powerful . Silence is golden .
I am a quiet person. I really dont talk much people say that I am introvert person but that is not the case. everywhere i go it is always the same. same mentality, same conversations, same bs. I am tired of it which is why i dont talk to anyone. very rarely will i find someone that thinks differently and there I am a talkative person.
Silence often exudes power intelligence and confidence
Sometimes I feel like people just experience being afraid of death, because silence reminds them that there is no lively sound, i.e. silence is like a state of not experiencing life, hence fear arises. At the same time, there is something similar to it - being afraid of darkness. No light arises fear, no sound arises fear and uneasiness. There is something similar in all these two things. Ah, also forgot about lack of social activity. Fear of missing out. See? Three similar things have something in common. Illusion that is interpreted as lack of life flowing.
But they don't experience it because even when their external world is silent, their internal one never stops. I remember the very first time I reached the state of 'No Mind' for about 3 seconds, it was pure bliss. Before that I thought it was impossible. After practice I extended it for minutes and it changed my life.
@@mreverybody1150 how did you do that??
@@fadilahmed3137 probably meditation i could b wrong
my god you are the best youtuber i've encountered. The way you explain things it's just awesome, not too fast and stressful making it loose its message, but neither too calmed so that it feels slow (maybe you just use silent the right way :) ). Really dude keep it up! Love your content a lot! All my support from Spain
now I realize why I love your outro, the 2-3 seconds moment of silence before you utter the "Thank you for watching" is so relaxing
Silence is maintenance. People sometime need to think before speak or act.
As somebody who overthinks and overanalyzes a lot, I do appreciate the silence of mind time to time, especially by going on solo walks or exercising without music or any other kind of stimulation; this especially helps the underlying solutions to problems arise by their own and cause many of those 'aha' moments.
Music, going for a walk, and/or exercise DOES NOT QUITE THE MIND! It relaxes it. If you want your mind to be quite you must rid yourself of WANTS, NEEDS and DESIRES. Wants needs and desires motivate the mind to work. Any truth one gets will be from the HEART! The mind is there to trick you into forgetting your HEART! If you want to use your mind CORRECTLY, you must synchronize it with your heart and then your motivation transforms to LOVE! Love will cause your mind to SOLVE PROBLEMS as OPPOSED to causing them! ~Apollo~
This is one of my favorite videos on something I am very passionate about. I love meditating because the silence I feel during it helps me to focus inward and more clearly. Once I begin to move my thinking outward I find that great thinking occurs. Your video really helped to explain this! Thanks very much for sharing.
You learn everything you need to know about people when you don't say much, most people can't stop themselves from filling the silence with their words, you learn so much about people by saying nothing, their insecurities and views about things that are important to them, their baseless assumptions about you...Also when you don't have the answer to something, saying and doing nothing often solves it for you, or you realise it wasn't even important at all...So easy to do with minimal practise and sometimes so powerful.
"...mysterious but clear, soothing but painful, idle but useful, consenting but rebellious, and elusive but accessible to anyone." So good.
I have never seen a youtube channel with this tranquil , introspective, and enlightening quality before.....
Je vader
10:15 the one study you showed us is a life-changing one. Whenever I feel I'm just sitting here doing nothing, i found music to calm my mind, but i was wrong! Being in a silence worth more than listening to a music!
I can't give any advice to people on how to manage their relationships, but I can give one piece of advice on how to end them - STAY SILENT. There is no better way to get another person to think about their actions. The silence is deafening
Lol no it definitely is not. I've stayed silent my whole life when being shit on and no one has ever reflected on their behaviour. Instead they've doubled down and gotten worse over time. The only thing that runs through my mind daily now is all the moments I should've stood up for myself and didn't.
@@idontknowyetwhoiam Obviously we didn't understand each other. I said that the best way to end a relationship with someone, especially an abusive person, is to remain silent. When you remain a slient in such situations, you make that person think: "why isn't he/she upset", "does he/she care at all", "is this maybe my fault" ... While, unlike the violent reaction, we only confirm that they are right and that the break-up was the right decision and sometimes we even give them a reason to hate us. All this, of course, does not mean that one should be silent in a relationship and suffer other people's bad behavior, only that one should remain silent in case of a breakup. 🙂
@@idontknowyetwhoiam you must have forgotten to walk away. X
@@idontknowyetwhoiam There is a time for silence, and a time to speak. Know the difference, and pick your battles wisely.
yea silence and then walk away, lettem have the last turn and leave it that way
I noticed that in American society, people always say I’m too quiet, but when I live in Europe it’s quite normal and no one comments on my quietness. Americans try to push people to be extroverts and have a difficult time understanding introverts. Onetime this woman told to to smile in a photo lol I thought to myself I’m not going to smile unless I feel like it! 🤦🏽♀️ I make sure that I stay true to myself and authentic as possible
All people talk too much. A smile does so much good, and it is silent. Peace be unto you.
I love silence. This world is loud. Nonstop noises and flashing lights. I cannot be out in it for long. It’s exhausting.
My husband loves arguments.
I've been using the technique of not replying to what he says that I disagree.
After my moment of silent reaction, he feels uneasy and tries to come to a middle ground, as if I had said something he could agree on.
If I still say nothing, he comes to the point when he himself changes sides and totally agrees with me.
And I hadn't said a word lol
Elizabeth how do you know what he agrees with if you haven't said a word?🤷🏻♂️
Brilliant 😂 👍
@@desertodavid at first I give my opinion about a subject. When he disagrees, I keep silent and in the end.....
Elizabeth Fonseca
Classic female reverse psychology
This video has something different in it and I don’t know what.
Later, the ending with silence and just nature hit me, somehow made my eyes water a bit. Truly outstanding way to present a video and information about silence.
Thank you for all of your videos!
Thanks!
Thank you, Salvador! 🙏
Everything has advantages and disadvantages. I find myself improving but I started to overthink too much. It makes me question everything and predicting futures that 90% isn't true. I of course hit that and it makes me waste time, energy and suffer mentally which isn't good at all for mental health.
A minute of silence for those who don't understand the power of silence
Silence and action is a powerful combo
Silence = Neutrality.
you may find it boring but Neutrality from emotional biases is enlightening.
this reminds me of the Man from Tibetan Buddhist Temple when he protested by lighting himself on fire, the dedication and spirituality that he achieved to endure that kind of pain is undescribable
"It is better to be silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt." - attributed to Will Rogers among others
Silence is always powerful doesn't matter where you use, whether it will be beneficial to you or someone else
Coincidently, I watched this video without sound because I had forgotten to bring my headphones to my office. I used the subtitles. Thank you for the video. I needed this.
I have regularly done float tank/sensory deprivation tank sessions over the last year. The silence and solitude to explore any kind of thought or wandering musing without outside interruption is a highly underrated experience.
I agree I have done this several times here in Texas
One of my favorite traits about myself is I don't have to fill every moment with words.
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If you really want to experience a deeper connection with the self, try solo camping (Airbnb has plenty of options). I've been a city kid all my life but when I decided to venture out into the nature and spend that time by myself, with myself - it changed my life for the better. Having dealt with depression and anxiety it was beyond benefical to turn off all of the noise pollution (city noise, other people's opinions and expectations, you name it). It gives one the ability to tune back to their own radio station (their own ideals and expectations). As for nature, you'll be amazed at how everything comes together - it was truly an eye opening experience. Thank you for the video! It confirmed a lot of the things I came to understand when I went on my first adventure!
Silence is where happiness happens
“Nothing more enhances authority than silence. It is the crowning virtue of the strong, the refuge of the weak, the pride of the humble, the humility of the proud and the sense of fools.” Charles deGualle
I Hope to find someone that appreciates silence. So many people like to ramble without taking in everything surrounding them
been silent my whole life, you learn a lot when your silent especially about other people.
"Keep your mouth closed and lead a simple life" it was once said...
A young man I know was 23 when he said to me "Once a week I sit in a quiet room on my own, no phone, no tv, just me on a chair with my own thoughts for a few hours"...
As an artist there is beauty in sculpting or even doing doodles in a room on my own and remember as a teen realizing how much i appreciate my own company...
In general out there, you here alot of people making alot of noise but little is ever said when you really pay attention...it's just people being loud
What I liked about this video is the 4 stages of silence as you described instead of explaining about the benefits of silence in general you spoke about the health and other benefits of being silent and why is it so. Eventhough certain things are known already I got to know about new things about the references you bought in this video. Thank you.
This is a masterpiece of art it’s been years since I’ve seen something like it