Eulogies for the living: how to move through grief | Andrea Driessen | TEDxSeattleWomen

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  • Опубликовано: 25 янв 2025

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  • @OnYourMarkLLC
    @OnYourMarkLLC 5 месяцев назад +1

    A beautiful sentiment, well told. Thank you.
    I decided in the late 90s that I was going to write a book. It took me ten years of research and writing, mostly on weekend camping trips and vacation days. When I was finished writing the last chapter while staying at my Dad's for the weekend, I wrote the dedication to him and shared it with him. I'm so glad I did that. He became ill a month later and passed away about six months after that. When he did, I used the dedication in his eulogy. The book went to press a few months after that. I simply changed the dedication from present tense to past tense. After getting the first printed copies my first stop was at his grave, where I left a copy and poured a beer for him. It would have seemed hollow if I hadn't shared my appreciation for him while he was still healthy and alive. I'm pleased that I "met" you on Twitter/X - and followed up to listen to your TEDx Talk. Truly an idea worth sharing. Thank you.

  • @marilynharris4238
    @marilynharris4238 2 года назад +56

    I’m an old lady in my 80s, who has friends whose minds are slipping away. Your talk has encouraged me to write “grace notes” telling them how much they have meant to me and others, while they are still able to read and understand. And, because I’m of an advanced age (but not actively dying, but who knows?) I’ve also thought I should write notes to all my friends, no matter their age or state of health, to tell them how much I appreciate them. Thank you for this inspiration.

    • @jdmetcalf9222
      @jdmetcalf9222 2 года назад +2

      Do that, the biggest pain we feel as humans is regret!!!

    • @CK-wv9pp
      @CK-wv9pp 2 года назад +1

      Thank you, Marilyn. ❤️

    • @mothratemporalradio517
      @mothratemporalradio517 2 года назад

      haven't watched the talk yet but what a lovely idea. 🌻🙏✌️

  • @annemarieosborne2787
    @annemarieosborne2787 Год назад +1

    Beautiful reminder to express our love and appreciation for one another, while we are still alive. One of my most cherished friends, who is like the brother I never had, was diagnosed with Stage 4 pancreatic cancer. He is receiving hospice care now. This presentation encouraged me to write him a letter of appreciation that he can read now, while he is still alive. Thank you Andrea for your powerful message.

    • @Andrea_Driessen
      @Andrea_Driessen Год назад

      Dear AnneMarie, Please forgive my belated response. I'm deeply sorry to hear about your brother. Is he still in Hospice? How marvelous that you wrote him a note of appreciation while he could still truly appreciate it. YES, that is the core Gracenotes message. With love, Andrea

  • @GetYourLifeBetter
    @GetYourLifeBetter 2 года назад +30

    The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you’ll learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same, nor should you be the same nor would you want to.

    • @satsuma836
      @satsuma836 2 года назад +2

      This.

    • @tessaburkhamer3856
      @tessaburkhamer3856 2 года назад +1

      This is so very true. My momma passed on the 18th....it is definitely a life altering state of being.

  • @SageWords2027
    @SageWords2027 2 года назад +8

    Thank you! I. LOVE. LOVE LOVE THIS!! I live my life by this motto: No words left unsaid. I do my best to raise up those around me. My husband and I have written over 500 love notes to each other over the past 30 years. I made a video for my daughter about all the things I love about her. I tell people how much they mean to me and all the wonderful things I see in them or good times I remember sharing with them. You have inspired me to continue this practice and to write another letter or make another video for more people in my life, people I’ve lost touch with, because someday either they or a loved one will find that video and they will feel seen, heard,and appreciated. One of the first chapters in my book, “Sage Words, Freedom, Book One” is about the human desire to love and be loved. Thank you for this wonderful video and message. I love the idea of “Grace Notes” (I always thought that would be a great name for a band). Bless you and bless your dad for inspiring you. He would be proud!

  • @motivationeye
    @motivationeye 2 года назад +18

    *Everyone who reads this, we don't know each other and probably never will but I wish you all the best in life and all the luck in the world* 🗣️🗣️😊😊😊😊😊

    • @alisal-w3923
      @alisal-w3923 2 года назад

      Thank you and you as well!!!

  • @Yourpetstories
    @Yourpetstories 2 года назад +5

    “You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching,
    Love like you'll never be hurt,
    Sing like there's nobody listening,
    And live like it's heaven on earth.”
    ― William W. Purkey

  • @sukhino4475
    @sukhino4475 2 года назад +1

    Instaneous pat back,genuine expression, kindles the spark in the receiver. It is not flattery but true expressions laced with love .it bounces them back to actions and positive hope .
    I did error several times but when I was at the receiving end of praise,I realized it's dramatic effect on me, and I did feel lonely and depressed in the absence of it. I did have time to retrospect and decided to be lavish in releasing the eulogies, for I lose nothing, and I knew what I give it bounces back.

  • @MFGBSOLUTIONS
    @MFGBSOLUTIONS 2 года назад +3

    Grace note to you reading this. You are doing well just he way your are. Love yourself and be happy now. ❤

  • @Lemons19902010
    @Lemons19902010 2 года назад +1

    This was beautiful. I wish I could write a grace note for my dad. He passed away almost a year ago.

  • @NothingMaster
    @NothingMaster 2 года назад +7

    You grieve because you effectively lost something or someone meaningful. To move through your grief you must find something, someone, or have a spiritual awakening/encounter that is equally or more meaningful. All meaningful things are valuable, but not all valuable things are meaningful.

  • @garytucker692
    @garytucker692 2 года назад +2

    Well said. Life changing really!!❤️

  • @robertzawasky545
    @robertzawasky545 2 года назад +6

    This was one of the most beautiful ted talks I’ve ever heard. Just lost a cousin far to young. never take your people for granted

    • @tara1555
      @tara1555 2 года назад +3

      I can’t believe I’m reading this message. Kinda feels like I wrote it. I lost a cousin exactly a week ago, last Friday. He was 18. I don’t think I have processed the grief yet. I’m more worried about my uncle and aunt. I’m not sure how to help them move on.
      I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope your cousin is at peace.

    • @robertzawasky545
      @robertzawasky545 2 года назад +1

      @@tara1555 my condolences its really the time for us as a society to stop and appreciate those who have dedicated there lives to us. We all could better prioritize.

    • @robertzawasky545
      @robertzawasky545 2 года назад +1

      @@tara1555 sending love

  • @Kasimdion1382
    @Kasimdion1382 2 года назад +92

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      @alandidio7939 2 года назад

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      @HussainAahil 2 года назад

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      @Samantha-s3v6k 2 года назад

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      @Samantha-s3v6k 2 года назад

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  • @annalena674
    @annalena674 2 года назад +1

    That talk was impressive…

  • @aisadal2521
    @aisadal2521 2 года назад +1

    She is such a bubbly ray of sunshine! She'd get along swimmingly with Caitlin Doughty/Ask a Mortician; hopefully they colllab someday 🥰

    • @Andrea_Driessen
      @Andrea_Driessen 2 года назад

      Aisadal, thank you for your kind comment and for watching my talk. I have indeed read Caitlin Doughty's books--and am a huge fan. She's definitely a kindred spirit.

  • @Namtucket
    @Namtucket 2 года назад +1

    May grace notes live on.

  • @marykaykeller7978
    @marykaykeller7978 2 года назад +1

    We often grief throughout our lives. Embracing grief is our greatest gift to ourselves. I love this Grace Notes process. 🌹

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    @martinezcarson8560 2 года назад +16

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      @Dalio906 2 года назад

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      @beuladegraffenreid4210 2 года назад

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    • @olivialopez4163
      @olivialopez4163 2 года назад

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    • @beuladegraffenreid4210
      @beuladegraffenreid4210 2 года назад

      @@olivialopez4163 She is always active on what-app APK

    • @beuladegraffenreid4210
      @beuladegraffenreid4210 2 года назад

      写给 十𝟏𝟗𝟎𝟗𝟖𝟗𝟖𝟓𝟒𝟐𝟏 信息

  • @anaswaradevarajan5844
    @anaswaradevarajan5844 2 года назад +1

    Great !

  • @tmaffeo
    @tmaffeo 2 года назад +1

    That was just amazing . I’ve written a few “ after death eulogies “ sad to say 🌻🌻🌻but to write a “ living eulogy “ is epic . Ty so much for your story and your amazing gift of “ grace notes” I will be writing one for my 90 yr old father in law who is doing well by the grace of God .
    🌻🌻🌻

    • @Andrea_Driessen
      @Andrea_Driessen 2 года назад

      Toni, I'm deeply touched by your comments. Thank you for watching my talk. Your Gracenote to your FIL will indeed touch him to his core!

  • @MRALAA-iw5cj
    @MRALAA-iw5cj 2 года назад +1

    Your dada iz your sopérérhiro 👍🏻

  • @IM_ROZZ_YT.O1
    @IM_ROZZ_YT.O1 2 года назад +1

    One of the best thing about this dude is that he never revaels the 20M sorpise 😂😂😂

  • @MrJara2
    @MrJara2 2 года назад

    Who is this guy ?

  • @markdowse3572
    @markdowse3572 2 года назад +1

    I have ALWAYS had a death wish. Always. I was happy to be the one to be 'removed' when the government realised that there were too many people on the planet and came and asked for volunteers. I have known this my ENTIRE thinking life - since I was pre-teen. This would have been about 1977. I just "knew" that this would happen. And now it's 2022....
    I have never cared what anyone thinks of me. I have total knowledge that I have never mattered. It's my life experience. I hope this helps your review.
    M 🦘🏏😎

    • @tmaffeo
      @tmaffeo 2 года назад +1

      Of course you matter . Your one of Gods children your perfect in every way 🌻🌻🌻