She’s not saying not to speak. She is telling us not to reward bad behavior with laughter, approbation or acknowledgment. And when the uncomfortable silence has made its point and you are asked what you think you can use your calm, analytical voice to answer that question. As I did when asked who I had slept with to get my promotion.
@@dafluffernut I see it every day and experience it every day. From the boss and Co workers. And it's normal. At every job I've had for 10 years. I'm going to do exactly what she says, cuz I'm done with the sexism and misogyny. I'm done trying to make myself small.
Silence and A long Pause inserted at the right moments, can be a very effective tool for making an effective statement. Each individual learns discernment about when to execute silence or the long pause.
Sounds like she had a pretty bad work experience and decided to make a ted talk about how all work places are sexist. 2:20 The examples she uses are from 10 years ago and even claims no one knows what they mean
@@shauryagupta2226 Yeah! everyone should make ted talks even with the most smallest problems, just because you don't live in a sexists environment doesn't mean that there aren't any sexists people in the world. hence, people who has a problem with sexists men they will watch this video and implement this Resting bch Face stratagy.
People are not obliged to change their ways to make you feel comfortable. In a liberal democracy we have "equality of opportunity", not "equality of outcomes". Opportunity is the only thing you are owned.
And that is the weapon of the radical left. If I say 'but women have equality of opportunity' you say I am against women not being discriminated against. That's called straw man. Women can do what they want. Claims that women are discriminated against in work are either baseless or subjective
Yea. It could also be perceived more as another level of ownership of the voice. Knowing when to say nothing is also a way of using the voice to fight.
Because only a few people are crazy enough to work 12-14 hours a day for no pay, during 4 years while not having friends, family or personal time. These people tend to be men.
If you want more women in tech. Then more women should study tech and take advantage of the equal opportunity they have to work for tech companies. Actually there are no government paid initiatives to get more men in tech. Gender quotes means preferential hiring which is sexist and unfair. A person should be hired because they are the best person for the job. EVIDENCE has clearly shown that less women, a lot less women study STEM so therefore less women end up in STEM jobs. Period. If you want to equalise things. Stop marrying up. Marry down. Lots of women don't work in high pay jobs because the don't need to or want to. Unless you want to deny hypergamy exists. Her claims about sexism in the work place is completely baseless. Men and women should go their own way.
@@claudiawolf877 Jobs are not "designed for men", they are designed for the best person that can do it. Feminists have been pushing the narrative of the "woman capable of all the same things as men" and yet, whenever the going gets tough, women ask for special treatment.
@@dark_antihero and labour intensive jobs make up such a Hugh portion of the labour market. When is the last time you saw a woman stopping traffic at road works? There are jobs they just won't do. And they are complaining about being microagressed in the jobs they will. Can't win.
im sitting here in a yard that conducts 345kva and im here with nothing but men. ive never ever seen a woman apply for my department. and i wish they would. so that they can see for themselves that certain things in society are better left to a more suited gender. btw if silence was used in my feild someone might not go home. its nuts how delusional this person sounds .
@@香迪卡 inequality of outcome (not opportunity) has nothing to do with rights. A significant portion of women are making life style choices such as marrying for security that results in more men than women competing for top jobs. And it is as simple as that.
Excellent fuel for the fire of false victimhood. Was the objective to foster and support victim mentality? If so, high five, well done. This message of this TED talk will either resonate with "victims" or repulse everyone else.
Lots of men bashing in here without any global analysis, just a basic expression of resent. Way to go to fuel up the idea that men as ennemies, that will sure help. Oh btw, not a word about WOMEN's behaviour in companies. You know, how a surprising amount of them get in relationships with higher ranked men in the company, and also tend to get promoted faster. But hey, that's just from MY experience in a large scale IT business.
Bottomline toughen up honey. I am a diamond miner surrounded by labourers, my male business partner and male clients. The secret ? Learn to train your ears for selective english and ignore the rest. The entire planet male population is not going to change for you. Yes there are exceptions but as the word says "exceptions". Just do your job and stop being so sensitive. If your parents are activist then you should know nothing comes free 🤔
Spot on. You are the kind of woman that men respect immensely. I would defend your rights any time of the day. Not so for the professional victim of the video.
I thought the message was asking women *to* ignore potentially offensive behaviors in a male dominated profession. To ignore it purposefully. I don't see her as asking men to change on a global level. My impression is that she's asking women to stop "laughing along" when we hear antiquated quips that are obviously rooted in perpetuating stereotypes. Perhaps this will help men be more aware of the impact of their actions. My suspicion is these types of jokes are just routine, and not really noticed at all. Like a script repeated. I like that she didn't vilify men, or blame them for wanting, and being able to, reach higher. There's no shame in doing this.
“If your parents are activists then you should know nothing comes free”. I would rather say “If your parents are activists then you know nothing about real life”.
Pathetic. Simply pathetic. I miss only few words about “work language “ that everything about sports should be forbidden since women don’t understand. If football is mentioned then man should be penalized. Bravo!
Rubbish! One can only talk about morals and make speeches when they are on high moral grounds. No religion allows women to wear revealing dresses. I have seen men respecting women in workplaces when they (women) respect themselves. This world is full of many issues to solve. It's my request to all men and women like you, don't make long speeches on the issues that have been created by them because of ignoring social and religious boundaries set for men and women. Leave this platform for the real issues related to humanity poverty, hunger, social abuse, and domestic abuse to the real victimized men and women. if women like you continue to make speeches regarding nonissues, portraying them as big social issues it will end up victimizing real victims. Have mercy on this world...
The issue isn't that women don't get as much as men...the issue is that, men society doesn't equal women...a women ran company should be doing as great or better then the Men ran company but maybe there not. Maybe women don't know the Whole Goal is to WIN-come out on top/have the highest Numbers in sales
It's not about gender. Group identity association with the sexes plays an extremely small (and often negligible) part in success within a workplace. It is about competency, industriousness, openness to learning, and the capacity to compete. Those who do it best are those who are at the top. Period.
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She’s not saying not to speak. She is telling us not to reward bad behavior with laughter, approbation or acknowledgment. And when the uncomfortable silence has made its point and you are asked what you think you can use your calm, analytical voice to answer that question. As I did when asked who I had slept with to get my promotion.
omg, and what did you answer to shut them the f up?
@@hannesRSA Then your wife has been fortunate, and I am glad. It happens less now.
@@dafluffernut I see it every day and experience it every day. From the boss and Co workers. And it's normal. At every job I've had for 10 years. I'm going to do exactly what she says, cuz I'm done with the sexism and misogyny. I'm done trying to make myself small.
I put this video in my "watch once a year" folder. Thank you for real tactics.
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Silence and A long Pause inserted at the right moments, can be a very effective tool for making an effective statement. Each individual learns discernment about when to execute silence or the long pause.
Hmm
As a latina woman, I am so thankful to have come across this information. The RBF and silent treatment are our powers.
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As a male I was brought up by a single mum ,know married to a beautiful wife ,have in daughters.RESPECT GO GIRL
Whenever I'm uncomfortable at a place, I leave.
I’ve done that too, at a massive cost to my financial security
Some of us don't have the means to leave the planet just yet 😆
@@beeatt4434 I know right 😂
@@beeatt4434 you don't feel comfortable on the planet?
Then how do you grow?
Thank you 🙏👍
I felt so much the same so will take your advise ❤️☀️🌙
Sounds like she had a pretty bad work experience and decided to make a ted talk about how all work places are sexist. 2:20 The examples she uses are from 10 years ago and even claims no one knows what they mean
it was one example from 10 years ago not all of them
Well it depends on what kind of workplace she went to… it might be a low class and theres a high chance it is
@@ShatabdaRoy115 yeah it's her experience and not Evey womans' so just that one instance is enough for her to make a Ted talk
@@shauryagupta2226 Yeah! everyone should make ted talks even with the most smallest problems, just because you don't live in a sexists environment doesn't mean that there aren't any sexists people in the world. hence, people who has a problem with sexists men they will watch this video and implement this Resting bch Face stratagy.
@@ShatabdaRoy115 it's not it's just because i dont. I do . Though she doesn't tell you about the other side
Great talk, thank you!
Thank you 💜
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TEDx Talks have always been inspiring and uplifting, but this was excellent beyond. Even more so in 2022.. Well done Tahima Anam.
Love it
I'll come one day in one of the Ted Talks
Keep this in mind♥️
I work within the NHS and I’ve experienced this to a T. I’m leaving soon because they believe it’s acceptable to reward bad behavior then challenge it
Society was objectively better before women worked outside the home.
People are not obliged to change their ways to make you feel comfortable. In a liberal democracy we have "equality of opportunity", not "equality of outcomes". Opportunity is the only thing you are owned.
U not even owed an opportunity. You must work for that, too
With a name like “defend liberty” this is the exact kind of backward tech bro libertarianism one would expect.
Her outfit
You are in the right place... Change needs people to widen their perspective..........
Hello
Yea
Wow, not expecting the comments section being so against women not being sexualized and discriminated.
Wow, *insert scarecrow argument*
and that's why you should embrace my identity politics, you bigot
She is not asking not to be discriminated. She is asking for special treatment.
And that is the weapon of the radical left. If I say 'but women have equality of opportunity' you say I am against women not being discriminated against. That's called straw man.
Women can do what they want. Claims that women are discriminated against in work are either baseless or subjective
me neither... its pretty crazy... men & women need to learn how to get along somehow :/ pretty sad to see all the comments
@@river2805 Men and women got along fantastically for thousands of years. Until modern feminism occurred...
Excellent content!!
Kinda going full circle here, women fought for their voice and now she's asking women to silence their voice.
Yea. It could also be perceived more as another level of ownership of the voice. Knowing when to say nothing is also a way of using the voice to fight.
Rewatch the video.
Tahmineh is wife of Rostam Iranian national hero
Really?
Not correct.
As per the website / online information she is married to a British man
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I wonder what percentage of tech startups are woman owned. Not many I’d wager. Wouldn’t that influence why only 2% of funded startups are woman owned?
Because only a few people are crazy enough to work 12-14 hours a day for no pay, during 4 years while not having friends, family or personal time. These people tend to be men.
Okay?
@@hannesRSA yeah
If you want more women in tech. Then more women should study tech and take advantage of the equal opportunity they have to work for tech companies. Actually there are no government paid initiatives to get more men in tech. Gender quotes means preferential hiring which is sexist and unfair. A person should be hired because they are the best person for the job. EVIDENCE has clearly shown that less women, a lot less women study STEM so therefore less women end up in STEM jobs. Period. If you want to equalise things. Stop marrying up. Marry down. Lots of women don't work in high pay jobs because the don't need to or want to. Unless you want to deny hypergamy exists. Her claims about sexism in the work place is completely baseless.
Men and women should go their own way.
It's not true....
If i want a family and my husband doesn't take care of the children...how can i work in a job designed for men?
@@claudiawolf877 there are no jobs designed for men. There are jobs that require skills and interests and experience.
@@claudiawolf877 by designed for men do you mean labor intensive jobs, if not then everything else is equally achievable by both genders
@@claudiawolf877 Jobs are not "designed for men", they are designed for the best person that can do it. Feminists have been pushing the narrative of the "woman capable of all the same things as men" and yet, whenever the going gets tough, women ask for special treatment.
@@dark_antihero and labour intensive jobs make up such a Hugh portion of the labour market. When is the last time you saw a woman stopping traffic at road works? There are jobs they just won't do. And they are complaining about being microagressed in the jobs they will. Can't win.
ohh man this turned into something else. i lost total interest. i smell misandry.
Instead of empowering women, they devalue men.. It's easier for them.
im sitting here in a yard that conducts 345kva and im here with nothing but men. ive never ever seen a woman apply for my department. and i wish they would. so that they can see for themselves that certain things in society are better left to a more suited gender. btw if silence was used in my feild someone might not go home. its nuts how delusional this person sounds .
If gender equality means misandry, I guess we do that for a good reason.
@@香迪卡 what does equality mean to you?
@@香迪卡 inequality of outcome (not opportunity) has nothing to do with rights. A significant portion of women are making life style choices such as marrying for security that results in more men than women competing for top jobs. And it is as simple as that.
I thought this was Millicent from The Suite Life of Zack & Cody
Omg very well said and spoken!!!
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indeed, omnia contraria sunt
Excellent fuel for the fire of false victimhood. Was the objective to foster and support victim mentality? If so, high five, well done. This message of this TED talk will either resonate with "victims" or repulse everyone else.
Lots of men bashing in here without any global analysis, just a basic expression of resent.
Way to go to fuel up the idea that men as ennemies, that will sure help.
Oh btw, not a word about WOMEN's behaviour in companies. You know, how a surprising amount of them get in relationships with higher ranked men in the company, and also tend to get promoted faster.
But hey, that's just from MY experience in a large scale IT business.
So nice vedio 🙏🌹💕❤️❤️
Good one. Silence is great..keepng sient is tough
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Bottomline toughen up honey. I am a diamond miner surrounded by labourers, my male business partner and male clients. The secret ? Learn to train your ears for selective english and ignore the rest. The entire planet male population is not going to change for you. Yes there are exceptions but as the word says "exceptions". Just do your job and stop being so sensitive. If your parents are activist then you should know nothing comes free 🤔
Spot on. You are the kind of woman that men respect immensely. I would defend your rights any time of the day. Not so for the professional victim of the video.
I thought the message was asking women *to* ignore potentially offensive behaviors in a male dominated profession.
To ignore it purposefully.
I don't see her as asking men to change on a global level. My impression is that she's asking women to stop "laughing along" when we hear antiquated quips that are obviously rooted in perpetuating stereotypes. Perhaps this will help men be more aware of the impact of their actions. My suspicion is these types of jokes are just routine, and not really noticed at all. Like a script repeated.
I like that she didn't vilify men, or blame them for wanting, and being able to, reach higher. There's no shame in doing this.
“If your parents are activists then you should know nothing comes free”. I would rather say “If your parents are activists then you know nothing about real life”.
That was really great. Amen
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Pathetic. Simply pathetic. I miss only few words about “work language “ that everything about sports should be forbidden since women don’t understand. If football is mentioned then man should be penalized. Bravo!
Your pathetic. If that's what you got from this you're the problem.
Amei😍
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delusional
Shut up
Gotta say, the world has gotten a lot worse since women gained a vote. I'm sure it's just a coincidence.
Rubbish!
One can only talk about morals and make speeches when they are on high moral grounds. No religion allows women to wear revealing dresses. I have seen men respecting women in workplaces when they (women) respect themselves. This world is full of many issues to solve. It's my request to all men and women like you, don't make long speeches on the issues that have been created by them because of ignoring social and religious boundaries set for men and women. Leave this platform for the real issues related to humanity poverty, hunger, social abuse, and domestic abuse to the real victimized men and women. if women like you continue to make speeches regarding nonissues, portraying them as big social issues it will end up victimizing real victims. Have mercy on this world...
Shut up angry bch
Women belong in the home, raising her Man’s Chidren.
SHUT UP YOU SON OF A BH.. YOU ARE A MISTAKE MADE BY YOUR PARENTS
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The issue isn't that women don't get as much as men...the issue is that, men society doesn't equal women...a women ran company should be doing as great or better then the Men ran company but maybe there not. Maybe women don't know the Whole Goal is to WIN-come out on top/have the highest Numbers in sales
It's not about gender. Group identity association with the sexes plays an extremely small (and often negligible) part in success within a workplace. It is about competency, industriousness, openness to learning, and the capacity to compete. Those who do it best are those who are at the top. Period.
Is this a joke?
Nah