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1. Chasing him 2. Putting him on a pedestal 3. Being entitled 4. Stressing over the relationship 5. Making him the sole center of your universe 6. Committing too soon 7. Being negative 8. Oversharing
Amen to all. A lot of these things I need to still work on. I need to stop stressing about the relationship and shut down those negative thoughts and being a negative Nancy. 🙏💖
The guy I'm seeing says he loves that I pursue him and he loves feeling wanted but some guys are really hurt, introverted, insecure, or socially anxious...so sometimes the roles do get reversed
Great video! I still am shocked that I found a man who seems equally into me as I am into him! I keep waiting for the 'other shoe' but it's been months and we're still on a great path!
# 8 oversharing . This one was clear to me when I had to tell a friend " look bro , I am not a therapist " . I guess the same applies to a lover . Can we say that too much is the same as not enough ?
You’re a wonderful teacher, Sabrina. You have a very peaceful energy to you. As well as a very soothing voice. Another amazing video that I will rewatch.
Women who watch this need to listen to you haha. You really have an inside scoop on the psychology of well-functioning men. I will say I imagine some of these can be applied the other way as well, but still. You delivered very accurate information, especially #7, so thank you!
I love you Sabrina and your channel and do watch all your videos, but after watching so many of yourself and others, its getting exhausting trying to figure out how to date now after ~12 years. Its like a logic puzzle trying to figure out and examine everything to do, or not do every time I open my mouth or open a text with a man. I've had about 3 men now over the last ~6 months that I guess I scared off with one of these items, but I have to say It's very frustrating and turning me off completely from dating even though I want someone to share the rest of my life with. I can understand some tips like not being too needy or giving him a hard time about something, etc. but all these other "rules" of dating and how to actually talk, or not talk to someone that you are interested in is soul-draining, exhausting, ridiculously expecting behaviors that are really hard to deal with.
If you are exhausted, take a break. I did it too and feel so much better. Also it will be easier for you to make all those advices work because a break will teach you to value yourself more. Once it will be natural for you, you won't feel exhausted from strategizing all the time 😉
Honestly be yourself, like these tips enhance, but don’t overthink, just be your genuine self. If you want to initiate one convo because you’re a bold person, do it! For me the main one is: don’t be clingy, but show some interest and the rest is up to you!
While I was watching this video. Great by the way. I was wondering what your thoughts are on friends with benefits. Do's and don'ts. What to do to keep the friendship but lose the benefits after it's ran it's course from both the guy a girls psychological perspective. Maybe you could do a video or respond with your thoughts. I love the way you break things down psychologically and real life situations. Keep it up. Thank you hope to here from you or see a video on that in the future
If I’m only messaging first once a week or every 2 weeks it’s not chasing right? It’s so hard to not stress over a new guy because I worry about messing it up so I overthink everything I do or say.
It also depends on what you are saying, not just how often. And to be honest, we people are different, some are used to texting often with a lot of people so you are just one of many, but others maybe are in touch only with the closest friends and family and you might be texting him more often than his mom, which might look clingy.
Don't stress about chasing. Think of it as putting in effort to bring about the relationship. That's something two people should grow towards. If you were doing all the chasing, you'd be putting in all the effort. And then it would be no wonder it didn't work out. Guys generally don't like messaging. That's for stuff like "caught in a traffic jam, will be five minutes late". Get talking, make a call. Spend time together. And don't spend time together for the sole objective of getting together. See it as a chance to figure out if you like the guy in real life, in real time.
Oh gawd! 🙈 I'm guilty of everything said in this video! I just don't know to get off the roundabout of being interested in men, without scaring them off! I still chase, even thou i try not to!!!! Any ideas?????
IT DOESN’T. That’s the thing, I promise you, it doesn’t. With the right man, you can do alllll of those things wrong and he’ll STILL want you! He’ll still go to the end of the world to be with you and only you. While with the wrong men, you can do ALL of these things right and they’ll still not choose you! I’ve experienced both, believe me.
But how do I fix it?! I only said too much and possibly made him feel on a pedestal... I have pulled back... I haven’t obsessed in so happy in my life... but how do I fix it haha
this was wonderfully made & so articulate. not to put you on a pedestal 😂... but i really appreciate you Sabrina. thank you for your transparency & clarity. ❤ it's refreshing to have that in a time where everyone seems to be offended by everything that's said/shared/posted. it's ridiculous. including the backlash you get for telling it like it is. keep doing it. and keep letting/nudging people to feel uncomfortable. let them get mad. i know it's hard to hear that you are insecure or immature, entitled, etc., but anybody is best to be aware of those traits in order to go forward with making positive changes that will ultimately serve them better in achieving what they want.... why they come to your channel in the first place. it's like do you want the guy, or no? you've got to take this intel in.
It really works if you just wait till He is the one to reach out. Like what I did I stop sending him message, and I make him addicted to me. He is the one to initiate a call or message. Try to do what he is doing to you, Soon he realised that something is missing. I was tired chasing him. He never call or tx me back at all before. But now I’m happy, He know his responsibility I make him as a Human alarm clock. So if he won’t wake me up I’ll be late to go to work. He listen to me atleast when I ask him to do things.
Great advices and especially the one about stressing. It needs a lot of practice and honestly, you can never completely shut your worrying self, but at least you can quickly recognize it and tell yourself that you can't solve a problem by stressing over it. That's what helps me the most. It is kind of harder if you know the guy for years or he is even your ex (or both in my case 🙈), but I've found out even in that case it is very, very important to keep your value, keep your options open, don't stress about it, focus on your other goals... And let yourself shine 😊
Great video! I'm wondering though about being entitled and the friend you talked about: is it only me who thinks that he was immature to dump the girl? Shouldn't he have talked with her first and told her about it and then see if iher behaviour changes?
I met this older guy almost 3 yrs ago & I felt such a draw to him but he never made movement to me. We only met 3 times & I never felt like he was into me. I was devastated. He has slowly gone away from me, but still keeps in contact texting Goodmorning to me but not all the time. He’s still nice says very uplifting things but it never got off the ground. I made all the mistakes you have mentioned. Do I stop contact with him?
When is the anxious attachment video coming out? I will check the channel, but if you could post it here too that would be great. I love your videos. I have followed a lot of dating coaches and you are my favorite 💖
Great video Sabrina 😃. But i wanted to ask that what kind of appreciation do guys need? It makes me wonder with the explanation you gave about your friend not showing appreciation to her guy😆so was she not even saying thank you to the things the guy was doing for her? 🌚
me and my bf are turning 1 year..just last November he stops saying good morning to me, which he knows that makes me happy to start the day..but still he calls me everyday after his work..does this mean im still in his priority or not?
i have this Q: Wht if the man asks the woman why would she still have her profile active on the social dating app... ie. if she is serious abt their r'ship, she should delete the app. But, there isn't any exclusivity being laid on the table between both of them. (I always think that if a person wants to 'cheat', he/she doesn't need an 'app' to do so.)
Awsome🥰 All I need to listen today, and I'm feeling good with myself ! Thanks so much for all your vidéos and the advice.You are cool and à good teacher 🤗❤
Is it hard to talk one on one with husband.. Where’s the scary thing talking with an angel... I’m kind and compasionate, loving, considerate, nurturing, selfless... All I want is talk to talk to my husband one on one... I’m the same person he used to know..
@@annachehagood3460 I feel you 100%. I care, but gosh darn it, it's so exhausting to try to put yourself "out there" and get the guy you want. I'm trying proactively to get myself together. I hope and gonna have faith Mr.Right and I will meet along this new journey for me. Best wishes to you Annache Hagood! We will ultimately get what we desire!
What if the sharing is a big part of who you are? Like you have visual impairment, type 1 diabetes and your whole side of one of side of your family has all passed away. These are big things that I wouldn't tell someone I've just met, but it could affect how people would see you if they didn't know that you have had these huge traumas in your life. I talked about it all the time on social media because it helps me get through the struggles of what I go through. And I'm open to telling people about it in a simple way. Because it is a big part of who I am. But is that not such a good thing?
It's so simple. Just stay busy and enjoy it. Guys love it when you have sh*t going on and make them interested to pursue. If they don't then they're not for you anyway. 🤷
@@TNGURL08 What I meant is that the less you care, the more he pursue you, and the more effort he put in pursuing, the quicker he will attach emotionally. I know it is easier to be said than done, but really we women are trying too much to get control over this process, we strategize, overthink and push things, but that is exactly what leads to failure. Live in the present, enjoy what you already have, focus on your selfdevelopment and people you love and don't give him too much attention when you are not with him.
@@Jooney91 Wow! Thank you 1st & foremost for taking the time out of your day and writing this paragraph for me. I'm going to read and then re read your statement and apply it to my life thank you so much!
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Funny thing is I purposely put men off ha ha x
I've sent this to my friend who fixed me up with a guy that wasn't really interested. HOPE she understands after watching your vid xx
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1. Chasing him
2. Putting him on a pedestal
3. Being entitled
4. Stressing over the relationship
5. Making him the sole center of your universe
6. Committing too soon
7. Being negative
8. Oversharing
Amen to all. A lot of these things I need to still work on. I need to stop stressing about the relationship and shut down those negative thoughts and being a negative Nancy. 🙏💖
The guy I'm seeing says he loves that I pursue him and he loves feeling wanted but some guys are really hurt, introverted, insecure, or socially anxious...so sometimes the roles do get reversed
I feel like letting the guy chase you keeps him interested
Meet me I m intrested ❤❤😍😍🌷🙋🙋
Next video request: HOW TO CHASE AWAY A GUY WHO IS ABUSIVE AND WON'T JUST LEAVE ME/YOU ALONE
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@Devon Westing I even applied this trick 😂 telling I'm a lesbian and have a girlfriend.. Didn't work.
Stop giving him any sexy, wear baggy clothes, look tired and boring. Takes time but work.
@@kkiissssiikk I'll try this and update you....
Great video! I still am shocked that I found a man who seems equally into me as I am into him! I keep waiting for the 'other shoe' but it's been months and we're still on a great path!
I like wife can u
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# 8 oversharing . This one was clear to me when I had to tell a friend " look bro , I am not a therapist " . I guess the same applies to a lover . Can we say that too much is the same as not enough ?
You’re a wonderful teacher, Sabrina. You have a very peaceful energy to you. As well as a very soothing voice. Another amazing video that I will rewatch.
Women who watch this need to listen to you haha. You really have an inside scoop on the psychology of well-functioning men. I will say I imagine some of these can be applied the other way as well, but still. You delivered very accurate information, especially #7, so thank you!
Idk what you did with your makeup in this video, but you're GLOWING! 😍
I love you Sabrina and your channel and do watch all your videos, but after watching so many of yourself and others, its getting exhausting trying to figure out how to date now after ~12 years. Its like a logic puzzle trying to figure out and examine everything to do, or not do every time I open my mouth or open a text with a man. I've had about 3 men now over the last ~6 months that I guess I scared off with one of these items, but I have to say It's very frustrating and turning me off completely from dating even though I want someone to share the rest of my life with. I can understand some tips like not being too needy or giving him a hard time about something, etc. but all these other "rules" of dating and how to actually talk, or not talk to someone that you are interested in is soul-draining, exhausting, ridiculously expecting behaviors that are really hard to deal with.
Amen👍
If you are exhausted, take a break. I did it too and feel so much better. Also it will be easier for you to make all those advices work because a break will teach you to value yourself more. Once it will be natural for you, you won't feel exhausted from strategizing all the time 😉
Honestly be yourself, like these tips enhance, but don’t overthink, just be your genuine self. If you want to initiate one convo because you’re a bold person, do it! For me the main one is: don’t be clingy, but show some interest and the rest is up to you!
While I was watching this video. Great by the way. I was wondering what your thoughts are on friends with benefits. Do's and don'ts. What to do to keep the friendship but lose the benefits after it's ran it's course from both the guy a girls psychological perspective. Maybe you could do a video or respond with your thoughts. I love the way you break things down psychologically and real life situations. Keep it up. Thank you hope to here from you or see a video on that in the future
I've been guilty of all but due to your great videos and insight, I'm working on self improvement every day. Appreciate the fabulous advice ~ thanks!!
Or u marriad
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You are an excellent speaker!! Excellent presenter! Thank you for this information.
Wow, thank you!
Profound message
If I’m only messaging first once a week or every 2 weeks it’s not chasing right? It’s so hard to not stress over a new guy because I worry about messing it up so I overthink everything I do or say.
I have the same question lol
It also depends on what you are saying, not just how often. And to be honest, we people are different, some are used to texting often with a lot of people so you are just one of many, but others maybe are in touch only with the closest friends and family and you might be texting him more often than his mom, which might look clingy.
Don't stress about chasing. Think of it as putting in effort to bring about the relationship. That's something two people should grow towards. If you were doing all the chasing, you'd be putting in all the effort. And then it would be no wonder it didn't work out.
Guys generally don't like messaging. That's for stuff like "caught in a traffic jam, will be five minutes late". Get talking, make a call. Spend time together. And don't spend time together for the sole objective of getting together. See it as a chance to figure out if you like the guy in real life, in real time.
I wish i heard this long time ago. ❤️❤️ You are so right
The most amazing advice I've heard.
Such a good video. Looking forward to your video on stressing!!!
Coming soon!
WOW tha most amazing and eye opening video. Thank you sabrina. I'll listen to it over and over😊😇
Very good video.... I'm guilty of most of them. Thank you... maybe the next relationship will be more enjoyable and less stressful.
I need the next video on how not to be anxious in your relationship for sure
I❤️your honesty! Never too much of it! 👍 Keeps me on the right track when I have one of "those days" xx
I m here come
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Oh gawd! 🙈 I'm guilty of everything said in this video! I just don't know to get off the roundabout of being interested in men, without scaring them off! I still chase, even thou i try not to!!!! Any ideas?????
Hi Nicola
Damn. Dating requires having a strategy.
IT DOESN’T. That’s the thing, I promise you, it doesn’t. With the right man, you can do alllll of those things wrong and he’ll STILL want you! He’ll still go to the end of the world to be with you and only you. While with the wrong men, you can do ALL of these things right and they’ll still not choose you! I’ve experienced both, believe me.
But how do I fix it?! I only said too much and possibly made him feel on a pedestal... I have pulled back... I haven’t obsessed in so happy in my life... but how do I fix it haha
this was wonderfully made & so articulate. not to put you on a pedestal 😂... but i really appreciate you Sabrina. thank you for your transparency & clarity. ❤ it's refreshing to have that in a time where everyone seems to be offended by everything that's said/shared/posted. it's ridiculous. including the backlash you get for telling it like it is. keep doing it. and keep letting/nudging people to feel uncomfortable. let them get mad. i know it's hard to hear that you are insecure or immature, entitled, etc., but anybody is best to be aware of those traits in order to go forward with making positive changes that will ultimately serve them better in achieving what they want.... why they come to your channel in the first place. it's like do you want the guy, or no? you've got to take this intel in.
Great advice! I've been on both ends on the "don'ts".
It really works if you just wait till He is the one to reach out. Like what I did I stop sending him message, and I make him addicted to me. He is the one to initiate a call or message. Try to do what he is doing to you, Soon he realised that something is missing. I was tired chasing him. He never call or tx me back at all before. But now I’m happy, He know his responsibility I make him as a Human alarm clock. So if he won’t wake me up I’ll be late to go to work. He listen to me atleast when I ask him to do things.
I'm guilty of worrying too much...gom work on that from now om
Thank you for the advices, your videos are really helping me!
I wish I had watched this video years ago... seriously. New mindset!
Great advices and especially the one about stressing. It needs a lot of practice and honestly, you can never completely shut your worrying self, but at least you can quickly recognize it and tell yourself that you can't solve a problem by stressing over it. That's what helps me the most. It is kind of harder if you know the guy for years or he is even your ex (or both in my case 🙈), but I've found out even in that case it is very, very important to keep your value, keep your options open, don't stress about it, focus on your other goals... And let yourself shine 😊
Yeah , the first one finally.... I keep waiting for your videos so eagerly :)
Really good advice..thank you
Great video! I'm wondering though about being entitled and the friend you talked about: is it only me who thinks that he was immature to dump the girl? Shouldn't he have talked with her first and told her about it and then see if iher behaviour changes?
Always up for new information. Thank you Sabrina!
You are so welcome!
I'm becoming A New Me after watching A New Mode.
I met this older guy almost 3 yrs ago & I felt such a draw to him but he never made movement to me. We only met 3 times & I never felt like he was into me. I was devastated. He has slowly gone away from me, but still keeps in contact texting Goodmorning to me but not all the time. He’s still nice says very uplifting things but it never got off the ground. I made all the mistakes you have mentioned. Do I stop contact with him?
You are a healer!
Love your videos ❤️
When is the anxious attachment video coming out? I will check the channel, but if you could post it here too that would be great. I love your videos. I have followed a lot of dating coaches and you are my favorite 💖
Thank you for this advice
Well that answers a lot of questions...
Truth🤘🏽
Great video Sabrina 😃. But i wanted to ask that what kind of appreciation do guys need? It makes me wonder with the explanation you gave about your friend not showing appreciation to her guy😆so was she not even saying thank you to the things the guy was doing for her? 🌚
me and my bf are turning 1 year..just last November he stops saying good morning to me, which he knows that makes me happy to start the day..but still he calls me everyday after his work..does this mean im still in his priority or not?
Great channel
by the way i have learned a lot on your videos...and it is helping me loving myself.
I've had a lot of these behaviors happen to me so you're not alone
Nice tips
i have this Q: Wht if the man asks the woman why would she still have her profile active on the social dating app... ie. if she is serious abt their r'ship, she should delete the app.
But, there isn't any exclusivity being laid on the table between both of them.
(I always think that if a person wants to 'cheat', he/she doesn't need an 'app' to do so.)
You are just pleasant to listen to. I subscribed 👍🔔 to your awesome channel.
Wow, thank you
Yep at least I know that I am not the only one who does this and yeah now I know is to stop acting stupid.
Awsome🥰 All I need to listen today, and I'm feeling good with myself ! Thanks so much for all your vidéos and the advice.You are cool and à good teacher 🤗❤
Is it hard to talk one on one with husband.. Where’s the scary thing talking with an angel... I’m kind and compasionate, loving, considerate, nurturing, selfless... All I want is talk to talk to my husband one on one... I’m the same person he used to know..
Thanks Sabrina for another great video. Im so glad you share all of your knowledge. I truly need it. I haven't dated in 30 years
Hey Kimberly
@@daviddickenson1243 yes
How are you doing
@@daviddickenson1243 I'm good and you
I am ok I like to get to know you and you get to know more about me
i am guilty for sure and i am working on it but it is very difficult
No wonder I am single 🤦🤣
I'm guilty too. We are learning!
@@TNGURL08 It shouldn't be so damn complicated. I am getting too old to care anymore lol
@@annachehagood3460 I feel you 100%. I care, but gosh darn it, it's so exhausting to try to put yourself "out there" and get the guy you want. I'm trying proactively to get myself together. I hope and gonna have faith Mr.Right and I will meet along this new journey for me. Best wishes to you Annache Hagood! We will ultimately get what we desire!
@@annachehagood3460 that's the thing. it's not complicated at all. we make it complicated. it's not truly complicated
So close to 1M Subs ❤️
what if its ling distance..
Good video..
Interesting vido too..
What if the sharing is a big part of who you are? Like you have visual impairment, type 1 diabetes and your whole side of one of side of your family has all passed away. These are big things that I wouldn't tell someone I've just met, but it could affect how people would see you if they didn't know that you have had these huge traumas in your life. I talked about it all the time on social media because it helps me get through the struggles of what I go through. And I'm open to telling people about it in a simple way. Because it is a big part of who I am. But is that not such a good thing?
It's so simple. Just stay busy and enjoy it. Guys love it when you have sh*t going on and make them interested to pursue. If they don't then they're not for you anyway. 🤷
Beying your true senf 😂
Life's messy anyway it's not perfect. We'd like it to be but it isn't.
What do you do if you can't find any faults in him?
I'm here because I want to learn how to scare men off more effectively. If you have any more tips for me please let me know, they're a plague!
Guy says, "It takes a long time for him to like a person (woman)." How much time does it typically take?
Depends how much you care 😁
@@Jooney91 Please explain your statement. I would appreciate it.
@@TNGURL08 What I meant is that the less you care, the more he pursue you, and the more effort he put in pursuing, the quicker he will attach emotionally. I know it is easier to be said than done, but really we women are trying too much to get control over this process, we strategize, overthink and push things, but that is exactly what leads to failure. Live in the present, enjoy what you already have, focus on your selfdevelopment and people you love and don't give him too much attention when you are not with him.
@@Jooney91 Wow! Thank you 1st & foremost for taking the time out of your day and writing this paragraph for me. I'm going to read and then re read your statement and apply it to my life thank you so much!
@@TNGURL08 Thanks, I hope it will help 🙂
G a/f 🤦🏻♀️
I can reverse engineer this... lol I'll do these things to get that guy off my ass!
👍yassss👍!