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Well I wish u were my next door neighbor!, but apart from that,u are awesome and I've learned at a much older age than u (trust me!) And much to late, the workings if the MAN MIND,had u been around years ago,I'd have had a lot less heartache! Currently I'm in an almost eight month relationship, things are going well,but we do seem to be getting a little stagnent,not bored,very loving,but god live him,he's a Taurus and moves like a snail,set in his ways,but waiting for him to move on from the past totally,so we and he can have a new start! I'm a big fan of yours, and have watched and commented on ur videos,keep them coming,thanks so much!!!!
1. He tells you he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now 2. He's still active on dating apps 3. He openly flirts with other women especially in front of you 4. He talks about the future and you're not in it 5. He's wishy washy, hot/cold 6. The relationship stagnates
I totally get it. You just need to think about the big picture and remember that you deserve to have the relationship you want, and not to settle for the scraps someone is willing to spare.
@@SabrinaBendory We broke up end of July, started as "friends" again the end of August. Three weeks of what seemed like awesome connection, daily texting and plans 3-4 days a week...better than when we were together, him calling me baby and his love, kissing, spending time together. Just last Thursday, he took me to a sit down dinner to celebrate his new job, picked me up and everything ..."no (fastfood) for my woman" (covid has been challenging). "Goodnight baby" text after he got home and now I haven't heard from him since Friday morning's texts about not sleeping well due to heartburn. I know he was off on Saturday and his phone went straight to voicemail Saturday evening so I've left it be. It's Monday morning now. I feel I'm being ghosted. His phone screen shattered 2 weeks ago so it's possible that it's done but he hasn't tried reaching me though Facebook either. This sucks! I don't think the 3 week no contact rule will help in this situation but I'll give it a shot.
@@valatiamisenhimer4746 Don't be afraid, maybe he just thinking about his emotions, maybe realizes he starts to fall in love with you again, and just don't want to scew thing up again. He will come back, ones he ready. Dont pursue him now, give the space, and everything will be okay. ;)
I wouldn't give him any more than one more chance and explain to him that you're hurt about the weekend MD see if he cahnges that. Because I had a bloke doing that to me for 3 years!!! Don't be that woman! Don't be that younger me.
@@DiamondsRexpensive My mother is a Roman Catholic and my father is from an Islamic family however, he does not practice Islam. So we are all a bunch of happy pork eaters who are not religiously inclined.
Hi sholomo! This is Debra,Hebrew as you know Deborah,or Deborah,you are so right,most men do better sorting out things their own way.sometimes they'll look for comfort or help,but they tend to go off on their own. Some men and women are natural loners anyway,and all of us need space ,relationship or not.
@@ShlomoJesmerRelationshipCoach nice to meet u too,no I'm not Jewish,but I love the culture,and long ago I looked up the meaning of my name,which legally is Debra,(anglesized)its Hebrew means "the bee", and I once briefly dated a hasidic man who told me my names correct spelling! I'm in the Bible, I was a prophet and a lawyer,something I always wanted to be,crazy right? I'm surprised to see a man on thus channel, and your picture is very nice
@@debralavorata546 Devorah Haneviah (Deborah the prophet.) I am familiar with her. 😉 Thank you. I am a relationship coach, as well. I enjoy watching other channels to do with the same topic as mine. I get inspiration, and sometimes I entirely disagree with what they say. 🙂
He is the ruthless one, he wants you for affection but afraid to commit. Dump the boy and watch him crawl back. If he dont God spared you a major heartbreak.
Thanks for your great video. This video made me know I did the right decision. I’ve walked away from a guy who kept stringing me along but no plans with me in the future
My god this is my exact current situation. And although I already knew/felt these things in my gut, apparently I just needed to hear someone else say it out loud. Thank you for this video. Definately time to walk away and work on my self respect. Love your videos!
These are great tips. Most of my problems though are going from relationship to marriage. Never have an issue to be in an exclusive relationship but it’s a no for marriage :(
Lol, I wish this channel existed 11 years ago. Thank you so much for your content, I am newly single and determined not to repeat my old mistakes, and with your help I think I can break my pattern of choosing the wrong men! You are my new relationship Guru!!! 💜💛💚💙
My guy has all these characteristics, it’s really frustrating. Always hunting for women on Facebook and Instagram. Told me he doesn’t wan’t to be in a relationship, looks at every girl that passes by, very hot and cold, and the relationship is at a standstill. Sabrina, you really nailed this. Thanks for making it so obvious to me.
Great video. Can you do a video or comment about how guys say they really love you and even want to marry you but yet they can't stop looking or commenting on how hot a girl is in a movie or picture etc... I really struggle with this. It upsets me so much especially when I don't get that "Wow" she's fine, hot etc from him like he gives to women on TV. I notice him look at younger women in a grocery store etc and smiling and I don't get that from him. We're both 55 by the way and I do struggle being old and losing my looks. I do take care of myself and look pretty good for my age.. do people say but still it's very hurtful to me and makes me feel terrible about myself when I catch him looking. He doesn't say anything anymore rarely when he a beautiful woman is on TV or in person because I told him how upset I get but I know he's still thinking things about them and like I said I catch him looking. To me this is not true love if you are fantasing about another woman. I don't know what to think. I don't fantasize about other men and I certainly don't do look at them If I see a good looking guy. To me I think nothing if it. I'm not interested because I have a boyfriend. I feel like there is something wrong with me that we are supposed to except men are dogs as women. It's just what they do but this behavior upsets me deeply.
We manifesting our fears, and his receiving this thoughts from you. If you continue to this about this situation, he will subconsciously do it. Say him once, that "i was waaaay more hot chick back when i was in this age(as the women he sees), and still i am! " be confident. Laugh and don't think of it, he will notice, and change too. Or say to him honestly that this behavior is rude before his women, if he really need ti think this way atleast don't say it out.
Tana first of all u are not old(neither is he!!) I'm sixty two,my boyfriend is fifty one,and he was alone for ten years,and I was alone for eight when we met,eight months ago.he and his wife have been separated for ten years,she's in another country,hoping he'll wake up and get a divorce.anyway I know that feeling of feeling like he's looking at other women or worse his wife compared to me.he has a job that puts him in line with women all the time,one time he told me a customer of his was beautiful,which I shouldn't have to say wasn't to thrilling to hear.I told him so and he said he didn't want me upset, so he wouldn't mention it again,I try to take care of myself also,and when we see each other,I try even harder to look good.as women as we get older feel more insecure because we're older and notice the lines,sags and bags we didn't have before, but let me tell u we have the experience,wisdom and maturity,the younger birds don't have!! He may be looking,but he's still on the scene,so he's looking but not leaving! And let's be real,men will always be looking till they're planted,and we do to,I love my guy to death,but I still appreciate a good looking guy
#6 just happened to me. We had been dating for 7 months and the relationship became stagnant. We were stuck in a weekly routine. I expressed wanting to do more/see each other more and he said that he just wasnt super interested in that at the moment. Then, a month later, we broke up because he didn't know what he wanted. Don't get me wrong, we actually had a really passionate and caring relationship, but when push came to shove, he realized he didn't want a relationship even though I had all the things he was looking for. When a man wants to commit, he will. But him realizing when he's ready to, isn't our battle to fight.
The guy i started talking to.. his father passed away in July with cancer... He says he wanna give it a shot with me but needs time and space... He doesnt initiates conversation by himself but is happy to talk back and forth if I text or call him first. Idk if I should wait or not. He said he wants to have a serious relationship and he will come to visit me once everything is ok on his side..as we live in different cities. He says he wants to look forward to knowing me and get married if everything goes well but idk if I should stay or look around for more options. I really like him. I have a good tunning with him. ❤️😭 We talked for like 3-4 days when his dad was in the hospital before he came to know he has stage 3 cancer.. then he disappeared in may and than in July he reappeared and told me everything that happened. Idk wat to do! He seems like a nice guy going thro some deep shit 🙄
Hey Sabrina! Really likes your videos! I texted with a guy for 6months now, we cannot meet because the pandemic for the first 2months, but talked everyday. After that his father got very sick, so he had to move to his homecity, now we are more futher. He almost gave up on us, but we managed to bring back the spark, still cannot meet, 'cuz he was fustrated about his fater,and didn't wanted to leave him... and sadly he died 2months ago. He says he don't really know what he wants now, and he has many stressful feeling he cannot bring himself to open up, and deal with. He said 3days ago, he needs time to be alone for awhile. Still he getting new girls on his FB/insta. I don't thinks of this as serious, i think this is the way for him to deal with stress by like pictures and just scroll down. (No ones commenting to him, or few following back) You also said in one video, that guys has many form for dealing with stress, some play video game ect.and not really thinking of the problem. He started this girl-likeing when his father got sick, so i think this is stress relief for him, not serious. Is it worth to wait a bit, do 'no contact' and if i still feel the same for him, check back a 1-2months later?
I was in a relationship with this guy for 6years. Something happened and I walked away. 2 years later I got pregnant. He stepped back in my life and look care of me. That was 2 years ago and now I'm confused. It's like he doesn't want me but doesn't want to be without me either.
Thank you, Sabrina. I can't tell how much useful and valuable your advices are! I trust you with your tips :) You're making noobies, like me, to be educated about this relationship shenanigans !
Sabrina u are so real and true! My boyfriend never texts,he's texted me six times in eight months and I'm glad,texting is to impersonal and time consuming,I'd rather hear a voice,taking things slow is much better,then u can tell for sure how things are going and how real it is.time will tell,any guy who flirts and is checking out other women is so a sign he wants nothing serious at all,big heartache there,railroad lights flashing!!!yes its hard to leave,sometimes we have to,and we all need as women to feel loved and appreciated,and not settle for anything,I was alone for eight years,and I met someone great, but I'm being careful not to waste my time like so many times before
number 5 : a coworker once told me his girlfriend of two months put it bluntly that she wanted a serious relationship.... Coworker tells me he's offended blah ,blah ,blah. I discuss this gossip with my mom and we end up siding with the girlfriend . There is nothing wrong with being in an un-serious relationship by the way... If both parties agree on it !
The mixed signals are so toxic, and the worst part is I don't think most guys are purposely playing mind games; they're just inconsistent and unreliable.
After close to a year I concluded this is just too much work, too much emotion, too much for me to cope with. He told me from the beginning he didn't want a relationship, but was friendly and nice and I enjoyed our time together. (Women say they don;t want a relationship sometimes but do-so I thought maybe that's how it is with him.) I feel like the whole thing is in my head because he really is making no effort at all and I make all the effort. And it hurts. Just coming out of a loveless marriage, and here I am again. I haven't dated in over 37 years and it's a different world out there. I am beginning to wonder if it is even worth it. My self esteem is in the toilet.
It’s goin to be our second date tomorrow. He’s a great guy so far and I hope he’ll continue to be. Ill take note of these signs as a guide so ill know when to run away 😂
really great video!! But on a TOTAL different topic, has anyone ever told you that you look like identical to the actress Mia Kirshner? she played Elena's real mom in The Vampire Dairies
A lot of guys don't commit because they want the benefits of a relationship without the responsibility, and as long as you allow them to get away with that, they have no reason to change. That's why you have to give them an ultimatum.
Just because a woman can carve out time for a relationship doesn’t mean she should be in one. Maybe she needs to focus on herself more especially after a bad break up. Some people don’t want to be in relationships. Myself included . Relationships take work, effort and money and not everyone is committed to investing in a relationship that may not even work out anyway.
Tina that is the best comment I read on this topic next to mine! It does take a lot of time and effort to be in a relationship,I think people sometimes think these things just fall into place,we forget about ourselves because as females we tend to think and do for others more.if we forget ourselves and our needs,who will?
I believed is a waste of time if a man never even communicate and express his intention on a relationship leaving the woman feeling confused. A man only invites you to his house sometimes or weekly over movies, drinks and small bites and never ever move forward to anything which is so frastrating. What would you do if this happen to you as a woman?
My boyfriend saying that if I cant wait for him when he is not ready for married,u can take a break,,,so I wish I could teach him a lesson as long as I am not ready too I feel its good to know his will but I don't to regret waiting for him
We have been living together for two years. He broke up with me three weeks ago. He says he needs time to himself and needs to work in him and wants me to work on me. First it was we need to live apart, then space and time to work on the relationship issues such as bickering everyday, and cussing at each other..and now he is just not happy and doesn’t feel Like breaking up to get back together is something he doesn’t do...Financially he can’t afford to live in his own...so he is still here. No intimacy, sleeps on the couch and is here right after work. Calls during the day, and if he is out at night. Usually home by 9pm. He has until the 30th. What’s going on with him!?!???
What's going on with him??? No what's going on with you? Kick his butt out and move on! How are you supposed to move on with your life when he is living on your couch? There is a hotel down the street.. ain't your monkey, ain't your circus! Date yourself and let the next man you live with be your husband!
Hey Sabrina, I’ve been seeing an older guy for two months, at first he was super interactive, we really hit it off but then his texting game slowed right down. So I stopped texting him. And he came back with a voice note saying how he likes to hear from me and even if he’s busy he wants me to message. So I obliged. And I still hardly get responded to. I think he’s wasting my time but I don’t know for sure as he seems genuinely unhappy if he doesn’t hear from me. But he’s putting all the work on me and I don’t think that’s right? Shouldn’t he be trying a little bit harder?
This is a great video. I've got a quick question. When they say that they want to break up because of me wanting kids (never bothered to talk about it with me) and so I cry - because DUH - and then turns around and a few months later wants me to move in with him...(when I cried I said he hadn't talked to me about that) Think I was right with going with my instinct and not move in? Our relationship went for another 1.5 years but it fizzled. I'm just wondering if maybe I should have worked out the issue with him.
Only saw each other 1x month for a yr. mainly a texting relationship. He ghosted me after he started dating someone else. I find it odd how I actually got too attached when it was such a shallow relationship.
Im seeing my boyfriend for four months now. We communicate everyday except for the past week. He has left for holiday from work. I dont know why he has gone quiet? Shed me some light please.
I don't want to blame the victim but about # 2 " He 's still active on dating apps " ... A friend of mine has been on the same app for 18 years ! He never even bothered to edit his introduction. Is the girl who will get in touch with him of the same kind or is she a victim ?
I really like this guys , buts he wasting my time . He always "GHOSTY" Me and is Wishing Washing . It's been 6 weeks I haven't heard from him and I decided just to back off . Thanks You For your advise 👍.
Eh, sounds like an excuse. If he doesn't want a relationship now then what's the point? It's really devaluing you to ask you to just wait around for him to decide he's ready.
Hi Sabrina, so I have a bf but we're long distance for two yrs. Then suddenly he broke you with me he said he have to move another states he have one daughter. But I accept what he ask , he said he's letting me go, and there's a lot to figure out with his life . Although he said he loves me , and if ever we meant again we're meant to be . So can he be lying and he just dont want commitment ? Thank u I appreciate your advice
Is this for a new relationship?. I have seen the slow, steady upclimb of my current relationship. So check, no dating apps, 2 5 years in.check, check, but I'm retiring in 1.5 years and moving to a summer place permanently but I'm happy to keep it a seasonal destination as it is now 2 hours away. Hee said 7 months ago hes not there in moving in together yet. Hes still got to work another 5 years. . Sooo...will he ever in another 1.5 years if he isnt now after 2.5 years together. ?
HELP!!!! I have a guy that is running over me! Yesssssss he is smothering me and I tell him this. We have a long relationship a friendship together I have been known him for 50 years his wife passed away eight months ago I just recently got a divorce he and I started seeing each other we are not dating we are seeing each other and I made a mistake letting him get in my bed… Big big mistake now he constantly tells me he loves me he is smothering me to death and I keep telling him I do not want to be in a relationship I want to be his friend but no relationship he’s not my boyfriend I am not his girlfriend, I think I have created a monster, I like Him but I do not love you I do not want to be in a relationship with this man and he will not understand this please tell me what to do help desperately need your help
Hey Sabrina Ive been in an 11 year relationship with my boyfriend. He recently told me he doesn't want a commitment or to be in a relationship anymore. The problem is, we own our house and live together. And also I am in love with him. Im attached too. He has put me in the friend zone. I want to get him back, not sure how to make him see he will lose me.
Engage yourself in something you like, 2make yourself happy To move on,he already make up is mind....it was good while it lasted Keep strong like me 💪 You will get another loving man for you Don't force him back.....al the best
I'm not sure if I'm wasting my time at this juncture. He has told me he changed his mind as to if he wants to be in a relationship, but he keeps sending me messages that he's thinking about me. I'm so confused 😕 help !!!!
Eh, you know what I say about mixed messages : the message is clear, he doesn't want to be with you. I would move on from him. If he's serious, he'll come after you.
sabrina ive been dating with him like for 2 months so far and he said he doesnt have many dating experience, used to be shy so needs more time + he's kinda slow guy... should i move on now or just need to see for a bit?
I think it depends on how much time you spend together. Are you seeing him once every now and then or 2-3 times a week? If you fall in the latter category I would say after about two (maaaybe three) months. Three months is stretching it however. In my experience, if he hasn't asked you to be exclusive after this mark (or hasn't brought up anything in that direction) he is never going to.
Glückwunsch Winston yes we see each other 3-4 times a week but now I’m not sure what to do we planned on taking a trip together but....! He keeps telling me he is going to book his flight and hasn’t and I’ve booked the hotel and flight on my end so I’m super annoyed but i told myself i will be passive and and not say anything else about it since I’ve mentioned it a couple times already. if i take the trip by myself I’ll probably break it off when i get back.
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Well I wish u were my next door neighbor!, but apart from that,u are awesome and I've learned at a much older age than u (trust me!) And much to late, the workings if the MAN MIND,had u been around years ago,I'd have had a lot less heartache! Currently I'm in an almost eight month relationship, things are going well,but we do seem to be getting a little stagnent,not bored,very loving,but god live him,he's a Taurus and moves like a snail,set in his ways,but waiting for him to move on from the past totally,so we and he can have a new start! I'm a big fan of yours, and have watched and commented on ur videos,keep them coming,thanks so much!!!!
Sabrina I really want advice from you over my relationship.
How can I reach u?
1. He tells you he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now
2. He's still active on dating apps
3. He openly flirts with other women especially in front of you
4. He talks about the future and you're not in it
5. He's wishy washy, hot/cold
6. The relationship stagnates
Thank u for the summary! Saves me time! :)
I m going through the same situation
This is my situation right now but so hard to walk away because of the mixed signals. Also, so painful.
I totally get it. You just need to think about the big picture and remember that you deserve to have the relationship you want, and not to settle for the scraps someone is willing to spare.
@@SabrinaBendory We broke up end of July, started as "friends" again the end of August. Three weeks of what seemed like awesome connection, daily texting and plans 3-4 days a week...better than when we were together, him calling me baby and his love, kissing, spending time together. Just last Thursday, he took me to a sit down dinner to celebrate his new job, picked me up and everything ..."no (fastfood) for my woman" (covid has been challenging). "Goodnight baby" text after he got home and now I haven't heard from him since Friday morning's texts about not sleeping well due to heartburn. I know he was off on Saturday and his phone went straight to voicemail Saturday evening so I've left it be. It's Monday morning now. I feel I'm being ghosted. His phone screen shattered 2 weeks ago so it's possible that it's done but he hasn't tried reaching me though Facebook either. This sucks! I don't think the 3 week no contact rule will help in this situation but I'll give it a shot.
@@valatiamisenhimer4746 Don't be afraid, maybe he just thinking about his emotions, maybe realizes he starts to fall in love with you again, and just don't want to scew thing up again. He will come back, ones he ready. Dont pursue him now, give the space, and everything will be okay. ;)
I wouldn't give him any more than one more chance and explain to him that you're hurt about the weekend MD see if he cahnges that. Because I had a bloke doing that to me for 3 years!!! Don't be that woman! Don't be that younger me.
It is painful because it feels like you've been deceived. I've officially decided that nothing a guy says is real; only his actions are.
I'm wasting my time always 😔😔 being clingy and needy, trying to make people love me and etc. Really trying to get over it. Loving your videos 💖💖🤗
Thank you sabrina. Many people would be grateful for this I am certain. Keep up the fantastic work.
You are so welcome!
I have never met a Muslim with the name Michelle before. Is one of your parents a Christian or of another religious belief?
@@DiamondsRexpensive My mother is a Roman Catholic and my father is from an Islamic family however, he does not practice Islam. So we are all a bunch of happy pork eaters who are not religiously inclined.
@@michellemohammed195 I understand, thanks for the clarification. I also think the way you phrased it is funny, I smiled.
Glad I found your channel! Men do need space more than women do (generally speaking). So right about the texting!
Hi sholomo! This is Debra,Hebrew as you know Deborah,or Deborah,you are so right,most men do better sorting out things their own way.sometimes they'll look for comfort or help,but they tend to go off on their own. Some men and women are natural loners anyway,and all of us need space ,relationship or not.
I also meant Deborah,and textingbis a little to impersonal and tedious, a voice brings more to the picture
@@debralavorata546 I agree, Deborah. Nice to meet you. Are you Jewish?
@@ShlomoJesmerRelationshipCoach nice to meet u too,no I'm not Jewish,but I love the culture,and long ago I looked up the meaning of my name,which legally is Debra,(anglesized)its Hebrew means "the bee", and I once briefly dated a hasidic man who told me my names correct spelling! I'm in the Bible, I was a prophet and a lawyer,something I always wanted to be,crazy right? I'm surprised to see a man on thus channel, and your picture is very nice
@@debralavorata546 Devorah Haneviah (Deborah the prophet.) I am familiar with her. 😉
Thank you. I am a relationship coach, as well. I enjoy watching other channels to do with the same topic as mine. I get inspiration, and sometimes I entirely disagree with what they say. 🙂
I told the guy, I want someone who's 💯 sure about me and his reply was "Really? You are ruthless!" 🤷🤦
He is the ruthless one, he wants you for affection but afraid to commit. Dump the boy and watch him crawl back. If he dont God spared you a major heartbreak.
Thanks for your great video. This video made me know I did the right decision. I’ve walked away from a guy who kept stringing me along but no plans with me in the future
My god this is my exact current situation. And although I already knew/felt these things in my gut, apparently I just needed to hear someone else say it out loud. Thank you for this video. Definately time to walk away and work on my self respect. Love your videos!
This is me right now but its so hard to walk away and nip it in the bud when there's so much potential 🥺
It really is
But is there really any potential when he's giving all the signs that he is not serious?
These are great tips. Most of my problems though are going from relationship to marriage. Never have an issue to be in an exclusive relationship but it’s a no for marriage :(
Lol, I wish this channel existed 11 years ago. Thank you so much for your content, I am newly single and determined not to repeat my old mistakes, and with your help I think I can break my pattern of choosing the wrong men! You are my new relationship Guru!!! 💜💛💚💙
Love your videos. They are keeping me on the straight and narrow! I’m standing in my power. Thank you x
My guy has all these characteristics, it’s really frustrating. Always hunting for women on Facebook and Instagram. Told me he doesn’t wan’t to be in a relationship, looks at every girl that passes by, very hot and cold, and the relationship is at a standstill. Sabrina, you really nailed this. Thanks for making it so obvious to me.
Great video. Can you do a video or comment about how guys say they really love you and even want to marry you but yet they can't stop looking or commenting on how hot a girl is in a movie or picture etc... I really struggle with this. It upsets me so much especially when I don't get that "Wow" she's fine, hot etc from him like he gives to women on TV. I notice him look at younger women in a grocery store etc and smiling and I don't get that from him. We're both 55 by the way and I do struggle being old and losing my looks. I do take care of myself and look pretty good for my age.. do people say but still it's very hurtful to me and makes me feel terrible about myself when I catch him looking. He doesn't say anything anymore rarely when he a beautiful woman is on TV or in person because I told him how upset I get but I know he's still thinking things about them and like I said I catch him looking. To me this is not true love if you are fantasing about another woman. I don't know what to think. I don't fantasize about other men and I certainly don't do look at them If I see a good looking guy. To me I think nothing if it. I'm not interested because I have a boyfriend. I feel like there is something wrong with me that we are supposed to except men are dogs as women. It's just what they do but this behavior upsets me deeply.
We manifesting our fears, and his receiving this thoughts from you. If you continue to this about this situation, he will subconsciously do it. Say him once, that "i was waaaay more hot chick back when i was in this age(as the women he sees), and still i am! " be confident. Laugh and don't think of it, he will notice, and change too.
Or say to him honestly that this behavior is rude before his women, if he really need ti think this way atleast don't say it out.
Tana first of all u are not old(neither is he!!) I'm sixty two,my boyfriend is fifty one,and he was alone for ten years,and I was alone for eight when we met,eight months ago.he and his wife have been separated for ten years,she's in another country,hoping he'll wake up and get a divorce.anyway I know that feeling of feeling like he's looking at other women or worse his wife compared to me.he has a job that puts him in line with women all the time,one time he told me a customer of his was beautiful,which I shouldn't have to say wasn't to thrilling to hear.I told him so and he said he didn't want me upset, so he wouldn't mention it again,I try to take care of myself also,and when we see each other,I try even harder to look good.as women as we get older feel more insecure because we're older and notice the lines,sags and bags we didn't have before, but let me tell u we have the experience,wisdom and maturity,the younger birds don't have!! He may be looking,but he's still on the scene,so he's looking but not leaving! And let's be real,men will always be looking till they're planted,and we do to,I love my guy to death,but I still appreciate a good looking guy
#6 just happened to me. We had been dating for 7 months and the relationship became stagnant. We were stuck in a weekly routine. I expressed wanting to do more/see each other more and he said that he just wasnt super interested in that at the moment. Then, a month later, we broke up because he didn't know what he wanted. Don't get me wrong, we actually had a really passionate and caring relationship, but when push came to shove, he realized he didn't want a relationship even though I had all the things he was looking for. When a man wants to commit, he will. But him realizing when he's ready to, isn't our battle to fight.
Sorry to hear! We’re you guys sleeping together and no more dates etc or how did it stagnate?
Very helpful. Wish I could have processed this year's ago. Time was wasted certainly.
The guy i started talking to.. his father passed away in July with cancer... He says he wanna give it a shot with me but needs time and space... He doesnt initiates conversation by himself but is happy to talk back and forth if I text or call him first. Idk if I should wait or not. He said he wants to have a serious relationship and he will come to visit me once everything is ok on his side..as we live in different cities. He says he wants to look forward to knowing me and get married if everything goes well but idk if I should stay or look around for more options. I really like him. I have a good tunning with him. ❤️😭 We talked for like 3-4 days when his dad was in the hospital before he came to know he has stage 3 cancer.. then he disappeared in may and than in July he reappeared and told me everything that happened. Idk wat to do! He seems like a nice guy going thro some deep shit 🙄
Hey Sabrina! Really likes your videos!
I texted with a guy for 6months now, we cannot meet because the pandemic for the first 2months, but talked everyday. After that his father got very sick, so he had to move to his homecity, now we are more futher. He almost gave up on us, but we managed to bring back the spark, still cannot meet, 'cuz he was fustrated about his fater,and didn't wanted to leave him... and sadly he died 2months ago. He says he don't really know what he wants now, and he has many stressful feeling he cannot bring himself to open up, and deal with. He said 3days ago, he needs time to be alone for awhile.
Still he getting new girls on his FB/insta. I don't thinks of this as serious, i think this is the way for him to deal with stress by like pictures and just scroll down. (No ones commenting to him, or few following back) You also said in one video, that guys has many form for dealing with stress, some play video game ect.and not really thinking of the problem. He started this girl-likeing when his father got sick, so i think this is stress relief for him, not serious.
Is it worth to wait a bit, do 'no contact' and if i still feel the same for him, check back a 1-2months later?
I was in a relationship with this guy for 6years. Something happened and I walked away. 2 years later I got pregnant. He stepped back in my life and look care of me. That was 2 years ago and now I'm confused. It's like he doesn't want me but doesn't want to be without me either.
Thank you so much sabrina for this great video.its really help me a lot.
Thank you, Sabrina. I can't tell how much useful and valuable your advices are! I trust you with your tips :) You're making noobies, like me, to be educated about this relationship shenanigans !
Sabrina u are so real and true! My boyfriend never texts,he's texted me six times in eight months and I'm glad,texting is to impersonal and time consuming,I'd rather hear a voice,taking things slow is much better,then u can tell for sure how things are going and how real it is.time will tell,any guy who flirts and is checking out other women is so a sign he wants nothing serious at all,big heartache there,railroad lights flashing!!!yes its hard to leave,sometimes we have to,and we all need as women to feel loved and appreciated,and not settle for anything,I was alone for eight years,and I met someone great, but I'm being careful not to waste my time like so many times before
number 5 : a coworker once told me his girlfriend of two months put it bluntly that she wanted a serious relationship.... Coworker tells me he's offended blah ,blah ,blah. I discuss this gossip with my mom and we end up siding with the girlfriend . There is nothing wrong with being in an un-serious relationship by the way... If both parties agree on it !
The mixed signals are so toxic, and the worst part is I don't think most guys are purposely playing mind games; they're just inconsistent and unreliable.
I agree totally !!! Very good advice !
This video was awesome. The last bit esp after you finished the list. Thanks Sabrina. 🙂
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thanks for all you are doing, keep it on. God bless you.
After close to a year I concluded this is just too much work, too much emotion, too much for me to cope with. He told me from the beginning he didn't want a relationship, but was friendly and nice and I enjoyed our time together. (Women say they don;t want a relationship sometimes but do-so I thought maybe that's how it is with him.) I feel like the whole thing is in my head because he really is making no effort at all and I make all the effort. And it hurts. Just coming out of a loveless marriage, and here I am again. I haven't dated in over 37 years and it's a different world out there. I am beginning to wonder if it is even worth it. My self esteem is in the toilet.
This video helped me and cleared all my doubts, thanku for saving me!!!
It’s goin to be our second date tomorrow. He’s a great guy so far and I hope he’ll continue to be. Ill take note of these signs as a guide so ill know when to run away 😂
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Great video!! 6 months wasted before he ghosted. I should have realized things were stagnet and I should have moved on
Ugh, I hear you. But it's a valuable lesson learned so hopefully this won't happen again!
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This should have more likes… I’m in my 40s and when my daughter becomes dating age this will be her holy grail.
really great video!! But on a TOTAL different topic, has anyone ever told you that you look like identical to the actress Mia Kirshner? she played Elena's real mom in The Vampire Dairies
Haha that's a new one, but I've heard everything from Jennifer Connelly to Shakira to Billie Eilish!
Thanks for this useful advice 😊
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So glad you enjoyed!
A lot of guys don't commit because they want the benefits of a relationship without the responsibility, and as long as you allow them to get away with that, they have no reason to change. That's why you have to give them an ultimatum.
Just because a woman can carve out time for a relationship doesn’t mean she should be in one. Maybe she needs to focus on herself more especially after a bad break up. Some people don’t want to be in relationships. Myself included . Relationships take work, effort and money and not everyone is committed to investing in a relationship that may not even work out anyway.
Tina that is the best comment I read on this topic next to mine! It does take a lot of time and effort to be in a relationship,I think people sometimes think these things just fall into place,we forget about ourselves because as females we tend to think and do for others more.if we forget ourselves and our needs,who will?
Totally agree. I recently posted a video on signs you're not ready to be in a relationship where I talk about all of this.
That's true because is in a relationship with someone else. And he is dating this one 9 months and still on dating apps
Thank you! Spot on.
You are very clever and amazing, I am exactly the way you are talking
Thank you! 😃
How do I know that I like someone... this has been driving me crazy lately
I believed is a waste of time if a man never even communicate and express his intention on a relationship leaving the woman feeling confused. A man only invites you to his house sometimes or weekly over movies, drinks and small bites and never ever move forward to anything which is so frastrating. What would you do if this happen to you as a woman?
. . . . .and then he tells you: "we are friends"
My boyfriend saying that if I cant wait for him when he is not ready for married,u can take a break,,,so I wish I could teach him a lesson as long as I am not ready too I feel its good to know his will but I don't to regret waiting for him
We have been living together for two years. He broke up with me three weeks ago. He says he needs time to himself and needs to work in him and wants me to work on me. First it was we need to live apart, then space and time to work on the relationship issues such as bickering everyday, and cussing at each other..and now he is just not happy and doesn’t feel Like breaking up to get back together is something he doesn’t do...Financially he can’t afford to live in his own...so he is still here. No intimacy, sleeps on the couch and is here right after work. Calls during the day, and if he is out at night. Usually home by 9pm. He has until the 30th. What’s going on with him!?!???
I think it's time to cut him loose. Doesn't sound like he's in this relationship anymore...
Your his roommate sorry to say.
What's going on with him??? No what's going on with you? Kick his butt out and move on! How are you supposed to move on with your life when he is living on your couch? There is a hotel down the street.. ain't your monkey, ain't your circus! Date yourself and let the next man you live with be your husband!
Hey Sabrina, I’ve been seeing an older guy for two months, at first he was super interactive, we really hit it off but then his texting game slowed right down. So I stopped texting him. And he came back with a voice note saying how he likes to hear from me and even if he’s busy he wants me to message. So I obliged. And I still hardly get responded to. I think he’s wasting my time but I don’t know for sure as he seems genuinely unhappy if he doesn’t hear from me. But he’s putting all the work on me and I don’t think that’s right? Shouldn’t he be trying a little bit harder?
This is a great video. I've got a quick question. When they say that they want to break up because of me wanting kids (never bothered to talk about it with me) and so I cry - because DUH - and then turns around and a few months later wants me to move in with him...(when I cried I said he hadn't talked to me about that) Think I was right with going with my instinct and not move in? Our relationship went for another 1.5 years but it fizzled. I'm just wondering if maybe I should have worked out the issue with him.
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Thank you for this vedio,, i really like it.. 😍😍😍😍
Loved this so true
Thank u so much sabrina
Only saw each other 1x month for a yr. mainly a texting relationship. He ghosted me after he started dating someone else. I find it odd how I actually got too attached when it was such a shallow relationship.
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Im seeing my boyfriend for four months now. We communicate everyday except for the past week. He has left for holiday from work. I dont know why he has gone quiet? Shed me some light please.
I don't want to blame the victim but about # 2 " He 's still active on dating apps " ... A friend of mine has been on the same app for 18 years ! He never even bothered to edit his introduction. Is the girl who will get in touch with him of the same kind or is she a victim ?
I really like this guys , buts he wasting my time .
He always "GHOSTY" Me and is Wishing Washing .
It's been 6 weeks I haven't heard from him and I decided just to back off .
Thanks You For your advise 👍.
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What if he says that dont want a relationship now but wants it in the future, with me?
Eh, sounds like an excuse. If he doesn't want a relationship now then what's the point? It's really devaluing you to ask you to just wait around for him to decide he's ready.
Taking space.
I agree because i saw this sign to the man i though ...his serious about me...thnks..i know what to do now
Hi Sabrina, so I have a bf but we're long distance for two yrs. Then suddenly he broke you with me he said he have to move another states he have one daughter.
But I accept what he ask , he said he's letting me go, and there's a lot to figure out with his life .
Although he said he loves me , and if ever we meant again we're meant to be .
So can he be lying and he just dont want commitment ?
Thank u I appreciate your advice
What a shame I don't listen this video before but well.
I need to personally chat with you. Im in one of those long term time wasters. Please please help me!
What if everything was good but from his work hours cut due to the pandemic .. him start texting slow or until the next day
Is this for a new relationship?. I have seen the slow, steady upclimb of my current relationship. So check, no dating apps, 2 5 years in.check, check, but I'm retiring in 1.5 years and moving to a summer place permanently but I'm happy to keep it a seasonal destination as it is now 2 hours away. Hee said 7 months ago hes not there in moving in together yet. Hes still got to work another 5 years. . Sooo...will he ever in another 1.5 years if he isnt now after 2.5 years together. ?
Can someone post the six steps on here?
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I have a guy that is running over me! Yesssssss he is smothering me and I tell him this. We have a long relationship a friendship together I have been known him for 50 years his wife passed away eight months ago I just recently got a divorce he and I started seeing each other we are not dating we are seeing each other and I made a mistake letting him get in my bed… Big big mistake now he constantly tells me he loves me he is smothering me to death and I keep telling him I do not want to be in a relationship I want to be his friend but no relationship he’s not my boyfriend I am not his girlfriend, I think I have created a monster, I like Him but I do not love you I do not want to be in a relationship with this man and he will not understand this please tell me what to do help desperately need your help
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Pls help me...I'm having major issues in my relationship wid this guy
Hey Sabrina Ive been in an 11 year relationship with my boyfriend. He recently told me he doesn't want a commitment or to be in a relationship anymore. The problem is, we own our house and live together. And also I am in love with him. Im attached too. He has put me in the friend zone. I want to get him back, not sure how to make him see he will lose me.
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To move on,he already make up is mind....it was good while it lasted
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Don't force him back.....al the best
I just think its time to move on its sad
I'm a little stuck... my story is too long to post though...
I'm not sure if I'm wasting my time at this juncture. He has told me he changed his mind as to if he wants to be in a relationship, but he keeps sending me messages that he's thinking about me. I'm so confused 😕 help !!!!
Eh, you know what I say about mixed messages : the message is clear, he doesn't want to be with you. I would move on from him. If he's serious, he'll come after you.
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Well I guess my relationship is going great cause u don't have any of these issues... 💖
sabrina ive been dating with him like for 2 months so far and he said he doesnt have many dating experience, used to be shy so needs more time + he's kinda slow guy... should i move on now or just need to see for a bit?
2 months isn't very long. Be patient and give it time.
A New Mode thank you!
Can you do a video on how long should you be dating before you need to ask a guy are we official 3 months maybe?
I think it depends on how much time you spend together. Are you seeing him once every now and then or 2-3 times a week? If you fall in the latter category I would say after about two (maaaybe three) months. Three months is stretching it however. In my experience, if he hasn't asked you to be exclusive after this mark (or hasn't brought up anything in that direction) he is never going to.
Glückwunsch Winston yes we see each other 3-4 times a week but now I’m not sure what to do we planned on taking a trip together but....! He keeps telling me he is going to book his flight and hasn’t and I’ve booked the hotel and flight on my end so I’m super annoyed but i told myself i will be passive and and not say anything else about it since I’ve mentioned it a couple times already. if i take the trip by myself I’ll probably break it off when i get back.
He has done alot of these
Hi Sabrina...I need ur help...pls
Hmmm when I have issues going on I am not opened for relationships... another stereotype lol
Why put people into boxes?
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Strange this about “multitasking”. I never was this way lol. Please stop with stereotypes
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