Extreme fatigue, menopause, exercise and weight loss

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  • Опубликовано: 22 ноя 2024

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  • @MelissaNeill
    @MelissaNeill  2 года назад +32

    Check out my iPhone and Android app, programs specifically designed for women over 40: melissaneill.com/social

    • @michele21auntiem
      @michele21auntiem 2 года назад +1

      I am over 60 and need to find a place to start. I use a walker sometimes and need more strength. So embarrassed about how out of shape i am. Fatigue is a huge problem. Hasimotos, lupus and fibro. I HAVE to get stronger. Thanks.

    • @JD-zw5os
      @JD-zw5os 2 года назад +2

      Oooh Lord, yes the FATIGUE!!! I’m 52.

    • @kesha2414
      @kesha2414 2 года назад

      Thank you for this

    • @annamcgee7434
      @annamcgee7434 2 года назад

      Thank you for this video! Im 50 and have been working out for the past 3 months. I have been trying to figure out what works for me. Ive been trIning with a PT 3 times a week and doing 30-45 min of cardio 5-6 days a week. (I think Im doing to much cardio, but having a hard time convincing myself less is more in the cardio area. Ive lost 16 lbs and 4.5% body fat so far, but the past few days I’ve been REALLY tired so I’ve skipped the gym and just made sure to do minimum 10,000 steps pr day. I feel like its not enough, thank you for saying its good to listen to your body and slow down a bit.❤️🤗

  • @glam1007
    @glam1007 2 года назад +354

    It’s not just menopause. It’s all the emotional weight we women carry each and every day. Most of us are taking the brunt of almost all the caretaking that needs to be done in our families: children, teenagers, aging parents, family members in need, etc., actually the list is endless. For me it’s the emotional toll and also the physicality of doing everything too, cooking, cleaning, running errands to doctors, veterinarians, endless tasks and endless work. We all love our families to the ends of the earth but sometimes that responsibility makes me feel like the ends of the earth!!! Resting is key and trying to “do nothing” is important-vitally important! For most of us women that’s a real struggle- we can’t even fathom what “do nothing” means!!!
    Kudos and love ❤️ to all my fellow caretaking , loving females. We truly keep everything going!! ⭐️⭐️

    • @birdlover7776
      @birdlover7776 2 года назад +13

      I feel this!

    • @M7Triple6
      @M7Triple6 2 года назад +10

      Thank you for this! Much love to you!! 💥💕🌈

    • @erikabowers7827
      @erikabowers7827 2 года назад +24

      I have learned to prioritize my me time! Some of the things we tell ourselves we have to do can wait!!!! I also delegate to my husband and children. I’m no longer trying to do everything! It’s too much!!!

    • @beatrizperez260
      @beatrizperez260 2 года назад +12

      Great point. These are real reasons for burn out too. Thanks for the reminder

    • @gulnazsheikh1
      @gulnazsheikh1 2 года назад +6

      So true...❤️

  • @felicitywillboughby6901
    @felicitywillboughby6901 2 года назад +241

    Huge respect to you. I realized I'm not 22,but 52.For me everything in moderation. I watch my portion control, eat as healthy as possible. Gymn 4 times a week, not longer than 45 min. I don't overdo anything. Im in tune with my body.. Unlimited blessings, love, light, harmony, good health to you & all viewers. 💃🤗💜💕

    • @thebutterfly6975
      @thebutterfly6975 2 года назад +7

      Absolutely the most inspirational woman I’ve really enjoyed watching and learning from

    • @jenpisano5954
      @jenpisano5954 2 года назад +6

      I NEED to remember THIS! I feel like I’m not doing enough or I’m being lazy if I don’t work out harder or for longer, or even take a day off, but then I’m TOO EXHAUSTED for anything else. Thank you 🥰

  • @Gjheexhigddc44
    @Gjheexhigddc44 2 года назад +71

    Finally someone talking about the toll menopause can take on women. My family tease’s me because I can’t keep up on hiking with them since I started the whole process of menopause.

  • @queenvictoria4732
    @queenvictoria4732 2 года назад +20

    "You're not being lazy you're just listening to your body "- couldn't have said it better

  • @clarifyingquestions
    @clarifyingquestions 2 года назад +35

    The truth is eat 50 % of your calories for breakfast and 50% by 2 pm. Yes, move 60-90 a day. Yes, journal. Yes - plant base - soluble, insoluble fibre, Yes 7.5-9 hrs of sleep - But for FITNESS - 20 min of resistance training every single day - that s it!!!!! Then enjoy your life. This diet and exercise industry is just money making!!! Keep it simple - and simple is not always easy.

    • @birdlover7776
      @birdlover7776 2 года назад +1

      Yes

    • @marleyhill34
      @marleyhill34 2 года назад +5

      I don't really buy into the industry that much because I know how to diet and exercise for cheap! I do have a gym membership but that's for the swimming pool mainly. I eat mainly whole foods so again my diet isn't drastic.

  • @feliciawashington1909
    @feliciawashington1909 2 года назад +41

    Hi Melissa, so great to find your channel. I’m 58 and I’ve decided to start a channel to inspire as well. I entered menopause at 53. And the struggle is real. I’ve gone through so many physical and emotional changes that I just didn’t believe would happen to me because in my twenties and early thirties I was in great shape; I was a trainer and yoga instructor. Then at 37 I had an emergency c-section and changed my career and within 3 months of my daughter being born I became a single parent! Incredible stressful time of my life. I stopped working out. My new career and being a mom consumed me. Long story short, I packed on 70 pounds. I would start working out and get injured or sick sometimes both. I would get discouraged and even depressed. Well for the last year I decided to focus on just getting healthy. I’m looking forward to sharing my story someday soon. For now I just want you to know that I’m happy I found your channel, because I agree with you that you have to constantly look for others that’s doing and being successful at what you’re striving to accomplish. And for women our age we need the support of women that understand and willing to be honest about the struggle. And ladies WE ARE WORTH IT! 💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

    • @lbar9720
      @lbar9720 Год назад +1

      I went to your channel to subscribe, but no videos yet. Will look again later. I'm a Nurse and not a fan of Dr. Berg, you have to take his advice with a grain of salt sometimes.

  • @patriciamendes1189
    @patriciamendes1189 2 года назад +19

    Menopause Fatigue is a HUGE factor when trying to just keep it all going! I’m 55 too and any motivation like this to say it’s ok to listen to your body for a few days, even a week off of strength or cardio, is so helpful!! You make tons of sense with all of it on this topic. Much appreciated! 💕

  • @DivineByDesignWithDani
    @DivineByDesignWithDani 2 года назад +11

    46 and in perimenopause. I start off the day with energy and complete my workouts ,eat the amount of macronutrients specifically for my body type and fitness goals daily. Typically by 3pm I am wiped out and it hits when I'm at work and I can barely function at that point. And of course that's when my supervisor calls and rambles nonstop not realizing I'm barely even comprehending anything he is saying because I feel like I'm going to pass out .

  • @Alex-tk7gh
    @Alex-tk7gh 2 года назад +62

    I'm 41 and I definitely know that I can't over do it when it comes to working out anymore. I'm sticking to 2 full body strength workouts a week and I'm feeling good with that. More than that or doing a split routine just doesn't feel good for me. Lifting every day will wear you out as much as people promote it as the best form of exercise. As far as cardio I'm getting back into jogging because I really like it. I've tried doing the high intensity, full body circuits and while I did that all through my 20s and some 30s, I just can't stick with it anymore. My best advice for anyone over 40 is stick to what you like and what makes YOU feel good, not worn out. Because at the end of the day, every single person is different and we all have different capabilities, needs, desires, etc...

    • @jocelynarroyo1799
      @jocelynarroyo1799 Год назад +2

      I'm 41, too, and for the last few years, I've been honoring when I've been the lowest in energy in my cycle. So when it's closer to my period, I do a lot of restorative and yin yoga, and going on hikes in nature. I also agree with what you are saying. Do what makes you feel good. Because as we get older our give a damn is also busted, and we want to spend our energy in ways that are fulfilling, not what society says we're supposed to be doing.

  • @siobhanmcneenan3253
    @siobhanmcneenan3253 2 года назад +37

    Im 60 and STILL going through it

  • @heidicox630
    @heidicox630 Год назад +7

    Thank you for addressing this!!! I am 61 and through with menopause. For years I was upset with myself for not keeping up my fitness routine like I did in my 30's. Now I am getting back into a fitness routine. On the days that I am exhausted, I give myself grace and rest. I know longer feel guilty about resting.

    • @MelissaNeill
      @MelissaNeill  Год назад +2

      You got this! I'm so happy for you! :)

  • @saladandcake7103
    @saladandcake7103 2 года назад +12

    I was struggling with fatigue after having Covid and I found that a good probiotic to be helpful. Good gut health can really help with recovery from an illness

  • @cherylsHTX
    @cherylsHTX 2 года назад +4

    I'm almost 46, and I'm in perimenopause. I have not worked out in months. I have had Covid twice. I am exhausted all the time. I cannot stay asleep at night. Added to that my job is extremely stressful. Then I stress about not working out. I have been trying to give myself some grace and listen to my body, but it is difficult not to beat myself up over it. I really appreciate this video. Thank you!!

  • @dr.shakingmyhead4167
    @dr.shakingmyhead4167 2 года назад +6

    When,I'm fatigued I do stretches hydrate and try and get more Sleep with a well balance meal no sugar or dairy

  • @annemuller4499
    @annemuller4499 2 года назад +2

    High Intensivity training is not always the solution, finally someone raise this point! Thank you! I kept up with the men in in the gym, but I felt so weak afterwards and my body just didn't recover nor did it build muscles, I just got slim fat. No weight lifitng changed that. Due to lock down, I had to stop going to the gym *and guess what, my bottom and my breasts lifted up again*

    • @Kittensforchrist
      @Kittensforchrist 5 месяцев назад

      Wow really? How does that work?

    • @annemuller4499
      @annemuller4499 5 месяцев назад

      @@Kittensforchrist I think because I stopped to do the mistake to overwork my body. So my muscles and my fat could regenerate.

  • @maureengannaway8635
    @maureengannaway8635 2 года назад +67

    Hi Melissa, I just turned 57 Aug 13th. I've been fatigued, having digestive issues and working hard to get back on track. The same thing happened in 2018. I went to the Dr. got a clean bill of health. Now again in 2022. The menopause is a journey that is so hard sometimes, but with your help we seasoned woman can get thru it healthier, stronger. Thank you.

    • @deborahsivyer9593
      @deborahsivyer9593 2 года назад +2

      Hi ,may I ask what sort of digestive issues you have,I'm experiencing the same had a scan can't find anything wrong.

    • @deborahsivyer9593
      @deborahsivyer9593 2 года назад +3

      I'm 58 in September.

    • @di4085
      @di4085 2 года назад +3

      Not sure what the stomach issues could be but I'm sure probiotics will help.

    • @cookiesandpie4837
      @cookiesandpie4837 2 года назад +5

      I turned 57 on August 12th and I'm always tired

    • @di4085
      @di4085 2 года назад +2

      Hey everyone please check out vitamin B1. I've been taking it for several weeks now and I'm starting to notice a difference. Exhaustion has been my life due to finding out late in life I had a thyroid condition and then on top of that going through menopause. There are many videos on RUclips but check out Dr Berg's on vitamin B1.

  • @jminormedia1025
    @jminormedia1025 2 года назад +24

    Girlfriend you are preaching to the CHOIR. I was on a workout routine for three straight years. I was looking good & pushing myself even when I did not wanted to.
    However the beginning of this year I JUST STOPPED. I could not make myself do any kind of workout.
    But after waiting you and getting motivated again. I started back 2 week ago. 🤩 55 is Hard to handle. I am so Thankful to You!!

    • @misskathleen490
      @misskathleen490 2 года назад +4

      We arent all Melisssa here. She may have trained for years plus she may have great genetics. We are all different so the fact you are trying is good enough in my book!

    • @jminormedia1025
      @jminormedia1025 2 года назад +3

      @@misskathleen490 Thank You!!

  • @nancyjokinch8536
    @nancyjokinch8536 2 года назад +66

    Spot on, honest conversation Melissa! Covid did the same thing to me (twice) as well and you are right, you have to rest more until you get feeling better. Hang in there, you are doing great work for our "over 50" community and your authenticity is huge in promoting fitness.

  • @slynn7816
    @slynn7816 2 года назад +42

    Thank you so much for sharing. I’m guilty of pushing myself even when I’m exhausted because I’m worried about being “lazy”. But I have ended up with injuries and extreme fatigue as a result. So I’m encouraged to hear you talk about how important it is to listen to your body ❤

  • @Truthseekingdivinefemale
    @Truthseekingdivinefemale 2 года назад +3

    It’s so real this fatigued. Factor in busy family life running around making sure all the kids are ok and you have got a wall that hits hard. I’ve hit it so many times. End up taking months off at a time. But I do eventually go back. Get back in no time when I do and then the cycle repeats. Life is so busy but you got to keep your eye on the long term goal. Fitness for life 💪🏻

  • @annawilliams2681
    @annawilliams2681 2 года назад +2

    Hi Melissa. I am 4 weeks recovered from COVID and totally EXHAUSTED from working full-time. I am 55 and In menopause, full-fledged. I can’t seem to get enough rest/sleep these days. Almost drive off the road, as my eyes closed, this week. I haven’t been working my HIIT sessions for weeks now and feel terrible, because I’m not working out😞. Thank you for this video. I certainly appreciate knowing I am not lazy👍🏻.

  • @neaevangelina1682
    @neaevangelina1682 2 года назад +51

    Thanks Melissa! I’m a firm believer in listening to your body. I’m just into perimenapause and I find that giving body the rest and nourishment it needs when it asks is the best medicine to feeling strong again

  • @stephiegetsit
    @stephiegetsit 2 года назад +4

    The hot flashes Melissa, the hot sweaty hot flashes are starting to wayne my dedication to working out. I still eat right. Lots of walking. I am getting upset I am losing mass but I feel I just can't do it everyday and keep everything else going. . Glad you're being honest about the situation.

  • @themoorefamilythemoorefami1542
    @themoorefamilythemoorefami1542 2 года назад +1

    Great Video!! So glad to hear that others suffer with FATIGUE and that I'm not just being lazy!! LONG nights of hot flashes ruins the next day for me.

  • @truthbetold9781
    @truthbetold9781 2 года назад +3

    Im a woman, will be 50 in 2 years Lord willing and watching your videos has taught me a lot on why I'm not getting the best results from my workouts. I've been doing them wrong and loads of cardio! I am going to begin this week making some changes. Thank you for your inspiration!

  • @NanaBreez
    @NanaBreez 2 года назад +5

    I’m 55, I wondered the other day if I was building muscle or using up the last of my energy lol thankfully fatigue passes❤️

  • @패자입니다
    @패자입니다 2 года назад +8

    Not a woman over but 40, but I am going to be 30 this year and suffer from often times debilitating PMDD. The fatigue is REAL, I will feel it all over my body. During my hell week, I would often try to workout and lift, but the moment I started to lift a weight it felt as if my muscles were rejecting it. Thank you for normalizing rest. I often feel like a failure for not having the discipline to workout 4-5x a week during the month and during the dreaded hell week. I feel a huge difference in energy right before I menstruate and after, and I take advantage of my high energy weeks. I find your tips very helpful and aim to be as fit and dedicated as you so I can be a good example for my future children and husband. And I also want to carry good habits with me for the rest of my life.

    • @andreaclarke5302
      @andreaclarke5302 2 года назад

      What a beast. No cure after researching, just our own personal underlined things in our lives that enhances PMS and turning it into pmdd.

  • @mshanika
    @mshanika Год назад +1

    Omg!!! I needed this. I feel drained and cannot get up in the morning at 4 in the morning to get to the gym anymore

  • @JudgeJeana
    @JudgeJeana 2 года назад +39

    Thank you for your transparency and showing the struggle!!! I think really listening to our bodies and instincts is greatly underrated and we forgothow to do that! If you feel really tired, take a break, if you have been craving a certain food, doesn't have to be junk, eat it. If you don't feel like pushing weights in the gym, maybe a walk, a stretch, a meditation is what your body is craving.
    We really need to learn to listen and understand what body and mind are communicating!

    • @SarahEvansCunningham23
      @SarahEvansCunningham23 2 года назад +6

      Same here at age 49. Perimenopause has been problematic. Tx you for sharing yoir story

    • @SarahEvansCunningham23
      @SarahEvansCunningham23 2 года назад +5

      Excellent and tx you for this confirmation. Ive been lostening more to what my body wants

  • @arielfaulkner9332
    @arielfaulkner9332 2 года назад +2

    You are so authentic and beautiful.
    I’m in my early 40s and have premature ovarian failure. Your videos have been so inspiring. Thank you!

  • @danar6950
    @danar6950 2 года назад +7

    I wasn’t even searching for this topic, but this video was recommended. I’m 48, and I’ve been feeling extremely fatigued lately. I didn’t even associate it with age or possibly being related to peri menopause. Thank you for the tips. New subscriber here 🙂

  • @melaniejohn6181
    @melaniejohn6181 2 года назад +1

    Yes I am 57 and hv been feeling very low on energy. I was a very active person going to the gym 5x a week. Now I can only handle 2x a week of strength training. I hv engaged a PT to push me thru but I shall start walking my dog again. Hoping that taking good vites will get me back on track. Tq Melissa. Enjoy yr videos very much.

  • @vivathecat7052
    @vivathecat7052 2 года назад +15

    Melisaa, I appreciate your authenticity so, so much. I'm 52, the issue I am having is not fatigue but joint and muscle pain and it is not related to exercise but my weight and the last couple of years of inactivity. I also think menopause has a lot to do with it because in the past, whenever I became deconditioned I was able to recover with not so much joint pain and it would go away completely in a couple of weeks but this continues to linger. I am continuing to focus on my diet, decreasing sugar and increasing protein and doing my weight workouts. Less so with cardio since I think I am probably prone to injury until I can get some of the pounds off.

  • @trulysensitive5620
    @trulysensitive5620 2 года назад +7

    Yep. Since I had surgical menopause, it has been tough and rough for the past 8 years. Listening to you made me forgive myself for the so called failures in weight lost projects.
    What a life! Continuous learning.

  • @vv7611
    @vv7611 Год назад +1

    Thanks for doing this video Melissa. Fatigue is something I experience daily since perimenopause. I'm tired of hearing myself say I'm tired 😅 the best thing that works for me is taking time out of chores etc and resting

  • @elviarodriguez3037
    @elviarodriguez3037 2 года назад +29

    Hi Melissa, thank you for your advices for not to quit our muscles goals at menopause. You are a big inspitarion for many women. Best regards from Mexico City.

  • @ritahmutheumuia1604
    @ritahmutheumuia1604 2 года назад +3

    Our trainer forced us to be taking a break in the middle of the week in order to recover. It has really helped . It’s ok to take a break one week in a while .🙌🏼🙌🏼

  • @robincorrelllongandfosterr3
    @robincorrelllongandfosterr3 2 года назад +7

    So very true! I’m perimenopause and there are days that I’m just drained!! Thank you for validating our struggles! We all need to listen to what our bodies are telling us!💕☺️

  • @salliehes5053
    @salliehes5053 2 года назад +10

    42 yo w/fibromyalgia here - great info! I also choose strength training over cardio when I’m feeling fatigued - and I think it’s important you shared you listened to you body and said “not today” when you needed to - we guilt ourselves unnecessarily, it’s good to hear you share why we shouldn’t!

  • @debbiegarcia7485
    @debbiegarcia7485 2 года назад +2

    I'm 47 and been going through menopause for about 5 yrs now and have gained weight and extremely fatigue. I look forward to getting into shape and feeling great.

  • @linphillips8331
    @linphillips8331 2 года назад +11

    I used to force myself to work through periods of fatigue, considering it a personal failing or weakness, when the truth was, I was depleting my reserves further. Trying to "work through" fatigue or injury is a highly toxic mindset. Now I listen to my body, and while it's disappointing that I sometimes can't work out the way I want, in the long run it's for the better.

    • @di4085
      @di4085 2 года назад

      @@HuskyTheDog2202 check out vitamin B1. Also Dr Berg has a video on vitamin B1. I believe that will help with your racing thoughts as well as other things such as exhaustion. I'm couple weeks into it now and we'll be getting the nutritional use today to help boost it.

    • @di4085
      @di4085 2 года назад

      What I have learned is to be kind to yourself and do what you can do no matter how small it is. If you can only exercise for 5 minutes and be satisfied with that for the moment but also check out vitamin B1.

  • @TirraOmilade
    @TirraOmilade 2 года назад +6

    I definitely deal with fatigue due to menopause. Thank you for this share because i can stop guilt tripping myself for not going hard everyday. I need to appreciate what I can do and just stay consistent and tuned in. You are the best!

    • @di4085
      @di4085 2 года назад +1

      You got it be kind to yourself.

  • @virtuewisdom4633
    @virtuewisdom4633 2 года назад +3

    This was very helpful for me. I've just turned 50, but having major issues with fatigue. Each time I try to go over an hour workout, I feel unwell and I've been wondering what's happening to me. So this has opened my eyes and also let me realize that I'm not the only one dealing with this issue. Thank you!

    • @MelissaNeill
      @MelissaNeill  2 года назад +2

      Happy to help! You're most welcome! ☺️

  • @michellebene
    @michellebene 2 года назад +11

    Same, thank you. 46 and fatigued. I've lost some fat, problem area is belly. I exercise and still have belly fat. I get discouraged and think I can look like this with no effort. Haven't exercised in weeks. I'm going to start back though

  • @hail2703
    @hail2703 2 года назад +3

    It’s important to take a rest and listen to your body. Thx for this! We will actually make better gains if we allow ourselves to recuperate both mentally and physically. When I started a college course that was intensive and daily for 8-10 hours a day, I was compelled to slow down my training. Everything was overwhelming until I acclimated to my new schedule. After a week or two I got back into the routine of working out but the short hiatus was beneficial for my well being. Also when I’m feeling more tired - I Hike instead of hitting the weights and it’s very therapeutic plus I get fresh air and vitamin D. Wish you all well! Thx Melissa!

  • @michellek2946
    @michellek2946 2 года назад +1

    Oh Melissa! What a perfect video. At 54, I am currently struggling with chronic fatigue and adrenal fatigue because I was working out like a beast. My body finally said stop!!! I had to. Just knowing that you struggle too makes me feel better about taking a rest. Thank you!!

  • @thehermitsmoon3117
    @thehermitsmoon3117 2 года назад +4

    Thank you Melissa! I turn 55 tomorrow and haven’t had a period in four months. I have been struggling for a while now feeling extreme fatigue, anxiety, depression...and I totally spaced the fact that these are all symptoms of menopause! I thought I was just letting other life stresses get to me, but I’m in the middle of a huge change in life. I need to give myself permission to slow down, sit with the feelings, and accept that I might not feel better tomorrow either, and it’s ok to give myself some grace. Thank you for your message and the reminder to listen to MY body. Blessings 🙏🏼✨

  • @BeMoCr8tive
    @BeMoCr8tive 2 года назад +1

    Thank you thank you Melissa! I went from walking and/or stationary bike every day & 5 - 10 minute hiits 2-3x a wk from 2019 - Dec 2021 - then I wanted to do nothing! I wanted to cry, I had no energy for family, household chores, and definitely not working out! I thought something was wrong with me. I didn’t know fatigue was a symptom of menopause. Every woman needs to know this and get their families to help out more! Just a thought, but it makes me think of the show hoarders and how many of the women on that show probably are menopausal and are experiencing extreme fatigue!🧐

  • @TheCOangel303
    @TheCOangel303 2 года назад +2

    Ditto on the fatigue. Be gentle with yourself. I'm my own worse critic and expect alot from myself because I was a competitive powerlifter for 20 years. I had to set the bar really low for myself and just get my body into a routine of just going to the gym 1-2 times a week even if it was just me driving there gave me a little more hope for the following week. It's taken me almost 2 years to get back to 4-5 days a week for 30-45 minutes a session.

  • @mysticallavish1360
    @mysticallavish1360 2 года назад +7

    Im a thyroid cancer survivor and 51 now. I get tired easy but i walk daily and love your strength training videos. Keep up the great work and take it easy. Sending love❤❤❤and blessings to you!

    • @AC-ft5xw
      @AC-ft5xw 2 года назад +4

      Congratulations on beating cancer … May God keep you cancer free and strong ! God Bless 🙏🏼

    • @di4085
      @di4085 2 года назад +1

      How are you doing with your thyroid condition did you have surgery? I've learned a lot about the thyroid through a Dr David Brownstein from Michigan.

  • @meggo6673
    @meggo6673 Год назад +1

    Thank you for speaking about this! I am just so tired some days. I am 44 with 5 kids (ages 15-6). I homeschool and cook all our food. I also garden and we have a farm. And it seems like at least one of our kids is playing a sport every season keeping my schedule full. This past year or so I just have not had the energy to do much. I’m in perimenopause (haven’t had a period in 70 days now). I’ve also been having night sweats . This is a tough time! I have had so much guilt over not working out. But I feel like if I focus on myself, I don’t have the physical energy or mental space for my kids and husband. I do get my steps in and eat well, but I’m still about 20 lbs heavier than I should be and I can actually feel myself getting weaker. I guess I just need to roll with the punches and lift when I have the energy. Again, thank you! I’ve had a lot of guilt. And I think as my husband has tried to encourage me, it’s pretty difficult for him to understand that it’s a fatigue I just cannot push past.

    • @MelissaNeill
      @MelissaNeill  Год назад +1

      Hang in there! I hope everything gets better. ❤️

  • @terributler791
    @terributler791 2 года назад +10

    Thanks for your honesty Melissa. I'm through menopause - 2 years.
    I'm on the carnivore diet and I feel so much better. I have great energy levels, and all my digestive issues have cleared up, and I know it's due to being carnivore - food for thought for you! :-)
    I wish you all the best, and the same to all the viewers going through the same X

  • @Nina-fv1mp
    @Nina-fv1mp 2 года назад +5

    Thank you!! I needed this! I am 51 and am struggling with ALL the symptoms.

  • @mrscf8865
    @mrscf8865 2 года назад +35

    I'm really struggling at the moment aged nearly 55 with exhaustion. My sister who is almost 56 has moderate to severe Alzheimers and I'm struggling to cope with it all. Exercise does help but these days I am doing more indoor walking exercises or just using resistant bands which I find easier to manage.
    What I've learned from what happened with my sister is that we need to take care of ourselves when we start to see the signs that things aren't great rather than just constantly pushing through as she often did.

    • @misskathleen490
      @misskathleen490 2 года назад +3

      i personally noticed you have to build up the cardio a little to surpass fatigue.

    • @michele21auntiem
      @michele21auntiem 2 года назад +1

      I am trying to do modified planks on my knees. I have fibro, lupus and hashimotos. But i have to get stronger. My relative with Alzheimers was told to get exercise.

  • @juana9483
    @juana9483 2 года назад +4

    OMG Melissa , I totally needed to hear this. I am 50, and some days (today!) I feel totally and utterly exhausted, like absolutely no energy to do anything whatsoever. I was feeling so so guilty and useless for not exercising. I am totally going to follow your advice. You have been such an inspiration for me for the past coupme of years now. Thank you so much for addressing this issue I really appreciated hearing you talk about this. Hope you feel better soon. 😘🙏🙏

  • @JNYC212
    @JNYC212 2 года назад +7

    Good to know... 44 but I also notice I can't do all the things I did in my 30s either. TY 🙌🏽💪🏽

  • @julimdjaffri6100
    @julimdjaffri6100 2 года назад +1

    I understand exactly what you mean. At first I wondered why my DOMS persisted for longer than usual. Now I focused more on isometric exercises and strength straining, and resting on days when fatigue hits. Just listen to your body.

  • @jolene555
    @jolene555 2 года назад +8

    Amen sister! It’s okay not to feel okay.. Thank you for bringing menopause fatigue to light. I know we are not alone with these experiences but it’s natural sometimes that we feel like it’s “just in our head”
    Just last week I was saying to someone that I was tired and “off my game” more than I ever felt. I’m 52 and I forget about the underlying issues my new season of life brings.

  • @taffy1234ful
    @taffy1234ful 2 года назад +2

    Thanks for your transparency. I too suffer from fatigue. I'm glad I'm not the only one..I have learned to listen to my body and not push myself when my energy is low.

  • @creativesolutionstoart
    @creativesolutionstoart 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you so much for this, I’ve been feeling like an absolute failure, because every time I start a moderate workout routine, we’re talking every other day, by the fourth or fifth day I am so exhausted I can’t start back on it for another week… I’m not super concerned about Body fat, I spent most of my life underweight, so I welcome a little extra pounds :-) but, my strength really needs to be increased and I want to feel strong again. Just frustrated that I can’t get past this. Thank you!

  • @naturalifesoap
    @naturalifesoap 2 года назад +4

    That was much needed. Thank you. I have multiple autoimmune diseases and have to remind myself that rest is also part of the process. I lift heavy and really enjoy it but that can make me push through even when I know I need to take a day or two off. 🙏🏽

  • @maleahbroyles8940
    @maleahbroyles8940 Год назад +1

    I am 57, post menopause and you said exactly what I deal with daily..hoshimotos, fibromyalgia and chronic severe exhaustion. Thank you for addressing this!

  • @glendajohnson9863
    @glendajohnson9863 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for this message. It really helped me realize that I'm not alone nor am I going crazy. No more torturing myself physically, emotionally or psychologically. I'm at month eight, and there are days that I can barely get out of bed, let alone care for everything and everybody. Hugs to you and your viewers!!!

  • @KristenHill90
    @KristenHill90 2 года назад +12

    I’m 32 and I was extremely fatigued after covid. I was training for a bikini body comp and lowering calories and had to stop because my body freaked out. I started Back at the gym today, planning to work back up slowly, like you mentioned and keep my calories higher for a bit.

  • @tarot-karma-online
    @tarot-karma-online 2 года назад +1

    I joined a gym 3 months ago and go every other day cause I was so tired and hoped to have a counter act on it. I feel better physically, going every day or every second day, I can achieve much more, but my fatigue levels are still there. Doctors cant fnd anything but nobody talked about me it could be because of menopause which makes absolut sende. txs for the video.

  • @nikkirodriguez4590
    @nikkirodriguez4590 2 года назад +1

    Oh dear... you hit the spot.... Fibromyalgia... and menopause now... exhaustion always... thank you! Fir taking the time and educating about this... people judge for laziness... lol...but I keep trying to cope with it...trying to figure out how I can grow out of this one...thank you... God Bless 🙌

  • @RedactedATS
    @RedactedATS 2 года назад +2

    Best thing I ever did to combat fatigue, especially post menopause, was to quit processed foods, especially carbs. I don't stay off them religiously, I have them a couple times a week for pleasure, but keeping off them for the main part has helped enormously with getting rid of brain fog and generally feeling unwell.

  • @tammyharvey5551
    @tammyharvey5551 2 года назад +4

    This was great information, and I am so glad that you discussed it! It’s about time a “real woman” of a particular age stated this. I suffer from thyroid and endometriosis in addition to menopause. I finally had to come to terms with my weight, size, and hair. Thank You!!!!

    • @kerrijann3445
      @kerrijann3445 2 года назад +1

      Hi Tammy, do you have ANYTHING that helps with the endo? I'm pretty sure mine is active despite a hysterectomy 6 years ago (kept my ovaries). I've never found any help and my pelvis and back are in perpetual pain....any suggestions are greatly appreciated. I'm so unsure about tofu at the moment. I avoided it for years trying to minimise any oestrogen input but now during this perimenopause phase it's encouraged! So much confusion and exhaustion......🙏

    • @juliehunt7204
      @juliehunt7204 2 года назад

      It might be beneficial to look at WHAT CHELSEA EATS, channel on RUclips.
      She deals with reproductive issues, and I found very insightful.
      I wish you all the best on your healing journey.

  • @shelbyandmargaret
    @shelbyandmargaret 2 года назад +2

    So refreshing that someone has addressed the existence of menopause, it's affect and ways of coping. Thank you very much🤠🤠

  • @stormygirl1704
    @stormygirl1704 2 года назад +1

    I agree. Listening to your body makes a difference. Injuries and sickness is NOT worth it. I am a teacher. So, summer work outs are more frequent than when school is in session. I miss my walking most of all but it’s just not POSSIBLE after teaching 800 kids (actually more than that) per week.

  • @jaydd7392
    @jaydd7392 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for this video. I have chronic fatigue and now mid 40’s I struggle so much with energy. I don’t put on weight but I’m desperate to tone up and get strong but any cardio will trigger a relapse and I feel like each time I start feeling I’m getting somewhere with strength training If I get an illness it can knock me for weeks and get frustrated see all the progress lost. Just so nice to know I’m not the only one and it’s ok to rest.

  • @sw6118
    @sw6118 2 года назад +1

    I can’t speak as to covid, but I found that my non-covid fatigue was due to a lack of restorative sleep. I found vitamin supplementation helped, for fatigue and muscle recovery I found magnesium helpful AND that I had to allow more time for muscle recovery. No more daily workouts, now I need two or three days between serious workouts.

  • @sharonanwyll6772
    @sharonanwyll6772 2 года назад +1

    Hi Melissa, I’ve just found you’re channel. OMG! Thank you ❤️. I’m 53. Two years ago I was a size 8, walking, weight training loving exercise, my body & in the BEST shape in my life. That all ended when I hit peri-menopause 😔. I’m now a size 14, low moods, low energy, hate my body, don’t like who I am anymore. I just want to be ME again. I’ve just recently found out I’m low on folic acid, so that will explain the extreme tiredness. So glad I’ve found your channel & now going to binge watch. Slowly but surely, I’m hoping to get back to being me. Thank you. Sending you luv, health & happiness ❤️🥰x

    • @mercedes5206
      @mercedes5206 2 года назад

      I’m 54 and I can say, now that I am on hormonal therapy weeks after being on it, I’m loosing weight, and I’m eating pretty healthy, and I’m doing exercises 3-5 times a week moderately , drink water only, get rest, have some type of spirituality and I promise you will see a difference.

  • @hannahandrainn
    @hannahandrainn 2 года назад +6

    I have just been told I have low iron so maybe get your bloods done. It’s so frustrating feeling tired all the time. Love your content ❤️

  • @coreoflife
    @coreoflife 2 года назад +1

    I have been exhausted...I am much older. I have just been good to myself, not beating myself up. I know I will get back. Sometimes your body is telling you slow down... I listened. I don't beat myself up anymore. Just going to bed early, doing some things I want to do. Just relax.

  • @jenifferfountain2837
    @jenifferfountain2837 2 года назад +1

    I am 55, going on 56 in December, lately am feeling fatigue 😩, your information was informative 👍, will take your advice , thanks

  • @sinceresong9907
    @sinceresong9907 2 года назад +2

    You're all out beautiful, you give everything to the discipline . I think rest under normal circumstances would still be needed.

  • @dreamofmine
    @dreamofmine 2 года назад +7

    Thank you for this! I've been feeling like I'm "lazy" lately and days like today it's very hard to even get out of bed. I haven't been to the gym in over a month now. I wanted to give it a go today, and maybe I will do half a session later, but I just feel like I can sleep all day. I am a freelancer, so I have the opportunity to get back in bed for a couple of hours, thankfully. I appreciate your advice and sharing of your personal experiences.

  • @katiemenohealth
    @katiemenohealth Год назад

    As someone who went through a medical hysterectomy at 37 and had zero support for two years, my body went into free fall. I am now 43 and finally feel well enough (post covid x 3 as well) and ready to get back on track. Thank you so much for your video's Mel they have taught me so much about what to do (and whay not to do). I'm not perfect by any means, however I'm not beating myself up anymore, I'm listening to my body and letting it guide me. Love strength training and walking too. Onwards and upwards. Thank you again and a huge amount of respect to you!! 💗 xx

  • @siobhanmcneenan3253
    @siobhanmcneenan3253 2 года назад

    Am glad you are admitting the truth. Exhaustion is a killer, no matter what anyone says. To ask the body to exercise when it CANT is not a good idea. This all passes but listen to your body

  • @jesshatchette
    @jesshatchette 2 года назад +3

    42 here and I sometimes cannot do a workout. I’ll still go and do a 30 minute elliptical session to boost my mood and scale down to 2 weight training days a week. Rest is best. Some times we need deep rest.

  • @sarahcook908
    @sarahcook908 2 года назад +3

    38 with lupus, RA and RSD. Had 2 broken feet in the last 3 years and an incredibly emotionally abusive 6 yr marriage that I left over a year ago. I dread the additional levels of exhaustion to come on top of all this. I push throught too hard too often but my sweet spot seems to be gentle walks and a few weight sessions per week and eating healthy and lots of water. And of course, keeping up with doctor appointments and meds, etc. And however you best cope with stress, DO THAT! Good healthy coping skills and habits are so important.

    • @di4085
      @di4085 2 года назад

      Sounds like you're doing all the right things getting away from the abuse and healing from that. Also walking doing what you can do not what you would like to do. It's being kind to yourself. I would suggest checking out vitamin B1 there are plenty of videos on RUclips on it.

  • @nicolenoriega7674
    @nicolenoriega7674 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for this video. After HIIT for two weeks this 3rd week I've got an empty tank. You have given me the answer. Thanks woman.

  • @queenmai296
    @queenmai296 2 года назад

    Thank you so much for your helpful advise. I'm 59 and so I'm post menopausal since age 50 my cycle stopped abruptly. And I too have gone through cycles of fatigue since. I'm much better now. I've always had an exercise routine and I listen to my body when it says rest I rest. But most days I'm doing my thing. I too had covid. When I'm high on energy I do more,when I'm a bit low. I tone it down or just rest. You are a gem and beautiful at that. Queen sista. Greetings from the Caribbean Island of Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹. One Love and peace.

  • @hollypolk4406
    @hollypolk4406 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for your transparency . I thought I could just push through but nothing worked. I'm too exhausted.

  • @35djlwarren
    @35djlwarren 2 года назад +1

    Hi Melissa, I love your content; thank you for all you do!! I am 49 and I’m always exhausted and my goal is to workout 3-4 days a week. I have not workout in a year or so, and it’s so hard to get back into it. I suffer from fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, and thyroid disease, and some disc problems in my back. It is such a challenge to workout. I have 25 pounds I have to lose. Initially, when I started having health issues I gain 50 pounds, and I lost it doing cardio and I lost my figure and learned why through watching your channel. So, as I attempted to lose this round of Covid weight I will be following your instructions. I do not know if you know that you are truly a blessing to me. Thank you for all of you do. 🙏🏾Be blessed lady!!!

  • @MoneyWiseMOM
    @MoneyWiseMOM 2 года назад +8

    You look great for your age. I just turned 50 this year and I realized that when I went on vacation and got rest and I fasted stayed active worked out about 3 to 4 times a week. then my body weight reduced. I think it was more rest and fasting helped alot with this.

    • @Merdenoms
      @Merdenoms 2 года назад +3

      She looks good. PERIOD! Regardless of her age.

    • @lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64
      @lifespanwellnessbeauty-60i64 2 года назад +1

      @@Merdenoms Thank you! How are 50+ women supposed to look? Like death warmed over or something? Why do people feel the need to add "for your age," as if they aren't supposed to?

  • @ypayne9871
    @ypayne9871 2 года назад

    Thank you for being transparent!!! It is great to hear people being honest and not coming across as a "robot" you are human and we appreciate that.

  • @Sunshine-ye4xz
    @Sunshine-ye4xz 2 года назад +3

    I’m the second to respond!!! She encourages me all the time!!!!

    • @MelissaNeill
      @MelissaNeill  2 года назад +1

      That's great to hear!

    • @Sunshine-ye4xz
      @Sunshine-ye4xz 2 года назад

      @@MelissaNeill Oh my Goodness!!!! You responded!!! Such an honor!!!!!!

  • @angel22208
    @angel22208 Год назад

    Hi Melissa,
    Just wanted to say, I appreciate your honesty. I'm 45 and have fibromyalgia. And I have been struggling with fatigue.
    Thanks to you, I realised that a low calorie diet isn't making it any better. You're inspiring so many women across the world 🌎 keep up the good work. ❤

  • @costelladenisegreen1231
    @costelladenisegreen1231 2 года назад +5

    Thanks much! Please get well, heal, and pace yourself Melissa. I appreciate your honesty and realness with us. I got COVID-19 July 15th and am just getting well with a little energy. At 54 I thought something was wrong with me and am glad to hear I’m not alone and that it’s fine to heal properly before jumping back into intense strength training. I’m eating well (working on increased protein still) and walking with a weighted vest. I love your videos and outfits. Get well Queen!

  • @jdmingioni
    @jdmingioni 2 года назад +2

    I’ve been really fortunate. At 54 I’m am peri menopausal but not experiencing too many symptoms. I am vegan and eat WFPB. I think that really really helps along with plenty of carbs for energy and I’m a personal trainer on my feet and working every day for 6+ hours of workouts.

  • @tammyphillips3334
    @tammyphillips3334 2 года назад +10

    Great video. I recently started back and did just as you suggested with just walking then added weights the next week. It is hard for us women to take care of ourselves as we always take care of everyone else before ourselves. Thanks for taking your time to share this with us.

  • @joymitchell5446
    @joymitchell5446 2 года назад +1

    I totally agree with you Melissa I have been so tired of late. I will be 60 in October and I have been experiencing dips in my energy so I am just starting to listen to my body. Love walking love your recipes especially the bake bean one and love your motivation.

  • @robinbetts5480
    @robinbetts5480 2 года назад +1

    This was right on time. I feel like something is going on atmospherically everywhere when the collective is fatigued...

  • @ivelissesandel6887
    @ivelissesandel6887 2 года назад

    I am 51 and I have been truly unmotivated! Thanks for this video. My Dr's keep telling there is nothing wrong with me, I don't feel like myself, I know it's menopause!

  • @lindaschwartz504
    @lindaschwartz504 2 года назад +1

    Yes I feel often fatigued and slept 9 1/2 hours last night. I was able to workout 🏋️‍♀️ with my coach and Do an hour of Zumba cardio too. Not so easy when I am too tired like yesterday. Menopause is hard on me. I do feel better most days, but lately I’ve been extremely exhausted.

  • @saladandcake7103
    @saladandcake7103 2 года назад +5

    Thank you Melissa! It's important to know about how to adjust on those days when we don't feel 100%. Sometimes cutting back on workouts is hard because we feel like we're being lazy. But our bodies are sending a clear message to slow down and be gentle with ourselves.

  • @Eelah3
    @Eelah3 2 года назад

    Thank you for share this. I am noticing that I am experiencing more intense fatigue right before my period starts. Then a I get a burst of get energy for maybe 2 weeks then the fatigue comes. It was not like this before. So I am thinking menopause is getting closer. Please continue to offer more content like this so women over 40 can continue to be healthy and active. I love being active and need all the tips I can get.