@Erika R Well. I don’t know if you’re full of shit or not but at least you have youth, presumed health, and beauty and it looks like independence and stability. I don’t mean to downplay whatever you feel or are going through but: I recommend the movie Threads, and as usual, the small things that bring you happiness. It helps because I do know what you’re feeling and have many years of experience in that mindset. I feel for your generation because we all failed you guys as my generation has been failed. We’ve been duped and lied to by a lot of people with swaths of money, influence, and power & given very little guidance or…you might just need to do some soul searching: contemplate and meditate on what you want out of life and the things that interest you. Then learn to capitalize on it and find a secondary skill. You can most definitely find something, someone, or peers out there that fits you if you’re willing to explore. Everything is hard and takes work and reasonable judgement IMO. The mental barriers and hoops and loops and behaviors are tricky. There’s no reason to buy into the stupid trends online or whatever group is spitting nonsense, instincts. There’s a wonderful world out there with a rich history to explore. It’s also nice to learn & explore and fully operate and harness the power of your mind and body. Eventually, the only thing you’ll want is money, skills, home, your main interest, a partner, and whatever floats your boat sexually. Then it’s probably just creature comforts, stability, people close to share life with, peace, and health. Depends on the path, some people want a family or to be celibate, and all that’s okay too. So, I hope these words help anyone who reads them as well as our host. Cheers.
Being 22 with no prospects or plans isn't a huge deal. You're still super young and plenty of people with plans at 22 don't actually wind up sticking to those plans at all.
I'm way younger. I'm only 55. I too don't know what I'm going to do when i grow up. Some people are able to stay young for a long time. I love the way I am and I love the way I live my life.
No direction IS a problem! In generations past, women were married by 20, having kids, and running a household. Nowadays we think living with parents until 30, starting to look for a husband at 40, living alone, and dying with a cat is OK. It isn't! People need to change their attitudes about their entitlements, as this woman is finding. The modern day feminist has told her she can have it all, and that is a bunch of crap!
To be brutally honest, time is always depreciating if you're a women. Especially if you want to have kids. Every year that goes by puts you into a slimmer and slimmer selection pools of viable mates, on top of growing infertility. The average conception time for a 30 year old couple is almost a year now. Life does get harder if you fail to take advantage of connections in your prime. Eventually your parents die, your colleagues change jobs, and your friends move on to different life stages. Married women with children don't typically hang around with women that aren't in the same life stage. That may sound cruel, but it's the truth. It only ends up being awkward when you have less and less to relate to. Being single and separate is not a solution; it's a social media trend that ends in depression. Sure, there are some A Class type people that can run their company and live alone forever and die happy, but they are rare. Sitting around waiting for things to happen is the ultimate way to end up with nothing.
Nerds responding to me: you're right, being directionless in life isn't good for anyone, especially women who all too quickly lose the ability to be mothers. My initial comment isn't that it's okay to wait until you're 40 to get a direction in life. That's dumb. The point is that it's stupid be feel hopeless. I don't black-pill in life. She has 45+ years of life ahead of her to be without hope.
I’m Don and I’m 83 years old. If you cannot find a particular passion, then try this. Look around find something you can do really well. You don’t have to necessarily love it, but you will be paid for it because you’re good at it. Then see what happens it’s a beginning. Don’t give up.
Hey Don, you are right, but you don't have to do it well. Sometimes, you can try to do something totally out of your wheelhouse. My dad used to challenge me. Now I have to challenge myself. I'll eat the same thing in a resturant everytime, so sometimes I let other people order first then I copy their order. An old boss would ask me what I wanted for lunch, I'd tell him to choose. You are right though, busy busy bust, and you have no time for dark thoughts, or loneliness
"Look around find something you can do really well. "========My passion turned out to be something I knew nothing about until I started learning more and more about it and only did well over Time.
I'm sorry Don, but your advice used to be a good advice when you were young. But today it means absolute jack shit, because times are so different. World is moving a lot faster now than it did in your days Don. By the time she finds passion, her passion might already be obsolete. In the next decade we will see so many jobs being lost to AI. We need to rethink the whole society.
Good advice, except for the getting paid for it part. You can find a passion that is not rewarding economically, like painting, making music, etc. Look for your passion, but don't necessarily have the barometer be an economic measurement.
I can ID with you. I’m 81 yo and I to roamed through life aimlessly. Multiple jobs, a few short careers, married with 2 kids and 4 grandchildren. At the end of the day everything turned out fine and it will with you. Your youth is your biggest asset right now. You can fail more then once and still have plenty of time to recover. Good luck!
@@adammorris2265 It's not a fixed age, as you get older though it has to become a factor in your goal setting. When you are 35-40 provided you are healthy you can realistically set a goal that requires 20 years of vigor and sustained input. when you get older than that, and depending on how you are doing healthwise, that may not be as prudent. You may think, I might only have 10-15 years of the required vigor left. It depends on the personal situation of the individual. Eventually you just won't be able to do all the things you could when you were younger, and your body won't tolerate the abuse anymore, but I would encourage anyone to push that limit as far as they sensibly can within their own limitations.
Erika, be very careful putting yourself out there like this on social media. There are alot of caring people like myself wanting to help you but, a lot more that want to hurt you. Life deals most people a foul hand so don't feel alone. I'm over 60, no friends, legally blind - but I still smile... things could be worse.
I know people with Low Vision. For what it is worth, I admire you for interacting with this audio/visual platform and posting a comment. "Keep the Faith"!
You are young, able-bodied, not in jail, not pregnant, and have all the opportunities this world has to offer. Take your sweet time figuring out what to do with your life. You are allowed to try things, hate one thing, try another, change your mind, screw things up, ask for a do over, and do it all over again. Life and career are not a straight line nor a ladder. Its more of a curvy trail full of rocks, rain, sunshine, tripping, falling, getting up, and no clue where it will lead you. Life will work out in the end, guaranteed.
You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don’t rush your life by. Take your time and find what makes you happy. Then do it. If you like to cook, go to chef school or baking/ dessert school. The sky is the limit for you! You can be anything you want to be and do anything you want to do. I have all the faith in you to follow your heart and go for it. It is kind of like marriage. Don’t marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you cannot live without! Find what lights the fire in your heart and you have your answer. If you need someone to talk to there are those you can reach out to. Just smile. It will make those around you feel better and you will feel better when they smile back at you. Take care of yourself and keep your chin up and Smile😊
I am a United States Special Forces Naval Officer and I have been overseas on 8 Missions that each one lasted anywhere from 12-14 months in Both Afghanistan and Iraq. Cannot talk about details but the pain and horror that travels with me to this day remains. I fully understand what you mean more then you know. Believe me when I tell you this, you can overcome anything that comes your way. Always believe in yourself as I have combatted these feelings. May God bless you always and please Be Safe.
You may be suffering PTSD? However, it is possible to escape the bad memories. To have them as a resource, but for them not to be your present day master. A brilliant way to remove the pain is Paul McKenna Official | The Havening Technique. Search for this title on RUclips, thus give it a whirl and remove your day devils forever. Good luck on your journey.
Thank you for your service. My brother in law was a Army Ranger, and retired as Colonel with 35 years enlisted, he served in Iraq and Afghanistan for several tours. My nephew is now a Sargent in the National Guard as a Helicopter Mechcanic and has served three tours Kuwait and Afghanistan. My family has been blessed not to have any deaths or serious injuries from their military service.
As a 63 year old male, who has been through it all and who has been married for 37 years now, you have everything it takes to make it big in life. Keep doing what you love and keep an even keel. Distrust novelties and keep your eyes open. Not everyone is an asshole, but keep your third eye open to con artists and losers. Some of the most charming people are the ones you have to worry about. Stay 100% natural and never compromise yourself to others. Your happiness depends on your ability to live life according to your own desires and beliefs. Never agree with anyone else’s beliefs just to fit in. Never get any tattoos or cosmetic horrors done. Live outside the box and live your best life as you see fit.
Hi Erika, I am a 73 year old man with some life experience. At 17 I joined the Army and never had an issue of needing a goal since. I am not suggesting you seek a military job. I suggest finding a church where you can volunteer in some ministry. Maybe serving food to needy people. Maybe visiting the sick in the hospital. Maybe visiting people in a personal care home. Maybe visiting people in hospice care. Maybe teaching pre-school to youngsters. When you volunteer to help others, the focus moves onto them and away from oneself. You are precious and special. I see great potential in you. Ask God to guide you. Blessings to you. Gordon
Yes I agree wholeheartedly with this advice. For myself I wish that I joined the army (South African), too old now. But serving others is probably a better way to get direction in ones own life, as well as being in the Lords service will definitely add value to ones own life too.
This is the best advice I have heard in a long time .I'm knocking on 65 and you will never ever go wrong with having a true relationship with God let him lead you the peace is really beyond your understanding.
I also joined the army at 17. Gordon's advice is solid. The more you make yourself your primary focus, the more anxiety you will feel. Focus on what you can do for others, not what they think of you. Even as an atheist, I also recommend finding community through church and being in the service of others. Then learn to treat yourself as you would treat others you care about. I know it's hard to see, but things will fall into place for you. I wish you the best.
Hey Erika, there’s some very good advice in the comments and I’d summarise by saying; 1. Don’t think other people have it all figured out compared to you, most people are bumping along in life just trying to survive. 2. Try to figure out what you enjoy and do more of it; if that involves an occupation brilliant but sometimes an occupation can just be for paying the bills and you can follow any passions outside of work in your spare time and there’s nothing wrong with this. 3. Helping other people less advantaged than yourself really helps to put some context into your life and shifts the focus away from your own problems. Finally, my observations on your skills are that you’re honest, articulate, intelligent and your own struggles mean that you’ll have an empathy for others. These are already “super powers” when it comes to embarking on life’s journey and it is just that, a journey of experiences. Hope this helps in some way. My 3 kids have all found challenges in their 20’s. Best wishes from the UK
Excellent advice, and I can personally vouch for your third point: helping others led to hugely rewarding perspective in my life. Maybe there are some older people in your neighborhood that could use a quick assist with their lawn care or household maintenance. Maybe volunteer at a community center or food bank. This actions will create calm and give you learned experiences that may shape some of your own goals in life.
heartily agree with number two. I think you perform at a job better when you are energized even with a hobby outside of work which many times become lucrative. And yes, many parents of young adults say the same...it is the times.
Erica, I'm a few years older than you and I can say life changes all the time. Ive been a Karate teacher for 40 years, an electronic technician, a Police officer to a boat mechanic, and much more. The saying "Go with the flow" is a good motto. A few tips; 1. No alcohol 2. No drugs 3. Read books 4. Join a sport/club 5. Surround yourself with positive people. You have a lot of positive comments, im sure you're on the right track for success. Best of luck from Australia.
By no Alcohol and No Drugs you mean no PTSD. It is not the Drugs. It is the pain. American Medical Schools teach addiction is a symptom of PTSD. Dr. Lonny Shavelson in his book "Heroin" said that 70% of female heroin addicts had been sexually abused in childhood.Drugs fill receptors. What empties receptors (injury, PTSD) causes a desire for drugs. Drugs CAN'T cause addiction. Pass it on.
That's how I(34) have been feeling all my life long and probably always will. It’s due to my chronical learning disability. My IQ is approx 80. I got tested twice in school. It is mainly because my mother drunk alcohol during her pregnancy (FASD spectrum/Fetal Alcohol Syndrome). Everything is harder in my life. No matter how hard I try, I always fail. I needed to visit special ed class till 18, I never had many friends, I never had the ability to visit college or achieve high education, I only work at sign holder jobs...or fast food...I also never had a girlfriend and probably never will. All I always wanted is to have a job I like, some friends and an own family. Instead I'm alone with nothing and no one.
You are seen from God. Reach to him. "God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things-and the things that are not-to nullify the things that are,"
I sucked at high school, had a girlfriend for 2 hours before she dumped me and i feel like nobody cares about me and nobody sees me. I'm smart enough to be an amateur programmer but dumb enough to do nothing with it. I have some skills but I don't know how to use them to make a better life. Im completely socially useless, live in a hole and i'm a failure of a man and a human being. I sometimes feel like I am not human or that I do not belong in this reality.
Giving yourself over to nonsense fairy tales achieves nothing. Religion is an opiate and a social virus, stop rrying to spread your disease to vulnerable people. I know you cant as youre infected and thats part of the disease, but you need to know youre part of the problem, get help, rejoin reality, religion is a trap and a prison.
24 year old no-lifer here too. No job, no career prospects, no passions. My advice (for what its worth) is to just do something. Literally anything. This channel is already a great step in the right direction. The more things you try the more opportunities start to unfold, or don’t, but you learn things along the way.
As Jordan Peterson would say, "Start making your bed in the morning!" Grow up and take responsibility for yourself. She is young enough to recover, but she better change her attitude. Life crushes people like her.
As a 40 year old who had no idea what I was going to do for a career until I was 29, this is great advice. The more blocks you walk, the more streets you get to turn down. Pretty soon you’ll have gotten farther than you thought possible.
@@ilia2178 Discipline means nothing other than 1. having a whiteboard 2. writing down the tasks on it 3. completing them one after the other, with sufficient time off
@@ilia2178 Discipline is what you need after you've accepted an opportunity to make your life better. Discipline by itself does nothing more than keep you locked in at whatever level you are.
I’m 50 and feel a failure. But I did learn some things, I’d love to be 22 again. I have 4 pieces of advice. 1. Travel. 2. Read. 3. Do something that makes you uncomfortable every week. 4. Learn how to determine reality so you don’t waste your valuable time on fantasies. Apply the scientific method to everything you think you know and test everything you’re told for logical fallacies. You do this and you will learn more about yourself and what you want out of life. My problem is I learnt this too late. I only have 20-30 years left. Too little time to make a difference.
It's not too late for you. You may be getting better slowly, but you clearly know at least four things that you didn't before! Sure it's too late to become an Olympic athlete, but you probably never had a shot at the presidency and that's nothing to be disappointed by. Maybe you can make a companion channel to this one?
@@AndyBHomethanks for saying this. I'm also 50 and in a comparable position. Only now have I been diagnosed with AAD, and I was medically retired in 2022 @ age 48. I really loved my job and the nature of it suited my condition so well that I believe it to be the reason that it wasn't noticed in my adult years. So being at home all the time it surfaced in a way that frustrates most people around me and I frequently feel quite useless. Getting my life back on track is really challenging and hearing someone say it's not too late is a welcome motivation.
For a ‘failure’, you gave some of the best and succinct advice I’ve seen, here… I sure as hell don’t want to be 22, again (grin!). I’d sure as hell like to be with twenty-something girls but I guess I probably wouldn’t make any sense in their lives. Gather ye rosebuds while ye may. We ‘failures’ should stick together, though. Fifty is a little young to be giving up! I’m seventy and I’m still kicking ass and taking names. I just spent the last six years as a medical train-wreck. Right now, I’m still trying to figure out how I could be with a 33-year-old girl that I fell in love with when she had just turned 27. If _I_ was still ‘50’, I’d be a shoe-in for that 33-year-old girl! I could probably even talk her into making babies with me!
Life is about learning. Even at 80 or 90, if you have learned through experience, then your life has not been wasted, and you carry that experience and what you have learned with you, hopefully, on into a better and more peaceful existence.
@@AndyBHomenot about me, my comment was for this young lady, things are a lot harder for the young with social media and all. It is making a lot of lonely people as they don’t have real relationships because most of their interactions are online, or through texts. So many people live through their phone these days, even if they are in company.
I noticed your description said, "...share my life *in hopes that it can help someone else*." I think you can build on that. Sometimes serving others is a great reminder of our own value.
I tried everything for years. Owned several businesses and failed in my 20's. Joined the Air Force at 29 and traveled the world for 7 years. I was a mechanic, drove semi's, sales, tower climber, HVAC tech, realtor. Name it, I quit every job and started something else. Been to several colleges & trade schools. In the end, all those skills made me a successful landlord. Took a long time to get there but in the end, found my passion. You have to go to work and start somewhere. Never quit trying, you will be successful. I'm late 60's now. All worked out.
I feel like I was 22 last year, but I’m 63 now. I have done so much in that time and have no regrets. I always stayed true to myself and never had to question myself. If I had to do it again, there is little I would change. Life is incredibly complicated, but the pieces come together on their own.
Hey Erika this is what helped me at your age...all on my own..I studied food and wine,started working in a restaurant,taught myself guitar,started eating healthy,started working out,bought a bike and NEVER looked back. Now I'm 59 now,still play guitar,still work out,and I ride my bike 6 miles to the restaurant I work...no college education,no drugs,just me and my determination to exceed MYSELF!! Cooking sounds like a great idea,I love to cook as well..There's a RUclips channel called Food Wishes,it's a fantastic channel. It's perfectly normal to be lost and to feel despair,just don't wallow in it. You'll be just fine Erika❤
Best advice I got from a college professor on graduating was stated in a kindly agitated voice: "…why are so many of you so focused on your "careers"? You don't even know what your real talents and interests are yet and won't until you're 30." At your current age of 22, all you've ever done is follow somebody else's roadmap. You're finally free. Enjoy it because now is when the real learning begins. And just know that you will always be making it up as you go, relying on experience and intuition or instinct. It's what we do - just don't pretend it's otherwise, and you'll be much happier than if you think you ever really figured it out completely.
Read a Bible. It's proven to be the best source of wisdom. That's really what we need. Observance of commandments is Where's it is at. Acknowledgement of a creator is where it's at. Cooking is good, yes, but there has to be a foundation or it means nothing. Really enjoyed your valunarbillity.
I too am 53. I have tried many things. I became good at some things and great at a few. Never stop learning! Life is a journey full of ups and downs, twists and turns. I nearly lost my life in a car accident a few months ago so now I strive to enjoy my time left with those few people close to me. We never know when our last day will be so we should enjoy life while we still can! Find pleasure in the small things.
I was in a similar position once, I went into the army, then worked on ships, have worked as a waiter, a porter in a hotel, a night manager in a hotel, on emergency ambulances, been a carer for someone who became disabled, been a charity worker, a bus driver and am currently a project manager. In between all those jobs I have been a traveller, unemployed due to ill health and due to companies I worked for closing down. I have failed many times at things like starting my own business and at the age of 50 I have no regrets as everything has taught me valuable lessons. Ultimately I could have given up so many times in life such as when I had nothing but the clothes on my back and was living on the streets. You still have the possibilities that life will provide you over the next few decades to figure things out, as long as you find peace and a degree of happiness in life then you have some of the best blessing you can ever get.
I used to be a son, brother, coworker, boyfriend, husband, father, and grandfather. Of all the names I have been called, "grandpa" was my favorite. I think you will be SOMEBODY if you just push a child on a park swing.
When i was young, i felt lost. Asking myself, why am i here? Where did i come from? Where am i heading? A guy at work tried to tell me about Jesus; I didn't want to listen. Then twenty years later, after making many mistakes, i woke up and listened. He has the answers.
Hi Erika. Im 68. I graduated HS in 1973, dropped out of college 18 mo later, lived off my parents doing nothing for 6 months. My mom forced me to go to a temp agency in NYC. I had no idea what I wanted or liked. They sent be to a brokerage firm. I met people, mostly good, enjoyed learning about stocks and bonds, and ended up making it a career. Good thing about temp agencies is they send you to different businesses and most times a business will hire you from the agency, so you get to experience different paths. Pay sucks in the beginning, but the exposure is great. You are very well spoken, which if I were interviewing you would be a huge plus. You also may be a bit depressed. Therapy could help. Its expensive, but most companies have it as part of their wellness coverage. Hang in there. Please be careful of folks taking advantage of young women, now that you are out there.
You are so young at 22, you've weathered a learning phase. You're at the age where you've learned enough to learn. Start where you stand, with what you have, now. You say you have nothing. Not true. You have realization that you need new direction. You have compassion for others in your situation. Many in all sorts of successful and unsuccessful situations never possess compassion. You cannot teach that. So there's that in your favor. Cooking, like any creative art (painting, writing, playing music, sewing, etc.) helps and changes you. The sustained act of creation changes you, and changes how you see yourself. Hang in there. You are so very young and have a lifetime to let things play out. ♥
this is half the problem: Boomers and Gen X'ers simply will not allow Millenials or Gen Z'ers to grow up. I'm almost 40 and they still call me young, or a kid....
@@phillyunrau4736 i mean, to me it just looks like any given kitchen in a 2 bedroom apartment. Nice, but nothing special. It's just clean. Not saying you're wrong, but its just funny that something like that is considered luxury now... simply amazing how Boomers and Gen X'ers have utterly destroyed the furture for anyone millenial and onward. Sad times ahead, i especially feel for the younger white Gen Z guys, their future is bleak...
She is not so young at 22 LOL. Stop telling people in their 20s that they are young. You could say that it is not late to start sth from scratch in their life.
The fact that you are willing to put yourself out there like this already shows me that you are a lot less lost than you may think. You mentioned that you want to run this channel for people so that everyone can learn together which shows empathy and the willingness to give up your time for the benefit of others. Everyone without exception has something to contribute to the world Erika. You have proven this by making this channel and this video. In many respects you are ahead of others your age, because you have not chosen a career just for the sake of choosing a career. You are young. Take your time. Try many things until you find something you truly enjoy. Although it may feel like you have been left behind in life, just remember life is not a race and everyone is on their own journey. Don't look outward to see what others are doing, look inward and listen to what your heart tells you, because although your mind may sometimes mislead you, your heart never will.
One of the most honest things I've ever seen on RUclips. Thank you for sharing this and just know, it gets better. I felt the same way at your age but 10 years later, things had worked out really well. Stay the course, you're good!
I was in the same boat at 19 , loads of dead end jobs, no skills, no education, no girlfriend. I joined the Air Force and learned a trade as a heavy vehicle mechanic. I only did 6 years in the air force but it set me up for life and one thing has led to another and I’ve lived all over the world and had a great life from fixing buses in Australia to fire trucks in the uk . It’s just getting that first step moving, after that it’s like a snowball rolling, but you’ve got to really push out of your comfort zone and grab every opportunity that comes remotely near you, trust me they will.
Same, sort of. Was 21. Joined the Navy. Makes you grow up, become independent. Got married, had two kids, got into the police academy, got a career, bought a house, kept my head down, kept my nose clean, went to work everyday for 30 years, now I’m close to retirement, 6 grandkids - a life well led. The military was Step 1.
You are young, beautiful, open and honest about yourself. Explore and find something that makes you happy. I am 65 and still not sure what I am doing with the rest of my life but I wish I had pursued something I enjoyed rather than doing what others thought was best when I was 22.
@@seangriffiths8036 That's an utterly asinine comment. The guy posts an entirely supportive comment on a video of someone who's struggling and you claim to know without a doubt that the guy is manipulative. If nothing else, give people the benefit of the doubt. If, in the extreme, none of us can do that for each other then we'll create a very depressing world indeed.
@@minimal3734 Thanks for your free analysis….that saves me paying a shrink. This girl is wallowing in her own self pity in spite of her clear intelligence and persuasion skills. We can either feed her self pity or try to shake her out of it.
@@jeffevio my comment is not against @leelawrence3379….its against the poster of this video. She is manipulative and obviously quite intelligent. Don’t feed her self pity. She needs to harden up. Evolution does not favour the weak.
Hi, Erika. I don't know why RUclips suggested your video, but I'm glad it did. I found your honesty refreshing. My heart goes out to you. I felt your discomfort through the screen and want you to know that you're not alone. You're going through some stuff, and it's OK and normal to feel how you're feeling. I'm encouraged by the direction you chose to move. Instead of sitting and moping, you were vulnerable and made forward momentum. You'll continue to fumble along - that's part of the journey. But, you'll grow and get better. That's also part of the journey. May God bless you and shine his face upon you.
stopping by quickly to say respect. for the honesty and the acountability to yourself. always a great start like this! no irony hope you do well and have fun on this journey
I'm 52. I never felt like life had any meaning. Raising a child gives you a focus, but once they're grown up and don't need you anymore, life has no meaning again
Truth! My house is empty. So, I've gone deep into work and a couple of hobbies to make up for the emptiness. My surround sound system has never been better even though it is a constant work-in-progress. All the very best to you and yours.
I had this existential crisis pursuing philosophy and religion and so on until I realized just how incredibly simple the answer was: you are a biological organism and your purpose is to gather and consume resources to propagate your life. that is your human function. it sounds cynical but if you think it through all the things that they say are "wholesome" in life such as friends and family and charity and so on are in reality means of gathering to yourself support and to do what? to gather resources more reliably so you can put food in your face lol. i used to despair at this notion though because i thought wow so at the bottom of it we're all constituted to kill and maim each other to take their stuff?? but then i realized that in reality, the opposite is true. we are constituted to work cooperatively to procure most effectively the greatest amount of resources. that's basically what civilization is. the bible makes clear that the choice is not between morality vs. non-morality per se but rather the choice between LIFE and DEATH. but then what of the martyrs of history? well martyrs did not gleefully fling themselves into death. they simply couldn't accept the cost of living, akin to for instance a parent who might throw himself in front of a train to save his young son.
I was helping a friend move a barn when I was 25. One day we were doing our morning coffee chat and planning what to do next. He finally said “Well, let’s do SOMETHING, even if it’s wrong.”
Your honesty, vulnerability, and decency are THE foundational moorings of a successful and happy life to come. You are valuable as being you. I came to this country 49 years ago with nothing. Literally, other than the clothes on my back. I ended up graduating from law school, finding a wonderful wife, and raising a precious child, which would have never happened when I seriously thought of quitting. Please don't. You have too much beauty and promise. Thanks for sharing, and God bless you.
You are young go volunteer someplace. Help in a children's hospital. You will cry with joy seeing how upbeat kids are without legs or maybe arms. Make yourself help orhers. I enjoyed every thing you have said. God bless you. You are beautiful and gave gorgeous hair.
Absolutely! Volunteerism will also give you skills, both work and social. Help you build a personal community that could also be a support when you need one. Your situational recognition at 22 is a big deal. Stay honest with yourself and true to yourself. I try to live by the concept: “Be the man you want to be” That means I imagine the best possible me and everyday take steps and actions, sometimes very small steps, to move towards or at least not fall back from my goal. You can do that too. Get out in the world and try things. Not everything will stick or even turn out to be your cup of tea. But get out daily. Don’t just stay home. Maybe take a single night class, on a topic that interests you, at Community college or elsewhere. You have time on your side. Take advantage of that. You can do this. Good luck!
Oh wow, that's wonderful. It doesn't feed her or pay the bills. She can find a way to help people and get paid so that she can be self sufficient. Work at an auto parts store or hardware store or try learning HVAC or become an electrician. Step out of the traditional female jobs.
Consider volunteering as an assistant for a youth sport team (eg: Little League Baseball). You don't have to understand the game; you just have to be there to help out and support the kids. You have great communication skills. The kids will benefit from having you there. Their parents will appreciate all that you do. NOTE: While helping out, NEVER TOUCH your cell phone. Just leave it in the car when you get to the game, or the practice. Focus on the moment and where you are. Don't ever miss any of the team activities. The kids will love having you there. I did this at 21 when I left home and moved to Alberta (Canada). I coached minor hockey for the next 12 years. It was fantastic!😊
A beautiful, blue-eyed blonde. My god, woman, you were born on third base! Whatever you set your mind and hands to, success is almost inevitable, you would have to actively TRY to fail. This cooking/baking thing is a good idea, and I'm sure you'll have lots of viewers. In only eleven days, you already have over 4400 subs, myself among them! That's more than 400 per day! You're going to be just fine.
Go outside every day and sit in the sun (which I think you already do), and enjoy it. Smell the flowers, do some yoga, take your book and read outside. There’s so much I would do if I had the time!
I am a retired teacher. But, I didn't get there the normal way. I went to college after HS and did horribly. I quit. But, I didn't let that destroy me. Instead, I enrolled in electronics school. I had to be there every day. That helped me tremendously. In college I had zero time management skills. Electronics school forced me to get them. After 8 years my company was sold. So, I decided it was a sign and returned to college at 28 years old to complete my teaching degree. We often look around and think that those we see around us are so together. In fact, most people have failures. Failures should be used to improve yourself, not to put yourself down. Without failures we don't learn. One observation I've made over 32 years of teaching is that often people like you are very creative, but don't know how to channel that to their benefit. Keep this channel going and keep being creative with it. Maybe you'll find your calling in this field. I hope you do. Good luck!!
Some very good points. I flunked out of college, got into the Army, learned technician electronics, grew up, went to engineering college with positive energy. In my 20s I was creative, and _fearless_. I didn't analyze decisions to death. Luckily they were growth-ful decisions, not potentially dangerous ones.
@@charliejg Under 25, we're all pretty stupid. I hate to admit it, but I matured in 3 years in Army + got married while in. It wasn't anything special about the military that helped me grow, it was learning a skill and having a job and just getting older. I was motivated to do college homework the second time around at 23, to get a better job.
Erika, I am a 63 year old male. I pretty much lived a wasted life. I never found my passion. As a result, I ended up working at a job I hated. I'm retired now, but even now that I have all the time in the world to find a passion, I can't seem to even do that. The one thing I know is, I wish I could learn to smile more. People are attracted to smiles. No one likes to hang with a frowner like me. I think it is too late for me to change, but you are young. Light up the world with your smile and soon doors will open up for you! 🙂
J e s u s John 14: 5 Thomas *said to Him, “Lord, we do not know where You are going, how do we know the way?” 6 Jesus *said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me. Hebrews 2: 4 God also testifying with them, both by signs and wonders and by various miracles and by gifts of the Holy Spirit according to His own will. John 8: 12 Then Jesus again spoke to them, saying, “I am the Light of the world; he who follows Me will not walk in the darkness, but will have the Light of life.” John 14: 21 He who has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me. John 7: 15 The Jews then were astonished, saying, “How has this man become learned, having never been educated?” 16 So Jesus answered them and said, “My teaching is not Mine, but His who sent Me. 17 If anyone is willing to do His will, he will know of the teaching, whether it is of God or whether I speak from Myself. 18 He who speaks from himself seeks his own glory; but He who is seeking the glory of the One who sent Him, He is true, and there is no unrighteousness in Him. 19 “Did not Moses give you the Law, and yet none of you carries out the Law? Why do you seek to kill Me?” 20 The crowd answered, “You have a demon! Who seeks to kill You?” You can start reading Scriptures (Bible) in New Testament: Gospel of John and/or Acts.
HuatulcoGuy, Try smiling at people like as if your smile is a gift to them with no strings attached. Even if you don’t feel like smiling. People love it when others smile at them. Put it into practice. Make it a habit. It’s very gratifying.
Everyone needs to focus on three things their entire life, Physical, Financial. & Intellectual goals. Life is better when you are Physically Fit, do physical activities every day, your choice, walk, run, bicycle, dance, karate, whatever u want. Life is better when you are Financially Secure, a person needs to learn to live on 50% income and save 50% income for emergencies & retirement. Life is better when you have the skills and intelligence to handle life's problems, this is continuous learning, what ever u want to learn, cooking, medical, electronics, mechanics, whatever u want to learn, you can spend the rest of your life learning new things and never know it all.
Many people feel alone and can't make sense of the purpose of life. I've struggled through life being jobless, wifeless and childless. Today I've turned to rehoming rescue cats which has brought purpose and meaning to my life. Being kind and helping another living soul is the best medicine against depression. My cat little boy BLUE fills that feeling of emptiness I once had. He's not just a cat he's my family. We share a special bond. Having a connection with animals is comforting and looking after their needs improves your own health and well-being. Take care.
I'm nearly 40 and I'm just about making it through life. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow. The worst pretense is social media with people attempting to post their perfect life for others to aspire to be. We're not perfect and everyone is going through stuff in their life.
22 years of age with no path? Get a job get motivated surround yourself with positive people and people who can give you direction. You have your whole life ahead of you the opportunities are endless. Get out there and get it.
Erika, you are a beautiful woman. You are worth a lot more than you think! Please consider looking for answers in the Bible. I struggled with loneliness and lack of direction until I discovered who and what Jesus Christ did for us. I now have an amazing church family and I now know where I belong. Please consider it. I will be praying for you!
...she say No discernible skills.. well she famous already .. a cooking 🍳 show and nice house 🏠 etc ... She not homeless..she is a scammer here ..a Fake ..
I understand the feeling of being "disconnected" from the world's flow. Knowing what to do, knowing what to want and knowing what to feel in life. People moving on, get kids, good jobs, loving partners... But the good thing is. You are not alone with this journey. A friend took me to a party, I'm member of a gym since last week (😅) and I try to connect, when I'm out with my dog. I wish you all the best on this journey. Try some things out, don't be afraid of breaks and time. It's okay to breathe and listen to the nature. And never let someone say you are not enough. I'm happy to found you and I will follow your path if you want to let us know. 💙
When I was a young man I was very much like you. My parents were poor. I tried to get a grant for college but poor white guys didn't get grants. I did hard labor jobs for a while and at some point I realized that if I did not do something soon I was doomed to live a life of ditch digging. After much thought and prayer, I joined the Army and picked a skill that I thought would serve me when I left the service (electronics). It did. The military can be a good shortcut and for 2 or 4 years of your life you can gain a skill that can be parlayed into a career. You will also learn things about yourself that you never realized along the way. If it makes you feel any better, you are quite typical of 95% of the human race. One other thing: if you feel 'alone' you might want to read the New Testament. Try it, what do you have to loose?
WOW, simply WOW. You have already crossed the first frontier Erika - putting this vlog out there. It's such a brave start, so bravo to you. And it is a great start. Your brutal honesty about yourself and why you are here, doing this, speaks volumes. Someone else has already commented that getting out there into the community would seem a good starting point too. For me, an introvert teen geek, it was getting involved in amatuer radio (being 'forced' to talk to the world and, for the icing on the cake, several voice contacts with the astronauts on the old MIR space station) - which then led me into Mountain Rescue ... and the rest is history (over 40 years service worth all told!). Doing this content creation is good too, as I've seen it help others by giving them frequent 'pauses' in their busy schedules, where they can review what they've done, their plans, etc. Wishing you all the best with any ventures you do try - and I'm looking forward to seeing how you get on. YOU GOT THIS!
OMG, you are so brave for real. I am 47, and I was in the same place at your age. The difference is that I kept it all in my head and thought I the odd ball out that had no path laid out for me. Getting this out of your head was the most challenging first step you could take. Great Job!!! I saw a few of your other videos, and you seem to be figuring things out. To this day, the most challenging question I could be asked is, "What do you like to do"? The advice I gave my son when he was young (now age 20) is the following: the secret to a happy life is to work to live, have enough money to pay your bills, save a little each month, and take a week's vacation each year. One piece of advice I'm currently working on is to wake up each day and consider what kind of day I WANT, not what I can do to get ahead or what will please my parents. It's about slowly carving out my own path, as I'm the only one who will walk it. May your personal exploration and development be filled with safety and happiness. Here's to your journey!
I'm 68 so I can listen to you from a very different perspective than you see yourself. You come across as being a very genuine person. Most people at 22 know less about were they are going or what they are doing than you. They are just not as self aware as you. I think this channel will be a big success for you! You got a lot more going for you than you think. Best of luck!
I started working "new construction" plumbing when I was in Jr. High during the summer. Four kids (2 boys & 2 girls) and a wife later, none of my kids were interested in plumbing. I told them to "find something CHALLENGING that most other people can't do... You'll get paid well to do it". I plumbed a local Craft Brewery and got my oldest son a job there pushing a broom, he now runs the brew house at a large Craft Brewery in So Calif. My daughter works in the ER as a Surgical Tech at Loma Linda University Ca... My youngest son did 5 yrs on an Air Craft Carrier (Theodor Roosevelt) and is joining the Fire Dept. My oldest daughter manages 2 Hotel Casinos in Sturgis S.D. Find something you like that most other people can't do....Your phone will ring and you'll get paid well to do it. Hope this helps...
It took both a lot of courage and a lot of humility to open up.about your situation. The first step in solving a problem is recognizing the problem. When I was 22,I was working part time at my uncle's sawmill,which was both dangerous and not enough money. I got a car,started delivering pizzas for Domino's,and eventually got my CDL and started truck driving. I have been trucking ever since,and have been all over the lower 48 states and parts of Canada. Life is difficult when you are young. Been there,done that. It gets better.
When I was 22, I was pretty much in the same boat you are now. No friends. No GF. My job was working nights at a wastewater treatment plant with no real chance for advancement. I tried college, but I kept changing my major from Art to Science and back again, over and over, so I wasted a lot of time. My only passions were reading (especially comic books), SFF, and drawing, with occasional forays into writing. But things will get better for you. You just have to persevere. You have to find your passion(s) and strive to make it (them) work for you. You say you like cooking and baking, and that you're planning on exploring that here on your channel. That's a good start. If you work at it, you could possibly make cooking a career in some way. As for myself, I finally figured out that all that stuff I learned in college could be used by becoming a teacher. My art and writing helped in this, too. While I definitely did NOT become rich, my students and their parents loved and respected me, and my colleagues respected me, too. In my spare time (what little teachers have - lol), I began writing short stories and doing illustrations for a magazine. From there, I started writing novels. My first novel - published as an ebook - got great reviews and won an award. My second novel was also published as an ebook, and it got great reviews, too. Now that I'm retired from teaching, I'm working on writing more novels, trying to get a literary agent to represent them so they can be published as real books, still reading a lot, and I'm learning to play the 6-hole pendant ocarina and the 17-key kalimba. You just have to find your passions and work at them. Even if you never get a job doing them, you and your family and friends can benefit from them while you work at whatever job to pay the bills and provide you with funding for those passions. You've no doubt heard this before, but your only 22. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you with plenty of time to figure things out. Take your time to find the things you love. I know it sounds trite, but you'll get there.
I am in my 30s and honestly, the whole having life figured out is overrated. The only thing to figure out in life is what makes you happy waking up everyday. That's it. You don't have to go save the world unless saving the world makes you happy. You don't have to settle down with 4 kids by X age unless it makes you happy. There is no point in pursuing the list of things everyone out there says is what a successful life means. It's all made up stuff that they think equates to a successful life. Just because it works for them doesn't mean it is what we must do. A real successful life is one where you are happy to get up everyday. As for things like not having friends or passion. I can relate to you 100% on that. I messed up my friendships and I never had the environment to develop a passion. So, now in my 30s, I decided to get out of my bubble. I am joining new hobby groups to try and find something I may like. You could try the same. If face to face interaction is too daunting. You can try out online hobby groups and slowly make your way to physical hobby groups. If a hobby doesn't fit your taste, there is no pressure to stay. You can move on to other hobbies. Eventually, you are going to gain some new friends and possibly find something you are actually passionate about.
Hi Erika. I’m a 47 year old guy from New Zealand. When I was 22 I fell into quite a deep depression for more than a year and felt suicidal. Looking back there were a number of reasons why this happened but mostly it was the lack of direction in life and feeling worthless and unliked. I had trouble expressing myself and emotions, even just basic conversations with people I found hard. I only just stumbled upon this video of you now, you are very articulate and your plan of trying to learn some new things and document it sounds like fun and a nice thing to do. I’ll be watching and hope to learn something from you. Incidentally, I’m self employed now and loving life. Best wishes from NZ.
Hi Erika, I relate a lot to where you are at 22 years old. I was in a similar place when I was your age. I completely wasted my high school years, not taking advantage of my education and not planning a career. I just hated school and wanted my "real" life to start. A few years later I found myself bouncing from one low-paying job after another with no viable path for financial independence or transferable skills. The thought of going to college seemed horrible - I had no real ambition or career path in mind. My friends had all moved on. I was battling debilitating depression. I don't have wonderful advice. I ultimately just chose a career path and went to college for it. It was extremely challenging. Life got tougher before it got better but what I can say is that things will work out for you - and all the hard work was absolutely worth it. You've got lots of time to course correct. You will look back at this time and be so grateful for how far you've come. Just be willing to make the sacrifices and work hard. If you are willing, everything will turn out good. Sorry for rambling. Hope this helps. I would have been very grateful for some guidance and advice when I was in your position. All I can do is offer the same if you'd like.
No, you "found," or more accurately "chose" a superstition out of the thousands that exist that gives you a false sense of comfort with no real meaning. That would be fine except religious people just can't keep it to themselves.
Hi Erika, You're a beautiful and intelligent young woman. You can do anything. Remember what Willy Shakespeare said: The world is a stage and everyone on it is an actor. Just because others seem to have everything perfect in their lives does not mean they do! Life is a journey through a difficult world. Just start moving, like you have with the cooking, and see what opportunities pop up. All the very best in your journey.
A couple of thoughts: 1. We make our own purpose 2. Don’t look for happiness, it’s fleeting. Instead, strive for contentment, the middle ground between the highs and lows. 3. When you are down, commit to some sort of service to others less fortunate. It’s therapeutic. 4. Life isn’t a competition or a race. Follow your passion, if and when you find it. 5. Learn to like yourself. What are your strengths and weaknesses? 6. Learn about stoic philosophy. Minimize the negative, and maximize the positive. 7. Life is not fair. 8. One day at a time. Those are a start. Good luck. ❤
Agree with everything but 4 and 6. 4. Don't follow your passion, follow your interests. 6. Stoicism has a lot of good stuff but it's just the internet bandwagon right now. Actual Stoicism (not the one Holiday trys to sell) has it's flaws and there are much better philosophies out there.
We’ve all struggled with this, especially at your age. Try this - if you could snap your fingers and make it happen, what would you be? No limits, no self-doubt, just what you would want to be. Once you know that, work backwards on every precursor and prerequisite that would take, and what those steps would take, etc. keep working backward until today - and now you know what your first step is. Take it, and don’t look back!!!
Awww! And you're so pretty! 😊 I feel for you, and I understand how people can have trouble finding their purpose in life these days, with all of the complications and high expenses of choosing and starting a career. One solution is to seek God, try to live the way he wants us to, and he can guide you, and possibly even send someone to help you in your journey. Praying for you 🙏
Your introspection is amazing for only being 22. I have no doubt you will find your path. Keep asking questions, and learning. The truth is that none of us know what we are doing. This thing called life is new to all of us. It's my first time too.
Erika when I was 22 I was a drunk and running away from Jesus. Then got sober at 35 and restored to sanity through Jesus Christ And AA . And 75 and what a journey so far. And still a dreamer. Amen
No ! That's a false analogy. and that's the worst thing anyone can do. There's zero correlation between any MAN at 22 with no career path and this very attractive woman at 22 who just started her RUclips channel. She really has a ton of opportunities ahead of her, the least getting married with a rich dude if nothing else work. Men on the other hand ... are really screwed . There's a lot of channels with older men who entire life worked shitty jobs and now are sick poor and ALONE waiting to die. The society in general expects much more from men and punish them much harder when they fail at anything.
@@stelutu33 bro barely broke in adulthood now you want him to be pioneer or something lol most men are lost until 25 some 30, 22 is nothing nobody pusinhs you but yourself that is actually false analogy that you're following
Your situation is not unique, especially at your age, you have a great personality and are very intelligent and I like that you're not covered in ink. Don't be so hard on yourself, you'll be okay!
I have seen it. As an older man I am seeing young people struggling, including my own kids. Thinking about it and focusing on it is a good, it may help you to find a purpose. I hope for only good things for you and in your life ahead. I don't know why RUclips threw this into my feed but since it did I will say I don't believe you are hopeless. You can communicate and honestly at that is one of the bedrock life skills. You are on your way. Be well.
The biggest practical thing you can do, when you don't know what you want to do is; not hurt your future by.... a: getting into debt and becoming a slave to the banks b: going to jail c: having a child out of wedlock. d: destroying your health with alcohol, drugs, processed food and sugar. e: on the flip side. Staying close to God will help you keep a level head.
If you need time, take time, take care of yourself mentally, physically, spiritually and financially as you do. It'll come, just stay prepared.
I'm 31 and still don't know what I'm doing. I was fortunate to have an artistic family that fostered interest in the arts. I work as a barista part time and as a musician part time. I happen to love coffee and love music. I'm not particularly great at either, but I found some things that I enjoy and I make enough to get by. I often question what I'm doing and hope to try something new, but psych myself out of trying something different out of a fear of failure. I don't have a lot, but I encourage you to just try new things and don't be afraid to fail. The main thing that usually holds me back from trying new things is my perfectionism. If you can fight that feeling and be ok with failing, the potential to find joy in any new hobby or skill you're trying to develop is so much greater when you can get beyond that. I think it is great to be vulnerable like you are by posting this video so please keep it up. I also love cooking (and occasionally baking) so I hope you find some freedom of expression and joy in those hobbies! Sending good vibes and praying for you as well since I'm a religious person. It's also ok to feel down sometimes. I'm glad you're not staying in that place though and trying something new by creating this channel. I hope everyone on here is supportive of your journey! Sorry for the loooooong a$$ comment.
Hi Erika, You remind me of myself. I am 27 years old. When 2020 hit I felt very lost. I got my Bachelors degree in Ec-6. I thought I had everything figured out. I was gonna be a teacher then realized it wasn’t for me because of the stress of it all. I realized it wasn’t for me and didn’t know where else to go to. I decided I wanted to be an entrepreneur. I relied on side hustles and lived off of that. I did whatever random job I was given. I was pretty successful then started a company. I burned myself out in a year and a half. I was thinking that’s what I wanted but now questioning it again. I made a channel thinking I knew what I wanted by focusing on discussing about a growing entrepreneur. I now want to change the direction and focus on passions. Life is about exploring. There’s nothing wrong with not knowing where to go and where it leads. You may think you want something then find out maybe it wasn’t meant for you. Just keep doing the things you find joy in and your happiness will lie in that. You’ll find your dream within exploring your passions. While doing this goals will appear and that will make you want to keep going.
I'm a middle school math teacher in my 60's - you might be surprised to know that I constantly question if this is what I want to do! This is actually the fourth career I've had, and I don't want to kid anyone - it is the most difficult work I've ever done. Amid the chaos of middle school there are moments when all the planets come into alignment that make it worthwhile. I've come to realize that what I do is akin to planting seeds for trees whose shade I may never see. I'm okay with that.
@@Thomas63r2 Yes, I agree there are parts in the job it is great. I just realized I enjoy having the freedom to do what I want. I did student teaching during covid and it was highly stressful. I felt unappreciated in the field by the administration. It made me want to do something else.
I am 66 years old and this showed up on my timeline. 40 years ago. I was in a position not much different than you. I grew up inner city Chicago, but at 21 I moved to Alaska on my own! I stayed in my tent for the summer and found things to do to stay better off in the winter. I really did not do much but 11 years later I started college. I have worked as a teacher in Foreign countries, after 45 got married and have 3 children from 16 to 9 years old. If I could give you any useful advice, do not over think find something you love to do. In general I like people and doing many things so I am very active so working with children and people is a great life for me! I never wanted to do what my 9 older siblings did in the 1970's which was computer programmer! Not for me!
Just hearing you… omgosh human services. For sure. I was a heroin addict for 20 years, now I’m an addiction recovery coach. You’re a sweetheart. You will be excellent once you figure it out. Beautiful and brave… let’s get it!
Let me say, I am almost 70. When I was in my mid-20's I was much like you. I wasn't so much worried about it like you seem to be but I did realize I didn't know anything much about anything and my career path had been a series of, what they used to call,, dead-end jobs. I picked one thing to get educated about. I decided I should become somewhat of an expert on something. I didn't know what would become of it but I wanted to be above the average on one thing. I chose to educate myself on the Civil War and I started to consume everything I could find. Eventually I went back to school and got a BA in History. That got me into a different world. Also, gave me a lot of confidence. Went out and got a job with a law firm and have been having a great time working with smart people all my life. It started by picking one thing to get good at. It doesn't have to be history. It can be anything. This door leads to that door and on an on. Sorry, not trying to be one of those baby boomers.
You are a beautiful person, be true to yourself, be kind to yourself and to others. There will always be challenges in life that’s what makes it special and interesting. Embrace each day 😊
Hmmm. I started to write a critical message on not doing anything. Now I am impressed she is trying something. She is avoiding being stuck. I wish her good luck. She will succeed.
...and zo I was telling you ( but my old fingers were pushing the sendbutton on me ) that you could maybe be my muse! All and only offcourse if that would interest you.
I’m 40 years old and love playing guitar, petting my cats and being creative. Stay positive and seek Jesus Christ, with a sincere heart. He saved me from people who were trying to murder me, when I was younger. This world passes away, but Jesus is forever
50 years ago, I was like you and have no regrets. Never worried about education or a career. Never worried about having a family. Never cared about money. Life is too short to live up to other people’s expectations. Enjoy it while you can.
But you still need a roof over your head, food on the table, and enough clothes to keep the neighbours from seeing things they can't unsee. So you either had an adequate job, a partner in adequate employment, a trust fund, a sugar daddy, a thing between your legs,....or you're a bludger. Because no matter how much people say don't worry about money, roofs, food and clothing ain't free - you pay one way or another.
You can find a good loving man who is rich or capable of getting rich. A lot of good guys are looking for a lovely woman exactly like you to build a life with. I am 56 and I can tell you that you are a rare and very prescious person. Men do not look for a woman with a high fly career but for a humble and sweet life companion. Further dont loose hope, you are only 22. If you want to learn something specific you have lots of time. I felt the same as I was in your age. Its not about what you can do, its about what you want to do. Greetings from Denmark.
Yep. She can go a long way by weaning herself from the legal system that screw men over in a divorce proceeding. If they sense that sincerity in her, she will meet the right man.
You are articulate, photogenic, hopeful, and honest about your feelings. Those are good starting points. Life is a journey. Embrace it, and see where it leads you.
Thanks for sharing this. Really powerful and the best thing you can do is talk about these things and get it all out in the open. Sounds like you've had some challenges in your life but the good news is, you're not alone in facing them. We can be connected in our hardships but only if we're vulnerable and share them, like you did here. Keep your head and keep living one day at a time. You're worth it! -Jason
Assuming that what you are saying is true, it is very brave to buck the trend of exaggerating one's fortune. Honesty is incredibly refreshing. I wish you all the best.
Good morning Erika, I see a lot of good advice in your comments. Learm from the good ones & ignore any bad ones that might come along. Consider you are a captain of a boat headed on a trip. Directional choices must be made. Seems most important to plot a course to arrive at a destination. Skills needed to pilot boat first. Perhaps that desire to go somewhere. Learning new skills to start journey. Adjusting course regularly. Maintaining a good attitude seems worthwhile. Expect setbacks & readjust. Stay away from things that will head you in the wrong direction. Be persistant. Baby steps, one by one. There is always answers to every question, seek assistance when needed. Keep your ship going forward. Never give up. Enjoy the little victories. Wishing you a wonderful trip to a new & exciting place!! You are the master of your domain...
I'm 70 when I was 22 I felt the same way, I joined the navy and found my direction. Became an electrician and got into electronics- now I design electronic devices and am loving every minute of my life. The point is that you may just accidentally find your way. Keep you head up and keep going - things have a way of working out.
I am 58 years old. When I was your age I felt very much like you do now. Trust me when I say it gets better. I think this channel is a good step forward on your life journey. Keep the faith and keep going. You got this. 🙂
All i have to say is youre not alone. What makes me so happy is that you are not blaming anyone or anything for what is happenig with you or with your life. I have done the same thing, seeing my old friends from high school on social media and thinking "man, what am i doing with my life? look at how great they are doing!" ive made many mistakes in my life, but no matter what i pick myself back up and try again. im 34 years old, divorced, male, work two jobs all week just to see my (4) kids on the weekends. This is the first video ive ever seen of yours and your brutal honesty is a great thing to have. Most people just blame everyone for everything, but you seem to own your own issues and want to ACTUALLY work on them, some way or another, even if you dont know how. Youre trying, and that is the most important thing!
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Guys thank you so much for all the comments, it means everything. I am reading them all, I wish I could respond to all of them. Thank you!!😊
@Erika R Well. I don’t know if you’re full of shit or not but at least you have youth, presumed health, and beauty and it looks like independence and stability.
I don’t mean to downplay whatever you feel or are going through but: I recommend the movie Threads, and as usual, the small things that bring you happiness.
It helps because I do know what you’re feeling and have many years of experience in that mindset.
I feel for your generation because we all failed you guys as my generation has been failed. We’ve been duped and lied to by a lot of people with swaths of money, influence, and power & given very little guidance or…you might just need to do some soul searching: contemplate and meditate on what you want out of life and the things that interest you. Then learn to capitalize on it and find a secondary skill.
You can most definitely find something, someone, or peers out there that fits you if you’re willing to explore. Everything is hard and takes work and reasonable judgement IMO. The mental barriers and hoops and loops and behaviors are tricky.
There’s no reason to buy into the stupid trends online or whatever group is spitting nonsense, instincts.
There’s a wonderful world out there with a rich history to explore.
It’s also nice to learn & explore and fully operate and harness the power of your mind and body. Eventually, the only thing you’ll want is money, skills, home, your main interest, a partner, and whatever floats your boat sexually. Then it’s probably just creature comforts, stability, people close to share life with, peace, and health.
Depends on the path, some people want a family or to be celibate, and all that’s okay too.
So, I hope these words help anyone who reads them as well as our host.
Cheers.
Being 22 with no prospects or plans isn't a huge deal. You're still super young and plenty of people with plans at 22 don't actually wind up sticking to those plans at all.
Shes not about that full exit full delete She being patient and waiting for a lamp come on to light the path
I too am lost. Lets be
Lost together lol.
I'm 71 and haven't accomplished much in life......I figure I'll hit my stride soon and knock the world on it's butt!
I'm 70, and I still don't know what I'm going to do when I grow up. I have no regrets about my journey thus far.
This will be me yet lived a life so far not many would live.
@@aminalone elegantly brilliant 👍
gold!
I'm way younger. I'm only 55. I too don't know what I'm going to do when i grow up. Some people are able to stay young for a long time. I love the way I am and I love the way I live my life.
We have to get older. We don't have to grow up. :)
Being 22 with no life path or skills isn't a problem. It's a sign that you have 45+ years of opportunity ahead of you.
No direction IS a problem! In generations past, women were married by 20, having kids, and running a household. Nowadays we think living with parents until 30, starting to look for a husband at 40, living alone, and dying with a cat is OK. It isn't! People need to change their attitudes about their entitlements, as this woman is finding. The modern day feminist has told her she can have it all, and that is a bunch of crap!
To be brutally honest, time is always depreciating if you're a women. Especially if you want to have kids.
Every year that goes by puts you into a slimmer and slimmer selection pools of viable mates, on top of growing infertility. The average conception time for a 30 year old couple is almost a year now.
Life does get harder if you fail to take advantage of connections in your prime. Eventually your parents die, your colleagues change jobs, and your friends move on to different life stages. Married women with children don't typically hang around with women that aren't in the same life stage. That may sound cruel, but it's the truth. It only ends up being awkward when you have less and less to relate to.
Being single and separate is not a solution; it's a social media trend that ends in depression. Sure, there are some A Class type people that can run their company and live alone forever and die happy, but they are rare.
Sitting around waiting for things to happen is the ultimate way to end up with nothing.
Nerds responding to me: you're right, being directionless in life isn't good for anyone, especially women who all too quickly lose the ability to be mothers.
My initial comment isn't that it's okay to wait until you're 40 to get a direction in life. That's dumb. The point is that it's stupid be feel hopeless. I don't black-pill in life. She has 45+ years of life ahead of her to be without hope.
@@vladimirofsvalbard9477 Being a guy sucks,too.
@@vladimirofsvalbard9477 WTF? She's 22! She is a baby... talk about depressing, had I thought this way @ 22 I would have missed out on my entire life!
Three things will destroy you in life.
1. Drugs
2. Alcohol
3. A bad partner.
4. Toxic family
5.Hoe stuff
@@nohulse 5. Small Pen*s
@@nohulse Check on all four.
@@nohulse 5. Do not commit crimes.
I’m Don and I’m 83 years old. If you cannot find a particular passion, then try this. Look around find something you can do really well. You don’t have to necessarily love it, but you will be paid for it because you’re good at it. Then see what happens it’s a beginning. Don’t give up.
Hey Don, you are right, but you don't have to do it well. Sometimes, you can try to do something totally out of your wheelhouse. My dad used to challenge me. Now I have to challenge myself. I'll eat the same thing in a resturant everytime, so sometimes I let other people order first then I copy their order. An old boss would ask me what I wanted for lunch, I'd tell him to choose. You are right though, busy busy bust, and you have no time for dark thoughts, or loneliness
"Look around find something you can do really well. "========My passion turned out to be something I knew nothing about until I started learning more and more about it and only did well over Time.
Help ppl in need without letting anyone know where possible. Read Isaiah 58 and Mark 10. In that you will find life worth living for.
I'm sorry Don, but your advice used to be a good advice when you were young. But today it means absolute jack shit, because times are so different. World is moving a lot faster now than it did in your days Don. By the time she finds passion, her passion might already be obsolete. In the next decade we will see so many jobs being lost to AI. We need to rethink the whole society.
Good advice, except for the getting paid for it part. You can find a passion that is not rewarding economically, like painting, making music, etc. Look for your passion, but don't necessarily have the barometer be an economic measurement.
I can ID with you. I’m 81 yo and I to roamed through life aimlessly. Multiple jobs, a few short careers, married with 2 kids and 4 grandchildren. At the end of the day everything turned out fine and it will with you. Your youth is your biggest asset right now. You can fail more then once and still have plenty of time to recover. Good luck!
Thank you for sharing
What age does that youth end? 40?
Im in my 50s completley alone and Totally content.
Did I renovation of my apartment,
Got a new car. I feel like I Finally my shit together.
@@adammorris2265 It's not a fixed age, as you get older though it has to become a factor in your goal setting. When you are 35-40 provided you are healthy you can realistically set a goal that requires 20 years of vigor and sustained input. when you get older than that, and depending on how you are doing healthwise, that may not be as prudent. You may think, I might only have 10-15 years of the required vigor left. It depends on the personal situation of the individual. Eventually you just won't be able to do all the things you could when you were younger, and your body won't tolerate the abuse anymore, but I would encourage anyone to push that limit as far as they sensibly can within their own limitations.
@@adammorris2265Youth is largely a state of mind. Especially if you employ the right Jedi Mind Tricks.
Erika, be very careful putting yourself out there like this on social media. There are alot of caring people like myself wanting to help you but, a lot more that want to hurt you. Life deals most people a foul hand so don't feel alone. I'm over 60, no friends, legally blind - but I still smile... things could be worse.
I know people with Low Vision. For what it is worth, I admire you for interacting with this audio/visual platform and posting a comment. "Keep the Faith"!
Aside from the internet trolls, most people are not looking to hurt anyone. The trolls are just projecting.
Also beware of men who tell you I'm not like the other guys.
@@hi-ccowboy7983 Sounds like they learned that from their mothers!
@@lilblackduc7312 Hahaha!!
You are young, able-bodied, not in jail, not pregnant, and have all the opportunities this world has to offer. Take your sweet time figuring out what to do with your life. You are allowed to try things, hate one thing, try another, change your mind, screw things up, ask for a do over, and do it all over again. Life and career are not a straight line nor a ladder. Its more of a curvy trail full of rocks, rain, sunshine, tripping, falling, getting up, and no clue where it will lead you. Life will work out in the end, guaranteed.
best answere !
Gosh i needed to hear that just for me
You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don’t rush your life by. Take your time and find what makes you happy. Then do it. If you like to cook, go to chef school or baking/ dessert school. The sky is the limit for you! You can be anything you want to be and do anything you want to do. I have all the faith in you to follow your heart and go for it.
It is kind of like marriage. Don’t marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you cannot live without!
Find what lights the fire in your heart and you have your answer.
If you need someone to talk to there are those you can reach out to.
Just smile. It will make those around you feel better and you will feel better when they smile back at you.
Take care of yourself and keep your chin up and Smile😊
I hope the best for her - we are living in a dificil time and worst for this generation
As long as she prioritizes her health then she will be fine. Health is the most important thing at the end of the day.
I am a United States Special Forces Naval Officer and I have been overseas on 8 Missions that each one lasted anywhere from 12-14 months in Both Afghanistan and Iraq. Cannot talk about details but the pain and horror that travels with me to this day remains. I fully understand what you mean more then you know. Believe me when I tell you this, you can overcome anything that comes your way. Always believe in yourself as I have combatted these feelings. May God bless you always and please Be Safe.
I await your book, sir. (No, that wasn't a joke... I really do mean it.)
Thank you for your sacrifice and COURAGE!!
You may be suffering PTSD? However, it is possible to escape the bad memories. To have them as a resource, but for them not to be your present day master.
A brilliant way to remove the pain is Paul McKenna Official | The Havening Technique. Search for this title on RUclips, thus give it a whirl and remove your day devils forever. Good luck on your journey.
Thank you for your service. My brother in law was a Army Ranger, and retired as Colonel with 35 years enlisted, he served in Iraq and Afghanistan for several tours. My nephew is now a Sargent in the National Guard as a Helicopter Mechcanic and has served three tours Kuwait and Afghanistan. My family has been blessed not to have any deaths or serious injuries from their military service.
As a 63 year old male, who has been through it all and who has been married for 37 years now, you have everything it takes to make it big in life. Keep doing what you love and keep an even keel. Distrust novelties and keep your eyes open. Not everyone is an asshole, but keep your third eye open to con artists and losers. Some of the most charming people are the ones you have to worry about. Stay 100% natural and never compromise yourself to others. Your happiness depends on your ability to live life according to your own desires and beliefs. Never agree with anyone else’s beliefs just to fit in. Never get any tattoos or cosmetic horrors done. Live outside the box and live your best life as you see fit.
69 year-old male--best advice I have read in a long time.
Hi Erika,
I am a 73 year old man with some life experience. At 17 I joined the Army and never had an issue of needing a goal since. I am not suggesting you seek a military job. I suggest finding a church where you can volunteer in some ministry. Maybe serving food to needy people. Maybe visiting the sick in the hospital. Maybe visiting people in a personal care home. Maybe visiting people in hospice care. Maybe teaching pre-school to youngsters. When you volunteer to help others, the focus moves onto them and away from oneself.
You are precious and special. I see great potential in you. Ask God to guide you.
Blessings to you.
Gordon
Excellent advice
Yes I agree wholeheartedly with this advice. For myself I wish that I joined the army (South African), too old now. But serving others is probably a better way to get direction in ones own life, as well as being in the Lords service will definitely add value to ones own life too.
This is the best advice I have heard in a long time .I'm knocking on 65 and you will never ever go wrong with having a true relationship with God let him lead you the peace is really beyond your understanding.
Your 73 .This isn't the " age " demographic she intended to reach.your better off to un- subscribe.
I also joined the army at 17. Gordon's advice is solid. The more you make yourself your primary focus, the more anxiety you will feel. Focus on what you can do for others, not what they think of you. Even as an atheist, I also recommend finding community through church and being in the service of others. Then learn to treat yourself as you would treat others you care about. I know it's hard to see, but things will fall into place for you. I wish you the best.
"The problem with youth, is it's wasted on the Young."
-Oscar Wilde
Hey Erika, there’s some very good advice in the comments and I’d summarise by saying;
1. Don’t think other people have it all figured out compared to you, most people are bumping along in life just trying to survive.
2. Try to figure out what you enjoy and do more of it; if that involves an occupation brilliant but sometimes an occupation can just be for paying the bills and you can follow any passions outside of work in your spare time and there’s nothing wrong with this.
3. Helping other people less advantaged than yourself really helps to put some context into your life and shifts the focus away from your own problems.
Finally, my observations on your skills are that you’re honest, articulate, intelligent and your own struggles mean that you’ll have an empathy for others. These are already “super powers” when it comes to embarking on life’s journey and it is just that, a journey of experiences.
Hope this helps in some way. My 3 kids have all found challenges in their 20’s. Best wishes from the UK
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What a nice comment Dean !
Yes, i agree with you.
Excellent advice, and I can personally vouch for your third point: helping others led to hugely rewarding perspective in my life. Maybe there are some older people in your neighborhood that could use a quick assist with their lawn care or household maintenance. Maybe volunteer at a community center or food bank. This actions will create calm and give you learned experiences that may shape some of your own goals in life.
heartily agree with number two. I think you perform at a job better when you are energized even with a hobby outside of work which many times become lucrative. And yes, many parents of young adults say the same...it is the times.
You have it way more figured out than you give yourself credit for. I am 58 and still trying to figure it out.
I’m the same at 65 and yet here I am. 🙂
Yeah I'm almost 40 and wanted to say the same...!
There is no perfect career, no perfect relationship, no perfect anything. Everyone is still figuring it out until we die.
Likewise at 57
I’m 99 and still haven’t finished puberty
Erica, I'm a few years older than you and I can say life changes all the time. Ive been a Karate teacher for 40 years, an electronic technician, a Police officer to a boat mechanic, and much more. The saying "Go with the flow" is a good motto.
A few tips;
1. No alcohol
2. No drugs
3. Read books
4. Join a sport/club
5. Surround yourself with positive people.
You have a lot of positive comments, im sure you're on the right track for success.
Best of luck from Australia.
By no Alcohol and No Drugs you mean no PTSD. It is not the Drugs. It is the pain. American Medical Schools teach addiction is a symptom of PTSD. Dr. Lonny Shavelson in his book "Heroin" said that 70% of female heroin addicts had been sexually abused in childhood.Drugs fill receptors. What empties receptors (injury, PTSD) causes a desire for drugs. Drugs CAN'T cause addiction. Pass it on.
Add, don't cover in ink. I saw this in another post.
Do not surround yourself With positive people. Watch the News an look at war in the world and think “ I m not so bad”.
Very well said in a few short words. You speak the truth and I hope this very bright young lady hears it!
@@dalesnyder4831 Thanks mate, lets hope so.
That's how I(34) have been feeling all my life long and probably always will. It’s due to my chronical learning disability. My IQ is approx 80. I got tested twice in school. It is mainly because my mother drunk alcohol during her pregnancy (FASD spectrum/Fetal Alcohol Syndrome). Everything is harder in my life. No matter how hard I try, I always fail. I needed to visit special ed class till 18, I never had many friends, I never had the ability to visit college or achieve high education, I only work at sign holder jobs...or fast food...I also never had a girlfriend and probably never will.
All I always wanted is to have a job I like, some friends and an own family. Instead I'm alone with nothing and no one.
Turn your concerns over to Jesus. He created you for a purpose. He loves you and will bring you joy, and a purpose.
What is something you think you would like as a job?
You are seen from God. Reach to him.
"God chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things-and the things that are not-to nullify the things that are,"
I sucked at high school, had a girlfriend for 2 hours before she dumped me and i feel like nobody cares about me and nobody sees me. I'm smart enough to be an amateur programmer but dumb enough to do nothing with it. I have some skills but I don't know how to use them to make a better life. Im completely socially useless, live in a hole and i'm a failure of a man and a human being. I sometimes feel like I am not human or that I do not belong in this reality.
Giving yourself over to nonsense fairy tales achieves nothing. Religion is an opiate and a social virus, stop rrying to spread your disease to vulnerable people. I know you cant as youre infected and thats part of the disease, but you need to know youre part of the problem, get help, rejoin reality, religion is a trap and a prison.
24 year old no-lifer here too. No job, no career prospects, no passions. My advice (for what its worth) is to just do something. Literally anything. This channel is already a great step in the right direction. The more things you try the more opportunities start to unfold, or don’t, but you learn things along the way.
Start selling that tuna while it’s still fresh.
"No-lifer" 😂. That's a funny term.
Great piece of advice by the way 👍
As Jordan Peterson would say, "Start making your bed in the morning!" Grow up and take responsibility for yourself. She is young enough to recover, but she better change her attitude. Life crushes people like her.
As a 40 year old who had no idea what I was going to do for a career until I was 29, this is great advice. The more blocks you walk, the more streets you get to turn down. Pretty soon you’ll have gotten farther than you thought possible.
😂😂😂😂yup, that's it! No skill, no talent, no craft, no problem- join utube and feed your narcissism 😂😂😂😂
You have youth, brains, honesty and beauty. You will find your way
Sadly, it's the discipline that you need and none of the above.
@@ilia2178
Discipline means nothing other than
1. having a whiteboard
2. writing down the tasks on it
3. completing them one after the other, with sufficient time off
@@ilia2178 Discipline is what you need after you've accepted an opportunity to make your life better. Discipline by itself does nothing more than keep you locked in at whatever level you are.
@@Quakeboy02 Looking for opportunities requires discipline. They are not just going to knock at your door one day.
@@ilia2178 Actually, they do. But most people are too busy to be bothered.
As a guy in his late thirties, don't worry, I think the majority of us have all been there.
You're just a regular 22 year old. In my 65 years I have had many careers , you will become a more rounded amazing person.
There are more of us out there like you than you realize. You really are not alone. Life is a journey.
life is a process if you want success. not a journey
Life is a total pain in the ass! Let's be real here! lol 😁👍
I’m 50 and feel a failure. But I did learn some things, I’d love to be 22 again.
I have 4 pieces of advice.
1. Travel.
2. Read.
3. Do something that makes you uncomfortable every week.
4. Learn how to determine reality so you don’t waste your valuable time on fantasies. Apply the scientific method to everything you think you know and test everything you’re told for logical fallacies.
You do this and you will learn more about yourself and what you want out of life. My problem is I learnt this too late. I only have 20-30 years left. Too little time to make a difference.
It's not too late for you. You may be getting better slowly, but you clearly know at least four things that you didn't before! Sure it's too late to become an Olympic athlete, but you probably never had a shot at the presidency and that's nothing to be disappointed by. Maybe you can make a companion channel to this one?
@@AndyBHomethanks for saying this. I'm also 50 and in a comparable position. Only now have I been diagnosed with AAD, and I was medically retired in 2022 @ age 48. I really loved my job and the nature of it suited my condition so well that I believe it to be the reason that it wasn't noticed in my adult years. So being at home all the time it surfaced in a way that frustrates most people around me and I frequently feel quite useless. Getting my life back on track is really challenging and hearing someone say it's not too late is a welcome motivation.
For a ‘failure’, you gave some of the best and succinct advice I’ve seen, here…
I sure as hell don’t want to be 22, again (grin!). I’d sure as hell like to be with twenty-something girls but I guess I probably wouldn’t make any sense in their lives. Gather ye rosebuds while ye may.
We ‘failures’ should stick together, though. Fifty is a little young to be giving up! I’m seventy and I’m still kicking ass and taking names. I just spent the last six years as a medical train-wreck. Right now, I’m still trying to figure out how I could be with a 33-year-old girl that I fell in love with when she had just turned 27. If _I_ was still ‘50’, I’d be a shoe-in for that 33-year-old girl! I could probably even talk her into making babies with me!
Life is about learning. Even at 80 or 90, if you have learned through experience, then your life has not been wasted, and you carry that experience and what you have learned with you, hopefully, on into a better and more peaceful existence.
@@AndyBHomenot about me, my comment was for this young lady, things are a lot harder for the young with social media and all. It is making a lot of lonely people as they don’t have real relationships because most of their interactions are online, or through texts. So many people live through their phone these days, even if they are in company.
I noticed your description said, "...share my life *in hopes that it can help someone else*." I think you can build on that. Sometimes serving others is a great reminder of our own value.
Money.🤌
I tried everything for years. Owned several businesses and failed in my 20's. Joined the Air Force at 29 and traveled the world for 7 years. I was a mechanic, drove semi's, sales, tower climber, HVAC tech, realtor. Name it, I quit every job and started something else. Been to several colleges & trade schools. In the end, all those skills made me a successful landlord. Took a long time to get there but in the end, found my passion. You have to go to work and start somewhere. Never quit trying, you will be successful. I'm late 60's now. All worked out.
You are so young and have your whole life ahead of you. Don't get discouraged. Most of us at 22 were no different!
Second that!
THIRD THAT! ❤
B.S. that!
Fourth that!
I feel like I was 22 last year, but I’m 63 now. I have done so much in that time and have no regrets. I always stayed true to myself and never had to question myself. If I had to do it again, there is little I would change. Life is incredibly complicated, but the pieces come together on their own.
Hey Erika this is what helped me at your age...all on my own..I studied food and wine,started working in a restaurant,taught myself guitar,started eating healthy,started working out,bought a bike and NEVER looked back. Now I'm 59 now,still play guitar,still work out,and I ride my bike 6 miles to the restaurant I work...no college education,no drugs,just me and my determination to exceed MYSELF!! Cooking sounds like a great idea,I love to cook as well..There's a RUclips channel called Food Wishes,it's a fantastic channel. It's perfectly normal to be lost and to feel despair,just don't wallow in it. You'll be just fine Erika❤
@SeansMusicVault love his Fondant potatoes!!
Best advice I got from a college professor on graduating was stated in a kindly agitated voice: "…why are so many of you so focused on your "careers"? You don't even know what your real talents and interests are yet and won't until you're 30." At your current age of 22, all you've ever done is follow somebody else's roadmap. You're finally free. Enjoy it because now is when the real learning begins. And just know that you will always be making it up as you go, relying on experience and intuition or instinct. It's what we do - just don't pretend it's otherwise, and you'll be much happier than if you think you ever really figured it out completely.
At 35, that sounds about right and is good advice.
Well said.
Omg how true google the song everyone is free to wear sunscreen ,, it’s worth it
Read a Bible. It's proven to be the best source of wisdom. That's really what we need. Observance of commandments is Where's it is at. Acknowledgement of a creator is where it's at. Cooking is good, yes, but there has to be a foundation or it means nothing. Really enjoyed your valunarbillity.
Well put!
I'm 53 - still lost - still trying - still don't know where I'm going. Not always moving forwards but I keep striving for that perfect day
Sorry to hear that. I'm 53 too and found my footing when I turned 27.
I too am 53. I have tried many things. I became good at some things and great at a few. Never stop learning! Life is a journey full of ups and downs, twists and turns. I nearly lost my life in a car accident a few months ago so now I strive to enjoy my time left with those few people close to me. We never know when our last day will be so we should enjoy life while we still can! Find pleasure in the small things.
pro tip: stop looking for the "perfect" day
I was in a similar position once, I went into the army, then worked on ships, have worked as a waiter, a porter in a hotel, a night manager in a hotel, on emergency ambulances, been a carer for someone who became disabled, been a charity worker, a bus driver and am currently a project manager. In between all those jobs I have been a traveller, unemployed due to ill health and due to companies I worked for closing down. I have failed many times at things like starting my own business and at the age of 50 I have no regrets as everything has taught me valuable lessons. Ultimately I could have given up so many times in life such as when I had nothing but the clothes on my back and was living on the streets.
You still have the possibilities that life will provide you over the next few decades to figure things out, as long as you find peace and a degree of happiness in life then you have some of the best blessing you can ever get.
Shout out to you for being honest and real, RUclips might end up being your thing.
I used to be a son, brother, coworker, boyfriend, husband, father, and grandfather.
Of all the names I have been called, "grandpa" was my favorite.
I think you will be SOMEBODY if you just push a child on a park swing.
When i was young, i felt lost. Asking myself, why am i here? Where did i come from? Where am i heading? A guy at work tried to tell me about Jesus; I didn't want to listen.
Then twenty years later, after making many mistakes, i woke up and listened. He has the answers.
Hi Erika. Im 68. I graduated HS in 1973, dropped out of college 18 mo later, lived off my parents doing nothing for 6 months. My mom forced me to go to a temp agency in NYC. I had no idea what I wanted or liked. They sent be to a brokerage firm. I met people, mostly good, enjoyed learning about stocks and bonds, and ended up making it a career. Good thing about temp agencies is they send you to different businesses and most times a business will hire you from the agency, so you get to experience different paths. Pay sucks in the beginning, but the exposure is great. You are very well spoken, which if I were interviewing you would be a huge plus. You also may be a bit depressed. Therapy could help. Its expensive, but most companies have it as part of their wellness coverage. Hang in there. Please be careful of folks taking advantage of young women, now that you are out there.
Wow. I wish someone had sent me on that path.
@@minkorrh Never too late my friend
You are so young at 22, you've weathered a learning phase. You're at the age where you've learned enough to learn. Start where you stand, with what you have, now. You say you have nothing. Not true. You have realization that you need new direction.
You have compassion for others in your situation. Many in all sorts of successful and unsuccessful situations never possess compassion. You cannot teach that. So there's that in your favor.
Cooking, like any creative art (painting, writing, playing music, sewing, etc.) helps and changes you. The sustained act of creation changes you, and changes how you see yourself.
Hang in there. You are so very young and have a lifetime to let things play out. ♥
Well said, what she can use is more friends like you...
The glass is half full, and Jesus's loves you both!🙏🕊❤️
this is half the problem: Boomers and Gen X'ers simply will not allow Millenials or Gen Z'ers to grow up. I'm almost 40 and they still call me young, or a kid....
She a SCAMMER IT seems .. nice house 🏠 etc
@@phillyunrau4736 i mean, to me it just looks like any given kitchen in a 2 bedroom apartment. Nice, but nothing special. It's just clean.
Not saying you're wrong, but its just funny that something like that is considered luxury now... simply amazing how Boomers and Gen X'ers have utterly destroyed the furture for anyone millenial and onward. Sad times ahead, i especially feel for the younger white Gen Z guys, their future is bleak...
She is not so young at 22 LOL. Stop telling people in their 20s that they are young. You could say that it is not late to start sth from scratch in their life.
The fact that you are willing to put yourself out there like this already shows me that you are a lot less lost than you may think. You mentioned that you want to run this channel for people so that everyone can learn together which shows empathy and the willingness to give up your time for the benefit of others. Everyone without exception has something to contribute to the world Erika. You have proven this by making this channel and this video. In many respects you are ahead of others your age, because you have not chosen a career just for the sake of choosing a career. You are young. Take your time. Try many things until you find something you truly enjoy. Although it may feel like you have been left behind in life, just remember life is not a race and everyone is on their own journey. Don't look outward to see what others are doing, look inward and listen to what your heart tells you, because although your mind may sometimes mislead you, your heart never will.
One of the most honest things I've ever seen on RUclips. Thank you for sharing this and just know, it gets better. I felt the same way at your age but 10 years later, things had worked out really well. Stay the course, you're good!
I was in the same boat at 19 , loads of dead end jobs, no skills, no education, no girlfriend. I joined the Air Force and learned a trade as a heavy vehicle mechanic. I only did 6 years in the air force but it set me up for life and one thing has led to another and I’ve lived all over the world and had a great life from fixing buses in Australia to fire trucks in the uk . It’s just getting that first step moving, after that it’s like a snowball rolling, but you’ve got to really push out of your comfort zone and grab every opportunity that comes remotely near you, trust me they will.
Same, sort of. Was 21. Joined the Navy. Makes you grow up, become independent. Got married, had two kids, got into the police academy, got a career, bought a house, kept my head down, kept my nose clean, went to work everyday for 30 years, now I’m close to retirement, 6 grandkids - a life well led. The military was Step 1.
You are young, beautiful, open and honest about yourself. Explore and find something that makes you happy. I am 65 and still not sure what I am doing with the rest of my life but I wish I had pursued something I enjoyed rather than doing what others thought was best when I was 22.
Immediately I can spot that you’re intelligent and manipulative…become a politician.
@@seangriffiths8036 That's an utterly asinine comment. The guy posts an entirely supportive comment on a video of someone who's struggling and you claim to know without a doubt that the guy is manipulative. If nothing else, give people the benefit of the doubt. If, in the extreme, none of us can do that for each other then we'll create a very depressing world indeed.
@@seangriffiths8036 What you're judging here in someone else is actually your own self. It's called "projection".
@@minimal3734 Thanks for your free analysis….that saves me paying a shrink. This girl is wallowing in her own self pity in spite of her clear intelligence and persuasion skills. We can either feed her self pity or try to shake her out of it.
@@jeffevio my comment is not against @leelawrence3379….its against the poster of this video. She is manipulative and obviously quite intelligent. Don’t feed her self pity. She needs to harden up. Evolution does not favour the weak.
Hi, Erika. I don't know why RUclips suggested your video, but I'm glad it did. I found your honesty refreshing. My heart goes out to you. I felt your discomfort through the screen and want you to know that you're not alone. You're going through some stuff, and it's OK and normal to feel how you're feeling. I'm encouraged by the direction you chose to move. Instead of sitting and moping, you were vulnerable and made forward momentum. You'll continue to fumble along - that's part of the journey. But, you'll grow and get better. That's also part of the journey. May God bless you and shine his face upon you.
stopping by quickly to say respect. for the honesty and the acountability to yourself. always a great start like this! no irony
hope you do well and have fun on this journey
The fact that you made this video shows ambition. Well done for having the courage to put it out there.
I'm 52. I never felt like life had any meaning. Raising a child gives you a focus, but once they're grown up and don't need you anymore, life has no meaning again
Truth! My house is empty. So, I've gone deep into work and a couple of hobbies to make up for the emptiness. My surround sound system has never been better even though it is a constant work-in-progress.
All the very best to you and yours.
Try helping others.
I had this existential crisis pursuing philosophy and religion and so on until I realized just how incredibly simple the answer was: you are a biological organism and your purpose is to gather and consume resources to propagate your life. that is your human function. it sounds cynical but if you think it through all the things that they say are "wholesome" in life such as friends and family and charity and so on are in reality means of gathering to yourself support and to do what? to gather resources more reliably so you can put food in your face lol. i used to despair at this notion though because i thought wow so at the bottom of it we're all constituted to kill and maim each other to take their stuff?? but then i realized that in reality, the opposite is true. we are constituted to work cooperatively to procure most effectively the greatest amount of resources. that's basically what civilization is. the bible makes clear that the choice is not between morality vs. non-morality per se but rather the choice between LIFE and DEATH. but then what of the martyrs of history? well martyrs did not gleefully fling themselves into death. they simply couldn't accept the cost of living, akin to for instance a parent who might throw himself in front of a train to save his young son.
I'm sad for you for not embracing life itself.
If youre sad and miserable pls dont have a kid holy fk.
I was helping a friend move a barn when I was 25. One day we were doing our morning coffee chat and planning what to do next. He finally said “Well, let’s do SOMETHING, even if it’s wrong.”
Your honesty, vulnerability, and decency are THE foundational moorings of a successful and happy life to come. You are valuable as being you. I came to this country 49 years ago with nothing. Literally, other than the clothes on my back. I ended up graduating from law school, finding a wonderful wife, and raising a precious child, which would have never happened when I seriously thought of quitting. Please don't. You have too much beauty and promise. Thanks for sharing, and God bless you.
You are young go volunteer someplace. Help in a children's hospital. You will cry with joy seeing how upbeat kids are without legs or maybe arms. Make yourself help orhers. I enjoyed every thing you have said. God bless you. You are beautiful and gave gorgeous hair.
Absolutely! Volunteerism will also give you skills, both work and social. Help you build a personal community that could also be a support when you need one.
Your situational recognition at 22 is a big deal. Stay honest with yourself and true to yourself.
I try to live by the concept: “Be the man you want to be” That means I imagine the best possible me and everyday take steps and actions, sometimes very small steps, to move towards or at least not fall back from my goal. You can do that too.
Get out in the world and try things. Not everything will stick or even turn out to be your cup of tea.
But get out daily. Don’t just stay home. Maybe take a single night class, on a topic that interests you, at Community college or elsewhere.
You have time on your side. Take advantage of that.
You can do this.
Good luck!
Oh wow, that's wonderful. It doesn't feed her or pay the bills. She can find a way to help people and get paid so that she can be self sufficient. Work at an auto parts store or hardware store or try learning HVAC or become an electrician. Step out of the traditional female jobs.
Consider volunteering as an assistant for a youth sport team (eg: Little League Baseball). You don't have to understand the game; you just have to be there to help out and support the kids.
You have great communication skills. The kids will benefit from having you there. Their parents will appreciate all that you do.
NOTE: While helping out, NEVER TOUCH your cell phone. Just leave it in the car when you get to the game, or the practice. Focus on the moment and where you are. Don't ever miss any of the team activities. The kids will love having you there.
I did this at 21 when I left home and moved to Alberta (Canada). I coached minor hockey for the next 12 years. It was fantastic!😊
A beautiful, blue-eyed blonde. My god, woman, you were born on third base! Whatever you set your mind and hands to, success is almost inevitable, you would have to actively TRY to fail. This cooking/baking thing is a good idea, and I'm sure you'll have lots of viewers. In only eleven days, you already have over 4400 subs, myself among them! That's more than 400 per day!
You're going to be just fine.
Exactly, attractive women this day and age are set for life
@@ballbagchris6920 I think that's probably ALWAYS been the case.
@@craigcorson3036 true I’m just saying it’s even easier now bc they can literally just post pics and vids and make millions
@@ballbagchris6920 How fulfilling and meaningful that would be!
"Youth is wasted on the young". She can do anything she wants, and it'll be three times easier because she's young, attractive, and female.
Go outside every day and sit in the sun (which I think you already do), and enjoy it. Smell the flowers, do some yoga, take your book and read outside. There’s so much I would do if I had the time!
I am a retired teacher. But, I didn't get there the normal way. I went to college after HS and did horribly. I quit. But, I didn't let that destroy me. Instead, I enrolled in electronics school. I had to be there every day. That helped me tremendously. In college I had zero time management skills. Electronics school forced me to get them. After 8 years my company was sold. So, I decided it was a sign and returned to college at 28 years old to complete my teaching degree. We often look around and think that those we see around us are so together. In fact, most people have failures. Failures should be used to improve yourself, not to put yourself down. Without failures we don't learn. One observation I've made over 32 years of teaching is that often people like you are very creative, but don't know how to channel that to their benefit. Keep this channel going and keep being creative with it. Maybe you'll find your calling in this field. I hope you do. Good luck!!
Well said!!
Some very good points. I flunked out of college, got into the Army, learned technician electronics, grew up, went to engineering college with positive energy. In my 20s I was creative, and _fearless_. I didn't analyze decisions to death. Luckily they were growth-ful decisions, not potentially dangerous ones.
@@formica. One of the most important pieces to success in college is time management skills. I had none. And, I partied way too much of course.
@@charliejg Under 25, we're all pretty stupid. I hate to admit it, but I matured in 3 years in Army + got married while in. It wasn't anything special about the military that helped me grow, it was learning a skill and having a job and just getting older. I was motivated to do college homework the second time around at 23, to get a better job.
I'm REALLY impressed that you thought of putting this up! Thank you!
wow you must impress very easily
Erika, I am a 63 year old male. I pretty much lived a wasted life. I never found my passion. As a result, I ended up working at a job I hated.
I'm retired now, but even now that I have all the time in the world to find a passion, I can't seem to even do that.
The one thing I know is, I wish I could learn to smile more. People are attracted to smiles. No one likes to hang with a frowner like me. I think it is too late for me to change, but you are young. Light up the world with your smile and soon doors will open up for you! 🙂
It's never too late my friend :) As long as you're alive there's hope, and where there's hope, there's the potential for change. You can do it!
J e s u s
John 14: 5 Thomas *said to Him, “Lord, we do not know where You are going, how do we know the way?” 6 Jesus *said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father but through Me.
Hebrews 2: 4 God also testifying with them, both by signs and wonders and by various miracles and by gifts of the Holy Spirit according to His own will.
John 8: 12 Then Jesus again spoke to them, saying, “I am the Light of the world; he who follows Me will not walk in the darkness, but will have the Light of life.”
John 14: 21 He who has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me; and he who loves Me will be loved by My Father, and I will love him and will disclose Myself to him.” 22 Judas (not Iscariot) *said to Him, “Lord, what then has happened that You are going to disclose Yourself to us and not to the world?” 23 Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our abode with him. 24 He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine, but the Father’s who sent Me.
John 7: 15 The Jews then were astonished, saying, “How has this man become learned, having never been educated?” 16 So Jesus answered them and said, “My teaching is not Mine, but His who sent Me. 17 If anyone is willing to do His will, he will know of the teaching, whether it is of God or whether I speak from Myself. 18 He who speaks from himself seeks his own glory; but He who is seeking the glory of the One who sent Him, He is true, and there is no unrighteousness in Him.
19 “Did not Moses give you the Law, and yet none of you carries out the Law? Why do you seek to kill Me?” 20 The crowd answered, “You have a demon! Who seeks to kill You?”
You can start reading Scriptures (Bible) in New Testament: Gospel of John and/or Acts.
I'm 29 and feel this happening in real time, and I'm trying to reach out and stop it but it's so damn hard.
There are always possibilities as Mr. Spock was famous for saying.
HuatulcoGuy, Try smiling at people like as if your smile is a gift to them with no strings attached. Even if you don’t feel like smiling. People love it when others smile at them. Put it into practice. Make it a habit. It’s very gratifying.
Everyone needs to focus on three things their entire life, Physical, Financial. & Intellectual goals. Life is better when you are Physically Fit, do physical activities every day, your choice, walk, run, bicycle, dance, karate, whatever u want. Life is better when you are Financially Secure, a person needs to learn to live on 50% income and save 50% income for emergencies & retirement. Life is better when you have the skills and intelligence to handle life's problems, this is continuous learning, what ever u want to learn, cooking, medical, electronics, mechanics, whatever u want to learn, you can spend the rest of your life learning new things and never know it all.
Many people feel alone and can't make sense of the purpose of life. I've struggled through life being jobless, wifeless and childless. Today I've turned to rehoming rescue cats which has brought purpose and meaning to my life. Being kind and helping another living soul is the best medicine against depression. My cat little boy BLUE fills that feeling of emptiness I once had. He's not just a cat he's my family. We share a special bond. Having a connection with animals is comforting and looking after their needs improves your own health and well-being. Take care.
I'm nearly 40 and I'm just about making it through life. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow.
The worst pretense is social media with people attempting to post their perfect life for others to aspire to be. We're not perfect and everyone is going through stuff in their life.
Truer words were never spoken
22 years of age with no path? Get a job get motivated surround yourself with positive people and people who can give you direction. You have your whole life ahead of you the opportunities are endless. Get out there and get it.
Erika, you are a beautiful woman. You are worth a lot more than you think! Please consider looking for answers in the Bible. I struggled with loneliness and lack of direction until I discovered who and what Jesus Christ did for us. I now have an amazing church family and I now know where I belong. Please consider it. I will be praying for you!
I like that
...she say No discernible skills.. well she famous already .. a cooking 🍳 show and nice house 🏠 etc ... She not homeless..she is a scammer here ..a Fake ..
Keep sending this response to her
Again and Again. She needs to hear it. Again and Again
I understand the feeling of being "disconnected" from the world's flow. Knowing what to do, knowing what to want and knowing what to feel in life.
People moving on, get kids, good jobs, loving partners... But the good thing is. You are not alone with this journey. A friend took me to a party, I'm member of a gym since last week (😅) and I try to connect, when I'm out with my dog.
I wish you all the best on this journey. Try some things out, don't be afraid of breaks and time. It's okay to breathe and listen to the nature. And never let someone say you are not enough. I'm happy to found you and I will follow your path if you want to let us know. 💙
When I was a young man I was very much like you. My parents were poor. I tried to get a grant for college but poor white guys didn't get grants. I did hard labor jobs for a while and at some point I realized that if I did not do something soon I was doomed to live a life of ditch digging. After much thought and prayer, I joined the Army and picked a skill that I thought would serve me when I left the service (electronics). It did. The military can be a good shortcut and for 2 or 4 years of your life you can gain a skill that can be parlayed into a career. You will also learn things about yourself that you never realized along the way. If it makes you feel any better, you are quite typical of 95% of the human race. One other thing: if you feel 'alone' you might want to read the New Testament. Try it, what do you have to loose?
Fantastic
WOW, simply WOW. You have already crossed the first frontier Erika - putting this vlog out there. It's such a brave start, so bravo to you. And it is a great start. Your brutal honesty about yourself and why you are here, doing this, speaks volumes.
Someone else has already commented that getting out there into the community would seem a good starting point too. For me, an introvert teen geek, it was getting involved in amatuer radio (being 'forced' to talk to the world and, for the icing on the cake, several voice contacts with the astronauts on the old MIR space station) - which then led me into Mountain Rescue ... and the rest is history (over 40 years service worth all told!).
Doing this content creation is good too, as I've seen it help others by giving them frequent 'pauses' in their busy schedules, where they can review what they've done, their plans, etc.
Wishing you all the best with any ventures you do try - and I'm looking forward to seeing how you get on.
YOU GOT THIS!
OMG, you are so brave for real. I am 47, and I was in the same place at your age. The difference is that I kept it all in my head and thought I the odd ball out that had no path laid out for me. Getting this out of your head was the most challenging first step you could take. Great Job!!! I saw a few of your other videos, and you seem to be figuring things out. To this day, the most challenging question I could be asked is, "What do you like to do"?
The advice I gave my son when he was young (now age 20) is the following: the secret to a happy life is to work to live, have enough money to pay your bills, save a little each month, and take a week's vacation each year.
One piece of advice I'm currently working on is to wake up each day and consider what kind of day I WANT, not what I can do to get ahead or what will please my parents. It's about slowly carving out my own path, as I'm the only one who will walk it.
May your personal exploration and development be filled with safety and happiness. Here's to your journey!
I'm 68 so I can listen to you from a very different perspective than you see yourself. You come across as being a very genuine person. Most people at 22 know less about were they are going or what they are doing than you. They are just not as self aware as you. I think this channel will be a big success for you! You got a lot more going for you than you think. Best of luck!
I started working "new construction" plumbing when I was in Jr. High during the summer. Four kids (2 boys & 2 girls) and a wife later, none of my kids were interested in plumbing. I told them to "find something CHALLENGING that most other people can't do... You'll get paid well to do it". I plumbed a local Craft Brewery and got my oldest son a job there pushing a broom, he now runs the brew house at a large Craft Brewery in So Calif. My daughter works in the ER as a Surgical Tech at Loma Linda University Ca... My youngest son did 5 yrs on an Air Craft Carrier (Theodor Roosevelt) and is joining the Fire Dept. My oldest daughter manages 2 Hotel Casinos in Sturgis S.D.
Find something you like that most other people can't do....Your phone will ring and you'll get paid well to do it. Hope this helps...
It took both a lot of courage and a lot of humility to open up.about your situation. The first step in solving a problem is recognizing the problem. When I was 22,I was working part time at my uncle's sawmill,which was both dangerous and not enough money. I got a car,started delivering pizzas for Domino's,and eventually got my CDL and started truck driving. I have been trucking ever since,and have been all over the lower 48 states and parts of Canada.
Life is difficult when you are young. Been there,done that. It gets better.
When I was 22, I was pretty much in the same boat you are now.
No friends. No GF. My job was working nights at a wastewater treatment plant with no real chance for advancement. I tried college, but I kept changing my major from Art to Science and back again, over and over, so I wasted a lot of time.
My only passions were reading (especially comic books), SFF, and drawing, with occasional forays into writing.
But things will get better for you. You just have to persevere. You have to find your passion(s) and strive to make it (them) work for you.
You say you like cooking and baking, and that you're planning on exploring that here on your channel. That's a good start. If you work at it, you could possibly make cooking a career in some way.
As for myself, I finally figured out that all that stuff I learned in college could be used by becoming a teacher. My art and writing helped in this, too. While I definitely did NOT become rich, my students and their parents loved and respected me, and my colleagues respected me, too.
In my spare time (what little teachers have - lol), I began writing short stories and doing illustrations for a magazine. From there, I started writing novels. My first novel - published as an ebook - got great reviews and won an award. My second novel was also published as an ebook, and it got great reviews, too.
Now that I'm retired from teaching, I'm working on writing more novels, trying to get a literary agent to represent them so they can be published as real books, still reading a lot, and I'm learning to play the 6-hole pendant ocarina and the 17-key kalimba.
You just have to find your passions and work at them. Even if you never get a job doing them, you and your family and friends can benefit from them while you work at whatever job to pay the bills and provide you with funding for those passions.
You've no doubt heard this before, but your only 22. You've got the rest of your life ahead of you with plenty of time to figure things out. Take your time to find the things you love. I know it sounds trite, but you'll get there.
Veritas!
I am in my 30s and honestly, the whole having life figured out is overrated. The only thing to figure out in life is what makes you happy waking up everyday. That's it. You don't have to go save the world unless saving the world makes you happy. You don't have to settle down with 4 kids by X age unless it makes you happy.
There is no point in pursuing the list of things everyone out there says is what a successful life means. It's all made up stuff that they think equates to a successful life. Just because it works for them doesn't mean it is what we must do. A real successful life is one where you are happy to get up everyday.
As for things like not having friends or passion. I can relate to you 100% on that. I messed up my friendships and I never had the environment to develop a passion. So, now in my 30s, I decided to get out of my bubble. I am joining new hobby groups to try and find something I may like. You could try the same.
If face to face interaction is too daunting. You can try out online hobby groups and slowly make your way to physical hobby groups. If a hobby doesn't fit your taste, there is no pressure to stay. You can move on to other hobbies. Eventually, you are going to gain some new friends and possibly find something you are actually passionate about.
Hi Erika. I’m a 47 year old guy from New Zealand. When I was 22 I fell into quite a deep depression for more than a year and felt suicidal. Looking back there were a number of reasons why this happened but mostly it was the lack of direction in life and feeling worthless and unliked. I had trouble expressing myself and emotions, even just basic conversations with people I found hard. I only just stumbled upon this video of you now, you are very articulate and your plan of trying to learn some new things and document it sounds like fun and a nice thing to do. I’ll be watching and hope to learn something from you. Incidentally, I’m self employed now and loving life. Best wishes from NZ.
Hi Erika, I relate a lot to where you are at 22 years old. I was in a similar place when I was your age. I completely wasted my high school years, not taking advantage of my education and not planning a career. I just hated school and wanted my "real" life to start. A few years later I found myself bouncing from one low-paying job after another with no viable path for financial independence or transferable skills. The thought of going to college seemed horrible - I had no real ambition or career path in mind. My friends had all moved on. I was battling debilitating depression. I don't have wonderful advice. I ultimately just chose a career path and went to college for it. It was extremely challenging. Life got tougher before it got better but what I can say is that things will work out for you - and all the hard work was absolutely worth it. You've got lots of time to course correct. You will look back at this time and be so grateful for how far you've come. Just be willing to make the sacrifices and work hard. If you are willing, everything will turn out good. Sorry for rambling. Hope this helps. I would have been very grateful for some guidance and advice when I was in your position. All I can do is offer the same if you'd like.
I too was lost once. Found Christ. I now have a goal and keep striving for it daily. I, We all have a purpose in life. Good luck Erica.
Found Christ ? Never knew he was lost ????? Social media never mentioned it !!!!!
No, you "found," or more accurately "chose" a superstition out of the thousands that exist that gives you a false sense of comfort with no real meaning. That would be fine except religious people just can't keep it to themselves.
Hi Erika, You're a beautiful and intelligent young woman. You can do anything. Remember what Willy Shakespeare said: The world is a stage and everyone on it is an actor. Just because others seem to have everything perfect in their lives does not mean they do! Life is a journey through a difficult world. Just start moving, like you have with the cooking, and see what opportunities pop up. All the very best in your journey.
Why doesn't she just start modeling? She's beautiful..
A couple of thoughts:
1. We make our own purpose
2. Don’t look for happiness, it’s fleeting. Instead, strive for contentment, the middle ground between the highs and lows.
3. When you are down, commit to some sort of service to others less fortunate. It’s therapeutic.
4. Life isn’t a competition or a race. Follow your passion, if and when you find it.
5. Learn to like yourself. What are your strengths and weaknesses?
6. Learn about stoic philosophy. Minimize the negative, and maximize the positive.
7. Life is not fair.
8. One day at a time.
Those are a start.
Good luck. ❤
Agree with everything but 4 and 6.
4. Don't follow your passion, follow your interests.
6. Stoicism has a lot of good stuff but it's just the internet bandwagon right now. Actual Stoicism (not the one Holiday trys to sell) has it's flaws and there are much better philosophies out there.
You're 22 you're healthy and already in the right head space, don't you worry girl you're going to do ok
We’ve all struggled with this, especially at your age. Try this - if you could snap your fingers and make it happen, what would you be? No limits, no self-doubt, just what you would want to be. Once you know that, work backwards on every precursor and prerequisite that would take, and what those steps would take, etc. keep working backward until today - and now you know what your first step is. Take it, and don’t look back!!!
Awww! And you're so pretty! 😊 I feel for you, and I understand how people can have trouble finding their purpose in life these days, with all of the complications and high expenses of choosing and starting a career. One solution is to seek God, try to live the way he wants us to, and he can guide you, and possibly even send someone to help you in your journey. Praying for you 🙏
Your introspection is amazing for only being 22. I have no doubt you will find your path. Keep asking questions, and learning. The truth is that none of us know what we are doing. This thing called life is new to all of us. It's my first time too.
Erika when I was 22 I was a drunk and running away from Jesus.
Then got sober at 35 and restored to sanity through Jesus Christ
And AA . And 75 and what a journey so far. And still a dreamer.
Amen
I like that, find Jesus first!
So Jesus out ran ya? He's pretty fast..lol
Well at least you weren't running from the devil..believe me it gets worst then running g from jesus
It takes time find yourself don't worry your so young
@@AlisaPowerDashaNebraskaBrigade Runnin' With The Devil. One of the best Van Halen songs ever.
You’re not alone! Very brave of you to put yourself out there like this!
You are the female version of me... Blonde, close to the same age, same problems, same situation. WE got this together!!!
Just turned 22 as well and I'm in the same boat! We all got this! :)
Yeah, but she's straight and you're, well, let's just say likely NOT.
No ! That's a false analogy. and that's the worst thing anyone can do. There's zero correlation between any MAN at 22 with no career path and this very attractive woman at 22 who just started her RUclips channel. She really has a ton of opportunities ahead of her, the least getting married with a rich dude if nothing else work.
Men on the other hand ... are really screwed . There's a lot of channels with older men who entire life worked shitty jobs and now are sick poor and ALONE waiting to die. The society in general expects much more from men and punish them much harder when they fail at anything.
@@stelutu33 bro barely broke in adulthood now you want him to be pioneer or something lol most men are lost until 25 some 30, 22 is nothing nobody pusinhs you but yourself that is actually false analogy that you're following
Your situation is not unique, especially at your age, you have a great personality and are very intelligent and I like that you're not covered in ink. Don't be so hard on yourself, you'll be okay!
lol. Yes, the ink thing will scar her for life.
13 careers at this time in my life and I am still looking for what I want to do.
57 here - keep showing up and it will work out.
I have seen it. As an older man I am seeing young people struggling, including my own kids. Thinking about it and focusing on it is a good, it may help you to find a purpose. I hope for only good things for you and in your life ahead. I don't know why RUclips threw this into my feed but since it did I will say I don't believe you are hopeless. You can communicate and honestly at that is one of the bedrock life skills. You are on your way. Be well.
You are amazingly courageous. Thank you for taking the chance and being vulnerable…to absolute strangers on the internet. May you be blessed.
The biggest practical thing you can do, when you don't know what you want to do is; not hurt your future by....
a: getting into debt and becoming a slave to the banks
b: going to jail
c: having a child out of wedlock.
d: destroying your health with alcohol, drugs, processed food and sugar.
e: on the flip side. Staying close to God will help you keep a level head.
If you need time, take time, take care of yourself mentally, physically, spiritually and financially as you do. It'll come, just stay prepared.
Idiotic advice. God isn't real, grow up, man!
I'm 31 and still don't know what I'm doing. I was fortunate to have an artistic family that fostered interest in the arts. I work as a barista part time and as a musician part time. I happen to love coffee and love music. I'm not particularly great at either, but I found some things that I enjoy and I make enough to get by. I often question what I'm doing and hope to try something new, but psych myself out of trying something different out of a fear of failure. I don't have a lot, but I encourage you to just try new things and don't be afraid to fail. The main thing that usually holds me back from trying new things is my perfectionism. If you can fight that feeling and be ok with failing, the potential to find joy in any new hobby or skill you're trying to develop is so much greater when you can get beyond that. I think it is great to be vulnerable like you are by posting this video so please keep it up. I also love cooking (and occasionally baking) so I hope you find some freedom of expression and joy in those hobbies! Sending good vibes and praying for you as well since I'm a religious person. It's also ok to feel down sometimes. I'm glad you're not staying in that place though and trying something new by creating this channel. I hope everyone on here is supportive of your journey!
Sorry for the loooooong a$$ comment.
Hi Erika,
You remind me of myself. I am 27 years old. When 2020 hit I felt very lost. I got my Bachelors degree in Ec-6. I thought I had everything figured out. I was gonna be a teacher then realized it wasn’t for me because of the stress of it all. I realized it wasn’t for me and didn’t know where else to go to. I decided I wanted to be an entrepreneur. I relied on side hustles and lived off of that. I did whatever random job I was given. I was pretty successful then started a company. I burned myself out in a year and a half. I was thinking that’s what I wanted but now questioning it again. I made a channel thinking I knew what I wanted by focusing on discussing about a growing entrepreneur. I now want to change the direction and focus on passions. Life is about exploring. There’s nothing wrong with not knowing where to go and where it leads. You may think you want something then find out maybe it wasn’t meant for you. Just keep doing the things you find joy in and your happiness will lie in that. You’ll find your dream within exploring your passions. While doing this goals will appear and that will make you want to keep going.
I'm a middle school math teacher in my 60's - you might be surprised to know that I constantly question if this is what I want to do! This is actually the fourth career I've had, and I don't want to kid anyone - it is the most difficult work I've ever done. Amid the chaos of middle school there are moments when all the planets come into alignment that make it worthwhile. I've come to realize that what I do is akin to planting seeds for trees whose shade I may never see. I'm okay with that.
@@Thomas63r2 Yes, I agree there are parts in the job it is great. I just realized I enjoy having the freedom to do what I want. I did student teaching during covid and it was highly stressful. I felt unappreciated in the field by the administration. It made me want to do something else.
@@MollyHarrah🤴 You need a husband right now! Erika too! 😤 If you have beautiful feet I can marry you, 🦶😋 besides I love Asian women. 😍❤️🔥
From this comment, I checked out your RUclips channel and Tiktok. you should post more videos on youtube.
I am 66 years old and this showed up on my timeline. 40 years ago. I was in a position not much different than you. I grew up inner city Chicago, but at 21 I moved to Alaska on my own! I stayed in my tent for the summer and found things to do to stay better off in the winter. I really did not do much but 11 years later I started college. I have worked as a teacher in Foreign countries, after 45 got married and have 3 children from 16 to 9 years old. If I could give you any useful advice, do not over think find something you love to do. In general I like people and doing many things so I am very active so working with children and people is a great life for me! I never wanted to do what my 9 older siblings did in the 1970's which was computer programmer! Not for me!
Just hearing you… omgosh human services. For sure. I was a heroin addict for 20 years, now I’m an addiction recovery coach. You’re a sweetheart. You will be excellent once you figure it out. Beautiful and brave… let’s get it!
Let me say, I am almost 70. When I was in my mid-20's I was much like you. I wasn't so much worried about it like you seem to be but I did realize I didn't know anything much about anything and my career path had been a series of, what they used to call,, dead-end jobs. I picked one thing to get educated about. I decided I should become somewhat of an expert on something. I didn't know what would become of it but I wanted to be above the average on one thing. I chose to educate myself on the Civil War and I started to consume everything I could find. Eventually I went back to school and got a BA in History. That got me into a different world. Also, gave me a lot of confidence. Went out and got a job with a law firm and have been having a great time working with smart people all my life. It started by picking one thing to get good at. It doesn't have to be history. It can be anything. This door leads to that door and on an on. Sorry, not trying to be one of those baby boomers.
You are a beautiful person, be true to yourself, be kind to yourself and to others. There will always be challenges in life that’s what makes it special and interesting. Embrace each day 😊
Your so young and have so much time ahead of you to search and find meaning. You are blessed and good things will come your way.
Hmmm. I started to write a critical message on not doing anything. Now I am impressed she is trying something. She is avoiding being stuck. I wish her good luck. She will succeed.
You are allready doing somthing...and positive!
Keep on doing these videos blogs and you will find your way 😂
Here is an idea from me; I like painting
...and zo I was telling you ( but my old fingers were pushing the sendbutton on me ) that you could maybe be my muse! All and only offcourse if that would interest you.
What I mean tot say is: you Carey about yourself something
I’m 40 years old and love playing guitar, petting my cats and being creative. Stay positive and seek Jesus Christ, with a sincere heart. He saved me from people who were trying to murder me, when I was younger. This world passes away, but Jesus is forever
50 years ago, I was like you and have no regrets. Never worried about education or a career. Never worried about having a family. Never cared about money. Life is too short to live up to other people’s expectations. Enjoy it while you can.
well said
But you still need a roof over your head, food on the table, and enough clothes to keep the neighbours from seeing things they can't unsee. So you either had an adequate job, a partner in adequate employment, a trust fund, a sugar daddy, a thing between your legs,....or you're a bludger. Because no matter how much people say don't worry about money, roofs, food and clothing ain't free - you pay one way or another.
You can find a good loving man who is rich or capable of getting rich. A lot of good guys are looking for a lovely woman exactly like you to build a life with. I am 56 and I can tell you that you are a rare and very prescious person. Men do not look for a woman with a high fly career but for a humble and sweet life companion. Further dont loose hope, you are only 22. If you want to learn something specific you have lots of time. I felt the same as I was in your age. Its not about what you can do, its about what you want to do. Greetings from Denmark.
Yep. She can go a long way by weaning herself from the legal system that screw men over in a divorce proceeding. If they sense that sincerity in her, she will meet the right man.
You are articulate, photogenic, hopeful, and honest about your feelings. Those are good starting points. Life is a journey. Embrace it, and see where it leads you.
Thanks for sharing this. Really powerful and the best thing you can do is talk about these things and get it all out in the open. Sounds like you've had some challenges in your life but the good news is, you're not alone in facing them. We can be connected in our hardships but only if we're vulnerable and share them, like you did here. Keep your head and keep living one day at a time. You're worth it! -Jason
Assuming that what you are saying is true, it is very brave to buck the trend of exaggerating one's fortune. Honesty is incredibly refreshing. I wish you all the best.
Good morning Erika, I see a lot of good advice in your comments. Learm from the good ones & ignore any bad ones that might come along. Consider you are a captain of a boat headed on a trip. Directional choices must be made. Seems most important to plot a course to arrive at a destination. Skills needed to pilot boat first. Perhaps that desire to go somewhere. Learning new skills to start journey. Adjusting course regularly. Maintaining a good attitude seems worthwhile. Expect setbacks & readjust. Stay away from things that will head you in the wrong direction. Be persistant. Baby steps, one by one. There is always answers to every question, seek assistance when needed. Keep your ship going forward. Never give up. Enjoy the little victories. Wishing you a wonderful trip to a new & exciting place!! You are the master of your domain...
Don’t rush. You’re upright, you’re conscious, you’re cognizant, you’re experiencing what many other people do. Now, go make things happen!
I'm 70 when I was 22 I felt the same way, I joined the navy and found my direction. Became an electrician and got into electronics- now I design electronic devices and am loving every minute of my life. The point is that you may just accidentally find your way. Keep you head up and keep going - things have a way of working out.
I am 58 years old. When I was your age I felt very much like you do now. Trust me when I say it gets better. I think this channel is a good step forward on your life journey. Keep the faith and keep going. You got this. 🙂
All i have to say is youre not alone. What makes me so happy is that you are not blaming anyone or anything for what is happenig with you or with your life. I have done the same thing, seeing my old friends from high school on social media and thinking "man, what am i doing with my life? look at how great they are doing!" ive made many mistakes in my life, but no matter what i pick myself back up and try again. im 34 years old, divorced, male, work two jobs all week just to see my (4) kids on the weekends. This is the first video ive ever seen of yours and your brutal honesty is a great thing to have. Most people just blame everyone for everything, but you seem to own your own issues and want to ACTUALLY work on them, some way or another, even if you dont know how. Youre trying, and that is the most important thing!