Talking To Our Younger Selves (Right Before Our Baby is Born)
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Thank you for these videos! 😄 Their releases have essentially tracked with our journey so far -- due this week! They have been reassuring, humourous, informative and entertaining.
Naps. Lol. Last year for my birthday, I was 35 weeks pregnant. In August. My husband and family asked what I wanted and I said I want a nap...a long two hour nap. Take our son and let me nap. Best Birthday present ever.
My bestie had "Irish twins" and both were cranky, bad sleepers. For her birthday, I gifted her and her husband an overnight at a really nice hotel on the beach, with an amazing restaurant, wine bar, piano lounge, etc. My bestie and her husband went down for a nap when they checked in and did not wake up until the next morning.
"Do I get a nap?"
"Don't ask dumb questions."
I think this is my favorite of the vids so far.
Just going to add: don't be afraid to admit if you aren't ok. Those first few weeks after baby comes home...will turn you upside down. If you aren't OK, talk to someone. PPD and PPA are both very real, very common and very under-discussed. It's totally ok to accept that this isn't what you thought you'd feel, and to reach out for some help.
I just had a baby and wished I would’ve seen this before! I can’t believe how accurate this was 🤣
Congrats on the baby!!! How are you both (and everyone) doing?
My kids are 32, 29, 21, and 15 and let me just tell ya... I'm still exhausted! 😂
“Make the Call when you see the placenta” 😂😂😂😂
I’m 5 months pregnant with my first and appreciate the blunt honesty 😂
All true!
It’s always impressive to me that they are able to really make it seem like they are talking to a totally different younger couple. I think the same things when I think about how stupid my husband and I were.
I wish someone could do this for when you're in your 50's & care giving for elder parents. That is the stage I'm in now & it is unbelievably difficult.
This couple has no idea that what's coming is far harder.
@@mariawhite3044 Yep. Life gets far tougher the older you get.
I just delivered my first two weeks ago and the after birth stuff is so accurate... like why are nurses coming in at all hours of the night to ask me questions that can wait til godly hours🥴 also - I heard about sleep deprivation.. but holy shit! Finally falling asleep after an hour of nursing, burping, and rocking only to be awakened to screaming 20 minutes later is a special kind of torture
Great video, brought me right back to when our daughter was born.
Partners in the audience, seriously just do whatever you can to help the mother of your child. Help apply her hemorrhoid cream, make food, change every diaper possible, day or night, watch the baby for a few hours so she can spend some time alone away from the home and baby, be kind. I wasn’t a mind reader either, but I tried to anticipate her needs, listen, and be adaptable. It was a hard time, but striving to be equal partners really strengthened our bond with each other and our daughter.
That is SOOOOO BEAUTIFULLY STATED!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🥰❤️❤️❤️
"Your got more babys coming. In fact..."
So are they telling us, there is a third baby on the way?
This series is awesome !
Reminds me of Julie Nolke's trips back in time to talk to her past self about the pandemic, but in pregnant couple version !
You guys are adorable !
Haha we love hers!! And thank you!!
Wow, this is VERY accurate! Six months pregnant with my second child here and honestly can't really remember the first few weeks with my first. It's all a haze of being so tired and overwhelmed with emotion, yet sooo happy. I DO remember pacing the living room every single night bawling my eyes out with my daughter in my arms, not knowing why I was crying. I never ever cry normally but the tears just streamed. Happy tears, tired tears, sad tears, oh-my-god-my-baby-is-so-beautiful-tears, tears of fear (HELP, what if baby dies!?), tears of abandonment (that "bye bye good luck have fun" from the hospital hit HARD)... So so so much hormones rushing around.
The “no more sleep” part is so accurate😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 21 months into my sons life and I fear I have many years until I sleep again.
Yup. Sorry. 😒 My boys are 6 and 8 and I'm still waiting! Lol! My boys didn't get that memo.
Set your babies schedule yourself! Do it according to their sleep/wake times, of course. But put them down for a nap at the same times every day, and after a few days, they will get into a consistent pattern! You just gotta be consistent and not give up. Let them cry! Up to 30 min (as long as they are well-fed, diaper changed, not teething, etc). Just check on them at first every 10 or 15 minutes. But after that first few days especially, we can check on them after 30 minutes, and then a week or 2 later you don’t need to check on them at all during each nap.
Also don’t let them nap for longer than the recommended time for their age range (2 hours @ 3-6 months)! (yes that means you sometimes have to wake them up, but it’s worth it! And they are fine!)
This will help them sleep better at night and sleep THROUGH the night!
We did all of these things with my son and it worked like magic!
@@genasseeceline I'm sorry, this does not work for every person/child/baby. I'm not going to get into the cry it out debate, but I am going to say it does not work for everyone. Some people simply don't require much sleep, and you can't force a body to sleep any more than it needs.
@@genasseeceline I'm doing something similar to this with my son and he sleeps 8 hours straight at night, hopefully longer soon.
@@LADHP I agree, I wont get into the cry it out debate but it's not for my family...
Two words.....NIGHT NANNY....Best. Decision. Ever.
THAT'S A THING?!?!?!?!?!??!???!!!!!!!???? 🤯😱🥳
My MIL stayed with us for a few weeks and she took the overnight shift ... She deserves a sainthood for that
"The gown's sexy. Open back." (And then the face he made, vs the face everyone else had.) Seriously the best part IMO
My Dad was my parenting angel....he taught me ENJOY IT ALL.... Time flies and all the things that kids do that drive u nuts are not only temp ....when ur old....they will be your fondest memories. The good the bad the ugly..... it is your life rolling away. Relish the dirty diapers and 3 am feedings and tantrums.... I swear.... if u can remind yourself it will be over b4 u know it.... it is much much easier to get thru.... My Dad told me 3 am feedings are far easier than waking at 3am to find your car and your 15 yr old are gone! A crying baby is much easier to manage than a crying teen on the other end of the phone halfway thru prom night. My dad was ADAMANT! ..... babies are child's play.... all u have to do is love and enjoy them with all u have.... the big show doesn't come til much later, when they walk out and choose to come back OR NOT based on what u do with your now.
Currently pregnant and I thought this video would give me a little giggle and instead (admittedly hormonal) it made me cry, lose any excitement I had today and question if I'm making a mistake. Timeeeee to take an internet break.
Hey, you can do this! I don't know who you are, but I believe in you. You got this
How did it go?
Everyone has different experiences with childbirth. Mine was rough. I think that is someone who doesn't dislike medical care being touched by so many medical people, isn't scared of needles and who doesn't care about modesty, has a easier time.
Also, take our own night gown and cut it up the back and sew in ties higher up on it. It will make you more comfortable than a used hospital gown.
This is the most accurate birth prep ever. 😂😂😂
"Have you seen a placenta before? Make the call when you've seen a placenta." Haha after i gave birth I wanted to see the placenta. My husband took pictures and now i have to see it every time I scroll through pictures of our daughter on Google Photos and i hate it. 🤣😷
I ate my placenta. I actually think it helped! 😂
@@Imzadi how'd you prepare it? Pills or cooked???
@@carmel2r my doula dried it, crush it up, and encapsulated it! I swear it fended off PPD. That was for my second birth. I was willing to try anything to prevent getting PPD again and I think it worked!
Yep! Encapsulated with all three! Would do it again.
@@Imzadi I've heard from others who have done it that it does really work. One said her husband referred to them as her "happy pills" lol.
I like that they don't just talk about all the difficult stuff and it's not just "battle of the spouses" vibes, but they really do mention the positive and joyous side too.
Sounds like your hospital experience was way better than mine. My hospital birth with my first was God-awful. The doctor was an a-hole. The nurses were cranky. I had to share a room with a very loud woman. I could not wait to get out of there.
So thankful I was able to have home births for my other 2. The midwife did her thing, baby got fed, I crawled into my own bed and slept for 6 glorious uninterrupted hours.
It was magic
Can I ask where you live? I’ve never heard of sharing a room with another woman! That would be awful right after birth!
@@sarahw7936 I lived in Florida at the time. Private rooms are available, but limited in quantity and generally far more expensive. Hospitals usually leave you in the delivery room for an hour or so after birth and then women are placed in recovery rooms and doubled up to maximize space. My roommate was very loud, had a C-section so she was in a lot of pain, and she was from overseas so her family would call her at crazy hours because timezones. It was the worst.
@@ashleypenn7845 that would be stressful. I’m in Michigan, but our hospital probably isn’t as busy as yours. I’ve never shared a room thankfully!
Midwives at home is not an option here, and it would be at least 2-3 hours to find some kind of birthing center with midwives.
Maybe just research a marriage therapist in the area....lol...😂 you guys are just awesome...keep ‘em coming
"are we gonna be okay??" 😂😂
any other advice we missed?!
@@TheJurgys yes, you’ll have another kid....do a video in which you guys are talking to your future selves now! If that makes sense...lol
ya! That's a great idea
@@TheJurgys yes, so I’ll expect a shout out at the end of the video and FULL creative authority here...😂😂. Ok let’s take kids to baby sitter and get started. I hope you guys don’t gain too much weight and are not living on a deserted island! Have fun you crazy kids...and I hope you didn’t turn into your parents!
LOL….You both will need to redo this again when your babies are teenagers! I would have spent the whole time giving my younger self massive amounts of birth control!
If younger you was upset you didn't clue her in on all the pregnant stuff imagine when she finds out about COVID. (really I'd love to see that)
7 babies later, I'd say your take is pretty accurate!
I am due in two months with my first. You have told me more of what to expect after delivery than my own family and friends!! I mean I’m officially scared (and feel like crying), but hey I’m now educated!! Thank you for this video!! New subscriber!! ❤️
Our first baby is four weeks old and I just have one question: Where is the bug you planted? This so hilariously accurate my wife laughed while pumping.
Oh my goodness magic spoon has been the best thing ever for our family! Our daughter is type 1 diabetic and it keeps her sugar levels PERFECT!!!
Thank you for sharing! It's insane how much sugar the cereal we all grew up on has lol
100% accurate part of the video saying along the lines of "you grew up eating sugar cereal but you won't want your kids to have any." My baby boy is almost 1 and I can say amen and amen.
The entire first month is one big day in my memory.
I really don't understand how people willingly go through the pain of pregnancy and childbirth... multiple times. I get stressed just hearing about it.
It’s like golf ....but on steroids. One good hole in golf will keep you loving the sport through the other 17 holes of frustration.
It’s the little things that TOTALLY outweigh the difficult times. Hold your baby for 8 seconds and it all melts away. Seeing them see the world through brand new eyes and experiences, knowing you’re the one enabling them to do so and feelin this HUGE new sense of care..that’s some of the good stuff
Can confirm: worth it. Also, you forget the pain.
@@thisismylovehandle idk about forgetting lol, I’m having to remind myself constantly that it doesn’t last and I’ll be ok, pregnant with #5 ❤️
It really is horrible. I remember it well and did so 3 times. I am surprised that people continue to have babies.
Everybody should watch this! They described my exact experience..no sleep…
😂😂
Your body never goes back to what it was. Yes you can lose the weight but you have those beautiful scars to remind you that you grew a human 💕
😂😂😂😂 “no you won’t”
he won't lol....
Just delivered my second last week, and I am dying 😂😂😂 everything is so spot on!!
CONGRATULATIONS btw!!! How are you??
Hi Tamica here we met in Target. This video is so cute and spot on. You guys are the sweetest too. 🌼
Tamica thank you so much for saying hi!! That made our day
Wait?! Did I just pick up the hint to a baby #3 announcement coming soon?! 🙃🙈🤪
9:53 ???? Maybe!
Mmh. Mmh. I'm curious now too
"In fact..." I think you you did!
I love the ending 9:55:
"...In fact--"
Too cute!
YES. Nurses are awesome but they always come in when you're finally asleep.
And the janitor will ignore the "Do not disturb" sign THAT THE HOSPITAL GIVES YOU to come in and ask if you want your trash emptied. DO I LOOK LIKE I CARE ABOUT THE TRASH RIGHT NOW?!
Forget sex education class. This video should be shown in every high school. Every teen would immediately lock their legs. This just confirms that I never want to do this. :)
hahaha until you find the right one
@@TheJurgys Love your content, but wanting or not wanting kids is not partner-dependent. Some of us just don't want them. ✌️
@@nikki5095 this this this!
It might be age/life stage dependent though (and it might not be). I didn't want kids as a teenager, had no interest, have one now and want another. Never thought I would, wasn't the kind of person who dreamed about weddings or babies at all.
@@hollyl5702 These are all valid points. We all change over our lifetimes. However, I feel that it's important not to reinforce the idea that having kids is right for everyone- if they meet the right person, if their "biological clock" tells them to, if if if... You know? It gets frustrating to childfree folks to be told that our perspectives are somehow naïve.
Props to you guys for doing this at 2am. Oh man
appreciate you. so much haha
What a cool way to incorporate your sponsor into the skit :)
So hilarious! I love the looks the “guys” kept exchanging. 😆
Don't feel down if you don't have much you can give to your baby. We were very poor with out first and all things were gifts or from garage sales. Babies don't need much just much love! See if your community or county has any pregnancy resource center, most will set you up so you can earn items for your baby. Bedding, clothing, diapers, food...ect.
We ended up getting a lot things from yard sales and thrift stores! We didn't qualify for any help because we were middle class but yet paid taxes to cover helping others.
This is hilarious. The part about the hospital, "It's a little cruel really!" so true. 🤣
This is so hilarious and so accurate! Preparing for our second baby in July. I laughed so much... until the part where you were talking about the dr pushing down on your tummy after labor... truly a terror! 😒 good thing I get a baby out of the deal.
"No more sleep" 😄😄 so true and it only gets worse with more kids.
😂😂 this might be the best one yet
😂😂 🙌🏼❤️🙌🏼
I can’t even with this video. It’s so relatable 😂
You are both hilarious, we have a 22 year old daughter and watching you reminds us of how nieve we were! We ran to the ER because our daughter wasn't settling down as a newborn...you can imagine what they thought of us. Great video I will watch more. Get some sleep.
Love how you worked the cereal in 😂😂😂
I'm not married, not pregnant. Stumbled upon this and aww..you guys are a vibe. Enjoyed it thoroughly. Thanks for this.
I LOVE the blunt honesty! My 1st is one and it’s spot on!
“No, we still love each other everything is great!” Haha! I’ve had four babies, sounds about right.
Would love to see one of these with the difference between having your first kid vs having second kid. I’m sure it’s different having, for example, a toddler and a newborn vs just having a newborn 😀
I can help with that description. Standards change fast! My 3 children 22 months and 27 months apart in age. If you can let things go that don't really matter with housework, easier meals, do it! Sleep when the babies sleep! Who cares if the laundry isn't put away, you need sleep. It is okay to use the dryer as clothes storage option at the new baby and having a toddler stage! You can even use clothes hampers as clothes storage. Who cares? You aren't going anywhere and all you need to remember about baby at home? Snapped undershirts and baby nightgowns for changes in the middle of the night. Game changer. Those cute pajamas with snaps? Ha! You have to be fully awake to have a baby wear those and you won't be fully awake until all the children are 4!
Make a list of what "has to be done" (take out garbage, let dogs out in to potty, mom needs to eat and drink, etc)
Now, make a list of "extra" things that would be nice but let us be realistic....
You are welcome
Just stumbled across your channel. Have watched a couple of your videos and honestly, brilliantly done. Love the you now/you then … funny and eerily accurate. Very well done. I look forward to watching the rest of your videos.
I'm so glad to have kids and all the great memories *and* to be beyond this stage of life. 😄 This brought it all back! (Kids are tweens now)
This was so creative and well done, thank you for posting this.
Just found this channel, and I really like it. Great job guys! As a young guy getting going in life, this is awesome.
🤣 love it!! Do you have another fun announcement coming up tho, the end got me??
“Too soon” 😘😂
Picked up on that too😍😍😍
ohhh the stomach "massage" is SO bad!!! but it's to stop the bleeding quicker I believe not deliver the placenta... I never felt contraction to deliver the placenta 🤷♀️
Oh I meant contraction when breastfeeding at first when it all starts to contract again!
@@TheJurgys oh man...yeah thats bad 😭
@@TheJurgys I just had a baby 2 weeks ago so it's all very fresh on my mind haha
That part hurt so much less than the birth itself that I didn't even notice.
@@TheJurgys Thankfully, that means that your stomach is getting back to normal. I had to remind myself of this during feeling that feeling. It helped!
I just have to say...Best anticontraceptive video of the year!!! LOL I chose not to have kids...and this video clearly states many (but not all) the reasons why. I do not regret my decision one bit. May the force be with you!
It is quite the experience. I went through it 3 times. I can see why you feel the way you do. It is a lie that people forget how rough it is. I remember.
You got me at the free naps. Yep. So true. There's no sleep.
When my husband lets me nap is when I feel most loved 😅 Forget the gifts and romantic gestures
This was so much fun - and all so true! Binge watching old videos. So glad I did.
This has me scared, anxious and happy all at the same time 😂 this is an honest pregnancy/birth experience wow! Love these videos haha
These are such a highlight! Please keep them coming.
Having my first baby in next few weeks, very helpful!!
Everyone wish Danielle good luck!!! Also we'll add our prayers that all goes well
I just had a baby on Christmas, this was so accurate. Didn't mention the pee fire though 🔥 lol.
I’m almost halfway through my first pregnancy and the accuracy of these hand the honesty are amazing. Thank you so much!
When she said hemorrhoid cream I was like oh yeah. In fact my ex said that when I had our son I had roid rage. It hurt for like about for a couple of weeks. An absolutely with the mesh underwear the Frozen diaper and the disinfectant spray or rather the numbing spray and also hemorrhoid pads. Absolutely yes.
Yes the tucks stitches the bleeding and the after contractions were horrible, you forgot the sweating.... After I had my son I napped for 6 hours.
Would the space time continuum crash in on itself if the kids happen to run into the room during the video?! 🤣🤣
super cute.
These are beautiful videos.
I had an idea;
do a two scene one where you switch back and forth;
one each but separate; (maybe light his one way and hers with a slightly different colour of lighting to differentiate as you switch back and forth,) with your younger selves, on the day you knew they were the one you wanted to be with for the rest of your life. (and maybe one for the day you met them?)
Did you say stitch? 😂😂😂ugh this takes me back!!
I had to crawl for a few weeks after one of my stitch experiences........ Shudder....
Appreciate that dry bread, days old, single slice of thin turkey, with no dressings sandwich they bring you at 3am when you're starving after giving birth. It is entirely possible that will be the last food you get without effort for a looong time.
Every mum to be needs to see this. So funny but so on point 😂
Hey Bryce, this is Jay Hendricks from the otm. Good to see you're doing well! Awesome channel!
Getting psyched up with these videos! Baby is due early August!! FTM here, this was pretty insightful!
The transition to the ad, buying now hahahaha
This made me die laughing😂😂 the "open back" comment... oh my goodness I cried
Buy as many Tucks as the store will let you, and ask the hospital to give you ANYTHING they opened to use on/for you and baby and will toss out after you leave. Even if you're rich, saving yourself a later trip to the store, saving the wait for instacart to bring a thing, is worth hauling extra crap with you on the trip home from the hospital. Even if it take two trips to bring it from the room to the car and the car to the house.
If you could ask your future self *anything* ...what would you ask?
Will $DOGE be a bust or goldmine? Lol
This year or nah?
Was working 50+ hours every week really worth it in the long run?
What tricks/hacks did I learn to help me survive the attitude filled, talking back "I know that" age. Fill in the blank on what age that is. For some it's teenage, for me it's 8 yrs old.
@@heatherbauer2387 8 is often the beginning of puberty, especially for girls! Prayers 🙏
Do one for toddler years!
oh man....the stories lol
@@TheJurgys yes please!!!!
Just wait for puberty...
Very expensive assisted help 😂 that’s so trueeee
"Mesh panties"
"Very sexy"
🤣
I just ordered that cereal! Super excited, thanks for the recommendation. The ingredients list sounded amazing.
Cute video! 😂 you are really good actors! And pove the editing
I love how you guys sneak in the sponsorships.
Haha gotta have fun with it. Only sharing product we actually do think blesses lives but we also are trying to do it in a way that’s more enjoyable than just an “ad” 🤷🏻🤷🏻♀️
Pregnant with #6. Message to my younger self during first pregnancy: Just use a midwife and have the baby at home in a birthing pool. You know you dislike hospitals, and really everything will be ok doing it at home. ....also don't use the large bathtub to birth baby # 5. Cause later cleaning out the jets after the midwife accidentally turns them on during the birth ( when the waters all "gross") is just nasty.
Super funny. Absolute reality
Ok this has definitely put me off ever having kids, ever. As a woman why would you ever want to put yourself through all that, it sounds horrific!!!
I had 3 babies, 3 different births, in a hospital and I don't like hospitals. I don't like medical care even.
Why? I had the strong urge to be mom. It hit me at age 21 and stayed with me until I became a mom. Then, when that baby turned one. The urge to have another hit me. It was powerful!
It is a mystery why. I still hate hospitals, medical care, and am still very modest. Yet, I wanted children.
And I didn't forget how rough it all was like some people say.... It was that bad. It was really bad!
I’m sorry who delivered the children?😂😂
you both are cute
😂😂
I think it would be interesting to see "pregnant with first kid/ pregnant with last kid" or "first born newborn/ youngest newborn"
8:35 as someone who had Hyperramarasis Gravadarium (EXTREME morning sickness) both times I was pregnant, I felt that! Also, after my second, I still cant eat apples :(
"Gimmie a call when you see the placenta" lol 🤣 The doctor asked if I wanted to keep the placenta but I just wanted to see it. It was trippy.
Unfortunately I was not able to sleep before pregnancy very much. Definitely didn't sleep until after giving birth. I did get some sleep at the hospital but not much in three days.
TBH giving birth was better than pregnancy for me personally. I would've rather gone through labor and delivery again if I could've skipped pregnancy. I feel sad for women that have post-pardom depression. Bringing my baby home was one of the best feelings ever.
I never felt as happy with a human being as I was with my newborn feeling safe in our home. Best high ever even though I was exhausted.
In a few months things changed with teething and interruptions from crazy family... but learning to say when you need help is paramount.
Also BABY proofing!!! ( We were not allowed to ....living with a crazy person) and it sucked so much more than it had to because of that once baby started to get mobile.
If you have guilt over putting baby in a safe spot while you need a bath, or a nap ....fight the guilt! Can be tough with the emotions and your baby crying (after you've gone through the checks of course; handled feeding, teething, diaper, fun levels, noise levels, etc...) .....it's a lot. Even when you read everything you can before hand. Be kind to yourself and patient with you too not just your baby.
100%, no delays, ask your doctor about postpartum depression resources--even if you haven't given birth yet. It is normal to have "I left my baby behind at the store" type of dreams, but if they persist, or get worse, do NOT delay getting help. It is out there, it is normal, and it is solvable. Take my word for it.