Talking To Our Younger Selves (When We Were Engaged)

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  • @TheJurgys
    @TheJurgys  3 года назад +328

    We just filmed a part 2 to this - Talking To Our Younger Selves The Day We Got Pregnant 😂: ruclips.net/video/XWZKjuNb35s/видео.html

    • @jaklumen
      @jaklumen 3 года назад +2

      Do a sequel when the kids are teenagers and young adults. Oh... yeah, you'll need another six years, probably 10, just to be safe.

    • @akashique3923
      @akashique3923 3 года назад +1

      R I can

    • @zinta1
      @zinta1 3 года назад +2

      im 59.. no wife.. never had kids.. never had a family.. things never worked out like I wanted them to... I'd trade anything to go back and start my life over.

    • @NB-lx6gz
      @NB-lx6gz 2 года назад +1

      Only your wife got pregnant

  • @lizziesomerville311
    @lizziesomerville311 3 года назад +8848

    Am I the only one who thought they filmed two videos 6 years apart and edited them together? I feel so dumb lmao

    • @carahowell874
      @carahowell874 3 года назад +53

      😅😅😅

    • @MyFictionalChaos
      @MyFictionalChaos 3 года назад +389

      Some people do that too but usually it's pretty obvious when it is 😂

    • @LauraaDrachmann
      @LauraaDrachmann 3 года назад +125

      Wait how did they even film this? I’m sooooo confused??

    • @MyFictionalChaos
      @MyFictionalChaos 3 года назад +112

      @@LauraaDrachmann it's two shots. They edited the thumbail together lol

    • @MyFictionalChaos
      @MyFictionalChaos 3 года назад +44

      @@LauraaDrachmann If you mean from the middle shot, you just keep the camera in the *exact* same place and shoot twice. How would you think they'd do it if they filmed it in the past? 😂 they'd still have to edit them together

  • @JustOutHereTrustingGod
    @JustOutHereTrustingGod 3 года назад +3687

    “In fact, most people work from home...now.....” 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @aw6707
    @aw6707 3 года назад +4291

    Married 4.5 years:
    - date night matters
    - forgiveness matters
    -communication matters
    - marriage is a journey and each year brings on a different challenge, adventure, and opportunity.

    • @zouky4life
      @zouky4life 3 года назад +5

      Well said!!!

    • @FruityUnicorn17
      @FruityUnicorn17 3 года назад +45

      Love this! Marriage is hard but it is also an adventure. Everything in life is hard. Choose your hard.

    • @jdouce6074
      @jdouce6074 3 года назад +4

      💜✨😌

    • @fusionart4377
      @fusionart4377 3 года назад +4

      This year just brought more of a challenge

    • @KristianCheyenne413
      @KristianCheyenne413 3 года назад +4

      In my second year of marriage and taking these notes

  • @janinepillay5554
    @janinepillay5554 3 года назад +2631

    My parents have been married for 26 years and they're still like disgusting newly weds. I've never seen 2 people love each other more. 3 kids later and they're still happy.
    I hope I'm blessed with partner like that one day.

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +125

      Amazing!!

    • @vir_rm
      @vir_rm 3 года назад +32

      What do you think contributes to that beautiful dynamic?

    • @janinepillay5554
      @janinepillay5554 3 года назад +256

      @@vir_rm They each have roles. I've never ever seen my parents raise their voices or swear at eachother. My mum always says once you insult your husband there are things said that can't be taken back so attack the problem not the person. They just respect eachother. I can't explain it. He still buys her flowers. Shes still so shy. They just adore eachother. It's kinda gross but also incredibly sweet

    • @samanthap.879
      @samanthap.879 3 года назад +78

      My parents are the same way and then me and my fiancé act like the old married couple 🤣 it’s a funny dynamic. They’re still in the honeymoon phase after close to thirty years it’s adorable

    • @janinepillay5554
      @janinepillay5554 3 года назад +58

      @@samanthap.879 isn't it! I feel blessed to see a healthy and loving relationship don't you? Not many people get to see it.

  • @BrynneC
    @BrynneC 3 года назад +5588

    I’d love to tell my engaged self that NO ONE CARES ABOUT THE CENTREPIECES.

    • @dragonflymagictarot1180
      @dragonflymagictarot1180 3 года назад +84

      People go for the open bar

    • @Ccaarrooification
      @Ccaarrooification 3 года назад +139

      Thank you, I needed that. I'm getting married in two days and I keep obsessing over details.

    • @BrynneC
      @BrynneC 3 года назад +66

      @@Ccaarrooification I spent way too much time planning and arranging and half my florals wilted overnight (we DIYed the centrepieces) and the venue replaced them with super basic floating tea lights and they looked fantastic and I’m sure my guests didn’t care.

    • @beverleyfillingham698
      @beverleyfillingham698 3 года назад +34

      everyone cared about ours! 🤣 we had magnums of bollinger champagne in ice buckets! one of the best decisions we made xx

    • @hachmannfamilyemail4877
      @hachmannfamilyemail4877 3 года назад +4

      @@Ccaarrooification congrats 🎊

  • @debbyelkins4240
    @debbyelkins4240 3 года назад +3561

    Don’t spend a ton of money on your wedding and reception. Invite those closest to you. We spent $3K. Married for 31 years. Don’t regret our simple wedding at all. And also this video was so cute!

    • @April-xq4ll
      @April-xq4ll 3 года назад +176

      The average wedding is 35k. I'm with you, keep it small. It's one day, verses putting some money towards a house.

    • @Song-Girl-Still-Singing
      @Song-Girl-Still-Singing 3 года назад +9

      Yes, I agree

    • @ThaliaEatsDonuts
      @ThaliaEatsDonuts 3 года назад +108

      I just used an inflation calculator and it showed that 31 years ago in 1989 $3,000 would be over $6,000 now. Wow!

    • @singingstars5006
      @singingstars5006 3 года назад +41

      @@April-xq4ll 35k??? What? 😳

    • @singingstars5006
      @singingstars5006 3 года назад +45

      My husband and I went to an elopment destination in Idaho, which was a chapel with several rooms and space for some guests. A pastor married us with my folks the only guests. It was great...no stress! But it was a bit surreal to walk in single and walk out 30 min later married. One expects a life altering decision to have more fanfare. 😆

  • @dianaharvey9708
    @dianaharvey9708 3 года назад +640

    Best marriage advice I could ever give: sleep with separate blankets.

    • @Kowen-gh8vt
      @Kowen-gh8vt 3 года назад +7

      Yes!!!!! Lol

    • @camillemitchell301
      @camillemitchell301 3 года назад +5

      THIS. Lol

    • @randidaponte9336
      @randidaponte9336 3 года назад +5

      💯 %

    • @lauradaisy1571
      @lauradaisy1571 3 года назад +3

      Why?

    • @DawnStarLightning
      @DawnStarLightning 3 года назад +29

      @@lauradaisy1571 As someone who shares a bed with my fiance... Nothing causes irrational anger faster than a blanket hog. If it's not you, it's your spouse. Just have a separate blanket, it's easier. Lol

  • @edschermerhorn5415
    @edschermerhorn5415 3 года назад +1127

    For my 20-30 year old self: Be willing to stand up to the “hard stuff” your spouse is facing...don’t just “love and support” your way into a corner.

    • @frecklesaresexy
      @frecklesaresexy 3 года назад +81

      Wait, please elaborate

    • @justslightly7794
      @justslightly7794 3 года назад +24

      I don't understand, yes please elaborate!

    • @rubymarie6232
      @rubymarie6232 3 года назад +189

      I think he means, don't stand by if your spouse is going through Something hard? Like don't just cheer them on. Really help them out. See what you can do and work through tough spots. And not just go "youre doing great. Im here for you IF you need me"

    • @visionmyasia9466
      @visionmyasia9466 3 года назад +2

      Love this

    • @recoverykonie407
      @recoverykonie407 3 года назад +4

      Like, go to counseling with them? Struggle too? I'm curious too what this well earned observation means for you.

  • @taylorhardman3175
    @taylorhardman3175 3 года назад +1153

    My advice for engaged/new married couples is you dont have to like each other all the time. You have to love them always.

    • @ifedibazube5375
      @ifedibazube5375 3 года назад +16

      Thank you! This means a whole lot to me right now.

    • @ihavenoidea2805
      @ihavenoidea2805 3 года назад

      what do you mean

    • @AumendJoy5962
      @AumendJoy5962 3 года назад +21

      Yeah liking each other all the time never gonna happen.....loving them even though they just screamed at you = priceless marriage moment

    • @navigodelaney119
      @navigodelaney119 3 года назад

      Truth!!

    • @euclidtheorem4817
      @euclidtheorem4817 3 года назад +8

      @@AumendJoy5962 that's sad. Better to like them and trust them than to "love" them. Don't let yourself be screamed at.

  • @gregorypic1947
    @gregorypic1947 3 года назад +881

    "Let it grooow" "oh they dont know that reference" 😂😂😂

    • @lauranoelani3148
      @lauranoelani3148 3 года назад +15

      I don't know if it's a frozen or lorax reference 😂

    • @juniorwilson3511
      @juniorwilson3511 3 года назад +3

      @@lauranoelani3148 yeah they didn’t really sing enough to be sure 😅

    • @nene_thagrinch8055
      @nene_thagrinch8055 3 года назад +1

      Lorax🙃🙃

    • @FabiaNightshadow
      @FabiaNightshadow 3 года назад

      What did they mean ? 🙃

    • @adorothyinkansas4392
      @adorothyinkansas4392 3 года назад +1

      @@FabiaNightshadow it's in reference to the a ridiculously popular Disney movie: Frozen
      Or
      The Lorax; Great movie also!
      But Frozen..? Whomever marketed that was a genius!

  • @heyjosh8465
    @heyjosh8465 3 года назад +835

    I love how they put the sponsor ship and it flowed so naturally in the sketch. I hate when it’s so obvious and obnoxious that the video is sponsored. This one was great!

    • @katiey4005
      @katiey4005 3 года назад +95

      literally DID NOT NOTICE THE SPONSERSHIP A N D THEY SOLD ME ON THE ITEM I-

    • @kasiamleczarska9078
      @kasiamleczarska9078 3 года назад +27

      Yes! They sold me as well and I was surprised when they said it was a sponsor 😃

    • @00kibbles
      @00kibbles 3 года назад +4

      I know right!! I’m sold too!

    • @samanthap.879
      @samanthap.879 3 года назад +2

      I want those my toddler hides all the lids in random places

    • @90MysteriumFascinans
      @90MysteriumFascinans 3 года назад +3

      This was well-acted advertising but incredibly obvious and the ad went on awhile. Had to skip it.

  • @TheDashleys
    @TheDashleys 3 года назад +2153

    I thoroughly enjoyed this

  • @luzbelitausa
    @luzbelitausa 3 года назад +1632

    Advice: Save the wedding money, you’ll need it to renovate the house!

    • @calmdowngurl
      @calmdowngurl 3 года назад +8

      🤣🤣

    • @Sorana44
      @Sorana44 3 года назад +4

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @visionmyasia9466
      @visionmyasia9466 3 года назад +3

      LOVE THIS ADVICE !

    • @tatiannatownsend1531
      @tatiannatownsend1531 3 года назад

      Truuuuu

    • @tsering1991
      @tsering1991 3 года назад +10

      because of covid my wedding got cancelled but with the money i fixed the kitchen and roof. So long term, over one day wedding.

  • @stormycrossman8671
    @stormycrossman8671 3 года назад +1333

    You know you're an adult when you see reusable ziplocks and have to pause the video to find the product on Amazon 🤣🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️.

    • @mandiwolfe6631
      @mandiwolfe6631 3 года назад +52

      I paused to do exactly that as well.....lost half my Tupperware lids somehow! 😆

    • @caitlinsgaul5549
      @caitlinsgaul5549 3 года назад +17

      I totally did this too! 😂

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +75

      Haha we linked it in the video description too 😘

    • @ravenaguilar7179
      @ravenaguilar7179 3 года назад +4

      Yeeeesssss!!!!

    • @nope_n0pe
      @nope_n0pe 3 года назад +4

      🙋🏻‍♀️ Full adult here 😆😂

  • @Chocolate.cloud3
    @Chocolate.cloud3 3 года назад +333

    i wish i could say to myself engaged: marriage is about partnership more like a friend and friend relationship, dont treat it like youre the princess waiting for your husband to make you happy. it's your job to be for the other half.

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 3 года назад +10

      Say that !!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾In my first marriage, I heavily relied on my ex to “ entertain me”. We have to relish in our own entertainment and separate things we like. Definitely building a friendship.

    • @llasnier
      @llasnier 3 года назад +7

      Wow, I’m 13 years in and just now figuring this out, lol. I need to work on my own happiness for my partner’s sake... it does make a huge difference and it’s not always easy, but it can be done.

    • @unmercifulfate
      @unmercifulfate 3 года назад +7

      We're not even married yet and I knew this almost from the start 😅 Thought it was obvious once you grew up. That's how all relationships work. You can never have a relationship on your own, you're two different people who have to work for it.

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 3 года назад +1

      @@unmercifulfate Wish I understood what this really meant. To say is one thing but to comprehend it and practice it is another. My ex and I had pre- martial counseling and everything; but losing our children and not repairing our previous hurts and surmounting pressures of martial issues broke us. However, somehow it was all my fault according to him 😂.

    • @kennethsizer6217
      @kennethsizer6217 3 года назад +7

      So true. As soon as you say (or think) "My happiness is your responsibility," you establish, "anytime I'm not happy, you have failed" Fast forward to train crashing into dumpster fire.

  • @gammyrants9775
    @gammyrants9775 3 года назад +174

    It’s the nodding and the married ones expressions as their engaged selves speak for me 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @piperread9474
    @piperread9474 3 года назад +3759

    This truly was the most entertaining video I have ever watched on RUclips. Happy 6th anniversary!

  • @JerryRigEverything
    @JerryRigEverything 3 года назад +2460

    Super creative!

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +66

      Haha we had way more fun creating it than anticipated

    • @AnywhereChrista
      @AnywhereChrista 3 года назад +24

      Check out Julie Nolke, this video concept is totally stolen from her without credit

    • @Kat_288
      @Kat_288 3 года назад +4

      @@hodap6591 RetroFreak84 is the first person I’ve seen do the “talking to my past self” video. Did she credit him?

    • @theoutcast9215
      @theoutcast9215 3 года назад +8

      @Christa Keizer @hoda p
      No it’s not a copy? It’s a style of a skit that a lot of people use besides Julie, and nobody credits anyone. It’s like a Tik Tok POV- everyone does it, nobody credits the original. Look it up and you’ll see a bunch lol. Jeez, you canceling stans sure try hard but alas, you don’t do research beforehand. But be my guest to look up the other videos and also demand them to “credit Julie.”

    • @hodap6591
      @hodap6591 3 года назад

      @@theoutcast9215 dear I didn't mean any insult to your artwork or anything, I had never heard of this style of skit before Julie, but I'm sincerely sorry about not "doing the research beforehand", you are absolutely right, I had to be 100% sure before accusing you of copying, I'll delete my comment as an apology 😊

  • @AntsCanada
    @AntsCanada 3 года назад +171

    🤣🤣🤣🤣 The acting is 🙌🙌🙌!

  • @jonathanwamble9340
    @jonathanwamble9340 3 года назад +86

    Marriage advice after 8 years: listen with humility. Do the hard stuff like move across the world and run out of money. Take scary chances. Its only scary for a little while. Those things become the highlight reel of your lives together.

  • @LoveYourselfHealthy
    @LoveYourselfHealthy 3 года назад +873

    I’d love to tell my engaged self that you literally only need to order cake for HALF of your guests. Maybe less lol

    • @aoneal0603
      @aoneal0603 3 года назад +98

      There was not a single piece left at my wedding and we ordered more than one piece per guest since I was hoping to take some home. I think it depends on the style of your wedding and who makes the cake.

    • @kayleewhitworth3817
      @kayleewhitworth3817 3 года назад +27

      Haha we just did 1 costco sheet cake for our guests. No one knew the difference😂

    • @acmulhern
      @acmulhern 3 года назад +14

      We had a cupcake tower and only had 4 cupcakes left (which we totally enjoyed the couple days after the wedding 😊)

    • @fvbbaby2792
      @fvbbaby2792 3 года назад +23

      We had a Ben & Jerry's ice cream cake and by the time it was starting to get soft, there were only 3 or 4 servings left, so the venue staff helped us finish it off 😊 there was no way to transport any portion home without it melting for any "eat it on your first anniversary" type traditions ... but any time we want to be romantic and eat "some of our wedding cake" we can just go buy a pint or two of Ben & Jerry's

    • @ManuelGarcia-oz9uo
      @ManuelGarcia-oz9uo 3 года назад +5

      If you did that everyone would see the lack of cake and then rush to get a piece leaving no cake left and then people asking where's the cake I want some! Lol

  • @carleenagiangiordano1575
    @carleenagiangiordano1575 3 года назад +464

    My all time go to advice for newlyweds is to always focus on your self in an argument. I have never won an argument by pointing my finger at my husband and declaring all his wrong doings. But when I stop to evaluate myself and find something I did wrong to apologize for, that's when his attitude changes and we can come back together to work on things. You can't change others, but you can always better yourself. Marriage is beautiful! #10years #4kids

  • @fobbsrus11
    @fobbsrus11 3 года назад +36

    "Oh my gosh! We live in an RV? WE'RE POOR!!" I'm so dead 🤣🤣🤣

  • @carlavanwyk3664
    @carlavanwyk3664 3 года назад +51

    This video is awesome! I became a widow at a very young age and I would really tell my engaged self: after getting married, stop getting angry at the little things. It won't make you a slave to just take the plate from the table to the dishwasher where your husband left it, it will only make you bitter if you get angry or even. Don't try to change him - accept him with all his flaws. Take lots of photos as one day this will be all you have left.

    • @zonkebellamkhomazi2977
      @zonkebellamkhomazi2977 3 года назад +7

      Sorry for your loss 😔

    • @Ruby-yn5fp
      @Ruby-yn5fp 2 года назад +3

      Well that is really sad :( thanks for sharing this and reminding us all that life is short and we shouldn't waste time on unimportant things. On the other hand, if someone consistently forgets to help you it can be a sign of a lack of respect, and you just picking up after the other person can be you losing respect for yourself too.

    • @keepingitpositive
      @keepingitpositive 2 года назад

      Wow

    • @ladekreations6455
      @ladekreations6455 2 года назад

      Sorry for your loss

  • @bluevasediva7599
    @bluevasediva7599 3 года назад +507

    When she said “hmmm you’re just so firm and defying gravity” I felt that in my soul (me as a new mom, first son born in August )

    • @jillianwickham31
      @jillianwickham31 3 года назад +9

      You’re beautiful!! 🤱💃

    • @justineromer3198
      @justineromer3198 3 года назад +1

      ❤️❤️

    • @melscott5124
      @melscott5124 3 года назад +3

      The more the saggier. I mean better 😅

    • @lizethvelardeperez12
      @lizethvelardeperez12 3 года назад +2

      Oh.... THATS what she’s talking about.

    • @00kibbles
      @00kibbles 3 года назад +3

      Congrats girl!!! It’s a ride but some things get better! Hang in there

  • @akilahroper9977
    @akilahroper9977 3 года назад +314

    I've been married for just 4 years but I would tell my younger self to relax and don't sweat the small stuff and travel more.

  • @marvellousmrsmoller
    @marvellousmrsmoller 3 года назад +60

    36 years and still very much loving each other. Communication is key. Go around life's corners together. Wait for each other. Speak words of appreciation and encouragement frequently. Be best friends.

  • @susanneely5810
    @susanneely5810 3 года назад +37

    30th anniversary this year...so, set boundaries for your kids, forgive each other, save money, don't gain weight, never say negative things about your spouse to your kids, they have their own lists of negatives - you guys are a TEAM.

  • @clementine5053
    @clementine5053 3 года назад +759

    I was really confused cause I couldn’t tell if you had filmed this previously... cause the transitions were so seem less and the conversation was so natural lol

    • @he4rtjordan
      @he4rtjordan 3 года назад +34

      well they did talk about cocomelon which idk if that show is 6 years old. i just started hearing about it. idk i’m still confused

    • @clementine5053
      @clementine5053 3 года назад +28

      @Stacy Tip it was more a compliment to them! Cause there are videos like it when they had prerecorded it! So I just thought they were really clever!

    • @natalieohlsson7777
      @natalieohlsson7777 3 года назад

      It’s so funny because at the end I was like wait what is the other couple going to say LOL I miss the other couple too!

  • @Liz2727271
    @Liz2727271 3 года назад +196

    You are beautiful people. I’ve been married 43 years. Life isn’t perfect in a perfect world, however I never new my life would be so great and fulfilled.

  • @bedi09
    @bedi09 3 года назад +359

    My daughter's name is Hanna. She calls it 'hannatizer '. Well she was 3 when this started so it is cute.

    • @gertiesiegel3912
      @gertiesiegel3912 3 года назад +4

      Aww!

    • @StellaPlayss
      @StellaPlayss 3 года назад +9

      So does my daughter whose name is not Hanna. I think it’s a combination of hand and sanitizer...

    • @TheSnyderWeb
      @TheSnyderWeb 3 года назад +2

      My 3 year olds do this too!! It’s so funny 😂

    • @polyspiel
      @polyspiel 3 года назад +3

      Our three year old calls it "soapatizer"

  • @shaunhammond106
    @shaunhammond106 3 года назад +50

    18 years in: My husband and I wake up every day and say, I marry you. And it's a beautiful reminder of the covenant we made. Also, try to be the one who forgives first. My husband is so much better at this than me, and I am a better person because of him.

    • @jungxi2729
      @jungxi2729 2 года назад +1

      Love that you two are inspiring each other. That's what a healthy relationship is😊

    • @mrs.hatfield1451
      @mrs.hatfield1451 2 года назад

      There is so much depth to your comment. What a wonderful marriage.

  • @J8n3eyr3
    @J8n3eyr3 3 года назад +273

    Wow! A marriage-affirming video. Almost unheard of these days. Thanks!

  • @TheJurgys
    @TheJurgys  3 года назад +194

    GUYS THANK YOU FOR ALL THE LIKES AND COMMENTS!! We have some more fun videos like this planned especially because of your incredible response to this one. Also shoutout to Julie Nolke for her influence on this creative 🖤

  • @bellacontess5388
    @bellacontess5388 3 года назад +75

    I love how they're still obviously in love after six years of marriage :)

  • @kathydonaldson863
    @kathydonaldson863 3 года назад +8

    My husband and I are coming up on 21 years next month, and one of the things I've realized is that you don't get to a point in your marriage where you've made it. You can't tale your relationship for granted, you need to work on it and prioritize it. And if something is bothering you, talk about it (or write a letter if you can't do confrontation), don't let it fester.

  • @WhatsInside
    @WhatsInside 3 года назад +861

    That was really fun

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +26

      Haha imagining you and Leslie meeting your future selves next to Zack’s statue

    • @WhatsInside
      @WhatsInside 3 года назад +13

      @@TheJurgys that would be solid! Super confusing to explain.

  • @Overly_nourished_entity
    @Overly_nourished_entity 3 года назад +139

    I wish I could tell my engaged self to just elope or just go to the courthouse and a nice dinner after and use the money towards a house. 😩

  • @ayannajosiah4174
    @ayannajosiah4174 3 года назад +151

    This is my first time watching and I LOVED this! Will be 10 years married in 2 weeks, and I’d tell my engaged self to not let the kids take the spark away from the relationship. Fight for the spark! 💥

    • @garlicgirl3149
      @garlicgirl3149 3 года назад +6

      For without the parents having a spark what will the kids have?

    • @kimchiplee
      @kimchiplee 3 года назад +6

      @@garlicgirl3149 darkness...

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 3 года назад +4

      Congratulations!

    • @ayannajosiah4174
      @ayannajosiah4174 3 года назад +3

      @@crownedmelaninqueen thank you! 😊

    • @mrs.hatfield1451
      @mrs.hatfield1451 2 года назад +1

      Needed this, thank you!! Obviously you get the struggle in this parent*hood*

  • @chelseysmith6112
    @chelseysmith6112 3 года назад +25

    "This is the thing you're excited about?"
    So very relatable 😩😂😂😂

  • @cassierxse
    @cassierxse 3 года назад +216

    "let it grow, let it grow- oh wait, they don't know that reference yet."

    • @jdouce6074
      @jdouce6074 3 года назад +2

      😁 that and Cocomelon

  • @pinkandbright1234
    @pinkandbright1234 3 года назад +623

    You guys asked for gems and here it goes: You don’t have to be millionaire to be happy. Stop thinking that and enjoy your family 😘

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +42

      haha oh we agree w/ you. we're definitely not millionaires and are definitely happy ❤️

  • @ouikatie
    @ouikatie 3 года назад +12

    Been married 5 years. Best advice I can share: love is not always a feeling. It's a choice you make. New feelings come, old feeling go, but choosing to love them and just choosing them everytime will just make your partnership stronger. Okay one more: rethink your expectations, especially when frustrated. Look to yourself first and boldly challenge your own thinking before accidentally assuming how the other person should act, then talk it through together when calm.

  • @susanpurvis3541
    @susanpurvis3541 3 года назад +53

    This was hilarious. Married 33 years here...2 adult kids, now we raise dogs.🤣 Life truly does throw curveballs...forgiveness, communication, space for each partner to be themselves. And lots of love.

  • @ElsaInCa
    @ElsaInCa 3 года назад +151

    Happy Anniversary! I’ve been a widow for 35 years.. My only advice you already follow: open communication is key. Savor every day. I hope you continue to be happy and grow old together. ❤️

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +20

      Oh Elsa we love you for taking the time to comment and be here. So so true what you said

    • @snowfoxxie
      @snowfoxxie 3 года назад +1

  • @nancyokeefe4886
    @nancyokeefe4886 3 года назад +613

    This is seriously the best video. You should record yourself asking your 2030 selves questions for next time.

  • @mystardustlife
    @mystardustlife 3 года назад +12

    Best advice that has helped my partner and I: you are a team. It is you and your partner against the world, not against each other. Very important to always remember.

  • @maiapaiscar4618
    @maiapaiscar4618 3 года назад +87

    My parents go to bed at 8. it's a relief to know they are not sick, just in their early 40s

    • @honeybrowne24
      @honeybrowne24 3 года назад +7

      Eh...late 40s here. They aren't sleeping 😂

  • @blackgirlburntout
    @blackgirlburntout 3 года назад +65

    "The car seat and stroller.... in one" Got me! 🤣🤣

  • @elizabethpassini9271
    @elizabethpassini9271 3 года назад +193

    Advice to myself: All those little details from the wedding that mattered dont actually matter. And the things that went wrong end up being a funny story later. Roll with it.

  • @essieb.1057
    @essieb.1057 3 года назад +33

    I would tell my younger self just keep distance from the in laws only see them when my spouse wanted to, not on my free time to become “close” to them. And when they argue or disagree with you don’t say anything ever just ignore them! 😂😂

    • @LHMLHW
      @LHMLHW 3 года назад

      Can totally relate!

    • @anncav956
      @anncav956 2 года назад +1

      I would tell my younger self to cut his relatives off from contact with the first time they treated me poorly. (It was the first time I met them.) It was how it worked out anyway, they don't like me.

  • @oceandragon5639
    @oceandragon5639 3 года назад +22

    I love how they just grazed over the quarantining lol

  • @sarahroth6737
    @sarahroth6737 3 года назад +234

    I would tell our younger selves to slow down! We were in such a rush to do everything and we didn't need to be.

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +16

      So so true. That’s how our 50 states trip was

    • @BickyToya
      @BickyToya 3 года назад +17

      ditto...id say "don't rush on kids" we got pregnant 6 months after marriage and they've been back to back since then 😳
      We love them dearly but we never got a ton of alone time before kids

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 3 года назад +3

      Long engagements are okay ! I understand that now.

  • @AH-ft2ot
    @AH-ft2ot 3 года назад +122

    As a parent, your children's milestones and accomplishments are the most important no matter the size. 💕

  • @AprilandDaveyVlogs
    @AprilandDaveyVlogs 3 года назад +299

    This video is so great!!! And yes. Zip tops are very exciting 😂

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +12

      😂❤️❤️ya you guys know!

    • @eringopie-lawson
      @eringopie-lawson 3 года назад +10

      I had no clue what this amazing invention was

    • @amanekabbaj
      @amanekabbaj 3 года назад +1

      Didn’t know about this!

  • @navigodelaney119
    @navigodelaney119 3 года назад +2

    We celebrate our 24th anniversary next week. My advice to my engaged self is don't burden your hubby with unfair and unrealistic expectations. Let him be who he is and you both wil become better people after raising your kids together. We are happier now than at years 6-10, which were rough. Also, the love life continues and gets better after the kids are grown. Never knew that. Never knew a lot of things. Best advice -- marry a kind person who believes in family and marriage, and then don't give up. Ever. Best is yet to be. You just don't know what it will look like. Love is really everything.

  • @dmgrosas
    @dmgrosas 3 года назад +934

    Put money away (even if it is only $20/month) and don’t touch it until your kids go to college (or save it for a trip for yourselves when they graduate).
    If you can’t be civil in a conversation have a prepared statement to tell your SO you need space/time to process before talking. Such as: I can’t trust myself to talk right now, give me 20-30 minutes and we can circle back to talk.
    Make Date Night a priority (minimum once a month). You don’t have to go out to dinner. Fix sandwiches and walk around the park or around the block. Just get rid of the outside world (phone, RV, Internet, neighbors and family) and spend time together.
    Life is rough, but you made a commitment to each other. Honor and respect it! (34+ years married)

    • @dmgrosas
      @dmgrosas 3 года назад +67

      And slow down, you will get there. You have time and it will happen.

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +57

      Love ALL OF THIS 👏🏼 🙏🏼

    • @parisinthe30sx
      @parisinthe30sx 3 года назад +12

      I agree with all of that. Except I don't have kids so likely that money would be going to well, retirement I supposed lol

    • @MyFictionalChaos
      @MyFictionalChaos 3 года назад +6

      @@parisinthe30sx they said save it for a trip 😂 but I suppose it will go to retirement if you dont like to travel

    • @AmmaraSHAH773377
      @AmmaraSHAH773377 3 года назад +3

      Thankkk youuuuu nice to hear some clear and specific useful instructions (advice)

  • @superhumanchick303
    @superhumanchick303 3 года назад +41

    "It's 8 we gotta call it."
    I felt that 🤣

  • @shilohcoach
    @shilohcoach 3 года назад +40

    Married 44 years, but pretty sure our younger selves would not have listened! Lol How about, "Just don't give up!" 💗😊

  • @sofialigeiro405
    @sofialigeiro405 3 года назад +33

    I love how they tried the best not to tell them about Corona, because they didn’t want to give a spoiler ❤️😫😫

  • @powerflower3347
    @powerflower3347 3 года назад +87

    I'm dying of laughter over the zip tops, my husband and I are newly married expecting our 1st , just watched a review on those things, the excitement is unmatched Haha Loved this video!

  • @BlackVeganTravels
    @BlackVeganTravels 3 года назад +85

    Smoothest product placement I've ever seen. I actually want those Zip Tops. Happy Anniversary!

  • @hambone4984
    @hambone4984 3 года назад +38

    Been with my husband 11 years and if I could tell my younger self anything about the relationship it'd be to lighten up, save up as much money as possible, and don't worry about a big wedding with everyone around

  • @yolavictoria472
    @yolavictoria472 3 года назад +14

    The husband looks so much wiser after 6 years 🤣

  • @OsitaBlacky
    @OsitaBlacky 3 года назад +97

    That is a very creative way of doing promo! You got me conviced and I didn't even know you were doing the promo in the first place! Great video!!!

  • @usaresident8181
    @usaresident8181 3 года назад +110

    27+ years of marriage and 3 amazing kids who are the kindest, most responsible young adults ever. They are my people I would want with me in an emergency or disaster b/c they have an amazing ability to remain calm. Of course that is what happens when you teach your kids not to panic and they watched their mom who has a lifetime of patience for everyday (because God chose to put that in me).
    -Pray and read God's Word every day
    -Don't sweat the small stuff
    -Keep a "this too shall pass" attitude
    -Give your worry to God
    -Remember that life is too short to be angry, lose patience, or let things bug you
    -Don't be a slave to debt. You will miss out on sooooo much if you are.
    -Get a will and trust written up
    -Get more life insurance than you think will be sufficient so that your spouse can have less weight on his or her shoulders if you should pass from this life

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +7

      This is advice is so so solid. Thank you!!

    • @ShandaMichelle1
      @ShandaMichelle1 3 года назад +2

      All very well said!

    • @deborahmayberry1568
      @deborahmayberry1568 3 года назад +4

      This is totally the playbook of folks married past 20 years😂❣️

    • @boomie2683
      @boomie2683 3 года назад +4

      Almost 10 years for me, and we also read the Bible and pray everyday! There is an abundance of knowledge to apply to our everyday lives, nice to hear you do this too! ❤

    • @TachyBunker
      @TachyBunker 3 года назад

      Wait what? I was kinda agreeing but the last point bugged me. Preparing for my own death could be useful, it's just really weird.

  • @amyeverett2676
    @amyeverett2676 3 года назад +21

    Love, forgive, have no expectations, and keep the Lord at the center💙oh! & don’t share bad things with your parents! keep the family bonds strong💙

  • @InnerestingSoul
    @InnerestingSoul 3 года назад +42

    “Zip- Top” ... got it. 🧐 Added to registry.

  • @jenniferkelly1343
    @jenniferkelly1343 3 года назад +78

    Ok so I live under a rock, I’m genuinely mind blown over the zip top containers! What is this sorcery?!?!?

  • @Shonduras
    @Shonduras 3 года назад +289

    seriously miss you guys!!
    also agree on the Zip Top
    🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +11

      Miss you guys BAD!

  • @starzzzy22
    @starzzzy22 3 года назад +39

    Me to last year newly engaged me: "You don't know this yet, but 2020 is crazy so just plan an elopment or minimony." 😩🙃

  • @aleksandragojkov3377
    @aleksandragojkov3377 3 года назад +130

    Not me thinking they actually filmed it six years ago 😭😭

  • @stuckinmyshow
    @stuckinmyshow 3 года назад +86

    Was not looking for this at all, but zip tops are going on my Christmas list now...hahahahhaha

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +4

      Hahaha we got your back

  • @hilaryblair7912
    @hilaryblair7912 3 года назад +112

    I am engaged annnd whoever said they dont care about the center pieces OMGSH THANK YOU!! Do less God bless - trey Kennedy.

  • @ellianaleah9512
    @ellianaleah9512 3 года назад +31

    I'm so lazy that my mom actually suggested I elope because she was worried I wouldn't show up to my own wedding.

  • @ifoundmyavalon
    @ifoundmyavalon 3 года назад +22

    I like how their younger selves were trying to feign interest in the potty training convo 😂😂

  • @joannamalak1772
    @joannamalak1772 3 года назад +78

    I would tell myself that having a baby is harder than you could imagine but of course worth it. Take time for yourselves as a couple.

    • @LaUnicaEsperanza
      @LaUnicaEsperanza 3 года назад

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts.. I have a feeling there's more to your thinking...
      Is that useful for your past self to hear?
      Is that actionable or does it inform any decision-making in your relationship?
      Asking for everyone who's here for the advice past of the comments.

  • @brookeanne2700
    @brookeanne2700 3 года назад +114

    I wish I could tell my engaged self to not have a big wedding ... elope 😂

    • @cookinghealthy8049
      @cookinghealthy8049 3 года назад +13

      Glad I had a small wedding. My husband and I used our money to travel instead. So much better

    • @crystald8465
      @crystald8465 3 года назад +1

      Same!!!!!!

  • @LibbyAnn026
    @LibbyAnn026 3 года назад +5

    “No it’s fine, because it has to be”, said while laughing. ...effortless wisdom that just came out at the end there 🙌

  • @rUtHlOvE1415
    @rUtHlOvE1415 3 года назад +17

    “It’s 2020, things get interesting”... Mannnn so true 😂😂😭. Loved the video!!

  • @Quin_79
    @Quin_79 3 года назад +9

    Hubs and I have been together for 29 years married 18 ... Best ride of our lives.... Just turned 41, and 42!!! 😜

  • @melissacicio4688
    @melissacicio4688 3 года назад +16

    Dudes. You really outdid yourselves. I am married since 1980. Steve developed ms in his 20’s. It’s been a journey and then some. Two grown kids and two beautiful granddaughters. Here’s my advice..’talk to one another as if u are a stranger on the phone. Don’t forget the niceties and compliments..always and I mean always be kind and lastly kiss one another first on New Years Eve! *Melissa. 💕

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +1

      Oh Melissa you and Steve sound incredible. Thank you for this advice! It’s so true how easy it is to change tones when talking to your most important people in your life VS strangers

  • @lola1033
    @lola1033 3 года назад +8

    Engaged girl here SOOOO excited and thankful, reading all the comments thoroughly...!! Thanks so much for opening this amazing discussion , will take note of all the wise advices here! 💕💕💕 Happy anniversary, you two rock!

  • @TheSnyderWeb
    @TheSnyderWeb 3 года назад +28

    I like that when he said he was looking forward to being married so they can stay together because he said right now it’s like it’s just getting good and then I have to drop her off and kiss her at the door. My heart, so traditional- they wait to live together until after they’re married, I love it. That’s how my boyfriend and I are. ❤️ We are going to wait until we are married 🙂

  • @lindseypilz9667
    @lindseypilz9667 3 года назад +29

    I'd tell my younger self, buy more toilet paper!!! 2020 is survivable!! Beauty fades on the outside, but the heart stays true!!! Dishes and laundry never end, so don't stress about it!!! Take time to flirt with each other ❤️ Happy 16 years to my hubby and I .

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +6

      Totally agree with all of these. Especially the taking time to flirt. So easy to get caught up in all the to do’s!! But maybe a bidet instead of so much toilet paper 😂

  • @shazrebekah
    @shazrebekah 3 года назад +114

    I'm actually excited about zip top tho 😂😂

    • @blessedbythebest1003
      @blessedbythebest1003 3 года назад +2

      They’re expensive 😅 I saw them at HEB this week.

    • @kelseyknock2356
      @kelseyknock2356 3 года назад +6

      @@blessedbythebest1003 but you won’t lose the tops! That set is all you need for like 3 years.. pretty cool, think how much you spend on zip bags and containers every year

    • @blessedbythebest1003
      @blessedbythebest1003 3 года назад +5

      @@kelseyknock2356 hmmm🤔 you know what... you got a great point. Hehe INVESTMENT! 🤲🏼

  • @RenaCayari
    @RenaCayari 3 года назад +12

    Hahaha this is sooo good.
    Been married 3 years (together for 14). I’d tell my younger self that she made the right choice not spending so much on a wedding. She won’t regret adding expensive extra stuff :)

  • @speakevermore
    @speakevermore 3 года назад +12

    Oh this is like a couples version of Julie Nolke's series! This was very cute

  • @katelyn6653
    @katelyn6653 3 года назад +133

    dear person reading this, ur so loved and worthy, stay safe🦋

    • @lelandstone9997
      @lelandstone9997 3 года назад +5

      Hey Jesus loves you and died for you!!

  • @annprince5218
    @annprince5218 3 года назад +159

    "We didn't watch Cocomelon today"
    Me...has Cocomelon on right now so my grandson doesn't have a full-on meltdown.

    • @hismom5600
      @hismom5600 3 года назад +4

      This hits so hard I can't even deal...😂😭Frigging Cocomelon man....friggin Cocomelon...

    • @nokwandamaziya1093
      @nokwandamaziya1093 3 года назад +1

      I mute it 😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @erk44
      @erk44 3 года назад +2

      I love that they know what cocomelon is

    • @Myria83
      @Myria83 3 года назад

      What is it? A song? A cartoon?

  • @raisingup7
    @raisingup7 3 года назад +3

    Advise to any couples, newlyweds or not yet,...sit down in honest conversations about goals...money (work that budget!), kids(or not), dealing with extended family, jobs (is someone staying home with kids?)...really everything under the sun. Life will go smoother if you're both on the same page. Don't think you're changing something about the other person. You will probably change, but hopefully together as you go through life. If splitting up is never an option you'll commit to working together to work stuff out. If you choose to have kids make them part of what you're doing instead of revolving your life around them. Someday they'll be grown and gone and you may not recognize the person sitting next to you if you don't make it a priority.
    As for what I'd tell myself...having babies and teenagers each present their own challenges but having both at the same time is exhausting! Make a priority to write a sentence or two down everyday about what's going on because there is so much you will forget!

  • @shooktaro4380
    @shooktaro4380 3 года назад +267

    Plot twist: it's not their past self, the guy just covered his hair with the beanie.

    • @biclexual
      @biclexual 3 года назад +48

      This is not the plot twist you think it is 😂

    • @shooktaro4380
      @shooktaro4380 3 года назад +3

      @@biclexual 😱

    • @gabisek1111
      @gabisek1111 3 года назад +19

      More like a fun fact 😂

    • @etaperily4947
      @etaperily4947 3 года назад +8

      😳😨😨 a shocking revelation 😲

    • @isazzz_
      @isazzz_ 3 года назад +2

      cant concentrate on your comment bc i was looking at doyoung's pic
      mom i love him 💭

  • @TheAmbianceAbroad
    @TheAmbianceAbroad 3 года назад +25

    This is so good. It’s refreshing to see creatives are doing mirror work with self reflection within a union!!! Love this

  • @ChaoticCurlCrafts
    @ChaoticCurlCrafts 3 года назад +68

    This showed up on my recommended.... amazing!!

    • @TheJurgys
      @TheJurgys  3 года назад +5

      We’re STOKED you took the time to watch it! ❤️

  • @-Jake
    @-Jake 3 года назад +15

    Ohhh I thought you filmed the first half 2 years ago, and this one this year. You should do that, film a video now, and then film a follow-up in a couple years.
    Can you imagine if you did that and the follow up video is like 25 years from now? That would blow up

  • @sarahschiewe7921
    @sarahschiewe7921 3 года назад +29

    Elopement is vastly underrated 💙 we were married on a vineyard in Napa + rings + honeymoon for under $10k 👌🏻

    • @jeremygarcia5520
      @jeremygarcia5520 3 года назад +1

      I was looking for the 1200k range but thanks 😊

  • @parisinthe30sx
    @parisinthe30sx 3 года назад +31

    I would really really like to tell my engaged self to decide on a smaller ring, because since youre a klutz youre going to lose it anyway. Lordy that was heart breaking

    • @texaswunderkind
      @texaswunderkind 2 года назад +1

      I got my tungsten carbide wedding band on Amazon for $18. I have two spares. I fidget with it all the time. I once had it fall off and roll all the way down the aisle while our flight was coming in for a landing. Found it once people cleared out. That's why I don't wear gold.

  • @mamabear4576
    @mamabear4576 3 года назад +18

    I had to pause it and get a good laugh in at the question/response of
    "Do we travel as a family?"
    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @reoxia
    @reoxia 3 года назад +18

    This is so well done... I can't wrap my mind around how they did this!!!