I disagree just because your ex is contacting you it doesn’t mean they care. They may just need an ego boost, and if you respond they know they still have you.
Absolutely. I've been used several times for an ego boost and I was so stupid I played right into that bullshit. Wish I would've known then what I know now. Could've saved myself a whole lotta heartache.
They usually come back to use you in some sort of way rather it's sex or other bullshit and I learned a very valuable lesson last year. Which is once someone become your ex, don't ever take them back or give them the time of day! This applies to both men and women.
I actually wish my ex would go on dates and see other men just to see how well I treated her, but she vowed to basically become a monk of sorts to “better herself” after dumping me; no dating, relationships, sex, even alcohol for 6 months (so basically till Christmas since she dumped me the first week of July).
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤️
Had been two weeks since I’d last heard from her via text, and I get “did you want your salt shaker back?” My first thought was ‘really?!’ My second thought was ‘she really can’t stay away…’ whatever that actually means is really irrelevant, but I agree…if she didn’t care she wouldn’t reach out in any way. Salt shaker…🤦♂️
I would have Just drive by, bring all her stuff to the door, and when she opens the door i would Just walk away at once not saying anything. My ex broke up with me 7 days ago, havent been talking to her at all.
Well that probably would be true if I didn’t block them and change my number and location, so not only they can’t contact me, they don’t know where exactly I am.
Keep in mind when you become someone’s X, they broke up with you because they feel theres someone BETTER THAN YOU out there. Never take an X back, theyre your X for a reason. Turn around and walk away, let them be someone else’s bullshit
That’s not true. Some ppl break up with someone bc they love their self and don’t want to be treated like crap anymore. Another person isn’t always the reason
Actually it is a good message. In the end, it’s up to each individual to properly discern. If this message does not resonate with you then you know what you have to do.
Please, please don't allow him/ her back in your life, it most certainly does matter what they are saying, especially if they were toxic/ narcissistic as them coming back is dangerous as they will only come back to finish the job they didn't when they had a chance, go after peace, not them
@@Jay-bq8sithe job is draining the literal life out of you, taking your peace love and happiness. Then they only try to come back when they see you are happy but they will sit back laugh and feel good when you are miserable knowing they was the cause… i think the statement was very logical considering the ungodly behavior of narcissistic individuals. God bless you though ❤🙏🏽
One also needs to consider how they will use "flying monkeys " as well. Please don't fall prey to them either. If you're in "No Contact", remain that way and move on with your life. You won't regret it. Life is so much better when you're in peace away from the chaos.
Thank you for explaining your signs brother appreciate it, but I have put my faith in Allah all mighty. Sure it’s sad that they left and it breaks my heart but everytime it heals right back up ya know
I recycle ♻️ 😆 there's always something in there I can still use for something 😆. After 40 we're ALL recycling someone's trash 😆 just the reality of it.
This popped up and honestly I can care less and go 10 years without hearing from 2 of my exs.. I am cool with the other ones.. no issues or bad blood.. but I can't be around someone who never sees their problems and love to play victim in the problems they created.. I truly hope they are happy.. having kids and married.. because when they are busy i don't have to see them or hear from them.. and i am truly okay with that..
If they were ever in love with you under all that anger remains feelings of love. I totally agree. It’s when they don’t have any feelings whatsoever that you should worry about.
My wife blindsided me out of nowhere and left me before Thanksgiving. At first I was begging her and texting her every day to reconsider. I stopped contacting her after I found out about no contact. I also found out she may be seeing someone else. She doesnt know I know. It messed me up. It's been super painful for me. She started texting me again around new years and was telling me she missed our good times together and that I'm in her thoughts. I let her reach out to me but I do respond. I dont know what's going to happen. I dont know if she's still seeing someone else or what's going on. I'm not sure what I'm going to do or if I can take her back if she says she wants to come back. She may not even come back. This whole thing has been crazy and the most painful thing I've ever been through
Oh hell no ... don't intend to be rude..oft times when we ALLOW someone to re-enter our lives after such situation especially after she witnessed you begging & so-forth they tend to indulge upon your sensitivity & niceness [ classifying it as weakness ] ~ so if they are in any sort of jam they'll have a place to confirm whether that place is in your heart, home / house, pockets & your mental space..it cld be a manipulative measure.. Will you be comfortable allowing her back? Wld your mindset consist of being overactive wondering if / when she'll do this again? Wld you consider doing more in an attempt to please her thinking that you're securing her to stay / satisfaction ? What would you think the 1st moment she wants to hang out with girlfriends [ assuming she does that ] / family members ~ are you going to think she's sneaking off with side piece instead? Or are you going to TOTALLY trust her & if you cannot TOTALLY trust her then what would be the purpose ? Keep your distance longer ~ get closer to YourSelf... Apply that Self Care Self Love which will create a healing factor from within... No More Blindsides ..I Promise you you're Worth it
@@rooseveltday6687 I appreciate the words. I dont think I can trust her again. It would always be in the back of my mind. At this point I'm just taking care of me. At the same time, im not even sure she is seeing someone. She was texting me the whole time during Christmas and new years eve. If she was with someone I figure she would be spending time with them during those holidays instead of texting me. I asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said no. But we share a Yelp account and I saw that she reached out to some skin care place trying to set an appointment for her "boyfriend". And that was december 16th. So I dont know what's going on. Right now I just stay in no contact and focus on myself. If she texts me I do respond but I keep it light. I have not confronted her about the boyfriend thing. I'm still trying to figure out if I should or just see how things play out. We been together for 7 years. It's hard for me to let go but at this point I dont think I have a choice.
@@oglonewolf6719 hey OG I'm not gonna act like I don't InnerStand where you're coming from Bruh...it always appears easy to those of us on the outside look'n in..oft times the answer can be screaming at us however that love, memories & so forth try'n it's best to convince to make a decision that's not healthy towards our well-being.. It can be tough Bruh ~ just do your best to stay on your own team.. not in a selfish manner that's poisonous to your purpose however in a selfish manner that's Healthy for You 1st & foremost.. I Promise you OG if y'all are TRULY MEANT to be she'll be right where you want / need her to be AFTER you take care of the MOST important fixture that'll keep this Union thriving & that's a more Mentally, Emotionally stable YOU... You prematurely approach or allow to be approached you'll end up where y'all left off.. glad you're keeping the convo light too... Best of fortune OG... Again you're Worth what's Best for You
While I think you can make it work the second time around, I think you need to ask them (and yourself) what has changed, what have the two of you done to correct bad behavior from the past
WHEN THEY PULL UP IN YOUR DRIVE WAY, GET OUT THE CAR, COME KNOCK AT YOUR DOOR, AND WHEN YOU ANSWER THE DOOR, THEY TELL YOU FACE TO FACE THEY WANT YOU BACK 😊😊😊
My ex narc BPD gf did this on and off for 7months...I did my best to make it easy for her to come back. But all she did was create hell and drama when she came back. She finally discarded me mid conversation on signal app and ghosted. Haven't heard from her in weeks... Eff her....only the wrong ones leave
She was texting me everyday after we broke up, even coming round a couple times a week. Could see she got bothered when I pulled back a little and got annoyed when I didn’t text her back. But when I mentioned working things out she wasn’t interested and then I found out see was seeing a guy from work. Like what the fuck is that? Had to cut her off, destroying my mental health
He was doing actually what you just said, but it’s been 2 weeks no actions, in first week he said he misses me a lot then I offered him to talk in person but he rejected saying there’s nothing to talk about but he texted long messages why he’s hurt and offended by me, and why he doesn’t feel good in relationship. But he texts me for stupid stuff and checks on me. What does it mean?
I almost responded back to my ex-girlfriend a couple days ago when she contacted me out of the blue a couple days ago before Valentine's day. Thank God I didn't respond back however I made it perfectly clear to hear almost a year ago that I didn't want to be in a relationship with her anymore let alone never want to see her again so I blocked her on everything. I blocked that new number of hers so she can leave me alone.
I think much of your advise is solid and down to earth. I just want to add that having someone back in your life that has left you should only be considered after much thought and time. Don't let the cycle control you. Even if you have to write down pros and cons on an old fashioned piece of paper you MUST consider the consequences of trying over. Stay cool, never yell, hold your cards close to your chest, give it the time it needs and then choose your path.
Good advice. Hope women listen your whole discussion and take notes. But we don’t want any narcissists back. Quality relationships are based on friendship, patience and trust, never on push and pull toxic games. The right one will STAY, not play the on&off game. If he leaves you even once , that means he’s NOT FOR YOU. 🚩 Block and move on. Why would you waste your time? Look for GENUINE, not some unpredictable player, who will disappear on you for the next shiny object. Judge men for their actions, never their words. 🤷♀️
I am angry my ex will not leave me alone, I don't want him back ever, but he keeps showing up at my door. Angry about other people actions towards him, like I want to hear him complain. Most times I don't answer the door. Than he tells my neighbors I am missing. These people are crazy.
I’m not gonna lie man it’s been 6 months from an 8 year horrible breakup & im broken.. 😞 all I do is work; build my car and gym. But in all that pain iv definitely grown into a better man no doubt. Much love to all the men out there pushing through daily with all that pain, there’s nothing worse then losing the one you thought was a lifetime.
I am currently going through a really fresh break-up (sun)... we were 2gether for 9 yrs and at first I was constantly texting and trying to call him but then for some reason your videos started popping up on my feed and I'm now going not contact..... he messaged me this morning. I haven't replied and I won't, not yet at least. I want him to miss me so much it drives him crazy.... cos its driving me crazy without him
Well he definitely did both signs. Even told me ive been on his mind and wants me back but I need to change lol no we both need to change I said but that made him angry I think. Or he wasn't expecting me to say that. 😮😊 il update on here and youtube in 3 months
My ex broke up with me on 22nd nov 2022.My ex said he had no feelings for me last 1-2 month after no contact, he is texting like a frnd.. Due to breakup i got depressed and i loss weight... So he requested me to take food and try to avoid his thoughts. He said he has no feelings but i don't know if he has feelings or he is hiding it. I askes him whether reunion possible he said he will come if he has feelings and also said don't hope and wait for him.
I ended up blocking him for a while because I didn't want to lash out and be mean. Told him I might unblock him eventually. But not now. Glad this fits though.
I be so confused what does a person expect to say to validate or egos boost them ? My ex knows she pretty she has a lot of other friends plus she left me and still freaking calls me every dam day after a year since we break up 😭🙄 we both models also 😎😏
He didn't contact, completely silent. After one month of the breakup and two weeks of no contact, he didn't reply to my calls and messages. I blocked him. Love should never be humiliating nor brutal
Me and my ex split up 11 years ago and known each other for 12 years , we've always been good friends and we've always been and out of contact for years we've Currently speaking again but he always had feelings still but I don't anymore. But we're good friends I saw him yesterday and Monday
He can talk to that operator that the number you dialed is out of service 😂😂😂! I straight changed my number! I'm for the strong, not for the weak. I can't deal with a man who doesn't know where he is trying to go in life. Yet want to reap the benefits It may hurt, but I'm toughing that pain out!!!!!
We are back together now, we have done the therapy and God is the centre of it all My ego was the reason I drove him away there were a lot of things he did that he has accepted and said sorry for but even when I did the NC, never saw him around he still wanted I try again he tested the grass and it wasn’t as green as he thought it was there was no cheating it was just our timings we’re off and we needed to sort out own stuff out God puts relationships for trial so you know what’s really worth fighting for
My ex left me few months back like i was nothing to him. Like he was waiting for this moment to happen the whole time.He didn’t even responded to my messages .. now what does that mean?😂
And that’s thin line is why I would rather be hated than loved when someone hates you. You know it. Someone can say they love you just to get whatever they want from you like my ex.
Broke up 2 months ago. She use to text/call almost everyday or every other day. Now I haven't heard from her in 2 weeks. But that's okay I'm letting her do her :)
So I kind of made my wife upset during our separation. She claimed she didn’t love me anymore. I beefed to be with her. She said she only wants to co parent and that she doesn’t see us back together. Then she also said she didn’t care if I got a girlfriend. All these things pushed me away. One day she has my daughter FaceTime me and I was out with a lady friend. She gets mad and says she hates me and wants me to die and calls me ugly and she wished she picked a better father for her kids. Almost every drop off we do with the kids, she says nothing and is visibly upset. Every text is angry and upset. I’ve been no contact except on issues regarding the kids for about a week now. What should I expect next?
6 weeks ago she said > "not ready for any type of relationship" so broke it off from me but said i could text if i had important thought, i texted 4x, she thanked me 3x, but the last text no reply except a "loved a text" thing. She didnt write one word, so i guess its over 100 % ??
I have a question for my all my brothers out there. I was seeing a lady for 3 years and she went to Columbia and we got in an argument and she blocked me 3 months ago and I haven't heard from her since would you say that I should pretty much except to say that I'll never hear from her again...?
The last one might be true cuz they still care. You gotta understand think about it pyschologically, idk about guys but just because you're not contacting your ex doesn't mean they don't still think about you, or care or miss you, doesn't mean they won't come back. That is what have been told and conditioned to do and believe. So just because they're talking to you. It depends on the breakup and the guy (, situation). Yeah this video low-key makes some sense. I think it's inaccurate. They could even be with someone else as band aid and missing you. To try and get over you and move on because that's what they think they're supposed to do and it's for the best. Don't be fooled but the tactics of trying to move on. You don't what life would do, u don't fully know what your ex thinking or feeling. Now idk if my last boyfriend will ever come back. But I do know he's kinda been struggling to move on. And that's kinda tell tale sign.
If he’s a narcissist and the new supply kicked him to the curb, he’ll claim he wants “to try again “. Very predictable. But do you want someone you can’t trust back? No. Once a cheater- always a cheater. Exes are exes for a reason. If a man doesn’t respect your boundaries, let him go play someone else.
Idk my last ex would do this for months ……. After 2 years we got back together……. Just for 9 months later she acting on the fence again and it was over that was 5/6 years ago… move forward I had kids and now the mother of my children we was going thru it … she has daddy issues and long story short we both said we wanted our family and boom not even 4 weeks she found love peace and happiness with someone else …… I’m going thru this now. Boy I feel like shit and all that but fellas just stay on ya purpose and the hell with sacrificing. Focus on yourself and the right one will understand forget chasing . Just focus on. Easier said than done you’ll be hurt . Cry let out the pain. This is coming from a man who is currently n his mind and feel like he lost his family but I’ve been thru similar break ups and u gotta keep pushing. I pray for all the success and love to come your day and due time . Peace
I got blocked and unblocked and i got dumped for being paranoid and clingy. listened to some of my friends too much and it made me think too much and I started being weird and texting and calling too much. I got dumped over the phone at 4 am. it’s been like 4 days and I tried to call on my house phone and it was probably weird. she answered and said she would call back but never did
Hey coach. So my ex girl has been breadcrumbing me lately I've been short and acting busy. Today she double backed with her texts cause I wasn't responding. I said hey please don't double back messages and I will return her text when I get it. She told me to go fuck myself. Is this a good sign?
I disagree just because your ex is contacting you it doesn’t mean they care. They may just need an ego boost, and if you respond they know they still have you.
So got damn true!!!!!
Exactly, if you be replying to them that's what they came in for. So don't give em the chance of you replying, just let go.
We are people and noone is the same so it's more like 50/50 then 100/100
Absolutely. I've been used several times for an ego boost and I was so stupid I played right into that bullshit. Wish I would've known then what I know now. Could've saved myself a whole lotta heartache.
Man I think this everyday fck😢
They usually come back to use you in some sort of way rather it's sex or other bullshit and I learned a very valuable lesson last year. Which is once someone become your ex, don't ever take them back or give them the time of day! This applies to both men and women.
When they replace you, it’s a good indicator that they’ll try again later. 😂
Why is that?
@@Justin2.0-bh1gsGrass not green on the other side
I actually wish my ex would go on dates and see other men just to see how well I treated her, but she vowed to basically become a monk of sorts to “better herself” after dumping me; no dating, relationships, sex, even alcohol for 6 months (so basically till Christmas since she dumped me the first week of July).
Well then bye. If not im open to it
Thank you for sharing...I don't want him back!!🙏🏾
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is Father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤️
Lies. They are coming back to finish what they started. DESTROYING YOU.
Not always true. Why would there be one possibilty. Weird
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😂😢😢😢true
Preach
Not everyone is like your ex 😂
Sometimes that anger is because the other person didn't chase after them and beg them even if they didn't miss that person. It's their ego.
Black is a genius. Thank you coach. She wants to meet and talk 1 week into no contact.I Ignored 10 calls and 12 texts in the last few days. 🙌
I'm good my ex is a narcissist.
I'm 2 good 4 him 👋
Amen!
I’m too good for Her ❤
"If they didn't care, you would not be hearing from them."
I guess he doesn't care at all then...
Had been two weeks since I’d last heard from her via text, and I get “did you want your salt shaker back?” My first thought was ‘really?!’ My second thought was ‘she really can’t stay away…’ whatever that actually means is really irrelevant, but I agree…if she didn’t care she wouldn’t reach out in any way. Salt shaker…🤦♂️
I would have Just drive by, bring all her stuff to the door, and when she opens the door i would Just walk away at once not saying anything. My ex broke up with me 7 days ago, havent been talking to her at all.
She used the salt shaker as an excuse bc she can't let go of you. No honest communication so seems.
Facts! My ex was pissed I didn't reach out. And made sure she let me know.
He feels that way about at least three other women at the same time stay no contact know your value ladies
it's not just ladies it can be men as well
😅@@adrianmarch1392
Well that probably would be true if I didn’t block them and change my number and location, so not only they can’t contact me, they don’t know where exactly I am.
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Keep in mind when you become someone’s X, they broke up with you because they feel theres someone BETTER THAN YOU out there. Never take an X back, theyre your X for a reason. Turn around and walk away, let them be someone else’s bullshit
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Amen
That’s not true. Some ppl break up with someone bc they love their self and don’t want to be treated like crap anymore. Another person isn’t always the reason
Amen!!!!!
TALKKKKKKKKKKK 👏👏👏👏👏👏💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
As tears fall..I am good for right now. As I kept God first. I can't stay after disrespect despite am good woman
I am feeling the same right now ... how are you now?
If you're my ex, you're my ex for a good reason ... It is HIGHLY unlikely that I would want contact with someone that is my ex...
This message is so dangerous. Stay no contact specially if In a narcissist relationship. No thin line between hate and love. This message no bueno
Amen
yes, yes, soooo Tru, and it's happening to me...
Amen cause he in the bathroom with that cell phone saying this to another one
@@micheledoddkelton6598 you know they love that bathroom 🚽 they stay there for hours. I never knew someone who stayed that long.
Actually it is a good message. In the end, it’s up to each individual to properly discern. If this message does not resonate with you then you know what you have to do.
Please, please don't allow him/ her back in your life, it most certainly does matter what they are saying, especially if they were toxic/ narcissistic as them coming back is dangerous as they will only come back to finish the job they didn't when they had a chance, go after peace, not them
What’s the job they didn’t finish this comment seems illogical
@@Jay-bq8si lol fr.
@@Jay-bq8sithe job is draining the literal life out of you, taking your peace love and happiness. Then they only try to come back when they see you are happy but they will sit back laugh and feel good when you are miserable knowing they was the cause… i think the statement was very logical considering the ungodly behavior of narcissistic individuals. God bless you though ❤🙏🏽
If shes angry she loves you. The true opposite of love is apathy. She wouldnt care anymore
Thank you for getting straight to the point
All your messages are so very Helpful
One also needs to consider how they will use "flying monkeys " as well. Please don't fall prey to them either. If you're in "No Contact", remain that way and move on with your life. You won't regret it. Life is so much better when you're in peace away from the chaos.
BLOCKED INDEFINITELY. on top of changing my number just in case.
Thank you for explaining your signs brother appreciate it, but I have put my faith in Allah all mighty. Sure it’s sad that they left and it breaks my heart but everytime it heals right back up ya know
This is true but when I take the trash out I leave it there💅
Exactly 💯
I recycle ♻️ 😆 there's always something in there I can still use for something 😆.
After 40 we're ALL recycling someone's trash 😆 just the reality of it.
Or they’re just a narcissist because my ex was and did these exact things to try to keep control.. js 🤷🏾♀️
Mine is a professional bread crumber. I must end it this time for good.
What an awesome message!!! Right on! 👍😁
“Always move forward, not backward… even if it’s slowly….”
- A wise person
This popped up and honestly I can care less and go 10 years without hearing from 2 of my exs.. I am cool with the other ones.. no issues or bad blood.. but I can't be around someone who never sees their problems and love to play victim in the problems they created.. I truly hope they are happy.. having kids and married.. because when they are busy i don't have to see them or hear from them.. and i am truly okay with that..
If they were ever in love with you under all that anger remains feelings of love. I totally agree. It’s when they don’t have any feelings whatsoever that you should worry about.
My wife blindsided me out of nowhere and left me before Thanksgiving. At first I was begging her and texting her every day to reconsider. I stopped contacting her after I found out about no contact. I also found out she may be seeing someone else. She doesnt know I know. It messed me up. It's been super painful for me. She started texting me again around new years and was telling me she missed our good times together and that I'm in her thoughts. I let her reach out to me but I do respond. I dont know what's going to happen. I dont know if she's still seeing someone else or what's going on. I'm not sure what I'm going to do or if I can take her back if she says she wants to come back. She may not even come back. This whole thing has been crazy and the most painful thing I've ever been through
Oh hell no ... don't intend to be rude..oft times when we ALLOW someone to re-enter our lives after such situation especially after she witnessed you begging & so-forth they tend to indulge upon your sensitivity & niceness [ classifying it as weakness ] ~ so if they are in any sort of jam they'll have a place to confirm whether that place is in your heart, home / house, pockets & your mental space..it cld be a manipulative measure..
Will you be comfortable allowing her back? Wld your mindset consist of being overactive wondering if / when she'll do this again? Wld you consider doing more in an attempt to please her thinking that you're securing her to stay / satisfaction ? What would you think the 1st moment she wants to hang out with girlfriends [ assuming she does that ] / family members ~ are you going to think she's sneaking off with side piece instead? Or are you going to TOTALLY trust her & if you cannot TOTALLY trust her then what would be the purpose ?
Keep your distance longer ~ get closer to YourSelf... Apply that Self Care Self Love which will create a healing factor from within... No More Blindsides ..I Promise you you're Worth it
@@rooseveltday6687 I appreciate the words. I dont think I can trust her again. It would always be in the back of my mind. At this point I'm just taking care of me. At the same time, im not even sure she is seeing someone. She was texting me the whole time during Christmas and new years eve. If she was with someone I figure she would be spending time with them during those holidays instead of texting me. I asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said no. But we share a Yelp account and I saw that she reached out to some skin care place trying to set an appointment for her "boyfriend". And that was december 16th. So I dont know what's going on. Right now I just stay in no contact and focus on myself. If she texts me I do respond but I keep it light. I have not confronted her about the boyfriend thing. I'm still trying to figure out if I should or just see how things play out. We been together for 7 years. It's hard for me to let go but at this point I dont think I have a choice.
@@oglonewolf6719 hey OG I'm not gonna act like I don't InnerStand where you're coming from Bruh...it always appears easy to those of us on the outside look'n in..oft times the answer can be screaming at us however that love, memories & so forth try'n it's best to convince to make a decision that's not healthy towards our well-being.. It can be tough Bruh ~ just do your best to stay on your own team.. not in a selfish manner that's poisonous to your purpose however in a selfish manner that's Healthy for You 1st & foremost..
I Promise you OG if y'all are TRULY MEANT to be she'll be right where you want / need her to be AFTER you take care of the MOST important fixture that'll keep this Union thriving & that's a more Mentally, Emotionally stable YOU...
You prematurely approach or allow to be approached you'll end up where y'all left off.. glad you're keeping the convo light too...
Best of fortune OG... Again you're Worth what's Best for You
@@rooseveltday6687 Thank you my bro. This is the convo I needed. Best to you as well. If there are any updates I will come back here and let you know.
@@oglonewolf6719 indeed.. appreciate you Bruh
Yes I believe that's the good one..I love it ❤️❤️
While I think you can make it work the second time around, I think you need to ask them (and yourself) what has changed, what have the two of you done to correct bad behavior from the past
WHEN THEY PULL UP IN YOUR DRIVE WAY, GET OUT THE CAR, COME KNOCK AT YOUR DOOR, AND WHEN YOU ANSWER THE DOOR, THEY TELL YOU FACE TO FACE THEY
WANT YOU BACK 😊😊😊
💋 Thank you. I am loved. He does all of that.
Thank you for your true pearls of wisdom. God bless you.
If he leave he can stay gone.
Okay thank you thank you for the news well thank you for the information
Thanks Brother! I let them go❤❤❤
Thank you, bro.
This man is leading you all the wrong way
Don’t put energy into your ex, invest all of that into a hobby that benefits you
Whether or not these come to fruition I see both In My recent ex, and you gave me a little hope for us, so thank you.
this sounds like harassment and the makings of a restraining order
My ex narc BPD gf did this on and off for 7months...I did my best to make it easy for her to come back. But all she did was create hell and drama when she came back. She finally discarded me mid conversation on signal app and ghosted. Haven't heard from her in weeks...
Eff her....only the wrong ones leave
My ex has been doing this for 2 years I finally had to get a restraining order
She was texting me everyday after we broke up, even coming round a couple times a week. Could see she got bothered when I pulled back a little and got annoyed when I didn’t text her back. But when I mentioned working things out she wasn’t interested and then I found out see was seeing a guy from work.
Like what the fuck is that?
Had to cut her off, destroying my mental health
He was doing actually what you just said, but it’s been 2 weeks no actions, in first week he said he misses me a lot then I offered him to talk in person but he rejected saying there’s nothing to talk about but he texted long messages why he’s hurt and offended by me, and why he doesn’t feel good in relationship. But he texts me for stupid stuff and checks on me. What does it mean?
A narc doesn’t care about anything wtf this man talking about.
I so agree trying to get people killed out here
He doesn’t refer to narcs
Right! Nothing but a toxic cycle
Wow, I never knew this. Thanks 🙂😃🙂😁
Thank you brother,,From Philippines 👍
I almost responded back to my ex-girlfriend a couple days ago when she contacted me out of the blue a couple days ago before Valentine's day. Thank God I didn't respond back however I made it perfectly clear to hear almost a year ago that I didn't want to be in a relationship with her anymore let alone never want to see her again so I blocked her on everything. I blocked that new number of hers so she can leave me alone.
On point! 🙋
I was depressed till now you made me to smile
This is extremely helpful
Nah, stay where you are bro!! I rebuke this whole message 😂
Yeah I rebuke it too 😂😂😂
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I think much of your advise is solid and down to earth. I just want to add that having someone back in your life that has left you should only be considered after much thought and time. Don't let the cycle control you. Even if you have to write down pros and cons on an old fashioned piece of paper you MUST consider the consequences of trying over. Stay cool, never yell, hold your cards close to your chest, give it the time it needs and then choose your path.
Perfect response... ABSOLUTELY
This is the most realistic response. People will project their traumatic history right on you...misery LOVES company.
Good advice. Hope women listen your whole discussion and take notes.
But we don’t want any narcissists back. Quality relationships are based on friendship, patience and trust, never on push and pull toxic games. The right one will STAY, not play the on&off game. If he leaves you even once , that means he’s NOT FOR YOU. 🚩 Block and move on. Why would you waste your time?
Look for GENUINE, not some unpredictable player, who will disappear on you for the next shiny object. Judge men for their actions, never their words. 🤷♀️
GOD Bless us all Amen
Thank you sir🙏 thank you Universe
Good words and good delivery
Thank You
I am angry my ex will not leave me alone, I don't want him back ever, but he keeps showing up at my door. Angry about other people actions towards him, like I want to hear him complain. Most times I don't answer the door. Than he tells my neighbors I am missing. These people are crazy.
😂😂
Answer the door with a machete like they do in the Caribbean...🤺🤺🤺🌴🌴🌴✈✈✈🤣🤣🤣
I’m not gonna lie man it’s been 6 months from an 8 year horrible breakup & im broken.. 😞 all I do is work; build my car and gym. But in all that pain iv definitely grown into a better man no doubt. Much love to all the men out there pushing through daily with all that pain, there’s nothing worse then losing the one you thought was a lifetime.
I am currently going through a really fresh break-up (sun)... we were 2gether for 9 yrs and at first I was constantly texting and trying to call him but then for some reason your videos started popping up on my feed and I'm now going not contact..... he messaged me this morning. I haven't replied and I won't, not yet at least. I want him to miss me so much it drives him crazy.... cos its driving me crazy without him
Well he definitely did both signs. Even told me ive been on his mind and wants me back but I need to change lol no we both need to change I said but that made him angry I think. Or he wasn't expecting me to say that. 😮😊 il update on here and youtube in 3 months
Update?
Any updates?
My ex broke up with me on 22nd nov 2022.My ex said he had no feelings for me last 1-2 month after no contact, he is texting like a frnd.. Due to breakup i got depressed and i loss weight... So he requested me to take food and try to avoid his thoughts. He said he has no feelings but i don't know if he has feelings or he is hiding it. I askes him whether reunion possible he said he will come if he has feelings and also said don't hope and wait for him.
I KNOW HE STILL WANTS ME" HE'S BEEN TRYING TOO GET ME TOO ONE TOO HIS " HOUSE❗🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭
I ended up blocking him for a while because I didn't want to lash out and be mean. Told him I might unblock him eventually. But not now. Glad this fits though.
Very True and Helpful
I be so confused what does a person expect to say to validate or egos boost them ? My ex knows she pretty she has a lot of other friends plus she left me and still freaking calls me every dam day after a year since we break up 😭🙄 we both models also 😎😏
He didn't contact, completely silent. After one month of the breakup and two weeks of no contact, he didn't reply to my calls and messages. I blocked him. Love should never be humiliating nor brutal
Me and my ex split up 11 years ago and known each other for 12 years , we've always been good friends and we've always been and out of contact for years we've Currently speaking again but he always had feelings still but I don't anymore. But we're good friends I saw him yesterday and Monday
Please do a video on how to see if she’s pretending to want to get back with you but is secretly looking for your replacement
He can talk to that operator that the number you dialed is out of service 😂😂😂! I straight changed my number! I'm for the strong, not for the weak. I can't deal with a man who doesn't know where he is trying to go in life. Yet want to reap the benefits It may hurt, but I'm toughing that pain out!!!!!
We are back together now, we have done the therapy and God is the centre of it all
My ego was the reason I drove him away there were a lot of things he did that he has accepted and said sorry for but even when I did the NC, never saw him around he still wanted I try again he tested the grass and it wasn’t as green as he thought it was there was no cheating it was just our timings we’re off and we needed to sort out own stuff out
God puts relationships for trial so you know what’s really worth fighting for
My ex left me few months back like i was nothing to him. Like he was waiting for this moment to happen the whole time.He didn’t even responded to my messages .. now what does that mean?😂
Well, we are ladies should respect ourselves more. Need to stop send any message too from now. Enough.
And that’s thin line is why I would rather be hated than loved when someone hates you. You know it. Someone can say they love you just to get whatever they want from you like my ex.
Broke up 2 months ago. She use to text/call almost everyday or every other day. Now I haven't heard from her in 2 weeks. But that's okay I'm letting her do her :)
K.
If you keep offering to do something for them they will keep accepting
So I kind of made my wife upset during our separation. She claimed she didn’t love me anymore. I beefed to be with her. She said she only wants to co parent and that she doesn’t see us back together. Then she also said she didn’t care if I got a girlfriend. All these things pushed me away. One day she has my daughter FaceTime me and I was out with a lady friend. She gets mad and says she hates me and wants me to die and calls me ugly and she wished she picked a better father for her kids. Almost every drop off we do with the kids, she says nothing and is visibly upset. Every text is angry and upset. I’ve been no contact except on issues regarding the kids for about a week now. What should I expect next?
6 weeks ago she said > "not ready for any type of relationship" so broke it off from me but said i could text if i had important thought, i texted 4x, she thanked me 3x, but the last text no reply except a "loved a text" thing. She didnt write one word, so i guess its over 100 % ??
haha that was me. Hitting my ex up. humans are humans.
Mines ghosting me, but not blocking me. I’m following me on social media.
I have a question for my all my brothers out there. I was seeing a lady for 3 years and she went to Columbia and we got in an argument and she blocked me 3 months ago and I haven't heard from her since would you say that I should pretty much except to say that I'll never hear from her again...?
If these this are happening, it is not "a good sign." You need a protective order.
The last one might be true cuz they still care. You gotta understand think about it pyschologically, idk about guys but just because you're not contacting your ex doesn't mean they don't still think about you, or care or miss you, doesn't mean they won't come back. That is what have been told and conditioned to do and believe. So just because they're talking to you. It depends on the breakup and the guy (, situation). Yeah this video low-key makes some sense. I think it's inaccurate. They could even be with someone else as band aid and missing you. To try and get over you and move on because that's what they think they're supposed to do and it's for the best. Don't be fooled but the tactics of trying to move on. You don't what life would do, u don't fully know what your ex thinking or feeling. Now idk if my last boyfriend will ever come back. But I do know he's kinda been struggling to move on. And that's kinda tell tale sign.
If he’s a narcissist and the new supply kicked him to the curb, he’ll claim he wants “to try again “. Very predictable. But do you want someone you can’t trust back? No. Once a cheater- always a cheater. Exes are exes for a reason. If a man doesn’t respect your boundaries, let him go play someone else.
Facts..
Thanks bro
Idk my last ex would do this for months ……. After 2 years we got back together……. Just for 9 months later she acting on the fence again and it was over that was 5/6 years ago… move forward I had kids and now the mother of my children we was going thru it … she has daddy issues and long story short we both said we wanted our family and boom not even 4 weeks she found love peace and happiness with someone else …… I’m going thru this now. Boy I feel like shit and all that but fellas just stay on ya purpose and the hell with sacrificing. Focus on yourself and the right one will understand forget chasing . Just focus on. Easier said than done you’ll be hurt . Cry let out the pain. This is coming from a man who is currently n his mind and feel like he lost his family but I’ve been thru similar break ups and u gotta keep pushing. I pray for all the success and love to come your day and due time . Peace
What if his wearing ass keeps calling from spam likely numbers just sitting on the phone ???
He's a EX for a reason.
Bro are you for real...❤❤❤l prey to Allah he come back l thought we had a special bond ❤❤❤❤
My Ex is angry with me will she come back?
I got blocked and unblocked and i got dumped for being paranoid and clingy. listened to some of my friends too much and it made me think too much and I started being weird and texting and calling too much. I got dumped over the phone at 4 am. it’s been like 4 days and I tried to call on my house phone and it was probably weird. she answered and said she would call back but never did
I guess for normal ppl and not the narcissist. Lol
So do you accept here ???
Hey coach. So my ex girl has been breadcrumbing me lately I've been short and acting busy. Today she double backed with her texts cause I wasn't responding. I said hey please don't double back messages and I will return her text when I get it. She told me to go fuck myself. Is this a good sign?
This sounds like I might not know exactly that todo except it sounds like im going the right way