What about my exgf who's in a rebound relationship and tried to flaunt it one weekend on her TikTok. She also sent her female friend to peek at my TikTok account. Two weeks laters she calls me, talking to me about me talking about her behind her back, like she's curious. I ofc did talk about her, to my closest friends, but not to badmouth her, I never do that, I don't hate her. But she told me she was dating an told me she plans to see him this Mother's Day weekend. Why? Why does this matter to her, why did she call me during my no contact? IF she's truly happy and/or relieved or indifferent then why tf would she call me?
Bro this shit works she contacted me after three weeks calling me four times at 12:30 in the morning. While I’m at work, didn’t wanna say I want to ask you something about why you’re active on Pinterest and please let’s talk like adults.
You're in damage status if you're wondering about someone who chose to leave your life. Accept they're gone and you now need to evaluate, learn, heal, and utilize better discernment in the future. Never go back unless you want to keep experiencing painful lessons you refuse to learn from.
Painful (for a season) but true. After 12 years in a relationship, I finally realized that there is no point in feeling agony for another minute over someone who doesn't miss you back, let alone who wouldn't care whether or not you are still even breathing. I spent nights alone, missing her, crying, wondering why I feel all this pain for her when she could care less. It's a painful realization to discover that a person doesn't and never did care about or love you. Being selfish has helped me..I do the things that make ME feel happy, these days I could care less whether or not anyone else likes, thinks of, cares for or wants me in their lives 😎
NC works. While my ex is not back, I've moved on. Had I not done NC, I'd be calling him and basically making a fool of myself. NC gives you value. They believe they are better than you when they leave. When you don't beg and plead, you disprove that. Go NC and move on. Best feeling in the world
Great video men are slower with their emotions they have so much unprocessed emotions inside of them they do not have any tolerance for anybody else's feelings or needs so they can't be there for their girlfriend when their girlfriend has had enough she's gone and this these are the steps required for the men to make the necessary growth thank you for making this video
I don't know where this clip came from or why I've never heard of you before, but I'm going through this right now, and we haven't officially broken up, and this information is heaven-sent. Thank you so so much!!
I can’t wait until she tries to comeback. She’s going to get complete silence forever. People have to learn their lesson and don’t let value leave their lives.
Once a woman realizes they really hurt/disappointed you & you're mature enough to admit such whether it's verbal or Energi driven..& you compose yourself maturely then move on without losing YourSelf ~THAT'S when they reeeeally realized they F'd up BIG-TIME & lost a Gem
They will. Once that person startd acting like a D. Regrets and doubts starts flooding In. If you wanna kill them, start posting pictures of new happy moments in your life and don't post anything relationship related just so they don't feel like they still have some influence in your life.
I went through all of these stages, but realizing the actual abuse I suffered, I will let them leave my heart permanently! A narcissist is incapable of going through half of these stages.
Yep. If they do run back because they screwed up, they only come back so they can discard instead of you doing it. If anything tickles their ego, they'll start a cold 💩storm as an excuse to do it. My advice is, if you suspect they're NPD, just run. Don't give them second chances. They're only looking for control.
Letting them go has to be real really real. Go through self healing. Think of it as a death correctly grieve focus on what you did wrong become a better person PERIOD. Work on yourself Completely. If they come back they too will not be the same. Your change is for you not them. Focus on you
It’s been 3 months and I doubt I’ll hear from my ex again and I will have to be fine with it. She ghosted me after 4 years cause I wanted to see her more and that bothered her I guess. No matter what, the only person to never let me down is me.
@@kellyjford1this 📌📌📌. A girl I let go of about 3 years ago and I never thought would return to me recently came back. Another I let go of about four years ago also has been expressing how she wants to be with me. Lol... And now I don't think I want either of them anymore hehehe
And if he shares videos with you on social media every day without any reaction from you, if he calls you on video conference every 2 to 3 days without coming to see you even though before he was always with you , Cook for you everyday, gives you all the love, very attentive to you.... Even by expressing my pain about his disappearance and speaking about his recent behavior that's hurt me, he lies by offering unfounded excuses, without mentioning his intention to leave me. And continues to live his life as he wants, goes out with other people, parties with them, and gives me crumbs of love even though he knows it hurts you a lot. Should I completely cut off contact with him? Knowing that we have many mutual friends and that he is someone I will continue to see from time to time. He is someone who used to pursue me when I wasn't interested in him, but once I fell in love and committed, he started playing games. What am I supposed to do? Give me some advice please! Tell me if your ex come back?
Thank you for this words. Gave her 2 weeks to think about the break up but she still said thats its over and she has no feeling left for me, so I just said that I wish her all the best in life and that I want her to be happy and I respect her decision. Since then I haven´t spoken to her. So I think that only now the real no contact started - would still want her back in my life but I am moving on and working on myself.
@@Nolaboy17 Hey update. Just today I broke NC after 55 days. Asked her out for drinks and just got a cold reply to not write to her again. Thanks and bye! ... But I am already in the right mindset so it doesn´t bother me a bit. Probably got a bit more motivation for fitnes and working on myself. Finally ready to let her go and start dating again. Im in the best shape of my life. Just gonna say - people that leave you, watch you the most! Stay strong!
My "ex" and I weren't officially together. We were more than friends but his business and healing journey weren't ready for me. I decided to play the long game with him. We talked almost every day, for HOURS. We shared more with each other then anyone before. He was my best friend. Then he met someone who lives 5 minutes from him. I live 2.5 hours, the main reason why he was waiting on a relationship. He wanted something convenient. We have been super close for months. We were making plans, we called each other unicorns because we were so perfect for each other. I told him I couldn't continue to talk to him while he pursued someone else. It crushed me. He told me he wished me the best. I'm heart broken. He's distracted by this other woman while I am here sitting in the hurt. I think that he is the one for me. I've never experienced a connection or compatibility with anyone else like this. I keep hoping he comes back one day. I need to tell myself he won't so I can move on.
The best thing to do is no contact trust me. I was in a similar situation recently. It’ll help you heal little by little… tell yourself you don’t need him, you don’t care about him, you don’t want him. Fake it till you make it. It helped me. Sure you’ll grieve it and be sad but this man chose someone else and trust me they will come back eventually because the grass is never greener on the other side unless there was abuse in the relationship. But even than, ask yourself, can you take back a man that might do this again? Remember my words, he will come back but by than you’ll realize how valuable you are and how much you don’t need them. Don’t let this man manipulate you. Don’t show him no interest. Don’t validate him. He did you dirty so now he gets nothing from you. Just bye. The world goes round and when someone does you wrong for no reason, they will go through it too, believe me. I seen it all my life. All my exs came back eventually. One of them 2 weeks of no contact. The other 8 years of no contact… do your best. You’ll be fine, trust me
@@joev7014 you’re so right . Be there PLENTY of times. My advice is don’t get with someone who got personal issues they need to deal with . I recently met someone like this I thought we were great friends too but we live far away. I was even ok with the fact he could meet a new person but we could still be friends . No these people will do a complete 180 we went from talking all the time and even saying I love you to complete silence and I think he has a girlfriend but it’s like why you just cut me off like you don’t even know me ? This happens to me all the time unfortunately and it really messed me up because it questions myself if I just suck as a person that someone could easily forget about me . He would text me once in a blue moon but wouldn’t even finish the conversation he would leave me on read. Like seriously ?? We’re 35 years old why we still doing this ? I’m all set with people now . I’m too old to go throw this still. If you don’t want me in your life that’s fine . I’m just glad I got close with Jesus Christ and all I care about is him and no one else nothing in this world deserves me .
@@MrzBadaBing you’ll be ok. I know it’s hard. My ex recently left me too and we were really good friends. She has a lot of emotional damage. It’s been hard but I’m trying to stay strong. I know I have no choice. I was doing well at one point and than we started dating again and than a month in done again and she ran back with her ex….. I’m very hurt but this time I know I have no choice… the worst part is I know she doesn’t care because she’s happy with her ex and she only feels guilty for doing me so dirty. But I don’t want to be pitied. I want to be respected. And I was disrespected and manipulated by her…. But that’s it. I’m moving on. She went back with an abusive ex who has hit her and is an alcoholic… oh well, she’ll be back but this time it’s a no, even as of right now with my broken heart it’s a no. I’m done
Love yourself, went through the same thing. GOD has better out there for you, forget him. Actions speak louder than their words. Please keep your head up & stay strong. Get a new hobby to focus on and that will help your mindset… 🙏🏽 Sending love and prayers your way on your healing journey.
If you start to regret the no contact, weigh the no contact with the constant drama, the stress and sorrow they only bring, then it should be a no brainer. Time will heal.
No contact is a beautiful thing!!! Sometimes people don't realize that silence is a response to their overall behavior! Narcissists are highly affected by this no matter what they say or do! I battled with my ex rat by screaming right back and slinging insults right back to him ....that made him THRILLED! They ADORE attention, good or bad....however silence rips them apart along with the word NO and WHATEVER! They lose their crazy minds!! It shows them just how insignificant they truly are!!!!
I kept swearing... it was below me and I felt I was losing my own dignity, that I was being dragged down to his level. It's such a difficult hard thing to learn. Learn who u r. Strengthen who u r. Be comfortable with who u r. Explore who u r. And do not ever let anyone make u go out of control. That solid self, is difficult to build up, that fortress so that nobody can ever push ur buttons. I didn't know it was a battle field out there. I was too young and naive. I didn't know I had to build myself up to that extent. Nobody ever raises u and teaches u this, to know self and build self.
Well, freedom is on the way… As of today! We are away on a vacation and home boy can sometime have the emotional maturity of a seventh grader… He became irate. I ask him to lower his voice when speaking to me, and he became louder… Told me I can get to the airport the best way I know how tomorrow when my flight leaves and if I really want it to Ike could leave the hotel tonight!😒 So mama called Airline took myself off his flight booked an earlier, one pack my gear, and when he returns tonight, mama will not be here! I will not be answering any phone calls, nor text messages! Whenever we disagree, he will call a mutual friend of ours… She has already called me twice… I’m not going to answer her either! As they say… Khadijah, don’t need ja!!!😂😁
This is true I’ve gone through this. He has asked close family even confided in his boys. That he made a mistake. But he know I won’t take him back. He was handling the no contact to the point he turned up to my house started talking like we’re friends 🤦🏽♀️ I asked him what do you want? But he couldn’t even say what he was there for kept asking how I was? How’s my family blah blah. Even his own mother knows he made a mistake was begging him to reconsider the breakup too late I wouldn’t even take him back So everything this guy is saying is all true we were in a 14 year relationship He even said that he can’t just forget about it where in my case I have, when I look at him I feel no feelings for him
She is being the same covert she has always been. I do "know" one thing. She uncovered childhood pain I had no idea existed. It was hurtful, vicious and disgusting. I broke up with her then discovered this thing called covert narc. She made me feel unworthy and unloved like I didn't matter. Damage. Regardless of who discards whom, they ultimately confirm their pointless existence to themselves. They know that infinite abyss of nothingness is that much closer. Their greatest fear is dying without any reason or purpose for living like the rest of us have. Yeah, they don't get the emotional pain we got, because it;s not possible for them. The opposite of a broken heart is a broken ego. You can bet that ego hss suffered another dumpster fire. You know this because they tell everyone they are fine and that we were the problem. They are liars. They are super aware they were the problem, yet again.
This is so spot-on... If your person cheat on you and you are back with them in less than six months, they will cheat again.... You didn't give them time to go through these steps. Everytime George cheat and you take him back in less than seventy-two hours, you have conditioned yours that he can cheat and as long as y'all have good makeup sex and less than 72 hours, he can keep doing it over and over again and you would keep taking him back. Twenty-four to Forty-Eight hours, two months, three months, sometimes six months and the lesson is still not learned. It's just like a lab rat, you reward him when he does something good. Cut the contact off and that's like telling him hey get your stuff together or you will lose me and keep this void.... I'm not coming back to the same old same old...
Be honest with yourselves! She is in a REBOUND right now in constant RELIEF/CURIOSITY. No matter what they told you: "It takes months before I get into a relationship" 🙄 etc. You'll never know what she feels...besides you. Easier said than done but we MUST "focus on yourself" because one instance of contact i.e. seeing them at a party/shopping, drunk text, engaging with mutual friends, etc. will set you back to day one of the breakup...Stay strong, all love to everybody!
They your ex. They chose a life away from you. You had no value in their lives. You 2 were not compatible .Your ex threw in the towel wrote you off as scrap. Move on accept the break up and let them be. They were a chapter of history in your life. If it was meant to be they would have honored and respected you. Don't settle for 2nd place in a relationship. Know your worth. No contact works but don't return. Improve your life style by going you become more of a victim them before. stay away from narsissist.
I’m sure he probably went through all of these and he is now back to being himself, sleeping w any girl who is willing. The ex narc is girl crazy. He loves them all and will say whatever it takes to be w as many females as possible.
Once they leave that's it for me! I have boundaries. once another man is allowed to penetrates my space. It no longer holds any value. Trust is everything!
You are absolutely correct on every point in this. I just came across your channel and instantly subbed. Going through 3 months of no contact now and you have really good content. Thank you
She has found a new boyfriend and lives a happy life. NC is a beautiful idea, but during it our ex's just live their lives, have sex, smile and move on. It's a really good idea for self comforting, but it is overestimated.
I’m currently going through a breakup with my gf of 2 and a half years, everything was great I guess I didn’t show enough emotion towards, but I didn’t know it, I miss her so much but I need to not contact her and just stay strong and work on myself rebuild reflective relieve the pain and enjoy myself this guy is helping me a lot
Nope not curious about what that sick person is thinking, doing at ALL, I feel like a NEW person, that was some heavy stuff to bear, I have PEACE and not pieces Blessings to Everyone ❤❤❤❤
Its been 2 days and they are looking at my social media not sure what stage is. But im at peace. I wasnt rude or angry and my reasoning is logical and valid.
I believe no contact does crush both the parties. My gf stopped talking to me for over a month after 4 years of relationship. When I said I want a break up, she didn’t even bother to talk to me about it. Few weeks later she wanted me back. Begging me to not over this relationship. But I knew it’s bad as she is money minded and not good for me. But six months have passed I still haven’t moved on completely. I am in a no contact and sometime validation comes to my mind. But it’s okay to feel that way as any relationship requires a lot of involvement and good memories as well. But you have to accept the hard fact and get over it. Any bad relationship is like a drug. You need to give time to yourself to cut down that urge of getting the addiction back and move on.
My ex who broke up with me give me a traumatic experience because hes a narc. I get into the stage of completely being silent. All of them even the new girl are triggeres because im just silent. I hope they realize what they did to me
That's how my ex-husband the very strong narcissist. His EGO is bigger then the universe. He has told me more often than not that no one will ever break him ever !!! 😢How ever I pray God will one day ! 😢💔
@@ladyllf48 that’s all we’re able to do is pray for them & expose them cause those 3 main demons doesn’t like exposer! My story will be told! Peace be with you my sister! 🌹❤️💯🕊️🙌🏾🙏🏽
Her 6 stages: 1) relief 2) more relief 3) finally I'm free 4) idgaf what he does 5) forgets about you completely 6) gets a new relationship and never looks back
This is true especially when you’re a good person, If you’re a Good Woman and Good Man to all your exes this is the case it applies to you, if you wasn’t bout nun than I’m not talking to you if anything you can forget it
Na this doesn't happen to everyone. It's been months and I'm not missing them. If times are hard I'm taking care of myself and my family is there for me. I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person.
Its like when you go to contact. Its like they true colors signs is showing. They trying to get your attention by looking at your stories, liking your stories, checking in and even might stalk you. This is just not even care at that point its just straight him being a narcissist. We didn't date he didnt want a relationship but seems like he wanted attention and keep me around. I notice early signs now, it's scary.
Better to stay blank and move on if she happy with a bummer so be it dont disturbe her that was the final and last time I called.you can see the sadness in her eyes she all messed up.😊
They don't do that they don't feel like they've made a mistake pretty much from people break up they break up must have been together a long time. Nobody looks back 2 months later and says wow I made a big mistake because if you made a big mistake you would be back within a week
@@Tns85what you commented is out of your emotions and not your logic, if you do your research it could take them YEARS to contact you, especially if they suspect you won’t take them back… it’s okay to feel but don’t let your feelings cloud your judgment of these people. They also do have feelings, although they seem extremely demonic they ARE humans. Don’t let your feelings take over because you’ll never have the chance to heal from the abuse.
@@indiganoir my response is out of logic because what if that teacher got so angry that he became violent. I'm not speaking from an emotional standpoint I'm speaking from a point where that teacher is supposed to be a leader he is supposed to show students how to act and class he did not do that appropriately. I am speaking from a logical standpoint if you want somebody to do what you want them to do yelling is not going to be the answer. There are many different avenues he could have went down before he started yelling at those at those students he could have left the room. Imagine if that was a classroom of
I don’t think they both even cared lol. I mean I could say one did and I wish her as much love healing energy and light to her life. Hope all is well for her.
It’s annoying when you get left in the dark no type of closure and the person just pops up texting you once in a blue moon to see how you are doing but then stops texting doesn’t even finish the conversation. Then it’s another month they text you . That’s why once I see you don’t me in your life your blocked for life and unfortunately I mentally remove you from my life . I’m so glad to have Jesus in my life .
Yes they do that…ghosting you for days while they’re with the new supply in Dallas …Don’t answer their phone then say the battery ran out…then try to blame you for being suspicious… send phony pics from the lake he took a year a go then sent to you so you think he’s with the ‘guys’ but he’s really with her…use his kids as excuses when he’s really with her…was extremely paranoid about my ex’s so kept accusing me of Cheating bc he was cheating! Countless pictures in his phone of other women but accused me of being nosy when his phone rang. Didn’t like if I had opinions -they were always arguments. Lack of emotional intelligence to even carry out a conversation. Just simple Simon…but faked the part by wearing fake glasses 🥸 Poor thing has a sex addicted pastor as his mentor and who actually officiated his wedding to the new supply! So sad 😞 Was broke as a joke but too proud to say so ..but when his retirement money kicked in he was the man again. Just busted fake baller -on a budget… But I knew him and poured into him when he was down. Even tho I stuck by him during ALL of his trials he still cheated! Uuggh… he cheated with my friend/enemy who came back to tell me everything he said about me! She too knew he was undiagnosed! She’s also happens to be a friend of his new wife- isn’t that messy? Total liar, total cheater, total fake Deacon who sat on the front row of the church! No repentance for his actions! Oh and I pray for the new wifey -to her I say-I was with him 14 yrs and A dog will alway sniff tails & a Leopard can’t/won’t change its spots! 🐆 🐆 He’s not clinically diagnosed but she will soon learn what I kno now! Not Bitter-Jus Kno Better!
I’m sorry but they are an ex for a reason. Stop telling women what they want to hear so they will subscribe. If you or your man broke it off or both, but do get back together even trying to resolve the problems, eventually you will end up back to breaking up. It takes a few breakups sometimes to eventually both people realize it’s best to move on.
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What about my exgf who's in a rebound relationship and tried to flaunt it one weekend on her TikTok. She also sent her female friend to peek at my TikTok account.
Two weeks laters she calls me, talking to me about me talking about her behind her back, like she's curious. I ofc did talk about her, to my closest friends, but not to badmouth her, I never do that, I don't hate her.
But she told me she was dating an told me she plans to see him this Mother's Day weekend. Why? Why does this matter to her, why did she call me during my no contact?
IF she's truly happy and/or relieved or indifferent then why tf would she call me?
Bro this shit works she contacted me after three weeks calling me four times at 12:30 in the morning. While I’m at work, didn’t wanna say I want to ask you something about why you’re active on Pinterest and please let’s talk like adults.
@@dwaynebrown9168 Hope it works out for y'all, fr fr, take it slow. Glad your ex at least had sense enough to reach out like an adult and talk
But if they have moved in
I go through one stage it's called relief I am done, thank you God for rescuing me from these people
Lol
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Amen 🙏🏿 I’m rejoicing literally 🙌🏿🎉🎉
This the one 😂😂😂😂
Why are you here if you are relieved?
You're in damage status if you're wondering about someone who chose to leave your life. Accept they're gone and you now need to evaluate, learn, heal, and utilize better discernment in the future. Never go back unless you want to keep experiencing painful lessons you refuse to learn from.
Painful (for a season) but true. After 12 years in a relationship, I finally realized that there is no point in feeling agony for another minute over someone who doesn't miss you back, let alone who wouldn't care whether or not you are still even breathing. I spent nights alone, missing her, crying, wondering why I feel all this pain for her when she could care less. It's a painful realization to discover that a person doesn't and never did care about or love you. Being selfish has helped me..I do the things that make ME feel happy, these days I could care less whether or not anyone else likes, thinks of, cares for or wants me in their lives 😎
I don't want him back. Silence helped me see the truth and the truth set me free. Thank God!🙏
NC works. While my ex is not back, I've moved on. Had I not done NC, I'd be calling him and basically making a fool of myself.
NC gives you value. They believe they are better than you when they leave. When you don't beg and plead, you disprove that.
Go NC and move on. Best feeling in the world
Outstanding!
That's what no contact is for ..It is to heal you and they may miss you but they no contact is for your healing
Fa ct 💯
I beg her last 2 months. If I now I follow NC It's going to help?
Let them go through the cycles , then have them repeat it over and over again ! Y’all stay blessed!!!!
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Nah be toxic and give her the emotional roller coaster she been wanting
I bet you a lot of exes go through none of these stages. Some people just don't care whatsoever.
Please don’t get back with the person who left you! Please ! Let them regret dumping you yes but don’t get back with them
Great video men are slower with their emotions they have so much unprocessed emotions inside of them they do not have any tolerance for anybody else's feelings or needs so they can't be there for their girlfriend when their girlfriend has had enough she's gone and this these are the steps required for the men to make the necessary growth thank you for making this video
I don't know where this clip came from or why I've never heard of you before, but I'm going through this right now, and we haven't officially broken up, and this information is heaven-sent. Thank you so so much!!
No contact is a manipulation over a dynamic emotional control. You don't need that much, just let them be and be yourself.
No thank you
I actually am relieved they are gone
Not going back to that abusive relationship
2 thumbs up , IT WAS THE MOST HURTFUL RELATIONSHIP I EVER HAD FIRST TIME FOR EVERYTHING, IM WIRKING IN IT AND GETTING BETTER
I'm in the first stage for the last 12 years. I will NEVER go through the other stages. Thank you very much! Totally moved on. Peace!
Respect 🙏🏾
My stages were relief, freedom and healing.
Same!
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I can’t wait until she tries to comeback. She’s going to get complete silence forever. People have to learn their lesson and don’t let value leave their lives.
I get it, but don’t let that hurt turn into anger and bitterness.
Once a woman realizes they really hurt/disappointed you & you're mature enough to admit such whether it's verbal or Energi driven..& you compose yourself maturely then move on without losing YourSelf ~THAT'S when they reeeeally realized they F'd up BIG-TIME & lost a Gem
I'm doing no contact Been 5 yrs she's still single.. I wish she would come back
@@socal1772y not just call her
This is insane , i never thought in this way . This is broadening of mindset ❤😮
When they move on to another person they can’t possibly feel this
Relief stage bro. It takes time
They will. Once that person startd acting like a D. Regrets and doubts starts flooding In. If you wanna kill them, start posting pictures of new happy moments in your life and don't post anything relationship related just so they don't feel like they still have some influence in your life.
YUP❤NUT IT WONT LAST WHEN THEY DO THAT WEAK MOVE😮😶☝🏾👌🏽
Had to walk away for my own peace of mind 😮
I went through all of these stages, but realizing the actual abuse I suffered, I will let them leave my heart permanently! A narcissist is incapable of going through half of these stages.
True.
Yep. If they do run back because they screwed up, they only come back so they can discard instead of you doing it. If anything tickles their ego, they'll start a cold 💩storm as an excuse to do it. My advice is, if you suspect they're NPD, just run. Don't give them second chances. They're only looking for control.
@@FortyFourAndGore Thank you, we need reminding.
I told my relatives that a Monster is now awake in me since: unstoppable raging self confidence.
@@FortyFourAndGore exactly
Im never going back to a narcissistic warlock. Im serving the most high God and working on the divorce. Hallelujah
When u are the one thats been there and went through everything , its complete relief and you never care what they think , its peaceful on your end
I went no contact for one year and 4 months. I haven't broken my silence.
Letting them go has to be real really real. Go through self healing. Think of it as a death correctly grieve focus on what you did wrong become a better person PERIOD. Work on yourself Completely. If they come back they too will not be the same. Your change is for you not them. Focus on you
I'm Glad you've got it All Figured Out. 🥳
Yes
It’s been 3 months and I doubt I’ll hear from my ex again and I will have to be fine with it. She ghosted me after 4 years cause I wanted to see her more and that bothered her I guess. No matter what, the only person to never let me down is me.
You will hear from her. You’ll see. But by then you’ll be good and have moved on.
@@kellyjford1this 📌📌📌. A girl I let go of about 3 years ago and I never thought would return to me recently came back. Another I let go of about four years ago also has been expressing how she wants to be with me. Lol... And now I don't think I want either of them anymore hehehe
And if he shares videos with you on social media every day without any reaction from you, if he calls you on video conference every 2 to 3 days without coming to see you even though before he was always with you , Cook for you everyday, gives you all the love, very attentive to you.... Even by expressing my pain about his disappearance and speaking about his recent behavior that's hurt me, he lies by offering unfounded excuses, without mentioning his intention to leave me.
And continues to live his life as he wants, goes out with other people, parties with them, and gives me crumbs of love even though he knows it hurts you a lot. Should I completely cut off contact with him? Knowing that we have many mutual friends and that he is someone I will continue to see from time to time. He is someone who used to pursue me when I wasn't interested in him, but once I fell in love and committed, he started playing games.
What am I supposed to do?
Give me some advice please! Tell me if your ex come back?
MANY EXES ARE OCCUPYING THEIRSELVES IN A REBOUND RELATIONSHIP WHILE WE'RE WATCHING VIDEOS ON WHAT THEY'RE THINKING ABOUT..😮😒😊
Truth
Narcs
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Thank you for this words. Gave her 2 weeks to think about the break up but she still said thats its over and she has no feeling left for me, so I just said that I wish her all the best in life and that I want her to be happy and I respect her decision. Since then I haven´t spoken to her. So I think that only now the real no contact started - would still want her back in my life but I am moving on and working on myself.
Perfect! 🦈🦈🦈
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Good deal bro! I'm moving on from a 15yr relationship and 4 girls. Stay focused on your goals. There's nothing in your way now.
@@Nolaboy17 Hey update. Just today I broke NC after 55 days. Asked her out for drinks and just got a cold reply to not write to her again. Thanks and bye! ... But I am already in the right mindset so it doesn´t bother me a bit. Probably got a bit more motivation for fitnes and working on myself. Finally ready to let her go and start dating again. Im in the best shape of my life. Just gonna say - people that leave you, watch you the most! Stay strong!
@@franci8564courage bro
My "ex" and I weren't officially together. We were more than friends but his business and healing journey weren't ready for me. I decided to play the long game with him. We talked almost every day, for HOURS. We shared more with each other then anyone before. He was my best friend. Then he met someone who lives 5 minutes from him. I live 2.5 hours, the main reason why he was waiting on a relationship. He wanted something convenient. We have been super close for months. We were making plans, we called each other unicorns because we were so perfect for each other. I told him I couldn't continue to talk to him while he pursued someone else. It crushed me. He told me he wished me the best. I'm heart broken. He's distracted by this other woman while I am here sitting in the hurt. I think that he is the one for me. I've never experienced a connection or compatibility with anyone else like this. I keep hoping he comes back one day. I need to tell myself he won't so I can move on.
The best thing to do is no contact trust me. I was in a similar situation recently. It’ll help you heal little by little… tell yourself you don’t need him, you don’t care about him, you don’t want him. Fake it till you make it. It helped me. Sure you’ll grieve it and be sad but this man chose someone else and trust me they will come back eventually because the grass is never greener on the other side unless there was abuse in the relationship. But even than, ask yourself, can you take back a man that might do this again? Remember my words, he will come back but by than you’ll realize how valuable you are and how much you don’t need them. Don’t let this man manipulate you. Don’t show him no interest. Don’t validate him. He did you dirty so now he gets nothing from you. Just bye. The world goes round and when someone does you wrong for no reason, they will go through it too, believe me. I seen it all my life. All my exs came back eventually. One of them 2 weeks of no contact. The other 8 years of no contact… do your best. You’ll be fine, trust me
@@joev7014 you’re so right . Be there PLENTY of times. My advice is don’t get with someone who got personal issues they need to deal with . I recently met someone like this I thought we were great friends too but we live far away. I was even ok with the fact he could meet a new person but we could still be friends . No these people will do a complete 180 we went from talking all the time and even saying I love you to complete silence and I think he has a girlfriend but it’s like why you just cut me off like you don’t even know me ? This happens to me all the time unfortunately and it really messed me up because it questions myself if I just suck as a person that someone could easily forget about me . He would text me once in a blue moon but wouldn’t even finish the conversation he would leave me on read. Like seriously ?? We’re 35 years old why we still doing this ? I’m all set with people now . I’m too old to go throw this still. If you don’t want me in your life that’s fine . I’m just glad I got close with Jesus Christ and all I care about is him and no one else nothing in this world deserves me .
@@MrzBadaBing you’ll be ok. I know it’s hard. My ex recently left me too and we were really good friends. She has a lot of emotional damage. It’s been hard but I’m trying to stay strong. I know I have no choice. I was doing well at one point and than we started dating again and than a month in done again and she ran back with her ex….. I’m very hurt but this time I know I have no choice… the worst part is I know she doesn’t care because she’s happy with her ex and she only feels guilty for doing me so dirty. But I don’t want to be pitied. I want to be respected. And I was disrespected and manipulated by her…. But that’s it. I’m moving on. She went back with an abusive ex who has hit her and is an alcoholic… oh well, she’ll be back but this time it’s a no, even as of right now with my broken heart it’s a no. I’m done
Love yourself, went through the same thing. GOD has better out there for you, forget him. Actions speak louder than their words. Please keep your head up & stay strong. Get a new hobby to focus on and that will help your mindset… 🙏🏽 Sending love and prayers your way on your healing journey.
Pray to GOD about it, he's always willing to help
If you start to regret the no contact, weigh the no contact with the constant drama, the stress and sorrow they only bring, then it should be a no brainer. Time will heal.
It's called loving yourself and finally able to say goodbye for once in oral and good written
This is so helpful! Thank you for explaining this!❤❤❤
Thank you 🙏🏽 I needed this, exactly what I'm going through thank you, stay safe 🙏🏽 and I just subscribed 😀
Trust me he in somebody else's bed with in a week 😂 good luck to her . She'll need it 😅 I'm glad I got rid of him 👋👋👋
No contact is a beautiful thing!!! Sometimes people don't realize that silence is a response to their overall behavior! Narcissists are highly affected by this no matter what they say or do! I battled with my ex rat by screaming right back and slinging insults right back to him ....that made him THRILLED! They ADORE attention, good or bad....however silence rips them apart along with the word NO and WHATEVER! They lose their crazy minds!! It shows them just how insignificant they truly are!!!!
Sure does 😂
What happens if this a woman 👀
I kept swearing... it was below me and I felt I was losing my own dignity, that I was being dragged down to his level. It's such a difficult hard thing to learn. Learn who u r. Strengthen who u r. Be comfortable with who u r. Explore who u r. And do not ever let anyone make u go out of control. That solid self, is difficult to build up, that fortress so that nobody can ever push ur buttons. I didn't know it was a battle field out there. I was too young and naive. I didn't know I had to build myself up to that extent. Nobody ever raises u and teaches u this, to know self and build self.
Well, freedom is on the way… As of today! We are away on a vacation and home boy can sometime have the emotional maturity of a seventh grader… He became irate. I ask him to lower his voice when speaking to me, and he became louder…
Told me I can get to the airport the best way I know how tomorrow when my flight leaves and if I really want it to Ike could leave the hotel tonight!😒
So mama called Airline took myself off his flight booked an earlier, one pack my gear, and when he returns tonight, mama will not be here! I will not be answering any phone calls, nor text messages! Whenever we disagree, he will call a mutual friend of ours… She has already called me twice… I’m not going to answer her either! As they say… Khadijah, don’t need ja!!!😂😁
Lol my ex 'rat' haha
This is true I’ve gone through this.
He has asked close family even confided in his boys. That he made a mistake. But he know I won’t take him back.
He was handling the no contact to the point he turned up to my house started talking like we’re friends 🤦🏽♀️ I asked him what do you want? But he couldn’t even say what he was there for kept asking how I was? How’s my family blah blah.
Even his own mother knows he made a mistake was begging him to reconsider the breakup too late I wouldn’t even take him back
So everything this guy is saying is all true we were in a 14 year relationship
He even said that he can’t just forget about it where in my case I have, when I look at him I feel no feelings for him
Wow
You are so right. No contact, now after 4 months email from her😮😮😮
Nice but you are worth so much more ❤❤
Thank you so much 😊 sir ! I need it to hear this !
She is being the same covert she has always been. I do "know" one thing. She uncovered childhood pain I had no idea existed. It was hurtful, vicious and disgusting. I broke up with her then discovered this thing called covert narc. She made me feel unworthy and unloved like I didn't matter. Damage.
Regardless of who discards whom, they ultimately confirm their pointless existence to themselves. They know that infinite abyss of nothingness is that much closer. Their greatest fear is dying without any reason or purpose for living like the rest of us have.
Yeah, they don't get the emotional pain we got, because it;s not possible for them. The opposite of a broken heart is a broken ego. You can bet that ego hss suffered another dumpster fire. You know this because they tell everyone they are fine and that we were the problem. They are liars. They are super aware they were the problem, yet again.
When will his EGO break ??? He didn't even think twice about hurting N lying on a 10 year old child. That's when I looked at him like he was nothing !
This is so spot-on... If your person cheat on you and you are back with them in less than six months, they will cheat again.... You didn't give them time to go through these steps. Everytime George cheat and you take him back in less than seventy-two hours, you have conditioned yours that he can cheat and as long as y'all have good makeup sex and less than 72 hours, he can keep doing it over and over again and you would keep taking him back.
Twenty-four to Forty-Eight hours, two months, three months, sometimes six months and the lesson is still not learned. It's just like a lab rat, you reward him when he does something good. Cut the contact off and that's like telling him hey get your stuff together or you will lose me and keep this void.... I'm not coming back to the same old same old...
Great video! Thank you for sharing
You’re very welcome.
Be honest with yourselves! She is in a REBOUND right now in constant RELIEF/CURIOSITY. No matter what they told you: "It takes months before I get into a relationship" 🙄 etc. You'll never know what she feels...besides you. Easier said than done but we MUST "focus on yourself" because one instance of contact i.e. seeing them at a party/shopping, drunk text, engaging with mutual friends, etc. will set you back to day one of the breakup...Stay strong, all love to everybody!
Respect 👊🏾
Spoken like a true champ...youre 100 percent correct
As a female going through this, I am standing the no contact to not having to start over after all the growth I went through
Exactly…
They your ex. They chose a life away from you. You had no value in their lives. You 2 were not compatible .Your ex threw in the towel wrote you off as scrap. Move on accept the break up and let them be. They were a chapter of history in your life. If it was meant to be they would have honored and respected you. Don't settle for 2nd place in a relationship. Know your worth. No contact works but don't return. Improve your life style by going you become more of a victim them before. stay away from narsissist.
Coach T, glad to see you back. Stay strong brotha.
Much appreciated.
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Thank you for explaining this!!
He left our marriage to be back with his ex so he is happy where he is at I assume . God is still good ❤️🙏🏾
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I broke up with him and i was going through the stages but when I thought about how I was being treated. I made the right choice
That you did! PRAISE GOD
How did he treat you? If you don’t mind answering?
I’m sure he probably went through all of these and he is now back to being himself, sleeping w any girl who is willing. The ex narc is girl crazy. He loves them all and will say whatever it takes to be w as many females as possible.
Once they leave that's it for me! I have boundaries. once another man is allowed to penetrates my space. It no longer holds any value. Trust is everything!
You are absolutely correct on every point in this. I just came across your channel and instantly subbed. Going through 3 months of no contact now and you have really good content. Thank you
Good words. Good words that help people.
Huge respect keep producing this valuable material
Much respect
I hope so.. thank you, sir 🙏
I claim this message feelings everywhere throwed off at this point
She has found a new boyfriend and lives a happy life. NC is a beautiful idea, but during it our ex's just live their lives, have sex, smile and move on. It's a really good idea for self comforting, but it is overestimated.
Well said! ✅️
I’m currently going through a breakup with my gf of 2 and a half years, everything was great I guess I didn’t show enough emotion towards, but I didn’t know it, I miss her so much but I need to not contact her and just stay strong and work on myself rebuild reflective relieve the pain and enjoy myself this guy is helping me a lot
Nope not curious about what that sick person is thinking, doing at ALL, I feel like a NEW person, that was some heavy stuff to bear, I have PEACE and not pieces Blessings to Everyone ❤❤❤❤
Love this Dude.....TRUTH
Yes I'm over it when I left & yes best decision I ever made in my whole life
Dude The 1st thing you said was he was relieved and happy... So let him be Relieved & HAPPY 🤪
You’re missing the context.
Its been 2 days and they are looking at my social media not sure what stage is. But im at peace. I wasnt rude or angry and my reasoning is logical and valid.
Beautiful message. Thank you!
I believe no contact does crush both the parties. My gf stopped talking to me for over a month after 4 years of relationship. When I said I want a break up, she didn’t even bother to talk to me about it. Few weeks later she wanted me back. Begging me to not over this relationship. But I knew it’s bad as she is money minded and not good for me.
But six months have passed I still haven’t moved on completely. I am in a no contact and sometime validation comes to my mind. But it’s okay to feel that way as any relationship requires a lot of involvement and good memories as well. But you have to accept the hard fact and get over it.
Any bad relationship is like a drug. You need to give time to yourself to cut down that urge of getting the addiction back and move on.
Thank you. Appreciated! 🙏🏽
My ex who broke up with me give me a traumatic experience because hes a narc. I get into the stage of completely being silent. All of them even the new girl are triggeres because im just silent. I hope they realize what they did to me
Walk away and never look back.
It’s hard, I do know your pain. You go on and live your best life, cuz I know you can.
Mine is a full blown narcissist…he’s not even thinking abt the new current supply let alone me…heck, himself!
Dealing with a woman one
@@moneyvationreg6593 get out of it while you can! Ca call on Jesus to intervene ik I did! The longer you stay the worse it’ll become! Trust…
That's how my ex-husband the very strong narcissist. His EGO is bigger then the universe. He has told me more often than not that no one will ever break him ever !!! 😢How ever I pray God will one day ! 😢💔
@@ladyllf48 that’s all we’re able to do is pray for them & expose them cause those 3 main demons doesn’t like exposer! My story will be told! Peace be with you my sister! 🌹❤️💯🕊️🙌🏾🙏🏽
Her 6 stages:
1) relief
2) more relief
3) finally I'm free
4) idgaf what he does
5) forgets about you completely
6) gets a new relationship and never looks back
This is true especially when you’re a good person, If you’re a Good Woman and Good Man to all your exes this is the case it applies to you, if you wasn’t bout nun than I’m not talking to you if anything you can forget it
Na this doesn't happen to everyone. It's been months and I'm not missing them. If times are hard I'm taking care of myself and my family is there for me. I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person.
Day 3 of no contact with a narcissist. I blocked and deleted him. PEACE ☮️ 🙏🙏🙏
Yesssss!!! Good!!! I needed to hear this! 🙏🏽
Let it go!!
Its like when you go to contact. Its like they true colors signs is showing. They trying to get your attention by looking at your stories, liking your stories, checking in and even might stalk you. This is just not even care at that point its just straight him being a narcissist. We didn't date he didnt want a relationship but seems like he wanted attention and keep me around. I notice early signs now, it's scary.
He just didnt have time for me. So now its time for me to move on and heal.
Good to see you sir!
Thanks Mel!
SHE WON THE BATTLE I LOOSE LIABILITIES 😅😅😅 IM GLAD SHE DID ME WRONG I SAVED MY SELF LOT OF UNNECESSARY EVENTS
Better to stay blank and move on if she happy with a bummer so be it dont disturbe her that was the final and last time I called.you can see the sadness in her eyes she all messed up.😊
Thanks so much Bro,,I let them go,!!
Left never looked back No Contact at all 🙏
I went through all of this, but never went back to the abuser..
Im better for not being a fool, again.
They don't do that they don't feel like they've made a mistake pretty much from people break up they break up must have been together a long time. Nobody looks back 2 months later and says wow I made a big mistake because if you made a big mistake you would be back within a week
I believe you’re a bit misinformed about how psychology and human behavior works.
@@theblackbookbasics please enlighten me with your wisdom
It has to take enough space days months in order for the ex to miss you. It’s about stages.
@@Tns85what you commented is out of your emotions and not your logic, if you do your research it could take them YEARS to contact you, especially if they suspect you won’t take them back… it’s okay to feel but don’t let your feelings cloud your judgment of these people. They also do have feelings, although they seem extremely demonic they ARE humans. Don’t let your feelings take over because you’ll never have the chance to heal from the abuse.
@@indiganoir my response is out of logic because what if that teacher got so angry that he became violent. I'm not speaking from an emotional standpoint I'm speaking from a point where that teacher is supposed to be a leader he is supposed to show students how to act and class he did not do that appropriately. I am speaking from a logical standpoint if you want somebody to do what you want them to do yelling is not going to be the answer. There are many different avenues he could have went down before he started yelling at those at those students he could have left the room. Imagine if that was a classroom of
I call bullshit !! It’s in Gods hands now … I’m done
Yes ❤iclaim
Great Great Advice
No contact 1 year and 6 months moving forward!!!!
Amen I am going through the same thing 😢we haven't been in any communication since September 2022.
I don’t think they both even cared lol. I mean I could say one did and I wish her as much love healing energy and light to her life. Hope all is well for her.
Very good job, brother.
Much respect.
I glad I listened to this even if he is W someone else???? He asked me to call him But I haven't done it a month and 4 days
It’s annoying when you get left in the dark no type of closure and the person just pops up texting you once in a blue moon to see how you are doing but then stops texting doesn’t even finish the conversation. Then it’s another month they text you . That’s why once I see you don’t me in your life your blocked for life and unfortunately I mentally remove you from my life . I’m so glad to have Jesus in my life .
Done that doesn’t make a difference. He has plenty attention elsewhere
She cheated. She can go to hell. No contact is not a choice I make. It’s the only option she gave me
Yes they do that…ghosting you for days while they’re with the new supply in Dallas …Don’t answer their phone then say the battery ran out…then try to blame you for being suspicious…
send phony pics from the lake he took a year a go then sent to you so you think he’s with the ‘guys’ but he’s really with her…use his kids as excuses when he’s really with her…was extremely paranoid about my ex’s so kept accusing me of Cheating bc he was cheating!
Countless pictures in his phone of other women but accused me of being nosy when his phone rang.
Didn’t like if I had opinions -they were always arguments. Lack of emotional intelligence to even carry out a conversation. Just simple Simon…but faked the part by wearing fake glasses 🥸
Poor thing has a sex addicted pastor as his mentor and who actually officiated his wedding to the new supply! So sad 😞
Was broke as a joke but too proud to say so ..but when his retirement money kicked in he was the man again. Just busted fake baller -on a budget…
But I knew him and poured into him when he was down. Even tho I stuck by him during ALL of his trials he still cheated!
Uuggh… he cheated with my friend/enemy who came back to tell me everything he said about me! She too knew he was undiagnosed! She’s also happens to be a friend of his new wife- isn’t that messy?
Total liar, total cheater, total fake Deacon who sat on the front row of the church! No repentance for his actions!
Oh and I pray for the new wifey -to her I say-I was with him 14 yrs and A dog will alway sniff tails & a Leopard can’t/won’t change its spots! 🐆 🐆 He’s not clinically diagnosed but she will soon learn what I kno now!
Not Bitter-Jus Kno Better!
Or they are so relieved that they got out. Do not play games it will not go well.
ABSOLUTELY, BYE 👋 *** People think they know what's best, until they realize, that they were WRONG, *** GET TO STEPPIN***
Indeed.
I didn't feel these stages I only felt relief.
A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but the heartache crushes the spirit.
Proverbs 15:13
I’m sorry but they are an ex for a reason. Stop telling women what they want to hear so they will subscribe. If you or your man broke it off or both, but do get back together even trying to resolve the problems, eventually you will end up back to breaking up. It takes a few breakups sometimes to eventually both people realize it’s best to move on.
This is facts
Thank you mate! 🇦🇺