🚗DRIVING ANXIETY SURVEY 🚗 Friends, I need your help! If you have experienced driving anxiety, I would be so grateful if you could you please spare 10 minutes to fill in my questionnaire forms.gle/i7koDwEGaYy5vmox5 . You may have seen my driving anxiety video's on RUclips and now I am writing a book to help people overcome driving anxiety. I am interested in collecting a broad range of views from people with driving anxiety to make sure the book is of benefit to as many people as possible. Note: Everything you share will be strictly confidential, and will only be used as general research for my book, to understand the experiences and patterns of behavior among anxious drivers of all levels. Thank you so much. Clare from Generation Calm
Driving has always caused the most stress in my life and has severely limited me. I've purposefully chosen to walk places instead of take a car. Everytime I sit in a car I'm overcome with nausea and I hyperventilate. It was like that the first time I got behind the wheel and it's been that way ever since. I was never one of those teenagers that was excited to drive and get my license. I waited until I was nearly 22 to get my license and still did not want it. My parents were beyond frustrated at me and couldn't understand why I didnt want to drive which I think made it worse. I always feel stupid when I drive and I am terrified of being alone in the car. But all in all, thank you so much for posting this video. Knowing that I'm not alone is extremely comforting after being told since I was a teenager that I needed to just get over it and it was all in my head.
I'm sorry driving has always been such a struggle for you, and that people around you have not understood. But like you said ... you are certainly not alone. The anxiety sensations of nausea and hyperventilation are extremely unpleasant and can increase nervousness while driving because it often feels like you will lose control of the car. So starting to cope with the anxiety symptoms are probably a number 1 priority for you. Please know that these sensations of nausea and hyperventilating are a way of your body trying to protect you. Your mind thinks there is a threat so your body goes on overdrive (excuse the pun - couldn't think of a better word). You might find benefit from my meditation video for relaxing a nervous stomach ruclips.net/video/lxW6UFvvSjY/видео.html, my belly breathing meditation ruclips.net/video/BQ7oNZVL8CY/видео.html and/or my panic attack talk down ruclips.net/video/5etqf1LNa1A/видео.html. Thank you for leaving a comment and I wish you much luck!
Me too !! I always feel stupid too which makes me scared of myself because I have ADHD and I have trouble focusing on things. It's soo scary to me like the only thing keeping people from driving straight into each other is a painted line. I think other people are the scariest though because they can be so mean. My first time driving by myself (and probably my only time for a while because this was a few days ago lol), someone kept honking at me because I didn't turn right on red. It wasn't even clear though there were cars turning left into the lane was going to turn right into. :,) I got scared and almost turned anyways which scares me because that could've been a bad accident. I realize now I hate driving alone because I need someone there for emotional support. I also have a complex that makes me feel like I'm always in the wrong. I'm paranoid too because I love my car so much and I think I'd sob relentlessly if it got wrecked. Honestly, I like driving but not on roads. If I could just drive in a big circle and listen to music in my car that would make me very happy. I think I'm also just traumatized from driving with my mom and the teachers at my driving school were horrible, one kept yelling at me to the point I was so nervous I forgot my right from left. The amount of anxiety attacks I've had while learning to drive, oh my goodness. And I still cannot park !! I feel like an idiot when I try to park and I have to correct it like a bajillion times. I always park in the back lol, so I never go anywhere after dark because as a teenage girl walking to the back of a dark parking lot at the same walmart that I've been followed around at by traffickers is TERRIFYING. I hope I'll be able to drive like a normal person one day.
You're definitely not alone. I originally made this video to help my mum and best friend, and I've been amazed at how many other people out there are anxious about driving. So glad it's been helpful to you!
Sorry to hear that. Some parents just aren't cut out to teach driving skills, no matter how good a driver they are. Their own anxieties can get in the way. There are great some great instructors out there who will help after you've passed the drivers test. It's a great confidence booster.
@@GenerationCalm Yeah it definitely made it worse 😂😂 Especially when you're a sixteen year old already nervous about driving .Then getting yelled at for not even backing out perfectly the first time ,Then getting yelled at the whole time on the road
Thank you for sharing your story. When you do that it helps others realize they're not alone. And 37 is not too old to start driving, it's still possible for you. I know it feels terrifying but that fear will eventually go away once you get started. It's taking that first step that will be the most difficult. Wishing you much luck!
Been driving for 8 years and I’m still anxious about motorways, long distances, parking, busy traffic & unfamiliar routes.😒Very annoying! I’d love to enjoy driving one day.🙏🏾 The only time I’m calmer is driving a familiar route & driving at night as the roads are clearer.
You'd be surprised just how many others feel the same way. I love that you've pinpointed the hardest things for you about driving. Maybe pick just one to work on. I'm not sure about the restrictions where you live but where I am we're still allowed to drive and the roads are much quieter than usual. If it's safe to, now would be a great time to practice parking or motorway driving.
So thankful I found your vids! I've got to drive to the other side of town in a couple of hrs and have been dreading it since last eve to the point I'm sick thinking about it. Gonna put your tips into action. Thank you again.
I wish you much luck. Overthinking is your body's way of trying to protect you from harm. But it's more like an overprotective mother stopping a child from getting teased, so they're never allowed out into the world. Don't allow yourself to overthink before your drive, if you have to, do something creative or practical so you're in the moment. You might want to watch this video too ruclips.net/video/tCd81Syvqe0/видео.html before you go out, as it gives some more practical tips about driving anxiety.
Thank you so much for this video, I’ve been dealing with driving anxiety for years and I found your video very helpful to start overcoming my bad anxiety.
That's wonderful to hear. The next video in the series is published in a few hours, hopefully it will help you get a plan together to overcome your driving anxiety. ruclips.net/video/d-8ZB5jPyMM/видео.html Good luck!
@@GenerationCalm Its odd, we are learning about phobias in my Advanced Placement Psychology class and what can trigger them and common causes and what you can do to diminish them or get rid of them altogether and this could be another useful source of information in this endeavor that I'm embarking on.
I think I have the worst case imaginable. Growing up we were always told women are bad drivers. My mom, nanny, and sister don't drive and never would. My dad was an alcoholic and he drove us everywhere. He was never going to teach me how to drive. But i begged and begged. One day while he was drunk he decided he'd give me a lesson. I ended up under our single wide trailer. I took my drivers test 5 times and didn't even make it out of the parking space on one of those tests before I swiped the side of the car next to me. Then i was in a bad wreck with my ex a few years ago. Honestly as soon as I get behind the wheel I feel like I'm suffocating and physically cannot breathe. Judgement from family and friends makes it worse. "You can't even take your kids to a baseball game." "You can't even get a job" "you're using your husband and he needs the help" or "It's not a big deal just do it" which really hurts because I feel alone and nobody understands or has any clue how to react if I start to panic. I'm 31 now and still don't drive. I'm seriously considering therapy, but I'm afraid I'm too far gone.
I'm so sorry to hear this. But it shows how much a driving phobia impacts a persons life. Panic is real and it affects us physically and mentally. I think finding the right therapist would help you a lot, not only for the driving anxiety, but for the underlying issues too. And just so you know, 31 is not too old to learn. I have family members who were way older than that when they passed their driving test. You're here watching a video about it. That is a positive move forward.
Hey Christina hope you are doing well, Have you ever talked to any professionals about these feelings and issues? It sounds like you've really had a rough time, but therapy is a great start and would really help with the negative thoughts and unhelpful reinforcements you are receiving. Also it's not too late, I'm slightly older than you and the amount of people I've met with similar problems who have said they wish they started at our age is surprisingly numerous. I work with an ex heroin addict who is graduating from her community college at the age of 57, one of my doctors told me it took her until the age of 58 to get her MD-PHD. They both told me it's never too late to start anything, even driving or finding work.
@@FeRReTNS I'm currently looking into therapy. I'm just glad I've finally gotten to the point where i feel like I'm ready to do something about it. I've been avoiding it for years. But really hope it helps. Thanks so much! 😊
Christina I do truly understand everything you have said here hun, I am scared to death to drive and I’m 47 yrs old. Would love to talk to you if you wanted too about this, I am suffering with driving panic and have been for years.
You are definitely not the alone . I’m just like you I’m about to be 30 and still don’t drive let alone have a drivers license. I not only feel ashamed but a burden to my husband. Even though my family and his don’t make me feel bad about my driving phobia I still can’t help but think they think I’m a burden and why I am so scared when everyone else can do it. I feel like an idiot and less of a person to be so scared of something that is a “must to do daily task “ in order to get around and yet everyone around does it like it’s nothing .
I always knew I had driving anxiety. As soon as my body was in the drivers seat I’d shake, cry, think I was gonna crash. It didn’t help that I had no idea how to not almost hit other cars. I know where it started, my moms ex husband would berate me every time he made me drive as a kid, he’d go on until I cried or he yell down at me and I to my ear until I was shrunken down into my seat. It gave me extreme panic and ever since the idea of even getting into a car gave me anxiety. I dropped the idea of driving for 5 years. I’m nearly 20 now and just finally able to try to even start learning to drive.
First I am so sorry that you had to go through that emotionally abusive experience. It is no wonder that it's been 5 years before starting to attempt learning again. But you can do it. Find someone patient as your teacher and go at your own pace. Over in the UK (where I learned to drive) the majority of learner drivers get personal driving lessons with a driving instructor. It's a much better experience because even the nicest parents in the world can be terrible teachers when faced with someone learning to drive. I have a video of driving affirmations that you may find helpful to go through before lessons ruclips.net/video/Fd20cAQKYnE/видео.html
Thanks Clare. You were really spot on, on your tips and they would really be of help once i am behind the steering. I hope to soon get out of the this anxiety as it has greatly affected my work and lifestyle. I used to drive long distance, within and intercity until when some silly thoughts gets into me and i start having thoughts of loosing control of the steering and having a crash. I trust that will be all over as i gradually apply these tips! God bless you!
Great video. I have a mild fear of driving, I'm 18 years old and I don't even have my learner's permit. I do suffer from social anxiety at times and I don't know if this impacts how I feel about driving but to me, driving feels like "too much", as in, it's A LOT all at once. Remembering traffic laws, and other tiny little details you'd forget quite easily, at least in my case. I have driven before but I nearly wrecked and it was enough for me to quit. I REALLY want to overcome this fear, but I have zero motivation, I'm intimidated by the amount of rules to follow, getting pulled over, and unsurprisingly; crashing. I lost a relative thanks to a drunk driver about four summers ago, I also feel left out in several situations, a lot of my peers have their license already and it's dwindling down to me being the only one without a license. Like I said, I don't even have my learner's permit and I could've obtained this two years ago. Any advice would be very helpful!
It is a lot at the beginning. But as with everything, the more you practice the more natural it becomes, and after a while it won't feel like too much to think about. I wonder if you are placing too high expectations on yourself. You don't need to be a perfect driver...just a driver. If I were a gambler, I would bet the majority of people driving do not know ALL the traffic laws. I'm sure a lot of your hesitation comes from the terrible experience your family suffered from the actions of a drunk driver. So, allow yourself some kindness, accept how you're feeling (anxious/cautious) but move forward in a slow, gradual way and don't compare yourself to others. We're all on a different path. Take it one step at a time...and your first step is to apply for your learner's permit. Good luck!
@@GenerationCalm Thank you so much! I appreciate the help, i'm supposed to be taking my learner's permit test on Saturday. Hopefully I pass, the common word I hear about the basic knowledge test is that the majority of my peers all claim that the test is laughably easy and that zero studying is required as it's a "common sense" test. I take this statement with a grain of salt because knowing me and my anxiety, I might actually end up failing. I've also heard from the web as well as Reddit that the test is actually really hard and that studying is a must. I'm reading over my state's driver manual and it's a lot to take in. Any advice on how to process and store and remember so much information? The test is 40 questions where I live and you're allowed 13 mistakes I believe and it's all completed on a computer. Word of mouth says that if you fail, the PC shuts off mid test. But if you pass, it shuts off at the end of the test. Thanks again :)
Listening to other people's stories and advice, either in real life or on the internet will likely increase your anxiety. And if you're anxious, you won't be able to focus your mind on studying. My advice would be to not waste energy on other people's experiences, but to make time for 20 minute study sessions reading up on the driver manual. There are going to be questions you might not expect and that's ok, it happens to everyone. You might find a practice test for your state online. That will be a good way to consolidate any information and to know what to expect. Being relaxed on Saturday is going to be your most important asset. Be kind to yourself, and don't forget to celebrate after the test regardless of whether you have a positive experience or not. Wishing you much luck!
Driving with an instructor gives me horrible anxiety. The last one he yelled a lot and I went home and balled my eyes out. So many people my age are already driving and have learned so fast and I cry and ask myself everyday why I can’t be like them. I have a lesson in an hour and I’m gonna take a leap and try my best to push through it because laying in bed crying about it doesn’t do anything. I wish things could be different but they aren’t and I hope I learn new things today. It feels like I’m never gonna make it to the point where I get my license but I’m gonna keep pushing. UPDATE: my in car instructor turned out to be really chill and not mean at all. I told him I’ve never driven on the freeway yet or have done maneuver ability yet. We drove on the freeway for 2 hours and it turned out to be really nice and relaxing and not hard at all. Maneuver ability was nice as well. That takes practice which I will need to start doing but overall it was nice! Then I went home and he told me I’m a really good driver considering I haven’t gone on the freeway or do maneuver ability yet. So now I’m sitting at home and I’m really happy that I pushed through it and had the courage to go! I learned a lot and it made me a better driver and a stronger person.
I'm so glad you updated your comment to let us know how the lesson went. The instructor makes a huge difference to your experience. I'm glad you finally found one that suits you. Please try not to compare yourself to your friends who may already be driving because that will do nothing to help you. Concentrate on your driving goals and improving your skills one step at a time. But from what this instructor says you're doing a great job. Well done!
Hello Claire thank you for your explanation. I agree it's the reason, which pushes anyone, to learn or to do a task. I understood that clearly when I quit smoking just when strict lockdown started in India due to COVID-19! I was a smoker for 20 years and was finding a reason to quit. Similarly I am now learning driving after a gap of 20 years! I understood I needed to upgrade my life. So, here the reason is an upgrade! ☺️
Behind most people's fear of driving there is an element of worrying about a crash. So you are certainly not alone. But it seems like you're on the tipping point now of wanting to do something about it and not letting this fear stop you from driving confidently. So think about what your life would look like if you didn't let this fear stop you. What would you do? How would you feel? Where would you go? This will help push you past the tipping point of fear and motivated to do something about it. Keep on watching the vids, be gentle with yourself (everyone has fears - it's OK), and maybe set a goal for the new year about gradually driving more and more. If or when you're ready for more help from me contact me on this form www.generationcalm.com/blog/contact/ and we'll discuss the ways you can work with me. But the video's on this RUclips channel can help you get far too. I wish you much luck.
Thanks for this I’m not alone I find when I go out it’s the volume of traffic or aggressive driving inpatient people it’s true you have to keep going otherwise it gets worse this summer I’m going out every day even if it is a small journey
You're so very welcome. And yes, I agree, you can and will overcome your fear of the motorway and roundabouts. You can absolutely do this. I have a whole series on overcoming driving anxiety which I try to add to regularly ruclips.net/p/PLlhU5CGlNSZzyEPmTqeeOq0pM8b3vP5Bb. I wish you much luck!
Omg i needed this , am English and moved to canada and since moving here i wont drive , i just dont trust myself to not switch to the opposite side of road
I totally understand! But I know you can do it. That first step will be the hardest. If you can find a quiet time on local streets to start with to get over that initial fear and then just keep doing that regularly. You will have to keep reminding yourself at first about which side of the road you should be on whilst driving (I still occasionally get into the passenger side and wonder why the steering wheel isn't there). But eventually it will become second nature. If you have an automatic car there will be less tasks to think about which will make it easier. Keep in mind some goal you might have that will be easier to accomplish when you drive. It will keep your motivation going.
I'm sorry to hear that. Perhaps it would be easier to break it down into sections. So concentrate on just one goal or skill at a time, like highway driving, driving on country roads or just driving to a particular place. Pick one and then focus all your practice on that skill. I know it can be difficult but I hope you'll stick with it.
I am very grateful for your video’s, I’m taking lessons now for almost 2 years because of Corona and it’s worsening my anxiety but your video’s really help me get through it!
Yes, the pandemic is not only making anxiety worse. But it means there have been huge gaps in driving lessons, which means more time to worry and not much practicing. I hope you can get back out there soon. It'll be scary at first, but I have no doubt it will all come back to you.
@@GenerationCalm thank you, I started watching your video’s 2 weeks ago and since then the drivers lessons are getting much better and I only have healthy stress :)
Thank you for your video. I have motion sickness from a young age. But I have driven about seven years, and I just went to my workplace or familiar place nearby. I just moved another country, and the phobia comes. I just can drive for my husband’s company nearby, and can’t drive in the highway. I’m scared of speed and lost.
You're very welcome. Sometimes a phobia such as driving anxiety can come on when we have a lot of stress in our lives. Moving to a new country can be a stressful time, even if it's a positive experience. If you can drive to your husband's workplace then that's a good start. Gain confidence by driving a tiny bit further afield, little by little.
It's never too late to learn to drive. It's OK to do it scared, for most people the first few lessons are terrifying. After a while it will all of a sudden become much easier. But the first hurdle is getting brave enough to try. I'm sure there are parts of your life that would be a lot easier if you could drive. There is a fantastic exercise called fear setting by Tim Ferriss (it's explained here medium.com/@checkli/fear-setting-free-checklist-download-template-tim-ferriss-dd9773a270d1) which may be useful in getting you to the point where inaction is worse than the act of driving.
I see by the number of views that I’m not the only one! I have been ill and also had severe trauma recently. The Lyme infections (Babesia) got into my red blood cells and crossed the blood brain barrier, made me dizzy and shaky, and now I’m afraid of getting lost. I never had this before! But, things seem to look different in places I’ve been to before. I’ve never had this before! I’m practicing with baby steps, but don’t want to go far. I hope this goes away!
Yes! I just commented on an AFRID (eating disorder) video about how tick and mold-related diseases can cause sudden neurological, anxiety, or OCD-type symptoms. And unfortunately even once diagnosed and treated... the behavioral tendencies and fears can persist. I always lean into technology and science: navigation devices and body/yoga-centered practices like in the book: "The Body Keeps Score." 💜
Hi I've been driving for almost 19 years I was no involved in car accidents. Been always a great driver . I started having anxiety and panic attacks after giving birth to my 3rd child. I CAN'T DRIVI ON THE FREEWAYS ANYMORE 😭😭😭😭 but regular roads are fine
Sometimes anxiety seems to come from nowhere, but it can generally be traced back to a stressful event going on for you at the time. Then it snowballs because you don't want to get another panic attack. I'm glad to hear you can drive on regular roads. With time I'm sure you'll be able to drive on freeways again, just be gentle with yourself.
Same here, I seriously thought I was alone in this fear. I've been driving since age 18 and now in my mid 50's I have never had a ticket or an accident. My fear is now getting so bad that I'm afraid I will eventually stop driving all together alone or in the passenger seat.
@@ririmr4978 Being aware of your fear is half the battle. And you're definitely not alone. If you can find a way to bring down your anxiety (whatever relaxation works best for you) and practice as much as possible you will find the fear gets less and less. It's a long game, no short-cuts unfortunately. But I find that having an ultimate goal in mind keeps your motivation high. Your ultimate goal might be something like meeting with friends in a city you have to drive to in a year's time. Keep going and good luck!
You're right at the beginning of your journey with driving a car. It's a skill that will take some time to fully get, and that's OK. It will all come together. Be patient with yourself - you'll find that as you continue you'll gain more confidence which will stop you from freaking out. Find someone calming who can keep you on track while you're learning. Good luck!
as a guy of 20 years old i have never derived a car the worst thing about my anxiety with it its that its this domain where mistakes often costs permanent injuries and in the worst cases life not just yours but also of others
That is such a great question! I really had to think about that. I think I just rationalized in my head that if I took it slow I could do it. I continued practicing until I gained some confidence. Then, I think at some point I just decided to go for it! Thank you for helping people push through their challenges so that they can reach their fullest potential. Keep creating meaningful content! Blessings your way Jewel :)
I never had driving anxiety until recently. Last August I was driving a 5 hour trip that I've made dozens of times over the last 20 years. About midway through, I started zoning out and having an outer body experience. My heart started beating fast, I started feeling hot, and had a fullness in my chest like I had to keep belching. Ever since then, I get anxiety driving an hour or more. I get in my head and start zoning out and it is scary. Even more recently, I am beginning to get anxiety just driving around my city. I've just became an overthinker when it comes to driving and it sucks. I just wanna be how I used to be where I would drive and not think about anything. That first panic attack I had last year while driving has clearly done a number on me mentally.
So sorry to hear about this. Driving anxiety can often start suddenly, but you can sometimes trace it back to a time when you were stressed. So I wonder if you were going through a particularly stressful time last August. These can be changes that don't seem stressful but make us more susceptible to panic attacks and developing a phobia. On a positive not, you've driven well for 20 something years, it won't take too much to get back to that.
@@GenerationCalm You are likely right about me likely being stressed the morning the panic/anxiety happened while I was driving. I was already dreading the trip because I was visiting two relatives that were in the hospital at the time. They both have since passed. My grandmother also died unexpectedly back in October so maybe that made it even worse. Thanks for the encouraging words. I'm going to keep on trying to defeat this and get back to my old self where I drove worry free.
Hi am a new driver, I had my license in October ,I just bought my new car and unfortunately I had i mini crash the next day at the parking lot but there was no damage.I got so scared sitting behind the wheel again ,but my husband helped me face my fears by making me drive under his supervision ..it’s been two weeks now and I want to drive alone but the am still scared..I just want to gather courage and start again,your help would be appreciated.
How wonderful that your husband is helping you face your fears. You could perhaps drive under your husband's supervision for 15 minutes around your neighborhood ... drop him off at home ... then continue on your own for 15 minutes. That way, you don't have to gather the courage because you're already in the car. It might help you get over that initial fear of driving on your own again. Don't force yourself to drive alone though, it will all happen when you are ready! Wishing you much luck!
Ugh I can’t figure out how to get over this fear- the moment I sit in drivers seat my heart starts going crazy and my hands clamp onto the steering wheel and can’t seem to make myself go above 30. It also doesn’t help that when I make a few mistakes my sister starts screaming and freaking out- just makes it all worse
Your body and mind is connected. So if you're worried about driving it can show up in your body as muscle tension and heart pounding etc. And if your body is tense (like holding onto that steering wheel for dear life) it can communicate to your brain that you're in immediate danger. This will then get ramped up when your sister starts freaking out because it's all information to your brain that something terrible is about to happen. So you can start by calming down your brain with a few slow breaths before getting into the car, let out a deep sigh (it tells your brain you are relaxed and in control), playing some tunes that you like, keeping a good, relaxed posture in the car and finding a calm driving companion (or none at all if you can drive by yourself). Hopefully this will calm you enough to practice more and the more you get out there the easier it will become.
I have driving anxiety I feel like o cant control myself or I'll get into an accident my family tells me to just practice driving and I'll get over it but I dont feel comfortable being in the drivers seat I get panic attacks
Your family are right to some degree, practice will help, but only if you are ready. There's normally a tipping point when the problems of not being able to drive outweigh the fear of driving. At that point, you'll find the motivation to push past the fear (maybe there will be an unmissable job opportunity that requires you drive to work). The fears you have about being out of control or getting into an accident are the most common ones that stop a person driving. For now, two things, start thinking about what life might be like if you could drive confidently. And also, work on finding relaxation techniques that work for you such as breathing or meditation. When you are ready I have a whole playlist of video's about driving anxiety ruclips.net/p/PLlhU5CGlNSZzyEPmTqeeOq0pM8b3vP5Bb which should help.
Being able to learn new skills in a forgiving environment is important. Mistakes and nervousness are part of the process of learning any new skill and that’s hard when there are others who’ll criticize. I hope you’ll find a way to drive without your family pushing your buttons!
I can't drive. It doesn t get any better driving. I can't go on holiday or work or do many things but It never gets any better...i still have a car but I can't use it and I m considering to sell it because I can't use it unless I go for only few km away in places where I know. At this point I prefer not spending money for a car that is stopped all the time.
I know a trigger for me is when the road is more narrow than usual, also I notice so many people zoom out in front and I just think "if I was driving I would've got into a wreck because there is no way I'd be able to react to that"
It's good that you are noticing your thoughts. That's always a good place to begin. Start keeping a track of some of your thoughts about driving and in general too. Notice if there is a pattern, notice if your thoughts about driving are much more negative than others areas of your life, notice if your thoughts are sounding like those words your family say about you.
Take your time, do it when you're ready and get a motivating goal for yourself first. A particular place you want to be able to drive to, it will help keep you focused
I'm retired and still young in my husband drives us everywhere. I have to start driving again because I'm not with my husband but you came up with some doozies about what to be afraid of. I haven't driven for 10 years but I'm not that afraid that I would have to make a U-turn to see if there was a body LOL
You made me laugh! At least you know you're not starting from zero. I forget sometimes that what I've seen in my clinical work does not reflect the whole population. But that aside, you'll be able to do this, it's just a question of confidence, and that will come with regular practice. Good luck!
I'm sorry to hear that ... presumably because driving anxiety is something that's been holding you back! But those tears mean you're getting to the tipping point of wanting to do something about it. When you're ready you'll be able to work on this in your own time. Let the tears motivate you!
So sorry to hear that. It's no wonder you're too scared to drive, if that is your thought process. Whether you already have a drivers licence or not, start by thinking about how your life might improve if you started driving. No pressure ...just start by thinking of the opportunities or ease it might bring into your life. At this stage, it's about changing your mindset a little. Starting to bring in some hope that things could or might be different.
Thankyou for reply , I really appreciate mam , and your precious time , I will take your suggestion , you are absolutely wright I have to change my mindset and be positive all the time . 🙏🏻
As humans, we naturally look for the negative ... so don't expect to be positive all the time ... it would be an impossible task to set yourself. But if you add some gratitude to your day, by listing 3-5 things you are grateful for everyday, it will help you start to see the positive side of things. Here's a video you might find helpful if you want to start a gratitude journal ruclips.net/video/y9CR_JuHOWA/видео.html.
I used to drink and drive, on suspended license, I was fearless. After my first DUI my fear begin I see red and blue lights and think police are at every corner ready to pull me over. Not to mention I don't trust cars I feel they are going to leave me stranded. Smoking a cigarette helps calm my nerves but it's not enough. I bike ride to this day very rarely drive.
I do hope you no longer drink and drive. Getting help for drinking is a priority not just for the safety of yourself and others but for your long-term health and wellness. I think you really need to look deeper at why you are engaging in unhealthy behaviors such as smoking to reduce stress. There are so many other ways to rest and relax that are cheaper and better for you. Bike riding is a great alternative. But it sounds as if you are only doing that to avoid the fear of driving. You can turn this around for yourself. But only you can make that decision.
There's a difference between defensive driving and driving anxiety though. Being anxious about driving stops a person from driving on certain roads, and if they avoid, of course they'll never have an accident because they never take a risk. Defensive driving, however, is a sensible approach to avoiding an accident by keeping your wits about you while driving. But definitely not by keeping off the roads altogether.
I recently passed my written test on the first attempt, of course after many permit expirations and written test attempts I finally passed it on the first try ever. I now have my first driving lesson on September 1st, I'm actually committing myself now after 20 wasted years and I'm very nervous and anxious. Thank you for this.
Congratulations on passing the written test. Now you can move on to the practical lessons too! I'm so pleased you're getting out there and moving forward on this goal. Excited to see where you go with this! Good luck!
@@GenerationCalm I just had my first lesson today, I even got to drive home on one of the busiest big streets and it wasn't that scary! The instructor was great and very understanding! Thank you and thank you for this channel.
My sister and I recently bought our own car from a friend as we both have our licences. We've been practicing - she more than me because I am so scared. Any time I am told that I will be driving that day or evening I immediately tense up and feel sick (nausea, rapid heartbeat and just overall feel unwell and stressed). Once I'm in the car and I start it and move I feel a forced calmness but it is very very fragile and oftentimes I get moments of pure panic while on the road, especially when on intersections, turning left on an intersection, passing any intersection even when the green light is on, waiting on a red light on an intersection or (and especially) when I don't know the way and the instructions given to me are vague and confusing (I haven't driven much so even if I technically KNOW the way, it's never been ON the road, it's always on a bus or on the sidewalk which is totally different). What should I do? I'm trying not to panic as I have to drive to pick up my sister from somewhere in an hour.
I also have a huge fear of the car suddenly stopping or the brakes failing... Our car is old and used but the mechanic inspected it and he said it was fine despite its model. But I am not reassured...
I can’t even put the handbrake down I feel like the car is just gonna shoot off . I also mad it easier for myself by getting automatic and i still can’t do it lol my car been sitting in my car park for a few days now
I passed in a manual though in 2019 lol . 2021 got my first car and I’m absolutely terrified , as soon as I get in the car my heart is beating out my chest
Hey, you can do this. Take your time ... you don't have to drive for a long time at first. Why not start a little tracking chart. Figure a place you could drive to that's an easy circuit from where your car is parked, and everyday drive that route ...no matter what! And cross off that daily chart each time you drive it. When I first started driving I did this very quick 1/2 mile route and kept going round and round until I felt more confident to go further afield. You got this!! Yes, your heart will be pounding at first, but the more times you drive the easier it will get.
The most triggering for me is knowing that even if I was a good driver I don’t know anyone around me in other cars wether they’re drunk angry or even sleepy therefore they’re attention to the road is not the same as mine also I fear dying in a car accident 😢
I'm very scared of driving in tight spaces, I already scratched the car in the garage. Whenever I see it so close to the wall, I feel like I can't breathe. I feel comfortable in the car because it's big, but I hate tight spaces.
Im 25 years old and im having driving license exam in 10-15 days. I always fear of the thought of driving. When i was young my dad really really loved speed, he drived at 150. I just couldn’t seat in the car and took the bus/subway. Now actually im doing fine with my teacher my side, feeling safe, knowing that he will be take control of everything if i mess up. But without him i do not trust myself. Im afraid of harm to someone. Im a doctor and seeing all that car accidents victims in er... I assume it makes me more uncomfortable with driving. Im fricking 25 yo and a doctor and cant drive.
It sounds like your driving lessons with your teacher by your side have been a success. But you're starting to think into the future about what it will be like to drive alone. How about taking it one day at a time. It will take the pressure off you if you stay focused on the present moment. So focus on the exam only - and even then - it doesn't matter if you pass first time or not. I'm sure your dad's speeding and your experiences in ER have combined to make you fearful of the consequences of driving. But please be gentle with yourself. Everyone experiences fear, it's just that the fear of driving can really interfere with life and other people can make a big deal out of it. Driving with confidence is a skill and I have no doubt that you can learn to do it because you have learned a lot of skills in the past to become a doctor. So this week, don't get ahead of yourself. If you find yourself thinking too much about what could happen in the future, bring yourself back to the present moment. I wish you tons of luck with your exam next week.
Generation Calm i passed my exam, i will have my driving license finally. Still i have insecurities but im trying to overcome, trying to not think too much about bad things that can happen in the future. Thanks for your advices!
@@fatimabetulcaliskan I'm so happy to hear you passed. Congratulations! It's going to take a little while to feel confident behind the wheel. But it will be a whole lot quicker if you practice as much as possible. Not just getting from point A to B, but for nice drives ...like day trips or to visit friends.
The day after I got my license I got into an accident that was my fault, my car was totalled. I wasn't ready to drive alone..but my parents jist kinda throw me out of the nest when it comes to a new skill. They didn't even follow me when I drove home from work to make sure I was okay. Then on my second outing I wreck. I'm scared of driving but my mom is gonna help me get a car. I want one but my dad does believe in me and thinks that the car will just sit there. I've heard the things my family says about me and none of them believe in me.. Except my mom but even her patience is whethering btw Im 20.
I'm sorry to hear about the accident and I hope there were no injuries. Whenever I've spoken to car insurers they say from their experiences that when someone gets into an accident early on they tend to be better drivers in the long-run. So, don't let one mistake haunt you. Like anything in life, you have to practice to get better.
I hate to be like that,i have been in America 20 years and i got my 4th permit.I want to drive but that fear stops me.If i can drive myself to work at least 1 time rest going to come ☹ i even took lesson still didnt help .The instructor made me more anxious
Getting the right instructor is key to success. Ask around for a good one. Because your personalities have to click especially if you are anxious. Please don't let one bad experience with an instructor stop you from trying again. Start to think about how life could be more enjoyable or easier if you could drive, then start to make a plan to reach your goal. Anxiety will lessen once you make a plan and start acting on it. Good luck!
Would love to have watched this but it kept buffering every 5 to 6 seconds for a long time. Don't have this problem with other videos so I'm moving on.
I'm sorry to hear you feel that way! Those pesky negative thoughts are stopping you from driving with confidence (and everyone gets negative thoughts btw ... just not always about driving). So what will get you out there driving with confidence? Start by driving a little at a time, bit by bit you will find yourself getting used to driving and gradually start to feel more confident. Sitting at home won't help, but driving (even driving scared) will help. Notice your thoughts though. Write them down if you have to. They have such enormous power over your mood. You don't need to make big changes to your thought patterns but entertain the idea that there is room for improvement. Instead of 'I am a crap driver' try 'I am learning to drive more confidently one road at a time'. And be gentle with yourself, we all make mistakes, that's the process of learning anything. And try this video next it might help ruclips.net/video/PprXGuFn2fk/видео.html
I agree! I think every phobia can seem irrational to someone that doesn't share the same fear. But driving anxiety is especially debilitating because it can limit what you do in life. So many people try to hide their fear of driving because others don't understand it.
@@ogueyratogeyrat7448 Absolutely, avoidance strengthens the connection of driving with the feelings of anxiety. A bad memory of driving can do the same thing. The practice of driving more often will weaken that link.
I’m 46 years old. I never drove a car. The only way I can move to another state if I learn to drive. The fear of learning to drive is ruining my pontential of living a better life.
No-one is beyond help. Step 1 is making the observation that you need help with driving anxiety and having the courage to go forward. Start by keeping track of your thoughts and beliefs about driving. You can do this!
Easier said than done ... but the New Year is a good opportunity for setting new intentions for the way you want to live your life. Fear is normal and can be helpful, but sometimes it gets in the way.
@@jennifererby8320 I hope you received my email as I sent it yesterday. But in answer to your question driving anxiety can randomly start if you’re going through a stressful time, or if you fear people judging your driving ability, or after a specific driving incident (like if you were tailed by an aggressive driver). The ‘why it started ‘doesn’t matter as much as you think it might. What matters is going forward with a plan to reduce anxiety. Have a read of this www.generationcalm.com/blog/why-do-you-have-driving-anxiety then start to list out the different driving scenarios that bother you and rate them from 1 no anxiety to 10 tons of anxiety.
I know it seems like a simple question with a simple answer. But someone with a driving anxiety (or any other phobia) often needs to know that what they experience is an actual 'thing' with a real name, and that they're not alone.
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Thank you so much.
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Driving has always caused the most stress in my life and has severely limited me. I've purposefully chosen to walk places instead of take a car. Everytime I sit in a car I'm overcome with nausea and I hyperventilate. It was like that the first time I got behind the wheel and it's been that way ever since. I was never one of those teenagers that was excited to drive and get my license. I waited until I was nearly 22 to get my license and still did not want it. My parents were beyond frustrated at me and couldn't understand why I didnt want to drive which I think made it worse. I always feel stupid when I drive and I am terrified of being alone in the car. But all in all, thank you so much for posting this video. Knowing that I'm not alone is extremely comforting after being told since I was a teenager that I needed to just get over it and it was all in my head.
I'm sorry driving has always been such a struggle for you, and that people around you have not understood. But like you said ... you are certainly not alone. The anxiety sensations of nausea and hyperventilation are extremely unpleasant and can increase nervousness while driving because it often feels like you will lose control of the car. So starting to cope with the anxiety symptoms are probably a number 1 priority for you. Please know that these sensations of nausea and hyperventilating are a way of your body trying to protect you. Your mind thinks there is a threat so your body goes on overdrive (excuse the pun - couldn't think of a better word). You might find benefit from my meditation video for relaxing a nervous stomach ruclips.net/video/lxW6UFvvSjY/видео.html, my belly breathing meditation ruclips.net/video/BQ7oNZVL8CY/видео.html and/or my panic attack talk down ruclips.net/video/5etqf1LNa1A/видео.html. Thank you for leaving a comment and I wish you much luck!
i feel the same way 😢😢😢😢 and not sure how to come out of it
@@Sadia_AustralianJourneysSadia I'm the same boat and its so frustrating. can we please talk about it?
Me too !! I always feel stupid too which makes me scared of myself because I have ADHD and I have trouble focusing on things. It's soo scary to me like the only thing keeping people from driving straight into each other is a painted line. I think other people are the scariest though because they can be so mean. My first time driving by myself (and probably my only time for a while because this was a few days ago lol), someone kept honking at me because I didn't turn right on red. It wasn't even clear though there were cars turning left into the lane was going to turn right into. :,) I got scared and almost turned anyways which scares me because that could've been a bad accident. I realize now I hate driving alone because I need someone there for emotional support. I also have a complex that makes me feel like I'm always in the wrong. I'm paranoid too because I love my car so much and I think I'd sob relentlessly if it got wrecked. Honestly, I like driving but not on roads. If I could just drive in a big circle and listen to music in my car that would make me very happy. I think I'm also just traumatized from driving with my mom and the teachers at my driving school were horrible, one kept yelling at me to the point I was so nervous I forgot my right from left. The amount of anxiety attacks I've had while learning to drive, oh my goodness. And I still cannot park !! I feel like an idiot when I try to park and I have to correct it like a bajillion times. I always park in the back lol, so I never go anywhere after dark because as a teenage girl walking to the back of a dark parking lot at the same walmart that I've been followed around at by traffickers is TERRIFYING. I hope I'll be able to drive like a normal person one day.
So happy I found this video. I thought there was something wrong with me.
You're definitely not alone. I originally made this video to help my mum and best friend, and I've been amazed at how many other people out there are anxious about driving. So glad it's been helpful to you!
Not at all many people experience this. I have. God is SO faithful. You can do it.
No, you are facing an obstacle that many of us face nothing more. Keep believing 💜
So glad to know I'm not the only one in the world but I have been driving a couple years ago anxiety just started
I ll overcome this, no matter what. The path is only onward.
Yes, what a fantastic attitude! It doesn't matter how slow the progress, keep going!
I hope I will drive some day
You will. Expect to, trust God, have FAITH. You will overcome this fear in Jesus name
@@nickandchrismom Amen!
@@KayciazWorld Indeed! God bless you!
I'd love to know if you're driving yet!
@@nickandchrismom thanks for this in God I trust
Mine was so bad I never really learned. When my dad tried to teach me he always yelled non stop while on the highway so that definitely didnt help
Sorry to hear that. Some parents just aren't cut out to teach driving skills, no matter how good a driver they are. Their own anxieties can get in the way. There are great some great instructors out there who will help after you've passed the drivers test. It's a great confidence booster.
@@GenerationCalm Yeah it definitely made it worse 😂😂 Especially when you're a sixteen year old already nervous about driving .Then getting yelled at for not even backing out perfectly the first time ,Then getting yelled at the whole time on the road
@The Light At Night That sucks
Thank you for sharing your story. When you do that it helps others realize they're not alone. And 37 is not too old to start driving, it's still possible for you. I know it feels terrifying but that fear will eventually go away once you get started. It's taking that first step that will be the most difficult. Wishing you much luck!
Sorry about that. It's NOT too late. Learn, it gives you SO much freedom and independence
Been driving for 8 years and I’m still anxious about motorways, long distances, parking, busy traffic & unfamiliar routes.😒Very annoying! I’d love to enjoy driving one day.🙏🏾 The only time I’m calmer is driving a familiar route & driving at night as the roads are clearer.
You'd be surprised just how many others feel the same way. I love that you've pinpointed the hardest things for you about driving. Maybe pick just one to work on. I'm not sure about the restrictions where you live but where I am we're still allowed to drive and the roads are much quieter than usual. If it's safe to, now would be a great time to practice parking or motorway driving.
So thankful I found your vids! I've got to drive to the other side of town in a couple of hrs and have been dreading it since last eve to the point I'm sick thinking about it. Gonna put your tips into action. Thank you again.
I wish you much luck. Overthinking is your body's way of trying to protect you from harm. But it's more like an overprotective mother stopping a child from getting teased, so they're never allowed out into the world. Don't allow yourself to overthink before your drive, if you have to, do something creative or practical so you're in the moment. You might want to watch this video too ruclips.net/video/tCd81Syvqe0/видео.html before you go out, as it gives some more practical tips about driving anxiety.
same. even thinking of driving the next day make me nauseous
Thank you so much for this video, I’ve been dealing with driving anxiety for years and I found your video very helpful to start overcoming my bad anxiety.
That's wonderful to hear. The next video in the series is published in a few hours, hopefully it will help you get a plan together to overcome your driving anxiety. ruclips.net/video/d-8ZB5jPyMM/видео.html
Good luck!
Generation Calm Thank you! I’ll definitely check it out :)
@Mary Brumfield Same, just got my permit like a month or two ago and I'm so scared.
Take it one step at a time, you can do this! Anxiety is normal, especially when you are first learning how to do something.
@@GenerationCalm Its odd, we are learning about phobias in my Advanced Placement Psychology class and what can trigger them and common causes and what you can do to diminish them or get rid of them altogether and this could be another useful source of information in this endeavor that I'm embarking on.
I think I have the worst case imaginable. Growing up we were always told women are bad drivers. My mom, nanny, and sister don't drive and never would. My dad was an alcoholic and he drove us everywhere. He was never going to teach me how to drive. But i begged and begged. One day while he was drunk he decided he'd give me a lesson. I ended up under our single wide trailer. I took my drivers test 5 times and didn't even make it out of the parking space on one of those tests before I swiped the side of the car next to me. Then i was in a bad wreck with my ex a few years ago. Honestly as soon as I get behind the wheel I feel like I'm suffocating and physically cannot breathe. Judgement from family and friends makes it worse. "You can't even take your kids to a baseball game." "You can't even get a job" "you're using your husband and he needs the help" or "It's not a big deal just do it" which really hurts because I feel alone and nobody understands or has any clue how to react if I start to panic. I'm 31 now and still don't drive. I'm seriously considering therapy, but I'm afraid I'm too far gone.
I'm so sorry to hear this. But it shows how much a driving phobia impacts a persons life. Panic is real and it affects us physically and mentally. I think finding the right therapist would help you a lot, not only for the driving anxiety, but for the underlying issues too. And just so you know, 31 is not too old to learn. I have family members who were way older than that when they passed their driving test. You're here watching a video about it. That is a positive move forward.
Hey Christina hope you are doing well,
Have you ever talked to any professionals about these feelings and issues? It sounds like you've really had a rough time, but therapy is a great start and would really help with the negative thoughts and unhelpful reinforcements you are receiving. Also it's not too late, I'm slightly older than you and the amount of people I've met with similar problems who have said they wish they started at our age is surprisingly numerous. I work with an ex heroin addict who is graduating from her community college at the age of 57, one of my doctors told me it took her until the age of 58 to get her MD-PHD. They both told me it's never too late to start anything, even driving or finding work.
@@FeRReTNS I'm currently looking into therapy. I'm just glad I've finally gotten to the point where i feel like I'm ready to do something about it. I've been avoiding it for years. But really hope it helps. Thanks so much! 😊
Christina I do truly understand everything you have said here hun, I am scared to death to drive and I’m 47 yrs old. Would love to talk to you if you wanted too about this, I am suffering with driving panic and have been for years.
You are definitely not the alone . I’m just like you I’m about to be 30 and still don’t drive let alone have a drivers license. I not only feel ashamed but a burden to my husband. Even though my family and his don’t make me feel bad about my driving phobia I still can’t help but think they think I’m a burden and why I am so scared when everyone else can do it. I feel like an idiot and less of a person to be so scared of something that is a “must to do daily task “ in order to get around and yet everyone around does it like it’s nothing .
I always knew I had driving anxiety. As soon as my body was in the drivers seat I’d shake, cry, think I was gonna crash. It didn’t help that I had no idea how to not almost hit other cars. I know where it started, my moms ex husband would berate me every time he made me drive as a kid, he’d go on until I cried or he yell down at me and I to my ear until I was shrunken down into my seat. It gave me extreme panic and ever since the idea of even getting into a car gave me anxiety. I dropped the idea of driving for 5 years. I’m nearly 20 now and just finally able to try to even start learning to drive.
First I am so sorry that you had to go through that emotionally abusive experience. It is no wonder that it's been 5 years before starting to attempt learning again. But you can do it. Find someone patient as your teacher and go at your own pace. Over in the UK (where I learned to drive) the majority of learner drivers get personal driving lessons with a driving instructor. It's a much better experience because even the nicest parents in the world can be terrible teachers when faced with someone learning to drive. I have a video of driving affirmations that you may find helpful to go through before lessons ruclips.net/video/Fd20cAQKYnE/видео.html
@@GenerationCalm Thank you so much, I'll listen and see if they help for me1 I'm just hoping I can leave my past trauma behind me and learn finally!
Watching this because my wife has severe "vehophobia" but we have been trying to overcome it for the last 2 years.
I'm so glad that you are working on it together. Having a supportive partner makes all the difference.
May God Heal her of it in Jesus name
Any update? Keep going, keep believing
Thanks Clare. You were really spot on, on your tips and they would really be of help once i am behind the steering. I hope to soon get out of the this anxiety as it has greatly affected my work and lifestyle. I used to drive long distance, within and intercity until when some silly thoughts gets into me and i start having thoughts of loosing control of the steering and having a crash. I trust that will be all over as i gradually apply these tips! God bless you!
Great video. I have a mild fear of driving, I'm 18 years old and I don't even have my learner's permit. I do suffer from social anxiety at times and I don't know if this impacts how I feel about driving but to me, driving feels like "too much", as in, it's A LOT all at once. Remembering traffic laws, and other tiny little details you'd forget quite easily, at least in my case. I have driven before but I nearly wrecked and it was enough for me to quit. I REALLY want to overcome this fear, but I have zero motivation, I'm intimidated by the amount of rules to follow, getting pulled over, and unsurprisingly; crashing. I lost a relative thanks to a drunk driver about four summers ago, I also feel left out in several situations, a lot of my peers have their license already and it's dwindling down to me being the only one without a license. Like I said, I don't even have my learner's permit and I could've obtained this two years ago. Any advice would be very helpful!
It is a lot at the beginning. But as with everything, the more you practice the more natural it becomes, and after a while it won't feel like too much to think about. I wonder if you are placing too high expectations on yourself. You don't need to be a perfect driver...just a driver. If I were a gambler, I would bet the majority of people driving do not know ALL the traffic laws. I'm sure a lot of your hesitation comes from the terrible experience your family suffered from the actions of a drunk driver. So, allow yourself some kindness, accept how you're feeling (anxious/cautious) but move forward in a slow, gradual way and don't compare yourself to others. We're all on a different path. Take it one step at a time...and your first step is to apply for your learner's permit. Good luck!
@@GenerationCalm Thank you so much! I appreciate the help, i'm supposed to be taking my learner's permit test on Saturday. Hopefully I pass, the common word I hear about the basic knowledge test is that the majority of my peers all claim that the test is laughably easy and that zero studying is required as it's a "common sense" test. I take this statement with a grain of salt because knowing me and my anxiety, I might actually end up failing. I've also heard from the web as well as Reddit that the test is actually really hard and that studying is a must. I'm reading over my state's driver manual and it's a lot to take in. Any advice on how to process and store and remember so much information? The test is 40 questions where I live and you're allowed 13 mistakes I believe and it's all completed on a computer. Word of mouth says that if you fail, the PC shuts off mid test. But if you pass, it shuts off at the end of the test. Thanks again :)
Listening to other people's stories and advice, either in real life or on the internet will likely increase your anxiety. And if you're anxious, you won't be able to focus your mind on studying. My advice would be to not waste energy on other people's experiences, but to make time for 20 minute study sessions reading up on the driver manual. There are going to be questions you might not expect and that's ok, it happens to everyone. You might find a practice test for your state online. That will be a good way to consolidate any information and to know what to expect. Being relaxed on Saturday is going to be your most important asset. Be kind to yourself, and don't forget to celebrate after the test regardless of whether you have a positive experience or not. Wishing you much luck!
@@GenerationCalm Just took the test today. I passed first try! Thank you so much for all of your help :)
That is fantastic news! I'm so pleased for you. Enjoy this moment.
Driving with an instructor gives me horrible anxiety. The last one he yelled a lot and I went home and balled my eyes out. So many people my age are already driving and have learned so fast and I cry and ask myself everyday why I can’t be like them. I have a lesson in an hour and I’m gonna take a leap and try my best to push through it because laying in bed crying about it doesn’t do anything. I wish things could be different but they aren’t and I hope I learn new things today. It feels like I’m never gonna make it to the point where I get my license but I’m gonna keep pushing. UPDATE: my in car instructor turned out to be really chill and not mean at all. I told him I’ve never driven on the freeway yet or have done maneuver ability yet. We drove on the freeway for 2 hours and it turned out to be really nice and relaxing and not hard at all. Maneuver ability was nice as well. That takes practice which I will need to start doing but overall it was nice! Then I went home and he told me I’m a really good driver considering I haven’t gone on the freeway or do maneuver ability yet. So now I’m sitting at home and I’m really happy that I pushed through it and had the courage to go! I learned a lot and it made me a better driver and a stronger person.
I'm so glad you updated your comment to let us know how the lesson went. The instructor makes a huge difference to your experience. I'm glad you finally found one that suits you. Please try not to compare yourself to your friends who may already be driving because that will do nothing to help you. Concentrate on your driving goals and improving your skills one step at a time. But from what this instructor says you're doing a great job. Well done!
Congratulations to you too. I'm going through myself here.
Thank you very much for this video! I have my driving test next week and I came back here to say that I got it 😃🍀🍀
Fantastic news ... good luck for the test. 🍀🍀🚗
Hello Claire thank you for your explanation. I agree it's the reason, which pushes anyone, to learn or to do a task. I understood that clearly when I quit smoking just when strict lockdown started in India due to COVID-19! I was a smoker for 20 years and was finding a reason to quit. Similarly I am now learning driving after a gap of 20 years! I understood I needed to upgrade my life. So, here the reason is an upgrade! ☺️
Congratulations on quitting smoking after 20 years. That's an amazing achievement. And now driving too. 2020 has helped you turn your life around.
Tired of being afraid getting in a car wreck
Behind most people's fear of driving there is an element of worrying about a crash. So you are certainly not alone. But it seems like you're on the tipping point now of wanting to do something about it and not letting this fear stop you from driving confidently. So think about what your life would look like if you didn't let this fear stop you. What would you do? How would you feel? Where would you go? This will help push you past the tipping point of fear and motivated to do something about it. Keep on watching the vids, be gentle with yourself (everyone has fears - it's OK), and maybe set a goal for the new year about gradually driving more and more. If or when you're ready for more help from me contact me on this form www.generationcalm.com/blog/contact/ and we'll discuss the ways you can work with me. But the video's on this RUclips channel can help you get far too. I wish you much luck.
Thanks for this I’m not alone I find when I go out it’s the volume of traffic or aggressive driving inpatient people it’s true you have to keep going otherwise it gets worse this summer I’m going out every day even if it is a small journey
I fear the uk motorway and large roundabouts but, I want to get over it and I will!!! Thanks for the video. 👍🏾🥰
You're so very welcome. And yes, I agree, you can and will overcome your fear of the motorway and roundabouts. You can absolutely do this. I have a whole series on overcoming driving anxiety which I try to add to regularly ruclips.net/p/PLlhU5CGlNSZzyEPmTqeeOq0pM8b3vP5Bb. I wish you much luck!
Thank God I found your video. I hope I can start driving with confidence soon.❤
Omg i needed this , am English and moved to canada and since moving here i wont drive , i just dont trust myself to not switch to the opposite side of road
I totally understand! But I know you can do it. That first step will be the hardest. If you can find a quiet time on local streets to start with to get over that initial fear and then just keep doing that regularly. You will have to keep reminding yourself at first about which side of the road you should be on whilst driving (I still occasionally get into the passenger side and wonder why the steering wheel isn't there). But eventually it will become second nature. If you have an automatic car there will be less tasks to think about which will make it easier. Keep in mind some goal you might have that will be easier to accomplish when you drive. It will keep your motivation going.
I suffer still and ive been practicing for a year
I'm sorry to hear that. Perhaps it would be easier to break it down into sections. So concentrate on just one goal or skill at a time, like highway driving, driving on country roads or just driving to a particular place. Pick one and then focus all your practice on that skill. I know it can be difficult but I hope you'll stick with it.
Thank you I'm trying to push myself every chance I can.
I am very grateful for your video’s, I’m taking lessons now for almost 2 years because of Corona and it’s worsening my anxiety but your video’s really help me get through it!
Yes, the pandemic is not only making anxiety worse. But it means there have been huge gaps in driving lessons, which means more time to worry and not much practicing. I hope you can get back out there soon. It'll be scary at first, but I have no doubt it will all come back to you.
@@GenerationCalm thank you, I started watching your video’s 2 weeks ago and since then the drivers lessons are getting much better and I only have healthy stress :)
I hope 1 day that i can overcome this irrational fear of driving.
I'm sure you will ... but it will take some work. Just remember to take it one step at a time and go at your own pace.
Did you shoot this video while driving on water?
That's so funny!
Thank you for your video. I have motion sickness from a young age. But I have driven about seven years, and I just went to my workplace or familiar place nearby. I just moved another country, and the phobia comes. I just can drive for my husband’s company nearby, and can’t drive in the highway. I’m scared of speed and lost.
You're very welcome. Sometimes a phobia such as driving anxiety can come on when we have a lot of stress in our lives. Moving to a new country can be a stressful time, even if it's a positive experience. If you can drive to your husband's workplace then that's a good start. Gain confidence by driving a tiny bit further afield, little by little.
Generation Calm Thank you so much. You just tell the truth that there are a lot of stress in my life now. I will follow your instructions. Thanks！
❤️ this channel, reduce my anxiety. Thanks for your support 😘
You are so welcome ✨
I’m over 30 and have been putting off getting my licence for years because I am just too scared.
It's never too late to learn to drive. It's OK to do it scared, for most people the first few lessons are terrifying. After a while it will all of a sudden become much easier. But the first hurdle is getting brave enough to try. I'm sure there are parts of your life that would be a lot easier if you could drive. There is a fantastic exercise called fear setting by Tim Ferriss (it's explained here medium.com/@checkli/fear-setting-free-checklist-download-template-tim-ferriss-dd9773a270d1) which may be useful in getting you to the point where inaction is worse than the act of driving.
I see by the number of views that I’m not the only one! I have been ill and also had severe trauma recently. The Lyme infections (Babesia) got into my red blood cells and crossed the blood brain barrier, made me dizzy and shaky, and now I’m afraid of getting lost. I never had this before! But, things seem to look different in places I’ve been to before. I’ve never had this before! I’m practicing with baby steps, but don’t want to go far. I hope this goes away!
Yes! I just commented on an AFRID (eating disorder) video about how tick and mold-related diseases can cause sudden neurological, anxiety, or OCD-type symptoms.
And unfortunately even once diagnosed and treated... the behavioral tendencies and fears can persist. I always lean into technology and science: navigation devices and body/yoga-centered practices like in the book: "The Body Keeps Score." 💜
Hi I've been driving for almost 19 years I was no involved in car accidents. Been always a great driver . I started having anxiety and panic attacks after giving birth to my 3rd child. I CAN'T DRIVI ON THE FREEWAYS ANYMORE 😭😭😭😭 but regular roads are fine
Sometimes anxiety seems to come from nowhere, but it can generally be traced back to a stressful event going on for you at the time. Then it snowballs because you don't want to get another panic attack. I'm glad to hear you can drive on regular roads. With time I'm sure you'll be able to drive on freeways again, just be gentle with yourself.
Same here, I seriously thought I was alone in this fear. I've been driving since age 18 and now in my mid 50's I have never had a ticket or an accident. My fear is now getting so bad that I'm afraid I will eventually stop driving all together alone or in the passenger seat.
@@ririmr4978 Being aware of your fear is half the battle. And you're definitely not alone. If you can find a way to bring down your anxiety (whatever relaxation works best for you) and practice as much as possible you will find the fear gets less and less. It's a long game, no short-cuts unfortunately. But I find that having an ultimate goal in mind keeps your motivation high. Your ultimate goal might be something like meeting with friends in a city you have to drive to in a year's time. Keep going and good luck!
i’m learning to drive right now and i freak out at the wheel and lose focus of what i’m doing
You're right at the beginning of your journey with driving a car. It's a skill that will take some time to fully get, and that's OK. It will all come together. Be patient with yourself - you'll find that as you continue you'll gain more confidence which will stop you from freaking out. Find someone calming who can keep you on track while you're learning. Good luck!
not only do I fear driving, I also hate being a passenger 😒
as a guy of 20 years old i have never derived a car the worst thing about my anxiety with it its that its this domain where mistakes often costs permanent injuries and in the worst cases life not just yours but also of others
I had anxiety driving when I first started!
Chauntel Delgado how did you get over it
Yes, everything is so scary when we first start. Driving is no different. I'm glad you pushed through the anxiety.
That is such a great question! I really had to think about that. I think I just rationalized in my head that if I took it slow I could do it. I continued practicing until I gained some confidence. Then, I think at some point I just decided to go for it! Thank you for helping people push through their challenges so that they can reach their fullest potential. Keep creating meaningful content! Blessings your way Jewel :)
Generation Calm thank you so very much!
Chauntel Delgado thanks for your reply
I never had driving anxiety until recently. Last August I was driving a 5 hour trip that I've made dozens of times over the last 20 years. About midway through, I started zoning out and having an outer body experience. My heart started beating fast, I started feeling hot, and had a fullness in my chest like I had to keep belching. Ever since then, I get anxiety driving an hour or more. I get in my head and start zoning out and it is scary. Even more recently, I am beginning to get anxiety just driving around my city. I've just became an overthinker when it comes to driving and it sucks. I just wanna be how I used to be where I would drive and not think about anything. That first panic attack I had last year while driving has clearly done a number on me mentally.
So sorry to hear about this. Driving anxiety can often start suddenly, but you can sometimes trace it back to a time when you were stressed. So I wonder if you were going through a particularly stressful time last August. These can be changes that don't seem stressful but make us more susceptible to panic attacks and developing a phobia. On a positive not, you've driven well for 20 something years, it won't take too much to get back to that.
@@GenerationCalm You are likely right about me likely being stressed the morning the panic/anxiety happened while I was driving. I was already dreading the trip because I was visiting two relatives that were in the hospital at the time. They both have since passed. My grandmother also died unexpectedly back in October so maybe that made it even worse. Thanks for the encouraging words. I'm going to keep on trying to defeat this and get back to my old self where I drove worry free.
This is how I feel
Hi am a new driver, I had my license in October ,I just bought my new car and unfortunately I had i mini crash the next day at the parking lot but there was no damage.I got so scared sitting behind the wheel again ,but my husband helped me face my fears by making me drive under his supervision ..it’s been two weeks now and I want to drive alone but the am still scared..I just want to gather courage and start again,your help would be appreciated.
How wonderful that your husband is helping you face your fears. You could perhaps drive under your husband's supervision for 15 minutes around your neighborhood ... drop him off at home ... then continue on your own for 15 minutes. That way, you don't have to gather the courage because you're already in the car. It might help you get over that initial fear of driving on your own again. Don't force yourself to drive alone though, it will all happen when you are ready! Wishing you much luck!
Hi mam i have anxiety of stalling car. After seeing experienced and other stalling car having many years of experience. How to overcome
I have trouble finding the same spot on the brake pedal, and that creates anxiety😢 1:52
Ugh I can’t figure out how to get over this fear- the moment I sit in drivers seat my heart starts going crazy and my hands clamp onto the steering wheel and can’t seem to make myself go above 30. It also doesn’t help that when I make a few mistakes my sister starts screaming and freaking out- just makes it all worse
Your body and mind is connected. So if you're worried about driving it can show up in your body as muscle tension and heart pounding etc. And if your body is tense (like holding onto that steering wheel for dear life) it can communicate to your brain that you're in immediate danger. This will then get ramped up when your sister starts freaking out because it's all information to your brain that something terrible is about to happen. So you can start by calming down your brain with a few slow breaths before getting into the car, let out a deep sigh (it tells your brain you are relaxed and in control), playing some tunes that you like, keeping a good, relaxed posture in the car and finding a calm driving companion (or none at all if you can drive by yourself). Hopefully this will calm you enough to practice more and the more you get out there the easier it will become.
Generation Calm thank you so much- I’ll try to use these
I have driving anxiety I feel like o cant control myself or I'll get into an accident my family tells me to just practice driving and I'll get over it but I dont feel comfortable being in the drivers seat I get panic attacks
Your family are right to some degree, practice will help, but only if you are ready. There's normally a tipping point when the problems of not being able to drive outweigh the fear of driving. At that point, you'll find the motivation to push past the fear (maybe there will be an unmissable job opportunity that requires you drive to work). The fears you have about being out of control or getting into an accident are the most common ones that stop a person driving. For now, two things, start thinking about what life might be like if you could drive confidently. And also, work on finding relaxation techniques that work for you such as breathing or meditation. When you are ready I have a whole playlist of video's about driving anxiety ruclips.net/p/PLlhU5CGlNSZzyEPmTqeeOq0pM8b3vP5Bb which should help.
I hope and pray I will drive . I won’t have my father and brother pushing my buttons . I grew up with a lot of fear
Being able to learn new skills in a forgiving environment is important. Mistakes and nervousness are part of the process of learning any new skill and that’s hard when there are others who’ll criticize. I hope you’ll find a way to drive without your family pushing your buttons!
I’m 37 & have never had a car because of anxiety
I can't drive. It doesn t get any better driving. I can't go on holiday or work or do many things but It never gets any better...i still have a car but I can't use it and I m considering to sell it because I can't use it unless I go for only few km away in places where I know. At this point I prefer not spending money for a car that is stopped all the time.
I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you won't give up.
I know a trigger for me is when the road is more narrow than usual, also I notice so many people zoom out in front and I just think "if I was driving I would've got into a wreck because there is no way I'd be able to react to that"
It's good that you are noticing your thoughts. That's always a good place to begin. Start keeping a track of some of your thoughts about driving and in general too. Notice if there is a pattern, notice if your thoughts about driving are much more negative than others areas of your life, notice if your thoughts are sounding like those words your family say about you.
I'm 35 and still don't drive my husband has been pushing me to learn but I'm so scared too
Take your time, do it when you're ready and get a motivating goal for yourself first. A particular place you want to be able to drive to, it will help keep you focused
I'm retired and still young in my husband drives us everywhere. I have to start driving again because I'm not with my husband but you came up with some doozies about what to be afraid of.
I haven't driven for 10 years but I'm not that afraid that I would have to make a U-turn to see if there was a body LOL
You made me laugh! At least you know you're not starting from zero. I forget sometimes that what I've seen in my clinical work does not reflect the whole population. But that aside, you'll be able to do this, it's just a question of confidence, and that will come with regular practice. Good luck!
Crying watching this. I've had a license for years and haven't driven a car for at least 5 years
I'm sorry to hear that ... presumably because driving anxiety is something that's been holding you back! But those tears mean you're getting to the tipping point of wanting to do something about it. When you're ready you'll be able to work on this in your own time. Let the tears motivate you!
I’m scared that I will hit someone , my heart start palpation very fast when I’m in car . That’s y I don’t drive at all
So sorry to hear that. It's no wonder you're too scared to drive, if that is your thought process. Whether you already have a drivers licence or not, start by thinking about how your life might improve if you started driving. No pressure ...just start by thinking of the opportunities or ease it might bring into your life. At this stage, it's about changing your mindset a little. Starting to bring in some hope that things could or might be different.
Thankyou for reply , I really appreciate mam , and your precious time , I will take your suggestion , you are absolutely wright I have to change my mindset and be positive all the time . 🙏🏻
As humans, we naturally look for the negative ... so don't expect to be positive all the time ... it would be an impossible task to set yourself. But if you add some gratitude to your day, by listing 3-5 things you are grateful for everyday, it will help you start to see the positive side of things. Here's a video you might find helpful if you want to start a gratitude journal ruclips.net/video/y9CR_JuHOWA/видео.html.
I used to drink and drive, on suspended license, I was fearless. After my first DUI my fear begin I see red and blue lights and think police are at every corner ready to pull me over. Not to mention I don't trust cars I feel they are going to leave me stranded. Smoking a cigarette helps calm my nerves but it's not enough. I bike ride to this day very rarely drive.
I do hope you no longer drink and drive. Getting help for drinking is a priority not just for the safety of yourself and others but for your long-term health and wellness. I think you really need to look deeper at why you are engaging in unhealthy behaviors such as smoking to reduce stress. There are so many other ways to rest and relax that are cheaper and better for you. Bike riding is a great alternative. But it sounds as if you are only doing that to avoid the fear of driving. You can turn this around for yourself. But only you can make that decision.
Very helpful plz can u make video about parking without stress
Good idea, will try
i think its the most logical thing to avoid accidents
There's a difference between defensive driving and driving anxiety though. Being anxious about driving stops a person from driving on certain roads, and if they avoid, of course they'll never have an accident because they never take a risk. Defensive driving, however, is a sensible approach to avoiding an accident by keeping your wits about you while driving. But definitely not by keeping off the roads altogether.
@@GenerationCalm Thanks for teying i still think driving is exposing oneself to harm, yes we all think am careful but what about the other guy
I recently passed my written test on the first attempt, of course after many permit expirations and written test attempts I finally passed it on the first try ever. I now have my first driving lesson on September 1st, I'm actually committing myself now after 20 wasted years and I'm very nervous and anxious. Thank you for this.
Congratulations on passing the written test. Now you can move on to the practical lessons too! I'm so pleased you're getting out there and moving forward on this goal. Excited to see where you go with this! Good luck!
@@GenerationCalm I just had my first lesson today, I even got to drive home on one of the busiest big streets and it wasn't that scary! The instructor was great and very understanding! Thank you and thank you for this channel.
Can certain passengers make you freak out.
Oh definitely, if a passenger is critical or has a nervous temperate it can certainly be more difficult to drive with them in the car.
My sister and I recently bought our own car from a friend as we both have our licences. We've been practicing - she more than me because I am so scared. Any time I am told that I will be driving that day or evening I immediately tense up and feel sick (nausea, rapid heartbeat and just overall feel unwell and stressed). Once I'm in the car and I start it and move I feel a forced calmness but it is very very fragile and oftentimes I get moments of pure panic while on the road, especially when on intersections, turning left on an intersection, passing any intersection even when the green light is on, waiting on a red light on an intersection or (and especially) when I don't know the way and the instructions given to me are vague and confusing (I haven't driven much so even if I technically KNOW the way, it's never been ON the road, it's always on a bus or on the sidewalk which is totally different). What should I do? I'm trying not to panic as I have to drive to pick up my sister from somewhere in an hour.
I also have a huge fear of the car suddenly stopping or the brakes failing... Our car is old and used but the mechanic inspected it and he said it was fine despite its model. But I am not reassured...
I can’t even put the handbrake down I feel like the car is just gonna shoot off . I also mad it easier for myself by getting automatic and i still can’t do it lol my car been sitting in my car park for a few days now
I passed in a manual though in 2019 lol . 2021 got my first car and I’m absolutely terrified , as soon as I get in the car my heart is beating out my chest
Hey, you can do this. Take your time ... you don't have to drive for a long time at first. Why not start a little tracking chart. Figure a place you could drive to that's an easy circuit from where your car is parked, and everyday drive that route ...no matter what! And cross off that daily chart each time you drive it. When I first started driving I did this very quick 1/2 mile route and kept going round and round until I felt more confident to go further afield. You got this!! Yes, your heart will be pounding at first, but the more times you drive the easier it will get.
@@GenerationCalm thank you for responding & I will definitely give it a try (:
The most triggering for me is knowing that even if I was a good driver I don’t know anyone around me in other cars wether they’re drunk angry or even sleepy therefore they’re attention to the road is not the same as mine also I fear dying in a car accident 😢
I know, it's difficult. We can only be in control of our car and not of the driving habits of those around us.
What if you have driving instructor anxiety?
I'm very scared of driving in tight spaces, I already scratched the car in the garage. Whenever I see it so close to the wall, I feel like I can't breathe. I feel comfortable in the car because it's big, but I hate tight spaces.
Afraid I won’t find the brake pedal I don’t think him consistent 4:58
Im 25 years old and im having driving license exam in 10-15 days. I always fear of the thought of driving. When i was young my dad really really loved speed, he drived at 150. I just couldn’t seat in the car and took the bus/subway. Now actually im doing fine with my teacher my side, feeling safe, knowing that he will be take control of everything if i mess up. But without him i do not trust myself. Im afraid of harm to someone. Im a doctor and seeing all that car accidents victims in er... I assume it makes me more uncomfortable with driving. Im fricking 25 yo and a doctor and cant drive.
It sounds like your driving lessons with your teacher by your side have been a success. But you're starting to think into the future about what it will be like to drive alone. How about taking it one day at a time. It will take the pressure off you if you stay focused on the present moment. So focus on the exam only - and even then - it doesn't matter if you pass first time or not. I'm sure your dad's speeding and your experiences in ER have combined to make you fearful of the consequences of driving. But please be gentle with yourself. Everyone experiences fear, it's just that the fear of driving can really interfere with life and other people can make a big deal out of it. Driving with confidence is a skill and I have no doubt that you can learn to do it because you have learned a lot of skills in the past to become a doctor. So this week, don't get ahead of yourself. If you find yourself thinking too much about what could happen in the future, bring yourself back to the present moment. I wish you tons of luck with your exam next week.
Generation Calm i passed my exam, i will have my driving license finally. Still i have insecurities but im trying to overcome, trying to not think too much about bad things that can happen in the future. Thanks for your advices!
@@fatimabetulcaliskan I'm so happy to hear you passed. Congratulations! It's going to take a little while to feel confident behind the wheel. But it will be a whole lot quicker if you practice as much as possible. Not just getting from point A to B, but for nice drives ...like day trips or to visit friends.
The day after I got my license I got into an accident that was my fault, my car was totalled. I wasn't ready to drive alone..but my parents jist kinda throw me out of the nest when it comes to a new skill. They didn't even follow me when I drove home from work to make sure I was okay. Then on my second outing I wreck. I'm scared of driving but my mom is gonna help me get a car. I want one but my dad does believe in me and thinks that the car will just sit there. I've heard the things my family says about me and none of them believe in me.. Except my mom but even her patience is whethering btw Im 20.
I'm sorry to hear about the accident and I hope there were no injuries. Whenever I've spoken to car insurers they say from their experiences that when someone gets into an accident early on they tend to be better drivers in the long-run. So, don't let one mistake haunt you. Like anything in life, you have to practice to get better.
I hate to be like that,i have been in America 20 years and i got my 4th permit.I want to drive but that fear stops me.If i can drive myself to work at least 1 time rest going to come ☹ i even took lesson still didnt help .The instructor made me more anxious
Getting the right instructor is key to success. Ask around for a good one. Because your personalities have to click especially if you are anxious. Please don't let one bad experience with an instructor stop you from trying again. Start to think about how life could be more enjoyable or easier if you could drive, then start to make a plan to reach your goal. Anxiety will lessen once you make a plan and start acting on it. Good luck!
@@GenerationCalm thanks i will try again
Would love to have watched this but it kept buffering every 5 to 6 seconds for a long time. Don't have this problem with other videos so I'm moving on.
Sorry there was a problem with the video. Hope you found what you were looking for
I sit at home thinking i'm a crap driver I can never do anything right. I have done a few weird things but. I guess its normal.
I'm sorry to hear you feel that way! Those pesky negative thoughts are stopping you from driving with confidence (and everyone gets negative thoughts btw ... just not always about driving). So what will get you out there driving with confidence? Start by driving a little at a time, bit by bit you will find yourself getting used to driving and gradually start to feel more confident. Sitting at home won't help, but driving (even driving scared) will help. Notice your thoughts though. Write them down if you have to. They have such enormous power over your mood. You don't need to make big changes to your thought patterns but entertain the idea that there is room for improvement. Instead of 'I am a crap driver' try 'I am learning to drive more confidently one road at a time'. And be gentle with yourself, we all make mistakes, that's the process of learning anything. And try this video next it might help ruclips.net/video/PprXGuFn2fk/видео.html
@@GenerationCalm thank you I will try out your advised video.
Hi I want to tell you that no one understands if they don't have driving anxiety,
I agree! I think every phobia can seem irrational to someone that doesn't share the same fear. But driving anxiety is especially debilitating because it can limit what you do in life. So many people try to hide their fear of driving because others don't understand it.
Hi it's when you're out of comfort zone aswell , long trips certain roads, open spaces like where no houses are around for miles it's scary.
Avoidance cause anxiety, also if u bad memory of something you can cause anxiety
@@ogueyratogeyrat7448 Absolutely, avoidance strengthens the connection of driving with the feelings of anxiety. A bad memory of driving can do the same thing. The practice of driving more often will weaken that link.
I’m 46 years old. I never drove a car. The only way I can move to another state if I learn to drive. The fear of learning to drive is ruining my pontential of living a better life.
It's never too late to learn!! Think about the better life you'll create if you drive. That will keep your motivation high.
If I had to move to America. I would be petrified too. But nothing to do with driving.
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Can you help me
No-one is beyond help. Step 1 is making the observation that you need help with driving anxiety and having the courage to go forward. Start by keeping track of your thoughts and beliefs about driving. You can do this!
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I sent your email idk if you got it
Thank you so much. Yes, I can confirm I received your email so I'll be able to get back to you after the holidays. Wishing you a Happy New Year!
Your right can’t let fear take over my life
Easier said than done ... but the New Year is a good opportunity for setting new intentions for the way you want to live your life. Fear is normal and can be helpful, but sometimes it gets in the way.
Idk why I have this kind of fear feel like a coward
@@jennifererby8320 I hope you received my email as I sent it yesterday. But in answer to your question driving anxiety can randomly start if you’re going through a stressful time, or if you fear people judging your driving ability, or after a specific driving incident (like if you were tailed by an aggressive driver). The ‘why it started ‘doesn’t matter as much as you think it might. What matters is going forward with a plan to reduce anxiety. Have a read of this www.generationcalm.com/blog/why-do-you-have-driving-anxiety then start to list out the different driving scenarios that bother you and rate them from 1 no anxiety to 10 tons of anxiety.
What is driving anxiety? uh duh!
I know it seems like a simple question with a simple answer. But someone with a driving anxiety (or any other phobia) often needs to know that what they experience is an actual 'thing' with a real name, and that they're not alone.
I do have it