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I hope you feel better soon. I'm planning on checking out your patreon too in the next few months - been wanting to sooner, just haven't had a credit card in years or Paypal. I'm starting to invest in starting my own digital freelance business and slowly but surely getting stuff like Paypal and better tech (I've been watching your videos through an old put together computer and still have a flip phone at the moment). Your channel has been very inspirational for me. Thanks again - take care
Vera about the wallet example. When my son was about 10 years old he found 200 dollars in the laundry mat while I was doing laundry. He wanted to keep it. I said no because that could be someone rent money and they may come back looking for it. So I turned it into the laundry mat owners. My son said to me mom how do you know they won't keep it. I said I don't but that's on their conscious not mine. I thought that was the right thing to do.❤
I've discovered your channel recently, and although I don't practice minimalism specifically, I find your videos and your perspectives about life in general so soothing, so down to earth, and so encouraging at the same time, that I find hope while listening to you. Thank you so much for the content you share with your audience. Thank you for your calm voice, for your simple aesthetic (and notice that when I say simple, I mean it as a compliment in this modern world of over-simulating images and loud noises and in-your-face product placements, etc.). Thank you for sharing with us the knowledge about life that have taken you years to learn by trial and error. I wish you a speed recovery and much success in your future.
@@beautyintakes Took the words right out of my mouth, haha! 😂 On the positive side, those of us who did experience that toxicity can develop better forethought and intuition to interpret our actions and reactions so that we maintain a sense of calmness in all sorts of situations. We become more analytical and aware. We might be more sensitive as it is in our nature due to past experiences in life, but with proper love and care, we can shirk aside the societal expectations and implications placed on us and give ourselves the grace we need to move forward into a brighter, healthier future. ❤
Good basic advice. I’m 75 and had to learn these lessons myself along the way more than once. We tend to forget to take our own life advice at times along the road, but age makes one’s priorities clearer and clearer. No time to waste fretting over people and things that don’t serve us well.
'I you're feeling bad and it's night time - just go to sleep!' I can confirm that this works wonders. Super loved this Video! ❤ Best wishes for a speedy recovery!
Thanks Monika!! Happy to hear you also find that to be true. As one of my patrons said in the comments of that video: "The morning is wiser than the evening". Very true! 😁💕
Regarding your example of returning the wallet. I have a simple logic. Would I be happy and thankful if someone returned my lost wallet? Then of course I know what the right thing to do is. We need to help create a nice world for ourselves and our children. Thank you for sharing your thoughts 🙏🏼
I love your insight and transparency. I’m almost twice your age and everything you say resonates deeply with me. Maybe it’s an HSP/introvert thing? What a beautiful life you have ahead of you putting your words into practice. Love to you Vera 💖
I know my uni friends and I don't have much in common beyond student life. It makes me sad, and I often find myself feeling that these friendships are somehow 'fake' even though I love hanging out with these people. This video got me thinking that maybe what matters is not that we stay friends forever. Maybe what matters is that we give each other good memories. I'm going to try and make the most of the time we have left.
What a great video Vera. I actually found someone’s wallet who was in Chatham on vacation. He had set it on top of his car and driven off. I found a business card that showed he worked at a newspaper in San Diego CA so I called them and said someone must know where he is and left my phone number. He couldn’t believe I tracked him down and said no one would do this where he lives but long story short I wouldn’t be able to look myself in the mirror if I had taken his money. ❤
#2 - Yes, I understand your "work friend" articulation. I learned this after my first long-term job and letting that go was freeing. Life is a journey. Some people will come in and go out and that's okay. Our capacity for close friends is less than our eyes realize.
When I was young I felt guilty that I liked some friends more than others and tried really hard to improve the relationships that didn't click as well. Then I realised it's because we are all different and we will resonate more with some people than others.
So many nuggets of wisdom here! I so agree with listening to our gut. Isn't it amazing how many times there's no logical reason why something should be wrong, but our gut tells us something is wrong, and it ends up that they're actually IS something wrong with the situation? It would do us all well to listen to our intuition more often.
That was a bunch of great advice! I for one constantly underestimate how important sleep is, trying to work on that, and it's nice to see it reinforced that it is indeed important
I found out your videos today and I have watched 3 in a row (HSP, Burn Out and this one). I feel really really represented by everything you tell about your personality (and previous traits), and I feel like I have a lot to lean from you 🥹 thanks so much for your channel! Also your voice is very soothing. I have me/chronic fatigue syndrome that is like a massive burn out 😓 I got it after covid. It's been 2 years now, and I am slowly getting better, but still a long way to go. Your advice is very very helpful for my reality 🫶🏽
Thanks so much for leaving a comment and welcome to the channel!! Hope you'll continue to slowly feel better. Just take things one step at a time and take it easy when you need to. 🌸💕
Your channel, I'm sure, helps many people. In addition to clearly communicating valuable life advice and personal anecdotes, you are warm, genuine and personable. Your channel stands out and I wish you ever-growing success.
The hard truth is: very often unfortunately it's one of family member's - mother, father, sibling/s, grandparents, relatives and even close friends/ besties...want something from you- which is not good for you, it bothers you, steal your time and energy and if you ask yourself in your heart- you truly don't want to do it! It was one of the hardest lessons ever... for me. And of course- don't do it! For yourself- you're the most important person in your life! Protect your inner light 💖💖💖
Heart ❤ of Kentucky. Hi VERA in the NETHERLANDS. I so appreciate this message. I need to trust my gut feeling. I've just prayed for you and your love ones. ❤ GOD BLESS 🙏 YOU VERA. You are SUPER TERRIFIC! Katie.
Thanks Vera! #7 spoke to me the most. I feel so tired right now and lack energy yet often times I do not go to sleep when I should. The change of season always has affected me. Even when I was younger. However it is getting more difficult now that I am older ( in my 50’s) to get motivated and stay positive when it is dark outside. God bless you!
I love the morning times too. I get up around 3:30 or 4 each day, so I love that my Evening “wind down” time starts at 5:30-6ish. I light my candle which helps get me sleepy too. 8pm is about that “just go to bed” time 😊
I like authentic people and its hard to say what authentic means but for me Vera is a truly authentic young person. Her values are my values and I wish society promoted these values more because we would all be the happier for it. I wish more men especially would quit being angry and ignorant and stupid and learn that being gentle and selfless is not a weakness but a strength. Money is like manure. Best spread around to do the most good and I am a firm believer in supporting charities that do good. That is why a shroud has no pockets although I do recall a story about a man in Nigeria who was buried in his Mercedes. Tomorrow I intend to leave the house early, buy a bottle of cheap red wine and enjoy my day just doing something or nothing at home and not worrying about the state of the world and all those "problems" that we know exist and see where we live and on our TV screens. I think sensitive, quiet people feel the weight of life crushing at times so self care is good and necessary. I sometimes think humanity is losing its soul but then a Simple,Happy,Zen video pops up and my faith in goodness and kindness is restored thanks to this little lady.
When I first listened to this on Patreon, I was struggling. I know that my struggles, whether with the way I think, feel or judge, don't have to define me or influence the way I act. The thing is, hindsight always seems to give me a better picture. I feel like time helps as well when it comes to learning from any faults, mistakes or misgivings. But to me personally, allowing my faith in God to be at the center of my life gives me more relief than what I could ever do for myself. I could spend all night questioning things because of me not being able to regulate my thoughts and feelings (and this has happened to me plenty of times), and even with Him in the picture, it still isn't easy sometimes. Focusing on faith rather than fear may still require work on my end, but just knowing that He's still there in the midst of it all gives me hope ❤
Thank you so much for this video. You are wise beyond your years. As it is not in my budget, no spend year, I can't join you on Patreon, but I so appreciate your wisdom. Recently I found myself feeling discouraged about something important in my life. I shared with someone that I was feeling discouraged and immediately they tried to offer unsolicited advise, like I'm not allowed to ever feel a moment of discouragement. How unrealistic, I'm so glad that I have learned to allow myself my feelings and that I no longer buy into the need to always be bubbly and up. Sometimes life is discouraging, but this too shall pass, and that leaves me with a sense of hope. Thank you, again, you are awesome!♥
Dear Vera. Just want to say your intuition did a great thing this morning in telling you go ahead and make the video even though you feel sleepy. Every single word you said was something I needed to hear due to very recent experiences. Maybe it was your intuition plus your guardian angel, who knows. But it was just wonderful. Many thanks.
I could so resonate with the money point, always integrity above money and money is definitely an important part of our life but not everything...i will definitely remember money in the head, not in the heart✨
Stress is when you don't feel you have the resources to cope with the current/future circumstances. My inner resources change throughout the day. Something that I can cope with easily when I have energy, can feel overwhelming at the end of the day.
These were so helpful and relate to me. I had a friend at work who I saw as a friend at work. After I left the company we were going to catch up but I was tired of her complaining. As I've got older, the challenge is wanting to keep going even though I feel achey. Thanks so much, Vera, for this encouraging video in a relaxing environment ❤
One additional piece of constructive advice. I’ve been a subscriber for years and really enjoy your calm insightful videos. I am now down to yours and Joshua Becker’s channels because of the way the info is presented. I enjoy listening without the use of profanity so common in the world today. I’ve unsubscribed from many others because of this. I was a bit taken aback when I listened to your video today. After the 3rd time you dropped the word I ended the video. Please continue in your previous manner and drop the profanity. ❤ In today’s world, trying to keep the crazy harshness out and the peace in has become a struggle, but one I’d like to keep. Thank you!!!
Hi Vera hope you are feeling well 🙏 thanks for sharing your wise words & advice that is so relatable. Enjoy your visit with your family. Still praying for peace in my part of the world 🙏🇮🇱💔🙏
Such a valuable lessons of advice for lots of people who still don't realized it. I do appreciate you so much for sharing them with us. Highly respect for your authentic self and honest sharing. 😊
Hi Vera, I told you once before, your wisdom precedes your age and you are really young for your years, I remember myself at your age, everything was possible and it was, then I started a family, and a year later I had my daughter. I resonate with everything you say and think, I can't do something I MUST. I learned that in life everything is a choice, not an imposition. I hug you Vera!❣
What a great video with so many important insights for anyone at any age. Having to look yourself in the mirror. It is so satisfying to live by your values, sometimes quietly but often in a way that may be exclusive, too. Still, we are all we have and by being true to ourselves it seems like everything else falls in place as it should. Then we realize we are meant to be who we are and it’s ok.
Hi! I've enjoyed your videos and your thoughtful advice so much even at my advanced age. So, thank you! My mom used to turn on the lamps in the living room in the late afternoon so that as the evening progressed there was always light in the room. This is a habit I carried with me and feel that it helps to ward off that end of the day slump. Maybe you would like to give it a try.
Thanks for this. Lots of really good tips. I particularly like the one about money, which I put up on my fridge. It seems to me, that it's about ruling over your money wisely, rather than allowing money to rule us.
Hey Vera! Great video and what resonated with me was the need to take care of your body as you grow older. I have recently gained lots of weight during the last five years and have promised myself to start going to the gym next month. I am very excited about it and God willing, will enjoy the process and not stress too much about the results. Thanks for the other tips and get well soon!☺
I've been following you for awhile and absolutely love your content and enjoy the spirit of your mission. I relate to the majority of your personal comments and your content is spot on for issues that concern me. Thanks for your work and your beautiful online presence. 😊🎉
You must know when to compromise and when to not because there is this one person in the mirror, who will look into your eyes in your whole life ahead. Loved that one🍁.
Thank you very much for your videos🥰 I follow you since 2018 and I think you're great, so genuine and such a good inspiration, I always feel so identified, so thanks a lot for all the valuable content 🥰 greetings from Uruguay 🇺🇾😘
I learned the value of true (work) friends when I left my long term job. I had a great boss and fabulous coworkers and the 6 of us still get together as if no time has passed (1 of the 6 is my sister so I see her all the time haha). Then 2 years ago I started a term position in a small town where there wasn't many opportunities and I had a boss who was a bit of a bully. I couldn't speak my mind to this person (which I normally have no problem doing) because there were no other jobs during the pandemic. It was tough and even though at that time I had to keep silent part of me regrets not being true to myself. I've been able to let a lot of those feelings go but it was a valuable lesson for me.
This wisdom really brightened my day! Thank you. I only very recently learned that if my mood turned dark in the evening, going to bed was the happiest choice I could make. I also often wake up with dark thoughts, even though I'm an early riser and a mostly cheerful person. I've learned that I'm not one of those people who can happily grind out a 5:00 am routine with exercise, journalling, meditation, meal prep for the day or anything else. I think you talked about this once too. After about 40 - 45 minutes of quiet relaxing reading (or even inspiring RUclips watching) I'm ready to do all the things. (Fortunately, I get up early enough to still have time for them.) Feel better soon. xo karen
Thanks! Wise advice and much needed reminders. Trusting your gut can be the most important. I learned that the hard way and still have regrets because I didn't believe in myself enough. It was even a problem not that long ago (needed to learn this lesson more than once) when I let the "experts" guide me when it came to my health, instead of trusting my own gut that disagreed with them. I was believing them that it was just anxiety related (I'm HSP too), when I knew deep down that there was something physical. I now know that my problems (chronic fatigue etc.) were caused by a long lasting perimenopause (started at 36 and I'm now reaching menopause and almost 50) and central sleep apnea. Just the relief of knowing finally what's going on with my body has reduced the severity of some of my symptoms and has given me the strength to adapt and move forward with my life in a more positive direction. I agree that sleep is super important too - night owl here - I sleep until late in the AM or the very least ease gently into the day. I hope you get your much needed rest too. take care
Wise words. I am 65 now and I am so dismayed at the focus on verbage instead of action. I am afraid that our language is monitored by corporations and specific groups to the point that without realizing it, we are being brainwashed in how to speak and think. It astounds me. Great advice on all of these issues.
Hi Vera, goodmorning from Melbourne, Australia 👋 I just watched for your video with a hot cup of green tea. Your videos have such value & are so refreshing & different. They are simple, straight to the point & you present in such a soothing way. Thanks for your time & sharing.
Thank you for this video! Felt very honest and real. Really touched on a few things in my life that I've been grappling with. I'm actually going to re-watch it so I can remember my brief epiphanies :-)
I love your advice that it's okay to share how hard you are trying. It IS so weird! Haha! I am just starting a RUclips channel about motherhood and homemaking from the perspective of a Christian doula. With friends, family, and even with my husband I feel a bit silly telling him how much time I've invested working on it. I genuinely want to go all in, but I do feel so silly about it! And you are completely right. There is nothing wrong with sharing with others how hard we are working.
No worries, it feels a little weird in the beginning but this'll start to feel more 'normal' after you're doing it a while. Definitely don't feel silly about going all in, falling on your ass, learning from your mistakes and growing from them :)
Your warmth and genuineness is always so soothing, uplifting and inspiring, Vera! Thank you for this lovely video and all your wonderful videos, which I watch often for this very reason! 🥰🙏🏼🫂
Dear Vera, This was very insightful advice; you were certainly inspired when you wrote your pieces of advice, thank you. Several of them spoke very directly to me. I hope you sleep very well tonight! Cx
The part where you mentioned fear of faliure, is not weird at all. Of course it's a discouraging and embarrassing feeling for us personally, but I don't think we realize how many people around us actually feel this way and also downplay or use different copyng mechanisms. ❤
On the subject of seeing yourself in the mirror, I smile at myself in the mirror every morning and if I feel I’ve done something well and I’m near a mirror I give myself a thumbs up which makes me feel good. I got this tip after reading The high 5 Habit by Mel Robins. Being English I’m not used to doing a High Five so thumbs up works for me instead.
I hate to admit it, but I'm a pessimist most of the time. Мore and more often I have negative thoughts and I feel that I am not feeling well, but unhappy. But I didn't choose to feel this way. I've had arguments with a significant other about this many times, he doesn't seem to understand that it's hard to control. It hurts me that instead of trying to understand, he debates with me and accuses me of being like this, as if I do it on purpose. But I definitely want to change that because I've felt this way for years, which is partly why I'm seeking professional help. I have a feeling that very few people would understand this unpleasant feeling. Only the people who have experienced it.
Me encantó este vídeo, al igual que todos los que subes. Me pareces una persona muy cercana y auténtica y siempre que veo un vídeo tuyo me guardo muchos de tus consejos para aplicarlos en mi vida. Valoro realmente todo el trabajo que haces en cada vídeo y agradezco haber encontrado tu canal. Tu consejo de auto valorar nuestros esfuerzos diarios y abrazarnos por ello me hizo llorar y me lo guardo en el corazón. Mil gracias ❤
Another great video Vera! Thank you for sharing your insight and tips with us. They are most helpful, and I always feel uplifted after watching your wonderful videos. Keep up the good work Vera. Sending you big hugs my dear! 🤗
Bedankt voor je goede adviezen. Je video's zijn echt heel betekenisvol voor mij en ik leer er veel van. Ik denk dat je echt een heel mooi persoon bent (van binnen en buiten). Veel geluk❤
Wat een mooie punten haal je aan. Vooral zelfcompassie is een mooie. Vroeger kon ik mij enorm opwinden als ik iets fout had gedaan en iets (in mijn ogen) doms had gedaan of gezegd. Daar kwam dan ook nog een grote portie schaamte bij kijken. Tegenwoordig probeer ik het zo snel mogelijk om te zetten in een leermoment. Je mag fouten maken, onhandig zijn, enzovoort. Je kunt er alleen maar van leren en het de volgende keer anders doen.
When a day is shitty than if I could i go to sleep( like dogs when they did something wrong : ) the next day is going to be a good day...just go to sleep is a very helpful advice
rewatching this for about the 3rd time - I watched Jen Luv's live steam about James Charles being caught lying, selling so many people a product he KNEW was rubbish and remembered you have similar good advice: that if something is a "good deal", it's probably also a good deal for the person trying to sell it you! Thanks again for all the good advice! so glad I saved this video to come back to
Thank you for making this video. These are quotes I should remind myself. I wondered if you made a video on how to manage the job market as an hsp? I've had difficulty in keeping a job and being fired for not performing 'enough'. 3 years ago I felt I had no choice but to become self employed. I really enjoyed it though.
This video was originally posted on Patreon. My patrons graciously allowed me to post it here as well, while I recover from my cold. ☺ There are already close to 100 exclusive videos on Patreon, plus 2 new ones every month! If you can, consider joining us here: www.patreon.com/SimpleHappyZen to instantly get access to all these videos. Becoming a patron costs $5 a month (cancel anytime) and helps to support my work. Enjoy the video!
I hope you feel better soon. I'm planning on checking out your patreon too in the next few months - been wanting to sooner, just haven't had a credit card in years or Paypal. I'm starting to invest in starting my own digital freelance business and slowly but surely getting stuff like Paypal and better tech (I've been watching your videos through an old put together computer and still have a flip phone at the moment). Your channel has been very inspirational for me. Thanks again - take care
Wonderful video!
Do you believe God or Jesus Christ or even read a bible?
There's a poem that says, "People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime." I've always thought this is so true!
Yes, I love that!
Vera about the wallet example. When my son was about 10 years old he found 200 dollars in the laundry mat while I was doing laundry. He wanted to keep it. I said no because that could be someone rent money and they may come back looking for it. So I turned it into the laundry mat owners. My son said to me mom how do you know they won't keep it. I said I don't but that's on their conscious not mine. I thought that was the right thing to do.❤
I think that was the right thing to do. A good role model for your son😊
@@mcdade7489 thank you 😊
I've discovered your channel recently, and although I don't practice minimalism specifically, I find your videos and your perspectives about life in general so soothing, so down to earth, and so encouraging at the same time, that I find hope while listening to you. Thank you so much for the content you share with your audience. Thank you for your calm voice, for your simple aesthetic (and notice that when I say simple, I mean it as a compliment in this modern world of over-simulating images and loud noises and in-your-face product placements, etc.). Thank you for sharing with us the knowledge about life that have taken you years to learn by trial and error. I wish you a speed recovery and much success in your future.
Yes, agree
Those of us who grew up with toxic parents had to learn everything the hard way...on our own.
💯💯💯
And at many points in life we all feel behind because we learn so many thing too too late that many grow up learning just by being in a happy family.
@@beautyintakes Took the words right out of my mouth, haha! 😂
On the positive side, those of us who did experience that toxicity can develop better forethought and intuition to interpret our actions and reactions so that we maintain a sense of calmness in all sorts of situations. We become more analytical and aware. We might be more sensitive as it is in our nature due to past experiences in life, but with proper love and care, we can shirk aside the societal expectations and implications placed on us and give ourselves the grace we need to move forward into a brighter, healthier future. ❤
@@beautyintakes Sorry, I don't get it. What do you mean?
@@NintenJon64 Lets hope so.
Good basic advice. I’m 75 and had to learn these lessons myself along the way more than once. We tend to forget to take our own life advice at times along the road, but age makes one’s priorities clearer and clearer. No time to waste fretting over people and things that don’t serve us well.
Vera is wise beyond her years...sage advice doled out on this channel!
'I you're feeling bad and it's night time - just go to sleep!' I can confirm that this works wonders. Super loved this Video! ❤ Best wishes for a speedy recovery!
Thanks Monika!! Happy to hear you also find that to be true. As one of my patrons said in the comments of that video: "The morning is wiser than the evening". Very true! 😁💕
Many years ago I also set up the rule for me "worries after 10pm should not be taken seriously - go to sleep first"
Regarding your example of returning the wallet. I have a simple logic. Would I be happy and thankful if someone returned my lost wallet? Then of course I know what the right thing to do is. We need to help create a nice world for ourselves and our children. Thank you for sharing your thoughts 🙏🏼
I love your insight and transparency. I’m almost twice your age and everything you say resonates deeply with me. Maybe it’s an HSP/introvert thing? What a beautiful life you have ahead of you putting your words into practice. Love to you Vera 💖
Aw thank you for your kind comment! 🤗💕🌷 So glad the video resonated with you. Have a lovely day!
Yes, I feel the same, and I'm also probably twice Vera's age. ❤
I’m 55 and love watching Vera too ❤
Same ! I’m old enough to be Vera’s Mom and I find her insights to be very valuable.
💟💟💟Vera, you are truly a blessing in my life! Thanks for being you!
I know my uni friends and I don't have much in common beyond student life. It makes me sad, and I often find myself feeling that these friendships are somehow 'fake' even though I love hanging out with these people. This video got me thinking that maybe what matters is not that we stay friends forever. Maybe what matters is that we give each other good memories. I'm going to try and make the most of the time we have left.
What a great video Vera. I actually found someone’s wallet who was in Chatham on vacation. He had set it on top of his car and driven off. I found a business card that showed he worked at a newspaper in San Diego CA so I called them and said someone must know where he is and left my phone number. He couldn’t believe I tracked him down and said no one would do this where he lives but long story short I wouldn’t be able to look myself in the mirror if I had taken his money. ❤
#2 - Yes, I understand your "work friend" articulation. I learned this after my first long-term job and letting that go was freeing. Life is a journey. Some people will come in and go out and that's okay. Our capacity for close friends is less than our eyes realize.
So true! :) Have a great day Viki 🤗🌷
When I was young I felt guilty that I liked some friends more than others and tried really hard to improve the relationships that didn't click as well. Then I realised it's because we are all different and we will resonate more with some people than others.
So many nuggets of wisdom here! I so agree with listening to our gut. Isn't it amazing how many times there's no logical reason why something should be wrong, but our gut tells us something is wrong, and it ends up that they're actually IS something wrong with the situation? It would do us all well to listen to our intuition more often.
Our intuition can be very wise indeed! :)
That was a bunch of great advice! I for one constantly underestimate how important sleep is, trying to work on that, and it's nice to see it reinforced that it is indeed important
I found out your videos today and I have watched 3 in a row (HSP, Burn Out and this one). I feel really really represented by everything you tell about your personality (and previous traits), and I feel like I have a lot to lean from you 🥹 thanks so much for your channel! Also your voice is very soothing. I have me/chronic fatigue syndrome that is like a massive burn out 😓 I got it after covid. It's been 2 years now, and I am slowly getting better, but still a long way to go. Your advice is very very helpful for my reality 🫶🏽
Thanks so much for leaving a comment and welcome to the channel!! Hope you'll continue to slowly feel better. Just take things one step at a time and take it easy when you need to. 🌸💕
This is one of the best advise I received
Your channel, I'm sure, helps many people. In addition to clearly communicating valuable life advice and personal anecdotes, you are warm, genuine and personable. Your channel stands out and I wish you ever-growing success.
Aw thank you so much, that was really nice to hear 🌷🌷🌷
The hard truth is: very often unfortunately it's one of family member's - mother, father, sibling/s, grandparents, relatives and even close friends/ besties...want something from you- which is not good for you, it bothers you, steal your time and energy and if you ask yourself in your heart- you truly don't want to do it! It was one of the hardest lessons ever... for me. And of course- don't do it! For yourself- you're the most important person in your life! Protect your inner light 💖💖💖
Heart ❤ of Kentucky. Hi VERA in the NETHERLANDS. I so appreciate this message. I need to trust my gut feeling. I've just prayed for you and your love ones. ❤ GOD BLESS 🙏 YOU VERA. You are SUPER TERRIFIC! Katie.
Thanks Vera! #7 spoke to me the most. I feel so tired right now and lack energy yet often times I do not go to sleep when I should. The change of season always has affected me. Even when I was younger. However it is getting more difficult now that I am older ( in my 50’s) to get motivated and stay positive when it is dark outside. God bless you!
I hope you feel better Vera🤧🙏🏻❤️I almost lost it when you said “give yourself a hug “🙈That’s how sensitive I am🥹😝🙈🙊🙉
I love the morning times too. I get up around 3:30 or 4 each day, so I love that my
Evening “wind down” time starts at 5:30-6ish.
I light my candle which helps get me sleepy too.
8pm is about that “just go to bed” time 😊
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Exelent video !
Totally enjoyed it .
Thank you Teresa! :) Have a great day!
I like authentic people and its hard to say what authentic means but for me Vera is a truly authentic young person. Her values are my values and I wish society promoted these values more because we would all be the happier for it. I wish more men especially would quit being angry and ignorant and stupid and learn that being gentle and selfless is not a weakness but a strength.
Money is like manure. Best spread around to do the most good and I am a firm believer in supporting charities that do good. That is why a shroud has no pockets although I do recall a story about a man in Nigeria who was buried in his Mercedes.
Tomorrow I intend to leave the house early, buy a bottle of cheap red wine and enjoy my day just doing something or nothing at home and not worrying about the state of the world and all those "problems" that we know exist and see where we live and on our TV screens. I think sensitive, quiet people feel the weight of life crushing at times so self care is good and necessary.
I sometimes think humanity is losing its soul but then a Simple,Happy,Zen video pops up and my faith in goodness and kindness is restored thanks to this little lady.
When I first listened to this on Patreon, I was struggling. I know that my struggles, whether with the way I think, feel or judge, don't have to define me or influence the way I act. The thing is, hindsight always seems to give me a better picture. I feel like time helps as well when it comes to learning from any faults, mistakes or misgivings. But to me personally, allowing my faith in God to be at the center of my life gives me more relief than what I could ever do for myself. I could spend all night questioning things because of me not being able to regulate my thoughts and feelings (and this has happened to me plenty of times), and even with Him in the picture, it still isn't easy sometimes. Focusing on faith rather than fear may still require work on my end, but just knowing that He's still there in the midst of it all gives me hope ❤
Thanks for the sound advice & your vulnerability. You have a gift for getting your insight across 🌸
Aw thank you!! Glad you enjoyed the video 🤗🌺
Vera, you are one of the sweetest, most genuine RUclipsrs I (virtually) know! Thanks for the content :)
“You’re the one who has to live with yourself your whole life.” 💕
That is an amazing advice❤
Thank you so much for this video. You are wise beyond your years. As it is not in my budget, no spend year, I can't join you on Patreon, but I so appreciate your wisdom. Recently I found myself feeling discouraged about something important in my life. I shared with someone that I was feeling discouraged and immediately they tried to offer unsolicited advise, like I'm not allowed to ever feel a moment of discouragement. How unrealistic, I'm so glad that I have learned to allow myself my feelings and that I no longer buy into the need to always be bubbly and up. Sometimes life is discouraging, but this too shall pass, and that leaves me with a sense of hope. Thank you, again, you are awesome!♥
Dear Vera. Just want to say your intuition did a great thing this morning in telling you go ahead and make the video even though you feel sleepy. Every single word you said was something I needed to hear due to very recent experiences. Maybe it was your intuition plus your guardian angel, who knows. But it was just wonderful. Many thanks.
I could so resonate with the money point, always integrity above money and money is definitely an important part of our life but not everything...i will definitely remember money in the head, not in the heart✨
Stress is when you don't feel you have the resources to cope with the current/future circumstances. My inner resources change throughout the day. Something that I can cope with easily when I have energy, can feel overwhelming at the end of the day.
These were so helpful and relate to me. I had a friend at work who I saw as a friend at work. After I left the company we were going to catch up but I was tired of her complaining. As I've got older, the challenge is wanting to keep going even though I feel achey. Thanks so much, Vera, for this encouraging video in a relaxing environment ❤
One additional piece of constructive advice. I’ve been a subscriber for years and really enjoy your calm insightful videos. I am now down to yours and Joshua Becker’s channels because of the way the info is presented. I enjoy listening without the use of profanity so common in the world today. I’ve unsubscribed from many others because of this. I was a bit taken aback when I listened to your video today. After the 3rd time you dropped the word I ended the video. Please continue in your previous manner and drop the profanity. ❤ In today’s world, trying to keep the crazy harshness out and the peace in has become a struggle, but one I’d like to keep. Thank you!!!
Hi Vera hope you are feeling well 🙏 thanks for sharing your wise words & advice that is so relatable. Enjoy your visit with your family. Still praying for peace in my part of the world 🙏🇮🇱💔🙏
Such a valuable lessons of advice for lots of people who still don't realized it.
I do appreciate you so much for sharing them with us.
Highly respect for your authentic self and honest sharing.
😊
Hi Vera,
I told you once before, your wisdom precedes your age and you are really young for your years, I remember myself at your age, everything was possible and it was, then I started a family, and a year later I had my daughter. I resonate with everything you say and think, I can't do something I MUST. I learned that in life everything is a choice, not an imposition. I hug you Vera!❣
I needed to hear this today. I’ve been a bit depressed over the past few days. Please thank your Patreon members.
You make the world a better pace Vera, your lovely wise and humble character just makes me joyful. Thank you
Circumstance friendships really is a thing to understand and to just not take personal
What a great video with so many important insights for anyone at any age. Having to look yourself in the mirror. It is so satisfying to live by your values, sometimes quietly but often in a way that may be exclusive, too. Still, we are all we have and by being true to ourselves it seems like everything else falls in place as it should. Then we realize we are meant to be who we are and it’s ok.
I watched this whole video as my starting and end point for me 20 minute run on the treadmill. Great video. Thank you I
Ah cool, way to go! 💪🤗
Happy Christmas & New Year. May the Lord Bless.
Thanks!
Wow, thank you so much for this superthanks Tanya!!! That's so kind of you 💕🤗 Wishing you a lovely rest of your day!
Hi! I've enjoyed your videos and your thoughtful advice so much even at my advanced age. So, thank you! My mom used to turn on the lamps in the living room in the late afternoon so that as the evening progressed there was always light in the room. This is a habit I carried with me and feel that it helps to ward off that end of the day slump. Maybe you would like to give it a try.
Thanks for this. Lots of really good tips. I particularly like the one about money, which I put up on my fridge.
It seems to me, that it's about ruling over your money wisely, rather than allowing money to rule us.
Hey Vera! Great video and what resonated with me was the need to take care of your body as you grow older. I have recently gained lots of weight during the last five years and have promised myself to start going to the gym next month. I am very excited about it and God willing, will enjoy the process and not stress too much about the results. Thanks for the other tips and get well soon!☺
Awesome Gerald, good for you!! Cheering you on from here 💪
@@SimpleHappyZen thanks for the encouragement! I will need all the cheering I can get ☺️
I've been following you for awhile and absolutely love your content and enjoy the spirit of your mission.
I relate to the majority of your personal comments and your content is spot on for issues that concern me.
Thanks for your work and your beautiful online presence. 😊🎉
You must know when to compromise and when to not because there is this one person in the mirror, who will look into your eyes in your whole life ahead. Loved that one🍁.
Love Your Videos and All You Share! Have a wonderful visit with your family!
I love your voice! Always enjoy listening to you
Your voice and topic does calm me.
I sometimes even fall asleep😊
Thank you very much for your videos🥰 I follow you since 2018 and I think you're great, so genuine and such a good inspiration, I always feel so identified, so thanks a lot for all the valuable content 🥰 greetings from Uruguay 🇺🇾😘
Simple but wise advices. Thank you!
I can't thank you enough for your honest thoughts and opinions. I relate to a lot of the things you said. Your videos help me calm down my thoughts.
I learned the value of true (work) friends when I left my long term job. I had a great boss and fabulous coworkers and the 6 of us still get together as if no time has passed (1 of the 6 is my sister so I see her all the time haha). Then 2 years ago I started a term position in a small town where there wasn't many opportunities and I had a boss who was a bit of a bully. I couldn't speak my mind to this person (which I normally have no problem doing) because there were no other jobs during the pandemic. It was tough and even though at that time I had to keep silent part of me regrets not being true to myself. I've been able to let a lot of those feelings go but it was a valuable lesson for me.
I hope you feel better now and have a great day!
This wisdom really brightened my day! Thank you. I only very recently learned that if my mood turned dark in the evening, going to bed was the happiest choice I could make. I also often wake up with dark thoughts, even though I'm an early riser and a mostly cheerful person. I've learned that I'm not one of those people who can happily grind out a 5:00 am routine with exercise, journalling, meditation, meal prep for the day or anything else. I think you talked about this once too. After about 40 - 45 minutes of quiet relaxing reading (or even inspiring RUclips watching) I'm ready to do all the things. (Fortunately, I get up early enough to still have time for them.) Feel better soon. xo karen
What wonderful advice today! I love the hug yourself! You are amazing! Love and Light, Laara
Thanks! Wise advice and much needed reminders. Trusting your gut can be the most important. I learned that the hard way and still have regrets because I didn't believe in myself enough. It was even a problem not that long ago (needed to learn this lesson more than once) when I let the "experts" guide me when it came to my health, instead of trusting my own gut that disagreed with them. I was believing them that it was just anxiety related (I'm HSP too), when I knew deep down that there was something physical. I now know that my problems (chronic fatigue etc.) were caused by a long lasting perimenopause (started at 36 and I'm now reaching menopause and almost 50) and central sleep apnea. Just the relief of knowing finally what's going on with my body has reduced the severity of some of my symptoms and has given me the strength to adapt and move forward with my life in a more positive direction. I agree that sleep is super important too - night owl here - I sleep until late in the AM or the very least ease gently into the day. I hope you get your much needed rest too. take care
I live by most of these rules already. Thank you for sharing your insight. ❤
Wise words. I am 65 now and I am so dismayed at the focus on verbage instead of action. I am afraid that our language is monitored by corporations and specific groups to the point that without realizing it, we are being brainwashed in how to speak and think. It astounds me. Great advice on all of these issues.
I'm in a transformative point in my life and this came at just the right time. Thank you so much for sharing, and thank you to your patrons as well ❤
Hi Vera, goodmorning from Melbourne, Australia 👋 I just watched for your video with a hot cup of green tea. Your videos have such value & are so refreshing & different. They are simple, straight to the point & you present in such a soothing way. Thanks for your time & sharing.
Thank you for this video! Felt very honest and real. Really touched on a few things in my life that I've been grappling with. I'm actually going to re-watch it so I can remember my brief epiphanies :-)
Aw thanks Naomi, so glad the video resonated with you! :) Have a wonderful day
I love your advice that it's okay to share how hard you are trying. It IS so weird! Haha! I am just starting a RUclips channel about motherhood and homemaking from the perspective of a Christian doula. With friends, family, and even with my husband I feel a bit silly telling him how much time I've invested working on it. I genuinely want to go all in, but I do feel so silly about it! And you are completely right. There is nothing wrong with sharing with others how hard we are working.
No worries, it feels a little weird in the beginning but this'll start to feel more 'normal' after you're doing it a while. Definitely don't feel silly about going all in, falling on your ass, learning from your mistakes and growing from them :)
@@SimpleHappyZen thank you so much for the encouragement!
Your warmth and genuineness is always so soothing, uplifting and inspiring, Vera! Thank you for this lovely video and all your wonderful videos, which I watch often for this very reason! 🥰🙏🏼🫂
Dear Vera, This was very insightful advice; you were certainly inspired when you wrote your pieces of advice, thank you. Several of them spoke very directly to me. I hope you sleep very well tonight! Cx
Aw thank you so much for your kind comment!! Have a wonderful day
Thank you Vera ❤
You're so welcome! 🤗 Have a great day!
The part where you mentioned fear of faliure, is not weird at all. Of course it's a discouraging and embarrassing feeling for us personally, but I don't think we realize how many people around us actually feel this way and also downplay or use different copyng mechanisms. ❤
Thank you much for all the light and messages that you share. You really do share your heart! Keep sharing and shining!
I resonated with everything you said here. There's so much food for thought here, so much to think about. You are so insightful, clear and inspiring.
On the subject of seeing yourself in the mirror, I smile at myself in the mirror every morning and if I feel I’ve done something well and I’m near a mirror I give myself a thumbs up which makes me feel good. I got this tip after reading The high 5 Habit by Mel Robins. Being English I’m not used to doing a High Five so thumbs up works for me instead.
Made my afternoon, in between a billion corporate calls!
Thanks for sharing 💙💙💙
🤗🌷 Take care!!!
I hate to admit it, but I'm a pessimist most of the time. Мore and more often I have negative thoughts and I feel that I am not feeling well, but unhappy. But I didn't choose to feel this way. I've had arguments with a significant other about this many times, he doesn't seem to understand that it's hard to control. It hurts me that instead of trying to understand, he debates with me and accuses me of being like this, as if I do it on purpose. But I definitely want to change that because I've felt this way for years, which is partly why I'm seeking professional help. I have a feeling that very few people would understand this unpleasant feeling. Only the people who have experienced it.
Self hugs for the win!
Love this video..
Love your honesty too....we all go through these things..either in whole or part..
Thanks for the tips..and for sharing
Bless you🙏💟
I loved this video, thank you for sharing.
Me encantó este vídeo, al igual que todos los que subes. Me pareces una persona muy cercana y auténtica y siempre que veo un vídeo tuyo me guardo muchos de tus consejos para aplicarlos en mi vida. Valoro realmente todo el trabajo que haces en cada vídeo y agradezco haber encontrado tu canal.
Tu consejo de auto valorar nuestros esfuerzos diarios y abrazarnos por ello me hizo llorar y me lo guardo en el corazón.
Mil gracias ❤
Wonderful video and so many truths for me too! Thank you for the videos you make and I hope you had a wonderful visit with your parents.
i agree! this helped so much, as sensitive souls we are so familiar.
Sage advise on all points.
Very helpful. Nice to know that other people have had temporary friends and have been sad about losing touch.
But very good advice! I said sure thanks
Thank you very much Vera for a great video. Have a lovely Day. Greetings from London.
Another great video Vera! Thank you for sharing your insight and tips with us. They are most helpful, and I always feel uplifted after watching your wonderful videos. Keep up the good work Vera. Sending you big hugs my dear! 🤗
Bedankt voor je goede adviezen. Je video's zijn echt heel betekenisvol voor mij en ik leer er veel van. Ik denk dat je echt een heel mooi persoon bent (van binnen en buiten). Veel geluk❤
Aw dankjewel voor je lieve comment! :) Fijne dag!
Thanks for sharing. Love your videos. ❤
Wat een mooie punten haal je aan. Vooral zelfcompassie is een mooie. Vroeger kon ik mij enorm opwinden als ik iets fout had gedaan en iets (in mijn ogen) doms had gedaan of gezegd. Daar kwam dan ook nog een grote portie schaamte bij kijken. Tegenwoordig probeer ik het zo snel mogelijk om te zetten in een leermoment. Je mag fouten maken, onhandig zijn, enzovoort. Je kunt er alleen maar van leren en het de volgende keer anders doen.
I am on my lunch break and very glad to see that there's a new video :)
Vera, your voice is very plesant and calming❤
Thank you for this!!
A great video with many good points!,thank you!
When a day is shitty than if I could i go to sleep( like dogs when they did something wrong : ) the next day is going to be a good day...just go to sleep is a very helpful advice
Thank you for all these wonderful thoughts. This has made my day. ❤
rewatching this for about the 3rd time - I watched Jen Luv's live steam about James Charles being caught lying, selling so many people a product he KNEW was rubbish and remembered you have similar good advice: that if something is a "good deal", it's probably also a good deal for the person trying to sell it you!
Thanks again for all the good advice! so glad I saved this video to come back to
Just needed these pieces of advice❤
I'm glad you found them helpful! Take care and have a lovely day 🌺🤗
Excellent video. So very relevant. Thank you.
Off topic- but I read The Tao of Pooh and really liked it. Lots of nice lessons. Thanks for introducing it to us on your channel.
Ah so cool!! So happy you enjoyed it :)
Thank you Vera,excellent video great thinking .
Thank you for making this video. These are quotes I should remind myself. I wondered if you made a video on how to manage the job market as an hsp? I've had difficulty in keeping a job and being fired for not performing 'enough'. 3 years ago I felt I had no choice but to become self employed. I really enjoyed it though.
Vera you are the best 💕 I appreciate the great content you work so hard to bring us!!