@@usernameisunavailable8270 Life wouldn't be boring, You just feel so. It's your Fear of change. Your mood swings aren't emotional immaturity as long as you recognize it and don't go way out of control. Everyone gets that.
emotionally mature people are able to think many moves ahead from all their problems, and are able to think deeply. They’re able to run many scenarios in their head to simulate what would happen, and then decide which move would be best. The more emotionally adept can calculate what others would feel or how others would react depending on what they say to them. Emotional mature people are good at reading others emotions well. The first level of emotion is understanding yourself well, the second more advanced level is understanding others well.
Professionally I am, Actually I am not, I let my unmet need flourish out as bad things Idc, wht people think or say like u, And people like me exist so don't think u are intelligent commenting this horseshit
Definitely not perfectly emotionally mature; but going to therapy for the past almost 3 years has really helped me vastly improve. We don’t get to pick the environment we grow up in, but we can choose to change and be better.
If you didnt rly notice until this video, you probably havent been very self aware (not to judge, I love the open sharing) Though you sound as if with a bit more self awareness, youd become really emotionally mature Youll get there
@@hestia870 Good point. The emotional disregulation from my adhd doesn´t make it easier. But I´m getting there. I´m much better now than i was 1 year ago. Also im pretty young (male, 25 years old) so hopefully my brain will mature even more
Has anything changed over a year? I'm the same as you however nothing at all has changed for me. I'm gonna try diet because apparently diet affects your behavior somehow.
Yeah I think it’s important she said that everyone has bad moments but the emotionally mature response is to take ownership and take care of yourself emotionally (not blaming others etc) 👏👏
Thanks to my emotionally unstable dad for doing the opposite of all these things and teaching me what invalidation feels like! That's why I emphatize completely with people and develop skills to never make them feel like I felt when younger.
Please make a video on how to become emotionally mature. I've noticed myself being emotionally mature a few times. But I'm actually not emotionally mature at all
I don't know if my question will get answered but I really need to know this. I'm not an emotionally mature person. I love and I harbour no malicious feelings for others. However, whenever I'm in a heated conversation I get angry. I can not handle the tension. Sometimes when I'm asked to allow space, I get scared! I've often been told that I'm a very nice soul and beautiful human being and all. I really need to become more emotionally mature so that I'm the right person to have an uncomfortable conversation with. I really want to be able to meet the basic conversational needs! How can I become mature? How can I be calm in an open conversation instead of seeking a resort to attack/ defence? I'm asking because I'm willing to get rid of these unhealthy traits! It'll be really helpful if some of you can provide me with some beneficial tips.
Appearantly you're moving in the wrong environment and thus in environments full of emotionally immature people. 1. Start by acknowledging your own self worth; your sense of DIGNITY. You see, the other persons who are immature are comfortable in their erred path. *Your will* to mature suffice for a first step in the path of maturity (and your immature peers WON'T support you on your path) You will have to grow 🌱 in stages & thus 2. keep a healthy distance from others,cut bonds from toxic people (who are chronologically unethical to you) It's a matter of your inner conduct so in your heart 3. Take your place in the circle of life,do not ambition beyond your natural self. Personality differences is key to how close you will be to different individuals...even mature people,if the personality differences is too great won't get too close due to that but will get along due to healthy distance. 4. Tho this should have been mentioned 1st, key to becoming an ethical person (socially healthy) is to act normal,act mature by NOT allowing your enthusiasm get the best of you. If you're nervous you can still, simply slow down so your demeanor won't speed up too much scaring off the convenient people AND having enough energy to beware of who will prey on your enthusiasm. In my experience as an autistic person I've been socially successful after putting into practice these basics ( my reputation was quite successful ONLY smeared by one immature person...long story,but her smear campaign didn't dent my rep THAT much) It's a matter of mindset consisting of healthy ethics and learn your morals... it's a non stop exciting adventure in new ideas 💡 and reviews of the basics lifelong lasting the path of maturity. I come up with new ideas all the time due to experience, reviews and from sources of philosophy,other people experience etc etc...just don't let go of the primary key of acting normal (don't let your enthusiasm accelerate your demeanor,slow down among other people) Nature takes it's course and lucky you came across this video because you'll be surprised at what you'll grow 🌱 into and ideas from others will have given new possibilities to aim for.... don't take everything too seriously or feel guilty because you feel what you described and what video says ; nature takes it's course by stages grow 🌱 but it's not only growth it's meeting YOUR needs on the outside and inside of you. A matter of you to live a wholesome lifestyle inside and do your best a wholesome lifestyle on the outside as you can,for yourself 1st a healthy lifestyle.
I am grateful to my parents and the environment they grew me up. Plus I'm always been mature since childhood. Although I still work with myself in all these characterics with the other people I meet.
1. I can do this though I might start to become more awkward in the process. 2. Yes, unless I don’t want to and I am all alone though I always calm down very quickly anyway. But if it were to happen in front of someone I would try to get out of there or something. I allow the same for others always. 3. I sometimes have this annoying feeling when getting constructive negative feedback but I try to not let it get in my way or in their way and actually accept the criticism unless it doesn’t fit with my viewpoint in wich case I calmly argue and explain my viewpoint and explain why I think my way and try find out why they think how they think to find a solution to the problem. 4. I apologize always. Even though sometimes I get this feeling that is telling me not to apologize. 5. I don’t invalidate anyones feelings but I often don’t know what I should do when they need emotional support. When my Mom’s and Grandma’s friend died and Grandma died I just gave my Mom a hug because I felt really awkward and didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t say much.
I only learned to be emotionally mature this year. I don’t take things personally even insults. It’s because I almost lost my mom and honestly in the grand scheme of things everything is insignificant in comparison
Met 4 out of 5 things from list. Can't believe I can actually fit in the emotionally mature criteria while my whole life I am told otherwise like... you're too sensitive or you can't always talk everything out. Don't address everything you feel and so on.
I do all these things still i would love to be a better person. U are right maturity doesn't comes with age, if that was the case my grandma would be a great person not a emotional manipulator. I swear i love her more than i love myself but oh God her her actions are making it harder for me.
Thank you! I matured as the son of a lifelong USNavy Father, at home Mother. I do admit since recovery from stroke, I have to be mindful of an ailing spouse, no longer as my intimate partner because her disease is fatal eventually! I ask God to guide me through this journey for the sake of two grown stepsons, we reside with younger one; Seven grandchildren, six minors, 1 adult granddaughter is 19!
I had this issue a lot in my relationship. I just started doing mindful exercises & improved my self awareness. It literally 2 years but I’m so much better now. Sometimes I get impulsive or lose control here and there but it’s really all about self awareness!!
@@Chikaka27 it’s because they’re the ones closest to you - who know you the most & you know them. Whoever you spend the most time with usually get every bit of the worst side of you. It’s easy with strangers because we don’t know them, and so we don’t expect anything of them or care about them or what they can do for us. When it’s a relationship or family, we always have expectations of them. If they don’t live up to something is usually when impulsive behaviour happens. It sort of feels like entitlement when tryna see it from an outside perspective. I hope you learn very quickly & only just be a friend to yourself and show compassion. You have to be ur own friend and have ur own back for it to reflect outwards!! Good luck x
We all choose love or hate The connection is terms of how you were treated as a child You can bring a whole bunch of children through a situation, and they’ll all come out differently
Yes I am. I'm able to validate their fellings. And show sympathy fir them . Because their feelings should be validated. Because they have importance to me. A hug is important. Hug them show compassion.❤🎉😂
I am explained here 😊i gave space for my friend who stop texting me back now she ignored me whole month i dont need to force other to talm to me i respect their space😊
I am 11 and you just described how my mind is amd i always used to think i am not that mature, your saying i am mentally mature,still i think i have a long way to go.
Very articulately put especially that final line, emotionally needy seems so like the weak line of defense when someone cant put themselves in another shoes and identify with that person. I see why people wouldnt want shoes in the furthest sense of identifying.😔
I don't have most of the signs. But my mother has got these horrible wrong, to the point she's abusive towards me. Ipromise myself that I will heal become emotionally mature and end this cycle of abuse.
I actually do feel like emotional maturity has something to do age with the experience that comes along. Like you can’t expect a teenager to be emotional mature for sure.
How might this effect someone with trauma? Would they be More likely to be emotionally immature or more emotionally mature, based on their trauma? Or would it be a different category all together? 🤔 Thank you. 👍
Insightful and useful, thank you. Also, what is that music track playing in the background? (I'd love to listen to that during my long hours working on the PC designing airplanes.)
i am autistic with bpd (and a few other things but these don’t really play a role in this) so i do get reactive if the feedback is worded the way my family did it
Last but definitely not least: if you're truly mature you don't need to go bragging in the comments about how many signs you have
Lmaoooo true 😂😂
i don’t think they were bragging
underrated comment 💓
underrated comment 💓
True good natured people dont need to tell people they are good people. Same goes for anything else. Humble bragging doesnt count.
Thank you for validating how helplessly immature I am. Holy fk I have a long way to go.
You’re the only one in these comments I trust
cmon dont go any way this gives you the spice. mature people are boring
There's gotta be a balance! Imagine if everyone was mature. Life would be monotonous and boring. Albiet, it would probably function better though lol.
@@usernameisunavailable8270 Life wouldn't be boring, You just feel so. It's your Fear of change.
Your mood swings aren't emotional immaturity as long as you recognize it and don't go way out of control. Everyone gets that.
@@abc-qk3ml True😁 facts
emotionally mature people are able to think many moves ahead from all their problems, and are able to think deeply. They’re able to run many scenarios in their head to simulate what would happen, and then decide which move would be best. The more emotionally adept can calculate what others would feel or how others would react depending on what they say to them. Emotional mature people are good at reading others emotions well. The first level of emotion is understanding yourself well, the second more advanced level is understanding others well.
This has to be the most over exaggerated explanation of thinking
It kinda feels like overthinking and not just thinking
So mine is sky high
Professionally I am,
Actually I am not, I let my unmet need flourish out as bad things Idc, wht people think or say like u,
And people like me exist so don't think u are intelligent commenting this horseshit
Definitely not perfectly emotionally mature; but going to therapy for the past almost 3 years has really helped me vastly improve. We don’t get to pick the environment we grow up in, but we can choose to change and be better.
And that is what therapy is supposed to be about imo.
Holy shit. I just realized I suck at ALL these things. Atleast I´m self aware. Gotta work on all this but it´s really hard
If you didnt rly notice until this video, you probably havent been very self aware (not to judge, I love the open sharing)
Though you sound as if with a bit more self awareness, youd become really emotionally mature
Youll get there
@@hestia870 Good point. The emotional disregulation from my adhd doesn´t make it easier. But I´m getting there. I´m much better now than i was 1 year ago. Also im pretty young (male, 25 years old) so hopefully my brain will mature even more
Has anything changed over a year? I'm the same as you however nothing at all has changed for me. I'm gonna try diet because apparently diet affects your behavior somehow.
Yeah I think it’s important she said that everyone has bad moments but the emotionally mature response is to take ownership and take care of yourself emotionally (not blaming others etc) 👏👏
Thanks to my emotionally unstable dad for doing the opposite of all these things and teaching me what invalidation feels like! That's why I emphatize completely with people and develop skills to never make them feel like I felt when younger.
Same except it's my mom
when you learn how to forgive, dont keep resentment, and be resilient to find an optimal solution to a problem
Please make a video on how to become emotionally mature. I've noticed myself being emotionally mature a few times. But I'm actually not emotionally mature at all
You must choose to behave and respond differently in the moment. It's a choice. Keep working on it.
I feel like having difficult conversations depends on other person too, whether they can understand and take it seriously or not
This is good as it doesn't focus on what others are doing, more self reflection, not easy for some.
I don't know if my question will get answered but I really need to know this. I'm not an emotionally mature person. I love and I harbour no malicious feelings for others. However, whenever I'm in a heated conversation I get angry. I can not handle the tension. Sometimes when I'm asked to allow space, I get scared! I've often been told that I'm a very nice soul and beautiful human being and all. I really need to become more emotionally mature so that I'm the right person to have an uncomfortable conversation with. I really want to be able to meet the basic conversational needs!
How can I become mature? How can I be calm in an open conversation instead of seeking a resort to attack/ defence?
I'm asking because I'm willing to get rid of these unhealthy traits!
It'll be really helpful if some of you can provide me with some beneficial tips.
Appearantly you're moving in the wrong environment and thus in environments full of emotionally immature people.
1. Start by acknowledging your own self worth; your sense of DIGNITY.
You see, the other persons who are immature are comfortable in their erred path. *Your will* to mature suffice for a first step in the path of maturity (and your immature peers WON'T support you on your path)
You will have to grow 🌱 in stages & thus
2. keep a healthy distance from others,cut bonds from toxic people (who are chronologically unethical to you)
It's a matter of your inner conduct so in your heart
3. Take your place in the circle of life,do not ambition beyond your natural self.
Personality differences is key to how close you will be to different individuals...even mature people,if the personality differences is too great won't get too close due to that but will get along due to healthy distance.
4. Tho this should have been mentioned 1st, key to becoming an ethical person (socially healthy) is to act normal,act mature by NOT allowing your enthusiasm get the best of you. If you're nervous you can still, simply slow down so your demeanor won't speed up too much scaring off the convenient people AND having enough energy to beware of who will prey on your enthusiasm.
In my experience as an autistic person I've been socially successful after putting into practice these basics ( my reputation was quite successful ONLY smeared by one immature person...long story,but her smear campaign didn't dent my rep THAT much)
It's a matter of mindset consisting of healthy ethics and learn your morals... it's a non stop exciting adventure in new ideas 💡 and reviews of the basics lifelong lasting the path of maturity.
I come up with new ideas all the time due to experience, reviews and from sources of philosophy,other people experience etc etc...just don't let go of the primary key of acting normal (don't let your enthusiasm accelerate your demeanor,slow down among other people)
Nature takes it's course and lucky you came across this video because you'll be surprised at what you'll grow 🌱 into and ideas from others will have given new possibilities to aim for.... don't take everything too seriously or feel guilty because you feel what you described and what video says ; nature takes it's course by stages grow 🌱 but it's not only growth it's meeting YOUR needs on the outside and inside of you.
A matter of you to live a wholesome lifestyle inside and do your best a wholesome lifestyle on the outside as you can,for yourself 1st a healthy lifestyle.
I am grateful to my parents and the environment they grew me up. Plus I'm always been mature since childhood. Although I still work with myself in all these characterics with the other people I meet.
1. I can do this though I might start to become more awkward in the process.
2. Yes, unless I don’t want to and I am all alone though I always calm down very quickly anyway. But if it were to happen in front of someone I would try to get out of there or something. I allow the same for others always.
3. I sometimes have this annoying feeling when getting constructive negative feedback but I try to not let it get in my way or in their way and actually accept the criticism unless it doesn’t fit with my viewpoint in wich case I calmly argue and explain my viewpoint and explain why I think my way and try find out why they think how they think to find a solution to the problem.
4. I apologize always. Even though sometimes I get this feeling that is telling me not to apologize.
5. I don’t invalidate anyones feelings but I often don’t know what I should do when they need emotional support. When my Mom’s and Grandma’s friend died and Grandma died I just gave my Mom a hug because I felt really awkward and didn’t know what else to do. I didn’t say much.
I struggle with the first 3, but especially the 3rd one, I just have the need to defend myself from being misunderstood, I just wanna get better 😕
I only learned to be emotionally mature this year. I don’t take things personally even insults. It’s because I almost lost my mom and honestly in the grand scheme of things everything is insignificant in comparison
Met 4 out of 5 things from list. Can't believe I can actually fit in the emotionally mature criteria while my whole life I am told otherwise like... you're too sensitive or you can't always talk everything out. Don't address everything you feel and so on.
The last one is very debatable.
Man, i thought i was mature until i see this video. Thank you for crushing my ego. I hope i will become a better version of myself.
I do all these things still i would love to be a better person. U are right maturity doesn't comes with age, if that was the case my grandma would be a great person not a emotional manipulator. I swear i love her more than i love myself but oh God her her actions are making it harder for me.
This list was really great and wise 👌🏽
Finally one of her videos that doesn’t SCARE me!!
Thanks 😊
I will support you 😢
Thank you! I matured as the son of a lifelong USNavy Father, at home Mother. I do admit since recovery from stroke, I have to be mindful of an ailing spouse, no longer as my intimate partner because her disease is fatal eventually! I ask God to guide me through this journey for the sake of two grown stepsons, we reside with younger one; Seven grandchildren, six minors, 1 adult granddaughter is 19!
I literally do all of these and I don’t know how to stop. It’s embarrassing. I try so hard to work on it but when things happen I lose control. 😞
I had this issue a lot in my relationship. I just started doing mindful exercises & improved my self awareness. It literally 2 years but I’m so much better now. Sometimes I get impulsive or lose control here and there but it’s really all about self awareness!!
Don't do unto others what you don't want done onto yourself. Follow this concept, you'll improve immensely.
@@lfabio.n it’s hard when you genuinely don’t even know how to love yourself. But I want to believe I’m learning. I’ll keep that in mind
@@NZcandy it’s crazy cause it’s so easy with strangers to be stoic and mindful but with my parents and in my past relationships it’s a struggle
@@Chikaka27 it’s because they’re the ones closest to you - who know you the most & you know them. Whoever you spend the most time with usually get every bit of the worst side of you. It’s easy with strangers because we don’t know them, and so we don’t expect anything of them or care about them or what they can do for us. When it’s a relationship or family, we always have expectations of them. If they don’t live up to something is usually when impulsive behaviour happens. It sort of feels like entitlement when tryna see it from an outside perspective. I hope you learn very quickly & only just be a friend to yourself and show compassion. You have to be ur own friend and have ur own back for it to reflect outwards!! Good luck x
We all choose love or hate
The connection is terms of how you were treated as a child
You can bring a whole bunch of children through a situation, and they’ll all come out differently
Yes I am. I'm able to validate their fellings. And show sympathy fir them . Because their feelings should be validated. Because they have importance to me. A hug is important. Hug them show compassion.❤🎉😂
I wish I can be good always 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I am explained here 😊i gave space for my friend who stop texting me back now she ignored me whole month i dont need to force other to talm to me i respect their space😊
Thank you for letting me know i will try to apply them as much as possible.
When someone tells me how they feel, i think its called empathy.. its like a can feel what they are feeling or i understand them
I am 11 and you just described how my mind is amd i always used to think i am not that mature, your saying i am mentally mature,still i think i have a long way to go.
I am happy you came back 😊
love this. it's the 3rd one that gets to me tho. thank you.
Very articulately put especially that final line, emotionally needy seems so like the weak line of defense when someone cant put themselves in another shoes and identify with that person. I see why people wouldnt want shoes in the furthest sense of identifying.😔
I don't have most of the signs. But my mother has got these horrible wrong, to the point she's abusive towards me. Ipromise myself that I will heal become emotionally mature and end this cycle of abuse.
I think one concept can be extremely helpful, don't do unto others what you don't want done onto yourself.
This sadly makes me realise about many of the people who aren't emotionally mature with me at all. 😢
🎭I never apologize
My needs weren't met as a Child but I worked on myself
3 is the only one I struggle with. That shit is hard to deal with
I actually do feel like emotional maturity has something to do age with the experience that comes along. Like you can’t expect a teenager to be emotional mature for sure.
The left side eyebrow was brushed higher than the right side eyebrow in this video. Just wanted you to know.
4.5 of 5 ❤
For me, lots of these things depend on who it is I'm talking too and sometimes the topic
I have following qualities then number 2,3 & 5 already
Thank u very much.
I have been abused from 4 till 7
How do I achieve this
I believe you realize what's lost and the walls I've run into
SO CORRECT!!!❤❤❤
That means I am emotionally mature
5 out of five. wow when did I grow up? it wasn't intended
As someone with BPD its a hard fail from me 😅
How might this effect someone with trauma?
Would they be More likely to be emotionally immature or more emotionally mature, based on their trauma?
Or would it be a different category all together? 🤔
Thank you. 👍
Please talk about the immature parents and how to deal with them
Good points💯
immotinal immaturity exist in older ppl too!
Proper spelling apparently does not
Yes
Getting there...but it's still a long way. At least I know I don't behave like the 15 year old I was once 😂
I do all of this, still am immature....
3/5, but that’s ok. It’s just an indicator there’s some more work to be done but I’m also happy with how far I’ve come and who I am now.
Ppl mature is not boring… mature person can be crazy from inside too lol..😂
That's probably why I'm single considering most people out there these days
I have most of the signs but my parents still say that I’m emotionally immature and that I’m still stuck in my 9 year old self but I don’t understand
6th sign: you delete a girls number and move on. IYKWIM
that's a big one.
Well I have 0 signs lmaooo 😂😂😂
Insightful and useful, thank you. Also, what is that music track playing in the background? (I'd love to listen to that during my long hours working on the PC designing airplanes.)
All 5 😊❤
I'm 14 years old... ✌️
Thank you ❤
Okay i have that all in me
Perfect one 👌👌
Someone at my school was "hurt" because they dropped their cookie...
Everything good, just forget 4th point. Never apologies.
I hate myself man. I wish I was stronger.
omg maybe I am emotionally mature 🤔
i do all these but struggle a bit with number one.
All i can say is i have alot to learn
I failed several of these. Working on it.❤
i am autistic with bpd (and a few other things but these don’t really play a role in this) so i do get reactive if the feedback is worded the way my family did it
Defending oneself isnt immature. Defending oneself with hostility and high reactivity is because it makes others feel unsafe.
Ha, I scored a perfect hand. High 5
I matched them
Matched 2 signs at the age of 15...it is good i guess. Will improve surely
The last one I can’t relate much cuz if it’s ppl I care I talk to them nicely, ppl I don’t really like will get: ok? So?
I'm 14 and i really think i'm a emotionally mature person.
Nice!
Yes to all this.
I'm a bit mature, still work to do
I like so much ur accent ❤
I’m a mature person I guess 1-5
I'm not, but I was.
POV: your still young yet your brain says your old
I've a ways to go still
This triggered me...I guess I am not emotionally mature lol
I meet all 5
Yeeeaaaah this is meeeeeee🎉
I think it depends on my cycle
I don’t have number 3, all the others I have
So true !
Or I'm just nonchalant 😭
Well I pass that sht
I am. 😊😊😊❤❤