1.) You show your affection 2.) You are able to communicate 3.) You emotional bond with them 4.) You make up after arguments 5.) You appreciate each other 6.) See a future together 7.) Balance housework 8.) Give each other personal space
For anyone out there who's confused and unsure how a strong, healthy relationship looks like, I'd add to this video one thing: true love comes in the small, everyday things. When I was tired one day but failed to fall asleep, my dearest brought me warm milk with honey out of the blue to help me fall asleep. That's better than thousand gifts and thousand roses followed by silence.
Absolutely. I would like to add: Little compromises. Like I love long spaghetti and my husband doesn't. But from time to time he says: "We hadn't the long spaghetti for a while. Come we use them this time."
Aww, my bf has a supperrr long day and was exhausted but still took the time to ask how my day was and comfort me since I had had a bad day before sleeping, it might be simple, but it meant a lot to me. And the other day i brought him his favorite snacks when he was at work. It really is the small things
@@ralphisxamida8533 thats adoraaaabllleee! My bf is picky and if i wanted something he doesnt like i'd just end up making it for myself and he'd make himself a sandwich or something 😂
It’s crazy how different being in a healthy relationship does to you. I was in a toxic one before and I really thought that being yelled at, humiliated, lied to bc i ‘deserve’ it, and all of the bad things were normal, and that it was my fault for making things worse by asking questions or getting my feelings involved. Bro now I’m in such a healthy relationship that we don’t argue because we TALK. Arguing and talking are two completely different things, did yall know that!?? Lmao it’s just so crazy how my partner actually wants to know how I feel and what my love language is so she can treat me better. I am so attracted to my partner physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally..geez all of the above. She’s even got me here wanting to fix my family problems too! Don’t settle for less yall, because there IS someone better.
Maybe... JUST maybe... an argument can still be an argument, BUT the methods of PROposing an argument are different from IMposing that same argument...You can still argue the least popular Point of View in the room, BUT while proposing well, you do NOT have to impose your personal POV nor engage in a shouting match... A genuinely "good" partner can draw that from you. ;o)
Communication is absolutely key. Communicate how you're feeling, what you think about things, when you're happy, when you're sad. I've found 9/10 arguments or misunderstandings are solved by just talking to one another like equals. Sounds basic & obvious, but you'd be surprised how little some people do it.
Communication's ability to heal a relationship comes crashing down when 1) you withold your feelings, concerns and wishes because the other person "should know this already" 2) you withold your feelings, concerns and wishes because the other person "never listens" and 3) you withold your feelings, concerns and wishes. Nobody is a mind reader.
Also it's important to be transparent, receptive, proactive to solve the issues, also not to be dismissive of your partners feelings. Must be that comfort place to be open with each other and understanding and respecting differences, perspectives though validate each other's concerns. Do not be in competition with each other but a strong team, best friends, lovers and partners.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." --Maya Angelou
I write my fiance love letters out of the blue to remind him that he's the one for me. I also like to give him massages after a long day of work without the pressure of sex. Sometimes it's nice to know that you can just relax without having to worry about that stuff. Especially when you're tired. He buys me flowers out of the blue, and when we have low funds, he picks them for me. 🌷 He's also a chef who makes beautiful meals for us, and introduces me to foods I've never had. 👨🍳😍
When you're in a wrong relationship, 6 months relationship will feel like forever. When you're in a right relationship, a 5 year relationship will feel like a few weeks.
Nope it's the opposite. In the beginning stages of my relationship, it felt like we were together for at least a year. We're seven months in and it feels like I've known him for years, so many fond memories already ❤️
Exactly. I remember in my past relationship I wasn't happy at all. It felt like as if it's been long we're dating each other but we did break up because it didn't last long but now I'm in a happy relationship with someone I know since 3 years
what i've learned being in my healthy relationship: - give each other room to grow/change/mature. always love the person for who they are, not who you want them to be - walk away from arguments so no one says anything hurtful in the moment, and come back when both partners are calmer - jealousy and suffocation often go hand in hand. let them be. if they really love you, they'll never hurt you. - remind them how loved they are every chance you get - tell them you're proud of them. they might not be hearing it from other people - choose them every single day, especially during difficult times - let them pick the restaurant every once in awhile ;)
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Okay I do all these but wait a minute. The moment we get to picking the restaurant it always turns out whatever you want babe, coupled with the fact that I'm the most indecisive human on earth and we just end up not eating LMFAO
@@diegoanimations9504 I watched a TikTok about this a bit ago. They suggested keeping a list of your favorite restaurants. If it's her turn, ask her what food she's craving, look through the list, and then give her the top three restaurants that fit that.
I would add - helping each other grow, and sometimes it means discussing hindering habits, which hurt the ego. People who enable each other in their bad habits can seem happy but in reality have a very stagnant relationship.
I put all my time and am open to share my knowledge and resources with her .. I want to grow together but what if all she wants is someone to talk to and wastes all her time online ?
All she wants is someone to text her every few hours and do small talks like did you eat , what are you doin , where are you ... I would like to have some educational combo too but nah ... She doesn't do that
@@vaibhavsagar117 it seems like you guys value different things in relationships and it seems like it makes you feel frustrated. I get it, too much small talk makes me feel completely depleated. Why don’t you keep her as an acquaintance and give her less of your precious time. When that happens you will have more time to invest in a person who also values growth in a relationship.
Yes! There’s intangible constructs too in a relationship. It can dwindle, then what do you do to make your relationship stronger? Get married. Happens again? Have kids. Kids moved out? Now those responsibilities are gone, and there’s more time for the relationship. Has there been a spark the whole time? Have you made your partner feel chases the entire time? Commitment doesn’t correlate to love in a relationship, but love in a relationship has effortless commitment.
You deserve a soul-to-soul relationship. Your soulmate will vibe with you, heal with you, grow with you, evolve with you and make you love yourself more.❤
summary: 1. You show your affection 1:01 2. You are able to communicate with each other 1:25 3. You emotionally bond with them 1:48 4. You make up after arguments 2:12 5. You appreciate each other 2:37 6. You see a future together 3:01 7. You balance housework 3:24 8. You give each other personal space 3:52 Recommend watching to learn more 💕
I have been in a long distance relationship for more than 2 years now, it can be incredibly difficult at times but every summer we make an effort to see each other in person. We have every one of these habits but I still feel like theres a distance when we’re apart. Advice I have for anybody who is going into or is already in a long distance relationship is that after the initial lovey dovey phase and somewhere between the 8-12 month mark take a trip to see them. This can really solidify the relationship between you two and can give you insight if you’ll be with them in the future. If you still love them with all your heart and you have to leave that feeling might be fade away or it may feel like the love gone. I want you to remember back to when you were with them in person and remember how you felt. This always helps me get through a day where I have a lot of anxiety, I know when I’m next to my lover I’m going to feel that same love in the future. It may sound weird but this really helps, at least for me anyway. Feel free to share your experiences with online relationships or if you need advice I can try my best to help!
Never judge a book by it's cover. When I met my boyfriend, he was smoking and drinking a lot, but as we began dating and I expressed my wish that he would quit smoking and lessen drinking, he did. It took some time and at some point it looked like we weren't meant to be and he just wasn't ready to let go of that, but he proved to me that he was able to do it for the sake of our relationship. I too have things he wanted me to improve on and I'm working on them as well! We've been together for 4 years now.
i mean schools just want you to learn what is traditional and for this kind of stuff ig you are the one who shld learn them and they don't care if u learn this kinda mental health stuff or not at schl :(
It is so nice to finally be in a healthy relationship that checks these boxes. ❤️ We trust each other, respect each other, show affection and appreciation, we are truly a team and I've never felt more loved. I wish this kind of love for everyone! 💗
I have been married 23 years and our relationship has been flourishing. We have 2 grown men! I think trust, affection and forgiveness are crucial In a relationship. I loved this list and agree.
Im totally agree, overall with "forgiveness" my ex wife (we're divorcing right now) told me that she can't and won't never forgive me for my mistakes (I've never cheated on her or something like that, I recognize my defaults) while I Forgave her for punching me, split my face, say that I'm useless , I deserve to die and all other stuff when we were discussing... Anyways, even if I didn't wanted to divorce I'm starting to see the toxic relationship that I was having with her. In her own words " I'm too resentful and I'll never be available to forgive you" ...
@bree A man wouldn't get treated like that he would make her learn her place. She is clearly a narcissist women and he was her best victim. She would not be able to treat a normal guy with such an attitude. Any normal guy would have left the relationship earlier , so this guy has severe insecurity issues and lack testosterone I guess, there is no ounce of masculinity in him maybe thats why she treated him this way majority of woman hate such men and have a tendency to shame them or punish them. Men are attracted to feminity and woman are attracted to masculinity. This guy lacks masculinity maybe due to lack of strong male role models and that resulted in low confidence and low self esteem. Men need masculine energy, without it men are lost, they become unpredictable, insecure or dangerous. Look at all the rapists and psychos out there almost all of them lack male role models and have narcissist single mothers. Men with good male role models have good self esteem and do good things in society and have more confidence He may have copied some females in his childhood, that is ok for a woman but it is not healthy for a man. Best thing he could do is having more company with men, go to gym and have fight (i mean boxing training). If you are a woman you wouldn't understand its postive effect on men, but for men its a great relief.
@@jimmoriarty4530 you are literally the definition of “ boys don’t cry” men and woman, in fact ANY gender is aloud to have emotions and saying the he wasn’t masculine enough and that, that was the reason that woman left is shameful honestly 😕 I know you were just stating your opinion but please be considerate of other’s feelings before you post something, being in a toxic relationship is really hard whether it is romantically or not it’s toxic either way, it’s not easy to get away from it, they manipulate you to think that what their doing is normal and because you love them you believe them and go along with it I’m sorry if I offended you but please don’t comment things like this
after so many toxic relationships, i finally understood what an actual healthy relationship is supposed to be like thanks to my current 🥰 i realised the things i used to worry and stress about when i was with my exes, no longer haunt me anymore. and i cant explain that feeling of relief and weight that has been lifted off my shoulders all bc of him. as much as its not his responsibility, he taught me to love myself again and i have no words to show how grateful and lucky i am to have him be part of my life.
@@dutawe i can't be all mad after all my persona makes it so people don't offer help, pity me, or say just be happy and lets just say my second persona isn't one that should be shown oh and i dumped a girl after a few weeks
My wife and I watched this together and we tick all the boxes! With regards to household chores, we find a 60/40 split works where both people are trying to be the ones doing 60% of the work. That way if one person is sick, the other is ready to take over the extra work right away.
Our 6-year anniversary is next month... time really flies when your partner is also your best friend. We've been through some craziness together but I think it's only made us stronger and taught us a lot of life lessons.
how have yall lived each other for so long? i feel as if my bf is getting bored of me, he doesnt really ask yo hang out anymore and hes gotten dry… how do i fix that?
Something me and my partner always do is that when we get into a scuffle, we take some time to cool off, then discuss the problem and solve it. It's always us against the problem, not against each other. Taking the time to figure out what's wrong and how to prevent something like that from happening has really helped us.
this is something i’m still trying to get used to, when he says he wants time to himself for a while after our fight it makes me think he doesn’t want me anymore. i’ve never done this kind of thing with anyone before so to know that it’s good to cool off then discuss the problem is very reassuring :)
My Personal Experience in a Relationship: -Always be there for them -Write them letters or Express your feelings to them everyday -Tell them you love them everyday -Give them hugs when they need it or just give them all the time -Find enough quality time for each other -Don't focus on something else such as your phone or others while your with them (For me, It's a good way so you can have a good time rather than being distracted) -Treat them well and Smile everyday at them that your happy to see them -Hear their thoughts out and don't pressure or get mad at them unless you have a reason to -Say you won't ever leave them -Share a kiss every now and then -If they have mental breakdowns always comfort them, If they refuse or won't let you, Don't overreact and force yourself because they also need some alone time -Tell them what's wrong so they can help you or can talk it out -Don't text dry or talk less to them in person or online because they think your uninterested to them or they think you don't love them Hope some of these can make your relationship healthier and stronger with your partner. :) Edit: - Also love your partner for who they are and never change them and also be yourself to them. Be someone that's you that they will love and don't try to be cool because it makes them less interested and don't show off on anything you have and always be supportive towards them.
She's all in here, she don't wanna help her out, she don't wanna talk about the problems we had, she usually dry text when I don't even know what's happening and what's wrong, I... don't fuckin understand love. I hate this trauma i had.
For me the “showing affection” part is what really made the difference in the relationship I had with my boyfriend before we got together and other friends - and still sets it apart. I can become friends with people quickly and be open, but being affectionate or touching others has always been difficult for me. I’m not a very touchy person - except with my boyfriend. I’m also the most open about insecurities and showing my weaknesses, being vulnerable. And we both agree that talking is key in a relationship. He sometimes wants to hold back from telling me things because he doesn’t want to make me sad, but when I ask him to tell me, because I believe that I need to know if I did something wrong or if he doesn’t feel that good about something, he does. Yes, one time it really hurt me, but if he wouldn’t have told me, I might have hurt him again unknowingly. I’m also better at handling my anger. When I feel upset about something, I think about again and ask myself “If I do as I’m feeling and am all cranky - would that be worth the fight we might have? Would that help? Or don’t I just rather want to hug him and maybe calmly tell him what I didn’t like?” Usually it makes me calm down. Acting out of anger usually doesn’t help.
what if your partner is happy with someone. and thinking that person is only making friends with her but actually flirting with her. but no matter how you warn her she still choose to make him her "forever bestfriend". and it creates so much anxiety on me and so many insecurities.
@@johnchristianguevarra7320 well, you try your best to communicate those exact feelings, how anxious it makes you. But I also believe it’s important to say, that you don’t intend to forbid her anything or force her to terminate the friendship. You just want to put your honest and true feelings out there and hope, you can figure something out together. Maybe she can try to imagine herself in your place to empathise with you. And I really recommend to make sure you’re as calm as possible before you start talking about it. You wouldn’t want a fight, but you want to be understood and you want your feelings to be considered too.
i can relate to u in terms of the emotional side and feeling sad and all. i personally am not good at thinking before acting so the questions you wrote out are super helpful, and i’ll probably use them in the future, so thank you ❤
A huge thing is respecting and communicating boundaries as well, and coming together to a middle ground. If one person has boundaries that the other ignores, and said party has to just deal with it, it leads to a lot of arguments and pent up anger. Sometimes people can't accept that if someone doesn't want to respect your boundaries, no matter how much you love them, it's best to let them go and find someone who will.
being in a long distance relationship is rough, but that just means you can grow stronger with them! even if you can’t physically be with them, you can still let them know your affection and love:)! (i say this because i’m in one myself). edit: this got more attention than i expected, and i did want to say that i am no longer in a long distance relationship. however, it was not due to the distance at all, simply too many conflicts between us. i’m in a different relationship (not long distance), and i just encourage everyone to find their person (if they want one) no matter the distance.
@@nataliafrinak lol i’m not in a long distance relationship anymore, but it didn’t end cause it was long distance or anything. i wish you and your partner the best! ldr personally isn’t for me, but it’s still something well worth your time and effort:)
How me and my boyfriend keep a healthy relationship we communicate we have conversations and talk about making our relationship stronger and working things out
I will forever be indebted to the great Dr Olu for fixing my broken relationship after my husband left me for his mistress for 6 months.I never believed in spells until my friend introduced me to him。At first ， I was skeptical about him because I heard a lots about false spell casters but l put my doubts behind me for i was desperate to get my husband back and I did according to what he instructed me to do。Now my husband is back just within 22 hours of contacting him。
I’m currently talking to a girl and I realized last night that I had the potential to make it unhealthy because I’ve never had something where Personal Space is a thing and she doesn’t need to depend on me ALL the time. My last relationship was toxic in that sense. She has a bestie and she has her own friends and so do I, but I always tried to be with her all the time. This video just made me realize that she needs boundaries, but really I do too. And that I could also use light therapy because my last relationship was traumatic 😭
This hit me hard, man. I’m in the same situation and realized the same thing about myself last night. It’s uplifting to see someone else is experiencing the same thing and working to create their own boundaries. You’ve got this, friend!
What do I do when all I can think about is them. I have my own friends, do my own shit, but I’d always think about them. We are far apart and whenever they take too long to respond, I always overthink and get so emotional. I know there are boundaries yet still I am a very emotional person.
@@user-kx6fw8ub9g I think it is not always bad to feel alone being without the other. Boundaries can be something really simple as your own bank account, going for walks or groceries without the other. having your own space in a room the other don't clean up without asking. Or simply being able to read a book without getting interrupted. Not all boundaries need to be physical or hard drawn. I live with my bf for 6/7 years now and we shared his room at his parent's before that for way too long ( 14 years relationship). Some boundaries aren't possible space wise and others aren't wanted depending on the persons. Just talk with your partner what boundaries you expect and what they expect. You should find a middleground for you individually.
This explains why my last relationship was so bad. I was not comfortable with the idea of talking about my feelings because I was doing all the things at home, I had no personal space, she required all the attention in the world, everything about my life before I knew her was a problem... I didn't know what anxiety was until I was with her. It was so frustrating and self-consuming. It was like denying a part of me and denying most of my life because of her traumas. And I'm not putting all the shame on her, because she was working hard on fixing everything was wrong in her life. It was a situation to complicated we can't handle it in the proper way.
@@userm180 i just saw this! Yes I'm fine now, thanks for asking :) It's tough until everything gets its place and it's meaning in your thoughts but it is worth the time trying to put everything together. Slow process but I feel ready to meet new people and try to be in a new and healthier relationship. Those who are in this process, don't give up!
@@kiwistea He just needs..time? I'm not sure, but I think maybe your bestfriend can tell him that he can tell her anything, and that they can solve their problems together instead of running away from the issue.
I think it's also very important to thank each other for the small thing they do, but also for chores they do etc. My mom never did that so I learned the value of it a long time ago and brought it in my relationship. You can't imagine how good it feels if your partner says: Well done, thank you for taking this of my hands/doing this.
Me and my partner have been together since we were 15 and now we’re both almost 21. I think when we were younger we both made mistakes but I’m glad we’ve persevered and I feel like we are only getting stronger. I always get asked ‘how have you maintained a strong relationship, especially at a young age?’ And I always say, trust, honesty, communication, support for one another and affection are definitely some of the most important factors.
I pray you both have stories to tell your children & grandchildren one day. I imagine it can be hard. Heck I’m cheering you both on from Ohio 😅 much bliss to you both
My partner and I have been together for quite some time now and one thing we’ve learned that best helps our relationship to flourish is by having no distractions before bed (phones, tv, books to read etc.) and really just lye together in bed and have a conversation. Trust me 10 min of each other’s time fulfills so much more than you’d think emotionally. Especially if other things take up most of your time without each other.
I can tell I'm in the right guy already. He is so expressive and straightforward. Like one time, he approached me and told me he's not comfortable (and jealous) with the guy I'm talking too; I don't hate it, I love it when he's being honest, and that I can adjust and knows my boundaries. Healthy relationship is through having open minded and very understanding to each other.
U know how cats head bonk people when they love them? I sent my best friend a meme about that and at the end of the vid she sent me a text saying, "bonk". I know it's silly but it made me feel happy
Communication is very important and I learned that with my current relationship. I used to be emotionally immature but now I have improved although I’m still working on it. This is talking from a girl’s perspective and in my experience: guys are simple minded and can sometimes be a bit dense (ofc everyone is different). so when I act immature like being dry and give him a silent treatment whenever he ignores me for hours, I learned that it doesn’t benefit anybody because I would still feel shit and he wouldn’t pick that up most of the time. As we progressed into this relationship we both discussed about how we would communicate better. I tell him what bothers me and be straight forward in the most gentle way as possible because I don’t want to sound like a dramatic gf… and that works very well in my relationship. I became better with my emotional maturity as I progressed into this relationship and overall makes me slowly become a better person. What I’m trying to say is that If ur partner makes you become a better person, it shows ur in a healthy relationship :)
Thank you for adding in “seeing a future together” my boyfriend and I are both 16, we’ve been together for about a year and a half now. I know I’m still young, and whenever I say “i see a future with him” to someone in my family , they make fun of me :(( I’m happy that it’s a sign of a healthy relationship
while marriage is the goal it’s not always the case. i’m sorry your parents invalidate your feelings. love doesn’t have an age. my grandparents were high school sweethearts and are now happily married! ❤️
Im 18, my partner is 19. We've only been together for 7 months and i absolutely want a future with him. Saying you want/see a future doesnt mean like oh my god we're gonna get married, buy a house, get a dog, and have a baby next year. Its simply saying, that when you think of your future you want them in it. Ik dating to date is a thing and im not shaming anyone who does, but I personally date someone cuz i see a possibility for a long term relationship and i think people don't understand that and think young people are being reckless ya know? I thought the same thing as you when i was in a relationship at your age, and even tho it ended terribly and was a massive mistake, i still wouldn't shame you for thinking that way. I hope y'all are still together, and strong and healthy as ever.
I’m 24, my partner is 22 we’ve been together for 3 and a half years any day Spent with him is amazing ❤️❤️🥺🥺. Before we started dating we were best friends and we still are ❤️. We’ve known each other for 7 and a half years. Together in our friendship we formed a physical connection and in our relationship we formed an emotional connection. ❤️🥺🥰
Met my partner at 16, we’ve been together 7 years now and plan to marry in the next few. It all depends on maturity imo. I’d say 90% of teenage relationships don’t last, and thats okay. Its important to have experienced the world while you’re young, if this person has the same goals as you, you both can grow and experience the world together. Its not always easy but its worth it for your person. Don’t bother with other peoples opinions. No one, other the the couple, knows the seriousness or extent of the relationship. My only advice, don’t rush it. You have a lifetime to get married, have children, etc. Enjoy the time spent growing, maturing, and figuring out life together. People change a lot from 16-25, so its important to have a strong foundation and understanding of yourself, your partner and each other, before jumping into things. ❤️
I met my partner at 16 years old. He was 17. ALOT of people have doubted us. Especially my family. They actually don’t and still are not fond of him because he doesn’t fit their standards of wanting to become a doctor or some bs 🙄. It’s been 4 years this coming may and I still love him with all of my heart. Try to stay open minded and not be naive, but also enjoy the journey and don’t let others opinions and advice run YOUR relationship.
this has just confirmed to me that my boyfriend and i have a very healthy relationship 1 year in.. :) i see our future together too. He is a gem, and i often feel undeserving of his goodness. i love you johnny
Listen, I came here to do research for a story I’m doing…but I took a step back after hearing the last one….I have done all of the other things so effortlessly…but that straight up made me cry. I remember when I was a young girl first going into the dating world because of peer pressure. It felt like I was pushed into a world I didn’t know…I wish I knew these things before…I always thought relationships were about the pure love and joy, but the truth is…it isn’t that. At the end of the day it is two or more individuals with thoughts…feelings…dreams and desires coming together and trying to build a world of their own *together.* Not by relying on the other to put all the hard work… I wish I knew the last one….but sometimes when you love someone so much, you fear of loosing them..and if you cling onto them…*That fear will soon become nothing but the truth…and you have to accept when it happens..* Because that is just life. ❤
Due to quarantine here in Brazil, i can't see her now (i'm also a suspect case of covid) but i talk to her everyday, show affection, do jokes and say every single day how beautiful, awesome and especial she is
mano eu to ha 4 meses sem ver meu namorado, e o nome dele também é Andre Luiz habsjnsjs to mt chocada aqui, tava vendo isso malzona de saudade e achei seu comentario do nada e ow melhoras!!! espero q vc consiga ver ela em segurança logo! 💕
im much more comfortable with talking about my feelings than the person i’m talking to is, and it’s hard at times but they’re getting the hang of it. communication is so important and being able to express how you feel is truly what holds relationships together.
12 years with my hubby it definitely was a challenge there were a lot of ups and downs now we are more mature and talk about situations instead of argueing like we used to back in our early twenties our love has grown stronger that's for sure
In our household, we have a clear rule of "personal space". Our son has a form of autism and ADD/ADHD. We love him with all we have, but sometimes he is too much for one parent. I work full-time, my wife works part-time. Every day we discuss our days, and work out a balance between personal space and caring for our son.
One extra habit that we should have is to respect each other time with friends or recreation time without us, it is important because we have to be able to spend and enjoy time without our partner, and then came around and talk about our experiences 💕
I too totally believe this is a healthy thing to do. I personally need my own time with friends or just on my own, to experience things as an individual, outside of the couple. Then when we see each other again is sweeter, cause we created the chance to miss each other 😊 and we have new things to share ❤
We've been in love with each other for a long time, but it's just finally happening. Communication is huge. I had to learn how to talk things out. I was so timid and kept everything to myself, and it wasn't good for us.
I was having a hard time the other day and was feeling really overwhelmed and my love just held me and listened to me talk. He had so much love in his eyes as he listened to me that I felt grateful for him just being there. And basically, when I was talking to him I figured out my own solution lol
@@ahmedbelkacem14 we're 9 months into our relationship and everything is amazing! we have great communication, lots of trust and sooo much love to give to each other every day!!! definitely am super in love with him 🥰
Finally! A positive video! I’ve been scrolling for weeks and I kept seeing “Signs of a Narcissist” “Signs You’re In A Unhealthy Relationship” etc. This is so nice! :)
As someone who's finally in a healthy relationship after 11 different short lived toxic relationships with two that I loved. I just want to say to people who've found themselves in the same predicament of always choosing "the wrong people" that you're not cursed and as much as movies and media romanticise it, healthy love is rare. You're not cursed, one day you will find someone who treats you with the respect you deserve better than any scripted movie. As a serial dater after any relationship ended I took a year to myself to improve my wellbeing and mindset and just when I wasn't looking I fell for this amazing man that I can't live without. Stay strong and hopeful, you're not jaded, broken or cursed. One day the right person will come along when you least expect (if that's on your agenda the world is diverse not everyone goes down that path) ❤️ wishing you all the best
Thank you Paige. I really needed to hear this. Been on and off with someone since 2020 and we recently decided to end things for good. We've done that before many times. I think I just need a year to myself to really figure myself out. There's so much to heal from.
I've been in a relationship with my man for almost 3 years now, and yes, we've been through a lot of fights and arguments. At first, I thought it was all very unnecessary until I learned that those fights are as inportant as the happy moments we've had. Now, we've learned along the way how to compromise and make way at the same time without having to discourage our own selves.
Before, I had a toxic relationship. On and off. I wasn't able to determine that it was totally a bad decision to stay a relationship like that. But right now, I had a healthy relationship, though it's not perfect but we always do this thing as what the video mentioned. Hoping for the best in our relationship ❤️
My current bf has really taught me how to be healthier. My last relationship was really toxic and my current partner really makes me feel so special. He actually listens and wants to know how I feel. He’s really had to push at times to get me to talk about how i feel because I was so used to keeping it myself. He doesn’t judge me and we’re really there for each other. Things just feel very equal in what we give to each other.
Something I have learned in all of my relationships is to understand each other's love languages, and always communicate, even if you are worried of the reaction.
I do all of these things!! I’m so grateful to have my boyfriend in my life, I only wish I could say I cuddle a lot and trust them. Due to my PTSD I’m not able to cuddle them for long periods of time or I’ll get scared. He understands but I know deep inside it upsets him that we can’t cuddle or kiss nonchalantly, I have to be warned or I’ll get an anxiety attack. I hope to go to therapy soon
Im so happy my current relationship applies to all of this because i used to be in a pretty toxic relationship and i loves the girl so much but then found out she was cheating on me im so happy that i found someone who is just like me in a huge multitude of ways and understands me and can handle my wierd jokes. She is just like me. sometimes my friends like to joke around and say she is me from a different universe and others say i should marry her right away. And she is one of the first people to truly care for me. My own mother gave me such a rough childhood and i was going through depression but ever since i met my current girlfriend i have been feeling better every day and i feel like such a lucky guy.
It's been a great ride and I've largely been there for her. The difficulty for me is working with insecurities from my childhood either from trauma (and working through that on top of everything) or mental configuration solidified by social construct and interactions, as well as rewiring myself into how to work to make things healthy. I sometimes get "off" and feel the connection is a little shaky, moments of being unsure of what is real and how to come back to what I feel for her. Everything is genuine and passionate and there is a lot of work, but I make sure I tell her how much I appreciate her and live her and am proud. It's long distance too, so there's the extra obstacle that takes surmounting. But my difficulties lie in going through this for the first time, waking up spiritually, healing and simply just understanding traumas, and reworking my configured mental framework to be conducive in a healthy relationship. She is everything to me.
The fact that me and my partner are different is what makes our relationship so interesting and fun. We have the same sense of humour but we have different perspectives of many things. It’s interesting to discuss it while keeping an open mind ☺️
I’ve been with my fiancé for going on 4 years. We started out with a rocky relationship, there was distrust in each other because of past relationships. We worked through those walls that we put up, fell in love, and here we are, years later planning our wedding & future family. An amazing realization from this video is that I’m in a super healthy relationship. We argue about house chores, occasionally, but that’s it. I’m so proud to be in a healthy relationship, I see myself with him for the rest of my life ☺️☺️
Sounds like you’re a wonderful friend. In the end many things such as talking to each other and being content with one another crosses over into all types of relationships.
You shouldn't, your problems unless their is clear abuse of any kind emotional, sexual, physical, should not be discussed with friends yours or your spouse, it always causes more problems then solutionsin your relationship, to many hands spoil the soup
I'm happy to say that my relationship reflects all of these habits. It's a struggle now that he's stationed far away with the military, but I think we're doing amazingly well and going strong after 8 years. :)
Was in a toxic relationship, thought being yelled at and pressured into things were ‘normal’. Now that I’m in a healthy relationship, I can communicate and take things slow with him without feeling anxious. I love him and I see a future with him. ❤
I am in a bad relationship and agree with this list. I would say time to be yourself is good but also deal with your problems and don't make them part of your relationship dynamic. Each person should be able to fill their place and have the relationship add to who they are.
Me and my partner have been together for 11 months, we ended high school together, and we have both been very close but not clingy with one another. He lets himself be vulnerable with me, something that he finds pretty hard to do, same with me, but we have both promised each other to never hide things from each other if it's hurting us. He also is just my anchor at the worst of times when my anxiety gets out of hand, he reassures me that mistakes are normal. We hope this relationship lasts! xx Have a lovely day~
2:37 I ALWAYS DO THIS WITH MY GF, I literally write her PARAGRAPHS of how much I appreciate her, her personality, her beauty, EVERYTHING. I'm SO happy to be in such a healthy relationship it's insane, she brightens up my day and I'm so greatful I met her, I can't wait for the day we meet in person
Never experienced these in my past abusive relationship. Now, I'm experiencing most of these with my current boyfriend. It's kinda overwhelming at first because I thought I did not deserve to be respected and all. But he always remind me that I deserve the world and I should be treated with all the love and care. It really takes time to find that someone who will make you feel everything.
I always try to remind my husband how much we appreciate him. He does a lot for us and he keeps the routine in the house going. He helps with all outside errands while I stay home with the toddler and expecting our second. If I ask him to do the dishes he’ll do that AND fold the laundry and whatever else he sees that needs to get done. I always remind him he keeps the wheel going with us. He’s a huge part of our team that keeps us going.
My partner and I do almost all of these! It takes humility and work though. One thing I could do better is to handle disagreements in a calm manner and non-attacking manner. Its something I've grown up doing with my family but I realize it's not good.
Me and my partner always speak openly about our feelings and thoughts about past, present and future, whether it’s about our relationship or just life in general. We want to prioritize our mental health and well being since both of us aren’t espacially mentally healthy and have been receiving our fair share of negative energy from other people around us. Even though we’ve only been together for a little over three months, I am able to be more vulnerable around my partner than I ever was around another person before (which is really hard for me considering some past experiences) and even though they are still a little bit more closed when it comes to expressing negative feelings directly in person, they also do tell me it’s absolutely not my fault and that I do actually improve their mental health and make them feel appreciated. I have been feeling down this week and my partner has spend a lot of time with me, just cuddling and talking or watching a show or movie together. I sometimes still don’t feel like this relationship is real because I was sure I‘d either live in an unhappy relationship or stay single forever. While my partner has been an amazing help this week, I of course try my best as well. I try to shower them with affection and appreciation, espacially when I feel like they need it. Simple gestures are also really important for me: I put my partner‘s favorite drink in the fridge before they visit, prepare a hot water bottle to put under the blanket or make pancakes as breakfast at the weekend. I am rambling way too much. The only thing I’ve learned from this: There is a person out there that will understand you and bring out the best in you. A relationship is a beautiful thing and if it’s not there probably is something going wrong.
All great habits! 😊 I know with my girlfriend we encourage and reward when either of us ask for reassurance of any kind. We acknowledge that asking for reassurance is not innately attacking, but rather that it is innately loving to provide your partner with reassurance when needed. This leads to a very healthy and open dynamic for us 😊
I feel like as long as both partners are honest, daily communicate and have a spirit of sharing the load of life together, it will most likely work out. ☺️
This reminds me the relationship I'm in now is very healthy. We still fight at times but always make up after, actually genuinely make up not just with sex. My exes didn't do any of these things, especially helping with housework, communicating and affection that wasn't sex
1. You show your affection. 2. You are able to communicate with each other. 3. You emotionally bond with them. 4. You make up after arguments. 5. You appreciate each other. 6. You see a future together. 7. You balance housework. 8. You give each other personal space.
This is my first healthy relationship. I've been in toxic relationships basically since I started the dating scene. And this video backs up that this is healthy as can be. I love him to death and he feels the same way. ❤
We are together for 5 year , but we have so much pain in our life but we are always together . my personal experience- don't giveup on relationship that will make you mentally strong and confidence in your life that you are not giving up in any field of your life . so use your relationship to build your mind .
Psych2Go, thank you so much! I've learned a lot from this channel and it has allowed me to be there for other people which is what I've always wanted ever since i was little
I really love the content, it's so useful!! BUT can we take a moment to appreciate the visuals for the videos as well?! Like wow they make the information so much more understandable!
I just got into my first relationship last month and it brings me strength to watch this because me and my girlfriend have basically all of these things. Thanks for bringing to light the sighs that it’s going well, it really gives my confidence that this will last.
Based on the way it feels, and this video really backed it up... I am in a healthy relationship. It feels amazing 🥰 He is amazing, sweet, funny, we are alike but also very different... We can be comfortably silent together, have deep and meaningful conversations, and be silly and laugh together. We respect eachothers boundaries, and have been able to overcome our first small obstacles and arguments in a healthy way. We mainly see eachother in the weekends because of work and there being 2 households. However, sometimes we love a weekend to ourselves... That's the way we have some distance every now and then. A weekend where I can watch movies, enjoy my own (and my 2 cats) company for a bit, or do something fun with friends or family... He has a mild form of autism and he just needs to recharge sometimes too, so that's what he does in a weekend like that. Mostly we see each other 2 or 3 weekends in a row, and then followed by one where we don't. It's hard for the first week but it gets a little easier after that. And an awesome bonus is that you can really tell we've missed one another, when we see each other again. And even though each weekend we spend together is amazing, that weekend after not seeing eachother for 2 weeks is always just a teeny tiny bit better ☺️ And that's really in the most positive way possible, because what it does is that it really reminds us of how crazy we are about one another each and everytime ❤
Sooo true! I’ve been with my current boyfriend for almost 6 months now. And it wasn’t until recently that we started opening up to each other. We started becoming more vulnerable with each other. After that, we naturally just became more affectionate toward each other, and I think it’s because we were able to see each others soft spots and appreciate each other more after sharing intimate thoughts and feelings. at this point I feel like our relationship has gotten stronger by the day :)
Remember a line from Stephen covey that is apt for building relationships Love is not an adjective but a verb. It needs loving work and constant nurturing. Great suggestions 👍
I think splitting financial things up is important. That you both pay your fair share. Also Honesty and Loyalty are massive. Being financially fair, and loyalty are huge, unless you and your partner have already had a talk and agreed on something different. Also communication is the biggest and best thing you can have in your relationship. I’m talking about all the relationship stuff ahead of time is the best thing you can do. Relationship stuff like if you want a monogamous relationship or a poly relationship. What you consider cheating to be, because apparently it’s not the same for everyone. If your goal with this relationship is to one day get married and have kids, or move in with each other, or if you’d rather just stay dating, never have kids, and never move in with each other. How much personal space you actually like to have, what you are and aren’t comfortable with, etc. I found it to be very helpful for me with my current partner to talk about all of this right away. If your partner is actually the one, I feel like they would be pretty OK with talking about all that kind of stuff right away.
Wow my relationship has almost all of them. The only one it's missing is a balance of chores because I'm dealing with a disability and slowly getting back to my half of the chores but my boyfriend is doing my share in the meantime. I still do what small things I can and I make sure to tell him how much I appreciate and love him. He's so understanding and supportive ❤
I was in a relationship for 11 years. We met when we were 17. Everything was wonderful, we had fun together, laughed a lot, shared the same hobbies and saw a future. After 4 years he asked me to marry him. I was so happy and said yes! We moved together in our first home. But after that... Nothing happened... The years passed by and he never said a word after that about getting married or having a family... I waited for 7 years... I gave hints about it. That he had to ask me again because he didn't marry me after 1 year. He said that he has to to it then. But nothing happened. After these 7 years I asked him finally "do you still wanna marry me?" and he said "I don't know. We are together for so long. We don't have to get married." I was sad... So I asked him "what about being a family?" and he told me "it's not a must have to have children these days." I was crushed. After that i realised we were drifting apart. He was busy 6 days a week and the day we spend together he was on his computer or in the gym... I had to make a decision. So I told him to leave. I talked to him for weeks. But nothing changed. I'm 29 now and started a second time. I found a new partner. He is 35 now and was one of my best friends and I was never even thinking about getting together with him. We just talked from time to time or wished "happy birthday" every year. But now I'm happy again. After half a year we moved together. He said that he could imagine about getting married and having children. My family and friends told me that I just changed my partner. That me and my ex were together for 11 years and I couldn't just "waste" all this time... I had to make a choice. Starting again or maybe being sad for the rest of my life... I made a choice and I thing I made the right one.
I swear I fall in love with my partner more and more every day. Its in the little things. Recently I've noticed that his smile could put the sun itself to shame with how quickly it can light up a room. You know something is healthy when they can turn you're entire mood around with a hug. When you're with them you know everything's going to be okay. I've never been anxious about anything with them. There's no darkness in the relationship, no stress or anger just love and movie nights and hugs. When it's right you know. And it'll come when you least expect it. I've been with him for nearly 8 months now and I wouldn't change it for the world.
"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams."
--Dr. Seuss
Lmao I bet that's what he felt for his mistress while his wife was battling cancer
not being able to fall asleep sounds so healthy
@@mariunfabregas7533 haahahahaa, that was so spot on.
@@mariunfabregas7533 DAMMM
@@herticate8579 Mm
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Respect her, make her your best friend and never lie to her. That’s how I treat my Girlfriend
She’s a special girl 🥺♥️
Aww ❤️
Awwe shoutout to youu u-u✨
Someone get this man an award. Thank you!
Awwwww
1.) You show your affection
2.) You are able to communicate
3.) You emotional bond with them
4.) You make up after arguments
5.) You appreciate each other
6.) See a future together
7.) Balance housework
8.) Give each other personal space
@Riverz Wyte oh I see, you're a spammer
@Riverz Wyte I lost a few braincells reading this
Thank you👍🏿
We both have all of those but sometimes 2.) we struggle with when were both sad at the same time
Hmm sounds like a relationship I am about to go into has all of those qualities
For anyone out there who's confused and unsure how a strong, healthy relationship looks like, I'd add to this video one thing: true love comes in the small, everyday things. When I was tired one day but failed to fall asleep, my dearest brought me warm milk with honey out of the blue to help me fall asleep. That's better than thousand gifts and thousand roses followed by silence.
Absolutely. I would like to add: Little compromises. Like I love long spaghetti and my husband doesn't. But from time to time he says: "We hadn't the long spaghetti for a while. Come we use them this time."
Aww that was rlly sweet of them, and youre right it really is about those littls things every day
Shit my gf dislike milk... We will never be happy ;-;
Aww, my bf has a supperrr long day and was exhausted but still took the time to ask how my day was and comfort me since I had had a bad day before sleeping, it might be simple, but it meant a lot to me. And the other day i brought him his favorite snacks when he was at work. It really is the small things
@@ralphisxamida8533 thats adoraaaabllleee! My bf is picky and if i wanted something he doesnt like i'd just end up making it for myself and he'd make himself a sandwich or something 😂
It’s crazy how different being in a healthy relationship does to you. I was in a toxic one before and I really thought that being yelled at, humiliated, lied to bc i ‘deserve’ it, and all of the bad things were normal, and that it was my fault for making things worse by asking questions or getting my feelings involved.
Bro now I’m in such a healthy relationship that we don’t argue because we TALK. Arguing and talking are two completely different things, did yall know that!?? Lmao it’s just so crazy how my partner actually wants to know how I feel and what my love language is so she can treat me better. I am so attracted to my partner physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally..geez all of the above. She’s even got me here wanting to fix my family problems too! Don’t settle for less yall, because there IS someone better.
That's good!!!
I'm so happy for u. I'm experiencing the same with my current partner. Cheers and may god blessed all of us more!!!
I am happy that you found the right one!!😊
I relate and I'm happy for you ❤️ that's progress
Maybe... JUST maybe... an argument can still be an argument, BUT the methods of PROposing an argument are different from IMposing that same argument...You can still argue the least popular Point of View in the room, BUT while proposing well, you do NOT have to impose your personal POV nor engage in a shouting match... A genuinely "good" partner can draw that from you. ;o)
Communication is absolutely key. Communicate how you're feeling, what you think about things, when you're happy, when you're sad. I've found 9/10 arguments or misunderstandings are solved by just talking to one another like equals. Sounds basic & obvious, but you'd be surprised how little some people do it.
Communication's ability to heal a relationship comes crashing down when 1) you withold your feelings, concerns and wishes because the other person "should know this already" 2) you withold your feelings, concerns and wishes because the other person "never listens" and 3) you withold your feelings, concerns and wishes.
Nobody is a mind reader.
Also it's important to be transparent, receptive, proactive to solve the issues, also not to be dismissive of your partners feelings. Must be that comfort place to be open with each other and understanding and respecting differences, perspectives though validate each other's concerns. Do not be in competition with each other but a strong team, best friends, lovers and partners.
"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
--Maya Angelou
what do you do to someone "like me" who has no real emotion and instead acts like they do
@@vanillahibiscus486 forget, I forgot what a happy memory is ps i love how i watch these with my mental heath being unhealthy and doing nothing
Yep ♥
@@RedRoseSeptember22 oh and i had girlfriend. . . for 5 weeks and 3 days
Not true.. I remember what they did what was said etc and how it made me feel and how I walked away. X)
I write my fiance love letters out of the blue to remind him that he's the one for me. I also like to give him massages after a long day of work without the pressure of sex. Sometimes it's nice to know that you can just relax without having to worry about that stuff. Especially when you're tired.
He buys me flowers out of the blue, and when we have low funds, he picks them for me. 🌷 He's also a chef who makes beautiful meals for us, and introduces me to foods I've never had. 👨🍳😍
food is such an awesome way to connect people. my fiancé and i love to cook together. it’s some of my most cherished moments i have with him.
@RudGrl lmao hell yeah
this comment made my day :)
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That's really sweet. 💛
When you're in a wrong relationship, 6 months relationship will feel like forever. When you're in a right relationship, a 5 year relationship will feel like a few weeks.
Nope it's the opposite. In the beginning stages of my relationship, it felt like we were together for at least a year. We're seven months in and it feels like I've known him for years, so many fond memories already ❤️
Exactly. I remember in my past relationship I wasn't happy at all. It felt like as if it's been long we're dating each other but we did break up because it didn't last long but now I'm in a happy relationship with someone I know since 3 years
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@@LifeisaBeautifultingme and my fiancé make 5 years this summer! We felt the same way when we started dating and it went by so fast
I don't have a partner but I'm still watching
what i've learned being in my healthy relationship:
- give each other room to grow/change/mature. always love the person for who they are, not who you want them to be
- walk away from arguments so no one says anything hurtful in the moment, and come back when both partners are calmer
- jealousy and suffocation often go hand in hand. let them be. if they really love you, they'll never hurt you.
- remind them how loved they are every chance you get
- tell them you're proud of them. they might not be hearing it from other people
- choose them every single day, especially during difficult times
- let them pick the restaurant every once in awhile ;)
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Love this comment! Thanks for sharing 💕
Okay I do all these but wait a minute. The moment we get to picking the restaurant it always turns out whatever you want babe, coupled with the fact that I'm the most indecisive human on earth and we just end up not eating LMFAO
Some of us are so sensitive that they can hurt us while still having good intentions.
@@diegoanimations9504 I watched a TikTok about this a bit ago. They suggested keeping a list of your favorite restaurants. If it's her turn, ask her what food she's craving, look through the list, and then give her the top three restaurants that fit that.
I would add - helping each other grow, and sometimes it means discussing hindering habits, which hurt the ego. People who enable each other in their bad habits can seem happy but in reality have a very stagnant relationship.
I put all my time and am open to share my knowledge and resources with her .. I want to grow together but what if all she wants is someone to talk to and wastes all her time online ?
@@vaibhavsagar117 ask her what she wants 🌻
All she wants is someone to text her every few hours and do small talks like did you eat , what are you doin , where are you ... I would like to have some educational combo too but nah ... She doesn't do that
@@vaibhavsagar117 it seems like you guys value different things in relationships and it seems like it makes you feel frustrated. I get it, too much small talk makes me feel completely depleated. Why don’t you keep her as an acquaintance and give her less of your precious time. When that happens you will have more time to invest in a person who also values growth in a relationship.
Yes! There’s intangible constructs too in a relationship. It can dwindle, then what do you do to make your relationship stronger? Get married. Happens again? Have kids. Kids moved out? Now those responsibilities are gone, and there’s more time for the relationship. Has there been a spark the whole time? Have you made your partner feel chases the entire time?
Commitment doesn’t correlate to love in a relationship, but love in a relationship has effortless commitment.
You deserve a soul-to-soul relationship. Your soulmate will vibe with you, heal with you, grow with you, evolve with you and make you love yourself more.❤
If I have one but I don't unfortunately 😢
summary:
1. You show your affection 1:01
2. You are able to communicate with each other 1:25
3. You emotionally bond with them 1:48
4. You make up after arguments 2:12
5. You appreciate each other 2:37
6. You see a future together 3:01
7. You balance housework 3:24
8. You give each other personal space 3:52
Recommend watching to learn more 💕
Thanks chief 🙏
Thank you :)
Impossible
Thanks brother I appreciate this from you !
Thank you for the summary 👍🏿
*Watching these videos so I can take notes because I’m single.*
You’re not the only one, you know
me too
Same 🤣
Aye, single sqaud!😎
Aye...
I have been in a long distance relationship for more than 2 years now, it can be incredibly difficult at times but every summer we make an effort to see each other in person. We have every one of these habits but I still feel like theres a distance when we’re apart. Advice I have for anybody who is going into or is already in a long distance relationship is that after the initial lovey dovey phase and somewhere between the 8-12 month mark take a trip to see them. This can really solidify the relationship between you two and can give you insight if you’ll be with them in the future. If you still love them with all your heart and you have to leave that feeling might be fade away or it may feel like the love gone. I want you to remember back to when you were with them in person and remember how you felt. This always helps me get through a day where I have a lot of anxiety, I know when I’m next to my lover I’m going to feel that same love in the future.
It may sound weird but this really helps, at least for me anyway.
Feel free to share your experiences with online relationships or if you need advice I can try my best to help!
I do need advice
Me to
Going through this now 😅
Never judge a book by it's cover. When I met my boyfriend, he was smoking and drinking a lot, but as we began dating and I expressed my wish that he would quit smoking and lessen drinking, he did. It took some time and at some point it looked like we weren't meant to be and he just wasn't ready to let go of that, but he proved to me that he was able to do it for the sake of our relationship. I too have things he wanted me to improve on and I'm working on them as well! We've been together for 4 years now.
That gave me hope🌼
I wish u guys the best :-)
I hope that you will be together till death.
Amen.
BTW how are you guys doing now.
Are you still together. I HOPE SO.
Same here! How are you both??
I wish they showed theses videos at school instead of those other ones.
I have learned more about my mental health here than I have in school.
Periodt
Slow clap. Yes
i mean schools just want you to learn what is traditional and for this kind of stuff ig you are the one who shld learn them and they don't care if u learn this kinda mental health stuff or not at schl :(
It is so nice to finally be in a healthy relationship that checks these boxes. ❤️ We trust each other, respect each other, show affection and appreciation, we are truly a team and I've never felt more loved. I wish this kind of love for everyone! 💗
Same here!
I have been married 23 years and our relationship has been flourishing. We have 2 grown men! I think trust, affection and forgiveness are crucial
In a relationship. I loved this list and agree.
Im totally agree, overall with "forgiveness" my ex wife (we're divorcing right now) told me that she can't and won't never forgive me for my mistakes (I've never cheated on her or something like that, I recognize my defaults) while I Forgave her for punching me, split my face, say that I'm useless , I deserve to die and all other stuff when we were discussing... Anyways, even if I didn't wanted to divorce I'm starting to see the toxic relationship that I was having with her.
In her own words " I'm too resentful and I'll never be available to forgive you" ...
@@fu3g0100 😂 you let her do that to you? how can a man become such spineless? No wonder she left you
@bree A man wouldn't get treated like that he would make her learn her place. She is clearly a narcissist women and he was her best victim. She would not be able to treat a normal guy with such an attitude. Any normal guy would have left the relationship earlier , so this guy has severe insecurity issues and lack testosterone I guess, there is no ounce of masculinity in him maybe thats why she treated him this way majority of woman hate such men and have a tendency to shame them or punish them.
Men are attracted to feminity and woman are attracted to masculinity. This guy lacks masculinity maybe due to lack of strong male role models and that resulted in low confidence and low self esteem. Men need masculine energy, without it men are lost, they become unpredictable, insecure or dangerous. Look at all the rapists and psychos out there almost all of them lack male role models and have narcissist single mothers. Men with good male role models have good self esteem and do good things in society and have more confidence
He may have copied some females in his childhood, that is ok for a woman but it is not healthy for a man. Best thing he could do is having more company with men, go to gym and have fight (i mean boxing training). If you are a woman you wouldn't understand its postive effect on men, but for men its a great relief.
Goals right there
@@jimmoriarty4530 you are literally the definition of “ boys don’t cry” men and woman, in fact ANY gender is aloud to have emotions and saying the he wasn’t masculine enough and that, that was the reason that woman left is shameful honestly 😕 I know you were just stating your opinion but please be considerate of other’s feelings before you post something, being in a toxic relationship is really hard whether it is romantically or not it’s toxic either way, it’s not easy to get away from it, they manipulate you to think that what their doing is normal and because you love them you believe them and go along with it
I’m sorry if I offended you but please don’t comment things like this
After every argument, we take turns and tell at least 3 things that we like about each other. It keeps the balance in the right point.
that sounds like a great idea
I like this.
Plot twist, u r inconceivable 🏴🏴🏴
Nice
@@danyagha5654 u just want to ruin relationships don’t you? I know that you’re jealous, but go to hell.
after so many toxic relationships, i finally understood what an actual healthy relationship is supposed to be like thanks to my current 🥰 i realised the things i used to worry and stress about when i was with my exes, no longer haunt me anymore. and i cant explain that feeling of relief and weight that has been lifted off my shoulders all bc of him. as much as its not his responsibility, he taught me to love myself again and i have no words to show how grateful and lucky i am to have him be part of my life.
If anyone feels like they need a hug currently, me and my cat are watching together and she says *meow, virtual cat hug meow *
I don't need a hug I need a life
Enchanted Ink
Welcome to the club m8 :/
@@ihavenolife7032 and maybe a real personality
Enchanted Ink haha, yeah, i dont have a personality
@@dutawe i can't be all mad after all my persona makes it so people don't offer help, pity me, or say just be happy and lets just say my second persona isn't one that should be shown oh and i dumped a girl after a few weeks
A good sense of humour is essential!😉 ( my hubby and I are in our 38 th year of marriage).
Congratulations
Awwww ☺️
♥️
Beautiful!! 💕
can u give more advice/tips about how you stayed together for 38 years.
My wife and I watched this together and we tick all the boxes! With regards to household chores, we find a 60/40 split works where both people are trying to be the ones doing 60% of the work. That way if one person is sick, the other is ready to take over the extra work right away.
Have a good relationship man with her man don't lose her and don't let her lose you let it last forever
Our 6-year anniversary is next month... time really flies when your partner is also your best friend. We've been through some craziness together but I think it's only made us stronger and taught us a lot of life lessons.
Wow congratulations I’m so happy for you. I hope me and my girlfriend last that long
Hello I will pray for your best and may you and your husband/wife stay together till death. BTW how are you guys doing now.
@@shaneekrichely8445 Did you guys last?
@@FaithWasntTaken lmao were only at 9 months rn… but it’s going good so I hope
how have yall lived each other for so long? i feel as if my bf is getting bored of me, he doesnt really ask yo hang out anymore and hes gotten dry… how do i fix that?
Something me and my partner always do is that when we get into a scuffle, we take some time to cool off, then discuss the problem and solve it. It's always us against the problem, not against each other. Taking the time to figure out what's wrong and how to prevent something like that from happening has really helped us.
this is something i’m still trying to get used to, when he says he wants time to himself for a while after our fight it makes me think he doesn’t want me anymore. i’ve never done this kind of thing with anyone before so to know that it’s good to cool off then discuss the problem is very reassuring :)
“Us against the problem…not us against each other.” Well said.
"Its always us against the problem and not us against e/o"
Wow. Love that line nd mindset!!
This sounds very healthy and helpful thank you
That sounds comforting.
My Personal Experience in a Relationship:
-Always be there for them
-Write them letters or Express your feelings to them everyday
-Tell them you love them everyday
-Give them hugs when they need it or just give them all the time
-Find enough quality time for each other
-Don't focus on something else such as your phone or others while your with them (For me, It's a good way so you can have a good time rather than being distracted)
-Treat them well and Smile everyday at them that your happy to see them
-Hear their thoughts out and don't pressure or get mad at them unless you have a reason to
-Say you won't ever leave them
-Share a kiss every now and then
-If they have mental breakdowns always comfort them, If they refuse or won't let you, Don't overreact and force yourself because they also need some alone time
-Tell them what's wrong so they can help you or can talk it out
-Don't text dry or talk less to them in person or online because they think your uninterested to them or they think you don't love them
Hope some of these can make your relationship healthier and stronger with your partner. :)
Edit: - Also love your partner for who they are and never change them and also be yourself to them. Be someone that's you that they will love and don't try to be cool because it makes them less interested and don't show off on anything you have and always be supportive towards them.
She's all in here, she don't wanna help her out, she don't wanna talk about the problems we had, she usually dry text when I don't even know what's happening and what's wrong, I... don't fuckin understand love. I hate this trauma i had.
For me the “showing affection” part is what really made the difference in the relationship I had with my boyfriend before we got together and other friends - and still sets it apart. I can become friends with people quickly and be open, but being affectionate or touching others has always been difficult for me. I’m not a very touchy person - except with my boyfriend. I’m also the most open about insecurities and showing my weaknesses, being vulnerable. And we both agree that talking is key in a relationship. He sometimes wants to hold back from telling me things because he doesn’t want to make me sad, but when I ask him to tell me, because I believe that I need to know if I did something wrong or if he doesn’t feel that good about something, he does. Yes, one time it really hurt me, but if he wouldn’t have told me, I might have hurt him again unknowingly. I’m also better at handling my anger. When I feel upset about something, I think about again and ask myself “If I do as I’m feeling and am all cranky - would that be worth the fight we might have? Would that help? Or don’t I just rather want to hug him and maybe calmly tell him what I didn’t like?” Usually it makes me calm down. Acting out of anger usually doesn’t help.
proud of u
That's a really rational mindset. I can tell your consciencious-ness will serve you well
what if your partner is happy with someone. and thinking that person is only making friends with her but actually flirting with her. but no matter how you warn her she still choose to make him her "forever bestfriend". and it creates so much anxiety on me and so many insecurities.
@@johnchristianguevarra7320 well, you try your best to communicate those exact feelings, how anxious it makes you. But I also believe it’s important to say, that you don’t intend to forbid her anything or force her to terminate the friendship. You just want to put your honest and true feelings out there and hope, you can figure something out together. Maybe she can try to imagine herself in your place to empathise with you. And I really recommend to make sure you’re as calm as possible before you start talking about it. You wouldn’t want a fight, but you want to be understood and you want your feelings to be considered too.
i can relate to u in terms of the emotional side and feeling sad and all. i personally am not good at thinking before acting so the questions you wrote out are super helpful, and i’ll probably use them in the future, so thank you ❤
A huge thing is respecting and communicating boundaries as well, and coming together to a middle ground. If one person has boundaries that the other ignores, and said party has to just deal with it, it leads to a lot of arguments and pent up anger. Sometimes people can't accept that if someone doesn't want to respect your boundaries, no matter how much you love them, it's best to let them go and find someone who will.
Amen
Amen
being in a long distance relationship is rough, but that just means you can grow stronger with them! even if you can’t physically be with them, you can still let them know your affection and love:)! (i say this because i’m in one myself).
edit: this got more attention than i expected, and i did want to say that i am no longer in a long distance relationship. however, it was not due to the distance at all, simply too many conflicts between us. i’m in a different relationship (not long distance), and i just encourage everyone to find their person (if they want one) no matter the distance.
yes to this! same for over two years in an international ldr. the most challenging thing I have ever done, but so worth it
@@nataliafrinak lol i’m not in a long distance relationship anymore, but it didn’t end cause it was long distance or anything. i wish you and your partner the best! ldr personally isn’t for me, but it’s still something well worth your time and effort:)
I totally agree with this 😘
Long distance relationships are fine when you have boundary problems, commitment problems and fear of intimacy otherwise they're no good.
@@Kathrynlove bro that doesn't make any sense
How me and my boyfriend keep a healthy relationship we communicate we have conversations and talk about making our relationship stronger and working things out
that must be nice, always follow your dreams, if you don't follow your dreams someone will heir you to build there's Tony A. Gaskins Jr.
It's more about "Us versus the world" than "you and me versus anything"... ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 it is me and the voices in my head versus the world
@@Cat-_-Cat thank you so much for your wisdom
I will forever be indebted to the great Dr Olu for fixing my broken relationship after my husband left me for his mistress for 6 months.I never believed in spells until my friend introduced me to him。At first ， I was skeptical about him because I heard a lots about false spell casters but l put my doubts behind me for i was desperate to get my husband back and I did according to what he instructed me to do。Now my husband is back just within 22 hours of contacting him。
I’m currently talking to a girl and I realized last night that I had the potential to make it unhealthy because I’ve never had something where Personal Space is a thing and she doesn’t need to depend on me ALL the time. My last relationship was toxic in that sense. She has a bestie and she has her own friends and so do I, but I always tried to be with her all the time. This video just made me realize that she needs boundaries, but really I do too.
And that I could also use light therapy because my last relationship was traumatic 😭
Therapy may seem scary but actually helps a lot! You can pick your therapist and treat them like an old friend when you meet with them.
This hit me hard, man. I’m in the same situation and realized the same thing about myself last night. It’s uplifting to see someone else is experiencing the same thing and working to create their own boundaries. You’ve got this, friend!
What do I do when all I can think about is them. I have my own friends, do my own shit, but I’d always think about them. We are far apart and whenever they take too long to respond, I always overthink and get so emotional. I know there are boundaries yet still I am a very emotional person.
@@user-kx6fw8ub9g I think it is not always bad to feel alone being without the other. Boundaries can be something really simple as your own bank account, going for walks or groceries without the other. having your own space in a room the other don't clean up without asking.
Or simply being able to read a book without getting interrupted. Not all boundaries need to be physical or hard drawn.
I live with my bf for 6/7 years now and we shared his room at his parent's before that for way too long ( 14 years relationship). Some boundaries aren't possible space wise and others aren't wanted depending on the persons.
Just talk with your partner what boundaries you expect and what they expect. You should find a middleground for you individually.
I’m sorry Bengie, you will be okay my man. Let the past be the past, and form new habits that better your life, take it as a lesson :)
This explains why my last relationship was so bad.
I was not comfortable with the idea of talking about my feelings because I was doing all the things at home, I had no personal space, she required all the attention in the world, everything about my life before I knew her was a problem... I didn't know what anxiety was until I was with her. It was so frustrating and self-consuming.
It was like denying a part of me and denying most of my life because of her traumas. And I'm not putting all the shame on her, because she was working hard on fixing everything was wrong in her life. It was a situation to complicated we can't handle it in the proper way.
are u ok now?
describing my own a bit too close
we re the same
@@userm180 i just saw this! Yes I'm fine now, thanks for asking :)
It's tough until everything gets its place and it's meaning in your thoughts but it is worth the time trying to put everything together. Slow process but I feel ready to meet new people and try to be in a new and healthier relationship.
Those who are in this process, don't give up!
Hold on, when issues come up, we can choose to say "can we talk about this?" rather than run away from the problem? ;)
Yes
My best friend's bf runs away every time there's a problem with her or a arguerment, it's so annoying that he won't just talk about it with her :/
@@kiwistea He just needs..time? I'm not sure, but I think maybe your bestfriend can tell him that he can tell her anything, and that they can solve their problems together instead of running away from the issue.
what do I do when its his fault but I apologize and he still runs away? even if he says hes not upset
@@kiwistea I used to do that because confrontation gave me such bad anxiety it made me sick. Try to give him the benefit of the doubt
I think it's also very important to thank each other for the small thing they do, but also for chores they do etc. My mom never did that so I learned the value of it a long time ago and brought it in my relationship. You can't imagine how good it feels if your partner says: Well done, thank you for taking this of my hands/doing this.
Me and my partner have been together since we were 15 and now we’re both almost 21. I think when we were younger we both made mistakes but I’m glad we’ve persevered and I feel like we are only getting stronger. I always get asked ‘how have you maintained a strong relationship, especially at a young age?’ And I always say, trust, honesty, communication, support for one another and affection are definitely some of the most important factors.
I pray you both have stories to tell your children & grandchildren one day. I imagine it can be hard. Heck I’m cheering you both on from Ohio 😅 much bliss to you both
@@jennicoop7998 aw that’s such a lovely thing to say. We’re still going strong 7 years in!🫶🏼 sending you love and blessings x
My partner and I have been together for quite some time now and one thing we’ve learned that best helps our relationship to flourish is by having no distractions before bed (phones, tv, books to read etc.) and really just lye together in bed and have a conversation. Trust me 10 min of each other’s time fulfills so much more than you’d think emotionally. Especially if other things take up most of your time without each other.
I can tell I'm in the right guy already. He is so expressive and straightforward. Like one time, he approached me and told me he's not comfortable (and jealous) with the guy I'm talking too; I don't hate it, I love it when he's being honest, and that I can adjust and knows my boundaries. Healthy relationship is through having open minded and very understanding to each other.
U know how cats head bonk people when they love them? I sent my best friend a meme about that and at the end of the vid she sent me a text saying, "bonk". I know it's silly but it made me feel happy
that's so wholesome oh my gosh
@@stabbamonroll Awww! That comment made me so happy!😸
I don't know why but the voice is so calming, that is probably the first time when i am actually feeling something, instead of acting
tbh i don't like the voice too much
I prefer the other voice
@@grandma4514 in the kindest way i really don't give a shit
an actor is in his top performance when he's not acting all of them pretend to not act when on stage 😄
@@shirakumi5113 yes well then I'm a full time actor
Communication is very important and I learned that with my current relationship. I used to be emotionally immature but now I have improved although I’m still working on it. This is talking from a girl’s perspective and in my experience: guys are simple minded and can sometimes be a bit dense (ofc everyone is different). so when I act immature like being dry and give him a silent treatment whenever he ignores me for hours, I learned that it doesn’t benefit anybody because I would still feel shit and he wouldn’t pick that up most of the time.
As we progressed into this relationship we both discussed about how we would communicate better. I tell him what bothers me and be straight forward in the most gentle way as possible because I don’t want to sound like a dramatic gf… and that works very well in my relationship.
I became better with my emotional maturity as I progressed into this relationship and overall makes me slowly become a better person. What I’m trying to say is that If ur partner makes you become a better person, it shows ur in a healthy relationship :)
This is a powerful comment -- I admire your self awareness. Communication is paramount!!
Thank you for adding in “seeing a future together” my boyfriend and I are both 16, we’ve been together for about a year and a half now. I know I’m still young, and whenever I say “i see a future with him” to someone in my family , they make fun of me :(( I’m happy that it’s a sign of a healthy relationship
while marriage is the goal it’s not always the case. i’m sorry your parents invalidate your feelings. love doesn’t have an age. my grandparents were high school sweethearts and are now happily married! ❤️
Im 18, my partner is 19. We've only been together for 7 months and i absolutely want a future with him. Saying you want/see a future doesnt mean like oh my god we're gonna get married, buy a house, get a dog, and have a baby next year. Its simply saying, that when you think of your future you want them in it. Ik dating to date is a thing and im not shaming anyone who does, but I personally date someone cuz i see a possibility for a long term relationship and i think people don't understand that and think young people are being reckless ya know? I thought the same thing as you when i was in a relationship at your age, and even tho it ended terribly and was a massive mistake, i still wouldn't shame you for thinking that way. I hope y'all are still together, and strong and healthy as ever.
I’m 24, my partner is 22 we’ve been together for 3 and a half years any day Spent with him is amazing ❤️❤️🥺🥺. Before we started dating we were best friends and we still are ❤️. We’ve known each other for 7 and a half years. Together in our friendship we formed a physical connection and in our relationship we formed an emotional connection. ❤️🥺🥰
Met my partner at 16, we’ve been together 7 years now and plan to marry in the next few. It all depends on maturity imo. I’d say 90% of teenage relationships don’t last, and thats okay. Its important to have experienced the world while you’re young, if this person has the same goals as you, you both can grow and experience the world together. Its not always easy but its worth it for your person. Don’t bother with other peoples opinions. No one, other the the couple, knows the seriousness or extent of the relationship. My only advice, don’t rush it. You have a lifetime to get married, have children, etc. Enjoy the time spent growing, maturing, and figuring out life together. People change a lot from 16-25, so its important to have a strong foundation and understanding of yourself, your partner and each other, before jumping into things. ❤️
I met my partner at 16 years old. He was 17. ALOT of people have doubted us. Especially my family. They actually don’t and still are not fond of him because he doesn’t fit their standards of wanting to become a doctor or some bs 🙄. It’s been 4 years this coming may and I still love him with all of my heart. Try to stay open minded and not be naive, but also enjoy the journey and don’t let others opinions and advice run YOUR relationship.
this has just confirmed to me that my boyfriend and i have a very healthy relationship 1 year in.. :) i see our future together too. He is a gem, and i often feel undeserving of his goodness. i love you johnny
Listen, I came here to do research for a story I’m doing…but I took a step back after hearing the last one….I have done all of the other things so effortlessly…but that straight up made me cry. I remember when I was a young girl first going into the dating world because of peer pressure. It felt like I was pushed into a world I didn’t know…I wish I knew these things before…I always thought relationships were about the pure love and joy, but the truth is…it isn’t that. At the end of the day it is two or more individuals with thoughts…feelings…dreams and desires coming together and trying to build a world of their own *together.* Not by relying on the other to put all the hard work…
I wish I knew the last one….but sometimes when you love someone so much, you fear of loosing them..and if you cling onto them…*That fear will soon become nothing but the truth…and you have to accept when it happens..*
Because that is just life. ❤
Listening, patience, and wanting to understand the other person
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Due to quarantine here in Brazil, i can't see her now (i'm also a suspect case of covid) but i talk to her everyday, show affection, do jokes and say every single day how beautiful, awesome and especial she is
André Luiz sounds like you have a healthy relationship👍
mano eu to ha 4 meses sem ver meu namorado, e o nome dele também é Andre Luiz habsjnsjs
to mt chocada aqui, tava vendo isso malzona de saudade e achei seu comentario do nada
e ow melhoras!!! espero q vc consiga ver ela em segurança logo! 💕
im much more comfortable with talking about my feelings than the person i’m talking to is, and it’s hard at times but they’re getting the hang of it. communication is so important and being able to express how you feel is truly what holds relationships together.
12 years with my hubby it definitely was a challenge there were a lot of ups and downs now we are more mature and talk about situations instead of argueing like we used to back in our early twenties our love has grown stronger that's for sure
Me: “It’s like these videos are directed at me.”
Everyone else: “No, they’re directed to all of us lol.”
Fellow communism
Funny how they can create content that is so relatable to so many! Good job, Psych to Go!
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In our household, we have a clear rule of "personal space".
Our son has a form of autism and ADD/ADHD. We love him with all we have, but sometimes he is too much for one parent. I work full-time, my wife works part-time. Every day we discuss our days, and work out a balance between personal space and caring for our son.
One extra habit that we should have is to respect each other time with friends or recreation time without us, it is important because we have to be able to spend and enjoy time without our partner, and then came around and talk about our experiences 💕
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Yeah I really need to practice this
I too totally believe this is a healthy thing to do. I personally need my own time with friends or just on my own, to experience things as an individual, outside of the couple. Then when we see each other again is sweeter, cause we created the chance to miss each other 😊 and we have new things to share ❤
Sometimes giving your partner space can attract cheating, for the fact you both lives together, love and cherish each other closely
We've been in love with each other for a long time, but it's just finally happening. Communication is huge. I had to learn how to talk things out. I was so timid and kept everything to myself, and it wasn't good for us.
u still together ?
@@sarahB06 Yeah, we've moved in together and it's going amazingly! Thanks!
@@jazzycakes6294 that’s wonderful! I know we don’t know eachother but I’m genuinely happy for you 💓
I was having a hard time the other day and was feeling really overwhelmed and my love just held me and listened to me talk. He had so much love in his eyes as he listened to me that I felt grateful for him just being there. And basically, when I was talking to him I figured out my own solution lol
it's amazing how my boyfriend and I have all of those habits. Having him besides me warms my heart
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How's it going?
@@ahmedbelkacem14 we're 9 months into our relationship and everything is amazing! we have great communication, lots of trust and sooo much love to give to each other every day!!! definitely am super in love with him 🥰
@@fenitp omg, I'm so happy for you. I wish you all the best in your future together❤
May you guys live together without any problem till death.
Amen.
My prayers are with you.
@@gamerwithnoobskill7660 thank you so much for your good wishes 🙌 I hope the same for you 🙏💛
Dude I love Psych2Go
Its just great
The animation,
The way they help you cope with things like being lonely, having anxiety or depression.
Its great
The soothing voice & solution based education 👌 😌 🙌
Finally! A positive video! I’ve been scrolling for weeks and I kept seeing “Signs of a Narcissist” “Signs You’re In A Unhealthy Relationship” etc. This is so nice! :)
As someone who's finally in a healthy relationship after 11 different short lived toxic relationships with two that I loved.
I just want to say to people who've found themselves in the same predicament of always choosing "the wrong people" that you're not cursed and as much as movies and media romanticise it, healthy love is rare. You're not cursed, one day you will find someone who treats you with the respect you deserve better than any scripted movie.
As a serial dater after any relationship ended I took a year to myself to improve my wellbeing and mindset and just when I wasn't looking I fell for this amazing man that I can't live without.
Stay strong and hopeful, you're not jaded, broken or cursed. One day the right person will come along when you least expect (if that's on your agenda the world is diverse not everyone goes down that path) ❤️ wishing you all the best
Thank you Paige. I really needed to hear this. Been on and off with someone since 2020 and we recently decided to end things for good. We've done that before many times. I think I just need a year to myself to really figure myself out. There's so much to heal from.
I've been in a relationship with my man for almost 3 years now, and yes, we've been through a lot of fights and arguments. At first, I thought it was all very unnecessary until I learned that those fights are as inportant as the happy moments we've had. Now, we've learned along the way how to compromise and make way at the same time without having to discourage our own selves.
Before, I had a toxic relationship. On and off. I wasn't able to determine that it was totally a bad decision to stay a relationship like that. But right now, I had a healthy relationship, though it's not perfect but we always do this thing as what the video mentioned. Hoping for the best in our relationship ❤️
I am in awe at how quickly this channel is able to push out videos. Keep up the great work!
My current bf has really taught me how to be healthier. My last relationship was really toxic and my current partner really makes me feel so special. He actually listens and wants to know how I feel. He’s really had to push at times to get me to talk about how i feel because I was so used to keeping it myself. He doesn’t judge me and we’re really there for each other. Things just feel very equal in what we give to each other.
Something I have learned in all of my relationships is to understand each other's love languages, and always communicate, even if you are worried of the reaction.
I do all of these things!! I’m so grateful to have my boyfriend in my life, I only wish I could say I cuddle a lot and trust them. Due to my PTSD I’m not able to cuddle them for long periods of time or I’ll get scared. He understands but I know deep inside it upsets him that we can’t cuddle or kiss nonchalantly, I have to be warned or I’ll get an anxiety attack. I hope to go to therapy soon
Im so happy my current relationship applies to all of this because i used to be in a pretty toxic relationship and i loves the girl so much but then found out she was cheating on me im so happy that i found someone who is just like me in a huge multitude of ways and understands me and can handle my wierd jokes. She is just like me. sometimes my friends like to joke around and say she is me from a different universe and others say i should marry her right away. And she is one of the first people to truly care for me. My own mother gave me such a rough childhood and i was going through depression but ever since i met my current girlfriend i have been feeling better every day and i feel like such a lucky guy.
It's been a great ride and I've largely been there for her. The difficulty for me is working with insecurities from my childhood either from trauma (and working through that on top of everything) or mental configuration solidified by social construct and interactions, as well as rewiring myself into how to work to make things healthy. I sometimes get "off" and feel the connection is a little shaky, moments of being unsure of what is real and how to come back to what I feel for her. Everything is genuine and passionate and there is a lot of work, but I make sure I tell her how much I appreciate her and live her and am proud. It's long distance too, so there's the extra obstacle that takes surmounting. But my difficulties lie in going through this for the first time, waking up spiritually, healing and simply just understanding traumas, and reworking my configured mental framework to be conducive in a healthy relationship. She is everything to me.
The fact that me and my partner are different is what makes our relationship so interesting and fun. We have the same sense of humour but we have different perspectives of many things. It’s interesting to discuss it while keeping an open mind ☺️
I'm not in a relationship and I don't know if I ever will, but I'm taking notes
I’ve been with my fiancé for going on 4 years. We started out with a rocky relationship, there was distrust in each other because of past relationships. We worked through those walls that we put up, fell in love, and here we are, years later planning our wedding & future family. An amazing realization from this video is that I’m in a super healthy relationship. We argue about house chores, occasionally, but that’s it. I’m so proud to be in a healthy relationship, I see myself with him for the rest of my life ☺️☺️
That gives me hope! Thanks ❤
Everyone: **Talking about their lovers**
Me: _u-umm, I do this with my friends--_
can u be my frined
That’s great practice for the future! :D
Sounds like you’re a wonderful friend. In the end many things such as talking to each other and being content with one another crosses over into all types of relationships.
Everyone:*Talking about their lover* Me:I don’t even have friends (T-T)
You shouldn't, your problems unless their is clear abuse of any kind emotional, sexual, physical, should not be discussed with friends yours or your spouse, it always causes more problems then solutionsin your relationship, to many hands spoil the soup
I'm happy to say that my relationship reflects all of these habits. It's a struggle now that he's stationed far away with the military, but I think we're doing amazingly well and going strong after 8 years. :)
Was in a toxic relationship, thought being yelled at and pressured into things were ‘normal’. Now that I’m in a healthy relationship, I can communicate and take things slow with him without feeling anxious. I love him and I see a future with him. ❤
I am in a bad relationship and agree with this list. I would say time to be yourself is good but also deal with your problems and don't make them part of your relationship dynamic. Each person should be able to fill their place and have the relationship add to who they are.
Me and my partner have been together for 11 months, we ended high school together, and we have both been very close but not clingy with one another. He lets himself be vulnerable with me, something that he finds pretty hard to do, same with me, but we have both promised each other to never hide things from each other if it's hurting us. He also is just my anchor at the worst of times when my anxiety gets out of hand, he reassures me that mistakes are normal. We hope this relationship lasts! xx
Have a lovely day~
Wow! I have the exact same. 11 months together in 3 weeks and the rest is exactly me and my boyfriend. Cute :)
Yo hope you and your partner are doing well!
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@@lukenitemare who told u that?
@@lukenitemare i understand, but u can allow urself to show emotion to someone from time to time.theres nothing wrong w that, really :)
2:37 I ALWAYS DO THIS WITH MY GF, I literally write her PARAGRAPHS of how much I appreciate her, her personality, her beauty, EVERYTHING. I'm SO happy to be in such a healthy relationship it's insane, she brightens up my day and I'm so greatful I met her, I can't wait for the day we meet in person
Never experienced these in my past abusive relationship. Now, I'm experiencing most of these with my current boyfriend. It's kinda overwhelming at first because I thought I did not deserve to be respected and all. But he always remind me that I deserve the world and I should be treated with all the love and care. It really takes time to find that someone who will make you feel everything.
I love this animation style! it's so adorable and I love the characters! Thank you for making this video! 💜
I always try to remind my husband how much we appreciate him. He does a lot for us and he keeps the routine in the house going. He helps with all outside errands while I stay home with the toddler and expecting our second. If I ask him to do the dishes he’ll do that AND fold the laundry and whatever else he sees that needs to get done. I always remind him he keeps the wheel going with us. He’s a huge part of our team that keeps us going.
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My partner and I do almost all of these! It takes humility and work though. One thing I could do better is to handle disagreements in a calm manner and non-attacking manner. Its something I've grown up doing with my family but I realize it's not good.
Me and my partner always speak openly about our feelings and thoughts about past, present and future, whether it’s about our relationship or just life in general. We want to prioritize our mental health and well being since both of us aren’t espacially mentally healthy and have been receiving our fair share of negative energy from other people around us.
Even though we’ve only been together for a little over three months, I am able to be more vulnerable around my partner than I ever was around another person before (which is really hard for me considering some past experiences) and even though they are still a little bit more closed when it comes to expressing negative feelings directly in person, they also do tell me it’s absolutely not my fault and that I do actually improve their mental health and make them feel appreciated.
I have been feeling down this week and my partner has spend a lot of time with me, just cuddling and talking or watching a show or movie together. I sometimes still don’t feel like this relationship is real because I was sure I‘d either live in an unhappy relationship or stay single forever.
While my partner has been an amazing help this week, I of course try my best as well. I try to shower them with affection and appreciation, espacially when I feel like they need it. Simple gestures are also really important for me: I put my partner‘s favorite drink in the fridge before they visit, prepare a hot water bottle to put under the blanket or make pancakes as breakfast at the weekend.
I am rambling way too much. The only thing I’ve learned from this: There is a person out there that will understand you and bring out the best in you. A relationship is a beautiful thing and if it’s not there probably is something going wrong.
If you have one, cherish it ♥️
All great habits! 😊 I know with my girlfriend we encourage and reward when either of us ask for reassurance of any kind. We acknowledge that asking for reassurance is not innately attacking, but rather that it is innately loving to provide your partner with reassurance when needed. This leads to a very healthy and open dynamic for us 😊
Being able to communicate effectively and calmly is probably the #1 thing that keeps my relationship healthy:)
I feel like as long as both partners are honest, daily communicate and have a spirit of sharing the load of life together, it will most likely work out. ☺️
This reminds me the relationship I'm in now is very healthy. We still fight at times but always make up after, actually genuinely make up not just with sex. My exes didn't do any of these things, especially helping with housework, communicating and affection that wasn't sex
Everyday I work on bettering myself for their sake. This has taught me much, thank you!
1. You show your affection.
2. You are able to communicate with each other.
3. You emotionally bond with them.
4. You make up after arguments.
5. You appreciate each other.
6. You see a future together.
7. You balance housework.
8. You give each other personal space.
This is my first healthy relationship. I've been in toxic relationships basically since I started the dating scene. And this video backs up that this is healthy as can be. I love him to death and he feels the same way. ❤
We are together for 5 year , but we have so much pain in our life but we are always together . my personal experience- don't giveup on relationship that will make you mentally strong and confidence in your life that you are not giving up in any field of your life . so use your relationship to build your mind .
Psych2Go, thank you so much! I've learned a lot from this channel and it has allowed me to be there for other people which is what I've always wanted ever since i was little
I really love the content, it's so useful!! BUT can we take a moment to appreciate the visuals for the videos as well?! Like wow they make the information so much more understandable!
I just got into my first relationship last month and it brings me strength to watch this because me and my girlfriend have basically all of these things. Thanks for bringing to light the sighs that it’s going well, it really gives my confidence that this will last.
Based on the way it feels, and this video really backed it up... I am in a healthy relationship. It feels amazing 🥰 He is amazing, sweet, funny, we are alike but also very different... We can be comfortably silent together, have deep and meaningful conversations, and be silly and laugh together. We respect eachothers boundaries, and have been able to overcome our first small obstacles and arguments in a healthy way. We mainly see eachother in the weekends because of work and there being 2 households. However, sometimes we love a weekend to ourselves... That's the way we have some distance every now and then. A weekend where I can watch movies, enjoy my own (and my 2 cats) company for a bit, or do something fun with friends or family... He has a mild form of autism and he just needs to recharge sometimes too, so that's what he does in a weekend like that. Mostly we see each other 2 or 3 weekends in a row, and then followed by one where we don't. It's hard for the first week but it gets a little easier after that. And an awesome bonus is that you can really tell we've missed one another, when we see each other again. And even though each weekend we spend together is amazing, that weekend after not seeing eachother for 2 weeks is always just a teeny tiny bit better ☺️ And that's really in the most positive way possible, because what it does is that it really reminds us of how crazy we are about one another each and everytime ❤
Sooo true! I’ve been with my current boyfriend for almost 6 months now. And it wasn’t until recently that we started opening up to each other. We started becoming more vulnerable with each other. After that, we naturally just became more affectionate toward each other, and I think it’s because we were able to see each others soft spots and appreciate each other more after sharing intimate thoughts and feelings. at this point I feel like our relationship has gotten stronger by the day :)
No matter how hard it's important to be able to talk to your partner about everything. Being open and honest with each other is Numero uno
Remember a line from Stephen covey that is apt for building relationships Love is not an adjective but a verb. It needs loving work and constant nurturing.
Great suggestions 👍
I think splitting financial things up is important. That you both pay your fair share. Also Honesty and Loyalty are massive.
Being financially fair, and loyalty are huge, unless you and your partner have already had a talk and agreed on something different.
Also communication is the biggest and best thing you can have in your relationship. I’m talking about all the relationship stuff ahead of time is the best thing you can do. Relationship stuff like if you want a monogamous relationship or a poly relationship. What you consider cheating to be, because apparently it’s not the same for everyone. If your goal with this relationship is to one day get married and have kids, or move in with each other, or if you’d rather just stay dating, never have kids, and never move in with each other. How much personal space you actually like to have, what you are and aren’t comfortable with, etc.
I found it to be very helpful for me with my current partner to talk about all of this right away.
If your partner is actually the one, I feel like they would be pretty OK with talking about all that kind of stuff right away.
Wow my relationship has almost all of them. The only one it's missing is a balance of chores because I'm dealing with a disability and slowly getting back to my half of the chores but my boyfriend is doing my share in the meantime. I still do what small things I can and I make sure to tell him how much I appreciate and love him. He's so understanding and supportive ❤
I was in a relationship for 11 years. We met when we were 17. Everything was wonderful, we had fun together, laughed a lot, shared the same hobbies and saw a future.
After 4 years he asked me to marry him. I was so happy and said yes! We moved together in our first home.
But after that... Nothing happened...
The years passed by and he never said a word after that about getting married or having a family...
I waited for 7 years... I gave hints about it. That he had to ask me again because he didn't marry me after 1 year. He said that he has to to it then. But nothing happened.
After these 7 years I asked him finally "do you still wanna marry me?" and he said "I don't know. We are together for so long. We don't have to get married." I was sad... So I asked him "what about being a family?" and he told me "it's not a must have to have children these days."
I was crushed. After that i realised we were drifting apart. He was busy 6 days a week and the day we spend together he was on his computer or in the gym...
I had to make a decision. So I told him to leave. I talked to him for weeks. But nothing changed.
I'm 29 now and started a second time. I found a new partner. He is 35 now and was one of my best friends and I was never even thinking about getting together with him. We just talked from time to time or wished "happy birthday" every year.
But now I'm happy again. After half a year we moved together. He said that he could imagine about getting married and having children.
My family and friends told me that I just changed my partner. That me and my ex were together for 11 years and I couldn't just "waste" all this time...
I had to make a choice. Starting again or maybe being sad for the rest of my life... I made a choice and I thing I made the right one.
I swear I fall in love with my partner more and more every day. Its in the little things. Recently I've noticed that his smile could put the sun itself to shame with how quickly it can light up a room. You know something is healthy when they can turn you're entire mood around with a hug. When you're with them you know everything's going to be okay. I've never been anxious about anything with them. There's no darkness in the relationship, no stress or anger just love and movie nights and hugs. When it's right you know. And it'll come when you least expect it. I've been with him for nearly 8 months now and I wouldn't change it for the world.