I don't think topping or bottoming should have anything to do with submissiveness. You can be a total top but submissive, or a total bottom but dominant (power bottom). Like I'm a total top, but I would not say that I'm submissive or dominant, more like passive.
I personally dislike this outlook that many people have of domination and submission, top and bottom. Sex is about cooperation, and that's regardless of sexuality. If you're a person who just wants to dominate another person in bed, you need psychiatric help. You can be dominant if that's what works for your situation, but if what you want is to dominate another person, as opposed to looking what works for everyone involved, that's not healthy. Actually it's toxic IMO, and such people aren't really having sex, it's something else that's happening there, something related to r*pe, or at least it stems from a similar place...
Wtf are these questions? Hahahaha honestly I feel like it is really hard to start an actual interesting conversation out of these very shallow questions
Depends on how they're used. Self-labels can be damaging or incredibly empowering depending on how and what is used. And this is true beyond just gay labels.
The labels suck… but maybe because I came out too late to be a twink, and I never really fit the mold of any other label, so what was I, exactly? How do you ‘market’ yourself if none of the labels fit you? Does that make you unattractive? Now I don’t really care because I’m no longer active. I got tired of mediocre casual sex and soul crushing ‘social apps’
Hey, why? Labels can be amusing, they hold meaning for many. Embracing these terms can foster a sense of belonging and empowerment, adding vibrancy to our identities
These days, people have become OBSESSED with labels! I'm 35 and everybody I grew up with was anti-labels and never wanted to be put into a box. All logic and common sense and practical reasoning is lost. People box themselves SO much, they are doing the opposite of "finding themselves" and growing as a person. It's really weird to see so many people these days with that mindset, and even worse when it's older people. (Btw- not talking about the people here necessarily or just the labels being used here, I'm speaking more generally..in case it wasn't already obvious for some people).
@@samantha_proustthey box people in too far though these days, making the individuals even more lost most of the time. Especially the younger generation who's become OBSESSED with labels and labeling others based off their own assumptions. It's become a much bigger, broader social contagion.
No, they are not. It helps people finding what they are looking for. If you don't want to use one of these label for yourself that is fine, but it's not ridiculous.
@@Mycenaea It's ridiculous because others place those labels on you. The gay community is chiefly comprized of homogenized cliques. I spent my 20s in San Francisco, and the featureless unividuality I saw everywhere was depressing...even the bars typically catered to a specific "type" of clientele. How boring and one dimensional.
"bears are allowed to eat." "In between twink and not a twink." Honestly, who gives an f? If you're healthy and being true to yourself, your identity shouldn't revolve around fitting in boxes and wondering who wants to sleep with you. Bein your own best supporter and finding a high value man that isn't shallow or someone who's gonna just get with every guy is more important. Don't like this episode so far, but I'm not through yet so I hope it gets better
Can we just do away with all the labels already? I'm happy these guys had this conversation, but the insecurity and body dysmorphia that this crap leads to is insane, and it feels so toxic to the the community, in my opinion. Bears, go wherever you want. Twinks, don't be afraid to age and actually eat. Let's just drop the labels and live and let live.
The labels and stereotyping has been so pushed, and the blending of social media and pressure to fit in is insane. Our community is not as accepting as it pretends to be and we are so mean to each other. It cost nothing to be respectful and kind.
Yes, they need a do over with big buff thicc hairy men. 🌈🐻 Like the ones that went to bear week or bear beach like those that were in Artiomboy and Stan Chris' videos.
Oh, so Brian doesn't just delete and shadow-ban all my comments then !? I could understand some people might get overwhelmed with all the body type descriptive monikers but they are only fun, quick little descriptors to make sure the "contents match the packaging" and make a focrum point of what type of body you or what you might be into are. Its not meant to be so depressingly deep or derogatory. honestly, some people get offended/troubled over such minor things and cause drama.
I honestly love watching these! Hopefully in the future, you will ask a question like “are you attracted to a guy who is disabled?“ I only ask because I was recently diagnosed with MS and based off of others opinions, I am pretty attractive, but, I really don’t feel as attractive anymore because I use a cane, and don’t walk the best anymore!
Hopping' John is made of black eyed peas, rice, ham or bacon, etc. It is eaten at the New Year with greens to express a wish for prosperity during the coming year (the beans represent coins, the greens represent bills. In the North we eat corned beef & cabbage (bubble & squeak to you) forcthe same reason.
Being a non-binary otter I gotta say I've encountered a lot of rejection from the bear community and have never felt welcomed. There seems to be a lot of hang-ups on masculinity and it feels very put on, which is funny because a lot of bears love drag queens and drag culture, but would never consider getting with someone who is a little femme presenting or isn't beefy enough. I think a lot of that probably has to do with our natural attractions, and a reaction to growing up battling fatphobia, so bear culture is a great part of celebrating bigger bodies which is great. But it can go too far and become quite exclusionary. Of course I understand that this is a generalization, but that has been my experience. Love me some bears though, I'm open to many different types. I wish people were a little more open minded in general, but patriarchy/internalized shit is a real bitch.
Ok that rethoric of "Discrimination " if we prefer certain types of bodies or we have a favorite sexual position is ridiculous. Attraction isnt a question of exclusion its just natural instinct. I noticed a lot of young féminine guys are complaining about that but i think they have to understand they cant please to everybody. You don't like to be rejected because of your look? Tough it up! About sexual preferences, im sorry but as i bottom i dont want to waste my time to date another bottom i know we are not gonna be a match. You don't like labels? Well stay at home cause labels are everywhere
It's funny how labels get a bad rap. Imagine trying to describe anything without them. Conversations would turn into those 'you know that thing, with that guy, in that place' kind of situations
With that logic, is not wanting to date certain “races” also just a question of attraction and not an act of exclusion? I don’t think so. We use different classificatory systems but the goal remains the same; dividing people in easy to grasp groups based on perception (classifications) and deciding our treatment of them based on those classifications and preconceived notions surrounding them
@@yorickweiss5281 You can't force someone to be attracted by somebody. Its a personal thing and it should not be questioned. I know a lot of blacks that are dating only blacks (i lived few years in a black neighbourhood in Montréal). People should start to tough it up. You can't please everybody and thats fine. Sleeping with someone is not a right !
@@Pierre-LucTremblay Im trying to say that preferences are a product of close mindedness and judgement. You’re saying they should not be questioned, and I feel like that is to hide a discriminatory mode of thought. So really, what is your reason to stay within your preference?
I don't get it either. I think it's a special way of beeing self-confident. People like to say "I'm into chubby man", while straight people kind of never talk about their preferences, maybe they woudn't even dear to say "I like 300lbs women". That's why they do not have a label for them. They just don't talk about it.
@@holger_p I agree. I just think having all those labels that they give is stupid honestly. Just be gay or straight. It’s that simple. If u like bigger, smaller, tall, short, etc., then just say that you’re into that type but don’t give it a stupid name like bear or twink. It’s actually kinda childish imo 🤷🏻♀️ and personally if someone labeled me as one of those things I would take it personally. It’s just not a good look I think? Just leave the name calling out of it and choose to love who u love without placing a label on them
@@Yomomma-ju2ym It's culture and became part of language. Only term coming to my mind for straight people is something like Milf. Which is honestly ment as a compliment, but as you say women would react differently and don't feel honored. It's rather strange, women consider honest compliments as harrasment. This has no logic to it. You return a smile, say maybe thank you and go away. If women behave this way, they're considered bitchy. That might be the problem. Men don't see a threat in unwanted compliments.
@@Yomomma-ju2ymNgl how does it hurt any1? Always felt like casual fun. If the labels were gone ppl would still discriminate by size height weight hair etc bc that’s ppl. If u don’t conform to any just say ure you and don’t conform?
Turns out it's just something casual that actually helps out gay men who has certain physical preferences. Some of us have a preference for certain body types. Some of us, don't. That's about it.
To the think I’m the light blue shirt…it’s not a flex to joke about or brag about not eating. It’s unhealthy and should NOT be celebrated among ANY community
Idk the bears and twinks weren’t giving bears and twinks but then again what do I know? It’s 2023 at this point idefk what’s going on in these communities anymore 😭
There was a comment at the end about not having kids and yes gay men can have if they want to artificial insemination unless they have had a vasectomy and even that can be reversed if they dont want to go the adoption/foster route...
It is ridiculous ,as an older gay man, the amount of sub categories within our community is clownish to me. The biggest shame is the shade towards older people. I like older guys so it was never a thing. Btw, I thought twinks were young thin guys, in a particular age range. I could be wrong.
Can you please explain the terms as you presenting them? 😢 I honestly didn't know a single term in the video discussed, no idea for twigs, bears and all the other animals that's so shocking!
I’m 63 and I find all these labels super fun. We sure didn’t have all these ways to refer to one another when I was younger. Of course I respect if someone doesn’t want to use labels. You do you 😊
Guys help! I watched this video and I still don't get what a twik and a bear is? Someone please explain at some point I thought it was about chocolate then about body hair 😅😂 why they didn't explain the terms 😂
A twink just means skinny/no body hair. Bear is hairy and can mean big as in muscle or Lizzo 🐋 they USED to just be cute lil words to describe folks not “identities” or “communities but leave it to Gen Z to over analyze and over label everything. Whole video is an L
I did enjoy this video but it’s very inaccurate according to my experience as a gay black bigger person. Next time we need a little more diversity I weight 250 and height 5’12
Dam labels and then giving there thoughts on behavioral patterns we are all human with thoughts and feelings i dont get the way everyone is laybled or stereotyped so wrong cubs bears twinks otters dam its just stupid
I really loved everybody you chose for this episode! They all brought a great personality and perspective. I hope you Bring some of them back in the future...we _love_ returning characters!! I hate that we don't know their names though! Can you give them credit in the description? Or in the future have them introduce themselves?
aged out twink here, great discussion. and yes we all think the same... which means we all are different from each other. thanks for everyone participating
Have not slept with a woman or have only slept with a man - whichever way someone wants to think about it. (With the increase in non-binary individuals and trans individuals, the definitions have slightly changed for some or are not as clear for others... but that is the traditional definition.)
@@stremendous73(actual) transsexual people are either male or female, even after transitioning. Even if not biological. Non-binary people are whatever, there's no science behind non-binary. It's a goofy new invention that's causing way more harm than good
... So we're just gonna act like fatphobia isn't a blaring issue in the gay dating scene? We need to acknowledge that the overwhelming "preference" on dating apps are twinks/thin people and guys aren't shy about expressing their fatphobia towards non-twinks. I said "preference" because they are rooted in biases, social prejudices, and beliefs which stem from systems of oppression like racism, ableism, homophobia, fatphobia, transphobia, classism, colorism... the list goes on. I appreciate the dialog. I think next time a more diverse gay cast would have allowed for a more indepth conversation that is more represenative of the collective gay dating and social experiences with the topics discussed. Because let's be honest maybe 2 of them are 200lbs. Most all of them are hwp, thin, or average and don't experience the brunt of body shaming and fatphobia in the queer community, hence their lack of awareness and misguided belief that thin/average/twink body types are in anyway less desired, experience more discrimination, or mistreatment in the gay community. There's even racial prejudice & major race based ostrisim in the bear community... but that's another topic.
Sigh, no. GTFO. A lot of people are simply not interested in overweight people. That isn't fatphobia and it isn't any of those other things you listed. So eternally tired of people like you. Oh, and a more "diverse" cast wouldn't change a damn thing because some "diverse" groups of people are so protected you can't say a damn thing about them that is even just slightly negative, so people wouldn't say how they truly feel and just walk on eggshells around these people.
I believe you're overthinking this. Obesity is rarely attractive to people, gay or straight, and it's not rooted in any sort of phobia or prejudice. It's the same across world cultures, and throughout history, because it's hardwired into our mate selection instincts, and those instincts tell us that certain specimens aren't ideal mate choices. The same applies with prematurity, advanced age, asymmetrical facial characteristics, and most things which would be typically regarded as outside the conspectus of physical "normality". There are always exceptions, however, even if such attractions fall under the ambit of various offroad "fetishes". Still and all, there's no excuse for the debasing or shaming of others, simply because thy're outside the spectrum of what one considers physically attractive.
You're literally just spouting victim words lol. Not wanting to date a fat person is not "fatphobia", it's called having a preference like any normal person? I used to be fat btw. I would never say someone hates me because they don't want to date me, that's abuser behavior!
I think twink has turned into more of look. Basically if you look young, you get labeled a twink. I'm 31 and still get called a twink. And I'm definitely not a twink anymore, I just still look like I'm in my 20s and haven't put on that much weight. Though I do think I fit the otter label more at this point.
i'm a lesbian and all this time I thought it just meant a skinny feminine bottom guy lol did not think age was such an overpowering factor, to me that guy in the tucked in shirt cant be more twinkish 😂
@@itsmj3103 Didn’t mean anything about a bottom but you’re right about the rest. I’m in my 30’s and these were just cute lil words that weren’t strictly defined much less “identities” smh. My oldest sister is also gay so I knew “stud” and “lipstick lesbian” 😂 leave it to this generation to turn harmless words from back in the day into a woe is debate though.
Twink -> Brian -> Bear. ie: Brian is just Brian, must he could be from what I've seen is him being a playful energetic cuddly little puppy. but thats more to do with personality than body type. { _maybe a twunk_ } just for fun get a larger panel room and try going with 20 of each: {yes, bring the hard stuff} twinks; bears; average {so Brian can jump in}; daddies; giraffes; jocks; otters; bulls; nerds; emos; grandpas; gamers; foxes; chubs and cubs. Twink can top, flip, bottom, dominate or be submissive if they want to. the same goes for bears and anyone in all the other groupings. More of the daddy in the blue shirt 😘 Also, who is the son and can he hang out with Brian and the rest of the squad? Heck, send the three in black tops my way as well.
I don't think topping or bottoming should have anything to do with submissiveness. You can be a total top but submissive, or a total bottom but dominant (power bottom). Like I'm a total top, but I would not say that I'm submissive or dominant, more like passive.
I personally dislike this outlook that many people have of domination and submission, top and bottom. Sex is about cooperation, and that's regardless of sexuality. If you're a person who just wants to dominate another person in bed, you need psychiatric help. You can be dominant if that's what works for your situation, but if what you want is to dominate another person, as opposed to looking what works for everyone involved, that's not healthy. Actually it's toxic IMO, and such people aren't really having sex, it's something else that's happening there, something related to r*pe, or at least it stems from a similar place...
Yes. dom/sub comes from kink, and not everyone is having kinky sex and power dynamics.
Wtf are these questions? Hahahaha honestly I feel like it is really hard to start an actual interesting conversation out of these very shallow questions
These labels we put on eachother are so terrible for us😭😭😭😭
Depends on how they're used. Self-labels can be damaging or incredibly empowering depending on how and what is used. And this is true beyond just gay labels.
The labels suck… but maybe because I came out too late to be a twink, and I never really fit the mold of any other label, so what was I, exactly? How do you ‘market’ yourself if none of the labels fit you? Does that make you unattractive? Now I don’t really care because I’m no longer active. I got tired of mediocre casual sex and soul crushing ‘social apps’
I hate that we label each other like this. All these categories and sub categories are rediculous.
Hey, why? Labels can be amusing, they hold meaning for many. Embracing these terms can foster a sense of belonging and empowerment, adding vibrancy to our identities
These days, people have become OBSESSED with labels! I'm 35 and everybody I grew up with was anti-labels and never wanted to be put into a box. All logic and common sense and practical reasoning is lost. People box themselves SO much, they are doing the opposite of "finding themselves" and growing as a person. It's really weird to see so many people these days with that mindset, and even worse when it's older people. (Btw- not talking about the people here necessarily or just the labels being used here, I'm speaking more generally..in case it wasn't already obvious for some people).
@@samantha_proustthey box people in too far though these days, making the individuals even more lost most of the time. Especially the younger generation who's become OBSESSED with labels and labeling others based off their own assumptions. It's become a much bigger, broader social contagion.
No, they are not. It helps people finding what they are looking for. If you don't want to use one of these label for yourself that is fine, but it's not ridiculous.
@@Mycenaea It's ridiculous because others place those labels on you. The gay community is chiefly comprized of homogenized cliques. I spent my 20s in San Francisco, and the featureless unividuality I saw everywhere was depressing...even the bars typically catered to a specific "type" of clientele. How boring and one dimensional.
This is your definition of bears?!?
Tbf there's only one twink here too.
The blue shirt and black tank are literally twinks. One is just more toned
Theyre too skinny and not hairy enough
U lot acting like it’s a job role. It’s a label. That I fall into. Not one that you try to achieve. “Maintaining a think body” .. like no.
I don't think I saw one actually bear in this video 👀🤔
nor any twinks lol. truly ridiculous
@@mattcolins9264y'all think in such strict, heavy categories. Get over yourself
One twink, one bear 😂
@@oceanlawnlove8109 The categories are pointless if you delude them so much they no longer mean anything.
It's a west coast thing... bears are a lot smaller out there. If you're over 30"w they consider you a bear out there lol
"bears are allowed to eat." "In between twink and not a twink." Honestly, who gives an f? If you're healthy and being true to yourself, your identity shouldn't revolve around fitting in boxes and wondering who wants to sleep with you. Bein your own best supporter and finding a high value man that isn't shallow or someone who's gonna just get with every guy is more important. Don't like this episode so far, but I'm not through yet so I hope it gets better
Maybe he meant if he eats he can't bottom??
Can we just do away with all the labels already? I'm happy these guys had this conversation, but the insecurity and body dysmorphia that this crap leads to is insane, and it feels so toxic to the the community, in my opinion. Bears, go wherever you want. Twinks, don't be afraid to age and actually eat. Let's just drop the labels and live and let live.
That's absolutely right! We cannot choose our gender,but we can choose to be ourselves and who to love.
The labels and stereotyping has been so pushed, and the blending of social media and pressure to fit in is insane. Our community is not as accepting as it pretends to be and we are so mean to each other. It cost nothing to be respectful and kind.
I was too but I don’t have to brag about it I have a video about it . Live your life it’s nobody else’s business
I'd like to have a conversation with the casting director for this video? Like those are the bears you found? For real?
Yes, they need a do over with big buff thicc hairy men. 🌈🐻
Like the ones that went to bear week or bear beach like those that were in Artiomboy and Stan Chris' videos.
What about the bearded guy who's wearing WOOF shirt? Isn't he a bear?
Bears come in all shapes and sizes.
@@samantha_proustYeah, he's quite clearly a bear. Mind you, there's also only one twink here. The dancer with the crop top.
There are hardly any twinks either.
yall should do masc gays vs fem gays 🗣
I had NO idea there were that many labels for gay men…that’s insane! When did that happen? Lol
Y'all couldn't find actual bears and twinks for this? Everyone here just barely fits the description.....if you squint real hard lol.
Guy in the blue is definitely a twink lol
Oh, so Brian doesn't just delete and shadow-ban all my comments then !?
I could understand some people might get overwhelmed with all the body type descriptive monikers but they are only fun, quick little descriptors to make sure the "contents match the packaging" and make a focrum point of what type of body you or what you might be into are. Its not meant to be so depressingly deep or derogatory.
honestly, some people get offended/troubled over such minor things and cause drama.
Ran str8 2 to the comments because his was the most cattiest survey yets. And quite frankly had laughs. Yes plz pt.2 w/ alcohol😂❤🎉
Nice spectrum of people. Very interesting. Thank you for having older guys.
Where's the Bears?
I honestly love watching these! Hopefully in the future, you will ask a question like “are you attracted to a guy who is disabled?“ I only ask because I was recently diagnosed with MS and based off of others opinions, I am pretty attractive, but, I really don’t feel as attractive anymore because I use a cane, and don’t walk the best anymore!
looked at your profile pic and just gotta say... WOULD!!!
Is it me or does the casting seems off?
YES
Well yes and no. The entire video is off. Who even asks these questions? No we don’t all think alike smh. So lame
Damn the bear with the glasses is HOOOOOT
That tall guy in the black shirt is so handsome, and has great style. If I was a "bear", I'd Yogi the hell outa that guy. 😆 Just saying.
Hopping' John is made of black eyed peas, rice, ham or bacon, etc. It is eaten at the New Year with greens to express a wish for prosperity during the coming year (the beans represent coins, the greens represent bills. In the North we eat corned beef & cabbage (bubble & squeak to you) forcthe same reason.
omg do masc vs fem vs stem in the sapphic community next!
can you do one w femmes & butches pls🙏🏻
very interesting video, even more the question correlating one's body physique vs. demeanor (Dom, sub).....odd question i thought
Love these videos ❤
I can tell the guy wearing glasses is Brazilian just by his accent. I'm like 99% sure
Being a non-binary otter I gotta say I've encountered a lot of rejection from the bear community and have never felt welcomed. There seems to be a lot of hang-ups on masculinity and it feels very put on, which is funny because a lot of bears love drag queens and drag culture, but would never consider getting with someone who is a little femme presenting or isn't beefy enough. I think a lot of that probably has to do with our natural attractions, and a reaction to growing up battling fatphobia, so bear culture is a great part of celebrating bigger bodies which is great. But it can go too far and become quite exclusionary. Of course I understand that this is a generalization, but that has been my experience. Love me some bears though, I'm open to many different types. I wish people were a little more open minded in general, but patriarchy/internalized shit is a real bitch.
Ok that rethoric of "Discrimination " if we prefer certain types of bodies or we have a favorite sexual position is ridiculous. Attraction isnt a question of exclusion its just natural instinct. I noticed a lot of young féminine guys are complaining about that but i think they have to understand they cant please to everybody. You don't like to be rejected because of your look? Tough it up!
About sexual preferences, im sorry but as i bottom i dont want to waste my time to date another bottom i know we are not gonna be a match. You don't like labels? Well stay at home cause labels are everywhere
It's funny how labels get a bad rap. Imagine trying to describe anything without them. Conversations would turn into those 'you know that thing, with that guy, in that place' kind of situations
Agreed. And a lot of these young feminie guys that complain that "no one" wants feminine men, mostly just want masculine men themselves! -.-
With that logic, is not wanting to date certain “races” also just a question of attraction and not an act of exclusion? I don’t think so. We use different classificatory systems but the goal remains the same; dividing people in easy to grasp groups based on perception (classifications) and deciding our treatment of them based on those classifications and preconceived notions surrounding them
@@yorickweiss5281 You can't force someone to be attracted by somebody. Its a personal thing and it should not be questioned. I know a lot of blacks that are dating only blacks (i lived few years in a black neighbourhood in Montréal). People should start to tough it up. You can't please everybody and thats fine. Sleeping with someone is not a right !
@@Pierre-LucTremblay Im trying to say that preferences are a product of close mindedness and judgement. You’re saying they should not be questioned, and I feel like that is to hide a discriminatory mode of thought. So really, what is your reason to stay within your preference?
This video is about 20 years behind pls
Being a gay man seems exhausting lol
Not a bear in sight.
Not sure if zoologists would agree with this
I don’t understand why there’s so many labels given? Can’t u just be gay and leave it at that?
I don't get it either. I think it's a special way of beeing self-confident. People like to say "I'm into chubby man", while straight people kind of never talk about their preferences, maybe they woudn't even dear to say "I like 300lbs women". That's why they do not have a label for them. They just don't talk about it.
@@holger_p I agree. I just think having all those labels that they give is stupid honestly. Just be gay or straight. It’s that simple. If u like bigger, smaller, tall, short, etc., then just say that you’re into that type but don’t give it a stupid name like bear or twink. It’s actually kinda childish imo 🤷🏻♀️ and personally if someone labeled me as one of those things I would take it personally. It’s just not a good look I think? Just leave the name calling out of it and choose to love who u love without placing a label on them
@@Yomomma-ju2ym It's culture and became part of language.
Only term coming to my mind for straight people is something like Milf. Which is honestly ment as a compliment, but as you say women would react differently and don't feel honored.
It's rather strange, women consider honest compliments as harrasment. This has no logic to it. You return a smile, say maybe thank you and go away.
If women behave this way, they're considered bitchy. That might be the problem. Men don't see a threat in unwanted compliments.
@@Yomomma-ju2ymNgl how does it hurt any1? Always felt like casual fun. If the labels were gone ppl would still discriminate by size height weight hair etc bc that’s ppl. If u don’t conform to any just say ure you and don’t conform?
Turns out it's just something casual that actually helps out gay men who has certain physical preferences. Some of us have a preference for certain body types. Some of us, don't. That's about it.
I know y’all felt that twink energy…. And that’s all imma say
sounds like a lot of eating disorders here.
you guys are beautiful. periodt.
To the think I’m the light blue shirt…it’s not a flex to joke about or brag about not eating. It’s unhealthy and should NOT be celebrated among ANY community
Plz tell me what the bears and twinks concept!???
Who's the guy in black and glasses??!!!!! WOW ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Imagine if we labeled women's body types like gay men do... there would be instant outrage.
What do you mean ?? women do label their bodies.
femme, butch
Women already do that lol
This survey was gold😭😂
I can’t tell if he was joking about chewing lettuce and spitting it out?
Yes he was. It's a common joke twinks don't eat for bottoming, staying skinny etc
It's a very bad one.
Idk the bears and twinks weren’t giving bears and twinks but then again what do I know? It’s 2023 at this point idefk what’s going on in these communities anymore 😭
There was a comment at the end about not having kids and yes gay men can have if they want to artificial insemination unless they have had a vasectomy and even that can be reversed if they dont want to go the adoption/foster route...
Love it!!!!
I am gay, and I have autism. Can you make a video about sexuality and mentel disorders?
Where’d my friend get her blouse from?
the blue twink was like 40 years old. lol
It is ridiculous ,as an older gay man, the amount of sub categories within our community is clownish to me.
The biggest shame is the shade towards older people. I like older guys so it was never a thing.
Btw, I thought twinks were young thin guys, in a particular age range. I could be wrong.
Blue shirt is a mess
All the points made served zero purpose. Nothing of real substance said. All superficial comments
Not a single bear..
Would’ve been nice if the group was more racially diverse…
Can you please explain the terms as you presenting them? 😢 I honestly didn't know a single term in the video discussed, no idea for twigs, bears and all the other animals that's so shocking!
There is no bears there like what?
What is a “Gold star Gay”
Where are the brothas?
I’m 63 and I find all these labels super fun. We sure didn’t have all these ways to refer to one another when I was younger. Of course I respect if someone doesn’t want to use labels. You do you 😊
Ahhhh!! I love Huh! “ if you’re sxxkng dk you’re gay!! “ STOP!!🤣
Gurrlll bye!!😂
gorg blue eyes
I love big boys 🙏🏽❤🤩
im queer and i really cannot connect with gay men and tribalism lol
they seem like nice people though, i did appreciate the older guy(s) perspectives
where are the twinks in question lmao
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Bears are the best! Hottest in the world
Guys help! I watched this video and I still don't get what a twik and a bear is? Someone please explain at some point I thought it was about chocolate then about body hair 😅😂 why they didn't explain the terms 😂
A twink just means skinny/no body hair. Bear is hairy and can mean big as in muscle or Lizzo 🐋 they USED to just be cute lil words to describe folks not “identities” or “communities but leave it to Gen Z to over analyze and over label everything. Whole video is an L
I did enjoy this video but it’s very inaccurate according to my experience as a gay black bigger person. Next time we need a little more diversity I weight 250 and height 5’12
I was always gay , girls are cool but not sexually
Dam labels and then giving there thoughts on behavioral patterns we are all human with thoughts and feelings i dont get the way everyone is laybled or stereotyped so wrong cubs bears twinks otters dam its just stupid
I really loved everybody you chose for this episode! They all brought a great personality and perspective. I hope you Bring some of them back in the future...we _love_ returning characters!! I hate that we don't know their names though! Can you give them credit in the description? Or in the future have them introduce themselves?
Us gays have been fighting to get rid of labels and then we created even more demeaning labels💀
None of these are twinks lol
As we keep watching these I notice how everyone is either open to be versatile or they are ridiculously traditional.
i would LOVE to see one with lesbians, like femmes and mascs !!
I love these videos sm
And studs too
0 people of colour. in this convo lol
aged out twink here, great discussion. and yes we all think the same... which means we all are different from each other. thanks for everyone participating
So call yourself gay, not twink, and everything is fine.
they all are lying
Another great topic Brian. I 💜 this series. Thank you. Your scruff is 🔥 too
I would love to see the discussion on Poc and non-Poc gay men
الْعِيَاذُ بِاللّٰهِ
Who is the ”twink” in the black tank top with a lock necklace and curly hair?
14:34 what does that mean
Have not slept with a woman or have only slept with a man - whichever way someone wants to think about it. (With the increase in non-binary individuals and trans individuals, the definitions have slightly changed for some or are not as clear for others... but that is the traditional definition.)
@@stremendous73(actual) transsexual people are either male or female, even after transitioning. Even if not biological. Non-binary people are whatever, there's no science behind non-binary. It's a goofy new invention that's causing way more harm than good
11:38-11:43 😂😂
... So we're just gonna act like fatphobia isn't a blaring issue in the gay dating scene? We need to acknowledge that the overwhelming "preference" on dating apps are twinks/thin people and guys aren't shy about expressing their fatphobia towards non-twinks. I said "preference" because they are rooted in biases, social prejudices, and beliefs which stem from systems of oppression like racism, ableism, homophobia, fatphobia, transphobia, classism, colorism... the list goes on. I appreciate the dialog. I think next time a more diverse gay cast would have allowed for a more indepth conversation that is more represenative of the collective gay dating and social experiences with the topics discussed. Because let's be honest maybe 2 of them are 200lbs. Most all of them are hwp, thin, or average and don't experience the brunt of body shaming and fatphobia in the queer community, hence their lack of awareness and misguided belief that thin/average/twink body types are in anyway less desired, experience more discrimination, or mistreatment in the gay community. There's even racial prejudice & major race based ostrisim in the bear community... but that's another topic.
Sigh, no. GTFO. A lot of people are simply not interested in overweight people. That isn't fatphobia and it isn't any of those other things you listed. So eternally tired of people like you.
Oh, and a more "diverse" cast wouldn't change a damn thing because some "diverse" groups of people are so protected you can't say a damn thing about them that is even just slightly negative, so people wouldn't say how they truly feel and just walk on eggshells around these people.
I believe you're overthinking this. Obesity is rarely attractive to people, gay or straight, and it's not rooted in any sort of phobia or prejudice. It's the same across world cultures, and throughout history, because it's hardwired into our mate selection instincts, and those instincts tell us that certain specimens aren't ideal mate choices. The same applies with prematurity, advanced age, asymmetrical facial characteristics, and most things which would be typically regarded as outside the conspectus of physical "normality". There are always exceptions, however, even if such attractions fall under the ambit of various offroad "fetishes". Still and all, there's no excuse for the debasing or shaming of others, simply because thy're outside the spectrum of what one considers physically attractive.
You're literally just spouting victim words lol. Not wanting to date a fat person is not "fatphobia", it's called having a preference like any normal person? I used to be fat btw. I would never say someone hates me because they don't want to date me, that's abuser behavior!
THISSSS FACTSSSSSSSS
That isn’t a thing lmao.
Speaking of twinks & bears, Bri should collab with Stan Chris and Brett
4:33-4:42 wow, i didn't know there were so many animals for gay people 😮😮
I enjoyed the segment!
Such wonderful and colorful people.
I can see myself dating anyone of these guys.
Still waiting for the twinks to appear 😂
14:17 is exactly how I have felt my entire life
Should have the “sessy gays vs straight passing gays”…
“Straight passing” based off your own stereotypes
Aren't twinks meant to be under 25? That 50 year old man in the blue gives me hope.
I think twink has turned into more of look. Basically if you look young, you get labeled a twink.
I'm 31 and still get called a twink. And I'm definitely not a twink anymore, I just still look like I'm in my 20s and haven't put on that much weight. Though I do think I fit the otter label more at this point.
sounds pedo
twinks they can be any age , it's a body type
i'm a lesbian and all this time I thought it just meant a skinny feminine bottom guy lol did not think age was such an overpowering factor, to me that guy in the tucked in shirt cant be more twinkish 😂
@@itsmj3103 Didn’t mean anything about a bottom but you’re right about the rest. I’m in my 30’s and these were just cute lil words that weren’t strictly defined much less “identities” smh. My oldest sister is also gay so I knew “stud” and “lipstick lesbian” 😂 leave it to this generation to turn harmless words from back in the day into a woe is debate though.
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Can we get their ig’s?😭
I see some handsome Bears. But no Twink’s.
Twink -> Brian -> Bear.
ie: Brian is just Brian, must he could be from what I've seen is him being a playful energetic cuddly little puppy. but thats more to do with personality than body type. { _maybe a twunk_ }
just for fun get a larger panel room and try going with 20 of each: {yes, bring the hard stuff}
twinks; bears; average {so Brian can jump in}; daddies; giraffes; jocks; otters; bulls; nerds; emos; grandpas; gamers; foxes; chubs and cubs.
Twink can top, flip, bottom, dominate or be submissive if they want to. the same goes for bears and anyone in all the other groupings.
More of the daddy in the blue shirt 😘 Also, who is the son and can he hang out with Brian and the rest of the squad?
Heck, send the three in black tops my way as well.
I love twinks ❤❤❤
the guy in the black tank is making me foam at the mouth i wanna be him so bad 😭😭😭
Fun!