Story 5 breaks my heart. If these people really are as unstable as she says, and these 2 individuals are as responsible as it sounds (buying your own land and building your own house? Bravo), then these "parents" aren't really parents. I hope you start your life together with love and support. Do not invite them to your wedding, do not let them into your life until they show change and apologize for their behavior, and go with the knowledge that we're behind you and you got Mo and Dad's (and your bio dad's) blessing.
Story 3 - I grew up in a very similar situation to your daughter Mya. When my mum got pregnant, my bio dad wasn’t ready to be a father and moved back to his home country. I grew up being told that my dad didn’t want anything to do with me and he wasn’t mature enough to be in our life. To be honest, this was the hardest thing I had to go through. The abandonment issues from not having a father or any family from his side made it really tough and definitely affected who I am as an adult. I was even bullied about the fact that I didn’t have a real dad… Please please please tell his family as your daughter deserves all of the love that she can get! If it doesn’t work out, make sure you keep their details for when the time comes that she wants to reach out. Unfortunately I had to do all the research myself and after 12 months of searching I found out that my dad died 2 months prior. I would also recommend ensuring that she has male figures in her life (even if it’s a really good male friend or a future partner). Also remember that family doesn’t have to be blood related! The best role models in my life were the aunties and uncles that weren’t actually related to us. I wish you all the best! xx
It’s terrifying too though, as a mother… My kids are in your situation and because I chose to still keep a relationship with their father’s family, they have made themselves believe he wants to be a dad, because it just makes sense to them. They’ve been pushing the kids on to him every time they’ve stayed there, creating this back and fourth «will he? Won’t he? Be a dad» situation and my kids are SO hurt. They’re just getting used left and right and I had to cut them off a few months ago because they keep telling the kids daddy really misses them but mommy won’t let him see them, even though for the last 2 years he hasn’t talked to them, despite me begging 3 times a week.. It’s a big risk to take as a mother, because reality isn’t that all people are good people always….
Being someone whose father didn’t want to be involved I always felt like part of me was missing. He never told his family about me so my grandparents didn’t get the choice to be apart of my life, I finally met them last year and was able to tell them who I am (I’m 22 now) they have been the most welcoming and loving people I’ve met. They understand the hardships of my relationship with him and are just sad they missed out on so many years we are making up for it now!! Always give people the choice… there’s only 1 or 2 ways it will go and it could be such a positive moment for everyone. Just give it a shot :)
Story 2: I would honestly stay out of it, as a daughter who stepped into an affair issue. Relationships between a narcissist & someone with their own mental health/addiction issues it can be really messy. Sometimes when in the thick of it more dirt comes out. My mom had an affair & it came out that dad was/is having multiple emotional affairs.
Story 2 - I think it is very, very important to think about what Dad's prior alcoholism may have done to Mom and why/where her affair came from. As proud as OP is of Dad getting sober they make no mention of what Dad's journey looks like. Did Dad have an affair? Was Dad abusive? Was Dad neglectful? Even if Dad wasn't getting drunk and beating her if he's drunk and depressed all the time and not helping out around the house and parenting maybe she was being pushed away by an alcoholic absentee father and she had an affair to cope instead of divorcing "for the kids" as so many parents often do. Now Dad is getting sober and everyone is so proud of him but no one is giving her the sympathy she used to get for dealing with his issues. Instead of "Wow, you're so good to him" its all "Wow, he's doing so well" and all she can think about is the 20 years of bullshit she put up with and how he's being praised now for FINALLY getting sober (after the kids are moved out of the house) and she just wants to know why he couldn't do that a decade ago. Of course, addiction is a disease and I'm not dismissing that but she's likely been dealing with a burden of a husband for a long time.
Was literally searching google to figure out the term for an issue I face with my father, and after no luck I gave up and came here to play a video as background noise while I clean, and see this posted an hour ago. If that isn’t perfect timing I don’t know what is
Story 3- I grew up in a VERY similar situation to baby Mya. My mom got pregnant in high-school after a one-night stand at a party. My bio dad was adamant about an abortion, but my mom refused. For the first 3 years of my life (before I can remember), my dad played the in-and-out game that OP described during pregnancy but ultimately fell off from my life before I entered grade school. My bio dad is a pretty interesting character and around the same time, cut off contact with his family despite him continuig to live in our same small hometown, just minutes from me and them, for my home life. Throughout my life, however, my dad's family (his dad, step-mom, sisters, and grandparents) were the BIGGEST part of my life. My mom's family, though active in my life, is filled with addiction, trauma, and messy dynamics, and my dad's side of the same was often time the only stable "village" I had, despite my dad himself not being in the picture. Having this connection to my family, our history, traditions, background, etc as well as having a loving and caring support system right down the road from me, has made me into the person I am today and I can't imagine how differently my life would have gone had my mom not put in the effort to give me a connection with my bio dad's family. Now I'm 23, and while my father still has little contact with myself or his family, my mom has become a full fledged daughter to his step-mom and sister to my paternal aunts; she's in the group-chat, invited to every holiday and gathering, etc. If by any chance OP finds this message, I highly encourage that you reach out to your daughter's family and give her every opportunity possible to be loved and supported
@@p1ysaucedomy point is it’s a rude comment to make, especially @Lauren. She’s expressed many times shes anxious about the way she’s perceived negatively by listeners like this.
@@p1ysaucedo I totally agree she prob isn’t haha but they could have made their comment about looking forward to that episode without bringing her up? Would have been free to not make a dig at home girl like that.
Story 1: I have tried to put my foot down for my mom for years. She forgets. When I remind her she says "if I cant even talk with my daughter then who", I tell her to talk with her friends (some for 40+years) about it. But she wants to keep her mask up as all is happy family (she trash talks my dad and her boyfriend of 10 years). It is so hard to keep going. I have periods of low contact due to it. But I just have to keep going. Just to say: I really understand your struggle. And if nobody in your family sees the problem and that you are being unfair, don't take it to heart. They don't have the comprehension on the tear the sheer amount hurts you cause they were not the ones being put through it.
Last story. “Get on board or get out of fuck town” should’ve kicked them out of your life long ago. Also asking for their blessing is a dying thing. Not really common anymore.
Okay, Im not usually a commenter but Story #3 got me. I was a Mya, and something I can say right now is she DOES NOT need them in her life. Additionally, I noticed there was no correction when OP said she didn't want to take their grandchild away. SHE did not take their grandchild away, HE DID. That decision was up to the baby daddy. If he had a thought that he did not want to be included in her life, that's enough to not include him at all. Mya can still have a loving and fulfilling life without him or his family involved. And he will regret choosing to not be involved but I don't think he should have the privilege of having a part in Mya's life. Ultimately when that time comes, hopefully Mya is old enough to decide on her own to have him in her life but until then don't let Mya have the same unreliable man in her life that you had OP. Learn from your past mistakes (sleeping with him while he's off and on with another woman) and be a better mother for your daughter. You are enough.
Just listening in to this; and story 3 resonates so much with me. I have a beautiful little girl who’s bio father isn’t involved in her life at all; and while she and I aren’t close with the fathers family, his parents- Grandpa and Gramma- have had such a positive impact and role in our lives. And I truly believe that if the family support is there outside of the lacking parent, the child grows up stable, strong, and healthy. My daughter doesn’t even ask about her father, but she loves her Grandpa, her Poppie, and her uncles and more importantly, she knows she is loved! I hope OP does decide to introduce her child to the grandparents; and it already sounds like the grandparents love the little girl, so I feel like it would all around be beneficial and positive in the best was for the child, OP and the grandparents. ❤
story #1 is the EXACT REASON why i cut my family out, and stopped having a relationship with them. I know it sounds harsh, but they would do the same thing, they would only, ONLY complain about eachother whenever i visited. it was ALWAYS drama, ALWAYS gossiping, no matter how much i told them that i wanted nothing to do with it. i have soooo much more peace in my life not having to deal with that shit anymore....
Story 2: I really agree with Jerry, OP's parents have a toxic dynamic, if she tries to come "clean" about knowing an affair that happened 10 years ago the dad might not take it well and both parents can use her as an escape goat and she will be painted as the bad guy there. If she approaches as Jerry suggested there might be a possibility that the conversation with their dad goes better. But again we don't really know their dynamic and they might just stay together as it's easier because is what they know..
I really hope this somehow gets back to maya’s mom…. Not everyone is like Jerry… plenty of people will adore your child, but spend way too much time trying to make their son prove he wants to be a dad… The whole «get them involved!» makes me scared for this mom. It COULD be the biggest mistake ever, which is why it’s so good that she’s reaching out. From personal experience… I was best friends with my high school boyfriend’s mom. We were on and off for 7 years. With an 8 week old and already 1 week pregnant with the next one, he lost his temper at our baby. And all of a sudden me and his mom weren’t good anymore. She cannot, still, see that backing him up in his no effort ways and making excuses for him, hurts the kids still… You could get this amazing support system, but you could also get the parent side of them where they decide they want their son to be a dad. He clearly doesn’t care about Maya… if they cannot separate the two individuals, she will grow up with that inconsistency in a really hurtful way. I’m trying to save my 2 and 3 year old from exactly that… My ex’s mom hired a lawyer for him to take custody after ignoring them for 2 years, stating I kept him away, despite him choosing not to show up even when invited… Just be careful……
This is very good advice and gives her something to think about. Perhaps strong boundaries from the start? Something like “he is not interested, and I don’t want him to be involved if he is not dedicated and committed to being a father, but if you are interested in being her grandmother, aunty etc, then I would love to build that relationship with you”. Thank you for sharing your experience, and you’re doing amazing for your babies 🫶
I’d love to see @cjades as your spooky episode guest! She basically ONLY does spooky videos for her channel. Anyway, thanks for all your hard work! Love FKS and THT!
For the story on Maya- as someone who’s bio father is not in the picture- I have always wondered what it would be like to know my whole other side of the family. I have siblings. I had grandparents. Other family I would have like to have met sometime at least once. It gets rid of the what if and fantasy of them.
Story 1: I would say, sorry mom to be a part of what is going on betwen you and Aunt Shirley. Morgan is right about not wanting to be a middle person of the drama. They are using you. It is tearing you down.
Story 4: Grandpa did OP dirty by not taking a stance in life or after death to ensure OP was properly taken care of with the inheritance. I’m sorry OP, you deserved to be better protected and provided for by the men in your family!
I have said this before, but...as a mother, I would NEVER be with a partner that treated my children poorly. As "Dad" so eloquently put it: " you go, and you go proudly". ❤
Story 3 sounds like everytime he was on and off with ex he was playing opposite on and off with her. And didn’t want the baby knowing it would show case his running behind his actual gfs back. That other woman has every right to know for her own health and well being. And the child deserves to know its extended family and shouldn’t be deprived because the child’s father is worried ppl will find out he was a cheater.
Story #2 : bad advice Morgan dad is right ! If they didn't say it then why bring it up 10 years later . If it affected them that much it could have been brought up years ago. I agree with dad just convinced them to go to therapy or convince him leave her . If he's been an alcoholic who knows what the mom been through & just didn't tell the kids .
Story 3 - I've just lived through a similar situation with my nephew. His mother died when he was 5 and he is now 13. We never found out who the father was until I did 23 and me on him last year. We ended up getting a match to a half brother. After a lot of back and forth with my mom we decided to reach out. My nephew, who had no family other than my mom and me, now has 3 brothers, 2 sisters, loving grandparents all whom he sees all the time. You need to reach out.
Oh i hope we get a update with mya so bad 😞 my heart hurt super bad for you mom. I would be so scared of being looked at like you just want something from his family. but at the end of the day u just really have to know your intentions are pure and truly only wanting what's best for your baby. ❤️ I really hope you reach out and reach out in a way that not threatening to them and i really reallyyy really hope they have a positive reaction and are excited to be grandparents.
The story about Mya, I think this will be a happy outcome- however, I feel I have to say this from personal experience; telling the grandparents, they may love her so much that they fight for dual or full custody. I do not think this is likely in this specific scenario, but better to know of this possibility than to be caught off guard. ❤❤❤❤
Story 3 as a single mom the father of my baby wasn’t in his life for 7 months of his life and I didn’t tell his parent because I thought that wasn’t my responsibility to tell his parents but my mom and sister told his parents one day and I don’t regret that they have been there for me and my baby even before I gave birth they have helped me with diapers and other thing and even tell me if I ever need help with anything or even to babysit him I’m so grateful my baby knows them and they love him so I would say tell them because you never know your daughter will have a part of her father side just because he isn’t in her life doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve for his family to know their granddaughter and you never know maybe it’s the thing that you actually need so I say take your chance it could be the best thing that could ever happen. It’s better to know than continue in the unknown.
Story 3: I don’t have a relationship with my father or anyone on his side… I didn’t find out until recently that my father’s parents had no idea I existed for a long time. I would have valued the opportunity to have a relationship with them. Edit it add: I would go to them, lay your cards on the table and offer them the opportunity. If they don’t want to, take it at face value. But I’d say just shoot your shot and see!
Story 3 this happened to a friend of mine and when she reached out to the dads family to fought her for custody even though dad signed away his rights she fought got 6 years to keep her baby from them they wanted the baby and mom have no rights
In story 5 when OP's mom and step dad said no to Logan, I had a feeling they were jealous and her mom was a misogynistic pick me.. I was right. But it got worse, they're both abusive?? Girl.. no contact to both.
Story 5: I was picking up some sexist vibes. It's interesting how they hate their daughters' boyfriends but cool with their son's girlfriend? They want yall to be spinsters. Also, put yourself in your mom and stepparents position. Can you imagine treating your child that way? Think about the kind of people do that and ask yourself if you really care what they think. They enjoy you suffering and caring about them. Suck that venom out and spit it in their faces. Hugs to you, girl. You seriously rock.
YALL NEED TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING. I know it’s hard and I know a lot of us are recovering, but story 4 is so infuriating because this girl let her entire family just walk all over her. Screw your brother and screw your grandpa who said to “keep the peace”….what peace??? His??? Your brothers??? Because I know for a fact you were not and are not at peace and are going through a mental battle everyday. You need to find some legal advice and get some consultations about what to do with your brother because the only path now is legal. Yeah, it’ll suck for his kids, but do you really want them to grow up in the presence of a man who is okay stealing life changing money from his own family? Great example he’s setting for them. Girl, put on the big girl pants and finally start treating him the way he’s treating you.
Morgan, your take on the alcoholic father is absolutely vile, and you should be ashamed. The fact that the mom cheated is not okay, and is gross. However, you have no idea what alcoholics put through their loved ones. You haven't been there, so shut up about "her not being in the spotlight". Once alcoholics get sober, yes, they get congratulated. But you don't know what the spouses have been through. A lot of the time, the burden is on the spouse to take care of the alcoholic, making them exhausted, while the alcoholic may be verbally, even physically abusive. They drain your finances, so you have nothing left for your hard work. They call you names, bring up your biggest insecurities, and weaponize them against you. And once they get sober, they're in the pink cloud, and forget about you. No one is there to support you. And resentment builds - very reasonably so. And often times the alcoholic leaves you in the pursuit of something better they feel like they deserve. Please have someone on the podcast who's educated on addiction to talk about this. You clearly aren't.
I have alcoholic family members myself, including my bio dad. I was going off this specific story and what our writer said. This was not a blanket statement about all. There's clearly a lot of nuance here. But this sounds like you are also very triggered by this and affected personally so I can see your side. Thanks for sharing.
The portrait of Holly in the back is so precious
Jerry is so unhinged and Morgan is so not having it this ep 😂😂
Story 5 breaks my heart. If these people really are as unstable as she says, and these 2 individuals are as responsible as it sounds (buying your own land and building your own house? Bravo), then these "parents" aren't really parents. I hope you start your life together with love and support. Do not invite them to your wedding, do not let them into your life until they show change and apologize for their behavior, and go with the knowledge that we're behind you and you got Mo and Dad's (and your bio dad's) blessing.
Story 3 - I grew up in a very similar situation to your daughter Mya.
When my mum got pregnant, my bio dad wasn’t ready to be a father and moved back to his home country. I grew up being told that my dad didn’t want anything to do with me and he wasn’t mature enough to be in our life. To be honest, this was the hardest thing I had to go through. The abandonment issues from not having a father or any family from his side made it really tough and definitely affected who I am as an adult. I was even bullied about the fact that I didn’t have a real dad…
Please please please tell his family as your daughter deserves all of the love that she can get!
If it doesn’t work out, make sure you keep their details for when the time comes that she wants to reach out. Unfortunately I had to do all the research myself and after 12 months of searching I found out that my dad died 2 months prior.
I would also recommend ensuring that she has male figures in her life (even if it’s a really good male friend or a future partner). Also remember that family doesn’t have to be blood related! The best role models in my life were the aunties and uncles that weren’t actually related to us.
I wish you all the best! xx
It’s terrifying too though, as a mother…
My kids are in your situation and because I chose to still keep a relationship with their father’s family, they have made themselves believe he wants to be a dad, because it just makes sense to them. They’ve been pushing the kids on to him every time they’ve stayed there, creating this back and fourth «will he? Won’t he? Be a dad» situation and my kids are SO hurt. They’re just getting used left and right and I had to cut them off a few months ago because they keep telling the kids daddy really misses them but mommy won’t let him see them, even though for the last 2 years he hasn’t talked to them, despite me begging 3 times a week..
It’s a big risk to take as a mother, because reality isn’t that all people are good people always….
22:04 “i know what it’s like” 🥹🥹 my heart
Being someone whose father didn’t want to be involved I always felt like part of me was missing. He never told his family about me so my grandparents didn’t get the choice to be apart of my life, I finally met them last year and was able to tell them who I am (I’m 22 now) they have been the most welcoming and loving people I’ve met. They understand the hardships of my relationship with him and are just sad they missed out on so many years we are making up for it now!! Always give people the choice… there’s only 1 or 2 ways it will go and it could be such a positive moment for everyone. Just give it a shot :)
Story 2: I would honestly stay out of it, as a daughter who stepped into an affair issue. Relationships between a narcissist & someone with their own mental health/addiction issues it can be really messy. Sometimes when in the thick of it more dirt comes out. My mom had an affair & it came out that dad was/is having multiple emotional affairs.
I would agree. Not to mention it was over 10 years ago and even OP doesn't know if it went past text messages.
Story 2 - I think it is very, very important to think about what Dad's prior alcoholism may have done to Mom and why/where her affair came from. As proud as OP is of Dad getting sober they make no mention of what Dad's journey looks like. Did Dad have an affair? Was Dad abusive? Was Dad neglectful? Even if Dad wasn't getting drunk and beating her if he's drunk and depressed all the time and not helping out around the house and parenting maybe she was being pushed away by an alcoholic absentee father and she had an affair to cope instead of divorcing "for the kids" as so many parents often do.
Now Dad is getting sober and everyone is so proud of him but no one is giving her the sympathy she used to get for dealing with his issues. Instead of "Wow, you're so good to him" its all "Wow, he's doing so well" and all she can think about is the 20 years of bullshit she put up with and how he's being praised now for FINALLY getting sober (after the kids are moved out of the house) and she just wants to know why he couldn't do that a decade ago. Of course, addiction is a disease and I'm not dismissing that but she's likely been dealing with a burden of a husband for a long time.
Was literally searching google to figure out the term for an issue I face with my father, and after no luck I gave up and came here to play a video as background noise while I clean, and see this posted an hour ago. If that isn’t perfect timing I don’t know what is
Story 3-
I grew up in a VERY similar situation to baby Mya. My mom got pregnant in high-school after a one-night stand at a party. My bio dad was adamant about an abortion, but my mom refused. For the first 3 years of my life (before I can remember), my dad played the in-and-out game that OP described during pregnancy but ultimately fell off from my life before I entered grade school. My bio dad is a pretty interesting character and around the same time, cut off contact with his family despite him continuig to live in our same small hometown, just minutes from me and them, for my home life.
Throughout my life, however, my dad's family (his dad, step-mom, sisters, and grandparents) were the BIGGEST part of my life. My mom's family, though active in my life, is filled with addiction, trauma, and messy dynamics, and my dad's side of the same was often time the only stable "village" I had, despite my dad himself not being in the picture. Having this connection to my family, our history, traditions, background, etc as well as having a loving and caring support system right down the road from me, has made me into the person I am today and I can't imagine how differently my life would have gone had my mom not put in the effort to give me a connection with my bio dad's family. Now I'm 23, and while my father still has little contact with myself or his family, my mom has become a full fledged daughter to his step-mom and sister to my paternal aunts; she's in the group-chat, invited to every holiday and gathering, etc.
If by any chance OP finds this message, I highly encourage that you reach out to your daughter's family and give her every opportunity possible to be loved and supported
Morgan please don’t attach your brand with better help . They’re terrible
I second this. They have been exposed
Yes. They’re awful. Still burned by them from like 5y ago.
I LOVE the spooky episodes but lauren CANT HANDLE it!!! Don’t have her on in the most loving way😂😂
Not your podcast, not your decision: in the most loving way lol
@@bodegacat13they weren't deciding.
@@p1ysaucedomy point is it’s a rude comment to make, especially @Lauren. She’s expressed many times shes anxious about the way she’s perceived negatively by listeners like this.
@bodegacat13 they're not being rude or perceiving her in a negative way. I doubt she's excited to do a spooky episode.
@@p1ysaucedo I totally agree she prob isn’t haha but they could have made their comment about looking forward to that episode without bringing her up? Would have been free to not make a dig at home girl like that.
Story 1: I have tried to put my foot down for my mom for years. She forgets. When I remind her she says "if I cant even talk with my daughter then who", I tell her to talk with her friends (some for 40+years) about it. But she wants to keep her mask up as all is happy family (she trash talks my dad and her boyfriend of 10 years). It is so hard to keep going. I have periods of low contact due to it. But I just have to keep going. Just to say: I really understand your struggle. And if nobody in your family sees the problem and that you are being unfair, don't take it to heart. They don't have the comprehension on the tear the sheer amount hurts you cause they were not the ones being put through it.
fingers crossed you make a spooky episode with Bailey Sarian !!!
Last story. “Get on board or get out of fuck town” should’ve kicked them out of your life long ago. Also asking for their blessing is a dying thing. Not really common anymore.
Grandparents aside, my dads brother is more of a father to me than he EVER was. The aunty deserves to know. She deserves an aunty.
Come on people if you watch the episode leave your like! Show your support! 🎉
Okay, Im not usually a commenter but Story #3 got me. I was a Mya, and something I can say right now is she DOES NOT need them in her life. Additionally, I noticed there was no correction when OP said she didn't want to take their grandchild away. SHE did not take their grandchild away, HE DID.
That decision was up to the baby daddy. If he had a thought that he did not want to be included in her life, that's enough to not include him at all. Mya can still have a loving and fulfilling life without him or his family involved. And he will regret choosing to not be involved but I don't think he should have the privilege of having a part in Mya's life. Ultimately when that time comes, hopefully Mya is old enough to decide on her own to have him in her life but until then don't let Mya have the same unreliable man in her life that you had OP. Learn from your past mistakes (sleeping with him while he's off and on with another woman) and be a better mother for your daughter. You are enough.
Just listening in to this; and story 3 resonates so much with me. I have a beautiful little girl who’s bio father isn’t involved in her life at all; and while she and I aren’t close with the fathers family, his parents- Grandpa and Gramma- have had such a positive impact and role in our lives. And I truly believe that if the family support is there outside of the lacking parent, the child grows up stable, strong, and healthy. My daughter doesn’t even ask about her father, but she loves her Grandpa, her Poppie, and her uncles and more importantly, she knows she is loved! I hope OP does decide to introduce her child to the grandparents; and it already sounds like the grandparents love the little girl, so I feel like it would all around be beneficial and positive in the best was for the child, OP and the grandparents. ❤
I got so scare with the dipsy voice 😂😂
story #1 is the EXACT REASON why i cut my family out, and stopped having a relationship with them. I know it sounds harsh, but they would do the same thing, they would only, ONLY complain about eachother whenever i visited. it was ALWAYS drama, ALWAYS gossiping, no matter how much i told them that i wanted nothing to do with it. i have soooo much more peace in my life not having to deal with that shit anymore....
Yessss come to the Atlanta show! See you there 😊
Story 2: I really agree with Jerry, OP's parents have a toxic dynamic, if she tries to come "clean" about knowing an affair that happened 10 years ago the dad might not take it well and both parents can use her as an escape goat and she will be painted as the bad guy there.
If she approaches as Jerry suggested there might be a possibility that the conversation with their dad goes better.
But again we don't really know their dynamic and they might just stay together as it's easier because is what they know..
I really hope this somehow gets back to maya’s mom….
Not everyone is like Jerry… plenty of people will adore your child, but spend way too much time trying to make their son prove he wants to be a dad…
The whole «get them involved!» makes me scared for this mom. It COULD be the biggest mistake ever, which is why it’s so good that she’s reaching out.
From personal experience… I was best friends with my high school boyfriend’s mom. We were on and off for 7 years.
With an 8 week old and already 1 week pregnant with the next one, he lost his temper at our baby. And all of a sudden me and his mom weren’t good anymore. She cannot, still, see that backing him up in his no effort ways and making excuses for him, hurts the kids still…
You could get this amazing support system, but you could also get the parent side of them where they decide they want their son to be a dad. He clearly doesn’t care about Maya… if they cannot separate the two individuals, she will grow up with that inconsistency in a really hurtful way. I’m trying to save my 2 and 3 year old from exactly that…
My ex’s mom hired a lawyer for him to take custody after ignoring them for 2 years, stating I kept him away, despite him choosing not to show up even when invited…
Just be careful……
This is very good advice and gives her something to think about. Perhaps strong boundaries from the start? Something like “he is not interested, and I don’t want him to be involved if he is not dedicated and committed to being a father, but if you are interested in being her grandmother, aunty etc, then I would love to build that relationship with you”. Thank you for sharing your experience, and you’re doing amazing for your babies 🫶
I’d love to see @cjades as your spooky episode guest! She basically ONLY does spooky videos for her channel.
Anyway, thanks for all your hard work! Love FKS and THT!
Yaya ❤just in time to make dinner and listen
Story 3!! if you guys get an update, please do an update episode I’m invested
Ahh i hope you guys come to VA or somewhere near here soon! I absolutely love all of the tht family! 💚☺️
For the OP of story #1 - I believe we live in the same city so if you ever need a friend to rant to , I am here 😊
For the story on Maya- as someone who’s bio father is not in the picture- I have always wondered what it would be like to know my whole other side of the family. I have siblings. I had grandparents. Other family I would have like to have met sometime at least once. It gets rid of the what if and fantasy of them.
Thanks for keeping me entertained while recovering from a major car accident
Story 1: I would say, sorry mom to be a part of what is going on betwen you and Aunt Shirley. Morgan is right about not wanting to be a middle person of the drama. They are using you. It is tearing you down.
Story 4: Grandpa did OP dirty by not taking a stance in life or after death to ensure OP was properly taken care of with the inheritance. I’m sorry OP, you deserved to be better protected and provided for by the men in your family!
I have said this before, but...as a mother, I would NEVER be with a partner that treated my children poorly.
As "Dad" so eloquently put it: " you go, and you go proudly". ❤
Story 3 sounds like everytime he was on and off with ex he was playing opposite on and off with her. And didn’t want the baby knowing it would show case his running behind his actual gfs back. That other woman has every right to know for her own health and well being. And the child deserves to know its extended family and shouldn’t be deprived because the child’s father is worried ppl will find out he was a cheater.
Story #2 : bad advice Morgan dad is right ! If they didn't say it then why bring it up 10 years later . If it affected them that much it could have been brought up years ago. I agree with dad just convinced them to go to therapy or convince him leave her . If he's been an alcoholic who knows what the mom been through & just didn't tell the kids .
Story 3 - I've just lived through a similar situation with my nephew. His mother died when he was 5 and he is now 13. We never found out who the father was until I did 23 and me on him last year. We ended up getting a match to a half brother. After a lot of back and forth with my mom we decided to reach out.
My nephew, who had no family other than my mom and me, now has 3 brothers, 2 sisters, loving grandparents all whom he sees all the time.
You need to reach out.
Oh i hope we get a update with mya so bad 😞 my heart hurt super bad for you mom. I would be so scared of being looked at like you just want something from his family. but at the end of the day u just really have to know your intentions are pure and truly only wanting what's best for your baby. ❤️ I really hope you reach out and reach out in a way that not threatening to them and i really reallyyy really hope they have a positive reaction and are excited to be grandparents.
The story about Mya, I think this will be a happy outcome- however, I feel I have to say this from personal experience; telling the grandparents, they may love her so much that they fight for dual or full custody. I do not think this is likely in this specific scenario, but better to know of this possibility than to be caught off guard. ❤❤❤❤
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Story 3 as a single mom the father of my baby wasn’t in his life for 7 months of his life and I didn’t tell his parent because I thought that wasn’t my responsibility to tell his parents but my mom and sister told his parents one day and I don’t regret that they have been there for me and my baby even before I gave birth they have helped me with diapers and other thing and even tell me if I ever need help with anything or even to babysit him I’m so grateful my baby knows them and they love him so I would say tell them because you never know your daughter will have a part of her father side just because he isn’t in her life doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve for his family to know their granddaughter and you never know maybe it’s the thing that you actually need so I say take your chance it could be the best thing that could ever happen. It’s better to know than continue in the unknown.
Story 3: I don’t have a relationship with my father or anyone on his side… I didn’t find out until recently that my father’s parents had no idea I existed for a long time. I would have valued the opportunity to have a relationship with them.
Edit it add: I would go to them, lay your cards on the table and offer them the opportunity. If they don’t want to, take it at face value. But I’d say just shoot your shot and see!
Stop promoting better help. They do not help
They’re way too expensive still .. I wanted to try it out but not even affordable therapy unfortunately
I think they’re in a contract tbh and they can’t for a bit
Better Help is owned by Zio’s - they offered free therapy to the IDF 🤢 Deffo raise this up!
Story 3 this happened to a friend of mine and when she reached out to the dads family to fought her for custody even though dad signed away his rights she fought got 6 years to keep her baby from them they wanted the baby and mom have no rights
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In story 5 when OP's mom and step dad said no to Logan, I had a feeling they were jealous and her mom was a misogynistic pick me.. I was right. But it got worse, they're both abusive?? Girl.. no contact to both.
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What about creepy your ex is waiting for you in the dark kind of spooky stories?
Story 5: I was picking up some sexist vibes. It's interesting how they hate their daughters' boyfriends but cool with their son's girlfriend? They want yall to be spinsters. Also, put yourself in your mom and stepparents position. Can you imagine treating your child that way? Think about the kind of people do that and ask yourself if you really care what they think. They enjoy you suffering and caring about them. Suck that venom out and spit it in their faces. Hugs to you, girl. You seriously rock.
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Story 4, the grandpa kind of screwed her pver. Why didn’t he want her to get her money in a timely fashion,
Esp if she has kids. That’s awful
YALL NEED TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING. I know it’s hard and I know a lot of us are recovering, but story 4 is so infuriating because this girl let her entire family just walk all over her. Screw your brother and screw your grandpa who said to “keep the peace”….what peace??? His??? Your brothers??? Because I know for a fact you were not and are not at peace and are going through a mental battle everyday. You need to find some legal advice and get some consultations about what to do with your brother because the only path now is legal. Yeah, it’ll suck for his kids, but do you really want them to grow up in the presence of a man who is okay stealing life changing money from his own family? Great example he’s setting for them. Girl, put on the big girl pants and finally start treating him the way he’s treating you.
Damn im here early. Only 2 hours ago
Story 5. I’m not sure but I’m getting pedo vibes from the stepdad. Why is he saying no to OP anything to do with the boyfriend?
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I agee for story 5 she needs to get out
AHHHHHHH IM EARLY
22:53 everyone sucks wtf
Morgan, your take on the alcoholic father is absolutely vile, and you should be ashamed. The fact that the mom cheated is not okay, and is gross. However, you have no idea what alcoholics put through their loved ones. You haven't been there, so shut up about "her not being in the spotlight".
Once alcoholics get sober, yes, they get congratulated. But you don't know what the spouses have been through. A lot of the time, the burden is on the spouse to take care of the alcoholic, making them exhausted, while the alcoholic may be verbally, even physically abusive. They drain your finances, so you have nothing left for your hard work. They call you names, bring up your biggest insecurities, and weaponize them against you. And once they get sober, they're in the pink cloud, and forget about you. No one is there to support you. And resentment builds - very reasonably so. And often times the alcoholic leaves you in the pursuit of something better they feel like they deserve.
Please have someone on the podcast who's educated on addiction to talk about this. You clearly aren't.
Writer of story 2 here 🙋♀️ I can confirm that my narcissistic mother put us all through more abuse and harm than my father ever did.
And he was a fantastic provider for our family, despite his alcoholism. Every situation is nuanced and unique
I think Morgan was more going on the line that the person going through this said "my mother is a Narcissist"
I have alcoholic family members myself, including my bio dad. I was going off this specific story and what our writer said. This was not a blanket statement about all. There's clearly a lot of nuance here. But this sounds like you are also very triggered by this and affected personally so I can see your side. Thanks for sharing.
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