As someone who had postpartum depression that was diagnosed borderline psychosis, and whose partner was physically threatening my child when they cried, LEAVE HIM. Maybe you can work it out after he receives treatment for his mental health, but please for the sake of yourself and your daughters, get as far away from him as possible asap!
Any guy that says “you’re paying too much attention to your kids and not enough on me” are definitely messed up in the head. There is such a better way to go about this situation.
I would love to see (if it hasn't already been done before) a kind of adulting theme? Im 26 and it feels like ill never been financially stable or able to move put of my parents house and ik a lot of other people my age feel the same way, i would love to hear dad's advice on that kind of topic ☺️
Story 3: I wouldn't recommend confronting him or talking to him prior to leaving... the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when you're leaving ESPECIALLY if they know. Please please talk to a dv specialist for help but do your best not to let him know what's going on until your and your babies are gone
yeah leaving is the most dangerous time. That`s when it stops being walls (such a weird american thing, punching walls) and starts being her and the kid.
Story 4- the fact that he intentionally used this to hurt you can’t be unsaid or undone. He has no one but himself to blame for escalating your insecurity on purpose. I think that says something about who he is as a person and I think your reaction is your gut trying to tell you that the right person would never hurt you on purpose like that. The odds of you finding another virgin you click with is slim, but the odds of you finding a partner that doesn’t hurt you for funsies is much better.
Story 2: good job Jerry and Morgan for making it clear how dangerous this situation is. OP, please take it seriously, don’t let anyone tell you this is nothing to worry about etc. ❤️
As someone with a spouse who over eats all the time, story 6 kind of made me chuckle. I've definitely had times where I've had maybe 8 total out of a tray of chips ahoy before they're gone the next day 😂 he's a compulsive snacker and I don't hold it against him. There's definitely something more going on with that couple than just cookies...
I agree, immediately go to your mom with your babies. You can never be over cautious. Talk with the whole family and get everyone on the same page to hold him accountable to get help. If he takes his out, then you have the entire family there to support you and help keep you and your babies safe. ❤❤
I was so confused about the random pauses while you were reading during 14:40 to 16:07 lol and thought it was a mistake to keep that in. Thanks for including it! It shows how devoted you are to giving us quality content without distractions, but life happens. Love all the podcasts you're on.
Stories 2 and 3: Both OPs, get somewhere safe, IMMEDIATELY. Story 3 OP, you may need to go to a DV shelter. I know you both love your husbands, but they aren’t safe right now. You and your babies need and deserve to be safe. Right now you’re not. Please update when you’re safe. Sending so much prayer and love to both of you. 💕💕💕
Omg story 2! This is so scary. I have a 5 month old and her dad is very involved, honestly couldn’t do this on my own, let alone having to worry that he could hurt her! Please pleas please for the love to your babies get help!
This came at the perfect time 😄 thanks for another great podcast. Listening to all your oppinions helps give insight to many situations and i just wanted to thank you for that 😊
Story4: him being ur first and not his this sounds like a natural feeling that u would need to learn to get over cuz if u move on to another they wont be ur first. But ur feelings u have from the song he created that ick and jealousy. That was his intentions when he said what he did. He can’t unsay it and u can’t I hear it. And now when ever u work through it, when this song comes on could set u back. Sounds like he cuts ties with this girl or u cut ties with him. U can have opposite sex friends but once they have had emotional or physical relationships it’s not ok to continue friendships when with someone u plan to be with. Atleast if u can’t separate what once was which since he throws it in ur face and is malicious he hasn’t. Some ppl can move on and be friends like Jerry’s story. Most can’t. And most ppl won’t stay with ppl who do. It’s too complicated and why have complications when u can find someone who doesn’t keep their past around. He doesn’t have a kid with this woman, why would he keep her around? It wasn’t a fling, they had a song… a romantic one, there were obv strong feelings on both ends or he would t have risked a friendship. Or atleast he wouldn’t if they were truly good friends. So since he did he truly thought there could be something there. Sounds like he reminisces about her. Move on, she’s waiting for him to come back around I bet. Waiting for u two to fail or the next one until someone runs him back into her arms.
For story #2 he needs help! And op needs to leave in the meantime. And yes Morgan is right! Post pardum depression does happen in men too. I hope he gets the help he needs and that you are able to find a safe place ❤
Story number 2, Morgan is right, he needs to be seen and screened for post-partum depression. The disconnect and anger towards the babies is a serious flag for this. I hope OP can get him help, and keep herself and the babies safe. As someone who is about 8 weeks post partum, this falls under the screening questions I've gotten following both of my pregnancies. Coming to him from a place of concern, with at least one person there as support, will be better. Do not do it alone, just to be safe, in case he lashes out.
Story 4, my analogy: it's like getting mad because the clothes you are wearing were touched by the seamstress that made them. It wasn't even when you wanted them, and that person made it possible for you to have that in your life. And my comment: dad's words were beautiful, but OP won't believe them if she doesn't go to therapy. Because when you don't think you're enough, you are going to endure anything and everything, like his red flags.
Story 4 reminded me of something my friends and I would say when we’d talk about the topic of waiting till marriage. “You shouldn’t buy a car with out test driving it first”
Morgan- I saw that pumpkin patch video. How awful, but I never thought about how the kids wouldnt want to go because their dad ruined it. My jaw dropped. My sister and I were those kids.
Story 1: I (F) got married three years ago. I was supposed to also have a best man, my best friend and previous roommate of 7 years. I paid for his entire outfit and arranged a ride for him to get here because he lives in a town two hours away. Two days before my wedding he texted me and said he couldn't come, because he had a job interview the next day at 4 pm. I told him we would make it work, I would arrange a ride back home for him first thing the next morning, or even that night if he needed it so much. He blew me off. 2 months later he called me drunk and blubbering, apologizing for not showing up. He ended up getting the job. I went to visit him once, six months after the wedding and he was drunk when I got there at 7 am and made a mess out of my whole visit. A year later, he told me he bought a car and would come visit. That was a year and a half ago. I haven't spoken to him since. He hasn't been there for me at all, and I grew very tired of babysitting a drunk person every time I made the effort to be there for him. I hope that your husband and his best friend are able to resolve things, but remember to believe people when they show you who they are and how much they care. Sorry you're in this position. ❤
That’s the first step, now let’s go for the second step. Find an activity that youl would normally not have tried, swing, dancing, bocce ball, art, lessons, cooking school, anything that you think that will involve being in a room with other people that you can make new friendships. Let me know how that goes. I have been so busy with work, but I’m gonna take a pause and I’m gonna do the same. I’ll let you know how it goes for me.dad/fks/jerry
Ok, the cookie one got me because me and my husband will let his half of sweets go bad, he will let them sit until they go stale and then offer them to me and at that point I don’t want them and they get thrown out, so I usually ask to eat them if he hasn’t touched them in a certain amount of time (4-6 days for donuts or fresh pastries that go bad sooner, a couple months for packaged cookies and things that last longer). He has literally let cookies sit for over a year until they are completely stale and disgusting. It’s not like we can’t get more when we go to the store every weekend if he doesn’t finish them in a reasonable amount of time 😅 But divorce or breaking up over they one issue is a little crazy 😂
Story 4: Insecure GF, I feel like OP probably needs to not be in a relationship right now and should instead be focusing on her self esteem and self image. I'm with Morgan, I think bf should have kept the "I had s@x to this song with my ex" to himself, that was shitty and also he is really down playing that previous relationship. Part of me wonders if bf is openly comparing whenever they have a disagreement, "Ex would never do xyz," "Ex would do xyz for me "
Story 4: As someone who’s been in a similar situation. Girl you gotta get over it. I was you. All it did was hurt me to think about it. He doesn’t even have her in his life anymore. He is in yours.
I personally went through postpartum depression and it was brutal. Sometimes the crying would be too much especially with the lack of sleep and I already suffer from anxiety and depression before being pregnant etc. If he is not willing to get help for himself, this can get bad very fast. Having a newborn is NOT easy but he should also be able to recognize this behavior is not normal or safe for anyone involved.
It is wild to advise an abuse victim to not seek couples therapy, but then tell her to confront her abuser and tell him she is leaving. Do you know when victims are mostly likely to be m*rdered by their ab*sive partner?
Story 3: I have so many thoughts. First, she probably thinks that she was 90% of the problem when they were dating because he manipulated her and emotionally abused her to think so. Second, there are many women's shelters that will take you in. There are also legal aid organizations that can help with a divorce for low-cost or free. If you are able to, watch or read The Maid.
Lol I’m like the boyfriend who eats all the cookies, I have no self control when it comes to sweets😅 But thankfully my boyfriend isn’t huge on sweets, but he has had to lock some of his snacks in his safe so I won’t eat them, but it’s a light hearted “issue” for us.
Story 3: My ex threw a burger at me (among MANY other things, including MUCH worse DV), and it hit me square in the face. I had to wash my eyes out and see a doctor the next day because my one eye was super blurry. I sadly went back and stayed for several months. He never got help, and he never changed. I would always try to separate myself when he got mad, but it kept happening. Get out and move on. I've been with the love my my life for the past 10 years now. He respects and loves me. Please, think of your babies and your futures. Much love ❤
Hi, for Story 2, I vehemently agree with Morgan on this one! My baby is almost a 1 year old, and my baby was colic at the beginning. He also only wanted momma -- me. To be frank, it sucked for both my husband and I and we are recovering our marriage from it. My husband wanted kids, but on a more logical standpoint, and didn't like babies. But my husband LOVES our son. Despite a severe back injury (worstened by caring for our baby), he has done so much to help me when I can. He makes all the family meals, plays with our baby to give me a mental break, takes baby on trips, and has started taking night shifts again to assist with night weaning. THE HUSBAND IN STORY 2 IS NOT OKAY. To the OP in Story 2, I understand the primary parent out of necessity, but you need help caring for the babies! I'm so sorry. My advice: there needs to be an intervention with the husband to seek mental help. And for everyone’s sake, take your babies and hang out with someone who you trust -- be it family, a close friend, or a local mom with babies close in age. It was so helpful for me and my baby. Having this person drag the whole family down is not okay.
The last story resonates with me so much!!! I had a situationship for over a year and he was great but couldn’t commit and I never knew if he was with other girls and he did sleep with another woman. I left him and a year later I found the love of my life who gave me everything the other guy did but times 10!!! You deserve a great partner and that guy isn’t it!!!!! Go find and love yourself so that you can open yourself to the love you deserve
If you're reading this, your feelings are reason enough, your experience is reason enough. This is the only sign you need. Your experience is valid, your feelings are valid. With love from a single mom of 4 who got us out. You'll be ok, leave. ❤
Story 1- honestly I think the dudes a good guy for taking his priorities SERIOUSLY. If my husband ran to his friends wedding when I was struggling with postpartum I’d be done. Postpartum can come on strong and fast. And when people get married and start families things change. Friendships get halted a lot. It sucks but PRIORITIES
I think Morgan hit the nail on the head with being upset in story 4 about him sleeping with others or how he spoke about it, bc my ex? Used to talk about how hot his exes were and I think thought he was teasing me or flirting with me to talk about it like “oh hope you keep up haha.” Like how women sometimes tease men by saying “I hope you can handle me” But I was inexperienced so it bothered me bc it was like he was planting the ideas of comparison in my head. My man now, I couldn’t give two fucks about his past girlfriends bc he ALWAYS affirms that there is no comparison and he broke up with them for a reason. He reminds me that he is actively choosing me every day and everything I do makes him love me more. He never fails to compliment me and make me feel sexy, but also makes me feel so safe and secure. Even yesterday, someone was trying to hack into an old Microsoft account and he’s stayed on the phone with me til 1 am until I could reset all my passwords, solely bc I just said I was scared and didn’t want to be alone. I really think OP is upset about the WAY he talks and not about the actual experiences. He sounds immature and she deserves better.
Story 4- I have been this person on both ends, it's hard. It sounds like he could be downplaying how serious the friend and he were, having "a song that's theirs" is NOT just casual in my opinion. Is he still friends with her? If so, does she act flirtatiously with him? In my experience, the insecurity might not be that he's comparing you two but that she's still around in general. If there aren't signs that there's a deeper connection between them aside from the song, then remind yourself that he picked YOU and has for close to a year now. If there is cause for concern, you can't do anything to stop him from making those decisions. It's also not fair to ask him to stop being friends with people unless there's major cause for concern, which sometimes feels like the most optimal option. This helps me: you are not a back-up, you are with them NOW. You may be their second, but that doesn't make you second place. Anyone who compares you to previous partners or uses past experiences as contention points doesn't deserve to enjoy being sensual with you, they usually aren't there to appreciate you for who you are but more so for what you do for them.
Story 2: You need to remove your daughters and yourself from the situation. Your husband is a danger to them, and to you, as I know, you'll protect them with your life as I would for my children. He needs professional mental help ASAP! But the safety of your children and yourself is MUCH MORE IMPORTANT! I had PPD, and I didn't have control over my thoughts, but I knew they were wrong and I needed help. I had no feelings for my baby. I never threatened to hurt her or my oldest, I just didn't have any feeling or love toward her. If she cried, I was mechanical in my response until the counselling and medication helped me. It took time, then one day, my daughter smiled at me, and I could feel I loved her for the first time. It was that moment that I knew the PPD didn't win. I don't know if it will be the same for your husband, I hope for your children, that they will have a happy relationship with their dad. It is best not to wait. Safety first and counselling for him, and you may want to do couples' counselling too. Please keep your babies safe.
It’s so hard with domestic violence. I just came out of mine I did consider writing in to share my story but also feel so traumatized by it all. I slept next to a monster. I had no clue who I was with and what they were capable of.
That first story… dude seems like he’s in an abusive relationship to me. He can’t go see his friend without her tagging along EVER, she doesn’t like his friends, and a big event happens and she’s “having a freak out”. As anyone who has dealt with a narcissist knows, that’s just what they do. I really hope the friends don’t give up on him because she’s probably putting him through hell on the daily and he’s gonna need people when the whole thing blows up.
Hi friends I wanted to give my input on story 4 as someone who has felt the exact same thing she has . I feel like the song thing was completely brushed over. I always wondered why I personally was okay with my exes having past sexual experiences and why I was not okay with some and one thing stuck out to me specifically which was these past experiences KEPT GETTING MENTIONED MORGAN DAD PAY ATTENTION TO THE SONG PART
Last story: My partner has childhood trauma that comes with food impulse control. Hide your damn cookies if you love him. I've been hiding food for years. For me it's a roommate issue, not a relationship issue. If you aren't in a place where you love him anymore, then it's time to walk away. I love partner so much. Him eating my "half" of things drives me up the wall, but I'd rather hide my snacks rather than not have him in my life. ❤
Story 6, my husband eats all the good food.. he doesn't register it. If I know I want some later, I just put some in a zip lock and remind him those are mine. Its an easy way for him to register not blindly eat everything. I don't think your wanting to break up over cookies, I think its an easy thing to point to as a reason, and the other stuff is harder to put into words (like something in your gut that it's not the right relationship)
Story 5, i went through that with my ex husband. He cheated our whole relationship. The grief I felt was physically painful when I left him. But it s did pass and the love i had for him did turn into indifference within a couple months
Story 4: everything said was great, but the fact that he’s weaponized it against her is scary. I feel like he’s the reason she’s insecure or comparing herself. She said he had them have s-x with her to that song “to purposely hurt me”… then HE’S upset she’s upset? Nope!
Story 2 - This happened with my SIL and her husband. They tried for years to have their rainbow baby including multiple rounds of IVF. Once he was born? The husband was so jealous of his son. The relationship ended in divorce.
58:16 omggg Morgan I just saw this video tonight! That’s why my husband and I 1. TRY not to fight in front of the kids and 2. Put on a happy face and repeat to each other “it’s for the kids” whenever we reaaaally don’t want to but we do it bc we love our kids and want to give them the experiences- like the pumpkin patch
i have photo evidence , but no story behind it ... i have storieS (plural) because i live in a haunted house , but the actual stories i have behind the photos arent “worthy” enough , i don’t think .
I don't know if I'm weird, but I have a few thoughts about the 1ST STORY: First, is it just me or missing the wedding of you best friend because of issues (OP's best man said that he and his wife had rough days) with your 4 month old baby isn't selfish AT ALL! Like we don't know what has happened and maybe the reason he's not reaching out is because there are some problems ongoing? Second, I may be wrong, but I feel like OP is missing a lot of information. Either way, I don't think wanting to end a friendship over something like this is understandable. I would even say OP is acting unfair towards their friend - like, of course a person would choose their own family over someone's wedding!
As someone who had postpartum depression that was diagnosed borderline psychosis, and whose partner was physically threatening my child when they cried, LEAVE HIM. Maybe you can work it out after he receives treatment for his mental health, but please for the sake of yourself and your daughters, get as far away from him as possible asap!
Reminder to anyone who needs it, You do NOT need a “good enough” reason to break up with someone. You don’t need any reason at all!
Any guy that says “you’re paying too much attention to your kids and not enough on me” are definitely messed up in the head. There is such a better way to go about this situation.
I would love to see (if it hasn't already been done before) a kind of adulting theme? Im 26 and it feels like ill never been financially stable or able to move put of my parents house and ik a lot of other people my age feel the same way, i would love to hear dad's advice on that kind of topic ☺️
Theme suggestion! DRUGED UP OR DRUG DOWN? Dealing with addicts of any form?
Story 3: I wouldn't recommend confronting him or talking to him prior to leaving... the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when you're leaving ESPECIALLY if they know. Please please talk to a dv specialist for help but do your best not to let him know what's going on until your and your babies are gone
We need this to be emphasized. I'm worried about this writer. She is a member of our community.
yeah leaving is the most dangerous time. That`s when it stops being walls (such a weird american thing, punching walls) and starts being her and the kid.
@@chappynelliel5202 Keep an update on this please I want to know if she's safe
@@summeranderson3848 exactly 💯 right
Story 4- the fact that he intentionally used this to hurt you can’t be unsaid or undone. He has no one but himself to blame for escalating your insecurity on purpose. I think that says something about who he is as a person and I think your reaction is your gut trying to tell you that the right person would never hurt you on purpose like that. The odds of you finding another virgin you click with is slim, but the odds of you finding a partner that doesn’t hurt you for funsies is much better.
100%! She deserves to be with someone that makes her feel like the only girl he thinks about
Story 2: good job Jerry and Morgan for making it clear how dangerous this situation is. OP, please take it seriously, don’t let anyone tell you this is nothing to worry about etc. ❤️
Story 4: you can’t get over it because your boyfriend is/has weaponized it against you.
This isn’t healthy, run.
As someone with a spouse who over eats all the time, story 6 kind of made me chuckle. I've definitely had times where I've had maybe 8 total out of a tray of chips ahoy before they're gone the next day 😂 he's a compulsive snacker and I don't hold it against him. There's definitely something more going on with that couple than just cookies...
I agree, immediately go to your mom with your babies. You can never be over cautious. Talk with the whole family and get everyone on the same page to hold him accountable to get help. If he takes his out, then you have the entire family there to support you and help keep you and your babies safe. ❤❤
I was so confused about the random pauses while you were reading during 14:40 to 16:07 lol and thought it was a mistake to keep that in. Thanks for including it! It shows how devoted you are to giving us quality content without distractions, but life happens. Love all the podcasts you're on.
Wasn't it a mistake? I still don't get the pauses.
bahaha that was a total oops. ugh im so embarrassed lol
@@FatherKnowsSomething No I get it. You was probably shocked with what you was reading.
truthfully I think I went and got a snack while editing (because my brain needed carbs) and forgot to press pause 😂
@@taeminislove Lol pretty sure she went back to fix it, you can tell bc those parts of the video are choppy now. My comment gave her timestamps.
Stories 2 and 3: Both OPs, get somewhere safe, IMMEDIATELY. Story 3 OP, you may need to go to a DV shelter. I know you both love your husbands, but they aren’t safe right now. You and your babies need and deserve to be safe. Right now you’re not. Please update when you’re safe. Sending so much prayer and love to both of you. 💕💕💕
Story 2: DON’T GET HELP! Get out! Those babies are your first priority. He has said he feels like hurting them. Get ouuuuuut!!!!!!
Omg story 2! This is so scary. I have a 5 month old and her dad is very involved, honestly couldn’t do this on my own, let alone having to worry that he could hurt her! Please pleas please for the love to your babies get help!
This came at the perfect time 😄 thanks for another great podcast. Listening to all your oppinions helps give insight to many situations and i just wanted to thank you for that 😊
Story4: him being ur first and not his this sounds like a natural feeling that u would need to learn to get over cuz if u move on to another they wont be ur first. But ur feelings u have from the song he created that ick and jealousy. That was his intentions when he said what he did. He can’t unsay it and u can’t I hear it. And now when ever u work through it, when this song comes on could set u back. Sounds like he cuts ties with this girl or u cut ties with him. U can have opposite sex friends but once they have had emotional or physical relationships it’s not ok to continue friendships when with someone u plan to be with. Atleast if u can’t separate what once was which since he throws it in ur face and is malicious he hasn’t. Some ppl can move on and be friends like Jerry’s story. Most can’t. And most ppl won’t stay with ppl who do. It’s too complicated and why have complications when u can find someone who doesn’t keep their past around. He doesn’t have a kid with this woman, why would he keep her around? It wasn’t a fling, they had a song… a romantic one, there were obv strong feelings on both ends or he would t have risked a friendship. Or atleast he wouldn’t if they were truly good friends. So since he did he truly thought there could be something there. Sounds like he reminisces about her. Move on, she’s waiting for him to come back around I bet. Waiting for u two to fail or the next one until someone runs him back into her arms.
1000000% THIISSS!! Oh Lord. Insane. She needs to trust her gut.
For story #2 he needs help! And op needs to leave in the meantime. And yes Morgan is right! Post pardum depression does happen in men too. I hope he gets the help he needs and that you are able to find a safe place ❤
Story number 2, Morgan is right, he needs to be seen and screened for post-partum depression. The disconnect and anger towards the babies is a serious flag for this. I hope OP can get him help, and keep herself and the babies safe. As someone who is about 8 weeks post partum, this falls under the screening questions I've gotten following both of my pregnancies.
Coming to him from a place of concern, with at least one person there as support, will be better. Do not do it alone, just to be safe, in case he lashes out.
Story 4, my analogy: it's like getting mad because the clothes you are wearing were touched by the seamstress that made them. It wasn't even when you wanted them, and that person made it possible for you to have that in your life.
And my comment: dad's words were beautiful, but OP won't believe them if she doesn't go to therapy. Because when you don't think you're enough, you are going to endure anything and everything, like his red flags.
Story 4 reminded me of something my friends and I would say when we’d talk about the topic of waiting till marriage. “You shouldn’t buy a car with out test driving it first”
Morgan- I saw that pumpkin patch video. How awful, but I never thought about how the kids wouldnt want to go because their dad ruined it. My jaw dropped. My sister and I were those kids.
Story 1: I (F) got married three years ago. I was supposed to also have a best man, my best friend and previous roommate of 7 years. I paid for his entire outfit and arranged a ride for him to get here because he lives in a town two hours away.
Two days before my wedding he texted me and said he couldn't come, because he had a job interview the next day at 4 pm. I told him we would make it work, I would arrange a ride back home for him first thing the next morning, or even that night if he needed it so much. He blew me off. 2 months later he called me drunk and blubbering, apologizing for not showing up. He ended up getting the job. I went to visit him once, six months after the wedding and he was drunk when I got there at 7 am and made a mess out of my whole visit. A year later, he told me he bought a car and would come visit. That was a year and a half ago. I haven't spoken to him since. He hasn't been there for me at all, and I grew very tired of babysitting a drunk person every time I made the effort to be there for him. I hope that your husband and his best friend are able to resolve things, but remember to believe people when they show you who they are and how much they care. Sorry you're in this position. ❤
I’m so glad I can listen to this at work
Jerry you’re the reason why I have hope and keep going!
That’s the first step, now let’s go for the second step. Find an activity that youl would normally not have tried, swing, dancing, bocce ball, art, lessons, cooking school, anything that you think that will involve being in a room with other people that you can make new friendships. Let me know how that goes. I have been so busy with work, but I’m gonna take a pause and I’m gonna do the same. I’ll let you know how it goes for me.dad/fks/jerry
@@jerrysiegel3354wow! i message from THE dad. i tried opening that link but it doesn’t work. is there another link possibly?
@jerrysiegel3354 you're so sweet Jerry❤
Ok, the cookie one got me because me and my husband will let his half of sweets go bad, he will let them sit until they go stale and then offer them to me and at that point I don’t want them and they get thrown out, so I usually ask to eat them if he hasn’t touched them in a certain amount of time (4-6 days for donuts or fresh pastries that go bad sooner, a couple months for packaged cookies and things that last longer). He has literally let cookies sit for over a year until they are completely stale and disgusting. It’s not like we can’t get more when we go to the store every weekend if he doesn’t finish them in a reasonable amount of time 😅
But divorce or breaking up over they one issue is a little crazy 😂
Story 4: Insecure GF, I feel like OP probably needs to not be in a relationship right now and should instead be focusing on her self esteem and self image.
I'm with Morgan, I think bf should have kept the "I had s@x to this song with my ex" to himself, that was shitty and also he is really down playing that previous relationship.
Part of me wonders if bf is openly comparing whenever they have a disagreement, "Ex would never do xyz," "Ex would do xyz for me "
Story 4: As someone who’s been in a similar situation. Girl you gotta get over it. I was you. All it did was hurt me to think about it. He doesn’t even have her in his life anymore. He is in yours.
I personally went through postpartum depression and it was brutal. Sometimes the crying would be too much especially with the lack of sleep and I already suffer from anxiety and depression before being pregnant etc. If he is not willing to get help for himself, this can get bad very fast. Having a newborn is NOT easy but he should also be able to recognize this behavior is not normal or safe for anyone involved.
morgan we see you posting at 1am
It is wild to advise an abuse victim to not seek couples therapy, but then tell her to confront her abuser and tell him she is leaving.
Do you know when victims are mostly likely to be m*rdered by their ab*sive partner?
Story 3: I have so many thoughts. First, she probably thinks that she was 90% of the problem when they were dating because he manipulated her and emotionally abused her to think so. Second, there are many women's shelters that will take you in. There are also legal aid organizations that can help with a divorce for low-cost or free. If you are able to, watch or read The Maid.
Lol I’m like the boyfriend who eats all the cookies, I have no self control when it comes to sweets😅 But thankfully my boyfriend isn’t huge on sweets, but he has had to lock some of his snacks in his safe so I won’t eat them, but it’s a light hearted “issue” for us.
Story 3: My ex threw a burger at me (among MANY other things, including MUCH worse DV), and it hit me square in the face. I had to wash my eyes out and see a doctor the next day because my one eye was super blurry. I sadly went back and stayed for several months. He never got help, and he never changed. I would always try to separate myself when he got mad, but it kept happening. Get out and move on. I've been with the love my my life for the past 10 years now. He respects and loves me. Please, think of your babies and your futures. Much love ❤
Hi, for Story 2, I vehemently agree with Morgan on this one! My baby is almost a 1 year old, and my baby was colic at the beginning. He also only wanted momma -- me. To be frank, it sucked for both my husband and I and we are recovering our marriage from it. My husband wanted kids, but on a more logical standpoint, and didn't like babies. But my husband LOVES our son. Despite a severe back injury (worstened by caring for our baby), he has done so much to help me when I can. He makes all the family meals, plays with our baby to give me a mental break, takes baby on trips, and has started taking night shifts again to assist with night weaning.
THE HUSBAND IN STORY 2 IS NOT OKAY. To the OP in Story 2, I understand the primary parent out of necessity, but you need help caring for the babies! I'm so sorry.
My advice: there needs to be an intervention with the husband to seek mental help. And for everyone’s sake, take your babies and hang out with someone who you trust -- be it family, a close friend, or a local mom with babies close in age. It was so helpful for me and my baby. Having this person drag the whole family down is not okay.
Random family having a podcast. We are all stars.
The last story resonates with me so much!!! I had a situationship for over a year and he was great but couldn’t commit and I never knew if he was with other girls and he did sleep with another woman. I left him and a year later I found the love of my life who gave me everything the other guy did but times 10!!! You deserve a great partner and that guy isn’t it!!!!! Go find and love yourself so that you can open yourself to the love you deserve
What makes Tuesdays great! ❤
Perfect watch while I’m at work!
If you're reading this, your feelings are reason enough, your experience is reason enough. This is the only sign you need. Your experience is valid, your feelings are valid. With love from a single mom of 4 who got us out. You'll be ok, leave. ❤
ooo baby i’m so early!! perfect timing.. the last 2 hours of my 3rd shift job will now go by quicker! ❤😂
Same!!!
Story 1- honestly I think the dudes a good guy for taking his priorities SERIOUSLY. If my husband ran to his friends wedding when I was struggling with postpartum I’d be done. Postpartum can come on strong and fast. And when people get married and start families things change. Friendships get halted a lot. It sucks but PRIORITIES
Agree!
What a great episode!! ❤️
I think Morgan hit the nail on the head with being upset in story 4 about him sleeping with others or how he spoke about it, bc my ex? Used to talk about how hot his exes were and I think thought he was teasing me or flirting with me to talk about it like “oh hope you keep up haha.” Like how women sometimes tease men by saying “I hope you can handle me” But I was inexperienced so it bothered me bc it was like he was planting the ideas of comparison in my head. My man now, I couldn’t give two fucks about his past girlfriends bc he ALWAYS affirms that there is no comparison and he broke up with them for a reason. He reminds me that he is actively choosing me every day and everything I do makes him love me more. He never fails to compliment me and make me feel sexy, but also makes me feel so safe and secure. Even yesterday, someone was trying to hack into an old Microsoft account and he’s stayed on the phone with me til 1 am until I could reset all my passwords, solely bc I just said I was scared and didn’t want to be alone. I really think OP is upset about the WAY he talks and not about the actual experiences. He sounds immature and she deserves better.
It’s not about the cookies=it’s not about the pasta. IYKYK
Story 4- I have been this person on both ends, it's hard. It sounds like he could be downplaying how serious the friend and he were, having "a song that's theirs" is NOT just casual in my opinion. Is he still friends with her? If so, does she act flirtatiously with him? In my experience, the insecurity might not be that he's comparing you two but that she's still around in general. If there aren't signs that there's a deeper connection between them aside from the song, then remind yourself that he picked YOU and has for close to a year now. If there is cause for concern, you can't do anything to stop him from making those decisions. It's also not fair to ask him to stop being friends with people unless there's major cause for concern, which sometimes feels like the most optimal option.
This helps me: you are not a back-up, you are with them NOW. You may be their second, but that doesn't make you second place. Anyone who compares you to previous partners or uses past experiences as contention points doesn't deserve to enjoy being sensual with you, they usually aren't there to appreciate you for who you are but more so for what you do for them.
Such valuable advice in here!
Story 2: You need to remove your daughters and yourself from the situation. Your husband is a danger to them, and to you, as I know, you'll protect them with your life as I would for my children. He needs professional mental help ASAP! But the safety of your children and yourself is MUCH MORE IMPORTANT!
I had PPD, and I didn't have control over my thoughts, but I knew they were wrong and I needed help. I had no feelings for my baby. I never threatened to hurt her or my oldest, I just didn't have any feeling or love toward her. If she cried, I was mechanical in my response until the counselling and medication helped me. It took time, then one day, my daughter smiled at me, and I could feel I loved her for the first time. It was that moment that I knew the PPD didn't win. I don't know if it will be the same for your husband, I hope for your children, that they will have a happy relationship with their dad. It is best not to wait. Safety first and counselling for him, and you may want to do couples' counselling too. Please keep your babies safe.
It’s so hard with domestic violence. I just came out of mine I did consider writing in to share my story but also feel so traumatized by it all. I slept next to a monster. I had no clue who I was with and what they were capable of.
It is NOT reccomended to go to counselling with an ABUSER as it can, unfortunately, make them WORSE xx
That first story… dude seems like he’s in an abusive relationship to me. He can’t go see his friend without her tagging along EVER, she doesn’t like his friends, and a big event happens and she’s “having a freak out”. As anyone who has dealt with a narcissist knows, that’s just what they do. I really hope the friends don’t give up on him because she’s probably putting him through hell on the daily and he’s gonna need people when the whole thing blows up.
Was searching for this comment - the friend’s wife’s behavior is really concerning.
Hi friends I wanted to give my input on story 4 as someone who has felt the exact same thing she has . I feel like the song thing was completely brushed over. I always wondered why I personally was okay with my exes having past sexual experiences and why I was not okay with some and one thing stuck out to me specifically which was these past experiences KEPT GETTING MENTIONED MORGAN DAD PAY ATTENTION TO THE SONG PART
Last story: My partner has childhood trauma that comes with food impulse control. Hide your damn cookies if you love him. I've been hiding food for years. For me it's a roommate issue, not a relationship issue. If you aren't in a place where you love him anymore, then it's time to walk away. I love partner so much. Him eating my "half" of things drives me up the wall, but I'd rather hide my snacks rather than not have him in my life. ❤
Story 6, my husband eats all the good food.. he doesn't register it. If I know I want some later, I just put some in a zip lock and remind him those are mine. Its an easy way for him to register not blindly eat everything. I don't think your wanting to break up over cookies, I think its an easy thing to point to as a reason, and the other stuff is harder to put into words (like something in your gut that it's not the right relationship)
Early voted today in GA!!!
I know you guys said you're gonna be doing red flags as a theme, but have you done green flags? Would love to hear those too
If you're planning a Red Flags episode, maybe we could have Green Flags one? Or wholesome stories for the holiday season :)
23:13 the way she is talking about Ixl and in school we have to do ixl lessons for a grade lol
Story 5, i went through that with my ex husband. He cheated our whole relationship. The grief I felt was physically painful when I left him. But it s did pass and the love i had for him did turn into indifference within a couple months
Story 4: everything said was great, but the fact that he’s weaponized it against her is scary. I feel like he’s the reason she’s insecure or comparing herself. She said he had them have s-x with her to that song “to purposely hurt me”… then HE’S upset she’s upset? Nope!
Story two is so so scary. I hope she leaves him. I would NOT want him to be around my kids nor would I trust him to be around them.
As long as you live in the past you’ll never find your future. F the pumpkin patch especially if the kids are also not wanting to do it.
Story 2 - This happened with my SIL and her husband. They tried for years to have their rainbow baby including multiple rounds of IVF. Once he was born? The husband was so jealous of his son. The relationship ended in divorce.
I'll resubmit one on going no contact or parentification
Pink socks match cushions. 🤩
Jerry and Fam!!!🎉❤
58:16 omggg Morgan I just saw this video tonight! That’s why my husband and I 1. TRY not to fight in front of the kids and 2. Put on a happy face and repeat to each other “it’s for the kids” whenever we reaaaally don’t want to but we do it bc we love our kids and want to give them the experiences- like the pumpkin patch
For story #2… could he be dealing with postpartum himself?
polyanory theme and non monog themes - especially with a guest who is poly or ethically non monog
Becareful of leaving with the children without establishing a history of abuse with police reports. You may be charged with abducting a minor.
Firstttt Hi FKS fam!!
i have photo evidence , but no story behind it ... i have storieS (plural) because i live in a haunted house , but the actual stories i have behind the photos arent “worthy” enough , i don’t think .
Send them in :)))
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I don't know if I'm weird, but I have a few thoughts about the 1ST STORY:
First, is it just me or missing the wedding of you best friend because of issues (OP's best man said that he and his wife had rough days) with your 4 month old baby isn't selfish AT ALL! Like we don't know what has happened and maybe the reason he's not reaching out is because there are some problems ongoing?
Second, I may be wrong, but I feel like OP is missing a lot of information.
Either way, I don't think wanting to end a friendship over something like this is understandable. I would even say OP is acting unfair towards their friend - like, of course a person would choose their own family over someone's wedding!
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Respectfully, I don’t listen to this podcast to talk about the need to vote or how important it is. Leave it at the entertainment it’s supposed to be.