Story 4 I gave the marriage ultimatum. He eventually proposed to me on Valentine's Day. Without getting on one knee or anything. But from waiting for so long I took whatever I could get. Then eventually we set a date and started looking at venues. He was fine with anything and didn't want to plan anything. I wanted to plan it together and told him that. So we ended up choosing a court house because he said he didn't want to have guests.... It became a chore to him and nothing he wanted flaunted that's for sure. My ring looked like it was for a man and wasn't even my size (I told him my ring size) He didn't want to wear a suit either. At that point I was heart broken but gave every excuse for him acting the way he was. I was getting married how could I be upset this was everything I always wanted. And as the day came around he magically lost his identification so we were late to the ceremony and when we got there the lady marrying us proceeded to scold me for being late 😂 I stood there in my blue jeans looking over at him in disgust and the thought of marriage was ruined. We stayed together for one year and when I left he wanted to give me everything I always wanted again. Don't give an ultimatum and listen to sweet nothings like me. Find you someone that you don't have to convince to marry you. I found a man who gives me all the things I wanted all on his own. No ultimatum needed no begging needed he just wants to 😊 good luck they are out there waiting.
Not Morgan picking on Dad right off the bat 😂 The repetitive joke arsenal and cringe play on words are a fatherly right of passage and it's our right to suffer through it 🥲 (joking about suffering, it's actually one of the things I miss most about not having a Dad so I really enjoy the second hand dad jokes and antics. I'll bet I'm not alone ❤️)
Story 4 resonates a lot with me. I dated someone for almost 5 years. I told him as soon as I realized that we were "serious" that if I hadn't been proposed to by year 5 that I would do it myself. By year 4 we broke up very briefly, got back together because I told myself I could wait it out, I could wait until he was ready. He also didnt have a good example of marriage in his family. We weren't even living together yet and he was 3 years older than me. Then I realized I would resent him for making me wait for his timeline and broke it off. It was very difficult but I made it out and found someone 3 years later that has given me the security I was begging for in my last relationship. Now we are a year and a half in, living together, have a cat and we are building our lives together ❤️
My bestie of 10 years suddenly ghosted me when my life started to finally get better. Like, poof disappeared (i confirmed she’s alive). My therapist said that when she sees hard friendship breaks like that, often the ghoster feels unable to relate to the ghostee because the ghostee has outgrown them. Still hurts, it’s okay to grieve. A group that will clique you out like that is not the level you want to be at. Don’t seek approval from people who would hurt you on purpose.
Story 1 is soo familiar to mine. I was in that relationship for 9 years and it destroyed me. It got way worse to me, as the abuse became physical. I would be very careful on telling her that he is bad for her or showing him that you don't like him, because he might make her end your friendship. I would suggest acting very supportive of their relationship in front of him. When you are alone, don't be judgementsl, just tell her that you will support her in any way she needs and it's not her fault that he is upset with her. At the end, she needs to figure out herself that this relationship is not for her, and she will need a friend when she decides to leave him. Just be by her side, support her and wait for her to make that decision. I wish you and your friend the best, be strong ❤
Aaaw I cringe when Morgan picks on Jerry!!! But at the same time I also always think, if I did a podcast with MY dad, I’d be exactly the same way🤣Cute to see your dynamic play out, it’s real, and the love between you is still evident.
Story 2: Trust me. She didn’t want or need that tattoo. Me and my ex best friend of 12 years always planned on getting matching tattoos since we were too young to even do so. One day we started drifting. The next I’m congratulating her on her engagement and then she blocked me and my sister from all socials and calling and texting. I never did anything wrong. Her fiancé didn’t like me. Clearly our friendship meant nothing and that was enough for me to close the door on that chapter of my life. And to this day I never reached out to ask why what or how this happened. She lost me I didn’t lose her.
For story 4. I was that girl I am with my partner for 9 years, he always said he wanted to spend his life with me but not marriage. We have 2 kids together, at some point around year 5 I broke down, cried about it to him he said maybe he could change his mind. He did propose but took it back that year. I snapped and marriage went out of my brain. Then around year 7 he's finally decided that he's ready and he's excited, but I don't want a wedding anymore like I used to. No resentment to him more to myself. So my advice, if it's super important to you make it known and don't be afraid to leave cuz I'm so sad I didn't stand my ground.
Story 4: I did this. My ex is 21 years older. He told me 5 days in he wanted more kids (he has 3, plus grandkids, I have none). 2 years in, he changed his mind. He endlessly told me 'we dont need kids for a family', 'how often do I see mine' (which I should have recognised as a red flag!), 'mine are adults with their own lives'. Years later, when the heartache/having my face rubbed in it got too much, so I had to walk away, he spent xmas with his ex/ 5 kids & grandkids while I had nobody. I absolutely regret it & have been overwhelmingly angry at how he manipulated me. All those years, I could have had a teammate & built a family together. Never ever sacrifice for a partner! I think Morgan said it in a THT episode, the right person wont make you sacrifice.
@ivylovesrunning awe, thank you ❤️ I'm gutted it might be too late for me to have kids now, but being out of the heartache/ a one-sided relationship is like a weight lifted, and I know I've done the right thing for myself (albeit a little late hahaha)
i feel like story six we really glossed over the yelling and throwing things. as someone with one parent like that and the other more passive it was definitely the more quick to anger partner that did the most damage. maybe the husband sees no point trying with her because she’s so volatile. this is only from her pov so.
Story 1- the movie Enough starring Jennifer Lopez is a really good story line of how fast an abusive relationship can escalate.. from the love bombing to the control after the escape. Maybe a casual movie night and don't talk to her through statements, talk to her through questions. I have been in OP situation. It took a lot of time, patience and compassion before my friend left. And i was her only friend that didn't write her off when she kept going back. She said if i had written her off like the others, she would never gotten out... so don't give up on her, be her safe place and never sat m shame her for not leaving yet
As someone who broke up with my abusive ex close to 12 years ago... it gets better. I did go on to find the love of my life and we've been together 10 years. If I have any advice to give, please let yourself heal and seek therapy if needed. When the right one does come along you want to be able to have a healthy relationship. Also, trust your gut in future relationships. If it feels wrong it's wrong. If you feel disrespected and you voice it and he doesn't care leave immediately. You will find someone who loves you the way you deserve.
It will get better at first it seems like the worst thing has ever happened. Once you move on hopefully find someone who really loves you, your happiness will be great. Hang in there. If you need any help what so ever don't hesitate to ask. I was in a abusive relationship for 6 years im now 8 years In with the love of my life ❤
The last story...Any time OP starts out by saying " He's a good guy and father* I know they're about to describe a crappy guy and a mediocre father at best. Someone isn't a good guy just because he isn't hitting you.
Exactlyyy the bar is clearly in HELL. "Well he doesn't cheat on me or hit me, he's a great guy and father" 🙄🙄 Bottom barrel bare minimum doesn't equate a great man. Never.
Story 4: I will celebrate my my 8th wedding anniversary next month, as a woman who never wanted to be married. I came from a broken marriage, and both of my parents were married 3 times (my mother passed away 20 years into her third, having told me she should have left #3 15 years ago--my father has been dating the same woman for over 15 years, and is completely unwilling to marry again, and despite her discontent with the decision, I do believe he's made the right choice for himself). My faith in the institution is low. My trust in my partner is not. I would have been with him forever (even through the awful stuff, which we have seen in our 15 years together) without the legal paperwork, so I agreed. I don't regret the choice, but the paper isn't what matters to me, our life together is. If marriage matters to you, and your partner wants you forever, they should be willing to meet you there. If they don't, you should find someone who will.
Story 4: The additional info makes me think he could be cheating. It's weird that he doesn't want people to see him with a ring on. Its interesting that people feel the need to set a time limit on their relationship if it doesn't include marriage. My husband and I started dating in high school. He was the one waiting on me to give the go-ahead on proposing. He ended up proposing on our 10 year anniversary, and we were married on our 11 year anniversary.
The reason I keep listen time after time is bc I genuinely agree with your guys opinions and values. You generate a safe space for people to trust you. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences on here bc I know that can be difficult. Much love from OC ❤
Honestly, if your partner loves you, they should want to see you happy, and if getting married is one of those things that would make a partner happy they should be considerate about their wants. Love is supposed to be selfless. For the girl not engaged, let him go. You will find a person that loves you and will PRIORITIZE YOU!
Their 2 pods are what i fall asleep to/ when I'm trying to relax ❤ gurlie can you please put your mic down a notch or 2 pleasseee! So hard to make a propper volume level to hear you all, at low volume. If i hear her i can't hear the men. If i hear the men, im woken up by the volume of your mic. You have such a soothing voice i would love to hear it at the same volume as the others. Hope you see this and don't see it as hate ❤
I’m 34 and just had my first baby! Don’t listen to people telling you you’re running out of time, everything will happen and you don’t want to have kids with the wrong person. I’m so glad I didn’t get what I thought I wanted in my 20’s.
Story 1: I have a friend who was in this same place. The only things I did that helped was be there for her when she needed me. I told her all I wanted was her to be as happy as I am in my relationship with my partner. Her boyfriend was emotionally and mentally abusive. She couldn't see. She kept saying he isn't thar bad, he's not like that. When he gets mad, he never hits me, he takes his anger out on the walls or objects. I refused to be in her place when he was there, and I didn't talk about him at all. If she brought him up, I would listen to her, then change the subject. It took her our entire friendship until 3 years ago to break it off with him. Now she is with someone loving and caring. She now sees that she should have listened to me in the beginning, but refused. She is grateful I was and am still there for her as a friend, and I didn't drop her when she didn't leave him. If you can offer her emotional support, please do.
Story #1 resonated so much for me. Dated a guy who isolated me and convinced me to cut off my family and move in with him at 19 after only 3 months together. It wasn't until around 7 months in when a family friend who is like a big sister to me literally pulled me aside after meeting him for the first time and just said "what are you doing?" Really rocked me. It still took another month when he escalated that I was able to get out. I hope OPs friend can see what's happening and that OP or someone else will be there to help her get out when the time comes.
Story 2 friendship struggles. As someone who is late diagnosed with autism at 20 in the middle of my college career I have had so much trouble with friendships. I remember in elementary school bothering this girl in my class to go to her house everyday (looking back she obviously didn’t want to hang out lol). I went to a small catholic school so there were only 12ish kids in my grade (depending on the year). In middle school it was 10 boys, 1 girl, and me. I had to be best friends with this girl because nobody else seemed to like me. All the girls in the grade above and below us LOVED her but didn’t like me for some reason. In high school before covid I had a great friend group super close we would hang out all the time and had several group chats. At some point the group chat just died. I’m not great at talking to people… as my dad (who I think is autistic but isn’t diagnosed) says “I just don’t know what to say”. I have empathy and sympathy for people but my way of showing that I think can come off as self centered bc I share a similar story of my own life. I also feel like I can come off as weird in situations where I’m overstimulated because I’m just overwhelmed.
Story 1: Dr. Ramani has some great RUclips videos on dealing with narcissists /people with narcissistic tendencies. Something like that might help op figure out how to help their friend. Sometimes if you can help them see it from a different perspective it helps. Ex: ask what advice she’d give her daughter, sister, or mom if they were in a similar situation. 😢
story 4: DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR DREAM!!!!!!!! you deserve to get married if that is what you want! if your partner cannot come to any kind of agreement, they are not the person for you. marriage is a very common deal breaker! the fact that he previously told you, let’s talk about it later when you were younger was already a red flag. he was already showing you that he wasn’t fond of the idea. bc even if he wasn’t prepared to get married at that point in time, if he truly wanted to get married he would’ve approached it differently. if he wanted to he WOULD. you should NEVER have to beg. stand up 😭 the ring idea is a bullshit cop out & taking it off around friends and family??? GET OUT OF HERE. you don’t deserve that. nobody deserves that.
Fantastic advice for story #1. Stay her safe place. Reassure her of your support and ask lots of clarifying questions when she describes the abuse. That will show active listening an bring behaviors and logic to the surface
I love you guys so much! I think Morgan gets her voice from DAD! I don't have a father figure and although im not a youngen everyone wants a dad, so thanks Jerry for your constant wisdom and insights...I admire your relationship and the fact you want to strangle Dad sometimes, It shows the real love that trumps all xx
THANK YOU MORGAN FOR THESE 3AM UPLOADS🙏🏼😂🤍 my insomnia struggling self appreciates it as I give up on sleeping AT ALL for the 3rd night in 4 days😅 it’s almost 7am now in MN and I’m just gonna shower and get ready for work on no sleep while listening to this😂🤷🏼♀️
My sister and I attended the show in Denver and I just got to let you know Jerry that I was so impressed that you were mingling with everyone. The first thing I said when I entered the venue was “oh my goodness that’s Jerry!!” I’m very shy and didn’t get up the nerve to say hello, but I thought it was really special that you were making everyone feel like friends and family. Keep up the good work ❤
No one knows friendship break ups like a gal in her 20s. My 1st big break was when my one friend wanted to hang out, but wanted to bring her gf, when I wanted to give her space to rant about said gf. She said it was cool, then changed her mind later. While I understood her situation was complicated, I wanted the cute girlhood picnic and her gf would just judge us so I didn't want her there for that 1 MOMENT. I would survive 2 college friends with victim complexes and drop them at roughly the same time as I moved away. Then I lived with a long time friend who was not only lazy in the home, but as a working individual. She just didn't grow up. Friends should be allowed to argue and come back to each other like me and my bestie of 11 years with our tiffs. But you learn to edge out those who are terrible to you and others.
Number four - The perfect partner would not suddenly tell you two years later after saying, “in two years”, that they are no longer interested in marriage. Yes people can change their minds, but a good partner would have been talking to you about this the second it was a thought in their mind. Especially because they knew how important it was for you. What other big things is he going to wait last minute to tell you? Kids? An open relationship? Back packing across the world with his buddies & you aren’t invited? You deserve to be in the loop from day one when it comes to life changing decisions. He is not being considerate of you at all. If marriage is no big deal why can’t he compromise & just have the party & sign the stupid paper? Compromising on who does the dishes & who puts them away is one thing, marriage is not a small compromise & imo it shouldn’t be a compromise if it’s what you really want.
“Don’t put that stressor on the relationship”, not Morgan forgetting she did the same😂 She said to Justin “Hey, I want this, it’s not an ultimatum, but it’s something I want”. I believe telling somebody what your plans are is totally valid, even more so if you’re in your thirties and want children
Story 2: I wouldn't say, what did I do wrong. I would ask why they have planning events without me, and it hurts you. Then if that one friends says you did something wrong, listen to what she says. If it isn't valid, chuck those friends away. If there is some merit, ask your close family if you notice you do this. You may need time. I have lost friends because of their actions. It is not nice to be taken advantage of, and I wouldn't allow it anymore. It should be both people working on the relationship, not one person doing all the work.
I GOT MY EX BACK - and now we're married and expecting our first child ❤ And our relationship is happier and healthier than I ever imagined before the breakup! The breakup actually allowed us to reflect and grow and motivated us to both do some inner work, and we came back together better than ever. But I didn't just sit around waiting for him to come back. I actually learned how to manifest him! It's not spells or magic or anything crazy... its literally just science and psychology. Not only did I become the best version of myself, I manifested the best version of HIM! Without forcing or obsessing to get him back. So yeah... it's definitely possible to break up and get back together in a healthy way 🙌
On the last story, as someone who works in immigration, marriages to get a permanent residency needs to be a good faith marriage, and you'll need affidavit letters, and in those need to say that the marriage is beautiful and is working. If you tell your lawyer, they are obligated to cancel the visa process if you're just staying in the relationship for the marriage. What I'm trying to say, even with that is not possible. They could eventually get a visa thought the kids that is better and would be better for everyone but after the kids are +21.
Story 5- I went through a similar issues with stubborn weight. I would definitely suggest you go get your hormones tested, cause I found out that I had pcos and hormone issues that were making it very difficult for me to loose weight. Not hate here, just a suggestion. ❤
I went through this in school and they were always either jealous or influenced by my bullies , she’s better off without them but can be quaint for family events
For story 6- it’s a tough situation since she wants him to get a visa so the kids can have their father around. If they stayed married but lived separately most likely his visa would be denied because the government would find it suspicious they don’t live together. They tend to do interviews on the couples and randomly stop by their house and investigate if they noticed the husband was rarely home.
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do for your friend continue to be by her side. Don't give her a ultimatum. I was in a very bad relationship it took me leaving him to realize how bad it was. Im so glad I walked away. Your friend deserves to be happy. I'm very happy in the relationship I am in now.
Story 6 - don't wait for visa. It is his problem to solve if he wants to stay there. If not, he can keep in touch with his children through face time. It is HIS problem! Maybe he will marry his mistress if there is any.
Honestly, I went through some really tough things with someone who I thought was my best friend, at the end of last year. And because of that all of our mutual friends had a group chat without me where my best friend would talk shit about me. It’s been almost a year with them out of my life and I’ve been happier.
Story 4: I was with someone whom I loved with my whole heart. We met when I was in my mid 30’s and I really wanted to have another child (my son was 8) and I wanted to get married. He didn’t want more kids (his son was just over a year), so I put that aside since I was still going to have another baby in my life I could be a step parent to. A year into our relationship he decided he didn’t want to get married and he asked if I could live with us just being in a monogamous domestic partnership. I wanted the dress and party and all of it, but I decided I loved him and he was enough. Then we found out the baby wasn’t his so I also lost my second chance at having another child in my life and he refused to have children ( he never wanted to have one in the first place the other one was a surprise). He asked if he and my son could be enough for me. He loved me and he understood if I couldn’t do it since now I would be giving up marriage and another child, but he didn’t want to loose me. So I chose him. The 5 years later he decided that he was in love with someone else, who he had only know for three weeks and he left me. Three years later I’m 45 and still single. I wish I would have not settled and given up my last chances of finding someone to have another baby with and to get married. OP if you’re reading this, don’t give up your dream. It’s weird that he offers to get a ring, but won’t wear it around specific people are in crowds. I have a hard time trusting his intentions with that fact alone. If he loves you then he wouldn’t care what people said if he had a ring. It’s a commitment he would make to you, a tangible visual representation of his promise to you, but he won’t wear it around certain people and places. Fishy!
Late to this but ive been thru a lot of friend stuggles I’m an only child and even at 30 it is still hard. I just wanna assure anyone out there that is an only child that its okay and you can be your own best friend by not being yourself up and trying to understand the people around you. Your opinion isn’t always the right answer and choosing to be positive can be the right choice sometimes.
I hope someone hears story 4 and feels empowered to DTD! When I was 17, I was convinced I was going to marry my BF at the time (not for a long while later, though). Naive, I know. Then, he told me that he had zero plans to get married and alluded that after he graduates, we're done. My brother wisely asked me when I was crying to him about it, why waste your time with someone who already told you there's no chance they want to marry you? It was hard to accept it, but my brother put it so plainly for me that I couldn't argue with the logic. It changed the way I dated after I broke up with my BF at the time. Dump the dude/dame and move on! Your time and energy are too precious to spend it by persuading someone who refuses to see a future with you.
Story 4 You don’t want a “shut up” ring. You wouldn’t have to beg for your needs to be met with the right person. If he really wants to spend his life with you, marriage (or even an elopement!) isn’t a big compromise.
Story 4 They just don’t align. It’s hard because she had all the discussions up-front, but he changed the narrative. I told my husband he had 3 years to propose, and I meant it. I told him up-front, and my rationale was simply that if he didn’t know by then, then he probably just wasn’t that into me. We shared a common goal of being married and having a family, so he agreed that it was a reasonable timeframe. I wish OP the best, but just hope that she doesn’t make herself small just because her dreams are different from his (that rarely works out well).
50:12 if they won’t marry you due to your weight, you do not want to marry them! Life is full of ups and downs in weight and emotions. You want someone who will love you at all sizes.
Story 4: I have a tiny experience on the other side. My ex said he'd let go of his dream of being a father so we could stay together (I don't want kids). I broke up with him anyway because I'd be damned if I'm the reason he has to give up his dream. And furthermore, I don't want to have to guess if he keeps a sliver of hope that I'd change my mind someday
I really recommend the people in the marriage situations watch jigsaw by Daniel Sloss. We can’t keep cramming people that don’t fit into our jigsaw. Each of us has a jigsaw we are building, and sometimes the bits just don’t fit no matter how much you try to force them in.
Story 4: my ex was like I want kids one day and I want to marry one day. 3 years in no marriage. 4 years later no kids.... don't do it. Leave. St6: trigger warning childhood trauma my parents yelled and fought constantly. My dad would threaten divorce in front of me at 3. I was the oldest. It caused me to get into abusive relationship, settle for less in all forms of relationships. It caused me to have life long anxiety. I am also oldest the only way I got them to stop fighting was to get in the middle then eventually they started fighting me. My younger sibling only remembers me being the problem and villain. When I was a child fighting two adults. They don't speak to me and blame me for everything. It's a hell I wouldn't wish on anyone. Please just leave. Also do not complain to your kid about their other parent. This happened to me a lot, and I know more then I ever needed too.
I’ve been in a relationship where he was VERY insecure because he had been cheated on (there were other insecurities as well, but this was the main one). I started doing EVERYTHING I could to make sure he didn’t think I was cheating. I would take pictures of where I was to prove I went where I said I was going (sharing your location on your phone wasn’t a thing yet), I would call and check in, etc. Then I got to the point where I was like “I shouldn’t have to do this. I DON’T have to do this!!!!!” Needless to say, we broke up because of it, and I was happier for it. DTMFA!!!!! (dump that mf already)
Story 1- I say this with peace & love: STOP HATING ON THE BF SO HARD UNLESS YOU WANT TO LOSE YOUR FRIEND. If you keep being so negative about her bf everytime she vents to you she’s going to stop coming to you and will just lie and say things are perfect, or eventually will have to cut you off for her relationship when the bf realizes you hate on him so much and makes your friendship with her an issue. When someone is in a relationship that you can see is toxic no matter how many times you tell them they need to leave, they’re not gonna leave until they are TRULY READY TO WALK AWAY. She’s obviously still so trauma bonded or in love with him that she’s going to keep giving him chances. From personal experience- I don’t openly ask about the relationship, & only give advice when I’m asked for it & can tell the conversation is open for me to give my honest thoughts but even then a lot of times I bite my tongue and try not to be so harsh with my words. Otherwise I keep my thoughts to myself, & I hope for the best and always make myself available to BE THERE NO MATTER WHAT. I can’t stress that enough! When that friend finally has enough & really needs someone, they need to know that they can count on you without judgement! If they need somewhere to stay, someone to cry to about how bad it really has been, anything.. just be a big support system for your friend & be glad when she does come to you with these issues. I always try to offer my advice but in a more neutral way that doesn’t hate on the situation that person is choosing to be in. I’ve been in the position where I’ve hated so hard on the man someone was with and made it known, and it got myself distanced HARD where we barely communicated for longer than a year. Just be gentle and keep in mind she doesn’t see how bad it is & won’t until she gets fed up & leaves one day. I hope one day she leaves him and you get your friend back🤍🤍🤍
Story 3: OP needs a man who WANTS to be a husband. You can want to be a wife & mother, but if the man you’re pursuing has no desire to be a husband, he’s not the one.
An energy vampire is usually given to someone who is constantly complaining every day all day. It’s okay if someone is having a moment, shoot, even a week. But someone who’s negative everyday all the time is draining and it’s not others responsibility to make you happy. That’s something you have to find on your own and even find medical help if needed.
That's not it at ALL it's about balance. If one is constantly complaining, never reciprocating the support. Never celebrating the little things. Not having any sort of fun and just DWELLING on all the shit it's energy vampire zone. On the other hand friends talking, venting occasionally back and forth (the back and forth being vital) laughing in between, making light of the issues, finding solutions etc THAT is supportive friends zone
Story number 2: I had a best friend since high school that just completely stopped speaking to me for a reason I still don't know about. Other than she said she sucks at keeping friendships. She admits it. But will respond to people on social media, except for me. She won't respond to my messages, phone calls, nothing. We used to be as close as sisters. It hurts so much. I try and try to get an answer from her. All I want is closure if anything. But she just refuses. I'll never understand just dropping a friend, let alone best friend, with absolutely no explanation. She did this to me almost 10 years ago. Still crushes me. Because it's hard for me to go out and make friends now being a stay at home mom. I really miss my best friend.
I think number five, the story about the boyfriend who says she needs to lose weight. RUN. I promise you it will only get worse from here. Marriage will make it worse. Having babies will make it worse. This is a tactic to bring your self esteem down, which is abuse, & abuse often gets worse after an event that ties the couple together. Moving in, marriage, babies etc. What would you say if your friend came to you with this issue, or your sister, daughter, niece ??? You deserve better. DTMFA
I would be thrilled if Jerry introduced himself to me and said “Hi, I’m Father knows something” 😄 that’s why we love him. And a little off topic but I’ve met 2 other Morgan’s recently which throws me off bc it’s unusual to meet other Morgans. I don’t love it 😆 I like having a rare..ish name. Anyway, people our parents age can get away with saying cringey things without it being cringey lol.. I guess I used to think my dad said cringey things and embarrass me but now I miss it. He passed 2 years ago at just 64 after a couple years of being sick. Enjoy the cringe it’s funny when Morgan gets a little embarrassed and picks on him but let poor Jerry be corny and sweet. It’ll suit him even better when he’s grandpa🩶
Story number 4 makes me sad, You should never have to beg someone to marry you, you shouldn’t have to give an ultimatum. He’s made it very clear he doesn’t want marriage. He’s not anti wedding he’s anti marriage, he’s anti commitment. Marriage may be a “piece of paper” but it’s a huge security. Without it he can leave at any moment, if you have a house, shared property what happens? You not being his legal spouse allows for contest with medical direction and wills. This one doesn’t want to be married, he doesn’t want to commit and he’s embarrassed to have a ring? He’s not the one. Someone out there wants what you want, find them.
Story 5: Dump him! Your weight (outside of health reasons) should not be a factor of commitment. Life happens, and weight will fluctuate. What happens if you lose it, but then get pregnant, or have a health issue... if his attraction is attached to your size, it will not last.
Story 4: I don’t think staying is going to help. This is a big dealbreaker for me. I would be ok if he was willing to give me a ring own it! Also do a court marriage with no function or do paperwork that aligned assess kids etc. As for me I would worry about him walking away without consequences every day as if he doesn’t feel marriage matters now as a new idea how do I know he won’t want to change his idea of being with me later? Also if he agrees to nothing even if is a compromise between us I would think he will just make his own decisions every time.
44:58 story 4- she isn’t mad enough! He betrayed her! He is a liar, and there’s more to his game. There is something that he isn’t expressing!! Get out of the game he has started playing!!! He is using you as his ♟️ pawn, but may even have more pieces on the board!! (If you catch my drift) He is so cruel!!! Ugh I feel horrible for you!
In story 4, I was hoping her depression to take a bigger role in the advice, but here's my 2 cents: if she's depressed and has had self esteem issues, she probably thinks he's the only one who will like her, ever, therefore she believes she needs to make a bigger effort in loosing weight. She doesn't think she can get anyone better, because she thinks she doesn't deserve it. That's the way of thinking she needs to work on. The only weight she needs to lose is his.
literally not a hate comment just confused, only usually watch THT. but from the two i’ve watched of Father Knows, morgan’s doing the ads too. is she like running this channel too or help with editing?
FKS sounds close to FKK. FKK stands for "Frei Körper Kultur" i. German, which means free body culture, which is the term nudists use. So I just imagined Morgans dad introducing himself as an FKK 😅
Story 4, please don't settle girl. I've seen so many women who give men children and a whole life and all these women wanted was to be a wife and the man can't even give them that. Not fair, not cool. Please don't do it, you deserve way better than that.
For the first sorry when I was listening it did feel like her friends partner did have some instances of biphobia. If I heard the story correct she did say her friend is bisexual so it could be that as well
Asking people why do they want to hurt you is incredibly toxic when you don't know their intention behind an action. They don't owe her to be included but it's a dick move to ghost her.
On story 6, I’m pretty sure him having kids in the country that he raises and supports is enough to stay in the country. If he was applying based on only having a marriage, being legally married and living in separate domains wouldn’t be enough anyways. I’m pretty sure you have to be living together and that kind of thing is checked, because otherwise there would probably be a lot more green card fake marriages.
If u have to get on their case to marry you. They don’t want to marry you. And it’s better to not be with a person who doesn’t love u enough to commit to you
Story 4
I gave the marriage ultimatum. He eventually proposed to me on Valentine's Day. Without getting on one knee or anything. But from waiting for so long I took whatever I could get. Then eventually we set a date and started looking at venues. He was fine with anything and didn't want to plan anything. I wanted to plan it together and told him that. So we ended up choosing a court house because he said he didn't want to have guests.... It became a chore to him and nothing he wanted flaunted that's for sure. My ring looked like it was for a man and wasn't even my size (I told him my ring size) He didn't want to wear a suit either. At that point I was heart broken but gave every excuse for him acting the way he was. I was getting married how could I be upset this was everything I always wanted. And as the day came around he magically lost his identification so we were late to the ceremony and when we got there the lady marrying us proceeded to scold me for being late 😂 I stood there in my blue jeans looking over at him in disgust and the thought of marriage was ruined. We stayed together for one year and when I left he wanted to give me everything I always wanted again. Don't give an ultimatum and listen to sweet nothings like me. Find you someone that you don't have to convince to marry you. I found a man who gives me all the things I wanted all on his own. No ultimatum needed no begging needed he just wants to 😊 good luck they are out there waiting.
I am sorry, but glad you found someone that actually wanted to marry you!
Not Morgan picking on Dad right off the bat 😂 The repetitive joke arsenal and cringe play on words are a fatherly right of passage and it's our right to suffer through it 🥲 (joking about suffering, it's actually one of the things I miss most about not having a Dad so I really enjoy the second hand dad jokes and antics. I'll bet I'm not alone ❤️)
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We're all a bitch at least 2 days a month x
@@kbeventinfo2562🤡 she wasn't being a bitch it's called banter. Weirdo
Love Jerry he is authentically himself and better than most dad's. Everyone is lucky you share him with us.
Story 4 resonates a lot with me. I dated someone for almost 5 years. I told him as soon as I realized that we were "serious" that if I hadn't been proposed to by year 5 that I would do it myself. By year 4 we broke up very briefly, got back together because I told myself I could wait it out, I could wait until he was ready. He also didnt have a good example of marriage in his family. We weren't even living together yet and he was 3 years older than me. Then I realized I would resent him for making me wait for his timeline and broke it off. It was very difficult but I made it out and found someone 3 years later that has given me the security I was begging for in my last relationship. Now we are a year and a half in, living together, have a cat and we are building our lives together ❤️
listening while i fall asleep & coming back later to actually listen 😂
me too!! it’s my white noise loll!!
I do this🤣 Morgan has a soothing voice
Thought I was the only one doing this 😅
Thought it was only me
Same
Morgan was not in the mood for dad’s usual thing today. Poor dad! 😂
My bestie of 10 years suddenly ghosted me when my life started to finally get better. Like, poof disappeared (i confirmed she’s alive). My therapist said that when she sees hard friendship breaks like that, often the ghoster feels unable to relate to the ghostee because the ghostee has outgrown them. Still hurts, it’s okay to grieve. A group that will clique you out like that is not the level you want to be at. Don’t seek approval from people who would hurt you on purpose.
Story 1 is soo familiar to mine. I was in that relationship for 9 years and it destroyed me. It got way worse to me, as the abuse became physical. I would be very careful on telling her that he is bad for her or showing him that you don't like him, because he might make her end your friendship. I would suggest acting very supportive of their relationship in front of him. When you are alone, don't be judgementsl, just tell her that you will support her in any way she needs and it's not her fault that he is upset with her. At the end, she needs to figure out herself that this relationship is not for her, and she will need a friend when she decides to leave him. Just be by her side, support her and wait for her to make that decision. I wish you and your friend the best, be strong ❤
Aaaw I cringe when Morgan picks on Jerry!!! But at the same time I also always think, if I did a podcast with MY dad, I’d be exactly the same way🤣Cute to see your dynamic play out, it’s real, and the love between you is still evident.
We banter back and forth. The only time he isn't razzing me and pulling my leg is when we record 😂
awww Morgan don’t call him cringe 😭
Story 2: Trust me. She didn’t want or need that tattoo. Me and my ex best friend of 12 years always planned on getting matching tattoos since we were too young to even do so. One day we started drifting. The next I’m congratulating her on her engagement and then she blocked me and my sister from all socials and calling and texting. I never did anything wrong. Her fiancé didn’t like me. Clearly our friendship meant nothing and that was enough for me to close the door on that chapter of my life. And to this day I never reached out to ask why what or how this happened. She lost me I didn’t lose her.
For story 4. I was that girl I am with my partner for 9 years, he always said he wanted to spend his life with me but not marriage. We have 2 kids together, at some point around year 5 I broke down, cried about it to him he said maybe he could change his mind. He did propose but took it back that year. I snapped and marriage went out of my brain. Then around year 7 he's finally decided that he's ready and he's excited, but I don't want a wedding anymore like I used to. No resentment to him more to myself. So my advice, if it's super important to you make it known and don't be afraid to leave cuz I'm so sad I didn't stand my ground.
So you're still with him???
Story 4: I did this. My ex is 21 years older. He told me 5 days in he wanted more kids (he has 3, plus grandkids, I have none). 2 years in, he changed his mind. He endlessly told me 'we dont need kids for a family', 'how often do I see mine' (which I should have recognised as a red flag!), 'mine are adults with their own lives'. Years later, when the heartache/having my face rubbed in it got too much, so I had to walk away, he spent xmas with his ex/ 5 kids & grandkids while I had nobody. I absolutely regret it & have been overwhelmingly angry at how he manipulated me. All those years, I could have had a teammate & built a family together. Never ever sacrifice for a partner! I think Morgan said it in a THT episode, the right person wont make you sacrifice.
I am sorry he did this to you. Are you happy now?
@ivylovesrunning awe, thank you ❤️ I'm gutted it might be too late for me to have kids now, but being out of the heartache/ a one-sided relationship is like a weight lifted, and I know I've done the right thing for myself (albeit a little late hahaha)
@@taranightowl It may not be too late. I hope you are able to have the happiness you deserve.
@@ivylovesrunning what a lovely thing to say, thank you :-) I don’t know your circumstances, but wishing you the same happiness
i feel like story six we really glossed over the yelling and throwing things. as someone with one parent like that and the other more passive it was definitely the more quick to anger partner that did the most damage. maybe the husband sees no point trying with her because she’s so volatile. this is only from her pov so.
Story 1- the movie Enough starring Jennifer Lopez is a really good story line of how fast an abusive relationship can escalate.. from the love bombing to the control after the escape. Maybe a casual movie night and don't talk to her through statements, talk to her through questions. I have been in OP situation. It took a lot of time, patience and compassion before my friend left. And i was her only friend that didn't write her off when she kept going back. She said if i had written her off like the others, she would never gotten out... so don't give up on her, be her safe place and never sat m shame her for not leaving yet
Literally broke up with my abu$Ive ex a week ago, trying to find strength is difficult.. thank you for the episode!!
As someone who broke up with my abusive ex close to 12 years ago... it gets better. I did go on to find the love of my life and we've been together 10 years. If I have any advice to give, please let yourself heal and seek therapy if needed. When the right one does come along you want to be able to have a healthy relationship. Also, trust your gut in future relationships. If it feels wrong it's wrong. If you feel disrespected and you voice it and he doesn't care leave immediately. You will find someone who loves you the way you deserve.
It will get better at first it seems like the worst thing has ever happened. Once you move on hopefully find someone who really loves you, your happiness will be great. Hang in there. If you need any help what so ever don't hesitate to ask. I was in a abusive relationship for 6 years im now 8 years In with the love of my life ❤
The last story...Any time OP starts out by saying " He's a good guy and father* I know they're about to describe a crappy guy and a mediocre father at best. Someone isn't a good guy just because he isn't hitting you.
Exactlyyy the bar is clearly in HELL. "Well he doesn't cheat on me or hit me, he's a great guy and father" 🙄🙄
Bottom barrel bare minimum doesn't equate a great man. Never.
Not cringy !! Very cutesy 🥹😂❤️
I’m glad you enjoy ❤️
Story 4: I will celebrate my my 8th wedding anniversary next month, as a woman who never wanted to be married. I came from a broken marriage, and both of my parents were married 3 times (my mother passed away 20 years into her third, having told me she should have left #3 15 years ago--my father has been dating the same woman for over 15 years, and is completely unwilling to marry again, and despite her discontent with the decision, I do believe he's made the right choice for himself). My faith in the institution is low. My trust in my partner is not. I would have been with him forever (even through the awful stuff, which we have seen in our 15 years together) without the legal paperwork, so I agreed. I don't regret the choice, but the paper isn't what matters to me, our life together is.
If marriage matters to you, and your partner wants you forever, they should be willing to meet you there. If they don't, you should find someone who will.
0:55 morgan leave him alonee 😭😭
Story 4: The additional info makes me think he could be cheating. It's weird that he doesn't want people to see him with a ring on.
Its interesting that people feel the need to set a time limit on their relationship if it doesn't include marriage. My husband and I started dating in high school. He was the one waiting on me to give the go-ahead on proposing. He ended up proposing on our 10 year anniversary, and we were married on our 11 year anniversary.
I actually get sad when an episode passes without hearing Dads joke of “I only know something, not best..”
The reason I keep listen time after time is bc I genuinely agree with your guys opinions and values. You generate a safe space for people to trust you. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences on here bc I know that can be difficult. Much love from OC ❤
Honestly, if your partner loves you, they should want to see you happy, and if getting married is one of those things that would make a partner happy they should be considerate about their wants. Love is supposed to be selfless.
For the girl not engaged, let him go. You will find a person that loves you and will PRIORITIZE YOU!
Their 2 pods are what i fall asleep to/ when I'm trying to relax ❤ gurlie can you please put your mic down a notch or 2 pleasseee! So hard to make a propper volume level to hear you all, at low volume. If i hear her i can't hear the men. If i hear the men, im woken up by the volume of your mic. You have such a soothing voice i would love to hear it at the same volume as the others. Hope you see this and don't see it as hate ❤
Hahaha that's how he introduced himself at a live show but I loved it because I was too awkward to address him so I appreciated it!!
I’m 34 and just had my first baby! Don’t listen to people telling you you’re running out of time, everything will happen and you don’t want to have kids with the wrong person. I’m so glad I didn’t get what I thought I wanted in my 20’s.
Also! I feel like if the man doesn’t want the baby, she will be raising that baby by herself!
Story 1: I have a friend who was in this same place. The only things I did that helped was be there for her when she needed me. I told her all I wanted was her to be as happy as I am in my relationship with my partner. Her boyfriend was emotionally and mentally abusive. She couldn't see. She kept saying he isn't thar bad, he's not like that. When he gets mad, he never hits me, he takes his anger out on the walls or objects. I refused to be in her place when he was there, and I didn't talk about him at all. If she brought him up, I would listen to her, then change the subject. It took her our entire friendship until 3 years ago to break it off with him. Now she is with someone loving and caring. She now sees that she should have listened to me in the beginning, but refused. She is grateful I was and am still there for her as a friend, and I didn't drop her when she didn't leave him. If you can offer her emotional support, please do.
Story #1 resonated so much for me. Dated a guy who isolated me and convinced me to cut off my family and move in with him at 19 after only 3 months together. It wasn't until around 7 months in when a family friend who is like a big sister to me literally pulled me aside after meeting him for the first time and just said "what are you doing?" Really rocked me. It still took another month when he escalated that I was able to get out. I hope OPs friend can see what's happening and that OP or someone else will be there to help her get out when the time comes.
Story 2 friendship struggles. As someone who is late diagnosed with autism at 20 in the middle of my college career I have had so much trouble with friendships. I remember in elementary school bothering this girl in my class to go to her house everyday (looking back she obviously didn’t want to hang out lol). I went to a small catholic school so there were only 12ish kids in my grade (depending on the year). In middle school it was 10 boys, 1 girl, and me. I had to be best friends with this girl because nobody else seemed to like me. All the girls in the grade above and below us LOVED her but didn’t like me for some reason. In high school before covid I had a great friend group super close we would hang out all the time and had several group chats. At some point the group chat just died. I’m not great at talking to people… as my dad (who I think is autistic but isn’t diagnosed) says “I just don’t know what to say”. I have empathy and sympathy for people but my way of showing that I think can come off as self centered bc I share a similar story of my own life. I also feel like I can come off as weird in situations where I’m overstimulated because I’m just overwhelmed.
Story 1: Dr. Ramani has some great RUclips videos on dealing with narcissists /people with narcissistic tendencies. Something like that might help op figure out how to help their friend. Sometimes if you can help them see it from a different perspective it helps. Ex: ask what advice she’d give her daughter, sister, or mom if they were in a similar situation. 😢
story 4: DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR DREAM!!!!!!!! you deserve to get married if that is what you want! if your partner cannot come to any kind of agreement, they are not the person for you. marriage is a very common deal breaker!
the fact that he previously told you, let’s talk about it later when you were younger was already a red flag. he was already showing you that he wasn’t fond of the idea. bc even if he wasn’t prepared to get married at that point in time, if he truly wanted to get married he would’ve approached it differently.
if he wanted to he WOULD. you should NEVER have to beg. stand up 😭
the ring idea is a bullshit cop out & taking it off around friends and family??? GET OUT OF HERE. you don’t deserve that. nobody deserves that.
Story 4, leave. In 5,10,20 years will you wish you were married and had the wedding? If yes then you deserve someone who wants the same
Fantastic advice for story #1.
Stay her safe place. Reassure her of your support and ask lots of clarifying questions when she describes the abuse. That will show active listening an bring behaviors and logic to the surface
I love you guys so much! I think Morgan gets her voice from DAD! I don't have a father figure and although im not a youngen everyone wants a dad, so thanks Jerry for your constant wisdom and insights...I admire your relationship and the fact you want to strangle Dad sometimes, It shows the real love that trumps all xx
THANK YOU MORGAN FOR THESE 3AM UPLOADS🙏🏼😂🤍
my insomnia struggling self appreciates it as I give up on sleeping AT ALL for the 3rd night in 4 days😅 it’s almost 7am now in MN and I’m just gonna shower and get ready for work on no sleep while listening to this😂🤷🏼♀️
I love “father knows best” saying 😭💕
Not at all cringy! 😊
My sister and I attended the show in Denver and I just got to let you know Jerry that I was so impressed that you were mingling with everyone. The first thing I said when I entered the venue was “oh my goodness that’s Jerry!!” I’m very shy and didn’t get up the nerve to say hello, but I thought it was really special that you were making everyone feel like friends and family. Keep up the good work ❤
Story 4
Its not childish if its important to you and the right person wouldnt make you feel like it is.
No one knows friendship break ups like a gal in her 20s. My 1st big break was when my one friend wanted to hang out, but wanted to bring her gf, when I wanted to give her space to rant about said gf. She said it was cool, then changed her mind later. While I understood her situation was complicated, I wanted the cute girlhood picnic and her gf would just judge us so I didn't want her there for that 1 MOMENT. I would survive 2 college friends with victim complexes and drop them at roughly the same time as I moved away. Then I lived with a long time friend who was not only lazy in the home, but as a working individual. She just didn't grow up. Friends should be allowed to argue and come back to each other like me and my bestie of 11 years with our tiffs. But you learn to edge out those who are terrible to you and others.
Number four - The perfect partner would not suddenly tell you two years later after saying, “in two years”, that they are no longer interested in marriage. Yes people can change their minds, but a good partner would have been talking to you about this the second it was a thought in their mind. Especially because they knew how important it was for you.
What other big things is he going to wait last minute to tell you? Kids? An open relationship? Back packing across the world with his buddies & you aren’t invited?
You deserve to be in the loop from day one when it comes to life changing decisions. He is not being considerate of you at all. If marriage is no big deal why can’t he compromise & just have the party & sign the stupid paper?
Compromising on who does the dishes & who puts them away is one thing, marriage is not a small compromise & imo it shouldn’t be a compromise if it’s what you really want.
Morgan is such a cool person, when a apocalyps breaks out, I want her in my team.
“Don’t put that stressor on the relationship”, not Morgan forgetting she did the same😂 She said to Justin “Hey, I want this, it’s not an ultimatum, but it’s something I want”. I believe telling somebody what your plans are is totally valid, even more so if you’re in your thirties and want children
Story 2: I wouldn't say, what did I do wrong. I would ask why they have planning events without me, and it hurts you. Then if that one friends says you did something wrong, listen to what she says. If it isn't valid, chuck those friends away. If there is some merit, ask your close family if you notice you do this. You may need time.
I have lost friends because of their actions. It is not nice to be taken advantage of, and I wouldn't allow it anymore. It should be both people working on the relationship, not one person doing all the work.
I GOT MY EX BACK - and now we're married and expecting our first child ❤
And our relationship is happier and healthier than I ever imagined before the breakup!
The breakup actually allowed us to reflect and grow and motivated us to both do some inner work, and we came back together better than ever.
But I didn't just sit around waiting for him to come back. I actually learned how to manifest him!
It's not spells or magic or anything crazy... its literally just science and psychology.
Not only did I become the best version of myself, I manifested the best version of HIM! Without forcing or obsessing to get him back.
So yeah... it's definitely possible to break up and get back together in a healthy way 🙌
I do have a getting back with an ex!! A full divorce with kids. It's got soooo much tea I should post
Please do right in with your story
On the last story, as someone who works in immigration, marriages to get a permanent residency needs to be a good faith marriage, and you'll need affidavit letters, and in those need to say that the marriage is beautiful and is working. If you tell your lawyer, they are obligated to cancel the visa process if you're just staying in the relationship for the marriage. What I'm trying to say, even with that is not possible. They could eventually get a visa thought the kids that is better and would be better for everyone but after the kids are +21.
Story 5- I went through a similar issues with stubborn weight. I would definitely suggest you go get your hormones tested, cause I found out that I had pcos and hormone issues that were making it very difficult for me to loose weight. Not hate here, just a suggestion. ❤
Yayyy now I can listen and fall asleeep!! 💤
Love the shout out to holly, ❤
I went through this in school and they were always either jealous or influenced by my bullies , she’s better off without them but can be quaint for family events
AMAAAAZING!!! Listening to this whilst I play Dreamlight Valley 💖 xxxx
Story 4-my eldest sister was one of the women who gave up the marriage dream to stay in the relationship. They’ve been married for three years now.
For story 6- it’s a tough situation since she wants him to get a visa so the kids can have their father around. If they stayed married but lived separately most likely his visa would be denied because the government would find it suspicious they don’t live together. They tend to do interviews on the couples and randomly stop by their house and investigate if they noticed the husband was rarely home.
Unfortunately there is nothing you can do for your friend continue to be by her side. Don't give her a ultimatum. I was in a very bad relationship it took me leaving him to realize how bad it was. Im so glad I walked away. Your friend deserves to be happy. I'm very happy in the relationship I am in now.
Story 6 - don't wait for visa. It is his problem to solve if he wants to stay there. If not, he can keep in touch with his children through face time. It is HIS problem! Maybe he will marry his mistress if there is any.
Honestly, I went through some really tough things with someone who I thought was my best friend, at the end of last year. And because of that all of our mutual friends had a group chat without me where my best friend would talk shit about me. It’s been almost a year with them out of my life and I’ve been happier.
Story 4:
I was with someone whom I loved with my whole heart. We met when I was in my mid 30’s and I really wanted to have another child (my son was 8) and I wanted to get married. He didn’t want more kids (his son was just over a year), so I put that aside since I was still going to have another baby in my life I could be a step parent to. A year into our relationship he decided he didn’t want to get married and he asked if I could live with us just being in a monogamous domestic partnership. I wanted the dress and party and all of it, but I decided I loved him and he was enough. Then we found out the baby wasn’t his so I also lost my second chance at having another child in my life and he refused to have children ( he never wanted to have one in the first place the other one was a surprise). He asked if he and my son could be enough for me. He loved me and he understood if I couldn’t do it since now I would be giving up marriage and another child, but he didn’t want to loose me. So I chose him. The 5 years later he decided that he was in love with someone else, who he had only know for three weeks and he left me. Three years later I’m 45 and still single. I wish I would have not settled and given up my last chances of finding someone to have another baby with and to get married.
OP if you’re reading this, don’t give up your dream. It’s weird that he offers to get a ring, but won’t wear it around specific people are in crowds. I have a hard time trusting his intentions with that fact alone. If he loves you then he wouldn’t care what people said if he had a ring. It’s a commitment he would make to you, a tangible visual representation of his promise to you, but he won’t wear it around certain people and places. Fishy!
Late to this but ive been thru a lot of friend stuggles I’m an only child and even at 30 it is still hard. I just wanna assure anyone out there that is an only child that its okay and you can be your own best friend by not being yourself up and trying to understand the people around you. Your opinion isn’t always the right answer and choosing to be positive can be the right choice sometimes.
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I hope someone hears story 4 and feels empowered to DTD! When I was 17, I was convinced I was going to marry my BF at the time (not for a long while later, though). Naive, I know. Then, he told me that he had zero plans to get married and alluded that after he graduates, we're done. My brother wisely asked me when I was crying to him about it, why waste your time with someone who already told you there's no chance they want to marry you? It was hard to accept it, but my brother put it so plainly for me that I couldn't argue with the logic. It changed the way I dated after I broke up with my BF at the time. Dump the dude/dame and move on! Your time and energy are too precious to spend it by persuading someone who refuses to see a future with you.
Story 4
You don’t want a “shut up” ring. You wouldn’t have to beg for your needs to be met with the right person. If he really wants to spend his life with you, marriage (or even an elopement!) isn’t a big compromise.
Story 4
They just don’t align. It’s hard because she had all the discussions up-front, but he changed the narrative. I told my husband he had 3 years to propose, and I meant it. I told him up-front, and my rationale was simply that if he didn’t know by then, then he probably just wasn’t that into me. We shared a common goal of being married and having a family, so he agreed that it was a reasonable timeframe. I wish OP the best, but just hope that she doesn’t make herself small just because her dreams are different from his (that rarely works out well).
50:12 if they won’t marry you due to your weight, you do not want to marry them! Life is full of ups and downs in weight and emotions. You want someone who will love you at all sizes.
Story 4: I have a tiny experience on the other side. My ex said he'd let go of his dream of being a father so we could stay together (I don't want kids). I broke up with him anyway because I'd be damned if I'm the reason he has to give up his dream. And furthermore, I don't want to have to guess if he keeps a sliver of hope that I'd change my mind someday
I really recommend the people in the marriage situations watch jigsaw by Daniel Sloss. We can’t keep cramming people that don’t fit into our jigsaw. Each of us has a jigsaw we are building, and sometimes the bits just don’t fit no matter how much you try to force them in.
LOVE Daniel Sloss!! Such a great special
Story 4: my ex was like I want kids one day and I want to marry one day. 3 years in no marriage. 4 years later no kids.... don't do it. Leave.
St6: trigger warning childhood trauma my parents yelled and fought constantly. My dad would threaten divorce in front of me at 3. I was the oldest. It caused me to get into abusive relationship, settle for less in all forms of relationships. It caused me to have life long anxiety. I am also oldest the only way I got them to stop fighting was to get in the middle then eventually they started fighting me. My younger sibling only remembers me being the problem and villain. When I was a child fighting two adults. They don't speak to me and blame me for everything. It's a hell I wouldn't wish on anyone. Please just leave. Also do not complain to your kid about their other parent. This happened to me a lot, and I know more then I ever needed too.
I’ve been in a relationship where he was VERY insecure because he had been cheated on (there were other insecurities as well, but this was the main one). I started doing EVERYTHING I could to make sure he didn’t think I was cheating. I would take pictures of where I was to prove I went where I said I was going (sharing your location on your phone wasn’t a thing yet), I would call and check in, etc. Then I got to the point where I was like “I shouldn’t have to do this. I DON’T have to do this!!!!!” Needless to say, we broke up because of it, and I was happier for it.
DTMFA!!!!! (dump that mf already)
Story 1- I say this with peace & love: STOP HATING ON THE BF SO HARD UNLESS YOU WANT TO LOSE YOUR FRIEND. If you keep being so negative about her bf everytime she vents to you she’s going to stop coming to you and will just lie and say things are perfect, or eventually will have to cut you off for her relationship when the bf realizes you hate on him so much and makes your friendship with her an issue.
When someone is in a relationship that you can see is toxic no matter how many times you tell them they need to leave, they’re not gonna leave until they are TRULY READY TO WALK AWAY. She’s obviously still so trauma bonded or in love with him that she’s going to keep giving him chances. From personal experience- I don’t openly ask about the relationship, & only give advice when I’m asked for it & can tell the conversation is open for me to give my honest thoughts but even then a lot of times I bite my tongue and try not to be so harsh with my words. Otherwise I keep my thoughts to myself, & I hope for the best and always make myself available to BE THERE NO MATTER WHAT. I can’t stress that enough! When that friend finally has enough & really needs someone, they need to know that they can count on you without judgement! If they need somewhere to stay, someone to cry to about how bad it really has been, anything.. just be a big support system for your friend & be glad when she does come to you with these issues. I always try to offer my advice but in a more neutral way that doesn’t hate on the situation that person is choosing to be in. I’ve been in the position where I’ve hated so hard on the man someone was with and made it known, and it got myself distanced HARD where we barely communicated for longer than a year. Just be gentle and keep in mind she doesn’t see how bad it is & won’t until she gets fed up & leaves one day. I hope one day she leaves him and you get your friend back🤍🤍🤍
If Jerry told me that, Id laugh. Its such a dad thing to do.
Story 3: OP needs a man who WANTS to be a husband. You can want to be a wife & mother, but if the man you’re pursuing has no desire to be a husband, he’s not the one.
Story 2: wow that sucks- I agree need to have it out!
Wait so when did society go from: support your friends, to : energy vampire, don´t hang out with people who are down
An energy vampire is usually given to someone who is constantly complaining every day all day. It’s okay if someone is having a moment, shoot, even a week. But someone who’s negative everyday all the time is draining and it’s not others responsibility to make you happy. That’s something you have to find on your own and even find medical help if needed.
That's not it at ALL it's about balance. If one is constantly complaining, never reciprocating the support. Never celebrating the little things. Not having any sort of fun and just DWELLING on all the shit it's energy vampire zone.
On the other hand friends talking, venting occasionally back and forth (the back and forth being vital) laughing in between, making light of the issues, finding solutions etc THAT is supportive friends zone
Story number 2: I had a best friend since high school that just completely stopped speaking to me for a reason I still don't know about. Other than she said she sucks at keeping friendships. She admits it. But will respond to people on social media, except for me. She won't respond to my messages, phone calls, nothing. We used to be as close as sisters. It hurts so much. I try and try to get an answer from her. All I want is closure if anything. But she just refuses. I'll never understand just dropping a friend, let alone best friend, with absolutely no explanation. She did this to me almost 10 years ago. Still crushes me. Because it's hard for me to go out and make friends now being a stay at home mom. I really miss my best friend.
Sounds like the brother might be getting ready to dump her so they don’t want keep her included
I think number five, the story about the boyfriend who says she needs to lose weight. RUN.
I promise you it will only get worse from here. Marriage will make it worse. Having babies will make it worse. This is a tactic to bring your self esteem down, which is abuse, & abuse often gets worse after an event that ties the couple together. Moving in, marriage, babies etc.
What would you say if your friend came to you with this issue, or your sister, daughter, niece ??? You deserve better. DTMFA
I would be thrilled if Jerry introduced himself to me and said “Hi, I’m Father knows something” 😄 that’s why we love him. And a little off topic but I’ve met 2 other Morgan’s recently which throws me off bc it’s unusual to meet other Morgans. I don’t love it 😆 I like having a rare..ish name. Anyway, people our parents age can get away with saying cringey things without it being cringey lol.. I guess I used to think my dad said cringey things and embarrass me but now I miss it. He passed 2 years ago at just 64 after a couple years of being sick. Enjoy the cringe it’s funny when Morgan gets a little embarrassed and picks on him but let poor Jerry be corny and sweet. It’ll suit him even better when he’s grandpa🩶
What an amazing podcast it made my day 🤩❤️
Story number 4 makes me sad,
You should never have to beg someone to marry you, you shouldn’t have to give an ultimatum. He’s made it very clear he doesn’t want marriage. He’s not anti wedding he’s anti marriage, he’s anti commitment. Marriage may be a “piece of paper” but it’s a huge security. Without it he can leave at any moment, if you have a house, shared property what happens? You not being his legal spouse allows for contest with medical direction and wills.
This one doesn’t want to be married, he doesn’t want to commit and he’s embarrassed to have a ring? He’s not the one. Someone out there wants what you want, find them.
I hate that we all have a story 1 😭
Story 5: Dump him! Your weight (outside of health reasons) should not be a factor of commitment. Life happens, and weight will fluctuate. What happens if you lose it, but then get pregnant, or have a health issue... if his attraction is attached to your size, it will not last.
Story 4: I don’t think staying is going to help. This is a big dealbreaker for me. I would be ok if he was willing to give me a ring own it! Also do a court marriage with no function or do paperwork that aligned assess kids etc. As for me I would worry about him walking away without consequences every day as if he doesn’t feel marriage matters now as a new idea how do I know he won’t want to change his idea of being with me later? Also if he agrees to nothing even if is a compromise between us I would think he will just make his own decisions every time.
44:58 story 4- she isn’t mad enough! He betrayed her! He is a liar, and there’s more to his game. There is something that he isn’t expressing!! Get out of the game he has started playing!!! He is using you as his ♟️ pawn, but may even have more pieces on the board!! (If you catch my drift) He is so cruel!!! Ugh I feel horrible for you!
In story 4, I was hoping her depression to take a bigger role in the advice, but here's my 2 cents: if she's depressed and has had self esteem issues, she probably thinks he's the only one who will like her, ever, therefore she believes she needs to make a bigger effort in loosing weight. She doesn't think she can get anyone better, because she thinks she doesn't deserve it. That's the way of thinking she needs to work on. The only weight she needs to lose is his.
literally not a hate comment just confused, only usually watch THT. but from the two i’ve watched of Father Knows, morgan’s doing the ads too. is she like running this channel too or help with editing?
FKS sounds close to FKK. FKK stands for "Frei Körper Kultur" i. German, which means free body culture, which is the term nudists use. So I just imagined Morgans dad introducing himself as an FKK 😅
Whoa never been this early!
I'd love to meet you all! 😊❤
Hold on.. I can't watch every episode but I just noticed the dog portrait, did molly pass☹️
How do we write in?
Be nice to him!
Story 4, please don't settle girl. I've seen so many women who give men children and a whole life and all these women wanted was to be a wife and the man can't even give them that. Not fair, not cool. Please don't do it, you deserve way better than that.
For the first sorry when I was listening it did feel like her friends partner did have some instances of biphobia. If I heard the story correct she did say her friend is bisexual so it could be that as well
Asking people why do they want to hurt you is incredibly toxic when you don't know their intention behind an action. They don't owe her to be included but it's a dick move to ghost her.
On story 6, I’m pretty sure him having kids in the country that he raises and supports is enough to stay in the country.
If he was applying based on only having a marriage, being legally married and living in separate domains wouldn’t be enough anyways. I’m pretty sure you have to be living together and that kind of thing is checked, because otherwise there would probably be a lot more green card fake marriages.
Him not even applying makes me think he has other plans though.
If u have to get on their case to marry you. They don’t want to marry you. And it’s better to not be with a person who doesn’t love u enough to commit to you
Morgan, If you need to vent your friends should listen…
Story three, she's 29 he's 25. Girl if you want to start a family you need to date people that are 28,29,+ years old.
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Story 6, she can at least separate and get another place until he gets a visa.