WHEN HE COMES BACK - WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

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  • Опубликовано: 15 сен 2024

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  • @zxulou
    @zxulou 4 года назад +494

    If he comes back then you were an option. A man who finds the one would NEVER leave you unless you pushed him away or if you cheated on him. He came back bc no one out there accepted him and you were still open. Don’t take him back ladies

    • @MyronsBaldspotLovesKevSamuels
      @MyronsBaldspotLovesKevSamuels 4 года назад +7

      I think you read my soul. Except I was the one who left when I was young and dumb, then returned once I matured and could receive love. I’ve been painfully attempting to prove my love for him for 1.5 yrs now. I wonder if he feels the same way about me as your comment...
      Fo I continue to prove my love for the love of my life no matter how much it hurts? Or do I move on? I’m stuck.

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 4 года назад

      Evabelle15 facts

    • @jibrinmariam6379
      @jibrinmariam6379 4 года назад +1

      It is like you are in my heart. Don't mind these silly man

    • @vblacksugar7249
      @vblacksugar7249 4 года назад +5

      Evabelle15
      If you’re not good First not good last.

    • @sarahjackson4346
      @sarahjackson4346 4 года назад +14

      @@MyronsBaldspotLovesKevSamuels I'd say stop chasing him. I've been there before where I broke up with a guy I really liked and chased him for the same amount of time as you. I tried to explain to him that I was really young and childish and was really sorry about ending things with him. I kept chasing him when he made it clear to me he didn't want me. He even ended up saying something hurtful to me and that's when I knew I was done chasing after him. You begging him is just going to make him have less respect for you. He already lost respect for you when you left and you're making it worse by begging him. Don't spend your whole life chasing after someone who might not see your worth. You deserve someone who loves and values you.

  • @aivah07
    @aivah07 4 года назад +317

    Ladies never let a man leave you twice! Run cause he will loose respect for you and he will do it again!

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 4 года назад +2

      Noami Andrade facts

    • @IamColie_
      @IamColie_ 3 года назад +3

      Not always true

    • @aivah07
      @aivah07 3 года назад +6

      @@IamColie_ good luck 👍🏼

    • @princessamnemuhamad3755
      @princessamnemuhamad3755 3 года назад

      👍✔

    • @augustinejay3616
      @augustinejay3616 3 года назад

      a trick : you can watch movies on flixzone. Me and my gf have been using it for watching loads of movies these days.

  • @valarieford8417
    @valarieford8417 4 года назад +199

    I don't take exes back once you leave its over

    • @_NayomieMcLeod
      @_NayomieMcLeod 4 года назад +4

      Valarie Ford period!!

    • @aminah761
      @aminah761 4 года назад +3

      Valarie Ford yes

    • @phalynwilliams4119
      @phalynwilliams4119 2 года назад +1

      When I was younger I listened to the excuses and the apologies. Now I would agree with not taking them back. Not because you are hard, unforgiving or mean but because it is not practical or emotionally healthy to deal with a yo-yo 🪀. Either you both want the relationship or you don’t. It is a waste of time and energy for a feminine woman to entangle herself indefinitely with a confused man who cannot constructively commit himself to the relationship. It is best to wish him well and move on.

  • @tommycriscitello6235
    @tommycriscitello6235 4 года назад +175

    You’re too dope to be with anyone who is unsure of you ! Point blank end of story

  • @Galaxxystarzz
    @Galaxxystarzz 2 года назад +32

    Giving him a second chance is like signing your death sentence. Ladies, don’t do it.

  • @cchristinax7284
    @cchristinax7284 4 года назад +66

    Ghosting is for cowards. Not acceptable

  • @chatwat7832
    @chatwat7832 4 года назад +119

    I was stupid and because I was stupid took him back too many times in a year after being ghosted. I am learning to love myself. Never ever dealt with someone like that and I am 40. People are selfish and harsh. Never ever will I take someone back. Once it is over it's over. 😊

    • @lovelyqueen2878
      @lovelyqueen2878 4 года назад +3

      Your not stupid sweetie Ive been there I know the feeling we are humans with a heart & real emotions so with that being said always listen to your Intuition & gut feelings..! :)

  • @veeoby3364
    @veeoby3364 4 года назад +110

    Do not Ever take the fool back Ever.

  • @Suz562
    @Suz562 4 года назад +58

    Best advice...ignore him and don't take him back.

    • @verosolis0130
      @verosolis0130 3 года назад +4

      Agreed and I did that! I set boundaries even when I really liked him! Now he sees me happy and not caring about him ! He regretted!

  • @perfectcatch24
    @perfectcatch24 4 года назад +83

    This is hard to swallow but men sometimes pull away because they need space to work on their own issues. This is not always the case, so know your situation and assess your relationship. If he pulls away to let him go, begin to work on bettering yourself; when he comes back, set boundaries that he can't just leave whenever he wants. You need to show you VALUE, your WORTH.

    • @ribaker822
      @ribaker822 3 года назад +6

      I suppose you assume he's adult enough to communicate that he needs to pull away to sort issues. If he does not communicate that, he does not deserve to come back. Communication in that scenario is everything.

  • @gayanngodfrey2824
    @gayanngodfrey2824 4 года назад +57

    Piss me off that men just do what they want to with no consequences

    • @nymeria7239
      @nymeria7239 4 года назад +6

      Only if you let them. Once you give them that hard check, they learn. Then you laugh to yourself and move on.

    • @Pisecs47
      @Pisecs47 4 года назад +2

      Gayann Godfrey Men are not emotionally intelligent

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 3 года назад

      @@Pisecs47 lmfao!

    • @ribaker822
      @ribaker822 3 года назад

      Darling, there are consequences. In fact, I believe they face the hardest consequences, it's just that they are repressive about it, while we women are very outward and expressive about it. If you look closely enough, too many men are broken. It's sad! Even more so that they cannot connect with it.

  • @carolloraine223
    @carolloraine223 4 года назад +48

    With exception to a Narcissist.
    They're evil, no gooders!!
    Run and Go No Contact!

    • @lechellemasters740
      @lechellemasters740 4 года назад +3

      yeah people that a narasist dont give a fuck bout nobody but themselfs

    • @Pisecs47
      @Pisecs47 4 года назад

      Carol Loraine YUP!!!!!! YOU GOT IT GIRL NO CONTACT FOR LIFE!!!

  • @crystalfox604
    @crystalfox604 4 года назад +59

    Exes usually come back,but after the breakup they have to lose the ability to expect you to reach out.....

  • @fireprinxess201
    @fireprinxess201 4 года назад +107

    Mostly by the time they come back, my taste has changed and they are just not it anymore...besides, when you are gone, I learn to live awesome life without you. You coming back then feels like a drawback....for me, when you go, please don't come back...

  • @marjorienalunkuma6025
    @marjorienalunkuma6025 2 года назад +4

    It's very funny how almost all women are here saying please dont take him back otherwise we have seen people like marjorie harvey take back Steve harvey,justin bieber was taken back by Hailey bieber even Tony Gaskins says he was taken back,RC Blakes was also taken back,some of you will end up missing out on your husbands the only thing you should watch out for is if the change is authentic and for the better that's it

  • @Realtalknewyorkwithjanique
    @Realtalknewyorkwithjanique 4 года назад +105

    Don’t take him back!

  • @user-io7dy7cg1z
    @user-io7dy7cg1z 4 года назад +26

    I am not not making no demands for him.
    He needs to come back all changed man on his own.

  • @aminah761
    @aminah761 4 года назад +56

    Ughh it seems like the man that u really want u can never get 😫🙄

  • @ladynottingham89
    @ladynottingham89 2 года назад +7

    Don’t invest again in anyone who didn’t care to leave you while giving you some dignity and showing you respect. The right thing do do when a ghost comes back is ignore them.

  • @kathleendurkan21
    @kathleendurkan21 3 года назад +9

    I have been watching Chengi’s world videos today for the first time. This is just what I needed with what I’m going through! I have had nobody else to confide in and havnt known what to do. She’s amazing! 💓

  • @talkswithtee3397
    @talkswithtee3397 4 года назад +50

    They all come back! Well all mines came back but no thank you lol 😂

  • @hazoefavela
    @hazoefavela 4 года назад +36

    I did this exact same thing when he came back.
    I set my expectations
    A week later he left me hanging
    Didn’t call or text or apologize.
    I waited 3 days to give him time to text me or call me and nothing.
    He failed horribly🗣

  • @fireeye33
    @fireeye33 Год назад +2

    I told him straight NO. I don't need the manipulation and toxicity.

  • @lechellemasters740
    @lechellemasters740 4 года назад +7

    i agree 100 percent...i know when my ex comes back..the conversation is going exactly uve said this confirmed what i was thinking...i have no tolerance for the bull...i did my ex lover wrong he cut me off...then he showed me his fucked up side....i get it i hurt him..i get it..hurt people hurt people but if he comes back.....along talk is going to take place....if i see any red flags its over with..simple..no mind games..no games period im a GROWN QUEEN..AND I DESIRER A GROWN KING..SIMPLE 😉

  • @moniquehackett6958
    @moniquehackett6958 2 года назад +4

    I just discovered your channel last night and I have been binge- watching . Can I say, you are AMAZING!

  • @ntsiuoalisenyane9665
    @ntsiuoalisenyane9665 4 года назад +22

    I WOULD NEVER LET HIM BACK,WHY DID HE GO?

  • @pianotnt
    @pianotnt 4 года назад +13

    I'm just too focused on money right now if he wants to come back he has to realize his life without me ain't shit and that its easier to have me in his life than not these so called other people only like him because his dad was famous not because of who he is

  • @prettynatural1973
    @prettynatural1973 4 года назад +35

    Hey gurl I dumped my ex when he came back and told him I was with someone else

    • @Pisecs47
      @Pisecs47 4 года назад +2

      Pretty Natural Even if your not you MUST TWIST THE KNIFE INSIDE THEM

  • @julz3tt3
    @julz3tt3 4 года назад +5

    I had someone ghost me recently. Its been a week and Im not going to let him back. Lol hell no!!!! If someone uses you and treats you badly its not worth pain again.

  • @Pur3Socialite
    @Pur3Socialite 4 года назад +4

    Hey Chengi! First let me say that pink is your color. You look great. Thank you for the advice, it is so valuable.

  • @bmercymercybrian152
    @bmercymercybrian152 4 года назад +5

    OK have been in a relationship with this guy over three years bt every time we broke up n always come back bt this time around I want live him for good

  • @ms.d425
    @ms.d425 4 года назад +26

    You have some valid points,however &this is my opinion..as far as telling him what he should do,how he should treat me...i think not..a man will know what he needs to do to keep a woman...chess not checkers...i appreciate your vid it was encouraging😊

    • @deepdiver849
      @deepdiver849 4 года назад +2

      Yes what you demand is away to value yourself. It’s not about him . It’s about you. Whether he complies by it or not is another thing.

  • @lalalalaaAa123
    @lalalalaaAa123 4 года назад +17

    Do a video about what it means when you’ve moved on but he KEEPS checking your social media 😩 homeboy annoying and his new girl doesn’t know 😩😩😩

    • @TM-bc9ot
      @TM-bc9ot 4 года назад +1

      How do you know he is checking your social media?

    • @lalalalaaAa123
      @lalalalaaAa123 4 года назад +4

      T M The sites/apps show me who’s viewed my page and story!

    • @nymeria7239
      @nymeria7239 4 года назад +5

      Don't let him annoy you - block him. He had his chance with you and blew it. No point in him checking for you now.

  • @JT-kj5ec
    @JT-kj5ec 4 года назад +10

    This is really hard, especially when you have children...

    • @aprilbush1412
      @aprilbush1412 4 года назад

      Very hard, I’m in this situation now!!! I’m like ok I’m going No contact but it’s gonna be hard.

    • @aprilbush1412
      @aprilbush1412 4 года назад

      Wayyyyyyyy too hard I don’t know what to do!!!!

  • @ayushmitachakraborty3414
    @ayushmitachakraborty3414 3 года назад +6

    Don't come back babe! I don't want you anymore 💅🏼🍷

  • @alexaarrah696
    @alexaarrah696 3 года назад +16

    Don't give him a second chance to win you over when there's a guy out there whose gonna treat you right from the beginning forever. Do you get second chances on major important things in life like job interviews? Me thinks not! So why give someone a second chance with your heart???#facts#rehabtime.

  • @Pisecs47
    @Pisecs47 4 года назад +7

    You left him for a reason STAY GONE THERE IS BETTER OUT THERE IT WAS ONLY A LESSON TO INCREASE YOU SELF VALUE, RARELY DO MEN CHANGE !!!! GOD BLESS GOOD LUCK

  • @shanthiarumugam8969
    @shanthiarumugam8969 4 года назад +3

    Beautifully explained...I loved d video...Upto d point... U hve nailed it 💯👍👍👍

  • @nins7457
    @nins7457 4 года назад +4

    Girl pink is your color! You look fabulous! Thanks for this vid needed some good advice and to think clearly. 💜😄👍

  • @lisasmith4895
    @lisasmith4895 3 года назад +15

    Don’t agree with this advice. You don’t give a man a road map to how you want to be treated, and tell him he’s on probation. Then the change is not authentic. Real men know the drill, boys do not. Men who are truly in love will never let you go.

  • @awlaboratoriesinc
    @awlaboratoriesinc 4 года назад +23

    I wonder what can you do for them to stay gone for good 🤔

  • @pradeepdheer6225
    @pradeepdheer6225 2 года назад +2

    You are unique Chengi..💋 love always❤

  • @amiekamara97
    @amiekamara97 4 года назад +11

    I dumped them they don't dump me.

  • @lovelyqueen2878
    @lovelyqueen2878 4 года назад +4

    Hi Chengi love that color on you BEAUTIFUL.XOX

  • @cc-oy8mu
    @cc-oy8mu 3 года назад

    I really appreciate your insight. There are a lot of men giving advice to women out here and while I don't mind them speaking on their own perspectives, when they inevitably tell women how to carry ourselves in regards to our behaviour to help us win with them, lets just say that doesn't sit well with me at all. You look beautiful and you're straight to the point. Love it thank you :)

    • @kidshero408
      @kidshero408 3 года назад

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      @kidshero408 3 года назад

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  • @lifetothemaxx
    @lifetothemaxx 3 года назад +1

    He has done it for the 2nd time and i mentioned how it felt when he just went ghost , i always get ready to move on its so annoying. We do have fun together but i just can't deal tbh

  • @naffs1069
    @naffs1069 3 года назад +2

    I have never had any man come back to me. I wished that they did. But they all got over me and forgot about me very quickly.

    • @blackswanrelationshipacademy
      @blackswanrelationshipacademy  3 года назад +3

      This is probably a really good thing in that you don’t have to worry about dealing with a ghost but it’s also indicative that you may be having issues triggering attraction in them. You can download my Mastering Attraction Masterclass Replay from chengisworld.co.Uk/shop

    • @eromoseleidiahi7473
      @eromoseleidiahi7473 3 года назад

      I just got my ex wife back

  • @dorcasgathoni1044
    @dorcasgathoni1044 3 года назад +16

    As crazy as it sounds, men keep their circle small. So after break up he likely to go back to some chick in the past.

    • @colleenvarney8213
      @colleenvarney8213 3 года назад +3

      This is very true. I just found out that I was probably the other woman and I dumped his sketchy ass.

  • @bernesemuir8022
    @bernesemuir8022 4 года назад +8

    You're lovely and beautiful too Hi from New Zealand ❤

  • @savvychathylton8059
    @savvychathylton8059 4 года назад +8

    lol two guys came back. One was from 3yrs ago and the second one 9months. Not interested.

  • @Beauty-of1dh
    @Beauty-of1dh 4 года назад +3

    Really good advice ☺️ thank you

  • @mcr1679
    @mcr1679 3 года назад +6

    my exes always come back to me, even when I acted poorly at times, I never take them back though. With some time and perspective you see how lame they are and once you see that, you can’t unsee it. I just went through a breakup and he actually treated me well during the relationship, I was the one who stepped unhealed into the relationship and our communication was horrible. Then he left because it was mentally too much and I took accountability and went to therapy so I could feel better and maybe reunite with him. I made the mistake of chasing him and then he started to treat me poorly so I just left. I miss him sometimes but at the end of the day: I did everything to fix things, and he is the one who broke up so I’m not going to fix what he broke. I wonder if he’ll ever reach out again, I doubt it but I can see how I changed positively and how he changed for the worst. It’s unfortunate but I will find someone who loves me unconditionally and supports me even when it’s not going well

    • @kidshero408
      @kidshero408 3 года назад

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      @kidshero408 3 года назад

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  • @empressbeeb
    @empressbeeb 4 года назад +3

    It was very helpful Thank you💜

  • @adj5767
    @adj5767 4 года назад +3

    I disagree. If there was nothing, then there's nothing. No coming back.

  • @FirstNameLastName-oe9hi
    @FirstNameLastName-oe9hi 4 года назад +8

    What if he NEVER comes back and he clearly said I’m not going to chase you around.

    • @blackswanrelationshipacademy
      @blackswanrelationshipacademy  4 года назад +12

      you never mattered to him or you are into playing games

    • @FirstNameLastName-oe9hi
      @FirstNameLastName-oe9hi 4 года назад +7

      Chengi's World I guess I’ll forget about him and focusing on loving myself this year... need to become high value woman!!

    • @alli0218
      @alli0218 4 года назад +2

      You're very pretty.I hope you learn to love yourself and enjoy your own company.

    • @shreegoddess4735
      @shreegoddess4735 3 года назад +1

      upgrade your new makeup haircut diva photo you ll know 😂😂

  • @celinanunez8789
    @celinanunez8789 3 года назад +2

    You give the best advice 😌🙌🏽

    • @blackswanrelationshipacademy
      @blackswanrelationshipacademy  3 года назад

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @kidshero408
      @kidshero408 3 года назад

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    • @kidshero408
      @kidshero408 3 года назад

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  • @theprototype907
    @theprototype907 Год назад +1

    MY EX TREATED ME WELL BUT HE STARTED TO SEE THAT I WAS DATING AGAIN AND RECEIVING THE EQUIVALENT OF WHAT I WAS EXPERIENCING W HIM. HE BROKE NO CONTACT AFTER 2 1/2 MONTHS AND NOW HE IS TRYING TO GET ME BACK. I TRIED TO MOVE ON W A GREAT GUY HE SEEMS, BUT IM NOT ATTRACTED TO HIM AND MY HEART IS STILL W MY EX. HE’S GOTTA EARN ME BACK THAT.😒lol

  • @priscillaragesh5790
    @priscillaragesh5790 4 года назад +5

    Hey my name is Priscilla i really want to make my ex jealous

  • @cindiheaton1048
    @cindiheaton1048 3 года назад +8

    What if he comes back but he still doesn’t want a relationship with you?

  • @latanyagordon5605
    @latanyagordon5605 4 года назад +5

    So what happen tp a man who cant leave the two woman the he's with?...this time he's with this one then next he's with the other.

  • @champagnegold8614
    @champagnegold8614 4 года назад +4

    Great video

  • @pat4733
    @pat4733 3 года назад +2

    Hello beautiful, you are such an inspiration! How can one get in touch with you directly

  • @bernapitts1556
    @bernapitts1556 4 года назад +5

    I have been dating this man almost six months and around his buddies I'm his girlfriend but to other women I'm family.

    • @atezaladi4570
      @atezaladi4570 4 года назад +1

      Damn 😂😖😩 that hurts hmmmm
      Why you still with him his buddies know who the main chick is that's why unless maybe if he introduced you to the family members or something like that idk
      But know your worth sweetie you can't be family when he eating your lips

  • @StephBDaBest
    @StephBDaBest 11 месяцев назад

    What if he didn’t leave but you’re the one that left?

  • @mariahfrancois9517
    @mariahfrancois9517 2 года назад +1

    I told this guy in the beninging if your gonna break my heart tell me now so I can save myself if I get pregnant n you leave don't come back

  • @Gabi_Garcia_is_the_GOAT
    @Gabi_Garcia_is_the_GOAT 4 года назад +2

    ty love u !!!

    • @odijiedyatlova2983
      @odijiedyatlova2983 3 года назад

      Hello dear, life is full of pains and stress true love never die don't give up anything in life all hope is not lost forever, if you have any kind of problems in your life such as

  • @amberetrop8989
    @amberetrop8989 3 года назад +2

    what if you pushed him away because you were too clingy and needy. If he comes back should we still consider being back together?

    • @kidshero408
      @kidshero408 3 года назад

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      @kidshero408 3 года назад

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  • @princesslolly6838
    @princesslolly6838 4 года назад +2

    Good

  • @natalieharquail4845
    @natalieharquail4845 4 года назад +10

    I say hi Houdini then never respond.

  • @saaramohamed8921
    @saaramohamed8921 2 года назад +1

    What if he just followed me but doesnt text me

  • @joseph-annaellembanmbaane3782
    @joseph-annaellembanmbaane3782 4 года назад +3

    ❤️

  • @happinesstesha7061
    @happinesstesha7061 4 года назад +1

    Yee

  • @strawberryjpeg6000
    @strawberryjpeg6000 3 года назад

    IM LIKE WTF BRO

  • @alaiaadam5767
    @alaiaadam5767 4 года назад

    🌙🌙🌙

  • @alaiaadam5767
    @alaiaadam5767 4 года назад

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