what are your advice on women dating younger men? some younger men look so full on interested and look like such great partners, what are your views on that?
My ex left me , went with a hot girl, and a year later he calls me to say he wants me back & that he regrets it. But i don’t believe he really wants me, i feel like he wants to fill his emptiness, we talked for 2 hrs on the phone but i told him that i did not want to continue a romantic relationship, i told him i loved him & to take care ❤
This is great information, I met someone I really like but he ghosted me but then a couple weeks later sent me a text about something he said he was embarrassed about, had only met him twice , so I did call him and told him my thoughts of him ghosting me,in a nice way, so I am giving him a second chance which is not like me, normally, but if it happens a third time it will be the last.🎉🎉😊
I'm a very kind-hearted type of woman. I go all out for my man. But when I have one inch of a feeling I'm getting used, I let it all go. I'm too good for that.I don't believe in that selfish shit when I'm in a relationship
Girl I can relate to you I’m a kind hearted woman as well that goes all out & spoils my man. I notice the man never spoils me in any way & I’m the one who’s always spoiling my man when it comes to birthdays Christmas & Valentine’s Day & in the end I always feel drained & end up ending the relationship I now figure out what the problem is & why all my relationships fail & I’m just working on myself. Remember you are amazing, you are beautiful, don’t ever change for nobody & I pray you get the man of your dream girl 😌🙏🏻💚💚
@blpbudgeting Same to you , sis.😊😊 I mean, not even a card or some roses. I don't understand that those types of situations I have to call quit. I'm a giver, so I need another giver. I don't believe in that selfish shit when I'm in a relationship
He was too scared and I just couldn’t keep getting hurt by his avoidant deactivating strategies (his fear of vulnerability). I am an assertive person, and he was very respectful and receptive to what I had to say, I just didn’t have all the words to help us communicate effectively so I shut down. Plus, I knew I could not fix him. He had to want to do the major work on himself to heal his brokenness. I pray for him and do hope he comes back when he’s ready. We had a great connection and are very compatible; just unhealed wounds got in the way.
I believe if God has ordained us to be together, he will not bring us together until we are ready to be together forever. It will not fail. He sees all. I agree with everything you said. My spirit is telling me, it was for me. Yes, I have something to say and no, i am not afraid. I have healed. It is imperative that we both talk to each other before anything can transpire. Understanding is a part of my make-up and without it, i can't be my best. I pray he comes to me tomorrow. If we never come together, we can't move forward in any capacity. God knows my heart. I'm waiting on him. Thank you for your time and advice. I would love for you to be apart of the celebration when it happens.❤❤
I agree to be flexible to forgive, even if you won’t continue the relationship. And also for someone who wants to continue the relationship. But like said, everything wrong deeds has to be cleared for not to be repeated again, in that relationship.
@@BNyaB Your comment brought me back to this post from a year ago. He did come back, and we've been together ever since. I've changed, and should we part ways again, there is no coming back.
That story is opposite for me. His family and friends didn’t think I was good enough for him and also that I was 2yrs older then him. So it made him doubt so much that he left me heartbroken 💔 🥺 I am now one week of no contact trying to stay strong.
Reading this I’m sorry to say but those were just excuses . He didn’t really want u. No man that cares and really loves u is going to leave cause of what his family thinks and cause you’re only 2 years older than him . That’s bull and he was just trying to come up with an excuse to leave . Don’t fall for it
He let me walk away after he chose to be indecisive and even admitted it was unfair to me. I went no contact, he texted me here and there but with nothing of substance. I didn’t respond because i wasn’t ready to talk to him yet. Fast forward to now 6 mos later he came back saying he only wants me, I’m his best friend, love of his life etc he said he hasn’t been involved with anyone else he just wants me back. But….. the way he made me feel was so awful, I forgive him but I don’t know if I trust what he has to say now.. idk what to do.
Listen to your intuition 🙏🏾 If you feel you can no longer trust him, don't. If you want to give him a chance, have a discussion with him and then watch his actions closely. Trust your intuition and use your discernment 💕
Thank you guys for the replies, I have been using this time to heal, reflect, and pour back into myself. It’s been great, I feel like I’ve learned a lot from this relationship however, it’s hard for me to believe people after the fact. I was honest, communicative, and patient but even I have my limits. Idk I’ve been thinking a lot about it, praying about it, I still feel very conflicted.
People change when you give them time and it’s their choice you don’t have to get back with him but if you’re conflicted you can get clarity while guarding your heart
Connection connot be destroyed but alot of trash can be thrown on top of it!!! Best advice ever!! Totally agree 💯 Thank you for sharing this.... i really needed to hear it!! God Bless 🙏❤️
Ego and Pride is what kills relationships I agree with u brother. Some times people won’t give u the chance. And that hurts but it’s okay. This gave me the opportunity to continue to work on my self because the truth is. I wasn’t looking for a man. And when he came, I wasn’t ready at all and had hurt from the past. I closed my self to love for 15 years to the point I said no to love ANDNI was okay with that. But, closing myself left me in a horrible situation because I didn’t heal and closing myself wasn’t okay. But now I am healed and whole and not afraid anymore. I was that person who was very resistant and the connection was there but I told him and was honest, I need to heal so I can embarrass him fully. And I didn’t entertain anyone and I love him. And I don’t entertain because I’m faithful to God and this is His temple. But he kept rejecting me. I kept going back but his emotions kept rejecting me. I changed and I got better but he didn’t want me. And that is what was hard brother. That hurt because for the first time, I choose a man and I wanted him. Because before I was fearful because I was raped by my father and survived that evil. I lost two sisters within 4 months because of the evil my dad did. Then the guy after that left me drowning with his unborn child then the second guy kidnapped me. And I said no after that. I was 20 years old and said no to men. So, here I was, and I messed up and asked God to help me because I’m attracting abusive men. I learned the Word more then ever, I read easther and Ruth. I was always a Ruth. But this time with no hate. Lol but I’ve watched ur videos and RC Blake and Paula white courses on relationships.
Oh and I also worked hard on setting my boundaries. Because I didn’t know any better. I want to be better. Avoiding my hurt past pain is never okay and I needed to take accountability. So, I thank YAHWEH for men like you who teach the right things. So, I thank u.
You have experienced a lot of painful and traumatic pain..... but to read your words on healing and doing better for you is a beautiful thing...... if this gentleman isn't open to the love you want to give, it's okay.... He may not be the one that god has for you. God knows your struggles and virtues, and he will feel you with his love and bring to you the right man who can walk with you hand in hand and grow together. Keep on taking care of yourself and stand firm in your faith!!
@StephanSpeaks, I agree with you. So I took three months to be hurt and angry. Afterwards, I said what I needed to say, and I can move on with peace in my Spirit. I pray he does, too.
Thank you so so much. I have faced this but I don’t want to lose anymore opportunities to find love. God said He has that for me. So, I won’t give up on being better and learning.
2 late this happened today I got as disrespectful af now it’s all gone down the toilet now I’ve shut the door 4 life & left wondering & pondeing on my actions
We live and we learn. Regardless it was necessary you will see in the long run. I know you wish you would've chosen your word better. But let this be a learning experience. Love ya Sis. Focus on you.❤
I agree, personal growth and transformation is the way to rise above the actions you may regret. If you can do the inner healing, you have a chance to fix what was lost. You must consciously choose to heal and understand your actions/behaviors/traumas, so many doors will open for you. Have faith and patience in yourself during the process of actively healing, it’s not easy but it’s completely worth it. 🤍🦋
girl i left my man a week ago i said some horrible things too disrespected him to the fullest we were to toxic no communication before breaking up i was tryanna work on the relationship again whole time the man been late on his rent twice saying he been buying shit then one day i rode by his house his second car was gone im like where yo car at he said in the shop how tf yo car in the shop if u aint paying yo rent he had the next female drive his car the same female he was fucking with when we broke up for a month he had her on backplay i went to go grab my shit with my sister then he was starring at my sister ass im like you fuckin pervert dont do that shit in front of my face he talking about imma a man men i swear so im a women can i stare at yo fuckin uncle dick print cause he is fine i dont get it
Stephan, I feel like most of your videos appear on my screen when I need them the most. It's like the universe or the Lord is sending you from somewhere to guide me and use you as a tool so I can hang on and believe in Love again. I was ghosted by a good guy with great qualities. I thought we were good, then he turned off just like a switch and gone. Hmmmm I think he didn't handle the last convo we had via chat, I showed him my vulnerabilities and some of my weaknesses. Now I kinda hate myself for doing that. I went to church and attended a mass yesterday, then I realized, he may also be God sent from somewhere , used him as a tool to help me fix some areas of my life. This guy may not be my boyfriend or partner at this time but hey life is good. I wanna reframe my perspective and don't wanna consider myself as a victim. I still thank God for sending him to my life. And yeah, I think this is a good bye for both of us. I will move forward , continue living my best life and be ready for God's next blessings. Thanks Stephan! ❤
We can avoid all of this by just not coming back. Do everyone a favor emotionally and mentally by just staying gone. Had to heal from the break and that was a process in it own. Just stay gone
Question: in our western dating culture, do we put too much emphasis on "connection?" Shouldn't we focus more on values? Oftentimes the initial connection we're feeling is based off really superficial things and once the luster fades we're left with someone we're deeply incompatible with. I have felt connection before and things didnt work out, so maybe we need to use our brains more in the beginning and let connection/love grow over time. I'm sure there's no right answer, just genuinely curious.
I agree . Connection doesnt mean anything . cuz you cna find out how immature and stubborn is even tho you have a deep connection . It will result into pain . It is about compatbility .
Thank you so much Stephan. I needed to hear this. Your example is my personal story and was not sure if i should give him a chance. Yes he is more matured now. Ill decide with an open mind now. Thank you so much 🙏🙏.
I gave many chances year after year and he never changed! Some men are incapable of loving a woman the way she needs to be loved and just have no real love for anybody but themselves
@@MeetStephanSpeaksI would love to see relationship/marriage videos when kids are involved. Maybe how to continue to lead a loving separation not only for yourself but for shared children too!
Wow this was on time. Met a great man. Was prophesied that he was my husband (person admitted that although God told them that, He never told them to tell me). But he’s not ready for relationship. When I prayed about it, God only told me “be patient”. Now we are distant and giving each other space. I was prophesied to by more than one person he will come back around. I just talked to God last night that by the time he comes I don’t know how I will feel because my heart is hurt. I think in all matters we have to seek God because only he knows the true intentions of a man’s heart. In the past had a man walk away from me then come back talking about he wanted a relationship…as he was talking heard the Lord say “don’t trust him”. Therefore I didn’t open my heart and less than 2 weeks he ghosted me. So I just ultimately trust that God will protect my heart.
He came back after ghosting me for 2 years for no reason at all He disappeared when i was going into a major surgery and i didn’t even block him When he called yasterday i said i really can’t remember you i don’t know anyone with that name and i have to work now so bye 😂
With all due respect this video was so informative Filled with wisdom thanks coach Steph for your advice But for me I must admit Right now am awaiting the man God has for me Because those I entertained in the past Am convinced they were sent by satan Honestly I have no room for discussions with any ex
My husband call me 3 weeks ago. We have been separate 2year Telling me that he's not No one. So I went on his TikTok. I saw that he still entertaining. Another woman, And that's not all he wish Her Happy Birthday my wife. Last I check he still married to me. So all that he was telling me was bull telling me he made a mistake near, right
Some people are not worth it at all even after trying just as friends for years while still married ....SO be AWARE as a precaution they will repeat their distespectful ways even in conversation on the phone.. it is what it is he is who he is period.
I just started journaling my feelings and you are so right!!! When I would argue those things I would end up feeling more attached to the person! But when I journaled about it instead afterwards I felt like and that's fine I can let all that go and the person go if need be! I guess cos I took care of myself in that way! So it cleared up the illusion of needing him! 💡
I’m over it 😡 I’m gonna be real I don’t want anything to do with my ex boyfriend and I’m praying that he never comes back to me I blocked him on Facebook and before I blocked his number I texted him saying if you see me in public don’t say anything to me. You verbally abused me lie to me and throw me away like trash 🗑 I’m done
You are very smart ,wise , & very insightful! I love the stories as examples. I believe in intuition firmly. Mine is strong . Your story helped me today , roles reversed . I was proud of myself because i did exactly what you said a year ago. So I know it was the right thing. If he can't come correct & tell me everything , he is not worth no more of my time. The last time I spoke all of my peace & got it all out and gave it to God. I gave an opportunity for him to tell me everything and I said if you don't tell me my answers to my questions you are going on block he didn't so on block he went. Tried to add me on snap chat, smh ! Thank you for your dedication 🙏❤
He came back after almost 4 weeks of no contact. I needed this so much because we are meeting today and I didnt know how to act 😂 I’m gonna be calm and hear him out cuz I know there’s something there… let’s see what happens
@@ronnietoni819 hey ronnie, we are not together anymore and I'm single, i briefly dated someone else for a while but decided they werent for me either. But i followed everything in the video and they wanted a relationship me. I think it's more important to focus on yourself which i had a really hard time before. Now i feel like i really started working with law of assumption and detachment everyone is comin gback
I did take advantage of clearing my mind and it was so worth it. The x always seemed to know when I was available and I didn't clear my mind the first time but it felt great this last time: you get a feeling of accomplishment no regrets.
Spot on for me on we stop trying because it hurts too much, not because we don't really care. Going through a sudden break-up now, he decided it by himself, thought only at himself, he admitted it. I accepted and went no contact, even if it shattered me. I stopped asking for explanations, not because I don't need them, but because I am too affected. After 1 year and a half he said he can only see me as a friend, but for me that's not an option. I know I did the right choice, but for who truly loves it will always hurt.
@@latishabowen5433 I have deleted him from all social media. There is no point to waste my time and put myself through even more pain to write about him. Life goes on. We don't die of love, and neither do we live off the memories. (any grammar mistakes are because english is not my first language). I appreciate your advice 😊 stay strong
What if he was the one to leave because of my unhealed baggage that I brought in to the relationship, he ended up walking away but he ended up coming back. When he came back we talked a lot and told him that we need to take it slow and actually try to heal first before anything else
What if he blindsided you with a breakup and told you he’s moving away forever and you’re confused. Then I texted him to see how his life is going and he continued communicating with me like nothing happened never apologized so I communicated how I felt and blocked him before he responded.
Use your brain, your logic and your intuition. Ladies we know when a man loves us. If we aren’t sure then he doesn’t. It’s really that simple. Because me will not want some other man stepping in. So he’ll make sure you know.
I went through that three weeks ghosting then he’s texted me he wants to reset. Mind you he did it twice I didn’t respond to him I’m not desperate, before that he was making some excuses that didn’t make sense. He got two opportunities to prove himself and he did the same thing
that's a tough one. Do more analyzing and go deep with reasons and see things clearly. Look at the long term of it, how things are likely to pan out. Use wisdom. Will the connection last? Will it be real in two years time? Why or why not?
If you believe in God and he doesn’t… I can tell you that alone should be a deal breaker. You’re unequally yoked. Simply put your values about life are different. You can apply that principle to anything relationship. Values are the source of our thoughts and actions. God bless you ! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I’m starting to think there is no such thing as a real connection without love. Your love should be connected by the love you have for God. I’d say it depends on their mindset and whether or not they’re open to believing in God.
I made a mistake😢 after 33 years he came back into my life and now I’m 💔 , how can I recover from this disappointment? We’re very, very compatible but he’s not brave (man) enough to move on and make this happen. 😩
So i watched a ton of “the art of detachment” , let them walk away motivational speeches and now I see this smh lol me and this guy have a connection but we parted ways.
Damn, you must be psychic, 'cause I'm dealing with something exactly like this! On that note, I'm having trouble accessing your text club thingy. I'm pretty sure I signed up for the right one but I'm not seeing anything to indicate that I'm "in."
I'm bipolar, I change accordingly to how I'm treated. They'll see my sweet side, till they take me for granted, then I'll make them work for my attention.
If they do come back correct and you both want to try again, how can we move past it if they have been intimate with other women during the time apart?
My ex broke up with me oct 3rd 2022 last year he said it was because of college we went to the same college. I knew he would comeback and he did and I knew I wouldn’t go back to him fast forward it’s Oct 15th 2023 and he finally decided that we should separate I think he came to his senses that I wasn’t coming back to him cuz I was only entertaining him getting money out of him🤭 welp
I'm in a situation and I'm 44 years old and I've been intimate with a 25-year-old I am a cougar but that is a little extreme on my part but I have been involved but the situation is that he stated we're not in a relationship I understand that I have been I could have been in a sexual relationship but there's no way I would do that with someone as young as him and it's like I feel guilty I don't think I could ever be with this person again considering his age but I have been with him but I do want to respect him and the fact that I'm not seeing him as a child but I'm saying that someone that I don't want to effect to much... But in actuality I feel like I do have to tell this person how I feel I can't avoid questions
What does is mean when he sends you a pic of us back on the day. Also when he says “ I miss you “ but then not make plans to see me etc It’s the mixed signals I think 😂he forgot he told me he loved me a few theses ago but when I said it back I meant that and now I’m finally healing I think but 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️ I just feel men don’t normally do that so confused I don’t even want he wants But alot of times he is a fast tester sometimes but anyway I need a session with Stephannn n😂😂💀💀 I assume he’ll be a player for longer then I can wait so 🤷🏽♀️
Wow, all so true! After my husband died,I dated for twenty years before finding a very strong connection with an avoidant man. He said he needed a couple of years. I put pressure; He ghosted me. I pressured; he came back, but was by then fighting cancer . The connection was still strong, but he broke up again and has been silent for a year and a half, with a few breadcrumbs here and there, while I kept “talking”. I feel sure that we will reconnect some day and I want to be ready. Thank you Stephan for your good information.
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I'm not speaking for Stephan but basically get things off your chest in a calm factual way without getting emotional and going off screaming, crying etc etc. It makes complete sense.
@@janedane9898 Firstly, some people cannot listen to or handle emotion. Secondly, are these the kind of people to "get things off your chest"? As I said, I don't think so. Not a good idea.
I wish this video was made before he came back end of July this year. That way I avoided the worst outcome of him leaving me twice 😭 I messed up reacted emotionally. Yes, I believe we have a connection and it's fixable. But then, communication sucks. We're both have smart @$$ mouth 🤣
Stephan help. My men is coming back to me from outside of the country, we are in love but for him to stay with me I’ll have to married him so he can stay in this country, how do I know, he’s really honest and not just using me to be resident in this country
A man handles his business and would not pressure you of his situation. Even if he gets kicked out of the country, the relationship doesn't have to end. I'm dealing with a man who's on visa and he's not once made his problems my problem. He handles his business outside of me.
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what are your advice on women dating younger men? some younger men look so full on interested and look like such great partners, what are your views on that?
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Can u talk about someone who ghost you and egos problems and how to test them so they don't try any thing thank u
He knew what he had!!! Don’t think for a second he didn’t know you were Gold, he just wasn’t ready for you.
If he loves you, he’ll want to bring you clarity and peace. If not, chaos and confusion
Amen.......that two liner is honestly the truth and you will know because you will live under the consequences of one of them
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Amen yes yes
Yeah, if you are too.
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You can forgive someone without letting them back into your life.
Yup! ❤
My ex left me , went with a hot girl, and a year later he calls me to say he wants me back & that he regrets it. But i don’t believe he really wants me, i feel like he wants to fill his emptiness, we talked for 2 hrs on the phone but i told him that i did not want to continue a romantic relationship, i told him i loved him & to take care ❤
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
😂😂😂😂GOOD FOR YOU
Yep! Similar experience except he left me twice. Definitely ain’t gonna give him a third chance.
This is great information, I met someone I really like but he ghosted me but then a couple weeks later sent me a text about something he said he was embarrassed about, had only met him twice , so I did call him and told him my thoughts of him ghosting me,in a nice way, so I am giving him a second chance which is not like me, normally, but if it happens a third time it will be the last.🎉🎉😊
I'm a very kind-hearted type of woman. I go all out for my man. But when I have one inch of a feeling I'm getting used, I let it all go. I'm too good for that.I don't believe in that selfish shit when I'm in a relationship
Girl I can relate to you I’m a kind hearted woman as well that goes all out & spoils my man. I notice the man never spoils me in any way & I’m the one who’s always spoiling my man when it comes to birthdays Christmas & Valentine’s Day & in the end I always feel drained & end up ending the relationship I now figure out what the problem is & why all my relationships fail & I’m just working on myself. Remember you are amazing, you are beautiful, don’t ever change for nobody & I pray you get the man of your dream girl 😌🙏🏻💚💚
@blpbudgeting beautiful approach. However, I would also share my lesson. SLOW DOWN, give slowly observe your partner more closely.
The same for me girl ❤
@blpbudgeting Same to you , sis.😊😊 I mean, not even a card or some roses. I don't understand that those types of situations I have to call quit. I'm a giver, so I need another giver. I don't believe in that selfish shit when I'm in a relationship
@useyourwings793 I understand, sis, it doesn't make no sense 🤷🏾
I believe when a man gone let it be for good. I believe it is for the better.
He was too scared and I just couldn’t keep getting hurt by his avoidant deactivating strategies (his fear of vulnerability). I am an assertive person, and he was very respectful and receptive to what I had to say, I just didn’t have all the words to help us communicate effectively so I shut down. Plus, I knew I could not fix him. He had to want to do the major work on himself to heal his brokenness. I pray for him and do hope he comes back when he’s ready. We had a great connection and are very compatible; just unhealed wounds got in the way.
I believe if God has ordained us to be together, he will not bring us together until we are ready to be together forever. It will not fail. He sees all. I agree with everything you said. My spirit is telling me, it was for me. Yes, I have something to say and no, i am not afraid. I have healed. It is imperative that we both talk to each other before anything can transpire. Understanding is a part of my make-up and without it, i can't be my best. I pray he comes to me tomorrow. If we never come together, we can't move forward in any capacity. God knows my heart. I'm waiting on him. Thank you for your time and advice. I would love for you to be apart of the celebration when it happens.❤❤
God answered my prayers with this video I needed so much at this point in my life I know I was intended to hear this
I'm happy this has been helpful to you ❤️ 🙏🏼
I forgave and he came back and did exactly the same all over again 😢
Bingo!!
I agree to be flexible to forgive, even if you won’t continue the relationship. And also for someone who wants to continue the relationship. But like said, everything wrong deeds has to be cleared for not to be repeated again, in that relationship.
Thank you for sharing I appreciate that ❤️ 🙏🏼
He's coming back. It's still early days but... he's just not coming back to the same women he left. And that's a good thing.
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@@BNyaB Your comment brought me back to this post from a year ago. He did come back, and we've been together ever since. I've changed, and should we part ways again, there is no coming back.
I always love the wisdom and empathy you exude in your videos.
Thank you.
I appreciate that 🙏🏼
@@MeetStephanSpeakshow can I have a session with you? Every work you say hits me at a souls level.
That story is opposite for me. His family and friends didn’t think I was good enough for him and also that I was 2yrs older then him. So it made him doubt so much that he left me heartbroken 💔 🥺 I am now one week of no contact trying to stay strong.
Hang in there girl I’m at 6 months NC stay busy and journal your feelings.
In my case they created an entire online campaign making sure I knew that I wasn’t good enough!!
Reading this I’m sorry to say but those were just excuses . He didn’t really want u. No man that cares and really loves u is going to leave cause of what his family thinks and cause you’re only 2 years older than him . That’s bull and he was just trying to come up with an excuse to leave . Don’t fall for it
Awe I’m sorry to hear this for you! It was his loss not yours!
He let me walk away after he chose to be indecisive and even admitted it was unfair to me. I went no contact, he texted me here and there but with nothing of substance. I didn’t respond because i wasn’t ready to talk to him yet. Fast forward to now 6 mos later he came back saying he only wants me, I’m his best friend, love of his life etc he said he hasn’t been involved with anyone else he just wants me back. But….. the way he made me feel was so awful, I forgive him but I don’t know if I trust what he has to say now.. idk what to do.
Healing is definitely key and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Listen to your intuition 🙏🏾 If you feel you can no longer trust him, don't. If you want to give him a chance, have a discussion with him and then watch his actions closely. Trust your intuition and use your discernment 💕
Pray for discernment
Thank you guys for the replies, I have been using this time to heal, reflect, and pour back into myself. It’s been great, I feel like I’ve learned a lot from this relationship however, it’s hard for me to believe people after the fact. I was honest, communicative, and patient but even I have my limits. Idk I’ve been thinking a lot about it, praying about it, I still feel very conflicted.
People change when you give them time and it’s their choice you don’t have to get back with him but if you’re conflicted you can get clarity while guarding your heart
Connection connot be destroyed but alot of trash can be thrown on top of it!!! Best advice ever!! Totally agree 💯
Thank you for sharing this.... i really needed to hear it!! God Bless 🙏❤️
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Every woman needs to hear this. ❤
Ego and Pride is what kills relationships
I agree with u brother. Some times people won’t give u the chance. And that hurts but it’s okay. This gave me the opportunity to continue to work on my self because the truth is. I wasn’t looking for a man. And when he came, I wasn’t ready at all and had hurt from the past. I closed my self to love for 15 years to the point I said no to love ANDNI was okay with that. But, closing myself left me in a horrible situation because I didn’t heal and closing myself wasn’t okay. But now I am healed and whole and not afraid anymore. I was that person who was very resistant and the connection was there but I told him and was honest, I need to heal so I can embarrass him fully. And I didn’t entertain anyone and I love him. And I don’t entertain because I’m faithful to God and this is His temple. But he kept rejecting me. I kept going back but his emotions kept rejecting me. I changed and I got better but he didn’t want me. And that is what was hard brother. That hurt because for the first time, I choose a man and I wanted him. Because before I was fearful because I was raped by my father and survived that evil. I lost two sisters within 4 months because of the evil my dad did. Then the guy after that left me drowning with his unborn child then the second guy kidnapped me. And I said no after that. I was 20 years old and said no to men. So, here I was, and I messed up and asked God to help me because I’m attracting abusive men. I learned the Word more then ever, I read easther and Ruth. I was always a Ruth. But this time with no hate. Lol but I’ve watched ur videos and RC Blake and Paula white courses on relationships.
Oh and I also worked hard on setting my boundaries. Because I didn’t know any better. I want to be better. Avoiding my hurt past pain is never okay and I needed to take accountability. So, I thank YAHWEH for men like you who teach the right things. So, I thank u.
😢😮😢😢😢I hope you find the healing and love your deserve from God I’m sorry you went through that
You have experienced a lot of painful and traumatic pain..... but to read your words on healing and doing better for you is a beautiful thing...... if this gentleman isn't open to the love you want to give, it's okay.... He may not be the one that god has for you. God knows your struggles and virtues, and he will feel you with his love and bring to you the right man who can walk with you hand in hand and grow together. Keep on taking care of yourself and stand firm in your faith!!
@StephanSpeaks, I agree with you. So I took three months to be hurt and angry. Afterwards, I said what I needed to say, and I can move on with peace in my Spirit. I pray he does, too.
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
Thank you so so much. I have faced this but I don’t want to lose anymore opportunities to find love. God said He has that for me. So, I won’t give up on being better and learning.
2 late this happened today I got as disrespectful af now it’s all gone down the toilet now I’ve shut the door 4 life & left wondering & pondeing on my actions
Every experience in life … Is The Lesson for PERSONAL GROWTH ✨👑✨
Happy Healing ❤️🩹
We live and we learn. Regardless it was necessary you will see in the long run. I know you wish you would've chosen your word better. But let this be a learning experience. Love ya Sis. Focus on you.❤
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
I agree, personal growth and transformation is the way to rise above the actions you may regret.
If you can do the inner healing, you have a chance to fix what was lost. You must consciously choose to heal and understand your actions/behaviors/traumas, so many doors will open for you. Have faith and patience in yourself during the process of actively healing, it’s not easy but it’s completely worth it. 🤍🦋
girl i left my man a week ago i said some horrible things too disrespected him to the fullest we were to toxic no communication before breaking up i was tryanna work on the relationship again whole time the man been late on his rent twice saying he been buying shit then one day i rode by his house his second car was gone im like where yo car at he said in the shop how tf yo car in the shop if u aint paying yo rent he had the next female drive his car the same female he was fucking with when we broke up for a month he had her on backplay i went to go grab my shit with my sister then he was starring at my sister ass im like you fuckin pervert dont do that shit in front of my face he talking about imma a man men i swear so im a women can i stare at yo fuckin uncle dick print cause he is fine i dont get it
Stephan, I feel like most of your videos appear on my screen when I need them the most. It's like the universe or the Lord is sending you from somewhere to guide me and use you as a tool so I can hang on and believe in Love again.
I was ghosted by a good guy with great qualities. I thought we were good, then he turned off just like a switch and gone. Hmmmm I think he didn't handle the last convo we had via chat, I showed him my vulnerabilities and some of my weaknesses. Now I kinda hate myself for doing that. I went to church and attended a mass yesterday, then I realized, he may also be God sent from somewhere , used him as a tool to help me fix some areas of my life. This guy may not be my boyfriend or partner at this time but hey life is good. I wanna reframe my perspective and don't wanna consider myself as a victim. I still thank God for sending him to my life. And yeah, I think this is a good bye for both of us. I will move forward , continue living my best life and be ready for God's next blessings. Thanks Stephan! ❤
My pleasure ❤️
We can avoid all of this by just not coming back. Do everyone a favor emotionally and mentally by just staying gone. Had to heal from the break and that was a process in it own. Just stay gone
Question: in our western dating culture, do we put too much emphasis on "connection?" Shouldn't we focus more on values? Oftentimes the initial connection we're feeling is based off really superficial things and once the luster fades we're left with someone we're deeply incompatible with. I have felt connection before and things didnt work out, so maybe we need to use our brains more in the beginning and let connection/love grow over time. I'm sure there's no right answer, just genuinely curious.
I agree . Connection doesnt mean anything . cuz you cna find out how immature and stubborn is even tho you have a deep connection . It will result into pain . It is about compatbility .
Thank you so much Stephan. I needed to hear this. Your example is my personal story and was not sure if i should give him a chance. Yes he is more matured now. Ill decide with an open mind now. Thank you so much 🙏🙏.
My pleasure ❤️
I gave many chances year after year and he never changed! Some men are incapable of loving a woman the way she needs to be loved and just have no real love for anybody but themselves
You were just not for him! Don’t put yourself down because of his incompetence and unavailability, unwillingness
Stephen,can you make a video about how to comfort a man who just lost a loved one and is pulling away?
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
@@MeetStephanSpeaksI would love to see relationship/marriage videos when kids are involved. Maybe how to continue to lead a loving separation not only for yourself but for shared children too!
Very true its a tricky game and you can't predict even the healing process has to be done through praying together
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
You coukdnt hv said it better, this is so important for not just someone from a breakup or thinking of readmitting an ex, its vital for newbies
Glad I could help 🙏
you are right. emotions should be taken out of the equation for better processing. it brings peace regardless of what you devide on doing after...
Wow this was on time. Met a great man. Was prophesied that he was my husband (person admitted that although God told them that, He never told them to tell me). But he’s not ready for relationship. When I prayed about it, God only told me “be patient”. Now we are distant and giving each other space. I was prophesied to by more than one person he will come back around. I just talked to God last night that by the time he comes I don’t know how I will feel because my heart is hurt. I think in all matters we have to seek God because only he knows the true intentions of a man’s heart. In the past had a man walk away from me then come back talking about he wanted a relationship…as he was talking heard the Lord say “don’t trust him”. Therefore I didn’t open my heart and less than 2 weeks he ghosted me. So I just ultimately trust that God will protect my heart.
He came back after ghosting me for 2 years for no reason at all
He disappeared when i was going into a major surgery and i didn’t even block him
When he called yasterday i said i really can’t remember you i don’t know anyone with that name and i have to work now so bye 😂
Excellent, good for you❤. I hope the surgery went well 😊
He came back. We have scheduled conversation in a few days. Taking literal notes lmao thank you Steven
With all due respect this video was so informative
Filled with wisdom thanks coach Steph for your advice
But for me I must admit
Right now am awaiting the man God has for me
Because those I entertained in the past
Am convinced they were sent by satan
Honestly I have no room for discussions with any ex
Thank you for your feedback I appreciate hearing from you ❤️ 🙏🏼
This is actually what I needed to hear, cos am just going thru a phase, thank u Steph
Man of God thank you for your obedience. God spoke so clearly through you. Thank you
I'm working through my healing process right now..
The timing of this is perfect for me
Glad to hear that thank you for sharing ❤️ 🙏🏼
My husband call me 3 weeks ago. We have been separate 2year Telling me that he's not No one. So I went on his TikTok. I saw that he still entertaining.
Another woman, And that's not all he wish Her Happy Birthday my wife. Last I check he still married to me. So all that he was telling me was bull telling me he made a mistake near, right
Sounds similar to me he wants me just for him and we still do us
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
So true I’m here thinking I forgot this part
Thank you for your feedback 🙏🏼
If the one i love so much and he leaves me, He is not worth it to let him came back to my life, thanks Stephan
ONE and DONE. Ain't no coming back!
Have you met anyone worth it??
You truly give the absolute best advice ❤
YES YOURE SO SO RIGHT BECAUSE THIS IS WHAT GOD SAID TO ME
HE SAID NOT YET AND WAIT BECAUSE HENIS ALSO WORKING MORE IN ME
Some people are not worth it at all even after trying just as friends for years while still married ....SO be AWARE as a precaution they will repeat their distespectful ways even in conversation on the phone.. it is what it is he is who he is period.
Stephan I was so angry with ibis dismissiveness it got me so angry
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏🏼
I just started journaling my feelings and you are so right!!! When I would argue those things I would end up feeling more attached to the person! But when I journaled about it instead afterwards I felt like and that's fine I can let all that go and the person go if need be! I guess cos I took care of myself in that way! So it cleared up the illusion of needing him! 💡
I’m over it 😡 I’m gonna be real I don’t want anything to do with my ex boyfriend and I’m praying that he never comes back to me I blocked him on Facebook and before I blocked his number I texted him saying if you see me in public don’t say anything to me. You verbally abused me lie to me and throw me away like trash 🗑 I’m done
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you ❤️
I love this. So many perspectives and real insight. Excellent job.
You are very smart ,wise , & very insightful! I love the stories as examples. I believe in intuition firmly. Mine is strong . Your story helped me today , roles reversed . I was proud of myself because i did exactly what you said a year ago. So I know it was the right thing. If he can't come correct & tell me everything , he is not worth no more of my time. The last time I spoke all of my peace & got it all out and gave it to God. I gave an opportunity for him to tell me everything and I said if you don't tell me my answers to my questions you are going on block he didn't so on block he went. Tried to add me on snap chat, smh ! Thank you for your dedication 🙏❤
This is extreemly important info!! Well said...worth saving...
Thank you for sharing your knowledge 🙏
My pleasure ❤️
Gone...hopefully for good
This must be the season for this........I told the truth and closed the door 🚪 2 words...... I'm grown
He came back after almost 4 weeks of no contact. I needed this so much because we are meeting today and I didnt know how to act 😂 I’m gonna be calm and hear him out cuz I know there’s something there… let’s see what happens
How did it go? I am in the same situation and seeing him tomorrow 🙏
How did it go 😊
@@ronnietoni819 hey ronnie, we are not together anymore and I'm single, i briefly dated someone else for a while but decided they werent for me either. But i followed everything in the video and they wanted a relationship me. I think it's more important to focus on yourself which i had a really hard time before. Now i feel like i really started working with law of assumption and detachment everyone is comin gback
@@dalilasahraoui how did yours go ? mine didnt turn out to be bad but we are not together anymore, decided i deserve better
Didn’t work out so we left it to that… it’s tooooo complicated!!! Better to move on and meet another man 🙏🙏🙏
I did take advantage of clearing my mind and it was so worth it. The x always seemed to know when I was available and I didn't clear my mind the first time but it felt great this last time: you get a feeling of accomplishment no regrets.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Spot on for me on we stop trying because it hurts too much, not because we don't really care. Going through a sudden break-up now, he decided it by himself, thought only at himself, he admitted it. I accepted and went no contact, even if it shattered me. I stopped asking for explanations, not because I don't need them, but because I am too affected. After 1 year and a half he said he can only see me as a friend, but for me that's not an option. I know I did the right choice, but for who truly loves it will always hurt.
Write a letter to him, even if you don’t give it to him.
However I gave him my letter
@@latishabowen5433 I have deleted him from all social media. There is no point to waste my time and put myself through even more pain to write about him. Life goes on. We don't die of love, and neither do we live off the memories. (any grammar mistakes are because english is not my first language). I appreciate your advice 😊 stay strong
Sorry I'm just NOT going through the BullS*** I'll rather be Alone!!
Beautiful advice!!
Thank you for this video. You definitely have a spiritual connection as i needed to see this video today ❤
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us 🙏 ❤.
My pleasure ❤️
What if he was the one to leave because of my unhealed baggage that I brought in to the relationship, he ended up walking away but he ended up coming back. When he came back we talked a lot and told him that we need to take it slow and actually try to heal first before anything else
What if he blindsided you with a breakup and told you he’s moving away forever and you’re confused. Then I texted him to see how his life is going and he continued communicating with me like nothing happened never apologized so I communicated how I felt and blocked him before he responded.
Ugh me looking at this as a sign someone’s about to come back 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I hear you
LOL
Avant- Right place, Wrong time....
I made this mistake and got hurt all over again by him 🤦♀️🙄🙄🙄
That’s what I’m afraid of 😢
Use your brain, your logic and your intuition. Ladies we know when a man loves us. If we aren’t sure then he doesn’t. It’s really that simple. Because me will not want some other man stepping in. So he’ll make sure you know.
We need more videos like this one. Thank you
My pleasure ❤️
Such sage advice... ThanQ❤
Depends on the words that were used....If there were insults yelling the situation is hopeless
Thanks for the advice. It was well needed❤❤
Question- why can’t you heal while together (if both are aware) individually and together?
He’s ghosted me for 3 weeks now he came back in life September this year
🙏 I hope you are able to do what is truly best!
Thanks for
Replying I’ll watch video
I went through that three weeks ghosting then he’s texted me he wants to reset. Mind you he did it twice I didn’t respond to him I’m not desperate, before that he was making some excuses that didn’t make sense. He got two opportunities to prove himself and he did the same thing
100% But if there's a real connection, what happens when the other person doesn't believe in God ? 🙏
that's a tough one. Do more analyzing and go deep with reasons and see things clearly. Look at the long term of it, how things are likely to pan out. Use wisdom. Will the connection last? Will it be real in two years time? Why or why not?
If you believe in God and he doesn’t… I can tell you that alone should be a deal breaker. You’re unequally yoked. Simply put your values about life are different. You can apply that principle to anything relationship. Values are the source of our thoughts and actions. God bless you ! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@EveryDayMattersToday I think you may be right
I’m starting to think there is no such thing as a real connection without love. Your love should be connected by the love you have for God. I’d say it depends on their mindset and whether or not they’re open to believing in God.
What if someone starts believing in God through you?
I made a mistake😢 after 33 years he came back into my life and now I’m 💔 , how can I recover from this disappointment? We’re very, very compatible but he’s not brave (man) enough to move on and make this happen. 😩
I think he played w/my feelings 😟
So i watched a ton of “the art of detachment” , let them walk away motivational speeches and now I see this smh lol me and this guy have a connection but we parted ways.
Damn, you must be psychic, 'cause I'm dealing with something exactly like this! On that note, I'm having trouble accessing your text club thingy. I'm pretty sure I signed up for the right one but I'm not seeing anything to indicate that I'm "in."
I'm bipolar, I change accordingly to how I'm treated. They'll see my sweet side, till they take me for granted, then I'll make them work for my attention.
So practical thank you
When he comes back, apologize and there is no conversation after. Should I ghost him this time?
If they do come back correct and you both want to try again, how can we move past it if they have been intimate with other women during the time apart?
Go get tested first and foremost.
Does it make a difference of how his way of approaching you when he comes back. What he says?
yes! very much so
Spot on
My ex broke up with me oct 3rd 2022 last year he said it was because of college we went to the same college. I knew he would comeback and he did and I knew I wouldn’t go back to him fast forward it’s Oct 15th 2023 and he finally decided that we should separate I think he came to his senses that I wasn’t coming back to him cuz I was only entertaining him getting money out of him🤭 welp
Now you tell me 😢
I'm in a situation and I'm 44 years old and I've been intimate with a 25-year-old I am a cougar but that is a little extreme on my part but I have been involved but the situation is that he stated we're not in a relationship I understand that I have been I could have been in a sexual relationship but there's no way I would do that with someone as young as him and it's like I feel guilty I don't think I could ever be with this person again considering his age but I have been with him but I do want to respect him and the fact that I'm not seeing him as a child but I'm saying that someone that I don't want to effect to much... But in actuality I feel like I do have to tell this person how I feel I can't avoid questions
Thats so true,
💯 yes!
Thank you❤
Thank you
🙏🏾 what if you live because the person ?
What does is mean when he sends you a pic of us back on the day.
Also when he says “ I miss you “ but then not make plans to see me etc
It’s the mixed signals
I think 😂he forgot he told me he loved me a few theses ago but when I said it back I meant that and now I’m finally healing I think but 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
I just feel men don’t normally do that so confused I don’t even want he wants
But alot of times he is a fast tester sometimes but anyway I need a session with Stephannn n😂😂💀💀
I assume he’ll be a player for longer then I can wait so 🤷🏽♀️
What do you mean exactly when you mention "connection"? Thanks
Wow, all so true! After my husband died,I dated for twenty years before finding a very strong connection with an avoidant man. He said he needed a couple of years. I put pressure; He ghosted me. I pressured; he came back, but was by then fighting cancer . The connection was still strong, but he broke up again and has been silent for a year and a half, with a few breadcrumbs here and there, while I kept “talking”. I feel sure that we will reconnect some day and I want to be ready. Thank you Stephan for your good information.
This doesn’t sound healthy. I hope I’m wrong. But you deserve someone who is also there for you.
Stupid 😠
What is you are the woman who left during dating but came back? What should she do versus not do?
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"Don't react to things" but "get everything off your chest" ?? I don't think so
I'm not speaking for Stephan but basically get things off your chest in a calm factual way without getting emotional and going off screaming, crying etc etc.
It makes complete sense.
@@janedane9898 Firstly, some people cannot listen to or handle emotion. Secondly, are these the kind of people to "get things off your chest"? As I said, I don't think so. Not a good idea.
@@muma6559 ok cool
@@muma6559yes I agree. It's hard to communicate with someone when they don't see nothing wrong in their actions.
I wish this video was made before he came back end of July this year. That way I avoided the worst outcome of him leaving me twice 😭 I messed up reacted emotionally. Yes, I believe we have a connection and it's fixable. But then, communication sucks. We're both have smart @$$ mouth 🤣
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I don’t understand what you mean to flush out our emotions?
Stephan help. My men is coming back to me from outside of the country, we are in love but for him to stay with me I’ll have to married him so he can stay in this country, how do I know, he’s really honest and not just using me to be resident in this country
A man handles his business and would not pressure you of his situation. Even if he gets kicked out of the country, the relationship doesn't have to end. I'm dealing with a man who's on visa and he's not once made his problems my problem. He handles his business outside of me.
Hope it is not scam. Be careful.