As a survivor of an abusive relationship, I understand how difficult it can be to leave that situation, and how much easier it can be to convince yourself that they won’t hurt you again or that they will change. But I URGE YOU to do whatever you can to remove yourself from that situation. Abuse isn’t accidental, and the odds of it happening again are extremely high. Once is already TOO MANY TIMES. You DESERVE so much better. You deserve someone who would NEVER hurt you. Don’t make excuses for the person and don’t try to justify it. You did not do anything to deserve it. And please, please, PLEASE: TELL SOMEONE. I know that it can feel humiliating, I - covered for my abuser so much out of shame - but I repeat again: the fact that you are being abused says nothing about you, and everything about who THEY are. Trust me, no matter what you have to do to get out of that situation will be so much better than staying. I was in an abusive relationship for 3 and a half years too long - I wish I had left before the first time he hit me or beat me. Verbal abuse is often the first stage, and NO ONE deserves that or should put up with that either. I have now been free of that relationship for 6 years and have spent 5 of those with the love of my life ( who literally cried hearing about what I had been through) - I want so badly for you to find the peace and happiness that I did. You CAN do it. You ARE strong. Xx
I read your comments and can’t agree more. I’m also a survivor of DV. I was abused to the point I left with brain damage, depression, PTSD, anxiety disorder and now surgery 15 years after I left him in 2007. I hope everyone gets your message. So happy you have your new life and love. 💗
I agree with this 100%. Its so hard but the best thing to do is remove the abuser from your life. Unfortunately if it's happened once.. it will happen again.
As a survivor of DV I can't agree more with this comment. Usually abusive relationship might feel familiar and "safe" to us (goes back to our attachment style from our childhood) and we feel like that is what love is, even though it's far from safe. But violence in any shape or form doesn't belong to love. And even though it's scary and hard to leave from that kind of relationship, there is something better waiting. It's not easy, it's not straightforward, but it's worth it. ❤️
As a survivor as well, I had to come up with a plan. It took a few months honestly to do. I knew that my ex was going to get away with everything as well because of how manipulative and charismatic he is. Hence, why I fell for it at first. So, I started recording everything. First, it started with recording him while he was being verbally & physically abusive in hopes that he would stop doing whatever he was doing if he knew it was being recorded & because he would deny hurting me (GASLIGHT). Then, it got to a point I had my iPhone always in video mode when it was getting really bad. That was my only saving grace in this whole situation, because it was undeniable then. His lawyer still claims I would, “Instigate the fight then start recording him,” which didn’t matter anyways because strangling someone is still strangling someone regardless if I did that or not. I filed a restraining order after I left immediately & it has been a whole year now and we are still in court over things… I moved 1,200 miles away, private all my accounts, and trying to heal. But, anyone going through this type of thing, you do not deserve this. You do not even deserve to be put down in the slightest. As soon as the red flags start END IT IMMEDIATELY. I am in the process of creating a website and blog about this and the red flags and how corrupt the justice system is. What happened to me was not deserved, but it opened my eyes and I try to help other women battling the same things as I did.
It hurts me that you had multiple people writing in dealing with abuse. Thank you for addressing it.. and to anyone being abused, my heart goes out to you and I hope you find the strength to leave.
I always told my ex partner that one of the things I would never tolerate was physical abuse. Then the first time he pushed me out the way I broke down. I made every excuse for him and said to my self “he didn’t actually hit me”. The second time he grabbed me really hard from my arms also while a argument, left bruises. I made excuse once again and said “he didn’t actually hit me”. Third time he was coming towards me and I was so scared I felt I was going to pee myself. He tossed me out his way. It was then when I released I wasn’t going to wait around until he “actually hit me”. Left him and never looked back. Best decision I made. Things are just going to get worse. I think once people cross that line everything goes downhill. Abuse is abuse no matter what! I know it’s hard but I had no support group and o made it out. If I did it you Can too. ❤️
I really struggled with the “he didn’t actually hit me though” mentality too, even to this day when I’ve been out of that relationship for years. When he would get mad he’d tell me “you’re lucky I don’t punch you like I did to my ex,” and in some twisted way it made me feel like all of the other physical stuff he did wasn’t abuse. Anyways it’s really refreshing to see someone else who had to process similar thoughts. Thank you for sharing your experience, I wish nothing but the best for you! ❤️
My youngest child crowned in the car. I was holding the top of his head walking into the e.r. I didn't stop when I got inside. I told them what was happening as I walked and found a bed. I laid back and they told me not to push so they could get me to labor and delivery lmao. His head was halfway out lol!! The staff left me in the hallway to scramble materials and I delivered him myself right there in front of the entire waiting room of people who came to the end of the hall to watch. Several people kept yelling to the staff to come quick. They were shocked when they arrived and asked me "why did you do that?" Like I had a choice. It was funny looking back at it but just a wild experience!
@@daniann19_91 lol right? I gotta say though when I brought my son to that e.r. 7 or 8 years later that doctor and one of the nurses remembered me lol. He came in to say hi and said how wild of an experience it was. He had "never delivered a baby in the e.r. before" I replied "well doc you didn't deliver this one either lol I did!" He laughed and said fair enough. He's like "you just walked in like you owned the place and didn't need us. You walked right in, found your own bed and delivered your own baby lol" it was funny
Yes Kendall AND Janelle do Cameo!!! I would so tell my husband I WANT A SESH CAMEO FOR MY BIRTHDAY!!! Would be a cool way to raise money for some of the causes you support or families you help! (Maybe a portion of it or something)
Was kind of stressed/anxious about something in my personal life, and getting to “sit with my sisters” and be present during these podcasts truly just feels so comforting.
i needed this today, so so badly. im having a hard time, anxiety, depression, loneliness. you guys always warm up my bad days. you both inspire me so much to keep going and to follow my passions. thank you💛
I'm sorry you're struggling. From a internet friend stranger..you're worthy,important and worth trying for. Sending huggies & positive energy♡ hang in there .
About the dv stuff, I can't stress how important it is to know your options/resources. There are so many organizations that are ready to help you financially or offer shelter etc., both nationally and locally. If you have the access/privacy to look up resources near you, please do and keep them in mind. You're not alone ❤️
My rescue dog was about a year old and passed away suddenly this morning. It’s been the hardest day. Hoping listening to you guys will help me feel a little better.
I had pregnancy induced carpal tunnel which made my arms/hands/legs/feet randomly fall asleep and it drove me CRAZY! But absolutely mention it to your OB so they can make sure it's not something else just to be safe.
Just came to say that I love how much you’ve embraced pregnancy Kendall. I had two miscarriages and am now 24 weeks pregnant with my rainbow. pregnancy after loss is one of the hardest things I’ve had to go through. Every twinge and cramp sent me running to the bathroom to check for blood. I just wanted to tell you that I am so happy for you and josh. I’ve been watching mile higher for the past few years and absolutely love how the sesh is a way to feel more connected to all of you girls. My due date is July 29th, so it’s been so fun to hear about your pregnancy updates and go through this “with you” essentially. You are going to be an amazing mommy, your little girl already loves you fiercely and I am so happy that you have a village behind you to back you up 💓 can’t wait to meet our lil Leo’s! 😉🥰
Sorry for your losses. I have had six miscarriages, five since the day before my 40th birthday. I am now perimenopausal, therefore no rainbows here. But I am blessed with three beautiful, perfect sons with my husband of 17 years. My "baby" will be 9 on August 5! My own little Leo
1. Love a sesh cameo, 2. Janelle, why haven’t you got license yet? You graduated but seriously you could start a whole new podcast Janelle‘s advice, where the and seshies and Homies can write Janelle therapy questions, and she can give some advice. She has amazing advice!!!! 3. To the lady that had the car accident I’m truly sorry to you! I was in a car accident where I had 99.9999% to not make it. I have been there so many times! When I first started driving I was very very scared!!! I started off slow, my parents threw me out on the road and pretty much said here you go(2 years later, recovery took a long time 4 years in total from all the surgeries at that time) when I first drove on the highway I wrecked on, I fallowed someone(their was 2 people) that I trusted very very well, I set a plan in motion in case I had an anxiety attack or a panic attack, I would turn on my flashers and they would get us safely pulled over. It’s a very hard and scary thing to face. I have a little brain issue after 13 years and I forget a lot! So if I don’t drive for a lengthy period Of time, I still get nervous and scared.
A lot of newborns sleep really well their first few weeks, so hopefully you can get some good rest after baby comes. They well might wake up to feed but will go right back to sleep all milk drunk….milk drunk newborns are the cutest little monsters ever!
I was waiting for Jenelle to talk about transference. lol As someone that is studying Social Work I started thinking "no-no !" lmfao As Jenelle said it is illegal and they would have to have 5 years of no contact. Clients can start having feelings because they're sharing intimate information with their therapist.
I love that you guys talked about driving anxiety🥺I haven’t driven for almost a year because I randomly started getting panic attacks. It’s a HUGE struggle (I love 30 min from the city) and not something I tell people so it really helped to hear you guys talk about it💖💖I finally started medication recently and hoping I will get back to normal one day
i relate so much. after years of driving i stared driving 2 years ago and i was si afraid to go on the highways(and I live in Germany so cars drive really fast). the first time alone i was basically screaming alk the time and sweating like crazy. but now I actually love it.
im so late to this comment thread, but i used to be the same way and i love driving now! i get on the freeway just to go 4 miles because it's faster now! i hope you guys are or are getting better
You ladies are such a breath of fresh air. I love all the laughter, baby talk, engagement in conversations and the advise. Anxiety sucks and I deal with it by going to places early before crowds, make the store trips quick, my friend knows I have this issue so she understand if I don’t show up if she invites me places. I’ll miss you ladies but enjoy the time off, you deserve it. We all appreciate you ladies so much!
For the car accident advice, totally would suggest EMDR! I have a friend who went through a traumatic car accident and EMDR really really helped her to be able to drive totally fine now. I also did this therapy for a dramatic event in my life and it really has helped so much . It is very intense in the moment but gets easier each session
On the driving thing - I actually had an accident years ago, got a new car but sold it quickly as I was moving to London (definitely don't need a car there). I didn't drive for 8 years and I was absolutely terrified of it. I wanted to drive again but the thought of it nearly made me sick. I eventually bit the bullet and I got... Refresher lessons! There are many instructors that will do refresher lessons and will work with anxious drivers. I had a few of those and bought a car soon after. It's been a couple of years now and I'm way more confident than I was even before my accident. Would definitely recommend. And always try and get someone who works with anxious drivers, etc. They'll know how to take it easy and build the lessons back up. I literally drove around a car park the first lesson.
Kendall, Janelle, How do you ladies feel about your experience with Terri last week? What do you think of the feedback from the sesh fans? All love to you both, I’m curious on your thoughts.
I have some anxiety when needing to go shopping somewhere that is busy. Something that I do that is helpful is find out from employees when the busiest times/days are and avoid going at those specific times.
Kendall, my mom gave birth to me in the moving car while my dad raced to the hospital. She said in many ways it was her best birth-fast, no complications and a great story. She said she wasn’t scared about being unassisted, just pissed she wouldn’t get her epidural. I was born just before reaching the hospital and by the time they pulled into the parking lot they were both laughing over the whole experience.
omg wait the coming out to my mum one was mine, thank you for answering 🥺 what you both said was true actually so I will definitely try to write a letter and take it from there, thank you again 🤍
I had a natural accidental free birth at home for my second. It was amazing. So intense. A really incredible experience for me. I hated being in hospital, I was induced, epidural, then ended up with an episiotomy and forceps. It took me ages to heal and even longer to accept what happened. Having my second at home really helped ‘the do over’. Look at the cascade effect with birth intervention if you want to avoid being over medicated and unable to push…
okay these are definitely my fav type of vids now!! literally just felt like i was having a powwow with my girlies and got sad when it was ending!!! love you guys 🥰
Wait I’m 21 weeks so me and Kendall might be very close in weeks. Last week my baby was the size of a banana! This will be my second child I have a 3 year old son and I’m having a girl now! So excited for the both of us 🥺💗
One tip I have when you’re in the hospital having baby girl, if your hospital is a teaching hospital and you’re not comfortable with a student doing certain things, don’t be afraid to say so! A student was lined up to do my epidural, and that was just not for me, so I asked if the seasoned anesthesiologist would do it instead. The students can check my dilation, monitor heart, things like that, but imma need someone with experience putting a needle into my spine tysm.
omg I don’t have kids yet but can’t imagine being in that position! i know they have to learn but… not on us!🤣 my mom was so scared to become paralyzed from it so she didn’t get one!
@@aliyamarie6800 Right! I felt a little guilty taking away an opportunity for this guy to get more experience, but my fear outweighed my guilt 😂 I don’t blame your mom at all, it’s scary to think about! The doctor who ended up doing mine had really perfected his technique, and it was MAGICAL. My husband said, “wow, it must be doing something, because this is the first time you’ve smiled since we were admitted.”
@@aliyamarie6800 It wasn’t painful, more like pressure. They numb where they’re going to insert the epidural before actually placing it (thank God lol). You just have to be super still for several minutes, because they have to go slow so everything goes smoothly, which made me anxious. Definitely worth it for me though.
My grandfather passed away this morning and I am going through it to say the least. Thankful for all of you in the Mile Higher family and this much needed distraction. ❤️🩹
Kendall I’m totally with you! I’m currently 22 weeks & 2 days pregnant with my 2nd son & only 2 days ahead of you in my pregnancy and my sleep is inconsistent , full of tossing and turning and rolling over🤪. Pregnancy exhaustion totally feels more draining then the newborn stage currently struggling with it as well . So don’t worry it does get better once you have the baby ❤️!
I really enjoy the Sesh and I’m glad we’re back to the regular content. I did want to say I’m really disappointed that you guys haven’t addressed anything after getting all the feedback on last weeks’ video. (Or none that I’ve seen thus far.) I’d still really like to hear a response from you guys since the majority of it was pretty negative. Peace and love only, just want to hear your opinions based off of your experience and the reaction you got. 💖
@@obbo333 Honestly, even if all that was said was “We saw your feedback and will take it into consideration going forward,” would suffice. Not acknowledging it at all when the overwhelming response was negative (again, from what all I saw a few days after it the video came out), is not a great look. I want to reiterate I’m a big fan of The Sesh, been here since the beginning. I just expected some sort of acknowledgment so I at least know I was heard and I think a lot of others did too.
36:41 I lost my 3 year old dog from liver failure, I adopted a girl 4 days later from the shelter, I still love him deeply, I believe he is my guardian who came to me at the time I needed him but I couldn't bare the empty whole in my heart, I don't think it matters at all when u chose to fill that whole because I still grieve him a year later but I love my girl so much and I needed her at that time
Yaaaaaaas another week another sesh! Commenting while you still might see but just want to send you guys and all of the mile higher crew all my love and positive energy this week! ❤️❤️❤️
Re: the car accident advice - I've been in 7 car accidents, each worse than the last, I nearly died in 2 of them - 2 of them we're within 3 weeks of one another & I was always just in the wrong place at the wrong time. The best thing to do to not scare yourself into not ever driving again is actually getting back behind the wheel - even if you're going around the corner. Work with a therapist and talk through your concerns and work on them slowly. Take time going places & if you can't cope (like I cannot drive in peak hour traffic anymore) in certain situations anymore, look at changing your situation to better suit you - I organise to start work 30 minutes later and leave 30 minutes later to miss the peak hour & then changed jobs entirely (more so because I moved) but also because it wasn't working anymore for my PTSD.
I ran over a cow head on, going 60 MPH. I had no choice but to get back to driving. While I had daily panic attacks, and slammed on my breaks at everything that moved on the side of the road. If I had a choice I probably would have never gone back to driving. I memorized every reflector and sign along the road, on a rural desolate highway in Idaho. I can tell you which reflectors wiggle in the wind, which ones been ran over, and what day is trash day on that road. The panic was the worse. Over time it got better. I used to love to drive, I've never really regained that love back. I think for me now being driven by someone else is more of a panic. I can't decide which I hate worse being a driver or being driven. It does get better, just be cautious and alert.
The dog question has me cryin in the club😭 but you have really great advice! I had to put my family dog down when I was a freshman in college and I got her when I was in kindergarten. It was the worst loss I’ve ever felt and felt so guilty when my mom and I were on the phone 2 months later talking about getting another dog when we swore we wouldn’t. I think what really helped when we got another dog was it was a very different breed than our last dog and a male so there was never a thought that crossed my mind of new dog is replacing old dog because they both had totally different personalities, both perfect in every way , but extremely different ♡
Kendall you are going to be such an amazing mom! I remember I was so nervous to give birth to my daughter. It was such an amazing experience. Seriously life changing! It was so beautiful. It wasn’t like any of the scary stories other moms were telling me. It was such a special day for my partner and I. Now our daughter will be 5 this year and we have a 6 month old baby boy. Same thing again my second time around. A great experience. Very hard but nothing that my body couldn’t handle! I know it’s so cliché but they were the best days of my life! Changed me forever and made me the strong woman and mother I am today! ❤️
I genuinely go to my therapist with questions like this so, you're right, this is perfect for Janelle. You both have comforting energy in a different way
THANK YOU so much for always putting times in the description! I totally recognize some people LOVE hearing 15 minutes of baby talk but it’s extremely triggering for some of your audience and I appreciate having it in one spot that people can skip if they wish. Thank you again 💕
I agree with Sidney, it seems like a long time but it is only four years. The music ed department sounds worth it. Focus on your education and know that you can visit (and look forward to seeing) your family once or twice a month or so. Some people in school are thousands of miles apart from family. (And Janelle & Kendall's idea of joining a club or friend group is good, too.)
I’ve had 4 babies, different experiences every time. The best advice I can give, is to stay relaxed and positive about it, being anxious causes the hardest labors. I had 3 water births and I focused on being calm and relaxed, I did visualization techniques and had 3 beautiful, amazing births. My 4th was rough, I ended up with pre-eclampsia and an emergency C-section after days of labor in the hospital. Some things are out of our control but I think with a low risk pregnancy you can prepare and have an amazing experience through birth. I love birth! Like you Kendall, I’ve watched so many births! My favorites are water births, and home water births are amazing, especially hypno births 🥰
In regards to the DV advice. I would suggest having an extra set of keys to your vehicle hidden for easy access just in case the offender takes your's. With having a place to go, if it is a friend/ family ask them if they could / would hide an extra key to thier home in case they are not home when you are able to leave. If you are able to stash a lil money put it on a visa gift card put away even if a friend or family member hold onto. Get all you important paperwork together in one spot. Just a few idea's.
Let’s normalize couples having separate bedrooms!! It’s so frowned upon but has so many benefits. You have your own space and individuality but can have “sleep overs” and the nights you do sleep together are even more special because it’s not a 365 night event! My parents had separate bedrooms and were married 62 years… and still would be but my wonderful Dad died last year 💔
yeah no, I love Kendall n Janelle and I'm sure your dad was wonderful. Although, having separate bedrooms is just flat out weird , bizarre, n not right. it's different if those bedrooms are used for everything other than sleeping n just having a space for you and your things, but to sleep separately in your own two bedrooms?? Is just not a relationship. I'm sorry. I don't think it's normal at all.
From my experience, being induced made my labour 10x more painful! My second pregnancy I went completely natural & went into labour myself & it was my best labour x
To the person who was is an accident I understand you. I was rear ended 2 times last year within 6 months. First car was totaled, second thankfully wasn’t, it was literally just bought the week before. My first one I was shook up but wasn’t terrified to drive again. To preface in both accidents I saw them come in my rear mirror before impact. After my second one I couldn’t get in a car. I didn’t drive for 2 weeks. Just being in a car have me a heart attack every time. The first month driving after the second one I’d break down crying while driving just from work which is only 5 minutes away. I kept thinking everyone behind was hitting me. I can’t tell you how many times I pulled over especially in bad weather. My anxiety hit a new high. What helped me was getting a therapist to help me work through my driving PTSD. It’s been 6 plus months now and I still will stare away from my mirrors at stop signs and lights. My therapist 100% was and is the reason I’m better from when I started. I feel your pain so much and I suggest getting a therapist who can help you through this traumatic event. Sending all my good vibes and love ❤️
Haha I always think it’s still uploaded on Sunday and always super excited to see it thurs. I skipped last week due to psychic but excited to be here this wk!!
My therapist used EMDR treatment for PTSD and it was the most effective therapy for me. It felt like it completely (but gradually) lifted the fog off my brain that had been there for so long. I’m glad they brought it up as well since I had never heard of it before and it completely changed my perspective on life.
im almost 30 weeks pregnant and my sleeping is HORRIBLE lately. having a newborn of course sleep deprives you but the actual deep, comfortable sleep you get postpartum is the best!
EMDR was a total game changer for my PTSD from childhood trauma and more recent trauma. It is the only thing that enabled me to no longer have full blown PTSD episodes. And give yourself some time to rest after each session because they are really draining and exhausting. It is also helpful to have a second non EMDR therapy session with your therapist each week to help you further process everything that you have been working on.
Those pregnancy symptoms you are experiencing are completely normal. I’m going to be 35 weeks pregnant on Sunday, and I still experience those symptoms. It makes sleeping very uncomfortable. So worth it in the end. 🥰 You got this girl! ❤️
being induced with pitocin realllllly sucks, definitely avoid being medically induced if possible bc it HURTS & can cause complications. obviously when it’s absolutely necessary then the pain comes secondary to getting ur baby delivered safely, but if it’s not necessary then definitely avoid induction. being days or a couple weeks past ur due date is normal, believe me tho i understand how uncomfortable it is😂
I was induced with pitocin ( I actually didn’t realize that’s what they were doing when they said they were giving me fluids” and after 23 hours I ended up with an emergency c-section and my daughter wasn’t breathing. It was awful and caused a lot of complications…including damaging my Fallopian tubes. I know this is not everyone’s experience but I definitely encourage research and understanding it before agreeing.
@@MyFreckledJourney something so similar happened to me, i wasn’t dilating quick enough for the doctor’s liking so they said they were giving me “fluids” to help speed things up. my epidural was working great up till they gave me the pitocin, & it made me violently throw up for awhile. my labor was relatively easy & peaceful then it turned traumatic.
I currently am in EMDR and it has been a really uplifting but scary yet thrilling experience. I would definitely make sure you trust your gut when it comes to finding that specific type of therapist. Mine uses shadow work as the layout of her practice. She truly has helped me reprogram parts of myself I’m ready to reprogram. Also don’t feel obligated to jump into this! It took me a couple of years of therapy and my own strength to feel comfortable enough to “relive” and free traumatic parts of myself. If you feel like you should do this type of therapy I support you!!!!
They are right about the newborn sleep!!!!! Once you have the baby, every time you sleep will literally feel like the best sleep of your entire existence!!!!!
As for the anxiety towards driving, I went to therapy for this myself. My therapist suggested a go-cart track because it was a controlled environment as well as playing grand theft auto with the steering wheel and pedals and it definitely worked!
Love hearing you talk about your pregnancy. My baby girl was just born 4/5 and it was the craziest experience, I can’t wait for you to have that! I love hearing how many weeks you are and remembering what it was like for me at that time. It’s truly such a special journey, so happy for you guys!
I have a little general advice for everyone, because I went through and still going through now 7 years of therapy, like Kendall and Janelle said, basically every small step matters and the littlest baby steps do make a difference, but keep in mind unfortunately not everyone will notice that. Or you may even still get criticised by even close people in your life for the very thing you are working on or have made baby steps in, like I did. Just don't let that get you down because if YOU notice a difference be so proud of yourself. Give yourself recognition and celebrate!
Karelly and Syd I would personally love to watch "in the day of" with You guys! I really enjoy seeing You's at Kendall's baby shower and that, actually hope to see more of You's on the vlog, around the office and that 😁
I look forward to the sesh every week and this was one of my favorites that you’ve done. Someone’s comment said something like “it feels like I’m hanging out with my sisters” and that’s so true!!! You guys just bring such calming warm energy, I really hope you do another advice video!! I’ll definitely be submitting something next time 💗 sending love from orlandooo
I've done EMDR and it worked really well for me. My therapist described it like this. Your traumatic event was filed in a filing cabinet in your brain that gets accessed way too often, causing it to come up and cause emotion and anxiety when maybe it shouldn't. EMDR re-files that memory into a file cabinet that is not accessed as often. The trauma is still there, but it isn't going to be interrupting your life and the pain lessens a lot.
As someone who has lived with my partner for almost 7 years, my biggest advice is be flexible. I went from living alone, to a horrible roommate situation, to living with my SO. It was hard at first to find a good balance. I am one of those "load the dishwasher the right way" and "fold the clothes the right way" types. I had to learn that as long as it's done, it doesn't really matter how it's done, and it's not worth the fights. In the long run, there are so much more important things to focus on, and you will enjoy the happier memories if you just relax a little and let things slide. No one wants to fight all the time
Thank you so much for touching on EMDR! When my therapist suggested it I was very skeptical but EMDR saved my life! I was able to process and move on from events that happened in my childhood and early teens!
I had social anxiety as a teen and in HS was even anxious walking down the hall. I decided to use a form of flooding/exposure and challenged myself to go into high anxiety situations such as walk through the cafeteria alone, sit with groups of semi strangers and interact at parties. It eventually became easy and I graduated myself to public speaking! Now I have no anxiety in social situations and actually thrive in them. Of course it’s not for everyone!
I had terrible circulation issues and carpal tunnel with my baby girl! I used to wake up with my hands and arms asleep almost every night. I do not miss those weird pregnancy symptoms!
About the moving in with your LDR s/o: I've experienced first hand what it can do to go from not seeing each other for months to spend every single minute with them. It's amazing on one hand but it's also overwhelming. I haven't moved in with my LD s/o yet (we're still long distance) but we met irl while I was an exchange student in his country last year, and he came to visit for last Christmas after 6 months of not seeing each other. God we argued SO much because we basically moved in together for a month, and when you're in an LDR you're so used to doing your own thing without it really affecting your partner, that it can take a lot of work to learn how to actually be together physically and 24/7 on top of that. A lot of communications is needed! And maybe try not to get your expectations TOO high. Whether it's a LDR or not, moving in requires some adjustments either way.
I feel like I social anxiety. I work from home and am not around a lot of people during the day which doesn’t help. So when I get around people I don’t know how to act sometimes. I found out for myself is to go out and do things by myself. Go to the store by myself. I also hate being in big crowds..it’s baby steps.
Around 37:ish you were talking about when you loose you pup - I agree 100% that it isnt about replacing! One other thing I always remind folks is that there are SO many in shelter that you can love in the best, but different way
I never got irritated when my husband played video games. I would watch and eventually I said I wanted to play too. Now it's something we enjoy doing together (and with our son) 🙂
When my water broke at home at 4:30am, it was green, meaning she has passed a stool inside! I was terrified but didn’t want to scare my support system & make my anxiety worse. I remained calm, changed my pants, got in the car & called the hospital to let them know I was on my way with meconium in the fluid. It sounds silly & easier said than done but staying calm is really the key. Screaming through the pain only causes you to lose your breathe. I breathed well & just let my body do it’s thing. The epidural made it possible 😉
I am in EMDR therapy, as well as physical therapy for my PTSD! IT IS WORKING WONDERS! Especially paired together(: My life has forever changed for the better, I’ve learned so much about myself and my trauma that I just didn’t understand before. I truly think it has saved my life.
As someone who struggles with social anxiety that was debilitating and is now getting a lot better, I would suggest staying in situations that make you have a little bit of anxiety. I use to leave whenever I would feel anxiety in a social setting and it did more harm than good. Being mildly anxious and pushing through (while using psychological techniques) is what made me get use to it. The more you isolate yourself, the worse it will get
I CANNOT POP sleep due to stress & anxiety. As sad as this sounds... it’s my truth- I finally got the energy to even pick up my phone.. I haven’t even had the want to do that all day. And I say this with no exaggeration- when I saw you girls in my notifications, I got so genuinely happy for the first time today. I always say this- and I see that so many others do as well, but watching The Sesh is literally like I’m just chilling out with my best friends, shooting the shit. You two have got me through some of my most difficult days- genuinely. So thank you. I love you ladies so much 🥺😘 Kendall 1. You’re glowing & look amazing and 2. I had my first baby boy, Levi Ecko in July. I’m going to keep it 100- and this is MY EXPERIENCE, obviously. All us mommas are different. But I also used to HATE hearing “mehhhh you think you don’t sleep now pft just waaaaait”.. and let me tell you! From about 27 weeks- until I had him at 38+4 weeks? I was MISERABLEEE! I think I slept 2-3 hours a night between peeing, him mocking and getting under my ribs, and oooof due to lack of our relaxin hormone by 33 weeks I couldn’t lift my legs to get into car, onto my bed- I’d just cryyyyyy. But the moment I had him? Aside of csection pain, I was instantly comfy again. I truly am so lucky considering my son is such And amazing sleep right now, I love whethe SS l
EMDR has changed my life. I highly suggest seeking it out if you are dealing with trauma of any type. Definitely find a therapist you trust, but it can be life changing to take power over your trauma 💕
My advice with long distance and moving in together is to put yourself in the person who is moving states shoes. My bf and I were long distance for 3 years and we moved in together and i have to realize that when i get upset or close them out, he feels like shit for making me upset and on top of that he has no one here. I realize that i am the only person that he has and i gotta take a step back and communicate how i am feeling without yelling. Getting mad over little stuff is not worth making them feel like they’re alone. If you love each other COMMUNICATION IS KEY!
I loved this episode so much. I didn’t even realize when it was over. Kendall, you’re glowing and I’m so excited for your sweet baby girl. My daughter is 6 and was born on August 11th and she is the sweetest, most entertaining, curious, energetic, kind and just overall love bug of a child. That’s the kind of energy that Janelle also radiates as a Leo and I know your baby girl is going to bring so much love, purpose and joy into your lives. I’m so happy for you all! 💖💖
Gecko girl here! Thanks to everyone for the suggestions! I ended up naming her Taco Jasmine (TJ) 🥰
Yassss! TJ the gecko!!
Soooooooo cuteeeeee
As a survivor of an abusive relationship, I understand how difficult it can be to leave that situation, and how much easier it can be to convince yourself that they won’t hurt you again or that they will change. But I URGE YOU to do whatever you can to remove yourself from that situation. Abuse isn’t accidental, and the odds of it happening again are extremely high. Once is already TOO MANY TIMES. You DESERVE so much better. You deserve someone who would NEVER hurt you. Don’t make excuses for the person and don’t try to justify it. You did not do anything to deserve it. And please, please, PLEASE: TELL SOMEONE. I know that it can feel humiliating, I - covered for my abuser so much out of shame - but I repeat again: the fact that you are being abused says nothing about you, and everything about who THEY are. Trust me, no matter what you have to do to get out of that situation will be so much better than staying. I was in an abusive relationship for 3 and a half years too long - I wish I had left before the first time he hit me or beat me. Verbal abuse is often the first stage, and NO ONE deserves that or should put up with that either. I have now been free of that relationship for 6 years and have spent 5 of those with the love of my life ( who literally cried hearing about what I had been through) - I want so badly for you to find the peace and happiness that I did. You CAN do it. You ARE strong. Xx
I read your comments and can’t agree more. I’m also a survivor of DV. I was abused to the point I left with brain damage, depression, PTSD, anxiety disorder and now surgery 15 years after I left him in 2007. I hope everyone gets your message. So happy you have your new life and love. 💗
My #1 tip is to leave when they're not home. Give no hints or clues beforehand and never look back.
I agree with this 100%. Its so hard but the best thing to do is remove the abuser from your life. Unfortunately if it's happened once.. it will happen again.
As a survivor of DV I can't agree more with this comment. Usually abusive relationship might feel familiar and "safe" to us (goes back to our attachment style from our childhood) and we feel like that is what love is, even though it's far from safe. But violence in any shape or form doesn't belong to love. And even though it's scary and hard to leave from that kind of relationship, there is something better waiting. It's not easy, it's not straightforward, but it's worth it. ❤️
As a survivor as well, I had to come up with a plan. It took a few months honestly to do. I knew that my ex was going to get away with everything as well because of how manipulative and charismatic he is. Hence, why I fell for it at first. So, I started recording everything. First, it started with recording him while he was being verbally & physically abusive in hopes that he would stop doing whatever he was doing if he knew it was being recorded & because he would deny hurting me (GASLIGHT). Then, it got to a point I had my iPhone always in video mode when it was getting really bad. That was my only saving grace in this whole situation, because it was undeniable then. His lawyer still claims I would, “Instigate the fight then start recording him,” which didn’t matter anyways because strangling someone is still strangling someone regardless if I did that or not. I filed a restraining order after I left immediately & it has been a whole year now and we are still in court over things… I moved 1,200 miles away, private all my accounts, and trying to heal. But, anyone going through this type of thing, you do not deserve this. You do not even deserve to be put down in the slightest. As soon as the red flags start END IT IMMEDIATELY. I am in the process of creating a website and blog about this and the red flags and how corrupt the justice system is. What happened to me was not deserved, but it opened my eyes and I try to help other women battling the same things as I did.
I didn’t realize pregnancy glow was real until seeing Kendall pregnant, so beautiful what the female body can do
I vote for a sex-ed class for Karelly episode! 😂
You should let us send in our birth stories and read them on the show!!
Yes!!
That’s a great idea!!!!
YES
@@Analaya749 I have two pretty crazy ones 🤣 the traumaaaa lol!
Omg I have a helll of a pregnancy story!! 😳
It hurts me that you had multiple people writing in dealing with abuse. Thank you for addressing it.. and to anyone being abused, my heart goes out to you and I hope you find the strength to leave.
I always told my ex partner that one of the things I would never tolerate was physical abuse. Then the first time he pushed me out the way I broke down. I made every excuse for him and said to my self “he didn’t actually hit me”. The second time he grabbed me really hard from my arms also while a argument, left bruises. I made excuse once again and said “he didn’t actually hit me”. Third time he was coming towards me and I was so scared I felt I was going to pee myself. He tossed me out his way. It was then when I released I wasn’t going to wait around until he “actually hit me”.
Left him and never looked back. Best decision I made. Things are just going to get worse. I think once people cross that line everything goes downhill. Abuse is abuse no matter what! I know it’s hard but I had no support group and o made it out. If I did it you Can too. ❤️
I really struggled with the “he didn’t actually hit me though” mentality too, even to this day when I’ve been out of that relationship for years. When he would get mad he’d tell me “you’re lucky I don’t punch you like I did to my ex,” and in some twisted way it made me feel like all of the other physical stuff he did wasn’t abuse. Anyways it’s really refreshing to see someone else who had to process similar thoughts. Thank you for sharing your experience, I wish nothing but the best for you! ❤️
Yeah because they might not end up hitting you, it could end up in a true crime story, if the aggression is there then please people - just leave ❤️
My youngest child crowned in the car. I was holding the top of his head walking into the e.r. I didn't stop when I got inside. I told them what was happening as I walked and found a bed. I laid back and they told me not to push so they could get me to labor and delivery lmao. His head was halfway out lol!! The staff left me in the hallway to scramble materials and I delivered him myself right there in front of the entire waiting room of people who came to the end of the hall to watch. Several people kept yelling to the staff to come quick. They were shocked when they arrived and asked me "why did you do that?" Like I had a choice. It was funny looking back at it but just a wild experience!
Why did you do that?! Wth kind of question is that?😂 the things labor and delivery nurses/doctors say sometimes🙄
@@daniann19_91 lol right? I gotta say though when I brought my son to that e.r. 7 or 8 years later that doctor and one of the nurses remembered me lol. He came in to say hi and said how wild of an experience it was. He had "never delivered a baby in the e.r. before" I replied "well doc you didn't deliver this one either lol I did!" He laughed and said fair enough. He's like "you just walked in like you owned the place and didn't need us. You walked right in, found your own bed and delivered your own baby lol" it was funny
The "why did you do that?" Has me CACKLING 😂😭 As if you could stop that! Great job, super woman 🫶🏻
Yes Kendall AND Janelle do Cameo!!! I would so tell my husband I WANT A SESH CAMEO FOR MY BIRTHDAY!!! Would be a cool way to raise money for some of the causes you support or families you help! (Maybe a portion of it or something)
Love this idea for a fundraiser!!
@@Nono-ul9jy can you specify why not?
@@Nono-ul9jy Just because you think that, doesn't mean it's fact. Who cares.
Was kind of stressed/anxious about something in my personal life, and getting to “sit with my sisters” and be present during these podcasts truly just feels so comforting.
i needed this today, so so badly. im having a hard time, anxiety, depression, loneliness. you guys always warm up my bad days. you both inspire me so much to keep going and to follow my passions. thank you💛
Hey, sending you a big ol’ hug.
Sending love💜 Kendall and Janelle always bring smiles.😁
Sorry you're going through it. I've been there off & on. Remember, things will start looking up. Hugs!
I'm sorry you're struggling. From a internet friend stranger..you're worthy,important and worth trying for. Sending huggies & positive energy♡ hang in there .
I've been feeling the exact same way and the Sesh ways brightens my day and makes me feel like I'm with friends. Sending you love and happiness ❤️❤️
"Leaky butt, leaky eye, okay so baby's a banana" - Janelle giving us the essential tea in one haiku-style package.
About the dv stuff, I can't stress how important it is to know your options/resources. There are so many organizations that are ready to help you financially or offer shelter etc., both nationally and locally. If you have the access/privacy to look up resources near you, please do and keep them in mind. You're not alone ❤️
My rescue dog was about a year old and passed away suddenly this morning. It’s been the hardest day. Hoping listening to you guys will help me feel a little better.
Oh my gosh Madalyn I am so so sorry this happened. Loosing a pet is truly the worst 🥺 Charlie and I send our love ♥️♥️
I had pregnancy induced carpal tunnel which made my arms/hands/legs/feet randomly fall asleep and it drove me CRAZY! But absolutely mention it to your OB so they can make sure it's not something else just to be safe.
Me too! Immediately what I thought when Kendall mentioned that.
Just came to say that I love how much you’ve embraced pregnancy Kendall. I had two miscarriages and am now 24 weeks pregnant with my rainbow. pregnancy after loss is one of the hardest things I’ve had to go through. Every twinge and cramp sent me running to the bathroom to check for blood. I just wanted to tell you that I am so happy for you and josh. I’ve been watching mile higher for the past few years and absolutely love how the sesh is a way to feel more connected to all of you girls. My due date is July 29th, so it’s been so fun to hear about your pregnancy updates and go through this “with you” essentially. You are going to be an amazing mommy, your little girl already loves you fiercely and I am so happy that you have a village behind you to back you up 💓 can’t wait to meet our lil Leo’s! 😉🥰
Congrats on your soon to be rainbow baby!! 🥰 sending you all the love and blessings
My due date was July 29th two years ago! Lol how funny 😄 my daughter ended up coming early by 9 days and she’s a cancer ♋️
Sorry for your losses. I have had six miscarriages, five since the day before my 40th birthday. I am now perimenopausal, therefore no rainbows here. But I am blessed with three beautiful, perfect sons with my husband of 17 years. My "baby" will be 9 on August 5! My own little Leo
Heyyy! I’m due July 28th! And I feel the same way, I love like hearing about Kendall’s pregnancy and kinda being able to relate :)
Aw, my late grandma's birthday was July 29th 💚
1. Love a sesh cameo,
2. Janelle, why haven’t you got license yet? You graduated but seriously you could start a whole new podcast Janelle‘s advice, where the and seshies and Homies can write Janelle therapy questions, and she can give some advice. She has amazing advice!!!!
3. To the lady that had the car accident I’m truly sorry to you! I was in a car accident where I had 99.9999% to not make it. I have been there so many times! When I first started driving I was very very scared!!! I started off slow, my parents threw me out on the road and pretty much said here you go(2 years later, recovery took a long time 4 years in total from all the surgeries at that time) when I first drove on the highway I wrecked on, I fallowed someone(their was 2 people) that I trusted very very well, I set a plan in motion in case I had an anxiety attack or a panic attack, I would turn on my flashers and they would get us safely pulled over. It’s a very hard and scary thing to face. I have a little brain issue after 13 years and I forget a lot! So if I don’t drive for a lengthy period Of time, I still get nervous and scared.
A lot of newborns sleep really well their first few weeks, so hopefully you can get some good rest after baby comes. They well might wake up to feed but will go right back to sleep all milk drunk….milk drunk newborns are the cutest little monsters ever!
31:47 I love that Janelle has a blanket during recording. It looks so cozy!
I was waiting for Jenelle to talk about transference. lol As someone that is studying Social Work I started thinking "no-no !" lmfao As Jenelle said it is illegal and they would have to have 5 years of no contact. Clients can start having feelings because they're sharing intimate information with their therapist.
I laugh harder every time Kendall recounts how she used to slather the foundation on in the early morning hours before Josh woke up 😂
I love that you guys talked about driving anxiety🥺I haven’t driven for almost a year because I randomly started getting panic attacks. It’s a HUGE struggle (I love 30 min from the city) and not something I tell people so it really helped to hear you guys talk about it💖💖I finally started medication recently and hoping I will get back to normal one day
I just recently saw a psychiatrist about my driving anxiety, and I’m about to start medication too! WE GOT THIS ❤️
I won’t drive on freeways because I’m terrified. I miss out on so much and so do my kids. Even thinking about it makes my heart race.
i relate so much. after years of driving i stared driving 2 years ago and i was si afraid to go on the highways(and I live in Germany so cars drive really fast). the first time alone i was basically screaming alk the time and sweating like crazy. but now I actually love it.
im so late to this comment thread, but i used to be the same way and i love driving now! i get on the freeway just to go 4 miles because it's faster now! i hope you guys are or are getting better
You ladies are such a breath of fresh air. I love all the laughter, baby talk, engagement in conversations and the advise. Anxiety sucks and I deal with it by going to places early before crowds, make the store trips quick, my friend knows I have this issue so she understand if I don’t show up if she invites me places. I’ll miss you ladies but enjoy the time off, you deserve it. We all appreciate you ladies so much!
For the car accident advice, totally would suggest EMDR! I have a friend who went through a traumatic car accident and EMDR really really helped her to be able to drive totally fine now. I also did this therapy for a dramatic event in my life and it really has helped so much . It is very intense in the moment but gets easier each session
I have PTSD from SA and EMDR is the best !!! Highly recommend for trauma
I have heard such great things about EMDR!! A lot of clients I worked with during my internship swore by EMDR.
yes! emdr literally changes the way traumatic memories are stored in the brain :)
On the driving thing - I actually had an accident years ago, got a new car but sold it quickly as I was moving to London (definitely don't need a car there). I didn't drive for 8 years and I was absolutely terrified of it. I wanted to drive again but the thought of it nearly made me sick. I eventually bit the bullet and I got... Refresher lessons! There are many instructors that will do refresher lessons and will work with anxious drivers. I had a few of those and bought a car soon after. It's been a couple of years now and I'm way more confident than I was even before my accident. Would definitely recommend. And always try and get someone who works with anxious drivers, etc. They'll know how to take it easy and build the lessons back up. I literally drove around a car park the first lesson.
Kendall, Janelle, How do you ladies feel about your experience with Terri last week? What do you think of the feedback from the sesh fans? All love to you both, I’m curious on your thoughts.
I have some anxiety when needing to go shopping somewhere that is busy. Something that I do that is helpful is find out from employees when the busiest times/days are and avoid going at those specific times.
Kendall, my mom gave birth to me in the moving car while my dad raced to the hospital. She said in many ways it was her best birth-fast, no complications and a great story. She said she wasn’t scared about being unassisted, just pissed she wouldn’t get her epidural. I was born just before reaching the hospital and by the time they pulled into the parking lot they were both laughing over the whole experience.
omg wait the coming out to my mum one was mine, thank you for answering 🥺 what you both said was true actually so I will definitely try to write a letter and take it from there, thank you again 🤍
I had a natural accidental free birth at home for my second. It was amazing. So intense. A really incredible experience for me. I hated being in hospital, I was induced, epidural, then ended up with an episiotomy and forceps. It took me ages to heal and even longer to accept what happened. Having my second at home really helped ‘the do over’.
Look at the cascade effect with birth intervention if you want to avoid being over medicated and unable to push…
okay these are definitely my fav type of vids now!! literally just felt like i was having a powwow with my girlies and got sad when it was ending!!! love you guys 🥰
Wait I’m 21 weeks so me and Kendall might be very close in weeks. Last week my baby was the size of a banana! This will be my second child I have a 3 year old son and I’m having a girl now! So excited for the both of us 🥺💗
Congratulations!!! 🎉
One tip I have when you’re in the hospital having baby girl, if your hospital is a teaching hospital and you’re not comfortable with a student doing certain things, don’t be afraid to say so! A student was lined up to do my epidural, and that was just not for me, so I asked if the seasoned anesthesiologist would do it instead. The students can check my dilation, monitor heart, things like that, but imma need someone with experience putting a needle into my spine tysm.
omg I don’t have kids yet but can’t imagine being in that position! i know they have to learn but… not on us!🤣 my mom was so scared to become paralyzed from it so she didn’t get one!
@@aliyamarie6800 Right! I felt a little guilty taking away an opportunity for this guy to get more experience, but my fear outweighed my guilt 😂 I don’t blame your mom at all, it’s scary to think about! The doctor who ended up doing mine had really perfected his technique, and it was MAGICAL. My husband said, “wow, it must be doing something, because this is the first time you’ve smiled since we were admitted.”
@@Allysia622 that’s so good, I’m glad! the needle didn’t hurt going in though?! that’s so funny your husband could even pick up on the relief!! 🤣
Omg I can’t imagine a student doing an epidural😳 of course they have to learn but I’m not volunteering to be that Guinea pig lol
@@aliyamarie6800 It wasn’t painful, more like pressure. They numb where they’re going to insert the epidural before actually placing it (thank God lol). You just have to be super still for several minutes, because they have to go slow so everything goes smoothly, which made me anxious. Definitely worth it for me though.
My grandfather passed away this morning and I am going through it to say the least. Thankful for all of you in the Mile Higher family and this much needed distraction. ❤️🩹
sending you and your family so much love💛
I’m so sorry for your loss, sending you so much love! You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers🙏🏼♥️
sending you so much love! we're so sorry about your loss❤️🙏
Kendall I’m totally with you! I’m currently 22 weeks & 2 days pregnant with my 2nd son & only 2 days ahead of you in my pregnancy and my sleep is inconsistent , full of tossing and turning and rolling over🤪. Pregnancy exhaustion totally feels more draining then the newborn stage currently struggling with it as well . So don’t worry it does get better once you have the baby ❤️!
I really enjoy the Sesh and I’m glad we’re back to the regular content. I did want to say I’m really disappointed that you guys haven’t addressed anything after getting all the feedback on last weeks’ video. (Or none that I’ve seen thus far.) I’d still really like to hear a response from you guys since the majority of it was pretty negative. Peace and love only, just want to hear your opinions based off of your experience and the reaction you got. 💖
I feel the same. I feel like them not saying anything is weird. Maybe they don't want to hurt that lady's feelings or something.
I agree 100%
I think it’s pretty difficult to address it. I understand why they didn’t.
@@obbo333 Honestly, even if all that was said was “We saw your feedback and will take it into consideration going forward,” would suffice. Not acknowledging it at all when the overwhelming response was negative (again, from what all I saw a few days after it the video came out), is not a great look. I want to reiterate I’m a big fan of The Sesh, been here since the beginning. I just expected some sort of acknowledgment so I at least know I was heard and I think a lot of others did too.
They can't always make all the people happy all the time. They don't need to hurt the mediums feelings. Btw. I enjoyed it.
36:41 I lost my 3 year old dog from liver failure, I adopted a girl 4 days later from the shelter, I still love him deeply, I believe he is my guardian who came to me at the time I needed him but I couldn't bare the empty whole in my heart, I don't think it matters at all when u chose to fill that whole because I still grieve him a year later but I love my girl so much and I needed her at that time
Yaaaaaaas another week another sesh! Commenting while you still might see but just want to send you guys and all of the mile higher crew all my love and positive energy this week! ❤️❤️❤️
Kendall you LIGHT up when talking about baby girl… even when talking about the lack of sleep hehe.. it’s incredibly sweet. ❤️
Re: the car accident advice - I've been in 7 car accidents, each worse than the last, I nearly died in 2 of them - 2 of them we're within 3 weeks of one another & I was always just in the wrong place at the wrong time. The best thing to do to not scare yourself into not ever driving again is actually getting back behind the wheel - even if you're going around the corner. Work with a therapist and talk through your concerns and work on them slowly. Take time going places & if you can't cope (like I cannot drive in peak hour traffic anymore) in certain situations anymore, look at changing your situation to better suit you - I organise to start work 30 minutes later and leave 30 minutes later to miss the peak hour & then changed jobs entirely (more so because I moved) but also because it wasn't working anymore for my PTSD.
I ran over a cow head on, going 60 MPH. I had no choice but to get back to driving. While I had daily panic attacks, and slammed on my breaks at everything that moved on the side of the road. If I had a choice I probably would have never gone back to driving. I memorized every reflector and sign along the road, on a rural desolate highway in Idaho. I can tell you which reflectors wiggle in the wind, which ones been ran over, and what day is trash day on that road. The panic was the worse. Over time it got better. I used to love to drive, I've never really regained that love back. I think for me now being driven by someone else is more of a panic. I can't decide which I hate worse being a driver or being driven. It does get better, just be cautious and alert.
The dog question has me cryin in the club😭 but you have really great advice! I had to put my family dog down when I was a freshman in college and I got her when I was in kindergarten. It was the worst loss I’ve ever felt and felt so guilty when my mom and I were on the phone 2 months later talking about getting another dog when we swore we wouldn’t. I think what really helped when we got another dog was it was a very different breed than our last dog and a male so there was never a thought that crossed my mind of new dog is replacing old dog because they both had totally different personalities, both perfect in every way , but extremely different ♡
Kendall you are going to be such an amazing mom! I remember I was so nervous to give birth to my daughter. It was such an amazing experience. Seriously life changing! It was so beautiful. It wasn’t like any of the scary stories other moms were telling me. It was such a special day for my partner and I. Now our daughter will be 5 this year and we have a 6 month old baby boy. Same thing again my second time around. A great experience. Very hard but nothing that my body couldn’t handle! I know it’s so cliché but they were the best days of my life! Changed me forever and made me the strong woman and mother I am today! ❤️
I genuinely go to my therapist with questions like this so, you're right, this is perfect for Janelle. You both have comforting energy in a different way
THANK YOU so much for always putting times in the description! I totally recognize some people LOVE hearing 15 minutes of baby talk but it’s extremely triggering for some of your audience and I appreciate having it in one spot that people can skip if they wish. Thank you again 💕
I agree with Sidney, it seems like a long time but it is only four years. The music ed department sounds worth it. Focus on your education and know that you can visit (and look forward to seeing) your family once or twice a month or so. Some people in school are thousands of miles apart from family. (And Janelle & Kendall's idea of joining a club or friend group is good, too.)
I’ve had 4 babies, different experiences every time. The best advice I can give, is to stay relaxed and positive about it, being anxious causes the hardest labors. I had 3 water births and I focused on being calm and relaxed, I did visualization techniques and had 3 beautiful, amazing births. My 4th was rough, I ended up with pre-eclampsia and an emergency C-section after days of labor in the hospital. Some things are out of our control but I think with a low risk pregnancy you can prepare and have an amazing experience through birth. I love birth! Like you Kendall, I’ve watched so many births! My favorites are water births, and home water births are amazing, especially hypno births 🥰
What your baby is now is what my husband was born at. He was just over 1 pound and somehow survived. Thank God bc he's such a blessing of a human.
In regards to the DV advice. I would suggest having an extra set of keys to your vehicle hidden for easy access just in case the offender takes your's.
With having a place to go, if it is a friend/ family ask them if they could / would hide an extra key to thier home in case they are not home when you are able to leave.
If you are able to stash a lil money put it on a visa gift card put away even if a friend or family member hold onto.
Get all you important paperwork together in one spot.
Just a few idea's.
THIS. I have a spare key hidden on the outside of my car in case I get locked out BUT it can in very handy when I had to leave my abuser.
Let’s normalize couples having separate bedrooms!! It’s so frowned upon but has so many benefits. You have your own space and individuality but can have “sleep overs” and the nights you do sleep together are even more special because it’s not a 365 night event! My parents had separate bedrooms and were married 62 years… and still would be but my wonderful Dad died last year 💔
yeah no, I love Kendall n Janelle and I'm sure your dad was wonderful. Although, having separate bedrooms is just flat out weird , bizarre, n not right. it's different if those bedrooms are used for everything other than sleeping n just having a space for you and your things, but to sleep separately in your own two bedrooms?? Is just not a relationship. I'm sorry. I don't think it's normal at all.
From my experience, being induced made my labour 10x more painful! My second pregnancy I went completely natural & went into labour myself & it was my best labour x
Janelle is soo good at this.. you guys should do this more often .. like monthly or so
I LOVED hearing Janelle's professional opinions. This was so interesting. Great episode 💚💚
To the person who was is an accident I understand you. I was rear ended 2 times last year within 6 months. First car was totaled, second thankfully wasn’t, it was literally just bought the week before. My first one I was shook up but wasn’t terrified to drive again. To preface in both accidents I saw them come in my rear mirror before impact. After my second one I couldn’t get in a car. I didn’t drive for 2 weeks. Just being in a car have me a heart attack every time. The first month driving after the second one I’d break down crying while driving just from work which is only 5 minutes away. I kept thinking everyone behind was hitting me. I can’t tell you how many times I pulled over especially in bad weather. My anxiety hit a new high. What helped me was getting a therapist to help me work through my driving PTSD. It’s been 6 plus months now and I still will stare away from my mirrors at stop signs and lights. My therapist 100% was and is the reason I’m better from when I started. I feel your pain so much and I suggest getting a therapist who can help you through this traumatic event. Sending all my good vibes and love ❤️
Haha I always think it’s still uploaded on Sunday and always super excited to see it thurs. I skipped last week due to psychic but excited to be here this wk!!
8:18 " u really need to be aware of your positioning when your sleeping" I'm seizing
Great advise, ladies :) I am so happy EMDR was brought up! I am a therapist who practices EMDR and it can be so helpful 🤍
My therapist used EMDR treatment for PTSD and it was the most effective therapy for me. It felt like it completely (but gradually) lifted the fog off my brain that had been there for so long. I’m glad they brought it up as well since I had never heard of it before and it completely changed my perspective on life.
im almost 30 weeks pregnant and my sleeping is HORRIBLE lately. having a newborn of course sleep deprives you but the actual deep, comfortable sleep you get postpartum is the best!
EMDR was a total game changer for my PTSD from childhood trauma and more recent trauma. It is the only thing that enabled me to no longer have full blown PTSD episodes. And give yourself some time to rest after each session because they are really draining and exhausting. It is also helpful to have a second non EMDR therapy session with your therapist each week to help you further process everything that you have been working on.
Yes!! Such a great point. So glad you found success in it :)
Those pregnancy symptoms you are experiencing are completely normal. I’m going to be 35 weeks pregnant on Sunday, and I still experience those symptoms. It makes sleeping very uncomfortable. So worth it in the end. 🥰 You got this girl! ❤️
So glad everytime you ladies pop up on my screen! It's like hanging out with friends while watching!
The gecko should be Jessica!!!
We know Kendall and Josh have picked something else but in honor of the Sesh, I think it's appropriate ❤️
being induced with pitocin realllllly sucks, definitely avoid being medically induced if possible bc it HURTS & can cause complications. obviously when it’s absolutely necessary then the pain comes secondary to getting ur baby delivered safely, but if it’s not necessary then definitely avoid induction. being days or a couple weeks past ur due date is normal, believe me tho i understand how uncomfortable it is😂
I was induced with pitocin ( I actually didn’t realize that’s what they were doing when they said they were giving me fluids” and after 23 hours I ended up with an emergency c-section and my daughter wasn’t breathing. It was awful and caused a lot of complications…including damaging my Fallopian tubes. I know this is not everyone’s experience but I definitely encourage research and understanding it before agreeing.
@@MyFreckledJourney something so similar happened to me, i wasn’t dilating quick enough for the doctor’s liking so they said they were giving me “fluids” to help speed things up. my epidural was working great up till they gave me the pitocin, & it made me violently throw up for awhile. my labor was relatively easy & peaceful then it turned traumatic.
I currently am in EMDR and it has been a really uplifting but scary yet thrilling experience. I would definitely make sure you trust your gut when it comes to finding that specific type of therapist. Mine uses shadow work as the layout of her practice. She truly has helped me reprogram parts of myself I’m ready to reprogram. Also don’t feel obligated to jump into this! It took me a couple of years of therapy and my own strength to feel comfortable enough to “relive” and free traumatic parts of myself.
If you feel like you should do this type of therapy I support you!!!!
At 19:52, I'm pretty sure Janelle says "Have you ever taken SEX in high school?" and no one acknowledges the missing ED lmao
Thought it was just me. Good I love her🤣 makes me feel like it was an Easter egg
They are right about the newborn sleep!!!!! Once you have the baby, every time you sleep will literally feel like the best sleep of your entire existence!!!!!
Kendell fidgeting with the ruler is so relatable :D
Yay packing my kitchen listening to you ladies today!! 🦋✨
Omg no way I’m unpacking and listening 😅 have a good move!
Yes girl good luck with everything!!
I also love coming to the comments and interact with the sesh babes too, this is the kind of community I want to be surrounded with 🥰🥰
Hell yeah! This Aussie is up early enough to watch as it goes up!
Love you guys and congrats Kendall and Josh! Can’t wait for baby girl to join us xx
As for the anxiety towards driving, I went to therapy for this myself. My therapist suggested a go-cart track because it was a controlled environment as well as playing grand theft auto with the steering wheel and pedals and it definitely worked!
Love hearing you talk about your pregnancy. My baby girl was just born 4/5 and it was the craziest experience, I can’t wait for you to have that! I love hearing how many weeks you are and remembering what it was like for me at that time. It’s truly such a special journey, so happy for you guys!
I have a little general advice for everyone, because I went through and still going through now 7 years of therapy, like Kendall and Janelle said, basically every small step matters and the littlest baby steps do make a difference, but keep in mind unfortunately not everyone will notice that. Or you may even still get criticised by even close people in your life for the very thing you are working on or have made baby steps in, like I did. Just don't let that get you down because if YOU notice a difference be so proud of yourself. Give yourself recognition and celebrate!
Kendall is absolutely glowing and I feel like Janelle is my long lost sister. I love the shirt! Mile Higher Media Def gets me thru the week!
Karelly and Syd I would personally love to watch "in the day of" with You guys! I really enjoy seeing You's at Kendall's baby shower and that, actually hope to see more of You's on the vlog, around the office and that 😁
It's not a coincidence how much a few of these topics are resonating right now!! Thank you, universe. And thank you ladies! 💖🐶🏡🙏
I look forward to the sesh every week and this was one of my favorites that you’ve done. Someone’s comment said something like “it feels like I’m hanging out with my sisters” and that’s so true!!! You guys just bring such calming warm energy, I really hope you do another advice video!! I’ll definitely be submitting something next time 💗 sending love from orlandooo
I've done EMDR and it worked really well for me. My therapist described it like this. Your traumatic event was filed in a filing cabinet in your brain that gets accessed way too often, causing it to come up and cause emotion and anxiety when maybe it shouldn't. EMDR re-files that memory into a file cabinet that is not accessed as often. The trauma is still there, but it isn't going to be interrupting your life and the pain lessens a lot.
As someone who has lived with my partner for almost 7 years, my biggest advice is be flexible. I went from living alone, to a horrible roommate situation, to living with my SO. It was hard at first to find a good balance. I am one of those "load the dishwasher the right way" and "fold the clothes the right way" types. I had to learn that as long as it's done, it doesn't really matter how it's done, and it's not worth the fights. In the long run, there are so much more important things to focus on, and you will enjoy the happier memories if you just relax a little and let things slide. No one wants to fight all the time
Thank you so much for touching on EMDR! When my therapist suggested it I was very skeptical but EMDR saved my life! I was able to process and move on from events that happened in my childhood and early teens!
Always enjoy watching the sesh and getting a good laugh! Definitely makes my day better 🤍
I had social anxiety as a teen and in HS was even anxious walking down the hall. I decided to use a form of flooding/exposure and challenged myself to go into high anxiety situations such as walk through the cafeteria alone, sit with groups of semi strangers and interact at parties. It eventually became easy and I graduated myself to public speaking! Now I have no anxiety in social situations and actually thrive in them. Of course it’s not for everyone!
I had terrible circulation issues and carpal tunnel with my baby girl! I used to wake up with my hands and arms asleep almost every night. I do not miss those weird pregnancy symptoms!
So enjoyed seeing Janelle in her element. Loving it!!!!
About the moving in with your LDR s/o: I've experienced first hand what it can do to go from not seeing each other for months to spend every single minute with them. It's amazing on one hand but it's also overwhelming. I haven't moved in with my LD s/o yet (we're still long distance) but we met irl while I was an exchange student in his country last year, and he came to visit for last Christmas after 6 months of not seeing each other. God we argued SO much because we basically moved in together for a month, and when you're in an LDR you're so used to doing your own thing without it really affecting your partner, that it can take a lot of work to learn how to actually be together physically and 24/7 on top of that. A lot of communications is needed! And maybe try not to get your expectations TOO high. Whether it's a LDR or not, moving in requires some adjustments either way.
I feel like I social anxiety. I work from home and am not around a lot of people during the day which doesn’t help. So when I get around people I don’t know how to act sometimes. I found out for myself is to go out and do things by myself. Go to the store by myself. I also hate being in big crowds..it’s baby steps.
Around 37:ish you were talking about when you loose you pup - I agree 100% that it isnt about replacing! One other thing I always remind folks is that there are SO many in shelter that you can love in the best, but different way
As someone who has had 4 babies, in my opinion, the contractions hurt worse than pushing, and pushing was almost a relief.
I never got irritated when my husband played video games. I would watch and eventually I said I wanted to play too. Now it's something we enjoy doing together (and with our son) 🙂
When my water broke at home at 4:30am, it was green, meaning she has passed a stool inside! I was terrified but didn’t want to scare my support system & make my anxiety worse. I remained calm, changed my pants, got in the car & called the hospital to let them know I was on my way with meconium in the fluid. It sounds silly & easier said than done but staying calm is really the key. Screaming through the pain only causes you to lose your breathe. I breathed well & just let my body do it’s thing. The epidural made it possible 😉
I honestly wish the other sesh girlies vlogged especially janelle 💖✨ not fake vlog just her doin her thang
Keep an eye out 😏😏😏
I am in EMDR therapy, as well as physical therapy for my PTSD! IT IS WORKING WONDERS! Especially paired together(: My life has forever changed for the better, I’ve learned so much about myself and my trauma that I just didn’t understand before. I truly think it has saved my life.
it would be AMAZING if Janelle became a licensed therapist to give us advice lol LOVE THE SHOW 🤍✨
just finished Mile higher episode and this comes out!!!! yay!!
As someone who struggles with social anxiety that was debilitating and is now getting a lot better, I would suggest staying in situations that make you have a little bit of anxiety. I use to leave whenever I would feel anxiety in a social setting and it did more harm than good. Being mildly anxious and pushing through (while using psychological techniques) is what made me get use to it. The more you isolate yourself, the worse it will get
I CANNOT POP sleep due to stress & anxiety. As sad as this sounds... it’s my truth- I finally got the energy to even pick up my phone.. I haven’t even had the want to do that all day. And I say this with no exaggeration- when I saw you girls in my notifications, I got so genuinely happy for the first time today. I always say this- and I see that so many others do as well, but watching The Sesh is literally like I’m just chilling out with my best friends, shooting the shit. You two have got me through some of my most difficult days- genuinely. So thank you. I love you ladies so much 🥺😘
Kendall 1. You’re glowing & look amazing and 2. I had my first baby boy, Levi Ecko in July. I’m going to keep it 100- and this is MY EXPERIENCE, obviously. All us mommas are different. But I also used to HATE hearing “mehhhh you think you don’t sleep now pft just waaaaait”.. and let me tell you! From about 27 weeks- until I had him at 38+4 weeks? I was MISERABLEEE! I think I slept 2-3 hours a night between peeing, him mocking and getting under my ribs, and oooof due to lack of our relaxin hormone by 33 weeks I couldn’t lift my legs to get into car, onto my bed- I’d just cryyyyyy. But the moment I had him? Aside of csection pain, I was instantly comfy again. I truly am so lucky considering my son is such And amazing sleep right now, I love whethe SS l
I wrote a letter to my mom when coming out and it changed her perspective in a great way so I think that is the way to go
EMDR has changed my life. I highly suggest seeking it out if you are dealing with trauma of any type. Definitely find a therapist you trust, but it can be life changing to take power over your trauma 💕
I like these kinds of episodes WAY more than the ones about the Kardashians and celebrities
My advice with long distance and moving in together is to put yourself in the person who is moving states shoes. My bf and I were long distance for 3 years and we moved in together and i have to realize that when i get upset or close them out, he feels like shit for making me upset and on top of that he has no one here. I realize that i am the only person that he has and i gotta take a step back and communicate how i am feeling without yelling. Getting mad over little stuff is not worth making them feel like they’re alone. If you love each other COMMUNICATION IS KEY!
I loved this episode so much. I didn’t even realize when it was over. Kendall, you’re glowing and I’m so excited for your sweet baby girl. My daughter is 6 and was born on August 11th and she is the sweetest, most entertaining, curious, energetic, kind and just overall love bug of a child. That’s the kind of energy that Janelle also radiates as a Leo and I know your baby girl is going to bring so much love, purpose and joy into your lives. I’m so happy for you all! 💖💖
I love your podcast so you think you guys can do a episode on anxiety and what helps you guys with dealing with anxiety?