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  • Опубликовано: 1 янв 2025

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  • @ayandasibanisezwedlomo3269
    @ayandasibanisezwedlomo3269 2 года назад +80

    Currently I'm in the season where God is isolating me from friendships and it's very scary and sad sometimes I am doubting if this is me or God because I miss them so much but I definitely appreciate this episode of the podcast.

    • @yolisajijana5348
      @yolisajijana5348 2 года назад +16

      Been there but God brought me beautiful friends at the right time

    • @nuellasnuggets
      @nuellasnuggets 2 года назад +8

      I feel you. I have 4 friends I can call anytime to talk to. It was 5 and it's 4 now and I feel it's going to be going down because of the season I'm in. There are a lot of self-growth and new undertakings that I don't even have time to invest in building a solid friendship which is scary because I sometimes feel lonely. Got to trust God through 😩

    • @beencouraged4163
      @beencouraged4163 2 года назад +4

      I was feeling some of the same, but feeling better about it now because of the things Jesus has shown me during the time of separation and pruning. It was/is necessary. Be encouraged and keep seeking Him while remaining focused on Him and what He does in you during this time.🙏🏽

    • @ayandasibanisezwedlomo3269
      @ayandasibanisezwedlomo3269 2 года назад

      @@beencouraged4163 Thank you so much, my Father has already began His work in me and man how great is He!

    • @boitumelomakobosheane2928
      @boitumelomakobosheane2928 2 года назад

      I am also going through the same thing , it’s painful

  • @keamogetswemareme6362
    @keamogetswemareme6362 2 года назад +74

    The lord is concerned about every part of our journey, hence praying for friends in adulthood is of paramount importance. Also, depending on the holy spirit for discernment. The devil can send counterfeits our way. Ya'll are really awesome, I love this platform. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @michellemaree1928
    @michellemaree1928 2 года назад +41

    Setting boundaries early in those new relationships is key too!

  • @elizabeth-q9b2u
    @elizabeth-q9b2u 2 года назад +33

    I just turned 26 last week and I'm now in a season where I feel that I really need a circle of solid Christian girl friends. Earlier today I was telling my boyfriend about me needing to make new friends but that I having social anxiety stopping me. I really needed this. 💜

    • @estamwas
      @estamwas Год назад

      yeah people who can relate to your christian walk and literally be free with.

  • @kejuanlynette8531
    @kejuanlynette8531 2 года назад +66

    I can SO relate to Brenda with being apprehensive about adult friends, AND I use to cut people off too, but thank God for progress 😂 I'm glad you guys have each other! This was refreshing to see. I love Stephanie, and this conversation 💞

    • @smileyperlishia
      @smileyperlishia 2 года назад +1

      Same!!!!

    • @AdoreMJ833
      @AdoreMJ833 2 года назад +2

      I very much used to be that way too! Lol. Thank God for growth

    • @shae1005
      @shae1005 2 года назад +2

      Thank God for growth indeed!

  • @Tmaria-wn3hc
    @Tmaria-wn3hc 2 года назад +20

    This came right on time I just read a verse on do not be yoked to unbelievers n it got me thinking about whether i can or can not be friends with unbelievers. The verse was 2 Corinthians 14-18
    I have a problem of cutting people off lol this was for me lol

  • @smartkookie
    @smartkookie 2 года назад +31

    Friends come and go. Its great to have solid people that you can trust. Most of my mew friends came from jobs or my children friends parents. Cherish the real ones.💕💕💕

  • @JassyFaith
    @JassyFaith 2 года назад +18

    I love this 😂 Brenda is funny. I did not know she was from Chicago 💪🏽 but yes this was needed. I use to have the attitude of Holier Than Thou as if I was perfect. God had to humble me through a couple of people. But Thank You God 🥹🥰

  • @refilwetsalaile7647
    @refilwetsalaile7647 2 года назад +7

    Watching from Botswana 🇧🇼 Africa. Love y’all’s ❤️

  • @godswarriornana5860
    @godswarriornana5860 2 года назад +7

    Friendship should pour back into you💯 if they not adding VALUE to you, they shouldn’t be in your space.

  • @bremoore4431
    @bremoore4431 2 года назад +28

    This was such a needed conversation people need to know how to have healthy adult friendships 💗

  • @empressericka8062
    @empressericka8062 2 года назад +16

    I’m so grateful for this podcast! I honestly needed to hear this today. I’m only 23 and have been struggling with making friends with like minded ppl but you guys opened up a new perspective that I need to examine myself and my own walk with God. Thank you 🙏🏽✨

    • @noluthandomahlangu29
      @noluthandomahlangu29 2 года назад +2

      22 and appreciate this podcast just as much ❤️

    • @charitytheko8116
      @charitytheko8116 2 года назад +2

      22 and I'm learning alot about adulting and the type of friendships to keep around. I pray that God gives us friendships that is bonded in our purpose for God.

  • @Giiiirlllll_18
    @Giiiirlllll_18 2 года назад +2

    When she said" Don't be a Needy friend!" ...Shots Fired !!! Well oh well

  • @brittanysands3012
    @brittanysands3012 2 года назад +6

    I can relate so much to this right now. I'm struggling with finding kingdom friendships. I'm definitely giving this to God. Thank you ladies!

  • @ieishaburrows
    @ieishaburrows 2 года назад +6

    Great conversation!! It's difficult making friends as an adult but you have to be open to new relationships. Trust me God will send you friends

  • @annenoel4171
    @annenoel4171 2 года назад +6

    Beautiful purposeful friendship here.

  • @oscarmike1131
    @oscarmike1131 2 года назад +3

    7:59 and that’s the key. A seek ye first His kingdom mindset will always attract the desires of your heart to you, rather you go after it. Beautifully said

  • @kala7347
    @kala7347 2 года назад +3

    the louis vuitton part was too funny 😂😂😂😂 but this was absolutely true, especially the needy friends part & the judgment “friends.” authenticity is key! also I was definitely the cut off friend that would cut somebody off at the drop of the dime but as I grow in my walk with God, im more honest, more big on setting boundaries & also recognizing my faults that I contribute.

  • @AdoreMJ833
    @AdoreMJ833 2 года назад +5

    This was such a refreshing conversation!
    I totally relate with a lot of the points that were made especially about staying to myself because I’m not trying to be out here being thirsty lol. I too, was apprehensive about letting people in too quickly. I even questioned why I have this such strong desire for friendship but God had to remind me that He put this innate desire in all of use - we need each other. He had to get me together & remind me that He’s given me discernment in this season and that it’s not enough for me to desire friendship but that I have to be willing to move with faith & put myself out there & move with that discernment. I know God is about to bring the right people into my life and I pray that He does the same for everyone else reading this. I’m praying that we all find those people we can be our genuine self around and move in purpose with 🤎

  • @2blessedanna
    @2blessedanna 2 года назад +4

    BRENDA was so on point !!!

  • @gracewangechi2941
    @gracewangechi2941 2 года назад +3

    God authored this.Been going through a rough phase with friendships then this is video I see first

  • @molebogengm7456
    @molebogengm7456 2 года назад +3

    Where is the other lady that's normally on the show? I hope she comes back. I love the conversations ladies 🙌🏾

  • @WeAreRoyalty7
    @WeAreRoyalty7 2 года назад +5

    Stephanie is so wise 🙏🏽🥰 love this show, God Bless all you sisters

  • @jasminegeorge2811
    @jasminegeorge2811 2 года назад +3

    The timing of this video is truly God sent for me! Thanks for allowing the Holy Spirit to speak through you all. 🙏🏾💕

  • @deejdaniels
    @deejdaniels 2 года назад +2

    I haven't even heard it yet but by the title alone YES YES YES!!!

  • @naomitruth2000
    @naomitruth2000 Год назад

    Such a blissful chat as a wife and mum life is so busy and with full time work - friends at work come and go but solid Christian sisters are truly a great gift and i pray for myself and other Christians out there to find a true loving Christian friendship that would help us enjoy life even more

  • @amandaecheona1457
    @amandaecheona1457 2 года назад +1

    Fatima I have a very similar situation, at my own wedding last year someone came with her husband that I have not spoken to in a long time and the relationship was unresolved. And when I did my rounds at the tables to say hi and thank you, I told her I missed her and I am sorry and those tears were healing tears.

  • @nuellasnuggets
    @nuellasnuggets 2 года назад +1

    I'm 100% protective of my friends too 😅 I had to talk to God about it because I became jealous and envious of other people coming into my friends' lives.

  • @sammie_407
    @sammie_407 2 года назад +3

    I love you guys...friends ❤️ in my head :)... I struggle with making friends...but I have faith that GOD is going to put the right ppl in my life at the right time

  • @godswarriornana5860
    @godswarriornana5860 2 года назад +3

    Whew every time these 3 Queens coming together they be dropping heavy gems💯🔥 so grateful for y’all. Thank you for feeding us🤍

  • @shannonwilliams9958
    @shannonwilliams9958 2 года назад +1

    The beauty of even the dynamic of you ladies’ friendship. It’s admirable. How timely as I’m in a season of transitioning from isolation to community. It feels so uncomfortable, but I know it’s necessary and what God desires for me.
    Also - c’mon reggae. I’m here for it. It’s absolutely in my iTunes playlist. 😬 Thanks for finally saying that Christians can be dope and have a semi-corny swag as well. Lol ❤️

  • @Zenani_Sizane
    @Zenani_Sizane 2 года назад +10

    Love this ❤️ Hey Guys, I’m new in this journey with God and I’m currently struggling with what Fatima said about what music to listen to etc so if you guys can please do a chat on “What a real relationship with God looks like” because I’m in a season where I sometimes condemn myself for listening or watching certain things, and it crippling me in my relationship with God.
    Thank you for this platform
    God Bless ❤️

    • @madaleinem8109
      @madaleinem8109 2 года назад

      Clear out your worldly playlist and just left with gospel music 🎶..

    • @yolisajijana5348
      @yolisajijana5348 2 года назад

      Get around genuine people,ask God for genuine people and trust that He will bring them,just like Stephanie says towards the end of the convo

  • @reneeorsak1144
    @reneeorsak1144 2 года назад +3

    Such a word. I have always been that thirsty friend 🤪 Seeking the Lord like never before and it’s lonely for sure. Thank you for sharing ladies!

  • @jermainerobinsonjr.5873
    @jermainerobinsonjr.5873 2 года назад +1

    This is so good. Thank you ladies. It’s amazing to watch God redeem relationships in full time as you partner with Him in obedience to just allow folks in, even the same ones that you’ve hurt or have hurt you and to watch hearts soften right there. It’s weird when you’re witnessing it, but it’s nothing but His grace and a solid yes.

  • @jesusencounteredtv
    @jesusencounteredtv 2 года назад +2

    This conversation is EVERYTHING!!!!

  • @lyrictroy2466
    @lyrictroy2466 2 года назад

    Can I just say it’s good to see believing women who look like me , have genuineness convos

  • @UtobivbiOghenetega
    @UtobivbiOghenetega 2 года назад

    This is great. It's so natural how the convo is going, no outline just spontaneity to each line of convo. They just chilling, having an outpouring of mindsets concerning a subject and I'm outchea learning.

  • @bennikakuta4130
    @bennikakuta4130 2 года назад

    The special part for me was mentioning that because God is continuously working he decides which doors to remain open, closed or swinging. It’s so easy to determine the status of a relationship when it’s ended badly “I’m done with this person”. But God may not be. So I’m getting that if we allow God to decide the people in our lives, we will allow ourselves to experience what comes with it

  • @JoyOLaw-gx2tl
    @JoyOLaw-gx2tl 2 года назад

    For real! I agree on saying out what's bothering you in a friendship, instead of keeping silent ❤️

  • @nkycrystal
    @nkycrystal 2 года назад

    I needed to hear this discussion about having non believers as friends

  • @ohianioyiza
    @ohianioyiza 2 года назад +1

    I wish this episode was longer!😢❤️

  • @maryericksonjussah8743
    @maryericksonjussah8743 2 года назад +2

    Wow, this is really insightful that as Christians we don't have to play the police of who should come into our lives for the fear of someone hurting us. Come on girl, the Lord is our Shepard and as a Shepard he knows exactly where greener pastures are. We should let him lead us trusting that he knows exactly who should be in our lives for forever,for a season or just to show them direction and that's it. We are safe where we are 💕#enjoy
    For a start you are my friends, I found pastor Stephanie here on RUclips just last month,I have watched almost all her teachings,all your talk shows,I mean intentionally watching that I was with her in my dream .
    I believe in predestination. YOU ALL ARE MIRRORS 💕🤍🥰 THANK YOU.

  • @artforchrist5065
    @artforchrist5065 2 года назад +2

    This is so good & right on time. Thank you for this ladies! I believe that God is preparing many of us for Kingdom friendships.

  • @Onalenna_Thobega
    @Onalenna_Thobega 2 года назад

    I can't stress how yall spoke a mouthful. I will add and take nothing from all that's being said. I also love how you put a strong emphasis on genuine authenticity, that's one value I live by in friendships. and also the need to take inventory around the people the people God puts around me and why I'm not letting them in. I know I'm guilty there. I had someone relentlessly pursue friendship with me in this season and I told her I wasn't ready to be friends. She's quite patient with me but I'm realising the fear may never allow for the friendship to happen. So thanks for this again Guys.

  • @jessicastroud3042
    @jessicastroud3042 2 года назад +2

    Y’all had me cracking up laughing and then in tears. Sooo relatable.
    Thank you for continuing to be so transparent with us ❤️

  • @wtfavor
    @wtfavor Год назад

    I love and appreciate these women🤍

  • @slicingitupwithselena2234
    @slicingitupwithselena2234 2 года назад

    I’m so happy I stumbled across you’ll page, you ladies are such a blessing, and the topic today hit home. Being a single WOG and serving its hard for me to make friends with the ladies in the church because they don’t want to associate with a single women and of course their all married, so I serve and stay to myself, I don’t want it to be that way, because I want that Christian sisterhood. Thanks for an amazing show 🤦🏽❤️

  • @beautifulj1982
    @beautifulj1982 2 года назад

    I love the freedom to be real and transparent! 💙 But still Seeking to become a better you !

  • @chassityg.1643
    @chassityg.1643 Год назад

    Thank you so much for this conversation. I’m currently working through this. I live in a small city and the people around my age are leaving in masses (I wish I was exaggerating) but I’m trying to make adult friendships but may have to drive to a larger city to be in an environment with friends around my age who are like minded.

  • @D.S24
    @D.S24 2 года назад +2

    This show is Amazing, I truly understand & I went through this myself with friends & a past relationship🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️

  • @omgmikeyg9335
    @omgmikeyg9335 2 года назад +4

    Love these videos every time you guys post 🙏🏽🔥

  • @coachswd0
    @coachswd0 2 года назад +1

    When I went through this, I knew God was working with me helping me align better with people who have a heart for Him.

  • @freedbychrist2156
    @freedbychrist2156 2 года назад

    Am in a place of trying to understand who my new authentic self is, I been a Christian for about 3 years but I don't have Christian friendships only non-Christian friendships that I have for about a decade and longer but I usually stay by myself because most things I don't do anymore and some conversations I don't entertain anymore

  • @nuellasnuggets
    @nuellasnuggets 2 года назад

    The Redemptive part is big!!! I know someone with who I wanted to be a friend but I messed up the relationship before it even got anywhere. The funny thing is after God dealt with me on the issue which included an action towards the person's business, I had a dream that we were talking and laughing and everything was okay. When I woke up I laughed 😂 at the idea because of I was her, I wouldn’t want that old me close. But I’m beginning to believe in redemption not just in my spiritual walk but in all areas.

  • @kathyjohnson2487
    @kathyjohnson2487 2 года назад +1

    I am grateful for this topic, I'm definitely learning the true meaning of friendship and have healthy, whole, spiritual minded friendship. Thank you

  • @reneeorsak1144
    @reneeorsak1144 2 года назад +6

    I love you ladies! Weirdos connect 😂💝

  • @ddavis7135
    @ddavis7135 2 года назад +4

    I absolutely love to watch each episode. I agree. Friendship in adulthood should be genuine. It should be surrounding yourself with others that will encourage you to be better is every way. Love love love this episode! 🫶🏾🫶🏾 Love seeing the bond that you all have!

  • @ItsjustmeBREE
    @ItsjustmeBREE 2 года назад +1

    Omg needed this

  • @daughterofzionjudah
    @daughterofzionjudah 2 года назад +1

    This was such a powerful convo!! Received a lot from this!

  • @oyamamdleleni
    @oyamamdleleni 2 года назад

    This was such a refreshing perspective on adulting and friendship. I am that awkward person in starting new friendships and I have been praying that God sends my way lile minded people who will be my destiny partners. I think also not pre-empting according to our own liking like selecting people according to status what they have but really opening up ourselves for what the Lord has, He might just do exceedingly, abundantly, above what we can ask, think or imagine. I would love to be blessed with a friendship like you ladies have.

  • @laquonsabest7973
    @laquonsabest7973 2 года назад +1

    Absolutely love this ladies!!! We pray for God ordained true and authentic friendships to occur with like-minded believers in Jesus name 🙏😍 🙌 ❤️ 👏 💕

  • @marjorymsuku9312
    @marjorymsuku9312 2 года назад

    So true that good godly friendships are a Gift... Maybe one day I can know what that feels like. To have good friends, as well as put in the work to be a good friend.
    Love how your friendship is routed in purpose, n secondarily about hanging out n having fun. God continue to bless you n your brautiful friendship.❤❤❤

  • @cpalmer0903
    @cpalmer0903 2 года назад

    I just LOOOOVE this podcast! PLEEEEEASE keep going🙌🏾🤸🏾‍♀️

  • @smileyperlishia
    @smileyperlishia 2 года назад +2

    Awesome transparency ❤️So much fun

  • @smileyperlishia
    @smileyperlishia 2 года назад +8

    Same… I have no friends… I need some… godly

  • @ebonybillups425
    @ebonybillups425 2 года назад +1

    I wish this was on Apple Podcast!

  • @donnap7757
    @donnap7757 2 года назад +1

    Loving this convo.. you ladies are the bomb..
    🇯🇲🇯🇲🇯🇲 Heeeey 🤣🤣🤣 Curried Goat n white rice..Oxtail n beans.... 🍹
    Congratulations Stephanie Ike-... PT Mentioned you getting married today. 🍾🍾🍾🙋🏾‍♀️🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @BritniMichelle1
    @BritniMichelle1 Год назад

    I'm in a season right now where i think God is weining out the friends who ain't for me. it scary for me because these are friends who've i've been friends with for 20+ years. but patterns and revelations are being exposed to me , and i'm SHOOK. like God if you want me to be alone just say that 😂. great episode ladies!

  • @Maria-006.
    @Maria-006. 2 года назад +1

    Much needed 🙏🏻😍❤️Thank you so much ladies!!!
    God Bless

  • @Chanfb915
    @Chanfb915 2 года назад

    I appreciate all of the episodes and I find this to be timely especially as I see the Lord making moves and building in my life

  • @Pebblelover2014
    @Pebblelover2014 2 года назад

    I am late to this party! I'm so glad I stumbled upon the room! You ladies are AMAZING and real! Thankful!

  • @chal8495
    @chal8495 2 года назад

    Ladies, this was beautiful! I praise God you all did this episode; it came at the right time for me. 🙏🏾💕

  • @aishagreen5638
    @aishagreen5638 2 года назад

    I am only 3 mins into this video and can already relate. Thank you God for the conversation!

  • @Blessemm-c26
    @Blessemm-c26 2 года назад +2

    OK! God sent me to listen to this because I’m going through a situation with a needy friend right now! When Stephanie made the comment about offense setting in when dealing with needy friends! I had to rewind it and listen to her three times! She was so on point with that comment!
    🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @rosejacob2017
    @rosejacob2017 2 года назад

    I absolutely love this podcast. I have learned so much from you all. I praise God for your ministry.

  • @TheAniyaMarie
    @TheAniyaMarie 2 года назад +3

    I enjoyed this conversation 💕

  • @kingdomofzionministries
    @kingdomofzionministries 2 года назад

    this blessed my soul! Thank you ladies for your authenticity

  • @nancydessources1240
    @nancydessources1240 2 года назад

    I LOVE THIS SHOW!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH! THIS WAS GREEEAAATTT!

  • @aaronjones5172
    @aaronjones5172 5 месяцев назад

    this was real good.

  • @hillaryxoxo372
    @hillaryxoxo372 2 года назад

    I loved this. This was so therapeutic to hear.

  • @Kontan89
    @Kontan89 2 года назад

    I love this podcast ladies !! Have a wonderful day ‼️🤍🤍🤍

  • @carriehaouse1617
    @carriehaouse1617 2 года назад

    Great video friendship is necessary

  • @TimewithLivi
    @TimewithLivi 2 года назад

    I love this so much and resonate with all your topics!

  • @musicj953
    @musicj953 2 года назад +2

    Yo "Just say it"! Brenda was right on that one. On a side note if you all take requests, could y'all talk about prophecies that went wrong. Like in the beginning stages of learning how to discern if God is speaking to you or not and when was the turning point?

  • @smileyperlishia
    @smileyperlishia 2 года назад +1

    Ask God to send me genuine people 🙌🏽So true

  • @marthashalom-aviela721
    @marthashalom-aviela721 2 года назад

    I love this so much. Y’all gave me goosebumps 💜💜💜💜

  • @quanlynn6128
    @quanlynn6128 2 года назад

    Great job again ladies 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @brittanyb9292
    @brittanyb9292 2 года назад +5

    This was so good to talk about making friend with unbeliever so powerful y’all friendship seem so genuine and authentic this podcast made me laugh 😂 on day where I need to

  • @nassoliaovs6656
    @nassoliaovs6656 2 года назад +2

    I have enjoyed this conversation thanks sisters

  • @JusttJass
    @JusttJass Год назад

    So good!

  • @raynikasmith4269
    @raynikasmith4269 Год назад

    Yes God is amazing 🤩🤩🤩

  • @boitumelomakobosheane2928
    @boitumelomakobosheane2928 2 года назад

    Love These conversations ❤️🥹

  • @agnesndodi3288
    @agnesndodi3288 2 года назад +1

    This is so beautiful

  • @sheisstrongpodcast
    @sheisstrongpodcast 2 года назад

    y'all this podcast is too good , thankyou for doing this,, this episode is a reminder that hey, on the right path sis ,, hehehhe, God bless y'all ..

  • @ITSaliciatube
    @ITSaliciatube 2 года назад

    To be honest friendship is such a spiritual thing to the point that watching you guys talk makes me feel connected to you guys even though I’m not physically there ☺️❤️✝️

  • @taiwoayomide9587
    @taiwoayomide9587 2 года назад +1

    I'm here!!!!! 🙌🏽😁

  • @BecomingBetterDaily
    @BecomingBetterDaily 2 года назад

    Wow this episode was amazing thank you!!!

  • @christinaairington1567
    @christinaairington1567 2 года назад +3

    I'm struggling with my relationships with non-believers. I feel like I'm not allowing them to "turn the light on" themselves, and I'm kind of force feeding them my faith as gently as I can. Which even though it's gentle, it's still force feeding them. Any suggestions on how I show up for my loved ones who aren't believers, and stay true to myself and my faith without being overbearing?

    • @nuellasnuggets
      @nuellasnuggets 2 года назад +1

      I love the book “love kindness” by Barrett Corey and he said “have a firm center and soft edge.” Meaning don’t change your opinion but also don’t make them bleed 🩸. I’m also in this situation with my coworker and I feel God is teaching me so much. She’s in the LGBTQ and getting married to her wife in January and loves to tell me all about it but she knows my stand because we’ve also talked about it. We don’t agree on everything but we try to be respectful to each other.

    • @christinaairington1567
      @christinaairington1567 2 года назад

      @@nuellasnuggets I appreciate the feedback. I'm gonna have to look into that book.

  • @1201_DeZigns
    @1201_DeZigns 2 года назад +1

    GREAT WORD

  • @destiny9734
    @destiny9734 Год назад

    Powerful