How to stop fear of abandonment: #1 REAL CAUSE OF FEAR REVEALED
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- Опубликовано: 8 фев 2017
- Overcoming Fear of Abandonment - the root cause revealed so we can heal the root instead of endlessly fighting the symptoms.
Only when we know the real cause, we can heal the root and there for automatically liberate ourselves from every other FEAR OF ABANDONMENT-symptoms too, like jealousy, feeling powerless, moodiness, feeling dependant, feeling a victim, having a bad temper, feeling lonely, having relational problems etc.
Only if we know what the real root of the problem is, we will know how we can STOP OUR FEAR OF ABANDONMENT completely and for once and for all.
FEAR OF ABANDONMENT comes down to FEAR, fear for feeling what we would feel, without any distraction when we would be left alone with ourselves.
To end the root of the problem together with all it symptoms for once and for all, and there for to shine the light onto our ‘dark’ FEAR, I came up with a drawing to show you.
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This is a life changing video. Loved how you explained it on the board.
Thanks Cindy for your kind feedback! I'm glad to hear that it serves you this way!
I have no pain when I watch and listen to him!
Very realistic talk. Thank you so much. I can feel I can overcome pain and fear.
Sounds like a bunch of fast food shrinks reassuring each other
Good advice. This reminds me of other advice ''Sit with the discomfort''. I read that once. It helped me. It's not easy to just sit there with the anxieties and refuse to work or work out or drink. But let the anxieties pass through you at their own rate. And each time, they come back for another round, you feel their effect less.
AS Stanley thank you so much I needed to hear this
Yes it is exactly that way. Sit it out. It Will come from your subconscious And fly out. Not easy but after a while you don t want it othrwise anymore. Not easy when there is a person whom just can help you when they only would want to ease it. If they could only understand And feel what you feel... But they don’t. They think you’re freakingly crazy... What a burden it is. Stupid trauma’s...
I think my fear of abandonment has more to do with fear of rejection. I don't have a fear of being by myself. I'm most often alone and I'm most comfortable being by myself.
Independence can be a coping mechanism for the feeling of abandonment. It's a coping mechanism because if you're independent then no one can abandon you. Also, if there is a fear of abandonment then there is probably a self worth issue. Independence probably makes you feel more worthy. I would imagine since independence is your coping mechanism that you probably value money and things that equate to independence for you. I would assume since you are independent that you don't like being dependent on people and asking people for things. Which is why the fear of rejection would be important. If you are using independence as a coping mechanism then being dependent on someone would open you up to the feeling of abandonment. So rejection would be a double dose of feeling abandoned. Ultimately rejection makes you feel abandoned, similar to needing someone.
Interesting, I also fear rejection, but constantly put myself out there bc I am seeking approval from others. And that doesnt work at all.. ends in constant rejection :(
@@doubledimples5260 Nice comment!
I'm the same!!
I agree. When I am with someone, I constantly am thinking and finding ways to see that I’m not good enough and then it spirals into jealousy, trust issues, and victim mentality actions.
You realize you have trouble feeling your real emotions when it takes you one day to watch the whole video lol
Omg me too lol
it took me several days
Mate 😂👏🏽👏🏽
I9
It’s still good progress
Understanding this has been the most significant enlightement in my life as a person coming from a very unhealthy background with strong traumas of abuse, neglect and abandonment. But it is actually possible to heal. To become the parent to yourself who can sit and give space to all the pain and discomfort and through that reach the peace and wisdom of the true self. It feels amazing to finally little by little start to live your OWN life. To be yourself. To create. To focus. To boost the energy rather than draining it. Level up from survival and distractions to consciousness and being present. You explained it all so well and clear, thank you.
Thanks so much for this, words have power and yours have been used for good, I really appreciate it.
I have very severe Traumata as well mainly abandonment, and now for a year I am trying to be myself and meet people I actually find interesting and I can’t put in words how much I got rejected and how much it hurts I know now why I build the walls of „not caring“
I have been looking for a relationship to feel secure but ironically my abandonment issues are backfiring my whole effort. I have realized I need to fix my abandonment fears before I can even imagine of being in a healthy relationship
i get that, i really do get that. im trying to figure myself out right now as we speak since i noticed my abandonment issues have been affecting my relationship the second something started grabbing my partners attention away from me. i need to work on this and figure out how to stop having so much anxiety while he's away or else the relationship is going to get really toxic and me being too dependent. im going to figure this out and work on it because i really want to spend the rest of my life with him, but first i need to figure out how to handle it by myself when theres times that i have to.
this video made me realize how wrong im going about it- me sitting here distracting myself regardless if i want to just so i dont worry about it. i need to start doing things at my own free will, not shoving a video game in my face to distract my mind. i need to be able to willingly do things on my own while he does things on his own or else this relationship isnt going to go anywhere we want it to.
This should be a TED talk :) VERY inspiring and true
This has really changed my outlook on life. I always find myself coming back to this video and realising I'm going back to that list of trying to distract myself from feeling pain.
📝 repeat watching
Wow this is an eye opener for me! I never knew that my restlessness and anxieties are the actual manifestation of me experiencing pain! I definitely want to get rid of this fear forever!
God has not given us a spirit of fear, but a spirit of power and a sound mind. I don"t know the verse but I know its there.
Aww this is one of my favorites!😇 2 Timothy 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
God is the root of the problem
Amen
Amen.
Ted talk worthy! Thank you! It is so moving to see a guy in touch with his emotions. This is the ultimate courage, not the silly "men don't cry", "don't talk about feelings" bullshit. Absolutely inspiring! Imagine what the world would look like, our relationships, if each of us worked through out pain. The only way out will always be through!
This makes so much sense. Years ago I was working 2 jobs and taking care of everyone but myself and after having a full hysterectomy I plummeted into major depression and developed an anxiety disorder and the fears that I have on a daily basis are the ones I had as a child that never got dealt with and the trauma from abuse. I use to push myself through the feelings by being busy and now I don't feel like doing much of anything even good and fun things.
The moment you started drawing and explained why we want to have controll in our lives, tears started rolling down my cheeks. I knew it right away that you are speaking from and to my heart. That you were speaking (my) truth, if you whish. I can't wait to see your other videos. Thank you for sharing this one!!! I trully appreciate it. You brought great relief to me.
Thanks Geene for sharing your heartwarming appreciation! I'm glad it is serving you this way! 😊❤️💎🙏🍀
@@alive-academy Tom, geef jij ook 1/1 sessies? Jouw video was echt een eye opener voor mij 🙏.
Drawing looks like a bomb btw
great video - the secret - create and do things from a good place without attachment to outcomes. do your own thing, live your own life pleasurably and on your own terms. be apart of something you want to be apart of... my understanding is not complete but thats what i get
Yes, read baghavad Gita, teaches just this
this was one of the most useful video i have ever watch i wish i found it earlier. either way i only would have found it now anyway as now i have decided to heal my inner self doubt. thank you so so much i just hope you know you have really helped out a fellow human being, i plan on sharing this video in the future too. you are an inspiration thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Your explanations are crystal clear and are immediately understood intellectually and emotionally as well. Keep it up, great job
Im a pisces and its in my nature to be emotional and wanting that real connection with everyone not just my partner.. I do have fear of everyone leaving me. Just last night I had a conversation with my partner abiut my insecurities, she reasurred me everything was fine and instantly I felt assured and relaxed. But being a pisces I also read in-between the lines so im always pulling and pushing within my own thoughts from my experience and abandonment from a baby. Im here because I need to change the thoughts I have in my head. Good luck every
spoiler: he's not actually gonna tell you how.
Ya can't teach what you don't know
Start doing shadow Work... If you really want to know how... You have to go to roots... There is no other way... You have to feel those painful feelings... From childhood.... Shadow Work is groundbreaking when it comes to healing
By the video thumbnail I was convinced it was a “ click the link below to my seminar and mentor program”
So glad it wasn’t!
Seriously, come on.
Yeah lol
Thank you for this! Amazing definition! Very inspiring. The visual you drew on the board made understanding this concept so clear. I didn't realize what I was doing, but I was certainly running away and searching for fulfillment in distractions. Your video makes the healing process so much easier.
This explanation was spot-on how I feel & react. Would love to apply the additional teachings to live the life I deserve.
This is the best explanation and breakdown of the cycle! Thanks for sharing!
You are welcome Abbie! Thanks for sharing your gratitude!
this is such a great and explanatory video! i wish everyone would be able to see this!
This seriously helped me understand myself and my anxiety much better. Thank you so much!
With pleasure Evan! Thanks for your feedback!
Yes, of course it would be nice to let go of the fear of abandonment, but just saying you should let it go does not make it go.
This video tells you nothing at all how to stop it, but just refers to a blog at the end.
And you don't get any videos from there too
Lots of fast food shrinks on RUclips these days
WOW! Best anatomy of fear I've seen so far! No words to say how great your approach to explain that dynamics is! Kudos, kudos, kudos!!!! Lots of love from Southern Brazil!
Right on time .....thank you
I needed to listen to this. Thank you so much!
You are welcome!
Thank you, I hope your message reaches many and helps even more.
I think it’s great that there’s videos out there that can explain the root of the problems we all have. However, I think it’s a shame that for the years I’ve dealt with my fears and anxiety, every company has an angle. There’s always that fee or payment you have to make, to receive advice. And for the many people out there who are very damaged and can’t heal by themselves, these companies all succeed at making a buck, but most never get the cure they need, and that is what’s wrong with mental health and the state of today.
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This is so good! Thank you..
This was a very helpful video, it helped me understand and calm myself down. 🙏🙏🙏 Thanks!
This sums up perfectly my situation...
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Amen. You are right about the going after the root. Thank you, Sir.
even though this video has been out for only 2 years it really made me realize so much about my life. bless
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Wow amazing job thank you!!!! I learned a lot about it God bless you !!!!
What a great video! Thank you!!
You are welcome! Thank you for your feedback!
Wow. Thank you this opened my eyes wide
You are welcome Quinn!
Very well explained. Thank you.
This creator is a genius. Never understood why I feel this all this time.
Thank you! 🙏
Mooie uitleg. Ik heb het uitgemaakt en sta er 100% achter. Maar het doet PIJNNNNNNNNN
Literally hit the nail on the head
Getting rid of all the narcissists and other toxic people in my life, liberated me! These people can suck the life out of you!
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I agree with what you are saying, but I don't think you should assume that "we all know" about certain things, because really we don't... it may seem obvious to you, but not to the majority of the population, who are locked into the standard way of thinking.
He may be referring to the Sub Conscious Mind. Like a Computer all that we know is in there. We just don't have Direct Access to it. He has a key that may help.
Yes! Thank you. We have to, “feel it to heal it.”
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I love your video thank you I learned something new and useful ❤
With pleasure! I'm glad you learned something new and useful!
You have know ideal how this video just changed my life...🙏
Thank you! 🙏
Thank u so much for this ❤❤
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Fuckkk. Finally found out what's my problem... Half way into the video I see exactly one to one my way of thinking and dealing with things. One to freaking one.
Fear of abandonment has no substance in the feeling of being alone.
We do not fear the feeling we feel when we are along. It's entirely untrue.
We fear the feeling we feel when we are with others.
much needed message thank you
You are welcome Rebecca!
Your work is so important
Exceptional concept
Thanks for sharing your appreciation! I'm glad it is serving you this way Anca!
Anyone else pausing the video constantly & writing notes?
Awesome video
thank you I can really relate to this. How do I liberate myself from the constant fear?
Amazing explanation 😇
Can't thank you enough, wow that was a wow, it's right thank you
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I do the healing but then it takes me to the place where I know I dont know how to be in a relationship. I create the love in me and dont believe in it outside of myself
Have no idea what the man said, but, like to look at his cute face :)) his beautiful smile making me forget about everything, not only fear, lol
Thanks for this... how do you differentiate between replace Ids (reality and seeing independent fulfilled because we all still want a relationship, car, house, holidays. From what I am hearing is when I do this things without feeling angry, sad, bored etc... is this right?
And how does one go to the root of that problem? I have no idea on how to cope with it nor how to work on it.
Thank you SO much 😍
3:23
That is really a good diagram..
Made me realize so much things such as disappointments which ultimately is coming from the right side of the diagram. Because we are not able to get fulfillment we get disappointments alot (then heart broken and etc).
So, in order to not feel such, we must find love from within, i.e. doing what we really love (which idk) that would all give us a sustenance of fulfillment no matter where and who we are with.
I'll keep listening.. had to replay the vid.. accidentally pressed another vid.
Okay but how exactly do we heal the pain?
That's so easy to say. "oh, you have to heal your wound"....
The issue comes with the "how to heal".
It's understandable for each moment in life. A huge pain comes for an episode of life and we develop a defense mechanism to avoid facing it again.
Abandonment, rejection, etc,
I got so much rejected this year but in so annoying ways that I always get super well along with her but when it gets to texting meeting again i just make all mistakes possible or idk. But it hurts so bad any tips to deal with rejection because I used to not care or try and not showing myself cause of fear of rejection and now when showing myself I get rejected but not personally it’s so weird
Hi. I like this model and think it is well explained . However could you clarify this ' hardening ' around our pure feelings ( green dot line) . You say it as if it is a an actual,thing, when feelings don't harden . Maturing involves some inhibition otherwise we'd all be behaving like children all the time, but this isn't hardening . I also can understand it in terms of tensing in order not to express feeling, or feel feelings. Is this what you mean.? I m not picking holes, I am trying to understand as it seems quite important to understand the process of how painful experiences harden feelings .
Thank you!
Excellent
So many women here.. But my ex was like "you'll leave me, you'll get bored or you won't like me". I got attached, everything was wonderful and then I became addicted to prescription pain pills. I fell hard into this and spiraled into debt and lies and I took or begged for money from everyone including her. Over a 4 year period I went back and forth but never fully kicked and I was too afraid to get real help because I am stupid and wanted to protect myself form having the addict moniker.
Nonetheless I finally got clean. Not before doing the same addict crap again one last time because I couldn't stop myself. She became pregnant or at least we found out she was right as I was getting clean. Our relationship improved. We were talking names and talking about how excited we were. A month later she miscarried. I had actually went to a rehab the month prior I'd never done that at all before. Even after the miscarriage, I stayed clean 6 months which was the LONGEST I had been clean by a longshot in the entire last 4 years. But as soon as we lost the baby, the woman I met 5 years ago that told me she thought I would abandon her, abandoned me. Literally. She grew cold and distant and then we mutually broke up. I got drunk and cried to her and made a scene like a dumbass over the phone and she blocked me. That was October 4th 2022. 8 months later I have tried to contact her every month. Nothing. And just today, I see on one of her socials that she's changed her profile picture to her and another man laid up together with his arm around her while she smiles with her head on guys chest.
I died inside. I know I have been an addict i know I messed everything up. But I tried to get clean I finally swallowed my fears and did it at that time. The worst part is we had a baby coming. That would have been my first biological child. We were excited. Things were going to change but when she lost the baby, she straight up told me that I couldn't possibly be hurting worse than her. That sure, I am hurting over it, but she's in agony mentally and physically. I didn't question the physical part at all. But I told her I was just as broken and distraught as she as. But no. She didn't like that answer. She said through everything there was no way that I was suffering like she was. That's the way I read what she told me.
Fast forward, I am 30 i live with my parents. I relapsed 2 months after we broke up, on Christmas after I tried to call her and her son who I helped raise from 1-6 years old. And got nothing. No answer or response, even after a lengthy heartfelt text message. I relapsed badly. 6 months later I'm still on drugs, after rehab keeping it from my parents. Barely making it check to check, with car payments because I'm blowing all my money eating and using drugs and I can't seem to stop again. But she is suffering worse than me tho. Because she in this time span, moved out of her parents for the first time after we broke up, got her real estate license, drivers license recently amd her car, I taught her to drive and always encouraged her even encouraged her to go to college when we were together and she did and graduated. Just to note, I was always very loving and doting and we never had any sort of physical abuse we had arguments and some of them were bad and sometimes they teetered on us saying really crappy things to one another. Especially with the drugs I admit that. But nine times out of 10 when I was hiding it or not using it or we were otherwise not focused on a drug issue or money issue which was not as often as it may sound, we we're very good to each other and kind to each other. I mean I did other things wrong I know. I didn't sleep well at night so I was up and down. When our relationship started going Rocky the first time I did bug her for physical intimacy or even try to wake her up at night. I feel like a piece of crap for that but if you take those mistakes in my drug use away there was no beating there was no calling anyone stupid there was no saying you can't do this or you can't do that or I own you. I always told her she could do whatever she wanted and that she was the smart one in the relationship. I mean I practically simped for the woman 9 times out of 10. I'm rambling I'm sorry. But my point is that she's doing way better than me she's with a man she's out of her mom's she's making way better money than me she may have even bought a house I don't know the whole situation I think she's living with friends but I haven't dug that deep because I don't want to be a creep. But it has been 8 months and for all the pain she said she was in and how scared she was of me abandoning her and not thinking enough of her to stay with her because she thought I would get bored when we first started dating or that I would lose interest in her or think she was not beautiful or whatever it was, I was the one that ended up abandoned because of my problems. I was told that the miscarriage of my child didn't impact me and was less to me than it was to her and that she was the one that was in true pain and truly suffering. Yet I am sitting here on drugs again barely making it hardly getting myself dressed in bathed everyday having horrible mental anxiety and problems well she is laid up in the arms of another man takes pictures of herself smiling and laughing with friends I have no friends, really, by the way that I hang out with or see or get to go do things with and even if I did I suck it going out in public and socializing, I have a few friends but they are either long distance and barely talk to me for one reason or another or their friends that maybe aren't the best friends to be hanging around even if I love them and they're good people, the things that they may want to do or not things that I would post to my Facebook with pride. And I mean that goes for me as well if I'm doing those things. But anyway, she has an amazing job now as well and it seems like her life is generally going a lot better than mine and she seems to be happy maybe happier than she was in the months before we broke up. Certainly she is happier than she was when she told me she was absolutely suffering and miserable and tired 8 or so months ago. I will not begin to pretend to understand. Even though I know that at the end of the day most of this is my fault. I accept that but there's just some things that I just don't understand about how my relationship ended especially with the miscarriage. I could go on and on and I'm probably not even going to post this now because it's so long and I've rambled and there's no structure to this crap. I am just thinking out loud the pain in my heart and trying to make reason of it and it's probably impossible to. But I guess my Long Point was I was abandoned. Whether I deserved it or not I was abandoned by someone who told me that they were afraid I would do it to them but they did it to me and that my pain was not as bad as their pain was yet I'm the one sitting here not sleeping failing at my job failing at life extremely miserably depressed and nothing to show for it after 8 months while even though she was apparently worse off she has all these great things that seem to be going for her right now and I don't think it's an act for facebook. I'm pretty sure she is legitimately doing well. And I'm happy that she is because I genuinely care for her and I hope that she has a happy life and I also hope that if this guy she's with is her new man that he takes care of her and takes care of her son since I will probably never see either of them again and I have no idea what she told him because I know her son absolutely loves me. And now I'm just gone from his life altogether not only from hers. Double the pain. Yet even though she said she knew it wasn't my fault because drug addiction isn't something I chose to do or have she is somehow in worse pain than me? No. That was my point. I have written so much crap that no one will probably ever read. I don't know why I don't know why I'm doing it anymore. That's it I'm done if anyone reads this I hope the best for you and wish you well and thanks for hearing me because right now that's all I want is to be heard. It's just a lot of pain
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the fuck this is the best diagram and explanation I have EVER seen thank you
Thank you!
my best friend (we met a year ago) is taking a gap year after graduation (next year) i still have a year of high school left.(they're a year older than me)
i feel like when they leave we'll stop talking and I'm scared that when they come back we'll be strangers again. i know I'm being selfish for feeling like this but they've been distant lately and while i understand the reason (all the upcoming exams) it feels like we're already growing apart. i don't know how to stop feeling like they'll just leave me
How do you solve the pain then?
And where is the link that you said... didn't find it
Thank you
I literally just paused the video at 1.13 after that first part, fear of what we feel when were alone, instantly brought me to tears. holy fuck.
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I don't want to be alone, when my parents die I don't think I'll be able to take it anymore. I lye awake crying at night because I fear the day when they will die and leave me alone to deal with it. They are the only people I have besides my siblings. I can't leave the house, my parents won't let me. It's always been this way, I have no social contact besides through my phone. I have no friends, I truly have no one. I can't even sleep, it's 5 in the morning and every time I rest my head to sleep I start to be flooded with anxiety. It's always been like this. My family won't let me get help, we are too broke to see a doctor a therapist, much less that they actually care. Yet I still love them, without them my life has no meaning.
Thank you❤️
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I watched now 4 video's and the drawings , are always the same """FEAR'''putting up a wall , looking for distractions, ending up on meds ...so where are the video's...who should help us ???????
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Seems like you understand very well the human mind and psychology, you seem experienced and wise. Sadly, I have a feeling you use this great understanding to sell your idea and product.
There is no 'one cure/solution/key that will solve all of our problems'.
Being a human is fuckn complicated and weird and sometimes wonderful yet sometimes very uncomfortable.
He is onto something, but don't feel like your broken and there's this 'one' fix solution... accept that life is a journey and we're here to improve ourselves and get better as we go. It's not gonna end, the work and progress always goes on, until we die.
Victimiization feels hopeless. People have been MENTALLY CONDITIONED IN THIS WORLD To THINK FEEL & direct our choices for QUICK FIXES. MAGICALLY Doctors believe their man made drugs are SAFE MAGIC. IT IS ALL GUESS WORK. Self-ACCEPTANCE has NOT been taught to everyone. Parents are NOT ALL PERFECT TEACHERS. PARENTS do not TEACH themselves SELF-ACCEPTANCE & SELF-RESPECT SELF-CONTROL to protect their OFFSPRINGs MINDS from harmful attacks. Abandoning by family members etc.. We MAKE A LOT OF MISTAKES.
Life is a journey.
Thank you. Jesus is love
It explains how pain works, but not how to heal the pain.
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So we all can free ourselves by knowing how to walk on the opposite direction, but where does the power to do that comes from?
Power comes from the insight how we can set our mind free from all unsolved pain and fear and from the insight we all can flush out this very root cause. I suggest you to watch the 4 free videos that build upon this video that will explain you just that at: www.alive-academy.com Enjoy your liberation!
Thank you
I think on a more surface level, it all has to do with low self esteem and lack of independence and sense of self.
I wish there was free video as comprehensive as the diagram on how to start working on that pain that was identified.
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I wish it were that easy, nice idea but, ah well you'll know what II'm getting at. The loneliness is crippling. Hope it helps some.
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After 14 months on my own the feeling of abandonment staying close to me.
Ok so we know what fear is and total denial with addiction...so how do I heal abandonment???
Thank you Thank you Thank you
Thank you! 🙏
Those 4 videos, r ey free or do u gotto pay money @Alive Academy ? Got me confused a little
Amazing
Thank you!
sooooo... how do you do it?
Fear can be so debilitating.
10 minutes to discover that you must see or buy another vídeos to know what he promised to deliver in this one
thank you
I love it
I always had that fear and always pleased the wrong people. a week ago i broke up with my boyfriend after 7 years relationship. my patern does not work and this relationship hurts me all the time their is no growth i can't grow as a person because he puts me down or made me feel quilty even for his Actions cross boundries, Im done i forgive him because we both come from a place of lack and he does not understand , the only thing i had to do was tuning in with self never did that Before always looking for answers and find the light in the dark , and now i find it😆💖
It starts from upbringing such as childhood. 😢
Tom，what have you been going through? Is that your own experience?
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I think the roots under mine come from a slight self-awareness of a dependence due to my personality....and I hate it. I do not want to be dependent or rely on anyone, and I enjoy my solitude. It's knowing that I have needs that I can't fulfill for myself, and rejecting them because when someone helps you enough-
You're giving them power over you.
It's shit, it's a shit combination of psychological fears. I like people close, because I'm aware that, like it or not...I need them. However I don't want them too close, and nobody is the exception. Because I am not okay with someone having that type of power over me.
It creates this push pull dysfunctional relationship attachment style.
I'm basically the kid that didn't learn how to fully play with other children. I'll play my game beside someone who's playing their own game. To me that's comfort and where I feel most safe and secure. Occasionally we will engage in transactional things....that will help me win at my game and help you win at yours. The only exception has been I think 4 people....the main one being my son. I force myself to reparent myself, by engaging in games with my son. It's not always comfortable, but I know it's benefitting him in the long run and forcing me to get out of self and be of service.