5 Signs You Have Fear of Abandonment or Separation Anxiety
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- Опубликовано: 16 окт 2024
- Separation anxiety is the extreme fear of being separated from loved ones or people who we perceive to be a source of safety and connection. When you hear the words “separation anxiety” you may think of a child crying when their parents leave them on the first day of school, but adults can struggle with it too. According to The American Journal of Psychiatry, an estimated 43% of people who experience separation anxiety develop the condition after 18 years of age.
Do you think you might have separation anxiety too? This video might help.
Disclaimer: This video isn’t meant to diagnose anyone. Please reach out to a mental health professional if you're struggling.
Researcher/Writer: Stela Košić
Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Drew Baillie
Animator: Ayacchi ( / ayacchi )
RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
REFERENCES:
www.psych2go.net/5-signs-you-have-separation-anxiety-not-needy/
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What is something people worry a lot about but really shouldn't?
Friends
Body
Being single forever idk
Their body, YOU SHOULD NEVER think of it bad.
Opinion of strangers
Timestamps
1). Fear of being alone 0:54
2). Depressive symptoms 1:50
3). Worry that a loved one will be hurt 2:33
4). Nightmares with themes of separation 3:02
5). Physical symptoms 3:36
Hope this helps you out.💙💙💙💙
Thank you!💕
Huh ... I used to get these hyper-realistic nightmares about my close friends & family getting hurt. I guess now I know why. Luckily that time in my life is over and my dreams are back to their usual contented meaninglessness.
@@Agent-ic1pe I got one about a friend....she was driving in a car and....next thing I know I see broken glass everywhere and bl00d and then I see her b0dy....the front window if the car was broken...and she was laying on the trunk....eyes wide open...
Thank you!
@@Agent-ic1pe I have Somewhat hyper realistic dreams of me murdering the people that I feel closest to or something happening that causes them to no longer want me. When I wake up I always feel like it did really happen
If you're needy in adulthood, there's a high chance it all started in childhood.
Probably. Therapy tho.
Yup I feel it’s because for me
I was 7 right that before that point I had tones of friends I was the talk of the town, only kid.
Then suddenly I went from having a brother and moving cities and not making as much friends and kids mean at new school. And I feel adhd I have didn’t help make connections. And everyone be like I’ll do but never do and I do to my good carefree nature felt I have o buy people’s time and make sure they know how good I am so they don’t ever leave once I have them. Also years of clawing I’m now mentally drained. Any emotion is exhausting I’m never not at 10.
Family was always there but so many siblings my parents get overwhelmed and sometimes just need a break. My dad is hard to get along with do to short temper and impatience.
So I hardly ran to him for emotional support not that he wasn’t capable just he’s so cranky, he’s a wonderful but flaws pushed loved ones back.
I'm having seperation anxiety it's so worse when you feel like someone you love might leave you suddenly so whenever we don't talk i always feel like that. I have to learn to be alone when I'm with myself all these thoughts of seperation makes us lonely but know sometimes it's okay to feel this way this shows you really care for the person ❤️
This is all true. I used to have intense separation anxiety and it got really bad. After going to therapy for 3 years, I literally forgot about how I was and was reminded through this video of who I was. Currently, I am so much happier and honestly don't depend on anybody so this condition can be fixed if you put in the effort.
how do you start to solve this problem? I am in therapy, but I just realized the extent of my problems with separation anxiety and I'm not sure where to start.
@@cilantrolime The first step is to be okay with being alone with yourself. The people you care about can't constantly be around you 24/7 so accepting that fact is another step. You literally will need to just take time to yourself and to accept all of yourself. The easiest way to do this is to literally just lie down or sit down somewhere and just exist by yourself. Don't judge yourself or if you catch yourself feeling negative emotions, feel them, let them pass, and tell yourself that things will be okay. If you can make time to tell yourself positive things, that will build yourself up to a place where you can be alone with ease.
@@chadashley2026 thank you so much man. i'm gonna be so mentally okay with myself B)
I am a 58 years old woman and still depend on my mother as i just want to be understood and loved by her. But it never happens and she knows I am a very emotional person, but she constantly rejects me, and I don't know why.
I can't tell you how your mother may be feeling or thinking with this current situation but, I can tell you that allowing yourself to let go of her approval and need for affection will help you tremendously. I have a similar situation and in the past year, I was devastated to not have a mother that would love me the same way. But over time, I got so independent on myself that I didn't need anyone to fill in that gap for me. Of course, you will always feel some sort or loneliness and pain or anxiety in life, but it will be a lot less than what you may be feeling now. That is my opinion though so you can take it as you please.
Wow! I had no idea I have separation anxiety. Occasionally, I always worry about pushing people away because of something I said or did. Whenever I'm around someone who's respectful and friendly towards me, I feel... safe, loved and important. Not only that, but I felt I was never alone.
Am I watching this well aware that I already know I have separation anxiety?
Yes. Yes I am.
Same here dear.🙁
Same
Same 😭
I honestly didn't realize that I was going through separation anxiety right now, and it doesn't that I've been away at college, so I always feel alone even when I have other friends here. Thank you 😊
I've had diagnosed severe separation anxiety for most of my life. School was terrible for me. I felt so unsafe without my parents, so vulnerable, so anxious and depressed, and I didn't know why since I was in Kinder when it basically started. I missed them more every second that passed. I'm not even completely sure of how it even developed, so that's a really big part that I'm missing to try to fix that. I'm missing the root of the problem. I cried everyday at school, and all my teachers tried everything they could. I could tell they even got a bit tired of it. (I don't blame them.) I was basically known as the crying girl. I remember one of them gave me a journal to write out my feelings during class, then I would give it to them to let them read it and write their comments on the side. It was our way of communicating. That still didn't work. My parents didn't understand what was going on with me. How could they? I didn't even know. They would get frustrated at times too. It came to the point where I stopped eating and lost a ton of weight. I stopped doing the things I loved. I stopped smiling, laughing, going out, and talking. I completely forgot what it felt like to be happy. All I wanted to do was sleep. Not be conscious. My body was always super tense, my neck filled with knots that were painful and my mom would try to massage them. I was empty. I was numb. My mom eventually found a therapist for me, and to this day, I still see one. A different one, of course. After elementary, I started homeschool, and learned that way for the rest of my school life. Yeah, my anxiety has improved, but I still struggle a lot. I still can't travel without them. Not even for two days. I can't handle sleepovers, since I'll feel unsafe. Heck, sometimes I still face a bit of anxiety even when it comes to going out with my friends for most of the day. (I always end up having a great time tho, and now I'm aware that it's all in my head.) So yeah, I'm still struggling with it.
Sorry ik that was like super long lol, but I guess I just wanted to share my story. Maybe it could help someone else see that they really aren't alone. Never stop fighting! I know at times life may seem really really hopeless, but just remember that everything that causes you emotional pain is temporary! 🤗😊
aw thanks for sharing
it's crazy what fear can do to us 😔
Thanks for sharing!
Recently, I have noticed that I struggle with these feelings too.
It's not something that's too severe, but I've been learning to manage them
The important thing is to recognise and truly accept them. Only then can you live in peace with it.
Recently, I've been diving deep into philosophies such as Stoicism, Buddhism and Daoism. They've been helping me a lot :D
If you haven't heard about them yet, you can find a lot of good videos on youtube. I recommend starting right here. I hope they help.
I hope you continue making progress in improving your situation even more! I'm rooting for you!
“Saying goodbye doesn’t mean anything. It’s the time we spent together that matters, not how we left it.”
- Trey Parker
Yes after that good vibe it’s over
Now it’s turned into anyone comes just don’t go and I should kick annoying people out my life. Loosing a connection is hard
Tysm for being with me❤, you got me through lock down stay strong everyone 💪😊
I'm a person who used to be in the foster care system until I was eighteen, I dealt with so much moving from one new foster home to another, and was constantly made to be alone when I was in any foster home. (One of my foster parents even made me stay in my room without anything to do my entire summer break, and only let me out to eat dinner.) Now that I live with my partner, I'm always by their side as much as possible, and whenever they go to work I get such bad separation anxiety. This video is definitely a good example of some cases of separation anxiety, but keep in mind most people who were long-term foster children tend to have it much more than you think.
These videos always show up at the right time. Thank you for what you do for us all. 🙏
This fear is not always irrational though, many times it's because the nightmare came true.
Thank you for taking my suggestion into account and making it a video
Masha'allah you have a soothing voice, it puts me in a good mood, and it takes me into a new world to experience, grateful for the existence of this channel, thanks 💖🍂
Its is almost the end of the school year and I'm currently in grade 6 and going to a new high school. I feel very sad and lonely at times and I am scared to let go. But i try to cherish the time i have with them. Thankyou Psych2Go. :)
just realized im watching this at 1am avoiding going to sleep because of exactly this…it’s scary
maybe i should talk about this to a mental health professional
tysm for the video
Summary:
1. Fear of being alone 0:54
2. Depressive symptoms 1:50
3. Worry that a loved one will be hurt 2:33
4. Nightmares with themes of separation 3:02
5. Physical symptoms 3:36
Wow this sounds all too much like me. I get so easily worried about pushing friends away, or what to do when I'm by myself. I just try to keep in mind that a true friend sees the big picture and chooses to stay with you because they love and care about you for who you really are, and on the other note, that we all are confused about life to some degree and have every right to be. It helps lighten the burden.
Being alone hurts the most. ☹️😢💔💀☠️
It does 😖 when I was 14 in 9th grade i was lonely no friends no relationship being all alone in lunch periods and getting bullied 😥 cuz when I cry in class a lot people tease me for my separation anxiety and when I found my cousin killed Herself I was sad I was crying hard 😢💔 and no one helped me feel better now I’m still having problems with my life now😖
I've had this worse when I was a kid, with nightmares of being abandoned and stuff, but now the most common is the worry thoughts of something happening to my family.
I don't know if it's common for a person with anxious attachment style to switch to an avoiding style because you're forcing yourself to not get attached.
still suffering from this when I get too attached, not even to my romantic partner, but also some of my closest friends
I've always suffered from separation anxiety, and it has been one of the worst stresses I ever feel, sometimes too often for my own good. I would get pains in my chest when I started missing my room, or missing my family and girlfriend especially that I end up ironically holing myself alone once again, only feeding into a nasty cycle of isolation. My girlfriend as of right now lives far away from me, so we sometimes would go on vacation to see each other. Every single time I had ti leave, I would bawl my eyes out once I was alone, not even 5 minutes later, wanting to rub back ti her arms. Even when I was in high school, I vividly remember crying in my classes where I would work alone because I just missed my mom and dad that much. Of course, it doesn't stop there, I also am an extremely vivid dreamer, yet I'm constantly having nightmares of loss or separation. It's the scariest thing in the world for me.
Despite this, I still want to go out into the world on my own, and be able to live my life. Everything has been hard got me, I love my family too much to leave, but I HAVE to leave home so I can start my life, and fulfill my dreams. My girlfriend has been an amazing support system for helping me deal with separation anxiety and homesickness. Without her, I doubt I'd get away as unscathed as I am now.
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For me it’s the idea that the people who are key to my life are going to go away/die.
The fear of the future, will I be alone and never find someone to love? Will my parents be alive? will I be able to live comfortably? Will my extended family be there to help me or will they just abandon me at my lowest point.
It’s hard, especially when you live what one could consider a sheltered or moderated life with none of the real problems most other people have to contend with.
After leaving my family I became depressed. I feel like I lost 80% of my life, they had made me happy and cared for me. But now I’m going… I didn’t get sleep for 48 hours
I thought I was just needy- my parents are divorced though and my best friend moved away without me expecting it so this may be right- whenever my friends or family dont respond to my texts I start to think something bad happened to them and get worried, and when Im by myself I feel sad most the time and just have to distract myself. When I am by myself, I'm always texting my friends or on the phone with someone. Thank you very much for this, I'll have to look more into it ❤
Worrying about hurting someone you hurt is so self damaging. I hope myself and everyone else struggling with that can push through and make the growth needed
I don't need a video, I Was Terrified all My Life, for Anyone separating for too long.
i've actually had this from start to finish.. i'm already on thin ice with my close friends because of mistakes i made. my family don't seem to care for me as much as they say, i still get extremely paranoid after being alone and away from them after a long period of time
I'm pretty sure I have separation anxiety. Whenever I'm somewhere where I would usually see my friends but after a few minutes of being there and I didn't see either of them, that's when I start to get slightly more panicky and decide to look around for them. If I don't find them, I ask a few people I know but don't really hang out with that often if they've seen them or know where they are. If I get a "They're not here today" I reply with an "Oh, ok" and hang out with the person I asked while trying not to be awkward, or I sit in a corner where not many people can see me, turn on some music, and silently cry because I don't really have anyone else to hang out with. And I've also had a dream before where one of my friends wasn't really hanging out with me anymore and was being mean to me even though she is a really nice person. This is why I sometimes still carry around stuffed animals
Drew has such a sweet voice ❤️😻
Aww thank you :)
This voiceover is just as soothing as Amanda Silvera’s! Speaking of her, how is she doing?!
You can talk to her at the comments of her posts on her RUclips channel 😊
Hello!!!!!! You have helped me through so much I just want to thank you so much!
bruh I watched a bunch of your anxiety/depression vids in a row and when I got to this one yt stopped the video and put the suicide help line on the screen im crying
I had #4 about my romantic partner a week or two ago and i was scared awake by it but i knew it wasn't realistic although i still told her about it and she comforted me so i am thankful for that
This is literally when I realised my dog has separation anxiety an literally gets panic attacks when nobody is there to comfort her
Edit: I take her with m everywhere now-
Thank you so much for helping me find out my problem.
No problem :) how many signs did you relate to?
@@Psych2go sadly all
The fact you help us though things yours one of my favorite RUclipsrs bc you help us!
I have Separation Anxiety and relate to pretty much all of these signs, but I don't know what caused it in the first place. I haven't been abandoned or lost someone as far as I know. I guess it stems from me being born pre-mature. My parents were always with me and catered to me in my life, so much so being even a few minutes to hours without them strikes my anxiety. I'm starting to have Separation Anxiety with my long distance/online boyfriend. I always get anxious when he doesn't answer me or even talks to me 24/7 and I worry something happened to him. (I also worry something will happen to my parents if I'm not with them as well.) I've had bad thoughts and nightmares at times of everyone I love suddenly dying right away and me being alone, unable to live life properly. I have Agoraphobia, Social Anxiety, and GAD as well, which makes things worse. I turned 18 just a few days ago and I can't handle the thought of my parents dying eventually, even though it's inevitable.
Had a friend group abandon me, And I’ve had two partners cheat on me. This video hits close to home. I’m scared of waking up one day and everyone’s gone. I hate being so clingy
I didint even realize I did have separation anxiety-
I have this disorder because I feel so alone when I don’t have a special someone in my life that’s why I need someone in my life also yes I’m dealing with loneliness right now until I find another girlfriend
your yelling from the clouds and expecting only the cliffs and your questioning the living and the dead give you answers
Before you react, think. Before you quit, try.
First comment 😄 i appreciate ur videos so much ....they helped alot to understanding my own feelings..as a teen its just hard to understand thm
this channel's the best
I get super upset and shed some tears whenever my wife goes away on vacation for an extended period of times. I'm okay being away from her as long as i know at the end of the day i get to go home and be with her, its when we have to spend several days away is when i go through hell.
In the past we've had arguements when shes been gone just because i say things that i normally don't say. Its nice knowing i'm not alone..
Pretty sure some of these symptoms have affected me in my 20's... and every now and then, they still show up. I'm not sure if they'll go away completely considering the circumstances I was put under as a baby, being placed from an orphanage in China to being raised in a completely different country, but for the most part at least, I'd say I'm able to manage them.
Quite relatable for me, only I couldn't figure out before
not really but in my opinion, being seperated has become my development in my childhood due to my parents' business work, but I think being serepated and betrayed from my best friends become worse than my parents. Now I am happy that I am got over them. Thank god that we have met again but I think I will be ready when they realize their mistake when we meet again. Sometimes I meet a nightmare about our separation, which happened one time when I saw my mom being killed, in my dream...
I’m not sure that i have this, but I was very very upset when my boyfriend was in the hospital after his car accident. I didn’t want to be at work or at my parent’s house. Just wanted to be by his side and only felt better when I visited him. Heck. The day of the accident, he hadn’t messaged me for several hours which was abnormal for him. He even called work and begged my front end manager (he’s out in fuel) to tell me that he was ok. I told him that I honestly thought he’d ghosted me and found someone better. He told me he’s not that type of person. I firmly believe it’s because we’re soulmates that we felt this way. He didn’t bother to call his ex or his buddy. He wanted to get a hold of me. Told me a lot about him. We also understand that we both have our own lives, doesn’t mean we don’t want the other one back home already when the other is working
I love my girlfriend, my friends, and my family, but when it's just me and my thoughts, I don't feel at peace with myself. The only time I feel happy alone is when I know I won't disappoint anyone or feel pressured. I crave peace, but I only find it in fleeting moments. Sorry if this comment is a downer I just wanna express myself to anyone who might feel something similar just incase you yourself feel alone too.
I really related to the first one. I imagine senarios when my friend would stop being friends with me because it happened to me so many times before. Im scared of being alone because im scared of what people will think about me. What if they think im a nerd, or im weird, or i have no friends and then i just spiral down the hole of overthinking everything. I dont speak up for myself because im scared if i do then they will cut me off and i wont have anyone. When i was having a arguement with one of my friends, i was very like idk the word. I was crying and drawing words on myself like " i hope ..... is not mad at me" i was stressed out, i would just lay in my bed and do nothing, my room got VERY messy i just went down this deep pit. i depend on my friends for my happiness. If they are not around i feel empty and lonely. And for the second one, when my mom leaves for trips i worry a LOT or even when she leaves the house. Im constantly calling her, asking her where shes at what shes doing. i get HORRIBLE stomach aches whenever my mom leaves or when im having an arguemnt with my friends. im not sure if its seperation anxiety, or if its just overthinking. help me out ?
I have bpd and i feel like thats where my anxiety separation comes from, no matter my parents or my boyfriend says theyll never leave me im still so afraid that they might
I now realize that my separation anxiety was in my late teens on. I couldn’t go away for college. I couldn’t take a transfer for work. I need to bring this up with my therapist.
for a long time i thought i had separation anxiety but now i will know
I have separation anxiety, and it didn't happen until I moved states at 16 years old. I would cry and panic whenever my mom left the house, I'd beg her not to go, and even chase her car down the drive way as she left. I felt unloved and alone, she took me from my friends when we moved states and now she was leaving to go hang out with her friend, and abandoning me. I am almost 29 now, and it's not so bad now with her, but I do worry when she is not back home and it's night and she didn't tell me she had to go out, or when she would be back. When my boyfriend threatens to leave me I break down and cry and panic, even though I also wish he would leave because he is so mean to me. It's a horrible feeling.
A boyfriend shouldn't even be mean to you. :(
i dont fear being alone when i'm at home (sometimes), I get enough sleep, I enjoy being home alone, in fact i enjoy loneliness when i'm at home even without communicating with someone real life or online, but when i'm somewhere else or at another place other than my home, i find someone that im close enough with to cling to through the whole trip, I try to not get separated from them so i wont be afraid to mess up or get lost or end up not knowing what to do, i fear being alone when i'm at another place other than my house. does it count as separation anxiety or something else?
dont mind my grammar haha, English isn't my first language.
Ever since my dog died I just have had a massive shift in mood loss of independence and overall anxiety
For rather understandable reasons, going through adoption often results in trauma, unhealthy attachment styles, and separation anxiety. I recall some 1980's statistic where adopted adults made up less than 2% of the US population, but over half the inpatient psychiatric population.
"Absence doth sharpen love, presence strengthens it; the one brings fuel, the other blows it till it burns clear."
William Shakespeare
I don't think about 'goodbye', I'll think about next 'hello'🙋👍
I do infact suffer by both. It is the reason I can't live a life with friends or others without acting different, I'm more sweet and 'happy' around them, I never try to make anyone close to me mad. It hurts to do it only because everytime I ever had accidentally infuriated someone they barraged me with insults then left me forever. I can't even talk normally without acting extra sweet, and I lose every argument, even if it's small, on purpose. I wish I could have second chances, I wish I didn't loose everyone around me..
Can u please make how to concentrate on studies 🥺🥺
I have a friend who live in the USA and i'm French but she my Best friend and idk she don't awnser me a lot anymore and idk if it's separation anxiety. I miss her and i don't wanna be alone. I've never really got a lot of friends in my life and idk if because of having 8 years of harassment and loneliness cause this. I have a big fear of being alone.
what happens if its feeling spiritual separation from humanity and if them feeling like they have being given up on..
this is what people are really going through because no one raised them spiritually and the wonderful and beautiful information that really could stay with them forever only then, to not, feel separated or lonely..
Happy December Everyone! Have a good month and stay strong! Happy holidays!
I have 2 main fears:
The fear of infinity/emptiness and the fear of being alone.
Even death doesn't scare me as much as the fact I can remain alone in the end
Im excited to watch this ❤
As you get older, like around your 21st birthday or so, it gets a lot harder to deal with other people's first-world problems. But you know they're all gonna be tormented in a bottomless pit of their own ubiquitous anguish. And that makes it okay.
I think I have separation anxiety, when I'm around them I say what I feel but when I'm not I overthink when I talk to friends I make it awkward and I end up lonely I don't know if it's separation anxiety
I have something called reactive attachment disorder
Yeah, but I can understand it’s like that. I have been like that once and twice.
Can you guys do a video on PMDD ? i feel like it would be very educational to those who suffer from it since it gets mistaken for other disorders and not a lot of people know or talk about it enough. thank you
Thanks for the suggestion! We will let the team know!
Happy first of December everyone!!
I'm constantly afraid my friend is going to end our friendship and the thought of it hurts so much that I dunno what to do anymore. Been seeing a mental health professional but not much has come out of that yet :( (although there's a lot going on including depression and general anxiety etc)
Life is too short to b feeling pain... fr long periods of time.wht do u gain n whtbhv u got to lose? Words?? Toughen up... use yr head..overthinking n over feeling is waste of enegy... insomnia, headache, depressed..... snap out of it....its called stupidity.
Thank You all at Psych2go. Separation anxiety coupled with the often time's laundry list of other distortion's can often hide the anxiety. I try not to be hesitant on this point,in as much the personal experience in my life could be described as insult of obliteration because of earlier injuries and diminishment's from neglect and lack of other amenities that promote a solid psychological background.The relevance as what promote's reaction's contrary to only being separated.We collectively misrepresent our own inclusion's toward our own complicity in and with our emotion's. The term complicity give's a rather ominous twist to this because we tent to include positive emotion's, with the negative ,to include our own positive emotion's toward those in our regard are loved one's.With no compensation of positive feedback we tent to feel at a loss for even our own positive emotion.s.
Thank you for sharing! We hope this video helped you in some way :)
My Separation anxiety probably came from when my mom used to lock me out of the house when she was mad
i rlly like all your videos you make me smile evry day i see one of your videos
What are the signs of an unstable attachment style?
well I have separation anxiety. and it's vert very bad.
I believe it can happen from migrating too
I’ve hade separation anxiety ever since I was in kindergarten garden. I’d kick and scream every morning when my mum had to leave.
My childhood pain, lucky the good ones come in to help out my mislead...
I lost my gunea pig and When i write/talk/think about him i always cry like now😢
I want to ask anyone who could possibly tell me if I have social anxiety/anxiety or I don't actually have any of those. One time I was at school, there's a race well not exactly a race it's just to test who's faster. While that time before running, I was shaking too much and my heart was beating so fast and it was so loud. Keep in mind there's a lot of people there. When I started running, I can feel all eyes on me because of that I got last place. When it ends, I was shaking, I was too stunned. I was scared, I feel like crying but I can't. My leg feels numb and I was just sitting there while I was zoned out. When I heard people laugh, I starts to think that they're laughing at me or judging me. When talking to people, I wasn't scared that much or anything in particular. I didn't stutter or anything. Sometimes when night comes, I feel worried for no reason. Can someone tells me what's wrong with me? Am I just shy? Or am I overreacting? Also I've always peels my fingers skin, it sometimes gets so bad that it bleeds.
I really want to know if I'm annoying because I feel like I annoy most people I talk with.
you sleep openly in the streets and expect the world to fall on you and all the excess is your expectation and you see the crowds but nobody can speak
I never knew what was "wrong" with me. Now I know though but sadly it's gotten worse..... More nightmares, a very messy room and having 0 motivation, more feeling dizzy and nauseous, all bcz my boyfriend said he needed some space for himself. He said it can be too oppressive if I call him at night, but I just can't live without him. I am often home alone and he is the only one I can tell things to. I don't know what to do or how to behave..... I do so much for him but maybe it's really to much for him to take, idk what i did wrong.... I'm scared he'll leave me (Since he told me, I cried every day). Can someone help me?
u said that he is the only one u can tell things to, maybe if u start talking to more people and make a bigger and broader social circle with people u can trust, things can improve, ofc this is hard af but I think that could help, depending on just one individual can be tiring for him and unsustainable for u maybe if u reach out for more people u wouln't feel so alone all the time, also you need to acknowledge your value, maybe u feel inadequate and insecure and that's why u don't like being alone, acknowledge your value, if u aren't a criminal or someone who hurts others u shouldn't feel insecure about yourself and you could work on that, I hope I'm helping in some way, probably I'm assuming things and this advices don't really apply for u but this is just what I think could help from what I read.
Id like to know If you can develop separation anxiety to your pets?I live alone and have no family,my entire family broke completely 2 years ago or even more but it always was a mess.Now I live with my dog and he is dying I Cry everyday cause I am scared to lose him and have no one in my life,he has become my whole family.
Im a teenager, and many people have said I prob have separation anxiety and now I can confirm that yes..I do, my parents divorced almost 10 years ago and after that my mom would be gone most days I think that’s what triggered my anxiety, but its weird cuz I only have separation anxiety towards my mom, and sometimes at night I just randomly start crying because I miss her even though she is in the room next to me 😅
NK was before my eyes all 7 days.Morning,noon and night eyes looked for them though I didn't let them know.
I wanted to start conversation but couldn't muster courage.I respected thier privacy.We both went to the same picnic spot which we had planned earlier but were strangers to each other.I clicked group photographs for them but didn't get clicked together.
On that day I carried the same book, key ring and momento to be gifted but then kept back with me.
Prized possession remained ungifted and words remained un exchanged.
Little did they knew that I needed a tight hug coz I was falling apart.
Their eye signalled that they wanted to talk but by the time I reached they were in hurry.
I had bought Dairy milk for them and have someone to give them but to my dismay it wasn't delivered.
Before I could say something they blocked me everywhere....
They think that they only they have emotions not me.Didn't I wanted to talk? Dumbo 😡
Respect you Ex.
You shared time and energy with them.Laughed aloud and wept together.
Do not use pun or sarcasm on them.Keep their secrets in your heart coz once they truly loved you.Never disrespect or humiliate them.Neither in public or in alone.
Respect their privacy and their priorities.May be they are valuing your boundaries.
- A note for NK
I am the biggest fool the world has ever known. I pursue happiness, and yet I achieve nothing. I used to be fun loving, and almost nothing could stop me from being happy. Now, almost nothing can stop me from being sad. My grandparents told me how I was so attractive and handsome, only until I got into middle school did so realize they were dead wrong. I am hideous, I am awful. I am the embodiment and cause of my demise that is irreversible. I haven’t the slightest idea of what could’ve changed me, and I’ll most likely never know. I still tell myself: “why can’t you just be strong and handsome like your grandfather?” Because he was everything I am not. He was athletic and full of life. I am weak and dead inside.
Not even my mother could love this face.
You are being too hard on yourself, maybe u aren't attractive, but u may have some others qualities, like honesty, u said that your grandparents told u that u are handsome and u know they are wrong and you acknowledge that instead of getting into that lie, I do the same, I don't Buy that I'm handsome even tho people say that, but I just know bcs people don't look at me in the face and if they do they look at me disgusted. I'm not handsome but I have the balls to look beyond everyones bull$h1t just like u and I'm proud of that.
Probably u aren't strong like your grandfather but u can get strong brotha, lifting weights can never be a bad idea, I have been 3 years into this and I'm no mr olympia, but I look like that kind David statue (or whatever it's called in english lol) and I'm proud of that, specially considering my genetics. Let me know if u need any help bro, I hope what I just said isn't for nothing and it helps you in any way, also sorry for my english, ik is terrible.
My son died he was 25 January 2022. Is that also separation anxiety? I've been trying to sleep off the pain but that's not working I'm very depressed about my son it's the holidays yippee
Ok im not telling from where my abandonment issues start, but
it has made me to believe that
1.everyone hates me or will end up hating me
2. It freaks me out when people ignore my texts or calls . It feels like they are gone. I deleted texts after sending them because i dont want to know if my text was ignored or not
3. I fail to mame friends or trust people. I feel they will only talk to me when they need mee not for emotional attachment.
4. I feel everyone will cheat on me
5. Everyone talks sh*t about me.
6. Ill d*e alone
7. People will ghost me or vanish from my life out of nowhere
8. I'm unlovable
Where is the other narrator Amanda Silvera 😢
Now I need to know about romantic separation anxiety... 🤔🙁🥺
Number 4 hits hard for me