1- You have a hard time saying no 0:59 2- You lack self-confidence 1:23 3- You struggle to define your interests and values 1:49 4- You often seek validation from others 2:19 5- You don’t spend time alone 2:49 6- You are indecisive 3:14 7- You disregard your own needs 3:39 8- You have a codependent relationship 4:07 Have a good day everyone!
I relate a lot with this. I have a weak sense of self, I don't know who I am. Often times, I don't even realize I've taken interest in something until another person validates that interest, and I'm largely shy & reserved about that and prefer not to share such. It's hard for me to accept love from anybody, because as far as I'm aware, I'm a void, so I'm not likely to think someone really cares about me. To show me affection would feel like someone willingly pouring it down a drain. It's a really painful thought for me to think I'm a waste of others' effort, but yet I can't seem to break that cycle. It's painstaking.
Timestamps 1). You have a hard time saying no 0:58 2). You lack self-confidence 1:22 3). You struggle to define your interests and values 1:49 4). You often seek validation from other 2:19 5). You don't spend time alone 2:49 6). You are indecisive 3:13 7). You disregard your own needs 3:39 8). You have a codependent relationship 4:07 Hope this helps you out.
Having such a sweet and kind voice for a narrator is such a strong plus for this channel. It really helps me to take in the message and it feels comforting when struggling with depression. Thanks for a great channel guys ❤️
I relate to each and every point. I think I'm struggling with a weak sense of self. As a kid, I never really had good friends. Even now, I just have 2 friends who don't live in my city. It's very overwhelming as I often get the feeling of missing out on friendships and relationships when I look around. Nowadays, even social media promotes these behaviours that worsen the condition. Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough or a likeable person at all.
Hi are you me?! I only have 2 friends that live far away. I'm currently working on self compassion and love, just know it's all changeable. I hope your journey goes well too. From one internet stranger to another, you got this
do you also feel like you cant develop yourself because that means if those friend find you again there will be a new version of yourself they dont know and you dont know if they will like that version? my two closest friends live away too and i feel this way
Self acceptance, confidence and self love are all learnable skills that anyone can acquire. Spend time getting to know yourself, learning to love accept who you are now and where you're at now, whilst working on getting to where you want to be in areas where you're not there yet. Everyone deserves love and respect, regardless of where you're at in your journey.
My gf actually accused me of this when we fought some times back ... Ended up wondering and exploring stuff after that time, and also ended up doubting our bonds which led to further fights until recently. A lack of "self" focus can be as a result of long term gaslighting, and self inflicted gaslighting, when you doubt yourself but don't ask why you do so, or respond with something meaningless in back and forth friction in your mind, chances are you have been gaslit and is doubting your thoughts. We could end up like this if the world or society pressured it into us to think like this. If a superior or a parent's words or demands lingers in your head, then it's a lack of self-serving decision.
Yes, when you don't know yourself, and have a strong hold of yourself, and values, it's very easy to start questionign yourself after fights. I think maybe find someone who can support you and help you down the road?
@@Psych2go It's a long distance relationship of 12 years... Think internet pen pals but intimate. A lot of the spats is over misunderstandings and allowing our personal grievances in each of our lives to invade each other's minds. Mostly I was the only who likely wasn't aware of being what she claims a social vampire at the time. All in all, it led to further self-discoveries of how much we've changed over the years, and while it led to us taking brief breaks of communication, we always make up and talk it out. (it wasn't the fault of each other, but the incidents happening IRL which incites a friction, especially on her end which is more unfortunate than my end, anyone would compare and say I'm spoiled, lol).
Friend constantly cares about others over herself. Apologizes for everything even when she did nothing wrong. She draws to keep her mind from going to the dark side of her depression; her art is detailed and she puts care into even small details. When people ask her for commissions, she underprices her art saying shes not that great. This vid sounds like her. And i wish she would realize it and rise up :(
8 out of 8. I definitely have a weak sense of self, maybe more focused on what my qualities are. Otherwise, I know my weaknesses pretty well so I thought okay I might not be that bad knowing myself. In the end, it is very true I put emphasis on my flaws...
I have a very strong sense of self. It matters who I'm around if I show it, because the people around me may not want to do it or not be comfortable with it. So different friendships have different boundaries and different needs. If I have a friend that is allergic to peanut butter, I won't have peanut butter jelly sandwich with them. If I have a friend that doesn't like video games I will do something they enjoy instead. If I have a friend that doesn't like movies with horror in it I'll let them pick movie that doesn't have it. Once I have my alone time I'll go back to things I enjoy, so it doesn't interfere with them.
IT WAS ME A FEW MONTHS AGO!! 😃😄 Everything was true back then but I’m working on myself, this video makes me realise how I’m slowly but surely improving and changing
When I saw this I realized that I have a weak sense of self, I finally found at least something that can explain why I am so not trustworthy of myself. This video helped more than it sounds.
I wish that I can gain confidence again someday and can be able to love myself. I use to be confident but my family always scold me for most of the things I do from the way I walk to everything and especially certain someone she always tries to make me feel that I am always wrong and shouted at me every time especially in front of others it made me doubt myself so much that I even stop going out most of the time and never even go out to meet friends and all and doubt myself in everything and I use to cry alone hidden but thanks to your video I am taking steps to take good care of my mental health 😊.
I love this so much! You won’t believe how both this and last week’s video about codependency came at an eerily opportune time for me! I was just telling someone who was feeling a little uprooted and lost in life how discovering who you are and your “sense of self” is the key to confidence. Then, a few minutes after sending it....BOOOM!! A video about a sense of self!
A common mistake in lack of self. If you always tell your boss yes, you could just be a hard worker. But if their taking advantage of you. Saying no is vital. And your job isn't to be liked, but to get the job done.
This is something I've always struggled with. When I was a kid nothing really made me happy, and I was always bored when playing with other kids. Found video games and they were something that made me happy. However with the nature of video games is that they can be literally anything. So I've grown to love doing all sorts of things in life, and learned many skills. I go do these things in real life it's alright, but it's never worth the effort in the end whether it's something that takes months or years. Though it is kinda fun to "master" a skill them move onto the next. Sure I like just about everything in life because there's been a video games have let me find a way to like it, but it's really hard to say there's anything I really "love", especially when I need to love that thing enough to justify doing that over other things. I will never understand how people can possibly be bored, there is always something to do. This is why I've been trying to focus on improving my exercising routine, diet, sleep schedule, and various other stuff to make things take significantly less effort, and be more enjoyable. Enough so that something will pop out eventually so I am able to focus on one thing. Instead of wasting so much time and effort trying to do everything in the world, just to toss it to the side when I could've enjoyed myself just relaxing doing nothing and/or chatting with friends or something.
I relate to half of the video, I think I have a pretty strong sense of self, of what I want and what I love. After all these years of struggling, one day I finally realized that I didn't want validations from others, I just wanted the affirmation from myself. I always knew that I disliked myself, never truly realized that, I don't feel hatred toward anyone but myself. I simply weigh others way more than myself and I don't know how to fix that
I think having a true sense of self will help people to appreciate and love themselves. In turn, this will help improve their relationships with others.
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the list o' warning signs:* 0:58 (1) A hard time saying no 1:22 (2) Lack of self-confidence 1:49 (3) Struggle with defining interests and values 2:19 (4) Struggle with self-validation 2:48 (5) Lack of time for solitude 3:12 (6) Frequent indecision 3:38 (7) Disregarding own needs 4:06 (8) Codependency
Doesn't matter how intune you are with yourself. You get treated a certain way for a long time you will assume something is wrong with you. You will feel shitty about yourself because those who say they care simply don't, and show it. It still fucks with how you value yourself. No matter how intune with oneself is.
I didn't think I had such a huge problem with this until watching this video. But you know what, I feel motivated and empowered to start believing in myself and giving myself the consideration I deserved all along!! To be in love with yourself first and foremost looks so insanely freeing. Like oh my god, what have I been doing this whole time? Not living! Didn't realise how much I looked to external validation to reflect my worth. Social media makes this problem worse too, creating an idea of "good enough". Tomorrow I'm going to make a collage about who I am because I don't feel very in tune with that.
I think personally the parts where I lack self understanding is because sometimes I kind of choose to neglect myself- I don’t usually neglect stuff I enjoy like drawing or making music, but sometimes when it comes to eating or going to sleep in time, I just don’t bother with it. Neglect necessity and indulge in fantasy.
Is anyone else very switch with all of these? I have a REALLY hard time saying no, im a people pleaser in that sense. But i also have been able to manage saying no from time to time. I have moments of so much confidence but also the worst lows ever. I have a good grip on all of my interests, but i usually use them for other people (baking, painting) i do those for others not myself. I am always seeking validation from people even tho i know in my heart my own value. I hate being alone it makes me sad, but i also feel a heavy need to get away from ppl. I am indecisive but can step up if i REALLY need to. If someone else needs me and i care about them im there, idc how sick or tired i am i am THERE. Honestly frustrate myself w the codependency cus i do it only emotionally. And i need other people ground me and bring my spiral thoughts to reality or i begin to use bad habits
my freind had this so i will help her get back to normal by 1. not asking her to do too meny things 2. give her some alone time 3. ask how she's feeling 4. help her find people that she can talk freely to and dosent fell stcuk whit 5. help her when she needs it
1. Yes and no. I rarely say no when someone asks me for something, but then again I'm rarely asked. 2. I have decent self confidence, but very low self worth 3. I have a pretty good idea of what I like and don't 4. I generally am not proud of anything I achieve, but I certainly don't want anyone else to tell my I did something good when I know nothing I do is valuable. 5. I pretty much only spend time alone, both at home and at work. But I also have to constantly distract myself, so I'm not really "with me" 6. Yes and no, really depends on the decision. 7. I interact so little with other, so not quite sure about this one. 8. Definitely not. I barely have any relationships
I relate to 7 of these things. I struggle to find the need to socialise because I have receaded into my own shell for a long time now. I've only recently started taking steps to better myself. I'm very dependent on the validation and love from my partner but I understand that I need to learn to love myself too. Life is a strange and wonderful sitcom riddled with obstacles. I understand we all need to be strong. I understand it takes time. I understand change is inevitable. We might not be comfortable with change but we can still take control. Life is hard. But it doesn't have to be.❤
Sadly I relate to all of those, developing an understanding of myself has been a....challenge as of late as I keep hitting dead ends and become more and more confused.
I relate to all except having difficulty spending time with myself. Im extremely introspective and Id say I know myself pretty well, well enough to know I have no idea what I want to persue lol. The problem with me is that im extremely curious and I have an interest in too many things to keep track of. I also am a very flexible thinker and naturally see things from multiple perspectives. Even though im introspective, this makes it hard to truly define who I am. I have a vague sense of who I want to be, but current me is nowhere near that and isnt equipped to start taking the steps. Ive tried and restarted so many times. My confidence and self esteem is crippling my self image and Idk how to get help.
The only point I relate to is being indecisive. When I was younger I couldn’t decide on a favourite colour so I said my favourite colour was rainbow. Now my favourite colour is definitely blue! :D
to help myself decide what I want to do when I feel indecisive is to flip a coin or roll a die and if what it lands on is what I want to do I will do it and if its not it would have helped me realise what I wanted to do
I love these kinds of videos because its helps you reflect and notice small mistakes you do that might be hurting yourself or others. Keep up the good work, Psych2Go!
I definitely relate to 7/8.I looked for validation from others because I never got that from my parents. I'm happy that I'm now working on myself with my therapist ☺️
Before I have a hard time to say No . However now because I apply self care and boundary for my own inner peace I can say No without feeling guilty. Zen watching from Philippines 🖐️
I have always lacked confidence and sense of self but it has definitely gotten even worse as my mental state deteriorates, to the point it’s practically non-existent.
Hello from France. I just watched this video and wanted to thank you for the quality of the content you are offering through all of your videos. I guess i do have a weak sense of self, even though i already was aware of this. Anyway, i send you all my love and gratitude to your channel. To be honest, sometimes I only watch one of your videos because i find the voice sooo soothing and relaxing.
This is cool and all but when you struggle with depression and other mental health issues, having a strong sense of self is very difficult. I don't know my capabilities at any given time because I might be feeling good and confident I can perform but if it's a bad day, I'm borderline useless. Same with interests. Some days I might have fun doing certain things but others I get really bad anhedonia and can't enjoy anything and it's really easy for others to tell.
I would not see myself as having a weak sense of self, because I have spent my entire life studying my self. Now from that angle, from that of my own I would say self is a fluid concept, looking to others won't be the flaw so long as you do it to help not forget about your self, many different views can show a common truth but not one that can truly never change.
I notice it touches a personal note for me when I feel I can’t trust myself, even more when people don’t trust me. I wouldn’t have taken it personally if this person didn’t make me feel as if I’m not someone worth trusting, or that emotions and perceptions are just self serving. I’ve done many things that are anything but self serving and yet I feel insecure because I feel like I fall short of my expectations. I’m not sure how to stop criticising myself all the time. Some say I have a fragile ego. I just have a hard time when people don’t believe me. Maybe I’m also too sensitive. I shouldn’t take it to heart. It’s immature.
I have 1, 6 and 7. On 1, I feel like if I say no, they'll view me as a lesser person. 6. I just can't make a choice if it involves others. Because I don't want to disappoint people with the choice I make. 7. I believe that if I don't do what others ask, they'll leave me.
The reason I think I have a lacking of sense of sense is because. I have autism and be in mind that’s not the only reason, it only contributes to it. I know that I have a sense of self but I struggle to hold on to it, because I don’t really know who I am sometimes. My brain gets on forgetting somethings, especially when I’m socialising that or I’m taking a test and the test requires me to tell something about myself. Usually when I’m not prepared I will struggle to give an answer. And when I try to give an answer my brain will be unable to process any coherent thoughts and/or words. It always takes awhile for me to think of something that I didn’t previously thought of before entering a conversation.
@@christiancameron3781 umm I’m not fighting.. I’m not sure what you are implying in your comment. But my sense of self is just a thing I don’t always quite grasp. But this struggle can be a bit of an inconvenience, only a little. Because when I’m struggling to remember my sense of self I don’t always feel like I’m fighting. As in fighting to regain memory of sense of self.
@@christiancameron3781 I don’t like socialising at the moment. I want to take a rest from it because I don’t get much out of it. That and it can be too sensory overloading
I have a lot of deep discussions with people and lately, I've been realizing that I don't have my own opinions. I get worked up about views that I can't prove in other circles because they're not my own. I just pick what the group I'm with believes in most assertively and act as if I feel strongly about that too.
Relatable. I have zero sense of self, I do not have hobbies, do not know what I enjoy, what I want, what I have to wish and look for in life. I enrolled a bachelors degree I have no interest in, got kicked out and now work as a waiter. I don't want this job to define myself, while studying I never really associated myself to that field and didn't feel being a student. For some reason I get an urge to distance myself from everything I take up.
Personally, I think that how other people view me is very important in assessing myself and traits and habits I might not notice that an outside perspective does, I place alot of weight into other peoples opinion because I want to understand how I’m perceived, I know alot of people oblivious to how their presence affects others negatively/ positively, and ignorant of traits/habits in them that affect their surroundings, So i feel like It’s essential to be aware of how you, your personality, your aura is perceived and how it affects others in your space
I agree with all the points in the video. Relatable video. Keep going Psych 2 go. Tou guys are helping us so much. Lots of love . I do like spending time alone.
I didn't need to watch this video to know that I indeed have weak sense of self, but I did it regardless. And according to the mentioned signs, I do have some semblance of it, though it is rather unstable. I may have strong opinions on certain matters, but other things leave me confused and indecisive. My behaviour strongly depends on the circumstances I'm currently in. I wouldn't say I'm adaptive - rather very reactive. Furthermore, even when I do something I like and genuinely enjoy the result, I don't feel as accomplished as I should be, and instead wanting even more. I try to prove that I'm not completely worthless, only to then assume that it's not enough, even if others tell me otherwise.
I have borderline personality disorder. Many believe that at its core, BPD is a poor sense of self. What happens is that people are given surface level judgements and never actually see what's going on in their hearts. It makes sense.
well... i relate to a lot of the things listed in this video... the biggest one I can say 'no' on, though, was 'avoiding time alone'.... i think i probably spend too much time alone. if i'm not at work, i'm usually alone. i'm only around people at work because i work in customer service, which means other people have to be around....
Well...I sometimes face to face with myself in front of a mirror, telling things to myself such as reminding myself of my achievements or failures or just laughing off over my reflection (while I'm alone, of course) 🙄 I do this to evaluate myself, entertain myself, do speech training, etc. It's helped me much throughout my life to develop myself & talking in front of other people, believe it or not. I don't find any of these signs in myself today (hopefully never), but some people around me have it & sometimes it can be annoying (for me or themselves). I wonder if I can do something for them? Thank you for the video as always!
(this isn't directed specifically at you guys, I love your channel, this just happened to be the trigger). Does anyone else have that feeling as a subscriber when a channel is saying "due to our stats" or anything that isn't "if you're new to this channel..." stuff it just kinda makes you feel bad because you cant subscribe or like twice and then you either feel low key sad or angry for 1-15 minutes? is it weird that a highly comforting channel just made me feel weird via being sweet but the wording hit my brain wrong? Maybe this comment explains why I follow this channel...
Relating to all of em, hardly can do better,but a bit of an issue with the lonely time,if you spend too much time with yourself (and in bad or toxic environments) you hate yourself etc.
Bingo! We were playing Bingo right? 😅 Well I think I definitely understand myself more than the typical folk. I have ADHD and quite possibly Autism. It's never really been easy meeting my needs which led to me having for the longest time, an inferiority complex, and till this day imposter syndrome. Yesterday I was quite productive, which is something that should be celebrated... But instead having a successful day means I should doubt my ADHD entirely... Despite me being medicated and still struggling. I am definitely still a work in progress but when I am done I will be proud of all I have accomplished in just the past few months alone. Even if I remain unemployed at almost 21, I have full pride in the fact that I am getting closer to the productivity of my neurotypical peers. And that in a way has allowed me to feel pride in MYSELF, for once. It's an amazing feeling. Viva La Neurodiversity!
your videos are actually opposite to what I watch on a daily basis,... m a heavy metal fan just so you get the point... just wanna say that I love your contents they calm me down.. n yes subscribed a long time back.. I like your voice
Great video, I thought this would talk about me but thank goodness it doesn’t I’m still gonna share the video cuz I feel everyone still needs to be aware
Could you possibly make a video about fear of loss and the ways to fight it. I apparently noticed that having fear of losing things like important people, opportunities and even material things can cause a massive damage to self-esteem as well as state of mind. I believe that feeling of self-worth can also be threatened incase you fear to lose someone or something important to you
I’m going to be honest, that last line of “no one has the ability to know you better than you”, despite being intended as an uplifting line (I think), kinda filled me with a sense of dread. If nobody else knows who this guy that is me is, how am I supposed to know? I gotta go pray about this… 😰
Tbh, other than the content you bring, I subscribed because of how soothing your voice is. Can you do some podcast or make a longer video saying literally anything or everything so I can hear that to calm down?
Hi, I have watched many of your videos with interest. I'm not sure if they are aimed at older people as well, and should I be watching them? Your advice is sound and as a much older person of 69 I have found much I can reflect on. I have had mental health issues from childhood mainly because of my childhood. Such help wasn't there when I was growing up and I live with the legacy of my earlier years. How I wish that things had been different then. Keep up the good work.
I feel ashamed. Today at work was awful. I was taken to my supervisor's office with her and a high-ranking chef. They (or mostly the chef) told me that I've been touching my coworkers too much. Not THAT type of touch, of course not! Just casual ones, like on arms or shoulders. I was always very outgoing at work. When I asked her if anyone reported a complaint, she said it didn't matter. She told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment, and that I pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school (I work at a university's catering service). She told me I shouldn't tell my stories because they may be inappropriate to my coworkers. Now yeah, I pretty much don't have a filter, and sometimes I guess I do say inappropriate stuff at work, but not horribly nor intentionally. I like to joke around and have fun with my coworkers, but I guess it isn't like that after all (more or less). I really didn't get specific information from the chef about what and who. She understands and likes that I'm outgoing, but she made it sound risky and in need of limits, for good behavior and my coworkers' sake. And again, that I shouldn't touch my coworkers (shoulders or arms) without their consent. But seriously, I'm not a creep! I don't randomly hug people or anything like that. I didn't mean to be so "handsy" (I say loosely). I'm so embarrassed about the office lecture. I am not like Biden at all. I'm really not. Have I really gone that far at work? I already hate being on the spectrum, and sometimes I actually hate myself. I wish I could work somewhere, not only for my coworkers' sake (should that presumption be true) and myself, because I'm so ashamed.
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1- You have a hard time saying no 0:59
2- You lack self-confidence 1:23
3- You struggle to define your interests and values 1:49
4- You often seek validation from others 2:19
5- You don’t spend time alone 2:49
6- You are indecisive 3:14
7- You disregard your own needs 3:39
8- You have a codependent relationship 4:07
Have a good day everyone!
Thx
Time traveller????
👁👄👁 am I hallucinating?
@@ItsTundrian no apparently this is a old video that was unlisted and now public I think?
@@14days324 that’s what I thought too-
I relate a lot with this. I have a weak sense of self, I don't know who I am. Often times, I don't even realize I've taken interest in something until another person validates that interest, and I'm largely shy & reserved about that and prefer not to share such. It's hard for me to accept love from anybody, because as far as I'm aware, I'm a void, so I'm not likely to think someone really cares about me. To show me affection would feel like someone willingly pouring it down a drain. It's a really painful thought for me to think I'm a waste of others' effort, but yet I can't seem to break that cycle. It's painstaking.
Timestamps
1). You have a hard time saying no 0:58
2). You lack self-confidence 1:22
3). You struggle to define your interests and values 1:49
4). You often seek validation from other 2:19
5). You don't spend time alone 2:49
6). You are indecisive 3:13
7). You disregard your own needs 3:39
8). You have a codependent relationship 4:07
Hope this helps you out.
Thank you
Thank you!
@@khalilahd. No problem
Helps alot
gg I got 7 of these except I like being alone
The hardest question is always, just who am I.? A lot of these are definitely relatable
It’s a scam!
Exactly. I hope you figured that question out
Having such a sweet and kind voice for a narrator is such a strong plus for this channel. It really helps me to take in the message and it feels comforting when struggling with depression. Thanks for a great channel guys ❤️
Thanks for the kind words! We are going to release a vid on QnA soon!
@@Psych2go I don't know what that is, but lookin forward to it 😊
@@TheOpacue A QnA is a video where the viewers can submit questions, and someone over at the staff will answer them! :>
Hello ma'am in a big fan of you ♥️
I relate to each and every point. I think I'm struggling with a weak sense of self. As a kid, I never really had good friends. Even now, I just have 2 friends who don't live in my city. It's very overwhelming as I often get the feeling of missing out on friendships and relationships when I look around. Nowadays, even social media promotes these behaviours that worsen the condition. Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough or a likeable person at all.
Hi are you me?! I only have 2 friends that live far away. I'm currently working on self compassion and love, just know it's all changeable. I hope your journey goes well too. From one internet stranger to another, you got this
I can totally relate; I have no friends at all and lack sense of self.
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Yo.....I too have only two friends and they aren't from my city.....so we just talk on calls.....😁🙃I relate with your comment💯
do you also feel like you cant develop yourself because that means if those friend find you again there will be a new version of yourself they dont know and you dont know if they will like that version? my two closest friends live away too and i feel this way
Self acceptance, confidence and self love are all learnable skills that anyone can acquire. Spend time getting to know yourself, learning to love accept who you are now and where you're at now, whilst working on getting to where you want to be in areas where you're not there yet. Everyone deserves love and respect, regardless of where you're at in your journey.
My gf actually accused me of this when we fought some times back ... Ended up wondering and exploring stuff after that time, and also ended up doubting our bonds which led to further fights until recently.
A lack of "self" focus can be as a result of long term gaslighting, and self inflicted gaslighting, when you doubt yourself but don't ask why you do so, or respond with something meaningless in back and forth friction in your mind, chances are you have been gaslit and is doubting your thoughts.
We could end up like this if the world or society pressured it into us to think like this.
If a superior or a parent's words or demands lingers in your head, then it's a lack of self-serving decision.
Yes, when you don't know yourself, and have a strong hold of yourself, and values, it's very easy to start questionign yourself after fights. I think maybe find someone who can support you and help you down the road?
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@@Psych2go It's a long distance relationship of 12 years... Think internet pen pals but intimate.
A lot of the spats is over misunderstandings and allowing our personal grievances in each of our lives to invade each other's minds. Mostly I was the only who likely wasn't aware of being what she claims a social vampire at the time.
All in all, it led to further self-discoveries of how much we've changed over the years, and while it led to us taking brief breaks of communication, we always make up and talk it out.
(it wasn't the fault of each other, but the incidents happening IRL which incites a friction, especially on her end which is more unfortunate than my end, anyone would compare and say I'm spoiled, lol).
@@dra6o0n Seems like a toxic relationship.
Friend constantly cares about others over herself. Apologizes for everything even when she did nothing wrong. She draws to keep her mind from going to the dark side of her depression; her art is detailed and she puts care into even small details. When people ask her for commissions, she underprices her art saying shes not that great. This vid sounds like her. And i wish she would realize it and rise up :(
8 out of 8. I definitely have a weak sense of self, maybe more focused on what my qualities are. Otherwise, I know my weaknesses pretty well so I thought okay I might not be that bad knowing myself. In the end, it is very true I put emphasis on my flaws...
Yep, Checked all the boxes unfortunately
Same-I was like, aw yeah, I self reflect and know how to take responsibility. I'm fine. Can't say I expected to hit most of these too
7 out of 8 the only thing is I lake being alone.
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Can relate to many things in this video. Made me realize some things that I didn't know I was doing.
Same 😢
What did you relate to most?
@@Psych2go not being confident in myself and always wanting to please people and having a hard time saying no.
@@emmakatari2116 you're right and i like the fact that this is so blunt with passing life lessons
@@christiancameron3781 What is your problem with me?
I have a very strong sense of self. It matters who I'm around if I show it, because the people around me may not want to do it or not be comfortable with it. So different friendships have different boundaries and different needs.
If I have a friend that is allergic to peanut butter, I won't have peanut butter jelly sandwich with them.
If I have a friend that doesn't like video games I will do something they enjoy instead.
If I have a friend that doesn't like movies with horror in it I'll let them pick movie that doesn't have it.
Once I have my alone time I'll go back to things I enjoy, so it doesn't interfere with them.
True, you express yourself to different people around you. Find a group that empowers you.
I would love to see a follow up video of how to get a better sense of self
IT WAS ME A FEW MONTHS AGO!! 😃😄 Everything was true back then but I’m working on myself, this video makes me realise how I’m slowly but surely improving and changing
I'm happy to hear this!! I hope that i could have that hapiness as well🎉
When I saw this I realized that I have a weak sense of self, I finally found at least something that can explain why I am so not trustworthy of myself. This video helped more than it sounds.
I wish that I can gain confidence again someday and can be able to love myself. I use to be confident but my family always scold me for most of the things I do from the way I walk to everything and especially certain someone she always tries to make me feel that I am always wrong and shouted at me every time especially in front of others it made me doubt myself so much that I even stop going out most of the time and never even go out to meet friends and all and doubt myself in everything and I use to cry alone hidden but thanks to your video I am taking steps to take good care of my mental health 😊.
Now I see why many people have self-esteem issues. When you don't value yourself, your life falls apart.
I love this so much! You won’t believe how both this and last week’s video about codependency came at an eerily opportune time for me! I was just telling someone who was feeling a little uprooted and lost in life how discovering who you are and your “sense of self” is the key to confidence.
Then, a few minutes after sending it....BOOOM!! A video about a sense of self!
A common mistake in lack of self. If you always tell your boss yes, you could just be a hard worker. But if their taking advantage of you. Saying no is vital. And your job isn't to be liked, but to get the job done.
This is something I've always struggled with. When I was a kid nothing really made me happy, and I was always bored when playing with other kids. Found video games and they were something that made me happy. However with the nature of video games is that they can be literally anything. So I've grown to love doing all sorts of things in life, and learned many skills. I go do these things in real life it's alright, but it's never worth the effort in the end whether it's something that takes months or years. Though it is kinda fun to "master" a skill them move onto the next.
Sure I like just about everything in life because there's been a video games have let me find a way to like it, but it's really hard to say there's anything I really "love", especially when I need to love that thing enough to justify doing that over other things. I will never understand how people can possibly be bored, there is always something to do.
This is why I've been trying to focus on improving my exercising routine, diet, sleep schedule, and various other stuff to make things take significantly less effort, and be more enjoyable. Enough so that something will pop out eventually so I am able to focus on one thing. Instead of wasting so much time and effort trying to do everything in the world, just to toss it to the side when I could've enjoyed myself just relaxing doing nothing and/or chatting with friends or something.
Same bruh i relate sm
The animation is so cute and her voice is so calming ❤
True
I relate to half of the video, I think I have a pretty strong sense of self, of what I want and what I love. After all these years of struggling, one day I finally realized that I didn't want validations from others, I just wanted the affirmation from myself. I always knew that I disliked myself, never truly realized that, I don't feel hatred toward anyone but myself. I simply weigh others way more than myself and I don't know how to fix that
ts real ash
Damn…😔
I think having a true sense of self will help people to appreciate and love themselves. In turn, this will help improve their relationships with others.
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the list o' warning signs:*
0:58 (1) A hard time saying no
1:22 (2) Lack of self-confidence
1:49 (3) Struggle with defining interests and values
2:19 (4) Struggle with self-validation
2:48 (5) Lack of time for solitude
3:12 (6) Frequent indecision
3:38 (7) Disregarding own needs
4:06 (8) Codependency
thank you guy's for the love and support you have helped millions of people around the world big hugs
Doesn't matter how intune you are with yourself. You get treated a certain way for a long time you will assume something is wrong with you. You will feel shitty about yourself because those who say they care simply don't, and show it. It still fucks with how you value yourself. No matter how intune with oneself is.
I didn't think I had such a huge problem with this until watching this video. But you know what, I feel motivated and empowered to start believing in myself and giving myself the consideration I deserved all along!! To be in love with yourself first and foremost looks so insanely freeing. Like oh my god, what have I been doing this whole time? Not living! Didn't realise how much I looked to external validation to reflect my worth. Social media makes this problem worse too, creating an idea of "good enough".
Tomorrow I'm going to make a collage about who I am because I don't feel very in tune with that.
I think personally the parts where I lack self understanding is because sometimes I kind of choose to neglect myself- I don’t usually neglect stuff I enjoy like drawing or making music, but sometimes when it comes to eating or going to sleep in time, I just don’t bother with it. Neglect necessity and indulge in fantasy.
Is anyone else very switch with all of these? I have a REALLY hard time saying no, im a people pleaser in that sense. But i also have been able to manage saying no from time to time. I have moments of so much confidence but also the worst lows ever. I have a good grip on all of my interests, but i usually use them for other people (baking, painting) i do those for others not myself. I am always seeking validation from people even tho i know in my heart my own value. I hate being alone it makes me sad, but i also feel a heavy need to get away from ppl. I am indecisive but can step up if i REALLY need to. If someone else needs me and i care about them im there, idc how sick or tired i am i am THERE. Honestly frustrate myself w the codependency cus i do it only emotionally. And i need other people ground me and bring my spiral thoughts to reality or i begin to use bad habits
self acceptance ' non judgemental is where I am..
trying 💞💞💞
I used to be like this but I've gotten so much better and I hope others can too!!!!
my freind had this so i will help her get back to normal by
1. not asking her to do too meny things
2. give her some alone time
3. ask how she's feeling
4. help her find people that she can talk freely to and dosent fell stcuk whit
5. help her when she needs it
1. Yes and no. I rarely say no when someone asks me for something, but then again I'm rarely asked.
2. I have decent self confidence, but very low self worth
3. I have a pretty good idea of what I like and don't
4. I generally am not proud of anything I achieve, but I certainly don't want anyone else to tell my I did something good when I know nothing I do is valuable.
5. I pretty much only spend time alone, both at home and at work. But I also have to constantly distract myself, so I'm not really "with me"
6. Yes and no, really depends on the decision.
7. I interact so little with other, so not quite sure about this one.
8. Definitely not. I barely have any relationships
I relate to 7 of these things. I struggle to find the need to socialise because I have receaded into my own shell for a long time now.
I've only recently started taking steps to better myself. I'm very dependent on the validation and love from my partner but I understand that I need to learn to love myself too.
Life is a strange and wonderful sitcom riddled with obstacles. I understand we all need to be strong. I understand it takes time.
I understand change is inevitable. We might not be comfortable with change but we can still take control.
Life is hard. But it doesn't have to be.❤
Sadly I relate to all of those, developing an understanding of myself has been a....challenge as of late as I keep hitting dead ends and become more and more confused.
I relate to all except having difficulty spending time with myself. Im extremely introspective and Id say I know myself pretty well, well enough to know I have no idea what I want to persue lol. The problem with me is that im extremely curious and I have an interest in too many things to keep track of. I also am a very flexible thinker and naturally see things from multiple perspectives. Even though im introspective, this makes it hard to truly define who I am. I have a vague sense of who I want to be, but current me is nowhere near that and isnt equipped to start taking the steps. Ive tried and restarted so many times.
My confidence and self esteem is crippling my self image and Idk how to get help.
The only point I relate to is being indecisive. When I was younger I couldn’t decide on a favourite colour so I said my favourite colour was rainbow. Now my favourite colour is definitely blue! :D
to help myself decide what I want to do when I feel indecisive is to flip a coin or roll a die and if what it lands on is what I want to do I will do it and if its not it would have helped me realise what I wanted to do
I love these kinds of videos because its helps you reflect and notice small mistakes you do that might be hurting yourself or others. Keep up the good work, Psych2Go!
I definitely relate to 7/8.I looked for validation from others because I never got that from my parents. I'm happy that I'm now working on myself with my therapist ☺️
Great self improvement tips and advice and always some really high quality stuff.
Before I have a hard time to say No . However now because I apply self care and boundary for my own inner peace I can say No without feeling guilty.
Zen watching from Philippines 🖐️
I sadly relate to all of these signs...
Have an excellent day and keep those great videos going! 🙂
I have always lacked confidence and sense of self but it has definitely gotten even worse as my mental state deteriorates, to the point it’s practically non-existent.
these videos really help me! thank you psych 2go ❤️
Glad it could be helpful!
Hello from France. I just watched this video and wanted to thank you for the quality of the content you are offering through all of your videos. I guess i do have a weak sense of self, even though i already was aware of this.
Anyway, i send you all my love and gratitude to your channel.
To be honest, sometimes I only watch one of your videos because i find the voice sooo soothing and relaxing.
Right @Flora Cochelin I live in the United Kingdom and I'm a business man, can i know you please?
This is cool and all but when you struggle with depression and other mental health issues, having a strong sense of self is very difficult. I don't know my capabilities at any given time because I might be feeling good and confident I can perform but if it's a bad day, I'm borderline useless. Same with interests. Some days I might have fun doing certain things but others I get really bad anhedonia and can't enjoy anything and it's really easy for others to tell.
I would not see myself as having a weak sense of self, because I have spent my entire life studying my self.
Now from that angle, from that of my own I would say self is a fluid concept, looking to others won't be the flaw so long as you do it to help not forget about your self, many different views can show a common truth but not one that can truly never change.
I notice it touches a personal note for me when I feel I can’t trust myself, even more when people don’t trust me. I wouldn’t have taken it personally if this person didn’t make me feel as if I’m not someone worth trusting, or that emotions and perceptions are just self serving. I’ve done many things that are anything but self serving and yet I feel insecure because I feel like I fall short of my expectations. I’m not sure how to stop criticising myself all the time. Some say I have a fragile ego. I just have a hard time when people don’t believe me. Maybe I’m also too sensitive. I shouldn’t take it to heart. It’s immature.
Needed this💕
Hobbies: Gaming, Reading, Research
Values:Money,Success, Knowledge
I have 1, 6 and 7.
On 1, I feel like if I say no, they'll view me as a lesser person.
6. I just can't make a choice if it involves others. Because I don't want to disappoint people with the choice I make.
7. I believe that if I don't do what others ask, they'll leave me.
That's also related to me and i don't know how to deal with it
Me too, but I think I have a good sense of self
The reason I think I have a lacking of sense of sense is because. I have autism and be in mind that’s not the only reason, it only contributes to it. I know that I have a sense of self but I struggle to hold on to it, because I don’t really know who I am sometimes. My brain gets on forgetting somethings, especially when I’m socialising that or I’m taking a test and the test requires me to tell something about myself. Usually when I’m not prepared I will struggle to give an answer. And when I try to give an answer my brain will be unable to process any coherent thoughts and/or words. It always takes awhile for me to think of something that I didn’t previously thought of before entering a conversation.
I pray you heal from whatever you're fighting, Amen
@@christiancameron3781 umm I’m not fighting.. I’m not sure what you are implying in your comment. But my sense of self is just a thing I don’t always quite grasp. But this struggle can be a bit of an inconvenience, only a little. Because when I’m struggling to remember my sense of self I don’t always feel like I’m fighting. As in fighting to regain memory of sense of self.
@@ginnymay8965 sorry if you misunderstood me, I can be good friends with you we can talk more and know more about ourselves
@@ginnymay8965 if you don't mind i can write you if you have other socials
@@christiancameron3781 I don’t like socialising at the moment. I want to take a rest from it because I don’t get much out of it. That and it can be too sensory overloading
Damn. Thank you. I needed this. It hit pretty hard.
You are blessed and highly favored,......💞💕
I have a lot of deep discussions with people and lately, I've been realizing that I don't have my own opinions. I get worked up about views that I can't prove in other circles because they're not my own. I just pick what the group I'm with believes in most assertively and act as if I feel strongly about that too.
i have a weak sense of self, time to work on that👍
Relatable. I have zero sense of self, I do not have hobbies, do not know what I enjoy, what I want, what I have to wish and look for in life. I enrolled a bachelors degree I have no interest in, got kicked out and now work as a waiter. I don't want this job to define myself, while studying I never really associated myself to that field and didn't feel being a student. For some reason I get an urge to distance myself from everything I take up.
I literally got every sign on this video spot on.
Personally, I think that how other people view me is very important in assessing myself and traits and habits I might not notice that an outside perspective does, I place alot of weight into other peoples opinion because I want to understand how I’m perceived, I know alot of people oblivious to how their presence affects others negatively/ positively, and ignorant of traits/habits in them that affect their surroundings, So i feel like It’s essential to be aware of how you, your personality, your aura is perceived and how it affects others in your space
I agree with all the points in the video. Relatable video. Keep going Psych 2 go. Tou guys are helping us so much. Lots of love . I do like spending time alone.
I relate to all of them, but I’m not sure how to gain more confidence when I have no faith in myself
I'm so thankful I have plenty of self-esteem and I became a better person because I use to be like this but I'm so much better
Holy cow. I passed all eight checks with flying colors, yay! Now let's see, what I can do about this
So close to 10 mil this is amazing! 🎉❤
I didn't need to watch this video to know that I indeed have weak sense of self, but I did it regardless. And according to the mentioned signs, I do have some semblance of it, though it is rather unstable.
I may have strong opinions on certain matters, but other things leave me confused and indecisive. My behaviour strongly depends on the circumstances I'm currently in. I wouldn't say I'm adaptive - rather very reactive. Furthermore, even when I do something I like and genuinely enjoy the result, I don't feel as accomplished as I should be, and instead wanting even more. I try to prove that I'm not completely worthless, only to then assume that it's not enough, even if others tell me otherwise.
I have borderline personality disorder. Many believe that at its core, BPD is a poor sense of self. What happens is that people are given surface level judgements and never actually see what's going on in their hearts. It makes sense.
Your voice is so sweet. Listen to your video every night I sleep.
The only sign I don’t have is spending time alone
Come kn psych to go. So close to 10 million well done ❤
well... i relate to a lot of the things listed in this video... the biggest one I can say 'no' on, though, was 'avoiding time alone'.... i think i probably spend too much time alone. if i'm not at work, i'm usually alone. i'm only around people at work because i work in customer service, which means other people have to be around....
Well...I sometimes face to face with myself in front of a mirror,
telling things to myself such as reminding myself of my achievements or failures
or just laughing off over my reflection (while I'm alone, of course) 🙄
I do this to evaluate myself, entertain myself, do speech training, etc.
It's helped me much throughout my life to develop myself & talking in front of other people, believe it or not.
I don't find any of these signs in myself today (hopefully never),
but some people around me have it & sometimes it can be annoying (for me or themselves).
I wonder if I can do something for them?
Thank you for the video as always!
I think I got a perfect score. Anyways, can you make a video on how to improve the sense of self? Thank you so much!
Yes Please!!!!
Your voice is so peaceful it makes me fall asleep😫
(this isn't directed specifically at you guys, I love your channel, this just happened to be the trigger). Does anyone else have that feeling as a subscriber when a channel is saying "due to our stats" or anything that isn't "if you're new to this channel..." stuff it just kinda makes you feel bad because you cant subscribe or like twice and then you either feel low key sad or angry for 1-15 minutes? is it weird that a highly comforting channel just made me feel weird via being sweet but the wording hit my brain wrong? Maybe this comment explains why I follow this channel...
There are days when I relate to all of these and there are days where I don't...
GIRL THANK YOU SO MUCH THSI TIME I AINT MISSING YOUR VIDEOS❤❤
Relating to all of em, hardly can do better,but a bit of an issue with the lonely time,if you spend too much time with yourself (and in bad or toxic environments) you hate yourself etc.
Thank you for your videos!
10 M can’t wait for it. Best chanel everrrrrr❤
Thank you so much for this video.
Bingo!
We were playing Bingo right? 😅
Well I think I definitely understand myself more than the typical folk. I have ADHD and quite possibly Autism. It's never really been easy meeting my needs which led to me having for the longest time, an inferiority complex, and till this day imposter syndrome.
Yesterday I was quite productive, which is something that should be celebrated... But instead having a successful day means I should doubt my ADHD entirely... Despite me being medicated and still struggling. I am definitely still a work in progress but when I am done I will be proud of all I have accomplished in just the past few months alone.
Even if I remain unemployed at almost 21, I have full pride in the fact that I am getting closer to the productivity of my neurotypical peers. And that in a way has allowed me to feel pride in MYSELF, for once. It's an amazing feeling.
Viva La Neurodiversity!
Thank you very much for these videos
Helpful!❤️
Very helpful, how're you doing
Watching here after I watched Inside Out 2. Who’s with me?
Sup
I relate to all the points and i don't know what to do 🙂
your videos are actually opposite to what I watch on a daily basis,... m a heavy metal fan just so you get the point...
just wanna say that I love your contents they calm me down.. n yes subscribed a long time back.. I like your voice
Great video, I thought this would talk about me but thank goodness it doesn’t
I’m still gonna share the video cuz I feel everyone still needs to be aware
Could you possibly make a video about fear of loss and the ways to fight it. I apparently noticed that having fear of losing things like important people, opportunities and even material things can cause a massive damage to self-esteem as well as state of mind. I believe that feeling of self-worth can also be threatened incase you fear to lose someone or something important to you
Do you mean a fear of losing people? Do you want a video on signs you have a fear of losing people or how to deal with the fear?
@@Psych2go yes i need that and i think other people also do need it
I’m going to be honest, that last line of “no one has the ability to know you better than you”, despite being intended as an uplifting line (I think), kinda filled me with a sense of dread. If nobody else knows who this guy that is me is, how am I supposed to know? I gotta go pray about this… 😰
I didnt know all this. THX guys
Helpful as always
"Find out who you are then do it on purpose"- Dolly Parton
I noticed that I have all of these signs, so I will try to do better to learn about myself :)
Tbh, other than the content you bring, I subscribed because of how soothing your voice is. Can you do some podcast or make a longer video saying literally anything or everything so I can hear that to calm down?
Except for code dependent relationships I have basically all of those, and I have no idea of what "myself" is anymore
Hi, I have watched many of your videos with interest. I'm not sure if they are aimed at older people as well, and should I be watching them? Your advice is sound and as a much older person of 69 I have found much I can reflect on. I have had mental health issues from childhood mainly because of my childhood. Such help wasn't there when I was growing up and I live with the legacy of my earlier years. How I wish that things had been different then. Keep up the good work.
I feel ashamed. Today at work was awful. I was taken to my supervisor's office with her and a high-ranking chef. They (or mostly the chef) told me that I've been touching my coworkers too much. Not THAT type of touch, of course not! Just casual ones, like on arms or shoulders. I was always very outgoing at work. When I asked her if anyone reported a complaint, she said it didn't matter. She told me that we need the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment, and that I pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school (I work at a university's catering service). She told me I shouldn't tell my stories because they may be inappropriate to my coworkers. Now yeah, I pretty much don't have a filter, and sometimes I guess I do say inappropriate stuff at work, but not horribly nor intentionally. I like to joke around and have fun with my coworkers, but I guess it isn't like that after all (more or less). I really didn't get specific information from the chef about what and who. She understands and likes that I'm outgoing, but she made it sound risky and in need of limits, for good behavior and my coworkers' sake. And again, that I shouldn't touch my coworkers (shoulders or arms) without their consent. But seriously, I'm not a creep! I don't randomly hug people or anything like that. I didn't mean to be so "handsy" (I say loosely). I'm so embarrassed about the office lecture. I am not like Biden at all. I'm really not. Have I really gone that far at work? I already hate being on the spectrum, and sometimes I actually hate myself. I wish I could work somewhere, not only for my coworkers' sake (should that presumption be true) and myself, because I'm so ashamed.