Mr D., If you watch more of his videos, he explains that blaming other's is a form of pathological loneliness. We must hold ourselves accountable for the decisions that result in undesirable consequences. Blame is the band-aid that covers up the unsolved pain. You are the architect of your own pain and joy. Seek solutions instead.
This is exactly what I needed. As a psych major, this has helped me a lot for personal reasons. The self healing journey is almost over! Thank you for explaining what therapists could’ve just told me a long time ago!!
Renee my name is Sean.. powerful sentence with so much meaning! How is your progress and can you pass a long ways to live the life we Both Deserve. With Blessings Sean
Me too, almost 3.5 years alone since my husband of 30 years left, he participated in parental alienation of my adult kids too, but with Gods help I now understand my value is in Christ alone and not in being a wife or mother. When you finally step into who you are in Christ, you no longer live in fear or anxiety. You trust God's plan for your life 100%, even if it doesn't look anything like you thought it would.
I am an extremely restless person. As I listened to this I became aware of how unconfortable I am in my body. The anxiety that comes is when I am trying to be still is ridiculous
I was driven back into the expensive arms of Eckart Tolle this year because my continuous self talk drove me crazy. Even Tolle is better than listening to the same, repetitive, OCD message.
This is excellent. Every other video about loneliness says that people just need to be around other people in order to cure loneliness, but you understand that advice is only meant to distract people from loneliness. Being alone and feeling lonely are two different things, but few people understand that.
So how's it going 8 months later? Did the information help you at all? Not being an ass. I genuinely want to know of info that will really get me out of this rut
I am a student of Tom’s course. The exercises within are some of the most intense I have ever experienced. Most likely because I am a willing student and have gone all in. I am grateful to have found this body of work.
Thank you for your analysis of the root of this toxic loneliness. You explain this phenomenon of the human condition so well in a way I have never read or heard. Over the past couple of years, I have had to face this toxic fear of loneliness head on a toxic marriage situationship came to an end. It was so toxic, that when I told people that knew what I had been dealing with that I was divorced, they said congratulations, thank God. But, actually I felt damaged, broke down, like damaged goods and suffered extreme dismay. The real reason, I felt this way is because after two marriages and two divorces, first divorce initiated by me after 1.5 years and second divorce initiated by ex after 28 years, never erased the negative feelings I was trying to run away from. I had no choice but to face my fears and insecurities or continue going on the same way. I am now coming to the understanding of myself. I am not alone. Reading my Bible assures me that God is always with me. Thank you again for your insight.
Thank you so much for this and for having it up for free. Its sad that many people never solve the root pain. I feel very lucky to see the importance in this at a young age
This guy is pure intelligence. Thank you for speaking on the root of our ego’s dysfunction. Learnt so much about myself from simply watching this. Thank you thank you and thank you!
I loved these ANALOGIES of Emotion/Heart, Brain /Thought-Ideas, Lock/Fear-Imprisons, Mask of Shiny Distractions, BandAid to Chronic Dis-Eases/Addictions, Alarm /Change direction toward Liberation/ Joy, Self Worth, Tree of Life/Potential Purpose we are Created for/ to do. I will share this video with my support group for building peace within and without.
If you are interested in the actual "root" cause , then ,catharsis, dream therapy, & regression techniques will help you revisit the trauma that put you on a trajectory of fear whether it was something you interpreted as abandonment as a child (it may not have been) or abuse . It needs to come to the surface if you want to fill that hole otherwise you WILL be on that treadmill that he repeatedly displayed. An instant "fix" would be Behavioral Therapy or conditioning. It does not get to the root but it does release anxiety. There are some new techniques like Neuroplasticity which helps reprogram the brain and helps us to quiet our minds long enough to take a look at our issues. The most immediate relief comes from "Open Focus" , this was developed by a neuroscientist at Princeton. Victor Frankl's book "Man's Search For Meaning " is life changing. The bottom line is that there is help for anyone who wants to not keep "falling into the hole". Cheers.
Excellent Video! I had fears like everyone else and when I accepted Jesus Christ, repented and forgave others is when those fears left me. Its so pleasant now, its a peace, contentment and freedom I've never known. Thank you for reaching out to others.
Same here. Hurt in the past, developed things like gender dysphoria, p0rn addiction, loneliness, all kind of fears. Today I feel complete and peaceful, can spend days on my own. Thanks to the love oof God. I fully agree with Toms videos, but I just don't know how we can pure again without going through the pain again. When Gods love is touching me, the old pain is touches and can be cried out, then it's solved. So for me, TOm is teaching excellent things, but the only thing needed to solve the root cause is the love of Jesus Christ (God). I never hear him mentioning that. (As the lack of love is causing all our fears and hurtings and addictions).
Good for you. For me, having a lot of scientific education and a fully scientific worldview, I know that there are no higher powers. So no help coming from above.
You are helping me a lot! I think I know where my fear comes from, think I know what I am scaping from. I just have to put those fears somewhere!!!! I have to keep up working with my inner self. Thank you!
Hey Tom, thank you for putting this together. As you were going through wooden-blocks demo came to mind at the end what is this verse: The voice of him that cries in the wilderness, Prepare the way of the LORD, make straight in the desert a highway for our God. Every valley shall be exalted, and every mountain and hill shall be made low: and the crooked shall be made straight, and the rough places plain: And the glory of the LORD shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together: for the mouth of the LORD hath spoken it. Isaiah 40:3-5 In the Father's presence there should be no loneliness. Time to call out the PennDOT guys and fix those potholes!
Thank you for all the videos you make, describing theissues and solutions so logically and calmly that it gives people courage to change - myself included
People in this society reject those who they find undesirable; therefore, the undesirables have to find coping mechanism to relieve their pain, whether it be positive or negative.
Wow, this hits the nail on the head for me. Thank you I live fear driven not a passion purpose driven life. I've always felt like I don't belong. I think the root is emotional childhood neglect. I have been trying to do that inner work for years now but its hard. I will keep trying to claim joy instead of living in this constant fear of abandonment and sleepwalking through my life.
You are welcome! If you want to get more clarity and direction towards complete liberation and independent fulfilment, I suggest you to watch my 4 free videos which build upon this video @ www.alive-acadey.com Enjoy your complete liberation process!
So I have to say I thought this was a good video but as other people have mentioned it really didn't get to the point of taking any kind of action. So I would recommend going on the internet and investigating this guy because he's going to try to sell you a program. I do agree that fear is a big factor in many physical ,emotional and chronic pain. For that I would recommend to work of dr. John Sarno and other doctors and therapists that are teaching doctor Sarno's work. Steve Ozanich is also recommended. Another thing is I'm not giving up my coffee! Good luck!
@@in2wishin you're very welcome. Also there is a podcast called crushing doubt who are the dr. Dan Ratner. You should definitely check that one out as well
Absolutely amazing very thankful for you having the courage to speak on this important subject that we all seem to suffer from within this superficial society!
correct me if i am wrong but a lot of bla bla and not getting to the "root" of the problem. This guy is a master of avoiding the subject. He constructs a lot of topics and upload new videos to lure new subscribers for his channel but never giving them the straight answer to solve their problems. That's because of the character of the person. Some people really want to help others while others want to speculate and take advantage on their problems.
He gives so much information in this video, so you can do two things; Focus on what you can learn from it, or focus on what's "missing". And that goes for life in general 🙏
I need friends, not distractions! How do I find like-minded people without spending tons of money! The fear comes from SOCIETY finding replacements, not friends. People have disconnected from each other now. What suggestions to you have for our world to start communicating again? Please give me the right directions for finding joyful people like myself...can you give me suggestions?
Hi Suzie 👋 my goal has been trying to find like minded people, friends on same level of life. I feel like I try, but don't try too hard. It's almost as if people have lost connection, conversation abilities. It's difficult to get people to interact. Would you like to be a pin pal? I can tell you what I've tried by trial and error.
I've said that before SuzieQ Wonder. Now I say: I don't need friend. I need to be my own friend in the "very first place". That's the way to attract the people who I want to have next to me. Not to "get" from them, but "to share" with them.
SuzieQ Wonder, I believe that you speak truth - We need friends. This vid shared a view (and process) that was also correct, other than the "answer" - (that part comes via a "course") and True Freedom only comes from Jesus and He already paid Full Price for it!!! I could hear your heart, in that, you desire an answer for the world. What a treasure and a Beautiful thing. Imagine that,... a person who actually cares, a rarity indeed. You have a good heart. We yearn (and have been created) for a connection that can Only be fulfilled by The Father, Through His Holy Spirit. There is No Fear, In The Love of God. The like minded part, in your desire for a friend is a tricky portion. This (in my humble opinion) requires a level of Trust and Belief - in God (and His timing) that only comes from a place of intimacy, from his presence - that we know "Him" as friend (most importantly) FIRST. I doubt that you will ever read this, but on the outside chance that you do - please know that I'm in prayer for you - to find a few Honest and True friends that have yeilded and surrendered themselves to Jesus as their Lord and Savior. It's from that place that all Blessings flow. As The Father reminds them of their True Spiritual Identity in Him, they are affirmed (the plan of God all along) of their Sonship or Daughterhood - In The Father and the deep healing of many wounds (of life's pains, hurts & habits) ensues. From that Healing and Wholeness - Faith, Hope and Love arise. True Joy is a Gift of The Lord that comes from His presence. I pray that you meet friends who are Brave enough to share that gift (in this day & age) because, the intentionality of such shared Beautiful Gifts (from the Heart of God) is that His Gifts and His Love is Always "others centered" and are very much meant to be Shared and Enjoyed with others from the infilling of The Holy Spirit of Love Himself and from that overflow. I Believe that "Holy" highlighted your desire for a friend as a way to reconnect (you) with His Heart. Friends are Blessings from God, they become family. You have been created for a Great Plan and a Wonderful Purpose for such a time as this. God Bless you sister. I Speak Life and Peace over you - (your spirit, your body and your soul.) Peace. Be Still and Know that Jesus Is Lord. I share this, In The Mighty Name of Jesus. Be Blessed. Amen.
I agree ! I had what I thought was family . Grown children & grandkids . Very very busy job . Long story but kids were just using me & left me alone ! I have no one now !
Honestly, I have only stumbled upon your account recently and I want to say that I am very appreciative of the way you help me understand and teach from a visual learning point of view. Truly appreciate the videos you create.
Thank you very much for this video! I’ve recently been caught up in using different things to distract that whole and I noticed it’s been making things worse for me not only with my mind but with my physical health as well and it’s becoming so draining. I’m so happy I’ve been led to this video! I’m ready to take that step and solve the root problem once and for all 🙏🏾❤️
Wow! Have heard a ton of inspirational, motivational, encouraging messages, sermons. Have listened to counselors & psychologists. This has been the best & most informational video. Really appreciate you making this video! Grew up in a dysfunctional home myself & unfortunately going through a very toxic divorce. We both have issues & when things were great they were awesome, but when they were bad they were awful. Went to counseling for a few years individually & collectively and it just didn't work. Used exercise & writing as distractions. Now using alcohol as well to escape. Still haunted by the things she has either text or said to me that is extremely hurtful. Blaming me for everything--- essentially a borderline personality disorder/narcissistic traits vs my co dependent traits = toxic environment/trauma bond. As miserable as I was in the marriage I find myself as bad or worse now with the exception of not having to walk on eggshells. Sad how someone can discard you after emotionally abusing you. All this information although valuable I can't seem to implement. Still exercising myself to death trying to escape, working 45-50 hours & drinking. I know I need to stop the drinking. Have essentially not family & very few friends to vent to. Everyone gets tired of hearing it & I don't blame them. Wish I could just suck it up & move forward. Never experienced panic attacks, a dark depression & anxiety like this. Trying to feel grateful for what I do have as opposed to what I don't have. To all those who can halfway relate to my story I sincerely hope you have solid family/friends to get you through
Michael Gholson - I'm right there with you! No family and few friends. That's a consequence of being codependent. Doing things for other people with the expectation of being liked and accepted only makes others (who are predominantly narcissistic in the world) disrespect us. Then we are confused. That confusion makes us angry and our anger (i.e. the resulting behavior of holding people accountable for hurting us) gives all those freaking narcissists more ammunition to consider themselves the victims and treat us horribly! I have complex post traumatic stress from a 22 year abusive marriage...so I'm constantly in hyper-vigilant mode to protect myself. because of this - I was accused recently of "hating everyone". As with all information, it is first necessary (even though it hurts) to ask ourselves if it is at all true. So I did a bit of an investigation into that. I learned that the most loving and most hopeful persons are (in fact) easily angered. Hope drives anger/rage. Which makes sense because when we hope for something and work toward it - we expect good things. Since narcissists always repay good with evil we are constantly disappointed. I learned (in my research) that "Under every angry person you will find an eternal optimist". So, the statement that I hate everyone is simply not true - but the results understandably look that way. This is the way it is with most of us. We are odd because we choose win/win relationships in a world where others demand us to loose! One thing I know is that we cannot depend on anyone outside of ourselves to 'get us through'. We are totally on our own to heal this hurt/loneliness - and I'm determined to do it!
I grew up in an Australian home with cycling domestic violence that often became criminal domestic violence lasting for 35 years. Being the eldest sibling I took the responsibility to assist my mother while not letting my father figure out that I was not totally loyal to him. Eventually my mother left the marriage, changed her name and went into hiding after all of her children had left home. For three years after the father stalked, blackmailed, intimidated my siblings and by this time three of us had our own children who were also involved. He lied to police trying to destroy careers as retribution for not being successful in returning our mother to him. He eventually held one brother and his girlfriend at their farm home with a sawn-off shotgun for over 30 hours. He eventually went to prison for 6 years although escaped for one week in the first year of his sentence. The police would not charge him for the many other crimes he committed towards my mother and after a 10 year campaign which also involved court cases against my mother who had tried to shoot him with a black market pistol, but was found not guilty on the grounds of self defence. The media got hold of this story since most domestic violence victims don't usually avoid long sentences when they finally stand up for themselves. The Barrister used his connections with state parliament to have questions put to the police minister and we started our own private prosecution against our father. Because of the 10 year campaign of fighting the police and DPP (department of public prosecutions) I had complex PTSD. Out of embarrassment the police Ethical standards unit took on the case and after a long court battle he was to serve 17 years with a non parole period of 10 years. He died in gaol on the 11th of September 2015, I was 48 years of age. It had taken me 7 years to find a doctor willing to help me with my PTSD. I have made good progress but I still cannot let go of the trauma or memories. I also had a very messy divorce in 2010 from a narcissistic wife. I liked being married when I was married. I prefer not being married now and I cannot look forward to my daughters wedding in a months time because of the broken family I now have and the fact I have to be in the same place as the ex-wife. It will not be comfortable. I cannot spend time with my siblings because they avoid each other and me because of the triggers we set off when we interact. I have two friends but the relationships have limitations (one due to distance and the other because of personality for her own domestic abuse) that are unfulfilling. I only have two friends because I lost connection with my older friends while living in hiding after my mother left her marriage in 2000. I was better while the family cat of 18 years was still alive but she died in my arms on the 1st of August 2018. I still cannot get over her loss. I am more lonely than ever. I lack energy and drive. My work place has become toxic because of a narcissistic principal who the staff call Teflon because nothing sticks to him and I was targeted by him. I am totally lost and only feel comfortable when I am stoned. I gave up for 1.5 years with the doctors help but after the cat died I fell back on the weed I really enjoy. I can cry at the drop of a hat. I am a comedian while at work but I am never truly happy. I have a science degree, I am a thinker or overthinker. But I cannot seem to fully heal. I don't know what to do. I am not suicidal but life is a chore to me. I don't know how to heal and move on now that the malignant narcissist/ sociopathic father is gone. I do not have a solid family of friends to lean on. I have collected some nice toys to play with (motorbikes and custom cars) but lack the drive to play with them on my own. With such ingrained psychological issues I don't think I can do the necessary healing on my own. The search for the right help goes on. This video was good information to identify that I need to do more but it falls short on how to do it.
Sounds like you need to give yourself a break. You're working extremely hard, in fact, I think you're kinda working yourself to death here, 😥. I think you should focus less on "doing more", and you should probably focus more on what you "already do". I think the answer is to just BE AWARE of yourself as you do all these AMAZING things you already do to make life better. I think that YOU'RE RIGHT, it's gratitude and appreciation, and I think that you're owed a lot of gratitude, love, affection, and attention; But nobody ever gave you what you need without a price tag attached. I feel scared too, and I feel hopeless and numb inside. Everything I just said to you I was also saying to myself, because I felt that overwhelming desperation to just fill the hole inside of yourself in your comment... Everything's gonna be ok, 😁. I think we've done so much, and are doing so much, that it's time to reap the rewards we've been so doggedly and determinedly been sowing. I think it's time to let go, and just let ourselves be ENOUGH. It's time to just enjoy our own company and be PRESENT, 😉🤗
Awesome! I was truly enlightened by your presentation. I have been struggling with painful memories of the past that have kept me in a state of lonliness. I am trying to heal myself from my painful past through pray and meditation. I follow Louis Hay and I listen to her self love affirmations videos. Thank you for sharing this information ❤❤❤❤❤
Just what I needed , someone to explain what has been going on with me. and how I can resolve it. Thank you so muck now maybe I can get a good night sleep for once . I'm in a long distance relationship it is very stressful were at times I don't see my lady for a long time.. but I love this woman very much and would like very much for it to work out. we both been down some rough roads and its hard for me to trust anyone anymore . creating anxiety and jealousy in me , then in return causing me to loose a lot of sleep. I need to put this to bed once and for all. so I can be at peace once and for all. . Thank you so much. I have felt so broken. Steven D.
This video made me realise that I give wayy to much time to others and not enough to myself, going to start turning my phone off every evening at 8pm and checking it less so I can have more time for my mind to rest and to charge my social battery, thank you so much for this video and for your channel, it really is free therapy x :)
I be your friend if you want:) we can be just friends without any other intentions, just friends, I'm not asking you this because you are a girl, I'm actually have no one except my family and it's totally fine if you don't want to, I'm just asking that's all.
A lot of lonely people are missing the skills to find and maintain social connections due to childhood isolation or neglect and we have 0 meaningful solutions for someone who missed out on that. On top of that the feeling of being abandoned as a child makes something so much larger than just a little fear- a primal part of our brain and our psychological development is arrested at a stage where abandonment = mortal danger.
Wow, thanks! I'm glad is serves you this way Shade! Thanks for sharing your enthusiasm! If you like this make sure to watch the 4 fundamental videos which build upon this insights @ www.alive-academy.com. Enjoy your complete liberation process!
Thank you so much for the video. It is very educational, informative and almost scientific. It gives me a solid concrete solution to the root of my constant feeling of unfulfillment that is to face those unresolved feelings and pain to overcome fear. Thank you for being a wonderful speaker. Your message is very clear and easy to understand.
It is relieving to see why we are doing what we are doing. Fear is the opposite frequency of love and essential for our survival in this life therefore should be experienced in moderation I suppose. We need fear in moderation to keep our awareness for life's challenges so we proceed towards our unique development. However, when we forget about what we are doing on this earth 'tools' become 'goals' and 'utilities' become 'purpose of the life' and in no time we become needy to numb ourselves with alcohol, weed, drugs, etc. Thanks for spreading awareness.
The drive to resolve the unsolved pain seems to derive directly from the fight-or-flight mechanism. Yet, if one stood and fought every time the conflict arises seems to have the potential to unwind in the most dreadful of ways including getting fired, getting murdered, or becoming a hated soul. What is your take now, My Dear & Trusted Alive Academy Professor? Otherwise, it sounds like Gautama’s path to enlightenment. It also gives me a better appreciation of psychopaths and sociopaths.
He will tell us to watch those 4 videos and every video we watch tells us to join his programme.. If he really understood the pain we all are going through he would have not made such advertising videos. He would have directly given us the answers and came to the straight point instead of repeating things again and again. Well there are so many ways to earn Money, please do not use this way to earn money because people are already in pain and they are finding ways to deal with it.
If it helps to solve a problem I have not been able to break free from on my own, the money which may be asked for after the 4 videos, may be nothing compared to the amount of time and money spent on things that only got me deeper in the hole.
We do need relationships and interactions with others but we should not make them as a distraction to keep us from facing our issues thank you for this informative video I do agree 100 per cent we must come to the root of our issues im trying
Hi Tom, I watched some of your video's. You explain the difference between having succes as a distraction and having succes as a result of the pure heart. You then say: do you wanna know if your success is a distraction or not? The answer you give: if you stop doing it, and you stay peaceful and happy then it's not a distraction. My question to you: should you still be happy when you should loose your income, all your millions, your followers and your health because of a sudden physical disease? Should you still radiating your happiness and abundancy if your circumstances should change (because of for ecample an earth quake)?
U are 👌 awesome..thanks so much for the final blocks metaphor of not fixing the root problem..which most of us may even forget after learning to love the distraction..but when 🤔 it is unhealthy that should be stopped or fixed..Thanks
Sometimes we are unable to fix the whole in the road ourselves, this is when faith in God will fix the whole in the road for us, patience is required for this to happen.
I kept waiting and expecting him to come out with a product he was selling.... he was repeating himself so much and not getting to the point! *sigh I'm sure he merely wants to educate people/us but, he doesn't realize that the absolute smartest students often drop out because they are bored!
@Mr D Cry out to JESUS. I used to be an atheist. But when I reluctantly cried out and started reading the WORD of GOD, I experienced a peace that surpassed my limited understanding. Now when I experience trials and tribulations, I know I can turn to our HEAVENLY FATHER for relief. GOD IS GOOD. ❤☺ HE loves us no matter what is happening in our lives. (No longer an atheist--I prefer having someone to turn to better).🐤
Sometimes i feel like i wasnt meant to be here, i feel theres something bad about me and i dont belong here its scary. People act a certain way around me. I feel like i dont fit anywhere, its like the butterfly affect and if i could just remove myself from all of this others, my family would be okay. If i force myself to go out somewhere and try being arnd people it doesnt work and its like people are wary of me. I dont know what to do, i havnt got the guts to kill myself, i havnt got the guts to just let go and try to really "live". Its like im just waiting and letting time just pass each day.
I have a question, I understand the distraction part and I have done that before myself, but what if the root cause isn't fear? I know my root causes and they've all been inflicted upon me by others so I can't see how I can fix this..... so what do I do? Thanks xx
I really like some of the things you say. I mean really like. But there is so much repeating and repeating and not getting to the point. The health things you talk about is probably The keto diet, which I am already doing. I would just like to het to the point more quickly.
Joanie, some folks need repetition as they tend to listen too quickly; repetition inforces learning (Be patient when you are seeking knowledge; it's taken me so very long to learn this. Thank you.). 5/2019
@@patrickryan1515 When I started reading my bible and really searching for God, I came to the realization that there is a lot of repetition in the Word of God. The repetition is a way to transform, enforce a new and better way to transform thinking. Romans 12:2 ESV Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Great question, thank you for sharing 🙏🏼 If this video resonated with you, please feel free to check out the additional 4 FREE video's I created as a follow-up here : alive-academy.com/ These video's might provide you with new insights on this matter. 💎🍀🙏🏼
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Childhood emotional neglect and toxic ongoing family relationships and bad bosses all compound the problem.
@Jack Didley Wth? Well that can go both ways buddy!
Mr D., If you watch more of his videos, he explains that blaming other's is a form of pathological loneliness.
We must hold ourselves accountable for the decisions that result in undesirable consequences.
Blame is the band-aid that covers up the unsolved pain. You are the architect of your own pain and joy. Seek solutions instead.
@Mr D Just because you had a rough experience with a woman, doesn't mean that all women are bad.
Thanks for your comment 🤯
@VonRyansExpress speak for yourself
This is exactly what I needed. As a psych major, this has helped me a lot for personal reasons. The self healing journey is almost over! Thank you for explaining what therapists could’ve just told me a long time ago!!
Therapists are totally missing the mark.
I'm finally facing my loneliness that I've been running from my whole life. My fear is abandonment.
I'm with ya .... you ain't alone
@@badkarma44 fight don't give up
Renee my name is Sean.. powerful sentence with so much meaning! How is your progress and can you pass a long ways to live the life we Both Deserve. With Blessings Sean
Not sure if that's mine but I feel you
Me too, almost 3.5 years alone since my husband of 30 years left, he participated in parental alienation of my adult kids too, but with Gods help I now understand my value is in Christ alone and not in being a wife or mother. When you finally step into who you are in Christ, you no longer live in fear or anxiety. You trust God's plan for your life 100%, even if it doesn't look anything like you thought it would.
I am an extremely restless person. As I listened to this I became aware of how unconfortable I am in my body. The anxiety that comes is when I am trying to be still is ridiculous
same
Become conscious.. of as much as you can.
I can relate
i agree 90 percent of the time its pretty bad being me especially this last year
I was driven back into the expensive arms of Eckart Tolle this year because my continuous self talk drove me crazy. Even Tolle is better than listening to the same, repetitive, OCD message.
This is excellent. Every other video about loneliness says that people just need to be around other people in order to cure loneliness, but you understand that advice is only meant to distract people from loneliness. Being alone and feeling lonely are two different things, but few people understand that.
I applauded at the end. That's all. I literally clapped.
I'm at video 1 of the 4 video series follows this. Having high hopes.
So how's it going 8 months later? Did the information help you at all?
Not being an ass. I genuinely want to know of info that will really get me out of this rut
You saved me through this video
I think you just healed my life and answered a lot of confusion ive had. Thank you so much!
You are so welcome!
I feel A LOT better. You sir, may have changed my life for the better.
Thank you for your comment Reid Pattis. Keep enjoying the joyful and abundant life you are born for!
I heard all this in 12 Step. He never gets to the point though.
@@almalee1885 I agree. There is nothing here I haven't heard before.
I am a student of Tom’s course. The exercises within are some of the most intense I have ever experienced. Most likely because I am a willing student and have gone all in. I am grateful to have found this body of work.
Did you finished the course? Have you now became "constatly" happy because I want to buy his course but I'm scared...
Thank you for your analysis of the root of this toxic loneliness. You explain this phenomenon of the human condition so well in a way I have never read or heard. Over the past couple of years, I have had to face this toxic fear of loneliness head on a toxic marriage situationship came to an end. It was so toxic, that when I told people that knew what I had been dealing with that I was divorced, they said congratulations, thank God. But, actually I felt damaged, broke down, like damaged goods and suffered extreme dismay. The real reason, I felt this way is because after two marriages and two divorces, first divorce initiated by me after 1.5 years and second divorce initiated by ex after 28 years, never erased the negative feelings I was trying to run away from. I had no choice but to face my fears and insecurities or continue going on the same way.
I am now coming to the understanding of myself. I am not alone. Reading my Bible assures me that God is always with me. Thank you again for your insight.
Thank you so much for this and for having it up for free. Its sad that many people never solve the root pain. I feel very lucky to see the importance in this at a young age
This guy is pure intelligence. Thank you for speaking on the root of our ego’s dysfunction. Learnt so much about myself from simply watching this. Thank you thank you and thank you!
God is pure intelligence.
This s one of the best videos I have ever viewed. It is excellent.
I loved these ANALOGIES of Emotion/Heart, Brain /Thought-Ideas, Lock/Fear-Imprisons, Mask of Shiny Distractions, BandAid to Chronic Dis-Eases/Addictions, Alarm /Change direction toward Liberation/ Joy, Self Worth, Tree of Life/Potential Purpose we are Created for/ to do.
I will share this video with my support group for building peace within and without.
Thanks Kathy for sharing your appreciation with others!
Tom this was meant to be!!! just needed this
If you are interested in the actual "root" cause , then ,catharsis, dream therapy, & regression techniques will help you revisit the trauma that put you on a trajectory of fear whether it was something you interpreted as abandonment as a child (it may not have been) or abuse . It needs to come to the surface if you want to fill that hole otherwise you WILL be on that treadmill that he repeatedly displayed. An instant "fix" would be Behavioral Therapy or conditioning. It does not get to the root but it does release anxiety. There are some new techniques like Neuroplasticity which helps reprogram the brain and helps us to quiet our minds long enough to take a look at our issues. The most immediate relief comes from "Open Focus" , this was developed by a neuroscientist at Princeton. Victor Frankl's book "Man's Search For Meaning " is life changing. The bottom line is that there is help for anyone who wants to not keep "falling into the hole". Cheers.
Excellent Video! I had fears like everyone else and when I accepted Jesus Christ, repented and forgave others is when those fears left me. Its so pleasant now, its a peace, contentment and freedom I've never known. Thank you for reaching out to others.
Same here. Hurt in the past, developed things like gender dysphoria, p0rn addiction, loneliness, all kind of fears. Today I feel complete and peaceful, can spend days on my own. Thanks to the love oof God.
I fully agree with Toms videos, but I just don't know how we can pure again without going through the pain again. When Gods love is touching me, the old pain is touches and can be cried out, then it's solved.
So for me, TOm is teaching excellent things, but the only thing needed to solve the root cause is the love of Jesus Christ (God). I never hear him mentioning that.
(As the lack of love is causing all our fears and hurtings and addictions).
@@Michel777 I'm so happy for you! Praise Jesus!!
@@Michel777 I agree
Good for you. For me, having a lot of scientific education and a fully scientific worldview, I know that there are no higher powers. So no help coming from above.
@@hartsa you better hope your right because eternity in hell is along time to be wrong
You are helping me a lot! I think I know where my fear comes from, think I know what I am scaping from. I just have to put those fears somewhere!!!! I have to keep up working with my inner self. Thank you!
It's very refreshing this guy should be on tv like how the news is
Hey Tom, thank you for putting this together. As you were going through wooden-blocks demo came to mind at the end what is this verse: The voice of him that cries in the wilderness, Prepare the way of the LORD, make straight in the desert a highway for our God. Every valley shall be exalted, and every mountain and hill shall be made low: and the crooked shall be made straight, and the rough places plain: And the glory of the LORD shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together: for the mouth of the LORD hath spoken it. Isaiah 40:3-5
In the Father's presence there should be no loneliness. Time to call out the PennDOT guys and fix those potholes!
You have a gift for putting over what we all need to closely look at just the root Of ourselves .... thank you Tony 😉
Thank you for all the videos you make, describing theissues and solutions so logically and calmly that it gives people courage to change - myself included
People in this society reject those who they find undesirable; therefore, the undesirables have to find coping mechanism to relieve their pain, whether it be positive or negative.
Thank you for sharing 🙏
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Wow, this hits the nail on the head for me. Thank you I live fear driven not a passion purpose driven life. I've always felt like I don't belong. I think the root is emotional childhood neglect. I have been trying to do that inner work for years now but its hard. I will keep trying to claim joy instead of living in this constant fear of abandonment and sleepwalking through my life.
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So I have to say I thought this was a good video but as other people have mentioned it really didn't get to the point of taking any kind of action. So I would recommend going on the internet and investigating this guy because he's going to try to sell you a program. I do agree that fear is a big factor in many physical ,emotional and chronic pain. For that I would recommend to work of dr. John Sarno and other doctors and therapists that are teaching doctor Sarno's work. Steve Ozanich is also recommended. Another thing is I'm not giving up my coffee! Good luck!
The thing is you just need to stop doimg it
Thanks
I don't mind him selling a course. We all need to make a living. But he doesn't seem to give us any answers at all to entice us to buy the course. lol
Dr. John Sarno is phenomenal!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for recommending him!
@@in2wishin you're very welcome. Also there is a podcast called crushing doubt who are the dr. Dan Ratner. You should definitely check that one out as well
Absolutely amazing very thankful for you having the courage to speak on this important subject that we all seem to suffer from within this superficial society!
You are welcome! Thanks for sharing your appreciation!
Fantastic insights. I just love your deep commitment towards improving our lives. God bless you ❤️
I absolutely love this. Thank you for this gift. It was great. 💗
So far this is the best thing I ever came across about loneliness. Looking for the other 4 (or 3?) videos now
correct me if i am wrong but a lot of bla bla and not getting to the "root" of the problem.
This guy is a master of avoiding the subject. He constructs a lot of topics and upload new videos to lure new subscribers for his channel but never giving them the straight answer to solve their problems.
That's because of the character of the person.
Some people really want to help others while others want to speculate and take advantage on their problems.
He gives so much information in this video, so you can do two things; Focus on what you can learn from it, or focus on what's "missing". And that goes for life in general 🙏
I need friends, not distractions! How do I find like-minded people without spending tons of money! The fear comes from SOCIETY finding replacements, not friends. People have disconnected from each other now. What suggestions to you have for our world to start communicating again? Please give me the right directions for finding joyful people like myself...can you give me suggestions?
Hi Suzie 👋 my goal has been trying to find like minded people, friends on same level of life. I feel like I try, but don't try too hard. It's almost as if people have lost connection, conversation abilities. It's difficult to get people to interact. Would you like to be a pin pal? I can tell you what I've tried by trial and error.
I've said that before SuzieQ Wonder.
Now I say: I don't need friend. I need to be my own friend in the "very first place". That's the way to attract the people who I want to have next to me. Not to "get" from them, but "to share" with them.
SuzieQ Wonder, I believe that you speak truth - We need friends. This vid shared a view (and process) that was also correct, other than the "answer" - (that part comes via a "course") and True Freedom only comes from Jesus and He already paid Full Price for it!!! I could hear your heart, in that, you desire an answer for the world. What a treasure and a Beautiful thing. Imagine that,... a person who actually cares, a rarity indeed. You have a good heart. We yearn (and have been created) for a connection that can Only be fulfilled by The Father, Through His Holy Spirit. There is No Fear, In The Love of God. The like minded part, in your desire for a friend is a tricky portion. This (in my humble opinion) requires a level of Trust and Belief - in God (and His timing) that only comes from a place of intimacy, from his presence - that we know "Him" as friend (most importantly) FIRST. I doubt that you will ever read this, but on the outside chance that you do - please know that I'm in prayer for you - to find a few Honest and True friends that have yeilded and surrendered themselves to Jesus as their Lord and Savior. It's from that place that all Blessings flow. As The Father reminds them of their True Spiritual Identity in Him, they are affirmed (the plan of God all along) of their Sonship or Daughterhood - In The Father and the deep healing of many wounds (of life's pains, hurts & habits) ensues. From that Healing and Wholeness - Faith, Hope and Love arise. True Joy is a Gift of The Lord that comes from His presence. I pray that you meet friends who are Brave enough to share that gift (in this day & age) because, the intentionality of such shared Beautiful Gifts (from the Heart of God) is that His Gifts and His Love is Always "others centered" and are very much meant to be Shared and Enjoyed with others from the infilling of The Holy Spirit of Love Himself and from that overflow. I Believe that "Holy" highlighted your desire for a friend as a way to reconnect (you) with His Heart. Friends are Blessings from God, they become family. You have been created for a Great Plan and a Wonderful Purpose for such a time as this. God Bless you sister. I Speak Life and Peace over you - (your spirit, your body and your soul.) Peace. Be Still and Know that Jesus Is Lord. I share this, In The Mighty Name of Jesus. Be Blessed. Amen.
I agree ! I had what I thought was family . Grown children & grandkids . Very very busy job . Long story but kids were just using me & left me alone ! I have no one now !
Honestly, I have only stumbled upon your account recently and I want to say that I am very appreciative of the way you help me understand and teach from a visual learning point of view. Truly appreciate the videos you create.
Thank you very much for this video! I’ve recently been caught up in using different things to distract that whole and I noticed it’s been making things worse for me not only with my mind but with my physical health as well and it’s becoming so draining. I’m so happy I’ve been led to this video! I’m ready to take that step and solve the root problem once and for all 🙏🏾❤️
Wow! Have heard a ton of inspirational, motivational, encouraging messages, sermons. Have listened to counselors & psychologists. This has been the best & most informational video. Really appreciate you making this video! Grew up in a dysfunctional home myself & unfortunately going through a very toxic divorce. We both have issues & when things were great they were awesome, but when they were bad they were awful. Went to counseling for a few years individually & collectively and it just didn't work. Used exercise & writing as distractions. Now using alcohol as well to escape. Still haunted by the things she has either text or said to me that is extremely hurtful. Blaming me for everything--- essentially a borderline personality disorder/narcissistic traits vs my co dependent traits = toxic environment/trauma bond. As miserable as I was in the marriage I find myself as bad or worse now with the exception of not having to walk on eggshells. Sad how someone can discard you after emotionally abusing you. All this information although valuable I can't seem to implement. Still exercising myself to death trying to escape, working 45-50 hours & drinking. I know I need to stop the drinking. Have essentially not family & very few friends to vent to. Everyone gets tired of hearing it & I don't blame them. Wish I could just suck it up & move forward. Never experienced panic attacks, a dark depression & anxiety like this. Trying to feel grateful for what I do have as opposed to what I don't have. To all those who can halfway relate to my story I sincerely hope you have solid family/friends to get you through
Michael Gholson -
I'm right there with you! No family and few friends. That's a consequence of being codependent. Doing things for other people with the expectation of being liked and accepted only makes others (who are predominantly narcissistic in the world) disrespect us. Then we are confused. That confusion makes us angry and our anger (i.e. the resulting behavior of holding people accountable for hurting us) gives all those freaking narcissists more ammunition to consider themselves the victims and treat us horribly!
I have complex post traumatic stress from a 22 year abusive marriage...so I'm constantly in hyper-vigilant mode to protect myself. because of this -
I was accused recently of "hating everyone". As with all information, it is first necessary (even though it hurts) to ask ourselves if it is at all true. So I did a bit of an investigation into that. I learned that the most loving and most hopeful persons are (in fact) easily angered. Hope drives anger/rage. Which makes sense because when we hope for something and work toward it - we expect good things. Since narcissists always repay good with evil we are constantly disappointed. I learned (in my research) that "Under every angry person you will find an eternal optimist". So, the statement that I hate everyone is simply not true - but the results understandably look that way.
This is the way it is with most of us. We are odd because we choose win/win relationships in a world where others demand us to loose!
One thing I know is that we cannot depend on anyone outside of ourselves to 'get us through'. We are totally on our own to heal this hurt/loneliness - and I'm determined to do it!
I grew up in an Australian home with cycling domestic violence that often became criminal domestic violence lasting for 35 years. Being the eldest sibling I took the responsibility to assist my mother while not letting my father figure out that I was not totally loyal to him. Eventually my mother left the marriage, changed her name and went into hiding after all of her children had left home. For three years after the father stalked, blackmailed, intimidated my siblings and by this time three of us had our own children who were also involved. He lied to police trying to destroy careers as retribution for not being successful in returning our mother to him. He eventually held one brother and his girlfriend at their farm home with a sawn-off shotgun for over 30 hours. He eventually went to prison for 6 years although escaped for one week in the first year of his sentence. The police would not charge him for the many other crimes he committed towards my mother and after a 10 year campaign which also involved court cases against my mother who had tried to shoot him with a black market pistol, but was found not guilty on the grounds of self defence. The media got hold of this story since most domestic violence victims don't usually avoid long sentences when they finally stand up for themselves. The Barrister used his connections with state parliament to have questions put to the police minister and we started our own private prosecution against our father. Because of the 10 year campaign of fighting the police and DPP (department of public prosecutions) I had complex PTSD. Out of embarrassment the police Ethical standards unit took on the case and after a long court battle he was to serve 17 years with a non parole period of 10 years. He died in gaol on the 11th of September 2015, I was 48 years of age. It had taken me 7 years to find a doctor willing to help me with my PTSD. I have made good progress but I still cannot let go of the trauma or memories. I also had a very messy divorce in 2010 from a narcissistic wife. I liked being married when I was married. I prefer not being married now and I cannot look forward to my daughters wedding in a months time because of the broken family I now have and the fact I have to be in the same place as the ex-wife. It will not be comfortable. I cannot spend time with my siblings because they avoid each other and me because of the triggers we set off when we interact. I have two friends but the relationships have limitations (one due to distance and the other because of personality for her own domestic abuse) that are unfulfilling. I only have two friends because I lost connection with my older friends while living in hiding after my mother left her marriage in 2000. I was better while the family cat of 18 years was still alive but she died in my arms on the 1st of August 2018. I still cannot get over her loss. I am more lonely than ever. I lack energy and drive. My work place has become toxic because of a narcissistic principal who the staff call Teflon because nothing sticks to him and I was targeted by him. I am totally lost and only feel comfortable when I am stoned. I gave up for 1.5 years with the doctors help but after the cat died I fell back on the weed I really enjoy. I can cry at the drop of a hat. I am a comedian while at work but I am never truly happy. I have a science degree, I am a thinker or overthinker. But I cannot seem to fully heal. I don't know what to do. I am not suicidal but life is a chore to me. I don't know how to heal and move on now that the malignant narcissist/ sociopathic father is gone. I do not have a solid family of friends to lean on. I have collected some nice toys to play with (motorbikes and custom cars) but lack the drive to play with them on my own. With such ingrained psychological issues I don't think I can do the necessary healing on my own. The search for the right help goes on. This video was good information to identify that I need to do more but it falls short on how to do it.
this is my life right now too…desperate to heal and not go through this pain anymore.
Sounds like you need to give yourself a break. You're working extremely hard, in fact, I think you're kinda working yourself to death here, 😥.
I think you should focus less on "doing more", and you should probably focus more on what you "already do". I think the answer is to just BE AWARE of yourself as you do all these AMAZING things you already do to make life better.
I think that YOU'RE RIGHT, it's gratitude and appreciation, and I think that you're owed a lot of gratitude, love, affection, and attention; But nobody ever gave you what you need without a price tag attached.
I feel scared too, and I feel hopeless and numb inside. Everything I just said to you I was also saying to myself, because I felt that overwhelming desperation to just fill the hole inside of yourself in your comment...
Everything's gonna be ok, 😁. I think we've done so much, and are doing so much, that it's time to reap the rewards we've been so doggedly and determinedly been sowing.
I think it's time to let go, and just let ourselves be ENOUGH. It's time to just enjoy our own company and be PRESENT, 😉🤗
This is really beautiful and true. Thank you. 🙏
Awesome! I was truly enlightened by your presentation. I have been struggling with painful memories of the past that have kept me in a state of lonliness. I am trying to heal myself from my painful past through pray and meditation. I follow Louis Hay and I listen to her self love affirmations videos. Thank you for sharing this information ❤❤❤❤❤
Seeing my mum develop schizophrenia when I was 5 years old onwards made me feel lonely, she let go of my hand and continued walking out of sight..
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Very good information and presented very well...Thankyou
YOU are a spiritual genious! A true gift from God. So thankful for you.
Did you do his course?
Very insightful, feels like a key to unlocking a lot of pain and anxiety from within.
Thank you endlessly Tom ❤️
Thanks for the explanation! :) it's very good!
You are welcome and thanks!
Just what I needed , someone to explain what has been going on with me. and how I can resolve it. Thank you so muck now maybe I can get a good night sleep for once . I'm in a long distance relationship it is very stressful were at times I don't see my lady for a long time.. but I love this woman very much and would like very much for it to work out. we both been down some rough roads and its hard for me to trust anyone anymore . creating anxiety and jealousy in me , then in return causing me to loose a lot of sleep. I need to put this to bed once and for all. so I can be at peace once and for all. . Thank you so much. I have felt so broken. Steven D.
thank you so much for making this video!
This video made me realise that I give wayy to much time to others and not enough to myself, going to start turning my phone off every evening at 8pm and checking it less so I can have more time for my mind to rest and to charge my social battery, thank you so much for this video and for your channel, it really is free therapy x :)
I be your friend if you want:) we can be just friends without any other intentions, just friends, I'm not asking you this because you are a girl, I'm actually have no one except my family and it's totally fine if you don't want to, I'm just asking that's all.
Great advices, simply explained too and great muscles!
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oh wow, this is so spot on. thank you for this!!
You are welcome Dawn!
The whole planet sooner or later will have low self esteem due to smartphone syndrome... believe it or not...
And you posted this from paper?
@@treeman47 he means everyone including himself smartass
@@karimsalami5136 that was a joke there.
Not when we take advantage of our phones to properly educate ourselves
And you're the only one with healthy self esteem, because you never go online, right??
The absolute best explanation of loneliness.
Thank you 🌟
I haven't been able to sleep all night and been feeling very anxious...just ur voice calmed me down...thank u
A lot of lonely people are missing the skills to find and maintain social connections due to childhood isolation or neglect and we have 0 meaningful solutions for someone who missed out on that. On top of that the feeling of being abandoned as a child makes something so much larger than just a little fear- a primal part of our brain and our psychological development is arrested at a stage where abandonment = mortal danger.
🤯The best video ever!!! Thanks for this!
Wow, thanks! I'm glad is serves you this way Shade! Thanks for sharing your enthusiasm! If you like this make sure to watch the 4 fundamental videos which build upon this insights @ www.alive-academy.com. Enjoy your complete liberation process!
Alive Academy yes thank. Already on a Day 2🙏🏾
Brilliant. Thank you. Fear, the master manipulator. 👍 I am terribly grateful for you shedding the light on this.
Thank you so much for the video. It is very educational, informative and almost scientific. It gives me a solid concrete solution to the root of my constant feeling of unfulfillment that is to face those unresolved feelings and pain to overcome fear.
Thank you for being a wonderful speaker. Your message is very clear and easy to understand.
GOD is my answer to bridge that gap. So glad I found HIM, in the name of JESUS. ❤
Amen
Amen
Jesus isn’t god
Only Jesus can say, "I will never leave you nor forsake you". Accept Him into your heart and ask Him to help you live for Him.
Perfect,unknown is scary.not easy to find friends these days❤❤❤
I fully understand you .I like your animation and the wooden blocks. I have dyslexia so it’s good for me .thanks
thanks..this is exactly what I need
Thank you for sharing
It is relieving to see why we are doing what we are doing. Fear is the opposite frequency of love and essential for our survival in this life therefore should be experienced in moderation I suppose. We need fear in moderation to keep our awareness for life's challenges so we proceed towards our unique development. However, when we forget about what we are doing on this earth 'tools' become 'goals' and 'utilities' become 'purpose of the life' and in no time we become needy to numb ourselves with alcohol, weed, drugs, etc. Thanks for spreading awareness.
Excellent video!
The drive to resolve the unsolved pain seems to derive directly from the fight-or-flight mechanism. Yet, if one stood and fought every time the conflict arises seems to have the potential to unwind in the most dreadful of ways including getting fired, getting murdered, or becoming a hated soul. What is your take now, My Dear & Trusted Alive Academy Professor?
Otherwise, it sounds like Gautama’s path to enlightenment.
It also gives me a better appreciation of psychopaths and sociopaths.
He will tell us to watch those 4 videos and every video we watch tells us to join his programme.. If he really understood the pain we all are going through he would have not made such advertising videos. He would have directly given us the answers and came to the straight point instead of repeating things again and again. Well there are so many ways to earn Money, please do not use this way to earn money because people are already in pain and they are finding ways to deal with it.
If it helps to solve a problem I have not been able to break free from on my own, the money which may be asked for after the 4 videos, may be nothing compared to the amount of time and money spent on things that only got me deeper in the hole.
Excellent
We do need relationships and interactions with others but we should not make them as a distraction to keep us from facing our issues thank you for this informative video I do agree 100 per cent we must come to the root of our issues im trying
So basically identify the fear that causes distractions and fight it by going through it 😉
Another Great Video Tom :) Thank You for Sharing :)
You are welcome Victoria, and thanks!
Very very good. Thank you
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But what do I need to do to repair it ????? Please tell me , I am so suffering inside now
Very informative video
Everyone talks about success success success but they don't realize liberation is more important and success follows
This was a life changing explanation.
It is an eye opener for many of us. Amazing video.
Thank you! 🙏
Thank you; very helpful
This video has truly impacted my life.. Thanks alot for amazing video..
Wow that was so helpfullthankyou it gave me somw awareness xx
Great video!!
Beautiful video
Thank you
Thanks very much this is so helpful as I've got fears .
anybody joined this alive academy?
I have a big family none of them talk to me. Why
Thanks so much for this video!!
You are welcome June! Thanks for expressing your appreciation!
Hi Tom,
I watched some of your video's. You explain the difference between having succes as a distraction and having succes as a result of the pure heart. You then say: do you wanna know if your success is a distraction or not? The answer you give: if you stop doing it, and you stay peaceful and happy then it's not a distraction. My question to you: should you still be happy when you should loose your income, all your millions, your followers and your health because of a sudden physical disease? Should you still radiating your happiness and abundancy if your circumstances should change (because of for ecample an earth quake)?
U are 👌 awesome..thanks so much for the final blocks metaphor of not fixing the root problem..which most of us may even forget after learning to love the distraction..but when 🤔 it is unhealthy that should be stopped or fixed..Thanks
Sometimes we are unable to fix the whole in the road ourselves, this is when faith in God will fix the whole in the road for us, patience is required for this to happen.
hole....not whole
You are right. I have my mom dealing with her depression and I am trying to change her mind but she is very stubborn.
Thank you Tom.
Very well said.
I kept waiting and expecting him to come out with a product he was selling.... he was repeating himself so much and not getting to the point! *sigh I'm sure he merely wants to educate people/us but, he doesn't realize that the absolute smartest students often drop out because they are bored!
I agree.
@Mr D Cry out to JESUS. I used to be an atheist. But when I reluctantly cried out and started reading the WORD of GOD, I experienced a peace that surpassed my limited understanding. Now when I experience trials and tribulations, I know I can turn to our HEAVENLY FATHER for relief.
GOD IS GOOD. ❤☺ HE loves us no matter what is happening in our lives. (No longer an atheist--I prefer having someone to turn to better).🐤
Mr D inflicting pain because you feel pain will still leave you with pain. I hope you’ve found better ways to cope with your inner self.
We learn by repetition and clearly English is not his 1st language. Your criticism is very revealing.
@Mr PPE wow you are one angry person
Thank you for this insight
You are welcome Susan!
Incredibly helpful video
Thank you!
Sometimes i feel like i wasnt meant to be here, i feel theres something bad about me and i dont belong here its scary. People act a certain way around me. I feel like i dont fit anywhere, its like the butterfly affect and if i could just remove myself from all of this others, my family would be okay.
If i force myself to go out somewhere and try being arnd people it doesnt work and its like people are wary of me. I dont know what to do, i havnt got the guts to kill myself, i havnt got the guts to just let go and try to really "live". Its like im just waiting and letting time just pass each day.
Raiken Xion i love you my friend. I can relate to what you say.
Hi that's me.
💯 relatable
I have a question, I understand the distraction part and I have done that before myself, but what if the root cause isn't fear? I know my root causes and they've all been inflicted upon me by others so I can't see how I can fix this..... so what do I do? Thanks xx
The entire channel summed up into one super video. U need to hear nothing else , the choice is yours. We are still the blank slate.
I really like some of the things you say. I mean really like. But there is so much repeating and repeating and not getting to the point. The health things you talk about is probably The keto diet, which I am already doing. I would just like to het to the point more quickly.
Joanie, some folks need repetition as they tend to listen too quickly; repetition inforces learning (Be patient when you are seeking knowledge; it's taken me so very long to learn this. Thank you.). 5/2019
@@patrickryan1515 When I started reading my bible and really searching for God, I came to the realization that there is a lot of repetition in the Word of God. The repetition is a way to transform, enforce a new and better way to transform thinking. Romans 12:2 ESV Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Inner child work can help.
VERY well said 👍
Pure wisdom
So go to the emotion you have been afraid to feel yes I get that, but how do you heal it once your there suffering in feeling it
Great question, thank you for sharing 🙏🏼
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many people tend to blame others like you say in this video, they just don't want to admit the real pain or cause of it by all means