How To Deal With Loneliness - Never Feel Lonely Again!
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- Опубликовано: 7 фев 2025
- Bestselling author, Noah Elkrief, describes how to deal with loneliness in a way that will show you how to never feel lonely.
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Would you like to know how to deal with loneliness? This video will show you exactly how.
Noah Elkrief
This video is about how to deal with loneliness, and how to stop feeling lonely. If you would like to know how to cope with loneliness, you first have to understand what is causing your loneliness. In any moment that you are dealing with loneliness, what is going on in that moment? The only thing happening is thoughts telling stories about how much better life would be if you had a friend or lover. When you are distracted from those thoughts, there is no loneliness. Loneliness is not created by being alone. If it was, then every person would always feel lonely when they are alone.
In order to understand how to stop feeling lonely, you have to really understand what causes loneliness. The answer for, how to deal with loneliness, is to discover that being with others (friends or lovers) can't make you happy because it can't get rid of the thoughts in your head. When you see that being with others can't make you happy, then that means this moment isn't insufficient in any way. That eliminates the loneliness and sense of lack.
the fact that 1,200 people liked this video makes me feel a little less lonely and more connected with you guys.
same here, we should all message each other :)
skyalicejessi you lonely too?
+Vic Vinegar o my god yes. unemployment sucks. what about u??? where are u??
skyalicejessi I'm in psychology graduate school and I have a hard time dating because I have a few social difficulties and ADHD. Where are you from? I'm from St. Louis
+Vic Vinegar oic, I gave up on dating, I feel like I'll b single forever!
Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy;)...And never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.
J Junior very well said!!!
so true brother. i can totally relate. but there is illogical feeling which constantly have urge to talk to her even though she treat me as an option.
Wow is like you knew how i was feeling. 😵
Thank you so much for affirming this thought to me at just the right time
@@abhaysinghrajpurohit2641 that's because you don't value yourself as much as you should yet. Once you recognize that you and your time is valuable, you're not going to just allow the same people to continuously hurt you. You will remove them out of your life because you deserve pure happiness. Even though you think having them in your life is what make you happy, they don't deserve to be apart of your life if they don't see your worth. THEY ARE TOXIC FOR YOU!
Does anyone else feel that if you were born in a different generation, or different part of the Earth you'd be happier and have more excitement in life?
Edit 3 years later 2020! Since making this comment I have learned that you have to make the best of ANY situation you’re in, we are here for a reason. So find a higher purpose and you’ll never be lonely
Yes, but... it's not gonna happen I think ._.
I feel like I don't belong here and i have a desire to be somewhere else ,free ,but Ik it's impossible which liipsnright back to being lonely,......i just want to be saved and no one quite understands that....i just want to be saved,yet idk who I am
all the time
i feel you but you think life is hard on you ? i live in Africa yet i'm able to make myself happy whenever i want regardless of the conditions :) its all in your head as Noah said
yes I have felt exactly that way
It's hard bc in school you see everyone having fun and being happy while you stand aside its rlly hard
Monika Baric i know the feeling. When i see people like that i get a pit in my heart and then i feel like crying
Mhmm
90 more years.
I know, even though i do have friends I just still feel so lonely even with them
RubyRosella yeah I’m usually strong hearted but it’s just that last time I get and insulted or excluded, a girl stopped talking to me cuz her BFF wasn’t interested with talking to me
When you have this feeling like you've lost everything, here's what you'll always have :
- Books
- Kindness from strangers
- Languages to learn
- Music
- Animals to pet
- Voluntary work
- Good nights of sleep
- Season changes
- Endless new things to learn
- Thousands of people to meet and love
- Thousands of people who'll love you back.
+Lou Anna well music does help...not so sure about the other points...also cant have pets have to go to college....so cant leave them alone....
gursimar singh Focus on the positive, you have much more than you think you have. it might not seem like it but everything gets better at some point... Every little thing's gonna be alright, Bob Marley said it
Lou Anna well I do try my best.... Thanks for the kind words BTW...
+Nightcore Plague I actually really like reading but for some reason the idea of reading while feeling like that just makes it sound more depressing.
+Nightcore Plague I actually really like reading but for some reason the idea of reading while feeling like that just makes it sound more depressing.
I get jealous when people say they went to eat/movies with a group of friends bc I wish I was too. Or at least find one true friend where we match. I'm not looking for a lover. But I do thank you for the video bc a big part has to do with the negative thoughts about myself :(
Same....I get really upset and jelouse.....
@@zo3651 why be jealous? You can make some friends. Just get out there and don't give up. Look at all of these people on here (me too!). I'm gonna do what he's saying over thanksgiving (while I'm alone) and be happy dang it. But being jealous is just another bad feeling that they have what you can't and it's not true. We just need to edit our habits.
@@JuniperTreeee tysm❤
I have really struggled with loneliness ever since primary school, and as I got to my early 20's its got so bad, because I don't have friends or a partner, its really effected my life and I've bee to counselling so many times and spoken to people and Its just got to a point I felt so tortured inside because no one understands, but this video is literally how my mind works, FINALLY someone understands, and it gave me a reality check and literally changed my life. thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.
Samia Rockson You're welcome Samia, thanks for sharing with me. Glad it helped
same no joke this stuff is deep I lost my dog to fleas my grandma cancer and all my old friends had to move😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😞😞😞😞😞
+Dominic C I'm sorry
same but it's nothing with school
I also feel bad 4 u
I wish parents were this compassionate.
same
BenisseC M F:Yes, but they are mostly wounded adult children themselves. myrelationship with my Mother improved, as I dare to calmly say what I felt: I hate you when you spew gall like that". I was fearful to have said that, hate being a taboo feeling for me. To my delight and surprise, I heard her calm, honest accepting reply from the other rooom: Yes, I understand that" . We sadly rarely meet, but can talk on the phone. And you?
look up narcisstic parents
Claudia Bothner That's great :)
Same here
I just want to say to all the people who feel the same, I give you a huge hug. You are not broken ♥ I've always felt lonely... it's really horrible esp when you have depression and anxiety.
But I promise you're not alone, you're not 'pathetic' and it's not your fault to be feeling this way.
You are not alive to only feel like you're loved by a lot of people. You are the only one you have, so start by feeling comfortable with yourself and you'll start building more relationships as time passes. good luck
too bad it's too late for some of us. I don't even know what's wrong with me but I can never accept any invites of anybody being my friend sense I am so use to not having anybody who cares or wants to be around me. For example when me and some other people were camping (NJROTC camping) I went on a bible study with a couple people and everyone was crying which I didn't get because they have friends who care and share feelings while I was their still feeling lonely. Everyone was hugging each other and I was just sitting alone. The only person who hugged me was the kid who gave the bible study. And he has friends. I don't get what is wrong with me. My people I know with so many friends are sad and I SEE Them freaking talking to THEIR FRIENDS who can help them. I had to take on everything in my own mind because I have nobody.
how did i get invited by friends? the kid who started the bible study made an announcement. nobody came to me and said hey you want to go. I went by my self. next time don't assume things that are not true. Also you have friends so please shut up you don't know what you are talking about.
"You say nobody cares yet get invited by friends?"
you plain out said I had friends. so yea you did. so yeah you do have no idea what you are talking about you spoiled jerk. try not to be so condescending.
your dp pic makes me happy
Thank you for that message. I've become so alone the last 2 years and today my parents left on a 9 day trip. I've been feeling so so so depressed since learning they'd be leaving. it's gotten so bad, I'm taking my dog to their vacation house (hopefully) this weekend only for 1 day! 3 hour drive down and 3 hour drive back just so I can be around people. But I am willing to do that so I am not alone for 9 days straight. Just sucks we have 2 dogs and the one is to old to come so I'd need to drop him at the dog sitter but haven't heard back from her yet. Hopefully I can get down to the vacation house this weekend, I really need people around me :( :(
the comment section made me feel like i have 2000 friends. thank you, i hope you all find happiness soon.
Yes
I came here from typing "lonely" because yeah I AM lonely. I've been struggling with it since I was a kid. I do have several friends but most of them changed because they have found new friends which are more likely to give happiness more than I do. It's not that they forget about me but still, they made progress in their life while I'm still stuck in the same spot. I feel like I am left behind. I think that's what makes me lonely. It's so painful even more because nobody can understand this feeling. But after seeing this video (actually reading the comments) I feel better and not to miserable. I know I just have to try more. It's hard but I hope one day I can be successful. Anyway thanks :):):)
+pink thunder thankyouu, so glad that someone can finally understand me (: but sorry I only have this youtube channel
I am crying cuz I'm lonely I'm at my mom's boyfriends house and for some reason I feel lonly... I don't have my pets with me nor a TV :( I'm still crying cuz I'm so lonely
+pink thunder yeah.. Now that I've found a person with the same situation as me, I do feel stronger:) We can do it! Feel free to talk to me here when you have any problem:)
+mlp lover 3000 Aww what happened? Go talk to me here if you want, I hope that way I can help you to at least feeling better:) I'm sorry for the late reply:(
My girlfriend died and I know I'll be really lonley. I have no friends and now that she's gone.. I even thought of killing myself 😢 I don't know what to do with life
why do these type of kind hearted people which I can see in comment session never met me in real life 😥
Bad luck I think but don't worry I have the same luck
mood..it's not fair..then again what is..this all sucks to shit (sorry fro my language) honestly i probably am broken.
Yash Pednekar you haven’t met anyone in real life only because it can be dangerous
I know right
Exactly
I dont know what my problem is im just tired of living
same bro
I feel you
i think i should tell u this when i watched an anime, this sentence was really meaning to me “even when times get dark and painful, people should feel lucky to be alive at all"
i'm not gonna give advices but i just wanna show u another look of people's lives and how meaningful they are so dont just think about negative things :)))) let's try to think about joyful others :))
Little Girl s
Charles: MAybe tired of living your old life+ what about changing it and you, exploring a new level? i feel similar, and have understood it's not tiredness of life itself, but of the life I have LED and tired of not being connected with myself snd my life.
I am incredibly proud of everyone in the comment section just for being brave and vulnerable. It’s a beautiful thing to see humanity in this light. I’m struggling to let go of so much pain from being in abusive relationships, friends that just ask to borrow money, my family not being healthy and me knowing the best thing to do is be alone but its hard and makes me sad. I cant stop trying though I’m just hoping one day I can be happy and at peace.
I am as well in childhood trauma, I have to look into my family of narcissistic an learn the ways because they are Hod children I had no contact with them for almost 3 years my mom sick an my sister has stage 4 cancer ! I look at it today even when you sick we refuse let Satan go! It was the perfect pic to see to day not fall into the trap of Satan not to go back where I was with them but keep focus on me an stand tall though lonely times ! I had recycle now I left home shelter a year ago got car apt an realize after losing my job I did it all wrong! I carried old habits with me that I did not realize was habit but to late I ate out of loneliness a lot sugar to take it away! Not sure where is I go but not back to family to dedrain myself but to find more self love an love them but never putting any one before myself! Sister got cancer stage 4 but still smokes an drinks I know pain she going though we both molelasted by our step father I know because my walk with Christ she still does not want remember I will say! I love her will be by her side but I come first ! Keep your head high we going make it
not having people around you makes you feel like you're unworthy of being loved. feeling loved makes you happy.
Yep......really man you know I learned something truly valuable a few days ago I went out with my sister and one of her friends you know what fucking kills me dude ? People don't hate me her friend cool didn't have a problem with me I could easily be friends with her but I fucking hate myself I take every good thing anyone says or does and twist it to use it to fucking hate myself more I'm fucking done I am sick of being a lonely fuck with no friends who sits around hating himself while they will never know it they just on that one few hours of hanging out taught me something I can make friends people don't fucking hate me I hate me and I put myself down night after night thinking no one would give a fuck if I shot myself. I'm done being a selfish self hating lazy fuck I can do whatever anyone else can fucking do. Well shit now I owe a debt to her for making me realize my self worth I will repay that one day. After all we all go through fucked up times and need a hand right ? You have a good fucking night cause after I stop man crying like a bitch I sure as jack shit will! It's a new fucking day. One new debt one new idea. This is going to be a good fucking night
Le Lo but are you loving yourself?
Zeinab Sharqi hell yea I love my lonely ass
Le Lo me
+Fractured Dawn Mann... I've learnt a lot from reading that, God bless u.
It's hard being single when everyone has someone one but you
Right single 6 years and my 2 friends have gfs and I'm the single one it sucks.
Single for 10 years here
Laura Cortez Hang in there, kiddo. Better days are coming.
Trust me when I say finding a significant other isn’t going to solve everything. It’s even worse when you’re in a relationship and still feel lonely
Just because others have hooked up doesn’t mean that they’re happy. There’s nothing worse than being lonely in a relationship.
You have a hypnotic calmness in your voice, expressions, body language... I don't know whether its temporary or permanent BUT I am feeling better after watching this video... and for that THANK YOU! ........
You don"t know what what loneliness is. It's very real. I was married for 30 years when my partner suddenly left the marriage. I been alone for 8 years now. Have no family or friends. The loneliness I feel everyday. Loneliness is very overwhelming.
I hope you are doing better. Time heals.
Sorry but a lot people feel this way including me
I’m sorry to hear about that. Hope things are doing even a little better now
Oh brother how I can relate. I was married for 31 years and then I came home and everything was gone. The guy came to my door after I realized everything was empty and was given divorce papers. My ex moved out of state with my children and my children now refused to talk to me. There was no abuse in the marriage I had a job for the entire marriage, was always faithful, my wife did not have to work and if she did work the money was hers. All that time effort and devotion, and nothing to show for it. Hang in there brother.
@@SabbathSOG if you are surviving such history you are an inspiration to me
Noah Elkrief. Your rational thinking is simple, precious and unique. Most of us look far away while they can't see what is in between their legs. Honestly ur videos worth billions of dollars.
Yeah man! Ideas worth money nowadays.
Mow Modern haha thanks, glad you liked the video
This is one of the best videos I think I’ve ever watched in my whole entire life. The immediate relief of sadness is indescribable. I just woke up and not feeling great at all just laying here silently with tears heavily flowing out of my eyes down my face and all over my pillow. I really am not up for today. No one’s knows because I NEVER ever talk about it I’m busy making sure I’m a positive person at all times. I’m sort of relieved now. I will watch this every morning …and while I’m My daily walk. I’m about to go head on my walk . I’m going to go head on my walk now. Thank you. I hope everyone here Finds peace . We ALL deserve it and will be at peace one day. ❤️
I'm so glad it helped you so much!
Almost started crying when listening to this... This calm and friendly voice and that friendly caring face saying words of wisdom... thank you for this video, thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Noah - Your videos have opened up my mind in a way that no therapy or medication ever has. I'm blown away at how powerful and effective what you are saying has been for me. Thank you so much!
Thank u so much... I spent almost 15 yrs of my life being alone... The fact that I started living with the loneliness and I even enjoyed that.... But when she came to my life I felt like I can live a life with someone and I cant be alone anymore and now when she has left me. its very difficult for me to concentrate on everything and I am feeling like I cant live a life alone any more. But thanks to U that U have just showed me the way to live again and I dont need anyone to be happy... Seems like I m born to be alone..... I just have to accept it again that I can be happy even without having a love interest in my life.... Thank u so much... I am feeling better now....
Jason Otto j
swagat dash Shit, looks like someone wrote by me, it's the same I always feel since she left me
Your situation is a lot like mine. swagat. I feel much better now that I have seen this video.
I feel very lonely too. I've locked myself up in a room for almost a week untill today I finally found the courage to go out for a walk in the city. One of the first things I noticed was there were others sitting alone on benches, terraces, etc... It made me feel a little bit less lonely and more at ease with myself in less then 30 minutes. The sun was shining, so that felt good too. I kept walking and tried to force myself to smile at other people, make eye contact, or just say hello to someone. But I couldn't do it because I have so much social anxiety and low self esteem and I couldnt look at other people's eyes for over a second. Plus most of them just avoided eye contact. But then something weird happened. All of a sudden, out of all those people walking around in this shopping street, this older women which I had never even seen coming, stops me dead in my tracks in front of me and she says 'hello'. So I'm like, euh... yeah? hello...and I smile at her. She smiles back at me and walks away and that was that. Then this wave of pure happiness came over me. Somehow that 2-3 second event completely made my day. Out of all those people out there this women picked me out to say 'hello' to. It's hard to describe what I felt next, but it almost felt like God does exist, and he saw how I was struggling with my loneliness and he sent her my way to acknowledge me.
your not alone man, i get it in fact most people watching this vid are here for the same reasons has you and i
I'm mentally incapable of being happy while alone. I absolutely believe life isn't worth much to me if it isn't spent with good company.
me too
Money Man I feel the exact same
Tamera Lewis
I always end up lonely, all of my friends find someone better to be with and I just notice they will never come back again and I dont know why if I am a good and kind person who has so much love to give why do they leave or replace me with someone else.Am I not enough for them?If that is the case i dont know what they want me to be.
Diana Villanueva Guerrero im going through the same thing. My self esteem is extremely low because I feel like its me. Lonliness is not fun allll the time.
I don‘t know how many times i‘ve watched this video... whenever I feel lonely I watch this video and then feel better and when the loneliness comes back I watch it again
Noah is BRILLIANT! Clarification is effective! All I can say is, “Thank you for helping me in such a significant way!”
I have friends but I'm alone most the time and I feel like that's what gets me. I feel like no one would blink if I died tomorrow, no one would visit me if I was in a coma. I feel like everyone would forget me or never recognize me. I also realized that I don't love anything or anyone and I want Someone to Chang that.....
I'm almost 20 and I'm struggling
Lost I feel the same exact way! if I died tonight no one would blink!
The way out of loneliness is a difficult one. It is like a trap, or a group of traps. You must first find what it is that you need from others (companionship, conversation, care, etc.) and then seek out how to go and fetch it. You must first, however, realie, that it is not because of who you are. It is much more complicated than that.
the same :(
Lost me too, dont worry all I say to my self is that people are having worse than me right now and I try to keep going throught life even tho I am sad down the majority of the time but trust me there is always something good in the end so get rid of the thoughts and do what makes you happy even if you do it alone, I sit in the toilets at school and listen to music and draw or do rubiks cubes that makes me happy even though I am alone at school just be ur self and ignore hate and thoughts do your favourite things and do it alone theres nothing wrong with that or you. hope this helped u a bit
In my view, this is the most insightful and helpful video anywhere on RUclips. I purchased Noah's book and it resonates personally with how I think -- or overthink things, especially in the area of loneliness. I now spend part of every day reading Noah's writings and watching his videos. He is a gentle genius who knows exactly what to say to help you.
You are really my RUclips therapist 😢thank youuuuuuui I feel better now I realized that’s why ! Yes
his voice feels healing and calming...so steady and assuring.
I'd give you a big hug if I could, Noah. First you calmed me when I was feeling extreme anxiety about a new job, and now you've helped me understand the feeling of loneliness that I've had for the past 13 years, since graduating high school. Thank you so much.
I think I'm depressed,and all I wAnt in life is freedom(not suicide) I want to go on long walks outside maybe at evening or go expire because it makes me happy but I can't,then I get pushed back to being lonely and depressed I'm stuck in an endless cycle and all I want to do is be saved......i have been fighting for years and I'm still trying,it's hard...i just want be saved
explore*
keep trying. and keep trying something new. never give up
nobody-nothing can save you, you are the only one who can save yourself
Never give up
Try your best!! We are the same and i'm trying my best to get a better life so let's try with me. i believe oneday all of us (people the same with us) could find out our appropriated way and dont have to bear these hateful feelings. Let's try together. Never give up!!!
(sorry if u dont understand, my english is bad :((( but anyways we gonna try try & tryyy 💪💪😉😉
One of the smartest approaches to loneliness, thank you for sharing...
I feel every year so lonely and sad on the new year when you supposed to celebrate with friends...
74 videos in a nutshell: Don't believe your thoughts.
Amazing how many of us do.
I hope you're being sarcastic. I found your comment really funny. :)
Muhammad Adil It's the simple truth, isn't that funny right? We all have different perspectives but at the end of the day it's only a thought.
I thought you to be sarcastic when you said 74 videos in a nutshell. You just summarized the entire channel in 4 words. That is funny to me.
Shibo
You have these thoughts for a reason
You need to have sex reproduce and have children so your genes can survive
Thank you so much for reproaching me. I'm glad you exist and helped me! Jesus/God Bless you! ❤
I am so damaged that when someone treats me nice. I dont know what to do. I love this video. One in a kind
Simple and comforting. It feels like a loving dad is talking to me
Just want to come in here and say after watching the video I felt like he was speaking directly to me because I have always dealt with negative thoughts about myself. 2020 has been one hell of a year for us all. For me personally my wife decided to separate after 16 years of being together we were high school sweethearts and for the first time in my life at 33 I'm having to navigate life without a partner. It is videos like this that give me hope! To everyone out there I want to say you may be alone such as I but we are not alone in this struggle of life, May we find peace and happiness!
How are you doing now Jeremy? I hope you’re recovering. X
@@wardygrub Well it’s been five months since the separation and I still have my days but I am healing. One thing that is helping me is doing things for myself like eating much better and exercising. Getting out of the house and staying busy. Even though 2020 knock me down I’m optimistic about the future. Thank you stranger for asking. Hope you have a good day!
@@jgilbert29803 hey, glad to hear you are being kind to yourself. At 33 you are still very young so, get better and get back into dating. You are a good soul, I can tell and you deserve to be cherished. Keep going buddy. X
Not lonely anymore since watching your videos Noah.
I am a "loner." I enjoy solitude. I recently decided that anxiety (fear) about certain situations was boring me to death. (It's like a friend who continually tells the same story.)
You have helped me immensely, young man. Thank you.
Noah is so good! This girl I met online stops all those terryfing existencial thoughts I have. Now I know why I love spending time with her and having her in my life - she takes soo much of my mental time that I feel at peace knowing that I have her, she cares after me and that I will meet her in the future
There is someone who can actually attract the person you love and your soulmate to you. Believe me it works very fast!
He's the same man that helped me attract my lover back , his name is Dr Steve, he can help you out too.
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I was recently diagnosed with perniosis and my girlfriend left me. I dont have any real friends and im extremely depressed, i wake up everyday with my hands and feet turning purple and it is very painful. But i would overcome the pain to just type in Noah Elkrief because truthfully these videos are SO helpful, and they make me feel alot better about myself. thank you noah your such a great person.
This video almost made me cry. It hit so many things I've never been able to explain to people. I feel a weird sense of relief I haven't had before with this way of thinking.
I’m just wasting so much of the prime of my life because I can’t make any real connections with the people around me.
I feel this
If your reading this. You are loved. You are of value.
May god bless you
I'm not lonely but I feel lonely and I feel like nobody cares
I love being alone but lately I’ve feeling bored and empty. I feel isolated and disconnected and I lost my Mom a little over a year ago and I also don’t have a vehicle at this time. I believe to a large extent what you are saying, however I do not deny that people and relationships with others as well as involved belonging and participation makes a HUGE difference in our day to day happiness. Thank you for all your help and thank you for understanding. God bless you!!! ❤
Negative, hurtful comments from others or dealing with other people who irritate and drain you is not happiness.
I met an old "friend" recently and it was the worst experience I've had in quite some time. If you don't agree with everything they say-- this is a cause for anger in them??! That's ridiculous.
Another person was verbally abusive. Why? I have no idea. A lot of times, I do not share the same values or interests or morals and it becomes uncomfortable. I don't dislike the other people but there isn't a strong enough reason to be with them either.
I feel tortured by my presence
wow, thats very poetic
Don't be hard on urself dear
i do to because ive hurt others
Same
Literally how I feel
This video is literally the most realistic advice on loneliness I have seen on youtube.
simply thanks for being so postive and sharing it with others
***** You're welcome jechero
To the end of the video I started to cry.. from feeling happy ant that I’m not alone.. Huge thanks for this video!
When I went to 6th grade I felt loneliness because my friends would always do stuff without me and I would find out from social media.i would just stay at home crying my eyes out.I'm still doing this to this day.😰😭
It doesn't help that I'm an only child too.It's just me and my mom
Indiyah Sidhartha that happens to me a lot. I know how it feels and it feels like you aren't good enough for those people, but just talk to them and tell them you feel left out and that you want to be included more.
For me I don't have real friends
The mind controls the entire body in a spectacular way. What a marvellous organ, a superve machine. Am grateful that there are people out there that help others understand how thoughts work and transform our daily lives. May God bless you Mr. Elkrief. Thanks for helping us remember how special and important we all are... thoughts are just thoughts
All i want is to have a lot of quality people around me all the time. There is so much potential for me in life which never ends up happening and coming through due to things i can't control. The thing is the reason i have no real friends or anyone to hang out with is because of external problems like other people themselves creating problems that don't allow for fun, happy and good things to happen to me. If it was my fault, i would know. I am literally finding anything i can blame myself for by being open minded and logical. Which i can't cause to it makes no sense to and doesn't add up in my situations. I see all these people that do bad in life and they get everything they want and things that i can only imagine of getting. While i try to be the best version of me and get bullshit handed to me when its not my fault. Life is unfair, it feels like im born to loose..
i struggle with same thing
My story too. Blessings to you.
You're helping a lot of people think correctly and maybe saving lives. Thank You!
my husband left, I am now disabled with an inoperable tumor in my brain, and left to raise my son, my only child, by myself while I try to live with my parents whom I really despise but try to hide that every day. But this morning I didn't burn the house down so that's good. "those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength" - #hisnameisYehoVAH
anita, you are brave and awesome. thanks for sharing what you are going through. i hope you feel better i will pray for you.
Wow you hit it square on the head. I'm 57 years old and I've been suffering this my whole life. I wish somebody would've explained this to me back then. Thank God for RUclips and the sharing of intelligence around the world. What a difference you're making for me and millions others,thank you so much. Thanks to you I can go forward and have a wonderful life, because I do love myself, I just want to share life with others. But life also is what it is and we must except what we get, but just not take it personally if we are doing everything in our power to be our best.
This was a beautiful reminder to love myself. Your voice is also so calming and friendly. Thank you, I needed this right now. :)
I asked GOD for help and HE lead me to your video. Thank God and Thank you.
everyone yearns to have someone to share their life with them. I feel moments are incomplete because I have no one share them with, it's an unfulfilled moment.
Thank you for your calm explanations. Your voice is very soothing. You are truely helping this world. Ofcourse I watch most of your videos. I aim to remember your words and to be this helpful towards my kids.
Thank you again..why are you not on this chanell any more..we miss you..you are really a good friend even we have never met before..
God Bless you Noah, thank you so much for posting this video. I cried hard in the beginning because everything you said was so true and so relatable to how I feel. I never thought of it that way that friends can't make you happy, it's all from thoughts, it's so true. I'll be sure to watch your other videos as well, you seem like a very knowledgeable person thank you.
His voice is so calming...
Skip to 15:50 for anyone that needs help and cant sit through all the blah blah and wants to know what his solution is, I grew very impatient watching this video waiting for the answer
Thank you, savior ☺️☺️
I will never be alone, having myself is enough, doing things alone, living alone makes you enjoy of your own company and realize how special you are.
I`ve been alone for 3 years. I'm 26 now. Up until recently I would have someone to talk to, and occationaly do stuff with, but most of my time I was alone.
Now however, I for some reason took a job as a night guard in a remote place. Had no other options. And I've never been this lonely. I've been social outside of work only 1 time, and some guy took me to a concert for the night. It wasn't that social cause it was overcrowded and I was standing in one place just listening to music.
Other than that I only speak cassualy (not work related) with 1 or two guys who work as a guard during the weekends when our bars are open until 02am. But that's only about 1 hour combined on friday and saturday. Rest of the time I'm on my own.
I'm getting depressed, and I realy realy need someone to talk to. For a moment I met a nice girl on-line and we could talk about anything, eventualy sending eachother pictures of ourselves and showing interest in one another. However, after she quit her job as a bartender to pursue her dreams, she hasn't been able to stay up for as long, so the ammount we talk now is bare minimum, and the conversations has gone from "oh my god I want to meet you" - to show lack of interest and just empty talks most of the time.
That's sad, cause when we were talking I forgot all about my lonelyness. Now that we don't get to talk as much, it's all coming back.
Just getting someone to talk to on a regular basis makes a world of difference for me, so I've been looking through the internet hoping to find someone like her again (we are as mentioned still talking though), but the internet is full of trolls.
Therefore I was thinking that the people who can relate, are looking up videos like this. So. Anyone want to talk with me?
Oh my god, How coincidence between you and me. I also happen in this way. Now I am overcoming this lonliness.
You saved my life thank you sir you are truly talented
i love how u make me feel. thank you so much for existing
I've felt lonely for a while and I've never really liked it. I searched up on RUclips "What to do when you're lonely" because I needed help. Your video was the first I saw and I clicked on it. I cried because you actually helped me and my suffering. I might still suffer a bit, but I will not suffer as much as I did before and I just wanna thank you so much for helping me and other people. Thank you!
This video really helped me to understand what my problem is. Thank you so much
I've been suppressing these feelings since my divorce. So this just broke at work trying to hold back the tears until I get off work. Thank God I found this video...He makes so much sense. Big hugs and kisses..feel better
When you become ill and you are alone, it is pretty scary though, so they can make you feel more secure. I've been pretty sick this last week and it is very hard when there is no one to help you.
Noah, you have a great message and a compassionate delivery. Great food for thought. Wished I could afford your sessions. Keep up your positive contribution!
Despite having a loving partner, I still feel very much alone. I cried throughout this whole video. I am even more alone now that I am in a relationship, I worry if he is cheating on me, I am more body conscious, I have self esteem issues. It's not his fault, it's mine. Insecurity and jealously rule my life
Try to talk to him about it, even if you think he won't understand. You'll be surprised how caring and deep some people can be when you need them to.
This video has given me hope for a better, brighter and happier future! Thanks for uploading this!
I have a lot of friends and a supportive family, but i don’t have someone I can call just to talk or to hang out with or do homework with. I feel like the loneliest person in the world.
Saw many videos but it was the best one. Thank you. Help me a lot in this lockdown.
I don't have friends, man. I don't know, but the people look at me and simply create an antipathy. It's something like a preconception against me. Even when I smile. This make me so bad
+Cadu Andrade i usually dont care about the people who judge others without even knowing them....try avoiding them or ask them whats wrong...anyway you are the best judge of your life.....
+Cadu Andrade
Could it be you judge yourself too hard and assume that is what they think?
Most people are actually very friendly, but also deal with their stuff.
My experience is that I had a similar way of seeing the world when I was younger
Yeah it helped me a little.. I am feeling a bit light than before.. What u said is right..
I'm glad I found this video again.... Ty
This video is by far THE BEST VIDEO I have watched on this topic and I have watched dozens!!! Your seemingly genuine demeanor and delivery is very comforting !!!
Glad it was helpful!
Im lonely because im a truck driver and ive always had this deep desire to travel and i think about that constantly. Im married. We cant have kids. She controls all the money. I cant even buy a new toothbrush without begging for my own money. I feel like we grow more distant everyday. I use to wake up and go to bed with a text message from my wife. But now i hardly ever hear from her. My family never calls me so much so that i dont even have half of them in my phone contacts. Im a quadruplet. I lived in the same room as my 3 brothers until i was 18. We were close. As close as twins who finish each others sentences. But I became a truck driver to explore america. But all ive really ever wanted to do is grab a backpack a few small things necessary to survival and backpack across america become a true explorer of everything life has to offer But society says no! You must work! Live in a house! Raise a family! Your crazy to offer such notions. My wife thinks im crazy to. Is it so wrong that the idea of being a traveler taking odd jobs meeting new people learning their life stories discovering new things and Living off nothing is all i think about? Is there anyone like me? Am i all alone in this? Am i the only one that thinks when something bad happens and you overcome it that that is the best kind of memory? That to truly appreciate the world you must know what having nothing feels like? To travel see beautiful scenery up close and personal is to immerse yourself in the spirit of Gods green earth? To learn everything about a complete stranger on the sidewalk understand how they think, feel what they feel, see the world from their eyes is to know life? Everyone ive ever told this to thinks im insane. And maybe i am. But there has to be one person who feels how i feel. Thanks for letting me get that out internet.
Garrett Oneal Traveling is beautiful. The first time I thought about other places was answering the phone at work. I heard a song in the background of the caller’s office. I realized ‘There are people far away listening to the same songs I do.’ I didn’t think I could ever travel. My boyfriend was strict. I don’t know how to drive. Then one day, I got on the Amtrak and went to Texas to visit Lakewood Church. I hope your truck driving brings you joy. I was in a big rig once. It was a great thing...one of my very happy moments. I never tell myself I’m lonely. I tell myself I’m bored. So I go do something fun😊 May the Good Lord bless you and your family 🙏
Garrett Oneal this is a year later since you posted! I hope you got to go on great adventures, journeys and a new chapters in your life! Wish I could do all that t
I'm pretty sure this guy's videos has saved my life. I've had dark thoughts lately. The depression from feeling unwanted and rejected has taken its toll. The video made so much sense.
Wow you are opening my eyes THANK YOU
SAundra Wesley You're welcome Saundra
Noah Elkrief I know this is an old video. Does this mean you do not need to socialize? or do we need it also
We don't NEED it, is the point. It doesn't mean we shouldn't or can't its just training you to accept yourself, accept that thoughts aren't physical and stop believing them. When you stop believing the negative thoughts in your head, you become more relax and peaceful which can help in many aspects of your life including socializing. You won't put so much importance on the opinions others have of you.
Rise Always what we r thinking. Our thoughts responsible for our thoughts. I felt more lonely in crowds some time than alone.
It was so inspirative session.Thank you so much sir.feeing positive. So much relief also. God Bless 😍
I never thought of this the way you explained it. My thoughts are what's causing my loneliness. And when I think of something I don't have I become alone. Thank you for this. I now understand where it comes from. I need to find my happiness from something that no one can give me. I can't rely on others. It's up to me. I will not give up.
your words are so conforting...
If i could have this guy talk me trough situations on a everyday basis, i would be so happy with my self
Been so lonely lately
But you have definitely help me feel much better about myself
Hey Evelyn. How’re you feeling now? I hope you’re better. X
This was really uplifting and just what I needed to hear right now! Thank you for this wonderful video
I had a severe depression and i'm still depressed now. I like social interactions but the problem is, i want to have friends so i can do something in the weekend. Being alone can be fun but not when you are alone for 24/7. That's quite a boring life. I don't judge myself nor others. I don't like everyone and i understand when someone doesn't like me. You can't like everyone right? The problem is when no one ever messages me on Facebook first or texts me first or anything. So it gets to the point where you don’t want to put in the effort with people who don’t put in any effort for you, so you end up spending your life at home, never going anywhere. That's something i want to change but i don't know how. Having friends doesn't equal happiness but what's the point in life if you keep going through it all alone? I can't cope with loneliness and that's why i'm considering suicide.
Ilias Joels Why would you consider suicide because while suicide may be a permanent solution you are giving into the emotion instead of creating the facts saying that; Hey I can make it even though others may not see that, or, I don't need to be associating with people in order to have fun, I can have fun by myself and that yes I may be alone in the general vicinity but I am not alone because I do have friends and that I can have fun without them. You can do anything without people all you have to do is be creative :) Hope I helped in some way :) have a great day/night! :)
Sedatekiller55
Hey man! I actually feel a bit better now. I also watched a few more of hes video's and it helped me a bit. I am still very lonely. I hope i can change that somehow.
That will change over time and through the time of school you will find some new friends and maybe a relationship during that path. But it will happen it may just take some time.
Please never consider such a thing. You don't really want to die you simply want the pain to go away. The world is full of people rich, poor, healthy and sick, good people and bad people that are all lonely too. Look how many people have watched this video and others like it.
It can take some time and some effort but in time you will lose this loneliness.
I had the same problem. I started to use twitter and there are many people searching for friends. Just answer to peoples tweets who tweet a lot but dont have tons of followers and who share same interests. I met so many people I like and who like me. Know I feel socially secure enough to meet people in reallife. First just the people I meet online and know I joined a singing group and also made friends in reallife. You just can take babysteps to reach your goal but it's worth it in the end.
Beautifully presented Noah. We must look within to be happy we are our own best companion. Everyone stop looking outside yourself to be happy, it’s within. Create love for yourselves and each other for a better world.Activate your heart chakra.Big hug to all💐.
All your videos have helped me tremendously
Such a powerful and helpful video! ❤️ Thank you. That's basically what I've been talking about on my therapy, that it's not the situation that makes me feel a certain way, it's the thoughts I have and my reaction to them.
I had a hard time today, forgot about everything I've learned, but you helped me to remember and notice how much I still have to learn! 💜
im 10 years old i have felt lonely and deprisd i have no friends to play with atound me it makes me so sad that i crie alot it makes me feel like I want to run away and never come back it has not been easy for me my parents have tried there best to make me happy but evrey time i thinck that im happy people come and makes it a bumpy road for me when i make it to the end of the road i get pushed back to the start over and over and over again so if you have the same thing your not the only one im with you thanckyou for taking your time to listen to me god bless you
gaming tv
You need to become Good Looking, and Cooler, Taller, and Buffer...
You will have tons of friends and get tons of Girls
You will be happy and have alot of fun
You need to stop playing video and focus on improving yourself
You're about to hit Puberty
You can possibly grow Tall, Big, Buff, Good Looking and you will have fun, tons of friends, any girl you want become rich
You need to start playing sports and exercise
You need eat alot of healthy food
Get alot of sleep
Make sure you are healthy and getting nutrients
Maybe take supplements
To become better looking
Keep perfect straight Head posture and breathe only through your nose or else you will become ugly
Also look up Mike Mew, show it to your parents,
Tell them how important your Looks are in life and school, how important Face, Height and body is for all of life
And you want to do something about it
Look into improving your Health and Looks if you want not be Depressed and lonely, it will get way better youll be popular have girlfriends or else it will get worse
Do what ever you can to improve your looks, it's everything in life
Look into HIIT sprinting to grow taller
rob gaming27hi buddy, have you tried to join a church? there is an endless amount of love there. You will find encouragement as well. Please, read a kids version of the Bible . You will find joy and peace. But more importantly you will learn that god did not create you to feel lonely. Take care and keep your head up!
Hey Man!!! So true. I felt very lonely and was thinking that am only wrong and not fit for society. But your words suddenly broke the door of resistance within my mind. I will use your video whenever needed. I understand something now but could not put in words. But I happily subscribed for ur videos. God bless you
I've been having the worst summer I've ever had in my life. literally my sophomore was the greatest I've had at being in high school but now it's over and I won't able to have as much as fun and be happy as I was last year.... when the summer hit, my girlfriend was gong to new Mexico for the whole summer which is understandable why to visit her dad. but after she left, I began to feel more alone and depressed.... I was becoming more emotional about things and crying over little things sometimes... literally I've cried just to see my girlfriend.... like I love her so much.... she's made me so happy and i never once felt depressed. when I was in school, I didn't have to get into my head as much and worry about my emotions but. now, I just let it get the best of me. I miss when everything wasn't like how it is now... I don't know what to do..... I've even started hiding up my emotions.... I cry at night when no one is watching... it hurts so bad... please help me....
+James Bailey thank you so much. I appreciate that comment. it really helps me at this moment of time
The Legendary Ninja Bunny
Is she come back to you?
+Little Girl we sadly broke up because of how she was treating me. I'm over it now but I'm alone cuz all my friends are not in school with me anymore since they graduated. they do their own thing now and I'm stuck here having to endure all of this alone.... and it's hard to cope but I'm trying....
The Legendary Ninja Bunny
dont give up your hope everything will be okay at the end :)
+Little Girl thank you so much! it really means a lot to hear that!
this helped me remove my misinterpretation of reality and so remove my loneliness, thank you for making this video!