I was addicted to porn since I was 11 years old. I’ve been clean for months since becoming Catholic. Therapy and constant prayer to Our Lady will help you. Pornography addiction is ruining lives and no one cares. Go to mass as much as possible too. Glory to Jesus Christ. I still get temptation, but we fight till death.
Same addiction here, the best way to desexualize our minds is to replace the idea of people as sexual objects, to pure beings who were made in the image of God and who have a purpose in life. Fighting temptation is useless because our flesh is weak, we need to change our mindset by genuinely believing Christ's words and we won't even feel attraction to sin
the more you fight it, the more your animal brain will crave it. Instead, shut down your animal brain first - start fasting, low-carb diet, work out more often. skip breakfast and only have protein shake for lunch. once you can shut down the animal brain's craving for nonsense, you will be free.
Revelation 3:20. Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.
I was addicted to porn and masturbation for 15yrs, I’d aways wanted to quit the destructive habit but I couldn’t do it myself. One day I cried out to Jesus in prayer to deliver me and trust He did. There is power in the name of Jesus , all glory be to his name 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
it's in your power. just dont do it. the only reason you go back is to escape your feelings of loneliness. or to escape from a life that you dont enjoy. if you have girls to see , you wont care to do it. it's just a drug that releases dopamine, gives you a high and then crashes you with low self esteem and anxiety. you gotta workout regularly and talk to more girls. if you do that then youll be gettign laid and wont need to jerk off. you have to start by controling your thoughts and not give attention to the porn scenes in your head. you gotta switch the thinking asap. you only go back to it because youre thinking about it. if you remove the thoughts and let them pass, you wont do it. rememeber, every time you do it, youre making a conscious (yet impulsive) decision. you have to just say no, and do something else. it's the only way. the only way to not do something is to not do something. and the only way to get your life together in other areas is to take action on those other things. comes down to habits. make a daily habit everyday of talking to women and working out. if you do that the chances of falling back into it will be lessened. if you dont do that, then you just fall back into it. you're only a thought a way from doing it again. i suggest going 100 days without pron or masturbation to get your mind right. then start socializing with more women on a daily/weekly basis. i bet if you do that and are getting laid regularly . you wont wanna go back.
Hey same here i started watching it when i was 14 i stopped watching it 2 month ago accept lord jesus christ as your saviour he will fight the addiction for you he loves you
I watch porn every night and it gives energy and relaxation. I only donot touch my private and no ejaculation. It make a sexal energy in to brain power.
Don't worry, Jesus, will help you come to Jesus. Matthew 11 (KJV) ¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯¯ ²⁸ Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. ²⁹ Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. ³⁰ For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
I am 28, addicted since 13 and have quit 1000 times to no avail. My wonderful sexy girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me after I cheated on her one night. The perversion got the best of me - I didn’t not love her, it was simply novelty that made me seek another person. Still very wrong. Porn will make you seek and do things that will destroy the blessings you do have.
Have you replaced it with worship, prayer, scripture memory, exercise etc? (Rhetorical question. You don't need to answer. ) Some people need deliverance. Isaiah Saldivar is on yt and he talks about deliverance.
Sorry to hear that mate Good luck. Don’t give up hope. Replace it with something better. Forgive yourself and surrender knowing that people are praying for you and that you’re making an effort. Addiction is a powerful force. And corn is one of the most potent drugs. Day by day. Build a healthy routine. Sometimes things like bacon/meat can be a factor. But probably it’s the screen itself that needs to be distanced from. I use pushups and weights as a quick fix
Pron doesn’t make you do anything. You’re responsible for your own actions. Don’t blame your sexual indiscretions on pron. You were fully aware that you were engaging in a potentially destructive activity by cheating.
Haven't watched corn in 2 years, The key is to not fight your urges, but to instead just wait for them to pass like waves. Just take a 20 minute break from your computer/phone every time you have a sexual thought.
@@YukonVaccepting the feeling and letting it pass without acting on it. In some cases resistance brings more focus to it and increases it, while accepting it lets it die down. It was the same with my anxiety. Resisting anxiety makes you anxious about the anxiety. Accepting it means feeling it on one level and not letting it get to you, then it starts to go away.
Addiction darkens the intellect and further weakens the will. Practicing the virtue of temperance combined with prudence is a good beginning. Serving others is key, especially if you're an atheist.
Ask yourself why serving others is key..that is the will and command of God! The porn industry is all about evil! Like it or not being an atheist or not it is fighting evil! Do yourself the best favor you ever have and take steps forward to learn more about God atleast! You won't be sorry!
Thye make people think that sex is a part of their identity, or the magazine sex, that has no intimacy value or emotional intimacy. Yet with healthy sexual intimacy and healthy emotional intimacy, you amy create your identity as well, and on top level of life....like holding hand with your partner etc, or loving hug, and small intimate gestures.
I read think and grow Rich and it teaches that se*ual transmutation, which is abstaining from s*x and transferring that to being more productive in life, like starting a business.. 🙏💯🍻
I have been an addict since I was 16 or so. I hit rock bottom in every way until last year when I was baptized. I am now taking back what Satan took from me and am working on a children's book. For he took my adolescence and I will not have that happen to anybody else.
you comment just made me realize why my music is so childlike - it's the purest state I want to achieve after all that darkness I was exposed to. Your comment is very beautiful, I wish you the best in life and that you may inspire generations to come with your work
Dr. Peterson is absolutely right. Religious transformation has freed me from my porn and cannabis addiction. The fear of god outweighs all other fears and desires within me.
Oh God how do I get this blocker and can I get a blocker that blocks all of my appliances. I'm totally overwhelmed and I can't afford a therapist. I'm not religious
@@lonewulfmo9128 any of them should do, there's loads, find one that suits you and your needs. You can customise on them too. And be busy so your not thinking about porn and if you do, w@nk, with your mind, not other stimulusbut your mind. Then your the star of the show at least.
I finally saw how juvenile and weak an addition to porn is. That bugged me. I was tired of being a child. I wanted to mature, to grow up so to speak. One day the lightbulb came on and I realized that I wasn't putting any plan into action. I wasn't formulating concrete steps to avoid porn. I bought Covenant Eyes and confided in my wife who graciously agreed to be my accountability. Knowing my wife will see what I look at on line is a huge deterrent. I've lost track of how long it's been since I looked at porn.
When I was a teen I was more eager to be honest with those close to me because that’s how things worked and they worked to my good and the good of others, then you get older and realize it’s more about saving face and being nosey and that being what people mostly care about 😂 but just yesterday I think I finally had enough about continuing addictions if we were honest stem out of pride, fear, and hate in a lot of ways. The trick will be to truly hand it over and not going around with a chip on my shoulder the size of a mountain.
The analogy of having satan behind you and not obstructing but pushing you, reminds me of 2Tim 2:22 which says to flee from youthful lust, but chase after righteousness, love, peace. Articulating the hell to flee from really makes it clear to put behind you (flee from), as well as making clear (in articulation ) what you want to chase after. The Heaven and hell working together, I love this. Thank you!
I stopped looking at porn completely 3 yrs ago. Not a single relapse. Since being saved and filled with the Holy Spirit, I find the thought of a relapse utterly revolting. Also quit drinking,hard drugs, and marijuana. Like he said, a complete religious transformation. I died and was reborn in Christ. Baptized this year at age 49.
They have essentially admitted that they know - and depend - on kids accessing it, AND that they send gay material to people to try and escalate their deviance and addiction. Those that are hellbound are miserable but still seek to rationalize their pathetic lives, and want as much company as they can get in Hades.
@@madsocsci absolutely! I made another comment about that too. On a positive note I feel that the people who are becoming parents now are going to be more aware of the dangers and be more proactive in protecting children from it
@@madsocsciMy dad likes to bring up that when I was a young lad he would catch me looking at the bra section of the Sears catalog. Those were the days!
God is willing, waiting with outstretched arms. We both have no excuse anymore. I've tried almost everything, except for confiding in God more. Let's change that?
The only way to get over this addiction is to be disgusted by it. Then and only then will you have a chance at overcoming it. The mind created the problem and the mind is how you get out of that problem.
it's funny you say it cuz that exactly what happened to me , I always liked it until I became extremly disgusted with myself but that's a bad thing too , without my health and sex drive is bigger part of health , it's too hard to live this way :(
@@roxas9571 I met a former heroin addict a while ago, and when I asked him how did you overcome it? He said the only way to get over it, the only way to beat it, is by being disgusted by it.
My husband quit when we started a romantic relationship 3 years ago. Though I was in love with him I told him I couldn’t be with him unless he stopped watching porn. So he did. You can quit if you have enough motivation.
I don't think that's very helpful advice. It's difficult for people and the "you can do it if you try hard enough" just doesn't make people's path easier.
If you want to “quit” and just can’t seem to, you need to realize you can’t on your own. You need some divine intervention to help you out of it. So pray for it every day. Every time you catch yourself in temptation, say a prayer to the Holy Spirit. Ask Mary, St. Joesph, and St. Michael to protect and pray for you. Get rid of social media if it’s what causes you to fall into temptation. And for God’s sake, stop looking at women you see out in the world as objects because they are your sisters in Christ, even if they don’t dress like it.
This behavior does not glorify God. That is why I have to replace it with something that does glorify God. With God, anything is possible, so I have hope in a better future and to be a better person to the people around me. Never give up!
Jordan is spot on. What he says applies to all types of addiction. We need to get it out in the open. Not everyone needs to know but we have to have someone to talk to openly when tempted. It's not about the number of days. It's truly one day at a time. There's no set of things that have to be done. Changing people, places, and things covers a lot of ground. Stay the course.
An avenue which Dr. Peterson should perhaps explore more is all the harm that one is inflicting on the women involved in the porn industry. It's quite terrifying when you think about the abuse you're participating in...
Yeah sure no doubt, but what about the slaves used to mine the cobalt in your phone you used to post that comment, its quite terrifying when you think about the abuse you're participating in...
@@YourStylesGeneric321Porn addict cope? Regardless, your argument is disingenuous. Because you don’t get off to the idea of children mining cobalt. You get off to pornography. You directly participate in the filth every time you use it. More viewership. More exposure.
when i'm busy i can go months without the urges. But one little seed can take you out for years... This is a cautionary tale of something I went through during and after the pandemic.
Sometimes an addiction can be the greatest thing to happen in your life, since in order to beat it you are forced to get EVERYTHING ELSE in your life in order. Never forget that God punishes evil, the force that rebels against Him, by showing that it will always be nothing but a piece in His plan.
Porn is extremely damaging and addictive. I remember seeing a smoking ad which advised to "never quit quitting." First, I thought it was stupid because if you're gonna quit then do it and move on. It was only once I began quitting porn that I realised the significance of the message. You will want to quit, you will try to quit, but behavioural change takes time. The habit wont die just because you will for it to. It takes time and it helps to understand that if/when you have a lapse.
I was blessed to stop drinking. It was a time I started to prioritize my health more and was on the path to isolating myself which has been a great thing. On a birthday, I said I'll go out and have a good time, and then I'm done. It's been 8 years since then.
Peterson is always very succinct and accurate with his prescriptions for these problems. Having suffered like many men with porn addiction myself, I've come to the same conclusions time and time again. This will to act has to be present and you can't forget why.
what he's saying isn't as easy as that, it takes unbreakable dedication and will everday to fight so your brain can have time to rewire and that can take like 3 years depending on how long you have been addicted if it's long , it can be longer.
Physical removal of any open channels to unfiltered and unguarded internet access was an essential and very hard step for me. And even then, thats just the beginning. Got rid of my Xbox, got Covenant eyes for all computers and phones. LEAVE PHONE when going to restroom as much as you can! All this before I even became Catholic, and now through the grace of God imparted through our Lady’s Rosary and the Eucharist, I have been sober for months. Saint Joseph, Pray for us!
I was raised Catholic. Alter boy etc. Sexually abused, used porn to cope. Beyond horrific childhood, no father. Came back to Catholic Church at 43 and I still have issues praying to Saints. Why not just pray to Jesus?
I've fallen again multiple times.after making progress during lent. This is a great passion we must battle young men òf this generation have been exposed to this evil from a young age. It is a fight and a battle to remove it from ourselves with God's help and constant effort. Watch our thoughts . Our thoughts determine our lives
I’ve been trying to stop my addiction. I’ve found it comes from a place of childhood trauma. I’ve noticed my relationship with my Wife all circled around sex and MY needs. How selfish I was in our relationship. How mentally and emotionally damaging it was. How much happier and better I felt in longer bouts of not watching and taking part in it. When I started trying to form a relationship with God, I saw how my actions against his creation hurt him. Through hurting myself. And to understand the fear I should have by not serving the Lord. How it hurts me in this life and will hurt me in eternity
It's incredibly sad to see people justify their own addictions in the comments. That's the difference between the content sinner and the repentant sinner. The repentant sinner understands he needs help and pursues remedial avenues. The content sinner either suppresses the shame so that he doesn't have to deal w/ the discomfort within, or he simply lies to himself and perpetuates an ever-growing snowball that'll eventually destroy him and potentially others who are close to him (e.g. family). Pray for everyone who's still lost in the dark. We were not designed to dehumanize others by treating them as sexual objects to gratify our lust. And all you have to do, in my opinion, to realize that truth is by thinking hypothetically about how you would feel, truly feel, if you knew your mom, sister, or god forbid daughter, were involved with porn. Innately, we would all react with revulsion.
In the old days it was called masturbation. Now it's called self-pleasuring. Sounds nice and pleasant doesn't it. Hard to find harm in such a harmless sounding behaviour. Oh the cynicism of word smiths and the danger of reordering words so they disguise the danger of certain behaviours.
Actually before "masturbation", the name was "mastupration". "Stupration" is an old synonym of rape. Basically "ma(nu(s)) + stupration" means "rape by hand"
Yes it’s interesting how they have done that over time. Same thing for idiots who became retards and now something else. Same with shell shock is now PTSD
I’m here to hold myself accountable because it’s so challenging at times. I been clean from it for a few days now and don’t to be done with it for good. I know it takes time and effort while not being too hard on yourself. I crave better for myself so that’s exactly what ima do get better. I come back to the post from time to time to see how far I’ve come. To all my fellas and even ladies out there its you vs old you don’t allow the old version of yourself take you back to a place you outgrown.
You got this! I’m 1 month PMO free and 1 year and 4 months sober from alcohol. It’s true. You really got to replace it with something. So many people think that they have to replace with having a partner. Not for me. I’m still single. I replaced it with being obsessed with studying, being proactive, building my desk setup, having a good housekeeping routine, being organized in my room, in my car, being punctual to work, being good at my job, steadily taking classes at my city college and getting good grades, saving my money, being organized with my digital documents, improving on my piano pieces, improving my typing, learning and studying on my Anki. I’ve replaced my alcohol addiction and PMO addiction with all that stuff. The rest of the dating stuff will figure itself out. I’ve become fulfilled in my own routines and projects, and find personal enjoyment in doing those things and living an honest life, a clean life where I have nothing to hide. I’m preparing myself for when I do meet someone. If I never do, I’m okay with that.
@@fadrian98 I appreciate your words of support and also congrats on 1 yr and 4 months of sobriety that’s huge man. I appreciate you shedding light on the importance of replacing PMO with meaningful hobbies because I enjoy hiking, reading, working out, cleaning my car out, listening to music, traveling and just being a creative yk. I know im destined to do a whole lot of good in the more I just have to get out my own way and I’m willing to do so to reach the best possible version of myself. I want to be PMO free for the rest of my life.
Hey same here i started watching it when i was 14 i stopped watching it 2 month ago accept lord jesus christ as your saviour he will fight the addiction for you he loves you
Talking to a guy with a nicotine addiction about why people are addicted to porn? Tell Matt same reason…the dopamine rush from porn stimulation is like his dopamine rush from the nicotine he is addicted to. One may be worse spiritually, but I’m pretty sure God doesn’t love us intentionally causing harm to our bodies he so blessedly gave us
Insightful approach to behavior change! Emphasizing both the fears of staying the same and the hopes of a better future can indeed create a powerful motivation to change. 🌟
Hopefully this helps someone. I found this prayer and mindset was extremely helpful in countering my lust and desire for masturbation. When I would feel that temptation beginning, I would clap my hands together and pray “ God, I offer my sexuality to you. Do with it what you will, I will be patient and trust you to give me the pleasure I desire in your appointed time. I look forward to that day when you bless me in this way.” ❤
You don't realise how much clearer your life is until you commit to the battle against porn and masturbation. You wonder why the media never promotes the negative towards porn.
Add a blocker to your phone and computer so not only it can block all the bad websites, but filter all social media as well. You have to block even the little cues that make you think about that stuff and unfortunately, social media is full of half naked people, which will make you relapse. Give full access to someone that you trust and make sure you tell them to never give you access. Its really tough and i still struggle, but as time goes on, the urges become less and less.
My pornography addiction turned into a sex addiction but it was ultimately fueled by my alcoholism and when I started getting help I found out that was rooted in awful things that happened to me when I was very young I won't talk about it in the comment section but I'm sure y'all can drive the comparison
There is no such a thing as "pornography addiction". You just had a pleasurable habit. An addiction is, when you cannot withdraw from a substance because of the painful physical reactions that ensue.
@@felixbrandt6419 armchair nonsense but I'm sure you're quite the sweetheart with the best of intentions what you should probably realize is it not the kids in your youth group I can spot a liar when I read one granted good intentions sweet guy but the back hand still strong now move along God bless you 😘
@@eternallife9786 I am not your sweetheart. The rest of your answer is mostly hard to understand... And: Why should I lie to you? I think you are offended because I have contradicted your opinions about yourself.
@@felixbrandt6419 because you believe your own lies and you actually think you're helping by feeding me some nonsense definition about addiction and you're definitely a sweetheart like you thought feeding me your bullshit definition of addiction was actually helping me but I'm going to repeat it again I'm not the kids in your youth group you can't feed me some home spun definition about addiction any other reason you feel comfortable even doing that is cuz you're anonymous on the internet you and I both know if you tried this in real life you would get your teeth put on the curb of the sidewalk remember remember this I'm not Catholic I'm not Christian fradd make solid points about pornography being a problem that I absolutely agree with other than that all this good Catholic boy in nonsense is for the birds enjoy being anonymous on the internet though it's really saving you some dental bills
@@felixbrandt6419 plus you're thinking of the term withdrawal addiction is many things if you had any brains in your head you would realize there's a thing called addiction personality disorder where you can quite literally be addicted to anything but I wouldn't expect you to know anything about this
Hi, just wanted to say that - with all my appreciation in regards to the content - I think that giving the website name can work not as intended. Meaning that the people that didn't know it before - now they do. And also the sight of that can remind it to the people that have already got rid of this habit. Of course it is probably impossible to remove it now, so that is just a thought to think about :)
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Good stuff mate. Good luck. Hope you get on well. Coincidentally I was listening to my physician yesterday who said that blood pressure increases naturally around your age. So maybe it’s not much to worry about unless your diet and lifestyle are suboptimal
The interest comes and goes. I views far more when I was younger. And loved it. Never thought of quitting. Annoyed me whenever anyone had even suggested that there was something wrong with it. Still does today. Thought I view far less than I did. At times, I may go months without seeing any. And when I do view any, is because I want to. I'm not trying to quit, just not as interested in it anymore. Did I mention that it annoys me whenever anyone suggests that there is something wrong with viewing it. I will admit. It can be a damaging addiction to some. Just like anything that can be addicting. Sugar. You need it, to some extent. Your brain for one uses a lot of it, if you are a thinker type of person. But it is addicting, and bad if over used. But it's not bad in of itself. People just need to take such things in moderation. Some things that can be addictive, should not be taken at all. Such as alcohol and cigarettes. Though some say alcohol is OK in moderation. Is said one glass of red wine with diner, can be quite healthy. Though, some will still disagree. As for cigarettes. That is one thing I don't feel anyone can say is something good to have, even most long time smokers will agree is is bad for you. If this topic was about cigarettes. I'd be behind this all the way. But seeing it's about porn, something I enjoy, from time to time, it annoys me with how some obsess over telling others that you should quit it, as something bad to be doing. It's a very subjective opinion. When you go looking at just how many porn sites there are, and how many users there are, and how many view it per week, out of what they can manage to count, it's a lot. And if you view some of the comment sections, you will find, many tend to enjoy it, each in their own ways. And there you have it. On porn being bad, I agree to disagree.
I've been addicted to corn since I was 13. I've experienced hell firsthand which was caused by all the anxiety, shame and guilt that comes with this addiction. I'm 28 now and haven't been using corn for more than 6 months, I already feel much better than I did before but I still have a long way to go to find my inner peace. If you are still young / in your early 20's and struggling with this, please make a plan with your life while it is not too late. Porn might not cause physicial harm in a way but its affect on mental health is detrimental in the long run.
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When you have a kid and realize what it's all actually for, you also realize (especially if you're a guy) that you've not only been wasting your time, but hurting a lot of people I was in that place for way too long so I'm not judging, but I'm telling you from the other side that there's no reason to dwell there. Even from a purely selfish point, looking back I'm like, "why did I waste so much time on deez h0s".
That’s carrying your porn addiction to the community. You heard of STD’s? Whether you go solo or with many others it’s bad. Sex is the act of marriage, stop being perverse. Andrew Tate is the weak man’s idea of a strong man.
Not sure if this will help anyone, but I struggled with porn addiction for a long, long time. I also smoked weed all the time, every day, highly concentrated carts, all throughout the day. One day I decided I would put the weed down for a while. By the 2nd day of not having any, my mind felt so clear, and the urges and temptations I was experiencing felt like they had no power to compel me. I should also add that I started praying and building a relationship with God. I'm really happy and thankful to feel like myself again, I had forgotten what It even felt like to be my real self.
Even the Bible says the same “ 2 Timothy 2:22 KJV Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” You don’t just quit without replacing it with something better. So as one flees lust and all these demonic perversions, you gotta be pursuing righteousness…..”
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i gave up being an alchoholic and a pill addict and a lot of bad habbits by surrendering to faith and sacrificing all the things holding me back. been a proud regular non addicted person for a year and a half now and i can even go have a couple beers with a friend and its not a trigger. i havent touched pills since the day i quit and i have more discipline and work ethic and i have a better job and even have my own place now. i went through a breakup with a long term fiance and even that didnt trigger me back into addiction. ive been strong and really proud of who God has made me and the strength hes blessed me with. i couldnt do it on my own and the moment i truely surrendered and agreed to sacrifice the things hurting me, my entire life changed and i never turned back.. God can do anything for any of us
"But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Literally Jesus (Matthew 5:28)
@@DanielParedes-m2r I’m literally just asking. We are given human instincts and told that some of those instincts are wrong the minute they are triggered to no fault of our own
@@tristanblaze8238 I know that may have read mean, I am serious, Jesus did not give you or me a desire to lust after women, we can admire their beauty inward outward, character, praise God for it, if that is what you do then it is fine, lust is nasty and does not care for the individual, Jesus wants us to love our family, I got more to say so I will break it up in other comments but thank for reading, I am sorry if I was glib, I will try to say it better
I don't think I fully agree with JP when he says you have to replace these bad addictions with different things. I think that happens naturally when you fix the root issue, but that's not how you fix the addiction. All addiction comes from a source of pain, a bad relationship, bad parents, being bullied, trauma, difficulty at work - whatever it may be. And once you fix the painful aspect of your life, (letting go of control of something, setting up boundaries, w/e) you will no longer need to numb yourself with substances, porn, food, etc.
I found Jordan Peterson a few years ago when I was at the total armpit of life. almost death. Dude completely changed me. No lie. After him I started studying Carl Jung amongst others. Now I am on level 10. Study. Also study neurology. The combo is the life hack.
The easy availability is also a big problem. Before high-speed internet porn became a thing, it was just so much harder to get your hands on any content. Like in the early 2000's you couldn't just access it like a regular tube site nowadays. That made it automatically impossible to even get addicted in the first place from a very young age.
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It's true that you have to pray much to get off it, but what's not mentioned is that you also have to cooperate with the graces given through the prayer. It comes down to willingness to suffer. I think the only real way to cooperate, and get off of it completely is to decisively get rid of every avenue you would have to watch it again, and also harness a tremendous amount of courage and strength to resist the urges that will 100% follow for awhile. It needs an act of the will to say "I'd be willing to die, and even be tortured to death than ever watch even the smallest instant of this again......for love of you, Jesus" while really and truly meaning those words. Then, you forcefully avoid it when your appetites erupt again and tell you that you need it (they do eventually subside). You also need to be prepared for the new life you're going to have afterwards without it, and the freedom you're going to have, and the healing you're going to need. Those images are in your imagination and apart from a special grace they're going to stay there even while living a completely chaste life which is one (only one) of the reasons it's so destructive.
@@DJWHFun the evils that the porn industry profits from outweigh the perceived benefit of avoiding pregnancy. How many women in the industry use birth control methods like hormonal birth control or IUDs that sometimes kill the baby by preventing implantation? How many women and sometimes even children are trafficked through this industry's demand for human "product"? How many people psychologically damage themselves and others through forming pseudo-communities around this stuff?
This interviewer is marvellous. I really like the way that he tries to pull Jordan, in a friendly manner, into answering the questions logically, pulling through some of their esoteric nature. That being said, he is providing slightly too many 'backchannels' in linguistic terms, while the other person is talking. Slightly too much smiling and nodding, and "yes" and "uh-huhs". While this, if natural, gives the impression that on is listening closely, when it is performed to excess it gives the impression that one is concerned with *appearing* as though they are listening, as opposed to genuinely listening This is certainly a matter of taste, and only the interviewer themselves will be able to know if this mirrors their conscious experience, and whether they are genuinely listening, or trying to appear as though they are listening. Keep up the great work!
I agree that the fear of the Lord is a wonderful gift and great motivator to quit bad habits. However, the love of Jesus Christ is so great and glorious, that once you experience it and seek to open your heart to him habitually, you gradually won't want to sin anymore. You will only want God's love and will not want to be separated from it. His love is what saves. I would just caution judging people as perverted or disgusting for their habits- certainly nobody wants to be seen as a perverted creepy uncle, but this isn't always motivating enough for people to change. Change happens in the present, constantly, and the past is the past. The Lord should be feared, but fear of his omnipotence and the punishment we face, in my opinion, is the wrong sole reason we ought to follow his law. It is okay to be firm and tough, with a patient love. I believe this is what will ultimately encourage our brothers and sisters who are struggling to seek out God and eventually be delivered from their sins... rather than trying to quit in order to save, preserve, repair, or defend their self-image. I don't know, just my thoughts.
My flesh is weak and I give into pleasure WAY too easily… my spirit and flesh are in constant battle with each other. All the time… God have mercy on me…
Whenever I need to know what source of energy empowering people I'm surrounded by? Their NO GO s deliver it 4 sure indirectly. Sometimes very straight and obvious they reveal their motifs themselves.
A week clean. Not much, but it’s a start. Believe it or not, a week is a big deal for me.
I’m praying for you bro
@@Meyer-gp7nq week and a day
@@davidr1620 we got this bro. Probably this will be the day I stop also.
You got this brother. I’m praying for you. Please pray for me.
Good job, man!
Often the first steps are the most difficult to make, and you've done that. Keep it up. I'll pray for you also 🙏
No one quits anything. They replace it with something better. 💥 nuff said.
Hmmm…true.
I quit a bunch of things So this claim is not true
replacing it with another thing is also quitting. wth hahaha
it it still quitting
Yeah. I replaced god with Satan
I was addicted to porn since I was 11 years old. I’ve been clean for months since becoming Catholic. Therapy and constant prayer to Our Lady will help you. Pornography addiction is ruining lives and no one cares. Go to mass as much as possible too. Glory to Jesus Christ. I still get temptation, but we fight till death.
I love hearing this! Great job!!
Discern marriage and find real joy and meaning and that compulsion will be a long lost memory!
Rosary is amazing
I was addicted much younger than that
God bless you my friend.
How do you define porn addiction? I struggle with the occasional use of it, but I don't consider myself an addict 😬
Pray for me. I’m on the way out of this addiction, but I keep relapsing. I want to be free and accept the grace Christ gives
Same addiction here, the best way to desexualize our minds is to replace the idea of people as sexual objects, to pure beings who were made in the image of God and who have a purpose in life. Fighting temptation is useless because our flesh is weak, we need to change our mindset by genuinely believing Christ's words and we won't even feel attraction to sin
The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. Matt 6:22
May the Lord be with you
the more you fight it, the more your animal brain will crave it. Instead, shut down your animal brain first - start fasting, low-carb diet, work out more often. skip breakfast and only have protein shake for lunch. once you can shut down the animal brain's craving for nonsense, you will be free.
Revelation 3:20.
Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.
I was addicted to porn and masturbation for 15yrs, I’d aways wanted to quit the destructive habit but I couldn’t do it myself. One day I cried out to Jesus in prayer to deliver me and trust He did. There is power in the name of Jesus , all glory be to his name 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Amen blessings
When did this take place?
You mean God helped you. Not the humain prophet jesus.
@@anouarzin3 - Jesus was not a prophet. Jesus is God.
Wait what lol
Please pray for those who suffer addictions of any kind.
Like Matt and his nicotine addiction
Thanks
Addiction is indescribable when it has its hooks in you. It grips your soul.
It didn't help.
Need prayets
Pretty inspiring to see the men in here encouraging one another and offering up prayers.
Gives energy 🙏
Im 44 and ive been at is since i was 13. I want to quit this nasty habit. Please pray for me! Thank you kindly.
it's in your power. just dont do it. the only reason you go back is to escape your feelings of loneliness. or to escape from a life that you dont enjoy. if you have girls to see , you wont care to do it. it's just a drug that releases dopamine, gives you a high and then crashes you with low self esteem and anxiety. you gotta workout regularly and talk to more girls. if you do that then youll be gettign laid and wont need to jerk off. you have to start by controling your thoughts and not give attention to the porn scenes in your head. you gotta switch the thinking asap. you only go back to it because youre thinking about it. if you remove the thoughts and let them pass, you wont do it. rememeber, every time you do it, youre making a conscious (yet impulsive) decision. you have to just say no, and do something else. it's the only way. the only way to not do something is to not do something. and the only way to get your life together in other areas is to take action on those other things. comes down to habits. make a daily habit everyday of talking to women and working out. if you do that the chances of falling back into it will be lessened. if you dont do that, then you just fall back into it. you're only a thought a way from doing it again. i suggest going 100 days without pron or masturbation to get your mind right. then start socializing with more women on a daily/weekly basis. i bet if you do that and are getting laid regularly . you wont wanna go back.
Hey same here i started watching it when i was 14 i stopped watching it 2 month ago accept lord jesus christ as your saviour he will fight the addiction for you he loves you
You accept islamic Religion
I watch porn every night and it gives energy and relaxation. I only donot touch my private and no ejaculation. It make a sexal energy in to brain power.
Don't worry, Jesus, will help you come to Jesus.
Matthew 11 (KJV)
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²⁸ Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
²⁹ Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
³⁰ For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
I am 28, addicted since 13 and have quit 1000 times to no avail. My wonderful sexy girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me after I cheated on her one night. The perversion got the best of me - I didn’t not love her, it was simply novelty that made me seek another person. Still very wrong. Porn will make you seek and do things that will destroy the blessings you do have.
Have you replaced it with worship, prayer, scripture memory, exercise etc? (Rhetorical question. You don't need to answer. ) Some people need deliverance. Isaiah Saldivar is on yt and he talks about deliverance.
God sees you fighting, not failing. There is hope ❤
Sorry to hear that mate
Good luck. Don’t give up hope. Replace it with something better. Forgive yourself and surrender knowing that people are praying for you and that you’re making an effort.
Addiction is a powerful force. And corn is one of the most potent drugs.
Day by day. Build a healthy routine. Sometimes things like bacon/meat can be a factor.
But probably it’s the screen itself that needs to be distanced from.
I use pushups and weights as a quick fix
I don't want to say you're not taking accountability here but I would say that it sounds like you're blaming porn for your behaviour.
Pron doesn’t make you do anything. You’re responsible for your own actions. Don’t blame your sexual indiscretions on pron. You were fully aware that you were engaging in a potentially destructive activity by cheating.
Haven't watched corn in 2 years, The key is to not fight your urges, but to instead just wait for them to pass like waves. Just take a 20 minute break from your computer/phone every time you have a sexual thought.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Smart
Send the urges to Jesus.
What’s the difference between not fighting your urges and giving in??
@@YukonVaccepting the feeling and letting it pass without acting on it. In some cases resistance brings more focus to it and increases it, while accepting it lets it die down.
It was the same with my anxiety. Resisting anxiety makes you anxious about the anxiety. Accepting it means feeling it on one level and not letting it get to you, then it starts to go away.
Porn/lust addiction sucks man.. it really does. It’s ruined my life in a lot of ways that I regret.
If we can transmute that immense sexual energy to other efforts, we can accomplish so much
You can get out of it, you can. Jesus will get you out of it
getting married will ruin your life a whole lot worse...
Praise be to the emperor, and the emperors justice upon Slaneesh!
What you mean? How porn ruined your life? What happened?
The fact that nobody talks about the book NoFap Rebirth Project, speaks volumes about how people are stuck in life.
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Addiction darkens the intellect and further weakens the will. Practicing the virtue of temperance combined with prudence is a good beginning. Serving others is key, especially if you're an atheist.
GET BEHIND US SATAN !!!
Ask yourself why serving others is key..that is the will and command of God! The porn industry is all about evil! Like it or not being an atheist or not it is fighting evil! Do yourself the best favor you ever have and take steps forward to learn more about God atleast! You won't be sorry!
Thye make people think that sex is a part of their identity, or the magazine sex, that has no intimacy value or emotional intimacy.
Yet with healthy sexual intimacy and healthy emotional intimacy, you amy
create your identity as well, and on top level of life....like holding hand with your partner etc, or loving hug, and small intimate gestures.
read a book called 'Unveiling your hidden potential' by Bruce Thornwood, eye-opening for me
What's it about?
@@Dellen-Roger I think it's about unveiling your hidden potential but i'm not sure.
Waste of money.
I read think and grow Rich and it teaches that se*ual transmutation, which is abstaining from s*x and transferring that to being more productive in life, like starting a business.. 🙏💯🍻
@@Dellen-RogerIt’s about Cleaning Your Damn Room
I have been an addict since I was 16 or so. I hit rock bottom in every way until last year when I was baptized. I am now taking back what Satan took from me and am working on a children's book. For he took my adolescence and I will not have that happen to anybody else.
This is such a beautiful comment, it bought tears to my eyes....
you comment just made me realize why my music is so childlike - it's the purest state I want to achieve after all that darkness I was exposed to. Your comment is very beautiful, I wish you the best in life and that you may inspire generations to come with your work
Praying for you!
Would love to know when the book is available
Please pray for me
Dr. Peterson is absolutely right. Religious transformation has freed me from my porn and cannabis addiction. The fear of god outweighs all other fears and desires within me.
People think fear of God is bad. We all fear something, and I'd rather fear the Almighty who has my back.
God is better than nothing but not the best there is.
Fearing an imaginary being is wild.
@@Youttubeuser20932 I used to think like you until my eyes were opened and now I see god in everything
@@Wildminecraftwolf there is something better than the almighty creator of the universe? Whats that?
Getting a blocker on my phone, getting rid of everything that might cause a relapse and keeping myself busy has helped me massively.
Oh God how do I get this blocker and can I get a blocker that blocks all of my appliances. I'm totally overwhelmed and I can't afford a therapist. I'm not religious
@@lonewulfmo9128 any of them should do, there's loads, find one that suits you and your needs. You can customise on them too. And be busy so your not thinking about porn and if you do, w@nk, with your mind, not other stimulusbut your mind. Then your the star of the show at least.
@@rob_341 thanks
I did some buttons on my phone by watching a video; however, I still have it my laptop. When I bought a new phone, it transferred over on Android.
I tried blocker and would have panic attacks that i find a way too get around it . Its so bad
I finally saw how juvenile and weak an addition to porn is. That bugged me. I was tired of being a child. I wanted to mature, to grow up so to speak. One day the lightbulb came on and I realized that I wasn't putting any plan into action. I wasn't formulating concrete steps to avoid porn. I bought Covenant Eyes and confided in my wife who graciously agreed to be my accountability. Knowing my wife will see what I look at on line is a huge deterrent. I've lost track of how long it's been since I looked at porn.
When I was a teen I was more eager to be honest with those close to me because that’s how things worked and they worked to my good and the good of others,
then you get older and realize it’s more about saving face and being nosey and that being what people mostly care about 😂 but just yesterday I think I finally had enough about continuing addictions if we were honest stem out of pride, fear, and hate in a lot of ways. The trick will be to truly hand it over and not going around with a chip on my shoulder the size of a mountain.
@@Blake4625kHz Bro wtf? Don't use google translator.
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I used google translator ?😂 I wish that was the extent of my problems lmao
The analogy of having satan behind you and not obstructing but pushing you, reminds me of 2Tim 2:22 which says to flee from youthful lust, but chase after righteousness, love, peace.
Articulating the hell to flee from really makes it clear to put behind you (flee from),
as well as making clear (in articulation ) what you want to chase after. The Heaven and hell working together, I love this. Thank you!
I stopped looking at porn completely 3 yrs ago. Not a single relapse. Since being saved and filled with the Holy Spirit, I find the thought of a relapse utterly revolting. Also quit drinking,hard drugs, and marijuana. Like he said, a complete religious transformation. I died and was reborn in Christ. Baptized this year at age 49.
Congratulations 🎉
That industry is evil evil evil!!!
And it’s run by a minority
They have essentially admitted that they know - and depend - on kids accessing it, AND that they send gay material to people to try and escalate their deviance and addiction.
Those that are hellbound are miserable but still seek to rationalize their pathetic lives, and want as much company as they can get in Hades.
@@madsocsci absolutely! I made another comment about that too. On a positive note I feel that the people who are becoming parents now are going to be more aware of the dangers and be more proactive in protecting children from it
@CherryDreamer96 Let's hope so. All my parents had to do was to hide the Sears catalog. 😉
Simpler times, brother!
@@madsocsciMy dad likes to bring up that when I was a young lad he would catch me looking at the bra section of the Sears catalog. Those were the days!
God willing I will stop with this addiction.
God is willing, waiting with outstretched arms. We both have no excuse anymore. I've tried almost everything, except for confiding in God more. Let's change that?
@@chonk6683 Right on
@@andreasviken2949 Read your Bible every day it will change your life the washing of the word
praying for you
The only way to get over this addiction is to be disgusted by it. Then and only then will you have a chance at overcoming it. The mind created the problem and the mind is how you get out of that problem.
it's funny you say it cuz that exactly what happened to me ,
I always liked it until I became extremly disgusted with myself but that's a bad thing too , without my health and sex drive is bigger part of health , it's too hard to live this way :(
@@roxas9571 I met a former heroin addict a while ago, and when I asked him how did you overcome it? He said the only way to get over it, the only way to beat it, is by being disgusted by it.
@@roxas9571 Disgust is a very powerful negative emotion. It’s so powerful that it can overpower even the most extreme addictions.
How can I learn to feel disgusted with myself enough to quit for good?
@@josephgray1999put it in your mouth 🤣😂
Doing the sign of the cross at the first sign of inappropriate thoughts has helped me immensely. Pray to God for strength!
My husband quit when we started a romantic relationship 3 years ago. Though I was in love with him I told him I couldn’t be with him unless he stopped watching porn. So he did. You can quit if you have enough motivation.
and this is why having a good community helps you in the process of getting better.
Most men I know, including me, end up with wives that won't have sex with them.
If you don't service him at least let him have his porn.
I don't think that's very helpful advice. It's difficult for people and the "you can do it if you try hard enough" just doesn't make people's path easier.
I think this is proof of the "you have to replace it with something greater".
It's not "try harder" it's finding a suitable concrete motivation and creating real consequences for relapse (the destruction of this relationship)
Jesus helped me to quit watching porn ❤️
don't wait anything from jesus because he is not allah
No, you helped yourself. Grow up, take responsibility and credit for your own actions and improvements.
At this point, only HIM has the ability to deliver many of us from that
Me too 🙏🏼
Is he a god ?
If you want to “quit” and just can’t seem to, you need to realize you can’t on your own. You need some divine intervention to help you out of it. So pray for it every day. Every time you catch yourself in temptation, say a prayer to the Holy Spirit. Ask Mary, St. Joesph, and St. Michael to protect and pray for you. Get rid of social media if it’s what causes you to fall into temptation. And for God’s sake, stop looking at women you see out in the world as objects because they are your sisters in Christ, even if they don’t dress like it.
Women objectify themself.
@@AS-np3yq didn’t say they didn’t. Men objectify women too. Don’t let the sins of the women you look at justify your sin of objectifying them.
@@AS-np3yq though it is difficult we shouldn't objectify even those who objectify themselves
@@AS-np3yq “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”
Yes you can, you do not need any kind of intervention especially not divine, whatever that is.
I thank YHW that he delivered me from this and I can happily say that am 4 years clean now
This behavior does not glorify God. That is why I have to replace it with something that does glorify God. With God, anything is possible, so I have hope in a better future and to be a better person to the people around me. Never give up!
Jordan is spot on. What he says applies to all types of addiction. We need to get it out in the open. Not everyone needs to know but we have to have someone to talk to openly when tempted. It's not about the number of days. It's truly one day at a time. There's no set of things that have to be done. Changing people, places, and things covers a lot of ground. Stay the course.
He's spotting? That guy needs a tampon
Christ is King.
He's not a king. He was a carpenter. Read the bible.
Ben shapiro is king!
An avenue which Dr. Peterson should perhaps explore more is all the harm that one is inflicting on the women involved in the porn industry. It's quite terrifying when you think about the abuse you're participating in...
Yeah sure no doubt, but what about the slaves used to mine the cobalt in your phone you used to post that comment, its quite terrifying when you think about the abuse you're participating in...
Start thinking about men. Always "women women women" and their problems..
Those Africans would be eating each other without Chinese overlords
@@YourStylesGeneric321Porn addict cope? Regardless, your argument is disingenuous. Because you don’t get off to the idea of children mining cobalt. You get off to pornography. You directly participate in the filth every time you use it. More viewership. More exposure.
@@YourStylesGeneric321what aboutism
when i'm busy i can go months without the urges. But one little seed can take you out for years... This is a cautionary tale of something I went through during and after the pandemic.
Sometimes an addiction can be the greatest thing to happen in your life, since in order to beat it you are forced to get EVERYTHING ELSE in your life in order.
Never forget that God punishes evil, the force that rebels against Him, by showing that it will always be nothing but a piece in His plan.
Porn is extremely damaging and addictive. I remember seeing a smoking ad which advised to "never quit quitting." First, I thought it was stupid because if you're gonna quit then do it and move on. It was only once I began quitting porn that I realised the significance of the message.
You will want to quit, you will try to quit, but behavioural change takes time. The habit wont die just because you will for it to. It takes time and it helps to understand that if/when you have a lapse.
I was blessed to stop drinking. It was a time I started to prioritize my health more and was on the path to isolating myself which has been a great thing. On a birthday, I said I'll go out and have a good time, and then I'm done. It's been 8 years since then.
Peterson is always very succinct and accurate with his prescriptions for these problems. Having suffered like many men with porn addiction myself, I've come to the same conclusions time and time again. This will to act has to be present and you can't forget why.
what he's saying isn't as easy as that, it takes unbreakable dedication and will everday to fight so your brain can have time to rewire and that can take like 3 years depending on how long you have been addicted if it's long , it can be longer.
Physical removal of any open channels to unfiltered and unguarded internet access was an essential and very hard step for me. And even then, thats just the beginning. Got rid of my Xbox, got Covenant eyes for all computers and phones. LEAVE PHONE when going to restroom as much as you can! All this before I even became Catholic, and now through the grace of God imparted through our Lady’s Rosary and the Eucharist, I have been sober for months. Saint Joseph, Pray for us!
Why pray to saints and not just to Jesus himself ? Where does it say in the bible to pray to saints or Mary ?
@@barrywhite36why should you pray for anyone else if they can just pray to Christ themselves?
I was raised Catholic. Alter boy etc. Sexually abused, used porn to cope. Beyond horrific childhood, no father. Came back to Catholic Church at 43 and I still have issues praying to Saints. Why not just pray to Jesus?
@@noprint praying for and to someone are two different things
@@a-fp9dl praying to the Saints is literally asking them for prayer
I've fallen again multiple times.after making progress during lent.
This is a great passion we must battle young men òf this generation have been exposed to this evil from a young age.
It is a fight and a battle to remove it from ourselves with God's help and constant effort.
Watch our thoughts .
Our thoughts determine our lives
Good luck.
Yea it’s the entertainment of thoughts that seems to be the key.
Where do we let one thought beget another
I've written down tons of new vocabularies from this interview thanks to Jordan.
I’ve been trying to stop my addiction. I’ve found it comes from a place of childhood trauma. I’ve noticed my relationship with my Wife all circled around sex and MY needs. How selfish I was in our relationship. How mentally and emotionally damaging it was. How much happier and better I felt in longer bouts of not watching and taking part in it.
When I started trying to form a relationship with God, I saw how my actions against his creation hurt him. Through hurting myself. And to understand the fear I should have by not serving the Lord. How it hurts me in this life and will hurt me in eternity
Gabor Mate has some good stuff on this
It's incredibly sad to see people justify their own addictions in the comments. That's the difference between the content sinner and the repentant sinner. The repentant sinner understands he needs help and pursues remedial avenues. The content sinner either suppresses the shame so that he doesn't have to deal w/ the discomfort within, or he simply lies to himself and perpetuates an ever-growing snowball that'll eventually destroy him and potentially others who are close to him (e.g. family). Pray for everyone who's still lost in the dark. We were not designed to dehumanize others by treating them as sexual objects to gratify our lust. And all you have to do, in my opinion, to realize that truth is by thinking hypothetically about how you would feel, truly feel, if you knew your mom, sister, or god forbid daughter, were involved with porn. Innately, we would all react with revulsion.
Well and accurately stated.
In the old days it was called masturbation. Now it's called self-pleasuring. Sounds nice and pleasant doesn't it. Hard to find harm in such a harmless sounding behaviour. Oh the cynicism of word smiths and the danger of reordering words so they disguise the danger of certain behaviours.
Actually before "masturbation", the name was "mastupration". "Stupration" is an old synonym of rape. Basically "ma(nu(s)) + stupration" means "rape by hand"
@@MassimoPiacerewow 😮rape by hand??! Fascinating. Thanks for sharing
Yes it’s interesting how they have done that over time.
Same thing for idiots who became retards and now something else.
Same with shell shock is now PTSD
Jordan is truly a great man. Truly.
What kind of great man supports a genocide?
I’m here to hold myself accountable because it’s so challenging at times. I been clean from it for a few days now and don’t to be done with it for good. I know it takes time and effort while not being too hard on yourself. I crave better for myself so that’s exactly what ima do get better.
I come back to the post from time to time to see how far I’ve come. To all my fellas and even ladies out there its you vs old you don’t allow the old version of yourself take you back to a place you outgrown.
You got this! I’m 1 month PMO free and 1 year and 4 months sober from alcohol. It’s true. You really got to replace it with something. So many people think that they have to replace with having a partner. Not for me. I’m still single. I replaced it with being obsessed with studying, being proactive, building my desk setup, having a good housekeeping routine, being organized in my room, in my car, being punctual to work, being good at my job, steadily taking classes at my city college and getting good grades, saving my money, being organized with my digital documents, improving on my piano pieces, improving my typing, learning and studying on my Anki. I’ve replaced my alcohol addiction and PMO addiction with all that stuff. The rest of the dating stuff will figure itself out. I’ve become fulfilled in my own routines and projects, and find personal enjoyment in doing those things and living an honest life, a clean life where I have nothing to hide. I’m preparing myself for when I do meet someone. If I never do, I’m okay with that.
@@fadrian98 I appreciate your words of support and also congrats on 1 yr and 4 months of sobriety that’s huge man. I appreciate you shedding light on the importance of replacing PMO with meaningful hobbies because I enjoy hiking, reading, working out, cleaning my car out, listening to music, traveling and just being a creative yk. I know im destined to do a whole lot of good in the more I just have to get out my own way and I’m willing to do so to reach the best possible version of myself. I want to be PMO free for the rest of my life.
Read the book called easy peasy method it's free and on google just search for the easy peasy method ebook..Thank yourself later.
Hey same here i started watching it when i was 14 i stopped watching it 2 month ago accept lord jesus christ as your saviour he will fight the addiction for you he loves you
It's my first day ...please pray for me.
Talking to a guy with a nicotine addiction about why people are addicted to porn? Tell Matt same reason…the dopamine rush from porn stimulation is like his dopamine rush from the nicotine he is addicted to. One may be worse spiritually, but I’m pretty sure God doesn’t love us intentionally causing harm to our bodies he so blessedly gave us
thank you for this amazing video
Insightful approach to behavior change! Emphasizing both the fears of staying the same and the hopes of a better future can indeed create a powerful motivation to change. 🌟
Hopefully this helps someone. I found this prayer and mindset was extremely helpful in countering my lust and desire for masturbation.
When I would feel that temptation beginning, I would clap my hands together and pray “ God, I offer my sexuality to you. Do with it what you will, I will be patient and trust you to give me the pleasure I desire in your appointed time. I look forward to that day when you bless me in this way.”
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So true. We cannot merely erase, we have to replace.
"You want Satan behind you pushing you forward not in front of you barring your way." This is good.
Jordan Peterson is a treasure. We must cherish and praise him always. God bless!
Brilliant. Love Jordan Peterson. The very best of Canada's critical thinkers.
you didnt let JP interrupt you and talk over you, mad respect
Yeah, JP’s angry domination instinct in his tone is something I have reservations about when hearing his messages.
It’s a great video, very helpful. Thanks
You don't realise how much clearer your life is until you commit to the battle against porn and masturbation. You wonder why the media never promotes the negative towards porn.
Add a blocker to your phone and computer so not only it can block all the bad websites, but filter all social media as well. You have to block even the little cues that make you think about that stuff and unfortunately, social media is full of half naked people, which will make you relapse. Give full access to someone that you trust and make sure you tell them to never give you access. Its really tough and i still struggle, but as time goes on, the urges become less and less.
How come the church doesn’t talk about deliverance from addiction to watching violent or horror movies?
They do at my church group.
This one hits hard. this is what i need to hear.
My pornography addiction turned into a sex addiction but it was ultimately fueled by my alcoholism and when I started getting help I found out that was rooted in awful things that happened to me when I was very young I won't talk about it in the comment section but I'm sure y'all can drive the comparison
There is no such a thing as "pornography addiction". You just had a pleasurable habit. An addiction is, when you cannot withdraw from a substance because of the painful physical reactions that ensue.
@@felixbrandt6419 armchair nonsense but I'm sure you're quite the sweetheart with the best of intentions what you should probably realize is it not the kids in your youth group I can spot a liar when I read one granted good intentions sweet guy but the back hand still strong now move along God bless you 😘
@@eternallife9786 I am not your sweetheart. The rest of your answer is mostly hard to understand... And: Why should I lie to you? I think you are offended because I have contradicted your opinions about yourself.
@@felixbrandt6419 because you believe your own lies and you actually think you're helping by feeding me some nonsense definition about addiction and you're definitely a sweetheart like you thought feeding me your bullshit definition of addiction was actually helping me but I'm going to repeat it again I'm not the kids in your youth group you can't feed me some home spun definition about addiction any other reason you feel comfortable even doing that is cuz you're anonymous on the internet you and I both know if you tried this in real life you would get your teeth put on the curb of the sidewalk remember remember this I'm not Catholic I'm not Christian fradd make solid points about pornography being a problem that I absolutely agree with other than that all this good Catholic boy in nonsense is for the birds enjoy being anonymous on the internet though it's really saving you some dental bills
@@felixbrandt6419 plus you're thinking of the term withdrawal addiction is many things if you had any brains in your head you would realize there's a thing called addiction personality disorder where you can quite literally be addicted to anything but I wouldn't expect you to know anything about this
Literally, Stop Playing with yourself!
Hi, just wanted to say that - with all my appreciation in regards to the content - I think that giving the website name can work not as intended. Meaning that the people that didn't know it before - now they do. And also the sight of that can remind it to the people that have already got rid of this habit. Of course it is probably impossible to remove it now, so that is just a thought to think about :)
Had the same thought when I saw the thumbnail.
Well said.
Praise God Amen. God is always the answer. Glory to God Amen 🙏 🙌 ✨️
I was approaching 160 lbs mid December 2023. I am 5'6", and 70 years old. I had been thin all my life, but I started gaining 20 years ago. Mid-December I was seeing some health consequences....higher blood pressure, etc. I didn't want to start down the pharmacological road, and so, I got pissed......really pissed. I have lost 20 lbs since then (about 4# a month), gradually reforming my dietary habits. Getting really PISSED, was ENORMOUSLY helpful....and, keeps me on the 'right' road.....
Good stuff mate.
Good luck. Hope you get on well.
Coincidentally I was listening to my physician yesterday who said that blood pressure increases naturally around your age.
So maybe it’s not much to worry about unless your diet and lifestyle are suboptimal
Pissed is good. Helps me.
The interest comes and goes. I views far more when I was younger. And loved it. Never thought of quitting. Annoyed me whenever anyone had even suggested that there was something wrong with it. Still does today. Thought I view far less than I did. At times, I may go months without seeing any. And when I do view any, is because I want to. I'm not trying to quit, just not as interested in it anymore.
Did I mention that it annoys me whenever anyone suggests that there is something wrong with viewing it.
I will admit. It can be a damaging addiction to some. Just like anything that can be addicting. Sugar. You need it, to some extent. Your brain for one uses a lot of it, if you are a thinker type of person. But it is addicting, and bad if over used. But it's not bad in of itself. People just need to take such things in moderation.
Some things that can be addictive, should not be taken at all. Such as alcohol and cigarettes. Though some say alcohol is OK in moderation. Is said one glass of red wine with diner, can be quite healthy. Though, some will still disagree.
As for cigarettes. That is one thing I don't feel anyone can say is something good to have, even most long time smokers will agree is is bad for you.
If this topic was about cigarettes. I'd be behind this all the way. But seeing it's about porn, something I enjoy, from time to time, it annoys me with how some obsess over telling others that you should quit it, as something bad to be doing.
It's a very subjective opinion. When you go looking at just how many porn sites there are, and how many users there are, and how many view it per week, out of what they can manage to count, it's a lot. And if you view some of the comment sections, you will find, many tend to enjoy it, each in their own ways.
And there you have it. On porn being bad, I agree to disagree.
I'm thinking about replacing it with being a RUclipsr and a gamer.
I've been addicted to corn since I was 13. I've experienced hell firsthand which was caused by all the anxiety, shame and guilt that comes with this addiction.
I'm 28 now and haven't been using corn for more than 6 months, I already feel much better than I did before but I still have a long way to go to find my inner peace.
If you are still young / in your early 20's and struggling with this, please make a plan with your life while it is not too late. Porn might not cause physicial harm in a way but its affect on mental health is detrimental in the long run.
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How do you do that? I'm interested
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Hey JP.... can't wait for your post-trial analysis of Mr. Diddy and Co. But that might be years from now.
Quit playing with yourself. What about playing with other people?
If you're not married to that person then go ahead and quit that also.
Corn hurts you, those in the video, and your relationships and feelings with those around you. It hurts everyone.
When you have a kid and realize what it's all actually for, you also realize (especially if you're a guy) that you've not only been wasting your time, but hurting a lot of people
I was in that place for way too long so I'm not judging, but I'm telling you from the other side that there's no reason to dwell there. Even from a purely selfish point, looking back I'm like, "why did I waste so much time on deez h0s".
That’s carrying your porn addiction to the community. You heard of STD’s? Whether you go solo or with many others it’s bad. Sex is the act of marriage, stop being perverse. Andrew Tate is the weak man’s idea of a strong man.
@@daviddorf😂 nice way to put it
Not sure if this will help anyone, but I struggled with porn addiction for a long, long time. I also smoked weed all the time, every day, highly concentrated carts, all throughout the day. One day I decided I would put the weed down for a while. By the 2nd day of not having any, my mind felt so clear, and the urges and temptations I was experiencing felt like they had no power to compel me. I should also add that I started praying and building a relationship with God. I'm really happy and thankful to feel like myself again, I had forgotten what It even felt like to be my real self.
Handsome Tintin and Skull Man make some good points.
Even the Bible says the same “ 2 Timothy 2:22 KJV
Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” You don’t just quit without replacing it with something better. So as one flees lust and all these demonic perversions, you gotta be pursuing righteousness…..”
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i gave up being an alchoholic and a pill addict and a lot of bad habbits by surrendering to faith and sacrificing all the things holding me back. been a proud regular non addicted person for a year and a half now and i can even go have a couple beers with a friend and its not a trigger. i havent touched pills since the day i quit and i have more discipline and work ethic and i have a better job and even have my own place now. i went through a breakup with a long term fiance and even that didnt trigger me back into addiction. ive been strong and really proud of who God has made me and the strength hes blessed me with. i couldnt do it on my own and the moment i truely surrendered and agreed to sacrifice the things hurting me, my entire life changed and i never turned back.. God can do anything for any of us
"But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Literally Jesus (Matthew 5:28)
Jesus said that for real? Does Jesus know we were born with natural desires that arise due to no fault of our own?
@@tristanblaze8238 Sad man
@@DanielParedes-m2r I’m literally just asking. We are given human instincts and told that some of those instincts are wrong the minute they are triggered to no fault of our own
@@tristanblaze8238 I know that may have read mean, I am serious, Jesus did not give you or me a desire to lust after women, we can admire their beauty inward outward, character, praise God for it, if that is what you do then it is fine, lust is nasty and does not care for the individual, Jesus wants us to love our family, I got more to say so I will break it up in other comments but thank for reading, I am sorry if I was glib, I will try to say it better
@@tristanblaze8238He gives us right uses and wrong uses for our impulses. He's very big on self-control, self sacrifice, self denial.
Idk why but that is the funniest title I have seen in a long time
At 26 I stopped for 7yrs, cold turkey (Married after that). I wanted to die, but I fkn did it. I am master over all my emotions now.
Rub it in why don't you.
@@r3games1985 so he can laugh at you lol
I don't think I fully agree with JP when he says you have to replace these bad addictions with different things. I think that happens naturally when you fix the root issue, but that's not how you fix the addiction. All addiction comes from a source of pain, a bad relationship, bad parents, being bullied, trauma, difficulty at work - whatever it may be. And once you fix the painful aspect of your life, (letting go of control of something, setting up boundaries, w/e) you will no longer need to numb yourself with substances, porn, food, etc.
Exactly, JBP sounds like a caricature of himself here, overconfident but ultimately just rambling blabla
I’m not a quitter.
I found Jordan Peterson a few years ago when I was at the total armpit of life. almost death. Dude completely changed me. No lie. After him I started studying Carl Jung amongst others. Now I am on level 10. Study. Also study neurology. The combo is the life hack.
The easy availability is also a big problem. Before high-speed internet porn became a thing, it was just so much harder to get your hands on any content. Like in the early 2000's you couldn't just access it like a regular tube site nowadays. That made it automatically impossible to even get addicted in the first place from a very young age.
Some people may need to get a dumb phone.
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It's true that you have to pray much to get off it, but what's not mentioned is that you also have to cooperate with the graces given through the prayer. It comes down to willingness to suffer. I think the only real way to cooperate, and get off of it completely is to decisively get rid of every avenue you would have to watch it again, and also harness a tremendous amount of courage and strength to resist the urges that will 100% follow for awhile. It needs an act of the will to say "I'd be willing to die, and even be tortured to death than ever watch even the smallest instant of this again......for love of you, Jesus" while really and truly meaning those words. Then, you forcefully avoid it when your appetites erupt again and tell you that you need it (they do eventually subside). You also need to be prepared for the new life you're going to have afterwards without it, and the freedom you're going to have, and the healing you're going to need. Those images are in your imagination and apart from a special grace they're going to stay there even while living a completely chaste life which is one (only one) of the reasons it's so destructive.
Beating it beats having kids you don’t want or cant afford……
@@DJWHFun the evils that the porn industry profits from outweigh the perceived benefit of avoiding pregnancy. How many women in the industry use birth control methods like hormonal birth control or IUDs that sometimes kill the baby by preventing implantation? How many women and sometimes even children are trafficked through this industry's demand for human "product"? How many people psychologically damage themselves and others through forming pseudo-communities around this stuff?
Women will honor and greatly respect the man that doesn't watch porn and lives in sexual purity.
which women? the degens with triple digits bodycount? We're supposed to change to please them?
This interviewer is marvellous. I really like the way that he tries to pull Jordan, in a friendly manner, into answering the questions logically, pulling through some of their esoteric nature.
That being said, he is providing slightly too many 'backchannels' in linguistic terms, while the other person is talking. Slightly too much smiling and nodding, and "yes" and "uh-huhs". While this, if natural, gives the impression that on is listening closely, when it is performed to excess it gives the impression that one is concerned with *appearing* as though they are listening, as opposed to genuinely listening
This is certainly a matter of taste, and only the interviewer themselves will be able to know if this mirrors their conscious experience, and whether they are genuinely listening, or trying to appear as though they are listening.
Keep up the great work!
I know the topic is deadly serious, but that title caught be so off-guard. Had me giggling 😂😂😂
One of my biggest additions since 13
*addictions*
I agree that the fear of the Lord is a wonderful gift and great motivator to quit bad habits. However, the love of Jesus Christ is so great and glorious, that once you experience it and seek to open your heart to him habitually, you gradually won't want to sin anymore. You will only want God's love and will not want to be separated from it. His love is what saves. I would just caution judging people as perverted or disgusting for their habits- certainly nobody wants to be seen as a perverted creepy uncle, but this isn't always motivating enough for people to change. Change happens in the present, constantly, and the past is the past. The Lord should be feared, but fear of his omnipotence and the punishment we face, in my opinion, is the wrong sole reason we ought to follow his law. It is okay to be firm and tough, with a patient love. I believe this is what will ultimately encourage our brothers and sisters who are struggling to seek out God and eventually be delivered from their sins... rather than trying to quit in order to save, preserve, repair, or defend their self-image. I don't know, just my thoughts.
My flesh is weak and I give into pleasure WAY too easily… my spirit and flesh are in constant battle with each other. All the time… God have mercy on me…
1 month and going super strong. its too easy now
Read the book called easy peasy method it's free and on google just search for the easy peasy method ebook...Thank yourself later.
Don't get too confident, watch out brother! Stay Strong!
And blue balls like crazy lol. Joking. Good for you. I went 5 days and was bursting.
Nicely put. Porn is an absolute horrific sin and using it will not go unpunished.
The divine mercy chaplet and rosary greatly helped me in this fight
Whenever I need to know what source of energy empowering people I'm surrounded by? Their NO GO s deliver it 4 sure indirectly. Sometimes very straight and obvious they reveal their motifs themselves.
I need to finish the self-authoring paper.
Pray for me please ive been strugglingnwith this.