Stop Playing With Yourself!
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In this clip, Matt Fradd and Jordan Peterson talk how to quit porn (and other addictive behaviors).
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A week clean. Not much, but it’s a start. Believe it or not, a week is a big deal for me.
I’m praying for you bro
@@Meyer-gp7nq week and a day
@@davidr1620 we got this bro. Probably this will be the day I stop also.
You got this brother. I’m praying for you. Please pray for me.
Good job, man!
Often the first steps are the most difficult to make, and you've done that. Keep it up. I'll pray for you also 🙏
No one quits anything. They replace it with something better. 💥 nuff said.
Hmmm…true.
I quit a bunch of things So this claim is not true
replacing it with another thing is also quitting. wth hahaha
it it still quitting
Yeah. I replaced god with Satan
Haven't watched corn in 2 years, The key is to not fight your urges, but to instead just wait for them to pass like waves. Just take a 20 minute break from your computer/phone every time you have a sexual thought.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Smart
Send the urges to Jesus.
What’s the difference between not fighting your urges and giving in??
@@YukonVaccepting the feeling and letting it pass without acting on it. In some cases resistance brings more focus to it and increases it, while accepting it lets it die down.
It was the same with my anxiety. Resisting anxiety makes you anxious about the anxiety. Accepting it means feeling it on one level and not letting it get to you, then it starts to go away.
I was addicted to porn since I was 11 years old. I’ve been clean for months since becoming Catholic. Therapy and constant prayer to Our Lady will help you. Pornography addiction is ruining lives and no one cares. Go to mass as much as possible too. Glory to Jesus Christ. I still get temptation, but we fight till death.
I love hearing this! Great job!!
Discern marriage and find real joy and meaning and that compulsion will be a long lost memory!
Rosary is amazing
I was addicted much younger than that
God bless you my friend.
How do you define porn addiction? I struggle with the occasional use of it, but I don't consider myself an addict 😬
Please pray for those who suffer addictions of any kind.
Like Matt and his nicotine addiction
Thanks
Addiction is indescribable when it has its hooks in you. It grips your soul.
It didn't help.
Need prayets
Pray for me. I’m on the way out of this addiction, but I keep relapsing. I want to be free and accept the grace Christ gives
Same addiction here, the best way to desexualize our minds is to replace the idea of people as sexual objects, to pure beings who were made in the image of God and who have a purpose in life. Fighting temptation is useless because our flesh is weak, we need to change our mindset by genuinely believing Christ's words and we won't even feel attraction to sin
The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light. Matt 6:22
May the Lord be with you
the more you fight it, the more your animal brain will crave it. Instead, shut down your animal brain first - start fasting, low-carb diet, work out more often. skip breakfast and only have protein shake for lunch. once you can shut down the animal brain's craving for nonsense, you will be free.
Revelation 3:20.
Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me.
I was addicted to porn and masturbation for 15yrs, I’d aways wanted to quit the destructive habit but I couldn’t do it myself. One day I cried out to Jesus in prayer to deliver me and trust He did. There is power in the name of Jesus , all glory be to his name 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Amen blessings
When did this take place?
You mean God helped you. Not the humain prophet jesus.
@@anouarzin3 - Jesus was not a prophet. Jesus is God.
Wait what lol
I am 28, addicted since 13 and have quit 1000 times to no avail. My wonderful sexy girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me after I cheated on her one night. The perversion got the best of me - I didn’t not love her, it was simply novelty that made me seek another person. Still very wrong. Porn will make you seek and do things that will destroy the blessings you do have.
Have you replaced it with worship, prayer, scripture memory, exercise etc? (Rhetorical question. You don't need to answer. ) Some people need deliverance. Isaiah Saldivar is on yt and he talks about deliverance.
God sees you fighting, not failing. There is hope ❤
Kyrie Eleison (Lord have mercy). May God keep you by his grace, and redeem you from what you did. Live in daily repentance and tears, you will recover from this, amen.
Sorry to hear that mate
Good luck. Don’t give up hope. Replace it with something better. Forgive yourself and surrender knowing that people are praying for you and that you’re making an effort.
Addiction is a powerful force. And corn is one of the most potent drugs.
Day by day. Build a healthy routine. Sometimes things like bacon/meat can be a factor.
But probably it’s the screen itself that needs to be distanced from.
I use pushups and weights as a quick fix
I don't want to say you're not taking accountability here but I would say that it sounds like you're blaming porn for your behaviour.
read a book called 'Unveiling your hidden potential' by Bruce Thornwood, eye-opening for me
What's it about?
@@Dellen-Roger I think it's about unveiling your hidden potential but i'm not sure.
@@cagremiroglu1159 No, it is about unveiling your hidden potential. You have it in the name of the book
Waste of money.
I read think and grow Rich and it teaches that se*ual transmutation, which is abstaining from s*x and transferring that to being more productive in life, like starting a business.. 🙏💯🍻
I have been an addict since I was 16 or so. I hit rock bottom in every way until last year when I was baptized. I am now taking back what Satan took from me and am working on a children's book. For he took my adolescence and I will not have that happen to anybody else.
This is such a beautiful comment, it bought tears to my eyes....
you comment just made me realize why my music is so childlike - it's the purest state I want to achieve after all that darkness I was exposed to. Your comment is very beautiful, I wish you the best in life and that you may inspire generations to come with your work
Praying for you!
Would love to know when the book is available
Please pray for me
That industry is evil evil evil!!!
And it’s run by a minority
They have essentially admitted that they know - and depend - on kids accessing it, AND that they send gay material to people to try and escalate their deviance and addiction.
Those that are hellbound are miserable but still seek to rationalize their pathetic lives, and want as much company as they can get in Hades.
@@madsocsci absolutely! I made another comment about that too. On a positive note I feel that the people who are becoming parents now are going to be more aware of the dangers and be more proactive in protecting children from it
@CherryDreamer96 Let's hope so. All my parents had to do was to hide the Sears catalog. 😉
Simpler times, brother!
@@madsocsciMy dad likes to bring up that when I was a young lad he would catch me looking at the bra section of the Sears catalog. Those were the days!
Dr. Peterson is absolutely right. Religious transformation has freed me from my porn and cannabis addiction. The fear of god outweighs all other fears and desires within me.
People think fear of God is bad. We all fear something, and I'd rather fear the Almighty who has my back.
God is better than nothing but not the best there is.
Fearing an imaginary being is wild.
@@Youttubeuser20932 I used to think like you until my eyes were opened and now I see god in everything
@@Wildminecraftwolf there is something better than the almighty creator of the universe? Whats that?
Addiction darkens the intellect and further weakens the will. Practicing the virtue of temperance combined with prudence is a good beginning. Serving others is key, especially if you're an atheist.
GET BEHIND US SATAN !!!
Ask yourself why serving others is key..that is the will and command of God! The porn industry is all about evil! Like it or not being an atheist or not it is fighting evil! Do yourself the best favor you ever have and take steps forward to learn more about God atleast! You won't be sorry!
Thye make people think that sex is a part of their identity, or the magazine sex, that has no intimacy value or emotional intimacy.
Yet with healthy sexual intimacy and healthy emotional intimacy, you amy
create your identity as well, and on top level of life....like holding hand with your partner etc, or loving hug, and small intimate gestures.
Pretty inspiring to see the men in here encouraging one another and offering up prayers.
I finally saw how juvenile and weak an addition to porn is. That bugged me. I was tired of being a child. I wanted to mature, to grow up so to speak. One day the lightbulb came on and I realized that I wasn't putting any plan into action. I wasn't formulating concrete steps to avoid porn. I bought Covenant Eyes and confided in my wife who graciously agreed to be my accountability. Knowing my wife will see what I look at on line is a huge deterrent. I've lost track of how long it's been since I looked at porn.
When I was a teen I was more eager to be honest with those close to me because that’s how things worked and they worked to my good and the good of others,
then you get older and realize it’s more about saving face and being nosey and that being what people mostly care about 😂 but just yesterday I think I finally had enough about continuing addictions if we were honest stem out of pride, fear, and hate in a lot of ways. The trick will be to truly hand it over and not going around with a chip on my shoulder the size of a mountain.
@@Blake4625kHz Bro wtf? Don't use google translator.
@@UnlistedUP
I used google translator ?😂 I wish that was the extent of my problems lmao
Getting a blocker on my phone, getting rid of everything that might cause a relapse and keeping myself busy has helped me massively.
Oh God how do I get this blocker and can I get a blocker that blocks all of my appliances. I'm totally overwhelmed and I can't afford a therapist. I'm not religious
@@lonewulfmo9128 any of them should do, there's loads, find one that suits you and your needs. You can customise on them too. And be busy so your not thinking about porn and if you do, w@nk, with your mind, not other stimulusbut your mind. Then your the star of the show at least.
@@rob_341 thanks
I did some buttons on my phone by watching a video; however, I still have it my laptop. When I bought a new phone, it transferred over on Android.
Christ is King.
He is also "only" an archetype of the self according to jungian psychology
He's not a king. He was a carpenter. Read the bible.
Ben shapiro is king!
The only way to get over this addiction is to be disgusted by it. Then and only then will you have a chance at overcoming it. The mind created the problem and the mind is how you get out of that problem.
it's funny you say it cuz that exactly what happened to me ,
I always liked it until I became extremly disgusted with myself but that's a bad thing too , without my health and sex drive is bigger part of health , it's too hard to live this way :(
@@roxas9571 I met a former heroin addict a while ago, and when I asked him how did you overcome it? He said the only way to get over it, the only way to beat it, is by being disgusted by it.
@@roxas9571 Disgust is a very powerful negative emotion. It’s so powerful that it can overpower even the most extreme addictions.
My husband quit when we started a romantic relationship 3 years ago. Though I was in love with him I told him I couldn’t be with him unless he stopped watching porn. So he did. You can quit if you have enough motivation.
and this is why having a good community helps you in the process of getting better.
Most men I know, including me, end up with wives that won't have sex with them.
If you don't service him at least let him have his porn.
I don't think that's very helpful advice. It's difficult for people and the "you can do it if you try hard enough" just doesn't make people's path easier.
I think this is proof of the "you have to replace it with something greater".
It's not "try harder" it's finding a suitable concrete motivation and creating real consequences for relapse (the destruction of this relationship)
you didnt let JP interrupt you and talk over you, mad respect
Physical removal of any open channels to unfiltered and unguarded internet access was an essential and very hard step for me. And even then, thats just the beginning. Got rid of my Xbox, got Covenant eyes for all computers and phones. LEAVE PHONE when going to restroom as much as you can! All this before I even became Catholic, and now through the grace of God imparted through our Lady’s Rosary and the Eucharist, I have been sober for months. Saint Joseph, Pray for us!
Why pray to saints and not just to Jesus himself ? Where does it say in the bible to pray to saints or Mary ?
@@barrywhite36why should you pray for anyone else if they can just pray to Christ themselves?
I was raised Catholic. Alter boy etc. Sexually abused, used porn to cope. Beyond horrific childhood, no father. Came back to Catholic Church at 43 and I still have issues praying to Saints. Why not just pray to Jesus?
@@noprint praying for and to someone are two different things
@@a-fp9dl praying to the Saints is literally asking them for prayer
God willing I will stop with this addiction.
God is willing, waiting with outstretched arms. We both have no excuse anymore. I've tried almost everything, except for confiding in God more. Let's change that?
@@chonk6683 Right on
@@andreasviken2949 Read your Bible every day it will change your life the washing of the word
praying for you
Unfortunately, I catch a charge if I just walk up to someone and start playing with them instead.
If you want to “quit” and just can’t seem to, you need to realize you can’t on your own. You need some divine intervention to help you out of it. So pray for it every day. Every time you catch yourself in temptation, say a prayer to the Holy Spirit. Ask Mary, St. Joesph, and St. Michael to protect and pray for you. Get rid of social media if it’s what causes you to fall into temptation. And for God’s sake, stop looking at women you see out in the world as objects because they are your sisters in Christ, even if they don’t dress like it.
Women objectify themself.
@@AS-np3yq didn’t say they didn’t. Men objectify women too. Don’t let the sins of the women you look at justify your sin of objectifying them.
@@AS-np3yq though it is difficult we shouldn't objectify even those who objectify themselves
@@AS-np3yq “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”
Yes you can, you do not need any kind of intervention especially not divine, whatever that is.
Peterson is always very succinct and accurate with his prescriptions for these problems. Having suffered like many men with porn addiction myself, I've come to the same conclusions time and time again. This will to act has to be present and you can't forget why.
Insightful approach to behavior change! Emphasizing both the fears of staying the same and the hopes of a better future can indeed create a powerful motivation to change. 🌟
Love your interviews!
I thank YHW that he delivered me from this and I can happily say that am 4 years clean now
You don't realise how much clearer your life is until you commit to the battle against porn and masturbation. You wonder why the media never promotes the negative towards porn.
So true. We cannot merely erase, we have to replace.
Porn is extremely damaging and addictive. I remember seeing a smoking ad which advised to "never quit quitting." First, I thought it was stupid because if you're gonna quit then do it and move on. It was only once I began quitting porn that I realised the significance of the message.
You will want to quit, you will try to quit, but behavioural change takes time. The habit wont die just because you will for it to. It takes time and it helps to understand that if/when you have a lapse.
Quitting addiction is a road. The major thing is not to get into bad habits. If someone relapse, don't beat yourself, tomorrow start again as if nothing happend. Just don't get into the old habits of doing addiction every day.
An avenue which Dr. Peterson should perhaps explore more is all the harm that one is inflicting on the women involved in the porn industry. It's quite terrifying when you think about the abuse you're participating in...
Yeah sure no doubt, but what about the slaves used to mine the cobalt in your phone you used to post that comment, its quite terrifying when you think about the abuse you're participating in...
Start thinking about men. Always "women women women" and their problems..
Those Africans would be eating each other without Chinese overlords
@@YourStylesGeneric321Porn addict cope? Regardless, your argument is disingenuous. Because you don’t get off to the idea of children mining cobalt. You get off to pornography. You directly participate in the filth every time you use it. More viewership. More exposure.
@@YourStylesGeneric321what aboutism
I was blessed to stop drinking. It was a time I started to prioritize my health more and was on the path to isolating myself which has been a great thing. On a birthday, I said I'll go out and have a good time, and then I'm done. It's been 8 years since then.
Jordan is truly a great man. Truly.
What kind of great man supports a genocide?
This is amazing advice! I love his honesty about his own issues with alcohol.
Interestingly he was also addicted to benzodiazepines a few years ago. Nearly killed him
Awesome clip, really got the mind going.
I’m here to hold myself accountable because it’s so challenging at times. I been clean from it for a few days now and don’t to be done with it for good. I know it takes time and effort while not being too hard on yourself. I crave better for myself so that’s exactly what ima do get better.
I come back to the post from time to time to see how far I’ve come. To all my fellas and even ladies out there its you vs old you don’t allow the old version of yourself take you back to a place you outgrown.
You got this! I’m 1 month PMO free and 1 year and 4 months sober from alcohol. It’s true. You really got to replace it with something. So many people think that they have to replace with having a partner. Not for me. I’m still single. I replaced it with being obsessed with studying, being proactive, building my desk setup, having a good housekeeping routine, being organized in my room, in my car, being punctual to work, being good at my job, steadily taking classes at my city college and getting good grades, saving my money, being organized with my digital documents, improving on my piano pieces, improving my typing, learning and studying on my Anki. I’ve replaced my alcohol addiction and PMO addiction with all that stuff. The rest of the dating stuff will figure itself out. I’ve become fulfilled in my own routines and projects, and find personal enjoyment in doing those things and living an honest life, a clean life where I have nothing to hide. I’m preparing myself for when I do meet someone. If I never do, I’m okay with that.
@@fadrian98 I appreciate your words of support and also congrats on 1 yr and 4 months of sobriety that’s huge man. I appreciate you shedding light on the importance of replacing PMO with meaningful hobbies because I enjoy hiking, reading, working out, cleaning my car out, listening to music, traveling and just being a creative yk. I know im destined to do a whole lot of good in the more I just have to get out my own way and I’m willing to do so to reach the best possible version of myself. I want to be PMO free for the rest of my life.
Read the book called easy peasy method it's free and on google just search for the easy peasy method ebook..Thank yourself later.
Talking to a guy with a nicotine addiction about why people are addicted to porn? Tell Matt same reason…the dopamine rush from porn stimulation is like his dopamine rush from the nicotine he is addicted to. One may be worse spiritually, but I’m pretty sure God doesn’t love us intentionally causing harm to our bodies he so blessedly gave us
Awesome guest, thanks for inviting Dr P. to your show!
Thank you for you time
I was approaching 160 lbs mid December 2023. I am 5'6", and 70 years old. I had been thin all my life, but I started gaining 20 years ago. Mid-December I was seeing some health consequences....higher blood pressure, etc. I didn't want to start down the pharmacological road, and so, I got pissed......really pissed. I have lost 20 lbs since then (about 4# a month), gradually reforming my dietary habits. Getting really PISSED, was ENORMOUSLY helpful....and, keeps me on the 'right' road.....
Good stuff mate.
Good luck. Hope you get on well.
Coincidentally I was listening to my physician yesterday who said that blood pressure increases naturally around your age.
So maybe it’s not much to worry about unless your diet and lifestyle are suboptimal
Pissed is good. Helps me.
Sometimes an addiction can be the greatest thing to happen in your life, since in order to beat it you are forced to get EVERYTHING ELSE in your life in order.
Never forget that God punishes evil, the force that rebels against Him, by showing that it will always be nothing but a piece in His plan.
This one of those videos u gotta watch a few times in a row, and come back to on the daily
Im 44 and ive been at is since i was 13. I want to quit this nasty habit. Please pray for me! Thank you kindly.
I’ve been trying to stop my addiction. I’ve found it comes from a place of childhood trauma. I’ve noticed my relationship with my Wife all circled around sex and MY needs. How selfish I was in our relationship. How mentally and emotionally damaging it was. How much happier and better I felt in longer bouts of not watching and taking part in it.
When I started trying to form a relationship with God, I saw how my actions against his creation hurt him. Through hurting myself. And to understand the fear I should have by not serving the Lord. How it hurts me in this life and will hurt me in eternity
Gabor Mate has some good stuff on this
The divine mercy chaplet and rosary greatly helped me in this fight
Thank you.
Jordan is spot on. What he says applies to all types of addiction. We need to get it out in the open. Not everyone needs to know but we have to have someone to talk to openly when tempted. It's not about the number of days. It's truly one day at a time. There's no set of things that have to be done. Changing people, places, and things covers a lot of ground. Stay the course.
He's spotting? That guy needs a tampon
The easy availability is also a big problem. Before high-speed internet porn became a thing, it was just so much harder to get your hands on any content. Like in the early 2000's you couldn't just access it like a regular tube site nowadays. That made it automatically impossible to even get addicted in the first place from a very young age.
Some people may need to get a dumb phone.
This behavior does not glorify God. That is why I have to replace it with something that does glorify God. With God, anything is possible, so I have hope in a better future and to be a better person to the people around me. Never give up!
Really helpful video. Visioning specifically picturing a heaven and a hell outcome. Very helpful.
I used to have an addiction when I was younger and it felt like cheap dopamine and a way to avoid learning how to deal with emotions and communicate. I also left most of my friends last year since they were bad influences but it got extremely lonely since I’ve never been too outgoing but getting better at it.
It's true that you have to pray much to get off it, but what's not mentioned is that you also have to cooperate with the graces given through the prayer. It comes down to willingness to suffer. I think the only real way to cooperate, and get off of it completely is to decisively get rid of every avenue you would have to watch it again, and also harness a tremendous amount of courage and strength to resist the urges that will 100% follow for awhile. It needs an act of the will to say "I'd be willing to die, and even be tortured to death than ever watch even the smallest instant of this again......for love of you, Jesus" while really and truly meaning those words. Then, you forcefully avoid it when your appetites erupt again and tell you that you need it (they do eventually subside). You also need to be prepared for the new life you're going to have afterwards without it, and the freedom you're going to have, and the healing you're going to need. Those images are in your imagination and apart from a special grace they're going to stay there even while living a completely chaste life which is one (only one) of the reasons it's so destructive.
Hell does not exist on earth but you can certainly feel the flames.
I'm in Hell right now but “Long is the way and hard, that out of Hell leads up to light.”
No, hell only exits on earth. Christ vanquished death and Hades forever!
This life is heaven or hell based on how you live. If you live with pure intentions and always keep working to improve it will be heaven. That doesn’t mean it won’t be hard at points but you will reap the benefits.
Doing the sign of the cross at the first sign of inappropriate thoughts has helped me immensely. Pray to God for strength!
I need to finish the self-authoring paper.
Hi, just wanted to say that - with all my appreciation in regards to the content - I think that giving the website name can work not as intended. Meaning that the people that didn't know it before - now they do. And also the sight of that can remind it to the people that have already got rid of this habit. Of course it is probably impossible to remove it now, so that is just a thought to think about :)
Had the same thought when I saw the thumbnail.
Well said.
I've fallen again multiple times.after making progress during lent.
This is a great passion we must battle young men òf this generation have been exposed to this evil from a young age.
It is a fight and a battle to remove it from ourselves with God's help and constant effort.
Watch our thoughts .
Our thoughts determine our lives
Being watchful is vital when fighting pornography! Keep praying. Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me a sinner.
Good luck.
Yea it’s the entertainment of thoughts that seems to be the key.
Where do we let one thought beget another
What worked Perfect for me was just being in a situation when I had no internet, keep yourself without internet during the evenings
What a great suit jacket Jordan is wearing ahah, i love it!
At 26 I stopped for 7yrs, cold turkey (Married after that). I wanted to die, but I fkn did it. I am master over all my emotions now.
Rub it in why don't you.
Most rich people stay rich by spending like the poor and investing without stopping then most poor people stay poor by spending like the rich yet not investing like the rich but impressing them
Exactly! My grandparents were so frugal but they had a TON of money on both sides. I remember my grandfather telling me "you want to make money while you sleep." And I guess that attitude passed down to my dad (RIP), because I remember going to his house one day and I had bought something I really liked, so I wanted to show it to him. So I said "Look at this!
Isn't it cute? It was on sale...I saved 50%!" My dad replied "Well, if you're spending, you're not saving." Obviously I had no retort, and that has always stuck with me.
Saving and investing wisely while prioritizing necessities and a few small luxuries in relation to one's total assets is a great approach. It helps ensure financial stability and I my for the enjoyment of life's little pleasures without compromising long-term financial goals. It's all about finding a balance that works for you!
very true, a huge part of my portfolio growth has come during this bear market. I've been able to scale from $180K to $572K in a short period of time.
How do you do that? I'm interested
1 operate a wide- range of Investments with help from My Financial Adviser. My advice is to get a professional who will help you, plan and enhance your management skills. For the record, working with Stephen Milne Ebert, has been an amazing experience.
If hypergamy gets under control, I will.
This is powerful
True.
"You want Satan behind you pushing you forward not in front of you barring your way." This is good.
Brilliant. Love Jordan Peterson. The very best of Canada's critical thinkers.
Great title
Was also going to echo what a lot of other people are saying. Keeping my phone in a seperate room and going to Our Lady in the form of the rosay did more than years of programs ever did to be rid of pornography. It's easier than it might seem, but that's only because doing it wrong makes it hard.
How come the church doesn’t talk about deliverance from addiction to watching violent or horror movies?
They do at my church group.
Praise God Amen. God is always the answer. Glory to God Amen 🙏 🙌 ✨️
One of my biggest additions since 13
*addictions*
Add a blocker to your phone and computer so not only it can block all the bad websites, but filter all social media as well. You have to block even the little cues that make you think about that stuff and unfortunately, social media is full of half naked people, which will make you relapse. Give full access to someone that you trust and make sure you tell them to never give you access. Its really tough and i still struggle, but as time goes on, the urges become less and less.
I know the topic is deadly serious, but that title caught be so off-guard. Had me giggling 😂😂😂
It’s called behavioral modification. Replace the bad habits with good habits. It is not always easy either, but it is conceivable.
I’m not a quitter.
My pornography addiction turned into a sex addiction but it was ultimately fueled by my alcoholism and when I started getting help I found out that was rooted in awful things that happened to me when I was very young I won't talk about it in the comment section but I'm sure y'all can drive the comparison
There is no such a thing as "pornography addiction". You just had a pleasurable habit. An addiction is, when you cannot withdraw from a substance because of the painful physical reactions that ensue.
@@felixbrandt6419 armchair nonsense but I'm sure you're quite the sweetheart with the best of intentions what you should probably realize is it not the kids in your youth group I can spot a liar when I read one granted good intentions sweet guy but the back hand still strong now move along God bless you 😘
@@eternallife9786 I am not your sweetheart. The rest of your answer is mostly hard to understand... And: Why should I lie to you? I think you are offended because I have contradicted your opinions about yourself.
@@felixbrandt6419 because you believe your own lies and you actually think you're helping by feeding me some nonsense definition about addiction and you're definitely a sweetheart like you thought feeding me your bullshit definition of addiction was actually helping me but I'm going to repeat it again I'm not the kids in your youth group you can't feed me some home spun definition about addiction any other reason you feel comfortable even doing that is cuz you're anonymous on the internet you and I both know if you tried this in real life you would get your teeth put on the curb of the sidewalk remember remember this I'm not Catholic I'm not Christian fradd make solid points about pornography being a problem that I absolutely agree with other than that all this good Catholic boy in nonsense is for the birds enjoy being anonymous on the internet though it's really saving you some dental bills
@@felixbrandt6419 plus you're thinking of the term withdrawal addiction is many things if you had any brains in your head you would realize there's a thing called addiction personality disorder where you can quite literally be addicted to anything but I wouldn't expect you to know anything about this
Addictions truly make you weak and turns you into a pathetic slave. You won’t be able to stop until you truly want to stop, and then it’s easy.
I have never been on adult websites before and I plan for it to stay that way. It's rare for someone my age to have never been on those websites but it just feels wrong to go onto them which keeps me away from them.
Congrats buddy we’re all envious of you
That’s good I’ve stopped for awhile now. My friend in high school introduced me to it and honestly wish he hadn’t. At least I’m out of it now but looking back would have preferred not to be.
Hopefully this helps someone. I found this prayer and mindset was extremely helpful in countering my lust and desire for masturbation.
When I would feel that temptation beginning, I would clap my hands together and pray “ God, I offer my sexuality to you. Do with it what you will, I will be patient and trust you to give me the pleasure I desire in your appointed time. I look forward to that day when you bless me in this way.”
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I honestly no longer have any lust but for masturbation it’s pretty bad but as a tool to relieve stress for prolactin but there are much better ways.
It's incredibly sad to see people justify their own addictions in the comments. That's the difference between the content sinner and the repentant sinner. The repentant sinner understands he needs help and pursues remedial avenues. The content sinner either suppresses the shame so that he doesn't have to deal w/ the discomfort within, or he simply lies to himself and perpetuates an ever-growing snowball that'll eventually destroy him and potentially others who are close to him (e.g. family). Pray for everyone who's still lost in the dark. We were not designed to dehumanize others by treating them as sexual objects to gratify our lust. And all you have to do, in my opinion, to realize that truth is by thinking hypothetically about how you would feel, truly feel, if you knew your mom, sister, or god forbid daughter, were involved with porn. Innately, we would all react with revulsion.
Well and accurately stated.
Amen, Jordan, Amen
Even the Bible says the same “ 2 Timothy 2:22 KJV
Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” You don’t just quit without replacing it with something better. So as one flees lust and all these demonic perversions, you gotta be pursuing righteousness…..”
In the old days it was called masturbation. Now it's called self-pleasuring. Sounds nice and pleasant doesn't it. Hard to find harm in such a harmless sounding behaviour. Oh the cynicism of word smiths and the danger of reordering words so they disguise the danger of certain behaviours.
Actually before "masturbation", the name was "mastupration". "Stupration" is an old synonym of rape. Basically "ma(nu(s)) + stupration" means "rape by hand"
@@MassimoPiacerewow 😮rape by hand??! Fascinating. Thanks for sharing
Yes it’s interesting how they have done that over time.
Same thing for idiots who became retards and now something else.
Same with shell shock is now PTSD
In his interview before execution, Ted Bundy blamed it all on discovering porn as a kid
Yes, that is true.
Yes and? Do you actually think that people who watch porn are more likely to be serial killers based on one case alone??? 😂😂😂
i gave up being an alchoholic and a pill addict and a lot of bad habbits by surrendering to faith and sacrificing all the things holding me back. been a proud regular non addicted person for a year and a half now and i can even go have a couple beers with a friend and its not a trigger. i havent touched pills since the day i quit and i have more discipline and work ethic and i have a better job and even have my own place now. i went through a breakup with a long term fiance and even that didnt trigger me back into addiction. ive been strong and really proud of who God has made me and the strength hes blessed me with. i couldnt do it on my own and the moment i truely surrendered and agreed to sacrifice the things hurting me, my entire life changed and i never turned back.. God can do anything for any of us
Literally, Stop Playing with yourself!
My wife is my ally on Covenant Eyes.
1 month and going super strong. its too easy now
Read the book called easy peasy method it's free and on google just search for the easy peasy method ebook...Thank yourself later.
Don't get too confident, watch out brother! Stay Strong!
And blue balls like crazy lol. Joking. Good for you. I went 5 days and was bursting.
Never tried it, but I’ve heard good things.
The arguments in the ancient world about what is best for humans are myriad .
St Augustine cuts thru them all and says “ The grace of God thru Jesus Christ is the best for man’s well being “
Handsome Tintin and Skull Man make some good points.
"But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Literally Jesus (Matthew 5:28)
Jesus said that for real? Does Jesus know we were born with natural desires that arise due to no fault of our own?
@@tristanblaze8238 Sad man
@@user-mh4vn4ic3y I’m literally just asking. We are given human instincts and told that some of those instincts are wrong the minute they are triggered to no fault of our own
@@tristanblaze8238 I know that may have read mean, I am serious, Jesus did not give you or me a desire to lust after women, we can admire their beauty inward outward, character, praise God for it, if that is what you do then it is fine, lust is nasty and does not care for the individual, Jesus wants us to love our family, I got more to say so I will break it up in other comments but thank for reading, I am sorry if I was glib, I will try to say it better
@@tristanblaze8238He gives us right uses and wrong uses for our impulses. He's very big on self-control, self sacrifice, self denial.
I wish there was some really smart computer geeky hacker team who put a block on every adult website in existence. Nobody could access it nobody who they tried, and when new ones cropped up they would be instantly blocked.
Bro is swagged up for real I dig
Its interesting the people who talk about toxic masculinity are dead silent on the topic of pornography
When no one wants to play with you, you play with your self :P
11 days clean the rosary and Jesus prayer and reading scripture is what is helping me and renewing my mind
I been watching it since 14-15.. I can’t stop and im 27. I go months but can’t really break free
Quit playing with yourself. What about playing with other people?
If you're not married to that person then go ahead and quit that also.
Corn hurts you, those in the video, and your relationships and feelings with those around you. It hurts everyone.
When you have a kid and realize what it's all actually for, you also realize (especially if you're a guy) that you've not only been wasting your time, but hurting a lot of people
I was in that place for way too long so I'm not judging, but I'm telling you from the other side that there's no reason to dwell there. Even from a purely selfish point, looking back I'm like, "why did I waste so much time on deez h0s".
That’s carrying your porn addiction to the community. You heard of STD’s? Whether you go solo or with many others it’s bad. Sex is the act of marriage, stop being perverse. Andrew Tate is the weak man’s idea of a strong man.
@@daviddorf😂 nice way to put it