why I went on a no buy in 2020: my reaction 4 years later
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- Опубликовано: 25 авг 2024
- reacting to my no buy intro video // why I went on a no buy in 2020
reacting to my no buy intro video four years later
hey y'all, in today's video I'm reacting to my first youtube video where I embark on a no buy year. I'm sharing all my thoughts including what I think 4 years later. Yeah, I wasn't prepared.
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Oohhh baby Shawna..i love her. Shes so relevant to me right now. Im immersing myself in no buy videos and work with my therapist. Im so glad you are giving me this info. My only issue is that i wish 25 yr old me did this, not 56 yr old me. 🎉
it's never too late to learn, grow, or change! I'm thrilled you're working on it
It's never too late and you're never too old 💖 You're doing it now and that's what's important and empowering 💖
I have been here since your no buy! You have really put in the work and have come so far. It’s great to see.
@paisleyhunter, if it makes you feel better, I’m just now learning this at 65! 😂 I’m just happy to know now so that I can make positive changes in my life.
Your first video is beautiful, you showed vulnerability and acknowledgement and the best of all, the willing to overcome your problems. I actually started watching your videos this year, the pan updates encourage me to use up my stuff.
Thank you so much and I'm glad my videos have had a positive impact on you
i inadvertently went into a no buy year last year because my budget became much more restrictive after a huge rent increase, and your content has been a huge help in realizing that consumption is such a small part of us that i honestly stopped feeling the need to buy on a whim, and realized how honestly boring over-consumption is. i’ve really made a pivot towards sustainability in mending my clothes, figuring out how to reuse things around my house, reducing my plastic consumption/waste, etc. now i feel a lot better when i buy something because its usually something i’ve put a lot of thought into that is both a want and a need. it’s really been eye-opening and liberating!!
edit: wow, when writing this i hadn’t gotten to the point yet where you discussed your feelings of inadequacy in grad school and it hit me like a truck. i have to battle those feelings everyday where i worry that i ended up where i am because of a mistake - hearing you say “why the hell would you think that?” felt like a wake up call to stop doing exactly that. thank you shawna
I'm so happy to hear that your change in spending habits has been a positive one for you 💕
Girl, I just came to that realization within the past year, and I just turned 33. I’m so glad I’m not alone in the thought of self-sabotage. I just paid off both credit cards. The only debt I have now is my student loans and my car payment. Thank you for letting me know I’m not alone, and helping me sort myself out.
@othrwrldLea you're absolutely not alone and you've accomplished some BIG goals! I hope you're proud of yourself 🌞
I started following you during your no-buy, I think. Proud of then Shawna and prouder of you now. I am learning a lot from you and from myself as I watch you. This is, perhaps, the best video yet on your channel.
@@dinygoesglam wow thanks so much 🙏 I've definitely noticed you in the comments for many years and appreciate that you're still here after all this time
Great video! Doing a no buy after years of trying low buy ways to stem the flow of my overconsumption and your content has been a HUGE help, i'm actively engaging in what actual consumption habits I want to bring with me into the next year and how to sustainably buy things I don't need but might improve my life and how to prioritize needs over dopamine hit wants. I've been on a slow and hard journey towards consuming the way I want to since 2020, and I feel like this hard reset closer to the end of my journey when I have the most information was the most successful way to No-buy.
@@charmedvenuss I absolutely love that you've gone at your own pace and have prioritized learning. This is such a testament to how unique our journey can be
Baby Shawna tried her best, and I think she did great!❤
she absolutely did try her best!
I agree with my sisters' friend, who stated that marketing is a push over and even though we aren't forced, we are all highly influenced by certain pressures to conform to societys' idea of what we should be and what we have. He is such a breathe of fresh air in an area of toxic fumes and negative people. Hearing him stand his ground towards my brothers' own convention of blaming people, rather being sympathetic and understanding of what societal pressures and propaganda does to people. It's nice hearing how younger generations are more understanding and sympathetic towards themselves and others when it comes to trying to conform and being authentic. It shows and proves how things are improving for the better with them. Older generations still have a cruel mind set towards the whole personal responsibilities without recognizing we are all influenced and are by-products of our environment. Thank you for your own conversations and discussions. They don't take away the blame fully, but they recognize that we are both agents and victims of this system we currently have, thus have the understanding that we need to balance ourselves.
BTW, have you ever heard of the documentary "What Would Jesus Buy?" It is a very interesting anti-hyperconsumerism documentary. I think it is a relevant documentary to analyze and do a commentary on in your channel... or at least mention, since it touches much of what you are talking about here. Other documentaries to watch are "Affluenza" and "Escape from Affluenza". Those helped me cut back on certain items. I still have shampoo and conditioner from 2018 due to using less of them. I also mix them with newer products to make them last longer and work better.
thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your whole journey it means more than you will ever know
I love that bob on you!! And I feel you on the brows, we all had em 😂😭 straight up a good 6 months in 2017 of just. Angry bird eyebrows on me
it is so painful to see looking back 😂
@@shawnaripari so glad I didn’t make public content in that era 🥲
@Magicwithizz this is true!!! I wonder what we'll look back on now with the same kind of thoughts 😅 obvs were gunna keep doing us and I think back in 2020 you couldn't have told me my eyebrows weren't it either
I only discovered your channel about a month ago and I have watched every new upload ever since! I'm so so glad I found your channel on my current journey toward conscious consumption. This year I've started to delve deeper into the topic through reading books and attending a seminar at my university. Like you and many others I've been heavily influenced by the online world and honestly definitely experienced a shopping addiction, especially during quarantine. I'm very grateful that there are people like you who analyze and criticize what's going on on social media platforms. I'm so excited to have found this community and I'm very grateful to be on this journey together
wow thank you so much! I'm so glad my channel has brought value to you
Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest in this video, it's very easy to reject your past self so to see you respect her and be proud of her insights is wonderful ❤ I really resonate with what you have said I also had an emotional spending problem and learning to stop asking 'do I need *this*?' and to ask instead 'what do *I* need?' was such a revelation!
yay, I'm so happy to hear this, thank you for such a kind comment
I started an unintentional no buy year a year ago when the debt i had, started to feel cripling. I couldn't deal with it anymore and decided it was time to start paying off debt as fast as possible.
I'm also on a no-buy journey and at first I made some mistakes too. I started too radically, restricting all non-essential buys, but now I am more mature and understand that it's okay to buy something not essential if it means it will improve my quality of life somehow. Of course, doing that responsibly, giving myself time to ponder it that's really a useful buy and will not end in a waste pile or donated because I couldn't really use it.
"That slapped!" Hell yeah girl!!!! That part was awesome, and I love the way you analyzed it for us too. You and Hannah Louise Poston would be sooo great on a collab, you both are such deep thinkers.
YES!!!! Hannah and Shawna are two peas in a pod. They are both such a great combo of introspection and humor.
@@thegraincreativeco9227 right?!?!?!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow, your first video is inspiring and still holds true to time. I appreciate what you've created with this channel, I hope you feel great pride for the community you've fostered and the strides you've taken.
I also wanted to say, it wasn't that you didn't get to those things in 2020 -- you just got the "map" in 2020 and were figuring out what the journey might entail. It would make sense that these things happen over the course of years, you should be proud that you've kept to the path in the end. ❤
wow thank you so much 💕 I also love your analogy of the map because this is so true. I got the blueprint of what I needed to change and began working on it
I’ve been here since 2020!! I think? What is time? 😂Thank you for your videos. They are so thought-provoking and helpful.😊
damn!! thanks for being here for 4 years!!
I love that you included the negative aspects of the no buy and totally agree! I was on an extreme low buy for several years due to super low income + holding myself to very strict standards in personal environmental practices, and I had to shift because a) it was too brutal a way to live and b) it helped me lean in to the “I don’t deserve nice things” story too intensely, so I had to soften my practices to save myself kind of. Now I’m still on a very very tight budget but not in as extreme circumstances, and I find it difficult to balance when I’m intentionally choosing joy by getting myself something nice that will improve my daily life in a meaningful way, and when I’m letting the whiplash reactionary aspect of having been restricted for so long take over in a not-good way. Anyhow, I rarely hear folks talk about that squishy, nuanced aspect of things so I appreciate you bringing it up.
Love this! I was a silent viewer (never commented) from my other youtube profile for years - I think I remember seeing your wrap up and going backwards from there - before starting this one and "joining in the conversation" so to speak 🥰 as always, you're an inspiration!
@Alexas.nobuyyear dang Alexas you've been here for a while!! I very much appreciate that and hearing about your own journey too 😊
I could never do a no-buy YEAR! I'm working on a no-buy month!
meeting yourself where your at is an excellent idea! I love this for you
I prefer the no "coming up" introduction on the old video tho. I'm gonna watch the video, I don't need spoilers like it's 70s tv. That being said, I think a complete no-buy would make me sad, personally. I do agree I need to think more critically, and have a stricter idea on the budget of hour household, but I'd really miss adding to my collections and hunting down those rare items. Even the ones I found years ago, that memory trigger of seeing them, and remembering finding them, getting that deal, what have you, it makes me smile just as much as the item itself. Ofc rn I couldn't do a no-buy because while houses are expensive in their own right, they need so much *stuff*. Not like decorations either, like new locks, curtains because the windows are bare, a new faucet because the one there is broken, etc. There's all these little things that nickel and dime you that we had to make a priority list of what we could fix and how high the issue was.
Like that you reacted to yourself and gave more insight now!
I happened to have started my no buy year around the same time as you, and I wanted to share that your content then and content now are both helpful in their own way! There's a lot of learning that we (the community of people doing a no buy and posting about it (I didn't do videos, so major kudos to you on that!)) did from each other that, to your point of "5 days" feels like kind of similar to the "if my friend recommends this, it must be good", but like consume-y - and also not a negative since there's no hard and fast rules for a no buy experience, since we all have our own reasons and needs for it.
I'm glad that you've continued with content creation:)
😔 Sometimes coping mechanisms technically "help" people deal with their reality until they can move on or are in a better place in life. Example: a coping mechanism could help someone deal with a narcissistic boss until they can find a new job. If they didn't have a coping mechanism they might quit on the spot and spend the next six months unemployed. 😬
I totally agree! I left mine alone for so long because I wasn't in the place mentally to change it. With that said I also think there are often healthier coping strategies that I could have implemented in the mean time. Some coping strategies are/were extremely unhealthy. I don't want to speak for everyone because I don't know each person's unique situation though.
@@shawnaripariSo true!! There are healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms. Under our current society 90% of what is marketed to us is unhealthy coping mechanisms! 😭
@@josiemaromi6981 great point. Healthy coping mechanisms are rarely marketed, but taught.
I’m not a no buy person, I don’t buy much now but I had to go through learning the hard way.
I have to sell my old clothes if I want to get a new item, I once sold 10 clothing items to get a bread machine, it was worth it.
I really appreciated this video (plus seeing the original from 2020)! BIG emphasis for me that spending is not the problem. The problem is how/why we spend!
glad to hear it! And totally agree with the how/why 😃
Love this channel. I could watch 600 more of the same compilations and reactions and thoughts while I'm cleaning to just marinate/deinfluence my brain
Super interesting to see! I started a low buy this year and finances and contentment are a big focus this year. Just figuring out the next steps in life (home renovation, big travels and eventually children)
Yes yes yes; I am just coming to terms with my things not being any reflection of who I am and that having the right things will not improve anything about me that matters.
Yes , I’m disconnecting from certain things…. Realised stuff does not identify me. Great comment 😊
Wow, listening to this as someone who grew up with a mother who had terrible spending habits (racking up multiple thousands in debt), I'm so grateful that I can handle money like an adult. Sure, I buy stuff that I don't absolutely need but never in my life have I made an impulse buy worth more than a hundred bucks. I don't own a credit card and I always do advance pay/direct debit.
What a great video! ❤you're so much more self aware, even back then, than a lot of other people considerably older than you. Inspirational
Your videos are literally healing me
hi Shawna, recently discovered your channel and I've been binging your videos!! I'm a broke college student and am already very frugal but I still find your vids entertaining and inspirational. Would you consider doing a video talking more about the challenges you do and finding out what is *actually* essential (if you haven't already)?
Hey! So glad to have you here. I think one of my best challenges was my makeup minimalist experiment if you searcht that up you should find 2 videos. I made a makeup capsule to learn how I felt about categories of makeup. That was in 2022 and carry those lessons with me today. I've also made videos where I speak about beauty preferences I did one in 2020 and 2021. Making those videos were a way to consider my preference because I really didn't know what they were at the start of my no buy because I was just constantly buying new makeup. I've done a 6 week challenge in 2022. I think it's called 6 weeks to contentment? I also tried the 12 week year. Not an 'essential' but still a challenge. I've done tons of makeup capsule wardrobes to learn about my wardrobe and how I feel about it. I did the contentment year in 2022, and I have a whole series on that. I did no buy january the past 2 years and spoke about that online. The most recent 'challenge' was wardrobe tracking. I finished that in April and made a video on it. I've tracked my wardrobe for 4 full months now and hope to bring a video on that soon. I hope this helps!
amazing video! 2020 you is speaking directly to 2024 me!! I can really relate to the competing feelings of blissful ignorance/not caring to maintain good finances, but caring way too much about my stuff. It can get pretty tiring. I'm starting a shorter lease in the fall before moving in with my partner and am planning out a no/low buy in that time to reconnect and re-priorize. It's so inspiring and reassuring to see people who are further along on the journey. I'm even more excited now :)
I would love to see a video where you go over what specific things you would do now a bit more in- depth if possible please 😊
I have videos like this already if you want something to watch right away. I'll think about doing more in the future
@@shawnaripari Thank you! I just saw you have so many playlists already. Definitely going to binge them. 😌
When you say that you practiced contentment in 2022 and 2023 and that it was “ the best experiment you ever done” can you do a video on what you mean by that? How did you practice contentment 365 days and why was it successful?
I documented my contentment year on this channel so you can go back and watch it!
OMG past you's money troubles is SO relatable to me. i've never had rules around money, thanks to being a bit neglected as a teen when i started earning my own money. i wonder if i have the same issues you struggle/d with, will def be doing some research and self-reflection. i would love to see what youd do with a no buy year now versus what you did back then.
i've made videos on this over the years so you can definitely check out more updated thoughts!
Would be cool to see a video on thrifting and how it doesn’t really stop the need for consumption. It’s something me and my family struggle with a lot but it never seems as bad because it’s the cheaper and more sustainable option. (Or link your vid if you’ve already done one! I’ve only been around for like a year maybe but binging the past few weeks)
I think naive Shawna had some really solid points. I agree with your present takes 100%
I would love it if you made a video talking about how you went about finding more contentment and appreciating what you have. I think that is an interesting topic that could be helpful to many.
I have tons of videos on this topic!
Thanks! I’ll check them out 😊
Ms girl youre killing it with the consistency 🫶🏼🫶🏼
thank you 😃
Your past self talking about how buying that blazer will make her look more intelligent in the eyes of others is really relatable. As a short person with « juvenile » features I look younger than I am and probably less reliable especially in the workplace so it’s hard to apprehend what I really like in terms of clothes and differentiate them aspirational items that I think will make me appear more trustworthy. Transitioning from young adult clothes to a more adult wears adds another layer of difficulty to this. Even if what we wear doesn’t define our identity, it’s for me a way to be creative so I struggle with all of these aspects
I started watching the channel probably 2 years ago during “project pan.”
For me, a huge issue I know I deal with is that I do not feel like I'm living or have any thrill if there is no risk or if my back isn't against the wall and I'm not feeling the pressure and struggling in some aspect.
I have bipolar disorder, which I know this severely affects this for me.
I'm currently trying to fix this, and I'm doing a no buy, and I feel awful because I'm really faced with the mess I've made living this way (and by that I mean, I have cause myself to fall into a lot of debt) ☠️
I also struggle to conceptualize my future. It could be because I spent so much of my younger years depressed and didn't think I'd ever live past 26/27 (I'm 28 now), so I just never planned for anything.
But I'm mentally in a better place (for the most part) And can see myself living a long life and want to plan for that.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and much of what you said resonated with me. I'm so sorry your no buy is have a negative effect and I'll truly be rooting for your success 💕 I do hope you can be kind to yourself because making moves to change IS hard and a process. You're doing the damn thing even if it's slow and I think you should be proud of that.
@shawnaripari Thank you so much, Shawna!!
It's tough, but I know in the end it is going to be worth it, and I'm going to be in a much better place mentally and financially 🥰
I don't save money in those months when l buy things for myself. When l am done spending then l start saving for couple of months. Again vice versa.
I'm not even 50 seconds in and I'm so excited
❤great video!
I went on a no buy 2023 best thing I ever did
I'm not sure when I found you, but I'm sure it was during the lockdowns at some point 🤔
I found this very interesting and also tied in with your video the other day about it being people's fault they've been influenced.
I have PTSD that severely impacts my life, and while I wouldn't say I've ever been overly influenced into buying things, there have been times where I have, without even realising it. For example, I bought one of those karaoke microphone things, I've never even done karaoke, nor would I enjoy being the "centre of attention" while singing. A youtuber was doing best buys of the year and descibed a fun night she'd had with her friends, the mic was one of them, a few other times it's been certain make up product's. The karaoke mic has never even come out of the box in the many years since I got it 😅, the make up has been used here and there in the years since I bought it but probably doesn't even average out at once a year, and I've never left the house with it on and I've probably washed it off after 30-60 minutes maximum. These buys have stemmed around who I wish I could be, trying to be/feel 'normal'
People need to understand that, at least, for some people there is a mental health element to being influenced by influencers and it feels a little 'victim blamey' to put all the onus on the influencees and not some of it on the influencers.
It's also why I feel it's so important for influencers to declare sponsorships etc. They need to be more ethical in how they act and understand the 'power' they have and how they use it.
Anyway, I'm not sure if I've explained myself very well, but hopefully the general gist is there.
Great video as usual 😊
thank you so much for sharing your experience and being here for so long! I definitely agree that mental health can play a huge role in how/why people shop
I almost never comment but I’ve been here since the first year. I think I started a new profile since then I though.
wow!! thank you for being here for 4 years 💕
Just wondering how the pandemic effected your no buy year.
@pennygivan2551 my daily life wasn't affected too much given that I worked from home 3ish days at the time. There was added stress because of the uncertainty but I think it would have been worse if my routine was completely overhauled. It helped that I had about 3.5 months under my belt before things shut down. The stress was real though and did "break" my no buy in April that year buying some clothes from Frank and Oak, which I mentioned in the respective no buy update. Although I returned them the stress and struggle to cope 100% contributed to the purchase. The next 1.5 years had similar patterns of stress being exacerbated by lockdowns and uncertainty and I did stress/emotional shop. This definitely contributed to why I let things slide as long as I did.
Discovering your channel is truly life changing for me! Honestly! I also have terrible relationship with money and creating my Beauty RUclips Channel was definitely my downfall with over-spending on makeup products. But I never face any debt thankfully!
My spending was still out of control, I also wanted more and more things - it was a vicious cycle of continuously spending on new makeup releases almost every single week. I decided to put an end to that slowly at the end of 2023 and this year - I decided that I am completely changing my mindset & also ☝️ shifting my channel to making content about conscious consuming instead of promoting things that ppl don't need. No more emotional or frivolous spending! I'm now creating new habits! Thank you Shawna! 🫶
I'm so happy to hear that my content has made a positive impact on you! Wishing you the best on your journey 💕
Omg I feel like 2020 u is speaking directly to me 🥲😅
you got this girl!